Speaker 1: This is Take twenty with Mattie Kenzie Ziegler, an I
Speaker 1: Heart Radio podcast. Kenzie, Hi, hey girl. We always say
Speaker 1: hey girl, like how embarrassing and cringe, So I always
Speaker 1: answer the phone when Mom calls me, hey grey girl.
Speaker 1: Kensie and I were just having this discussion, like right
Speaker 1: before we started recording, is like, what like the things
Speaker 1: that people consider dating or like talking. Like for me,
Speaker 1: when I'm like saying, oh, if are you talking to
Speaker 1: that person, that means like you're you're not dating yet,
Speaker 1: You're just like and you're like hanging out and like
Speaker 1: about to date. That's what I think. But then like
Speaker 1: I think more like Mom, like when she was younger,
Speaker 1: I would say, like if she says that she's talking
Speaker 1: to someone, then she's dating that person. We think have
Speaker 1: this conversation with Mom. I it's so weird that that
Speaker 1: like is now like that like talking dating. I don't
Speaker 1: because if you think about it, if you're talking to someone,
Speaker 1: you probably are going on dates. It's like the kind
Speaker 1: of dates that we go on now. I was going
Speaker 1: to say, ours want to hang out? That type of thing.
Speaker 1: Our generation is like you snapchat the person and you're like, yo,
Speaker 1: let's hang what you doing even Okay, this is a
Speaker 1: random but the other day, and I know this is
Speaker 1: like obviously very romanticized because it's a movie. I was
Speaker 1: watching The Notebook obviously the other day in the plane,
Speaker 1: I was really in my fields and like just crazy
Speaker 1: that you used to ask each other like in person
Speaker 1: used to go to the person's door pick them up.
Speaker 1: But I wish that it is not normal anymore. You
Speaker 1: just don't do that. I wish it was like that.
Speaker 1: But at the same time, it's so easy to like
Speaker 1: hang out with someone when you have a phone. When
Speaker 1: you have a phone, I mean not saying that they
Speaker 1: okay whatever. I don't know, it's a it's a pretty
Speaker 1: big debate, definitely, I think, Like, I mean, I know
Speaker 1: that it's very kind of like cliche. I just I
Speaker 1: love the idea of, like, I don't know, doing a
Speaker 1: traditional like date, even though things like we don't do
Speaker 1: things very traditionally. I feel like, but it is fun.
Speaker 1: But like now, I think in our generation it's more
Speaker 1: like if you're hanging out, then it's like a date.
Speaker 1: You know, basically, um, what's the have you been on
Speaker 1: a date? And like, because I don't think we ever
Speaker 1: talked about these things together. What is like the worst
Speaker 1: date you've ever been on? If you have been on
Speaker 1: a date? I mean, oh, I would say like I
Speaker 1: because I like Okay, Well first I'm just gonna say, like, now, like,
Speaker 1: do you say you go on dates? Because I like
Speaker 1: me and Eddie will say like, oh, yeah, we're going
Speaker 1: on a date. We go on a date. But it's
Speaker 1: not like he's like, hey, want to go on a
Speaker 1: date to dinner and have a dinner date. Okay. Anyway,
Speaker 1: so that's cleared. Um, my worst day is probably with
Speaker 1: my first boyfriend. We were It's just at the very
Speaker 1: end of our relationship. Never mind the devil. Sorry. So
Speaker 1: basically we went to dinner and okay, you're going to
Speaker 1: remember this very vividly. Oh oh no, I basically I
Speaker 1: was basically what happened. I'll do it very I'm going
Speaker 1: to do a very quick answer. Kenzie, like our friends
Speaker 1: invited us over to have a pool night. Kenzie was there.
Speaker 1: I was like, oh, I want to go so bad.
Speaker 1: He was like, no, we're going to dinner. Mind you,
Speaker 1: We're like fourteen or fifteen at this point, so who
Speaker 1: was heated his side? But we basically go I really
Speaker 1: wanted to go to hang out with my friends. I
Speaker 1: want to hang out with Kenzie at this pool party.
Speaker 1: And so we get to the dinner and literally like
Speaker 1: I am. We're waiting outside to go in, and I'm
Speaker 1: just like having a really bad time, and he was
Speaker 1: just being really mean to my mom called me. I
Speaker 1: was crying because I just like, I just really want
Speaker 1: to be with my friends, Like I just really want
Speaker 1: to be with Kenzie. And then she calls and he
Speaker 1: picks up and he's like, it's so weird. Maddie's crying.
Speaker 1: I don't know what's wrong. And I was literally I'm
Speaker 1: on the phone being like I know why she's crying.
Speaker 1: Everyone else not here. And so finally my mom was like, Maddie,
Speaker 1: get in the car right now. You're coming to the
Speaker 1: pool party. And he sat in the car the whole
Speaker 1: time I went in. We'd like, got Did I end
Speaker 1: up going in the pool? I don't think so did
Speaker 1: I We were all in the pool he was. So
Speaker 1: that was a pretty bad date because I didn't want
Speaker 1: to be there. I wanted to be with my friends.
Speaker 1: He was making me feel bad, and so I guess
Speaker 1: that would be considered like the worst date because I
Speaker 1: was just like, but we're so young. I don't know
Speaker 1: what you would consider that. But I'm trying to think
Speaker 1: of my worst dake because I've been on some pretty
Speaker 1: terrible I don't know if you would call it dates,
Speaker 1: but like, what of an example, I'm trying to think, Well,
Speaker 1: there's like there's been times where I've gone on a
Speaker 1: date with like the sun and the dad. Um what
Speaker 1: you know that that was, Like that happened a lot.
Speaker 1: That's really weird because you're so young, and like you
Speaker 1: need a guardian or what like, Yeah, that's so awkward,
Speaker 1: but I think do you even hold like hands at
Speaker 1: that point? Like what are you doing? I don't even
Speaker 1: remember because it was a long time ago, but the
Speaker 1: most recent one, which I obviously have a boyfriend, so
Speaker 1: like a long time ago before I was dating my boyfriend,
Speaker 1: my one of my friends, like I've known him for
Speaker 1: a long time, and he was like, hey, let's hang out.
Speaker 1: And I I'm you know, I hang out with guys
Speaker 1: as it's just a normal thing for me to like,
Speaker 1: you know, go get food with my guy friend, like
Speaker 1: it's not a big deal like that. Um, And we
Speaker 1: like went and got food and then he took me
Speaker 1: to a look out and I was like, wait, what
Speaker 1: is happening right now? And he's like, what's your type?
Speaker 1: And I'm like, I don't know, I don't really have
Speaker 1: a type, and he's just it's just like the most
Speaker 1: awkward thing because I'm like, he thinks this is a date,
Speaker 1: but he just texted me being like, Hey, I'm in
Speaker 1: the area, do you want me to get food? So
Speaker 1: I'm not saying this is where the confusion comes with
Speaker 1: like a hangout could beat me in a date, right,
Speaker 1: Like I also like I'm just not I wasn't into
Speaker 1: him like that, so it was really awkward. Then he's
Speaker 1: like asking me questions or like you know, telling me
Speaker 1: I look pretty and I'm like thanks, Like I'm really awkward,
Speaker 1: but that's an uncomfortable situation. I haven't talked to him
Speaker 1: since then, so I think that definitely ruined our friendship.
Speaker 1: Well what can you do now? You have like a
Speaker 1: great boyfriend and you have other guy friends, so it's
Speaker 1: nothing to worry about. Yeah, but that's always awkward when
Speaker 1: your guy friend tells you I don't know whatever. You know?
Speaker 1: What's so funny? Like like and I have nothing against it,
Speaker 1: but like a lot of people are in dating apps,
Speaker 1: and I feel like we've always been too young and
Speaker 1: you can now I can, Oh, I can't. And I
Speaker 1: probably obviously don't need a dating app right now or
Speaker 1: I don't want. It's just something else you can do,
Speaker 1: you know. Yeah, But I just like I'm trying to
Speaker 1: picture myself if I was single and I wanted to
Speaker 1: put myself out there, I just feel like I'd be
Speaker 1: so awkward on a dating app. Like I wouldn't know
Speaker 1: what photos to choose, I wouldn't know what to how
Speaker 1: to describe myself. I wouldn't know what to say, how
Speaker 1: you flirt. I don't really know how to flirt. I'd
Speaker 1: be so scared to go to dinner with a stranger
Speaker 1: or like go on a date with a stranger. It's
Speaker 1: honestly a hazard. You guys should be aware, be aware.
Speaker 1: I yeah, no, I feel like i'd be so terrified
Speaker 1: to like put myself out there, especially like meeting new people,
Speaker 1: because you never know what they're actually like through like
Speaker 1: text message. Like it's the same thing when you're like
Speaker 1: talking to your boyfriend or something, and like you can't
Speaker 1: tell how they're acting. You know, is like bad sometimes
Speaker 1: because it's hard to read someone over like a message, yeah, exactly,
Speaker 1: Like it's hard to I would be so terrified. I
Speaker 1: get scared, like walking to my car by myself. So
Speaker 1: I definitely want to be able to do that. And also,
Speaker 1: what if, like, okay, have you ever like okay, you
Speaker 1: know how people go on like dates for the first time.
Speaker 1: What if it's going badly? How do you leave? How
Speaker 1: do you like do you do the thing where it's
Speaker 1: like okay? I feel like this is what would happen
Speaker 1: if I was going on a date with someone that
Speaker 1: I didn't know when I was meeting them for the
Speaker 1: first time and it wasn't going well. I feel like
Speaker 1: I do this beforehand. I'd ask you to like have
Speaker 1: a plan in place just in case, so like I
Speaker 1: text me be like hey, call me now, and be
Speaker 1: like there's an emergency, and then I'd have to go like,
Speaker 1: oh my gosh, my sister her, I'm to go chopped off.
Speaker 1: I'm really good at making excuses, so I think I'd
Speaker 1: be okay, like, oh, I can get out of any situation,
Speaker 1: like even like that that I don't I wish they
Speaker 1: could see me. But I'm doing ltiation marks because it
Speaker 1: wasn't a date, but like that weird hangout, that weird
Speaker 1: hang out, Like I was like, oh, I'm so exhausted.
Speaker 1: I don't feel that well, like can you just drop
Speaker 1: me off? Like I need to go to sleep, And
Speaker 1: then I went home and hung out with my friends,
Speaker 1: so like, you know, I can, I can get my
Speaker 1: way to work. You're a little actress. I mean yeah, no,
Speaker 1: but yeah, when when it's like the perfect time to
Speaker 1: like meet the parents in terms of dating, I don't know.
Speaker 1: I always get so scared. And when it comes down
Speaker 1: to that, you know, it's different when it's like you're older,
Speaker 1: because like if you're if when you're older, in the motive,
Speaker 1: it is like Okay, we're going to be together, we're
Speaker 1: gonna get married. Then it's like meeting the parents is
Speaker 1: like okay, this is going to become right thing. I
Speaker 1: think I get more scared for my mom to meet
Speaker 1: my boyfriends then from me and the parents. Yeah, definitely,
Speaker 1: you're you're scared for your boyfriend to meet yours, your family.
Speaker 1: What about me? Do you get scared? Like when you
Speaker 1: introduced your boyfriends to me? No, well no, I knew
Speaker 1: you'd hate all of them except my recent one. Like
Speaker 1: my recent one one right now, my recent one, my
Speaker 1: boyfriend right now, your boyfriend. UM no, I just like
Speaker 1: I don't know all they've all been pretty stucky, so
Speaker 1: it's like kind of like scary bringing them home. Yeah, definitely.
Speaker 1: But I remember when, like because obviously Eddie and I
Speaker 1: were friends for a really long time and then like
Speaker 1: we started hanging when we started kind of dating, we
Speaker 1: started hanging out all the time, and like he would
Speaker 1: just come over and my mom, like my mom, our
Speaker 1: mom just thought it was like, you know, he was
Speaker 1: just one of my guy friends, just hanging out. And
Speaker 1: then one day we came back from inside the pool
Speaker 1: and my mom was like, I didn't know that you
Speaker 1: guys were more than friends. And I was like what.
Speaker 1: She's like, I saw you kissing in the pool and
Speaker 1: I was like, um sorry, She's like, no, no, it's fine,
Speaker 1: Like it was fine she and then she ended up
Speaker 1: like being completely fine, like she didn't care. She loves Eddie,
Speaker 1: but it was just I'm sure it's definitely weird having
Speaker 1: but also I'm like, mom, why are you spying on me?
Speaker 1: She always is, but not in like a bad way.
Speaker 1: She just wants to be like it also hang out,
Speaker 1: I don't know. So yeah, I mean I feel like
Speaker 1: I was so nervous to me Eddie's parents. Like literally,
Speaker 1: I remember the first time I met his parents, I
Speaker 1: was so awkward, Like I was so quiet and just
Speaker 1: like weird, and like we walked I remember I met
Speaker 1: his mom and then we walked out and Eddie was like,
Speaker 1: are you okay? Why? Like what happened? I was like,
Speaker 1: what do you mean? Like everything's great? And He's like,
Speaker 1: you seem like really nervous. I'm like, yeah, He's like
Speaker 1: you were so like not yourself just then. You were
Speaker 1: just so like quiet and timid and like scared people
Speaker 1: people ever. But I just was like, you know, it's scary,
Speaker 1: Like I don't know, Yeah, it is kind of a
Speaker 1: weird situation. You don't know how they're going to like
Speaker 1: they don't know. I feel it's more like I hope
Speaker 1: they don't think I'm like I hope they think I'm
Speaker 1: good for something, right, Yeah, I never really think. I
Speaker 1: just like try to be myself and if they don't
Speaker 1: like me, then I mean that's their problem. But yeah
Speaker 1: then I can't really do anything about it. But yeah,
Speaker 1: I mean, what can you do. We're so young, like
Speaker 1: we have to just be ourselves. Of course, we'll always
Speaker 1: be yourself no matter what age you are. Should your
Speaker 1: date pick you up at your house or meet you there?
Speaker 1: Probably pick you up? I would think, yeah, well I
Speaker 1: would love that if my boyfriend could drive. Oh my god,
Speaker 1: I have everywhere. Yeah, I've always been so young, so
Speaker 1: like that's never been a thing for like, but now,
Speaker 1: like he's always at my house. And he also lived
Speaker 1: in a different state for the first few months, so
Speaker 1: it was it was more like, let's just going to
Speaker 1: travel to who real same yeah, but realistically, like if
Speaker 1: you didn't have a boyfriend right now and you were
Speaker 1: just dating, like, would you want them to pick you
Speaker 1: up or meet there? Because I guess it just depends
Speaker 1: on the circumstance. If it's if it's like a first
Speaker 1: time hanging out, probably meet there because I so I
Speaker 1: can escape if it's bad, you know. But if it's
Speaker 1: like if you know that we've been hanging out or
Speaker 1: like I know this person, it's going to be really fun,
Speaker 1: then like yeah, pick me up right, yeah, I would
Speaker 1: say so, or like yeah, this this is a great one.
Speaker 1: How late is too late for your date to show up?
Speaker 1: I'm always late, so I feel like i'd be the
Speaker 1: one that's late, but like how late are we talking?
Speaker 1: Like I'd probably like ten minutes. It's like the I
Speaker 1: would say in l A. You have a little bit
Speaker 1: of wiggle room because traffic here is ridiculous. Everyone's usually
Speaker 1: late like I and I'm an early bird. I always
Speaker 1: get everywhere on time. But I've started recently, like especially
Speaker 1: with driving on your own, you know, you you kind
Speaker 1: of like you have to, Like I said, there's you
Speaker 1: need to give some like wiggle room because it is
Speaker 1: it's really hard to get everywhere on time in l A.
Speaker 1: I think we talked about this before, but I literally
Speaker 1: just started driving, so I don't understand how long it
Speaker 1: takes to get anywhere. And even if it says it's
Speaker 1: going to take like twenty minutes, it's probably usually gonna
Speaker 1: take forty five minute. I don't understand that. Still, I
Speaker 1: don't know when I'm supposed to leave. I actually was
Speaker 1: perfectly on time. You e ripped at one, which is
Speaker 1: crazy because I'm usually like late when you're when you're
Speaker 1: going on a date. Because this is like for me,
Speaker 1: I guess it depends the restaurant, But like, do you
Speaker 1: feel like you have to wear heels. Do you feel
Speaker 1: like you dress up? I guess it's different because like
Speaker 1: we go on dates with their boyfriends, but if you're
Speaker 1: going on a date with someone like new, like not
Speaker 1: even that. I feel like it's just it's about the restaurant.
Speaker 1: Like if we're going to our catch, which is like
Speaker 1: a fancy restaurant, we're obviously going to a dress up.
Speaker 1: But if you're going to like a burger joint, you're
Speaker 1: not gonna, like I meant, like a fancy date, a
Speaker 1: fancy date. Um, maybe not heels, I don't know, probably
Speaker 1: a nice outfit, I definitely, like, I think, especially with
Speaker 1: our generation as well, I know we play into that
Speaker 1: a lot, but I feel like it's just like so
Speaker 1: many boundaries have been broken, which is so cool. I
Speaker 1: feel like now, especially like even with like just being
Speaker 1: fluid with like gender or style or sexuality. Like I
Speaker 1: think it's so cool because I feel like now it's
Speaker 1: more widely accepted for like people to play into like
Speaker 1: their masculine in side of their feminine side, and that
Speaker 1: helps a lot with like your fashion choices. So I
Speaker 1: just feel like for me, like I feel because when
Speaker 1: we grow up, when you when we were growing up,
Speaker 1: we were very heavily like you know, obviously Competition Dancer
Speaker 1: is very like Ryan Stone's glitter, very pink, very like
Speaker 1: glitzy and girly. And now like right now we like
Speaker 1: I feel like you're dressing more masculine, like at the moment,
Speaker 1: like we're wearing like big jackets and like, I don't know,
Speaker 1: just like oversized things. I feel like it's cool that
Speaker 1: you can kind of like play into that on a
Speaker 1: date especially, and I feel like that makes the guy
Speaker 1: I think you're cooler anyway, because it's like, oh, she
Speaker 1: doesn't care, she just wants to wear what makes her
Speaker 1: feel good. I feel like that that should be like
Speaker 1: what their mindset is. Would you ever go on a
Speaker 1: double date with Eddie's parents? What's that's so random? Um? Yeah,
Speaker 1: we we definitely have done that before. It's not random.
Speaker 1: I'm just wondering. Yeah, I mean, like, yeah, I feel like, well,
Speaker 1: a lot of the times, like we'll go over to
Speaker 1: their apartment and we'll all eat, like they'll cook dinner
Speaker 1: and we all eat it together, or they'll come over
Speaker 1: and cook for us at our place. That's nice, but like, yeah, definitely,
Speaker 1: I think that's really cute and fun. Yeah. We I
Speaker 1: feel like we need to go on more double dates,
Speaker 1: more like us with our boyfriends. I feel like we
Speaker 1: don't do that. We just go to the beach, I know,
Speaker 1: but I feel like we should go to a nice
Speaker 1: dinner and do that, even though like I know we should.
Speaker 1: I feel like it's more like our boyfriends just don't
Speaker 1: really love Like I feel like they would rather do
Speaker 1: something like more active where we could sit down and
Speaker 1: eat dinner and do our things. I just it was
Speaker 1: so funny. We last week we went to dinner with
Speaker 1: one of our friends and Eddie just like came with
Speaker 1: us for girls night, Oh yeah, which is always so fun.
Speaker 1: I feel like he's like one of the girls, like,
Speaker 1: and you could definitely be one of the boys to like.
Speaker 1: I feel like that's what's usually. I'm actually happy he
Speaker 1: was in that situation because usually when I'm hanging out
Speaker 1: with him and his friends, I'm the only girl there.
Speaker 1: Oh shame. That's how it always is me too, which
Speaker 1: I don't mind. I'm like fine with that, But but
Speaker 1: you don't you feel like you kind a third wheel
Speaker 1: just a little bit of course? Are you kidding? Like
Speaker 1: he'll he's like cuddling his friends more than me. That's
Speaker 1: exactly how I feel. It's hilarious. But yeah, we should
Speaker 1: definitely go on a double date. I feel like we
Speaker 1: have should book? Have we even done that at all?
Speaker 1: I don't think we have? Have we not? We should
Speaker 1: do that? No, because on Valentine's Day we both went
Speaker 1: to the same time. No, no, same restaurant, but like
Speaker 1: different really ten minutes after each other. That's really funny.
Speaker 1: Well we should do that. Let's book that. Maybe we
Speaker 1: could do it this week. Yeah, let's do that. Okay, great, Well,
Speaker 1: guys were so exhausted. I think we need to take
Speaker 1: a nap. Yeah, good night, sleep tight. Thanks so much
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