WEBVTT - Laila Odom Talk's Zatima, The Chi, and Owning Property 0:00:00.160 --> 0:00:00.560 What's up. 0:00:00.560 --> 0:00:03.640 It's way up with Angela Yee and special guests joining us, 0:00:03.680 --> 0:00:04.600 and you're all over. 0:00:04.480 --> 0:00:05.520 The TVs right now. 0:00:06.280 --> 0:00:09.039 I mean the final season of The Shy, which everybody 0:00:09.080 --> 0:00:13.119 has been celebrating the run that that show had and 0:00:13.200 --> 0:00:15.800 the impact that it had. And then you're also starring 0:00:15.880 --> 0:00:18.800 on Zatima with quite the storyline this season. 0:00:18.880 --> 0:00:19.680 Welcome to the show. 0:00:19.760 --> 0:00:20.560 Thank you so much. 0:00:21.600 --> 0:00:23.160 So you look healthy. 0:00:24.720 --> 0:00:28.360 I should be just thinking about Connie from watching you 0:00:28.480 --> 0:00:33.559 on Zatima. Just such a really powerful storyline that you 0:00:33.680 --> 0:00:36.200 have on that show. First we met you as Zach's 0:00:36.280 --> 0:00:39.360 ex girlfriend, but now we know there's a secret that 0:00:39.400 --> 0:00:42.600 you've been hiding from everybody. So can we talk about 0:00:42.640 --> 0:00:43.960 that and what that was like for you? 0:00:44.080 --> 0:00:46.960 We can definitely talk about that. I think that me 0:00:47.040 --> 0:00:49.879 coming on the first season. My first season was actually 0:00:50.040 --> 0:00:53.640 the second season, so I come on, She's like this funny, 0:00:53.680 --> 0:00:58.440 brash girl, and there's already funny girls on the show, 0:00:58.480 --> 0:01:00.720 so it's like, well, maybe that's not what she should do. 0:01:01.640 --> 0:01:05.160 So they introduced this whole idea of me having cancer. 0:01:05.880 --> 0:01:07.800 And as I'm reading, because we get the scripts like 0:01:07.920 --> 0:01:12.280 relatively close to when we shoot, I'm in my girlfriend's room. 0:01:13.240 --> 0:01:16.319 And when I say room, her hospital room and she 0:01:16.520 --> 0:01:19.080 just found out that she had stage two or three 0:01:19.120 --> 0:01:22.559 colon cancer. And at that time she was working for 0:01:22.800 --> 0:01:25.000 b Et. So imagine, I'm on a be Et show. 0:01:25.040 --> 0:01:27.839 This is happening. All of these things are just happening. 0:01:28.640 --> 0:01:31.800 So I go we shoot that scene. So the scene 0:01:31.840 --> 0:01:35.480 that everybody really sees is the one where I'm crying 0:01:35.800 --> 0:01:38.399 telling Tony about me having cancer and I'm like, look 0:01:38.400 --> 0:01:40.400 out for my kids. That was a one take. 0:01:41.120 --> 0:01:44.880 Wow. Yeah, I dropped. 0:01:44.560 --> 0:01:48.360 In because it's like I understood what was happening. I 0:01:48.360 --> 0:01:50.720 have a friend, a very close friend, and she's going 0:01:50.760 --> 0:01:54.880 through that, and like we're having those uncomfortable conversations of 0:01:54.960 --> 0:01:59.960 like look after my son, like look after and I'm single, 0:02:00.000 --> 0:02:02.800 I don't have any kids, so it's like, okay, you 0:02:02.840 --> 0:02:05.880 know what I mean. Like it's not an easy conversation. 0:02:06.080 --> 0:02:09.240 And I think that after it aired, I got so 0:02:09.360 --> 0:02:12.239 many messages of people like that happened to my mother, 0:02:12.400 --> 0:02:14.920 that happened to me and my sister. I just think 0:02:15.000 --> 0:02:18.600 that we need to bring more awareness to breast cancer 0:02:19.160 --> 0:02:21.800 in the black and brown communities, in all communities, but 0:02:21.960 --> 0:02:24.520 especially for women that might not know. 0:02:25.240 --> 0:02:28.480 And one thing. Another scene that I found to be powerful. 0:02:28.560 --> 0:02:31.520 There was another woman while you were in the hospital 0:02:32.160 --> 0:02:34.280 and you were telling her that. 0:02:34.200 --> 0:02:35.359 You really didn't want to tell anybody. 0:02:35.400 --> 0:02:38.880 You had only told one person because you're just trying 0:02:38.919 --> 0:02:41.480 to handle things on your own. And I think for 0:02:41.840 --> 0:02:43.960 a lot of people who are going through that, it's 0:02:44.000 --> 0:02:47.720 a secret they don't want people to know. And in 0:02:47.760 --> 0:02:50.320 a way, it is your right to do that, but 0:02:50.360 --> 0:02:52.800 I want to I want to explore what you learned 0:02:52.880 --> 0:02:55.520 from doing that scene. Playing the character of Connie who 0:02:55.520 --> 0:02:58.240 finds out she's going through chemo, she has cancer. You're 0:02:58.240 --> 0:03:00.440 trying to handle it on your own, and a lot. 0:03:00.360 --> 0:03:01.960 Of things happen. You got to watch the show if 0:03:02.000 --> 0:03:04.560 you having to have to watch lots of things. 0:03:04.720 --> 0:03:06.640 Yeah, but just. 0:03:06.600 --> 0:03:09.799 Making people reflect and think about, you know, when you're 0:03:09.840 --> 0:03:13.040 going through something and not telling anybody and kind of 0:03:13.080 --> 0:03:16.000 carrying that yourself, what that means for other people. 0:03:16.560 --> 0:03:19.400 So this is the thing when when we keep it 0:03:19.440 --> 0:03:23.080 all to ourselves, no one can help us. And I 0:03:23.120 --> 0:03:26.240 think that as women so much were like, no I 0:03:26.240 --> 0:03:28.360 can I can do it. I got it by myself. No, 0:03:28.440 --> 0:03:30.919 we don't. We need help, And it's okay to say 0:03:30.960 --> 0:03:34.080 I need help. It's okay to tell your village that 0:03:34.120 --> 0:03:38.400 you need help because we stand for everyone else, so 0:03:38.440 --> 0:03:40.960 we got to stand for ourselves too, and people have 0:03:41.000 --> 0:03:43.360 to support us. So I feel like it was really 0:03:43.400 --> 0:03:45.680 important for that scene to be in there so people 0:03:45.680 --> 0:03:50.040 can really understand that you need help as much as it's. 0:03:50.040 --> 0:03:51.160 People to help you. 0:03:51.280 --> 0:03:54.120 Yeah, And that's the thing, because imagine how upset you 0:03:54.120 --> 0:03:56.480 would be to know that somebody's been dealing with something 0:03:56.960 --> 0:03:59.440 and you would have loved to be there for them, 0:03:59.720 --> 0:04:00.520 and you can't. 0:04:01.040 --> 0:04:04.360 After that happens, you can't get that time back. There's 0:04:04.400 --> 0:04:05.360 nothing you can do. 0:04:05.240 --> 0:04:06.360 Like, why didn't you let me know? 0:04:06.400 --> 0:04:08.560 I would because I think we also take for granted 0:04:08.600 --> 0:04:10.160 that we try to do things that our own and 0:04:10.240 --> 0:04:13.320 I think that's a black women, strong black women thing 0:04:13.400 --> 0:04:15.720 that we do where I just don't want to tell 0:04:15.720 --> 0:04:19.400 anybody I can handle it myself. I'm superwoman. I'm juggling 0:04:19.440 --> 0:04:22.400 these things. I feel like, out of anybody, we're the 0:04:22.440 --> 0:04:24.840 ones that are always feeling. 0:04:24.560 --> 0:04:25.840 Like and we're taught that. 0:04:26.240 --> 0:04:28.240 If I taught that, you gotta hold it down right. 0:04:28.880 --> 0:04:30.599 I look at my mother, I look at my grandmother, 0:04:30.640 --> 0:04:33.680 a very strong woman. I love them, but at the 0:04:33.680 --> 0:04:36.600 same time. I don't want that. I don't want everything 0:04:36.640 --> 0:04:39.240 to be on me right. I really know how to 0:04:39.279 --> 0:04:44.600 treat myself. I know how to relax, Like I have 0:04:44.640 --> 0:04:47.200 a class when I'm in LA when I take yoga 0:04:47.240 --> 0:04:50.279 on Sunday, like just things for me that I need 0:04:50.400 --> 0:04:53.200 to pour back into myself. If we don't do that, 0:04:53.200 --> 0:04:55.200 then you're gonna burn yourself out, and then who can 0:04:55.240 --> 0:04:58.159 you really help if you're burnt out? And this job, 0:04:58.240 --> 0:05:00.719 this line of work that you're in is not easy either, 0:05:01.120 --> 0:05:04.000 No it is not. But it's like you have to 0:05:04.600 --> 0:05:06.880 do things for yourself. You have to take care of yourself. 0:05:07.360 --> 0:05:10.600 Sometimes I look at people, I'm like, I'm not drinking 0:05:10.640 --> 0:05:12.640 liquor every night. I'm not you know what I'm saying, 0:05:12.680 --> 0:05:14.840 I'm not smoking. I'm just taking care of myself. And 0:05:14.839 --> 0:05:19.200 that's something that that came over time. And that's the 0:05:19.200 --> 0:05:21.039 only way I feel like I could really pour into 0:05:21.080 --> 0:05:22.560 you is if i'm my best. 0:05:22.800 --> 0:05:24.920 You're a pescatarian too, correct. 0:05:24.480 --> 0:05:26.680 So like sometimes because I know somebody's gonna try and 0:05:26.680 --> 0:05:32.839 be like what I saw you but in Atlanta never, 0:05:33.080 --> 0:05:37.760 Oh that was that was shady? Okay, I did I did? 0:05:37.880 --> 0:05:40.920 That was back up because I feel like at one 0:05:40.920 --> 0:05:45.080 point you had a squatter. Come on, Angela, got more 0:05:45.600 --> 0:05:50.239 about this Atlanta squatter story, because baby, that is a fair. 0:05:50.560 --> 0:05:53.480 Yes it was. So. I had bought my first condo 0:05:54.040 --> 0:05:57.400 in Atlanta, East Atlanta, and I've rented it because I 0:05:57.440 --> 0:05:59.520 wasn't like, I don't really want to like live there, 0:05:59.520 --> 0:06:02.479 so I hit it. I'm still living in Laka, but 0:06:02.520 --> 0:06:06.120 I'm in Atlanta shooting. We're shooting season maybe four or three. 0:06:07.560 --> 0:06:10.880 She stopped paying the rent. She stopped answering my calls. 0:06:11.120 --> 0:06:11.640 Happened to me. 0:06:12.120 --> 0:06:15.400 Yeah, so I'm going like I'm going to because you 0:06:15.440 --> 0:06:17.360 have to get a sheriff to come and put them out. 0:06:18.160 --> 0:06:21.120 It was it was basically an AIRBNBI furnished it. I'm 0:06:21.160 --> 0:06:22.880 still looking for her because she owe me money. I'm 0:06:22.880 --> 0:06:28.360 still still money. Yeah, so the sheriff comes, I'm taping 0:06:28.360 --> 0:06:30.040 it on my phone. I put it on my Instagram 0:06:30.040 --> 0:06:32.440 because I didn't want that to happen to anybody else, right, 0:06:32.800 --> 0:06:35.400 But now the studio I had to work that day, 0:06:36.200 --> 0:06:38.080 so I had to kick her out and beat her 0:06:38.160 --> 0:06:43.400 work by five period. They Yeah, let me ask you 0:06:43.520 --> 0:06:47.240 what so she just thought she could just Sometimes I 0:06:47.279 --> 0:06:50.080 feel like when people think they know what you do, 0:06:50.240 --> 0:06:53.680 or like, oh I saw you on TV. Yeah, I 0:06:53.720 --> 0:06:56.440 still need my money, right, I mean rent? 0:06:56.880 --> 0:06:59.039 Like And the other thing is that I think you 0:06:59.320 --> 0:07:02.919 if if you're doing you can communicate, like if you 0:07:03.040 --> 0:07:05.280 had fallen on some hard times. Look, I had a 0:07:06.720 --> 0:07:10.360 condo that I rented out and the woman's husband died 0:07:10.400 --> 0:07:13.800 in a freak accident. And she told me, and I said, look, 0:07:14.240 --> 0:07:16.560 that was awful, Like, let me give you a break. 0:07:16.680 --> 0:07:18.880 I lowered the rent. I didn't make her pay for it. 0:07:18.880 --> 0:07:21.720 I gave her back her deposit because you just communicate, 0:07:22.040 --> 0:07:24.160 I mean her, I mean, that's tragic, and I know, 0:07:24.680 --> 0:07:27.240 and she didn't pay the you know, and I just 0:07:27.280 --> 0:07:29.360 felt she was like, you know, I can't really afford 0:07:29.400 --> 0:07:31.880 this on my own, and I don't want to move 0:07:31.920 --> 0:07:34.640 at this moment because this just happened. And I was like, okay, 0:07:34.920 --> 0:07:37.080 you know, because that's awful, Like you want to be. 0:07:37.040 --> 0:07:39.800 You want to be sens communicate, don't be like I'm 0:07:39.840 --> 0:07:40.320 not paying. 0:07:40.720 --> 0:07:42.760 So she wasn't paying, so we found out, or I 0:07:42.880 --> 0:07:46.240 found out when the sheriffs came. She was doing only 0:07:46.360 --> 0:07:49.480 fans in my house, so she had money, and she 0:07:49.600 --> 0:07:50.240 gets into it. 0:07:50.760 --> 0:07:52.560 Everybody who do only fans ain't got money. 0:07:52.600 --> 0:07:56.760 Lets listen enough to subscribe to listen? I probably, but 0:07:56.960 --> 0:08:00.280 she did not pay. She didn't pay for a year. 0:08:01.000 --> 0:08:04.000 That's wild and so and it's hard to get that money, 0:08:04.080 --> 0:08:06.640 Like it's hard to get somebody to pay, you know, 0:08:06.720 --> 0:08:07.280 with the year. 0:08:07.440 --> 0:08:10.480 Yeah, so I had to just eat that and I 0:08:10.600 --> 0:08:11.520 was like, never again. 0:08:11.640 --> 0:08:14.280 Yeah, but better things come along, that's right, you know. 0:08:14.640 --> 0:08:18.000 But I will never no condos, no town homes ever. 0:08:18.640 --> 0:08:21.400 I will never do that because the hua still want 0:08:21.440 --> 0:08:21.960 they money. 0:08:22.400 --> 0:08:25.520 Yeah you still pay. Yeah, okay, so never for that. 0:08:25.800 --> 0:08:30.560 Atlanta like, y'all cool, but nah, like like I'm good. 0:08:30.560 --> 0:08:31.120 I don't want to. 0:08:31.440 --> 0:08:34.440 One experience make it feel like it's all it has. 0:08:34.480 --> 0:08:36.360 It has, But I like. 0:08:36.559 --> 0:08:39.120 I like Atlanta, but I like like when I'm there 0:08:39.160 --> 0:08:41.160 for work or for a short period of. 0:08:41.080 --> 0:08:43.240 Time, eat and the grill. Shout out to Melissa. 0:08:43.360 --> 0:08:47.360 I'm Melissa, we love you. Yeah, I really want I'd like. 0:08:47.440 --> 0:08:50.400 I like it there, but being single, no children, I 0:08:50.400 --> 0:08:51.560 don't think it's the place for me. 0:08:51.640 --> 0:08:53.360 Oh yeah, I heard that's tough in Atlanta. 0:08:53.440 --> 0:08:55.640 Yeah, and we know why I did that. 0:08:55.720 --> 0:08:59.679 Single by choice or yes, sorry, I just want to 0:08:59.720 --> 0:09:00.719 make sure not on the. 0:09:00.720 --> 0:09:01.480 Apps and nothing. 0:09:02.160 --> 0:09:05.240 I mean, I have been, but I'm not on Have 0:09:05.280 --> 0:09:08.200 you ever had a good match on an app? For sure? 0:09:10.960 --> 0:09:15.040 For sure hit the jets right like, But that was 0:09:15.240 --> 0:09:16.960 I feel like that was a little while ago. It 0:09:17.000 --> 0:09:20.880 was the days of Raya always on Riyoso. Everybody Rya 0:09:21.000 --> 0:09:25.080 right now, I'm not, but but y'all are. But I 0:09:25.240 --> 0:09:27.840 just that's when Rya was like having the club in 0:09:27.880 --> 0:09:31.360 your pocket. It was the greatest best thing. But not anymore, 0:09:31.440 --> 0:09:33.520 but just before and after you were Pepper in the 0:09:34.840 --> 0:09:38.760 It was before. It was before and then after. I 0:09:38.800 --> 0:09:45.040 was like, let me yeah, but it was. I really 0:09:45.200 --> 0:09:47.160 liked the app. It was international. 0:09:48.480 --> 0:09:50.760 So did you say any white guys on air? 0:09:50.880 --> 0:09:51.280 I did not. 0:09:51.520 --> 0:09:52.560 Okay, I don't think. 0:09:53.120 --> 0:09:55.880 I don't think the white guys be really interested. 0:09:55.440 --> 0:09:58.160 In Somebody told me that that on Raya. 0:09:58.520 --> 0:10:03.959 Oh yeah yeah, I mean that's the main source, are 0:10:04.000 --> 0:10:07.000 the white guys. But I don't think white guys really 0:10:07.120 --> 0:10:08.400 checked for me. I don't think so. 0:10:09.000 --> 0:10:11.400 Well after this man you said you know. 0:10:11.600 --> 0:10:13.400 But so I want to ask you about because Sultin 0:10:13.440 --> 0:10:16.960 Pepa was one of my favorite groups ever, right and 0:10:17.040 --> 0:10:19.640 so watching that story and seeing you play Peppa, I 0:10:19.679 --> 0:10:22.320 gotta ask you what that experience was it? 0:10:22.440 --> 0:10:24.839 Like, were you fans of Salwn Pepper before that? 0:10:25.240 --> 0:10:26.080 What did you learn? 0:10:26.280 --> 0:10:27.439 Like that's fascinating to. 0:10:27.440 --> 0:10:33.360 Me, So Salmn Pepa. That experience like completely changed the 0:10:33.800 --> 0:10:37.000 like the direction of my career. I had a great 0:10:37.040 --> 0:10:41.040 co star, Gigi Townsend, she played song. We had such 0:10:41.080 --> 0:10:45.800 a great chemistry. We shot up in Toronto. It was amazing. 0:10:46.320 --> 0:10:49.120 Now I have an older sister, so I wasn't as well, 0:10:49.360 --> 0:10:51.960 like knowing certain music, but we had to get into 0:10:52.000 --> 0:10:55.520 the music. Mario van Peebles, he was the director nice. 0:10:55.600 --> 0:10:58.480 So it was like a dream come true. Now I'm 0:10:58.480 --> 0:11:01.760 gonna share something with you that people don't know. So 0:11:01.800 --> 0:11:05.320 I'm close with Withodi McLean, who played Bobby Brown. So 0:11:05.400 --> 0:11:08.439 I was on set during new audition and the writer 0:11:08.600 --> 0:11:11.960 at Duel, Hey I do. He wrote a new edition 0:11:12.200 --> 0:11:15.640 and Salt and Pepper, And I remember being on set like, Yo, 0:11:15.679 --> 0:11:18.400 that's so dope. You get right? You can you can 0:11:18.600 --> 0:11:21.640 rap you singing, you acting? I would love to do that. 0:11:22.840 --> 0:11:25.600 And literally three years. 0:11:25.440 --> 0:11:28.600 Later, Wow, yeah, that's Sometimes you got to put it 0:11:28.600 --> 0:11:28.960 out there. 0:11:29.000 --> 0:11:31.920 Sometimes you gotta, but you gotta put out what you want. 0:11:31.960 --> 0:11:34.640 You can't put out like, oh I'm not booking. I'm 0:11:34.679 --> 0:11:35.680 at this, that's right. 0:11:35.760 --> 0:11:37.760 It's the way that you approach things and how you 0:11:38.040 --> 0:11:39.439 manifest things exactly. 0:11:39.520 --> 0:11:42.600 But you're positive you can't because if you're like, yo, 0:11:42.640 --> 0:11:45.839 I'm broke, all the universe here is is I'm broke, 0:11:45.920 --> 0:11:48.840 So it just sends you more brokeness But you have 0:11:48.920 --> 0:11:52.520 to almost be crazy, Like I say it all the time. 0:11:52.520 --> 0:11:53.920 I say it to my mom. She's sick of it 0:11:53.920 --> 0:11:58.000 now because I'm like, I'm rich. She's like you, I'm like, 0:11:59.120 --> 0:12:00.360 I'm giving. 0:12:00.480 --> 0:12:03.680 It is giving rich, But I just. 0:12:03.679 --> 0:12:05.480 You know what I'm saying. I feel like it's so 0:12:05.520 --> 0:12:09.680 important to put out what you want people to know 0:12:09.800 --> 0:12:13.360 about you. At the same time, I'm not a fan 0:12:13.400 --> 0:12:17.520 of like showing the world or showing Instagram what I'm 0:12:17.559 --> 0:12:20.599 doing every five minutes, So I think it's like you 0:12:21.000 --> 0:12:22.960 better learn like something in the middle. 0:12:23.559 --> 0:12:24.640 I think you know what it is. 0:12:24.720 --> 0:12:27.199 It's in real life doing what you need to do, 0:12:28.080 --> 0:12:31.120 and when it's completed, then you can then you can 0:12:31.160 --> 0:12:32.600 share it with you then you can share. 0:12:32.840 --> 0:12:38.200 But I think premature, like, don't premature share something because 0:12:38.640 --> 0:12:42.000 sometimes not everybody wants what you want for yourself. 0:12:42.120 --> 0:12:45.440 Yeah, you're right about that. I know there's definitely. I 0:12:45.440 --> 0:12:49.640 think as you're getting more and more successful, people are 0:12:50.160 --> 0:12:52.120 you know, they love you when you down, but when 0:12:52.160 --> 0:12:53.960 you get up they want to drag it down. 0:12:54.000 --> 0:12:57.440 And then that's a fact. But like even I don't 0:12:57.480 --> 0:13:00.240 even want to think about that part. I just want 0:13:00.280 --> 0:13:02.640 to think like when I meet people or when I 0:13:02.679 --> 0:13:06.160 see somebody, I don't have negative encounters, Like people really 0:13:06.200 --> 0:13:08.920 show love. So I really focused on that. I don't 0:13:08.960 --> 0:13:12.199 focus on like I don't be like, oh the haters, 0:13:12.240 --> 0:13:13.640 like everybody's people say. 0:13:13.840 --> 0:13:16.080 I've never heard anybody say anything bad about you. People 0:13:16.080 --> 0:13:17.800 are like, she's so cool, You're gonna have so much 0:13:17.800 --> 0:13:18.600 bend talking to her. 0:13:18.760 --> 0:13:21.520 See, I just feel like I'm honest and I'm gonna 0:13:21.720 --> 0:13:23.480 like just tell you how I really feel. 0:13:23.520 --> 0:13:24.800 Okay, well, let's have an honest moment. 0:13:24.920 --> 0:13:25.600 Let's have one. 0:13:25.880 --> 0:13:30.719 So Connie's character right on, Zatima, is it wild to 0:13:32.040 --> 0:13:35.160 be staying at your ex's house with his new pregnant woman? 0:13:36.120 --> 0:13:40.120 You do in real life? Could you see yourself being 0:13:40.120 --> 0:13:41.839 with a man pregnant? 0:13:42.080 --> 0:13:44.400 Right, and then saying you ex could come stay on 0:13:44.440 --> 0:13:44.839 the couch. 0:13:45.240 --> 0:13:53.200 I mean, she got to have her own bedroom. She 0:13:53.240 --> 0:13:55.160 has to have like an in law suite. 0:13:54.920 --> 0:13:59.440 But like they eventually got her. You know, I would 0:13:59.480 --> 0:14:02.640 have done that for the beginning. I would have said, Okay, listen, 0:14:03.800 --> 0:14:06.000 because how do you feel about somebody your dating being 0:14:06.040 --> 0:14:07.280 really close with their ex. 0:14:07.600 --> 0:14:10.560 Let me tell you something. We got to have a 0:14:10.640 --> 0:14:14.559 talk about that, Like we have to because not everybody 0:14:14.880 --> 0:14:18.320 is over their ex and not to be insecure. But 0:14:18.360 --> 0:14:20.880 at the same time, it's like, I don't know what 0:14:20.920 --> 0:14:24.200 you're doing. So if I don't know and I don't 0:14:24.240 --> 0:14:27.240 know that person your ex, You're nah, it's not gonna 0:14:27.240 --> 0:14:30.200 be no sleepovers. It's not there's no moving in. 0:14:30.320 --> 0:14:32.280 What have your passed? Like, what is the most serious 0:14:32.320 --> 0:14:33.520 relationship you've ever had? 0:14:33.680 --> 0:14:39.880 Oh? I really haven't been in that many relationships. 0:14:39.160 --> 0:14:40.640 But what is it one that you would say this 0:14:40.800 --> 0:14:43.120 was the most serious? Like how long did that last? 0:14:43.560 --> 0:14:43.840 Last? 0:14:43.880 --> 0:14:48.720 A few years? He was an actor, Okay, we met 0:14:49.400 --> 0:14:55.880 at work, Okay, you're waiting something together, Okay, we were 0:14:56.160 --> 0:14:59.800 pasting okay. But then after the experience, I was like, ye'ah, 0:15:00.080 --> 0:15:01.200 never do that again. 0:15:01.200 --> 0:15:03.160 Like date someone you are working with or date another 0:15:03.200 --> 0:15:04.600 actor like both. 0:15:04.680 --> 0:15:06.880 At the time, I was like, I don't never want 0:15:06.920 --> 0:15:09.960 an actor and I never want somebody I've worked. 0:15:09.600 --> 0:15:11.880 With why because it's hard. 0:15:12.120 --> 0:15:15.480 And it's like you really gotta be as secure as 0:15:15.520 --> 0:15:19.320 you can be because like that guy, he was very 0:15:19.360 --> 0:15:23.840 friendly and at that time, I'm young. I'm like young, 0:15:24.200 --> 0:15:26.520 so like, you know, you can't be like I'm a 0:15:26.600 --> 0:15:29.880 smack her. I'm tired, and you can't smack everybody, so 0:15:30.160 --> 0:15:34.040 can I just felt like it was a good relationship. 0:15:34.080 --> 0:15:36.520 I learned a lot from him, and then after that, 0:15:36.560 --> 0:15:38.880 I just I took a break, had an end. 0:15:41.000 --> 0:15:41.440 What'd you do? 0:15:43.120 --> 0:15:48.680 Not me? But I think that for him, his career 0:15:48.760 --> 0:15:52.000 was number one. Okay, I wasn't number one, which is 0:15:52.080 --> 0:15:55.760 fine because once you know that about somebody, then you 0:15:55.800 --> 0:15:57.840 can move forward with like what you. 0:15:57.840 --> 0:15:59.680 Plan to do is your career number one? 0:16:00.520 --> 0:16:01.000 It is? 0:16:05.200 --> 0:16:08.200 I mean, I mean, but you need somebody that is 0:16:08.280 --> 0:16:12.080 going to be supportive of what you're doing and understand 0:16:12.240 --> 0:16:15.120 and want to like push you forward. Sometimes that is 0:16:15.160 --> 0:16:17.400 another actor though you know, I don't know. 0:16:17.720 --> 0:16:20.440 Sometimes it is another actor, like like we got to 0:16:20.480 --> 0:16:22.440 see I don't know, but what I but what I 0:16:22.520 --> 0:16:26.960 do know is that it's got to be peaceful, it's 0:16:27.000 --> 0:16:29.200 got to be healthy. We got to be on the 0:16:29.240 --> 0:16:33.640 same page, and like that page is I don't think 0:16:33.680 --> 0:16:36.240 I want to post him. I don't think I want 0:16:36.240 --> 0:16:39.600 to share the relationship with people. I don't think I 0:16:39.680 --> 0:16:42.080 want to do that at all. I think I want 0:16:42.080 --> 0:16:45.280 to wait, like let's get married. 0:16:45.000 --> 0:16:47.360 Like pop out married and let's pop out married. But 0:16:47.480 --> 0:16:50.320 like Taylor Brooks one day, she just had a wedding. 0:16:50.640 --> 0:16:54.080 Yeah, like, what's up y'all coming? I don't, I don't think, 0:16:54.200 --> 0:16:56.840 you know, I don't. I don't think that I want 0:16:56.920 --> 0:17:00.200 to share that because I think people have opinion and 0:17:00.320 --> 0:17:02.960 that affects the relationships. So I don't. I don't want 0:17:02.960 --> 0:17:03.200 to do it. 0:17:03.240 --> 0:17:06.800 Would you google him? What you mean like if you 0:17:06.920 --> 0:17:08.160 know the first day? 0:17:08.520 --> 0:17:13.000 Oh yeah, oh yeah, I'm safe. Yeah, I'm definitely googling. 0:17:13.080 --> 0:17:15.520 I'm definitely taking a picture of the license sending it 0:17:15.520 --> 0:17:18.280 to my homegirl like where I'm still very much so 0:17:18.480 --> 0:17:22.919 doing that. But like right now, I think, I like, 0:17:23.320 --> 0:17:25.439 stop seeing American guys. 0:17:25.800 --> 0:17:29.040 American country? Are we on? 0:17:29.359 --> 0:17:35.600 I mean I was open. I mean they were overseas. 0:17:35.080 --> 0:17:37.640 But like overseas where I need a country or London? 0:17:38.320 --> 0:17:41.200 Okayis right? You know what I mean? 0:17:41.400 --> 0:17:44.440 Like Okay, the blokes, Yeah, it was just. 0:17:44.800 --> 0:17:48.000 It was different because the American guys were not like all, 0:17:48.040 --> 0:17:52.320 let me out here roam and just be single this long, like, oh, 0:17:52.440 --> 0:17:54.240 let me take my show on the road. So I 0:17:54.320 --> 0:17:59.800 took to like Nigeria too. Maybe I've been to Ghana. Okay, Ghana, 0:18:00.080 --> 0:18:00.600 went to Ghana? 0:18:01.080 --> 0:18:01.640 How was that? 0:18:01.800 --> 0:18:04.439 Yeah, it wasn't really feeling me. I don't believe this 0:18:05.000 --> 0:18:05.680 and everything. 0:18:05.920 --> 0:18:08.719 How do you know someone's like I don't even understand 0:18:08.760 --> 0:18:11.320 what that means because I can't fathom you being out 0:18:11.359 --> 0:18:14.480 there and you're single, dumb and nobody's feeling you. 0:18:14.720 --> 0:18:15.080 Listen. 0:18:15.160 --> 0:18:18.280 So I went for Ditsy December, so I go. 0:18:18.480 --> 0:18:18.760 Right. 0:18:19.200 --> 0:18:22.679 We had just wrapped the season of Zatima. So I 0:18:22.720 --> 0:18:27.359 fly from Atlanta to a cry, which is Ghana, and 0:18:27.440 --> 0:18:29.800 I just didn't feel the love, you know how Like 0:18:29.840 --> 0:18:32.080 everyone's like when you get to Africa, you're gonna cry 0:18:32.160 --> 0:18:35.200 and you're gonna feel and I was like it's gonna come. 0:18:36.040 --> 0:18:38.720 It didn't come, and then I was like out and about. 0:18:38.840 --> 0:18:40.200 I just felt like nobody was. 0:18:40.320 --> 0:18:43.000 Really feeling me, Like maybe you're intimidating. 0:18:43.160 --> 0:18:45.200 I don't want to hear that, Like you don't think 0:18:45.240 --> 0:18:48.240 that no, cause I feel like I'm too down to 0:18:48.359 --> 0:18:51.919 earth and cool for someone to be intimidated. Like, if 0:18:51.960 --> 0:18:53.639 you're intimidated, I don't think you're a person. 0:18:53.920 --> 0:18:56.840 I'm thinking, Dan, I sent you this post because when 0:18:56.920 --> 0:19:00.879 I see stuff like certain things online, you know how 0:19:00.880 --> 0:19:03.000 people be putting up all these like we call it 0:19:03.080 --> 0:19:05.920 gurus of the ground. Yes, everybody got their own little 0:19:05.960 --> 0:19:07.359 expertise and something else. 0:19:07.680 --> 0:19:12.080 I want to because one guy, one woman did this post. 0:19:12.119 --> 0:19:14.000 I want to see what you think about this. Hold on, 0:19:14.080 --> 0:19:19.040 let me pull it up, all right, she said, hold on. 0:19:19.760 --> 0:19:22.600 Basically, she was saying she was a red flag to 0:19:22.720 --> 0:19:25.520 a guy because he said she was too friendly. She 0:19:25.600 --> 0:19:28.200 knew everybody on the block and she said hi to everybody. 0:19:28.480 --> 0:19:30.800 And he was like, that's too much for me. Somebody 0:19:30.840 --> 0:19:34.879 that a woman thats too friendly and he felt like 0:19:34.920 --> 0:19:35.959 she was too accessible. 0:19:36.240 --> 0:19:40.320 Okay, I get that, but you do I was like, what, No, 0:19:40.440 --> 0:19:44.959