1 00:00:00,680 --> 00:00:03,600 Speaker 1: Time now for today's Strawberry Letter. And if you need 2 00:00:03,640 --> 00:00:08,080 Speaker 1: advice on relationships, dating, work, sex, parenting and more. Please 3 00:00:08,119 --> 00:00:10,920 Speaker 1: submit your Strawberry Letter to Steve HARVEYFM dot com and 4 00:00:10,960 --> 00:00:14,160 Speaker 1: click submit Strawberry Letter. We could be reading your letter 5 00:00:14,240 --> 00:00:17,280 Speaker 1: live on the air, just like we're gonna read this 6 00:00:17,360 --> 00:00:27,640 Speaker 1: one that we got it fun. Here it is Strawberry Letter. 7 00:00:28,800 --> 00:00:31,920 Speaker 1: All right, here we go. Subject. My man lies like 8 00:00:32,120 --> 00:00:35,320 Speaker 1: a rug. Dear Stephen Shirley, my child's father is a 9 00:00:35,560 --> 00:00:39,239 Speaker 1: habitual liar. We've been dating for three years and he 10 00:00:39,320 --> 00:00:43,320 Speaker 1: has lied to me almost about the most stupid stuff. 11 00:00:43,560 --> 00:00:46,760 Speaker 1: We have almost been evicted because he lied about paying 12 00:00:46,800 --> 00:00:49,519 Speaker 1: our rent. After I had our son. He told me 13 00:00:49,560 --> 00:00:51,960 Speaker 1: he bought a ring and was going to propose, but 14 00:00:52,159 --> 00:00:54,480 Speaker 1: he got in a financial bind and had to return 15 00:00:54,520 --> 00:00:57,040 Speaker 1: the ring to pay off some debt. He has taken 16 00:00:57,080 --> 00:00:59,880 Speaker 1: money out of our son's bank account for petty things 17 00:01:00,200 --> 00:01:03,320 Speaker 1: that he needs, and then he lies about it and 18 00:01:03,400 --> 00:01:06,559 Speaker 1: says it was for bank fees or something else. Over 19 00:01:06,600 --> 00:01:10,039 Speaker 1: the years, his lies have gotten worse. I just recently 20 00:01:10,080 --> 00:01:11,959 Speaker 1: found out that he lied to me about being in 21 00:01:11,959 --> 00:01:14,800 Speaker 1: a coma for six months so he wouldn't have to 22 00:01:14,840 --> 00:01:19,720 Speaker 1: pay his credit card bills. What his creditors started sending 23 00:01:19,760 --> 00:01:22,360 Speaker 1: bills to our house and I had to get involved 24 00:01:22,360 --> 00:01:24,679 Speaker 1: to help him straighten it all out so he wouldn't 25 00:01:24,720 --> 00:01:27,640 Speaker 1: get into legal trouble. What kind of person lies about 26 00:01:27,720 --> 00:01:30,480 Speaker 1: something like that. I have asked him to let me 27 00:01:30,560 --> 00:01:33,560 Speaker 1: handle our finances, to make sure that we are up 28 00:01:33,600 --> 00:01:36,080 Speaker 1: to date with our rent and all of our utilities, 29 00:01:36,280 --> 00:01:39,520 Speaker 1: but he says, as man of the house, he's taken 30 00:01:39,560 --> 00:01:43,039 Speaker 1: care of it. Despite the lies, we click on every 31 00:01:43,360 --> 00:01:46,800 Speaker 1: level and we have a great relationship. He's a great 32 00:01:46,920 --> 00:01:49,960 Speaker 1: dad too, But I don't want his lying to rub 33 00:01:50,040 --> 00:01:53,320 Speaker 1: off on my son. If I end up marrying him, 34 00:01:53,560 --> 00:01:56,160 Speaker 1: I will forever doubt that he is on the up 35 00:01:56,160 --> 00:01:58,080 Speaker 1: and up with me. How can I get him to 36 00:01:58,080 --> 00:02:00,920 Speaker 1: come clean on the lies? I don't think he can 37 00:02:00,960 --> 00:02:03,720 Speaker 1: control it at this point. I love him, but I 38 00:02:03,760 --> 00:02:05,880 Speaker 1: wonder if he's lying when he says he loves me 39 00:02:05,960 --> 00:02:08,760 Speaker 1: and wants to be a family. Stephen Shirley, if you 40 00:02:08,800 --> 00:02:11,840 Speaker 1: have any advice for me? Yeah, you know what, I 41 00:02:12,320 --> 00:02:16,120 Speaker 1: wouldn't believe a word he says about anything. I just wouldn't. 42 00:02:16,160 --> 00:02:18,480 Speaker 1: I mean, how could you at this point with his 43 00:02:18,560 --> 00:02:22,440 Speaker 1: track record? I mean, and it's not stupid stuff like 44 00:02:22,480 --> 00:02:25,119 Speaker 1: you say. I mean, this is pretty serious stuff. I mean, 45 00:02:25,800 --> 00:02:29,799 Speaker 1: lying about the rent, lying about the ring and the proposal, 46 00:02:30,440 --> 00:02:34,760 Speaker 1: and lying about being in a coma for six months what. 47 00:02:35,440 --> 00:02:38,520 Speaker 1: I don't even that doesn't even make sense. I mean, 48 00:02:38,600 --> 00:02:41,440 Speaker 1: who does that. I just don't think this stuff is 49 00:02:41,440 --> 00:02:43,440 Speaker 1: stupid or petty, and I think you should look at 50 00:02:43,480 --> 00:02:47,120 Speaker 1: it from a very serious angle. I mean, that's the 51 00:02:47,200 --> 00:02:49,160 Speaker 1: kind of stuff that can get you messed up out here, 52 00:02:49,280 --> 00:02:53,360 Speaker 1: lying about stuff like this. Listen, if you're considering marrying 53 00:02:53,400 --> 00:02:56,440 Speaker 1: this man, I gotta ask you why, because it's just 54 00:02:56,480 --> 00:02:59,959 Speaker 1: going to be more of the same, more lies, more lies, 55 00:03:00,240 --> 00:03:02,799 Speaker 1: and then some more lies on top of that. He 56 00:03:02,840 --> 00:03:05,040 Speaker 1: can't tell the truth. He has a problem with it. 57 00:03:05,080 --> 00:03:08,120 Speaker 1: I mean since day one, he's been doing that. And yeah, 58 00:03:08,160 --> 00:03:11,360 Speaker 1: you have a right to not want your son to 59 00:03:11,400 --> 00:03:14,399 Speaker 1: be around all this lying and stuff. I don't think 60 00:03:14,400 --> 00:03:18,440 Speaker 1: he's going to change. I mean, the other mistake he's 61 00:03:18,480 --> 00:03:21,280 Speaker 1: making is saying that he's the man of the house, 62 00:03:21,320 --> 00:03:24,040 Speaker 1: so he's taking care of it just because he's the 63 00:03:24,080 --> 00:03:26,560 Speaker 1: man of the house who made him a financial whiz 64 00:03:26,639 --> 00:03:29,200 Speaker 1: and stuff like that. That doesn't mean that just because 65 00:03:29,240 --> 00:03:33,320 Speaker 1: you're the man, he's not taking care of anything. The 66 00:03:33,840 --> 00:03:37,440 Speaker 1: problem is his ego won't allow you, who are obviously 67 00:03:37,520 --> 00:03:40,440 Speaker 1: better with money, handle the finances. I mean, that's a 68 00:03:40,480 --> 00:03:42,960 Speaker 1: problem too. I think this is always going to be 69 00:03:43,000 --> 00:03:45,640 Speaker 1: a problem in your relationship unless he gives in and 70 00:03:45,760 --> 00:03:48,480 Speaker 1: allows you to take over. And it doesn't look like 71 00:03:48,600 --> 00:03:53,600 Speaker 1: that is going to happen. Steve, Well, my man lied 72 00:03:53,680 --> 00:03:57,000 Speaker 1: like a rule. This is a great letter for me 73 00:03:57,360 --> 00:04:02,480 Speaker 1: because I've had to lie more than a few thousand occasions. 74 00:04:03,040 --> 00:04:06,280 Speaker 1: Come on board, and so let me take you through 75 00:04:07,080 --> 00:04:12,200 Speaker 1: what he's doing. You say, he y'all been dating three years, 76 00:04:12,200 --> 00:04:16,440 Speaker 1: he's a habitual lie. You say he lied about stupid 77 00:04:16,440 --> 00:04:22,159 Speaker 1: stuff now, y'all and almost got evicted because he lied 78 00:04:22,200 --> 00:04:26,640 Speaker 1: about paying the rent. Well, the reason he lied about 79 00:04:26,680 --> 00:04:30,200 Speaker 1: paying the rent was because he thought he was gonna 80 00:04:30,240 --> 00:04:33,320 Speaker 1: get the rent back and go down there and pay 81 00:04:33,360 --> 00:04:40,520 Speaker 1: it while he still went shopping about the drugs. Because 82 00:04:40,520 --> 00:04:46,360 Speaker 1: when you lie like this, these drugs. Then y'all had 83 00:04:46,400 --> 00:04:51,719 Speaker 1: the baby. He bought a ring, Then he said he 84 00:04:51,800 --> 00:04:54,039 Speaker 1: ran into the financial difficult he had to take the 85 00:04:54,120 --> 00:04:59,360 Speaker 1: ring back down there. You never saw this ring. This 86 00:04:59,480 --> 00:05:03,920 Speaker 1: ring ever got bought. Drug addicts don't have ring money. 87 00:05:06,480 --> 00:05:10,320 Speaker 1: What drug addics, ain't got no money for no damn ring. 88 00:05:11,080 --> 00:05:14,479 Speaker 1: That's why you ain't seeing that. Then you're saying he 89 00:05:14,520 --> 00:05:18,240 Speaker 1: took money out your son's account. Now y'all only been 90 00:05:18,279 --> 00:05:21,400 Speaker 1: together three years. What your baby got a biggie bank? 91 00:05:23,320 --> 00:05:33,000 Speaker 1: Nobody breaks into child's bank except somebody owned drugs. Then 92 00:05:33,279 --> 00:05:38,200 Speaker 1: he called all his creditors and told them he wasn't 93 00:05:38,240 --> 00:05:41,080 Speaker 1: gonna be able to pay him for six months because 94 00:05:41,320 --> 00:05:46,480 Speaker 1: I'm gonna be in a coma. That is all he said. 95 00:05:46,640 --> 00:05:50,320 Speaker 1: The reason I ain't paid y'all is six months is 96 00:05:50,360 --> 00:05:54,920 Speaker 1: because I was in a coma. Either way, that's a 97 00:05:55,080 --> 00:06:05,320 Speaker 1: junking ass statement. I was in a coma. He lied 98 00:06:05,440 --> 00:06:09,880 Speaker 1: all the time. He says he's the man of the house. 99 00:06:10,440 --> 00:06:18,240 Speaker 1: He might be lying about that. Oh he may very 100 00:06:18,279 --> 00:06:26,200 Speaker 1: well be a girl. You could have actually married another 101 00:06:26,200 --> 00:06:30,200 Speaker 1: woman because he didn't lie about everything else. And when 102 00:06:30,240 --> 00:06:33,280 Speaker 1: we come back, I will do a live re enactment 103 00:06:33,920 --> 00:06:38,320 Speaker 1: because I can. Your baby gonna be a liar, so 104 00:06:38,640 --> 00:06:43,400 Speaker 1: we go for it. Steve baby lies. Next, we'll have 105 00:06:43,480 --> 00:06:45,920 Speaker 1: part two of Steve's response coming up at twenty three 106 00:06:45,920 --> 00:06:49,040 Speaker 1: minutes after the hour. Today's Strawberry Letters subject my man 107 00:06:49,120 --> 00:06:52,080 Speaker 1: lies like a rug we'll be back right after this. 108 00:06:52,600 --> 00:06:57,960 Speaker 1: You're listening, all right, Steve, Come on, let's recap today. 109 00:06:58,040 --> 00:07:02,120 Speaker 1: Strawberry letters subject my man and lies like a rug. 110 00:07:03,320 --> 00:07:07,760 Speaker 1: He lied about everything. Dy't damn. He got evicted because 111 00:07:07,760 --> 00:07:09,479 Speaker 1: he said he paid the rent. Hedn't paid the rent. 112 00:07:09,520 --> 00:07:12,080 Speaker 1: He lied about that. They got put out. Then y'all 113 00:07:12,080 --> 00:07:14,760 Speaker 1: have been dating three years after you had the baby. 114 00:07:14,840 --> 00:07:17,760 Speaker 1: He bought a ring for you, said he was gonna propose. 115 00:07:18,680 --> 00:07:20,480 Speaker 1: Then he told you had to take the ring back 116 00:07:20,640 --> 00:07:25,080 Speaker 1: because you got some financial difficult He never had no ring. 117 00:07:25,920 --> 00:07:28,480 Speaker 1: Then he has stole all the little baby money. That's 118 00:07:28,520 --> 00:07:31,880 Speaker 1: a straight crackhead move when you're breaking in piggabanks. Then 119 00:07:31,880 --> 00:07:34,520 Speaker 1: he told his creditors he can't pay for six months 120 00:07:34,680 --> 00:07:37,600 Speaker 1: because either he was in a coma for six months 121 00:07:37,960 --> 00:07:40,760 Speaker 1: or he about to be being one for six months. 122 00:07:40,880 --> 00:07:44,440 Speaker 1: Either one is a great lie. That's a great lie. 123 00:07:46,440 --> 00:07:50,960 Speaker 1: I've never used that coma. I've come close. I told 124 00:07:51,000 --> 00:07:54,680 Speaker 1: a girl I fell out lying arsenal No, I told 125 00:07:54,680 --> 00:07:59,240 Speaker 1: a girl one time my faint I fell out. That's close. 126 00:07:59,400 --> 00:08:03,800 Speaker 1: That's pretty dwn close. Then the biggest lie he told 127 00:08:03,800 --> 00:08:06,000 Speaker 1: you is he the man at the house. That might 128 00:08:06,080 --> 00:08:10,080 Speaker 1: not be true. We need to look into that. Then 129 00:08:10,160 --> 00:08:12,280 Speaker 1: you say it in your letter one of your biggest 130 00:08:12,320 --> 00:08:17,160 Speaker 1: fears is that your baby will pick up his habit 131 00:08:17,240 --> 00:08:21,560 Speaker 1: and become a liar too. Well, I believe he's on 132 00:08:21,680 --> 00:08:25,240 Speaker 1: his way. I think your baby is already gonna be 133 00:08:25,280 --> 00:08:29,560 Speaker 1: a lie. Here to prove it. Surely, you've been a mother. 134 00:08:31,280 --> 00:08:35,360 Speaker 1: I'm your baby. I'm still a mother. That's what I said. 135 00:08:35,400 --> 00:08:38,280 Speaker 1: You know you've been a mother. I mean, you know 136 00:08:38,360 --> 00:08:42,319 Speaker 1: for some time. So here's a dem I'm your child. 137 00:08:42,360 --> 00:08:46,280 Speaker 1: You can ask me any level of childhood questions, baby questions. 138 00:08:46,880 --> 00:08:49,559 Speaker 1: Let's make it baby questions. You're talking to a baby. 139 00:08:49,880 --> 00:08:53,560 Speaker 1: I'm somewhere between three and five years old, and I'm 140 00:08:53,559 --> 00:08:56,800 Speaker 1: gonna show you how babies lie anything. It don't matter 141 00:08:57,720 --> 00:09:01,000 Speaker 1: like babies. Oh hi, honey, I'm what's that you're watching? 142 00:09:01,360 --> 00:09:05,360 Speaker 1: What movie is that you're watching? I'm not watching a movie, 143 00:09:06,320 --> 00:09:12,120 Speaker 1: but you are. It's on Hulu right now. I see 144 00:09:12,160 --> 00:09:17,199 Speaker 1: the movie, but I'm not looking at you. Oh okay, 145 00:09:17,400 --> 00:09:20,120 Speaker 1: Well did you like the um? Did you like the 146 00:09:20,320 --> 00:09:24,240 Speaker 1: toy I bought you? Isn't that? Wasn't it cute? Did 147 00:09:24,280 --> 00:09:29,400 Speaker 1: you like it? I would have liked it, but my 148 00:09:29,440 --> 00:09:34,240 Speaker 1: friend stole it, But I just saw you playing with 149 00:09:34,280 --> 00:09:37,040 Speaker 1: it a few minutes ago before you put the movie on, 150 00:09:37,679 --> 00:09:43,000 Speaker 1: and you didn't see him coming here? And still no, baby, 151 00:09:43,080 --> 00:09:46,440 Speaker 1: I didn't. Uh. Well, um, let's see what do you 152 00:09:46,440 --> 00:09:48,880 Speaker 1: want for lunch? You told me you wanted a sandwich 153 00:09:48,920 --> 00:09:53,679 Speaker 1: and some chips. You still want that, m hmm, but 154 00:09:53,679 --> 00:10:01,199 Speaker 1: but not today though? Well? Oh okay, didn't I just 155 00:10:01,400 --> 00:10:07,520 Speaker 1: roll some barritos? Oh okay? Uh doritos? Okay? I thought 156 00:10:07,559 --> 00:10:12,920 Speaker 1: you wanted potato chips. You want doritos? Um? How are 157 00:10:12,920 --> 00:10:16,720 Speaker 1: your new sneakers working out? The new little air Jordan's 158 00:10:16,760 --> 00:10:19,520 Speaker 1: I got you? You like him? Yeah? He stole that 159 00:10:19,679 --> 00:10:26,400 Speaker 1: with the toy? My friend has stole it. Did you see? Um? 160 00:10:26,440 --> 00:10:28,320 Speaker 1: Did you see daddy when he got home from work? 161 00:10:28,360 --> 00:10:31,200 Speaker 1: Did you talk to him? Yeah? That's not my dad 162 00:10:34,200 --> 00:10:37,559 Speaker 1: and he's been lying to YouTube. Mama. He not your hood, 163 00:10:38,080 --> 00:10:40,719 Speaker 1: He said, what do you mean? Well, um, come on, 164 00:10:40,760 --> 00:10:44,240 Speaker 1: I gotta run to the store and get something for dinner. 165 00:10:44,280 --> 00:10:49,679 Speaker 1: You wanna um ride with me? You ain't got no car? Huh, 166 00:10:49,720 --> 00:10:52,320 Speaker 1: I too have a car. What are you talking about? Baby? 167 00:10:53,080 --> 00:10:58,000 Speaker 1: My friend that stole the toy and my sneakers. Your 168 00:10:58,120 --> 00:11:02,080 Speaker 1: daddy stole your car Honey, what is wrong with you? 169 00:11:02,800 --> 00:11:05,760 Speaker 1: It seems like you're not telling the truth. I don't 170 00:11:05,760 --> 00:11:09,480 Speaker 1: want to say you know you're lying, um, but a 171 00:11:09,520 --> 00:11:12,160 Speaker 1: lot of things aren't true that you're saying. Right now, 172 00:11:12,160 --> 00:11:15,240 Speaker 1: what's what's happening? What's going on with you? I'm just 173 00:11:15,520 --> 00:11:21,280 Speaker 1: like my daddy. I thought you ain't did nothing to him. 174 00:11:21,280 --> 00:11:26,400 Speaker 1: So what you're in my face? Ball? Baby? That's no 175 00:11:26,480 --> 00:11:28,520 Speaker 1: way to talk to your mother. Now you stop that. 176 00:11:29,480 --> 00:11:31,920 Speaker 1: Are you gonna get a little spanking? Now? Stop that? 177 00:11:32,720 --> 00:11:37,080 Speaker 1: I don't want a Louis. Excuse me, I don't want 178 00:11:37,120 --> 00:11:40,920 Speaker 1: a Louis spanking mom? What does that mean? Spank me 179 00:11:41,080 --> 00:11:51,200 Speaker 1: like big daddy? All right, kids are baby These are 180 00:11:51,240 --> 00:11:55,920 Speaker 1: baby lies, baby lies. And I think her child, her son, 181 00:11:56,080 --> 00:11:59,320 Speaker 1: is on his way to being just like his Yeah, 182 00:12:00,360 --> 00:12:02,240 Speaker 1: now you say other than that, he's a great guy, 183 00:12:03,320 --> 00:12:07,559 Speaker 1: how you know? But I wonder if he's lying when 184 00:12:07,559 --> 00:12:10,640 Speaker 1: he tells me he loves me, of course, and he 185 00:12:10,679 --> 00:12:12,600 Speaker 1: wants to be a family. Of course, he wants to 186 00:12:12,640 --> 00:12:18,040 Speaker 1: be a family. He never said he was with you though. Yeah, 187 00:12:18,200 --> 00:12:24,280 Speaker 1: run for the hills because she's thinking about marrying this guy. 188 00:12:24,360 --> 00:12:29,199 Speaker 1: You know you're not how far you off from marine 189 00:12:29,400 --> 00:12:34,600 Speaker 1: with this dude, I promise you say y'all posted to 190 00:12:34,600 --> 00:12:38,640 Speaker 1: getting married, he gonna go into his second coma. Yeah, 191 00:12:38,720 --> 00:12:41,679 Speaker 1: he's definitely got to be a no show. All right, Steve, 192 00:12:41,800 --> 00:12:44,480 Speaker 1: thank you. Post your comments on today's Strawberry Letter at 193 00:12:44,520 --> 00:12:48,360 Speaker 1: Steve Harvey FM on Instagram and Facebook, and please don't 194 00:12:48,400 --> 00:12:51,360 Speaker 1: forget to check out the Strawberry Letter podcast on demand 195 00:12:51,679 --> 00:12:53,959 Speaker 1: now coming up at forty six minutes after the hour. 196 00:12:54,480 --> 00:13:00,319 Speaker 1: A French soccer player guys been his opponents private area. 197 00:13:00,520 --> 00:13:03,800 Speaker 1: All right, we'll talk about it right after this. You're 198 00:13:03,840 --> 00:13:06,280 Speaker 1: listening to the Dame Harvey Morning Show.