Speaker 1: Welcome to decisions Decisions.
Speaker 2: I don't think you should say decision decisions. It sounded
Speaker 2: like you was talking to cursing. You definitely say to welcome.
Speaker 1: Welcome to the new podcast. Oh wait, you want to
Speaker 1: say together decisions decisions. Welcome y'all.
Speaker 3: We back at it again, and I still do not
Speaker 3: have an insho for decisions decisions, but it is coming soon.
Speaker 1: Hon, you can say city owns the.
Speaker 4: I.
Speaker 3: I kind of want to get some new aka's, but
Speaker 3: I haven't thought of them just yet because I'm a
Speaker 3: I'm not about you and the bleep. Yeah, I mean,
Speaker 3: at this point, we just got to say, I'm bleep bleep, bleep,
Speaker 3: bleep bleep. If y'all watch us on YouTube, listen y'all.
Speaker 3: If you want to hear our curse words that bad,
Speaker 3: go to the audio. You can listen to Decisions Decisions
Speaker 3: wherever you listen to your paper podcast. Really excited though,
Speaker 3: we got some guests today.
Speaker 1: We do. I'm weasy welcome to decisions Decisions.
Speaker 2: Our guests came on horrible decisions, like more than five
Speaker 2: years ago, did.
Speaker 1: Y'all y'all and y'all were did y'all both come on? No? No,
Speaker 1: we know they did. They never been on here, that's
Speaker 1: why did they did?
Speaker 2: We were together and then we did separately or Marie went.
Speaker 1: We did together. I think Marie only came on.
Speaker 2: No, I came on there too. In the other it
Speaker 2: was like a small studio. It was not like this,
Speaker 2: she said, y'all, we know.
Speaker 1: Growth, but well it was that little.
Speaker 3: Box y'all may have known, or I know, we both
Speaker 3: individually went on to your previous podcast, Unofficial Experts, and
Speaker 3: now y'all are just mess now that the rebrand.
Speaker 1: How from unofficial experts to mess to mess?
Speaker 2: Well, the unofficial Expert was, but it was very like
Speaker 2: the sound is corporate, but it's down the earth mess
Speaker 2: for Oh no, I listen and I'm excited because the
Speaker 2: ground is corporate for unofficial nficial.
Speaker 1: It was very much so mess but messes.
Speaker 3: Definitely, you guys, I would say, okay, okay, right, hold okay,
Speaker 3: So you know what's crazy mess to me? Like when
Speaker 3: I describe y'all as like you know how when you
Speaker 3: say bitch, But it's endearing. I love the mess of
Speaker 3: y'all's lives that I get to hear every week.
Speaker 1: You're not cleaning it, Okay, I'm sorry, I fix it
Speaker 1: for you. Let me fix it for you. Okay.
Speaker 2: I think everybody misuses the word mess. I think that
Speaker 2: things can be messy, but a lot of times you're
Speaker 2: just living.
Speaker 1: You're just being yourself, like growing up, not a horrible
Speaker 1: something else. So that's what I mean. I like y'all's live. Okay.
Speaker 3: Okay, So we're gonna dig into it today because we're
Speaker 3: gonna talk about uh, dating being a mess. And I've
Speaker 3: listened to Reezie. I can't wait to get into her
Speaker 3: her dating woes. Can I say woes? You could say woe?
Speaker 1: Girls?
Speaker 2: So you give us a great little recap on that
Speaker 2: Instagram recap.
Speaker 1: I run into.
Speaker 2: Reezy maybe once a year somewhere, but I feel like
Speaker 2: I'm connected to you from what's going on on the internet. Okay,
Speaker 2: you writing the camera and I'd be like, she must
Speaker 2: have seen a nigga last night.
Speaker 1: I feel like he was still there. Are you doing
Speaker 1: the lights? Okay?
Speaker 3: So I guess before we start, just because we're going
Speaker 3: to be talking about dating, let's start with you two
Speaker 3: and talk about where you're at currently and your dating world,
Speaker 3: just so that the audience also knows what lens we're
Speaker 3: taking it from okay, okay, So are you currently dating
Speaker 3: with intention?
Speaker 1: Do you want to be married? Are you single? Are
Speaker 1: you in a situationship? Reezie? What is your girl? You
Speaker 1: sound like my mom? Are you dating with intention? What's up?
Speaker 1: Where my grandbaby? Control?
Speaker 3: Realistically, my mom has never asked me about dating at all.
Speaker 3: I think my mom didn't want to ever have kids,
Speaker 3: so she's like, you shouldn't have a me.
Speaker 1: So that's a good bit I would like her.
Speaker 2: We need to hear more moms talking about how being
Speaker 2: child free is a choice.
Speaker 1: That's okay because like doing it on TikTok. They're saying
Speaker 1: it on TikTok all the time.
Speaker 2: They're showing you, like what their days are and how
Speaker 2: they're like not worried and they can just get on
Speaker 2: a fly.
Speaker 1: Girl. By the time we y'all leave here, will we
Speaker 1: have TikTok? I'm not gonna lie. I'm surprised.
Speaker 3: Uh, my mom luckily has a grand baby and it's
Speaker 3: by my lesbian sister, so like she already knew she
Speaker 3: wasn't gonna get a baby out of me.
Speaker 1: But like for my sister.
Speaker 2: To look at the gays picking picking y'all.
Speaker 1: Up once again, the good work that we do. That
Speaker 1: is crazy. So reason, what's your relationship status? I'm dating
Speaker 1: to have a good time.
Speaker 3: If I meet somebody that I feel like, I'm not
Speaker 3: even gonna say checks the boxes, because what is a box?
Speaker 1: You know they can she'll know they can. Wait a minute,
Speaker 1: y'all know about boxes?
Speaker 2: A queen about any pocket of boxes?
Speaker 1: Y'all have multiple boxes pocket. Let me tell you how.
Speaker 5: I don't know, like if just being a little gay
Speaker 5: is something you can see.
Speaker 1: I saw her abundance.
Speaker 5: I'm talking about sid If you're not watching and uh
Speaker 5: my boyfriend watched me.
Speaker 1: He goes, do you like her? What was that? I
Speaker 1: was like, what? He was like? You said five times
Speaker 1: you had saga? You at saga? I was like, what
Speaker 1: did girl? I was like, is she a molly?
Speaker 2: She's really like, why are you all molly?
Speaker 1: I don't know. You're It's good. You looked good. You
Speaker 1: looked fun and free and having a good.
Speaker 2: I think it's because like when I see someone that
Speaker 2: I haven't seen in a while and this is fucked up.
Speaker 1: You better say it, dope, go ahead and stay take
Speaker 1: your time.
Speaker 2: Okay, that's a mess. There's not many people I see
Speaker 2: that I haven't seen in a while that look better
Speaker 2: or great, and they don't necessarily have something great to say.
Speaker 5: They're kind of like, oh, you know, life is like
Speaker 5: But Sid didn't have that. She was just great energy,
Speaker 5: her friends around. They just had a vibe.
Speaker 2: Not everybody always feels like that when you run into them.
Speaker 1: We just came from Marie Show. We had a good time.
Speaker 2: We were like, I had my pants on, my butt
Speaker 2: looked big, like yeah, I was feeling feeling great.
Speaker 3: That was why I couldn't stop saying it, because I
Speaker 3: feel like when I run into people lately, it's just like.
Speaker 1: You was doing a little better.
Speaker 3: Also, when you tell when you see somebody and you're like,
Speaker 3: how you doing? You know, there's always that one random
Speaker 3: person that will tell you that they're not doing good,
Speaker 3: and it's.
Speaker 1: Like you could have kept that.
Speaker 3: The way to the backfield drinking my hand, Molly's still going,
Speaker 3: what is your relationship status?
Speaker 1: You know?
Speaker 2: During the pandemic and before that, I was very I'm
Speaker 2: a monogamous, like serial dater, and I'm always you know,
Speaker 2: with somebody. So I went to LA I came back,
Speaker 2: I had some fun and I am dating someone okay.
Speaker 1: But the thing is is that I'm trying not to.
Speaker 2: I used to talk about my girlfriends all the time
Speaker 2: and on podcasts or whatever, and then somebody would message
Speaker 2: them and be like, hey, did you did you hear Sidney?
Speaker 2: And it's like, oh, I'm like, yo, miss, I'm here
Speaker 2: to entertain.
Speaker 1: Why are you even like listening to this?
Speaker 4: No?
Speaker 1: Why are you listening to this? Listen to it? Yeah? No,
Speaker 1: but don't be reporting bad apparent. Apparently one of the
Speaker 1: dudes that I'm dating posted me in his close Friends
Speaker 1: with my Yeah, I didn't. He didn't even in the
Speaker 1: in the photo. What was happening?
Speaker 3: It was like a selfie that I had sent him there.
Speaker 3: It was like posted in the close Friends.
Speaker 6: Oh no.
Speaker 1: Someone saw it and commented and said.
Speaker 3: I don't like, hey, uh, do you listen to her
Speaker 3: podcast because she talking to other people?
Speaker 1: And he was like no, and then he sent him
Speaker 1: to the links to the both things. I don't know
Speaker 1: what was worse. Someone violated you like that telling your business.
Speaker 1: I don't know. I said that, don't sound like a
Speaker 1: close friend.
Speaker 2: Okay, so I'll tell you that's funny.
Speaker 1: The close friends.
Speaker 5: If you're in the photo and y'all are doing something
Speaker 5: it's like, okay, he could have the excuse, so my bad.
Speaker 5: I was just posting being out whatever a selfie you
Speaker 5: say is wrong.
Speaker 1: Selfie, No, that's wrong.
Speaker 3: If you send a guy that you're talking to a
Speaker 3: photo of yourself, because that's technically private and technically intimate.
Speaker 3: You shouldn't be posting that to a social media patient.
Speaker 3: And it's so crazy because also hearing four women agree
Speaker 3: on that, I know men be like, but women want
Speaker 3: to be posted no, no, no, not like that.
Speaker 1: No no no, not like that. And I had no idea
Speaker 1: that you were doing that. Also, what I said to
Speaker 1: you and what I was saying to the way, are you.
Speaker 2: Not because I look, you know, I'm just sending you
Speaker 2: something super sexy.
Speaker 1: I may not give that much of a fun. Wait,
Speaker 1: reason are you and his close friends? Did you see
Speaker 1: him posting? You don't follow each other? That's the and
Speaker 1: that's the beautiful that.
Speaker 2: But I tell you that's the if you're dating you,
Speaker 2: Guys should not be following each other. And even sometimes
Speaker 2: I feel like you shouldn't follow your friends because what
Speaker 2: if people are now you're doing to me because sometimes
Speaker 2: especially if you're a public figure, what you're posting outwardly
Speaker 2: for the masses is it might not hit for your friends.
Speaker 1: It's not for them.
Speaker 2: And so sometimes when friends be watching other people do
Speaker 2: their thing, it's their little judgment.
Speaker 1: So they're like, oh, that's cringe or whatever. But like,
Speaker 1: this is my business. This is you're not buying my tickets.
Speaker 1: This is for the people.
Speaker 3: That's so crazy because my homegirl, uh, we was on
Speaker 3: the phone and she was like, but I know you
Speaker 3: see my stories and I say, you post your kids
Speaker 3: too much.
Speaker 1: I go through, right, I go right.
Speaker 3: I don't want to see a whole bunch of post
Speaker 3: about children. I can't relate. I don't want to watch it.
Speaker 3: Have you ever seen a get in the car? This
Speaker 3: is the type of you already know what I'm talking about.
Speaker 3: Y'all know too.
Speaker 2: It'd be a long ass fucking story or balla Dante.
Speaker 5: And then it starts like so how was that word?
Speaker 5: And I'm like, oh, bitch, click click, And then.
Speaker 1: You called me thinking I know this aren't to sit
Speaker 1: there for seven I didn't wait.
Speaker 2: Wait, you don't just x I X out of it?
Speaker 1: You speed you through?
Speaker 2: No, no, no, no, I maybe you got to I don't
Speaker 2: want to see the whole I don't want to look like.
Speaker 1: A Wait, I'll wait till the next day, till yeah,
Speaker 1: you know what I can't saying, take on a bitch
Speaker 1: story and it's stay birthday. No, I like it. That's
Speaker 1: the only way I know. It's your birthday.
Speaker 2: Wait, hold on, wait, wait, I'm gonna finish this. Okay,
Speaker 2: finish this first?
Speaker 1: Is it the reposts? Are you mad at the reposts?
Speaker 1: It's the whole thing back?
Speaker 2: Oh?
Speaker 1: No, First of all, it's your birthday. Okay, Now I
Speaker 1: don't click.
Speaker 2: Now you know how don't click? So I'm gonna click out.
Speaker 2: So now you know I ain't shit because I ain't
Speaker 2: clicked the rest of them. On top of the fact
Speaker 2: that I'm probably not gonna text you or repost pictures
Speaker 2: of us, I just feel like now I have.
Speaker 1: To be accountable because why just my happy birthday? Friend?
Speaker 5: Sure, I don't even except the story, but I'm talking
Speaker 5: it's random, just cool.
Speaker 3: Oh just tap the heart, yeah, tap the heart, tap
Speaker 3: the heart yeah, or.
Speaker 1: Thumbs up thumbs up girl. I don't know about the
Speaker 1: thumbs up heart. I like low effort. I might give
Speaker 1: you a little.
Speaker 2: What's wrong with the happy birthday?
Speaker 1: Oh?
Speaker 3: No, no, in twenty twenty five, none of my friends
Speaker 3: are getting a repost, and it's because three of them
Speaker 3: last year, and you know who you are.
Speaker 1: I'm not gonna call you out because you listen to
Speaker 1: the part you did three of them. You're doing that
Speaker 1: on our episode. No listen three of them, three of them,
Speaker 1: three of them hit me.
Speaker 3: Okay, and we're like, now, why would you choose that picture?
Speaker 3: I don't like that picture? Here post this picture?
Speaker 1: Oh bitch.
Speaker 3: Now, I'm not getting three friends because I've been friends
Speaker 3: with all of my friends for over ten years.
Speaker 1: I know y'all think I follo out with people I'm
Speaker 1: friends with important showing up.
Speaker 3: Yet up, but I like to post post.
Speaker 1: I was stopping right there, y'all. Why are you doing that? Mandy?
Speaker 1: If you have blown up so much, why are we
Speaker 1: going back ten years ago?
Speaker 2: I was gonna say, I've been friend So there's two things, bitches.
Speaker 3: Because you're posting a picture that you look at it.
Speaker 3: I know I look ten years ago. I was eighty,
Speaker 3: but maybe you're uncomfortable with your mess, So okay for
Speaker 3: you to decide.
Speaker 5: They should be grateful for the post. But at the
Speaker 5: same time, like, bro, if you know, like I looked
Speaker 5: like ship back there. You know, I hate I don't
Speaker 5: want it.
Speaker 1: I don't think they look like all bands up to here.
Speaker 1: I need why are you why that is a Beyonce
Speaker 1: crazy crazy bangs? Yeah? Wow, you know the SO and
Speaker 1: I have we interviewed, y'all. Probably I was. I don't
Speaker 1: know how that fly out of states.
Speaker 2: My friend got a calendar, put a calendar together and
Speaker 2: hit up my friends and ask them to send.
Speaker 1: Pictures so cute.
Speaker 2: I want to text me and be like, so that's
Speaker 2: the photo you chose. I would hate to die and
Speaker 2: there'll be an obituary and people are doing the power point.
Speaker 2: I can't trust nobody except Marine power Point yesterday, and
Speaker 2: it's gonna be on the casket.
Speaker 1: You know what.
Speaker 2: I was thinking about getting a white casket and doing
Speaker 2: a projector you know what, the photos on it.
Speaker 1: I don't know if someone's gonna die soon, but this
Speaker 1: freaking me out.
Speaker 5: Literally three days ago, talking of my best friend, he's like,
Speaker 5: you look so pretty, Ingreen, I'll make sure you're buried
Speaker 5: in it.
Speaker 3: No, I don't want anyone saying that's where to say
Speaker 3: that's weird and put that out.
Speaker 1: That's weird to say but do you look pretty Ingreen?
Speaker 1: I don't.
Speaker 5: But you know what though, when you're in a yellow comedian,
Speaker 5: so you already know. I kind of love talking about
Speaker 5: death really well. When I was really depressed, I did.
Speaker 5: But now I'm feeling good, I'm like, oh, I can
Speaker 5: see myself living more.
Speaker 1: Oh, I'll be honest with you.
Speaker 3: I'm in Atlanta now and I went to a comedy
Speaker 3: show Boy is the comedy different? When I'm up here
Speaker 3: everyone's talking out suicide and jumping in front of trains.
Speaker 3: Down there, they're talking about fried chicken and how they
Speaker 3: talk with I'm just saying it's completely but Atlanta is
Speaker 3: people are doing.
Speaker 1: They're doing. There's garlic promisean wings.
Speaker 3: Yeah, they're not getting petticures with Hennessy on their It's
Speaker 3: completely different out there.
Speaker 1: And so I was like, Atlanta.
Speaker 3: So that's another thing I realized, hold on, hold on,
Speaker 3: mess No sounds like a you.
Speaker 1: Know, it's crazy. The how they speak. I didn't realize.
Speaker 3: I don't really I've been in New York a long time,
Speaker 3: so the way they drag everything, I'm like, what if
Speaker 3: they say girl, I'm trying to have to They speak
Speaker 3: a different language.
Speaker 1: It's very country, very country. That's very answer.
Speaker 2: But I have a limit to country, right, So like
Speaker 2: being from Florida, you're immersed in country ship once you
Speaker 2: realize there's a place out of health. Then you go
Speaker 2: to the country for three days and you're.
Speaker 3: Like, no, they like, you know, don't mean like it's like,
Speaker 3: what is the person wearing rells when they say that,
Speaker 3: because I think that's even sexy.
Speaker 1: They have a list, They got a twin. You want
Speaker 1: a list? You can't wear a grill? Why you're gonna
Speaker 1: be spitting gold teeth at me? You're all spitting bracest
Speaker 1: right now, George. You should hear me.
Speaker 2: When I read a fucking listener letter, I'd be like super.
Speaker 3: I mean, like, you say you so much? You know, honey,
Speaker 3: I couldn't say decisions decisions.
Speaker 1: You still can't. You still will.
Speaker 3: Y'all want to break this up a little bit with
Speaker 3: are hypothetical get us out of dating before we jump
Speaker 3: back into dating and this one.
Speaker 1: I thought that we could all come up with some.
Speaker 3: Pretty good an So you know, we're gonna start with
Speaker 3: sit on this one and then we'll go around. I
Speaker 3: do want to answer from all of us, So if
Speaker 3: you could add one history fact into the books that
Speaker 3: would be taught in schools and perceived to be true.
Speaker 1: What would it be? Can it be messy? Or of
Speaker 1: course it could be messy. This is the thing that
Speaker 1: be okay, No, no, it's true.
Speaker 2: No, it could It can also not be treated okay,
Speaker 2: but this is true because a recent photo Rosa Parks
Speaker 2: had yams yoh do that?
Speaker 1: Why not? Why we not? She did? I just saw it.
Speaker 1: But why would we teach our kids that Rosa Parks
Speaker 1: how to don't?
Speaker 4: Wait?
Speaker 1: Let me look.
Speaker 3: Yeah, when she was getting off the bus, there was.
Speaker 1: A picture of her doing yoga. Wait, they did yoga.
Speaker 3: A there's a picture of Rosa Parks doing yoga somebody.
Speaker 1: And this is someone to get it together? You feed
Speaker 1: real gen Z right now. I am out. Twitter is
Speaker 1: your resource. You know what are you crying? Well? When
Speaker 1: I saw the phone, I was like, she's sitting down.
Speaker 1: She should send me this one that AI looks like art?
Speaker 1: Am I wrong? I don't know the old black lady.
Speaker 1: You have to stay off of the internet. Rose that
Speaker 1: light would that.
Speaker 3: Rosa was a little bit light? What is it always like?
Speaker 3: He was like freedom fighter bro, I know.
Speaker 1: Is coming to the dark skin girl they didn't care about.
Speaker 3: But it's like calm embarrassing because literally every time somebody
Speaker 3: checks me like it's always makes it just acting like this,
Speaker 3: you don't want to drag They're gonna drag me for this.
Speaker 1: Somebody say something positive, somebody to keep going. I'm going
Speaker 1: to add to it.
Speaker 3: So what I would teach, what, well, what I would
Speaker 3: put in the books is that actually black people were
Speaker 3: the kings and queens and we ruled the world. White
Speaker 3: supremacy is actually rooted and hate literal. They were and
Speaker 3: so that's why white people was like, oh now we
Speaker 3: got to get them out.
Speaker 1: Like it was us.
Speaker 2: Man.
Speaker 1: I would want to teach.
Speaker 3: I would want to teach that white people were so
Speaker 3: insecure that they just hated that they didn't rule shit,
Speaker 3: so they took everything from us, which technically I think
Speaker 3: is the truth.
Speaker 2: Isn't that taught in the school of Hotep that I
Speaker 2: think that's our being taught.
Speaker 1: Oh that is that at the school. There's the course
Speaker 1: of Mindfulness. I think it's the thing ty on Me
Speaker 1: told us about. Have you all heard about this? It's
Speaker 1: a book. No, it's the Course of Miracles.
Speaker 5: Miracles okay, And she was talking about how her and
Speaker 5: her ex husband.
Speaker 1: Literally she was like, girl, he.
Speaker 2: Was trying to spiritually gas like me from.
Speaker 3: This fucking HOTEP book and a lot of the HOTEP
Speaker 3: teachings knock on front.
Speaker 1: I love a doctor Umar, but I also love.
Speaker 5: The gays, and it's like they conflict each other consistently,
Speaker 5: back and forth and back and forth. And I think
Speaker 5: the biggest issue with hotep shit that I'm African Americans
Speaker 5: that don't fuck what it is is they hate white
Speaker 5: people a little too much. I have the instead of
Speaker 5: like I don't care about making white people feel seen,
Speaker 5: like it's just not.
Speaker 1: A priority for me.
Speaker 5: I may see a homeless person that is white and
Speaker 5: I literally won't cross the street because I'll be like, oh,
Speaker 5: someone's going to help you one hundred times today, you.
Speaker 1: Know what I'm saying.
Speaker 5: So it's like I think where black people living in
Speaker 5: America that are just kind of like, no, Hoteps just
Speaker 5: want you to hate white people.
Speaker 1: No, it's just more radical, But.
Speaker 3: Like I don't think it's but I still think that
Speaker 3: white supremacy is rooted in a lot of hate.
Speaker 1: But I want to teach that they were haters.
Speaker 3: I also want to say they be ignoring the white
Speaker 3: homeless people too, unless they have a little dirty dog
Speaker 3: with them, then they might give them right.
Speaker 1: That's why me having the dog.
Speaker 2: Because they're like, I'm definitely going to trash out, you
Speaker 2: know the fact that it's human beings.
Speaker 3: We do care more about animals than human lives.
Speaker 5: You know why though, because people look at homeless like
Speaker 5: they just can't stop doing drugs. We only associate homelessness
Speaker 5: with drug addiction now right, because people just don't just
Speaker 5: go get a job like that's the first thing they
Speaker 5: want to say.
Speaker 1: I'm living half in all. I'm telling you.
Speaker 5: The way people treat homeless in Los Angeles, it's fucking crazy. Also,
Speaker 5: I don't I'm sorry, there's no home, living on the street,
Speaker 5: you're homeless.
Speaker 1: I don't do that's stupid language. When they write in
Speaker 1: who's going right they are? Don't do that. They have
Speaker 1: wi fi.
Speaker 3: I don't normal living outside as a home. It's fucked
Speaker 3: up because I tell you, if they ended up having
Speaker 3: a kid and family, oh, is it still on housed?
Speaker 2: No, you'd want them to have a fucking home. So
Speaker 2: let's treat adults the same way. I'll give a about
Speaker 2: you putting no campsite.
Speaker 1: Wait, what do you mean having kids? They have kids? Girl?
Speaker 3: Yeah, yes, Now, I just think that that's irresponsible.
Speaker 1: I just think that's irresponsible.
Speaker 2: I mean it is because if you are because I
Speaker 2: don't have a home.
Speaker 1: I can't have sex. You sho you have anything? You
Speaker 1: shouldn't be getting nutted in like.
Speaker 3: You you they're outside? Pull out if you live out,
Speaker 3: pull out? Yeah, like there has to be we got it.
Speaker 3: Like you gotta be responsible in some form of your life.
Speaker 1: You're gonna make another one.
Speaker 3: No, I'm not gonna lie already if you already magic,
Speaker 3: I'm gonna shout out to all the parents and I
Speaker 3: do you.
Speaker 5: Realize that a lot of women that are homeless are
Speaker 5: sex workers?
Speaker 1: What do you think is going on? Oh? Really? Okay? Wow?
Speaker 1: The more you know it's happening here and decisions. Seriously though, that.
Speaker 3: Sounds like a horrible decision to me, know the h
Speaker 3: not a fun one with the.
Speaker 1: W okay really? What? What?
Speaker 4: What?
Speaker 2: Yeah?
Speaker 3: I was just gonna also shout out parents because the
Speaker 3: more that I continue to live and thrive as a
Speaker 3: single person, I don't know where y'all get the money
Speaker 3: to raise kids.
Speaker 1: This kids are so expensive and the.
Speaker 3: More like I just bought furniture where I don't want
Speaker 3: anyone to sit on it, and so I had to
Speaker 3: call my mom and I say, Mom, I'm so sorry.
Speaker 3: Now understand why you didn't want us to jump on
Speaker 3: your couch and do all the things that.
Speaker 1: We didn't know.
Speaker 3: That's crazy that you had a moment with a couch
Speaker 3: when I was on vacation a few months ago.
Speaker 2: It's one for us to do this boat right. And
Speaker 2: I remember thinking about myself. Kids is eighty nine, A
Speaker 2: kid is eight and nine. That's not you are telling
Speaker 2: you if we if we would have a fucking baby,
Speaker 2: we would have to bring this fucking kid eight and nine.
Speaker 4: But eat it.
Speaker 3: Yeah, just not now breathing. What would be your fact
Speaker 3: that you add into the history books to be taught
Speaker 3: cheating is not new since the beginning of time. They
Speaker 3: all of the all of the stuff that we're complaining
Speaker 3: about now, people been doing that since the beginning of time.
Speaker 3: I'm sure there was a cave woman washing her man's
Speaker 3: favorite rock and he was at some other woman's cave
Speaker 3: just throwing Fred Flintstone dig all over the place.
Speaker 1: You think Adam was cheating on eve, That's not what
Speaker 1: man was. There another was there another person. I'm just
Speaker 1: throwing it out. Sorry, that's Jesus stuff. But weren't they first?
Speaker 1: I mean, let's just say they were.
Speaker 3: Listen the way they in history, we just like to
Speaker 3: uh make turn men into gods. Like, let's be very clear,
Speaker 3: Martin Luther King was cheating, Like, hell on Correca, you're
Speaker 3: not bro.
Speaker 1: It's about to be Black History Month. We don't do
Speaker 1: this right now, light skin, mouse up, shutouts.
Speaker 2: That's talk of the Marx so Mark talking about So
Speaker 2: Martin wasn't cheating.
Speaker 1: Is that what you're saying?
Speaker 3: No, no, no, I'm saying, we're not talking about this this Closebuary.
Speaker 1: You don't know who brought it up? No, no, no.
Speaker 3: I talked about cave man and you said niggas. Now
Speaker 3: that sounds let's unpack that.
Speaker 1: That is mess man, you know, now that's white man.
Speaker 1: Hey demonized. We think c I A.
Speaker 2: I hate getting c a alabaster mother. That's what it's
Speaker 2: giving lab is get another from the cocky smell?
Speaker 1: Could I be fair like that is?
Speaker 5: Sometimes I might have an opinion and I'd be like,
Speaker 5: I'm too ambiguous for this. I'm not Somebody needs to
Speaker 5: check y'all somebody needs to check y'all.
Speaker 3: I thought, so you're saying that you can't talk about
Speaker 3: how are activists.
Speaker 1: And our leaders and all those like the way you
Speaker 1: said it might be the braceist, but I don't like
Speaker 1: the way you said it. It didn't come out right
Speaker 1: when you said, we don't want to hear you say niggas,
Speaker 1: like when they said they not like us. They're talking
Speaker 1: about y'all. You're not talking about me. No, no, no, no, no,
Speaker 1: no no no. I feel about you because you have brothers
Speaker 1: are on today.
Speaker 3: This is why we have to which I was in
Speaker 3: sake Cory.
Speaker 1: This is a tan, it's a this is so un serious.
Speaker 1: I can't. I can't.
Speaker 2: I'll be seeing y'all clips and y'all really just be
Speaker 2: having really great discussions adult type, keep going.
Speaker 1: It's very loose. This is our dudes for black history. Absolutely.
Speaker 3: You know Martin Luther King was a cheater. Now, what
Speaker 3: was the purpose of that? Tell us why you bought that?
Speaker 3: Walk us through the thoughts.
Speaker 1: But no, no, no, she brought it up because you were
Speaker 1: like the rain. He was an act activist. He was
Speaker 1: doing stuff for his people, but he was.
Speaker 2: Also also chipping out and you run it every week
Speaker 2: and been around.
Speaker 3: He was dropping off dick at for the church, ladies.
Speaker 1: To the church.
Speaker 3: Okay, right now you're turning this and to pass the
Speaker 3: jamal Brian and talking.
Speaker 1: About what you don't know what's next on the dock. Okay.
Speaker 3: Actually, now this is gonna be great because we could
Speaker 3: talk about uh dating in the realm.
Speaker 1: Of how to be a perfect side chick.
Speaker 3: Now, this is a video that came out and I
Speaker 3: do want us to respond, but also for any of
Speaker 3: our listeners who have chosen the lane that I used
Speaker 3: to the hill I used to die on. I wanted
Speaker 3: to talk about if you agree with these this being
Speaker 3: the perfect way to be a side check.
Speaker 1: So here we go.
Speaker 6: And but he's married. There's a line and invisible line.
Speaker 6: We don't now cross the line and expect a relationship.
Speaker 6: You can never outshine the main read the fantasy, not
Speaker 6: the reality. Come on Monday, you don't call plus a PM.
Speaker 6: Don't do that. That's for the white think of it
Speaker 6: like this. You not like a genie. You rub the
Speaker 6: lamp and then VI Jimmy appears. You don't come out
Speaker 6: onto your summons, You can't go to Yes as women,
Speaker 6: we're gonna feel a type of way.
Speaker 1: You're with him, it feels good.
Speaker 3: He turns around, he's with his wife. If you feel sad,
Speaker 3: go and read a book.
Speaker 1: Valentine's Day.
Speaker 3: You think that you're supposed to do something, your day
Speaker 3: is the fifteenth way come.
Speaker 1: If you don't like the way it makes you feel,
Speaker 1: leave the situation. Don't get a mind, Dan, Why do
Speaker 1: you want someone else's mind? Don't forgive us.
Speaker 3: Why do you want somebody else's man? Why do you
Speaker 3: want someone else's man? That's a good question, So I'm
Speaker 3: not gonna lie. In my twenties, it was less responsibility
Speaker 3: for me and how I showed up in the relationship,
Speaker 3: and it was just easier to be number two because
Speaker 3: I don't know, I felt like there wasn't the pressure
Speaker 3: for me to show up and be perfect. I think
Speaker 3: that when you date, or you strive to be the
Speaker 3: wife or something, sometimes you change who you are. And
Speaker 3: the reality of it is, I just think you're insecure
Speaker 3: and don't believe you deserve a man to yourself. But
Speaker 3: I feel like you could say the same for a
Speaker 3: sad chick. Wait are you saying that's this side check?
Speaker 3: That's what i'maying. That's incite you. I think someone who
Speaker 3: and myself included. When I was in my twenties, I
Speaker 3: did feel like I wasn't girlfriend or wifeyw material. I
Speaker 3: felt like my money wasn't where I needed to be
Speaker 3: and I needed fuck niggas who had money and if
Speaker 3: my man or someone that I liked at the time,
Speaker 3: I didn't think could provide for my life, I'm gonna
Speaker 3: see here and keep dealing with the guys with money.
Speaker 1: And then I also, do you think in.
Speaker 5: Your twenties that you needed to have money or a
Speaker 5: certain like standing for relationship?
Speaker 3: Yeah, I felt like, I mean, and I think that
Speaker 3: comes from again therapy, childhood, upbringing, like my grandmother and
Speaker 3: what happened like there were women in my family who
Speaker 3: couldn't leave really bad and abusive relationships because the man
Speaker 3: provided for everything. So for me, I always felt like
Speaker 3: I wanted to come in and give something, which is
Speaker 3: why I went back to college. I was like, no
Speaker 3: man's gonna take me see as a bartender or working
Speaker 3: in the clubs.
Speaker 1: And you worked in the clubs.
Speaker 3: For a long time too, and I was just like,
Speaker 3: let me go back to school, let me be what
Speaker 3: a wife should be.
Speaker 1: And then what you're telling me I should have did
Speaker 1: I should have?
Speaker 2: No? No? No, no no, and then maybe I wouldn't be gay. Yeah, Lesbie,
Speaker 2: can you read? Yeah, you're ignorant ass? Oh okay, got it?
Speaker 2: Got it?
Speaker 1: Dragon Like, So I mean everything that she said, though
Speaker 1: I do.
Speaker 3: I do believe like there's if you sign up to
Speaker 3: be a side chick, you can't sit here and believe
Speaker 3: your in competition are going to steal the main chick
Speaker 3: from this guy.
Speaker 1: But I think some side chicks do think that.
Speaker 3: I think because they're delusional. I think side chicks are delusions,
Speaker 3: even if.
Speaker 1: They don't think they could steal them.
Speaker 5: I think side chicks think, oh he likes me more,
Speaker 5: I'm preferred, or he's stuck with her.
Speaker 1: Well he'd be saying that too, he's about to leave
Speaker 1: her any day now.
Speaker 2: Yeah, he's pillow talking complaining about the person, the main
Speaker 2: chick to the side chick, and then the side chicks like, well,
Speaker 2: I'm about to move in there, and I'm about to
Speaker 2: slide in. And so I think all of it is
Speaker 2: just like delusional and toxic. You could get wrapped up it,
Speaker 2: and it's a push and pull of thinking that you're
Speaker 2: going to get something that somebody else has, because there's
Speaker 2: some people who just want what other people have, not
Speaker 2: just men, but just think somebody else's life.
Speaker 3: Well, certain things don't look appealing or attractive to you
Speaker 3: until you see somebody else with it and then you
Speaker 3: be like But also, when you're the side chick, right,
Speaker 3: you're not dealing with the messiness of who this guy
Speaker 3: is on a daily because you don't live with.
Speaker 1: Him literally, are part of the part part times.
Speaker 3: You know, when I say mess i'm talking about like
Speaker 3: all the things that kind of might make you start
Speaker 3: disliking your partner in a relationship, right, and not even disliking,
Speaker 3: But you're not dealing with the reality of what bills
Speaker 3: are being paid and how you're paying them. You're not
Speaker 3: dealing with this person's family. You're not dealing with this
Speaker 3: person on a day to day because as a side chick,
Speaker 3: you're part time and you're normally getting the best version
Speaker 3: of this guy.
Speaker 1: I know.
Speaker 3: The delusion that I used to have is, oh, well,
Speaker 3: he's honest with me. I know everything that's going on,
Speaker 3: so he has to like me more. No, I think
Speaker 3: there is a blurred line to the fact that people
Speaker 3: lie to the ones they actually love.
Speaker 2: Honest being told he's still a liar to somebody. No,
Speaker 2: he's a liar to somebody, absolutely.
Speaker 1: But I think the thing.
Speaker 2: That was tough for me with like someone wanting me
Speaker 2: to be a side chick, because it normally came from
Speaker 2: like men I used to date and he would come
Speaker 2: back around. I'm really emotional, but I felt a lot
Speaker 2: of emptiness, like if I know that you have to
Speaker 2: walk outside or do something like that, like I hate it.
Speaker 2: But the only time the side chick was like, oh
Speaker 2: I like this was when they were giving me money.
Speaker 2: Oh yeah, that Noel was like in exchange of my time,
Speaker 2: I'm not gonna lie for I.
Speaker 1: Don't know about that. Eight years later.
Speaker 3: I do think that if you were going to be
Speaker 3: a side chick, you should be getting compensated financially. I
Speaker 3: don't think there's any other reason to be a side chick,
Speaker 3: because as a woman, you will start becoming emotionally involved with.
Speaker 5: But also, let's talk here, like what is side chick right?
Speaker 5: Because you can get some dick dropped off and then
Speaker 5: be on your way. I think a side chick is
Speaker 5: like you actually are.
Speaker 3: Saying you're in a relationship with this man I've never Yeah, no,
Speaker 3: I would. I need the situations more than any Yeah,
Speaker 3: I need the definition. There's time, Yes, Alexa, what's the
Speaker 3: side chip?
Speaker 2: Yeah, unfortunately, you know I've dibble, dabbled in the medium
Speaker 2: of sidness. Oh that's Alexa, that's Marie.
Speaker 1: Also, she just talked about delivering ingredients to a bowl.
Speaker 3: What's the side chips?
Speaker 2: But that's what you should call him now, side side chip,
Speaker 2: side chip, side fries, a little appetite.
Speaker 3: But everybody's Alexia activated when I screamed that a little.
Speaker 1: Side Yeah, I I didn't.
Speaker 2: I don't think I was actually thinking that I was
Speaker 2: going to be with these people because I did it
Speaker 2: more than once, because you got to do it three
Speaker 2: times to figure out if.
Speaker 1: You really want to do it.
Speaker 2: You gotta be a side three three times to figure
Speaker 2: out if I see, if you're really about this life.
Speaker 5: Eating pussy too. I remember meeting a girl. She was like, oh,
Speaker 5: I like me or woman, but I don't like eating pussy.
Speaker 5: I was like, have you tried it just once? I
Speaker 5: was like, it was hers.
Speaker 1: You gotta do it two more times. I'll do it
Speaker 1: two more times. Yeah, So you got to do everything
Speaker 1: three times, so you know, you're almost there. You've done
Speaker 1: it like twice.
Speaker 5: Oh yeah, my nigga literally said to me, we've been
Speaker 5: together almost two years, a year and a half.
Speaker 1: You and this squeezy YouTube grown like you have been
Speaker 1: telling me you have not gotten ahead. And then she'd
Speaker 1: be trying to say she can't listen to her.
Speaker 2: You have to get it in in your twenties. You
Speaker 2: have to do anal in your twenties. You cannot do
Speaker 2: it in your thirties.
Speaker 3: Doing anal in nursing home. No, I feel like I
Speaker 3: jumped the skip like a level because I disagree pee play.
Speaker 2: So I'm like, how do I get here? When I
Speaker 2: what's pete play?
Speaker 3: She'd be asking a man to piss all over, not
Speaker 3: all over neck down podcast.
Speaker 1: I am a good Christian? What's going on here? Marie?
Speaker 1: A good Christian? Gay is crazy? Wait a second, so
Speaker 1: a lesbian? How do you have anal? Sex? Girl? What
Speaker 1: I do? You want to know? What is going in there?
Speaker 1: What you mean what's going in there? Fingers? Toys, okay,
Speaker 1: things of that sort. Okay, can you get like the
Speaker 1: penetration you can handle?
Speaker 2: Like you can get Oh I haven't, like I said,
Speaker 2: you see, I got my good you know church dress
Speaker 2: on stockings.
Speaker 1: I don't need get I don't get down like that,
Speaker 1: no more.
Speaker 2: But but if we could put more than the stockings
Speaker 2: tell you otherwise in a little fern.
Speaker 1: God, you unzipp You didn't have to unzip that, love. Yeah,
Speaker 1: it's so I could see a Filippian tubes.
Speaker 2: It was hot in here. That's that's what it is.
Speaker 2: It's not very circulated. I thought you was elevated.
Speaker 1: Where's ac It's nothing but heat coming on hot coming
Speaker 1: out to them tights. Yeah, I can't. They can't go
Speaker 1: like a full in and out.
Speaker 2: But no, he was basically trying to tell me because
Speaker 2: of the time we've been together, it's time.
Speaker 5: I'm like, didn't we try it? He was like, yeah,
Speaker 5: last December. I'm like, so now I'm on my years up.
Speaker 5: We gotta go back into the world though.
Speaker 1: You gotta reup on the warranty, you know.
Speaker 3: So we got poppers. Oh doesn't help for me, It
Speaker 3: doesn't help for you. I have a very tight and
Speaker 3: this is not me trying to flex. I wish I
Speaker 3: could flex.
Speaker 1: It's not a flex. No.
Speaker 3: I think the sphincter muscles too tight because when I
Speaker 3: watch it, you gotta stretch it.
Speaker 1: O are you okay?
Speaker 3: I got a little but oh you're not here forty thing. Listen,
Speaker 3: I got a tiny butt. I've tried twice, so I
Speaker 3: guess you have one more time to try.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I do it on the same day. But I
Speaker 1: really do start a group chat.
Speaker 2: I really do think if you do it in your twenties,
Speaker 2: it's easier in your thirties. But when once you get
Speaker 2: us like over thirty, it's something about the body. It's
Speaker 2: like it's not giving the way you used to anal experts.
Speaker 1: I think I am. Yeah, I tried a nineteen, so
Speaker 1: I was that ninety.
Speaker 2: They definitely won't blame it.
Speaker 1: Is that while you're back in Atlanta. No, no, no, well.
Speaker 3: Well because the guys I'm dating right now are not
Speaker 3: in Atlanta, and I wish well, no, I'm lying.
Speaker 1: One of them is, but he just moved there. So
Speaker 1: how you guys are you dating? So three and I
Speaker 1: like all three of them. She gotta try them all
Speaker 1: three three times. I'm not I'm not going that route.
Speaker 1: But wait, what does that mean? Like I'm not gonna
Speaker 1: try all three?
Speaker 2: Like you're not gonna suck all them?
Speaker 1: Probably not, But you got one out of three.
Speaker 3: Yeah, so I fucked one out of the three. But
Speaker 3: the one that I really like.
Speaker 1: I'm supposed to be fucking soon. And if I like
Speaker 1: girls on the Google and young, well who better fuck?
Speaker 4: No?
Speaker 3: No, no, no, no, I'm I'm I'm trying to talk.
Speaker 1: I would love to date all three of them. I
Speaker 1: would love to be with them. But you don't want
Speaker 1: to bang all three. No, if I'm.
Speaker 3: Able to be in a relationship with all three, you
Speaker 3: just look like for some reason, because there's a couch
Speaker 3: and there's a chair on the side, I feel like
Speaker 3: she was on a data show.
Speaker 1: I would love to date all three of them. I
Speaker 1: I can only choose many. Real question, how do you
Speaker 1: have the time when you're very busy?
Speaker 3: Two of them don't live in my city? Okay, so
Speaker 3: when do you see that? So you have to that's
Speaker 3: the thing.
Speaker 1: We have to We have to plan. Okay, we have
Speaker 1: to plan. You're so busy. You're busy, Like I know,
Speaker 1: I'm not as busy as y'all.
Speaker 2: And I still feel like I couldn't imagine doing three.
Speaker 1: So I'm not gonnaly.
Speaker 3: I don't I don't want someone always with me. I
Speaker 3: don't like to give people space their time.
Speaker 1: That sounds great. I have they're they're all three busy
Speaker 1: woman that don't want to care. I don't like someone
Speaker 1: was with me. I don't want it.
Speaker 3: I I get that. I don't want to see you
Speaker 3: every day. I don't need to speak to you.
Speaker 1: I don't need to speak to you every day. Well,
Speaker 1: one of the scientists, one of the doctor and want
Speaker 1: of science is scientists. Yehut up at Bill Not? He's white.
Speaker 1: I don't really rich. No, Bill Night as white rich.
Speaker 3: No, I don't know TV. When I was two, Bill Not,
Speaker 3: I probably bought Microsoft stock. You know when Bill nye worth,
Speaker 3: it's gonna say two thousand dollars.
Speaker 2: Eight million dollars. Yeah, get him on decisions, decisions.
Speaker 1: I don't you know. I wouldn't Bill Night for the plot.
Speaker 1: You would suck Bill Night just for the plot. Just
Speaker 1: are y'all in therapy for real? Because it's not sounds
Speaker 1: walk me through this is it?
Speaker 3: Because he's a scientist, you think he knows how to
Speaker 3: scientifically put it?
Speaker 1: Put it in your butt?
Speaker 5: I think like, for one fucking someone you've known for
Speaker 5: your whole life, right, someone you have an affinity, he
Speaker 5: hasn't known you though.
Speaker 1: You know, but me like about this person, Yeah, like
Speaker 1: I'm telling like a fan.
Speaker 3: I was like it sounds like yeah, I feel like
Speaker 3: just for the story of it, like we like him
Speaker 3: as a groupie.
Speaker 1: Plus, there's no way the sex with Bill Night would
Speaker 1: be good. Bill Night is not having sex. He's reading
Speaker 1: his kindle out loud to you.
Speaker 3: I don't know why that shape the oldest nigga. He's
Speaker 3: wearing glasses at the tipical.
Speaker 1: Beaker. Ah, not a beaker. You headed this out of
Speaker 1: the podcast?
Speaker 3: No, why that you want to give Bill Nye simplicity?
Speaker 1: Because you know what sucks.
Speaker 5: I have to stand on this now for years and
Speaker 5: then when y'all come back in the second we go
Speaker 5: on mess, y'all gonna be like this bitch want to
Speaker 5: fuck Bill not?
Speaker 1: Yeah. On Patreon.
Speaker 3: Uh, there's a topic that we're talking about about, Uh,
Speaker 3: how Dick gives you cloud or something? Because you know,
Speaker 3: all the girls like to see here and post who
Speaker 3: they who was in the d MS and all that ship.
Speaker 3: I do want to ask, is there anyone that y'all
Speaker 3: would just because of who they are you've known them forever,
Speaker 3: you might not they not They might not even be
Speaker 3: your type. You're just like, if he wanted, I would
Speaker 3: I would consider it he or she based on who
Speaker 3: they are. Kamala, not you just girl.
Speaker 2: You are unserious. You got this blazer on. I can't
Speaker 2: with you?
Speaker 1: Can I swear?
Speaker 2: He said, switch, I need to get on the I her.
Speaker 2: Do you not get the concept?
Speaker 3: Is there is there anyone if we started with plethink
Speaker 3: every yeah.
Speaker 1: You know what? Can I can?
Speaker 2: I be honest and now that not saying that these
Speaker 2: celebrities of people are more accessible, the more that they talk,
Speaker 2: the more that they put stuff out there. It makes
Speaker 2: me be like, I'm not as attracted like I like them.
Speaker 2: I'm an affinity for the but I'm not. I don't
Speaker 2: have like a sexual connection.
Speaker 1: Okay for the men. The last time you speak for
Speaker 1: the rest of the episode.
Speaker 3: Adam Sandler, Oh, you know, smell like chips and beer
Speaker 3: when you take his clothes.
Speaker 1: I love him now.
Speaker 3: He got his little beard and Jim not now the.
Speaker 1: Girl.
Speaker 2: He looked like he don't even wash his feet at all.
Speaker 2: He's he smells like three day old axe.
Speaker 5: Ray, So, is there anyone that you would that's not
Speaker 5: necessarily attractive?
Speaker 1: But you're like, oh, they're iconic or something. Like, you
Speaker 1: can't pick someone hot. That's why I said Martin.
Speaker 3: Hands, although Malcolm could Malcolm Malcolm Rock didn't land on.
Speaker 1: You can't be will be hot.
Speaker 3: Yeah, you know he would read poetry.
Speaker 1: His gunman. Yeah, okay, I.
Speaker 2: Not sex, but I would like to, you know, hang
Speaker 2: out just being her, have her air queen Latifa girls.
Speaker 1: She's married. I don't want to be I said, dead people,
Speaker 1: street dead people. Okay, now we're just naving white people.
Speaker 3: Okay, so little let's get into dating being a mess.
Speaker 3: So normally during the segment we get into the history
Speaker 3: of sex. But I wanted to get into the history
Speaker 3: of our messy dat lives. And I did want to
Speaker 3: start with you, Reezi, because I want to say skeptic.
Speaker 1: Oh yes, actually, Marie, that's I see that for you.
Speaker 1: But the tattoo, bro, That's why I didn't say yea,
Speaker 1: I know he would have the whole time.
Speaker 3: Lenny would have on a big ass scarf that he
Speaker 3: would lay down and that's what we would bang. I
Speaker 3: would love to bang on his big scarf. I would
Speaker 3: love it.
Speaker 1: It might be a little achieve a girl. Wait, what
Speaker 1: was the question.
Speaker 3: No, we're getting into the mess of our dating history,
Speaker 3: and for reasony I do want to talk to you
Speaker 3: because on your pod you've had quite a few dates recently.
Speaker 3: But also, this is my favorite part. You said last
Speaker 3: year in twenty twenty four. In one year, you ran
Speaker 3: into every single X you have, every X I dated
Speaker 3: in the last five years, bumped into them.
Speaker 1: Last she bumped into them all in one every reason
Speaker 1: thing go one well in the last five years. So
Speaker 1: it was.
Speaker 3: And then the first boyfriend I ever had, I bumped
Speaker 3: into him at Union Square. And when I saw him,
Speaker 3: I just started laughing because I was like, this is
Speaker 3: the universe.
Speaker 1: He's getting too small.
Speaker 2: That's like the universe trying to say when they show
Speaker 2: you everyone you've slept with them.
Speaker 3: I think the universe is taking me through a like
Speaker 3: ghosts of Penis past, right, Like everybody that I used
Speaker 3: to be stressed about or or obsessed with or whatever.
Speaker 3: I saw them and it was like, oh, this issue
Speaker 3: this is I did spend a couple of the blocks, a.
Speaker 1: Couple of the time.
Speaker 5: Out of the ones that you saw, five out of ten,
Speaker 5: I don't know it was, you know what I'm saying,
Speaker 5: fifty percent of them were they better looking worse?
Speaker 3: In one week got bumped into three. So the first
Speaker 3: one looked good and I looked layout and every day people.
Speaker 3: No girl, I was walking.
Speaker 1: By, Seriously, how are you running all the movies in
Speaker 1: one week? I bumped into three? That's crazy. The first
Speaker 1: one looked good and I looked bad, so I had to.
Speaker 3: Hide ship because I was like, oh. And then the
Speaker 3: second one looked bad and I looked good, so I
Speaker 3: was like, I thought that.
Speaker 1: Was hi, you left big.
Speaker 2: Oh my god, you look your thyroid like the thyroid lord.
Speaker 1: And then the last one looked good.
Speaker 3: He looked fantastic, Like I thought it looked like he
Speaker 3: had found Christ or something.
Speaker 1: I don't know. He looked very good. I mean Sidney's
Speaker 1: on he looked fantastic.
Speaker 3: Can I ask you if someone went through a book
Speaker 3: and got to see all of your exes, what would
Speaker 3: it say about you? Like would they be able to
Speaker 3: point out one same trend with your exes? Or like
Speaker 3: what do you think it would say about you? I mean,
Speaker 3: I think, with the exception of like a cubble, of
Speaker 3: everybody that I've dated has been very nice, Like I
Speaker 3: think nice people.
Speaker 1: I don't.
Speaker 3: I don't necessarily date assholes. I dated like maybe like
Speaker 3: three liars.
Speaker 1: Only three? Yeah, three, your whole three the last year.
Speaker 1: Maybe they were great lives.
Speaker 3: Yeah maybe, okay, maybe I dated five liars.
Speaker 1: We go round up? Yeah yeah, yeah yeah.
Speaker 3: You're like God's chosen one of God's favorites. I'm like,
Speaker 3: top top fifty in the world.
Speaker 1: What's your sign? I'm a libra. Maybe you know how
Speaker 1: to choose them.
Speaker 3: I don't know if you have a discernment, like I
Speaker 3: don't feel like we all get that lucky bitch.
Speaker 1: I don't know.
Speaker 3: I feel like the end of last year, I just
Speaker 3: was like, this is this is this this, this, this
Speaker 3: is this this, you.
Speaker 1: Know, because what is what is dating now for you?
Speaker 3: Like, like, has there is there a trend now with
Speaker 3: what you see how men are dating in comparison to
Speaker 3: your past or not.
Speaker 1: I don't know.
Speaker 3: I didn't care about dating in my twenties. I wasn't
Speaker 3: thinking about it at all. I would go out and
Speaker 3: just be like, ill, stop talking to us, or like
Speaker 3: I want to strawberry zakery, like and so does my friend,
Speaker 3: like drinking stuff like that and ignoring them, and and
Speaker 3: then you know, after you turned after after you leave
Speaker 3: twenty nine behind, now you're kind of on a swivel,
Speaker 3: and I don't like being out in that way. I
Speaker 3: just want to be out with my friends feeling hot,
Speaker 3: being sexy, and smelling good.
Speaker 1: It's okay.
Speaker 3: The attention doesn't go to going out to meet people anymore.
Speaker 3: It just is to go out and have a good time.
Speaker 2: Because the pressure of meeting someone outside I think comes
Speaker 2: from the fact that we're all meeting them online.
Speaker 1: So it's like, damn, I'm going outside. It must be
Speaker 1: time like it.
Speaker 3: Just want to meet people out like online is canceled.
Speaker 1: That's where all the liars are online outside What the
Speaker 1: fuck is you talking about? Day out?
Speaker 3: You know that I saw someone I used to date
Speaker 3: in the layout and he must have had one of
Speaker 3: the moments he was like, oh my god, how you
Speaker 3: being Are you working out? No, nigga, I'm just making
Speaker 3: more money.
Speaker 2: Like I'm telling you, when someone is from the past
Speaker 2: and they see you, I can already tell how your
Speaker 2: dating life is going from how you pressed on me.
Speaker 3: You know, it might not even be how their dating
Speaker 3: life is going. It's it's just how you look true
Speaker 3: and how you move in right. Like maybe old you
Speaker 3: was a little bit more pressed, a little bit more thirsty,
Speaker 3: and now you're making money and you you know, you're
Speaker 3: at a different place in your life, and people see
Speaker 3: that and they're like drawn to.
Speaker 1: The thirstiness is real, though I will say that I
Speaker 1: think that if you think.
Speaker 2: That he doesn't have a fence still looking at your stuff,
Speaker 2: he is, so he's already seen the progression and might not.
Speaker 5: But I do think the thirstiness in the twenties for me,
Speaker 5: you don't, you know, if you're looking to date someone,
Speaker 5: I think you don't have a lot of kuth, Like
Speaker 5: you're kind of just being like, yeah, my intentions that,
Speaker 5: and it's just sometimes you can lead with that in
Speaker 5: a different way. And I think I didn't know how
Speaker 5: to communicate that properly, Like I was going on dates
Speaker 5: when niggas that were fucking drug dealers, thinking they'd wipe
Speaker 5: me up or they'd be a great partner.
Speaker 2: Like you're just not really choosing right. And I think
Speaker 2: the thirstiness definitely came from loneliness. Once you're a little
Speaker 2: bit older, you start building.
Speaker 5: Community and happiness in other ways, whereas when you're younger,
Speaker 5: you're like, oh, I have to get married, get a
Speaker 5: good job, do this, So I got to find a
Speaker 5: partner that's next and that's the worst part of day,
Speaker 5: going out like you are right now, just to have
Speaker 5: a good time, Like I really believe that's what brings
Speaker 5: the happiness.
Speaker 3: What is the difference between dating men and women? See women,
Speaker 3: they're women harder to date. Do you feel or I
Speaker 3: think everybody is crazy. It doesn't matter what gender or
Speaker 3: sexuality you are. But I do think that women are
Speaker 3: more direct. They know what they want and they're not
Speaker 3: afraid to say their feelings. And most women are like yeah,
Speaker 3: that's like I'm not.
Speaker 2: Turned off by a woman being honest because it's like, okay, good,
Speaker 2: I don't have to like play these games or oh
Speaker 2: I can't text you back, I gotta wait and da
Speaker 2: da da da, So that it is like relaxing to
Speaker 2: feel like, oh, I know that person likes me. I
Speaker 2: don't have to de cipher or look at hilogryphics to
Speaker 2: see if they are really didn't.
Speaker 1: Say high low graphics hieroglyphics. Oh that is man? Wait,
Speaker 1: do you embarrassed for yourself?
Speaker 2: You let the people in the cop was like, Mandy,
Speaker 2: you know I don't high looglyphics, Yo, Mandy, just like
Speaker 2: a white woman, you're like her. Ye, never put that
Speaker 2: in the history books. Bitch, it's always gonna be a
Speaker 2: big woman trying to correct a black, strong gay woman
Speaker 2: on camera with that.
Speaker 1: Put that in the books. I shared, It's all I've
Speaker 1: said enough for.
Speaker 4: You.
Speaker 1: Let me tell you.
Speaker 3: Let me tell you how Cindy trying to play reezy
Speaker 3: because again trying to play reason. You try to act
Speaker 3: like she'd be late, and I was like, Ree's never
Speaker 3: late for me.
Speaker 1: Hey, you know you're like black, that's what you're with
Speaker 1: a capitol king. Do you know that you are crying?
Speaker 1: You are waiting at all? Had enough to wait?
Speaker 2: I had to stick up for a police like a sister, Mandy,
Speaker 2: who are you turning into?
Speaker 1: Over there.
Speaker 4: Is?
Speaker 1: It is a color purple keeping until you do right
Speaker 1: by me, don't. I do want to I do want
Speaker 1: to end the show by not the song. Oh no,
Speaker 1: we know you want to end it out. No, no, no, no,
Speaker 1: I am having a good time. I mean no random.
Speaker 1: I do want us to.
Speaker 3: Talk about what we have intentionally changed in the way
Speaker 3: we pursue partners and dating and sex in our thirties
Speaker 3: compared to our twenties. Like, I know that you said
Speaker 3: clearly you're not out looking exactly. But is there anything
Speaker 3: intentionally that you're doing different.
Speaker 2: I'm trying to work on me. I just I just
Speaker 2: want to be good for me. I don't care about
Speaker 2: the people per se anymore. I just want to show
Speaker 2: up for me. I want to be good to me.
Speaker 2: I want to do things in a way that it's
Speaker 2: not chaotic. Our podcast is messed, but I don't want
Speaker 2: to be a mess anymore.
Speaker 1: So I want an hour I don't I don't want
Speaker 1: to be a mess anymore.
Speaker 2: I don't know. I starting today, started starting today, starting
Speaker 2: right fucking now because of you, man, d okay, wait
Speaker 2: till I come back.
Speaker 1: I'm gonna have high rogue glyphics.
Speaker 2: I'm gonna say hi, Hi, drogue Griffin. To be honest,
Speaker 2: high glow Olympics is a great makeup line, man.
Speaker 1: Hydroglyphics, Hi glows. Nobody wants you to blow high glow. Listen,
Speaker 1: what about you in twenty twenty five, what you're doing different?
Speaker 1: You're gonna get a boot this year?
Speaker 3: Maybe I think twenty five is gonna be good. I
Speaker 3: did see a psychic last year for the first time
Speaker 3: in my life. Oh and she says she sees loving
Speaker 3: my future.
Speaker 1: And the window, or did you get like a good one?
Speaker 3: I went up, I went up the stairs. I had
Speaker 3: to ring a bell, actually know, I had to hit
Speaker 3: the little you know this thing, you know, a little door,
Speaker 3: you know, because that's how you summon a wizard.
Speaker 1: You got. But you say that's where they live, most
Speaker 1: of them live.
Speaker 3: There was it was it, but you believe in has
Speaker 3: anything else. I'm never going to see a psychic. Before
Speaker 3: my friend was like, why would you go see a
Speaker 3: white psychic? That's why I would ancest to talk to
Speaker 3: a white psychic. The only white psychics I think are real?
Speaker 3: Are you telling gypsy? Kind of like you're not supposed
Speaker 3: to say that? That's how Yeah, you can't call somatic.
Speaker 1: You're not allowed to say gypsy.
Speaker 2: Well, first of all, she said, I am saying homeless
Speaker 2: and gypsy.
Speaker 1: No, no, no, you can't call someone a gypsy. But gypsy
Speaker 1: is a word.
Speaker 2: Yes, there are people, and so is nigger. Just because
Speaker 2: it's a word doesn't mean you can't g word.
Speaker 1: It is not. No they say that word like, we
Speaker 1: can't even say no more you just how wait, can
Speaker 1: y'all ai me out of this part? Can I just say? Wait?
Speaker 2: You know I'm being serious about gypsy. It's a culture.
Speaker 2: You can't call someone a gypsy by looking at him
Speaker 2: or about talking like you can say the world. I
Speaker 2: think you need to go back into the history books.
Speaker 2: Gypsy water my pay favorite part. You might to start
Speaker 2: bleaking myself.
Speaker 1: Aren't they hipsty hips we have?
Speaker 2: It's probably gonna have the most engagement because people are
Speaker 2: gonna be dragging.
Speaker 3: No, no question of the stupid question. Okay, now come on,
Speaker 3: we have to do something Asian to make it right. No, no, no,
Speaker 3: not no to talk about you okayre Asian?
Speaker 4: No?
Speaker 1: Oh Latino? Are you a gypsy? Are you a madge? No?
Speaker 1: Are you a house? Are you? I love a good
Speaker 1: offensive episode. It's not even really offensive. Gypsy. Don't listen
Speaker 1: to this podcast I heard.
Speaker 2: It's gonna be like we put both the ladies, both
Speaker 2: podcasts on the network together.
Speaker 1: Yeah. What was the question?
Speaker 3: Like, how you're being intentional with dating this year? Oh,
Speaker 3: I'm stepping outside of my house. You can't meet nobody
Speaker 3: sitting in I mean Uber eats.
Speaker 1: No, I don't do Uber eats.
Speaker 3: I I go pick up my takeout, not if I'm
Speaker 3: not gonna cook. I'm traveling the world. I feel like
Speaker 3: I meet my person in the Delta lounge or you know,
Speaker 3: some random place.
Speaker 2: Like that Delta one at this point, lounges for the streets.
Speaker 3: Now, everybody up in the well, let's let's make a
Speaker 3: quick disclaimer. The lamp sucks. Stop trying to go to
Speaker 3: the lounge. Don't go, just be by together.
Speaker 1: Canceled. Yeah, bro, I hate the lines in there. Yes,
Speaker 1: y'all shouldn't go. It's canceled.
Speaker 2: They need to put congestion prices for the for the bro.
Speaker 1: They know.
Speaker 3: They tried to. That's why they did the sky miles.
Speaker 3: They tried to get your motherfuckers out of there.
Speaker 1: Yeah, there's limits.
Speaker 3: No, no, no, Well, let's playing TikTok because TikTok is white.
Speaker 1: Bitch. They served me steak and sushi. Bitch. Oh yeah,
Speaker 1: they get massages and facials in it. Get it one?
Speaker 1: Do you have a plus one? Can you get a
Speaker 1: because I'm going over there now. You don't want to
Speaker 1: ward of a little stocking. Tell me where to find you? Wait?
Speaker 1: Are we done?
Speaker 2: From?
Speaker 1: Where? Can our listeners check you out? Come?
Speaker 3: Find us also on iHeart mess That's where you can
Speaker 3: find us. Our podcast is called that you can find
Speaker 3: Me on Instagram it's reezy our e e z y
Speaker 3: And I just want to tell y'all what's also amazing
Speaker 3: about mess is that you have to Luckily it just
Speaker 3: started to start from the beginning because you get to
Speaker 3: listen to Sydney trying to find an apartment, and then
Speaker 3: you listen to a man who bought her oxtails, who
Speaker 3: she thought was going to be her man and isn't
Speaker 3: feel like it's not by seemed like he bought her oxtail,
Speaker 3: bitch that it's inflation is expensive, like that was good and.
Speaker 1: I'll try to get a little one.
Speaker 4: He got me a large Wow, but being a man
Speaker 4: now worth being a side check for.
Speaker 3: Side see, I'm not doing it? Said where can they
Speaker 3: catch you and follow you?
Speaker 2: And all the things also on mess okay on the
Speaker 2: on instagram's ooh mess, and my Instagram is just said,
Speaker 2: b w how many o's two with an H.
Speaker 1: I feel like I'm trying to get to three. We
Speaker 1: should have like we're gonna tag it.
Speaker 3: I talk for y'all every day through the Instagram because
Speaker 3: we just be sitting memes.
Speaker 1: And ship and pedicure.
Speaker 3: I told them, oh no, and and you know what,
Speaker 3: real quick p s A before we get out of here.
Speaker 3: Stop turning everything into a martinis. We want no more
Speaker 3: seafood boiled martini except.
Speaker 1: For more collar green martini.
Speaker 3: Three martinis. Stop it with the martinis. Were fed up.
Speaker 1: You know who you are. It's you know who you are.
Speaker 1: You know that must be where you live. You know
Speaker 1: who you are.
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