WEBVTT - You Drivin’ Me Crasin 0:00:04.040 --> 0:00:15.600 Before I got to say welcome to We Does Parenting. 0:00:15.720 --> 0:00:21.079 I'm Peter McNerney, I'm Beth Newell. We're back. We're back. Sorry, 0:00:22.040 --> 0:00:25.840 sorry about last week we had. Um, we had an 0:00:25.880 --> 0:00:30.440 episode accidentally get deleted and Peter lost his mind a 0:00:30.440 --> 0:00:33.320 little bit, and then they heard the mini episode that 0:00:33.360 --> 0:00:38.239 I recorded, and then I just couldn't it couldn't make 0:00:38.280 --> 0:00:40.839 it happen. Um. It was a bad week. It was 0:00:40.880 --> 0:00:46.360 a bad week, but I think, you know, in a 0:00:46.400 --> 0:00:51.960 productive way. It today felt like an incredible turnaround. Yeah. 0:00:52.120 --> 0:00:54.560 I don't know. There's something about this year and like 0:00:54.640 --> 0:00:59.280 all of the constant chaos that I feel like I 0:00:59.320 --> 0:01:01.880 look back and I've think I'm like, well, I did 0:01:02.000 --> 0:01:05.800 learn from that. I did when you melted down and 0:01:05.840 --> 0:01:08.800 then I didn't want to record and we got an argument. 0:01:09.480 --> 0:01:13.000 I do think we learned a little bit from that experience. 0:01:13.840 --> 0:01:28.880 We always do. We you live, you learn. Ye, there's 0:01:28.920 --> 0:01:33.399 more words that I don't know, Beth. Do you know 0:01:33.480 --> 0:01:37.560 that we have been doing this podcast for two years now? Yeah, 0:01:37.880 --> 0:01:40.600 we didn't. We talk about this. Yeah, in an episode 0:01:40.640 --> 0:01:45.240 they got deleted. Oh yeah, yeah. Part of why I 0:01:45.280 --> 0:01:49.120 couldn't rerecord the episode was just everything we said was 0:01:49.160 --> 0:01:51.559 so fresh in my brain that I knew I would 0:01:51.560 --> 0:01:54.680 feel insane just repeat it, like it would just not 0:01:54.720 --> 0:01:57.160 come out of my mouth in a natural way. But 0:01:57.280 --> 0:02:00.280 now everything we said is like mostly a race from 0:02:00.320 --> 0:02:02.920 my brain. We have a whole week of in in 0:02:03.040 --> 0:02:06.080 an insane world to wash away whatever those thoughts were. 0:02:06.680 --> 0:02:08.120 You want to know what that episode was about, We 0:02:08.160 --> 0:02:10.920 were like Mother's Day, how'd it go? Pretty good? You 0:02:10.960 --> 0:02:12.720 know what I wanted to say that I actually didn't 0:02:12.720 --> 0:02:16.760 say when we recorded the deleted episode, Um, is that 0:02:17.240 --> 0:02:20.040 one of the true highlights of my mother's day is 0:02:20.080 --> 0:02:22.720 that you made me a baked brie. And I really 0:02:22.760 --> 0:02:24.920 think if you love someone you should make them a 0:02:24.960 --> 0:02:30.080 big brix because it was so perfect. Well, I love it. 0:02:30.120 --> 0:02:32.320 I love it. So I love a bake breaf, know. 0:02:32.400 --> 0:02:34.959 I mean, I'm not going to take very much credit 0:02:35.040 --> 0:02:37.400 because when we went to the grocery store, you said, 0:02:37.480 --> 0:02:42.000 get baked brie. No, you mean puff pastry and brie. Yeah, 0:02:42.880 --> 0:02:47.720 applications And I did think of it. I don't think 0:02:47.720 --> 0:02:52.840 I actually said that. I think I said to get bread. 0:02:53.000 --> 0:02:55.679 I said puff Street was on the list. I think 0:02:55.680 --> 0:02:57.920 my sister put it there. I don't know why, but 0:02:59.400 --> 0:03:03.040 I think, I said again, I said to get cheese 0:03:03.040 --> 0:03:06.040 with a rind because, as you know, I'm obsessed with 0:03:06.040 --> 0:03:09.680 putting food scraps in my freezer bag to make broth. 0:03:10.320 --> 0:03:12.919 So I was like, we have to eat some cheese 0:03:12.919 --> 0:03:14.240 with a rind on it so I can throw it 0:03:14.240 --> 0:03:17.920 in my broth bag. Um, so that was your thought process. 0:03:17.960 --> 0:03:21.440 But you just wrote brie on the list, and Ali 0:03:21.560 --> 0:03:25.320 wrote puff pastry. Yeah. I was like, this is baked 0:03:25.360 --> 0:03:28.440 bris and his Mother's Day and yeah, I thought it 0:03:28.480 --> 0:03:29.919 was one of those. Then I said, can you make 0:03:29.960 --> 0:03:34.000 me baked bris? But I literally was thinking about it already. 0:03:34.040 --> 0:03:38.040 You read my mind just the same wavelength. Yeah. So 0:03:38.280 --> 0:03:40.680 we had a good kind of like lazy Mother's Day, 0:03:40.920 --> 0:03:45.800 not much going on besides baked bries. And you did 0:03:45.800 --> 0:03:49.720 our taxes, which I don't. I don't participate in, and 0:03:49.800 --> 0:03:53.920 I don't you know, I don't think everyone needs to 0:03:54.040 --> 0:03:58.120 understand how money works. It's not fun. I mean I 0:03:58.160 --> 0:04:02.440 barely do. I'm doing our taxes. Yeah, I just like 0:04:02.520 --> 0:04:05.840 to associate with people who do understand and can tell me. 0:04:06.400 --> 0:04:09.360 I like to call text is more the It's like 0:04:09.480 --> 0:04:14.360 the the sixth anniversary of me saying next year I'm 0:04:14.360 --> 0:04:18.159 gonna pay someone to do this for me. Yeah, I 0:04:18.240 --> 0:04:21.920 do every year. I didn't actually didn't say it this year. 0:04:22.000 --> 0:04:24.800 Every year it's like dragging on and I'm like, we 0:04:24.839 --> 0:04:30.400 should be like compiling our expenses, which we're not doing, 0:04:30.440 --> 0:04:33.679 which we should be as freelancers, and then we should 0:04:33.760 --> 0:04:35.880 be hiring an accountant to do a better job. And 0:04:35.920 --> 0:04:38.200 then every year it's like all of a sudden, the 0:04:38.240 --> 0:04:41.080 years over and we didn't keep track of our expenses. 0:04:41.800 --> 0:04:47.240 I don't, yeah know we our audit risk level is 0:04:47.640 --> 0:04:52.440 very low because I would I know that I'm paying 0:04:53.279 --> 0:04:58.120 probably extra money just to not stress about it. I 0:04:58.120 --> 0:05:00.320 don't know what that means, but okay, I mean it's like, I, 0:05:00.440 --> 0:05:02.839 you know what if I hired somebody, Oh, we could 0:05:02.839 --> 0:05:07.160 be paying less money potentially. Yeah, um, but you know 0:05:07.200 --> 0:05:11.560 what the amount of I'm like, how much I think 0:05:11.560 --> 0:05:14.400 about the extra money I'm potentially paying now, And that's 0:05:14.400 --> 0:05:19.680 how much I'm spending to make my taxes very easy. Right. Yeah, 0:05:20.000 --> 0:05:22.279 if we did a good job, we could definitely say 0:05:22.320 --> 0:05:24.479 some money. But it is like, at the end of 0:05:24.480 --> 0:05:30.719 the year, is it worth our time to obsess over this? No? Okay, 0:05:30.760 --> 0:05:33.039 this is a parenting podcast. I don't know why we're talking. 0:05:33.120 --> 0:05:37.920 We're talking about Mother's Day. Um. Yeah. The other big 0:05:37.960 --> 0:05:41.600 thing we covered on the Lost episode is that Maven 0:05:42.400 --> 0:05:46.200 had stuck a crazing up her nose. Oh my gosh. 0:05:46.240 --> 0:05:50.120 We got to talk about the crazy, which is like 0:05:50.720 --> 0:05:53.640 a very intense experience for all of us. She was 0:05:54.240 --> 0:05:56.960 not happy about it. She can't goes daddy. Daddy and 0:05:57.000 --> 0:05:59.679 I come in and she goes, I put it crazy 0:06:00.120 --> 0:06:04.200 my nose and my first reaction was to laugh, which 0:06:04.200 --> 0:06:08.040 I didn't do. And then I realized, oh, that's actually bad. 0:06:08.640 --> 0:06:11.080 We cannot go to the hospital. And then as I 0:06:11.120 --> 0:06:14.160 was thinking that, you know, because coronavirus, right, No, I 0:06:14.200 --> 0:06:16.480 was thinking the same thing. Else, we have to handle this. 0:06:17.360 --> 0:06:19.600 I had that thought, she started to stick her finger 0:06:19.680 --> 0:06:22.720 in her nose, and I was like, I can't have 0:06:22.839 --> 0:06:25.920 her push it further in. So I grabbed her hand 0:06:25.920 --> 0:06:28.280 and I was like, also, can I keep it light? 0:06:28.360 --> 0:06:31.040 Gotta keep it calm so she doesn't panic. I'm like, okay, 0:06:31.080 --> 0:06:33.120 let me see. I just put my finger on the 0:06:33.200 --> 0:06:35.360 upper outside of her nose, and it was like a 0:06:35.480 --> 0:06:38.280 mission impossible. Like we all snapped into geared. We're like 0:06:38.400 --> 0:06:42.240 it's okay, just like it was like, we got her 0:06:42.240 --> 0:06:44.240 on the bed and you were soothing her, and I'm like, 0:06:44.320 --> 0:06:46.400 let me take a look, and she was going no, 0:06:47.080 --> 0:06:49.320 and I was like, this is yeah. It became a 0:06:49.360 --> 0:06:51.880 three person job where I had to hold her arms 0:06:51.920 --> 0:06:54.240 down while you held the tweezers to get it out, 0:06:54.279 --> 0:06:57.160 and my sister had to shine a flashlight in her nose. 0:06:57.360 --> 0:07:00.479 My favorite. I rushed into Ali's room and I go, 0:07:01.800 --> 0:07:04.960 she was on a conference call, and I go, Ali 0:07:05.800 --> 0:07:07.920 may even put a crazy upper nose, and we need 0:07:07.920 --> 0:07:09.600 three adults to pin her down so I can pull 0:07:09.600 --> 0:07:16.000 it out with tweezers. Let's go, and I gotta say it. 0:07:16.000 --> 0:07:18.920 It was. It was just far enough back. I said 0:07:19.080 --> 0:07:21.680 this before I'm repeating myself to you, but just far 0:07:21.760 --> 0:07:24.600 enough back where I could tell as I put the 0:07:24.640 --> 0:07:29.040 tweezers in, it's like a very unpleasant sensation for her, 0:07:29.720 --> 0:07:31.560 that feeling of like things should not go that far 0:07:31.560 --> 0:07:34.080 to your nose. But I did not want to push 0:07:34.080 --> 0:07:37.000 it further in. But I couldn't get it in without 0:07:37.000 --> 0:07:39.680 closing it a little because she was a tiny little master. 0:07:39.800 --> 0:07:42.040 I was so scared You're going to push it in further, 0:07:42.560 --> 0:07:46.120 But I got it first try. I do think this 0:07:46.200 --> 0:07:49.559 is like, strangely what a lot of people are dealing 0:07:49.640 --> 0:07:51.680 with right now, with having to have their kids get 0:07:51.680 --> 0:07:56.600 tested for coronavirus. It's like very disturbing to have things 0:07:56.600 --> 0:08:01.480 shoved up your nose. Um. Yeah, but she was fine, 0:08:01.840 --> 0:08:05.560 She's good boy. The the whole rest of the week 0:08:05.640 --> 0:08:09.200 after really after that episode got deleted and I lost 0:08:09.240 --> 0:08:11.520 my mind and we had a bit of a fight, 0:08:12.800 --> 0:08:18.080 and then I was just very sad for the whole 0:08:18.160 --> 0:08:21.040 The whole week was just really hard. I had I 0:08:21.080 --> 0:08:23.280 felt like the whole week was like little things like 0:08:23.360 --> 0:08:25.800 that where I was like, I know, this isn't the 0:08:25.840 --> 0:08:27.960 end of the world, but this is just a lot 0:08:28.080 --> 0:08:31.840 to be processing right now, and it's just like one 0:08:31.880 --> 0:08:36.720 thing after another. Um. And yeah, it was just like exhausting. 0:08:36.880 --> 0:08:39.640 And I think when we're both in that mode, it's 0:08:39.640 --> 0:08:43.280 a vicious cycle because I start to then I was 0:08:43.320 --> 0:08:46.080 like I just want to be happy, and then I'm 0:08:46.200 --> 0:08:51.400 so nervous around you. Then I just like, I haven't 0:08:51.400 --> 0:08:52.880 talked to you for eight hours and you come into 0:08:52.880 --> 0:08:57.920 the room and I'm like immediately say the wrong thing. Well, 0:08:58.080 --> 0:09:02.040 we've also I think like just because of everything we've 0:09:02.360 --> 0:09:05.640 I think we've both been having days where you're like, 0:09:06.640 --> 0:09:09.280 it's the world is so overwhelming, and then we just 0:09:09.360 --> 0:09:14.200 crash and need like a nap, and it's like, I 0:09:14.240 --> 0:09:18.360 don't I I feel like in the last week or so, 0:09:18.720 --> 0:09:21.800 I've maybe a couple of weeks, I've started to become 0:09:21.840 --> 0:09:26.760 more aware of like Peters also dealing with all these things, 0:09:26.800 --> 0:09:30.880 like I like, I don't like now that I wasn't before. 0:09:31.360 --> 0:09:34.480 But I was sort of just like I could tell 0:09:34.559 --> 0:09:37.240 you were also having bad days, and I was like, 0:09:37.520 --> 0:09:40.800 just hold it together. I gotta say my favorite moment 0:09:40.840 --> 0:09:46.640 of the week was when I was like, you want 0:09:46.720 --> 0:09:50.600 some breakfast. You're like yeah, And I made you a 0:09:50.720 --> 0:09:55.760 poached egg and I put onions in a in a 0:09:55.760 --> 0:10:02.360 combination that I know historically like you don't like well 0:10:02.480 --> 0:10:05.920 for some reason, onions and avocado mixed together first thing 0:10:05.920 --> 0:10:08.840 in the morning makes me feel nauseous. I can I 0:10:08.880 --> 0:10:12.320 eat guccamoli at like later, but like the it's the morning, 0:10:12.480 --> 0:10:15.680 I just my stomach is like, yeah, well, in my mind, 0:10:15.720 --> 0:10:17.560 I was like, oh, red onions, but I did a 0:10:17.600 --> 0:10:21.320 scallion and then I was like, but they are red onions. Anyway, 0:10:22.679 --> 0:10:25.680 you started eating it and you go are there onions 0:10:25.720 --> 0:10:28.000 in this, and in my brain, I was like, I 0:10:28.080 --> 0:10:30.560 thought this was the moment we were going to move 0:10:30.600 --> 0:10:35.280 past a thing. And then I was just like about 0:10:35.320 --> 0:10:39.400 to be defensive, and I was like uh. And then 0:10:39.440 --> 0:10:42.280 I thought about it, and I was like, I know this. 0:10:42.440 --> 0:10:45.200 I know you don't want these. I should have known this, 0:10:45.559 --> 0:10:51.360 and I and you had like you you made a 0:10:51.440 --> 0:10:56.719 choice to not be upset or to try. You made 0:10:56.720 --> 0:11:00.280 a choice to try to not be upset. You didn't 0:11:00.320 --> 0:11:03.880 totally succeed, and I felt, no, I wasn't just like, 0:11:04.000 --> 0:11:06.720 but I really know what. The only thing that felt 0:11:06.720 --> 0:11:08.560 disappointing to me was that I felt like I was 0:11:08.600 --> 0:11:13.040 offending you. After you poached an egg and I was like, 0:11:13.559 --> 0:11:16.439 I'm sorry, I can't eat this, Like I just I'm 0:11:16.440 --> 0:11:20.040 trying to be better about speaking up for my needs 0:11:20.040 --> 0:11:22.200 and not feeling guilty about it. And I was just like, 0:11:22.360 --> 0:11:27.040 I'm I'm not eating this. That's um, that's great. Because 0:11:27.760 --> 0:11:31.679 weirdly after that, I want I felt terrible and I 0:11:31.760 --> 0:11:34.080 was like, well, of course I sucked it up, but 0:11:34.160 --> 0:11:38.640 then I also recognized that you were being positive. Just 0:11:38.840 --> 0:11:41.000 I want you to know, just for the record, there's 0:11:41.040 --> 0:11:42.760 been a lot of times this week where you have 0:11:42.880 --> 0:11:47.320 done things that I have felt like, this makes no 0:11:47.400 --> 0:11:49.240 sense that he would do this this way, and then 0:11:49.240 --> 0:11:52.600 I have to just be like you married a space 0:11:52.640 --> 0:11:59.040 cadet person to get over it. Like I, I felt 0:11:59.080 --> 0:12:02.599 every single one of those moments. Yes, I did did it. 0:12:02.960 --> 0:12:05.360 There was two days and the egg thing was the 0:12:05.440 --> 0:12:08.199 last thing, but there was two days before that where 0:12:08.760 --> 0:12:12.040 every single thing I said to you, I could feel 0:12:12.080 --> 0:12:15.560 it land on you, and I could feel you being disappointed, 0:12:16.200 --> 0:12:19.400 and I could feel you needing to put in an 0:12:19.400 --> 0:12:24.040 effort to go through that process. That thought process was 0:12:24.200 --> 0:12:27.680 completely apparent to me. But because I've been with you 0:12:27.760 --> 0:12:32.920 for so long, first I'm defensive in my head, and 0:12:32.960 --> 0:12:35.760 then i am hurt that I'm sad and I'm embarrassed, 0:12:35.840 --> 0:12:38.960 and then I'm able to recognize Beth just put in 0:12:39.000 --> 0:12:41.839 a very real effort. I did not make this a thing, 0:12:41.880 --> 0:12:45.280 and I appreciate it. Part of the issue, which I 0:12:45.320 --> 0:12:47.439 think we're learning to deal with, is that we're both 0:12:47.760 --> 0:12:52.640 hyper sensitive to each other's feelings. And like I, like 0:12:53.600 --> 0:12:56.800 I told you when when the when you found out 0:12:56.800 --> 0:12:59.920 the podcast episode was deleted, I was sitting in our 0:13:00.080 --> 0:13:02.360 bedroom trying to do work, and all of a sudden 0:13:02.360 --> 0:13:05.640 I felt so nauseous, Like I was like so sick. 0:13:05.720 --> 0:13:07.920 I was like, why do I feel so bad? And 0:13:07.960 --> 0:13:11.880 then you walked in so upset that the episode was leaded, 0:13:11.920 --> 0:13:15.480 and I was like, oh, I literally was like feeling 0:13:15.520 --> 0:13:19.080 him from the other room. I like, I know, like 0:13:19.160 --> 0:13:22.080 this sounds insane, but I was like I just I 0:13:22.120 --> 0:13:25.600 was like, that was not my energy, and it's hard 0:13:25.640 --> 0:13:30.240 to separate it out sometimes it's the whole bunch of 0:13:30.320 --> 0:13:34.040 days after that, we were in this tiptoey stayed back 0:13:34.080 --> 0:13:36.079 and forth. I felt like, which a lot of the 0:13:36.200 --> 0:13:40.680 times exacerbates each other's feelings, like I feel like when 0:13:40.720 --> 0:13:43.800 I'm being extra careful, you just feel how tense I am, 0:13:44.040 --> 0:13:47.280 and you're more annoyed at things. Well, yeah, I think 0:13:47.280 --> 0:13:49.720 it was just like unspoken that we were both feeling 0:13:49.960 --> 0:13:54.800 exhausted lately and like just kind of like phoning it 0:13:54.880 --> 0:13:58.560 in on childcare. And it was like a tag team 0:13:58.600 --> 0:14:02.040 effort where I was just like okay, well, like it's 0:14:02.080 --> 0:14:04.680 okay that this the other person is just shutting down 0:14:04.720 --> 0:14:08.600 and passing out in the other Yeah, I had a 0:14:08.679 --> 0:14:13.680 victory in I realized that I will when I feel 0:14:13.760 --> 0:14:21.280 like you're mad at me or you're retreating, I'll have weird, angry, jealous, 0:14:21.280 --> 0:14:25.720 lonely feelings and the first opening, I'll go too hard 0:14:26.640 --> 0:14:29.840 and you're like, okay, now we're connecting on dump my things. 0:14:29.960 --> 0:14:33.920 And for those days, I'm like, this will pass. I'm 0:14:33.920 --> 0:14:38.120 gonna totally let Beth go when I can. And then 0:14:38.160 --> 0:14:40.560 like and also at the end of that week, I 0:14:40.600 --> 0:14:43.320 spent a whole day working and realizing why am my 0:14:43.360 --> 0:14:47.720 pants are tight? Oh, because I've definitely gained twenty pounds. 0:14:48.160 --> 0:14:52.880 Twenty pounds I don't think so, I mean ten to fifteen. 0:14:54.720 --> 0:14:58.560 But the last two days today I woke up at seven, 0:14:58.880 --> 0:15:00.720 I walked, I went for a walk, got home right 0:15:00.760 --> 0:15:04.800 as the kids woke up. I started tracking my food again, 0:15:06.040 --> 0:15:10.320 and in a day and a half, I feel like 0:15:10.360 --> 0:15:14.640 a trillion dollars and and like you went through a 0:15:14.680 --> 0:15:16.560 thing too, and suddenly you need to feel And I 0:15:16.600 --> 0:15:18.720 was like, oh, we're happy to be in the same 0:15:18.800 --> 0:15:21.240 room with each other. Yeah. Well, we've also I think 0:15:21.280 --> 0:15:23.520 both been trying to exercise a little more because of 0:15:23.560 --> 0:15:26.120 all this. But then on the days when we go 0:15:26.240 --> 0:15:30.880 hard exercising, I think we both just kind of collapse 0:15:31.000 --> 0:15:32.880 for the rest of the day, like we just can't 0:15:33.000 --> 0:15:36.560 like our bodies don't know how to handle it when 0:15:36.560 --> 0:15:40.760 I exercise hard after having done nothing for weeks. Yeah, 0:15:40.960 --> 0:15:43.960 I don't know. I've been like, I've been running like 0:15:44.040 --> 0:15:47.160 relatively regularly, and it's just like I feel like if 0:15:47.200 --> 0:15:49.680 I when I push it a little further than normal, 0:15:50.400 --> 0:15:54.840 which is not very far, my body is just like, well, 0:15:54.840 --> 0:15:57.080 it's going to take us a few days to deal 0:15:57.160 --> 0:16:03.000 with this. I don't know. And athletic. Today's today. I 0:16:03.000 --> 0:16:06.720 didn't eat nine thousand calories and have five servings of 0:16:06.760 --> 0:16:12.680 alcohol and I feel great. I did um have a 0:16:12.680 --> 0:16:16.080 real win this week where I I had to go 0:16:16.160 --> 0:16:18.720 to the CBS or something, so I got a package 0:16:18.760 --> 0:16:21.320 of Snickers ice cream bars and I hid them from 0:16:21.320 --> 0:16:26.040 you in the basement. And it was really satisfying to 0:16:26.160 --> 0:16:29.040 just like know that I could have one and they 0:16:29.080 --> 0:16:32.360 weren't all being eaten. Hey, guess how long ago I 0:16:32.400 --> 0:16:35.120 found this? No, I know you found them, but it 0:16:35.200 --> 0:16:37.760 was after I brought one up and you saw it 0:16:37.800 --> 0:16:40.360 in the freezer. Well that was the tip is I 0:16:40.360 --> 0:16:43.760 saw one in the freezer and I was like, who's 0:16:43.760 --> 0:16:46.000 Snicker bars? You were like, can I have this? No? No, 0:16:46.040 --> 0:16:48.000 I didn't eat I was like, who's sneaker? Like, I'm not. 0:16:48.320 --> 0:16:50.560 There's one Snickers bar in the freezer. I'm like, this 0:16:50.640 --> 0:16:53.000 is somebody's Snickers bar. So I was like, who has 0:16:53.000 --> 0:16:55.359 the Snickers bar here? And You're like do you want it? 0:16:56.000 --> 0:16:58.360 I was like can I? You like lost your mind 0:16:58.600 --> 0:17:00.640 and it was like very funny for me and my sister. 0:17:00.840 --> 0:17:02.800 Well then I saw your sister come up from the 0:17:02.800 --> 0:17:06.320 basement holding one and I was like, oh, we have some. 0:17:07.480 --> 0:17:09.200 She had to and she goes, yeah, you want one? 0:17:09.400 --> 0:17:12.639 I go yeah, and then she said that was the 0:17:12.720 --> 0:17:15.159 last one, so enjoy it. But my goal there was 0:17:15.200 --> 0:17:18.800 a whole other box. That's true. My goal is not 0:17:19.080 --> 0:17:22.879 to deny you the tree is just to delay the 0:17:22.920 --> 0:17:25.639 amount you're eating so that I can get some Listen, 0:17:26.800 --> 0:17:30.439 it is best for everyone that you lied. It was 0:17:30.640 --> 0:17:33.080 really satisfying. I was like we all got to have 0:17:33.160 --> 0:17:38.840 a couple. It was great. And also when I found them, 0:17:39.040 --> 0:17:40.760 first of all, I was like, they lied to me, 0:17:41.400 --> 0:17:43.920 and then I was like, yeah, I would have lied 0:17:43.960 --> 0:17:47.439 to me, And then it really slowed me down. So 0:17:47.520 --> 0:17:49.640 I was like, I'm not going to eat a whole 0:17:49.680 --> 0:17:54.880 box and prove them right. I'm gonna eat three over 0:17:54.960 --> 0:17:58.280 two days, they prove them half right, So you're telling 0:17:58.280 --> 0:18:02.080 me they're all gone now, Oh they've been gone for days. Okay, 0:18:03.480 --> 0:18:07.040 this is a parenting podcast. And our children also have 0:18:07.160 --> 0:18:11.399 been sneaking a lot of food and just like ransacking 0:18:11.720 --> 0:18:15.320 the house. Like we we obviously we have to buy 0:18:15.400 --> 0:18:20.440 less treats. Um, but they just they get into everything. 0:18:20.840 --> 0:18:23.680 I was I gave them both the bath today or 0:18:23.760 --> 0:18:27.080 was involved in two and I was like, hmm, we 0:18:27.119 --> 0:18:29.960 have some we have some little we have some little 0:18:29.960 --> 0:18:36.280 plump kids. I was like, they just snacking like me endlessly. Yeah, 0:18:36.320 --> 0:18:39.080 they are not that obviously. I'm not worried about it. 0:18:39.280 --> 0:18:41.280 I really enjoy it, Like I still think about this. 0:18:41.640 --> 0:18:47.399 So we're trying to buy a home and renovated kitchen, 0:18:48.040 --> 0:18:50.480 and so we were telling I had this idea for 0:18:50.480 --> 0:18:54.240 our architect to buy counter stools that are mounted to 0:18:54.240 --> 0:18:58.040 the floor so that it's like easier to sweep around 0:18:58.080 --> 0:19:00.240 and also our kids can't drag them over to the 0:19:00.280 --> 0:19:04.000 cabinets to get things out of the cabinets, and are 0:19:04.400 --> 0:19:07.760 one of our architects is like, it's so funny you 0:19:07.800 --> 0:19:11.560 say that because they left a package of oreos out 0:19:12.400 --> 0:19:14.840 that their two year old got into the next morning, 0:19:15.119 --> 0:19:17.480 and she ate like the whole package, and the only 0:19:17.520 --> 0:19:22.159 thing she would say was I'm full. Just like, really 0:19:22.680 --> 0:19:26.440 love that image. It's cute when it's other people's kids. 0:19:26.440 --> 0:19:35.520 You're like, yeah, eat it all boy, We they eat 0:19:35.560 --> 0:19:41.199 all the snacks. Yeah, we just need to buy healthier snacks. Um. 0:19:41.359 --> 0:19:56.280 None of us have any control at all. Hello. This 0:19:56.359 --> 0:19:59.960 next segment is called would you knows? What she would? 0:20:00.000 --> 0:20:05.000 I'd rather do? Would you rather? Um? I love that 0:20:05.040 --> 0:20:09.879 you started this segment by saying hello, Hello, Hello. The 0:20:09.880 --> 0:20:13.359 middle of the show. We took a long break on 0:20:13.480 --> 0:20:16.679 our end between these segments, so it felt like I 0:20:16.720 --> 0:20:19.280 needed to say again. It was a rare moment. I 0:20:19.400 --> 0:20:22.720 realized that I had we had nothing planned for the mill, 0:20:22.840 --> 0:20:26.919 so I made something up, and it's really stupid. I 0:20:26.960 --> 0:20:28.600 was trying to think of a would you knows, but 0:20:28.720 --> 0:20:31.720 instead I came up with a would you rather? Okay, 0:20:31.720 --> 0:20:35.520 you're ready for this. I'm gonna stumble through this, Okay. 0:20:35.600 --> 0:20:42.240 So basically this is three realities, which one would you choose? 0:20:44.240 --> 0:20:48.479 We just because we're idiots, and we keep sucking it up, 0:20:48.480 --> 0:20:53.320 and we have a series of triplets and twins. We 0:20:53.480 --> 0:21:00.160 have five children in the next three years. All, it's 0:21:00.160 --> 0:21:02.879 a series of triplets, and twins would not results with 0:21:02.960 --> 0:21:05.600 five children, it would results in a serious was the 0:21:05.600 --> 0:21:07.399 wrong word. As I was saying that, I was like, 0:21:07.520 --> 0:21:10.080 this is too many, so I shortened it midway to 0:21:10.800 --> 0:21:14.760 triplets were irresponsible and we end up with five children 0:21:15.480 --> 0:21:19.280 plus are others. So that's seven Okay, seven children, so 0:21:19.440 --> 0:21:25.560 seven children. They're all healthy. Um, they're great. We can 0:21:25.600 --> 0:21:30.840 we can afford it. Um. But it's you know, intense. 0:21:32.440 --> 0:21:38.560 Or you give birth to a Doctor Manhattan style baby. 0:21:38.960 --> 0:21:44.000 You know Dr Manhattan from Watchman. Yeah, all knowing, but 0:21:44.040 --> 0:21:47.080 he wasn't born that way. No, But we ares this 0:21:48.560 --> 0:21:52.560 knows everything as a child and and and it's experiences 0:21:52.640 --> 0:21:57.879 all time at once and is omnipresent and completely powerful. 0:21:58.000 --> 0:22:02.000 And because they know what is going to happen, they 0:22:02.040 --> 0:22:05.400 know everything. I could hang with that, I think, but 0:22:05.480 --> 0:22:07.680 I would be good at that. But it's a real 0:22:08.840 --> 0:22:13.199 like Dr Manhattan. It's a real bummer of a nothing matters, 0:22:13.880 --> 0:22:16.879 and we can't. You can't experience joy with this person 0:22:16.960 --> 0:22:20.960 because they're everywhere. Once they're they're constantly in the moment 0:22:20.960 --> 0:22:24.240 of their own death. Did we talk did we talk 0:22:24.280 --> 0:22:27.919 about how Mayven said she has a dead girlfriend? Was 0:22:27.920 --> 0:22:31.760 that in the deleted episode? Or girlfriend she has? She 0:22:31.840 --> 0:22:33.920 said a dead friend. She said one of her best 0:22:34.040 --> 0:22:36.240 best friends as a dead girl. She hangs out with 0:22:36.280 --> 0:22:38.920 a daycare. Do we talk about that and he talked 0:22:38.920 --> 0:22:42.000 about last week. Yes, Nella who hits her when she 0:22:42.040 --> 0:22:46.120 says bad words like stupid. Yeah, but we talked about 0:22:46.240 --> 0:22:49.560 on the deleted episode. I think, so okay. Anyway, arch 0:22:49.840 --> 0:22:58.720 Mayven Maybec's ghosts and I think it's great anyway, sidebar 0:22:59.200 --> 0:23:01.119 her friend, it's not Nella. That's not the name of 0:23:01.119 --> 0:23:06.080 the ghosts. Um No, that's her baby doll, Hallie's a 0:23:06.160 --> 0:23:10.840 ghost girl. You said something so funny the other day 0:23:11.040 --> 0:23:14.840 when you were like, I think maybe c Chakras, Well, 0:23:14.920 --> 0:23:17.359 it was so okay. I'll let me tell the story 0:23:17.640 --> 0:23:24.960 and interrupt your hypothetical. Um so maybe maybe was like 0:23:25.520 --> 0:23:29.280 everyone has a p ball where they pee out of 0:23:29.320 --> 0:23:31.800 their butt And I was like what, and she's like, 0:23:32.119 --> 0:23:35.960 it's a ball. Everyone has it down in their butt 0:23:36.000 --> 0:23:39.159 where that they pee out of And it sounded almost 0:23:39.200 --> 0:23:41.560 like she was describing chakra. So I was like, you 0:23:41.600 --> 0:23:45.960 mean like a light and she was like, no, it's red, 0:23:46.240 --> 0:23:49.800 a red ball. So if you understand chakras, you would 0:23:49.840 --> 0:23:52.280 know that the rut chakra is red. So I was like, 0:23:52.600 --> 0:23:55.119 what and those diagrams, that's like all the chakras are 0:23:55.359 --> 0:23:58.439 like a stack circles, right like head, yeah, yeah, so 0:23:58.480 --> 0:24:00.639 the root chakra would be like your lowest one at 0:24:00.640 --> 0:24:03.520 the base of your spine, which is like your where 0:24:03.520 --> 0:24:09.760 your butt and your genitals are. So anyway, I tell 0:24:09.800 --> 0:24:12.000 you this, and I'm like, it is so weird the 0:24:12.040 --> 0:24:15.520 way she explained this, and you were like, oh. I 0:24:15.600 --> 0:24:18.879 showed her like a medical diagram of like a bladder 0:24:20.040 --> 0:24:24.040 and I was like, yeah, that is a pee ball. 0:24:24.240 --> 0:24:26.280 But at one point she talked to me about it 0:24:26.359 --> 0:24:29.600 later and I was like, I was like, I think 0:24:29.640 --> 0:24:32.080 maybe some people call that a chakra, and she was like, 0:24:32.760 --> 0:24:36.520 oh yeah, I forgot what the word is. Pee ball 0:24:36.600 --> 0:24:39.520 was my joke name for it. So like she just 0:24:39.640 --> 0:24:47.320 thought chakra meant bladder, like she just did boy children 0:24:47.400 --> 0:24:50.800 say the thing. Yeah, okay, anyways, the third hypothetical We've 0:24:50.840 --> 0:24:57.160 got seven kids or doctor Manhattan Child or um yeah, 0:24:57.200 --> 0:24:59.280 and the whole world knows about this docu Manhattan Child 0:24:59.320 --> 0:25:02.920