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Speaker 1: Bone. Hey, guys, Bobby here.

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Speaker 2: Yesterday we changed a bit of the format of the

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Speaker 2: podcast so you're not hearing duplicates. So if you missed it,

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Speaker 2: we would do the early bird, which is like the

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Speaker 2: first half of the show. We'd get up as quick

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Speaker 2: as we could, and then we post a whole feed.

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Speaker 2: But I hate it because we're putting up duplicate content.

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Speaker 2: So now we're going to try this. We post the

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Speaker 2: first half of the show and then we post the

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Speaker 2: second half of the show, and we try to label

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Speaker 2: it very clearly so you can see that. But let

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Speaker 2: me know in DMS on Instagram. You can send me

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Speaker 2: a tweet as well, however, but DMS on Instagram would

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Speaker 2: be good, and just let me know how you feel

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Speaker 2: about the new format. If you like it like this,

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Speaker 2: you like it like that, or you like it with

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Speaker 2: the Wolf of ball bet can you guys name that?

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Speaker 2: No beasty boys, come on, Paul Revere.

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Speaker 1: That's it.

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Speaker 2: Enjoy the podcast, hopefully give me the feedback. We appreciate that.

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Speaker 1: And here you go.

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Speaker 2: We're trying out a new segment called what is this Crap?

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Speaker 2: And this is Eddie's idea. Yeah, so you lead us.

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Speaker 1: We like it. We'll all jump in tomorrow the next day.

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Speaker 3: Okay, okay, okay, you want me to describe the segment. Yeah, okay.

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Speaker 4: There is a segment where you see something in the

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Speaker 4: world or something just gets your mind thinking like what

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Speaker 4: is this crap?

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Speaker 3: Like why does this even exist?

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Speaker 1: That's how you say it. What is that? Okay, here's Eddie. Wait.

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Speaker 1: The pilot episode of What is this Crap?

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Speaker 4: Sounds at the grocery store right and I'm looking for

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Speaker 4: a parking spot, and I'm like, oh, I see one

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Speaker 4: up in the front.

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Speaker 3: Oh okay, there's handicap. And then there's an empty one

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Speaker 3: right next to it. Cool.

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Speaker 4: I get in there. There's a sign that says pay

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Speaker 4: for parking. You can just scan the thing on the

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Speaker 4: to the store. I'm like, what, so it's handicap to

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Speaker 4: go parking like pick up grocery pickup parking, then pay

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Speaker 4: the grocery store, I have to park at least ten

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Speaker 3: What is this crap?

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Speaker 2: I like the second like the segment. Now we have

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Speaker 2: some thoughts on this, but I like the segment. What

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Speaker 5: Go ahead, Amy, Well, I just have never seen anything

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Speaker 3: I don't understand. That's what I said.

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Speaker 2: Well, they own the parking lot, they can do whatever

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Speaker 3: Money on VIP parking. That's crazy, dude.

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Speaker 1: So you don't like it?

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Speaker 3: I hate it. I mean I already have to park

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Speaker 3: behind handicap. Well, and maybe my foot's broken, so right now,

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Speaker 5: A little sensor broken it is? Didn't we determine it's

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Speaker 3: It's a fracture structure? Well, well, don't use the word timing, okay,

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Speaker 1: Okay, what this crap?

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Speaker 2: I think I would like it because if I were

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Speaker 5: You're in a hurry, have to take a time to

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Speaker 3: Then to enter your stuff?

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Speaker 4: That doesn't just walk to S and who's going to

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Speaker 4: you're just like, well, park there, what it is?

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Speaker 3: This craft? Is this crap?

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Speaker 1: So if you guys have one tomorrow and bring it

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Speaker 1: on in you don't like it? I like, what is this?

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Speaker 1: What is it? A djur in a fraud case was

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Speaker 2: The jur is on the trial watching somebody shows up

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Speaker 2: It says, there's more where that came from. If you

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Speaker 6: Whoa why would you say anything?

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Speaker 2: Well, you probably don't want to go to jail because

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Speaker 3: I mean either way, I feel like you're dead.

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Speaker 7: Wow, yeah, I mean now you're dead because they know

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Speaker 7: who you are. You know where they they know where

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Speaker 7: you live, they know everything about you. You got to your

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Speaker 7: whole life has to change. I don't know that everything

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Speaker 7: is the cartel, but you got sound one hundred and

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Speaker 7: twenty thousand dollars in cash. That is cartel Like.

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Speaker 3: At least, like what do they call it? They need

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Speaker 6: WICCO or yeah, witness protection.

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Speaker 2: A djur was dismissed Monday after reporting that a woman

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Speaker 2: So that's why I don't know. That has to be cartel.

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Speaker 3: So with a lot o million that was a down

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Speaker 2: These seven of the first seventy defendants expected to go

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Speaker 2: rest was spent on luxury cars, jewelry, travel, and property.

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Speaker 2: Imagine you get that bag on money. Do you think

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Speaker 2: about it? Hecky, I think about it. Just moving out.

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Speaker 1: I'm gonna take the money and go.

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Speaker 2: Think about having to change your whole life though, like

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Speaker 2: the witness relocation, that would be terrible.

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Speaker 1: Well, that sounds you have everything about you. My family

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Speaker 1: can't know where you are. Maybe maybe they go with

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Speaker 3: Yeah that's cool.

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Speaker 6: No, that's not cool.

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Speaker 5: This would be my shot to move to like Paris

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Speaker 6: I don't think they moved there. I think, what do

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Speaker 6: you think you're gonna do with this new life?

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Speaker 5: They're just gonna Have you ever seen Emily in Paris?

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Speaker 3: That's what it's about. This is a new life. No,

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Speaker 4: Hey, what do you think though? Like is the there's

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Speaker 4: more where this came from? Like, Okay, you already vote no,

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Speaker 4: so what what else is there to do? Like, Okay,

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Speaker 8: Right?

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Speaker 6: Because you vote no? We guess what?

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Speaker 7: They don't give you the money that you can't do

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Speaker 7: anything about it? Right, you gotta pay it all up front.

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Speaker 4: Or else because they throw that in there, like hey,

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Speaker 4: a little incentive. There's more where that came from. But

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Speaker 4: I don't know if I would take this and expect

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Speaker 1: I mean, just like I have you too. If you

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Speaker 1: I've heard that.

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Speaker 3: I've heard that before.

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Speaker 1: I wouldn't do it. I would be scared, You're I'd

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Speaker 3: It's terrified.

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Speaker 1: I'm gonna go to Amy first.

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Speaker 2: So Lunchbox went screaming after a celebrity in the wild yesterday.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, are we saying who the celebrity is yet?

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Speaker 2: I mean not yet?

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Speaker 1: Okay, it was embarrassing to you.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, I feel like embarrassing for everybody at the table.

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Speaker 5: I definitely turned away and like sunk in my seat,

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Speaker 3: This is very coomfortable. Uh.

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Speaker 5: I was there, Eddie, lunch Box, Scuba, Steve, and then

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Speaker 5: three of our executives went to lunch.

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Speaker 3: Yes, walk you got was so embarrassing. Oh no, no, no,

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Speaker 5: We're at the table, we're all lunch is running down

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Speaker 3: Put his hands on his shoulder. Let me back in,

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Speaker 3: grab the celebrity, Grab the celebrity.

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Speaker 5: Also, we can back up and say Lunchbox forgot his phone.

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Speaker 5: He didn't bring it to lunch, so he had to

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Speaker 2: Was it a celebrity that we know well and they

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Speaker 2: no no, I want to go over to Lunchbox. Out

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Speaker 2: here his side of this story, because I knew a

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Speaker 7: So I saw this celebrity walk into the coffee shop

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Speaker 7: was like, Eddie, give me your phone, give me your phone.

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Speaker 6: I need it, and he goes, I'm having a problem

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Speaker 1: Man, you can't use I wouldn't want to give you

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Speaker 6: On my scooping, give me your phone, give me your phone.

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Speaker 7: He goes, we don't even know it's him, and ed

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Speaker 7: he goes, it's really him, and he goes, okay.

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Speaker 6: He gives me the phone. And goes, this is gonna

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Speaker 7: And I just sat there and waited and waited, and

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Speaker 7: I even went in to check on him because I

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Speaker 7: didn't go out a back exit, climb out a window, whatever,

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Speaker 7: And he walked out, had.

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Speaker 6: Three cups of coffee and a bag of food. And

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Speaker 2: So the celebrity is Chris Daughtry and he sings songs

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Speaker 2: like It's not over a bunch of rockets was way

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Speaker 2: back in the day on American Idol, but its really

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Speaker 5: And he looked like a hardcore rocker, like a guy

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Speaker 5: you don't want to go. I know. But what I'm

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Speaker 5: saying is he just his vibe was not come up

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Speaker 3: It wasn't ask me what I'm drinking. That's what lunchbocks did.

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Speaker 3: What are your drinks?

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Speaker 1: And I like Chris.

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Speaker 2: I've got to know him a little bit. I like

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Speaker 2: Chris a lot. I saw him in my Allergy Clinton

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Speaker 2: and he was outside the building.

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Speaker 7: For the like.

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Speaker 6: No, what what does Dodtriy getting when he goes to

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Speaker 7: I'm lunchbox Bobby Bob show hanging out with celebs right here?

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Speaker 6: You drink coffee or is.

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Speaker 8: It just for the people?

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Speaker 3: I do?

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Speaker 6: I drink almond?

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Speaker 6: All right? What is your go to coffee? Just so

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Speaker 5: Today I'm I'm going with the almond milk late here.

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Speaker 7: See that's how Doctry does it. That's what I'm saying. Hey, Doddery,

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Speaker 7: Celebs hanging with celebs.

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Speaker 6: Me and Dadtries. That's what I do, people.

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Speaker 7: I just harassed people all the time, Me and Dodtry

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Speaker 6: His new music, go go go all right right by,

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Speaker 2: Don't get hit Chris is very nice, very nice. My

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Speaker 9: Joe, you should just say your name and let that live.

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Speaker 9: You know, you're still famous, I know, left taking out

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Speaker 9: I scared the blank out of him. Yeah, that made

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Speaker 6: The video, the video doesn't look as bad.

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Speaker 4: And so you get a visual like Daughtry was trying

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Speaker 1: He was just trapped up. All right, let's do the news.

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Speaker 6: Here we go, Bobby's nice.

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Speaker 2: Two cops win one point two million dollars in the lottery,

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Speaker 1: Well, they ain't gonna take any craps though. I'll tell

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Speaker 2: If you're really rich and your boss is like a jerk,

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Speaker 2: you're taking about zero percent crab.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, that's called screw you money. I have screw you money,

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Speaker 5: How much do they win?

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Speaker 1: One point two million? It's enough?

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Speaker 2: To have a bit of screw you money, for sure.

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Speaker 2: They want the lottery, no plans to quit their jobs.

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Speaker 2: They want to teach the importance of having a strong

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Speaker 2: they are married, but they won this. They both have

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Speaker 2: police jobs, though, and so they're gonna buy a new house,

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Speaker 1: Oh that's awesome, Yahoo lunchbox. One point two million dollars?

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Speaker 1: Do you quit this job?

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Speaker 7: No, it's not enough to live off of. I don't

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Speaker 2: It would be enough to live off of. Yes, would

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Speaker 2: it be enough for you to comfortably retire? Probably close,

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Speaker 7: Right the way you talk, I talk about it like

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Speaker 7: I want to thrive. I want to just be flaunt

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Speaker 7: I win the lottery, I don't think you do it either.

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Speaker 1: I'll be an honest both.

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Speaker 7: That's what I'm saying, Like, if I'm going to retire,

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Speaker 7: I want to be able to flaunt. I want to

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Speaker 2: From NBC News, a seemingly ordinary accessory took on lifesty

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Speaker 2: shot but his necklace, his silver necklace, stopped the bullet.

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Speaker 2: that's some lucky stuff. That's when you go buy that

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Speaker 1: You got to think if you're to get the shooter,

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Speaker 1: you're like, how I'm lucky? Was that have everywhere? I

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Speaker 3: I shot him mind in his necklace.

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Speaker 2: Instagram is testing forcing people to watch advertisements. This is

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Speaker 2: from BBC YouTube does this to us a bit. It's

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Speaker 9: When I have to sit there and watch some apple,

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Speaker 2: I divert my eyes from the screen because I don't

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Speaker 2: want be forced to watch an ad Instagram is testing

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Speaker 2: currently allows people.

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Speaker 1: To swipe or scroll past, but now it's called ad break.

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Speaker 2: Images shared online show a timer just like YouTube does,

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Speaker 2: where it's like you cannot skip past this, now you can.

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Speaker 2: I really feel like I've let myself down if I

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Speaker 2: because sometimes I'll just be there and I'll just let

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Speaker 3: Do you ever get the option where it's like pick

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Speaker 3: your ad? Do you want this one? This one or

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Speaker 3: that one? I use it? That's like pick I spend

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Speaker 3: like ten seconds like which one do I want?

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Speaker 2: That's funny. So sometimes you may need to view an

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Speaker 2: A study carried out by TikTok suggested forcing viewers to

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Speaker 1: You have no crap.

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Speaker 2: Here's some other research. People don't love commercials like we

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Speaker 2: It supports us, but I'm not acting like it's the

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Speaker 5: I sometimes like commercials because they work. I'm like, oh,

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Speaker 5: yeah because I think, wow, this is so perfect for me.

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Speaker 3: Actually, and click.

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Speaker 2: By YouTube though it's always like a rumba or something,

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Speaker 1: I guess a company who bought a ad for a

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Speaker 3: All my YouTube is betterhelp.

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Speaker 1: A man wins one hundred yachts, you should let they

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Speaker 2: A man wins one hundred and ten thousand dollars on

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Speaker 1: It was the second one.

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Speaker 2: He's on vacation, didn't want to miss any of the drawings,

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Speaker 2: Hit one hundred and ten thousand dollars. That's from UPI

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Speaker 2: what if, like, your wife's on vacation in lunchbox then

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Speaker 2: you tell her? Is there any world you live in

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Speaker 6: It depends on how much. I if it's one.

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Speaker 1: You guys do not share accounts.

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Speaker 2: Right, So I would sell her because I'd just be like, look,

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Speaker 2: I got this money, what up? And she wouldn't be like, well,

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Speaker 2: why don't you buy a new car? Or like advise

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Speaker 6: She probably would be like, all right, so you can

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Speaker 5: Now?

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Speaker 6: We're good? Take a va K.

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Speaker 1: My question is you can upgrade your car or paid off?

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Speaker 1: Oh my car's paid off? Okay? Or sell it?

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Speaker 6: I mean I'm not much I can.

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Speaker 2: Get for it. If you were to start at ten times,

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Speaker 2: how many times will it actually get you to where

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Speaker 6: Probably three?

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Speaker 1: Oh that's terrible. Yeah, that's a good batting average.

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Speaker 2: Hall of Fame.

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Speaker 1: Yeah yeah, yeah, all right, that's news.

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Speaker 2: Bobby's have a story coming up in a minute of

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Speaker 1: Those are always wild. She's like, this is me. We'll

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Speaker 2: A lot of concerts are being can sold, like Jennifer Lopez,

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Speaker 2: It's basically they're not selling tickets, and it's not a

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Speaker 5: I made an assumption that Jaylo was about her personal life.

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Speaker 2: No, she was already struggling that that was the rumor

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Speaker 2: I gotta go spend more time with my kids. Well,

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Speaker 2: you don't have kids on crap, terrible excuse there, yea,

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Speaker 2: I did there. Call us if you want eight seven,

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Speaker 2: seven seventy seven, Bobby. They put out the most laid

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Speaker 3: Let's go there.

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Speaker 2: Then. I don't know that mall that I get anxious

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Speaker 2: in that mall, Mall of America. It's massive, Like I

447
00:17:20,680 --> 00:17:22,119
Speaker 2: like it, but it's so big I feel like I'm

448
00:17:22,119 --> 00:17:22,720
Speaker 2: not gonna be able to.

449
00:17:22,720 --> 00:17:23,120
Speaker 3: See it all.

450
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Speaker 1: Is that the one that has a roller coaster in

451
00:17:24,560 --> 00:17:25,560
Speaker 1: They have all parking there.

452
00:17:25,640 --> 00:17:30,160
Speaker 2: That's highly overrated, the roller coaster or the mall. The mall, Yeah,

453
00:17:30,200 --> 00:17:33,920
Speaker 2: I think it is the biggest mall in America, maybe

454
00:17:33,960 --> 00:17:38,240
Speaker 2: the world. However, the theme park's a little dated, and

455
00:17:38,359 --> 00:17:42,520
Speaker 2: it was the greatest mall ever ten years ago, so

456
00:17:42,720 --> 00:17:46,240
Speaker 2: I think it's still the biggest. But yeah, maybe a

457
00:17:46,320 --> 00:17:50,200
Speaker 2: little bit. If you're going expecting some you know, AI

458
00:17:50,359 --> 00:17:52,400
Speaker 2: shopping experience where you get on a treadmill, it takes

459
00:17:52,400 --> 00:17:54,480
Speaker 2: to it tells you what you want, that's definitely not

460
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Speaker 2: it Madison, Wisconsin at number two, Irvine, California, Boulder, Colorado,

461
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Speaker 2: and Portland, ore at four and five.

462
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Speaker 1: I feel like bolder in Portland.

463
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Speaker 10: We know why.

464
00:18:02,359 --> 00:18:04,800
Speaker 1: That's laid back, Yeah, idea, you know what I mean.

465
00:18:05,080 --> 00:18:05,320
Speaker 2: I know.

466
00:18:07,440 --> 00:18:08,720
Speaker 1: There's a Facebook group.

467
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Speaker 2: And Janice McKinney is a member of the group, but

468
00:18:12,160 --> 00:18:15,000
Speaker 2: it's about her daughter who disappeared in nineteen eighty five.

469
00:18:15,440 --> 00:18:19,240
Speaker 2: And the whole Facebook group is called Memories of Cherry Mayheon.

470
00:18:19,520 --> 00:18:22,760
Speaker 2: Now again, her mom is a member of that group,

471
00:18:23,040 --> 00:18:25,200
Speaker 2: probably was one of the people who started it. There's

472
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Speaker 2: somebodyho popped up in that group and it's like, I'm her.

473
00:18:27,480 --> 00:18:29,200
Speaker 2: I know, I disappeared thirty nine years ago, but I'm

474
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Speaker 2: her what.

475
00:18:30,960 --> 00:18:31,920
Speaker 1: I don't know if I believe it.

476
00:18:33,080 --> 00:18:34,720
Speaker 2: It's the fourth person too to come out and say

477
00:18:34,720 --> 00:18:36,280
Speaker 2: that they're her, which is also weird.

478
00:18:36,320 --> 00:18:37,440
Speaker 1: People claiming to be this girl.

479
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Speaker 3: That's not funny.

480
00:18:38,359 --> 00:18:39,919
Speaker 1: It's no, it's not funny at all.

481
00:18:39,920 --> 00:18:41,960
Speaker 2: But it's somebody looking for attention, right, and it could

482
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Speaker 2: be somebody who's sad and just needs any sort of

483
00:18:44,440 --> 00:18:45,399
Speaker 2: attention acknowledgment.

484
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Speaker 1: So this person popped up in the group and claims

485
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Speaker 1: to be Cherry.

486
00:18:51,720 --> 00:18:53,679
Speaker 2: She was the first person ever featured on the National

487
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Speaker 2: Center for Missing and Exploited Children's have You Seen Me?

488
00:18:57,000 --> 00:18:57,480
Speaker 1: Campaign?

489
00:18:57,880 --> 00:18:59,359
Speaker 2: She was last see getting out her school bus in

490
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Speaker 2: Pennsylvania February twenty second, nineteen eighty five. Five thousand dollar

491
00:19:05,040 --> 00:19:07,800
Speaker 2: cash reward still remains available. Let's say you are her

492
00:19:07,840 --> 00:19:09,680
Speaker 2: and you come back. Do you get the five grand

493
00:19:09,800 --> 00:19:10,639
Speaker 2: if you turn yourself in?

494
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Speaker 1: Ooh, I'm her.

495
00:19:11,880 --> 00:19:12,480
Speaker 5: I don't think so.

496
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Speaker 3: Question.

497
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Speaker 2: Yeah, I'm her and there's five and that's what makes

498
00:19:15,200 --> 00:19:16,680
Speaker 2: you come out. You're like, man, I'm sure we'd like

499
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Speaker 2: pay the bills having on the run, or like I

500
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Speaker 2: changed my identity.

501
00:19:19,600 --> 00:19:22,320
Speaker 1: I'm sure we'd like five thousand. Do you get the money?

502
00:19:22,760 --> 00:19:24,639
Speaker 5: But that's a good question, but I'd think the answers No.

503
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Speaker 1: I think if you pushed you probab would get the more.

504
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Speaker 5: It's like if there's a reward to turn in somebody

505
00:19:29,880 --> 00:19:32,600
Speaker 5: that's done something that like if you know who stole this,

506
00:19:33,200 --> 00:19:34,399
Speaker 5: if you go if you show up and be like

507
00:19:34,480 --> 00:19:36,080
Speaker 5: I stole it, do you get through it?

508
00:19:36,240 --> 00:19:36,800
Speaker 1: You go to jail?

509
00:19:36,920 --> 00:19:40,639
Speaker 2: That's a crime. Okay, this isn't really a crime. Or

510
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Speaker 2: I would say I go to my buddy and be like, hey,

511
00:19:42,600 --> 00:19:44,960
Speaker 2: go say I'm the person, and I'll give you ten percent.

512
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Speaker 3: That's nice. Maybe that's why people have claimed for five.

513
00:19:48,040 --> 00:19:49,000
Speaker 1: Grand though that's awful with me.

514
00:19:49,200 --> 00:19:50,399
Speaker 3: Who's paying that? Her parents?

515
00:19:50,480 --> 00:19:50,600
Speaker 5: Though?

516
00:19:50,800 --> 00:19:51,080
Speaker 2: Like who?

517
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Speaker 1: I'm sure it's a personal friend or group or church

518
00:19:55,320 --> 00:19:55,680
Speaker 1: or something.

519
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Speaker 6: And does it get interest because it's been sitting around

520
00:19:58,800 --> 00:19:59,760
Speaker 6: for how many years.

521
00:19:59,680 --> 00:20:02,040
Speaker 2: It has a been sitting around? It's somebody's saying they

522
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Speaker 2: will pay it if it happens.

523
00:20:03,040 --> 00:20:03,560
Speaker 6: Oh got it?

524
00:20:03,760 --> 00:20:05,360
Speaker 1: Yeah? So they didn't put it interest?

525
00:20:05,680 --> 00:20:05,880
Speaker 2: Yeah?

526
00:20:06,200 --> 00:20:07,800
Speaker 6: Like did they put it an account? That's what I'm saying.

527
00:20:07,840 --> 00:20:09,080
Speaker 6: So it grew so now it could be.

528
00:20:09,200 --> 00:20:10,320
Speaker 2: I mean, you buy a house and you put in

529
00:20:10,359 --> 00:20:14,000
Speaker 2: that account escrow. That's it's money, just stays over there

530
00:20:14,080 --> 00:20:16,840
Speaker 2: until it's done. You know.

531
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Speaker 1: I think about my funeral sometimes.

532
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Speaker 2: That's weird, Not really, I think about I want everybody

533
00:20:23,560 --> 00:20:27,760
Speaker 2: to be really sad, wow, like next level, And not

534
00:20:27,880 --> 00:20:30,359
Speaker 2: so much because they're sad, but because I want to

535
00:20:30,400 --> 00:20:32,080
Speaker 2: have meant so much that they can't even like function,

536
00:20:32,160 --> 00:20:34,600
Speaker 2: You got to pick people up off the floor, people

537
00:20:34,600 --> 00:20:39,080
Speaker 2: are weeping in tears, Like that's what I'm looking forward

538
00:20:39,080 --> 00:20:41,399
Speaker 2: to all about?

539
00:20:41,880 --> 00:20:43,040
Speaker 3: You're looking forward to this?

540
00:20:43,240 --> 00:20:45,800
Speaker 2: Well, because I want to have made such an impact

541
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Speaker 2: that people can't even I want everybody thinking, I don't

542
00:20:48,040 --> 00:20:48,960
Speaker 2: think I can go on without them.

543
00:20:49,160 --> 00:20:49,919
Speaker 1: I want the whole.

544
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Speaker 2: Funeral to be like everybody's like talking about it. I

545
00:20:51,560 --> 00:20:55,119
Speaker 2: don't think we can go on. We should, okay, but

546
00:20:55,200 --> 00:20:56,639
Speaker 2: I don't want them to. I just want them to

547
00:20:56,720 --> 00:20:58,359
Speaker 2: think about it because they're so sad.

548
00:20:58,640 --> 00:20:58,760
Speaker 5: Right.

549
00:20:58,840 --> 00:21:01,359
Speaker 2: So that's my version of like a perfect funeral for me.

550
00:21:03,119 --> 00:21:07,800
Speaker 2: I also am reading this mom who her husband, So

551
00:21:07,920 --> 00:21:10,680
Speaker 2: she's mom and me have kids, and her husband died

552
00:21:11,119 --> 00:21:12,879
Speaker 2: and the husband told the kids in the mom that

553
00:21:12,960 --> 00:21:16,879
Speaker 2: he wanted a funeral. Ye, a funeral, like a fun funeral.

554
00:21:17,320 --> 00:21:19,800
Speaker 2: I would hate that, a celebration while we're watching from

555
00:21:19,840 --> 00:21:23,240
Speaker 2: a cloud, and I saw everybody having fun when I

556
00:21:23,359 --> 00:21:25,880
Speaker 2: was dead, I'd be so mad. I'd haunt a few

557
00:21:25,920 --> 00:21:28,280
Speaker 2: of you guys. I'd pick you randomly, but i'd haunt you.

558
00:21:28,480 --> 00:21:31,000
Speaker 2: I'm like, oh, like the cotton candy machine. But we're

559
00:21:31,000 --> 00:21:33,399
Speaker 2: not celebrating that you're dead. We're celebrating that you can

560
00:21:33,440 --> 00:21:33,639
Speaker 2: get it.

561
00:21:33,680 --> 00:21:35,480
Speaker 5: But I need you to be so sad that you

562
00:21:35,600 --> 00:21:38,680
Speaker 5: lived a good life and now care no longer in

563
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Speaker 5: pain and you're in heaven.

564
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Speaker 1: Was that in pain?

565
00:21:42,400 --> 00:21:45,960
Speaker 3: I'm just assuming painful disease or something.

566
00:21:47,359 --> 00:21:52,120
Speaker 5: Well death, so I would assume nobody's like my death wasn't.

567
00:21:52,400 --> 00:21:53,280
Speaker 3: She thinks by fire?

568
00:21:53,560 --> 00:21:55,439
Speaker 1: Yeah, she's like, wow, we skinned you alive.

569
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Speaker 7: What.

570
00:21:56,920 --> 00:21:59,400
Speaker 2: Katie Young's husband passed away from a stroke on May seventeen.

571
00:22:00,200 --> 00:22:02,399
Speaker 2: She decided against the traditional funeral. Sheo, just died a

572
00:22:02,440 --> 00:22:07,040
Speaker 2: funeral spelled the same way, but fun as capital letters. Yeah,

573
00:22:07,160 --> 00:22:09,240
Speaker 2: and so they had a bouncy castle, arts and crafts

574
00:22:09,240 --> 00:22:11,399
Speaker 2: and his favorite foods. She wanted the kids to have

575
00:22:11,480 --> 00:22:15,560
Speaker 2: happy memories. Yeah, no, be sad for me. I think

576
00:22:16,000 --> 00:22:17,320
Speaker 2: you really said, So who's speaking?

577
00:22:17,400 --> 00:22:18,600
Speaker 3: You want us to speak? Like?

578
00:22:18,840 --> 00:22:20,680
Speaker 2: Do you want whoever speaks? I want them to not

579
00:22:20,720 --> 00:22:22,800
Speaker 2: be able to contain it. Oh, and they're crying so

580
00:22:22,920 --> 00:22:27,040
Speaker 2: much that they cannot even say a word. And it's

581
00:22:27,119 --> 00:22:29,840
Speaker 2: like in that movie Stand by Me where they all

582
00:22:29,880 --> 00:22:32,959
Speaker 2: start puking. Yeah, they're doing that pilating contest and one

583
00:22:33,000 --> 00:22:35,960
Speaker 2: pukes and mix and everybody's just like crying so hard.

584
00:22:36,440 --> 00:22:39,640
Speaker 2: They're all start puk oh, crying and puky. That's I want.

585
00:22:40,359 --> 00:22:44,000
Speaker 2: But it's not the funeral. It's because I meant so much,

586
00:22:44,160 --> 00:22:47,520
Speaker 2: because I'm my time alive. See, That's that's what I'm

587
00:22:47,560 --> 00:22:50,600
Speaker 2: looking forward to. There's a Boba fet doll that sold

588
00:22:50,640 --> 00:22:52,920
Speaker 2: for five hundred and twenty five thousand dollars. It is

589
00:22:53,000 --> 00:22:56,840
Speaker 2: the most expensive valuable vintage toy. It was sold at

590
00:22:56,880 --> 00:22:59,359
Speaker 2: the auction for five hundred and twenty five thousand. It

591
00:22:59,480 --> 00:23:01,600
Speaker 2: was supposed to a choking hazard, so it never was

592
00:23:01,720 --> 00:23:03,920
Speaker 2: released to the public. There are only two that were

593
00:23:03,960 --> 00:23:07,040
Speaker 2: made who paid half a million dollars for a Star

594
00:23:07,080 --> 00:23:10,560
Speaker 2: Wars toy, and I get it. Things are collectible and valuable.

595
00:23:10,720 --> 00:23:12,880
Speaker 2: Of course, you've also yeah, ye, but you've also got.

596
00:23:12,840 --> 00:23:13,320
Speaker 1: To be a fan.

597
00:23:15,080 --> 00:23:16,400
Speaker 3: Everyone's a fan of start.

598
00:23:17,280 --> 00:23:22,320
Speaker 1: I watched one of them, and I was older.

599
00:23:22,520 --> 00:23:23,360
Speaker 3: I'm also not a fan.

600
00:23:23,560 --> 00:23:27,680
Speaker 1: Yeah, and I'm not against like in fantasy, and I'm

601
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Speaker 1: not against that because I like like Lord of the Ring. No,

602
00:23:29,960 --> 00:23:32,160
Speaker 1: I like that was stupid. I like Game of Thrones.

603
00:23:32,880 --> 00:23:34,080
Speaker 1: I get them confused a little bit.

604
00:23:34,920 --> 00:23:37,240
Speaker 2: I did watch every Lord of the Rings though, all

605
00:23:37,280 --> 00:23:39,480
Speaker 2: back to back, during the Christmas one time, and I

606
00:23:39,640 --> 00:23:41,320
Speaker 2: was like, ah, I'd give it a four and a

607
00:23:41,359 --> 00:23:42,840
Speaker 2: half out of ten. I didn't hate it. I didn't

608
00:23:42,840 --> 00:23:44,760
Speaker 2: come away going that's for nerds. I do a lot

609
00:23:44,800 --> 00:23:47,800
Speaker 2: of really nerdy things. Not a thing, but I do

610
00:23:48,000 --> 00:23:50,920
Speaker 2: like Game of Thrones a lot, so I'm not a hater,

611
00:23:51,080 --> 00:23:52,240
Speaker 2: but I didn't like Star Wars that much.

612
00:23:52,400 --> 00:23:53,560
Speaker 3: Do you know who Boba Fett is?

613
00:23:54,440 --> 00:23:56,840
Speaker 2: I think Boba FET's a that fat blob thing. Nope,

614
00:23:56,880 --> 00:24:01,080
Speaker 2: it looks like Gmis from McDonald's. Not Joba the Hut.

615
00:24:01,960 --> 00:24:03,000
Speaker 1: That's job of the Hut.

616
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Speaker 9: Hu.

617
00:24:04,720 --> 00:24:08,080
Speaker 1: I thought Boba Fette would no, no, no, Boba FET's

618
00:24:08,080 --> 00:24:08,680
Speaker 1: a bounty hunter.

619
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Speaker 3: He wears like a blue kind of like a he

620
00:24:11,400 --> 00:24:12,879
Speaker 3: was the Mandalorian. Like, that's the same kind of the

621
00:24:12,920 --> 00:24:13,480
Speaker 3: same kind of look.

622
00:24:13,680 --> 00:24:15,040
Speaker 1: I don't know what that is. You didn't see the

623
00:24:15,040 --> 00:24:16,800
Speaker 1: man anything in all white with a helmet?

624
00:24:17,119 --> 00:24:19,040
Speaker 3: Yeahper got it?

625
00:24:19,320 --> 00:24:23,840
Speaker 2: Well, I forget it. We're done making fun over. Show

626
00:24:23,880 --> 00:24:26,320
Speaker 2: me Boba Fett in a picture? Yeah, pull play. This

627
00:24:27,200 --> 00:24:30,919
Speaker 2: guiz Moto is the source of that five hundred thousand dollars?

628
00:24:32,119 --> 00:24:33,600
Speaker 1: What do you play with it? Once and put it

629
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Speaker 1: back in?

630
00:24:36,920 --> 00:24:39,840
Speaker 2: Amy wasn't here yesterday, she's here today, but after the

631
00:24:39,920 --> 00:24:41,600
Speaker 2: show you were sick. But we interviewed this guy who

632
00:24:41,600 --> 00:24:44,440
Speaker 2: wrote the book on adult Bullies. SAME's Bill Eddie, and

633
00:24:44,760 --> 00:24:47,800
Speaker 2: Bill Eddie has written tons of books. He trains lawyers

634
00:24:47,840 --> 00:24:50,399
Speaker 2: and mediators and therapists, and so we said, because we

635
00:24:50,440 --> 00:24:52,159
Speaker 2: would get into the point about Lunchbox and if he's

636
00:24:52,160 --> 00:24:55,320
Speaker 2: an adult bully, we said, why would an adult be

637
00:24:55,440 --> 00:24:55,840
Speaker 2: a bully?

638
00:24:56,720 --> 00:24:59,560
Speaker 8: People are kind of grow up this way and so

639
00:25:00,040 --> 00:25:03,199
Speaker 8: it isn't like a decision, it's just part of their personality.

640
00:25:03,840 --> 00:25:06,840
Speaker 8: And so they like to dominate people. And that's the

641
00:25:07,000 --> 00:25:09,840
Speaker 8: theme for bullies. They want to dominate other people.

642
00:25:10,880 --> 00:25:12,800
Speaker 1: So he's walking right into what we wanted to talk

643
00:25:12,800 --> 00:25:13,280
Speaker 1: to him about.

644
00:25:13,960 --> 00:25:17,280
Speaker 2: And we told him about Lunchbox and Abby and we said,

645
00:25:17,760 --> 00:25:20,680
Speaker 2: do you think Lunchbox is bullying Abby on our show?

646
00:25:21,240 --> 00:25:24,520
Speaker 8: Well, it's kind of depends which side of the border

647
00:25:25,000 --> 00:25:28,840
Speaker 8: that is, because if depending on your relationship, it can

648
00:25:28,920 --> 00:25:32,600
Speaker 8: be fun. And like I said, teasing some people like teasing.

649
00:25:32,720 --> 00:25:34,960
Speaker 1: Does some people don't know. If she doesn't like it, Bill,

650
00:25:35,160 --> 00:25:36,880
Speaker 1: then she should speak up, yep.

651
00:25:37,640 --> 00:25:39,160
Speaker 2: And that's what he says she should do. She should

652
00:25:39,200 --> 00:25:40,560
Speaker 2: speak up to him next time he bullies her and

653
00:25:40,680 --> 00:25:42,920
Speaker 2: be like, I do not like this. I am leaving,

654
00:25:43,920 --> 00:25:44,760
Speaker 2: And that's all she has to do.

655
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Speaker 3: She leaves.

656
00:25:46,320 --> 00:25:47,480
Speaker 1: Apparently that's the show.

657
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Speaker 6: I'm not sure.

658
00:25:48,200 --> 00:25:51,040
Speaker 2: Well, And so he wrote this book about being a

659
00:25:51,119 --> 00:25:53,080
Speaker 2: narcissist as well, and we're like, how do you deal

660
00:25:53,119 --> 00:25:54,760
Speaker 2: with a bully that's also a narcissist?

661
00:25:55,160 --> 00:25:57,640
Speaker 8: Well, the thing with narcissists is they like to say

662
00:25:57,680 --> 00:26:02,399
Speaker 8: they're superior, and so sometimes what you do is you say, oh,

663
00:26:02,520 --> 00:26:05,640
Speaker 8: you're really good at something, and they go, yeah, I'm

664
00:26:05,680 --> 00:26:08,720
Speaker 8: really good at something, and that calms them down. So

665
00:26:08,920 --> 00:26:11,560
Speaker 8: find something they're good at you can respect them for,

666
00:26:12,119 --> 00:26:16,080
Speaker 8: but also again, set limits and have consequences. If you

667
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Speaker 8: keep talking to me this way, then this is what

668
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Speaker 8: I'm going to do.

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Speaker 2: So Abby, what would you say to Lunchbox in a

670
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Speaker 2: positive way, because you know it could be considered a

671
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Speaker 2: bit narcissistic based on the rules that Bill Eddie gave us.

672
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Speaker 1: If you needed to get him off your scent, What

673
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Speaker 1: would you say about him? Is nice?

674
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Speaker 10: Like a quality that he has.

675
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Speaker 3: Yeah, like you're good at something.

676
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Speaker 10: I think you're good at talking, like you never run

677
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Speaker 10: out of things to say.

678
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Speaker 6: That's true. What do you want me to say? I'm

679
00:26:46,119 --> 00:26:47,520
Speaker 6: not going to give her a compliment back.

680
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Speaker 1: That's not the point of it.

681
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Speaker 3: Though.

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Speaker 6: Oh good you receive it and just take it.

683
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Speaker 1: Yeah, you don't offer you're not worried about her anymore?

684
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Speaker 6: Yeah, but I'm not worried about her at all.

685
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Speaker 1: I don't where I don't worry about her again.

686
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Speaker 2: You bring her up sometimes when we're not even talking

687
00:27:01,320 --> 00:27:03,359
Speaker 2: about the show or talking about her, and you're like,

688
00:27:03,440 --> 00:27:05,040
Speaker 2: she's not a good singer, and we're like, dude, we're

689
00:27:05,080 --> 00:27:06,560
Speaker 2: doing the news.

690
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Speaker 6: Yeah, well, I mean it just pops in my head sometimes,

691
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Speaker 6: random thoughts.

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Speaker 1: So we finally said, is there hope to change, Lunchbox, Yes.

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Speaker 8: There's hope. A lot of the cure that we find,

694
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Speaker 8: like workplace, is coaching bullies learn to give people your statements, empathy,

695
00:27:21,160 --> 00:27:25,600
Speaker 8: some attention, some respect they like on more friendly terms.

696
00:27:25,640 --> 00:27:29,480
Speaker 8: They're not, you know, total personality change, but there's softens

697
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Speaker 8: the rough edges.

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Speaker 1: So, Lunchbox, would you consider yourself a bully after hearing

699
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Speaker 1: all that?

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Speaker 6: No, not at all. I give my honest feedback, but I.

701
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Speaker 2: Think bullies feel like they're giving honest feedback. But you

702
00:27:40,440 --> 00:27:42,400
Speaker 2: understand there's other feedback that doesn't match yours, and it's

703
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Speaker 2: equal to yours.

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Speaker 6: He under he said.

705
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Speaker 7: Repeated behavior is bullying, right, you do it every day,

706
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Speaker 7: and Amy, what you miss is I pointed out that

707
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Speaker 7: Abby has been bullying me because she sings over and

708
00:27:54,320 --> 00:27:55,480
Speaker 7: over again when I don't like it.

709
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Speaker 1: So that is bully thanks to Bill Eddie.

710
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Speaker 2: And his book comes out on June eleventh, and it's

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Speaker 2: called Our New World of Adult Bullies.

712
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Speaker 3: I'm gonna get that for lunch book, Eddie.

713
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Speaker 1: Good booking, Thank you man.

714
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Speaker 3: I thought that was good.

715
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Speaker 1: All right, So this is guy.

716
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Speaker 3: Don't list the Lunchbox because he gets my name wrong

717
00:28:12,880 --> 00:28:13,240
Speaker 3: every time.

718
00:28:13,400 --> 00:28:14,280
Speaker 6: But you know what I'm listening to.

719
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Speaker 1: Its Bobby Bone Show.

720
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Speaker 2: Come on Lunchboxing and now we're gonna play the full interview.

721
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Speaker 2: This is Bill Eddie, got a book coming out about

722
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Speaker 2: adult bullies. This is Eddie and myself and Lunchbox talking

723
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Speaker 2: to this guy who has a very prominent job. He's

724
00:28:28,440 --> 00:28:33,200
Speaker 2: you know, trained lawyers and judges and CEOs. Eddie saw

725
00:28:33,240 --> 00:28:34,680
Speaker 2: this in an email. We got him on to talk.

726
00:28:36,119 --> 00:28:38,280
Speaker 2: Amy's not in the interview like you just heard, but

727
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Speaker 2: here he is Bill Eddie. All right, all with us,

728
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Speaker 2: Bill Eddie, Hey, Bill, tell us about your book.

729
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Speaker 8: Well, my book is about bullies. Bullies are showing up everywhere,

730
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Speaker 8: you know, They're showing up on the highway and the airplanes,

731
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Speaker 8: walking down the street, at ball games, everywhere, and people

732
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Speaker 8: need to be prepared. That's what my book's about.

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Speaker 1: Hey man, we might have a bully in here with us.

734
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Speaker 1: That's why we have you on, Bill.

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Speaker 2: So here's the book is called Our New World of

736
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Speaker 2: Adult Bullies comes out June eleventh, and this is Bill Eddie,

737
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Speaker 2: but our Eddie Eddie say Hi, Yeah, hey.

738
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Speaker 1: Bill, you're the one that suggested this. Why what do

739
00:29:19,320 --> 00:29:19,720
Speaker 1: you want to know?

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Speaker 7: Well?

741
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Speaker 4: I just think that some people, you know, deal with

742
00:29:22,720 --> 00:29:26,720
Speaker 4: workplace bullies, and in our case, I sit next to

743
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Speaker 4: one of them, and he just bullies people for no reason.

744
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Speaker 3: And I just kind of wanted an idea of like,

745
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Speaker 3: why is he doing this? Where does this come from?

746
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Speaker 2: Question? Bill?

747
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Speaker 1: Why would an adult be a bully in the workplace?

748
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Speaker 8: What we see is people are kind of grow up

749
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Speaker 8: this way, and so it isn't like a decision, it's

750
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Speaker 8: just part of their personality. And so they like to

751
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Speaker 8: dominate people. And that's the theme for bullies. They want

752
00:29:51,320 --> 00:29:54,280
Speaker 8: to dominate other people. I don't know if that's true

753
00:29:54,360 --> 00:29:55,240
Speaker 8: in this case.

754
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Speaker 1: But it definitely is.

755
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Speaker 2: Lunchbox, is anything you want to say? Obviously we're talking

756
00:29:59,720 --> 00:30:03,680
Speaker 2: about you, But what do you want to see anything? Now? Yeah?

757
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Speaker 7: Bill, they call me a bully because I like to

758
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Speaker 7: win and I like to be honest, Like, we have

759
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Speaker 7: people on here that aren't good at certain things. So

760
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Speaker 7: I tell them you're not good at something. That's not

761
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Speaker 7: being a bully, right Bill, No, No, not at all.

762
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Speaker 8: But a lae want other people to lose. They don't

763
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Speaker 8: just want to win. They want people to lose. They

764
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Speaker 8: want people to suffer, They want people to feel bad.

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Speaker 6: Well, I do want them to lose.

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Speaker 2: Dominated Yeah, when you make fun of people for no reason,

767
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Speaker 2: what's your point with that?

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Speaker 6: Ah, just to let them know that they're not as

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Speaker 6: good as me.

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Speaker 2: Right.

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Speaker 1: Would you feel, like, mister Bill Eddie, that that was

772
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Speaker 1: a bully behavior.

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Speaker 8: The key is if it's personal, like you're talking about

774
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Speaker 8: the whole person. Yeah, if you say, hey, look, you know,

775
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Speaker 8: like I'm terrible at baseball, Okay, you can tell me

776
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Speaker 8: I'm terrible at baseball. I don't take that personally because

777
00:30:49,760 --> 00:30:52,280
Speaker 8: I write books and so that makes me feel okay.

778
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Speaker 8: But if you say, as a whole person, I'm a

779
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Speaker 8: piece of dirt or you know, I'm or whatever, that's

780
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Speaker 8: when it's bullying, when you're really trying to rub the

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Speaker 8: person into the ground.

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Speaker 1: Do adult bullies begin as childhood bullies?

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Speaker 8: Bill generally yes, but ninety percent of childhood bullies outgrow

784
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Speaker 8: it by adulthood. So these are the ones that don't

785
00:31:13,280 --> 00:31:17,040
Speaker 8: outgrow it and tend to be more refined, but they

786
00:31:17,120 --> 00:31:19,640
Speaker 8: still act like they're kind of on the playground. So

787
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Speaker 8: it's not that unusual, but about five to ten percent

788
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Speaker 8: of people seem to have this characteristic.

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Speaker 1: How would you confront an adult bully?

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Speaker 8: Yeah, so as an adult, I want you to take

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Speaker 8: the assertive approach. So don't be passive and let them

792
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Speaker 8: pick on you and just kind of let it go.

793
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Speaker 8: But also don't be so aggressive that you look like

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Speaker 8: you're a bully too. So being assertive something like say, hey,

795
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Speaker 8: cut it out, that's enough, or I don't agree with you,

796
00:31:46,840 --> 00:31:49,760
Speaker 8: I see it differently, give me a break. So when

797
00:31:49,800 --> 00:31:52,400
Speaker 8: you stand up to a bully, as long as it's safe,

798
00:31:52,520 --> 00:31:54,840
Speaker 8: don't stand up to a bully who's going to kill you,

799
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Speaker 8: you know, but stand up to a bully and assert yourself.

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Speaker 8: They usually go somewhere else they don't pick on you anymore.

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Speaker 8: And we see that in the workplace. They try everybody,

802
00:32:05,880 --> 00:32:09,480
Speaker 8: but the person that accepts it, that tolerates it, that's

803
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Speaker 8: where they start to focus and bullying isn't just one incident.

804
00:32:13,280 --> 00:32:17,040
Speaker 8: It's an ongoing pattern of behavior that tends to eat

805
00:32:17,080 --> 00:32:20,400
Speaker 8: away at the other person's self esteem. They get sick,

806
00:32:20,520 --> 00:32:23,640
Speaker 8: they have stomach aches, headaches, they don't come into work.

807
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Speaker 8: So that's the kind of thing that's really bullying in

808
00:32:26,720 --> 00:32:27,360
Speaker 8: the workplace.

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Speaker 4: Bill, do you find a connection because you said, you know,

810
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Speaker 4: like you's starting the playground bullying the playground. Do you

811
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Speaker 4: feel there's a connection between what we do being on

812
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Speaker 4: the radio, it's kind of a playground.

813
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Speaker 3: We still have fun every morning.

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Speaker 4: Do you think maybe because the environment that our bully

815
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Speaker 4: is in kind of feels like he's still on the

816
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Speaker 4: playground at school, but he's an adult.

817
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Speaker 8: Well, you know, it's it depends because there's a line

818
00:32:50,680 --> 00:32:54,360
Speaker 8: between fun and fun is when everyone knows like teasing,

819
00:32:54,880 --> 00:32:58,000
Speaker 8: some people just can't stand teasing, and some people love

820
00:32:58,040 --> 00:33:02,120
Speaker 8: it and you guys love it. Oh hey, that's not

821
00:33:02,320 --> 00:33:05,240
Speaker 8: the problem. The problem is when a group of people

822
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Speaker 8: picking on one person, or one person really picking on

823
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Speaker 8: that person and trying to just run them into the ground, dominate,

824
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Speaker 8: or even destroy them. It's really a totally negative thing.

825
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Speaker 8: It's not a fun thing. So, yeah, it's a lot

826
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Speaker 8: of fun on the playground, and teasing isn't bullying. It's

827
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Speaker 8: when it's out to get you personally, that's when it's

828
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Speaker 8: really bullying.

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Speaker 7: So Bill, would you say that your book is geared

830
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Speaker 7: towards nerds like because like nerds get picked on, and

831
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Speaker 7: so then nerds in the workplays get picked on. So

832
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Speaker 7: you're trying to help the nerds out that haven't grown

833
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Speaker 7: out of that, nerd them from the playground.

834
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Speaker 8: Well, to some extent, Like I said, we're all vulnerable,

835
00:33:43,440 --> 00:33:47,120
Speaker 8: susceptible to bullies. We got to be aware. But I think,

836
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Speaker 8: you know, people kind of nerdy and I identify with that.

837
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Speaker 8: And I start out the book with an introduction talk

838
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Speaker 8: about being bullied in third grade. But I grew out

839
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Speaker 8: of that and I figured out I got to figure

840
00:33:58,400 --> 00:34:00,680
Speaker 8: out how to manage these folks, and then I made

841
00:34:00,720 --> 00:34:04,000
Speaker 8: a career out of it. So I think anybody that

842
00:34:04,120 --> 00:34:07,720
Speaker 8: feels intimidated needs to be more assertive. That's part of

843
00:34:07,800 --> 00:34:11,399
Speaker 8: what this is about. We can't individually or even as

844
00:34:11,480 --> 00:34:15,320
Speaker 8: a group, tolerate real bullying. That we really need to

845
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Speaker 8: put a stop to it, and it seems to be

846
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Speaker 8: increasing these days. So that's why I wrote the book.

847
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Speaker 1: Now, at what stage, do we punch the bully in

848
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Speaker 1: the nose?

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Speaker 3: Good question, b Thank you.

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Speaker 8: Yeah. So I think that the key thing is the

851
00:34:31,160 --> 00:34:33,360
Speaker 8: threat that you're going to do that. See that's what

852
00:34:33,600 --> 00:34:36,320
Speaker 8: you know. On the playground. As kids, people just did that.

853
00:34:36,880 --> 00:34:39,400
Speaker 8: But as adults we say, hey, if you keep that up.

854
00:34:40,200 --> 00:34:42,600
Speaker 8: But I don't recommend punching them in the nose, but

855
00:34:42,719 --> 00:34:45,879
Speaker 8: I recommend saying I'm going to end this conversation, I'm

856
00:34:45,920 --> 00:34:48,160
Speaker 8: going to unplug you, or I'm going to walk away,

857
00:34:48,800 --> 00:34:51,279
Speaker 8: I'm going to do something. But like I said, you

858
00:34:51,360 --> 00:34:53,600
Speaker 8: don't want to do the aggressive act. You want to

859
00:34:53,680 --> 00:34:56,480
Speaker 8: be the assertive one. When you punch them in the nose,

860
00:34:56,560 --> 00:34:59,279
Speaker 8: then the bully gets you in trouble and you see

861
00:34:59,320 --> 00:35:01,160
Speaker 8: what he did to me, See what he did to me,

862
00:35:01,560 --> 00:35:04,520
Speaker 8: and everyone looks at you. So don't be aggressive, but

863
00:35:04,640 --> 00:35:08,160
Speaker 8: be assertive. Don't be passive, be assertive. That's the key.

864
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Speaker 2: We have a lot of parents listen to our show

865
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Speaker 2: and they may be dealing with this with their kids

866
00:35:13,840 --> 00:35:16,160
Speaker 2: and where their kids are being bullied. Now, your books

867
00:35:16,160 --> 00:35:18,720
Speaker 2: about adult bullies, but what can you tell the parents

868
00:35:19,239 --> 00:35:21,279
Speaker 2: as far as how to handle if their kid is

869
00:35:21,360 --> 00:35:22,280
Speaker 2: being bullied at school?

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00:35:23,360 --> 00:35:27,120
Speaker 8: Basically, telling them a variety of things. One is again

871
00:35:27,239 --> 00:35:31,200
Speaker 8: this assertive approach. Don't be passive, don't be aggressive. Just

872
00:35:31,320 --> 00:35:33,719
Speaker 8: speak up and say hey, I don't like that, and

873
00:35:33,840 --> 00:35:37,360
Speaker 8: then walk away, just a short sentence. People think you

874
00:35:37,480 --> 00:35:39,800
Speaker 8: have to have a big confrontation. You don't have to,

875
00:35:39,960 --> 00:35:42,359
Speaker 8: just a short sentence, say I don't like that, leave

876
00:35:42,400 --> 00:35:46,160
Speaker 8: me alone, and then walk away. So or just stand

877
00:35:46,280 --> 00:35:48,120
Speaker 8: your ground right there and say I don't like that.

878
00:35:48,320 --> 00:35:51,880
Speaker 8: Cut it out. And bullies generally cut it out. They

879
00:35:52,000 --> 00:35:55,680
Speaker 8: go where people will tolerate them. So speak up, but

880
00:35:55,840 --> 00:35:58,840
Speaker 8: also talk to somebody, talk to a teacher, talk to

881
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Speaker 8: one of the other kids. You know, when I was

882
00:36:01,600 --> 00:36:04,680
Speaker 8: in third grade and I got bullied in I figured out,

883
00:36:04,920 --> 00:36:07,520
Speaker 8: I'm going to hang out with the bigger kids and

884
00:36:07,640 --> 00:36:09,839
Speaker 8: the bigger kids so they'll take care of me as

885
00:36:09,880 --> 00:36:11,400
Speaker 8: long as they help them with their homework.

886
00:36:12,440 --> 00:36:15,400
Speaker 2: So you find a way that's right. I paid for

887
00:36:15,560 --> 00:36:17,640
Speaker 2: protection when I was a kid. I would make I

888
00:36:17,680 --> 00:36:20,160
Speaker 2: would do people's homework. I'd make money doing it, and

889
00:36:20,200 --> 00:36:21,400
Speaker 2: then I would use a little bit of that to

890
00:36:21,400 --> 00:36:23,080
Speaker 2: protect me from the bullies. And I give him a

891
00:36:23,080 --> 00:36:24,600
Speaker 2: couple of bucks to make sure I don't get beat up.

892
00:36:24,640 --> 00:36:26,600
Speaker 2: How do you think about that, Bill Eddie, I.

893
00:36:26,640 --> 00:36:29,080
Speaker 8: Think that really works. That's what worked for me, So

894
00:36:30,600 --> 00:36:34,160
Speaker 8: I think it's whatever strategy, just don't let yourself be

895
00:36:34,320 --> 00:36:37,479
Speaker 8: run over, but don't run over the other person either.

896
00:36:37,640 --> 00:36:42,399
Speaker 8: You know, equal relationships are the happiest relationships. So that's

897
00:36:42,440 --> 00:36:45,040
Speaker 8: what seems to work. When people take advantage of you

898
00:36:45,360 --> 00:36:47,759
Speaker 8: or you take advantage of other people, that's when it

899
00:36:47,920 --> 00:36:49,000
Speaker 8: gets into bullying.

900
00:36:49,560 --> 00:36:51,760
Speaker 1: Abby, would you come up to the microphone for a second.

901
00:36:51,800 --> 00:36:55,600
Speaker 2: Obviously we've been talking a bit about Lunchbox and how

902
00:36:55,680 --> 00:36:57,320
Speaker 2: he seemingly bullies you.

903
00:36:57,360 --> 00:36:58,720
Speaker 1: Would you say he bullies you sometimes?

904
00:36:58,920 --> 00:36:59,800
Speaker 10: Yeah, I would say so.

905
00:37:00,080 --> 00:37:01,120
Speaker 6: And how so have you.

906
00:37:01,160 --> 00:37:02,799
Speaker 1: Learned anything from Bill here?

907
00:37:03,000 --> 00:37:03,680
Speaker 10: I learned a lot.

908
00:37:04,040 --> 00:37:05,840
Speaker 1: And how will you be different after this interview?

909
00:37:05,960 --> 00:37:07,239
Speaker 10: Because now all I have to say is like I

910
00:37:07,280 --> 00:37:10,239
Speaker 10: don't like that. Just walk away, you know, because usually

911
00:37:10,280 --> 00:37:12,000
Speaker 10: I am I'm just very passive and I kind of

912
00:37:12,040 --> 00:37:12,560
Speaker 10: let it happen.

913
00:37:12,800 --> 00:37:15,719
Speaker 2: So Abby singing something for Bill so I can know

914
00:37:15,840 --> 00:37:19,640
Speaker 2: we're not no, no, because you think she's a bad singer, right, No, No,

915
00:37:19,680 --> 00:37:22,440
Speaker 2: I'm not tell Bill about that. So Bill, here's what happened.

916
00:37:23,040 --> 00:37:26,280
Speaker 2: Abby moved to Nashville. She wanted to be a singer.

917
00:37:26,480 --> 00:37:28,480
Speaker 2: It didn't quite work out for her, and we were

918
00:37:28,520 --> 00:37:30,640
Speaker 2: like great, and she pivoted and now she works on

919
00:37:30,719 --> 00:37:33,120
Speaker 2: this radio show, this podcast, and so she does a

920
00:37:33,160 --> 00:37:35,520
Speaker 2: great job. Well I got her to sing one day

921
00:37:35,560 --> 00:37:37,200
Speaker 2: and she was pretty good, and so she came out

922
00:37:37,239 --> 00:37:39,680
Speaker 2: and she opened for us Eddie and I. She's done

923
00:37:39,680 --> 00:37:42,160
Speaker 2: a couple other things, but Lunchbox continues to bully her

924
00:37:42,200 --> 00:37:43,920
Speaker 2: because he does not think she's good. He will bring

925
00:37:44,000 --> 00:37:46,160
Speaker 2: up out of nowhere how she is a terrible singer

926
00:37:46,200 --> 00:37:47,560
Speaker 2: when we're not even talking about that.

927
00:37:48,080 --> 00:37:50,239
Speaker 1: So that's the background on that. What would you say

928
00:37:50,239 --> 00:37:52,320
Speaker 1: if I told you that story about that situation.

929
00:37:53,320 --> 00:37:56,680
Speaker 8: Well, it's kind of depends which side of the border

930
00:37:57,120 --> 00:38:00,960
Speaker 8: that is, because if depending on your relationship, it can

931
00:38:01,080 --> 00:38:04,360
Speaker 8: be fun. And I said teasing. Some people like teasing.

932
00:38:05,120 --> 00:38:06,040
Speaker 3: Some people don't know.

933
00:38:06,120 --> 00:38:08,759
Speaker 1: If she doesn't like it, Bill, then she should speak up.

934
00:38:09,160 --> 00:38:12,040
Speaker 8: Yep, that's right on the edge there, or.

935
00:38:12,080 --> 00:38:13,040
Speaker 6: She should stop singing.

936
00:38:13,080 --> 00:38:13,279
Speaker 8: Bill.

937
00:38:13,760 --> 00:38:19,360
Speaker 1: No, that's no, no, Yes, he's bullying.

938
00:38:20,600 --> 00:38:21,720
Speaker 6: That's giving my opinion.

939
00:38:21,840 --> 00:38:25,080
Speaker 2: Okay, Bill Eddie is on with us and he wrote

940
00:38:25,080 --> 00:38:28,960
Speaker 2: a book and it's all about stopping bullying with adults,

941
00:38:28,960 --> 00:38:30,839
Speaker 2: our new world of adult bullies. How to spot them,

942
00:38:30,880 --> 00:38:33,239
Speaker 2: how to stop them? Now, Bill, you also wrote another

943
00:38:33,280 --> 00:38:35,399
Speaker 2: book called Five Types of People Who Can Ruin Your Life?

944
00:38:35,520 --> 00:38:40,359
Speaker 2: Oh right, identifying and dealing with narcissists, sociopaths, and other

945
00:38:40,440 --> 00:38:43,719
Speaker 2: high conflict personalities. Now the Vinn diagram, it seems like

946
00:38:43,800 --> 00:38:45,960
Speaker 2: our bully also would be part of this book as well.

947
00:38:47,040 --> 00:38:51,320
Speaker 8: There's certainly some overlap. Bully has a drive to dominate

948
00:38:51,440 --> 00:38:55,360
Speaker 8: or destroy. Some people with those personalities don't have a

949
00:38:55,440 --> 00:38:58,879
Speaker 8: drive to dominate or destroy other people. Like a narcissist

950
00:38:59,000 --> 00:39:02,479
Speaker 8: might be self centered, think they're superior, but they don't

951
00:39:02,520 --> 00:39:06,200
Speaker 8: really bully people. So it really depends. Some are bullies

952
00:39:06,280 --> 00:39:07,000
Speaker 8: and some aren't.

953
00:39:07,600 --> 00:39:11,200
Speaker 1: Yeah, how do we deal with bullies who are also narcissists.

954
00:39:12,320 --> 00:39:14,799
Speaker 8: Well, the thing with narcissists is they like to say

955
00:39:14,840 --> 00:39:19,560
Speaker 8: they're superior, and so sometimes what you do is you say, oh,

956
00:39:19,680 --> 00:39:22,799
Speaker 8: you're really good at something, and they go, yeah, I'm

957
00:39:22,840 --> 00:39:25,880
Speaker 8: really good at something, and that calms them down. So

958
00:39:26,080 --> 00:39:28,680
Speaker 8: find something they're good at you can respect them for,

959
00:39:29,280 --> 00:39:33,200
Speaker 8: but also again, set limits and have consequences. If you

960
00:39:33,400 --> 00:39:36,200
Speaker 8: keep talking to me this way, then this is what

961
00:39:36,440 --> 00:39:40,799
Speaker 8: I'm going to do. And so you know, a narcissist

962
00:39:40,960 --> 00:39:43,760
Speaker 8: may be a bully. Maybe not, but they cross that line,

963
00:39:44,200 --> 00:39:46,960
Speaker 8: then you've got to speak up or get help to

964
00:39:47,040 --> 00:39:51,359
Speaker 8: speak up and say, hey, this person's you know, really

965
00:39:51,480 --> 00:39:53,960
Speaker 8: be hurtful to me and they need your help. Can

966
00:39:54,040 --> 00:39:56,239
Speaker 8: you can you give me a hand here? Of course,

967
00:39:56,320 --> 00:39:59,879
Speaker 8: in the workplace, some people really get destroyed, like I've

968
00:40:00,280 --> 00:40:04,560
Speaker 8: examples I guess sixty examples in my book of people

969
00:40:04,719 --> 00:40:08,600
Speaker 8: getting getting bullied, and in some of those in the workplace,

970
00:40:08,719 --> 00:40:11,960
Speaker 8: they really need to get organizational help. So they've got

971
00:40:12,040 --> 00:40:14,600
Speaker 8: to go up the ladder to find somebody that will

972
00:40:14,640 --> 00:40:18,279
Speaker 8: give them a hand, human resources or a higher up

973
00:40:18,360 --> 00:40:22,120
Speaker 8: division chief. And some people ruin their whole companies because

974
00:40:22,160 --> 00:40:24,759
Speaker 8: they got a bully at the top. So they could

975
00:40:24,800 --> 00:40:28,960
Speaker 8: show up anywhere. But it's setting limits, being assertive, that's

976
00:40:29,040 --> 00:40:29,399
Speaker 8: the key.

977
00:40:29,800 --> 00:40:32,400
Speaker 1: Okay, lunchbox, one final thing to Bill, do you have

978
00:40:32,400 --> 00:40:33,120
Speaker 1: anything you want to say?

979
00:40:33,320 --> 00:40:35,040
Speaker 6: I tuned down me. He's doing a lot of nerd

980
00:40:35,120 --> 00:40:38,920
Speaker 6: talk and I was like, man, oh my goodness, But.

981
00:40:39,080 --> 00:40:41,720
Speaker 7: I mean Bill, like you're you're right, Like it's whatever

982
00:40:41,840 --> 00:40:45,480
Speaker 7: side of the border you're on, right, like you No, Now.

983
00:40:45,120 --> 00:40:47,280
Speaker 1: You've given them something to walk with from this interview

984
00:40:47,320 --> 00:40:47,960
Speaker 1: going on, I'm just on.

985
00:40:47,960 --> 00:40:48,680
Speaker 3: The side of the border.

986
00:40:48,760 --> 00:40:50,120
Speaker 7: Yeah, I'm just on the side of the border. You

987
00:40:50,200 --> 00:40:52,040
Speaker 7: guys don't want to be on. So you say it's bullying.

988
00:40:52,080 --> 00:40:53,680
Speaker 7: If you were on if you thought Abby was a

989
00:40:53,719 --> 00:40:55,120
Speaker 7: bad singer, you'd be on my side of this.

990
00:40:55,480 --> 00:40:57,680
Speaker 2: If we ask al Abby does she feel like she's

991
00:40:57,680 --> 00:40:59,879
Speaker 2: getting bullied? And she says yes, I think that would

992
00:40:59,880 --> 00:41:01,000
Speaker 2: be a cue for you to do.

993
00:41:01,080 --> 00:41:03,440
Speaker 7: But that's her side of the border. My side of

994
00:41:03,440 --> 00:41:05,480
Speaker 7: the border is it's not it's giving feedback.

995
00:41:06,040 --> 00:41:07,840
Speaker 1: It's like if you want to ask for your feedback.

996
00:41:07,920 --> 00:41:10,520
Speaker 7: Bill, if I went to a restaurant in a waiter,

997
00:41:10,560 --> 00:41:12,560
Speaker 7: a waitress wasn't doing a good job and I gave

998
00:41:12,640 --> 00:41:14,920
Speaker 7: him feedback, is that bullying or is that, you know,

999
00:41:15,080 --> 00:41:16,680
Speaker 7: telling them, hey, you need to improve it your job.

1000
00:41:17,280 --> 00:41:20,160
Speaker 8: I'd say partly, it depends how you give them feedback.

1001
00:41:20,239 --> 00:41:21,840
Speaker 8: You say, here, you know, I want to give you

1002
00:41:21,960 --> 00:41:24,160
Speaker 8: a tip. I think if you do this, it's better

1003
00:41:24,280 --> 00:41:29,799
Speaker 8: than that. But you know, bullyings repeated behavior. So if

1004
00:41:29,880 --> 00:41:32,640
Speaker 8: you repeat the behavior and the person repeats that they

1005
00:41:32,719 --> 00:41:36,160
Speaker 8: don't like it, then that crosses the line. I'd say,

1006
00:41:36,480 --> 00:41:38,680
Speaker 8: So you got to you gotta do it gently, and

1007
00:41:38,800 --> 00:41:40,560
Speaker 8: it just occasionally.

1008
00:41:40,120 --> 00:41:42,560
Speaker 7: So you're telling me Abby's been bullying me this whole

1009
00:41:42,600 --> 00:41:43,800
Speaker 7: time because she keeps singing.

1010
00:41:43,880 --> 00:41:46,040
Speaker 6: I tell her I don't like it, and she continues

1011
00:41:46,120 --> 00:41:46,480
Speaker 6: to do it.

1012
00:41:48,160 --> 00:41:50,640
Speaker 8: Well, maybe you need a mediator. See that's one of

1013
00:41:50,760 --> 00:41:53,600
Speaker 8: the other things I talk about in the book. Sometimes

1014
00:41:53,640 --> 00:41:56,200
Speaker 8: you need a mediator to come up with a compromise

1015
00:41:56,800 --> 00:41:59,399
Speaker 8: so that you can maybe hear some singing and maybe

1016
00:41:59,520 --> 00:42:02,239
Speaker 8: not here's I'm singing, and find the right balance for

1017
00:42:02,360 --> 00:42:02,960
Speaker 8: the two of you.

1018
00:42:03,840 --> 00:42:08,680
Speaker 1: One final thing, Yeah, Bill, So is it Are we doomed?

1019
00:42:08,880 --> 00:42:08,920
Speaker 2: Like?

1020
00:42:09,080 --> 00:42:10,879
Speaker 3: Is he always going to be like this? Or can

1021
00:42:11,000 --> 00:42:12,960
Speaker 3: we fix them? Is there a cure for bullying?

1022
00:42:13,000 --> 00:42:13,680
Speaker 1: Touch them in the nest?

1023
00:42:14,160 --> 00:42:17,120
Speaker 8: Well, A lot of the cure that we find, like workplace,

1024
00:42:17,560 --> 00:42:20,759
Speaker 8: is coaching. So we developed a coaching method, you know,

1025
00:42:20,960 --> 00:42:26,480
Speaker 8: new ways for work for productive relationships. So coaching, sometimes

1026
00:42:26,520 --> 00:42:31,360
Speaker 8: you coach somebody to practice being assertive instead of being aggressive,

1027
00:42:31,560 --> 00:42:35,640
Speaker 8: to give the other person some empathy, some attention, some respect.

1028
00:42:36,120 --> 00:42:40,160
Speaker 8: We call it ear statements. And when bullies learn to

1029
00:42:40,239 --> 00:42:43,800
Speaker 8: give people ear statements, they stop bullying. They like on

1030
00:42:44,000 --> 00:42:47,960
Speaker 8: more friendly terms. They're not you know, total personality change.

1031
00:42:48,080 --> 00:42:51,040
Speaker 8: But this softens the rough edges. And that's a lot

1032
00:42:51,120 --> 00:42:53,480
Speaker 8: of what you need in the workplace. Just soften those

1033
00:42:53,560 --> 00:42:56,399
Speaker 8: sharp elbows. And that's a lot of what we teach

1034
00:42:56,520 --> 00:43:00,560
Speaker 8: in our trainings and are coaching. So yes, there's hope,

1035
00:43:00,800 --> 00:43:04,960
Speaker 8: there's room for compromise. There's maybe some coaching in the future.

1036
00:43:05,719 --> 00:43:08,520
Speaker 8: I'll leave that up to you. I can't can't judge

1037
00:43:08,560 --> 00:43:11,600
Speaker 8: any particular situation off hand, that's for sure.

1038
00:43:12,120 --> 00:43:13,400
Speaker 1: Hey, Abby, what have you learned now?

1039
00:43:13,520 --> 00:43:15,840
Speaker 2: This is the last opportunity to talk to Bill, Like,

1040
00:43:15,880 --> 00:43:17,560
Speaker 2: what are you gonna do from this point for when

1041
00:43:17,560 --> 00:43:18,760
Speaker 2: you feel bullied by lunchbox?

1042
00:43:19,520 --> 00:43:22,200
Speaker 10: Well, basically not listen to what he says, Amen, and

1043
00:43:23,320 --> 00:43:25,640
Speaker 10: just be like leave me alone and someone else.

1044
00:43:25,800 --> 00:43:28,440
Speaker 2: You need to set a boundary. I am saying this boundary.

1045
00:43:29,040 --> 00:43:31,800
Speaker 2: I will not allow you to make me feel this

1046
00:43:31,880 --> 00:43:32,960
Speaker 2: way or say this about me.

1047
00:43:33,360 --> 00:43:33,759
Speaker 1: Stop it.

1048
00:43:34,000 --> 00:43:35,960
Speaker 10: Yes, And I'm basically tuned him out anyway.

1049
00:43:35,960 --> 00:43:37,360
Speaker 6: I like what she said. She goes, I'm telling them

1050
00:43:37,360 --> 00:43:41,839
Speaker 6: to pick on someone, and we can't say that somebody

1051
00:43:41,880 --> 00:43:43,279
Speaker 6: else what she said.

1052
00:43:44,000 --> 00:43:45,120
Speaker 3: Pick on someone your own size.

1053
00:43:45,440 --> 00:43:47,680
Speaker 5: But is that not the best way.

1054
00:43:49,560 --> 00:43:51,919
Speaker 1: I don't know that. It's past the buck onto something else.

1055
00:43:52,600 --> 00:43:54,239
Speaker 10: That's the thing. He never gives me any tips to

1056
00:43:54,280 --> 00:43:56,960
Speaker 10: get better. He's just like you sound nasally. So is

1057
00:43:57,000 --> 00:43:58,600
Speaker 10: there anything else he got?

1058
00:43:58,840 --> 00:44:02,280
Speaker 1: Or tip is stop saying? Or surgery or surgery okay,

1059
00:44:02,360 --> 00:44:03,360
Speaker 1: see okay.

1060
00:44:04,080 --> 00:44:06,719
Speaker 2: Bill Eddie is the Chief Innovation Officer of the High

1061
00:44:06,760 --> 00:44:09,680
Speaker 2: Conflict Institute and author of Our New World of Adult Bullies.

1062
00:44:09,880 --> 00:44:11,520
Speaker 1: The book comes out June eleventh.

1063
00:44:12,080 --> 00:44:15,800
Speaker 2: You've given us some good advice here, Bill Eddie, and

1064
00:44:15,960 --> 00:44:18,240
Speaker 2: I hope the book does amazing numbers.

1065
00:44:18,320 --> 00:44:19,600
Speaker 1: And we really appreciate your time.

1066
00:44:19,840 --> 00:44:20,560
Speaker 8: Thanks so much.

1067
00:44:20,760 --> 00:44:22,440
Speaker 1: Glhead to be on all right, thank you very much.

1068
00:44:23,040 --> 00:44:25,880
Speaker 3: Bobby Bones show sorry up today.

1069
00:44:26,480 --> 00:44:29,960
Speaker 7: This story comes to us from Naples, Florida. Hey, couple

1070
00:44:30,120 --> 00:44:31,719
Speaker 7: was out on a pier and they were doing some

1071
00:44:31,840 --> 00:44:33,040
Speaker 7: adult things when.

1072
00:44:33,239 --> 00:44:36,880
Speaker 1: What adult think, like real adult things like drinking.

1073
00:44:36,920 --> 00:44:40,839
Speaker 7: Not like real When police came walking up, the twenty

1074
00:44:40,920 --> 00:44:43,600
Speaker 7: year old girls like, oh no, and so she dove

1075
00:44:43,640 --> 00:44:44,480
Speaker 7: off the pier into the.

1076
00:44:44,520 --> 00:44:47,200
Speaker 6: Ocean thing it's gonna move, I'm gonna swim away.

1077
00:44:47,200 --> 00:44:47,799
Speaker 3: It's a big oak.

1078
00:44:47,840 --> 00:44:49,279
Speaker 1: You're gonna move though. It's good. That's how you get

1079
00:44:49,320 --> 00:44:49,640
Speaker 1: out of there.

1080
00:44:49,960 --> 00:44:51,839
Speaker 7: And so police just stood on the shore for about

1081
00:44:51,880 --> 00:44:53,919
Speaker 7: twenty minutes and then she's like, all right, I'm tired,

1082
00:44:53,920 --> 00:44:54,400
Speaker 7: I'm coming in.

1083
00:44:54,560 --> 00:44:57,000
Speaker 1: Well, why did she just doggy paddle away. Why don't you.

1084
00:44:58,440 --> 00:45:00,560
Speaker 2: I feel like she might swam back and the doggy

1085
00:45:00,560 --> 00:45:02,440
Speaker 2: paddle and they watched her like, no, you have to

1086
00:45:02,520 --> 00:45:03,279
Speaker 2: swim somewhere else.

1087
00:45:03,719 --> 00:45:04,520
Speaker 6: Yeah, I don't know.

1088
00:45:04,920 --> 00:45:06,720
Speaker 3: At some point you're like, I'm not going anywhere.

1089
00:45:07,080 --> 00:45:09,359
Speaker 2: You swim to another part of the beach, but they'll

1090
00:45:09,400 --> 00:45:15,120
Speaker 2: just walk under water. No, you go under water and

1091
00:45:15,560 --> 00:45:18,480
Speaker 2: you do this and then everybody's like, you go back underwater.

1092
00:45:18,600 --> 00:45:20,000
Speaker 6: It was sort of like a dolphin, so they don't

1093
00:45:20,000 --> 00:45:20,799
Speaker 6: know where exactly.

1094
00:45:20,520 --> 00:45:21,880
Speaker 1: Where we're going. What is she thinking?

1095
00:45:22,320 --> 00:45:23,280
Speaker 3: She's not a dolphin.

1096
00:45:23,560 --> 00:45:27,600
Speaker 6: I'm Lunchbox. That's your bonehead story of the day, Amy,

1097
00:45:27,640 --> 00:45:28,000
Speaker 6: what's up?

1098
00:45:28,160 --> 00:45:30,440
Speaker 5: Okay, So I just had a little scenario with Lunchbox

1099
00:45:30,480 --> 00:45:32,120
Speaker 5: where I need to know if this is normal or

1100
00:45:32,239 --> 00:45:34,919
Speaker 5: not because we walked by construction guys on the side

1101
00:45:34,960 --> 00:45:37,239
Speaker 5: of the street and he sort of, you know, like

1102
00:45:37,640 --> 00:45:38,439
Speaker 5: hollers at.

1103
00:45:38,360 --> 00:45:41,640
Speaker 1: Them, holler to me. It's like, what a baby? Yeah,

1104
00:45:41,920 --> 00:45:42,399
Speaker 1: oh he did.

1105
00:45:42,600 --> 00:45:46,920
Speaker 5: Honestly, my first thought was if those were women construction workers,

1106
00:45:47,080 --> 00:45:48,279
Speaker 5: he would be flirting with them.

1107
00:45:48,320 --> 00:45:50,960
Speaker 1: So what it sounds like a face like he does

1108
00:45:51,000 --> 00:45:51,400
Speaker 1: not agree?

1109
00:45:51,480 --> 00:45:54,839
Speaker 5: Yeah, yeah, hey, looking good, guys.

1110
00:45:54,760 --> 00:45:55,560
Speaker 3: Looking good?

1111
00:45:56,239 --> 00:45:58,720
Speaker 1: Like construction why would say.

1112
00:45:58,600 --> 00:46:01,680
Speaker 5: That because they were working and he was encouraging them.

1113
00:46:01,800 --> 00:46:06,239
Speaker 5: But the I just thought this is so odd. I thought,

1114
00:46:06,280 --> 00:46:09,239
Speaker 5: but maybe it's looking good.

1115
00:46:10,800 --> 00:46:14,560
Speaker 7: Amy, I must have selective hearing, because me and Scooba

1116
00:46:14,600 --> 00:46:16,000
Speaker 7: were joking. I was like, yeah, it's looking good in

1117
00:46:16,040 --> 00:46:17,479
Speaker 7: their guys. It's looking good at good working.

1118
00:46:17,520 --> 00:46:20,600
Speaker 1: There's way more masculine than what she's saying. He said,

1119
00:46:21,360 --> 00:46:23,000
Speaker 1: And she said just looking good guys.

1120
00:46:23,320 --> 00:46:25,359
Speaker 6: I never said looking good guys and said it's looking

1121
00:46:25,360 --> 00:46:26,000
Speaker 6: good in there guys.

1122
00:46:26,200 --> 00:46:29,040
Speaker 5: Yeah, looking good guys, like your project is looking good.

1123
00:46:29,200 --> 00:46:32,200
Speaker 2: But there's a difference in looking good guys and looking

1124
00:46:32,239 --> 00:46:32,719
Speaker 2: good in there.

1125
00:46:33,120 --> 00:46:36,200
Speaker 6: Okay, the way she's presenting the way she's presenting it

1126
00:46:36,280 --> 00:46:37,200
Speaker 6: is I was hitting on them.

1127
00:46:37,280 --> 00:46:39,080
Speaker 7: I said, it's looking good on their dollar in it

1128
00:46:39,160 --> 00:46:42,000
Speaker 7: then and then and then there's a dubbs out there.

1129
00:46:42,000 --> 00:46:43,120
Speaker 6: I was like, Hey, we need to hurt them. Fill

1130
00:46:43,160 --> 00:46:43,799
Speaker 6: this up, we need to.

1131
00:46:43,800 --> 00:46:46,560
Speaker 1: Build out annoying. Who is this guy? Also?

1132
00:46:46,719 --> 00:46:49,160
Speaker 2: That's annoying even like looking good in there guys, as

1133
00:46:49,200 --> 00:46:51,560
Speaker 2: somebody's walking by not working like, that's kind of annoying too.

1134
00:46:52,520 --> 00:46:54,360
Speaker 2: But I guess the question is was he hitting on

1135
00:46:54,400 --> 00:46:55,120
Speaker 2: the construction worker.

1136
00:46:55,760 --> 00:46:58,400
Speaker 3: I thought you're normal or not.

1137
00:46:58,680 --> 00:46:59,080
Speaker 1: No, it's not.

1138
00:46:59,120 --> 00:47:00,360
Speaker 2: I don't know why would you even I like that

1139
00:47:00,440 --> 00:47:02,080
Speaker 2: at them, like looking good in there. It feels a

1140
00:47:02,160 --> 00:47:02,720
Speaker 2: bit condess.

1141
00:47:03,000 --> 00:47:04,640
Speaker 6: No, it's saying, hey, you're doing a good job.

1142
00:47:04,719 --> 00:47:06,719
Speaker 1: How do you know, because you're really not looking and

1143
00:47:06,960 --> 00:47:07,239
Speaker 1: in pain.

1144
00:47:07,320 --> 00:47:08,560
Speaker 6: So I did look in there, and they had the

1145
00:47:09,239 --> 00:47:11,279
Speaker 6: dry wall up. It looks good, and they were taking

1146
00:47:11,320 --> 00:47:11,880
Speaker 6: a break.

1147
00:47:13,080 --> 00:47:15,640
Speaker 1: Craft and then you went, you were like, fill this

1148
00:47:15,760 --> 00:47:16,040
Speaker 1: thing up.

1149
00:47:16,239 --> 00:47:18,319
Speaker 6: Well, the dumpster was almost full. I was like, all right, man,

1150
00:47:18,360 --> 00:47:19,920
Speaker 6: we almost got a bull. Let's keep filling it up

1151
00:47:20,520 --> 00:47:21,200
Speaker 6: like you can do it.

1152
00:47:21,320 --> 00:47:26,440
Speaker 2: Guys, you're the guy who's walking by not working, yelling

1153
00:47:26,440 --> 00:47:27,479
Speaker 2: at the guys who are working.

1154
00:47:27,680 --> 00:47:30,239
Speaker 1: Yeah, that's that's a little obnoxious. But you weren't hitting

1155
00:47:30,280 --> 00:47:30,520
Speaker 1: on them.

1156
00:47:30,920 --> 00:47:32,120
Speaker 6: Definitely wasn't hitting on them.

1157
00:47:32,160 --> 00:47:33,839
Speaker 5: I'm just saying if they were winning to hear the tape,

1158
00:47:33,880 --> 00:47:37,120
Speaker 5: all right, bye everybody, but y'all