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Speaker 1: Reason Choice Media.
Speaker 2: Welcome, Welcome.
Speaker 1: So I think that we're going to utilize as mini
Speaker 1: pod as a time to get some feedback from listeners
Speaker 1: and viewers. I mean, we're a quarter in. We had
Speaker 1: our quarterly chat with the team. Actually the team was
Speaker 1: just me, Andrew and Angela last week, Nick, go on
Speaker 1: mute please yeah he Nick, Nick.
Speaker 3: I have a condition. I just looked this up.
Speaker 1: I actually do really have more than we have more
Speaker 1: than one condition.
Speaker 3: Thanks, thank you so much.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I'm here for you. So one of the things
Speaker 1: we want to talk about is we want to do
Speaker 1: a wellness check of everybody who's here and present the
Speaker 1: host of the show. I wish Tiffany was here so
Speaker 1: she can do a wellness check with us and check
Speaker 1: her posts and temperature on everything she's doing. And then
Speaker 1: we wanted to see what you guys like or don't like.
Speaker 1: We've been experimenting with guest hosts. If you have a
Speaker 1: guest host that you like a lot, that you want
Speaker 1: Angela to sign a Reason Choice, you need to put
Speaker 1: that in the comments. Or if there's somebody you want
Speaker 1: us to add to the show or if you just
Speaker 1: want to hit a three of us just kind of
Speaker 1: we carry each other. We carry each other in fascinating ways.
Speaker 1: Apparently Andrew is the brother I never wanted.
Speaker 4: Oh god, I'm the big brother, the big brother that
Speaker 4: Bakari just doesn't want to listen to.
Speaker 2: He's gonna pull his hair out before he has to listen.
Speaker 1: I listen to you. I just don't want you to
Speaker 1: know that I listened to you.
Speaker 2: There goes, he's my brother, Marcus shout out to you.
Speaker 1: That I tell everybody who will listen that I have
Speaker 1: uh a humility deficit. I know that I'm self aware.
Speaker 3: To I don't think anybody needed to be told that
Speaker 3: I was going to I.
Speaker 1: Was a comma so that I was gonna I was
Speaker 1: gonna say though, However, in this game of politics, there's
Speaker 1: only one person who I would consider to be more
Speaker 1: talented than I and that and I've always.
Speaker 5: Said that he is more talented than you.
Speaker 1: You know, I'm getting better though by the day.
Speaker 3: So uh, oh my god, Andrew. So here comes a
Speaker 3: compliment and it's coming.
Speaker 5: But you know what's soap about you guys? You guys
Speaker 5: are are different. I wouldn't say Andrews more talented than you.
Speaker 5: He is talented in a different way. And that is
Speaker 5: why you all compliment each other.
Speaker 2: It's not even put the phone.
Speaker 3: Down so you can hear the freaking compliment.
Speaker 2: No, I'm not giving him a compliment.
Speaker 4: Not today, No, no, not any day.
Speaker 2: I'm joking.
Speaker 4: I see people think I have at least I'm told
Speaker 4: I have heat.
Speaker 1: For it was considered uncomfortable banter.
Speaker 4: A brother that I will take any day a week,
Speaker 4: and in so many ways he actually does remind me
Speaker 4: of my brother Marcus, because Marcus is actually the most
Speaker 4: self assured man I knew up until Bakari, and given
Speaker 4: what gets doled out for us and our community, all
Speaker 4: of us, we could stand to have more men, black
Speaker 4: men and women standing up more self assured without the
Speaker 4: need of validation and confirmation every second of the day
Speaker 4: from the world that if you don't, as past us says,
Speaker 4: if you can't clap, I'll clap for myself. But that's
Speaker 4: a we know that a part of that is a
Speaker 4: veneer because we're being honest.
Speaker 2: We're coming off of a very honest show around how it.
Speaker 4: Is that we have expectations of how folks have to
Speaker 4: show up, so we know. A part of that is
Speaker 4: the veneer, but also a part of that is is
Speaker 4: that they've been loved on and supported and held up.
Speaker 4: Weighs good, bad, big and small. That lets the world
Speaker 4: know that I love you and there's nothing you can
Speaker 4: do about it, you know. And I love that that
Speaker 4: you know that we can say that for each other
Speaker 4: and mean it.
Speaker 2: So yeah, that's it. That's the closest you get to
Speaker 2: a compliment today.
Speaker 1: I was trying to find the compliment. I thought it
Speaker 1: was coming.
Speaker 2: Nope, it's not. That's the closest we getting today.
Speaker 1: So what are you doing? Angela asked a question, what
Speaker 1: are you doing to take care of Andrew Gillen?
Speaker 4: You know what, I'm running ragged behind our kids and
Speaker 4: as raggedy as it runs us. And I know you
Speaker 4: know this, but Uber driver, that's I'm a bus driver.
Speaker 4: You got, uber, I'm a bus driver. I got three kids,
Speaker 4: plus their friends and and teammates being being run around.
Speaker 4: But I have to tell you it's exhausting. But I
Speaker 4: wouldn't be another place in the world.
Speaker 1: If I couldn't answer my question.
Speaker 4: This is this is this is the answer, which is
Speaker 4: as exhausting as it is living in service to trying
Speaker 4: to make other little people good big people. I couldn't
Speaker 4: think of anything better I would want to do right
Speaker 4: now than to have that role. And what I want
Speaker 4: to do for myself, and that's like just for me,
Speaker 4: just for me, just for me, is say no to
Speaker 4: some of the things that I don't say no.
Speaker 1: I got to learn how to say now. I think
Speaker 1: that Angela and Andrew do not do a great job
Speaker 1: of being selfish. I think that you guys suck at that.
Speaker 1: I think that y'all have to learn how to say
Speaker 1: no to people. I think that you got to create
Speaker 1: more space for yourselves. I think that you have to
Speaker 1: be intentional about Andrew and Angela. And that's what I
Speaker 1: just learned that. So that's one of the things my
Speaker 1: therapist told me about. So I'm trying.
Speaker 4: I love it. I think that you know one selfish
Speaker 4: thing I does. I oversleep anytime we have to travel
Speaker 4: for oh my god, if my kids do not come
Speaker 4: in the room to wake me up, I will sleep.
Speaker 1: I am gonna se and apparently will sleep too the
Speaker 1: whole show back there.
Speaker 5: I want to tell these people how Andrew will have
Speaker 5: us on high alert wellness checks thinking, well me my
Speaker 5: anxieties to her for this, I am like what And
Speaker 5: then you know my dad is in the hospital. My
Speaker 5: g like get up and answer a phone, answer the
Speaker 5: room phone, answer your work phone, answer your regular phone,
Speaker 5: answer a door.
Speaker 2: I'll get the door. If I hear I'll answer all
Speaker 2: those things.
Speaker 5: But they bang on the door, like five, go knock
Speaker 5: on the door with the cell phone.
Speaker 3: What.
Speaker 1: I can't sleep at seven o'clock. I'm up every morning.
Speaker 1: And then I used to sell my kids on the
Speaker 1: way to school. I just can't. Guy. I feel because
Speaker 1: I feel like I'm gone too much and that that
Speaker 1: drives me crazy, even though I'm gone as much as
Speaker 1: I don't leave for leisure as much as required. And
Speaker 1: I hate that, and so I always it's like my
Speaker 1: heart wakes up because I don't I actually I haven't.
Speaker 1: I probably have not slept six continuous hours. And because
Speaker 1: I don't know, I don't.
Speaker 2: I don't remember either. I don't remember that.
Speaker 1: I normally I'm assuming that's not healthy.
Speaker 2: It's not healthy.
Speaker 5: And by the way, no, it depends on your body type.
Speaker 5: It depends on your body at all. No, I slept
Speaker 5: for seven hours yesterday.
Speaker 1: Good friend, that's really good.
Speaker 5: But yes, I woke up tired. So today I did
Speaker 5: about five and I'm like, let's go.
Speaker 1: Well that that's a study that says that your brain
Speaker 1: is delusional and they say that when you get less
Speaker 1: than seven, then you operate thinking that you're functional and
Speaker 1: you're not. I'll send you to study if you get it.
Speaker 4: I want to see it because I can get you
Speaker 4: can go up and act like you are on Buddy Rabbits,
Speaker 4: but if you get four, you're going to be a daze.
Speaker 4: Anything between four and under and under eight you're like, yeah.
Speaker 1: You're.
Speaker 5: I just all I can tell you. There's I will
Speaker 5: find it. But there's something that talks about the different
Speaker 5: body types. There's some folks at need like nine or ten.
Speaker 5: And then it just I don't know, I think. And
Speaker 5: then there are times where I can take like a
Speaker 5: twenty minute nap or something and I'm good. But I
Speaker 5: just got to tell you this season of life. I
Speaker 5: remember reading something from Michelle Obama talking about she had
Speaker 5: to be selfish in the morning and get like her
Speaker 5: one you know, hour workout in she would watch Barack
Speaker 5: Obama like leave the house and he would just do
Speaker 5: his workout and She's like who told him he could
Speaker 5: do that. Like, that's not fair, right, and so she
Speaker 5: said she stopped asking for permission and show she started
Speaker 5: doing hers at like four or five in the morning,
Speaker 5: but while she still had her time, and recently it
Speaker 5: was just, you know, just a few weeks ago, I
Speaker 5: just was like, I need to find my thing, Like
Speaker 5: my selfish time is going to be my bath.
Speaker 3: You know, I'm gonna.
Speaker 5: Sit there until I can't sit there anymore. I'ma I'm
Speaker 5: gonna find my workout time. I'm gonna do something for
Speaker 5: my physical body every single day because I can't even
Speaker 5: be of service to my parents.
Speaker 3: When she first said it, I was like, why can't
Speaker 3: she just go? And I didn't know I didn't have kids.
Speaker 5: Then I still, you know, don't have birth children, but
Speaker 5: I have a lot of kids I care for, and
Speaker 5: then my parents, and so now I'm like, oh, I
Speaker 5: have to be very calculated and rigid even about routine,
Speaker 5: or it won't come. I can be like, well, I'll
Speaker 5: just do it later, and that later will never come.
Speaker 5: So I will say, but Cary, I'm a little more
Speaker 5: selfish than you think. My mom is an acupuncture right now,
Speaker 5: I'll be right on the table next to her. Okay,
Speaker 5: my dad, I'm making him do it now so we
Speaker 5: can regulate this hard situation. I go to therapy. I
Speaker 5: do not miss my therapy appointment. Shout out to doctor Tamabrian. Yes,
Speaker 5: she is amazing.
Speaker 1: But I'm alive.
Speaker 5: That's not true. You're just lying. I actually have been
Speaker 5: in therapy. Oh I thought he said my no, he
Speaker 5: I think he is. He's disrespectful.
Speaker 1: It's fine.
Speaker 5: Michael Bacari Jordan would number, but I think there's that.
Speaker 5: There's all types of healing modalities that I fully for
Speaker 5: black folks, somatic therapy, breath work like well, you guys,
Speaker 5: I can't remember if I told you all this or not,
Speaker 5: but when my dad was in the emergency room last time,
Speaker 5: his blood pressure that top number except meta.
Speaker 1: If you meditated, did breath work, it came down.
Speaker 5: Right, nine minutes nine minutes of meditation and it came
Speaker 5: down forty points. And so even if you just have
Speaker 5: to find your breath during the day, y'all, find your
Speaker 5: breath and breathe in, you know, slow for for seconds,
Speaker 5: breathe out for six and just do that. Just pause,
Speaker 5: look around you, look at the beauty around you. I
Speaker 5: promise you. It's Gary said on our last show, like
Speaker 5: things might be bad, but you just want to make
Speaker 5: sure you wake up every day to see another day.
Speaker 5: It's not promised. And so I think that we can't
Speaker 5: take any moment for granted. I think that is a
Speaker 5: type of self care, being grateful and yeah, go shopping
Speaker 5: if you can.
Speaker 1: Oh, I'm in hot yoga right now, y'all. Y'all don't know.
Speaker 1: You know, people people laugh at me when I talk
Speaker 1: to him about hot yoga. I go to hot yoga
Speaker 1: studio Fire in Columbia and people are like, oh, man,
Speaker 1: you just go because there's a bunch of college girls
Speaker 1: in there. I'm like, you don't even see them. You
Speaker 1: are trying to survive. You were about to die in there.
Speaker 2: This is why I don't do you hot. I did
Speaker 2: that yoga a few times.
Speaker 3: Did you get ahead? Aa?
Speaker 1: No, I was.
Speaker 2: Slipping and sliding all over.
Speaker 1: I got the grippy socks for you.
Speaker 2: Different matter. I came undone.
Speaker 1: Six thirty. Tomorrow morning, I will be I will be
Speaker 1: in fire flow to doing positions I cannot do, looking
Speaker 1: like a baby deer.
Speaker 2: I told you, Marcus, this is what Marcus does in Chicago.
Speaker 1: But I'm in there, just my legs shaking, my stork.
Speaker 1: My stork is good, but uh, my warrior, my warrior
Speaker 1: Warrior three or whatever it's called. And i'd be in
Speaker 1: that struggle. And then I almost passed out in one
Speaker 1: of them last Sunday because I got up too fast.
Speaker 1: They tell you, they tell you to roll, they roll
Speaker 1: over to you, and I did. I did the happy
Speaker 1: baby and call myself rolling up almost fell out.
Speaker 4: If you haven't done it, this is what I love
Speaker 4: and this is a this is a treat when I
Speaker 4: can do it?
Speaker 2: Is this just you go to messus, but all you
Speaker 2: do is stress.
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, I've done that.
Speaker 4: Oh my god, I've never felt like so your body
Speaker 4: just feels yeah because you didn't even know you needed
Speaker 4: to do that there? And could I do that by myself.
Speaker 1: I've been doing pilates too, that's a good one. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I've been doing a lot of pilates. So my hip,
Speaker 1: my hips are bad, and so I've been doing plates.
Speaker 1: And let me just tell you about pilates. Man Ellen
Speaker 1: is enjoying my pilates.
Speaker 4: I am going to I am looser, go ahead and
Speaker 4: get us ready to close out.
Speaker 1: I didn't even catch Ellen gives me.
Speaker 2: I come back home from PG from Pilates.
Speaker 5: Maybe well, speaking of PG thirteen, I do want to
Speaker 5: tell y'all this last thing when my dad was getting
Speaker 5: told about this vertibal artery stint that.
Speaker 1: What can you tell me? Because you said it you
Speaker 1: put in the chat, I don't know what is that
Speaker 1: if you don't mind me.
Speaker 5: Basically, my dad has been having these dizzy spells and
Speaker 5: dry heaving, and so they thought that it was related
Speaker 5: to blood flow to the brain and he was getting
Speaker 5: ready to have a stroke. So he has his left
Speaker 5: vertebral artery, which is the artery that pumps blood to
Speaker 5: your brain from the back of your necks to right
Speaker 5: here for those that can see at home, is completely closed,
Speaker 5: and then his right one had some blockage as well.
Speaker 5: So they went in to try to do this stint
Speaker 5: procedure and they couldn't because again the left was completely
Speaker 5: closed and the right was too small.
Speaker 3: But they said his blood flow is really good.
Speaker 5: The challenges are more heart related, so Papa Rye's got
Speaker 5: some changes to make around cholesterol on the diet working out.
Speaker 5: Apparently pacing, even when you're nervous and anxious, does not
Speaker 5: count for your steps to the day because the intention
Speaker 5: is not to make your body feel better, so you
Speaker 5: have to do something different. And then blood pressure you
Speaker 5: have to regulate and lower the blood pressure point is
Speaker 5: you guys, When we were getting reefed on what the
Speaker 5: procedure was going to be, they told him that they
Speaker 5: would have to go in through through the groin. So
Speaker 5: my dad, you know, waits a little while and he
Speaker 5: looks at the doctor and he said.
Speaker 3: So, why you gotta go through my nuts? Sir?
Speaker 5: They're not gonna go through your nuts. They're gonna go
Speaker 5: through he said, We're going through. Sure, it's a it's
Speaker 5: a G procedure, So rated G procedure. We're going to
Speaker 5: the top of your thigh. But I just want y'all
Speaker 5: to know that Poppa Rye is crazy at all times.
Speaker 4: I love that through my nuts.
Speaker 3: They didn't. They was never going through his nuts.
Speaker 1: Got it?
Speaker 2: This is worse than ever.
Speaker 1: What are you talking?
Speaker 2: I'll tell you later.
Speaker 4: I know what the doctor is talking about where they
Speaker 4: go through the thigh area.
Speaker 2: I know what he's talking about.
Speaker 4: But it's the upper thigh. Yeah, I know exactly where
Speaker 4: what he's talking about.
Speaker 3: It's not the nuts.
Speaker 4: I know exactly what he's talking about and the car
Speaker 4: and I will discuss it later.
Speaker 3: You have to get a RD.
Speaker 2: We will fill you in appropriate.
Speaker 1: I don't.
Speaker 5: Okay, all right, I don't know what just happened, guys. Sorry,
Speaker 5: blame paper Rye.
Speaker 1: Yes, we love Poparae. All right. Welcome home, y'all, Welcome home,
Speaker 1: Welcome home.
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