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Speaker 1: We're just too unapologetically black women with an opinion who

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Speaker 1: talk about what's up? Y'all. Welcome to a new episode.

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Speaker 1: If we talk back, it's your girl a j what

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Speaker 1: app Hey, y'all, it's me Tim Bam. I fucking love

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Speaker 1: you guys. Man, I missed y'all. How you doing, a J? Child?

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Speaker 1: I'm good battling the pollen killing me? Girl? What? I

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Speaker 1: can't even see the polo, but it's already beating my

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Speaker 1: ass like you can't. Typically, I don't start feeling this

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Speaker 1: bad from pollen until I can see it. But I

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Speaker 1: can't see it on cars or nothing, but it's already.

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Speaker 1: It's like invisible. Girl. We got what the fund is

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Speaker 1: that calipine trees in Charleston and I can't keep my

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Speaker 1: car clean? Like? Why im a month of pollen? I'm

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Speaker 1: sick of this ship because I can barely breathe. Breathe again.

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Speaker 1: I'm tired of taking take your medicine. How was your weekend, bitch?

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Speaker 1: I went out to dinner. Um, you went on a date. No,

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Speaker 1: not exactly. My family, Um, my sister and my nephew

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Speaker 1: was in town, so I hung up with them and

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Speaker 1: my sister's friends. My nephew plays football and ship. So

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Speaker 1: I went to this little football camp this weekend for

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Speaker 1: my weekend. Y'all, I just got to slow down. I

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Speaker 1: just got to slow down. COVID had me stuck in

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Speaker 1: the house, and now I'm just like stuck in the house.

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Speaker 1: What stuck in the house? And I've just been outside outside.

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Speaker 1: But I live alone, so it's just like, why should

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Speaker 1: can be outside mingling with the masses. I don't be

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Speaker 1: missing going out like that. That's because you'd be bowed up.

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Speaker 1: I do not be bowed up, you know. I wish

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Speaker 1: I do not be I ain't got no boob, I

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Speaker 1: don't have no boot, I don't have like a potential booth.

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Speaker 1: So I'm just kind of like hanging out with the girls.

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Speaker 1: I like being booed up, but I definitely gonna be

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Speaker 1: brewed up but up. But girls saying the same thing

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Speaker 1: twice don't make it mean nothing different. Beach, I don't

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Speaker 1: like hot girl summers like I like this dick. When

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Speaker 1: I get off the beach, I'm sorry. I don't want

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Speaker 1: to go out of tower, bitches, So I'm working on that.

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Speaker 1: You can go out of town with bitches. It's still

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Speaker 1: suck dick. Yeah, random dick, because that's what I'm saying,

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Speaker 1: bitches be doing. Don't take on bitches, be fucking random.

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Speaker 1: Nick is on vacation. I with it, Shaye. What we

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Speaker 1: got going on in stupid ass internet news? A lot?

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Speaker 1: This girl a lot. Jesse Williams is asking the court

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Speaker 1: to reduce his child support payments for his eight year

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Speaker 1: old and six year old children. So apparently he's paying

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Speaker 1: forty dollars monthly child support and he wants to reduce. Uh.

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Speaker 1: He was making He made six point two million and

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Speaker 1: a hundred eighty thousands and residuals on Gray's Anatomy, But

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Speaker 1: now he's making sixteen hundred dollars a week as a

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Speaker 1: star of the play Take Me Out, So he's not

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Speaker 1: making that kind of ends right now. So he said

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Speaker 1: he don't want to pay them forty bands a month.

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Speaker 1: What do you think about that? Yeah? I mean when

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Speaker 1: people life changes, you go to court and you have

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Speaker 1: things adjusted. So his ex wife still wants them to

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Speaker 1: making up. I just want to say, Lord, everybody, by

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Speaker 1: your heads, Lord, what you're doing for others. Please see

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Speaker 1: fit to do for me in the name. But she's

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Speaker 1: just safe man forty thousand on my Listen, we need

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Speaker 1: to we need to see what the annual income or

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Speaker 1: salary is for a celebrity baby mama. Be good. They're

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Speaker 1: just making faint because apparently apparently she doesn't work, and

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Speaker 1: she holds a New York real estate license that she's

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Speaker 1: not using, so you want him to get a better

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Speaker 1: need to go on and create a major in college

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Speaker 1: for celebrity baby mama because if he's paying forty dollars

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Speaker 1: the fuck. You know some people, I'm pretty sure. I'm

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Speaker 1: not saying I'm pretty sure, but people breathe their children.

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Speaker 1: It's just black women don't be bred to to to

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Speaker 1: go after those type of suitors. Does somebody straight take

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Speaker 1: care of your ass? Like, really, you're supposed to be

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Speaker 1: at the African weddings. That's what we need, an African

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Speaker 1: child support. But for somebody who has this kind of money,

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Speaker 1: just seemed like should they even be on child support?

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Speaker 1: He don't seem like the type that wouldn't take care

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Speaker 1: So basically, you need him to go get a higher

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Speaker 1: we mad at her? Yeah? Because kids are both parties responsibility.

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Speaker 1: But I guess you know, once you married, she's a

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Speaker 1: full time custodian though sounds like okay, but I know

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Speaker 1: of money, he has to pay for you to maintain

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Speaker 1: this lifestyle. Mm hmm. But if he's not making that

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Speaker 1: money anymore, the courts should adjusted. And I feel like

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Speaker 1: if she ever loved him, she would want to adjust

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Speaker 1: it to Alexa play was Love Got to Do With It?

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Speaker 1: By Tina Turner. No, I agreetars is a lie. I

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Speaker 1: mean you can survive off much less much much less,

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Speaker 1: or get back to work since uh, everybody doing real

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Speaker 1: But she living in New York? Like, how good is that? Realist?

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Speaker 1: I'm pretty sure. I'm pretty sure. Like the fucking sh

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Speaker 1: is astronomically nobody vinyl houses right now? For real? She

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Speaker 1: unify her some damn investors. That's just buying up some

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Speaker 1: damn property somewhere. Good luck, Jesse. Guess what Tyler Perry

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Speaker 1: admits to using my dia voice in bed Ill? What

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Speaker 1: the fund is that about? Could you imagine he'll put

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Speaker 1: his dick and you tell my heiler, Oh, this is

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Speaker 1: pussy good hler Is it pussy m that he's using

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Speaker 1: that voice? One? Oh? That is that is a good question.

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Speaker 1: Is he using that voice when he gets some dick?

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Speaker 1: Tyler Perry is not gay. Tyler Perry is a straight

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Speaker 1: black man. I know again nigga stole his credit card

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Speaker 1: one time. How did that happened? How this nigga, How

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Speaker 1: this young nigga got your fucking wallet. Please tell me,

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Speaker 1: because because I know how I get nigga's wallets. The fun.

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Speaker 1: I thought he ty Perry had a girlfriend at one point.

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Speaker 1: He might do. He might be bisexual, but I don't

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Speaker 1: think he's ever said he's had a sexual I just

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Speaker 1: don't understand why media would ever need to come up

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Speaker 1: and again like at all, gay, straight, whatever whatever you like.

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Speaker 1: MDIA needs to stay the funk out, Yeah, because I'm

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Speaker 1: definitely not sucking media dog me neither. She got the

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Speaker 1: big as cities though. The closest I'm sucking to the

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Speaker 1: closest I might fun to media is Oprah. You bitch,

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Speaker 1: girls gonna beat your ass. I'm just playing girl and

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Speaker 1: stay at me. Oh y'all, we can only aspire to

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Speaker 1: beat their motherfucker's when we get that a shot. So

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Speaker 1: I heard Jannet Jackson used to date Tyler Perry. You

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Speaker 1: heard a motherfucking like bitch. Ain't no way Tyler Perry

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Speaker 1: got no Jenny Jackson. Listen, Tyler Perry was sucking with

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Speaker 1: Jamaine dupri Why the funk would she not with? Uh? See,

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Speaker 1: that's how room will start. Tyler Perry was sucking Jamaine Dupris.

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Speaker 1: You know what I meant, Janie Jesson. See that's how

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Speaker 1: room will start right there, welcome to Atlanta, like and

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Speaker 1: you know, I feel like she only did he Jamine

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Speaker 1: hits for songs. She was definitely acting on a on

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Speaker 1: a couple of Tyler Perry films. She want she don't

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Speaker 1: have to funk for no job. That's Jennie Jensen. Janet

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Speaker 1: Jackson was sucking for them lead roholes, Honey, Janet bo.

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Speaker 1: I just don't understand why she Jermaine and Tyler Perry.

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Speaker 1: That just don't seem right. She all got no preference.

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Speaker 1: She just probably right. I don't see. She's probably just

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Speaker 1: it on goodness and ship. You know her voice sound

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Speaker 1: like that's how she feels, like fucking rainbow bright Cariburians, bitch.

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Speaker 1: I just really like people who are good and kind. Heller.

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Speaker 1: You can imagine him doing that to her room to

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Speaker 1: Janet Jackson, Chad Tyler, I like it when you do

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Speaker 1: my dear voice in the bed, do it, Tyler, do it? Tyler, Heller,

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Speaker 1: hellerge it. Let me stop, y'all so I guess we

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Speaker 1: got to talk about the elephant in the room, what

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Speaker 1: the whole world is talking about out. But before we

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Speaker 1: I know you've been talking about it all week, but

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Speaker 1: we're about to talk about a little bit more. Will Smith,

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Speaker 1: Chris Rock, Jada Pinkett smacks slapgate. Yo. Was it necessary? Yeah?

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Speaker 1: Sometimes no, because we just got finished having an episode

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Speaker 1: saying domestic violence is never necessary. I don't know if

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Speaker 1: that's counted as domestic violence, but it was violence, So

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Speaker 1: violence is never necessary. How most change comes with violence.

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Speaker 1: So maybe now Chris Rock will watch his sucking mouth

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Speaker 1: about to do a comedy tour. His ticket sales went up,

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Speaker 1: and he's about to say worse ship than he said

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Speaker 1: then because Will Smith won't be there to smack his

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Speaker 1: ass this time. I'll be unpaid and niggo to be

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Speaker 1: there just in case, because I said, keep my wife

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Speaker 1: therebut your motherfucking mouth. No, he's about to go crazy.

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Speaker 1: I feel like that little part was added for us

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Speaker 1: to meet. Okay, first of all, let me listen. Let

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Speaker 1: y'all know that I believe that ship was fucking staged.

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Speaker 1: This is a j also here and Will Smith had

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Speaker 1: to add that keep my words name out your mouth

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Speaker 1: to make it more convincible, because you know, that's like

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Speaker 1: black people talk. If somebody say that ship, it gotta

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Speaker 1: be real, right, Why what reason would they have to

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Speaker 1: do that? Because the motherfucker Oscars ratings have been in

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Speaker 1: the fucking trash can for hot for a decade or more.

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Speaker 1: That's why this is the first year it was produced

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Speaker 1: by a black man. Will Smith got his first Oscar.

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Speaker 1: You smack a nigga, right, and then get the Best

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Speaker 1: Actor awards shortly thereafter? You just acted and then you

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Speaker 1: got an award for doing it. I don't think that

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Speaker 1: was a nact. I really feel like he felt some

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Speaker 1: type of way. I don't feel like Jada would want

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Speaker 1: to use her ball head as a catalyst for ratings

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Speaker 1: for the Oscar Awards, Like I'm sure they would be like,

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Speaker 1: can we come up with something different to get in

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Speaker 1: a fight about exself? For Jada ball is Like you

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Speaker 1: know what I'm saying, Like, I don't think that was it.

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Speaker 1: I feel her pain ship. I would have been mad too,

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Speaker 1: because I'd be feeling my ship and all the time

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Speaker 1: with a shadow, so I was feeling my ship in

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Speaker 1: watching the oscars like me and Jade ain't the same boat.

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Speaker 1: God damn. All right, so let's talk about it as

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Speaker 1: if it were real, right, Let's just say, let's just

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Speaker 1: let's just say how to leave the fucking smack? Was

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Speaker 1: the smack was real? Yes? But was the whole ordeal nonstage?

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Speaker 1: I don't know, it's real questionable. It's just like how

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Speaker 1: Chris Rock look hands behind his back like he prepared

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Speaker 1: to get smack. So do you feel like Jada Pinkett

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Speaker 1: really got alopecia or she shaved her hand to be

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Speaker 1: a part of the conspiracy theory? I believe she has alopecia.

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Speaker 1: be clear. And y'all they talk about Jada Smith like

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Speaker 1: that's a provider, right, so we want provision. The other

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Speaker 1: does that mean make him not a protector? He would

423
00:24:34,920 --> 00:24:37,160
Speaker 1: try We probably both get the ass beat out there

424
00:24:37,480 --> 00:24:40,119
Speaker 1: with him. I mean, everybody bound to lose at some

425
00:24:40,240 --> 00:24:42,960
Speaker 1: point in life, like some you all lose sometimes, But

426
00:24:43,119 --> 00:24:45,320
Speaker 1: do you just want to nigger that? I feel like, Okay,

427
00:24:45,440 --> 00:24:47,280
Speaker 1: so let me tell you the difference to what I'm seeing.

428
00:24:50,000 --> 00:24:52,240
Speaker 1: Chris Rock may not have made it, Like, say, for instances,

429
00:24:52,240 --> 00:24:54,840
Speaker 1: Beyonce was in there with that same ball head. Would

430
00:24:54,960 --> 00:24:58,960
Speaker 1: Chris Rock have made that comment to to jay Z's wife?

431
00:25:01,280 --> 00:25:06,399
Speaker 1: But Beyonce, We're sitting there with a ball head right now,

432
00:25:06,520 --> 00:25:11,800
Speaker 1: I'm comparing. I'm comparing Will Smith and jay Z as men,

433
00:25:12,320 --> 00:25:15,280
Speaker 1: the two type of men, right. I don't think that

434
00:25:15,400 --> 00:25:18,080
Speaker 1: Chris Rock would play with jay Z. I don't think

435
00:25:18,160 --> 00:25:20,679
Speaker 1: Chris Rock would have said that to Beyonce had Beyonce

436
00:25:20,800 --> 00:25:23,640
Speaker 1: been sitting there with a ball head because of who

437
00:25:23,720 --> 00:25:26,680
Speaker 1: her husband is and just the energy that comes with

438
00:25:27,080 --> 00:25:30,080
Speaker 1: jay Z. Like he don't feel like energy from Chris Rock,

439
00:25:30,200 --> 00:25:32,760
Speaker 1: I mean from Will Smith. Because people only play with

440
00:25:32,840 --> 00:25:35,000
Speaker 1: people they feel like they can play with. Well, yeah,

441
00:25:35,040 --> 00:25:37,159
Speaker 1: I feel like people have been playing with Will Smith

442
00:25:38,160 --> 00:25:40,879
Speaker 1: for the past year or two. But that's because they

443
00:25:41,000 --> 00:25:43,880
Speaker 1: opened themselves up to be played with. With these red

444
00:25:43,960 --> 00:25:46,560
Speaker 1: table talks. You know, when you put yourself out there

445
00:25:46,640 --> 00:25:49,720
Speaker 1: like that, you do you do open yourself up for

446
00:25:49,800 --> 00:25:52,119
Speaker 1: that type of criticism. We don't know shit about what

447
00:25:52,280 --> 00:25:55,560
Speaker 1: jay Z and Beyonce really got going on, so they

448
00:25:55,640 --> 00:26:00,480
Speaker 1: don't make themselves the butt of any joke. Honestly, except

449
00:26:00,480 --> 00:26:02,359
Speaker 1: for in that elevator. That was the only time we

450
00:26:02,440 --> 00:26:04,679
Speaker 1: could ever make some fun, have some fun with jay

451
00:26:04,760 --> 00:26:07,520
Speaker 1: Z and Beyonce, and it was barely then she wind

452
00:26:07,520 --> 00:26:09,840
Speaker 1: have made a song. Time out of course should go

453
00:26:09,960 --> 00:26:13,840
Speaker 1: down when it's a billion dollars on the elevator they

454
00:26:13,920 --> 00:26:16,440
Speaker 1: got the last laugh again. Oh my god, they have

455
00:26:16,520 --> 00:26:23,640
Speaker 1: my sick of y'all. Motherfucker's don't never lose boy. Yeah,

456
00:26:23,720 --> 00:26:26,080
Speaker 1: but what I'm saying is we want we want a

457
00:26:26,160 --> 00:26:30,119
Speaker 1: man with that jay z Aura. Yeah, that's the like

458
00:26:30,359 --> 00:26:33,080
Speaker 1: even and I think that's what Will Smith was trying to,

459
00:26:34,880 --> 00:26:38,920
Speaker 1: like reaffirming himself in that moment, not not just for

460
00:26:39,000 --> 00:26:41,760
Speaker 1: everybody else, but for himself as a man, like you're

461
00:26:41,760 --> 00:26:43,720
Speaker 1: gonna stop playing with us? And I don't, And I

462
00:26:43,720 --> 00:26:45,600
Speaker 1: don't think a lot of people consider that part of it,

463
00:26:45,720 --> 00:26:48,520
Speaker 1: like consider that like perceiving in that way, like it

464
00:26:48,680 --> 00:26:51,240
Speaker 1: might not even have shipped to do with Jada, It

465
00:26:51,400 --> 00:26:53,520
Speaker 1: might have all to do with him in his manhood.

466
00:26:54,080 --> 00:26:56,159
Speaker 1: That could be something he talked about a therapy. I know,

467
00:26:56,640 --> 00:26:58,760
Speaker 1: I have seen a review of his book. That's like

468
00:26:58,840 --> 00:27:00,440
Speaker 1: one of the things he talked about in his book.

469
00:27:00,760 --> 00:27:03,119
Speaker 1: It's just like times he didn't show up. Oh he

470
00:27:03,160 --> 00:27:05,160
Speaker 1: didn't defend himself and ship like that. So that could

471
00:27:05,200 --> 00:27:09,320
Speaker 1: have been, Yes, that could have been therapeutic for him.

472
00:27:09,440 --> 00:27:11,080
Speaker 1: It may not even have had ship to do with

473
00:27:11,200 --> 00:27:14,960
Speaker 1: Jada was like his manhood has been being tested for

474
00:27:15,040 --> 00:27:17,159
Speaker 1: the last I don't know how many years now, at

475
00:27:17,200 --> 00:27:20,040
Speaker 1: least four years since that August has seen a ship,

476
00:27:20,800 --> 00:27:23,120
Speaker 1: and now Jade with the ball head and now people

477
00:27:23,160 --> 00:27:25,359
Speaker 1: are like, oh, she's a man in the relationship. Come on,

478
00:27:25,600 --> 00:27:29,280
Speaker 1: y'all right with all the memes and jokes, and I

479
00:27:29,359 --> 00:27:31,440
Speaker 1: know I didn't staying on here and crack some jokes too,

480
00:27:31,840 --> 00:27:36,040
Speaker 1: you know, so everybody had jokes, but do it, but

481
00:27:36,280 --> 00:27:39,280
Speaker 1: I wouldn't. I wouldn't have did it with Will sitting

482
00:27:39,359 --> 00:27:40,920
Speaker 1: right here. I propise you I wouldn't have did that.

483
00:27:41,680 --> 00:27:45,680
Speaker 1: That's why he had to get smacked because I'm on

484
00:27:45,800 --> 00:27:48,399
Speaker 1: the front run. You're trying me and you're trying to

485
00:27:48,440 --> 00:27:50,600
Speaker 1: play with me like that. That's why he had to

486
00:27:50,640 --> 00:27:54,399
Speaker 1: get smacked and maybe maybe it wasn't that big of

487
00:27:54,520 --> 00:27:59,800
Speaker 1: an issue. Maybe he didn't say nothing that wrong. Now, honestly,

488
00:28:00,200 --> 00:28:04,359
Speaker 1: I haven't watched the full Oscars did you? Did you

489
00:28:04,520 --> 00:28:08,200
Speaker 1: watch the jokes leading up to the smack? I know,

490
00:28:08,320 --> 00:28:11,199
Speaker 1: I ain't never I ain't never watched the Oscars, the Oscar.

491
00:28:11,280 --> 00:28:17,680
Speaker 1: I respect, it's Oscar, Mayah, Like I don't eat them ship.

492
00:28:18,359 --> 00:28:21,320
Speaker 1: So yeah, so that's not even for us. I feel

493
00:28:21,359 --> 00:28:23,320
Speaker 1: like I don't even know why we feel like. I mean,

494
00:28:23,400 --> 00:28:27,160
Speaker 1: I guess it's an accolade that people aspire to when

495
00:28:27,200 --> 00:28:34,280
Speaker 1: they're actors actors, But but we've just we we put

496
00:28:34,320 --> 00:28:37,320
Speaker 1: out so much great Why is Will Smith just getting

497
00:28:37,400 --> 00:28:43,920
Speaker 1: an Oscar the pursuit of happiness? Ali, think of all

498
00:28:43,960 --> 00:28:46,560
Speaker 1: these great ass roles that he has played and he's

499
00:28:46,680 --> 00:28:50,040
Speaker 1: just now getting an Oscar. Because you know, it's not

500
00:28:50,200 --> 00:28:52,920
Speaker 1: even for us, I'll be feeling like, So, I don't know.

501
00:28:54,400 --> 00:28:56,200
Speaker 1: That's a different story. It was a lot of first

502
00:28:56,840 --> 00:28:58,840
Speaker 1: Oscars in that knife for black people, and I just

503
00:28:59,000 --> 00:29:01,480
Speaker 1: hate that. I hate that first black person at first.

504
00:29:01,600 --> 00:29:04,760
Speaker 1: I hate that ship because it's just like fun the

505
00:29:04,880 --> 00:29:09,200
Speaker 1: people ship. Man. Yeah, like implying that we're just now

506
00:29:09,320 --> 00:29:14,080
Speaker 1: being great enough. No, you're just now recognizing the greatness

507
00:29:14,160 --> 00:29:16,480
Speaker 1: that's always been there. And that's the problem for me.

508
00:29:16,640 --> 00:29:18,960
Speaker 1: Now they always recognize it, that's the whole problem No

509
00:29:19,360 --> 00:29:21,880
Speaker 1: with within the ward, they see it, but they don't

510
00:29:21,920 --> 00:29:24,880
Speaker 1: recognize it within the war like they should, right right right,

511
00:29:25,000 --> 00:29:29,640
Speaker 1: right right, yeah, but um for me just to go

512
00:29:30,000 --> 00:29:35,600
Speaker 1: circle back around. For me, protection looks like like me, Okay,

513
00:29:35,600 --> 00:29:37,760
Speaker 1: I always say partner selection is important. I'm not going

514
00:29:37,840 --> 00:29:40,760
Speaker 1: to select a partner that I don't feel like it's

515
00:29:40,760 --> 00:29:43,280
Speaker 1: going to protect me. Like if somebody run up in

516
00:29:43,280 --> 00:29:45,520
Speaker 1: our house, I gotta be the one getting a pistol,

517
00:29:46,160 --> 00:29:48,760
Speaker 1: you know what I'm saying, Like, I know I'm gonna

518
00:29:48,760 --> 00:29:52,000
Speaker 1: protect mine. So that's the same energy I need out

519
00:29:52,040 --> 00:29:54,800
Speaker 1: of a man. And even if jay z ain't ain't

520
00:29:54,800 --> 00:29:57,040
Speaker 1: a bout that life, he puts that energy off so

521
00:29:57,120 --> 00:29:59,040
Speaker 1: people might just not funk with him. It's just like

522
00:29:59,080 --> 00:30:01,880
Speaker 1: a dog that shows teeth at least, like you want

523
00:30:01,880 --> 00:30:04,440
Speaker 1: to bark a little bit something like I don't want

524
00:30:04,480 --> 00:30:10,600
Speaker 1: a passive, timid man that anybody can just play with, yes,

525
00:30:10,680 --> 00:30:12,880
Speaker 1: because now you can't play with me. So now here

526
00:30:12,960 --> 00:30:14,880
Speaker 1: I am always trying to defend me and my man,

527
00:30:15,880 --> 00:30:19,080
Speaker 1: and they already say black women aggressive, and that's the

528
00:30:19,160 --> 00:30:21,360
Speaker 1: whole g I. Jane ship. That's why I get from that,

529
00:30:21,560 --> 00:30:23,200
Speaker 1: That's what I get from that. You're saying that in

530
00:30:23,240 --> 00:30:26,680
Speaker 1: a room full of soft white women that you have

531
00:30:26,840 --> 00:30:33,720
Speaker 1: this ball head, militant g I Jane black woman like

532
00:30:33,840 --> 00:30:36,160
Speaker 1: we we we we we can never be soft, we

533
00:30:36,240 --> 00:30:40,600
Speaker 1: can never. And she was beautiful, she looks so beautiful. Listen,

534
00:30:40,680 --> 00:30:44,440
Speaker 1: everybody can't rock the ball head like that girl hard

535
00:30:44,560 --> 00:30:47,520
Speaker 1: for me, me too, this schoolball had I got with

536
00:30:47,600 --> 00:30:51,640
Speaker 1: that girl. I'm looking stupid girl. Everybody cannot rock a

537
00:30:51,720 --> 00:30:55,320
Speaker 1: ball hair like that would be a real like I

538
00:30:55,360 --> 00:30:57,560
Speaker 1: would be like depressed about that ship. I would be

539
00:30:57,640 --> 00:31:00,320
Speaker 1: at the Oscars with a wigging like. But listen, she

540
00:31:00,640 --> 00:31:05,200
Speaker 1: she may have been depressing, you know, try to reaffirm herself.

541
00:31:05,520 --> 00:31:08,920
Speaker 1: And what was you know said she don't give a

542
00:31:08,920 --> 00:31:10,960
Speaker 1: funk about that ball head like she had a pickin. No,

543
00:31:11,120 --> 00:31:13,800
Speaker 1: she find its hell like she come from a long

544
00:31:13,920 --> 00:31:16,280
Speaker 1: lineage and find bitches obviously because her mom wall find

545
00:31:16,320 --> 00:31:19,800
Speaker 1: it hell. So I don't think that. But you know,

546
00:31:19,920 --> 00:31:22,040
Speaker 1: black women we know like the hair like we're big

547
00:31:22,160 --> 00:31:24,840
Speaker 1: on hair. Chris Rock also knows that. Like I said,

548
00:31:24,920 --> 00:31:26,880
Speaker 1: you you did the whole good hair thing the funk

549
00:31:26,920 --> 00:31:30,760
Speaker 1: with us. Then then then here comes Jim Carrey ass

550
00:31:30,880 --> 00:31:34,520
Speaker 1: with an opinion stay out of black people business. That

551
00:31:34,680 --> 00:31:37,440
Speaker 1: was a black that's a black moment, and stay out

552
00:31:37,480 --> 00:31:39,600
Speaker 1: of it. And it's just like black people like, oh

553
00:31:39,760 --> 00:31:41,720
Speaker 1: not at the Oscars. Why would we do that in

554
00:31:41,800 --> 00:31:45,520
Speaker 1: front of people, first of all white people, in front

555
00:31:45,560 --> 00:31:47,520
Speaker 1: of these good white folks. That's how they was at

556
00:31:48,880 --> 00:31:51,840
Speaker 1: hand peg nigga, no stop a sim I'm tired of

557
00:31:52,240 --> 00:31:55,160
Speaker 1: assimilating the codes with you. Y'all gonna get this realness.

558
00:31:55,880 --> 00:31:58,880
Speaker 1: You're allowed to have emotions, were allowed to have feelings.

559
00:31:58,920 --> 00:32:02,640
Speaker 1: We don't have to be good good dot said black

560
00:32:02,720 --> 00:32:04,920
Speaker 1: people for y'all. All right, so y'all want to hear

561
00:32:05,000 --> 00:32:07,360
Speaker 1: my conspiracy ship about already said I have the leadership

562
00:32:07,440 --> 00:32:12,320
Speaker 1: was real now, but oh, let me pour me a

563
00:32:12,400 --> 00:32:15,880
Speaker 1: drink first before we do this ship. I want you already.

564
00:32:16,040 --> 00:32:19,400
Speaker 1: I just want y'all to google like humiliation rituals and

565
00:32:19,440 --> 00:32:22,400
Speaker 1: the things that these people do in holly weird like

566
00:32:22,560 --> 00:32:25,520
Speaker 1: people like to call it. Just google it. The statue

567
00:32:25,560 --> 00:32:28,520
Speaker 1: that you receive at the Oscars is actually a uh

568
00:32:29,680 --> 00:32:34,360
Speaker 1: Egyptian mythology. God Pata just look it up. And if

569
00:32:34,400 --> 00:32:37,320
Speaker 1: you look at the back, like behind the people speaking

570
00:32:37,360 --> 00:32:39,959
Speaker 1: at the oscars, you see all these pyramids and triangles

571
00:32:40,000 --> 00:32:43,200
Speaker 1: and ship. Was it a ritual? Was it a humiliation

572
00:32:43,320 --> 00:32:48,000
Speaker 1: ritual for Chris Rock? Maybe it was one for Will Smith?

573
00:32:48,160 --> 00:32:50,720
Speaker 1: Will never know, but I just want to put that

574
00:32:50,800 --> 00:32:54,160
Speaker 1: out there in your brains. I know people think I'm insane,

575
00:32:54,640 --> 00:33:00,000
Speaker 1: but a lot of ship be making sense. I'm right around.

576
00:33:01,640 --> 00:33:04,040
Speaker 1: And that's what we have. In this week's episode of

577
00:33:04,320 --> 00:33:13,280
Speaker 1: A Jay's Conspiracy Theory, Lollo had mercy. Y'all, No, but

578
00:33:13,400 --> 00:33:16,000
Speaker 1: I saw that movie oswy Shut and they was doing

579
00:33:16,080 --> 00:33:22,520
Speaker 1: something weird. That is one of man that movie right there.

580
00:33:23,480 --> 00:33:26,360
Speaker 1: Yes see, I like to feed the beat sometimes, y'all

581
00:33:26,480 --> 00:33:30,360
Speaker 1: see how hype? Yeah, yeah, that's what I'm talking about.

582
00:33:30,400 --> 00:33:35,080
Speaker 1: That's that ship right there. They put, They put ship ins,

583
00:33:35,240 --> 00:33:37,560
Speaker 1: They put things in movies because they have to. They

584
00:33:37,640 --> 00:33:40,200
Speaker 1: have to get our consent. That's all it's about. It's

585
00:33:40,200 --> 00:33:44,680
Speaker 1: about consent and compliance, consent compliance. So they put these

586
00:33:44,760 --> 00:33:51,560
Speaker 1: things out there right maybe via movies, news, something on Instagram, timeline.

587
00:33:51,960 --> 00:33:53,840
Speaker 1: They have we have to comply, We have to give

588
00:33:53,880 --> 00:33:55,400
Speaker 1: our consent for them to do the dumb ship to

589
00:33:55,520 --> 00:33:57,480
Speaker 1: us and we can't. We can't continue to give our consent.

590
00:33:58,400 --> 00:34:01,000
Speaker 1: So if that ship a J was talking, really get

591
00:34:01,080 --> 00:34:03,880
Speaker 1: your juices flowing, you should watch love Craft Country. Have

592
00:34:04,000 --> 00:34:10,400
Speaker 1: you ever seen that? You know? You know why I

593
00:34:10,480 --> 00:34:12,760
Speaker 1: got canceled. I know that made your a little pussy

594
00:34:12,800 --> 00:34:18,719
Speaker 1: with Look. I love love Craft Country because and it

595
00:34:18,840 --> 00:34:22,319
Speaker 1: got canceled because it shows black magic, like the real

596
00:34:22,480 --> 00:34:26,920
Speaker 1: black magic, black magic that black people possess. And now

597
00:34:27,000 --> 00:34:29,120
Speaker 1: you're from Charleston, I know they'd be down there doing that.

598
00:34:29,200 --> 00:34:36,600
Speaker 1: Ship Me bitch, why don't you fucking zessed up me

599
00:34:36,760 --> 00:34:40,120
Speaker 1: some money, put something in your cauldron, Put in your cauldron,

600
00:34:40,200 --> 00:34:42,960
Speaker 1: pot a spell for me to be a rich bach. Okay,

601
00:34:45,640 --> 00:34:48,879
Speaker 1: but one thing for sure, Philly was turned up this week,

602
00:34:48,920 --> 00:34:53,800
Speaker 1: ain't God damn? And I just want to say, just

603
00:34:53,880 --> 00:34:56,799
Speaker 1: because Will Smith smacked somebody, don't mean all of y'all

604
00:34:56,920 --> 00:34:59,359
Speaker 1: won't get y'all as be you have because you called

605
00:34:59,440 --> 00:35:02,399
Speaker 1: niggers from up north come down South and yeah, yeah

606
00:35:03,120 --> 00:35:08,040
Speaker 1: it really Yeah, Philly, bitch, I hear meat meals all

607
00:35:08,200 --> 00:35:11,840
Speaker 1: right down the street. Everybody playing meat meals. Everybody ordered

608
00:35:11,840 --> 00:35:15,920
Speaker 1: Philly cheese steaks sandwich. Is this week like relax? Relax,

609
00:35:17,600 --> 00:35:21,560
Speaker 1: you're doing too much. Okay, because well Smith was living

610
00:35:21,640 --> 00:35:24,919
Speaker 1: fresh Prince the Bare forever. Okay that they finally snap

611
00:35:25,000 --> 00:35:29,720
Speaker 1: a motherfucker. Okay, y'all feeling people was extra filling yourself

612
00:35:29,840 --> 00:35:43,799
Speaker 1: this week, the dreams of nightmares and niggers relaxed. Ye

613
00:35:44,840 --> 00:35:50,439
Speaker 1: oh goodness, shame, shame. Look y'all, we got a dumb

614
00:35:50,480 --> 00:35:52,640
Speaker 1: bitch story. We're gonna take a break. We'll be right

615
00:35:52,680 --> 00:35:58,680
Speaker 1: back dumb bitched stories because we've all got a dumb

616
00:35:58,719 --> 00:36:02,560
Speaker 1: bitch at least once in t our. Al Right, So

617
00:36:03,239 --> 00:36:05,279
Speaker 1: I got a dumb bit story. The email comes from

618
00:36:05,320 --> 00:36:08,480
Speaker 1: one of our listeners. It says, what's up, Tam Bam

619
00:36:08,600 --> 00:36:11,880
Speaker 1: and a J. I'm your number one fan. Don't you

620
00:36:11,960 --> 00:36:18,919
Speaker 1: like um? Let's see you hold on. I'm your number

621
00:36:18,960 --> 00:36:21,520
Speaker 1: one fan. I love your podcast. We talked back. I

622
00:36:21,600 --> 00:36:24,239
Speaker 1: feel the conversations and topics are necessary and should be

623
00:36:24,280 --> 00:36:27,800
Speaker 1: discussed because everyone goes through real ship when listening to

624
00:36:27,920 --> 00:36:29,640
Speaker 1: the show. It's time for me to get away from

625
00:36:29,680 --> 00:36:32,880
Speaker 1: real life and enjoy a good old girl time with

626
00:36:33,040 --> 00:36:36,960
Speaker 1: you too. So here's my dumb bitch story. I feel

627
00:36:37,200 --> 00:36:40,120
Speaker 1: I never truly got away from being a dumb bitch

628
00:36:40,200 --> 00:36:42,759
Speaker 1: because frankly, a girl is lonely because all I do

629
00:36:42,920 --> 00:36:45,080
Speaker 1: is work, take care of my kids, and go to school.

630
00:36:45,600 --> 00:36:49,799
Speaker 1: Also and the voice of viral TikTok video voice over,

631
00:36:50,600 --> 00:36:54,200
Speaker 1: I don't want peace, I want problems always. I never

632
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Speaker 1: heard that. You heard that before. I don't know that

633
00:36:56,680 --> 00:37:00,600
Speaker 1: one me either. Okay, but anyway, more moving forward, she says, So,

634
00:37:01,080 --> 00:37:03,919
Speaker 1: I am currently pursuing my graduate degree in social work.

635
00:37:04,000 --> 00:37:07,320
Speaker 1: I attend to class every Saturday and cohort of twenty

636
00:37:07,360 --> 00:37:10,960
Speaker 1: one students. We have been together through the whole m

637
00:37:11,200 --> 00:37:14,320
Speaker 1: s W. That's the Masters of Social Work program for

638
00:37:14,360 --> 00:37:18,480
Speaker 1: almost three years, in which I graduate in excuse me,

639
00:37:18,520 --> 00:37:23,400
Speaker 1: and which she graduates on twelve. Okay, girl, then some

640
00:37:23,520 --> 00:37:27,640
Speaker 1: nice numbers can't fucking wait me. There's a guy in

641
00:37:27,800 --> 00:37:30,320
Speaker 1: my class that I have a huge crush on. He

642
00:37:30,440 --> 00:37:33,120
Speaker 1: has a great body, he's smart and has big dreams

643
00:37:33,160 --> 00:37:37,080
Speaker 1: regarding achieving his goals, and he already has his own business. Anyway,

644
00:37:37,360 --> 00:37:40,080
Speaker 1: my ass is supposed to be focusing in class instead

645
00:37:40,120 --> 00:37:48,000
Speaker 1: of mesmerized. Excuse me, let me go. Anyway, he was

646
00:37:48,080 --> 00:37:51,520
Speaker 1: doing good, girl, you allow was proud of you. Shut up. Anyway,

647
00:37:51,880 --> 00:37:54,920
Speaker 1: my ass is supposed to be focusing in class. Instead,

648
00:37:55,000 --> 00:37:58,680
Speaker 1: I'm mesmerized by his chest, the way he moves, how

649
00:37:58,800 --> 00:38:01,759
Speaker 1: he smells, the way he looks at me. I know

650
00:38:01,840 --> 00:38:05,279
Speaker 1: I'm crazy as hell. My class has gone to lunch

651
00:38:05,320 --> 00:38:07,480
Speaker 1: a couple of times between classes, down to a bar

652
00:38:07,600 --> 00:38:10,480
Speaker 1: called Slides. Him and I had flirted back and forth

653
00:38:10,560 --> 00:38:12,480
Speaker 1: a couple of times, but we don't go further than

654
00:38:12,560 --> 00:38:16,040
Speaker 1: that because he has a girlfriend and I'm married. I

655
00:38:16,239 --> 00:38:21,360
Speaker 1: was only here come exactly right, so she says. I

656
00:38:21,480 --> 00:38:23,840
Speaker 1: was only twenty one years old when I got married,

657
00:38:24,000 --> 00:38:27,239
Speaker 1: never had any opportunity to explore life. Now I'm forty

658
00:38:27,320 --> 00:38:30,000
Speaker 1: five years old. My husband and I have had our

659
00:38:30,080 --> 00:38:32,440
Speaker 1: ups and downs. My husband seems not to want to

660
00:38:32,680 --> 00:38:35,719
Speaker 1: evolve with me. I try to motivate him, but he

661
00:38:35,800 --> 00:38:40,560
Speaker 1: wants to start projects and not finish them, creating uh websites,

662
00:38:40,760 --> 00:38:44,840
Speaker 1: giving up or pursuing certificates and data analysis training and

663
00:38:44,920 --> 00:38:48,319
Speaker 1: then stopping. This leaves us to financial binds, but has

664
00:38:48,400 --> 00:38:52,200
Speaker 1: made me depend on myself. I'm pretty sure I still

665
00:38:52,280 --> 00:38:55,720
Speaker 1: have scars from the time. During our marriage. Things became

666
00:38:56,080 --> 00:38:59,719
Speaker 1: so financially challenging that I was almost homeless with our

667
00:38:59,760 --> 00:39:02,080
Speaker 1: two children, and he went to live with his mom

668
00:39:02,360 --> 00:39:06,000
Speaker 1: to pursue a degree in business, but did not achieve

669
00:39:06,120 --> 00:39:09,319
Speaker 1: much after that. They say marriage takes two. So that's

670
00:39:09,320 --> 00:39:11,760
Speaker 1: why I begin to work on myself, pursue my education

671
00:39:11,840 --> 00:39:14,799
Speaker 1: to become financially independent. But it seems that the more

672
00:39:14,840 --> 00:39:17,640
Speaker 1: I work on myself, the more the more it separates us.

673
00:39:17,960 --> 00:39:21,279
Speaker 1: I love my husband, but the romance is gone. It

674
00:39:21,440 --> 00:39:29,360
Speaker 1: feels that just do your best, baby. Oh no, let

675
00:39:29,400 --> 00:39:31,880
Speaker 1: me find my dad plays. It feels that he is

676
00:39:31,960 --> 00:39:36,320
Speaker 1: with me for convenience. What is a girl supposed to do?

677
00:39:37,160 --> 00:39:40,200
Speaker 1: I feel like I'd be wasting my life trying to

678
00:39:40,280 --> 00:39:42,960
Speaker 1: stay in marriage that does not seem to evolve with

679
00:39:43,160 --> 00:39:47,600
Speaker 1: time best regards love you guys, should you stay with

680
00:39:47,719 --> 00:39:50,800
Speaker 1: your husband or get with the dude in your class?

681
00:39:51,520 --> 00:39:54,560
Speaker 1: That's essentially that's essentially the U. And it's really not

682
00:39:54,719 --> 00:39:57,880
Speaker 1: the guy in her class because he has a girlfriend, right,

683
00:39:57,960 --> 00:40:00,680
Speaker 1: But it's just it sounds like, you know, moving on.

684
00:40:01,719 --> 00:40:04,520
Speaker 1: Mm hmm. So I feel like she's doing the right

685
00:40:04,600 --> 00:40:07,200
Speaker 1: thing by focusing on herself, because you know, the whole

686
00:40:07,280 --> 00:40:10,440
Speaker 1: family goes down with mom ain't good, right, so she

687
00:40:10,600 --> 00:40:13,759
Speaker 1: has to um And then that is that's really rough

688
00:40:13,840 --> 00:40:17,080
Speaker 1: because your husband has put you in a position like to,

689
00:40:18,320 --> 00:40:20,640
Speaker 1: you can't depend on him. And that's the thing we

690
00:40:20,719 --> 00:40:24,480
Speaker 1: were talking about, the protection and providing, like those things

691
00:40:24,680 --> 00:40:26,759
Speaker 1: go together. Now you can you're now you're in a

692
00:40:26,840 --> 00:40:29,520
Speaker 1: marriage where you can't depend on your partner to make

693
00:40:29,560 --> 00:40:32,640
Speaker 1: sure y'all are okay. That's you and your two kids

694
00:40:32,760 --> 00:40:34,480
Speaker 1: and him because you love him too, so you care

695
00:40:34,480 --> 00:40:37,040
Speaker 1: about his well being. So what do you do in

696
00:40:37,080 --> 00:40:41,080
Speaker 1: that situation? And then she's saying, the more education she gets,

697
00:40:41,160 --> 00:40:45,200
Speaker 1: the better she's becoming, the more distant they're growing apart,

698
00:40:47,440 --> 00:40:52,640
Speaker 1: all right. Yeah, So the whole in me saying, girl,

699
00:40:53,440 --> 00:40:55,719
Speaker 1: have your fun, live your life. You only get one.

700
00:40:56,520 --> 00:41:00,439
Speaker 1: Maybe have a rendezvous with the dude and declare room

701
00:41:00,600 --> 00:41:03,200
Speaker 1: and then keep your husband. That's the whole in me.

702
00:41:03,800 --> 00:41:11,440
Speaker 1: But the suitable sensible woman in me says, focus on

703
00:41:11,640 --> 00:41:14,320
Speaker 1: the paperwork in your head lap and not the nigga

704
00:41:14,400 --> 00:41:17,839
Speaker 1: in the chair in front of you, and see if

705
00:41:17,880 --> 00:41:21,440
Speaker 1: you can save your marriage. And if you can't save it,

706
00:41:21,560 --> 00:41:25,319
Speaker 1: if you find that it's in salvageable is that a word.

707
00:41:27,320 --> 00:41:31,080
Speaker 1: If you can't salvage your marriage, then it's hot girl,

708
00:41:31,160 --> 00:41:35,359
Speaker 1: summer baby, come back outside. I've been Mary since one.

709
00:41:36,760 --> 00:41:39,560
Speaker 1: She never had one, She never had one. Yeah, but

710
00:41:39,640 --> 00:41:42,600
Speaker 1: hot girl summer at forty five two kids is different, Tanny.

711
00:41:42,880 --> 00:41:47,480
Speaker 1: Let's just be honest, says who says forty five year

712
00:41:47,520 --> 00:41:50,120
Speaker 1: old woman with two kids? Like, what are you talking about?

713
00:41:50,280 --> 00:41:52,440
Speaker 1: Like you have a lot more responsibilities. She has a

714
00:41:52,520 --> 00:41:54,879
Speaker 1: lot more responsibilities than you and I having a hot

715
00:41:54,920 --> 00:41:58,480
Speaker 1: girl summer. That's why I said, Like, if her relationship

716
00:41:58,640 --> 00:42:02,200
Speaker 1: is not salvageable, I said, try to salvage it. But

717
00:42:02,320 --> 00:42:06,520
Speaker 1: if it's not salvageable, she has to decide what she

718
00:42:06,600 --> 00:42:09,880
Speaker 1: wants for her own happiness. Right, So I've seen this

719
00:42:10,040 --> 00:42:13,520
Speaker 1: post one time. It was like, is happiness killing marriages?

720
00:42:14,200 --> 00:42:16,840
Speaker 1: You know, because that's always the woman's thing. I'm not happy,

721
00:42:17,160 --> 00:42:20,640
Speaker 1: I want to be happy. Do men sacrifice their happiness

722
00:42:20,719 --> 00:42:25,200
Speaker 1: for their families? Men? They might go outside to complete

723
00:42:25,239 --> 00:42:28,480
Speaker 1: the happiness, but they used exactly. So you know, there's

724
00:42:28,480 --> 00:42:30,560
Speaker 1: always a study that comes up. Men love to read

725
00:42:30,600 --> 00:42:33,520
Speaker 1: the study about how it is. You know, whatever the percentages,

726
00:42:33,560 --> 00:42:36,400
Speaker 1: it's a higher higher percentage of women that file for divorce.

727
00:42:37,040 --> 00:42:41,480
Speaker 1: We know as fact that married women don't live as

728
00:42:41,520 --> 00:42:46,120
Speaker 1: long as single women been married men live longer than

729
00:42:46,200 --> 00:42:50,840
Speaker 1: saying longer, right, because women's been like trying to be

730
00:42:51,080 --> 00:42:54,160
Speaker 1: happy in an unhappy space, and they only wanting to

731
00:42:54,200 --> 00:42:58,080
Speaker 1: cheat on their husband and they want to divorce and

732
00:42:58,160 --> 00:43:00,279
Speaker 1: then go out. And that's that's why I that the

733
00:43:00,320 --> 00:43:02,040
Speaker 1: hole of me said, go do what he they do.

734
00:43:02,560 --> 00:43:05,160
Speaker 1: But the good girl to me says, try to say,

735
00:43:05,200 --> 00:43:07,399
Speaker 1: alvage you're marriage. But getting the dick on the side

736
00:43:07,600 --> 00:43:09,080
Speaker 1: is not going to give and it's not going to

737
00:43:09,160 --> 00:43:12,279
Speaker 1: provide for her family. Getting that side dick is not

738
00:43:12,360 --> 00:43:14,480
Speaker 1: going to provide for a family. She says, she already

739
00:43:14,520 --> 00:43:17,239
Speaker 1: provided for her family. That's what I'm saying. But how

740
00:43:17,320 --> 00:43:21,240
Speaker 1: does the dick on the side. She she wants a provider,

741
00:43:21,360 --> 00:43:23,600
Speaker 1: She wants her partner to help her. How does a

742
00:43:23,719 --> 00:43:26,400
Speaker 1: dick on the side solve that issue? It doesn't you

743
00:43:26,520 --> 00:43:30,399
Speaker 1: just letting somebody else use your pussy? I say, leave

744
00:43:30,480 --> 00:43:33,040
Speaker 1: the marriage if it comes down to that, y'all, can't

745
00:43:33,280 --> 00:43:35,080
Speaker 1: you know, go to therapy, try to work on things.

746
00:43:35,120 --> 00:43:37,160
Speaker 1: If you can no longer communicate with your partner. Because

747
00:43:37,160 --> 00:43:40,000
Speaker 1: she said, the romance is gone, gone, And that's where

748
00:43:40,080 --> 00:43:42,280
Speaker 1: the dick and the side come in. What you're talking about,

749
00:43:42,560 --> 00:43:46,400
Speaker 1: I don't know what you're talking about. She said, the

750
00:43:46,600 --> 00:43:50,240
Speaker 1: romance is gone. I said the hole in me says,

751
00:43:50,760 --> 00:43:53,640
Speaker 1: have your fund and then work on your marriage like

752
00:43:53,800 --> 00:43:57,560
Speaker 1: men do all the time. Or you can focus on

753
00:43:57,680 --> 00:44:00,400
Speaker 1: your school work and all your goals and work on

754
00:44:00,480 --> 00:44:03,840
Speaker 1: your marriage and if it's not salvageable, then come outside.

755
00:44:06,719 --> 00:44:09,680
Speaker 1: Those are your options. Those are really her options. Is

756
00:44:09,719 --> 00:44:13,120
Speaker 1: there any other option? Do what's right and try to

757
00:44:13,200 --> 00:44:15,560
Speaker 1: make it work, or do what's wrong and have fun.

758
00:44:16,000 --> 00:44:18,640
Speaker 1: Those are the only two options. God, dad, boy, women

759
00:44:18,680 --> 00:44:20,960
Speaker 1: got it hard. You niggas always be like, oh, what

760
00:44:21,160 --> 00:44:23,200
Speaker 1: what do we get out of marriage? What y'all get

761
00:44:23,239 --> 00:44:26,600
Speaker 1: a bitch whole life? What do you mean y'all get

762
00:44:26,640 --> 00:44:28,840
Speaker 1: our bodies, y'all suck the body up with the babies,

763
00:44:29,200 --> 00:44:31,160
Speaker 1: all these different things. What do you mean what do

764
00:44:31,239 --> 00:44:34,680
Speaker 1: you get out of goddamn marriage? I say, go try

765
00:44:34,800 --> 00:44:38,080
Speaker 1: therapy first, man, this try therapy. You don't know what

766
00:44:38,280 --> 00:44:40,920
Speaker 1: type of du with this is in your class. You

767
00:44:40,960 --> 00:44:43,400
Speaker 1: don't know what type of issues his girlfriend dealing with

768
00:44:43,520 --> 00:44:45,799
Speaker 1: from him. And if he even just flirting with your ass,

769
00:44:45,840 --> 00:44:50,840
Speaker 1: he probably dtf down to the grass. Ain't always greener,

770
00:44:52,160 --> 00:44:54,920
Speaker 1: she said. Her nigga left her almost homeless with two

771
00:44:54,960 --> 00:44:56,800
Speaker 1: kids and went to his mama house. You know, actually

772
00:44:56,840 --> 00:44:59,200
Speaker 1: it's said homeless. So it sounds like he went to

773
00:44:59,320 --> 00:45:01,120
Speaker 1: his mom this. I would assume this would have been

774
00:45:01,200 --> 00:45:03,399
Speaker 1: earlier on in their relationship, but they had the two

775
00:45:03,480 --> 00:45:05,680
Speaker 1: kids at the time. She didn't really need She didn't

776
00:45:05,719 --> 00:45:07,960
Speaker 1: list like the age of the children currently, so I

777
00:45:08,040 --> 00:45:12,399
Speaker 1: can't I can't gauge how old. It sounds like there's

778
00:45:12,440 --> 00:45:18,480
Speaker 1: some resentment there. M hmm, right. I would definitely resent

779
00:45:18,719 --> 00:45:21,040
Speaker 1: have some resentment if I knew that. Like, I'm out

780
00:45:21,120 --> 00:45:23,000
Speaker 1: here with these kids and you at your mama house.

781
00:45:23,800 --> 00:45:25,920
Speaker 1: Is she making you tuna sandwiches and ship and you

782
00:45:26,000 --> 00:45:28,240
Speaker 1: gotta degree you ain't using it for real? It sounds

783
00:45:28,280 --> 00:45:31,600
Speaker 1: like so she probably had some resentment. She might not

784
00:45:31,719 --> 00:45:34,280
Speaker 1: even want to make that ship work. She probably tired.

785
00:45:34,680 --> 00:45:37,840
Speaker 1: I told you, like, listen, one person forever sound like

786
00:45:37,920 --> 00:45:41,120
Speaker 1: a long time to me. I don't know. When you

787
00:45:41,239 --> 00:45:43,719
Speaker 1: get married at twenty one, Yes, it's a long time.

788
00:45:44,360 --> 00:45:46,600
Speaker 1: That's why I feel like when people should get married

789
00:45:46,640 --> 00:45:51,720
Speaker 1: closer to, like, you know, thirty five, maybe thirty five forty, Like, honestly,

790
00:45:53,480 --> 00:45:55,360
Speaker 1: you gotta have time to have funds to really know

791
00:45:55,480 --> 00:45:58,640
Speaker 1: what you want in the marriage with somebody not supposed

792
00:45:58,680 --> 00:46:02,160
Speaker 1: to be with. I don't know, something must be y'all listen.

793
00:46:02,200 --> 00:46:04,239
Speaker 1: Don't listen to nothing I say because I just don't

794
00:46:04,280 --> 00:46:07,640
Speaker 1: motherfuck no, because it sounds like I just haven't met

795
00:46:07,680 --> 00:46:13,680
Speaker 1: nobody that I could see past five years. I won't

796
00:46:13,719 --> 00:46:16,400
Speaker 1: say that. Okay, So I feel you can love somebody

797
00:46:16,560 --> 00:46:18,640
Speaker 1: longer than five I mean, not love them, but like

798
00:46:18,760 --> 00:46:21,040
Speaker 1: want to fund them over and over again after if

799
00:46:21,120 --> 00:46:24,239
Speaker 1: things are good. If things are good, yeah, if they

800
00:46:24,280 --> 00:46:27,120
Speaker 1: I don't like the same, that same old stroke coming

801
00:46:27,160 --> 00:46:32,680
Speaker 1: into being are day because it's not all about it.

802
00:46:33,000 --> 00:46:35,319
Speaker 1: I like sex, don't get me wrong, bitch. I love

803
00:46:35,760 --> 00:46:38,520
Speaker 1: like good sex. But intimacy to me, it is not

804
00:46:38,719 --> 00:46:41,000
Speaker 1: just sucking sex. It's all the other things telling me

805
00:46:41,080 --> 00:46:45,320
Speaker 1: I look good, just complimenting me, just touching, all that stuff,

806
00:46:46,080 --> 00:46:50,040
Speaker 1: all that ship weans and wanes off, overturn and then

807
00:46:50,120 --> 00:46:53,759
Speaker 1: you roommates, and no, man, let me tell you, if

808
00:46:53,840 --> 00:46:56,759
Speaker 1: you are not doing things daily to continuously fall in

809
00:46:56,840 --> 00:46:59,080
Speaker 1: love with you're mate, you're falling out of love. So

810
00:46:59,280 --> 00:47:01,480
Speaker 1: every day I have to choose each other, just like

811
00:47:01,600 --> 00:47:03,799
Speaker 1: Well and Jada, no matter what the situation is, every

812
00:47:03,880 --> 00:47:07,320
Speaker 1: day they choose each other. They are a good example,

813
00:47:07,760 --> 00:47:11,200
Speaker 1: but they was getting dick and pussy outside of the relationship.

814
00:47:13,400 --> 00:47:17,240
Speaker 1: Maybe that's the answer. That might be the key. Yeah. Okay,

815
00:47:17,440 --> 00:47:20,520
Speaker 1: so here for our listener, maybe you should suggest to

816
00:47:20,640 --> 00:47:27,440
Speaker 1: your husband an open relationship boom solve everything. I bet

817
00:47:27,480 --> 00:47:32,520
Speaker 1: you he'd be slapping motherfucker's by you by next summer. Bitch,

818
00:47:32,520 --> 00:47:35,640
Speaker 1: are you ball headed? Because if you're ball headed, he's

819
00:47:35,640 --> 00:47:37,960
Speaker 1: gonna be smacking niggas about your ass by next summer.

820
00:47:38,000 --> 00:47:45,800
Speaker 1: I promise, or introduced him to that nigked from your class.

821
00:47:45,960 --> 00:47:48,719
Speaker 1: If you see that, you know other niggas that's doing well,

822
00:47:49,280 --> 00:47:52,080
Speaker 1: might that might uh, that might make him put a

823
00:47:52,120 --> 00:47:54,000
Speaker 1: little pep in his step if you know he got

824
00:47:54,000 --> 00:48:03,520
Speaker 1: a little bit of friendly competition. Friendly. Yeah, but listen,

825
00:48:04,040 --> 00:48:07,759
Speaker 1: congratulations to you on your education, my sister. We're very

826
00:48:07,840 --> 00:48:11,160
Speaker 1: proud of you. Keep raising them sweet babies, and let

827
00:48:11,239 --> 00:48:12,960
Speaker 1: us know what you decide. We want to hear. I

828
00:48:13,000 --> 00:48:16,239
Speaker 1: don't want to hear what you decide. But don't listen.

829
00:48:16,360 --> 00:48:18,279
Speaker 1: Listen to a j don't listen to me. I don't

830
00:48:18,320 --> 00:48:21,280
Speaker 1: know that I ain't got no man or no husband.

831
00:48:24,960 --> 00:48:28,160
Speaker 1: Yes man, oh wait, I have a random sex fact

832
00:48:28,239 --> 00:48:32,480
Speaker 1: for us, so it says most of us don't know

833
00:48:33,000 --> 00:48:36,080
Speaker 1: that all babies have the exact same genital tissue. When

834
00:48:36,120 --> 00:48:40,560
Speaker 1: they are conceived. At about twelve weeks, each baby's genitalia

835
00:48:40,680 --> 00:48:44,279
Speaker 1: begins to differentiate into a penis or a labia. We

836
00:48:44,400 --> 00:48:47,200
Speaker 1: are more like than we are different. The clitterers and

837
00:48:47,239 --> 00:48:50,719
Speaker 1: the penis are the same materials assembled in a different way.

838
00:48:51,000 --> 00:48:55,200
Speaker 1: The clitterers has glands, a foreskin, a ractile tissue, a

839
00:48:55,360 --> 00:48:58,319
Speaker 1: very small chaft, and all the parts that the penis has.

840
00:48:58,719 --> 00:49:04,480
Speaker 1: It even swells when rowse. So basically we just have

841
00:49:04,960 --> 00:49:09,520
Speaker 1: dicks that didn't grow Where the hole comes from. Now,

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Speaker 1: I'm not talking about like the ureadthrough hole like for

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Speaker 1: a man. I'm talking about our vaginal hole. Where did

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Speaker 1: that whole come from? If we were all the same

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Speaker 1: sex at some point, So they grow a dick out

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Speaker 1: their hole and we have that opening the vaginal canal. Listen,

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Speaker 1: you're gonna have to sk psychology today dot com. That

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Speaker 1: question sitting there with email beach, that's all they put.

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Speaker 1: I don't know, imagine imagine being our big age and

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Speaker 1: not knowing about this pussy. A lot of women don't

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Speaker 1: know a lot about their vaginas in that way. Did

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Speaker 1: you know that Jina was a dick? I mean, I

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Speaker 1: mean not really a dick, but like no, like a

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Speaker 1: little dick. No, no, the yeah, the clotorius is essentially

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Speaker 1: a small penis. But I've always thought that all embryo's

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Speaker 1: war were not a sexual. I guess maybe we were

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Speaker 1: all a sexual at some point, but I always and

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Speaker 1: then the penis grows for the ones that's going to

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Speaker 1: have a penis, That's what I always says. It says

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Speaker 1: we don't have a sex yet. At twelve weeks, that's

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Speaker 1: when our gender tellia begins to get a sexual into

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Speaker 1: a penis or a labia. So we just little tadpoles,

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Speaker 1: little yeah, little tadpoles waiting to give the fuck Christ

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Speaker 1: the funk man. Y'all want her? Who want me? For real?

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Speaker 1: I don't nobody want me? By my mom and my daddy.

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Speaker 1: He said, what's the moral of today's episode? Smack a

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Speaker 1: motherfucker if necessary. That's not the morals. I thought you

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Speaker 1: was gonna say something like there's all these different religions

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Speaker 1: and groups out here, and they're waiting to humiliate you

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Speaker 1: the first chance they get so they can have a

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Speaker 1: ritual under the moon, like some bullshit like that. Shut up,

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Speaker 1: it's not anyway. I'm gonna start a whole conspiracy podcast

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Speaker 1: without your asks. You watch listen, you we should. We're

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Speaker 1: gonna start a segment for you just on our show

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Speaker 1: that's called A J's Conspiracy Theories, so you and your

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Speaker 1: tribe can come together. And yeah, I'm gonna start breaking

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Speaker 1: down some of this ship that we'll be seeing on TV.

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Speaker 1: I'm just start giving my little little takes on it. Girl,

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Speaker 1: you don't even watch TV because that right, And that's

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Speaker 1: why my mind is so open, because I don't be

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Speaker 1: watching them. The television telling me lies visually, you know

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Speaker 1: what say? Yeah, I'm a hole, tap hotel up, just me,

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Speaker 1: I come in peace. That's it. You spell a whole

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Speaker 1: wrong bit, ain't no tell just a whole all right,

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Speaker 1: y'all listen. So if you enjoyed this episode, please tune

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Speaker 1: love you guys, y'all. Remember this. Speak now and never

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Speaker 1: hold your peace. I need no don't smake nobody