WEBVTT - Kissing And Telling with Shannon Storms Beador 0:00:13.720 --> 0:00:16.520 It's I Do Part two. I'm one of your celebrity mentors, 0:00:16.640 --> 0:00:19.319 Jen Fessler from the Real Housewives of New Jersey and 0:00:19.400 --> 0:00:22.279 the podcast Two Jersey Jays, and I am once again 0:00:22.400 --> 0:00:25.440 joined by my dear friend, fellow mentor and housewives along 0:00:25.560 --> 0:00:31.080 Kelly Bensimon, Hike, Shan Hi, and today we have an 0:00:31.160 --> 0:00:34.840 incredible guest. You guys have watched her. It's true. It's true. 0:00:34.840 --> 0:00:36.839 She's giggling, but she knows it's true. You guys have 0:00:36.840 --> 0:00:39.519 watched her for years on the Real Housewives of Orange County, 0:00:39.560 --> 0:00:42.360 where she is so loved, she has loved and she 0:00:42.440 --> 0:00:45.160 has lost, and now she's opening up herself to love again. 0:00:45.560 --> 0:00:48.520 On Bravo's Love Hotel, of course, we are talking about 0:00:48.560 --> 0:00:56.480 the one and only Shannon shut the door Door. Wow, Hi, Shannon, Hi, 0:00:56.560 --> 0:00:58.640 how are you? We're so happy to see you. 0:00:58.640 --> 0:01:00.600 Yellow survive jendad not get the memo. 0:01:00.680 --> 0:01:03.560 It's now it's fun to No, Yes, they're both of 0:01:03.560 --> 0:01:06.800 these beautiful women are in yellow and yeah, we are 0:01:06.800 --> 0:01:08.720 so exciting. Kelly and I keep talking about the fact 0:01:08.760 --> 0:01:12.560 that we are expectations for Love Hotel. For whatever reason, 0:01:12.560 --> 0:01:16.120 maybe because there are so many dating shows. Love Hotel 0:01:16.160 --> 0:01:20.000 has far exceeded my expectations. Kelly, you say the same thing. 0:01:20.880 --> 0:01:23.080 And also I was on a dating show and I 0:01:23.120 --> 0:01:25.320 was and this you guys. First of all, you look 0:01:25.360 --> 0:01:27.000 like you're having so much fun. You are having so 0:01:27.080 --> 0:01:29.880 much fun. We had Ashley on. I love her so much. 0:01:29.920 --> 0:01:32.880 You're obviously with when and you know Giselle, who is 0:01:33.000 --> 0:01:35.760 dropped dead gorgeous. So you guys are having the best time. 0:01:35.760 --> 0:01:38.440 And then you have all your friends come on as well, 0:01:38.600 --> 0:01:41.440 I mean, and then you have like all these different 0:01:41.480 --> 0:01:44.800 things that happen, you know, episode to episode that are 0:01:44.959 --> 0:01:46.960 so good. It's really great. 0:01:47.080 --> 0:01:48.280 It's fun, it's fun to watch. 0:01:48.320 --> 0:01:50.760 Yeah, it's really fun. And you look gorgeous. 0:01:50.880 --> 0:01:52.040 Oh, thank you very much. 0:01:52.120 --> 0:01:55.520 No really, and I'm not really big with the compliments. 0:01:55.600 --> 0:01:58.240 You look really really, really spectacular. 0:01:58.360 --> 0:01:59.920 Thank you. 0:02:00.120 --> 0:02:02.280 Yeah, well, I can tell you that first of all, 0:02:02.400 --> 0:02:04.880 the place I love Grand VELAs. That hotel is beautiful. 0:02:04.880 --> 0:02:05.320 Oh you've been. 0:02:05.560 --> 0:02:07.440 I've been there. I've been there, and they have three 0:02:07.480 --> 0:02:10.280 different locations. It's an all inclusive. That's all we used 0:02:10.280 --> 0:02:13.079 to go to with our kids because they're Gavones. I 0:02:13.120 --> 0:02:16.480 think that is the expression. I'm a govone, I should say. Also, anyway, 0:02:16.520 --> 0:02:17.880 a bone. When you just eat, They just eat and 0:02:18.120 --> 0:02:20.160 they have no concept when they were little, like oh, 0:02:20.160 --> 0:02:22.400 I have a virgin mud slide, and like each virgin 0:02:22.480 --> 0:02:25.680 mudslide is you know, fifteen dollars. So we'd decided on 0:02:25.720 --> 0:02:26.320 all inclusives. 0:02:26.320 --> 0:02:27.000 It's so much better. 0:02:27.200 --> 0:02:30.000 But anyway, this is not about my kids. Yes, but 0:02:30.000 --> 0:02:31.679 we want to talk about what's going on over there, 0:02:31.720 --> 0:02:34.320 and I am dying to no secrets. I know you're 0:02:34.320 --> 0:02:37.120 probably not gonna be able to disclose, but what happened 0:02:37.160 --> 0:02:37.600 with ear All? 0:02:39.200 --> 0:02:41.000 Wait before we talk about what happened with e All? 0:02:41.000 --> 0:02:43.919 Can I just can I just set the stage. If 0:02:43.919 --> 0:02:45.480 you have not watched Loved to Hotel, you have to 0:02:45.480 --> 0:02:50.120 watch Love Hotel because the way that you come across 0:02:50.480 --> 0:02:55.760 on Love Hotel is spectacular. And I really want to 0:02:55.760 --> 0:02:57.920 know what happened worth All. We definitely want to know that. 0:02:58.240 --> 0:03:01.079 But before we get into that, why did you want 0:03:01.080 --> 0:03:02.320 to go on Love Hotel? 0:03:02.600 --> 0:03:06.760 Well, you know, I was asked to go a couple 0:03:06.840 --> 0:03:10.240 months before, and I think I replaced somebody, so I 0:03:10.320 --> 0:03:15.320 wasn't in the initial initial cast, but I got a 0:03:15.400 --> 0:03:18.160 DUI and it was a really difficult year for me, 0:03:18.280 --> 0:03:21.720 and so I made about to focus on myself and 0:03:21.760 --> 0:03:24.360 I didn't date, and I'm a relationship girl, like I 0:03:25.160 --> 0:03:29.280 usually not single and not a big dater, and so 0:03:29.680 --> 0:03:33.240 I thought, this is kind of like perfect timing. It's 0:03:33.280 --> 0:03:35.440 been a year. I've been single for a year, and 0:03:36.200 --> 0:03:39.360 let me try. What I thought too, is like, Okay, 0:03:39.520 --> 0:03:42.200 who am I going to meet that's going to want 0:03:42.240 --> 0:03:44.080 to be in our television show. I've been down that 0:03:44.160 --> 0:03:45.800 road before, whether you say, oh, I don't want to 0:03:45.840 --> 0:03:46.680 be famous. 0:03:46.360 --> 0:03:48.200 And then you know they want to about that. 0:03:49.160 --> 0:03:53.360 So I said to myself, I'm just going to go 0:03:53.400 --> 0:03:57.960 and have fun. You really didn't expect to have, you know, 0:03:58.080 --> 0:03:58.880 a connection with it. 0:03:59.000 --> 0:04:01.000 That's probably the best way to go into any situation. 0:04:01.320 --> 0:04:05.640 If you're dating, I would say, like is have no experts, 0:04:05.640 --> 0:04:08.480 expect probably to not meet anyone, and expect to just 0:04:08.480 --> 0:04:12.200 make friends, and then you become everything is that the 0:04:12.240 --> 0:04:14.960 stakes are so much lower and you can relax, have 0:04:15.040 --> 0:04:16.800 a good time and here we are. 0:04:16.880 --> 0:04:21.160 Well, it's it's insane. The friendships that I have maintained 0:04:21.680 --> 0:04:25.039 since the show. The guys are really tight. They have 0:04:25.279 --> 0:04:30.440 a regular really I think once a month. 0:04:30.600 --> 0:04:32.680 You can see that they were really Yeah. 0:04:32.760 --> 0:04:36.520 The first eight guys they call themselves the lead eight and. 0:04:36.640 --> 0:04:37.520 That's really cute. 0:04:37.600 --> 0:04:39.520 So I see I see quite a few of them, 0:04:40.160 --> 0:04:44.039 and the girls especially, we have this bond, you know, 0:04:44.080 --> 0:04:45.640 we were we called it a little bit of a 0:04:45.680 --> 0:04:48.200 social experiment because we didn't really know what we were 0:04:48.240 --> 0:04:51.120 walking into, you know, being the first season. 0:04:51.240 --> 0:04:52.040 Did you know the girls? 0:04:52.520 --> 0:04:55.640 Well, so I did Project Runway with Giselle and Luanne, 0:04:55.680 --> 0:04:58.120 and of course we've met through the years, right and 0:04:58.160 --> 0:05:01.760 they met Ashley briefly. So we just you know, we 0:05:01.880 --> 0:05:05.400 really enjoyed each other. We supported each other, We laughed 0:05:05.400 --> 0:05:08.760 a lot, and you know, it's we have a great one. 0:05:08.800 --> 0:05:10.000 I think that was part of it is it was 0:05:10.040 --> 0:05:13.560 so refreshing to see a group of housewives. There was 0:05:13.680 --> 0:05:16.960 no drama. Drama maybe with the guy whatever, but there 0:05:17.040 --> 0:05:20.640 was simply camaraderie and like the sisterhood. It was really cool. 0:05:20.680 --> 0:05:22.920 It was fun to watch, Thank you, Yeah, it was. 0:05:23.040 --> 0:05:26.000 It's so different than from what we see normally. 0:05:26.120 --> 0:05:28.599 Well, I think also what I like about the show 0:05:28.760 --> 0:05:31.920 is that we're older, so we're not just some young 0:05:31.960 --> 0:05:34.960 people that everyone has a story. So I think there 0:05:35.000 --> 0:05:35.880 was just a little. 0:05:35.720 --> 0:05:37.599 We talked about that with Ashley. At least, I feel 0:05:37.640 --> 0:05:40.400 like we are more interested maybe in like as opposed 0:05:40.400 --> 0:05:42.960 to The Bachelor. We love the Golden Bachelor. Yes, that's 0:05:43.000 --> 0:05:45.719 a whole other topic. Yes, for a different episode. We 0:05:45.720 --> 0:05:48.599 did love that show. But I think that I'm loving 0:05:48.680 --> 0:05:53.880 shows about with dating at my age, even though whatever, 0:05:53.920 --> 0:05:56.760 I'm not single. But you know, it's I think the 0:05:57.040 --> 0:06:00.159 characters quote unquote are so much more complex and interesting. 0:06:00.839 --> 0:06:03.080 And I'm sure that young people don't feel that way, 0:06:03.080 --> 0:06:06.040 but for someone like me and everybody I know, I 0:06:06.080 --> 0:06:07.680 love watching you come to the table with all your 0:06:07.720 --> 0:06:10.960 baggage and all of their baggage and knowing yourself so 0:06:11.080 --> 0:06:14.320 much better than we did when we were twenty one. 0:06:14.360 --> 0:06:16.560 Thing I thought too that I really loved is that 0:06:16.640 --> 0:06:19.000 you were sitting there and you said, I don't like 0:06:19.040 --> 0:06:21.120 to date. I like to be in relationships. Can you 0:06:21.160 --> 0:06:21.560 talk to that? 0:06:22.520 --> 0:06:27.480 Well, I mean, I'm going to say today, I'm liking 0:06:27.800 --> 0:06:32.840 being single, and that's for me, that's growth because I 0:06:33.240 --> 0:06:37.839 always identified with the relationship that I was in. You know, 0:06:37.920 --> 0:06:40.800 I like only having to worry about myself right now 0:06:40.839 --> 0:06:42.520 and making choices for my. 0:06:42.600 --> 0:06:43.400 Same man's sister. 0:06:43.880 --> 0:06:48.599 So that's kind of nice. Yeah, you know, after the 0:06:48.640 --> 0:06:52.920 Love Hotel, you know, I well, I can't. I can't 0:06:52.960 --> 0:06:53.560 say anything. 0:06:53.680 --> 0:06:56.480 Yeah, well you can. As soon as the mics go off. 0:06:56.400 --> 0:06:58.520 Right exactly soon as the myco off, We're gonna have 0:06:58.640 --> 0:07:01.760 like an after doog. So when you were on the show, 0:07:01.920 --> 0:07:05.360 was it like going on the show? Was it like 0:07:05.400 --> 0:07:07.839 a revenge for you? Or you were just like, Okay, 0:07:07.839 --> 0:07:10.440 now I'm going to show everyone, like, obviously, how great 0:07:10.480 --> 0:07:13.760 you look. Obviously like you have the most incredible demeanor. 0:07:13.800 --> 0:07:16.840 You're like the loveliest human. Like I literally I was 0:07:16.880 --> 0:07:19.000 like almost crying last night when I was watching you. 0:07:19.040 --> 0:07:20.560 I was like, oh my god, You're just such a 0:07:20.600 --> 0:07:25.560 giving human, like choked up. I was really impressed. So 0:07:27.000 --> 0:07:28.320 was it like a revenge for you? Were we trying 0:07:28.360 --> 0:07:29.480 to prove something like? 0:07:29.600 --> 0:07:32.800 No, no, you know a real house. I was of 0:07:32.840 --> 0:07:37.239 Orange County last season was airing when we filmed the show, 0:07:37.400 --> 0:07:39.800 and you know, it was a lot. It was hard 0:07:39.880 --> 0:07:42.320 to watch back last season for me. So it was 0:07:42.560 --> 0:07:46.120 an amazing distraction for me to be in Mexico for 0:07:46.120 --> 0:07:46.840 almost a month. 0:07:47.200 --> 0:07:48.400 Distraction not destruction. 0:07:48.600 --> 0:07:52.000 Distraction. Yeah yeah, So I'm not I'm not focusing on 0:07:52.080 --> 0:07:55.120 Orange County. I'm just going to have a good Well. 0:07:55.000 --> 0:07:56.560 I will tell you that although you weren't in it 0:07:56.600 --> 0:07:58.880 for the revenge. I feel like a lot of the 0:07:58.960 --> 0:08:02.480 viewers that love you, we're very satisfied by this whole experience, 0:08:02.560 --> 0:08:05.400 and they experience and they got their events, So you 0:08:05.440 --> 0:08:06.680 did good work. 0:08:07.520 --> 0:08:09.240 I have to go back to that one scene again 0:08:09.280 --> 0:08:11.239 because it's just like my one of my favorite scenes 0:08:11.320 --> 0:08:15.120 where you are sitting there with Earl in your bedroom 0:08:15.360 --> 0:08:18.320 or on the couch, and you know, it seems to 0:08:18.400 --> 0:08:21.760 the viewer and you're going to be like, here's your note, thanks, 0:08:21.760 --> 0:08:25.840 but no thanks, and then you dropped this amazing bomb 0:08:26.360 --> 0:08:29.040 and I just was I just thought that the time 0:08:29.160 --> 0:08:32.200 and the effort that you put in to that was 0:08:32.480 --> 0:08:33.600 just so thoughtful. 0:08:34.240 --> 0:08:35.600 Oh thank you, you know. 0:08:35.640 --> 0:08:38.040 And then the dynamic change, it was like a shift. 0:08:38.080 --> 0:08:40.040 It was like all of a sudden, it was like pivot. 0:08:40.480 --> 0:08:43.280 Right right, because we were kind of in an iffy 0:08:43.720 --> 0:08:47.320 spot and I feel bad about the vegetables comment. But anyways, 0:08:48.440 --> 0:08:53.959 but wait why I came across a little bit harsh 0:08:54.280 --> 0:08:56.480 and Earle and I had a banter like we would 0:08:56.520 --> 0:08:59.240 tease each other. So in my head when you said 0:08:59.240 --> 0:09:01.600 I don't eat vegetable, and I'm I thinking, oh, got 0:09:01.600 --> 0:09:03.160 to add that to the earl list. 0:09:03.600 --> 0:09:06.959 You know, I listen, it came out. It came out 0:09:07.400 --> 0:09:10.319 like it was just both of you don't at that point, 0:09:10.400 --> 0:09:12.520 didn't know each other well enough, and so the band 0:09:12.559 --> 0:09:15.120 to no one knows who's being serious, who's being cutting, 0:09:15.280 --> 0:09:17.720 Maybe she's not, maybe he's not. And it felt like 0:09:17.760 --> 0:09:19.080 you guys just missed the mark. 0:09:19.480 --> 0:09:23.400 Well. I mean, he there was much more to the conversation, 0:09:23.559 --> 0:09:26.760 but he said all he needed to do, and I 0:09:26.840 --> 0:09:29.200 explained this to him at the table. All you needed 0:09:29.240 --> 0:09:31.679 to do is lean in and say, hey, I feel 0:09:31.679 --> 0:09:34.160 like you're criticizing me. I would have said, oh, I'm sorry, 0:09:34.200 --> 0:09:35.800 I didn't mean to do that, and then it would 0:09:35.840 --> 0:09:40.240 have ended like it wouldn't have got to this big place. 0:09:39.960 --> 0:09:42.480 In you know, you guys were you guys were in 0:09:42.559 --> 0:09:43.080 it and out of it. 0:09:43.160 --> 0:09:46.640 Though I didn't think that I would be crying on 0:09:46.720 --> 0:09:48.240 the show, but I do a couple of times. 0:09:48.360 --> 0:09:51.720 So but that's so great too. I thought, you're really 0:09:51.760 --> 0:09:53.840 let your guard down. I mean, you know, again, like 0:09:53.880 --> 0:09:56.280 back to Jen's comment about being you know, watching a 0:09:56.360 --> 0:09:59.880 Real Housewives, is that you know everyone's guard is so up, 0:10:00.160 --> 0:10:01.520 you know what I mean, Like everyone feels like a 0:10:01.520 --> 0:10:03.880 cat in the corner. But you guys are really like 0:10:04.280 --> 0:10:08.000 the camaraderie between all of you guys, like the relationship 0:10:08.040 --> 0:10:10.480 between like them, like with the way and like how 0:10:10.480 --> 0:10:13.240 she's befriending these guys and like basically telling them what 0:10:13.320 --> 0:10:16.000 to do. I feel like you have really good advice though, 0:10:16.080 --> 0:10:18.280 I feel like you're like the advice girl. 0:10:18.840 --> 0:10:22.480 Well, I mean, thank you. I it was when I 0:10:22.520 --> 0:10:27.360 met Earl. He was not my first choice, but I 0:10:27.400 --> 0:10:29.040 liked Ralph from. 0:10:28.960 --> 0:10:32.000 Like just like seeing all of them. 0:10:32.520 --> 0:10:37.400 He's more my type. But Earle was so vulnerable and 0:10:37.520 --> 0:10:40.520 talking about his wife had passed away and you know, 0:10:40.679 --> 0:10:44.760 and how he'd wanted to have kids. And then as 0:10:44.800 --> 0:10:47.360 we went on another date when Ralph didn't pick me, 0:10:48.559 --> 0:10:50.520 you know, he was talking about the step son that 0:10:50.600 --> 0:10:52.600 he had and all he wanted to do was have 0:10:52.679 --> 0:10:55.080 children and he wasn't able to and that broke my heart. 0:10:55.160 --> 0:10:58.120 Yeah, Like, I mean that's very you've had that. Actually 0:10:58.160 --> 0:10:59.800 you're in the middle of this dating show and that's 0:10:59.840 --> 0:11:02.600 what you're thinking about, right, So which is that is? 0:11:02.960 --> 0:11:04.840 I don't know you, but I love you. 0:11:04.960 --> 0:11:05.480 I love that. 0:11:05.559 --> 0:11:09.880 I'm like everyone knows I'm like Shannon's biggest fan president 0:11:09.920 --> 0:11:10.640 fan Club. 0:11:10.640 --> 0:11:11.960 I mean i'm vice president. 0:11:12.400 --> 0:11:16.640 Yes, Well do I know her longer? I'm av I 0:11:16.720 --> 0:11:17.320 know her longer. 0:11:17.840 --> 0:11:20.360 Yes. So I didn't see you with Earl when you guys, 0:11:20.800 --> 0:11:22.320 when it first started happening, I was like, I'm not 0:11:22.600 --> 0:11:24.600 I'm not feeling this. I don't see it. I don't 0:11:24.679 --> 0:11:27.480 understand how this is. I can't see the connection. Not 0:11:27.559 --> 0:11:29.040 that it matters what I see, but I just wasn't 0:11:29.040 --> 0:11:32.400 feeling it for you guys. And but I will say that, like. 0:11:32.400 --> 0:11:35.080 It seemed very cold. He didn't. You're very warm, and 0:11:35.160 --> 0:11:35.839 he seems. 0:11:35.720 --> 0:11:37.560 Just so different, just so different. You and you guys 0:11:37.600 --> 0:11:39.560 called him simple, which I wonder if he took offense 0:11:39.600 --> 0:11:39.800 to that. 0:11:40.080 --> 0:11:40.320 Bye. 0:11:40.440 --> 0:11:42.480 By the way, Earl, I know you mean the best way. 0:11:42.520 --> 0:11:45.000 Pearl called himself simple. By the time he would say 0:11:45.000 --> 0:11:47.280 I'm a simple man, in my response would always be 0:11:47.840 --> 0:11:49.440 I'm not a not so simple girl. 0:11:49.679 --> 0:11:49.920 Yeah. 0:11:49.920 --> 0:11:52.280 You know, though, I will tell you this, I watched it, 0:11:52.320 --> 0:11:54.400 and I thought a lot of in a way my 0:11:54.440 --> 0:11:59.640 own relationship because my husband is also a simple man. 0:11:59.679 --> 0:12:01.480 I hope he's not listening. He might admit it. I 0:12:01.480 --> 0:12:03.880 don't know, but he really is. He is simple. He 0:12:03.960 --> 0:12:06.520 is simple. My husband is so easy to please, So 0:12:06.600 --> 0:12:09.120 go with the flow. There's no drama. Does that mean 0:12:09.200 --> 0:12:13.320 I'm interested? No, it doesn't. Sorry, Cal, I have to 0:12:13.320 --> 0:12:16.040 rethink my whole philosophy. But my point is that, like, 0:12:16.120 --> 0:12:19.640 sometimes you need just that sort of I think at 0:12:19.640 --> 0:12:22.040 this point in my life, if something would happen between 0:12:22.080 --> 0:12:23.679 me and my husband, I would want peace and I 0:12:23.679 --> 0:12:26.120 would want simple I don't need. I am such a 0:12:26.720 --> 0:12:30.559 right freaking mess and like in whatever in a nice way, 0:12:30.559 --> 0:12:32.160 I suppose, but I really am a hot mess, and 0:12:32.200 --> 0:12:35.920 I'm always my anxieties and my issues, and I would 0:12:35.960 --> 0:12:37.880 want a man who I could just lean not and 0:12:37.920 --> 0:12:40.240 who is a rock and solid, And I think that 0:12:41.200 --> 0:12:41.960 would attract me. 0:12:42.240 --> 0:12:44.720 You're not dating, but you're looking for a relationship. And 0:12:44.760 --> 0:12:46.880 you have the most beautiful daughters. And I always say, 0:12:46.920 --> 0:12:49.160 and Jenna and I say this together is like we 0:12:49.360 --> 0:12:52.200 always judge said, I don't like to judge people, but 0:12:52.280 --> 0:12:55.040 I judge mothers. Like if you have great kids, then 0:12:55.040 --> 0:12:56.800 I'm like, Okay, you've put the time and the effort 0:12:56.840 --> 0:13:00.480 into your children. And your daughters are lovely, thank you, 0:13:00.679 --> 0:13:04.040 so well mannered, well raised, so ell agaant just beautiful. 0:13:04.559 --> 0:13:08.560 So they're dating. You're dating, did you guys talk about 0:13:08.600 --> 0:13:11.319 dating at home over like Sunday dinner. 0:13:11.280 --> 0:13:15.679 Like no, not really. But they were horrified that when 0:13:15.720 --> 0:13:17.720 I said it was going to be on the show, 0:13:18.000 --> 0:13:21.200 because they're like, mom, you could embarrass us. 0:13:21.440 --> 0:13:24.240 And listen, those girls have been through a lot. I 0:13:24.240 --> 0:13:26.520 mean I could see that they are. They probably also 0:13:26.520 --> 0:13:28.200 want you to pick someone just for the peace of 0:13:28.240 --> 0:13:28.680 it all. 0:13:28.600 --> 0:13:31.640 Right, right, well they want I think at one point 0:13:31.720 --> 0:13:36.040 Sophie says, I want someone that will take care of 0:13:36.040 --> 0:13:36.360 my mom. 0:13:36.400 --> 0:13:38.240 Yeah, I remember that, which is so sweet. 0:13:38.280 --> 0:13:39.640 Yeah about crying. 0:13:42.080 --> 0:13:44.360 You know, they're great. They're great girls, and you know, 0:13:44.520 --> 0:13:47.760 I I'm sure I did embarrass that might tell them 0:13:47.800 --> 0:13:48.800 that's my job as a mother. 0:13:49.320 --> 0:13:51.240 They came on the show, I mean they must have 0:13:51.679 --> 0:13:54.839 had I'm sure that they were amazing. Yeah, they were amazing. 0:13:54.880 --> 0:13:57.120 And they also they came and they came on though 0:13:57.160 --> 0:14:00.960 you didn't have to I'm assuming been there in their arm. 0:14:01.400 --> 0:14:02.760 Did they want to come on the show. 0:14:02.559 --> 0:14:06.199 And I mean, I'm they were appro so they did. 0:14:06.240 --> 0:14:08.839 I have another daughter that was living in Paris. I 0:14:08.960 --> 0:14:10.840 was too far for her to count, right, but I 0:14:10.880 --> 0:14:11.960 would have had all three there. 0:14:12.240 --> 0:14:14.160 So what do you think was like the best question 0:14:14.559 --> 0:14:16.920 that they asked, you. 0:14:16.880 --> 0:14:20.560 Know, I think it's do you think that you could 0:14:22.120 --> 0:14:23.400 deal with my mom's world? 0:14:24.600 --> 0:14:25.600 I remember that scene. 0:14:26.000 --> 0:14:29.280 Okay, so how do I put this tactfully? If he 0:14:29.400 --> 0:14:31.280 was the type of guy who had a six pack 0:14:31.320 --> 0:14:34.160 and was tan, would it have bothered you? Because in 0:14:34.200 --> 0:14:37.600 my view, you're on a boat, you know, everybody is 0:14:37.960 --> 0:14:39.840 takes off their shirt, and I saw that you were 0:14:39.840 --> 0:14:42.080 a little bothered. And I it's not a nice question, 0:14:42.240 --> 0:14:44.720 but I can't always be nice. So was it partially 0:14:44.720 --> 0:14:47.120 that you just you thought that because he was an 0:14:47.200 --> 0:14:53.680 older man without you know, the bronze or off. 0:14:53.760 --> 0:14:58.400 I'm a little more buttoned up than other people. I'm 0:14:58.400 --> 0:15:02.960 pretty conservative, so but I Ralph did have his shirt 0:15:03.040 --> 0:15:07.160 unrettoned as well. Applause to earle that he feels comfortable 0:15:07.280 --> 0:15:09.880 enough to have a shirt. And I wasn't the only 0:15:09.880 --> 0:15:12.000 one commenting, but he was also. 0:15:11.920 --> 0:15:14.120 He was he had his shirt open and was dancing. 0:15:14.200 --> 0:15:15.440 I saw a little yeah movie. 0:15:15.600 --> 0:15:17.320 I mean, I get it. I'm not saying that. 0:15:17.760 --> 0:15:20.960 Yeah, All is a big personality, you know, and I 0:15:21.040 --> 0:15:25.080 just I didn't want to really, you know, do the moves. 0:15:25.520 --> 0:15:27.800 No, listen, there's cringe. There's always a cringe. Fact when 0:15:27.840 --> 0:15:30.280 you're getting to know someone and you're on high alert 0:15:30.320 --> 0:15:33.040 for that. So I do absolutely get that. I think 0:15:33.080 --> 0:15:35.560 I felt it was a little cringey too. But I'm 0:15:35.600 --> 0:15:38.920 just asking you because I'm picturing if, like, what's the 0:15:39.080 --> 0:15:42.760 gorgeous guy that Ashley was, what's his name, walle Walle 0:15:43.120 --> 0:15:46.040 waleh without his shirt on? Would have seemed very natural 0:15:46.120 --> 0:15:47.160 to me, you know what I. 0:15:47.120 --> 0:15:49.200 Mean, I understand what you're saying. 0:15:50.280 --> 0:15:53.240 My take was that he felt really comfortable with you 0:15:53.360 --> 0:15:55.960 at that time, and so he was just like loving 0:15:56.000 --> 0:15:57.680 life and that's what my take. 0:15:57.640 --> 0:16:00.360 Was, and comfortable with everyone else income to go with 0:16:00.400 --> 0:16:01.560 the cameras filming. 0:16:01.240 --> 0:16:08.360 And oh my god, and by way be comfortable. 0:16:08.520 --> 0:16:14.760 I didn't remember doing a confessional and saying like whatever, 0:16:15.000 --> 0:16:17.560 all the stuff that, but making all the comments about it. 0:16:18.520 --> 0:16:20.680 You know, it's funny because when you watch back confessionals, 0:16:21.080 --> 0:16:22.480 I mean, you guys have both done it way more 0:16:22.520 --> 0:16:26.080 than I have. But I always am like so hard 0:16:26.120 --> 0:16:27.840 on myself and the stuff that comes out of mind, 0:16:27.880 --> 0:16:29.840 I shouldn't have, I couldn't have, a wouldn't have, And 0:16:29.880 --> 0:16:31.920 the truth is, like from I think when I'm watching, 0:16:32.040 --> 0:16:34.040 like I didn't see it as that harsh at all 0:16:34.080 --> 0:16:34.840 show like I don't. 0:16:35.520 --> 0:16:36.680 I mean, I'm just being honest. 0:16:36.840 --> 0:16:40.400 Yeah, And I appreciate that because like in all my confessionals, 0:16:40.400 --> 0:16:42.640 from like day one, I was I've always been like 0:16:42.760 --> 0:16:46.000 just totally honest, absolutely, like you know, if you like 0:16:46.040 --> 0:16:47.280 me or you don't like me, I'm just going to 0:16:47.320 --> 0:16:47.800 tell the truth. 0:16:47.920 --> 0:16:50.200 This is how it's It's funny. I think it was 0:16:50.240 --> 0:16:53.240 my third season. We had a new producer and he 0:16:53.360 --> 0:16:56.160 was asking me the questions for the confessional and I 0:16:56.280 --> 0:16:59.600 answer right away, and then my right leg would tap 0:16:59.680 --> 0:17:02.440 and he goes, what's with the leg tap? And the 0:17:02.480 --> 0:17:05.520 cameraman said, that's what Shannon does. And it's because I 0:17:05.600 --> 0:17:07.439 answer right off the cuff, I don't think about what 0:17:07.480 --> 0:17:09.719 I'm saying, and then afterwards I'm like, oh god, what 0:17:09.760 --> 0:17:14.000 did I say that sentence apart? Sometimes they'll do that. 0:17:13.920 --> 0:17:16.560 Well, that's why you've been a housewife for this long? Yeah, exactly, 0:17:16.640 --> 0:17:18.439 you have. Well there are many reasons, but you haven't. 0:17:18.640 --> 0:17:20.080 You know, you don't edit yourself. 0:17:19.800 --> 0:17:22.199 So everyone's watched out for Shannon's leg tap. That's like, 0:17:32.960 --> 0:17:36.240 let's talk about dating advice. Who gives you the best 0:17:36.320 --> 0:17:39.680 dating advice? Is it your friends, your daughters, like, who 0:17:39.680 --> 0:17:41.200 do you think gives you like the best? 0:17:41.480 --> 0:17:44.200 I don't really, I don't. I don't know because I don't. 0:17:44.320 --> 0:17:49.240 I don't really date, I mean relationship. You know that. 0:17:49.760 --> 0:17:54.480 I I know that. For me, I'm looking for someone 0:17:54.600 --> 0:17:57.080 I don't have a lot this laundry list of things 0:17:57.119 --> 0:17:59.679 I need. I want to be with someone that has 0:17:59.720 --> 0:18:04.240 a kind heart, that is intelligent and funny because I 0:18:04.359 --> 0:18:08.000 like to laugh, and has strong family values and successful. 0:18:08.080 --> 0:18:11.960 It's not we're too old all of us. My mantra 0:18:12.320 --> 0:18:16.240 is I can contribute, but I cannot take on any 0:18:16.280 --> 0:18:16.840 new bodies. 0:18:17.600 --> 0:18:18.080 I love that. 0:18:18.400 --> 0:18:20.359 So you know I'm gonna take that. 0:18:21.119 --> 0:18:26.000 No, listen, in an ideal world, I think, I mean, 0:18:26.600 --> 0:18:29.240 it'd be great. I'm sure to have the load lightened 0:18:29.320 --> 0:18:32.320 as well, right, I mean you carry a lot of course. 0:18:32.720 --> 0:18:35.359 Yeah. I mean I've been single now for you know, 0:18:35.560 --> 0:18:38.280 I think eight years so and I take care of 0:18:38.359 --> 0:18:42.280 myself LANDA seven. You're a yeah, can. 0:18:42.200 --> 0:18:45.040 You fathom like actually enjoy the process of dating like 0:18:45.119 --> 0:18:46.760 I think if I was single right now, I could 0:18:46.760 --> 0:18:48.040 I could enjoy it? Oh? 0:18:48.119 --> 0:18:48.760 Absolutely? 0:18:49.480 --> 0:18:51.040 I have just super outgoing though. 0:18:51.240 --> 0:18:51.480 Yeah. 0:18:51.560 --> 0:18:53.960 So I mean I'm not going with like what your 0:18:54.000 --> 0:18:56.720