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Speaker 1: I see.

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Speaker 2: This is from Aaron on Steve Harvey. He says, my

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Speaker 2: girlfriend of two years asked me to loan her thirty

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Speaker 2: five hundred dollars to help with some credit card debt.

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Speaker 2: I love her and could easily lend her the money,

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Speaker 2: but something about loaning her money makes me uncomfortable. I'm

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Speaker 2: afraid it could change the dynamic of our relationship or

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Speaker 2: cause resentment down the line. What should I do? Is

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Speaker 2: it a bad idea to mix money and relationships? Should

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Speaker 2: I just give her the money instead?

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Speaker 1: Well, just like this man, that was going to be

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Speaker 1: my suggestion, give it to if you don't want it,

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Speaker 1: to give it to. Give her the money and then

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Speaker 1: let's have a real conversation. Do you see a future

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Speaker 1: with this girl? If the answer is yes, then give

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Speaker 1: her the money. Two years see, and you must see

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Speaker 1: a future with this girl. That's why you wrote the letter.

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Speaker 1: But see stopped listening to all these young boys that's

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Speaker 1: out here today taking care of a woman. Do you understand, man,

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Speaker 1: that as a man, we have two major credentials requirements

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Speaker 1: of as men, Protection and provision. Those are the two

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Speaker 1: things that every man is required as a part of

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Speaker 1: being a man. Now you will provide for a wife

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Speaker 1: and a family one day. That's your job. That's a duty.

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Speaker 1: But that's just like a woman. There's children. They the

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Speaker 1: only ones can do that. That's major. Man. If you

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Speaker 1: want a family and you go to a woman and

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Speaker 1: you want kids, guess what. She's the manufacturing producer of life,

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Speaker 1: the only one. So now if that's herd obligation and

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Speaker 1: duty in the relationship, where your is at tacheach. So

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Speaker 1: you have to practice like you gonna play, because if

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Speaker 1: you want the woman to take care of you, you're

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Speaker 1: gonna have to take care of a one. And I

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Speaker 1: got news for you when you read it. When you

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Speaker 1: really get a good woman, you can't outgive it. I

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Speaker 1: don't give a damn what you do. You can buy cars,

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Speaker 1: swimming pools, houses. When they get in your corner and

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Speaker 1: they do what they do that only they know how

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Speaker 1: to do. Dog, that's when your life can take off.

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Speaker 1: It's like this, man, I have a relationship with my wife.

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Speaker 1: We have a real understanding here. And it took me

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Speaker 1: a minute to get to this because I had been

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Speaker 1: jacked up in previous relationships and I had some scars.

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Speaker 1: I build the empire. She got to take care of

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Speaker 1: the empire. Once I found out that that's what she

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Speaker 1: was really about, it freed me up to get into

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Speaker 1: the building business. But if you gonna build the empire,

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Speaker 1: tend to the empire, manage the empire, watch the empire,

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Speaker 1: orchestrate the empire and all this and then watch all

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Speaker 1: the money. But just don't take away from your time

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Speaker 1: to build. So what you want to end up with

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Speaker 1: is a woman with some with the potential to be

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Speaker 1: a partner. So my simple question to you is, if

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Speaker 1: you see a future with this woman, I think you do,

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Speaker 1: just give it the money, because loaning the money, you

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Speaker 1: think it a change the dynamics of the relationship. Loan

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Speaker 1: or give dog. Which one you want to do. Loan

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Speaker 1: of the money if you don't see no future and

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Speaker 1: then mess your relationship because you already think that's what's

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Speaker 1: gonna happen. Or if you see a relationship, give it

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Speaker 1: the money.

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Speaker 2: Why is that you think such a hard concept to grasp.

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Speaker 1: Nowadays, a lot of young men are not being raised

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Speaker 1: by father and that's a sad dynamic, and that's not

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Speaker 1: being taught as young men. I was very fortunate and

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Speaker 1: that I had my father until I was forty and

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Speaker 1: he made it clear to me and my brothers. It's you.

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Speaker 1: It's your job as a man to protect and provide.

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Speaker 1: You may not be a good talker, you may not

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Speaker 1: be a good listener. You know, you might fail in communications,

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Speaker 1: You might fail in nurture. You might not know how

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Speaker 1: to take care when they get sick. You might not,

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Speaker 1: but you asked better be there to protect her and

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Speaker 1: make sure she got what she needed. That's your job.

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Speaker 1: I mean, what else you want to do. If a

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Speaker 1: woman can make the baby, what do you got to

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Speaker 1: make You can't make a way man, Please stop that,

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Speaker 1: stop and start understanding that as men, it is our

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Speaker 1: job to make away. This thing. Ain't finna be even?

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Speaker 1: Who told you that you can't make a baby? So high?

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Speaker 1: It's going to ever be even? Man, Get out of here,

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Speaker 1: all right.

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Speaker 2: up at twenty minutes after. Right after this, you're listening

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