1 00:00:00,920 --> 00:00:03,880 Speaker 1: We're taking you inside the mind of a man. This 2 00:00:04,559 --> 00:00:08,280 Speaker 1: is how men thick and I heard radio podcast. Hey, 3 00:00:08,320 --> 00:00:11,280 Speaker 1: what's going on? My name is Michael Yo, and I'm 4 00:00:11,280 --> 00:00:15,000 Speaker 1: a comedian and actor. I was an entertainment host. If 5 00:00:15,000 --> 00:00:17,560 Speaker 1: it's Hollywood, I have done it. I have worked at 6 00:00:17,640 --> 00:00:23,479 Speaker 1: E Insider, Extra Entertainment, Tonight Access. I got around, I 7 00:00:23,600 --> 00:00:25,920 Speaker 1: was I was an entertainment news and I got around. 8 00:00:25,960 --> 00:00:28,720 Speaker 1: I'm just letting you know I got around. I'm gonna 9 00:00:28,720 --> 00:00:31,800 Speaker 1: be answering all these questions so I appreciate them, and 10 00:00:31,840 --> 00:00:34,560 Speaker 1: then we're gonna be taking some phone calls as well. 11 00:00:35,000 --> 00:00:38,120 Speaker 1: It's how men think. But first, this is the eleven 12 00:00:38,240 --> 00:00:42,400 Speaker 1: questions with me. Michael Yo. Let's get it started. What 13 00:00:42,479 --> 00:00:46,519 Speaker 1: are you known for? Tell us about yourself. Well, I 14 00:00:46,840 --> 00:00:50,360 Speaker 1: say I would I'm known for I first got into Oh, 15 00:00:50,440 --> 00:00:53,440 Speaker 1: that's my alarm. I'm known for not turning off my alarm. 16 00:00:53,520 --> 00:00:56,440 Speaker 1: That's first. But I'm known for, I would say, first, 17 00:00:57,040 --> 00:01:00,720 Speaker 1: being an entertainment reporter on E Entertainment when and that 18 00:01:00,800 --> 00:01:03,720 Speaker 1: network was huge. He had Chelsea Lately on it. You 19 00:01:03,840 --> 00:01:06,800 Speaker 1: had Joe McKell for the soup, and I was on 20 00:01:06,880 --> 00:01:09,960 Speaker 1: E News with Ryan Seacrest. So that was a big 21 00:01:10,000 --> 00:01:13,280 Speaker 1: moment in my career, and then from Chelsea Lately, I 22 00:01:13,360 --> 00:01:17,080 Speaker 1: was on the Kardashians, I was on what was it? Um, 23 00:01:17,800 --> 00:01:20,319 Speaker 1: Courtney and Chloe take Miami, so I was their radio 24 00:01:20,440 --> 00:01:23,240 Speaker 1: boss and that show and then being on Chelsea kind 25 00:01:23,240 --> 00:01:25,880 Speaker 1: of sprung into stand up comedy, which I've been doing 26 00:01:26,360 --> 00:01:29,479 Speaker 1: just past ten years, and now actings coming into play. 27 00:01:29,560 --> 00:01:31,160 Speaker 1: So I got a new TV show coming out on 28 00:01:31,200 --> 00:01:34,040 Speaker 1: Apple Plus here in a couple of months. So I 29 00:01:34,040 --> 00:01:37,240 Speaker 1: would say I'm known for entertainment. That's what I would 30 00:01:37,240 --> 00:01:41,400 Speaker 1: say I'm known for about myself. Born and raised in Houston, Texas. 31 00:01:41,480 --> 00:01:46,280 Speaker 1: Father's black moms Asian. Um, they were very strict parents. 32 00:01:46,680 --> 00:01:49,160 Speaker 1: Uh they say it like they mean it all the time. 33 00:01:49,320 --> 00:01:53,120 Speaker 1: I have a family now. Um, I'm black and Asian. 34 00:01:53,360 --> 00:01:55,720 Speaker 1: My wife is white, and our kids are black, white 35 00:01:55,720 --> 00:01:59,480 Speaker 1: and Asian. We gave birth to pandas the Little Panda Bears, 36 00:01:59,480 --> 00:02:01,840 Speaker 1: so we love them. But my main thing about myself 37 00:02:01,920 --> 00:02:05,240 Speaker 1: right now, I survived COVID. Um I almost died from 38 00:02:05,240 --> 00:02:08,359 Speaker 1: COVID like two years ago. So that's a life changing 39 00:02:08,440 --> 00:02:11,280 Speaker 1: moment that really meant a lot to me and I 40 00:02:11,520 --> 00:02:13,440 Speaker 1: and I actually talked about that in my new special 41 00:02:13,480 --> 00:02:16,160 Speaker 1: coming up. That's gonna be dropping on March seventeen. So 42 00:02:16,680 --> 00:02:19,600 Speaker 1: that was a big moment, pivotal moment in my life. 43 00:02:19,680 --> 00:02:22,000 Speaker 1: And to come full circle two years later and drop 44 00:02:22,040 --> 00:02:25,040 Speaker 1: a special talking about in a bunch of different things, 45 00:02:25,320 --> 00:02:27,919 Speaker 1: It's very special to me. But I'm just all about family, 46 00:02:28,240 --> 00:02:30,040 Speaker 1: all about my kids, all about my wife, because you 47 00:02:30,280 --> 00:02:32,880 Speaker 1: never know how long you're gonna be around. So that's 48 00:02:32,880 --> 00:02:35,120 Speaker 1: what I like doing, to spend the time with my family. 49 00:02:35,800 --> 00:02:37,919 Speaker 1: Who are you in your personal life? I'm that dude. 50 00:02:38,080 --> 00:02:40,520 Speaker 1: You know what's funny about me is when I was younger, 51 00:02:40,560 --> 00:02:43,000 Speaker 1: our partied. I went to clubs. I lived in Miami. 52 00:02:43,280 --> 00:02:45,080 Speaker 1: We threw down the six Am and then they had 53 00:02:45,120 --> 00:02:47,400 Speaker 1: a club called Space. We would stay up to like 54 00:02:47,440 --> 00:02:51,160 Speaker 1: two o'clock in the afternoon. That was me twenty years ago. 55 00:02:51,240 --> 00:02:54,560 Speaker 1: Now I'm a dude that just likes to chill. I 56 00:02:54,680 --> 00:02:59,520 Speaker 1: just like chilling um with my family and doing stuff 57 00:02:59,560 --> 00:03:02,840 Speaker 1: around a house. I'm that I'm turning into my dad. 58 00:03:03,520 --> 00:03:07,720 Speaker 1: I'm turning into my dad. I'm starting to talk like him. 59 00:03:08,200 --> 00:03:10,160 Speaker 1: I'm like, oh, I don't like the music today. You know, 60 00:03:10,240 --> 00:03:11,960 Speaker 1: like my dad, you stayed up about my music. Now 61 00:03:12,000 --> 00:03:13,880 Speaker 1: I'm the same way I'm like, they don't make music 62 00:03:13,960 --> 00:03:16,680 Speaker 1: like they used to. I'm that dude now so but 63 00:03:16,760 --> 00:03:19,600 Speaker 1: in my person life, it's just all family. Man. I'm 64 00:03:19,639 --> 00:03:22,800 Speaker 1: just a dad. You know. I told my friends my 65 00:03:22,840 --> 00:03:24,720 Speaker 1: guy for some of my guy friends is still single, 66 00:03:24,919 --> 00:03:27,120 Speaker 1: and I said, I'm so much better as a husband 67 00:03:27,160 --> 00:03:30,760 Speaker 1: than a single guy. Like, I just like to know 68 00:03:30,840 --> 00:03:33,200 Speaker 1: what's happening when I get home. I know what's gonna 69 00:03:33,360 --> 00:03:35,160 Speaker 1: I get home. I know exactly how it's gonna be. 70 00:03:35,240 --> 00:03:38,800 Speaker 1: And I love that. Who are you? And you? Probably 71 00:03:38,800 --> 00:03:42,440 Speaker 1: we did that with three shows you've been watching, Okay, 72 00:03:42,480 --> 00:03:46,360 Speaker 1: one already finished a long time ago. It's called Money Heist. 73 00:03:47,120 --> 00:03:50,240 Speaker 1: It is so good. Now a lot of people don't 74 00:03:50,240 --> 00:03:52,920 Speaker 1: like it, but man, when the show started, this is 75 00:03:52,920 --> 00:03:54,960 Speaker 1: what I love about the show Money Heist. It was 76 00:03:55,000 --> 00:03:57,760 Speaker 1: on in Canada. It got canceled after a year or 77 00:03:57,720 --> 00:04:00,320 Speaker 1: a year and a half. Netflix picks it up and 78 00:04:00,320 --> 00:04:03,520 Speaker 1: now it's a worldwide hit. These people gone from like 79 00:04:03,600 --> 00:04:07,040 Speaker 1: a hundred followers to twenty million followers. The actors on 80 00:04:07,080 --> 00:04:11,840 Speaker 1: this show, it's dubbed in another language, but it's freaking incredible. 81 00:04:12,040 --> 00:04:14,680 Speaker 1: Another thing I'm watching right now that I love the 82 00:04:14,800 --> 00:04:18,880 Speaker 1: Kanye West documentary on Netflix. Now, I will tell you this. 83 00:04:19,240 --> 00:04:21,240 Speaker 1: It's not gonna make you like him anymore. It's not 84 00:04:21,279 --> 00:04:23,800 Speaker 1: gonna make you like him any less. But what it 85 00:04:23,960 --> 00:04:27,200 Speaker 1: will do is show you how hard he hustled to 86 00:04:27,279 --> 00:04:30,400 Speaker 1: get to where he is, and that inspires me. The hustle, 87 00:04:30,880 --> 00:04:32,680 Speaker 1: you know, and that's what I love. And when he 88 00:04:33,040 --> 00:04:37,040 Speaker 1: met his tragic car crash that he was talking about, 89 00:04:37,040 --> 00:04:39,720 Speaker 1: it felt the same with me almost dying from COVID. 90 00:04:39,760 --> 00:04:41,560 Speaker 1: I was like, this is our second chance of life, 91 00:04:41,720 --> 00:04:44,120 Speaker 1: so we gotta make the most of it. And that's 92 00:04:44,160 --> 00:04:49,560 Speaker 1: what really really touched me. The third thing, and I 93 00:04:49,600 --> 00:04:51,760 Speaker 1: hate it. I'm not gonna hear lie to you. I 94 00:04:51,800 --> 00:04:54,359 Speaker 1: hate beinging it, but it's something I do with my wife. 95 00:04:54,640 --> 00:05:01,520 Speaker 1: The Bachelor and Bachelorette. The worst thing about that show 96 00:05:01,680 --> 00:05:04,080 Speaker 1: is when somebody says, I don't know how there's so 97 00:05:04,160 --> 00:05:06,720 Speaker 1: much drama. I was like, you on a show that's 98 00:05:06,720 --> 00:05:08,920 Speaker 1: built on drama, Like you didn't know drama was gonna 99 00:05:08,920 --> 00:05:11,320 Speaker 1: be on that show anyway. So those are the three 100 00:05:11,360 --> 00:05:14,600 Speaker 1: shows I'm watching. What's my favorite food, hands down, pizza 101 00:05:15,120 --> 00:05:20,159 Speaker 1: Done Pizza. I'm looking for the best pizza in the world. 102 00:05:20,760 --> 00:05:23,960 Speaker 1: I will eat somebody. This is the problem I eat 103 00:05:24,000 --> 00:05:28,240 Speaker 1: pretty healthy, but when I eat pizza, I overeat. You know, 104 00:05:28,360 --> 00:05:31,640 Speaker 1: you have that one food, no matter how much you 105 00:05:31,640 --> 00:05:34,400 Speaker 1: you don't want to overeat, you overeat like I should 106 00:05:34,440 --> 00:05:37,400 Speaker 1: only have like three slices. If there's still pizza, I 107 00:05:37,440 --> 00:05:39,920 Speaker 1: will eat till I can't eat and I will feel 108 00:05:40,040 --> 00:05:42,719 Speaker 1: disgusting after it. And then after I feel like that, 109 00:05:42,720 --> 00:05:45,640 Speaker 1: I'll go I am never doing this again. But guess what, 110 00:05:46,040 --> 00:05:48,800 Speaker 1: I do it again. So pizza is that food for me? 111 00:05:49,240 --> 00:05:53,320 Speaker 1: Tell us about your career, Well, man, I started, Wow, 112 00:05:53,360 --> 00:05:56,159 Speaker 1: it's a long ter. I started two thousand. Well before that, 113 00:05:56,200 --> 00:05:59,040 Speaker 1: I was a radio DJ. I was in uh Houston, 114 00:05:59,279 --> 00:06:01,599 Speaker 1: went to Austin and then Miami and that's when things 115 00:06:01,680 --> 00:06:03,760 Speaker 1: kind of blew up. Work for a station called Why 116 00:06:03,839 --> 00:06:07,920 Speaker 1: one hundred UM. It was a great station. It really 117 00:06:08,040 --> 00:06:11,360 Speaker 1: took me to the next level, and uh so radio 118 00:06:11,400 --> 00:06:14,600 Speaker 1: went really good. Radio got me into television, and then 119 00:06:14,880 --> 00:06:17,120 Speaker 1: television got me in the stand up, and stand up 120 00:06:17,120 --> 00:06:20,359 Speaker 1: got me into acting. So my advice for everybody's just 121 00:06:20,400 --> 00:06:24,120 Speaker 1: say yes, be ready for opportunity, and once you get 122 00:06:24,160 --> 00:06:28,400 Speaker 1: that opportunity, freaking crush it. That's my advice to you. 123 00:06:28,560 --> 00:06:31,599 Speaker 1: So that's pretty much my career. You know from and 124 00:06:31,640 --> 00:06:35,360 Speaker 1: people always add so do you like stand up more 125 00:06:35,400 --> 00:06:38,880 Speaker 1: than acting versus interviewing people? And it's all the same. 126 00:06:39,120 --> 00:06:42,000 Speaker 1: It's entertainment. You know. You don't walk in to a 127 00:06:42,040 --> 00:06:44,760 Speaker 1: restaurant and go so do you like cooking stay more 128 00:06:44,800 --> 00:06:48,159 Speaker 1: than fish more than this more? Nah, it's all food. 129 00:06:48,480 --> 00:06:51,320 Speaker 1: You just cook it different ways. And that's what entertainment is. 130 00:06:51,320 --> 00:06:52,880 Speaker 1: I do a bunch of different stuff, but it's just 131 00:06:52,920 --> 00:06:56,520 Speaker 1: different skills in that and that um and that art 132 00:06:56,560 --> 00:06:58,880 Speaker 1: you're doing, like stand up or acting. It's just a 133 00:06:58,880 --> 00:07:02,920 Speaker 1: different skill, but it's entertainment. Uh, what's your biggest fear 134 00:07:02,960 --> 00:07:05,560 Speaker 1: of life? Well, I faced my biggest fear of life 135 00:07:05,720 --> 00:07:09,720 Speaker 1: when I was battling COVID, and my biggest fear of 136 00:07:09,720 --> 00:07:12,560 Speaker 1: life was not dying. At the time, my kids, my 137 00:07:12,640 --> 00:07:15,080 Speaker 1: son was three and my daughter was two, And my 138 00:07:15,200 --> 00:07:18,720 Speaker 1: biggest fear was me passing away from COVID and my 139 00:07:18,800 --> 00:07:22,000 Speaker 1: kids really not knowing how much I loved them. I 140 00:07:22,000 --> 00:07:25,040 Speaker 1: didn't want to be a was story, you know, like oh, 141 00:07:25,080 --> 00:07:27,200 Speaker 1: your dad was like this, and he was like that, 142 00:07:27,440 --> 00:07:29,600 Speaker 1: Like my son really knows. He's only five now, but 143 00:07:29,640 --> 00:07:32,240 Speaker 1: he knows how much I loved, you know, Hopefully I 144 00:07:32,240 --> 00:07:34,080 Speaker 1: can be around long enough where my daughter knows that 145 00:07:34,160 --> 00:07:38,680 Speaker 1: she's too, so she's still trying to grasp things, you know. 146 00:07:38,840 --> 00:07:41,760 Speaker 1: So that's my It sounds simple, but that's my goal 147 00:07:41,800 --> 00:07:44,360 Speaker 1: in life to be around long enough where they know 148 00:07:44,400 --> 00:07:49,280 Speaker 1: how much I loved them. So yeah, that's uh. That 149 00:07:49,760 --> 00:07:53,560 Speaker 1: was my biggest fear, my biggest pet peeve in life. 150 00:07:55,120 --> 00:07:57,080 Speaker 1: I hate when you're in a conversation and somebody tells 151 00:07:57,120 --> 00:08:00,960 Speaker 1: you right away what they do, you know, or ask 152 00:08:01,040 --> 00:08:04,480 Speaker 1: you what you do, but that's a pet peep or 153 00:08:04,640 --> 00:08:08,840 Speaker 1: lying lying to your face is a big pet peeve 154 00:08:08,920 --> 00:08:11,200 Speaker 1: to me, Like they would just straight up lie to 155 00:08:11,280 --> 00:08:13,560 Speaker 1: you your face like oh yeah, we're gonna do that 156 00:08:13,640 --> 00:08:15,120 Speaker 1: for you, and then they don't do it for you. 157 00:08:15,200 --> 00:08:20,560 Speaker 1: But in Hollywood that happens a lot, so man, oh man, 158 00:08:20,800 --> 00:08:24,120 Speaker 1: so many times people in my face like, hey, we're 159 00:08:24,120 --> 00:08:26,600 Speaker 1: gonna do this for you, oh really, really really, and 160 00:08:26,600 --> 00:08:28,840 Speaker 1: then they don't do it for you. So you know, 161 00:08:29,520 --> 00:08:32,640 Speaker 1: it's pretty tough. What makes you the most happy, I 162 00:08:32,720 --> 00:08:35,640 Speaker 1: sound like a broken record. My family. My family makes 163 00:08:35,679 --> 00:08:38,480 Speaker 1: me the most happy. It's tough, having two kids, it's tough, 164 00:08:38,960 --> 00:08:41,520 Speaker 1: it's tough, but man, it's the most fulfilling when you 165 00:08:41,600 --> 00:08:44,240 Speaker 1: had a long day, and one of them walks up 166 00:08:44,240 --> 00:08:45,920 Speaker 1: to you, cuddles with you on the catch and goes, 167 00:08:45,960 --> 00:08:49,040 Speaker 1: I love you. I mean done, it's a wrap. It's 168 00:08:49,120 --> 00:08:52,840 Speaker 1: all worth it right there. What's your ideal Saturday morning? 169 00:08:53,800 --> 00:08:55,760 Speaker 1: I really wake up early every morning. I wake up 170 00:08:55,760 --> 00:08:58,480 Speaker 1: like five six am, and I get all my work 171 00:08:58,520 --> 00:09:01,760 Speaker 1: done on Saturday before all the kids wake up. And 172 00:09:01,760 --> 00:09:04,600 Speaker 1: this pretty much every day. I get everything done so 173 00:09:04,720 --> 00:09:07,800 Speaker 1: then when my kids wake up, they got my full attention. 174 00:09:07,960 --> 00:09:10,360 Speaker 1: So I hate to sound like a broken record, but 175 00:09:11,000 --> 00:09:14,600 Speaker 1: my ideal Saturday is waking up, grabbing the kids, going 176 00:09:14,640 --> 00:09:18,520 Speaker 1: to a park. Wow, I'm so family, going to a 177 00:09:18,600 --> 00:09:20,920 Speaker 1: park and just having some food at a restaurant because 178 00:09:20,960 --> 00:09:24,080 Speaker 1: things are opening up, and just you know, like like 179 00:09:24,200 --> 00:09:26,880 Speaker 1: yesterday we rode the train. You know, they love trains, 180 00:09:26,920 --> 00:09:28,880 Speaker 1: so I just take them on the train around the mall. 181 00:09:29,360 --> 00:09:31,480 Speaker 1: It was it was outdoor mall, but we just got 182 00:09:31,480 --> 00:09:34,079 Speaker 1: in the train that I could barely fit in, and 183 00:09:34,120 --> 00:09:36,520 Speaker 1: we wrote it and just to see them smile was amazing. 184 00:09:37,240 --> 00:09:41,199 Speaker 1: Are you more of an athlete or an armchair quarterback? 185 00:09:41,960 --> 00:09:44,280 Speaker 1: I used to be an athlete. I played college football 186 00:09:44,320 --> 00:09:47,600 Speaker 1: for the University of Arkansas, but now I'm just at 187 00:09:48,760 --> 00:09:52,240 Speaker 1: I'm into stretching more than like working out hard because 188 00:09:52,240 --> 00:09:54,240 Speaker 1: I have friends that are my age that still play 189 00:09:54,320 --> 00:09:57,920 Speaker 1: basketball and get rough playing football and all that stuff. 190 00:09:58,160 --> 00:10:02,679 Speaker 1: Why why you old? You ain't going pro? Why are 191 00:10:02,720 --> 00:10:04,640 Speaker 1: you still? Like my friends will be like I blew 192 00:10:04,720 --> 00:10:07,840 Speaker 1: up my knee playing basketball. It's like, why you almost 193 00:10:07,880 --> 00:10:11,079 Speaker 1: fifty years old? Why are you you think you're going pro? 194 00:10:11,640 --> 00:10:17,360 Speaker 1: There's no sense in you playing basketball anymore. That's ridiculous. Okay, 195 00:10:17,400 --> 00:10:23,760 Speaker 1: so stop it, stop it, um. What keeps you motivated? Man? 196 00:10:24,400 --> 00:10:28,520 Speaker 1: I've always said I I'm never satisfied. I'm always pushing 197 00:10:28,880 --> 00:10:31,760 Speaker 1: and I want that what keeps me It's just a fire. 198 00:10:31,880 --> 00:10:33,840 Speaker 1: Some people got it, some people don't. You know, I 199 00:10:33,880 --> 00:10:36,720 Speaker 1: read a lot of books about motivation, and I'm just 200 00:10:36,880 --> 00:10:39,240 Speaker 1: that dude. Like I always I want to be great. 201 00:10:39,600 --> 00:10:41,560 Speaker 1: I want to be one of the greatest stand up 202 00:10:41,600 --> 00:10:42,880 Speaker 1: comics in the world. I want to be one of 203 00:10:42,920 --> 00:10:45,800 Speaker 1: the greatest actors in the world. I'm still doing radio. 204 00:10:45,840 --> 00:10:47,160 Speaker 1: I want to be one of the greatest in that. 205 00:10:47,360 --> 00:10:49,480 Speaker 1: I want to be one of the greatest in anything 206 00:10:49,720 --> 00:10:53,680 Speaker 1: I do. So that's the fire in me, Like I'm 207 00:10:53,720 --> 00:10:56,720 Speaker 1: not doing it to be Okay, you know, the best 208 00:10:56,760 --> 00:11:00,360 Speaker 1: piece of advice I've ever got was failed fast. So 209 00:11:00,559 --> 00:11:02,719 Speaker 1: fail really fast. So you know what you're not good at, 210 00:11:02,760 --> 00:11:04,520 Speaker 1: so you can focus in on what you're good at. 211 00:11:04,640 --> 00:11:10,160 Speaker 1: So um, yeah, that's that's my loving questions. So there 212 00:11:10,200 --> 00:11:21,720 Speaker 1: you go. All right, So I get excited about this. 213 00:11:22,000 --> 00:11:24,760 Speaker 1: I get to actually talk to you guys that are 214 00:11:24,800 --> 00:11:27,559 Speaker 1: on the phone line. So going to the phone's iris, 215 00:11:27,640 --> 00:11:31,839 Speaker 1: what's going on? Well, okay, here's the deal. I've been 216 00:11:31,840 --> 00:11:34,200 Speaker 1: talking with a bunch of girlfriends. This is not the 217 00:11:34,240 --> 00:11:38,560 Speaker 1: first time this topics come up, but about men just 218 00:11:38,880 --> 00:11:45,920 Speaker 1: not making the effort. It's like wanting to, um, you know, 219 00:11:46,320 --> 00:11:50,199 Speaker 1: pretty much assume that if they don't want to, if 220 00:11:50,200 --> 00:11:51,640 Speaker 1: they want to be with you, they'll find a way. 221 00:11:51,679 --> 00:11:54,800 Speaker 1: They'll move mountains. And it's just so many guys just 222 00:11:54,800 --> 00:11:57,360 Speaker 1: seem like they're not putting in that effort. And I 223 00:11:57,400 --> 00:12:00,200 Speaker 1: don't know they don't if it's just me, they don't 224 00:12:00,200 --> 00:12:03,720 Speaker 1: want to be meaningful relationship or something real, but I 225 00:12:03,720 --> 00:12:06,520 Speaker 1: don't know. It just seems like I hear it too much. 226 00:12:06,640 --> 00:12:11,720 Speaker 1: Maybe my dating radars off. Well, Well, I rest I 227 00:12:11,800 --> 00:12:14,400 Speaker 1: love the question because I'm that guy that all the 228 00:12:14,440 --> 00:12:17,080 Speaker 1: girlfriends come to like. I have so many girl friends 229 00:12:17,120 --> 00:12:19,280 Speaker 1: that come to me for advice and even guys. What 230 00:12:19,320 --> 00:12:22,280 Speaker 1: I think is if a guy really wants you, he 231 00:12:22,320 --> 00:12:26,520 Speaker 1: will move mountains and it happens pretty quick, you know. 232 00:12:26,600 --> 00:12:28,520 Speaker 1: I feel like you know, they say love at first 233 00:12:28,559 --> 00:12:30,719 Speaker 1: sight or you know, right away. With my wife, I 234 00:12:30,800 --> 00:12:34,800 Speaker 1: knew pretty pretty fast. I mean. And and here's the 235 00:12:34,880 --> 00:12:38,400 Speaker 1: thing I used to think, and I wasn't ready to 236 00:12:38,559 --> 00:12:41,319 Speaker 1: settle down. I would always say, well, I'm too busy 237 00:12:41,360 --> 00:12:43,280 Speaker 1: to have a girlfriend or I'm too busy to be 238 00:12:43,320 --> 00:12:45,960 Speaker 1: in a relationship. That was a lie. I just didn't 239 00:12:46,000 --> 00:12:49,600 Speaker 1: find the right one, because all things stop when you 240 00:12:49,640 --> 00:12:52,360 Speaker 1: find the right one and you take time out. How 241 00:12:52,520 --> 00:12:54,719 Speaker 1: fast can I mean, how long does it take this 242 00:12:54,800 --> 00:12:56,680 Speaker 1: in the text to say thinking about you? It takes 243 00:12:56,720 --> 00:12:59,840 Speaker 1: two seconds. So if a guy doesn't have two seconds 244 00:13:00,080 --> 00:13:02,199 Speaker 1: to reach out to you, then he really doesn't want 245 00:13:02,200 --> 00:13:05,120 Speaker 1: to be with you. Good point, and a lot will 246 00:13:05,160 --> 00:13:07,439 Speaker 1: reach out like all day long, but then they don't 247 00:13:07,440 --> 00:13:10,360 Speaker 1: want to drive and make the time to get a 248 00:13:10,360 --> 00:13:12,400 Speaker 1: babysitter or do what they have to do. It's like 249 00:13:12,480 --> 00:13:16,840 Speaker 1: it's still the same thing, Like you gotta understand like 250 00:13:17,040 --> 00:13:19,800 Speaker 1: what I tell people, And this may sound bad to women, 251 00:13:20,040 --> 00:13:23,000 Speaker 1: but women don't change men. To want to be married, 252 00:13:23,280 --> 00:13:25,360 Speaker 1: a man has to be ready to be married. That's 253 00:13:25,400 --> 00:13:28,520 Speaker 1: just my opinion, because no woman could have changed me. 254 00:13:28,640 --> 00:13:31,400 Speaker 1: Like when I met my wife, I was already looking 255 00:13:31,440 --> 00:13:34,400 Speaker 1: for the one I used to date to date, but 256 00:13:34,480 --> 00:13:38,240 Speaker 1: then when I change to date to be married, it's 257 00:13:38,280 --> 00:13:41,600 Speaker 1: totally different dating. So a woman, really, to me, doesn't 258 00:13:41,640 --> 00:13:44,280 Speaker 1: change a man. A man has to change first and 259 00:13:44,320 --> 00:13:48,280 Speaker 1: then find the right one. Good point. I like that. Yeah, 260 00:13:48,480 --> 00:13:51,760 Speaker 1: too many lazy guys out here, but they're lazy. But 261 00:13:51,800 --> 00:13:54,840 Speaker 1: then but if they're lazy, that means they're not really 262 00:13:54,880 --> 00:13:59,199 Speaker 1: in it. Good point. You are, So okay, that's what 263 00:13:59,240 --> 00:14:01,600 Speaker 1: we're gonna talk about, and now we have your opinion. 264 00:14:01,720 --> 00:14:08,600 Speaker 1: So ah, alright, alright, alright, alright, well thanks for the call, 265 00:14:09,280 --> 00:14:14,679 Speaker 1: Thank you, take care bye. Right, Hey, Vicky, how are 266 00:14:14,720 --> 00:14:18,600 Speaker 1: you good? Good? How are you great? What's your question? Um? Okay, 267 00:14:18,720 --> 00:14:22,160 Speaker 1: So I'm in my forties, I don't have kids. Um, 268 00:14:22,200 --> 00:14:26,320 Speaker 1: and finally, UM, I've met someone who is genuine and 269 00:14:26,440 --> 00:14:29,120 Speaker 1: kind and who you know, I can really see myself with. 270 00:14:29,240 --> 00:14:32,840 Speaker 1: So I'm actually falling in love with him. Um. But 271 00:14:33,160 --> 00:14:35,920 Speaker 1: he has four kids and he's going through a divorce, right, 272 00:14:35,960 --> 00:14:39,640 Speaker 1: now and his ex is like very complicated. They don't 273 00:14:39,640 --> 00:14:43,400 Speaker 1: have good like co parenting relationship stuff going on right now. 274 00:14:43,720 --> 00:14:45,560 Speaker 1: So I just I need to know, like should I 275 00:14:45,600 --> 00:14:48,440 Speaker 1: continue dating him or is this just all a big 276 00:14:48,480 --> 00:14:52,600 Speaker 1: red flag? Well? This is this is this is very simple. 277 00:14:53,600 --> 00:14:57,360 Speaker 1: You're taking on another man's family, which is fine, which 278 00:14:57,400 --> 00:15:00,640 Speaker 1: is fine if you if you're fine with starting out 279 00:15:00,680 --> 00:15:03,640 Speaker 1: with four kids, that's what you got. But you know 280 00:15:03,680 --> 00:15:06,520 Speaker 1: the advice I always got, you marry. Uh, you don't 281 00:15:06,560 --> 00:15:09,640 Speaker 1: just marry the person. You marry their family. And part 282 00:15:09,680 --> 00:15:11,960 Speaker 1: of his family is his ex wife that's gonna be 283 00:15:12,000 --> 00:15:14,280 Speaker 1: around for the rest of your life or for the 284 00:15:14,280 --> 00:15:17,080 Speaker 1: rest of her life with the kids, you know. So 285 00:15:17,120 --> 00:15:19,280 Speaker 1: it's just something you're gonna have to deal with now 286 00:15:19,360 --> 00:15:22,720 Speaker 1: whether your love can get through that. Like I don't 287 00:15:22,720 --> 00:15:25,240 Speaker 1: know the personal ins and outs of your relationship, but 288 00:15:25,360 --> 00:15:28,400 Speaker 1: that's very stressful I would imagine for a relationship because 289 00:15:29,120 --> 00:15:31,280 Speaker 1: it puts the guy in a bad position a lot 290 00:15:31,320 --> 00:15:34,640 Speaker 1: of times because he doesn't want a dog on the X. 291 00:15:34,680 --> 00:15:37,000 Speaker 1: Maybe I don't know. I would imagine if it was me, 292 00:15:37,040 --> 00:15:39,080 Speaker 1: I wouldn't want a dog on her. But at the 293 00:15:39,120 --> 00:15:41,520 Speaker 1: same time, I gotta keep a balance where I can't 294 00:15:41,720 --> 00:15:44,680 Speaker 1: dog her, and I can't dog you to her, So 295 00:15:45,000 --> 00:15:47,160 Speaker 1: I'm just trying to like, I'm just kind of stuck 296 00:15:47,200 --> 00:15:48,840 Speaker 1: in the middle, and I want to put it on 297 00:15:48,880 --> 00:15:51,440 Speaker 1: on the guy. If it's about you, it's like, can 298 00:15:51,480 --> 00:15:55,920 Speaker 1: you handle this woman for for however the kids are 299 00:15:56,040 --> 00:15:58,200 Speaker 1: till they're out of the house and making their own decisions. 300 00:15:58,360 --> 00:16:00,480 Speaker 1: That's what it really comes down to. Love this love 301 00:16:00,600 --> 00:16:03,640 Speaker 1: Like if you love this guy, if you really love 302 00:16:03,720 --> 00:16:05,640 Speaker 1: this guy, you can work through it. But just know, 303 00:16:05,840 --> 00:16:08,560 Speaker 1: when you marry him, you're marrying everything about him, not 304 00:16:08,640 --> 00:16:11,880 Speaker 1: just him, and I think people lose focus of that. Yeah, 305 00:16:11,920 --> 00:16:15,400 Speaker 1: that's that makes sense. I have thought about, you know, 306 00:16:15,680 --> 00:16:21,280 Speaker 1: seeing her for for forever, you know, andever forever for 307 00:16:21,680 --> 00:16:23,560 Speaker 1: know you said it right, and that's the mind frame 308 00:16:23,600 --> 00:16:27,200 Speaker 1: you gotta have, is forever, this woman will be in 309 00:16:27,240 --> 00:16:30,920 Speaker 1: my life, even when the kids graduate college or get married, 310 00:16:31,040 --> 00:16:33,400 Speaker 1: or she will be there and you will have to 311 00:16:33,440 --> 00:16:37,000 Speaker 1: deal with her for for vacations, for family get together. 312 00:16:37,120 --> 00:16:40,120 Speaker 1: She will be there. And I don't know your dynamic, 313 00:16:40,360 --> 00:16:42,480 Speaker 1: but if your love for this man and his love 314 00:16:42,560 --> 00:16:45,480 Speaker 1: for you is strong enough, you could work through that. 315 00:16:45,520 --> 00:16:49,840 Speaker 1: But if you're on the border, then it's something you 316 00:16:49,920 --> 00:16:52,640 Speaker 1: really need to think about because it's a lot. It's 317 00:16:52,640 --> 00:16:55,520 Speaker 1: a lot. Yeah, yeah, I know that that makes sense. 318 00:16:55,560 --> 00:16:57,440 Speaker 1: I'm pretty agreeable. I think I can get along with 319 00:16:57,480 --> 00:17:00,600 Speaker 1: anyone and probably make it work. It. Yeah, it's just 320 00:17:00,680 --> 00:17:04,000 Speaker 1: kind of daunting. Just know for the rest of your 321 00:17:04,080 --> 00:17:05,919 Speaker 1: life she will be in your life and if you 322 00:17:05,920 --> 00:17:09,240 Speaker 1: can deal with that mentally wrap your head around that, 323 00:17:09,320 --> 00:17:17,439 Speaker 1: then go for it. All right, Thank you? Vicky. Hey Simone, Hi, Hi, 324 00:17:18,400 --> 00:17:21,720 Speaker 1: I just wanted to ask about first dates, Like I 325 00:17:21,800 --> 00:17:26,080 Speaker 1: got really really nervous on them and really in my 326 00:17:26,160 --> 00:17:29,160 Speaker 1: head about how to act and what to do. And 327 00:17:29,320 --> 00:17:32,600 Speaker 1: I guess I was just wondering, Um, are there any 328 00:17:33,200 --> 00:17:38,119 Speaker 1: like cues or clues that I can get from a guy, 329 00:17:38,680 --> 00:17:41,639 Speaker 1: you know, just to like recognize whether they're into me 330 00:17:41,800 --> 00:17:44,760 Speaker 1: or not? So well, I think I think, I mean, 331 00:17:44,880 --> 00:17:48,080 Speaker 1: I think you're discreding it yourself. I think you need 332 00:17:48,160 --> 00:17:51,000 Speaker 1: to be more worried about are you into him? You 333 00:17:51,000 --> 00:17:52,560 Speaker 1: know what I mean, Like you need to look out 334 00:17:52,560 --> 00:17:55,600 Speaker 1: for yourself first, and if you like the guy, then 335 00:17:55,720 --> 00:17:58,720 Speaker 1: look for cues. But I think the first thing is 336 00:17:58,760 --> 00:18:01,639 Speaker 1: to be more confident in and be like, do I 337 00:18:01,840 --> 00:18:05,480 Speaker 1: want to actually like this guy? And if I do, 338 00:18:05,600 --> 00:18:08,119 Speaker 1: now let's look at the signs now, guy. You know, 339 00:18:08,200 --> 00:18:10,160 Speaker 1: guys are guys, and so as a guy pulls out 340 00:18:10,160 --> 00:18:13,159 Speaker 1: his phone just like a girl, they're not interested, you know. 341 00:18:13,240 --> 00:18:16,359 Speaker 1: So unless he's like a super busy guy that is like, 342 00:18:16,920 --> 00:18:19,399 Speaker 1: you know, has to be on his phone. But still 343 00:18:19,520 --> 00:18:21,800 Speaker 1: you should pay the other person respect and not be 344 00:18:21,880 --> 00:18:24,880 Speaker 1: on your phone. And you know how guys are. I mean, 345 00:18:24,960 --> 00:18:27,800 Speaker 1: if they're kind of like uh huh, they're uh huh 346 00:18:27,800 --> 00:18:31,199 Speaker 1: okay and you and not really listening, then they're not 347 00:18:31,240 --> 00:18:35,280 Speaker 1: into you know. Um, it's it's very guys. Here's the 348 00:18:35,280 --> 00:18:39,240 Speaker 1: thing about guys, terrible liars. So you can it's easy 349 00:18:39,320 --> 00:18:41,280 Speaker 1: to know if a guy is into your not and 350 00:18:41,320 --> 00:18:44,040 Speaker 1: it's not that difficult, you know. I think women want 351 00:18:44,040 --> 00:18:47,240 Speaker 1: to make it difficult, especially if they like the guy, 352 00:18:47,280 --> 00:18:50,160 Speaker 1: and they give the guys all these outs and give 353 00:18:50,200 --> 00:18:53,280 Speaker 1: them second chances and third chances when in their heart 354 00:18:53,359 --> 00:18:56,480 Speaker 1: they know the guys not into him. So I would 355 00:18:56,480 --> 00:18:58,840 Speaker 1: just say be yourself, and I know that's so cliche, 356 00:18:58,960 --> 00:19:02,199 Speaker 1: but be yourself, but forget about the guy liking you. 357 00:19:02,680 --> 00:19:05,399 Speaker 1: Do you like the guy and do you think he 358 00:19:05,440 --> 00:19:08,800 Speaker 1: would be best for you, not the other way around. 359 00:19:08,840 --> 00:19:14,800 Speaker 1: Never put him first, put yourself first. Yeah, okay, okay, 360 00:19:15,200 --> 00:19:17,040 Speaker 1: I just got like a really freaked out on them. 361 00:19:17,040 --> 00:19:20,440 Speaker 1: But thank you. Oh no, just be confident because I 362 00:19:20,520 --> 00:19:23,160 Speaker 1: own it. Girl. You you deserve to be there. Okay, 363 00:19:23,200 --> 00:19:29,480 Speaker 1: you deserve to be happy. Thank you. Alright. Someone, Hey Caitlin, Hi, 364 00:19:29,600 --> 00:19:33,359 Speaker 1: how are you great? Great? What's your question? Okay? I 365 00:19:33,480 --> 00:19:37,200 Speaker 1: recently met a guy through friends, UM, and we all 366 00:19:37,240 --> 00:19:40,920 Speaker 1: went out and had a vibe. It was really really fun. Um. 367 00:19:40,960 --> 00:19:43,280 Speaker 1: But he didn't ask for my number at the end 368 00:19:43,320 --> 00:19:46,000 Speaker 1: of the night. UM. So I was like, okay, but 369 00:19:46,920 --> 00:19:49,520 Speaker 1: my friend said he was kind of shy but like 370 00:19:49,560 --> 00:19:52,240 Speaker 1: super nice, and so he was probably just like too 371 00:19:52,280 --> 00:19:55,320 Speaker 1: scared to be upfront. UM. So I was like, oh 372 00:19:55,359 --> 00:19:58,080 Speaker 1: that's fine. UM. But then I connected with him on 373 00:19:58,200 --> 00:20:03,280 Speaker 1: Instagram and we start to chatting on d M. UM. 374 00:20:03,480 --> 00:20:06,040 Speaker 1: Since it was going well, I offered my number and 375 00:20:06,080 --> 00:20:09,200 Speaker 1: he texted me right away, uh saying you know, hello 376 00:20:09,280 --> 00:20:12,359 Speaker 1: back UM, and he gave me his number as well. 377 00:20:12,880 --> 00:20:17,080 Speaker 1: But UM, now he has like he hasn't said anything else. UM. 378 00:20:17,119 --> 00:20:18,800 Speaker 1: It was just kind of like a quick back and 379 00:20:18,840 --> 00:20:23,120 Speaker 1: forth of exchanging uh, like our numbers, UM, and our 380 00:20:23,160 --> 00:20:26,879 Speaker 1: conversations on Instagram. We're going like really well so I 381 00:20:26,880 --> 00:20:29,760 Speaker 1: don't know should I start another conversation on text and 382 00:20:29,920 --> 00:20:32,520 Speaker 1: like be the one to like kick off that, or 383 00:20:32,760 --> 00:20:34,480 Speaker 1: should I just like wait for him to text me 384 00:20:34,520 --> 00:20:36,880 Speaker 1: again because I don't know. Am I being? Am I 385 00:20:36,960 --> 00:20:39,320 Speaker 1: like the one thing? Well? Let me do you mind 386 00:20:39,359 --> 00:20:42,359 Speaker 1: me asking how old you are or what range of 387 00:20:42,440 --> 00:20:45,760 Speaker 1: age you're in? Yeah, I'm in my thirties, and so 388 00:20:46,280 --> 00:20:49,480 Speaker 1: here's my thing. And I'm different than a lot of guys. 389 00:20:49,600 --> 00:20:52,639 Speaker 1: I might, but I don't feel like in your thirties 390 00:20:52,720 --> 00:20:55,160 Speaker 1: you should be playing games, you know what I mean. 391 00:20:55,280 --> 00:20:57,720 Speaker 1: I I feel like that's a younger thing to do, 392 00:20:57,840 --> 00:21:01,000 Speaker 1: like in your twenties, mid twenties and under what you're 393 00:21:01,000 --> 00:21:06,080 Speaker 1: getting your thirties. If a guy doesn't have the the 394 00:21:06,600 --> 00:21:09,840 Speaker 1: ump to reach out to a woman that he's interested in, 395 00:21:10,000 --> 00:21:12,800 Speaker 1: then that's on him. And I don't know if you 396 00:21:12,840 --> 00:21:16,280 Speaker 1: want that type of person in your life. Yeah, I 397 00:21:16,320 --> 00:21:18,680 Speaker 1: mean this like I'm just hearing this from the outside, 398 00:21:18,680 --> 00:21:21,879 Speaker 1: But if a guy is interested in something a hundred percent, 399 00:21:23,280 --> 00:21:25,640 Speaker 1: I mean, he goes after it. I know I do. 400 00:21:26,240 --> 00:21:30,520 Speaker 1: But even if he's shy, you know, because he's talking 401 00:21:30,560 --> 00:21:33,200 Speaker 1: to you on Instagram and he's talking to you on text, 402 00:21:33,680 --> 00:21:38,239 Speaker 1: So why are you initiating it? That's well, that's how 403 00:21:38,320 --> 00:21:41,320 Speaker 1: Then that answers your question. Like I I feel that 404 00:21:41,480 --> 00:21:44,359 Speaker 1: a lot of times women know the answer, they just 405 00:21:44,400 --> 00:21:47,480 Speaker 1: don't want to believe the answer, you know. And this 406 00:21:47,640 --> 00:21:49,760 Speaker 1: is and it's not just women, let me a lot 407 00:21:49,800 --> 00:21:52,720 Speaker 1: of men too, where if you really like someone, you 408 00:21:52,800 --> 00:21:56,640 Speaker 1: will give them every excuse. But if a friend, if 409 00:21:56,680 --> 00:21:59,200 Speaker 1: I were to say to you, say we were friends Kaylin, 410 00:21:59,400 --> 00:22:02,320 Speaker 1: and I go, there's this girl I keep texting her, 411 00:22:02,359 --> 00:22:04,440 Speaker 1: but she's not really hitting me back and stuff, you'd 412 00:22:04,480 --> 00:22:06,520 Speaker 1: be like, what are you doing? She doesn't like you? 413 00:22:06,520 --> 00:22:09,560 Speaker 1: You know what I mean? So basically, take your problem, 414 00:22:09,680 --> 00:22:12,040 Speaker 1: record it and play it back to yourself, and what 415 00:22:12,080 --> 00:22:15,040 Speaker 1: advice would you give to that person. That's a really 416 00:22:15,240 --> 00:22:17,199 Speaker 1: good point. Actually I would tell my friend that just 417 00:22:17,359 --> 00:22:22,160 Speaker 1: probably um move on. Yeah, yeah, like I I tell 418 00:22:22,200 --> 00:22:26,119 Speaker 1: I tell everybody their their answers to their problems is basically, 419 00:22:26,680 --> 00:22:29,160 Speaker 1: tell a record or your problem and play it back 420 00:22:29,200 --> 00:22:31,679 Speaker 1: and what advice would you give to that And that 421 00:22:31,880 --> 00:22:35,639 Speaker 1: really it kind of simplifies it because if he's not 422 00:22:35,960 --> 00:22:39,520 Speaker 1: coming after you, that either means he's in a relationship 423 00:22:40,240 --> 00:22:44,119 Speaker 1: and he's trying to balance like maybe another person and 424 00:22:44,280 --> 00:22:47,000 Speaker 1: you and really doesn't know how to do it, and 425 00:22:47,080 --> 00:22:48,760 Speaker 1: do you want to be involved with a person like that? 426 00:22:48,960 --> 00:22:51,240 Speaker 1: Or he just has other issue. You never know people's lives. 427 00:22:51,240 --> 00:22:55,200 Speaker 1: He could have issues with money right now, issues with parents, issue, 428 00:22:55,280 --> 00:22:57,800 Speaker 1: who knows, and he doesn't have enough time to be 429 00:22:58,720 --> 00:23:01,159 Speaker 1: to have this in his world. So you never know people. 430 00:23:01,800 --> 00:23:03,880 Speaker 1: You never know what people other people are going through. 431 00:23:04,240 --> 00:23:07,040 Speaker 1: But it seems like he's not aggressive about you, so 432 00:23:07,080 --> 00:23:10,040 Speaker 1: I don't think you should be aggressive about him. Yeah 433 00:23:10,440 --> 00:23:13,480 Speaker 1: he could. Yeah he's shy, but it's still just yeah, 434 00:23:13,560 --> 00:23:18,760 Speaker 1: but shy, shy and not because it's different when I 435 00:23:18,840 --> 00:23:21,640 Speaker 1: was growing up, Like if you were shy, you really 436 00:23:21,640 --> 00:23:23,680 Speaker 1: couldn't talk to anyone because you couldn't text him, you 437 00:23:23,680 --> 00:23:26,760 Speaker 1: can't instagram. You had to walk up to the person 438 00:23:27,080 --> 00:23:30,480 Speaker 1: and actually talk to them. And now guys have all 439 00:23:30,480 --> 00:23:33,400 Speaker 1: these outs where they could just text a person. So 440 00:23:33,760 --> 00:23:35,560 Speaker 1: if he can't even text, I don't know if he's 441 00:23:35,680 --> 00:23:39,880 Speaker 1: worth like you wasting your time. Yeah that's okay, thank 442 00:23:39,920 --> 00:23:45,320 Speaker 1: you for the clarity. That's um that yeah wow yeah alright, 443 00:23:45,359 --> 00:23:48,399 Speaker 1: well thank you, Caitlin, thank you all right, have a 444 00:23:48,440 --> 00:23:53,200 Speaker 1: good one. Hey, Karen, I had a question. Um, now, 445 00:23:53,200 --> 00:23:55,919 Speaker 1: my husband and I have been together for almost twenty years. 446 00:23:56,359 --> 00:23:59,600 Speaker 1: We're dating ten years and we've we've been married for 447 00:23:59,640 --> 00:24:04,160 Speaker 1: ten years. We got two kids, and we both recently 448 00:24:04,359 --> 00:24:09,680 Speaker 1: got promoted in our jobs, so he nice, thank you. Now. 449 00:24:09,720 --> 00:24:12,360 Speaker 1: The kids, though, are active in a lot of sports 450 00:24:12,520 --> 00:24:15,320 Speaker 1: and after school activities and all that kind of stuff. 451 00:24:15,880 --> 00:24:18,320 Speaker 1: And you know, lately, I really feel like I've been 452 00:24:18,359 --> 00:24:21,840 Speaker 1: carrying the load of the household with the kids, and 453 00:24:21,920 --> 00:24:24,679 Speaker 1: I'd really love him to be more involved, you know, 454 00:24:24,920 --> 00:24:27,960 Speaker 1: helping them with their homework and shuffling with their practices 455 00:24:28,119 --> 00:24:32,760 Speaker 1: and stuff. But I mean, he's always so exhausted after work, 456 00:24:33,160 --> 00:24:35,720 Speaker 1: you know, he says he has to distress and things 457 00:24:35,760 --> 00:24:39,600 Speaker 1: like that. Yeah, so my question is is there a 458 00:24:39,640 --> 00:24:42,760 Speaker 1: way to bring up his involvement with the kids without 459 00:24:43,400 --> 00:24:46,720 Speaker 1: you know, making putting more on his plate. I understand. 460 00:24:46,800 --> 00:24:51,600 Speaker 1: I think this is tough because since you both work, 461 00:24:51,720 --> 00:24:54,639 Speaker 1: it's a different story. You know. Like I'm in a 462 00:24:54,680 --> 00:24:57,320 Speaker 1: relationship where I work, but being a mom of two 463 00:24:57,400 --> 00:24:59,280 Speaker 1: is a lot of work too. So my wife she's 464 00:24:59,320 --> 00:25:02,000 Speaker 1: to stay at home um and any time, like, I'm 465 00:25:02,119 --> 00:25:05,840 Speaker 1: very involved though, but anytime she needs me more involved, 466 00:25:05,880 --> 00:25:08,760 Speaker 1: she just she'll just assign me something, you know, and 467 00:25:08,840 --> 00:25:10,760 Speaker 1: I don't know if that's right for all. She'll just 468 00:25:10,800 --> 00:25:12,760 Speaker 1: be like, oh, hey, I gotta do this, but can 469 00:25:12,800 --> 00:25:16,560 Speaker 1: you take the kids? Uh blah blah blah, and and 470 00:25:16,600 --> 00:25:19,400 Speaker 1: this is this is kind of what to me, Men 471 00:25:19,480 --> 00:25:21,919 Speaker 1: are better being told what to do than having a 472 00:25:22,000 --> 00:25:25,720 Speaker 1: conversation about it, you know, and like because when you were, 473 00:25:25,880 --> 00:25:28,119 Speaker 1: when we have a conversation about we'll find out. But 474 00:25:28,200 --> 00:25:30,280 Speaker 1: if you're like, oh, I'm doing this today, but I 475 00:25:30,320 --> 00:25:32,480 Speaker 1: need you to take the kids to school, most guys 476 00:25:32,680 --> 00:25:36,320 Speaker 1: be like, Okay, that sounds simple, you know. So I 477 00:25:36,320 --> 00:25:39,800 Speaker 1: mean the whole conversation and not wanting to offend them 478 00:25:39,800 --> 00:25:43,680 Speaker 1: because you both work, you know, I just say one day, 479 00:25:43,760 --> 00:25:46,679 Speaker 1: just go, hey, I gotta do this, so can you 480 00:25:46,720 --> 00:25:49,720 Speaker 1: take two kids to practice? And I know you're tired. 481 00:25:49,760 --> 00:25:52,040 Speaker 1: You'd be empathetic because I'm sure he is with you 482 00:25:52,119 --> 00:25:54,560 Speaker 1: at times, but you gotta be empathetic and go, I 483 00:25:54,680 --> 00:25:57,080 Speaker 1: know you're tired, but I need to do this project. 484 00:25:57,119 --> 00:25:58,560 Speaker 1: So I need you to take the kids to this 485 00:25:59,280 --> 00:26:01,680 Speaker 1: and see where it goes from there, you know, because 486 00:26:02,840 --> 00:26:05,639 Speaker 1: there's no excuse where both parents shouldn't be involved in 487 00:26:05,640 --> 00:26:08,679 Speaker 1: the kid's life, you know what I mean, instead of 488 00:26:08,720 --> 00:26:10,520 Speaker 1: just saying, you know, do more, just be a little 489 00:26:10,520 --> 00:26:14,240 Speaker 1: more specific. Yeah. Yeah, that's like somebody saying be a 490 00:26:14,240 --> 00:26:16,840 Speaker 1: better person. You're like, okay, what do you what do 491 00:26:16,880 --> 00:26:19,359 Speaker 1: you mean? What's wrong with me? Well? I want you 492 00:26:19,400 --> 00:26:22,320 Speaker 1: to be a better person and listen more when I talk. 493 00:26:22,720 --> 00:26:26,359 Speaker 1: Now you're specific, right, instead of just I need you 494 00:26:26,440 --> 00:26:27,920 Speaker 1: to help out, like I would be like, well, what 495 00:26:28,000 --> 00:26:31,600 Speaker 1: are you talking about about? This is the first defense 496 00:26:31,680 --> 00:26:33,840 Speaker 1: mechanism a guy goes to if a woman says be 497 00:26:34,520 --> 00:26:37,280 Speaker 1: be uh you need to be more helpful. Well, I work, 498 00:26:37,320 --> 00:26:39,560 Speaker 1: I bring money home, I do this, and so we 499 00:26:39,640 --> 00:26:42,399 Speaker 1: get defensive. But if you're like just like, oh, hey, 500 00:26:42,600 --> 00:26:45,000 Speaker 1: can you do this for me because I'm doing this, 501 00:26:45,880 --> 00:26:49,200 Speaker 1: then you'll find out where a guy really is on things. 502 00:26:49,359 --> 00:26:52,879 Speaker 1: You know what I mean? Let's be more specific and 503 00:26:52,920 --> 00:26:56,800 Speaker 1: more and more. Guys. Look, my friends they always say 504 00:26:56,880 --> 00:26:58,879 Speaker 1: my wife told me to do this this, and she 505 00:26:58,920 --> 00:27:01,639 Speaker 1: didn't say do stuff. She said I gotta go to 506 00:27:01,720 --> 00:27:03,600 Speaker 1: this store, pick up this, I gotta do this, and 507 00:27:03,640 --> 00:27:06,680 Speaker 1: I gotta take the kids here. You know, guys were 508 00:27:06,680 --> 00:27:09,639 Speaker 1: not that bright. You need to tell us exactly, because 509 00:27:09,680 --> 00:27:13,320 Speaker 1: we like our thing is, we don't analyze what's going on. 510 00:27:13,840 --> 00:27:16,040 Speaker 1: We're just we just like, but if you tell us 511 00:27:16,240 --> 00:27:18,040 Speaker 1: I need you to do the garbage today, I need 512 00:27:18,080 --> 00:27:20,040 Speaker 1: you to run the kids to school. We're like, all right, cool, 513 00:27:20,119 --> 00:27:23,280 Speaker 1: I got it. But if you go, hey, just help out, 514 00:27:23,520 --> 00:27:28,639 Speaker 1: We're like, I thought I was helping out. Okay, that's 515 00:27:28,680 --> 00:27:31,439 Speaker 1: actually really helpful. Thank you. It just maybe I just 516 00:27:31,480 --> 00:27:34,919 Speaker 1: confused him by saying, you know, help mark, yeah, because 517 00:27:34,920 --> 00:27:37,199 Speaker 1: we don't know what that means. We're dumb. Remember, we 518 00:27:37,280 --> 00:27:39,800 Speaker 1: are dumb, Like, we don't know what that means. But 519 00:27:39,880 --> 00:27:42,320 Speaker 1: if you say take the kids to school, we go, oh, 520 00:27:42,359 --> 00:27:45,600 Speaker 1: I know what that means. Okay, great. Oh that was 521 00:27:45,640 --> 00:27:49,119 Speaker 1: so hopeful. Thank you, you bet you care. Have a 522 00:27:49,160 --> 00:28:02,040 Speaker 1: great one. Thanks you to take care well. I had 523 00:28:02,040 --> 00:28:04,320 Speaker 1: a blast on how men think. And I gotta say 524 00:28:04,359 --> 00:28:06,440 Speaker 1: thank you for all the phone calls. If you want 525 00:28:06,440 --> 00:28:09,160 Speaker 1: to follow me on Instagram, hit me up at Michael Yo. 526 00:28:09,440 --> 00:28:14,919 Speaker 1: But my new comedy special drops March seventh. I'm so 527 00:28:15,000 --> 00:28:17,560 Speaker 1: excited about it. 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