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Speaker 1: It is this strawberry. Thank you, not for you subject.

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Speaker 1: My husband is now my kid's uncle. Arst Yeah, yeah,

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Speaker 1: one more time. My husband is now my kid's uncle. Alright,

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Speaker 1: Dear Stephen Shirley. I have a problem, and I've been

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Speaker 1: me to start? Uh, two months. This is crazy, Steve,

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Speaker 1: happy now that she has everything I had. Why can't

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Speaker 1: they are valid. Your ex husband is vile, and so

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Speaker 1: so that folk? That folk kids? Right? Three more and folks.

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Speaker 1: I haven't seen my ex husband or my sister in

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Speaker 1: many years. That's impossible. What do you mean I ain't

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Speaker 1: So what uncle daddy, daddy uncle uncle daddy. Oh, yes,

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Speaker 1: why can't I get on it? Is because you ain't

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