WEBVTT - I Can Relate To You 0:00:00.920 --> 0:00:04.640 Good morning, good afternoon, good evening. You are tuned into 0:00:04.680 --> 0:00:07.040 the Vitamin D with Dawn Day podcast and I am 0:00:07.080 --> 0:00:09.640 your host, Dawn Day, here to get you excited about 0:00:09.680 --> 0:00:11.640 your life so that you can live life on purpose 0:00:11.640 --> 0:00:13.680 and for a purpose. And this is your first time 0:00:13.760 --> 0:00:17.040 tuning in and welcome Vitamin D. It's upon of my name. 0:00:17.320 --> 0:00:19.280 My name is Dawn and you get Vitamin D from 0:00:19.280 --> 0:00:21.440 the sun. So I'm here to shed light into your life. 0:00:21.640 --> 0:00:25.000 And I do this with inspirational insights and conversations with 0:00:25.040 --> 0:00:28.080 celebrities and everyday people like you and me, Because if 0:00:28.080 --> 0:00:30.000 you want to be better and you want to do better, 0:00:30.520 --> 0:00:32.760 then you're going to have to be able to see better. 0:00:33.159 --> 0:00:35.760 So join me on this journey of living our best 0:00:35.800 --> 0:00:39.680 lives and understanding and realizing how you are your greatest 0:00:39.680 --> 0:00:43.280 stats act. I want you to be a roach. Yes, 0:00:44.200 --> 0:00:48.360 I said a roach. Now, it probably shocked you when 0:00:48.360 --> 0:00:50.560 I said that. Heck, it shocked me when somebody said 0:00:50.600 --> 0:00:53.080 that to me. But I had to think about and 0:00:53.080 --> 0:00:57.400 I was like, damn, you gotta be real dope to 0:00:57.400 --> 0:01:00.480 be a roach. I was in Hollywood the other night 0:01:00.920 --> 0:01:03.560 and I was at this dive bar, and so I 0:01:03.640 --> 0:01:05.360 was kicking up with this guy. My friends and I 0:01:05.400 --> 0:01:07.760 were just talking about our journey in life, and he 0:01:07.840 --> 0:01:09.560 was saying the story of how he came to l A. 0:01:10.240 --> 0:01:13.720 He said he was on sheer survival mode. Now I 0:01:13.720 --> 0:01:16.000 wish I could remember this brother's name was Michael or 0:01:16.080 --> 0:01:18.640 brand because it was two guys there, but only one day. 0:01:19.080 --> 0:01:21.160 But either way, it doesn't matter. This guy was talking 0:01:21.160 --> 0:01:22.640 about his dream and what he had to do to 0:01:22.680 --> 0:01:24.560 survive and to make it. So he said, for a 0:01:24.560 --> 0:01:27.000 minute there he was living in his car. He said, 0:01:27.040 --> 0:01:29.800 how he was able to pay for his food or 0:01:29.840 --> 0:01:32.520 to eat rather? Is that I guess Wendy's had like 0:01:32.560 --> 0:01:34.920 a special or something going on. And he said he 0:01:34.959 --> 0:01:37.200 did this for three months where if you signed up 0:01:37.240 --> 0:01:39.680 for a or with a new email address, you got 0:01:39.680 --> 0:01:41.880 a free mail, like whether it be a burger or fry. 0:01:41.959 --> 0:01:44.800 And he said, for months, that's how he relied on 0:01:44.880 --> 0:01:48.080 his food. Now he comes to the point fast forward, 0:01:48.320 --> 0:01:51.080 he has a whole loft downtown in l A. Won't 0:01:51.080 --> 0:01:54.160 he do it? As he was leaving, we were celebrating 0:01:54.160 --> 0:01:56.840 the like, wow, thank you for sharing a story. Um, 0:01:56.880 --> 0:01:59.720 I appreciate talking to you. He said, be a roach 0:02:00.720 --> 0:02:02.920 And like I said, I was shocked. But if you 0:02:03.000 --> 0:02:08.160 think about roaches are gone store, like you talk about 0:02:08.160 --> 0:02:13.440 being outside, roaches then outside. Now. I don't know if 0:02:13.440 --> 0:02:16.720 you're familiar how roaches go, but I was like, let 0:02:16.800 --> 0:02:18.520 me just google some things on what I know about 0:02:18.600 --> 0:02:22.400 roaches or how they they survive everything. Now, these are 0:02:22.440 --> 0:02:24.520 just some random facts that I just saw. And some 0:02:24.560 --> 0:02:28.120 of the things taken consideration is that they are able 0:02:28.160 --> 0:02:32.080 to live like weeks without a head. They can hold 0:02:32.120 --> 0:02:36.760 their breath for several minutes underwater. Um, they survived bombs, 0:02:36.800 --> 0:02:38.800 like if you ever had roaches or have family members 0:02:38.800 --> 0:02:40.560 that had roaches, and you know that the whole bomb 0:02:40.600 --> 0:02:44.320 thing they survived. That they have the strong and flexible 0:02:44.360 --> 0:02:47.639 outer exoskeleton, which makes it harder to squish them as 0:02:47.680 --> 0:02:51.440 compared to other pests. They can often withstand the hardest 0:02:51.440 --> 0:02:54.760 shoe stump or the strongest swing of a newspaper, especially 0:02:54.840 --> 0:02:59.280 on soft surfaces like cushions, bedding, and carpet. Roaches be 0:02:59.560 --> 0:03:09.360 out side. Roaches are survivors. Be a damn roach. You know, 0:03:09.480 --> 0:03:12.680 roach has been out for millions of years. People can't 0:03:12.680 --> 0:03:17.120 stand because they survived. You ain't gotta be like a 0:03:17.200 --> 0:03:20.840 roach because every time in adversity comes your way, you 0:03:20.880 --> 0:03:23.880 gotta think about the uprise. You heard that. Uh that 0:03:23.919 --> 0:03:27.160 trend adn't sound on TikTok. Prepared to be suckled me. 0:03:27.760 --> 0:03:31.240 Prepared to be suckled me. That's how I want you 0:03:31.280 --> 0:03:36.680 to be. Be a damn roach. You got this. I 0:03:36.680 --> 0:03:39.920 don't care what's coming your way. You just gotta keep going. 0:03:41.960 --> 0:03:45.360 You know what I said before. Sometimes we can feel 0:03:45.400 --> 0:03:48.640 like we drown it. We're trying to swim, We're trying 0:03:48.680 --> 0:03:52.160 to make it, We're trying to figure it out. All 0:03:52.200 --> 0:03:55.040 I need for you to do is focused on keeping 0:03:55.080 --> 0:03:59.000 your head above water. Be a roach, got dagg it. 0:03:59.400 --> 0:04:02.520 They try to push you, squeeze out. Be a roach. 0:04:02.560 --> 0:04:04.720 God dang it. They try to bomb you, You still 0:04:04.760 --> 0:04:07.800 show wow. Be a roach. God dang it. They cut 0:04:07.840 --> 0:04:10.840 your head off, You're still moving. Be a roach, God 0:04:11.000 --> 0:04:15.840 dang it. Be outside. That's it. I want to be 0:04:15.840 --> 0:04:19.920 a roach. What about you get your right any right 0:04:20.400 --> 0:04:27.120 with me and get excited about your lives. I said 0:04:27.120 --> 0:04:30.279 it before, and I'll say it again, and I will 0:04:30.320 --> 0:04:35.919 continue to say it. Vulnerability is everything. Vulnerability gives you 0:04:35.960 --> 0:04:39.680 the ability to be seen. Vulnerability also gives you the 0:04:39.720 --> 0:04:43.719 ability to connect I was talking to a high school 0:04:43.720 --> 0:04:47.960 friend of mine for obvious reasons. As I continue on 0:04:48.040 --> 0:04:50.440 with the story, I'm going to leave his name out 0:04:50.440 --> 0:04:53.880 of it. But we called, we talked to each other. 0:04:53.920 --> 0:04:56.440 Now we met in high school, and now where we're 0:04:56.480 --> 0:04:58.559 going on? Shoot him? Don't let me tell my age 0:04:58.560 --> 0:05:03.680 about twenty something years done one. But anyway, we caught up. 0:05:03.720 --> 0:05:08.200 We hadn't talked for a bit, and you know, he 0:05:08.240 --> 0:05:10.400 had noticed or he had paid attention to my social 0:05:10.400 --> 0:05:12.240 media account. He saw that I had been dressing a 0:05:12.279 --> 0:05:14.679 little bit different, you know, giving more of a drogyn 0:05:14.800 --> 0:05:19.720 us presenting my masculine side. And so it said, Dawn, 0:05:20.200 --> 0:05:22.400 I got something to ask you already know where he's 0:05:22.440 --> 0:05:27.200 going with it, he said. So, I don't know if 0:05:27.200 --> 0:05:29.120 he said, Dawn, do you like women? I don't know 0:05:29.160 --> 0:05:30.680 if he said, Dawn, are you gett I don't know 0:05:30.720 --> 0:05:33.479 what he said. And I said to him, I said, yeah, 0:05:33.480 --> 0:05:36.279 so I'm attracted to women. And we began to talk, 0:05:36.360 --> 0:05:39.560 and further on the conversation, he revealed to me that 0:05:39.600 --> 0:05:42.479 he has an attraction to men. Now we're both from Detroit, 0:05:43.520 --> 0:05:47.080 and he was just explained to me, how you know 0:05:47.120 --> 0:05:48.760 in Detroit is a black man, that's something that you 0:05:48.760 --> 0:05:54.400 don't discuss and in me showing up as me, he said, wow, Dawn, 0:05:54.839 --> 0:05:58.400 for us to know each other since high school, almost 0:05:58.440 --> 0:06:01.160 twenty something years, he said, I am so grateful. I 0:06:01.200 --> 0:06:03.400 am so glad that we have the ability to connect 0:06:03.440 --> 0:06:05.760 on this level. He said, I never had anybody I 0:06:05.760 --> 0:06:07.920 could really share it to, let alone, especially being where 0:06:07.920 --> 0:06:11.080 we're from. He said, after this conversation with you, he said, 0:06:11.080 --> 0:06:15.040 I'm I feel so much lighter. He said, I feel inspired. 0:06:15.680 --> 0:06:17.720 And I was like wow, because you know, I've been 0:06:17.760 --> 0:06:20.119 really working with myself and how I wanted to present, 0:06:20.160 --> 0:06:21.640 how I want to show up, because I really don't 0:06:21.680 --> 0:06:25.920 do labels. But when we talk about we're leaving somebody 0:06:25.960 --> 0:06:29.240 of stress, anxiety, somebody that perhaps even thought about taking 0:06:29.279 --> 0:06:33.479 a life. Come on, what are we really talking about here. 0:06:34.279 --> 0:06:37.840 We're all special offers here for a limited time only. 0:06:39.120 --> 0:06:41.600 Life is too short to live unhappily. You better live 0:06:41.600 --> 0:06:44.919 while you're still alive. And so when he said that 0:06:45.000 --> 0:06:47.080 to me, I just thought about how many other people 0:06:47.160 --> 0:06:50.159 probably are not bold enough, probably not stepping into themselves, 0:06:50.160 --> 0:06:53.040 not going after their dream job, not fulfilling that relationship 0:06:53.080 --> 0:06:55.360 they want because they are ashamed of perhaps no one 0:06:55.360 --> 0:06:57.680 else has come forth that looks like them and say hey, 0:06:57.720 --> 0:07:01.240 I'm just like you. And me being able to do that, 0:07:01.320 --> 0:07:04.920 I realized how I was able to connect and for 0:07:05.000 --> 0:07:07.360 him to say he feels that much lighter. So I 0:07:07.440 --> 0:07:10.280 want to implore. I want to charge you whatever it is. 0:07:11.480 --> 0:07:16.800 Show up. You are perfectly perfect, just the way you are, 0:07:19.120 --> 0:07:24.040 every intention of how you were made. That's how it 0:07:24.080 --> 0:07:26.520 was supposed to be. I just need you to walk 0:07:26.560 --> 0:07:29.200 in it. And I want to say this too. I 0:07:29.280 --> 0:07:33.800 know what God's promises for my life because God said 0:07:33.840 --> 0:07:38.440 exceedingly and beyond. And you know, I found myself in 0:07:38.480 --> 0:07:43.360 tears at times because I am amazed one that I 0:07:43.400 --> 0:07:49.040 can dream so big, so big that when I stepped back, 0:07:49.120 --> 0:07:51.000 I want to laugh, or I just get emotional because 0:07:51.000 --> 0:07:55.080 I'm like, this sounds insane, but it came to me 0:07:55.080 --> 0:07:57.520 and I feel it, and to know that God said 0:07:57.560 --> 0:07:59.560 far more than what I could ever imagine. But this 0:07:59.640 --> 0:08:03.840 is the key. I gotta show up. See, it's just 0:08:03.920 --> 0:08:09.120 like anything God formulated, this cake, this formula, and all 0:08:09.160 --> 0:08:12.720 of these elements have to come together to produce what 0:08:12.800 --> 0:08:15.400 it is that you're meant to do or whatever it is. 0:08:15.440 --> 0:08:19.120 It's supposed to do. And I realized that is me 0:08:19.400 --> 0:08:23.040 encompassing all of dawn and showing up as dawn. Hence 0:08:23.240 --> 0:08:24.960 why I say, I gotta make a room. And that's 0:08:24.960 --> 0:08:27.640 why you need to make room for yourself, because it's 0:08:27.640 --> 0:08:32.600 time to show up, because we gotta show out because 0:08:32.640 --> 0:08:35.640 God said exceedingly and abundantly, far more than what you 0:08:35.640 --> 0:08:39.880 could ever imagine. And guess what it's going to require 0:08:39.920 --> 0:08:41.520 you to be all of you, not part of you, 0:08:41.640 --> 0:08:50.920 not some of you, but all of you behind the curves, 0:08:51.679 --> 0:09:02.120 beautiful people, intoviting indeed day and and talking to my friend, 0:09:02.920 --> 0:09:07.880 very heavily connected with church, couldn't really put together the connection. 0:09:08.640 --> 0:09:11.160 And I mean Am and I were both like, you know, 0:09:11.200 --> 0:09:12.440 I would talk to him like you're gonna be a 0:09:12.440 --> 0:09:14.679 past one day. You know. We joke around and we 0:09:14.760 --> 0:09:17.000 say things like that, Um, I think we both have 0:09:17.440 --> 0:09:23.040 a clairvoyant kind of well with us. And he noticed 0:09:23.080 --> 0:09:25.200 that it it puts some friction, he said, you know what. Door. 0:09:25.320 --> 0:09:27.000 He was like, I had to leave the church, the 0:09:27.080 --> 0:09:29.840 church that he was committed to at the time, because 0:09:30.240 --> 0:09:32.160 he saw that it was bumping heads. And I saw 0:09:32.200 --> 0:09:34.800 this video and this gentleman was talking. He was talking 0:09:34.800 --> 0:09:39.240 about men versus women. Okay, he was saying that, you know, 0:09:39.440 --> 0:09:44.400 women have the ability to explore their sexuality, yet they 0:09:44.440 --> 0:09:50.160 can't be promiscuous, while men can be promiscuous but aren't 0:09:50.160 --> 0:09:54.280 allowed to explore their sexuality. And I said, and you 0:09:54.280 --> 0:09:57.840 don't really have to be thinking, because I've really opened 0:09:57.840 --> 0:10:01.400 my mind up to things. Uh. If you would have 0:10:01.400 --> 0:10:05.400 asked me before and whatever, realm or ignorant mind, and 0:10:05.440 --> 0:10:08.160 I say ignorant because of lack of knowledge, I would 0:10:08.200 --> 0:10:09.599 be like, oh my gosh, I would never date a 0:10:09.679 --> 0:10:12.720 man that's bisexual. I would never do anything like that. 0:10:13.160 --> 0:10:15.160 And if you are doing today, I don't know. I say, 0:10:15.200 --> 0:10:17.079 I don't know, because it is just skinned. And if 0:10:17.120 --> 0:10:20.360 we are these spiritual beings having this human experience, what 0:10:20.400 --> 0:10:22.080 are we talking about right now? And so what the 0:10:22.080 --> 0:10:24.240 guy was saying is that when do we get out 0:10:24.240 --> 0:10:25.559 of the terms or what do we get out of 0:10:25.559 --> 0:10:32.240 the realm of accepting what is natural versus subscribing to 0:10:32.280 --> 0:10:35.200 what is said to be normal. And I said, you're 0:10:35.240 --> 0:10:39.400 onto something because it isn't a situation of your harming 0:10:39.520 --> 0:10:41.280 or doing anything else. Because somebody can say, hey, don 0:10:41.280 --> 0:10:43.640 you know, it may be natural for somebody want to 0:10:43.760 --> 0:10:46.160 hurt somebody else. But we're talking about a situation out 0:10:46.160 --> 0:10:48.240 of love. And here my friend is telling me that 0:10:49.120 --> 0:10:53.200 he was having friction, hesitancy of showing up as himself, 0:10:53.240 --> 0:10:56.240 of even staying with his church based on what he 0:10:56.320 --> 0:10:58.360 was taught and who he was proclaimed to be. You know, 0:10:58.360 --> 0:10:59.840 he said he was like, you know, I was teased 0:11:00.040 --> 0:11:03.840 the time growing up and people telling me who I am, 0:11:03.880 --> 0:11:06.040 and I haven't even figured it out. You know what 0:11:06.080 --> 0:11:08.440 I had me thinking, I have a friend who has 0:11:08.480 --> 0:11:14.360 a cins gendered son, and I don't know if I 0:11:14.360 --> 0:11:17.240 want to say they dressed him fluently, but he dresses 0:11:17.280 --> 0:11:22.360 in men and boys and girls clothes almost like I 0:11:22.360 --> 0:11:25.040 don't know the term that I'm looking for, but there 0:11:25.120 --> 0:11:27.160 is no definitive. It's of freedom there, and I'm starting 0:11:27.160 --> 0:11:29.920 to think. I'm like, is anything wrong with that, letting 0:11:29.960 --> 0:11:32.120 the child choose? I don't know. I'm not saying I 0:11:32.160 --> 0:11:34.360 subscribed to that, but what I am subscribing to you 0:11:34.440 --> 0:11:40.000 in this talk, in this conversation, vulnerability is everything. Show 0:11:40.080 --> 0:11:45.680 up so that you could connect, Show up so that 0:11:45.760 --> 0:11:50.640 you can inspire, Show up so that you can be 0:11:50.720 --> 0:11:53.320 all that you can be. Because guess what you deserve that. 0:11:54.559 --> 0:11:57.920 You know, we gotta get out this notion of hiday. 0:11:58.200 --> 0:12:00.679 We gotta get out this notion of secrecy and understand 0:12:00.679 --> 0:12:04.199 that everything is about timing. But it's so important when 0:12:04.200 --> 0:12:07.360 we talk about living our best life. It's so important 0:12:07.360 --> 0:12:10.440 of standing who you are. And I what I know 0:12:10.640 --> 0:12:14.160 is that it's a confidence. And and the think about confidence, 0:12:14.160 --> 0:12:17.000 I think people think that it's a concoction, that there 0:12:17.080 --> 0:12:21.200 is a method to it, there's a formula, right, But 0:12:21.400 --> 0:12:27.319 essentially confidence, it's just no wing. Huh, just no wing. 0:12:28.080 --> 0:12:34.440 Who you are, Not subscribing what somebody else is telling you, 0:12:35.760 --> 0:12:41.280 but sitting down with yourself, embracing yourself, receiving yourself, and 0:12:41.320 --> 0:12:46.280 acknowledging yourself. I am, so, who do you say that 0:12:46.320 --> 0:12:49.640 you are? You don't have to be alone. If you're vulnerable, 0:12:50.960 --> 0:12:55.240 I promise you somebody will relate to you. You might 0:12:55.280 --> 0:13:01.440 even save a life. Well, tell somebody to tell somebody else, 0:13:01.920 --> 0:13:04.560 to tell somebody else, to tell somebody else that Dawn 0:13:04.600 --> 0:13:07.560 Day got a podcast. It's called Vitamin D with Dawn 0:13:07.640 --> 0:13:12.080 Day and it's available wherever you get your favorite podcast. 0:13:13.120 --> 0:13:15.920 Vitamin D is all about shutting the light on the 0:13:15.960 --> 0:13:18.320 good and the bad because If you want to be 0:13:18.320 --> 0:13:22.120 better and you want to do better, you gotta be 0:13:22.200 --> 0:13:27.400 able to see better. It's time to shine bright. So 0:13:27.400 --> 0:13:30.400 I'm gonna get out of here. You know, always say 0:13:30.559 --> 0:13:33.480 I'm in the business of making dreams come true, and 0:13:33.559 --> 0:13:36.560 our damn show ain't gonna forget about mine. So until 0:13:36.559 --> 0:13:41.120 next time, always remember you are your greatest stass. Act, 0:13:41.320 --> 0:13:46.679 get your rightamind right with me, and get excited about 0:13:46.840 --> 0:13:49.760 your lives.