WEBVTT - How Men Think with Michael Yo 0:00:00.920 --> 0:00:03.880 We're taking you inside the mind of a man. This 0:00:04.559 --> 0:00:08.280 is how men thick and I heard radio podcast. Hey, 0:00:08.320 --> 0:00:11.280 what's going on? My name is Michael Yo, and I'm 0:00:11.280 --> 0:00:15.000 a comedian and actor. I was an entertainment host. If 0:00:15.000 --> 0:00:17.560 it's Hollywood, I have done it. I have worked at 0:00:17.640 --> 0:00:23.479 E Insider, Extra Entertainment, Tonight Access. I got around, I 0:00:23.600 --> 0:00:25.920 was I was an entertainment news and I got around. 0:00:25.960 --> 0:00:28.720 I'm just letting you know I got around. I'm gonna 0:00:28.720 --> 0:00:31.800 be answering all these questions so I appreciate them, and 0:00:31.840 --> 0:00:34.560 then we're gonna be taking some phone calls as well. 0:00:35.000 --> 0:00:38.120 It's how men think. But first, this is the eleven 0:00:38.240 --> 0:00:42.400 questions with me. Michael Yo. Let's get it started. What 0:00:42.479 --> 0:00:46.519 are you known for? Tell us about yourself. Well, I 0:00:46.840 --> 0:00:50.360 say I would I'm known for I first got into Oh, 0:00:50.440 --> 0:00:53.440 that's my alarm. I'm known for not turning off my alarm. 0:00:53.520 --> 0:00:56.440 That's first. But I'm known for, I would say, first, 0:00:57.040 --> 0:01:00.720 being an entertainment reporter on E Entertainment when and that 0:01:00.800 --> 0:01:03.720 network was huge. He had Chelsea Lately on it. You 0:01:03.840 --> 0:01:06.800 had Joe McKell for the soup, and I was on 0:01:06.880 --> 0:01:09.960 E News with Ryan Seacrest. So that was a big 0:01:10.000 --> 0:01:13.280 moment in my career, and then from Chelsea Lately, I 0:01:13.360 --> 0:01:17.080 was on the Kardashians, I was on what was it? Um, 0:01:17.800 --> 0:01:20.319 Courtney and Chloe take Miami, so I was their radio 0:01:20.440 --> 0:01:23.240 boss and that show and then being on Chelsea kind 0:01:23.240 --> 0:01:25.880 of sprung into stand up comedy, which I've been doing 0:01:26.360 --> 0:01:29.479 just past ten years, and now actings coming into play. 0:01:29.560 --> 0:01:31.160 So I got a new TV show coming out on 0:01:31.200 --> 0:01:34.040 Apple Plus here in a couple of months. So I 0:01:34.040 --> 0:01:37.240 would say I'm known for entertainment. That's what I would 0:01:37.240 --> 0:01:41.400 say I'm known for about myself. Born and raised in Houston, Texas. 0:01:41.480 --> 0:01:46.280 Father's black moms Asian. Um, they were very strict parents. 0:01:46.680 --> 0:01:49.160 Uh they say it like they mean it all the time. 0:01:49.320 --> 0:01:53.120 I have a family now. Um, I'm black and Asian. 0:01:53.360 --> 0:01:55.720 My wife is white, and our kids are black, white 0:01:55.720 --> 0:01:59.480 and Asian. We gave birth to pandas the Little Panda Bears, 0:01:59.480 --> 0:02:01.840 so we love them. But my main thing about myself 0:02:01.920 --> 0:02:05.240 right now, I survived COVID. Um I almost died from 0:02:05.240 --> 0:02:08.359 COVID like two years ago. So that's a life changing 0:02:08.440 --> 0:02:11.280 moment that really meant a lot to me and I 0:02:11.520 --> 0:02:13.440 and I actually talked about that in my new special 0:02:13.480 --> 0:02:16.160 coming up. That's gonna be dropping on March seventeen. So 0:02:16.680 --> 0:02:19.600 that was a big moment, pivotal moment in my life. 0:02:19.680 --> 0:02:22.000 And to come full circle two years later and drop 0:02:22.040 --> 0:02:25.040 a special talking about in a bunch of different things, 0:02:25.320 --> 0:02:27.919 It's very special to me. But I'm just all about family, 0:02:28.240 --> 0:02:30.040 all about my kids, all about my wife, because you 0:02:30.280 --> 0:02:32.880 never know how long you're gonna be around. So that's 0:02:32.880 --> 0:02:35.120 what I like doing, to spend the time with my family. 0:02:35.800 --> 0:02:37.919 Who are you in your personal life? I'm that dude. 0:02:38.080 --> 0:02:40.520 You know what's funny about me is when I was younger, 0:02:40.560 --> 0:02:43.000 our partied. I went to clubs. I lived in Miami. 0:02:43.280 --> 0:02:45.080 We threw down the six Am and then they had 0:02:45.120 --> 0:02:47.400 a club called Space. We would stay up to like 0:02:47.440 --> 0:02:51.160 two o'clock in the afternoon. That was me twenty years ago. 0:02:51.240 --> 0:02:54.560 Now I'm a dude that just likes to chill. I 0:02:54.680 --> 0:02:59.520 just like chilling um with my family and doing stuff 0:02:59.560 --> 0:03:02.840 around a house. I'm that I'm turning into my dad. 0:03:03.520 --> 0:03:07.720 I'm turning into my dad. I'm starting to talk like him. 0:03:08.200 --> 0:03:10.160 I'm like, oh, I don't like the music today. You know, 0:03:10.240 --> 0:03:11.960 like my dad, you stayed up about my music. Now 0:03:12.000 --> 0:03:13.880 I'm the same way I'm like, they don't make music 0:03:13.960 --> 0:03:16.680 like they used to. I'm that dude now so but 0:03:16.760 --> 0:03:19.600 in my person life, it's just all family. Man. I'm 0:03:19.639 --> 0:03:22.800 just a dad. You know. I told my friends my 0:03:22.840 --> 0:03:24.720 guy for some of my guy friends is still single, 0:03:24.919 --> 0:03:27.120 and I said, I'm so much better as a husband 0:03:27.160 --> 0:03:30.760 than a single guy. Like, I just like to know 0:03:30.840 --> 0:03:33.200 what's happening when I get home. I know what's gonna 0:03:33.360 --> 0:03:35.160 I get home. I know exactly how it's gonna be. 0:03:35.240 --> 0:03:38.800 And I love that. Who are you? And you? Probably 0:03:38.800 --> 0:03:42.440 we did that with three shows you've been watching, Okay, 0:03:42.480 --> 0:03:46.360 one already finished a long time ago. It's called Money Heist. 0:03:47.120 --> 0:03:50.240 It is so good. Now a lot of people don't 0:03:50.240 --> 0:03:52.920 like it, but man, when the show started, this is 0:03:52.920 --> 0:03:54.960 what I love about the show Money Heist. It was 0:03:55.000 --> 0:03:57.760 on in Canada. It got canceled after a year or 0:03:57.720 --> 0:04:00.320 a year and a half. Netflix picks it up and 0:04:00.320 --> 0:04:03.520 now it's a worldwide hit. These people gone from like 0:04:03.600 --> 0:04:07.040 a hundred followers to twenty million followers. The actors on 0:04:07.080 --> 0:04:11.840 this show, it's dubbed in another language, but it's freaking incredible. 0:04:12.040 --> 0:04:14.680 Another thing I'm watching right now that I love the 0:04:14.800 --> 0:04:18.880 Kanye West documentary on Netflix. Now, I will tell you this. 0:04:19.240 --> 0:04:21.240 It's not gonna make you like him anymore. It's not 0:04:21.279 --> 0:04:23.800 gonna make you like him any less. But what it 0:04:23.960 --> 0:04:27.200 will do is show you how hard he hustled to 0:04:27.279 --> 0:04:30.400 get to where he is, and that inspires me. The hustle, 0:04:30.880 --> 0:04:32.680 you know, and that's what I love. And when he 0:04:33.040 --> 0:04:37.040 met his tragic car crash that he was talking about, 0:04:37.040 --> 0:04:39.720 it felt the same with me almost dying from COVID. 0:04:39.760 --> 0:04:41.560 I was like, this is our second chance of life, 0:04:41.720 --> 0:04:44.120 so we gotta make the most of it. And that's 0:04:44.160 --> 0:04:49.560 what really really touched me. The third thing, and I 0:04:49.600 --> 0:04:51.760 hate it. I'm not gonna hear lie to you. I 0:04:51.800 --> 0:04:54.359 hate beinging it, but it's something I do with my wife. 0:04:54.640 --> 0:05:01.520 The Bachelor and Bachelorette. The worst thing about that show 0:05:01.680 --> 0:05:04.080 is when somebody says, I don't know how there's so 0:05:04.160 --> 0:05:06.720 much drama. I was like, you on a show that's 0:05:06.720 --> 0:05:08.920 built on drama, Like you didn't know drama was gonna 0:05:08.920 --> 0:05:11.320 be on that show anyway. So those are the three 0:05:11.360 --> 0:05:14.600 shows I'm watching. What's my favorite food, hands down, pizza 0:05:15.120 --> 0:05:20.159 Done Pizza. I'm looking for the best pizza in the world. 0:05:20.760 --> 0:05:23.960 I will eat somebody. This is the problem I eat 0:05:24.000 --> 0:05:28.240 pretty healthy, but when I eat pizza, I overeat. You know, 0:05:28.360 --> 0:05:31.640 you have that one food, no matter how much you 0:05:31.640 --> 0:05:34.400 you don't want to overeat, you overeat like I should 0:05:34.440 --> 0:05:37.400 only have like three slices. If there's still pizza, I 0:05:37.440 --> 0:05:39.920 will eat till I can't eat and I will feel 0:05:40.040 --> 0:05:42.719 disgusting after it. And then after I feel like that, 0:05:42.720 --> 0:05:45.640 I'll go I am never doing this again. But guess what, 0:05:46.040 --> 0:05:48.800 I do it again. So pizza is that food for me? 0:05:49.240 --> 0:05:53.320 Tell us about your career, Well, man, I started, Wow, 0:05:53.360 --> 0:05:56.159 it's a long ter. I started two thousand. Well before that, 0:05:56.200 --> 0:05:59.040 I was a radio DJ. I was in uh Houston, 0:05:59.279 --> 0:06:01.599 went to Austin and then Miami and that's when things 0:06:01.680 --> 0:06:03.760 kind of blew up. Work for a station called Why 0:06:03.839 --> 0:06:07.920 one hundred UM. It was a great station. It really 0:06:08.040 --> 0:06:11.360 took me to the next level, and uh so radio 0:06:11.400 --> 0:06:14.600 went really good. Radio got me into television, and then 0:06:14.880 --> 0:06:17.120 television got me in the stand up, and stand up 0:06:17.120 --> 0:06:20.359 got me into acting. So my advice for everybody's just 0:06:20.400 --> 0:06:24.120 say yes, be ready for opportunity, and once you get 0:06:24.160 --> 0:06:28.400 that opportunity, freaking crush it. That's my advice to you. 0:06:28.560 --> 0:06:31.599 So that's pretty much my career. You know from and 0:06:31.640 --> 0:06:35.360 people always add so do you like stand up more 0:06:35.400 --> 0:06:38.880 than acting versus interviewing people? And it's all the same. 0:06:39.120 --> 0:06:42.000 It's entertainment. You know. You don't walk in to a 0:06:42.040 --> 0:06:44.760 restaurant and go so do you like cooking stay more 0:06:44.800 --> 0:06:48.159 than fish more than this more? Nah, it's all food. 0:06:48.480 --> 0:06:51.320 You just cook it different ways. And that's what entertainment is. 0:06:51.320 --> 0:06:52.880 I do a bunch of different stuff, but it's just 0:06:52.920 --> 0:06:56.520 different skills in that and that um and that art 0:06:56.560 --> 0:06:58.880 you're doing, like stand up or acting. It's just a 0:06:58.880 --> 0:07:02.920 different skill, but it's entertainment. Uh, what's your biggest fear 0:07:02.960 --> 0:07:05.560 of life? Well, I faced my biggest fear of life 0:07:05.720 --> 0:07:09.720 when I was battling COVID, and my biggest fear of 0:07:09.720 --> 0:07:12.560 life was not dying. At the time, my kids, my 0:07:12.640 --> 0:07:15.080 son was three and my daughter was two, And my 0:07:15.200 --> 0:07:18.720 biggest fear was me passing away from COVID and my 0:07:18.800 --> 0:07:22.000 kids really not knowing how much I loved them. I 0:07:22.000 --> 0:07:25.040 didn't want to be a was story, you know, like oh, 0:07:25.080 --> 0:07:27.200 your dad was like this, and he was like that, 0:07:27.440 --> 0:07:29.600 Like my son really knows. He's only five now, but 0:07:29.640 --> 0:07:32.240 he knows how much I loved, you know, Hopefully I 0:07:32.240 --> 0:07:34.080 can be around long enough where my daughter knows that 0:07:34.160 --> 0:07:38.680 she's too, so she's still trying to grasp things, you know. 0:07:38.840 --> 0:07:41.760 So that's my It sounds simple, but that's my goal 0:07:41.800 --> 0:07:44.360 in life to be around long enough where they know 0:07:44.400 --> 0:07:49.280 how much I loved them. So yeah, that's uh. That 0:07:49.760 --> 0:07:53.560 was my biggest fear, my biggest pet peeve in life. 0:07:55.120 --> 0:07:57.080 I hate when you're in a conversation and somebody tells 0:07:57.120 --> 0:08:00.960 you right away what they do, you know, or ask 0:08:01.040 --> 0:08:04.480 you what you do, but that's a pet peep or 0:08:04.640 --> 0:08:08.840 lying lying to your face is a big pet peeve 0:08:08.920 --> 0:08:11.200 to me, Like they would just straight up lie to 0:08:11.280 --> 0:08:13.560 you your face like oh yeah, we're gonna do that 0:08:13.640 --> 0:08:15.120 for you, and then they don't do it for you. 0:08:15.200 --> 0:08:20.560 But in Hollywood that happens a lot, so man, oh man, 0:08:20.800 --> 0:08:24.120 so many times people in my face like, hey, we're 0:08:24.120 --> 0:08:26.600 gonna do this for you, oh really, really really, and 0:08:26.600 --> 0:08:28.840 then they don't do it for you. So you know, 0:08:29.520 --> 0:08:32.640 it's pretty tough. What makes you the most happy, I 0:08:32.720 --> 0:08:35.640 sound like a broken record. My family. My family makes 0:08:35.679 --> 0:08:38.480 me the most happy. It's tough, having two kids, it's tough, 0:08:38.960 --> 0:08:41.520 it's tough, but man, it's the most fulfilling when you 0:08:41.600 --> 0:08:44.240 had a long day, and one of them walks up 0:08:44.240 --> 0:08:45.920 to you, cuddles with you on the catch and goes, 0:08:45.960 --> 0:08:49.040 I love you. I mean done, it's a wrap. It's 0:08:49.120 --> 0:08:52.840 all worth it right there. What's your ideal Saturday morning? 0:08:53.800 --> 0:08:55.760 I really wake up early every morning. I wake up 0:08:55.760 --> 0:08:58.480 like five six am, and I get all my work 0:08:58.520 --> 0:09:01.760 done on Saturday before all the kids wake up. And 0:09:01.760 --> 0:09:04.600 this pretty much every day. I get everything done so 0:09:04.720 --> 0:09:07.800 then when my kids wake up, they got my full attention. 0:09:07.960 --> 0:09:10.360 So I hate to sound like a broken record, but 0:09:11.000 --> 0:09:14.600 my ideal Saturday is waking up, grabbing the kids, going 0:09:14.640 --> 0:09:18.520 to a park. Wow, I'm so family, going to a 0:09:18.600 --> 0:09:20.920 park and just having some food at a restaurant because 0:09:20.960 --> 0:09:24.080 things are opening up, and just you know, like like 0:09:24.200 --> 0:09:26.880 yesterday we rode the train. You know, they love trains, 0:09:26.920 --> 0:09:28.880 so I just take them on the train around the mall. 0:09:29.360 --> 0:09:31.480 It was it was outdoor mall, but we just got 0:09:31.480 --> 0:09:34.079 in the train that I could barely fit in, and 0:09:34.120 --> 0:09:36.520 we wrote it and just to see them smile was amazing. 0:09:37.240 --> 0:09:41.199 Are you more of an athlete or an armchair quarterback? 0:09:41.960 --> 0:09:44.280 I used to be an athlete. I played college football 0:09:44.320 --> 0:09:47.600 for the University of Arkansas, but now I'm just at 0:09:48.760 --> 0:09:52.240 I'm into stretching more than like working out hard because 0:09:52.240 --> 0:09:54.240 I have friends that are my age that still play 0:09:54.320 --> 0:09:57.920 basketball and get rough playing football and all that stuff. 0:09:58.160 --> 0:10:02.679 Why why you old? You ain't going pro? Why are 0:10:02.720 --> 0:10:04.640 you still? Like my friends will be like I blew 0:10:04.720 --> 0:10:07.840 up my knee playing basketball. It's like, why you almost 0:10:07.880 --> 0:10:11.079 fifty years old? Why are you you think you're going pro? 0:10:11.640 --> 0:10:17.360 There's no sense in you playing basketball anymore. That's ridiculous. Okay, 0:10:17.400 --> 0:10:23.760 so stop it, stop it, um. What keeps you motivated? Man? 0:10:24.400 --> 0:10:28.520 I've always said I I'm never satisfied. I'm always pushing 0:10:28.880 --> 0:10:31.760 and I want that what keeps me It's just a fire. 0:10:31.880 --> 0:10:33.840 Some people got it, some people don't. You know, I 0:10:33.880 --> 0:10:36.720 read a lot of books about motivation, and I'm just 0:10:36.880 --> 0:10:39.240 that dude. Like I always I want to be great. 0:10:39.600 --> 0:10:41.560 I want to be one of the greatest stand up 0:10:41.600 --> 0:10:42.880 comics in the world. I want to be one of 0:10:42.920 --> 0:10:45.800 the greatest actors in the world. I'm still doing radio. 0:10:45.840 --> 0:10:47.160 I want to be one of the greatest in that. 0:10:47.360 --> 0:10:49.480 I want to be one of the greatest in anything 0:10:49.720 --> 0:10:53.680 I do. So that's the fire in me, Like I'm 0:10:53.720 --> 0:10:56.720 not doing it to be Okay, you know, the best 0:10:56.760 --> 0:11:00.360 piece of advice I've ever got was failed fast. So 0:11:00.559 --> 0:11:02.719 fail really fast. So you know what you're not good at, 0:11:02.760 --> 0:11:04.520 so you can focus in on what you're good at. 0:11:04.640 --> 0:11:10.160 So um, yeah, that's that's my loving questions. So there 0:11:10.200 --> 0:11:21.720 you go. All right, So I get excited about this. 0:11:22.000 --> 0:11:24.760 I get to actually talk to you guys that are 0:11:24.800 --> 0:11:27.559 on the phone line. So going to the phone's iris, 0:11:27.640 --> 0:11:31.839 what's going on? Well, okay, here's the deal. I've been 0:11:31.840 --> 0:11:34.200 talking with a bunch of girlfriends. This is not the 0:11:34.240 --> 0:11:38.560 first time this topics come up, but about men just 0:11:38.880 --> 0:11:45.920 not making the effort. It's like wanting to, um, you know, 0:11:46.320 --> 0:11:50.199 pretty much assume that if they don't want to, if 0:11:50.200 --> 0:11:51.640 they want to be with you, they'll find a way. 0:11:51.679 --> 0:11:54.800 They'll move mountains. And it's just so many guys just 0:11:54.800 --> 0:11:57.360 seem like they're not putting in that effort. And I 0:11:57.400 --> 0:12:00.200 don't know they don't if it's just me, they don't 0:12:00.200 --> 0:12:03.720 want to be meaningful relationship or something real, but I 0:12:03.720 --> 0:12:06.520 don't know. It just seems like I hear it too much. 0:12:06.640 --> 0:12:11.720 Maybe my dating radars off. Well, Well, I rest I 0:12:11.800 --> 0:12:14.400 love the question because I'm that guy that all the 0:12:14.440 --> 0:12:17.080 girlfriends come to like. I have so many girl friends 0:12:17.120 --> 0:12:19.280 that come to me for advice and even guys. What 0:12:19.320 --> 0:12:22.280 I think is if a guy really wants you, he 0:12:22.320 --> 0:12:26.520 will move mountains and it happens pretty quick, you know. 0:12:26.600 --> 0:12:28.520 I feel like you know, they say love at first 0:12:28.559 --> 0:12:30.719 sight or you know, right away. With my wife, I 0:12:30.800 --> 0:12:34.800 knew pretty pretty fast. I mean. And and here's the 0:12:34.880 --> 0:12:38.400 thing I used to think, and I wasn't ready to 0:12:38.559 --> 0:12:41.319 settle down. I would always say, well, I'm too busy 0:12:41.360 --> 0:12:43.280 to have a girlfriend or I'm too busy to be 0:12:43.320 --> 0:12:45.960 in a relationship. That was a lie. I just didn't 0:12:46.000 --> 0:12:49.600 find the right one, because all things stop when you 0:12:49.640 --> 0:12:52.360 find the right one and you take time out. How 0:12:52.520 --> 0:12:54.719 fast can I mean, how long does it take this 0:12:54.800 --> 0:12:56.680 in the text to say thinking about you? It takes 0:12:56.720 --> 0:12:59.840 two seconds. So if a guy doesn't have two seconds 0:13:00.080 --> 0:13:02.199 to reach out to you, then he really doesn't want 0:13:02.200 --> 0:13:05.120 to be with you. Good point, and a lot will 0:13:05.160 --> 0:13:07.439 reach out like all day long, but then they don't 0:13:07.440 --> 0:13:10.360 want to drive and make the time to get a 0:13:10.360 --> 0:13:12.400 babysitter or do what they have to do. It's like 0:13:12.480 --> 0:13:16.840 it's still the same thing, Like you gotta understand like 0:13:17.040 --> 0:13:19.800 what I tell people, And this may sound bad to women, 0:13:20.040 --> 0:13:23.000 but women don't change men. To want to be married, 0:13:23.280 --> 0:13:25.360 a man has to be ready to be married. That's 0:13:25.400 --> 0:13:28.520 just my opinion, because no woman could have changed me. 0:13:28.640 --> 0:13:31.400 Like when I met my wife, I was already looking 0:13:31.440 --> 0:13:34.400 for the one I used to date to date, but 0:13:34.480 --> 0:13:38.240 then when I change to date to be married, it's 0:13:38.280 --> 0:13:41.600 totally different dating. So a woman, really, to me, doesn't 0:13:41.640 --> 0:13:44.280 change a man. A man has to change first and 0:13:44.320 --> 0:13:48.280 then find the right one. Good point. I like that. Yeah, 0:13:48.480 --> 0:13:51.760 too many lazy guys out here, but they're lazy. But 0:13:51.800 --> 0:13:54.840 then but if they're lazy, that means they're not really 0:13:54.880 --> 0:13:59.199 in it. Good point. You are, So okay, that's what 0:13:59.240 --> 0:14:01.600 we're gonna talk about, and now we have your opinion. 0:14:01.720 --> 0:14:08.600 So ah, alright, alright, alright, alright, well thanks for the call, 0:14:09.280 --> 0:14:14.679 Thank you, take care bye. Right, Hey, Vicky, how are 0:14:14.720 --> 0:14:18.600 you good? Good? How are you great? What's your question? Um? Okay, 0:14:18.720 --> 0:14:22.160 So I'm in my forties, I don't have kids. Um, 0:14:22.200 --> 0:14:26.320 and finally, UM, I've met someone who is genuine and 0:14:26.440 --> 0:14:29.120 kind and who you know, I can really see myself with. 0:14:29.240 --> 0:14:32.840 So I'm actually falling in love with him. Um. But 0:14:33.160 --> 0:14:35.920 he has four kids and he's going through a divorce, right, 0:14:35.960 --> 0:14:39.640 now and his ex is like very complicated. They don't 0:14:39.640 --> 0:14:43.400 have good like co parenting relationship stuff going on right now. 0:14:43.720 --> 0:14:45.560 So I just I need to know, like should I 0:14:45.600 --> 0:14:48.440 continue dating him or is this just all a big 0:14:48.480 --> 0:14:52.600 red flag? Well? This is this is this is very simple. 0:14:53.600 --> 0:14:57.360 You're taking on another man's family, which is fine, which 0:14:57.400 --> 0:15:00.640 is fine if you if you're fine with starting out 0:15:00.680 --> 0:15:03.640 with four kids, that's what you got. But you know 0:15:03.680 --> 0:15:06.520 the advice I always got, you marry. Uh, you don't 0:15:06.560 --> 0:15:09.640 just marry the person. You marry their family. And part 0:15:09.680 --> 0:15:11.960 of his family is his ex wife that's gonna be 0:15:12.000 --> 0:15:14.280 around for the rest of your life or for the 0:15:14.280 --> 0:15:17.080 rest of her life with the kids, you know. So 0:15:17.120 --> 0:15:19.280 it's just something you're gonna have to deal with now 0:15:19.360 --> 0:15:22.720 whether your love can get through that. Like I don't 0:15:22.720 --> 0:15:25.240 know the personal ins and outs of your relationship, but 0:15:25.360 --> 0:15:28.400 that's very stressful I would imagine for a relationship because 0:15:29.120 --> 0:15:31.280 it puts the guy in a bad position a lot 0:15:31.320 --> 0:15:34.640 of times because he doesn't want a dog on the X. 0:15:34.680 --> 0:15:37.000 Maybe I don't know. I would imagine if it was me, 0:15:37.040 --> 0:15:39.080 I wouldn't want a dog on her. But at the 0:15:39.120 --> 0:15:41.520 same time, I gotta keep a balance where I can't 0:15:41.720 --> 0:15:44.680 dog her, and I can't dog you to her, So 0:15:45.000 --> 0:15:47.160 I'm just trying to like, I'm just kind of stuck 0:15:47.200 --> 0:15:48.840 in the middle, and I want to put it on 0:15:48.880 --> 0:15:51.440 on the guy. If it's about you, it's like, can 0:15:51.480 --> 0:15:55.920 you handle this woman for for however the kids are 0:15:56.040 --> 0:15:58.200 till they're out of the house and making their own decisions. 0:15:58.360 --> 0:16:00.480 That's what it really comes down to. Love this love 0:16:00.600 --> 0:16:03.640 Like if you love this guy, if you really love 0:16:03.720 --> 0:16:05.640 this guy, you can work through it. But just know, 0:16:05.840 --> 0:16:08.560 when you marry him, you're marrying everything about him, not 0:16:08.640 --> 0:16:11.880 just him, and I think people lose focus of that. Yeah, 0:16:11.920 --> 0:16:15.400 that's that makes sense. I have thought about, you know, 0:16:15.680 --> 0:16:21.280 seeing her for for forever, you know, andever forever for 0:16:21.680 --> 0:16:23.560 know you said it right, and that's the mind frame 0:16:23.600 --> 0:16:27.200 you gotta have, is forever, this woman will be in 0:16:27.240 --> 0:16:30.920 my life, even when the kids graduate college or get married, 0:16:31.040 --> 0:16:33.400 or she will be there and you will have to 0:16:33.440 --> 0:16:37.000 deal with her for for vacations, for family get together. 0:16:37.120 --> 0:16:40.120 She will be there. And I don't know your dynamic, 0:16:40.360 --> 0:16:42.480 but if your love for this man and his love 0:16:42.560 --> 0:16:45.480 for you is strong enough, you could work through that. 0:16:45.520 --> 0:16:49.840 But if you're on the border, then it's something you 0:16:49.920 --> 0:16:52.640 really need to think about because it's a lot. It's 0:16:52.640 --> 0:16:55.520 a lot. Yeah, yeah, I know that that makes sense. 0:16:55.560 --> 0:16:57.440 I'm pretty agreeable. I think I can get along with 0:16:57.480 --> 0:17:00.600 anyone and probably make it work. It. Yeah, it's just 0:17:00.680 --> 0:17:04.000 kind of daunting. Just know for the rest of your 0:17:04.080 --> 0:17:05.919 life she will be in your life and if you 0:17:05.920 --> 0:17:09.240 can deal with that mentally wrap your head around that, 0:17:09.320 --> 0:17:17.439 then go for it. All right, Thank you? Vicky. Hey Simone, Hi, Hi, 0:17:18.400 --> 0:17:21.720 I just wanted to ask about first dates, Like I 0:17:21.800 --> 0:17:26.080 got really really nervous on them and really in my 0:17:26.160 --> 0:17:29.160 head about how to act and what to do. And 0:17:29.320 --> 0:17:32.600 I guess I was just wondering, Um, are there any 0:17:33.200 --> 0:17:38.119 like cues or clues that I can get from a guy, 0:17:38.680 --> 0:17:41.639 you know, just to like recognize whether they're into me 0:17:41.800 --> 0:17:44.760 or not? So well, I think I think, I mean, 0:17:44.880 --> 0:17:48.080 I think you're discreding it yourself. I think you need 0:17:48.160 --> 0:17:51.000 to be more worried about are you into him? You 0:17:51.000 --> 0:17:52.560 know what I mean, Like you need to look out 0:17:52.560 --> 0:17:55.600 for yourself first, and if you like the guy, then 0:17:55.720 --> 0:17:58.720 look for cues. But I think the first thing is 0:17:58.760 --> 0:18:01.639 to be more confident in and be like, do I 0:18:01.840 --> 0:18:05.480 want to actually like this guy? And if I do, 0:18:05.600 --> 0:18:08.119 now let's look at the signs now, guy. You know, 0:18:08.200 --> 0:18:10.160 guys are guys, and so as a guy pulls out 0:18:10.160 --> 0:18:13.159 his phone just like a girl, they're not interested, you know. 0:18:13.240 --> 0:18:16.359 So unless he's like a super busy guy that is like, 0:18:16.920 --> 0:18:19.399 you know, has to be on his phone. But still 0:18:19.520 --> 0:18:21.800 you should pay the other person respect and not be 0:18:21.880 --> 0:18:24.880 on your phone. And you know how guys are. I mean, 0:18:24.960 --> 0:18:27.800 if they're kind of like uh huh, they're uh huh 0:18:27.800 --> 0:18:31.199 okay and you and not really listening, then they're not 0:18:31.240 --> 0:18:35.280 into you know. Um, it's it's very guys. Here's the 0:18:35.280 --> 0:18:39.240 thing about guys, terrible liars. So you can it's easy 0:18:39.320 --> 0:18:41.280 to know if a guy is into your not and 0:18:41.320 --> 0:18:44.040 it's not that difficult, you know. I think women want 0:18:44.040 --> 0:18:47.240 to make it difficult, especially if they like the guy, 0:18:47.280 --> 0:18:50.160 and they give the guys all these outs and give 0:18:50.200 --> 0:18:53.280 them second chances and third chances when in their heart 0:18:53.359 --> 0:18:56.480 they know the guys not into him. So I would 0:18:56.480 --> 0:18:58.840 just say be yourself, and I know that's so cliche, 0:18:58.960 --> 0:19:02.199 but be yourself, but forget about the guy liking you. 0:19:02.680 --> 0:19:05.399 Do you like the guy and do you think he 0:19:05.440 --> 0:19:08.800 would be best for you, not the other way around. 0:19:08.840 --> 0:19:14.800 Never put him first, put yourself first. Yeah, okay, okay, 0:19:15.200 --> 0:19:17.040 I just got like a really freaked out on them. 0:19:17.040 --> 0:19:20.440 But thank you. Oh no, just be confident because I 0:19:20.520 --> 0:19:23.160 own it. Girl. You you deserve to be there. Okay, 0:19:23.200 --> 0:19:29.480 you deserve to be happy. Thank you. Alright. Someone, Hey Caitlin, Hi, 0:19:29.600 --> 0:19:33.359 how are you great? Great? What's your question? Okay? I 0:19:33.480 --> 0:19:37.200 recently met a guy through friends, UM, and we all 0:19:37.240 --> 0:19:40.920 went out and had a vibe. It was really really fun. Um. 0:19:40.960 --> 0:19:43.280 But he didn't ask for my number at the end 0:19:43.320 --> 0:19:46.000 of the night. UM. So I was like, okay, but 0:19:46.920 --> 0:19:49.520 my friend said he was kind of shy but like 0:19:49.560 --> 0:19:52.240 super nice, and so he was probably just like too 0:19:52.280 --> 0:19:55.320 scared to be upfront. UM. So I was like, oh 0:19:55.359 --> 0:19:58.080 that's fine. UM. But then I connected with him on 0:19:58.200 --> 0:20:03.280 Instagram and we start to chatting on d M. UM. 0:20:03.480 --> 0:20:06.040 Since it was going well, I offered my number and 0:20:06.080 --> 0:20:09.200 he texted me right away, uh saying you know, hello 0:20:09.280 --> 0:20:12.359 back UM, and he gave me his number as well. 0:20:12.880 --> 0:20:17.080 But UM, now he has like he hasn't said anything else. UM. 0:20:17.119 --> 0:20:18.800 It was just kind of like a quick back and 0:20:18.840 --> 0:20:23.120 forth of exchanging uh, like our numbers, UM, and our 0:20:23.160 --> 0:20:26.879 conversations on Instagram. We're going like really well so I 0:20:26.880 --> 0:20:29.760 don't know should I start another conversation on text and 0:20:29.920 --> 0:20:32.520 like be the one to like kick off that, or 0:20:32.760 --> 0:20:34.480 should I just like wait for him to text me 0:20:34.520 --> 0:20:36.880 again because I don't know. Am I being? Am I 0:20:36.960 --> 0:20:39.320 like the one thing? Well? Let me do you mind 0:20:39.359 --> 0:20:42.359 me asking how old you are or what range of 0:20:42.440 --> 0:20:45.760 age you're in? Yeah, I'm in my thirties, and so 0:20:46.280 --> 0:20:49.480 here's my thing. And I'm different than a lot of guys. 0:20:49.600 --> 0:20:52.639 I might, but I don't feel like in your thirties 0:20:52.720 --> 0:20:55.160 you should be playing games, you know what I mean. 0:20:55.280 --> 0:20:57.720 I I feel like that's a younger thing to do, 0:20:57.840 --> 0:21:01.000 like in your twenties, mid twenties and under what you're 0:21:01.000 --> 0:21:06.080 getting your thirties. If a guy doesn't have the the 0:21:06.600 --> 0:21:09.840 ump to reach out to a woman that he's interested in, 0:21:10.000 --> 0:21:12.800 then that's on him. And I don't know if you 0:21:12.840 --> 0:21:16.280 want that type of person in your life. Yeah, I 0:21:16.320 --> 0:21:18.680 mean this like I'm just hearing this from the outside, 0:21:18.680 --> 0:21:21.879 But if a guy is interested in something a hundred percent, 0:21:23.280 --> 0:21:25.640 I mean, he goes after it. I know I do. 0:21:26.240 --> 0:21:30.520 But even if he's shy, you know, because he's talking 0:21:30.560 --> 0:21:33.200