Speaker 1: We're taking you inside the mind of a man. This
Speaker 1: is how men thick and I heard radio podcast. Hey,
Speaker 1: what's going on? My name is Michael Yo, and I'm
Speaker 1: a comedian and actor. I was an entertainment host. If
Speaker 1: it's Hollywood, I have done it. I have worked at
Speaker 1: E Insider, Extra Entertainment, Tonight Access. I got around, I
Speaker 1: was I was an entertainment news and I got around.
Speaker 1: I'm just letting you know I got around. I'm gonna
Speaker 1: be answering all these questions so I appreciate them, and
Speaker 1: then we're gonna be taking some phone calls as well.
Speaker 1: It's how men think. But first, this is the eleven
Speaker 1: questions with me. Michael Yo. Let's get it started. What
Speaker 1: are you known for? Tell us about yourself. Well, I
Speaker 1: say I would I'm known for I first got into Oh,
Speaker 1: that's my alarm. I'm known for not turning off my alarm.
Speaker 1: That's first. But I'm known for, I would say, first,
Speaker 1: being an entertainment reporter on E Entertainment when and that
Speaker 1: network was huge. He had Chelsea Lately on it. You
Speaker 1: had Joe McKell for the soup, and I was on
Speaker 1: E News with Ryan Seacrest. So that was a big
Speaker 1: moment in my career, and then from Chelsea Lately, I
Speaker 1: was on the Kardashians, I was on what was it? Um,
Speaker 1: Courtney and Chloe take Miami, so I was their radio
Speaker 1: boss and that show and then being on Chelsea kind
Speaker 1: of sprung into stand up comedy, which I've been doing
Speaker 1: just past ten years, and now actings coming into play.
Speaker 1: So I got a new TV show coming out on
Speaker 1: Apple Plus here in a couple of months. So I
Speaker 1: would say I'm known for entertainment. That's what I would
Speaker 1: say I'm known for about myself. Born and raised in Houston, Texas.
Speaker 1: Father's black moms Asian. Um, they were very strict parents.
Speaker 1: Uh they say it like they mean it all the time.
Speaker 1: I have a family now. Um, I'm black and Asian.
Speaker 1: My wife is white, and our kids are black, white
Speaker 1: and Asian. We gave birth to pandas the Little Panda Bears,
Speaker 1: so we love them. But my main thing about myself
Speaker 1: right now, I survived COVID. Um I almost died from
Speaker 1: COVID like two years ago. So that's a life changing
Speaker 1: moment that really meant a lot to me and I
Speaker 1: and I actually talked about that in my new special
Speaker 1: coming up. That's gonna be dropping on March seventeen. So
Speaker 1: that was a big moment, pivotal moment in my life.
Speaker 1: And to come full circle two years later and drop
Speaker 1: a special talking about in a bunch of different things,
Speaker 1: It's very special to me. But I'm just all about family,
Speaker 1: all about my kids, all about my wife, because you
Speaker 1: never know how long you're gonna be around. So that's
Speaker 1: what I like doing, to spend the time with my family.
Speaker 1: Who are you in your personal life? I'm that dude.
Speaker 1: You know what's funny about me is when I was younger,
Speaker 1: our partied. I went to clubs. I lived in Miami.
Speaker 1: We threw down the six Am and then they had
Speaker 1: a club called Space. We would stay up to like
Speaker 1: two o'clock in the afternoon. That was me twenty years ago.
Speaker 1: Now I'm a dude that just likes to chill. I
Speaker 1: just like chilling um with my family and doing stuff
Speaker 1: around a house. I'm that I'm turning into my dad.
Speaker 1: I'm turning into my dad. I'm starting to talk like him.
Speaker 1: I'm like, oh, I don't like the music today. You know,
Speaker 1: like my dad, you stayed up about my music. Now
Speaker 1: I'm the same way I'm like, they don't make music
Speaker 1: like they used to. I'm that dude now so but
Speaker 1: in my person life, it's just all family. Man. I'm
Speaker 1: just a dad. You know. I told my friends my
Speaker 1: guy for some of my guy friends is still single,
Speaker 1: and I said, I'm so much better as a husband
Speaker 1: than a single guy. Like, I just like to know
Speaker 1: what's happening when I get home. I know what's gonna
Speaker 1: I get home. I know exactly how it's gonna be.
Speaker 1: And I love that. Who are you? And you? Probably
Speaker 1: we did that with three shows you've been watching, Okay,
Speaker 1: one already finished a long time ago. It's called Money Heist.
Speaker 1: It is so good. Now a lot of people don't
Speaker 1: like it, but man, when the show started, this is
Speaker 1: what I love about the show Money Heist. It was
Speaker 1: on in Canada. It got canceled after a year or
Speaker 1: a year and a half. Netflix picks it up and
Speaker 1: now it's a worldwide hit. These people gone from like
Speaker 1: a hundred followers to twenty million followers. The actors on
Speaker 1: this show, it's dubbed in another language, but it's freaking incredible.
Speaker 1: Another thing I'm watching right now that I love the
Speaker 1: Kanye West documentary on Netflix. Now, I will tell you this.
Speaker 1: It's not gonna make you like him anymore. It's not
Speaker 1: gonna make you like him any less. But what it
Speaker 1: will do is show you how hard he hustled to
Speaker 1: get to where he is, and that inspires me. The hustle,
Speaker 1: you know, and that's what I love. And when he
Speaker 1: met his tragic car crash that he was talking about,
Speaker 1: it felt the same with me almost dying from COVID.
Speaker 1: I was like, this is our second chance of life,
Speaker 1: so we gotta make the most of it. And that's
Speaker 1: what really really touched me. The third thing, and I
Speaker 1: hate it. I'm not gonna hear lie to you. I
Speaker 1: hate beinging it, but it's something I do with my wife.
Speaker 1: The Bachelor and Bachelorette. The worst thing about that show
Speaker 1: is when somebody says, I don't know how there's so
Speaker 1: much drama. I was like, you on a show that's
Speaker 1: built on drama, Like you didn't know drama was gonna
Speaker 1: be on that show anyway. So those are the three
Speaker 1: shows I'm watching. What's my favorite food, hands down, pizza
Speaker 1: Done Pizza. I'm looking for the best pizza in the world.
Speaker 1: I will eat somebody. This is the problem I eat
Speaker 1: pretty healthy, but when I eat pizza, I overeat. You know,
Speaker 1: you have that one food, no matter how much you
Speaker 1: you don't want to overeat, you overeat like I should
Speaker 1: only have like three slices. If there's still pizza, I
Speaker 1: will eat till I can't eat and I will feel
Speaker 1: disgusting after it. And then after I feel like that,
Speaker 1: I'll go I am never doing this again. But guess what,
Speaker 1: I do it again. So pizza is that food for me?
Speaker 1: Tell us about your career, Well, man, I started, Wow,
Speaker 1: it's a long ter. I started two thousand. Well before that,
Speaker 1: I was a radio DJ. I was in uh Houston,
Speaker 1: went to Austin and then Miami and that's when things
Speaker 1: kind of blew up. Work for a station called Why
Speaker 1: one hundred UM. It was a great station. It really
Speaker 1: took me to the next level, and uh so radio
Speaker 1: went really good. Radio got me into television, and then
Speaker 1: television got me in the stand up, and stand up
Speaker 1: got me into acting. So my advice for everybody's just
Speaker 1: say yes, be ready for opportunity, and once you get
Speaker 1: that opportunity, freaking crush it. That's my advice to you.
Speaker 1: So that's pretty much my career. You know from and
Speaker 1: people always add so do you like stand up more
Speaker 1: than acting versus interviewing people? And it's all the same.
Speaker 1: It's entertainment. You know. You don't walk in to a
Speaker 1: restaurant and go so do you like cooking stay more
Speaker 1: than fish more than this more? Nah, it's all food.
Speaker 1: You just cook it different ways. And that's what entertainment is.
Speaker 1: I do a bunch of different stuff, but it's just
Speaker 1: different skills in that and that um and that art
Speaker 1: you're doing, like stand up or acting. It's just a
Speaker 1: different skill, but it's entertainment. Uh, what's your biggest fear
Speaker 1: of life? Well, I faced my biggest fear of life
Speaker 1: when I was battling COVID, and my biggest fear of
Speaker 1: life was not dying. At the time, my kids, my
Speaker 1: son was three and my daughter was two, And my
Speaker 1: biggest fear was me passing away from COVID and my
Speaker 1: kids really not knowing how much I loved them. I
Speaker 1: didn't want to be a was story, you know, like oh,
Speaker 1: your dad was like this, and he was like that,
Speaker 1: Like my son really knows. He's only five now, but
Speaker 1: he knows how much I loved, you know, Hopefully I
Speaker 1: can be around long enough where my daughter knows that
Speaker 1: she's too, so she's still trying to grasp things, you know.
Speaker 1: So that's my It sounds simple, but that's my goal
Speaker 1: in life to be around long enough where they know
Speaker 1: how much I loved them. So yeah, that's uh. That
Speaker 1: was my biggest fear, my biggest pet peeve in life.
Speaker 1: I hate when you're in a conversation and somebody tells
Speaker 1: you right away what they do, you know, or ask
Speaker 1: you what you do, but that's a pet peep or
Speaker 1: lying lying to your face is a big pet peeve
Speaker 1: to me, Like they would just straight up lie to
Speaker 1: you your face like oh yeah, we're gonna do that
Speaker 1: for you, and then they don't do it for you.
Speaker 1: But in Hollywood that happens a lot, so man, oh man,
Speaker 1: so many times people in my face like, hey, we're
Speaker 1: gonna do this for you, oh really, really really, and
Speaker 1: then they don't do it for you. So you know,
Speaker 1: it's pretty tough. What makes you the most happy, I
Speaker 1: sound like a broken record. My family. My family makes
Speaker 1: me the most happy. It's tough, having two kids, it's tough,
Speaker 1: it's tough, but man, it's the most fulfilling when you
Speaker 1: had a long day, and one of them walks up
Speaker 1: to you, cuddles with you on the catch and goes,
Speaker 1: I love you. I mean done, it's a wrap. It's
Speaker 1: all worth it right there. What's your ideal Saturday morning?
Speaker 1: I really wake up early every morning. I wake up
Speaker 1: like five six am, and I get all my work
Speaker 1: done on Saturday before all the kids wake up. And
Speaker 1: this pretty much every day. I get everything done so
Speaker 1: then when my kids wake up, they got my full attention.
Speaker 1: So I hate to sound like a broken record, but
Speaker 1: my ideal Saturday is waking up, grabbing the kids, going
Speaker 1: to a park. Wow, I'm so family, going to a
Speaker 1: park and just having some food at a restaurant because
Speaker 1: things are opening up, and just you know, like like
Speaker 1: yesterday we rode the train. You know, they love trains,
Speaker 1: so I just take them on the train around the mall.
Speaker 1: It was it was outdoor mall, but we just got
Speaker 1: in the train that I could barely fit in, and
Speaker 1: we wrote it and just to see them smile was amazing.
Speaker 1: Are you more of an athlete or an armchair quarterback?
Speaker 1: I used to be an athlete. I played college football
Speaker 1: for the University of Arkansas, but now I'm just at
Speaker 1: I'm into stretching more than like working out hard because
Speaker 1: I have friends that are my age that still play
Speaker 1: basketball and get rough playing football and all that stuff.
Speaker 1: Why why you old? You ain't going pro? Why are
Speaker 1: you still? Like my friends will be like I blew
Speaker 1: up my knee playing basketball. It's like, why you almost
Speaker 1: fifty years old? Why are you you think you're going pro?
Speaker 1: There's no sense in you playing basketball anymore. That's ridiculous. Okay,
Speaker 1: so stop it, stop it, um. What keeps you motivated? Man?
Speaker 1: I've always said I I'm never satisfied. I'm always pushing
Speaker 1: and I want that what keeps me It's just a fire.
Speaker 1: Some people got it, some people don't. You know, I
Speaker 1: read a lot of books about motivation, and I'm just
Speaker 1: that dude. Like I always I want to be great.
Speaker 1: I want to be one of the greatest stand up
Speaker 1: comics in the world. I want to be one of
Speaker 1: the greatest actors in the world. I'm still doing radio.
Speaker 1: I want to be one of the greatest in that.
Speaker 1: I want to be one of the greatest in anything
Speaker 1: I do. So that's the fire in me, Like I'm
Speaker 1: not doing it to be Okay, you know, the best
Speaker 1: piece of advice I've ever got was failed fast. So
Speaker 1: fail really fast. So you know what you're not good at,
Speaker 1: so you can focus in on what you're good at.
Speaker 1: So um, yeah, that's that's my loving questions. So there
Speaker 1: you go. All right, So I get excited about this.
Speaker 1: I get to actually talk to you guys that are
Speaker 1: on the phone line. So going to the phone's iris,
Speaker 1: what's going on? Well, okay, here's the deal. I've been
Speaker 1: talking with a bunch of girlfriends. This is not the
Speaker 1: first time this topics come up, but about men just
Speaker 1: not making the effort. It's like wanting to, um, you know,
Speaker 1: pretty much assume that if they don't want to, if
Speaker 1: they want to be with you, they'll find a way.
Speaker 1: They'll move mountains. And it's just so many guys just
Speaker 1: seem like they're not putting in that effort. And I
Speaker 1: don't know they don't if it's just me, they don't
Speaker 1: want to be meaningful relationship or something real, but I
Speaker 1: don't know. It just seems like I hear it too much.
Speaker 1: Maybe my dating radars off. Well, Well, I rest I
Speaker 1: love the question because I'm that guy that all the
Speaker 1: girlfriends come to like. I have so many girl friends
Speaker 1: that come to me for advice and even guys. What
Speaker 1: I think is if a guy really wants you, he
Speaker 1: will move mountains and it happens pretty quick, you know.
Speaker 1: I feel like you know, they say love at first
Speaker 1: sight or you know, right away. With my wife, I
Speaker 1: knew pretty pretty fast. I mean. And and here's the
Speaker 1: thing I used to think, and I wasn't ready to
Speaker 1: settle down. I would always say, well, I'm too busy
Speaker 1: to have a girlfriend or I'm too busy to be
Speaker 1: in a relationship. That was a lie. I just didn't
Speaker 1: find the right one, because all things stop when you
Speaker 1: find the right one and you take time out. How
Speaker 1: fast can I mean, how long does it take this
Speaker 1: in the text to say thinking about you? It takes
Speaker 1: two seconds. So if a guy doesn't have two seconds
Speaker 1: to reach out to you, then he really doesn't want
Speaker 1: to be with you. Good point, and a lot will
Speaker 1: reach out like all day long, but then they don't
Speaker 1: want to drive and make the time to get a
Speaker 1: babysitter or do what they have to do. It's like
Speaker 1: it's still the same thing, Like you gotta understand like
Speaker 1: what I tell people, And this may sound bad to women,
Speaker 1: but women don't change men. To want to be married,
Speaker 1: a man has to be ready to be married. That's
Speaker 1: just my opinion, because no woman could have changed me.
Speaker 1: Like when I met my wife, I was already looking
Speaker 1: for the one I used to date to date, but
Speaker 1: then when I change to date to be married, it's
Speaker 1: totally different dating. So a woman, really, to me, doesn't
Speaker 1: change a man. A man has to change first and
Speaker 1: then find the right one. Good point. I like that. Yeah,
Speaker 1: too many lazy guys out here, but they're lazy. But
Speaker 1: then but if they're lazy, that means they're not really
Speaker 1: in it. Good point. You are, So okay, that's what
Speaker 1: we're gonna talk about, and now we have your opinion.
Speaker 1: So ah, alright, alright, alright, alright, well thanks for the call,
Speaker 1: Thank you, take care bye. Right, Hey, Vicky, how are
Speaker 1: you good? Good? How are you great? What's your question? Um? Okay,
Speaker 1: So I'm in my forties, I don't have kids. Um,
Speaker 1: and finally, UM, I've met someone who is genuine and
Speaker 1: kind and who you know, I can really see myself with.
Speaker 1: So I'm actually falling in love with him. Um. But
Speaker 1: he has four kids and he's going through a divorce, right,
Speaker 1: now and his ex is like very complicated. They don't
Speaker 1: have good like co parenting relationship stuff going on right now.
Speaker 1: So I just I need to know, like should I
Speaker 1: continue dating him or is this just all a big
Speaker 1: red flag? Well? This is this is this is very simple.
Speaker 1: You're taking on another man's family, which is fine, which
Speaker 1: is fine if you if you're fine with starting out
Speaker 1: with four kids, that's what you got. But you know
Speaker 1: the advice I always got, you marry. Uh, you don't
Speaker 1: just marry the person. You marry their family. And part
Speaker 1: of his family is his ex wife that's gonna be
Speaker 1: around for the rest of your life or for the
Speaker 1: rest of her life with the kids, you know. So
Speaker 1: it's just something you're gonna have to deal with now
Speaker 1: whether your love can get through that. Like I don't
Speaker 1: know the personal ins and outs of your relationship, but
Speaker 1: that's very stressful I would imagine for a relationship because
Speaker 1: it puts the guy in a bad position a lot
Speaker 1: of times because he doesn't want a dog on the X.
Speaker 1: Maybe I don't know. I would imagine if it was me,
Speaker 1: I wouldn't want a dog on her. But at the
Speaker 1: same time, I gotta keep a balance where I can't
Speaker 1: dog her, and I can't dog you to her, So
Speaker 1: I'm just trying to like, I'm just kind of stuck
Speaker 1: in the middle, and I want to put it on
Speaker 1: on the guy. If it's about you, it's like, can
Speaker 1: you handle this woman for for however the kids are
Speaker 1: till they're out of the house and making their own decisions.
Speaker 1: That's what it really comes down to. Love this love
Speaker 1: Like if you love this guy, if you really love
Speaker 1: this guy, you can work through it. But just know,
Speaker 1: when you marry him, you're marrying everything about him, not
Speaker 1: just him, and I think people lose focus of that. Yeah,
Speaker 1: that's that makes sense. I have thought about, you know,
Speaker 1: seeing her for for forever, you know, andever forever for
Speaker 1: know you said it right, and that's the mind frame
Speaker 1: you gotta have, is forever, this woman will be in
Speaker 1: my life, even when the kids graduate college or get married,
Speaker 1: or she will be there and you will have to
Speaker 1: deal with her for for vacations, for family get together.
Speaker 1: She will be there. And I don't know your dynamic,
Speaker 1: but if your love for this man and his love
Speaker 1: for you is strong enough, you could work through that.
Speaker 1: But if you're on the border, then it's something you
Speaker 1: really need to think about because it's a lot. It's
Speaker 1: a lot. Yeah, yeah, I know that that makes sense.
Speaker 1: I'm pretty agreeable. I think I can get along with
Speaker 1: anyone and probably make it work. It. Yeah, it's just
Speaker 1: kind of daunting. Just know for the rest of your
Speaker 1: life she will be in your life and if you
Speaker 1: can deal with that mentally wrap your head around that,
Speaker 1: then go for it. All right, Thank you? Vicky. Hey Simone, Hi, Hi,
Speaker 1: I just wanted to ask about first dates, Like I
Speaker 1: got really really nervous on them and really in my
Speaker 1: head about how to act and what to do. And
Speaker 1: I guess I was just wondering, Um, are there any
Speaker 1: like cues or clues that I can get from a guy,
Speaker 1: you know, just to like recognize whether they're into me
Speaker 1: or not? So well, I think I think, I mean,
Speaker 1: I think you're discreding it yourself. I think you need
Speaker 1: to be more worried about are you into him? You
Speaker 1: know what I mean, Like you need to look out
Speaker 1: for yourself first, and if you like the guy, then
Speaker 1: look for cues. But I think the first thing is
Speaker 1: to be more confident in and be like, do I
Speaker 1: want to actually like this guy? And if I do,
Speaker 1: now let's look at the signs now, guy. You know,
Speaker 1: guys are guys, and so as a guy pulls out
Speaker 1: his phone just like a girl, they're not interested, you know.
Speaker 1: So unless he's like a super busy guy that is like,
Speaker 1: you know, has to be on his phone. But still
Speaker 1: you should pay the other person respect and not be
Speaker 1: on your phone. And you know how guys are. I mean,
Speaker 1: if they're kind of like uh huh, they're uh huh
Speaker 1: okay and you and not really listening, then they're not
Speaker 1: into you know. Um, it's it's very guys. Here's the
Speaker 1: thing about guys, terrible liars. So you can it's easy
Speaker 1: to know if a guy is into your not and
Speaker 1: it's not that difficult, you know. I think women want
Speaker 1: to make it difficult, especially if they like the guy,
Speaker 1: and they give the guys all these outs and give
Speaker 1: them second chances and third chances when in their heart
Speaker 1: they know the guys not into him. So I would
Speaker 1: just say be yourself, and I know that's so cliche,
Speaker 1: but be yourself, but forget about the guy liking you.
Speaker 1: Do you like the guy and do you think he
Speaker 1: would be best for you, not the other way around.
Speaker 1: Never put him first, put yourself first. Yeah, okay, okay,
Speaker 1: I just got like a really freaked out on them.
Speaker 1: But thank you. Oh no, just be confident because I
Speaker 1: own it. Girl. You you deserve to be there. Okay,
Speaker 1: you deserve to be happy. Thank you. Alright. Someone, Hey Caitlin, Hi,
Speaker 1: how are you great? Great? What's your question? Okay? I
Speaker 1: recently met a guy through friends, UM, and we all
Speaker 1: went out and had a vibe. It was really really fun. Um.
Speaker 1: But he didn't ask for my number at the end
Speaker 1: of the night. UM. So I was like, okay, but
Speaker 1: my friend said he was kind of shy but like
Speaker 1: super nice, and so he was probably just like too
Speaker 1: scared to be upfront. UM. So I was like, oh
Speaker 1: that's fine. UM. But then I connected with him on
Speaker 1: Instagram and we start to chatting on d M. UM.
Speaker 1: Since it was going well, I offered my number and
Speaker 1: he texted me right away, uh saying you know, hello
Speaker 1: back UM, and he gave me his number as well.
Speaker 1: But UM, now he has like he hasn't said anything else. UM.
Speaker 1: It was just kind of like a quick back and
Speaker 1: forth of exchanging uh, like our numbers, UM, and our
Speaker 1: conversations on Instagram. We're going like really well so I
Speaker 1: don't know should I start another conversation on text and
Speaker 1: like be the one to like kick off that, or
Speaker 1: should I just like wait for him to text me
Speaker 1: again because I don't know. Am I being? Am I
Speaker 1: like the one thing? Well? Let me do you mind
Speaker 1: me asking how old you are or what range of
Speaker 1: age you're in? Yeah, I'm in my thirties, and so
Speaker 1: here's my thing. And I'm different than a lot of guys.
Speaker 1: I might, but I don't feel like in your thirties
Speaker 1: you should be playing games, you know what I mean.
Speaker 1: I I feel like that's a younger thing to do,
Speaker 1: like in your twenties, mid twenties and under what you're
Speaker 1: getting your thirties. If a guy doesn't have the the
Speaker 1: ump to reach out to a woman that he's interested in,
Speaker 1: then that's on him. And I don't know if you
Speaker 1: want that type of person in your life. Yeah, I
Speaker 1: mean this like I'm just hearing this from the outside,
Speaker 1: But if a guy is interested in something a hundred percent,
Speaker 1: I mean, he goes after it. I know I do.
Speaker 1: But even if he's shy, you know, because he's talking
Speaker 1: to you on Instagram and he's talking to you on text,
Speaker 1: So why are you initiating it? That's well, that's how
Speaker 1: Then that answers your question. Like I I feel that
Speaker 1: a lot of times women know the answer, they just
Speaker 1: don't want to believe the answer, you know. And this
Speaker 1: is and it's not just women, let me a lot
Speaker 1: of men too, where if you really like someone, you
Speaker 1: will give them every excuse. But if a friend, if
Speaker 1: I were to say to you, say we were friends Kaylin,
Speaker 1: and I go, there's this girl I keep texting her,
Speaker 1: but she's not really hitting me back and stuff, you'd
Speaker 1: be like, what are you doing? She doesn't like you?
Speaker 1: You know what I mean? So basically, take your problem,
Speaker 1: record it and play it back to yourself, and what
Speaker 1: advice would you give to that person. That's a really
Speaker 1: good point. Actually I would tell my friend that just
Speaker 1: probably um move on. Yeah, yeah, like I I tell
Speaker 1: I tell everybody their their answers to their problems is basically,
Speaker 1: tell a record or your problem and play it back
Speaker 1: and what advice would you give to that And that
Speaker 1: really it kind of simplifies it because if he's not
Speaker 1: coming after you, that either means he's in a relationship
Speaker 1: and he's trying to balance like maybe another person and
Speaker 1: you and really doesn't know how to do it, and
Speaker 1: do you want to be involved with a person like that?
Speaker 1: Or he just has other issue. You never know people's lives.
Speaker 1: He could have issues with money right now, issues with parents, issue,
Speaker 1: who knows, and he doesn't have enough time to be
Speaker 1: to have this in his world. So you never know people.
Speaker 1: You never know what people other people are going through.
Speaker 1: But it seems like he's not aggressive about you, so
Speaker 1: I don't think you should be aggressive about him. Yeah
Speaker 1: he could. Yeah he's shy, but it's still just yeah,
Speaker 1: but shy, shy and not because it's different when I
Speaker 1: was growing up, Like if you were shy, you really
Speaker 1: couldn't talk to anyone because you couldn't text him, you
Speaker 1: can't instagram. You had to walk up to the person
Speaker 1: and actually talk to them. And now guys have all
Speaker 1: these outs where they could just text a person. So
Speaker 1: if he can't even text, I don't know if he's
Speaker 1: worth like you wasting your time. Yeah that's okay, thank
Speaker 1: you for the clarity. That's um that yeah wow yeah alright,
Speaker 1: well thank you, Caitlin, thank you all right, have a
Speaker 1: good one. Hey, Karen, I had a question. Um, now,
Speaker 1: my husband and I have been together for almost twenty years.
Speaker 1: We're dating ten years and we've we've been married for
Speaker 1: ten years. We got two kids, and we both recently
Speaker 1: got promoted in our jobs, so he nice, thank you. Now.
Speaker 1: The kids, though, are active in a lot of sports
Speaker 1: and after school activities and all that kind of stuff.
Speaker 1: And you know, lately, I really feel like I've been
Speaker 1: carrying the load of the household with the kids, and
Speaker 1: I'd really love him to be more involved, you know,
Speaker 1: helping them with their homework and shuffling with their practices
Speaker 1: and stuff. But I mean, he's always so exhausted after work,
Speaker 1: you know, he says he has to distress and things
Speaker 1: like that. Yeah, so my question is is there a
Speaker 1: way to bring up his involvement with the kids without
Speaker 1: you know, making putting more on his plate. I understand.
Speaker 1: I think this is tough because since you both work,
Speaker 1: it's a different story. You know. Like I'm in a
Speaker 1: relationship where I work, but being a mom of two
Speaker 1: is a lot of work too. So my wife she's
Speaker 1: to stay at home um and any time, like, I'm
Speaker 1: very involved though, but anytime she needs me more involved,
Speaker 1: she just she'll just assign me something, you know, and
Speaker 1: I don't know if that's right for all. She'll just
Speaker 1: be like, oh, hey, I gotta do this, but can
Speaker 1: you take the kids? Uh blah blah blah, and and
Speaker 1: this is this is kind of what to me, Men
Speaker 1: are better being told what to do than having a
Speaker 1: conversation about it, you know, and like because when you were,
Speaker 1: when we have a conversation about we'll find out. But
Speaker 1: if you're like, oh, I'm doing this today, but I
Speaker 1: need you to take the kids to school, most guys
Speaker 1: be like, Okay, that sounds simple, you know. So I
Speaker 1: mean the whole conversation and not wanting to offend them
Speaker 1: because you both work, you know, I just say one day,
Speaker 1: just go, hey, I gotta do this, so can you
Speaker 1: take two kids to practice? And I know you're tired.
Speaker 1: You'd be empathetic because I'm sure he is with you
Speaker 1: at times, but you gotta be empathetic and go, I
Speaker 1: know you're tired, but I need to do this project.
Speaker 1: So I need you to take the kids to this
Speaker 1: and see where it goes from there, you know, because
Speaker 1: there's no excuse where both parents shouldn't be involved in
Speaker 1: the kid's life, you know what I mean, instead of
Speaker 1: just saying, you know, do more, just be a little
Speaker 1: more specific. Yeah. Yeah, that's like somebody saying be a
Speaker 1: better person. You're like, okay, what do you what do
Speaker 1: you mean? What's wrong with me? Well? I want you
Speaker 1: to be a better person and listen more when I talk.
Speaker 1: Now you're specific, right, instead of just I need you
Speaker 1: to help out, like I would be like, well, what
Speaker 1: are you talking about about? This is the first defense
Speaker 1: mechanism a guy goes to if a woman says be
Speaker 1: be uh you need to be more helpful. Well, I work,
Speaker 1: I bring money home, I do this, and so we
Speaker 1: get defensive. But if you're like just like, oh, hey,
Speaker 1: can you do this for me because I'm doing this,
Speaker 1: then you'll find out where a guy really is on things.
Speaker 1: You know what I mean? Let's be more specific and
Speaker 1: more and more. Guys. Look, my friends they always say
Speaker 1: my wife told me to do this this, and she
Speaker 1: didn't say do stuff. She said I gotta go to
Speaker 1: this store, pick up this, I gotta do this, and
Speaker 1: I gotta take the kids here. You know, guys were
Speaker 1: not that bright. You need to tell us exactly, because
Speaker 1: we like our thing is, we don't analyze what's going on.
Speaker 1: We're just we just like, but if you tell us
Speaker 1: I need you to do the garbage today, I need
Speaker 1: you to run the kids to school. We're like, all right, cool,
Speaker 1: I got it. But if you go, hey, just help out,
Speaker 1: We're like, I thought I was helping out. Okay, that's
Speaker 1: actually really helpful. Thank you. It just maybe I just
Speaker 1: confused him by saying, you know, help mark, yeah, because
Speaker 1: we don't know what that means. We're dumb. Remember, we
Speaker 1: are dumb, Like, we don't know what that means. But
Speaker 1: if you say take the kids to school, we go, oh,
Speaker 1: I know what that means. Okay, great. Oh that was
Speaker 1: so hopeful. Thank you, you bet you care. Have a
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