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Speaker 1: ever built the top step. Hey everyone, welcome back to

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Speaker 1: On Purpose, the number one health podcast in the world,

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Speaker 1: helping you become happier, healthier, and more healed. I am

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Speaker 1: so excited for twenty twenty three. I hope you are

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Speaker 1: I am just so humbled by your commitment, your growth,

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Speaker 1: your love. The reviews have just been so beautiful. I

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Speaker 1: and this episode is my favorite framework for growth and

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Speaker 1: with a friend. And why am I going to do it?

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Speaker 1: The action plan as a why. I'm going to do

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Speaker 1: it because I want to be healthier for my kids.

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Speaker 1: I'm going to do it. Why because I want to

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Speaker 1: be more able to work harder and push myself more.

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Speaker 1: I want to do it because I want to take

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Speaker 1: care of my health. That is a complete action plan.

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Speaker 1: Do this with me right now. Don't just let this

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Speaker 1: be something that you're hearing theoretically with me. I want

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Speaker 1: you to build your goals in this way because this

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Speaker 1: is the thing, right like otherwise you're going to be

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Speaker 1: in the same place next year. We're going to be

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Speaker 1: talking at the same time next year and gonna be like, Yeah,

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Speaker 1: I didn't achieve my goals. But this framework works. This

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Speaker 1: framework is it works. It's what's between you and achieving

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Speaker 1: your goals. So just take this moment to be focused

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Speaker 1: and be effective about it, right, Take this moment to

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Speaker 1: give yourself that opportunity. So the third thing is having

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Speaker 1: an action plan, and that's how you build a fall

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Speaker 1: action plan, and the fourth is this. Now, this one's

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Speaker 1: you that really want to push forward this year and

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Speaker 1: make an impact this year. A lot of people ask me, Ja,

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Speaker 1: it seems like, you know, something's always interesting has happened

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Speaker 1: in your life, something always is you know, exciting that's

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Speaker 1: happening in your life. And for me, it all comes

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Speaker 1: down to the fact that I make years about something.

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Speaker 1: So it's like the year of you know, in the

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Speaker 1: Chinese calendar, which you may have known about when you

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Speaker 1: grew up, they have the year of the whatever, and

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Speaker 1: there's different animals, et cetera. So it's like year of

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Speaker 1: the Ox, year of the hair, year of the Rabbi,

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Speaker 1: year of the dragon, right, year of the pig. So

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Speaker 1: you have all these years. So when I come up

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Speaker 1: with a year plan for me, my action plan revolves

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Speaker 1: around year of what. So twenty eighteen for me was

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Speaker 1: year of social media video, year of uplifting content, year

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Speaker 1: of conscious content. And twenty nineteen for me was the

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Speaker 1: year of the podcast, year of on Purpose two and

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Speaker 1: twenty for me is year of Think like a Monk,

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Speaker 1: Year of the book right, this is my focus, this

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Speaker 1: is my priority. And so when you make it that

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Speaker 1: simple for yourself that ultimately everything I'm doing is around this,

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Speaker 1: and for you it may not be some of your creating.

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Speaker 1: Could be a year of my family. It could be

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Speaker 1: a year of my passion and purpose. It could be

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Speaker 1: year of creating my entrepreneurial business. It could be year whatever.

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Speaker 1: It could be, right, it doesn't. It just has to

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Speaker 1: be simple as an overarching plan. And then there are

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Speaker 1: the three elves. Elves not elves we're past Christmas, not

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Speaker 1: three elves, but the three elves of what you want

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Speaker 1: to be doing every year. You want to be learning

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Speaker 1: one thing, you want to be launching one thing, and

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Speaker 1: you want to be loving one thing. And I explain

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Speaker 1: what I mean by these in depth. Every year you

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Speaker 1: want to be launching something. When I say launching, I

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Speaker 1: mean focusing on something. So for me, I'm launching my book,

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Speaker 1: but it could be that you're you're launching your career,

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Speaker 1: you're launching a relationship. Right When I say launch, I

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Speaker 1: mean like, that's what it's all about. That's what you're

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Speaker 1: excited about, that's what you're passionate about, that that's what

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Speaker 1: you're launching. It's what you're giving your main focus to

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Speaker 1: that year. Well, you also want to do every year,

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Speaker 1: is you want to be learning something. This could be

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Speaker 1: something that you launch next year. This could be something

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Speaker 1: you're focused on next year. So for example, let's say

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Speaker 1: you're expecting, you and your partner are expecting, and you

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Speaker 1: know you're going to have a child next year. And

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Speaker 1: let's I'm not putting it in business terminology at all,

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Speaker 1: but just for the point of this, you'll be launching

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Speaker 1: a child next year. This year you may focus on

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Speaker 1: learning how to parent. You may focus on learning about

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Speaker 1: conscious parenting, so the next year, when you have your child,

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Speaker 1: you can focus on that. Right, So you're learning about

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Speaker 1: the thing that's happening next year. When you live in

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Speaker 1: with this interntionality, with this consciousness, you're so much more prepared,

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Speaker 1: you're so much more happier, you're so much more excited

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Speaker 1: because there's something to look forward to. So you always

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Speaker 1: want something that you're learning every year, right, You always

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Speaker 1: want something that you're learning every year, So always be launching,

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Speaker 1: be learning. And then the third thing, which is very

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Speaker 1: important is always be loving something. So this year I'm

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Speaker 1: gonna be loving the podcast. I'm going to be loving

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Speaker 1: my genius community. I'm going to be loving my videos

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Speaker 1: that I've been creating. These are things that I'm loving

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Speaker 1: that I've been doing for a few years now, and

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Speaker 1: I'm loving them. I love them. I have a rhythm,

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Speaker 1: I have a pattern, I have a workflow. I know

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Speaker 1: how it works, so I love the process. But at

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Speaker 1: the same time as loving something, I'm learning something else

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Speaker 1: and I'm launching something else. The launch is where I'm

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Speaker 1: having my mistakes, where I'm growing new skills, where it's exciting.

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Speaker 1: The love provides the consistency and the stability that I

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Speaker 1: need in life, and the learning provides the exploration, the curiosity,

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Speaker 1: the intrigue. Notice how they're all fulfilling different parts of me.

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Speaker 1: If I was only learning stuff, then I may not

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Speaker 1: feel focused, i may not feel excited. But if I'm

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Speaker 1: only launching something, then I may feel like I need

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Speaker 1: more stability in my life. And if I'm only loving something,

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Speaker 1: then I may feel bored because I may feel like, well,

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Speaker 1: I want to do more with it. So notice how learning, launching,

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Speaker 1: and loving gives you a different energy. Now why is

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Speaker 1: this the four step framework as a whole? It spells

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Speaker 1: out the word goal, growth, opportunities, act in, learning, launching, loving,

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Speaker 1: right growth. The first thing that I told you was

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Speaker 1: don't focus on the goal, focus on the growth. The

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Speaker 1: second thing was clarified the criteria of opportunities you say

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Speaker 1: yes to and know too to know your priorities. The

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Speaker 1: third is build that ideal action plan, and the fourth

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Speaker 1: is learn, launch, and love. If you follow this framework,

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Speaker 1: and I recommend coming back to this episode and building

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Speaker 1: your goals around this framework, it will set you up

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Speaker 1: for success. Sending you all my positive vibes and my meditations,

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Speaker 1: and I want you to take this very strategic and

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Speaker 1: thoughtful plan, whether it's your business goals, your personal goals,

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Speaker 1: or your relationship goals. And I can't wait to be

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Speaker 1: on this journey together this year. And you're listening to

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Speaker 1: every episode until then, and we're together, You're going to say,

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Speaker 1: jay I made progress. You're going to say, jay, I grew,

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Speaker 1: I chose the right opportunities, I built my action plan,

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Speaker 1: and I learned, I launched and I loved. That's enough.

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Speaker 1: Thank you so much for listening to this week's episode

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Speaker 1: of On Purpose. If you're new, hello, if you've been

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Speaker 1: here for a while, thank you and welcome to all

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Speaker 1: of you. So grateful. Make sure you subscribe, make sure

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Speaker 1: you review, and make sure you come back next week.

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Speaker 1: Thank you so much,