Speaker 1: Imagine you had a ladder and the only step on
Speaker 1: the ladder was the step at the top, which you
Speaker 1: got you right to the top of where you wanted
Speaker 1: to go, but there were no other steps. Well, you
Speaker 1: might jump up and down a bit, you might try
Speaker 1: and reach that top step. Once you reach it, then
Speaker 1: you're going to pull yourself up. And when you pull
Speaker 1: yourself up, you're gonna use all your upper body standers
Speaker 1: try and then you probably fall. How many of you've
Speaker 1: experienced that and you're yeah, when you're trying to gain
Speaker 1: your news resolutions or your big goals because you only
Speaker 1: ever built the top step. Hey everyone, welcome back to
Speaker 1: On Purpose, the number one health podcast in the world,
Speaker 1: helping you become happier, healthier, and more healed. I am
Speaker 1: so excited for twenty twenty three. I hope you are
Speaker 1: as well. Thank you for choosing on Purpose once again.
Speaker 1: I am just so humbled by your commitment, your growth,
Speaker 1: your love. The reviews have just been so beautiful. I
Speaker 1: hope you had the most incredible break. I hope you
Speaker 1: are able to take out time to reflect, to renew
Speaker 1: and this episode is my favorite framework for growth and
Speaker 1: goal setting. This is the framework that I stand by,
Speaker 1: I swear by, I use it every single year and
Speaker 1: I can't wait to see it take effect and make
Speaker 1: an impact in your year this year, and so make
Speaker 1: sure you get your notepads out, your pens out, your
Speaker 1: notes on your iPhone out, whatever you use. This is
Speaker 1: going to be one that's going to transform your year.
Speaker 1: And I'm so pumped you're listening to this. Thanks for
Speaker 1: being here. I want you to have an incredible year.
Speaker 1: I want you to have an incredible day, week, month.
Speaker 1: I want you to just have the year you've been wishing,
Speaker 1: wanting and waiting to have for such a long time.
Speaker 1: And the best thing is this year, we get to
Speaker 1: start it together right, no matter how busy things get,
Speaker 1: no matter how hectic things get, no matter how crazy
Speaker 1: things get, I want you to connect with me here
Speaker 1: every single week because here's the thing. It's the consistency
Speaker 1: that keeps you going. It's the consistency that builds a momentum.
Speaker 1: It's the consistency that breaks down those barriers, that lets
Speaker 1: you help those breakthroughs. It's the consistency that makes everything
Speaker 1: else possible, even the days when you're like, oh I
Speaker 1: can't today, I can't make time when you make time
Speaker 1: on that day, that's when the magic happens. That's when
Speaker 1: incredible things start to happen in your life. It's when
Speaker 1: you don't want to when you do, that's when you
Speaker 1: see shifts and change in your life. But we're literally
Speaker 1: walking into a new decade, right We're walking into a
Speaker 1: new decade, a new moment in our lives. The last
Speaker 1: decade is there, it's gone. You've reflected, you've learned, you've
Speaker 1: left behind, and now it's time to start anew. Now,
Speaker 1: when we're writing the story of our lives, imagine we've
Speaker 1: just finished chapter nineteen and you've now started chapter twenty.
Speaker 1: It's very what's the right word, it's very interesting and
Speaker 1: intriguing and curious to want to go back to chapter
Speaker 1: nineteen or eighteen and seventy and keep rereading it. Nostalgia memories, lessons, mistakes, failures.
Speaker 1: It's easy to go live in the past because it's
Speaker 1: already written. But chapter twenty you're writing it right now,
Speaker 1: so you haven't started living it yet. So it's somewhat
Speaker 1: harder to live because you have to write, you have
Speaker 1: to create again. Now. If you keep rereading the old chapters,
Speaker 1: you can't consciously write the new ones. You may write
Speaker 1: it unconsciously or unintentionally, And if you unintentionally or unconsciously
Speaker 1: write it, you end up living a life that you
Speaker 1: don't really want to live. So I want you to
Speaker 1: bring your presence and your awareness and your attention right now.
Speaker 1: This is your year, this is our year. This is
Speaker 1: the year that you make the shifts, the changes, the
Speaker 1: progress that you've been wanting to make. And to help
Speaker 1: you do that, I'm going to give you a new
Speaker 1: type of goal setting, a completely unique and different type
Speaker 1: of goal setting that you've never done before. Because a
Speaker 1: new decade needs new tools, right a new decade needs
Speaker 1: a new approach, a new progress. I don't want us
Speaker 1: to keep applying the same things that fail every single year.
Speaker 1: How many times have you make goals and resolutions and
Speaker 1: they have just failed every single year. I want to
Speaker 1: give you a plan that, if you genuinely commit to it,
Speaker 1: if you genuinely listen and connect with what I'm about
Speaker 1: to share with you, when you make goals in this way,
Speaker 1: you're going to find them not just it's not about
Speaker 1: being easy to reach. It's going to be easy to process,
Speaker 1: easy to focus on and understand. What to commit to. Now,
Speaker 1: this goal setting framework has four key elements to it,
Speaker 1: and before I dive in, I just want to let
Speaker 1: you know about some of the stats around New Year's resolutions,
Speaker 1: right because I think it's important to realize how unlikely
Speaker 1: people are to keep up with their news resolutions. Now,
Speaker 1: this was something that I read in a ink article
Speaker 1: and it was talking about how the top ten New
Speaker 1: Year's resolutions according to a survey of two thousand people,
Speaker 1: seventy one wanted to die or eat healthier. Sixty five
Speaker 1: percent wanted to exercise more, fifty four percent wanted to
Speaker 1: lose weight, thirty two percent wanted to save more and
Speaker 1: spend less. Twenty six percent wanted to learn a new
Speaker 1: skill or hobby. Remember that twenty one percent wanted to
Speaker 1: quit smoking, seventeen percent wanted to read more, sixteen percent
Speaker 1: wanted to find another job, fifteen percent wanted to drink
Speaker 1: less alcohol, and thirteen percent wanted to spend more time
Speaker 1: with family and friends. Right down, right now, Which ones
Speaker 1: were ones that you've made before and broken? Number one
Speaker 1: room was diet or health Too was exercise more, three
Speaker 1: was lose weight, four wards save more, spend less. Five
Speaker 1: was learning new skill or hobby. Six was quit smoking,
Speaker 1: seven was read more, eight was find another job, nine
Speaker 1: was drink less alcohol, and ten was spend more time
Speaker 1: with family and friends. We've all made those, we've all
Speaker 1: broken those. Now why is that the case? Why do
Speaker 1: we break New Year's resolutions? And here's my hypothesis, right,
Speaker 1: my opinion hypothesis is because we don't follow this four
Speaker 1: step framework. This four step framework will give you the
Speaker 1: ability to realize why we make mistakes and why we
Speaker 1: don't live up to our resolutions and our plans that
Speaker 1: are so important to us, right, and why we set
Speaker 1: to say that about sixty percent of us make news resolutions,
Speaker 1: but only eight percent are successful in actually following them through.
Speaker 1: We want to change that. We want to change that.
Speaker 1: We don't want to bet on being part of that
Speaker 1: eight percent. Right, So here are the four steps. The
Speaker 1: first step to think about when looking at your goal.
Speaker 1: So you set a goal, right, whatever your goal is,
Speaker 1: one of those goals, here's the framework to achieving it.
Speaker 1: The first thing you ask yourself is growth. What do
Speaker 1: you need to grow to get that? Right? What do
Speaker 1: you need to learn growing? What growth do you need
Speaker 1: to focus on in your life? In order to get
Speaker 1: that goal, what is the growth behind the goal? So
Speaker 1: let's say it's social media. Right, Let's say it's social media,
Speaker 1: and you say my goal is to have more followers, right,
Speaker 1: which I don't think it's a great goal. But let's
Speaker 1: say you have a more meaningful goal. That's your goal
Speaker 1: is to create content that impacts the world. Right now,
Speaker 1: you don't need to grow followers, right. That would be
Speaker 1: the common thing to say, Oh, I'm trying to grow
Speaker 1: my followers. That's the growth I need you. No, no, no,
Speaker 1: you need to grow content, which means you need to
Speaker 1: grow storytelling skills. Notice the difference, Right, So someone writes
Speaker 1: down their goals, I want to grow my followers. Someone
Speaker 1: writes down their goal is I want to grow the
Speaker 1: amount of subscribers to my podcast. Well, that's a goal,
Speaker 1: but that's not really the growth you need to make,
Speaker 1: because then all you're trying to do is do things
Speaker 1: that directly impact that. But that's not the case. What
Speaker 1: you need to do is grow your content, which means
Speaker 1: you need to grow your storytelling. What it means you
Speaker 1: need to grow your content creation approach. You need to
Speaker 1: grow in learning how to create more content. Right, that's
Speaker 1: the focus that it has to be, so we don't
Speaker 1: focus on growth. We focus too much on goals when
Speaker 1: our focus should be growth. What do we need to
Speaker 1: grow in to achieve that goal? Now, I'll give you
Speaker 1: an example. So this year, my first ever book is
Speaker 1: coming out in April. It's my first of a book.
Speaker 1: It's called Think Like a Monk. It's available for pre
Speaker 1: order right now. And so for me, of course, I
Speaker 1: want so many of you to be able to change
Speaker 1: your life and transform your life through my book. But
Speaker 1: the growth I need to be able to do that
Speaker 1: is to be able to help you understand why this
Speaker 1: book is relevant in your life. Right, I need to
Speaker 1: be helple to make sure that you all know that
Speaker 1: it's available because guess what, the algorithm doesn't make everyone
Speaker 1: know and let everyone know that my book is available.
Speaker 1: So I need to make sure that you all know
Speaker 1: that it exists and that it's available. So I'm focused
Speaker 1: on the growth, not just on the goal. Because if
Speaker 1: I'm just focused on the goal, I'm just obsessed with
Speaker 1: this elusive, arbitrary result. So many of our goals are
Speaker 1: really not goal their visions. Right, you may have a
Speaker 1: vision to be one of the best you know businesses
Speaker 1: of all time. You may have a vision to have
Speaker 1: one of the most romances of all time, but that's
Speaker 1: not really a goal, right. A goal is something that
Speaker 1: you can grow towards, and I want you to focus
Speaker 1: on what growth you need to make this year. Growth
Speaker 1: includes things like what skills do you need to learn?
Speaker 1: What abilities do you need to gather and grow? What
Speaker 1: qualities do you need to grow and develop in. Maybe
Speaker 1: that's what it's going to take. So last year, when
Speaker 1: I was launching my podcast, my goal was to have
Speaker 1: a number one podcast, which thanks to all of you, happened.
Speaker 1: But the goal is not enough to get there. What
Speaker 1: I needed was a growth. So the growth was I
Speaker 1: needed to grow to become an interviewer, and needed to
Speaker 1: grow to have a network where I could invite incredible
Speaker 1: guests onto the podcast, and needed to grow my understanding
Speaker 1: of how to develop and produce a podcast. Right, those
Speaker 1: are the growth elements that were powering the goal. The
Speaker 1: goal in and of itself meant nothing. So if your
Speaker 1: goal this year is to which is usually one of
Speaker 1: the number one goals is a diet or eat healthier,
Speaker 1: it's like, well, what's skill do you need to grow
Speaker 1: or Maybe you need to grow habit formation skills, right,
Speaker 1: Maybe you need to grow resilience. Maybe you need to
Speaker 1: grow mental strength, and maybe that's what you need to grow.
Speaker 1: That's what's stopping you because hey, guess what, just telling
Speaker 1: yourself I'm not going to eat carbs or fats. Right,
Speaker 1: if that was your diet plan, that's not good enough
Speaker 1: because it's the growth that gets you to the goal,
Speaker 1: not the goal in and of itself. Does that make sense? Right?
Speaker 1: Does that really resonate you? Connect with that? If your
Speaker 1: goal this year is to exercise more, you have to
Speaker 1: ask yourself, well, what do I need to grow in
Speaker 1: to be able to exercise more? Okay? So I need
Speaker 1: to grow in my discipline. Okay, I need to be
Speaker 1: more disciplined. Okay, I need to grow in my accountability
Speaker 1: to someone. Right, it's not just about exercising more. It's
Speaker 1: not just forcing yourself pushing yourself to the gym, you know,
Speaker 1: just you know, pushing yourself there with all the energy
Speaker 1: you have, dragging yourself there. Right, that's not good enough.
Speaker 1: We have to think about what's all we want to learn?
Speaker 1: And that's why I said only twenty six percent of
Speaker 1: people have the resolution of learning a new skill only
Speaker 1: twenty six people. So if only twenty six percent of
Speaker 1: people have the resolution to learn a new skill or
Speaker 1: a hobby, that's all missing out. That's the growth, right,
Speaker 1: That's where we're missing the trick, because it's actually the
Speaker 1: learning of a new skill, the growing and a new
Speaker 1: ability or quality that gets you to the goal, not
Speaker 1: just thinking about and having a goal in and of itself.
Speaker 1: And so often that's all we have, the reason why
Speaker 1: we don't get to our goals is all we have
Speaker 1: is goals, not a growth plan, right, And I really
Speaker 1: want you to think about growth this year. Do you
Speaker 1: need to learn a new language. Do you need to
Speaker 1: learn how to code? Do you need to learn how
Speaker 1: to edit? Do you need to learn how to master habits?
Speaker 1: Do you need to learn how to focus on purpose
Speaker 1: and passion and peace and meaning? So much of it
Speaker 1: is in that, so much of changing our life is
Speaker 1: in learning how to change our habits observing ourselves. Because
Speaker 1: once you know how to change your habits, you can
Speaker 1: then apply that to any habit. But if you've never
Speaker 1: been taught or trained how to change your habits, then
Speaker 1: you can't change any habit. And that's the challenge we
Speaker 1: end up in The second focus in goal setting is
Speaker 1: I want you to observe your opportunities, right. I want
Speaker 1: you to know the opportunities that you're going to say
Speaker 1: yes to this year, and the opportunities you're going to
Speaker 1: say no to this year, and the opportunities that you're
Speaker 1: going to see maybe too this year. So I want
Speaker 1: you to be clear on the criteria of opportunities you
Speaker 1: say yes to, opportunities you say no to, and opportunities
Speaker 1: you say maybe too. I'll tell you why. One of
Speaker 1: the biggest reasons why we don't achieve our goals is
Speaker 1: because of this. We say yes to too many things
Speaker 1: that are not what our priority is. We say no
Speaker 1: to too many things that are our priority. And maybe
Speaker 1: it's just for those of you who are saying I'm
Speaker 1: still undecided on a few things, but really you want
Speaker 1: to know and clarify for yourself the criteria of why
Speaker 1: you say yes to an opportunity and why you say
Speaker 1: no to an opportunity. Let's say your priority this year
Speaker 1: is to exercise more. Right, If your priority is to
Speaker 1: exercise more, and that's a priority in your life, then
Speaker 1: you may say that opportunities that come up during my
Speaker 1: exercise time are always a no. So if I'm exercising
Speaker 1: at eight am every day, if it is this type
Speaker 1: of opportunity, I will not do it. So I'll give
Speaker 1: you a personal example of mind, just to make it really,
Speaker 1: really simple. I exercise every morning from eight fifteen am
Speaker 1: to nine am, about four to five days a week.
Speaker 1: That's my workout time, and I have a very clear
Speaker 1: criteria that the only reason I will miss that time
Speaker 1: is if I have a press interview. So this year,
Speaker 1: when I've been on the Today Show where I was
Speaker 1: an Access Hollywood, or any of those examples that I've
Speaker 1: had to go on a press piece, which isn't all
Speaker 1: the time. It's an exception. It's not like I'm on
Speaker 1: press every single week. When I've had to do that,
Speaker 1: that is the only criteria by which I say no
Speaker 1: to my workout and yes to the opportunity. Apart from that,
Speaker 1: and of course family emergencies or personal issues. Apart from that,
Speaker 1: I do not compromise. I do not negotiate with that time.
Speaker 1: So you need to realize what are your non negotiables,
Speaker 1: what are the things that you will not negotiate on,
Speaker 1: What are the opportunities that you will say yes to
Speaker 1: a note to I'll give you another example. Let's say
Speaker 1: that your priority this year is waking up early. You
Speaker 1: might have to say no to late night parties and
Speaker 1: late night networking events. Now, if that is your priority,
Speaker 1: you have to be clear what is the criteria with
Speaker 1: which I would say yes to a late night event.
Speaker 1: It maybe that I'm going to get to meet the
Speaker 1: biggest idol of my teens. Right. It may be because
Speaker 1: I'm getting to interview someone I've been wanting to interview
Speaker 1: for a long time. Right. It may be because you're
Speaker 1: getting to spent on with someone you love and family
Speaker 1: that's in town. But that has to be an exception.
Speaker 1: So when it comes to opportunities, because guess what, we
Speaker 1: all have endless opportunities in our life in different areas
Speaker 1: of our life, we have to make a clearer criteria
Speaker 1: of what do I say yes too? And what do
Speaker 1: I say no to? When do I say yes and
Speaker 1: when do I say no? Why do I say yes
Speaker 1: and why do I say no? Because we don't create
Speaker 1: these agreements and these contracts and these to be honest,
Speaker 1: because we just don't clarify this criteria with ourselves, We're
Speaker 1: confused When you don't clearly clarify your criteria, it leads
Speaker 1: to confusion about your choices. And when you get confused
Speaker 1: by your choices, you end up lost, and then you
Speaker 1: generally don't achieve anything. And so I don't want you
Speaker 1: to be in that position. I don't want to be confused.
Speaker 1: I don't want you to be lost. I don't want
Speaker 1: you to lack clarity. I want you to have clear
Speaker 1: criteria for your opportunities that you're going to say yes
Speaker 1: to and no to based on your goal. So let's
Speaker 1: take another goal, just to give you a fresh example.
Speaker 1: Let's see your goal is to save more and spend less.
Speaker 1: When are you going to say yes to that? And
Speaker 1: when are you going to say no to that? No
Speaker 1: your criteria, you may say that I'm going to say
Speaker 1: no to that for one vacation this year where we're
Speaker 1: going to treat ourselves more. Right, We're going to treat
Speaker 1: ourselves more. We've got big anniversuary coming out. But apart
Speaker 1: from that, I'm going to honor that rule. Right, we
Speaker 1: have to set rules with ourselves. We don't set these
Speaker 1: rules consciously, so when it comes to them, what happens
Speaker 1: your default mind wins that's what's happening every time. When
Speaker 1: you don't set these rules, when you don't set this criteria,
Speaker 1: when it comes to crunch time, your default mind, your
Speaker 1: monkey mind, wins because that's the mind and the habit
Speaker 1: and the pattern that's already been built. That's what you've
Speaker 1: already given into. So when you're saying I'm not going
Speaker 1: to eat sugar anymore, but you've built up no rules
Speaker 1: of yes and nose, right, then when it gets to
Speaker 1: eating sugar, you give in because that's what you love,
Speaker 1: that's what you've built the habit and pattern of. So
Speaker 1: one of the biggest reasons why we don't achieve our
Speaker 1: goals and our resolutions is because we don't create clarity
Speaker 1: around our opportunities. So I want you to say, yes,
Speaker 1: this is what I'm going to say yes too, based
Speaker 1: on these criteria, this is what I'm going to say
Speaker 1: no to, right, And I want you to find so
Speaker 1: much understanding around the point number three of this four
Speaker 1: step framework, the action plan. We have these goals, we
Speaker 1: write them down, you may even make them the screen
Speaker 1: saver of your laptop at work and your phone, but
Speaker 1: there is zero action plan. There is zero activities planned
Speaker 1: as to how you're going to achieve this goal. When
Speaker 1: I say an action plan, I mean a minute by
Speaker 1: minute right quality. By quality, I mean a minute by minute,
Speaker 1: hour by hour plan of when this is being worked on.
Speaker 1: Too many of us set these lofty goals and never
Speaker 1: break them down into the building blocks to actually get
Speaker 1: us there. For me, I see this like a ladder.
Speaker 1: If you have a ladder and your goal is at
Speaker 1: the top of a ladder, your action plan is creating
Speaker 1: every step of the ladder so you can go up there.
Speaker 1: Imagine you had a ladder and the only step on
Speaker 1: the ladder was the step at the top, which got
Speaker 1: you right to the top of where you wanted to go,
Speaker 1: but there were no other steps. Are you going to
Speaker 1: achieve that goal? Well, you might jump up and down
Speaker 1: a bit. You might try and reach that top step.
Speaker 1: Once you reach it, then you're going to pull yourself up.
Speaker 1: And when you pull yourself up, you're gonna use all
Speaker 1: your upper body standers try and then you probably fall.
Speaker 1: How many of you have experienced and you're yeah, when
Speaker 1: you're trying to gain your news resolutions or your big goals,
Speaker 1: because you only ever built the top step. You didn't
Speaker 1: build the one too, three, four, five, six, seven steps
Speaker 1: before the top step. I'm actually staring at the ladder
Speaker 1: right now in my office, which is a false ladder.
Speaker 1: It's a bit small, but for my bookshelf that it's
Speaker 1: like there are sevens. If there were seven steps missing,
Speaker 1: how would you get to that top step? So the
Speaker 1: action plan should be let's say my goal is to
Speaker 1: find another job. That's the top steps. Then I want
Speaker 1: you to ask the question, how am I going to
Speaker 1: find another job? Okay? I'm going to research about other jobs? Okay?
Speaker 1: How am I going to research about other jobs? Okay?
Speaker 1: Notice how this is building the steps downwards? Okay, then okay,
Speaker 1: research other jobs? How am I going to research other jobs?
Speaker 1: I'm going to speak to people that I know in careers? Okay?
Speaker 1: How am I going to speak to them? I'm going
Speaker 1: to ask my friend for their number or their email? Okay?
Speaker 1: How am I going to do that? For my friend
Speaker 1: or my email? I'm going to text them right now?
Speaker 1: Notice how I have built the step ladder to right now.
Speaker 1: If your action plan doesn't build a step ladder to
Speaker 1: a step you can do right now in this very moment,
Speaker 1: that is not an action plan. So now my action
Speaker 1: is I'm going to text my friend to say can
Speaker 1: you please introduce me via email or message to your
Speaker 1: friend that is a graphic designer, that is a digital marketer,
Speaker 1: that is a accountant, that is a lawyer, whatever it is,
Speaker 1: because I need to talk to them. If you have
Speaker 1: not built your action plan to an activity you can
Speaker 1: take right now. If your action plan is I need
Speaker 1: to research new jobs, no that's not right now. You
Speaker 1: can say I need to research new jobs on LinkedIn,
Speaker 1: and I'm going to go to LinkedIn right now. That
Speaker 1: is an action plan with a step that you can
Speaker 1: take today. If your action plan doesn't have a step
Speaker 1: you can do right now, it is not a complete
Speaker 1: action plan. An action plan isn't just I will go
Speaker 1: to the gym three times a week. No, an action
Speaker 1: plan is what can I do right now? I will
Speaker 1: go to the gym to do these exact workouts these
Speaker 1: exact times and not compromise on them. Part of the
Speaker 1: reason we struggle with our goals is we don't ever
Speaker 1: create the plan. We end up at the gym to
Speaker 1: do the workout, but then we're like, okay, well what
Speaker 1: workout should I do? Right? Like? What workout should I
Speaker 1: do today. The action plan includes the plan of what
Speaker 1: workouts you're going to do. The action plan includes the
Speaker 1: meal plans of what you're going to eat. The action
Speaker 1: plan includes all of that detail. If you don't have
Speaker 1: an action plan, you won't achieve your goals this year.
Speaker 1: And the action plan has the details of what we're
Speaker 1: going to do, when we're going to do it, how
Speaker 1: we're going to do it, who's going to do it,
Speaker 1: and why I'm going to do it. This is a
Speaker 1: full action plan. So this part of the framework, this
Speaker 1: pillar can be broken down into this, when am I
Speaker 1: going to do it? What am I going to do,
Speaker 1: how am I going to do it, who am I
Speaker 1: going to do it with? And why am I doing it?
Speaker 1: So when you write down what you're going to do,
Speaker 1: that makes it very simple. So what I'm going to
Speaker 1: do is I'm going to do a circuit with these
Speaker 1: three exercises. For example, for the one going to the gym.
Speaker 1: When am I going to I'm doing a fifteen am
Speaker 1: every morning. How am I going to do it? I
Speaker 1: am going to do it by using the gym in
Speaker 1: my building, right, or I'm going to do it by
Speaker 1: signing up for a membership here or I'm going to
Speaker 1: do it by going with my friend whatever it maybe.
Speaker 1: How who am I going to do with them? I'm
Speaker 1: going to do on my own, with a trainer or
Speaker 1: with a friend. And why am I going to do it?
Speaker 1: The action plan as a why. I'm going to do
Speaker 1: it because I want to be healthier for my kids.
Speaker 1: I'm going to do it. Why because I want to
Speaker 1: be more able to work harder and push myself more.
Speaker 1: I want to do it because I want to take
Speaker 1: care of my health. That is a complete action plan.
Speaker 1: Do this with me right now. Don't just let this
Speaker 1: be something that you're hearing theoretically with me. I want
Speaker 1: you to build your goals in this way because this
Speaker 1: is the thing, right like otherwise you're going to be
Speaker 1: in the same place next year. We're going to be
Speaker 1: talking at the same time next year and gonna be like, Yeah,
Speaker 1: I didn't achieve my goals. But this framework works. This
Speaker 1: framework is it works. It's what's between you and achieving
Speaker 1: your goals. So just take this moment to be focused
Speaker 1: and be effective about it, right, Take this moment to
Speaker 1: give yourself that opportunity. So the third thing is having
Speaker 1: an action plan, and that's how you build a fall
Speaker 1: action plan, and the fourth is this. Now, this one's
Speaker 1: slightly more advanced and slightly more progressive for those of
Speaker 1: you that really want to push forward this year and
Speaker 1: make an impact this year. A lot of people ask me, Ja,
Speaker 1: it seems like, you know, something's always interesting has happened
Speaker 1: in your life, something always is you know, exciting that's
Speaker 1: happening in your life. And for me, it all comes
Speaker 1: down to the fact that I make years about something.
Speaker 1: So it's like the year of you know, in the
Speaker 1: Chinese calendar, which you may have known about when you
Speaker 1: grew up, they have the year of the whatever, and
Speaker 1: there's different animals, et cetera. So it's like year of
Speaker 1: the Ox, year of the hair, year of the Rabbi,
Speaker 1: year of the dragon, right, year of the pig. So
Speaker 1: you have all these years. So when I come up
Speaker 1: with a year plan for me, my action plan revolves
Speaker 1: around year of what. So twenty eighteen for me was
Speaker 1: year of social media video, year of uplifting content, year
Speaker 1: of conscious content. And twenty nineteen for me was the
Speaker 1: year of the podcast, year of on Purpose two and
Speaker 1: twenty for me is year of Think like a Monk,
Speaker 1: Year of the book right, this is my focus, this
Speaker 1: is my priority. And so when you make it that
Speaker 1: simple for yourself that ultimately everything I'm doing is around this,
Speaker 1: and for you it may not be some of your creating.
Speaker 1: Could be a year of my family. It could be
Speaker 1: a year of my passion and purpose. It could be
Speaker 1: year of creating my entrepreneurial business. It could be year whatever.
Speaker 1: It could be, right, it doesn't. It just has to
Speaker 1: be simple as an overarching plan. And then there are
Speaker 1: the three elves. Elves not elves we're past Christmas, not
Speaker 1: three elves, but the three elves of what you want
Speaker 1: to be doing every year. You want to be learning
Speaker 1: one thing, you want to be launching one thing, and
Speaker 1: you want to be loving one thing. And I explain
Speaker 1: what I mean by these in depth. Every year you
Speaker 1: want to be launching something. When I say launching, I
Speaker 1: mean focusing on something. So for me, I'm launching my book,
Speaker 1: but it could be that you're you're launching your career,
Speaker 1: you're launching a relationship. Right When I say launch, I
Speaker 1: mean like, that's what it's all about. That's what you're
Speaker 1: excited about, that's what you're passionate about, that that's what
Speaker 1: you're launching. It's what you're giving your main focus to
Speaker 1: that year. Well, you also want to do every year,
Speaker 1: is you want to be learning something. This could be
Speaker 1: something that you launch next year. This could be something
Speaker 1: you're focused on next year. So for example, let's say
Speaker 1: you're expecting, you and your partner are expecting, and you
Speaker 1: know you're going to have a child next year. And
Speaker 1: let's I'm not putting it in business terminology at all,
Speaker 1: but just for the point of this, you'll be launching
Speaker 1: a child next year. This year you may focus on
Speaker 1: learning how to parent. You may focus on learning about
Speaker 1: conscious parenting, so the next year, when you have your child,
Speaker 1: you can focus on that. Right, So you're learning about
Speaker 1: the thing that's happening next year. When you live in
Speaker 1: with this interntionality, with this consciousness, you're so much more prepared,
Speaker 1: you're so much more happier, you're so much more excited
Speaker 1: because there's something to look forward to. So you always
Speaker 1: want something that you're learning every year, right, You always
Speaker 1: want something that you're learning every year, So always be launching,
Speaker 1: be learning. And then the third thing, which is very
Speaker 1: important is always be loving something. So this year I'm
Speaker 1: gonna be loving the podcast. I'm going to be loving
Speaker 1: my genius community. I'm going to be loving my videos
Speaker 1: that I've been creating. These are things that I'm loving
Speaker 1: that I've been doing for a few years now, and
Speaker 1: I'm loving them. I love them. I have a rhythm,
Speaker 1: I have a pattern, I have a workflow. I know
Speaker 1: how it works, so I love the process. But at
Speaker 1: the same time as loving something, I'm learning something else
Speaker 1: and I'm launching something else. The launch is where I'm
Speaker 1: having my mistakes, where I'm growing new skills, where it's exciting.
Speaker 1: The love provides the consistency and the stability that I
Speaker 1: need in life, and the learning provides the exploration, the curiosity,
Speaker 1: the intrigue. Notice how they're all fulfilling different parts of me.
Speaker 1: If I was only learning stuff, then I may not
Speaker 1: feel focused, i may not feel excited. But if I'm
Speaker 1: only launching something, then I may feel like I need
Speaker 1: more stability in my life. And if I'm only loving something,
Speaker 1: then I may feel bored because I may feel like, well,
Speaker 1: I want to do more with it. So notice how learning, launching,
Speaker 1: and loving gives you a different energy. Now why is
Speaker 1: this the four step framework as a whole? It spells
Speaker 1: out the word goal, growth, opportunities, act in, learning, launching, loving,
Speaker 1: right growth. The first thing that I told you was
Speaker 1: don't focus on the goal, focus on the growth. The
Speaker 1: second thing was clarified the criteria of opportunities you say
Speaker 1: yes to and know too to know your priorities. The
Speaker 1: third is build that ideal action plan, and the fourth
Speaker 1: is learn, launch, and love. If you follow this framework,
Speaker 1: and I recommend coming back to this episode and building
Speaker 1: your goals around this framework, it will set you up
Speaker 1: for success. Sending you all my positive vibes and my meditations,
Speaker 1: and I want you to take this very strategic and
Speaker 1: thoughtful plan, whether it's your business goals, your personal goals,
Speaker 1: or your relationship goals. And I can't wait to be
Speaker 1: on this journey together this year. And you're listening to
Speaker 1: every episode until then, and we're together, You're going to say,
Speaker 1: jay I made progress. You're going to say, jay, I grew,
Speaker 1: I chose the right opportunities, I built my action plan,
Speaker 1: and I learned, I launched and I loved. That's enough.
Speaker 1: Thank you so much for listening to this week's episode
Speaker 1: of On Purpose. If you're new, hello, if you've been
Speaker 1: here for a while, thank you and welcome to all
Speaker 1: of you. So grateful. Make sure you subscribe, make sure
Speaker 1: you review, and make sure you come back next week.
Speaker 1: Thank you so much,