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Speaker 1: This is Oh, we're gonna call her tired hamster, longtime listener,
Speaker 1: first time writer.
Speaker 3: I love that. I love you guys, Thanks.
Speaker 1: So much for sharing your wisdom, jokes, and good vibes
Speaker 1: with us every week. Send to you, guys, lots of love,
Speaker 1: love received, Thank you, girl. I am five years into
Speaker 1: a new career. Made a career switch five years ago.
Speaker 1: I reached senior level at my nine to five, but
Speaker 1: I also work a remote job five days a week,
Speaker 1: including seven hours on most weekends. That I'm part of
Speaker 1: myself for managing two jobs for more than two years. However,
Speaker 1: I got the remote job during the pandemic when we
Speaker 1: were all stuck inside and figure, why not use my
Speaker 1: time as well? That remote job is easy, pays decent
Speaker 1: money and comes with great benefits and a pension and
Speaker 1: help me to pay for a wedding and home and
Speaker 1: home down payment expenses and just overall has come in
Speaker 1: handy to cover inflation and interest rates increases on my mortgage.
Speaker 1: Over the last year, both jobs grossed over what one
Speaker 1: hundred thousand dollars and I'm the breadwinner in my household. Girl,
Speaker 1: you know there's underemployed, and there's employees you were overemployed.
Speaker 1: There's not going to have This is incredible two hundred
Speaker 1: thousand dollars year jobs. Plus I can't let go of
Speaker 1: either job right now as I need the income from both.
Speaker 1: I'd also like to get pregnant in the near future
Speaker 1: and understand that I won't be able to sustain both
Speaker 1: jobs with this many structured hours along with being a mom. Okay,
Speaker 1: please offer any advice you can, as Sis feels stuck
Speaker 1: and tired. I don't, girl, I'm actually put tired like
Speaker 1: and clothes like. We don't know what t I eedy, girl,
Speaker 1: We're black, we know taed Okay, I'm trying to see
Speaker 1: the path to getting off the hamster wheel, but I'm
Speaker 1: getting discouraged. Appreciate any online big sister advice you guys
Speaker 1: can offer tired hamster a more context. She has three
Speaker 1: months of emergency funded that's funded, and she has eighteen
Speaker 1: thousand invested. Oh hamster, ham ham hammy ham. So maybe
Speaker 1: this sounds like yo, your cup of taytay honey.
Speaker 2: Well, I mean, no wonder you're so tired. As I
Speaker 2: was reading it, I was like, so, how long can
Speaker 2: you keep this up for? And it makes sense to
Speaker 2: me that you don't have children, because yeah, you know,
Speaker 2: wayh in hell you could do that if you I mean,
Speaker 2: if you could either like work you know, two jobs,
Speaker 2: or you could like see your kids. So you know,
Speaker 2: I'm not judging either way. If you want to not
Speaker 2: see your kids, you can keep the jobs. But it
Speaker 2: sounds like you want to see your kids. Something's got
Speaker 2: to give. I think that's like the clear thing here.
Speaker 2: I can't make either of these jobs suddenly bring in
Speaker 2: the same amount of money, so you can drop one.
Speaker 2: What I'm concerned about is, right now you say you
Speaker 2: can't like go be the job as you need the
Speaker 2: income from both. I want to know why you need
Speaker 2: that income. Part of me is worried that you started
Speaker 2: living like your expenses got to wear. You could only
Speaker 2: afford what you spend based on your income. That's troubling.
Speaker 2: Although I am like really proud of you for using
Speaker 2: that money to pay for your wedding and your home down.
Speaker 2: Oh you said a hometown payment. So now I'm worried.
Speaker 2: Is it that your mortgage is too expensive for what
Speaker 2: you make at one of the jobs versus the other.
Speaker 2: I want to say to you that you have permission
Speaker 2: to get off of the hamster will that you make
Speaker 2: for yourself that has served you for a time, and
Speaker 2: now you got to think it's something different. And I
Speaker 2: think that that for you is going to look like
Speaker 2: either one of these jobs stays and you reduce your
Speaker 2: lifestyle to where you can afford it, or you look
Speaker 2: for ways to get a raise, get more money at
Speaker 2: one of these jobs, or find another job that can
Speaker 2: pay you you know what you want, so that you
Speaker 2: can maintain your lifestyle. That's like, off the top of
Speaker 2: my head, I just I gave the same advice to
Speaker 2: a Mandi moneymaker who had been long term unemployed since
Speaker 2: last December, and she was working.
Speaker 3: I don't want to give away everything.
Speaker 2: But three part time jobs because that's how much she
Speaker 2: wanted to be able to sustain the lifestyle she had
Speaker 2: from when she had a full time job. Okay, and
Speaker 2: she still wanted to be job searching. And I was like,
Speaker 2: so at a certain point, sanity and time parking like
Speaker 2: undervalued versus money for stuff and things, you know. And
Speaker 2: I'm like, if you continue, you know, stressing yourself trying
Speaker 2: to maintain this lifestyle, You're you're gonna end up like
Speaker 2: tired hamster just tie, you know, and like something's going
Speaker 2: to have to give. And it may not lead, like
Speaker 2: it may mean reducing your your expenses or you know,
Speaker 2: scaling back somewhere, which which it won't feel good. But
Speaker 2: when you feel better, when you're getting more sleep, when
Speaker 2: you have free time to do things that you enjoy,
Speaker 2: like not working.
Speaker 1: Yeah seven hours on the weekend, here's my concern with
Speaker 1: like this, Like I'm setting aside the financial part right
Speaker 1: that man I talked about my concern of like the
Speaker 1: emotional drain and the physical drain in your body. I mean,
Speaker 1: I'll never know for sure, but you know, I wasn't
Speaker 1: able to have kids. Jurale and I tried, and although
Speaker 1: there is like some hereditary thing where like my my eggs,
Speaker 1: you know, typically your eggs start to decline, you know,
Speaker 1: like I think they say, like at past thirty you're like,
Speaker 1: you know, you drop by fifty percent of your ability
Speaker 1: to get pregnant, thirty five even more.
Speaker 3: But my eggs started to.
Speaker 1: Decline earlier than the average woman. But so I think
Speaker 1: to myself, had I not been so busy, maybe I
Speaker 1: could have tried earlier or too. You know, there was
Speaker 1: just a level of stress and overwork and overwhelmed that
Speaker 1: like even when I did, like before we started IVF,
Speaker 1: I did get pregnant, but didn't know I was filled
Speaker 1: with fibroids because who had time to go the doctor regularly?
Speaker 3: And so I lost the baby.
Speaker 1: You know, as a result of that, there was like
Speaker 1: I knew I was having a miscarriage because I could
Speaker 1: just tell so much pain. I just didn't realize the
Speaker 1: harm that I was doing to my body, not just
Speaker 1: my body, but my mind. And because I was not
Speaker 1: taking care of myself, you know, I didn't know I
Speaker 1: had fibroids when I went to I remember just thinkly
Speaker 1: going to the emergency room, you know, being so scared
Speaker 1: that I'm like, I'm losing a baby, and the doctors
Speaker 1: that the emergency doctor is saying, are you sure you're pregnant?
Speaker 1: I'm like, yeah, I took another test. I was like why,
Speaker 1: He's like, I can't see anything but five words and
Speaker 1: I could tell. He was like, how do you not know?
Speaker 1: I had not carved that any time to take care
Speaker 1: of myself. And so I just say all that to
Speaker 1: say that, you know, a lot of my friends who
Speaker 1: are in their like mid to late thirties and early forties,
Speaker 1: you know, are starting to think about family planning now
Speaker 1: because they postponed and some of them won't have any issues,
Speaker 1: some of them will be able to have babies with
Speaker 1: the assistance of medical assistants, and some of them may
Speaker 1: not ever be able to have, you know, children. And
Speaker 1: so if having children this is for anybody listening, not
Speaker 1: just Hamster wheelm If having children is important to you
Speaker 1: and something that you're wanting to do, then you want
Speaker 1: to prioritize that above all else, because there is a
Speaker 1: limit for women. You know, they tell you can have
Speaker 1: it all, you can have it all. Yeah, when it
Speaker 1: comes to having children, there is a biological limit. And
Speaker 1: then to pretend that if you want to physically have
Speaker 1: your own children now, you know, you can always adopt
Speaker 1: the other things, you know, certainly, but if you want
Speaker 1: to physically give birth to your own baby, you know,
Speaker 1: there is a limit about when that can happen, and
Speaker 1: it drops the older you get. So you want to
Speaker 1: consider one either prioritizing having children now, or two, at
Speaker 1: the very least, consider maybe freezing your eggs. Because the
Speaker 1: beautiful thing about eggs is that if you freeze your
Speaker 1: eggs at twenty eight and then you don't get them implanted,
Speaker 1: you know, until you're like, say forty, it's still a
Speaker 1: twenty eight year old egg. So as long as your
Speaker 1: body is fit, the egg has not aged. Does that
Speaker 1: make sense? And I didn't know that, And I wish that,
Speaker 1: like somebody would have tapped me on the shoulder and said, hey, busy, Tiffany.
Speaker 1: At twenty nine or twenty eight, when you still had
Speaker 1: good insurance or whatever, you know, you could freeze your
Speaker 1: eggs now and still have like this really viable like
Speaker 1: series of eggs. And then when you're thirty seven and
Speaker 1: still really fit and healthy, you can have a baby
Speaker 1: with a younger egg because your body is more than capable.
Speaker 1: So just consider that as well, especially since you have
Speaker 1: a few time me you have a pension all that
Speaker 1: usually those types of jobs have health care that might
Speaker 1: cover that. To just consider that that, Like I get it,
Speaker 1: money is so important in this world. We cannot navigate,
Speaker 1: we cannot eat, we can't anything without money. So I
Speaker 1: understand that, but you know, don't want to forget about
Speaker 1: like there has to be life lived, you know, like
Speaker 1: money is made to pay all the bills and things
Speaker 1: like that, but you know, think about what do you
Speaker 1: have to do in order to also live life beyond
Speaker 1: just making a ton of money.
Speaker 3: So just keep that in mind.
Speaker 2: Yeah, it just reminds me of how difficult it is
Speaker 2: to see yourselves, to see ourselves as any other version
Speaker 2: than we are right now. If we're young and healthy,
Speaker 2: it's really hard to imagine yourself as tired and physically
Speaker 2: debilitated is that a word? Then, as you'll be when
Speaker 2: you are pregnant and in the months after. And my
Speaker 2: second pregnancy was so much worse than my first in
Speaker 2: terms of the impact to my body, and I was like, oh,
Speaker 2: this is what it feels like to just be like,
Speaker 2: I don't know, I'm just old and paying from all
Speaker 2: different places and like you don't want to do it
Speaker 2: and just anyway, it's hard. And I think that you're
Speaker 2: building a life for yourself, for the version of yourself
Speaker 2: that you are now, Like you have the energy and
Speaker 2: you do this, you do these things, and this is
Speaker 2: sort of the risk of matching your lifestyle expenses to
Speaker 2: the money that you're earning. Because if you have to
Speaker 2: keep like generating more and more income to pay for
Speaker 2: the lifestyle that you're creating, how long can you sustain that?
Speaker 2: And what version of yourself do you have to be
Speaker 2: for that long time to be able to sustain it?
Speaker 2: And I'm not saying I want to believe that we
Speaker 2: can all be Serena Williams in the Australian Open months
Speaker 2: and months pregnant, like yes we can do that. Yes
Speaker 2: we can be on tour with Beyonce seven months pregnant
Speaker 2: with a trombone just like killing it. Absolutely. But those
Speaker 2: are you know, very interest very unique exceptions, right, And
Speaker 2: I doubt and they were only doing that one thing,
Speaker 2: you know what I mean, They weren't also working one
Speaker 2: hundred hours a week. So just just think about that
Speaker 2: and yeah, take some of the pressure off yourself too, because,
Speaker 2: like Tip said, the pressure of being the breadwinner and
Speaker 2: having two jobs. Just because you can doesn't mean you should.
Speaker 1: Yes, ooh that's the word. Ooh, that's a little be
Speaker 1: the name. Hey, PRODUCERMANI I feel like that's a good
Speaker 1: title for this. So just because you can't doesn't mean
Speaker 1: you should. Yeah, or maybe can doesn't mean you should.
Speaker 3: Yeah.
Speaker 2: Time to start saying no for making money just for
Speaker 2: the sake of it, and saying yes to what you
Speaker 2: really want, your value, and but thank yourself for doing
Speaker 2: the grind while you could grind.
Speaker 3: Yeah, you know. Yes, it's then to take a break. Yeah,
Speaker 3: let's take a quick break.
Speaker 2: Thank you, tired hampstare be right back with another question,
Speaker 2: another heavy one. Yeah, all right, so we're back with
Speaker 2: our next question. This is from listener. We'll call her Crossroads,
Speaker 2: bone Dogsn't Harmony, cross Roads. See you at the cross
Speaker 2: That video used to scare the crap out of me.
Speaker 3: You couldn't tell me that those black eyes like I'm
Speaker 3: going to miss the body.
Speaker 2: Yes, I won't just be petrified but glued to VH
Speaker 2: one watching them Anyway, another heavy question. I kind of
Speaker 2: feel like this is the time that we're in now
Speaker 2: is a lot of people dealing with the economy and
Speaker 2: also just the past three years of grinding and grinding
Speaker 2: and grinding in the week of the pandemic. But let's
Speaker 2: get into it. Crossroads says, I'm a faithful listener of
Speaker 2: Brown Ambition. I love the advice you provide weekly. Here's
Speaker 2: my situation. I've been on the job search since January
Speaker 2: of twenty two, when I left my full time jobs
Speaker 2: because when I left my full time job because I
Speaker 2: was experiencing racism from my supervisor and colleagues, and I
Speaker 2: left feeling unsafe in my work environment. I have over
Speaker 2: a decade of full time work experience in my field
Speaker 2: at the time, and currently I have been a full
Speaker 2: time PhD student, which allowed me to be a graduate
Speaker 2: assistant to make ends meet. Now I've been applying and interviewing,
Speaker 2: sometimes for four and five rounds for a job, but
Speaker 2: no job offer, or I would get through the interview
Speaker 2: and get a low ball offer, which I know if
Speaker 2: I took it, it would set me back in my career.
Speaker 2: I'm near the end of my PhD program and I
Speaker 2: need to secure position. At this point, I'm considering switching
Speaker 2: industries because it shouldn't be this difficult to secure a
Speaker 2: role in my field when there are always openings. My
Speaker 2: PhD field is broad and would allow me the flexibility
Speaker 2: to work in many industries. I've been trying my best
Speaker 2: to stay upbeat and optimistic, but this situation has taken
Speaker 2: a toll on me. My question is should I continue
Speaker 2: to apply for roles in my current field or make
Speaker 2: a career switch and rebuild for context. I am in
Speaker 2: my mid thirties, no kids, no spouse. Thank you in advancing,
Speaker 2: congratulations on your new bundle.
Speaker 3: Oh thank you.
Speaker 1: This is tough. Well, I would say that, Yeah, I
Speaker 1: mean knocking on a door that's always closed, you know,
Speaker 1: I think, I mean it's one it's obviously gonna take.
Speaker 1: I'm loving that you're trying to stay optimistic, but it's
Speaker 1: gonna take a toll. How would that not take a toll?
Speaker 1: And you switching industries? At first I thought you were
Speaker 1: like almost like you were gonna ditch the PhD program
Speaker 1: and just switch up. But that doesn't sound like that.
Speaker 1: It sounds like you're like, no, no, that with my PhD,
Speaker 1: that it could cover a wide range of industries awesome,
Speaker 1: and that you know it would it would mean and
Speaker 1: you're thinking, like you're gonna be starting from scratch, and
Speaker 1: certainly you'll be starting, you know, maybe a different industry,
Speaker 1: but not super from scratch, because you have a PhD
Speaker 1: and you still have experiences that transfer over And so, honestly, I,
Speaker 1: for my own sake, insanity, I probably would start to explore,
Speaker 1: like what other ways can I use my PhD in
Speaker 1: industries that I'm interested in exploring? Because maybe that's a sign,
Speaker 1: you know that it's like, I mean, I don't know
Speaker 1: if the current industry that you're in that racism, because
Speaker 1: there are some industries it's baked in, you know, and
Speaker 1: maybe that's like this kind of like divine sign that's like, sis,
Speaker 1: you don't want to be over here.
Speaker 3: You know that.
Speaker 1: That racism is baked into this particular way of navigating
Speaker 1: and that you know you can use your PhD in
Speaker 1: these six other ways choose your adventure. So maybe that's
Speaker 1: a sign. And you're young, honestly, and I know sometimes
Speaker 1: we think to ourselves like I'm not young anymore, thirty something.
Speaker 1: I'm like, girl, you got three in front of your
Speaker 1: in your number. You are, you know, in the relative
Speaker 1: scope of things. You are, and you're able to switch,
Speaker 1: you know, and your decision is not going to affect
Speaker 1: whether or not a kid is going to eat or not.
Speaker 1: Your spouse will be able to I know it's harder
Speaker 1: because you don't have a partner to potentially help with
Speaker 1: bills being paid, but to continue to get knocked back down.
Speaker 1: I just think that what I don't Oh, my god,
Speaker 1: on them. No, no, this is my sister. Oh sorry,
Speaker 1: I don't know how to turn you know, like my
Speaker 1: computer always rings.
Speaker 3: I'm like, I looked at.
Speaker 2: H just say does you do you have Siri turned on?
Speaker 3: Yes?
Speaker 2: Or do you have a little Siri button do Siri?
Speaker 3: Say?
Speaker 2: Hey, Siri, put on do not disturb.
Speaker 3: Please put on do not disturb.
Speaker 2: Okay, do not disturb is now on?
Speaker 3: Thanks Siri.
Speaker 2: And then also, I'm gonna on your computer do the
Speaker 2: same thing because on your top left, if you see
Speaker 2: like a little Sirie.
Speaker 3: Icon, click it.
Speaker 1: Do I see it?
Speaker 2: Oh?
Speaker 3: I do.
Speaker 2: It's like the little.
Speaker 3: Place on do not disturb. Oh my god, no, don't
Speaker 3: play a song.
Speaker 2: My Jesus, I thought you said play play not place
Speaker 2: turn on do not disturb It's like song not play.
Speaker 1: You need to keep this anybody, let the people get
Speaker 1: how we struggle. Oh well, we'll always wrap it up,
Speaker 1: but I'm gonna do that later.
Speaker 2: I'm just trying to make sure you never ever leave
Speaker 2: the iPhone and just stay an iPhone user.
Speaker 3: So in any way, I can no But like, what
Speaker 3: are we saying?
Speaker 1: Oh, yeah, it's a it was just about to pick
Speaker 1: up yeah, pa oh.
Speaker 2: I think the hardest thing is you're Yes, you have been.
Speaker 2: So you've been job searching since January twenty twenty two.
Speaker 2: You've also been a PhD program, and I think you're
Speaker 2: heading into this and it's a tough job market. I
Speaker 2: don't I wish I knew what industry you were in
Speaker 2: so I can give like real nuanced or more specific advice,
Speaker 2: but just in general, job interview fatigue will hit the
Speaker 2: best of us, especially if it's not leading to any offers.
Speaker 2: So I'm down for a pivot. I'm always down. I'm
Speaker 2: down for being and even like calling it a pivot,
Speaker 2: which I don't mind the word pivot. But I also
Speaker 2: I just don't want people to feel like it has
Speaker 2: to be some big tough decision like should.
Speaker 3: I pivot, pivott.
Speaker 2: You know, like the drama. Just try maybe something different,
Speaker 2: try a different direction, and see if you get better
Speaker 2: results from that. You know. I feel like the skills
Speaker 2: that you've developed for the past decade, like you said,
Speaker 2: you can apply them to probably many other types of
Speaker 2: jobs or industries. So I think if you could be
Speaker 2: a little creative, that would be awesome. Maybe it's take
Speaker 2: your skills and try a different industry, take your PhD
Speaker 2: and apply that to the industry you were in, but
Speaker 2: come at it from a different, you know, job level.
Speaker 2: I'm just trying to show you that there's there's overlap,
Speaker 2: you know, and there may be opportunities that are not
Speaker 2: exactly what you were doing before, but that could be
Speaker 2: a great fit if you just think a little bit
Speaker 2: more creatively about the skills that you have, the education
Speaker 2: that you've acquired through your PhD program, and how those
Speaker 2: can come together to provide value for a company. And
Speaker 2: also if you've i know, you've been interviewing for you know,
Speaker 2: a year or so almost you know, year and a half.
Speaker 2: At the same time, don't worry so much about job titles.
Speaker 2: Sometimes I like to encourage people to search for jobs
Speaker 2: blind from the job title, because it can mean different things,
Speaker 2: and the pay may not even be that great, but
Speaker 2: you may get caught up and looking for a certain title.
Speaker 2: And at this point a year and a half in
Speaker 2: some industries, a lot can change, Trends can go in
Speaker 2: and out of style. So look for job descriptions and
Speaker 2: job skills that work for you and do what you
Speaker 2: can to beef up that network. I always I feel like,
Speaker 2: if you're someone who's getting interviews but you're not getting
Speaker 2: to the final round, I want to start asking you
Speaker 2: know what has if there's been any feedback, Is it
Speaker 2: that they're just doing internal candidates? Is it that there
Speaker 2: was someone else who just had a little bit more this,
Speaker 2: that and the third? And it may not just be
Speaker 2: because you lack something, but it could be because someone
Speaker 2: had a connection, or they knew someone or had a referral. Well,
Speaker 2: how can you get yourself some personal endorsements, some referral,
Speaker 2: some connections, and how can we, you know, start building
Speaker 2: up that network so that you can go in even
Speaker 2: stronger to the next job interview. That's what I'll say,
Speaker 2: And I'll also just say try and take a break
Speaker 2: and try and give yourself some grace because what you're
Speaker 2: describing is really frustrating. It's okay to be really tired
Speaker 2: and really frustrated, but you can be tired and frustrated
Speaker 2: and to give yourself a break, but then you got
Speaker 2: to get back at it. Because what's the alternative of
Speaker 2: your life is you have You're only in your thirties.
Speaker 2: There's no way this is the period on the paragraph
Speaker 2: of your life, my friend, Like, there's no way there's
Speaker 2: stuff that's coming after this. You know you're gonna get there.
Speaker 2: I like to sometimes imagine myself like one two five
Speaker 2: years in the future, thinking, oh, that's not a problem
Speaker 2: for her anymore. She's a way past that. So kind
Speaker 2: of just whatever you can do for your mindset to
Speaker 2: to help yourself see past the struggle and the challenge
Speaker 2: that'll help you get you know, get through it. Yeah,
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