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Speaker 2: Is it that your mortgage is too expensive for what

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Speaker 2: I want to say to you that you have permission

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Speaker 2: now you got to think it's something different. And I

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Speaker 3: I don't want to give away everything.

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Speaker 2: You know, like the drama. Just try maybe something different,

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Speaker 2: how can you get yourself some personal endorsements, some referral,

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Speaker 2: And I'll also just say try and take a break

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Speaker 2: I like to sometimes imagine myself like one two five

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Speaker 2: of just whatever you can do for your mindset to

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Speaker 2: all right to two questions from b A listeners. You

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