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Speaker 1: It is the Strawberry Letter. Alright. Subject. Me and my

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Speaker 1: man have a little situation. Dear Stephen Shirley. I met

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Speaker 1: a gentleman seven months ago. I'm forty five and he's

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Speaker 1: thirty seven. When we met, he lived three hours away,

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Speaker 1: so he decided to move to my area. It's been

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Speaker 1: and I'm starting to see issues with him. He didn't

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Speaker 1: have a plan in place when he moved to my city,

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Speaker 1: and now he's living in a shelter because I told

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Speaker 1: him he cannot live with me. He doesn't have a car,

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Speaker 1: and I refuse to drive him around. He does have

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Speaker 1: a job. In fact, he's had three different jobs since

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Speaker 1: he's been here. He has been fired from each job

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Speaker 1: because he has an issue with the way people talk

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Speaker 1: to him. See, he has issues with being short. He

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Speaker 1: is only five three. I'm out, I'm a break I'm

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Speaker 1: not going to do this. Let me just say thank you.

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Speaker 1: I told you were gonna love it, and I asked

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Speaker 1: you enough for you to stick around. I'm going to

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Speaker 1: the break room. We're a team, all right. He has

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Speaker 1: issues with being short. He's only five three. I am

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Speaker 1: five to so his height doesn't bother me, but it

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Speaker 1: bothers him. He has short patience with people. I believe

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Speaker 1: he's been abused by a woman before because he always

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Speaker 1: thinks I'm talking down to him and belittling him. I

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Speaker 1: jokingly push these issues to the side, but it's getting old.

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Speaker 1: I'm getting to the point where I want to end

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Speaker 1: this relationship. Can I help him overcome this? Or should

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Speaker 1: I just let him work through his own problems alone? Please? Help?

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Speaker 1: Is it my turn? Let me get not? As I

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Speaker 1: tell you're gonna love this and and you're welcome, by

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Speaker 1: the way, You're welcome. Listen. You may not have a

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Speaker 1: problem with his height, but he certainly does. And and

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Speaker 1: you got to let him work it out on his own.

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Speaker 1: There are things that you can help help him do

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Speaker 1: I don't know, Maybe take him to therapy so he

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Speaker 1: you can do about his problem with his height. You

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Speaker 1: cannot change people. You cannot change him. Uh. You've only

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Speaker 1: known him for seven months. Um. It made me think,

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Speaker 1: did you see him before? You guys you know, got together?

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Speaker 1: But I guess you did because you would have said

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Speaker 1: that if you didn't. But now he's moved. You guys

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Speaker 1: didn't talk about what was going to happen, where he

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Speaker 1: You guys didn't discuss any of that before he moved

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Speaker 1: to the same city. How can he's had three jobs

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Speaker 1: since he's been there. He's only been there what four months?

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Speaker 1: He has an issue with the way people talk to him.

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Speaker 1: This is crazy. These are things that he has to

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Speaker 1: with for the majority of his adult life. Uh, you

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Speaker 1: don't care because he's still taller than you at five too,

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Speaker 1: So I don't know, Um, if you're gonna be able

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Speaker 1: to help him overcome this, because he's got to do

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Speaker 1: be there to support him. Yeah, he's gonna have to

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Speaker 1: work through these problems alone. UM, I don't know if

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Speaker 1: and you want him to do better, I'm sure, but

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Speaker 1: You know, he needs counseling. I think Steve boy, good advice.

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Speaker 1: This is not the time to be funny and be

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Speaker 1: As dear Tommy, don't. I'm the one deel stupid about now.

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Speaker 1: This lady met this man seven. Let me go. I

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Speaker 1: promise you I'm farted five years old. He thirty seven

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Speaker 1: right now he shall he down eight years he already

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Speaker 1: five thirty seven. When we met, he lived three hours away,

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Speaker 1: He didn't have a plan in place when he moved

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Speaker 1: no home. Oh you can get in my house. Listen

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Speaker 1: to me, tiny houses they got. This boy could have

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Speaker 1: Now I left y'all with this woman dating this shout lad. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: me and my man have a little situation. Now. She fied,

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Speaker 1: was just wonding how it is for her when she

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Speaker 1: stopped by. How are you gonna see your man at

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Speaker 1: a shelter where you sit? Put you into the bed,

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Speaker 1: he's yours because one thing I know from being a

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Speaker 1: bet not. That's rule number one. That's all they got.

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Speaker 1: You don't touch my grocery cart, You don't put your

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Speaker 1: this blanket. He doesn't have a job, he doesn't have

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Speaker 1: now he just trying and walk around him little legs. Well,

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Speaker 1: he does have a job. Still he well, excuse me.

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Speaker 1: He got a job and he ain't got no car.

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Speaker 1: You if you now he got to trot everywhere. In fact,

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Speaker 1: Tina had three different jobs since he's been here. He's

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Speaker 1: how many times have we run into this? How many?

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Speaker 1: Senior wrote the right show because we are dealing with

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Speaker 1: talk to him. He stayed touchy, he edgy all the

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Speaker 1: damn time. Some always wrong, He always offended. See, he

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Speaker 1: want him to have long patience? He don't. He don't

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Speaker 1: like nobody cause he edgy. He always assumed it's about

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Speaker 1: him work through his own problems alone? Can I help

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Speaker 1: him overcome this? No? You cannot, No, you cannot. This

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Speaker 1: his own problems alone? He can't. He has no answers

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Speaker 1: always about him. Little people got big issues, little man,

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Speaker 1: short patients, they got shot legs, they got short arms.

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Speaker 1: They setting up everything about him a shot. But one

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Speaker 1: thing about short people, they get a job. Though. I

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Speaker 1: don't care what nobody's say. They always working. I'm surprised

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Speaker 1: because he shot. And once again, why is he out

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Speaker 1: give it a big name. See, you ain't got a

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Speaker 1: call a tinny house calling the shataun All in the

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Speaker 1: You climb up stairs for storage and a little loft.

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Speaker 1: You move that stuff out the way. It's a bunk

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Speaker 1: bathe man the stove and the toilet is the same

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Speaker 1: And surely you ain't got too cause you have a

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Speaker 1: tell me you are right. I'm fine. I'm a man.

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Speaker 1: I'm gonna be all right now. You all right? You

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Speaker 1: ain't fine. Yeah you're a man, But it's two things

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Speaker 1: you damn knew this letter. We have seen. See some

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Speaker 1: of the things that we're dealing with all right, Steve,

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