1 00:00:00,080 --> 00:00:03,120 Speaker 1: Guys, I don't know how many of you have like 2 00:00:03,200 --> 00:00:07,480 Speaker 1: teenage kids. Obviously, no one in the room does. I mean, 3 00:00:07,520 --> 00:00:11,600 Speaker 1: I know that Cheechi's like two going on, Yeah, you know, seventeen. However, 4 00:00:11,640 --> 00:00:13,280 Speaker 1: this is the latest thing that you didn't know you 5 00:00:13,320 --> 00:00:16,120 Speaker 1: needed to do as a parent that I'm learning this morning. 6 00:00:16,520 --> 00:00:20,040 Speaker 1: It's called the college bed party. Have you heard about 7 00:00:20,040 --> 00:00:25,320 Speaker 1: this or you have? Yeah, you've heard about this. So people, parents, 8 00:00:25,480 --> 00:00:27,440 Speaker 1: by people, I mean parents only people with money in 9 00:00:27,440 --> 00:00:30,560 Speaker 1: this equation are having to spend big bucks to announce 10 00:00:30,640 --> 00:00:35,599 Speaker 1: their kid's college decision. So college bound teens decide this 11 00:00:35,680 --> 00:00:38,839 Speaker 1: month or have decided early decision where they'll continue their education, 12 00:00:38,920 --> 00:00:41,320 Speaker 1: and parents are having to spend lots of hours and 13 00:00:41,400 --> 00:00:45,760 Speaker 1: thousands of dollars on bed parties for the announcements, which 14 00:00:45,800 --> 00:00:47,559 Speaker 1: in itself we spriake them up with a different name 15 00:00:47,560 --> 00:00:47,720 Speaker 1: for it. 16 00:00:48,200 --> 00:00:51,640 Speaker 2: I didn't sound right. But the craze it was popularized. 17 00:00:51,040 --> 00:00:54,720 Speaker 1: In the South apparently involves decorating a high school senior's 18 00:00:54,840 --> 00:00:59,600 Speaker 1: bed to the extreme with all of the school themed colors, candy, balloons, 19 00:00:59,600 --> 00:01:03,040 Speaker 1: and merch and Fans say that this expensive ritual is 20 00:01:03,080 --> 00:01:06,759 Speaker 1: a festive way to mark the milestone. While critics view 21 00:01:06,840 --> 00:01:09,440 Speaker 1: them as over the top displays of excess. 22 00:01:09,920 --> 00:01:12,160 Speaker 2: And you know this probably. 23 00:01:11,840 --> 00:01:15,000 Speaker 1: Started with like a blanket and a pillow and somebody 24 00:01:15,000 --> 00:01:17,480 Speaker 1: posted that to social media, maybe some balloons or something, 25 00:01:17,840 --> 00:01:19,640 Speaker 1: and now it's probably gone to like where there's a 26 00:01:19,680 --> 00:01:20,440 Speaker 1: Rolls Royce. 27 00:01:20,200 --> 00:01:20,600 Speaker 2: In the bed. 28 00:01:20,800 --> 00:01:24,000 Speaker 1: Yes, that's the color of the school. Because because this 29 00:01:24,080 --> 00:01:25,160 Speaker 1: is not about the kids. 30 00:01:25,160 --> 00:01:26,160 Speaker 3: Oh no, it's not. 31 00:01:26,360 --> 00:01:27,880 Speaker 1: This is one of those things and there are so 32 00:01:27,959 --> 00:01:30,160 Speaker 1: many of them that I've learned in parenting. This is 33 00:01:30,200 --> 00:01:32,640 Speaker 1: not about the kids. The kids benefit from this. This 34 00:01:32,720 --> 00:01:36,240 Speaker 1: is about parents not being outdone by other parents. That's 35 00:01:36,240 --> 00:01:36,760 Speaker 1: what this is about. 36 00:01:36,920 --> 00:01:39,160 Speaker 4: Our social media. You got to show off to everybody. 37 00:01:39,200 --> 00:01:40,959 Speaker 4: That's what it is, because you can just literally hold 38 00:01:41,040 --> 00:01:41,480 Speaker 4: up your letter. 39 00:01:41,560 --> 00:01:42,200 Speaker 2: Was that what we did. 40 00:01:42,319 --> 00:01:43,760 Speaker 3: We would hold up our letter and smile and I 41 00:01:44,240 --> 00:01:44,560 Speaker 3: got a. 42 00:01:44,520 --> 00:01:46,560 Speaker 1: T shirt or a sweatshirt or something and it worre 43 00:01:46,680 --> 00:01:49,160 Speaker 1: to school one day and they're like, oh, you're going 44 00:01:49,200 --> 00:01:52,280 Speaker 1: to ask them you. We didn't think you'd get in there, 45 00:01:52,520 --> 00:01:55,760 Speaker 1: just barely, right. I don't even book storted by the sweatshirt. 46 00:01:55,760 --> 00:01:58,160 Speaker 1: That's what I got. I did go to the bookstore too. 47 00:01:58,160 --> 00:02:00,640 Speaker 4: When I got accepted to IC, I say me a Halsted, 48 00:02:00,640 --> 00:02:01,720 Speaker 4: I want to go get a T shirt. 49 00:02:02,160 --> 00:02:06,040 Speaker 3: You're in a cab. Yeah, well, I mean, but. 50 00:02:06,040 --> 00:02:07,640 Speaker 1: That's what this is about. And I've learned that's what 51 00:02:07,680 --> 00:02:09,400 Speaker 1: a lot of parenting it's about. It's kind of sad. 52 00:02:09,560 --> 00:02:12,200 Speaker 1: It is sad, but I've learned the more than my 53 00:02:12,240 --> 00:02:14,320 Speaker 1: friends have kids older, they get that a lot of 54 00:02:14,320 --> 00:02:16,640 Speaker 1: what they do, they love their kids, they want the 55 00:02:16,639 --> 00:02:19,600 Speaker 1: best for their kids. I'm not discrediting their parentsing, but 56 00:02:21,000 --> 00:02:24,519 Speaker 1: if it's not what they're doing, it's how they're comparing themselves. 57 00:02:25,080 --> 00:02:28,359 Speaker 1: How you're comparing yourselves to what other parents are doing 58 00:02:28,360 --> 00:02:30,679 Speaker 1: for their kids and how they provide it. And it's 59 00:02:30,720 --> 00:02:33,880 Speaker 1: such an unfair thing to do because the parameters are 60 00:02:33,919 --> 00:02:34,600 Speaker 1: never the same. 61 00:02:35,480 --> 00:02:35,680 Speaker 2: You know. 62 00:02:35,760 --> 00:02:38,760 Speaker 1: It's like if you're a working mom and dad works, 63 00:02:39,440 --> 00:02:41,320 Speaker 1: and you know, you're not able to pick your kid 64 00:02:41,400 --> 00:02:42,880 Speaker 1: up every day from school, and you're not able to 65 00:02:42,919 --> 00:02:45,800 Speaker 1: make these bento box lunches with your customed sushi rolls, 66 00:02:45,840 --> 00:02:47,960 Speaker 1: and you know, get up at four in the morning 67 00:02:48,000 --> 00:02:51,040 Speaker 1: and make tepaniaki for your kid, or you know, say, 68 00:02:51,240 --> 00:02:53,639 Speaker 1: this is crazy, crazy stuff that you see online. 69 00:02:53,760 --> 00:02:55,400 Speaker 3: You're not exaggerating, that's real. 70 00:02:55,400 --> 00:02:57,680 Speaker 1: And then you know your friend is. But your friend 71 00:02:57,800 --> 00:03:01,480 Speaker 1: maybe doesn't have to work because or whatever. Maybe the 72 00:03:01,560 --> 00:03:03,520 Speaker 1: husband works, or the wife works, someone makes a lot 73 00:03:03,560 --> 00:03:06,040 Speaker 1: of money, maybe someone has a lot of money, maybe 74 00:03:06,080 --> 00:03:08,519 Speaker 1: someone has a nanny, you know, so then you can 75 00:03:08,560 --> 00:03:10,639 Speaker 1: you can do some of this stuff, and then other 76 00:03:10,680 --> 00:03:12,800 Speaker 1: parents can't do it, and then they start to feel, 77 00:03:12,840 --> 00:03:14,520 Speaker 1: you know, resentful and feel bad. 78 00:03:14,560 --> 00:03:17,240 Speaker 2: It's like, this is crazy. Yeah, do you love your kid? 79 00:03:17,360 --> 00:03:20,679 Speaker 1: Are you providing you know, nourishment and love and and 80 00:03:20,800 --> 00:03:24,840 Speaker 1: you know, shelter. Okay, fund me a nice sweatshirt or 81 00:03:24,880 --> 00:03:26,520 Speaker 1: something when I get into college, because I'm gonna have 82 00:03:26,520 --> 00:03:29,440 Speaker 1: to pay for that too. I'm sure I don't. I 83 00:03:29,480 --> 00:03:31,360 Speaker 1: just feel like it's all a big show for just 84 00:03:31,400 --> 00:03:33,560 Speaker 1: other people. And that's what I've learned in parenting. It's like, 85 00:03:33,720 --> 00:03:34,600 Speaker 1: even before I had. 86 00:03:34,480 --> 00:03:36,720 Speaker 4: My baby, I would see certain things and I'm like, 87 00:03:36,800 --> 00:03:38,840 Speaker 4: did we really have to do this whole thing, like 88 00:03:38,840 --> 00:03:40,920 Speaker 4: for the first birthday party? I know, culturally, for some 89 00:03:40,920 --> 00:03:42,720 Speaker 4: cultures that is like a huge deal and I love it, 90 00:03:42,920 --> 00:03:44,400 Speaker 4: But for me, I was like, we're just gonna do 91 00:03:44,480 --> 00:03:47,440 Speaker 4: a pizza party with an open bar, which actually was. 92 00:03:46,960 --> 00:03:50,000 Speaker 1: I thought it was. It was really quite the sacrifice 93 00:03:50,000 --> 00:03:53,040 Speaker 1: you had. Frankie J. Attend that as opposed to your wedding. 94 00:03:53,200 --> 00:03:55,800 Speaker 1: I saved the twenty thousand and the several Southwest tickets 95 00:03:55,800 --> 00:03:57,440 Speaker 1: that we had to buy. Yes, I mean I couldn't 96 00:03:57,440 --> 00:03:59,080 Speaker 1: believe it. I watched into Danny's Pizza and there was 97 00:03:59,080 --> 00:04:01,600 Speaker 1: Frankie Jay saying that, you know, I don't want to 98 00:04:01,680 --> 00:04:03,280 Speaker 1: try yeah, And I was like. 99 00:04:03,240 --> 00:04:05,120 Speaker 3: This is crazy pizza. 100 00:04:05,280 --> 00:04:05,520 Speaker 2: Yeah. 101 00:04:05,640 --> 00:04:08,520 Speaker 1: And and Gigi was drooling on herself and you know, 102 00:04:08,680 --> 00:04:09,640 Speaker 1: begging to go outside. 103 00:04:09,680 --> 00:04:11,400 Speaker 2: So it was crazy. It was like, can you appreciate this? 104 00:04:11,480 --> 00:04:12,640 Speaker 2: That's the Frankie jaye. 105 00:04:12,720 --> 00:04:14,840 Speaker 4: Yeah, I did this for you, not for anybody else, 106 00:04:15,160 --> 00:04:17,560 Speaker 4: yougg and she knew exactly what was going on at 107 00:04:17,560 --> 00:04:18,560 Speaker 4: that moment at age one. 108 00:04:18,880 --> 00:04:20,760 Speaker 1: And I love a party that appeals to I love 109 00:04:20,800 --> 00:04:22,960 Speaker 1: a kid's party that appeals to adults. Not that I 110 00:04:22,960 --> 00:04:24,680 Speaker 1: get invited in many of those, but when I do, 111 00:04:25,120 --> 00:04:27,919 Speaker 1: I love a parent who's considered here's the area for 112 00:04:27,960 --> 00:04:30,440 Speaker 1: the kids, and here's the area for the adults. You know, 113 00:04:30,480 --> 00:04:32,000 Speaker 1: we have food, we have nice drink. 114 00:04:32,520 --> 00:04:32,760 Speaker 2: You know. 115 00:04:33,000 --> 00:04:35,200 Speaker 1: I liked the It was a one year old party 116 00:04:35,240 --> 00:04:38,760 Speaker 1: that you had, but it was pizza and beer and 117 00:04:38,960 --> 00:04:41,240 Speaker 1: sports and there was like stuff. 118 00:04:40,920 --> 00:04:42,720 Speaker 2: For the adults to do. Too. I appreciated that. 119 00:04:42,760 --> 00:04:44,599 Speaker 4: And then the little corner we had the balloons and 120 00:04:44,640 --> 00:04:47,200 Speaker 4: the tattoo people whatever, which a lot of adults got 121 00:04:47,240 --> 00:04:49,120 Speaker 4: glitter tattoos, so hey, it was for everybody. 122 00:04:49,240 --> 00:04:51,640 Speaker 1: I got a neck tattoo I saw got it on Yeah, no, 123 00:04:51,720 --> 00:04:54,920 Speaker 1: but mine was permanent. I didn't realize. I thought, yeah, 124 00:04:55,279 --> 00:04:58,080 Speaker 1: I got that too. In this company. Apparently if you 125 00:04:58,080 --> 00:04:59,800 Speaker 1: have a neck tattoo, you make a lot more money. 126 00:05:00,160 --> 00:05:02,160 Speaker 1: I've decided to do that. 127 00:05:02,400 --> 00:05:02,679 Speaker 2: Yeah. 128 00:05:03,040 --> 00:05:05,120 Speaker 1: So yeah, no, that's why I left it. Yeah, I 129 00:05:05,120 --> 00:05:07,040 Speaker 1: thought I thought it was going to wash off, but 130 00:05:07,080 --> 00:05:09,240 Speaker 1: in fact I didn't realize that they were permanent tattoos 131 00:05:09,240 --> 00:05:11,040 Speaker 1: that you were having to children. 132 00:05:11,640 --> 00:05:12,640 Speaker 3: Yeah, I should have told you. 133 00:05:12,760 --> 00:05:14,720 Speaker 1: Yeah, but the tear drop, that was one I really 134 00:05:14,760 --> 00:05:17,200 Speaker 1: thought would go away. But anyway, so I have to 135 00:05:17,240 --> 00:05:20,279 Speaker 1: explain that one to my to my friends. But yeah, 136 00:05:20,360 --> 00:05:21,640 Speaker 1: so that's the thing you're supposed to be doing for 137 00:05:21,680 --> 00:05:24,280 Speaker 1: your kids today. I'm sorry if you If you're not, 138 00:05:25,000 --> 00:05:27,080 Speaker 1: then you're just not You're not up to bar. It's 139 00:05:27,120 --> 00:05:30,320 Speaker 1: you have to what can you possibly do to a bed? 140 00:05:31,080 --> 00:05:32,960 Speaker 3: I mean, my parents were sad, they were in mourning 141 00:05:33,000 --> 00:05:34,760 Speaker 3: because they were helping me pay for it. So They're 142 00:05:34,760 --> 00:05:36,919 Speaker 3: like this is going to suck. You know, there's no 143 00:05:37,000 --> 00:05:38,800 Speaker 3: bed party. It was like you better figure it out. 144 00:05:38,800 --> 00:05:40,039 Speaker 2: Girl. My parents were static. 145 00:05:40,360 --> 00:05:43,920 Speaker 1: They were like, really get out, really, Like what when 146 00:05:44,000 --> 00:05:46,200 Speaker 1: is the first day you can go? Like that? 147 00:05:46,560 --> 00:05:48,880 Speaker 2: Is there a summer semester? And there was? And they're like, great, 148 00:05:48,880 --> 00:05:50,080 Speaker 2: you should go to that. Oh wow. 149 00:05:50,120 --> 00:05:52,160 Speaker 3: I did ask for an early movement. I was I 150 00:05:52,200 --> 00:05:54,240 Speaker 3: was the one ready to go. I was like, can 151 00:05:54,279 --> 00:05:56,160 Speaker 3: I come up early in clim of these storms? 152 00:05:57,040 --> 00:05:59,040 Speaker 1: Well, and it's a it's a famous story in my house. 153 00:05:59,040 --> 00:06:01,159 Speaker 1: But my parents were very has helped me with college 154 00:06:01,400 --> 00:06:03,200 Speaker 1: and that was always the thing growing up, was hey, 155 00:06:03,240 --> 00:06:04,880 Speaker 1: if you can get into Harvard, we'll help you with that. 156 00:06:04,920 --> 00:06:07,280 Speaker 1: Like if you can get into Harvard, which of course 157 00:06:07,320 --> 00:06:10,040 Speaker 1: I could not. I barely got into Skysdale Community College, 158 00:06:10,200 --> 00:06:12,599 Speaker 1: but that was the thing. So it came down and 159 00:06:12,600 --> 00:06:14,040 Speaker 1: you guys have probably heard the story, but it came 160 00:06:14,080 --> 00:06:17,039 Speaker 1: down to two schools in Dallas, in the Dallas area. 161 00:06:17,120 --> 00:06:19,920 Speaker 1: My mom went to SMU and the rival was TCU, 162 00:06:20,120 --> 00:06:21,800 Speaker 1: and those were that I got into both and those 163 00:06:21,800 --> 00:06:24,080 Speaker 1: were the school So we flew to Dallas and we 164 00:06:24,120 --> 00:06:26,920 Speaker 1: went to TCU and we had the hottest tour guide 165 00:06:27,000 --> 00:06:29,240 Speaker 1: and I had the best time and I loved it 166 00:06:29,279 --> 00:06:30,280 Speaker 1: there and it was great. 167 00:06:30,360 --> 00:06:31,360 Speaker 2: Then we went to SMU. 168 00:06:31,400 --> 00:06:33,920 Speaker 1: It was fine, it was fine, didn't have a hot 169 00:06:33,960 --> 00:06:36,960 Speaker 1: tour guide, it was whatever. I was really influenced by 170 00:06:37,000 --> 00:06:38,600 Speaker 1: the tour guide. I was they knew what they were doing. 171 00:06:38,960 --> 00:06:41,320 Speaker 1: And so we go to dinner. My mom is like, well, 172 00:06:41,640 --> 00:06:43,279 Speaker 1: what's you going to be? And I said, Mom, I 173 00:06:43,279 --> 00:06:46,600 Speaker 1: want to go to Texas Christian TCU, the rival. And 174 00:06:46,640 --> 00:06:50,240 Speaker 1: she's like, hmmm, how you gonna pay for that? She 175 00:06:50,360 --> 00:06:51,000 Speaker 1: was not kidding. 176 00:06:51,400 --> 00:06:54,200 Speaker 2: Oh, you guys are as me. And that's where I went, 177 00:06:54,600 --> 00:06:56,080 Speaker 2: good decision, I get it. 178 00:06:56,120 --> 00:06:57,880 Speaker 3: My kids a knock on a u of them, Well 179 00:06:57,920 --> 00:07:00,360 Speaker 3: that really really don't care. 180 00:07:00,640 --> 00:07:03,280 Speaker 2: What if they got a scholarship to the rival college 181 00:07:03,640 --> 00:07:03,960 Speaker 2: doing it? 182 00:07:04,600 --> 00:07:07,040 Speaker 1: What if they got a full ride scholarship and they 183 00:07:07,040 --> 00:07:08,560 Speaker 1: were going to pay them nil money to go to 184 00:07:08,560 --> 00:07:12,320 Speaker 1: Ohio State. So my kids and athletes, yeah, man, il 185 00:07:12,480 --> 00:07:15,960 Speaker 1: money to go to Ohio the Ohio State University. 186 00:07:16,280 --> 00:07:18,000 Speaker 3: Oh, they can go there, they just can't go to 187 00:07:18,040 --> 00:07:18,600 Speaker 3: you about. 188 00:07:18,440 --> 00:07:21,080 Speaker 2: I don't know, Yeah, I don't know. 189 00:07:21,200 --> 00:07:23,640 Speaker 1: And there's it's there are certain colleges like once you 190 00:07:23,720 --> 00:07:27,000 Speaker 1: get affiliated with them, stuff gets weird. And I'm not 191 00:07:27,040 --> 00:07:28,720 Speaker 1: going to sit here and list them all because because 192 00:07:28,720 --> 00:07:30,320 Speaker 1: you know what they are, and I don't want to. 193 00:07:30,400 --> 00:07:31,640 Speaker 2: I don't want to make people mad. 194 00:07:32,200 --> 00:07:34,559 Speaker 1: But there's there are some colleges that once you become 195 00:07:34,600 --> 00:07:38,880 Speaker 1: involved in one rhymes for Notre Dame, things start to 196 00:07:38,880 --> 00:07:39,640 Speaker 1: get a little weird. 197 00:07:39,680 --> 00:07:39,840 Speaker 2: I know. 198 00:07:39,960 --> 00:07:44,760 Speaker 1: I'm just saying, you know, yeah, U, I see, that's 199 00:07:44,760 --> 00:07:46,480 Speaker 1: one of them. Things start to get a little weird. 200 00:07:47,040 --> 00:07:47,280 Speaker 1: U s. 201 00:07:47,440 --> 00:07:49,280 Speaker 2: It's funny. They don't claim you anymore. 202 00:07:49,280 --> 00:07:49,960 Speaker 1: They used to, but. 203 00:07:51,520 --> 00:07:53,160 Speaker 2: Yeah, no, you're statue. They took it down. 204 00:07:53,720 --> 00:07:56,280 Speaker 1: They took it down like I wish they could take 205 00:07:56,320 --> 00:07:59,400 Speaker 1: my neck. Tapte off my neck. Your kids birthday party 206 00:08:00,040 --> 00:08:01,720 Speaker 1: by Chapter Teddy flipped in two minutes.