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Speaker 1: Today's Daily Highlight from Elvis Duran in the Morning show.

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Speaker 2: Okay, Gandhi and I.

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Speaker 3: Were having dinner one night and she said, we have

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Speaker 3: this friend who used to be high, high, high, high

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Speaker 3: up in the military. Yes, oh yeah, very powerful. General

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Speaker 3: general is way up there, right.

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Speaker 4: It was a master something. I'm gonna get it wrong,

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Speaker 4: so I don't even want to try there.

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Speaker 3: The word general general is in his title, I think, so, okay,

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Speaker 3: Well he's up there. So we talked about how he

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Speaker 3: is now. He's no longer in the military. Now, his

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Speaker 3: his biggest ambition every day is to go out and garden.

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Speaker 2: Right.

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Speaker 4: He likes he loves flowers, he likes horses, and he

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Speaker 4: likes coaching kids.

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Speaker 2: He's a great dude.

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Speaker 3: So the question is how much do you care about

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Speaker 3: what someone used to do, So can you.

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Speaker 2: Tell the whole story? Yeah, okay, So he's married.

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Speaker 4: He's married. I was having a conversation with him and

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Speaker 4: his wife and I asked them how they met. It's

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Speaker 4: one of my favorite things to ask people. And he

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Speaker 4: was a coach at a CrossFit Jim and initially she

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Speaker 4: didn't want to date him because she said, I don't

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Speaker 4: want to date a CrossFit coach, and he said, do

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Speaker 4: you have any idea what I used to be? Like,

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Speaker 4: I'm not just a CrossFit coach. I ascended all the

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Speaker 4: way to the top of the military, and I retired

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Speaker 4: at a very young age because I started when I

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Speaker 4: was eighteen years old. I'm set for the rest of

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Speaker 4: my life as far as you know, like benefits and

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Speaker 4: all these different things. But it didn't matter because that's

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Speaker 4: not what he was doing at the moment. You see

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Speaker 4: people for what they're doing at the moment, but so

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Speaker 4: many people did all these other things before whatever they're

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Speaker 4: doing right now. So how much do we ever think

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Speaker 4: about that? I don't think.

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Speaker 2: People do well.

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Speaker 3: So we brought it up, you know, selfishly talking about us.

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Speaker 3: My thing is one day when I'm not doing this,

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Speaker 3: yeah you know, I mean this is not nearly as

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Speaker 3: important as a general in the military, but yeah, you

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Speaker 3: know it's a thing, right, Yes, one day I'll just

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Speaker 3: be doing something relaxing and normal.

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Speaker 5: Right.

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Speaker 3: Will it matter what I did before then? Or is

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Speaker 3: it where I am then that matters? Is that what

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Speaker 3: the question is?

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Speaker 4: Yeah, I mean that's what we were talking about. You know.

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Speaker 4: I think that because I had we ended up having

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Speaker 4: this conversation with other people who were like, no, it's

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Speaker 4: a really big deal what somebody used to be. And

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Speaker 4: I said to that person, I understand. And maybe once

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Speaker 4: you get to know somebody you understand that that's more important.

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Speaker 4: But at the moment, when you just meet someone, you're

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Speaker 4: not giving them a rundown of who you used to be.

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Speaker 4: You're giving them a definition of what you are right now.

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Speaker 4: And I think that's why it's also really important not

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Speaker 4: to define people by careers. But I think it's just

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Speaker 4: a wild thing that you go, especially you know, people

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Speaker 4: who are in these fields, like the military, police officers, firefighters,

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Speaker 4: they had this sort of like built in level of

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Speaker 4: respect for a long time, and if you go long enough,

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Speaker 4: you just expect that from the world. But the world's

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Speaker 4: not just going to give you that. They don't know that.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, Like, if you were a heart surgeon at one

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Speaker 1: time saving lives, right and now you're retired and just

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Speaker 1: hanging out and gardening, and I meet you and you're like, yo,

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Speaker 1: what do you do? Well, you know, I spend the

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Speaker 1: weekends gardening and I relax, and I didn't know, Oh,

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Speaker 1: you are a heart surgeon in the past. What would

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Speaker 1: you go out with them.

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Speaker 2: Well, here's the thing.

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Speaker 3: You're still the same person, but you're you're assuming that

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Speaker 3: they still are as talented, learning and owning things and

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Speaker 3: whatever as they were when they did that professional but

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Speaker 3: now they're just gardening. So your level of respect should

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Speaker 3: remain the same. Lesson is a question.

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Speaker 1: I think it shoul remain the same the same.

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Speaker 4: Well, I think the absolutely you should respect people regardless.

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Speaker 4: I'm just saying, I think to people that don't know

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Speaker 4: all the things you used to do, you can't just

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Speaker 4: go into a situation expecting that you're going to get

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Speaker 4: a certain level of respect or admiration without people knowing

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Speaker 4: what's going on and them just assuming that you did

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Speaker 6: They have no idea about it.

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Speaker 3: Hey, so when I have a listener on the phone,

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Speaker 3: I sometimes say, hey, what do you do?

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Speaker 2: Maybe I should now ask, well, hey.

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Speaker 3: What do you do and what did you used to do?

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Speaker 2: Explain your peak, give us your entire story? What a boot?

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Speaker 4: Yeah, I don't know, it's it's such an interesting dance.

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Speaker 4: But again, when then we started talking about maybe happy ending,

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Speaker 4: because that was sort of the whole point of this play,

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Speaker 4: which was retired robots, and they didn't know what to

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Speaker 4: do with themselves when they were no longer in service.

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Speaker 4: They didn't know how to identify themselves. They didn't know

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Speaker 4: who they were because that's what they were their whole lives.

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Speaker 4: But you're so much more than just this one part

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Speaker 4: of your life.

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Speaker 2: You're lots of parts of your life. What's scary was.

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Speaker 5: Up when you've had such a massively, highly decorated career

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Speaker 5: and then you go to something else that's a lesser

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Speaker 5: decorated career. I feel like your you know, your former

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Speaker 5: career over kind of overshadows, so it becomes kind of

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Speaker 5: part of the current conversation. So you can't avoid that

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Speaker 5: you are Elvis Durant. Even if you're an ice cream

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Speaker 5: man somewhere in the future and you're serving ice cream

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Speaker 5: to people, you're still it's us to come up that

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Speaker 5: you because you've had this massive career as Elvis.

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Speaker 2: It's a part of you, you know, Okay, Well, you

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Speaker 2: know me, I downplay that a little bit.

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Speaker 3: Okay, let's okay, but I can the President of the

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Speaker 3: United States, Okay, whether you voted for him or not.

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Speaker 3: The dude out of the office and done with office,

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Speaker 3: out of the White House is still the president or

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Speaker 3: he was he served as arguably one of the most

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Speaker 3: powerful men in the world. Right, So now he's you know,

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Speaker 3: working on the scream truck selling ice cream.

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Speaker 2: You know what I'm saying. So you look, you walk

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Speaker 2: up to get your cone, You're like, oh my god,

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Speaker 2: what are you doing here?

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Speaker 3: And you show him or her depending on when that

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Speaker 3: that that level of respect that someone you had no

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Speaker 3: clue about in their past, you wouldn't, right, so you

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Speaker 3: never know someone serving your ice cream to you was

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Speaker 3: a general in the army or maybe or someone who

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Speaker 3: he actually served overseas in several theaters of war.

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Speaker 2: What do you think, Froggy?

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Speaker 7: So, I think it always talk about when when people

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Speaker 7: when we leave this world, what is the footprint you

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Speaker 7: left behind?

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Speaker 2: What did you do?

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Speaker 7: But you don't know what you don't know about somebody,

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Speaker 7: So therefore you want to respect people, give them the

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Speaker 7: respect that they deserve without knowing what they've done. It

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Speaker 7: really doesn't change how you should treat somebody when you

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Speaker 7: don't know anything about them. I think we all start

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Speaker 7: at a level, like to say, you start at level five.

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Speaker 7: That level can get higher, the level could get lower

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Speaker 7: if they show you disrespect. However, I think it's key

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Speaker 7: to respect people until you have a reason not to.

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Speaker 3: Well, there you go, so now and you just start

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Speaker 3: working harder on being disrespected.

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Speaker 1: Are well, if you're a jackass, I don't care what

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Speaker 1: you do for a.

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Speaker 3: Living, Well, okay, what if you're now a priest and

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Speaker 3: you're saving lives or whatever, and you can say, well,

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Speaker 3: I gotta tell you I used to be a jackass.

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Speaker 4: But it can't work that way too, Right if you

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Speaker 4: went to if you did something bad in your past,

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Speaker 4: you went to prison and you got out and you've

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Speaker 4: changed your life, do people still hold you to that?

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Speaker 4: You would hope not.

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Speaker 1: So it ends on what you did.

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Speaker 4: It matters where you are in the world at the moment.

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Speaker 2: Nate, have you thought about this? I'm thinking about it now.

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Speaker 6: There's so many different levels to this because, for instance, legacy, right, legacy.

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Speaker 6: I was out last night and went to this bar

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Speaker 6: called Terra Blues. Have you been there now? Kind of

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Speaker 6: a blues bar, and there's blues performers and all of

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Speaker 6: and it just got me to think that that is

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Speaker 6: a legacy to a certain part. This person is no

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Speaker 6: longer with us, but they're still being remembered, And how

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Speaker 6: will I be remembered one day? Will will people even

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Speaker 6: remember me? And you know, you're on this planet for

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Speaker 6: a finite period of time, and you know, what are

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Speaker 6: you making of it? You have so little time to

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Speaker 6: make an impact on yourself and on other people's lives,

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Speaker 6: and how are you going to leave this place?

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Speaker 8: Well?

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Speaker 2: Exactly.

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Speaker 3: And we always talk about legacy and how important it is.

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Speaker 3: The thing is, is you leave your legacy, you cause

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Speaker 3: that blip in the universe that you cause while you're

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Speaker 3: here doing whatever it is you do to and then

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Speaker 3: after you pass away, it slowly fades and then after

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Speaker 3: a while, no one's gonna know or care unless you

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Speaker 3: were a supreme being like I started the country. I'm

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Speaker 3: George Washington. Hey, mother, Efferzi, Oh remember me?

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Speaker 4: You know, it's just really it's like a testament to

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Speaker 4: it not being as important like who you were as

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Speaker 4: it is who you are. Who you were isn't that

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Speaker 4: huge of a deal because that's in the past now,

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Speaker 4: and it doesn't mean it hasn't shaped you. But who

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Speaker 4: you are now is what everybody sees and what they

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Speaker 4: interact with. And I think yes, it's I don't even

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Speaker 4: think it's really about respect. I think it's just about

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Speaker 4: evolution and leaning into what you are now, not holding

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Speaker 4: onto as much as what you used to be. Seems

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Speaker 4: like a way to be miserable is always talking about.

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Speaker 2: What you used to be.

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Speaker 3: So obviously in the conversation the story about your friend

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Speaker 3: and his wife, yeah obviously she saw past the Oh yeah,

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Speaker 3: he's a CrossFit trainer and I wanted more from that

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Speaker 3: in my husband.

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Speaker 2: And now they're fun.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, oh absolutely, And he's not a miserable person at all.

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Speaker 4: I just thought it was really interesting that he's like, Wow,

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Speaker 4: that's what you see? Is what's here right now? You

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Speaker 4: have no idea what I did before?

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Speaker 2: He get Jamie here. Let's see what she's all about

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Speaker 2: right here? Hi, Jamie? How are you? Jamie?

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Speaker 3: I don't know.

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Speaker 2: There?

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Speaker 8: You know? Hi?

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Speaker 2: Good morning?

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Speaker 3: How's everything in beautiful sunny West Palm Beach, Florida.

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Speaker 8: It's beautiful today.

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Speaker 3: I think I wish we were there, all right. So

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Speaker 3: you work in transitional housing. Describe how that can fit

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Speaker 3: into this conversation.

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Speaker 8: So this is actually, this is really close to my heart.

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Speaker 8: I work with clients that are chronically homeless, and so

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Speaker 8: we see these people on the street, and we assume

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Speaker 8: that they are addicted to drugs, to reassume that they

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Speaker 8: have meant to illness, to reassume, like, we just assume

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Speaker 8: all sorts of things. And I have a client that

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Speaker 8: So we just we don't know, we don't we don't

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Speaker 2: You just never know. Absolutely. I don't know.

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Speaker 3: When I meet people, I typically just think they're I

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Speaker 8: Don't exactly until you otherwise.

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Speaker 2: Actually it's after I know you for a while, Nate.

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Speaker 3: Every everyone's everyone starts out at that same level of greatness,

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Speaker 2: But what's that scary? What if I was a porn

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Speaker 1: And if you were a porn star, he probably noticed

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Speaker 8: Well, not only that I am five years in recovery,

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Speaker 3: So we just we never know, Okay, see, we never

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Speaker 2: Does it make sense? It may not be fun much?

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Speaker 3: to know people is so vitally important. Judging judging people

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Speaker 2: Absolutely, all right, thank you for listening to us.

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Speaker 8: Jamie, Thank you so much, Love you guys so much,

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Speaker 4: About the evolution of a human being, and that the

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Speaker 2: That makes sense. Yeah, okay, But of course we should

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Speaker 3: Right anyway, So as you've gotten too the day, think

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Speaker 2: And you'll never know about them. We must assume that

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I feel like it's the same thing when someone's

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