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Speaker 1: On this week's episode of Cultivating her Space.

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Speaker 4: Today we have a very special guest in Cultivating her Space.

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Speaker 4: She's a Nigerian American Emmy nominated actress, comedian, and writer,

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Speaker 4: and in her new faith based advice book Bamboozo by Jesus,

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Speaker 4: How God Tricked Me into the Life of My Dreams,

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Speaker 4: she shows us what it's like to love God wholeheartedly,

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Speaker 4: maintain a swag, and live life abundantly. On television, she

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Speaker 4: stars in HBO's critically acclaimed comedy series and Secure. A

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Speaker 4: distinguished stand up comedian, Yvonne previously opened for Chris Rock

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Speaker 4: on various stops of his Total Blackout Tour and head

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Speaker 4: her first comedy tour, Legos to Laurel at.

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Speaker 1: The top of twenty twenty.

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Speaker 4: You can currently see her in the Hulu film Vacation

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Speaker 4: Friends alongside Loral.

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Speaker 1: All Right, all right, evonn Orgy, welcome to cultivating her space.

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Speaker 6: How you all do it? I was like, she got everything.

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Speaker 6: You can also watch a comedy Sprostaurant on HBO Max

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Speaker 6: My mom made it. Yes, Yes, I love it.

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Speaker 1: Yes, We're so happy to have you here.

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Speaker 7: I'm excited to be here. I'm loving y'all can't see

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Speaker 7: the background, But she got.

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Speaker 6: The NL I rides. I was like, is that a mural?

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Speaker 6: Does she take that?

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Speaker 3: Is that?

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Speaker 2: I'm trying to figure out She's in the garden of

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Speaker 2: Eden and I'm trying to figure out how she got

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Speaker 2: the fault installation in her backyard.

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Speaker 6: But it's cool. I'n't taking no.

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Speaker 1: Thank you girl.

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Speaker 3: Oh I love it. I love it. So we're gonna

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Speaker 3: go into our quote of the day. So Yvonne, you

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Speaker 3: will recognize this quote of the day because these are

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Speaker 3: your words.

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Speaker 6: Hey, let's go.

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Speaker 3: God has custom designed your life to magnificent, and by default,

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Speaker 3: the magnificent is uncertain, daring, and downright scary.

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Speaker 6: I love that quote.

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Speaker 3: So before I like put my spend and my interpretation

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Speaker 8: So I want to hear from you for.

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Speaker 3: Those folks who haven't checked out your book yet, because

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Speaker 3: that's where we found it, right, that's where that quote

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Speaker 6: Yeah, So for the folks who have to check out

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Speaker 6: the book, Okay, that's.

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Speaker 2: Coming your local wherever you get books at and order

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Speaker 2: bamboos aboces.

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Speaker 6: Yet really where what where that came from?

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Speaker 2: Is a lot of times when we think of like

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Speaker 2: the magnificent if everybody could if everybody was walking in magnificence.

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Speaker 2: It cost something to walk in the magnificence. It cast something.

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Speaker 2: I think people were just like, yeah, I want to pop,

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Speaker 6: Like I think of D nine, like.

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Speaker 2: G Nice has been to DJ four forever, okay forever

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Speaker 2: and quarantine. He just did what he's always been doing

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Speaker 2: his life has literally like exponentially increased to be magnificent.

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Speaker 6: But he've been here, He've been here before y'all. He's

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Speaker 7: Y'all just didn't know about him because while y'all were

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Speaker 2: And doing his thing and just putting one foot in

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Speaker 2: I think people take that out of it because saying

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Speaker 2: don't think that requires sacrifice.

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Speaker 6: They don't think that requires.

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Speaker 2: Gangstar needs, and especially when you add faith into it,

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Speaker 2: it's just like, but God, like.

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Speaker 6: This shouldn't be this hardest, Like who's who said?

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Speaker 6: Because one person about you as because I have I

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Speaker 6: have the message and it breaks it very much down.

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Speaker 6: It's like, in this world you will have trouble.

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Speaker 2: I don't know how how much plainer that needs to be.

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Speaker 2: I don't know how much more of a straight shooter.

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Speaker 2: But he was like, take heart because I overcame the world.

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Speaker 7: But I think people are like, well, that don't apply

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Speaker 6: Haven't I had enough trouble? It's like you don't.

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Speaker 2: You don't get to put the beginning and the end

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Speaker 2: to your trouble. Like that's not that's not and that's

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Speaker 2: kind of not mine his work. So that that was

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Speaker 2: where I was when I wrote that quote, because I

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Speaker 2: think people think that the road that they're living when

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Speaker 2: it means that they're doing something wrong, or it means

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Speaker 6: Has for them, And it's just like, no, this is

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Speaker 1: That is such a good point. That is such a

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Speaker 4: I do want to say that our weekend was kind

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Speaker 4: of like Yvonne org weekend because we were watching a

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Speaker 4: movie reading your book. Look, just doing all the research, right,

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Speaker 4: doing all the low key stock and or whatever. And

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Speaker 4: so in your forward, your book is amazing, by the way,

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Speaker 4: and I loved it you read the.

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Speaker 1: Book for your audio book.

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Speaker 4: I love when authors do that, because it felt like

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Speaker 4: we were having a conversation like hey girl, you know

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Speaker 4: and so yeah, in your forward you share a jaw

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Speaker 4: dropping story. I mean, you got us in the first

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Speaker 4: definitely going to tune in where you're talking about how

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Speaker 4: you were born holding your mom's IUD and how that

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Speaker 4: was your first taste of being bamboozed by Jesus.

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Speaker 1: So, aside from your birth.

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Speaker 4: Can you talk to us about what were some of

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Speaker 4: the other or maybe what was the most surprising bamboozomen

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Speaker 1: Yeah, outside of that, because that is an opening right there.

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Speaker 6: Yeah, I mean, I.

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Speaker 2: Don't it doesn't get much more games than I was

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Speaker 2: there holding my mom's how you need my head? I

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Speaker 2: feel like SLI that was when Celi got bamboos like

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Speaker 2: y'all try to get me away.

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Speaker 6: Yeah, y'all, y'all thought you.

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Speaker 2: Was done like it was. So I think my mama

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Speaker 2: got bam boosom for sure on that one. But I

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Speaker 2: tell that story in there because the thing that you

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Speaker 2: so many people have, Oh, I just make cakes for

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Speaker 6: Supposed to open the bakery, Like wait what you know

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Speaker 2: It's it's the bamboozomen that comes from like, surely this

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Speaker 2: make millions of dollars from that. And it's like, actually,

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Speaker 6: And so then it's like, come on, because I've run

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Speaker 2: We are so like success is the only option. Failure

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Speaker 2: And I heard somebody say for the first time, like,

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Speaker 6: And I was like what.

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Speaker 2: And I met her and I was just like, huh.

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Speaker 2: I literally it was like, I need you to break

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Speaker 2: what you mean. And she was just like, it's just

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Speaker 2: And then like what does that mean when like you're

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Speaker 2: the successful in your family.

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Speaker 6: I'm like things that I never thought of.

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Speaker 2: Like I was like, let me just be successful. We

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Speaker 6: And I was like, oh my god, And you know,

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Speaker 6: and she.

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Speaker 2: Is amazing in every way. She performing by the grace

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Speaker 2: of God. She's leaned into her talents and she's like,

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Speaker 2: and she's boring. But it was such a moment of

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Speaker 2: because I was like, I never experienced this other version,

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Speaker 2: what she means because I'm living in it, and all

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Speaker 2: those problems that she alluded to exists, but they were

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Speaker 6: I don't know if I'm if I'm being care or

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Speaker 2: It was just like, oh, people really stop shy of

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Speaker 3: And but what's so beautiful about speaking with you is

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Speaker 6: Right.

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Speaker 8: What was it like to really have.

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Speaker 6: And they give it like four years and.

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Speaker 6: Right. They were like, you're gonna come here, you're gonna

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Speaker 6: We also don't know and then you don't have.

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Speaker 2: Looking for an exciting incident like okay, well why well

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Speaker 6: Just now.

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Speaker 6: I know.

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Speaker 2: I really don't know what this road is going to do.

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Speaker 6: You want to be? I don't know yet what that

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Speaker 2: And so yeah, it wasn't easy to be like, hey,

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Speaker 6: But let's see, but that's the be being in America.

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Speaker 2: I think they would say, I'm really glad you listened

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Speaker 4: That's right, and you got your two degrees along the

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Speaker 1: So I'm like, go ahead, girl.

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Speaker 6: And then all the time I said, these degrees don't expire.

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Speaker 6: They don't mean I may need a booster shot like this, like.

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Speaker 6: If I ever needed to tap back in like I'm

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Speaker 4: I will say you are in good company today because

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Speaker 1: You'd like to say we're in recovery.

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Speaker 6: Yes, And even.

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Speaker 4: Though we're in recovery, we're still working progress. So what

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Speaker 1: So I know you've talked about this before.

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Speaker 6: Yes, And I talked about get in the book.

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Speaker 2: It is this thing of letting go because like you

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Speaker 7: Like there's God works best when you leave room in

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Speaker 7: like I say, like this, if Abraham was going to

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Speaker 2: He was like, yo, I want to be a perfect

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Speaker 2: he heard God say okay, now find you a ramed

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Speaker 2: of us.

444
00:21:00,200 --> 00:21:03,240
Speaker 6: And people's like, no, that's that's the opposite of perfect.

445
00:21:03,400 --> 00:21:03,840
Speaker 6: I am.

446
00:21:04,320 --> 00:21:07,600
Speaker 2: I got Jesus, he's not schizophrenic, so I know God

447
00:21:07,680 --> 00:21:11,280
Speaker 2: is not schizophrenic. So I'm gonna sacrifice this job and

448
00:21:11,359 --> 00:21:13,880
Speaker 2: I know you're gonna get you know, my boo thing.

449
00:21:13,960 --> 00:21:19,400
Speaker 2: Another one he lost out on having his son because

450
00:21:20,200 --> 00:21:21,800
Speaker 2: that's what perfectionism is perfect.

451
00:21:22,200 --> 00:21:24,480
Speaker 6: I'm gonna do it my way. It's gonna be great,

452
00:21:24,520 --> 00:21:26,480
Speaker 6: and it's gonna be that, and it's just like or

453
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Speaker 6: you know what, I'm gonna do it. I'm gonna do

454
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Speaker 6: my all. Hey God, Hey, I'm checking back in, Like

455
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Speaker 6: what do you think about that? Like I really like

456
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Speaker 6: that color?

457
00:21:34,000 --> 00:21:37,159
Speaker 2: But what about okay, you know you're right, because somebody

458
00:21:37,160 --> 00:21:38,560
Speaker 2: else has that colt, so I don't want there to

459
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Speaker 2: be confusion in the marketplace. That was really good, Okay, cool,

460
00:21:41,440 --> 00:21:42,960
Speaker 2: I'm glad. I'm glad that I checked it with you.

461
00:21:43,240 --> 00:21:43,800
Speaker 6: Okay cool.

462
00:21:44,000 --> 00:21:46,040
Speaker 2: So like it's like you have the conversation and now

463
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Speaker 2: I'm I'm silly enough to bring God into multiple asset,

464
00:21:49,119 --> 00:21:50,240
Speaker 2: Like that's a real conversation.

465
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Speaker 6: I'm like, God, what should I want on this date?

466
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Speaker 2: You're right, I don't want to go too thirsty? Cool,

467
00:21:54,240 --> 00:21:56,280
Speaker 2: let me let me go this other one. And it's

468
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Speaker 2: just and it's just keeping it real. It's just keeping

469
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Speaker 2: it real. Or sometimes it's like eing this what this

470
00:22:01,160 --> 00:22:03,160
Speaker 2: whole time? Like lit this all right?

471
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Speaker 9: You know what you because I am a little thing

472
00:22:05,280 --> 00:22:07,960
Speaker 9: now okay, cool, let me get this joint Like it

473
00:22:08,080 --> 00:22:11,879
Speaker 9: goes both ways, Like it's not it's him just being like, listen,

474
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Speaker 9: you said you wanted to try somethinue, so why don't

475
00:22:14,359 --> 00:22:14,800
Speaker 9: you try this?

476
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Speaker 2: Think And it's like I will do that. And perfectionism

477
00:22:19,960 --> 00:22:23,640
Speaker 2: requires just rigidity, right, It's like I made a plan,

478
00:22:24,000 --> 00:22:25,800
Speaker 2: I've set a goal. I want to do it, and

479
00:22:26,320 --> 00:22:27,360
Speaker 2: for I think a.

480
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Speaker 6: Period in our life there is a.

481
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Speaker 2: Version where being a perfectionist helps, but it's not sustainable, right,

482
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Speaker 2: And I think in every I think in everything, anytime

483
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Speaker 2: you go to extremes, it's never great. When people were like,

484
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Speaker 2: I'm typed a and I was like, okay, well that

485
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Speaker 2: that's not great either, you know what I mean. Like

486
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Speaker 2: it's helpful, it's good that you're a planner, it's good

487
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Speaker 2: that you are able to like put the distance in play.

488
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Speaker 6: But like when do you have fun? You know, it's

489
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Speaker 6: just like okay, well when do you balance that with

490
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Speaker 6: something else?

491
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Speaker 1: Right?

492
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Speaker 2: And so I think for me realizing that like my

493
00:23:02,400 --> 00:23:07,440
Speaker 2: perfectionism was actually tied to like needing to be in control.

494
00:23:07,680 --> 00:23:13,679
Speaker 6: Needing to like have everything in order and in line.

495
00:23:13,840 --> 00:23:15,760
Speaker 6: And it's like I can't let anything drop.

496
00:23:15,800 --> 00:23:18,120
Speaker 2: And it's like, but now you got you gotta shoulder problems,

497
00:23:18,240 --> 00:23:19,359
Speaker 2: enough problems because you've.

498
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Speaker 6: Been holding everything up. It was just like what I

499
00:23:22,680 --> 00:23:25,439
Speaker 6: remember my my therapist one time, she was like, I

500
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Speaker 6: want you to be messy. And I was like, why

501
00:23:27,440 --> 00:23:30,479
Speaker 6: would I Why would I do that? Like that's the

502
00:23:30,520 --> 00:23:31,600
Speaker 6: wrong advice.

503
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Speaker 2: And she was like, no, I want you to messy.

504
00:23:33,160 --> 00:23:35,200
Speaker 2: I was like, but there are consequences to be messy.

505
00:23:35,200 --> 00:23:39,240
Speaker 2: And she was like okay, and it was like, I

506
00:23:39,280 --> 00:23:42,400
Speaker 2: don't understand. I thought people were supposed to live lives

507
00:23:42,440 --> 00:23:45,919
Speaker 2: that aren't complicated, like you know what I mean. But

508
00:23:45,960 --> 00:23:48,439
Speaker 2: she was just like, I mean what, It's not like

509
00:23:48,600 --> 00:23:50,480
Speaker 2: you're gonna go hide here and stab somebody.

510
00:23:50,560 --> 00:23:53,320
Speaker 6: Like, I'm not telling you to do something ridiculous.

511
00:23:53,480 --> 00:23:57,840
Speaker 2: I'm just telling you to like leave room for things

512
00:23:57,840 --> 00:24:02,919
Speaker 2: to not go exactly as planned, and then deal with

513
00:24:03,000 --> 00:24:05,000
Speaker 2: those consequences, good.

514
00:24:04,880 --> 00:24:06,879
Speaker 6: Or bad, when they are as.

515
00:24:08,160 --> 00:24:08,840
Speaker 1: Exactly.

516
00:24:10,359 --> 00:24:16,280
Speaker 2: She just said, I'll have to find another therapy.

517
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Speaker 3: My favorite about it, My favorite question is what's the

518
00:24:20,440 --> 00:24:21,600
Speaker 3: worst that can happen?

519
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Speaker 6: And when you think about.

520
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Speaker 3: What's the worst that could happen, chances are is not

521
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Speaker 3: that bad after all.

522
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Speaker 6: But it's not.

523
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Speaker 2: The thing about it is you actually really don't have

524
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Speaker 2: an answer to what the worst that can happen is

525
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Speaker 2: because you're the reality is the people who are answering

526
00:24:40,640 --> 00:24:46,440
Speaker 2: that question, they're creating the worst that can happen. They're like, well,

527
00:24:46,480 --> 00:24:48,640
Speaker 2: then what is And it's just like, well, what evidence

528
00:24:48,680 --> 00:24:51,320
Speaker 2: do you have to show that that could happen?

529
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Speaker 3: I mean exactly, not an option, exactly exactly. And that's

530
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Speaker 3: what I asked the question because they can't. Once they

531
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Speaker 3: answer it, You're exactly right, they realize, Oh, either one

532
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Speaker 3: I make like I'm really making exaggerating how bad this

533
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Speaker 3: will really be, or I am fully capable of dealing

534
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Speaker 3: with whatever gets presented to me.

535
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Speaker 6: Yeah.

536
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Speaker 4: Yeah, Now we want to we want to shift up

537
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Speaker 4: the energy of this interview a little bit.

538
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Speaker 1: Okay, shifted up a little bit.

539
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Speaker 4: And because we recognize, appreciate, and celebrate the multifaceted woman,

540
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Speaker 4: and we believe that it's okay to be classy and ratchet.

541
00:25:41,200 --> 00:25:46,600
Speaker 1: It's okay to be That's what we talk about.

542
00:25:46,640 --> 00:25:48,840
Speaker 4: And see, we believe that you can be elegant and

543
00:25:48,880 --> 00:25:51,000
Speaker 4: you can dance the strip club music. And so we

544
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Speaker 4: want to invite you to the oh you clatch it segment?

545
00:25:53,600 --> 00:25:54,840
Speaker 4: So do you take on the challenge?

546
00:25:55,080 --> 00:26:02,480
Speaker 6: Oh you clatch it? Okay, let's let's not any well

547
00:26:02,520 --> 00:26:03,680
Speaker 6: for one of us. So let's see you.

548
00:26:05,920 --> 00:26:07,840
Speaker 1: Well, maybe we should just start off with the real

549
00:26:07,960 --> 00:26:08,440
Speaker 1: juicy one.

550
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Speaker 4: So we've heard through the grapevine that your stripper name

551
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Speaker 4: would be Chocolate Testimony.

552
00:26:13,359 --> 00:26:18,000
Speaker 2: Okay, because I'm dropping it low and dropping that word like,

553
00:26:18,119 --> 00:26:18,880
Speaker 2: do you know him?

554
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Speaker 6: Do you know him?

555
00:26:20,200 --> 00:26:20,480
Speaker 10: Though?

556
00:26:20,640 --> 00:26:25,320
Speaker 6: Oh my god, okay, So you gotta do sagers with me?

557
00:26:27,200 --> 00:26:29,399
Speaker 6: Loa yeah, okay.

558
00:26:29,920 --> 00:26:32,080
Speaker 1: So what would your walk up song be?

559
00:26:33,160 --> 00:26:35,040
Speaker 6: Oh, testimony to the stage?

560
00:26:35,080 --> 00:26:35,440
Speaker 1: What's song?

561
00:26:35,480 --> 00:26:35,840
Speaker 4: The plan?

562
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Speaker 6: Drop it? Loawe Jesus that is epic?

563
00:26:46,640 --> 00:26:48,560
Speaker 1: Okay, might drop I love it.

564
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Speaker 2: I mean if you won't drop it, he said, whatever

565
00:26:51,760 --> 00:26:54,160
Speaker 2: you do, do it in the name, and so I'm like, yeah,

566
00:26:54,240 --> 00:26:56,119
Speaker 2: drop it, Jesus, okay.

567
00:26:56,280 --> 00:26:56,639
Speaker 6: Probably.

568
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Speaker 3: So I think that chocolate testimony, I think that already

569
00:27:00,600 --> 00:27:02,840
Speaker 3: answers our next question. But we're gonna go on ahead

570
00:27:02,880 --> 00:27:07,399
Speaker 3: with it, all right, So chalcolate testimony, Are you gonna

571
00:27:07,440 --> 00:27:09,240
Speaker 3: twirk or two steps?

572
00:27:10,119 --> 00:27:16,160
Speaker 6: I'm a body road, I'm a body up on us, Yes,

573
00:27:17,359 --> 00:27:20,560
Speaker 6: body road. You know you gotta you gotta protect your

574
00:27:20,920 --> 00:27:23,480
Speaker 6: your your knees and your back. You know, saying you're right.

575
00:27:23,720 --> 00:27:26,320
Speaker 6: Distribute is a hard life, you know out here you

576
00:27:26,400 --> 00:27:30,600
Speaker 6: gotta make sure to make sure you are right, that

577
00:27:30,760 --> 00:27:34,680
Speaker 6: is right, you know, protect your core, protect your knee

578
00:27:34,800 --> 00:27:35,400
Speaker 6: and your back.

579
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Speaker 8: Yes.

580
00:27:38,160 --> 00:27:41,639
Speaker 4: Now, what's the most significant decision you've made in the

581
00:27:41,680 --> 00:27:42,280
Speaker 4: past year?

582
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Speaker 3: To do?

583
00:27:44,000 --> 00:27:44,240
Speaker 1: Left?

584
00:27:45,400 --> 00:27:47,160
Speaker 6: That was hard to I'm not gonna find.

585
00:27:47,200 --> 00:27:49,920
Speaker 2: But I'm, like I said in the books, and I

586
00:27:50,480 --> 00:27:52,760
Speaker 2: feel like I got a baby on my back and

587
00:27:52,920 --> 00:27:55,480
Speaker 2: you know, I'm running up here like I like, I.

588
00:27:55,440 --> 00:27:58,960
Speaker 6: Can't do it, no problem, Like actually I want to

589
00:27:58,960 --> 00:27:59,239
Speaker 6: do it.

590
00:28:00,960 --> 00:28:05,600
Speaker 2: And it's not because you know, I grew up in

591
00:28:05,720 --> 00:28:10,200
Speaker 2: a culture that's very performative, right, it's very like love

592
00:28:10,320 --> 00:28:13,159
Speaker 2: is performed, is performative, Like we would like you if

593
00:28:13,200 --> 00:28:15,399
Speaker 2: you do this, you know, and then I'm just like dang,

594
00:28:15,520 --> 00:28:17,399
Speaker 2: like so then it's just like you keeps you in

595
00:28:17,400 --> 00:28:19,680
Speaker 2: the rat race of doing and giving and being and

596
00:28:19,720 --> 00:28:21,800
Speaker 2: performing and achieving and excelling.

597
00:28:21,840 --> 00:28:23,159
Speaker 6: And it's like other than.

598
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Speaker 2: For what though, Like if I got to do all

599
00:28:25,320 --> 00:28:28,240
Speaker 2: that to be loved or accepted, it's like I need

600
00:28:28,280 --> 00:28:31,840
Speaker 2: a different version of that or or to feel appreciated

601
00:28:31,920 --> 00:28:33,160
Speaker 2: or accepted by myself.

602
00:28:33,240 --> 00:28:36,320
Speaker 6: It's like no, like I'm enough, Like he died, he

603
00:28:36,720 --> 00:28:38,200
Speaker 6: shed his blood on the cross, I'm good.

604
00:28:38,560 --> 00:28:40,880
Speaker 2: Like if I don't do nothing, you know we talking

605
00:28:40,880 --> 00:28:42,640
Speaker 2: about you don't do nothing else for.

606
00:28:42,720 --> 00:28:43,760
Speaker 6: Me, you don't know.

607
00:28:43,880 --> 00:28:46,360
Speaker 2: But it's just like we don't apply that to ourselves,

608
00:28:46,360 --> 00:28:48,600
Speaker 2: like if you don't do nothing else.

609
00:28:48,720 --> 00:28:51,240
Speaker 6: Like you Gucci, like you did it, like you've done

610
00:28:51,280 --> 00:28:52,600
Speaker 6: the hard things. I'm proud of you.

611
00:28:52,640 --> 00:28:55,680
Speaker 2: Like we don't talk to ourselves like that, and I

612
00:28:55,720 --> 00:28:59,640
Speaker 2: think that's unfair to ourselves. And so for me, I

613
00:28:59,800 --> 00:29:01,240
Speaker 2: just I hit a point where I'm like, well, I

614
00:29:01,240 --> 00:29:04,720
Speaker 2: haven't so many so often we wait.

615
00:29:04,520 --> 00:29:07,080
Speaker 6: For retirement to rest, and I was like, yeah, that's

616
00:29:07,080 --> 00:29:07,680
Speaker 6: gon gonna work.

617
00:29:08,320 --> 00:29:10,720
Speaker 2: I'm a rest now, I'm arrest. Now I can take

618
00:29:10,720 --> 00:29:13,480
Speaker 2: it back up later and keep going with I'm a rest.

619
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Speaker 6: We we're the only ones.

620
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Speaker 2: We don't do that with all cars, literally, like every

621
00:29:17,800 --> 00:29:20,720
Speaker 2: two thousand dollars we're getting into GIP like, so we

622
00:29:20,880 --> 00:29:23,800
Speaker 2: know we hit bold black where we got to go

623
00:29:23,880 --> 00:29:26,640
Speaker 2: get a oil change. You gotta rotate the tires.

624
00:29:26,680 --> 00:29:27,760
Speaker 6: We got to do that.

625
00:29:28,440 --> 00:29:30,760
Speaker 2: We're the only ones that be like at the end

626
00:29:30,800 --> 00:29:34,160
Speaker 2: of twenty years, I think I can finally take that

627
00:29:34,160 --> 00:29:40,320
Speaker 2: a vocations like, huh, what in our twenty years without

628
00:29:40,680 --> 00:29:45,040
Speaker 2: real team, why do we think we can go eight

629
00:29:45,160 --> 00:29:49,320
Speaker 2: months without rest, eight months out a vacation, eight months

630
00:29:49,360 --> 00:29:53,920
Speaker 2: without a massage, eight months without just having a lazy weekend,

631
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Speaker 2: Like I mean, I'm speaking of somebody who didn't know

632
00:29:58,160 --> 00:29:59,360
Speaker 2: what to do in stillness.

633
00:29:59,480 --> 00:30:03,240
Speaker 6: I was like lazy, And my therapist is like, do.

634
00:30:03,360 --> 00:30:06,840
Speaker 2: You feel lazy or is your body just finally in

635
00:30:06,920 --> 00:30:09,840
Speaker 2: the state of breath after almost a decade of work,

636
00:30:10,440 --> 00:30:12,720
Speaker 2: and I was like, I mean, I like the framing of.

637
00:30:12,760 --> 00:30:15,360
Speaker 6: That, but I do still feel lazy, like and it's

638
00:30:15,440 --> 00:30:18,440
Speaker 6: just like I have to rework my mind.

639
00:30:18,480 --> 00:30:18,640
Speaker 10: You know.

640
00:30:18,680 --> 00:30:22,760
Speaker 2: The Bible tells us like to transform my minds. And

641
00:30:23,880 --> 00:30:27,320
Speaker 2: the old version of me was like, as long as

642
00:30:27,400 --> 00:30:29,080
Speaker 2: you work, as long as you grind. It's like it

643
00:30:29,160 --> 00:30:30,880
Speaker 2: didn't say like, are you happy in the work that

644
00:30:30,920 --> 00:30:33,080
Speaker 2: you're doing? Are you happy in the grind that you're doing?

645
00:30:33,120 --> 00:30:34,840
Speaker 6: Are you killed? Are you It's just like, but I

646
00:30:34,880 --> 00:30:36,880
Speaker 6: got to be grinding. It's like, yeah, I mean I'm busy.

647
00:30:36,920 --> 00:30:38,120
Speaker 6: I'm sorry I can't come your event.

648
00:30:38,240 --> 00:30:42,440
Speaker 2: And it's like the busy, the sexiness, the business is

649
00:30:42,520 --> 00:30:45,240
Speaker 2: what keeps us going. And it's just like yeah, because

650
00:30:45,240 --> 00:30:46,720
Speaker 2: you know, once I've had this project, I got to

651
00:30:46,720 --> 00:30:48,600
Speaker 2: make sure I have another project to tell people that

652
00:30:48,680 --> 00:30:48,920
Speaker 2: I'm on.

653
00:30:49,240 --> 00:30:51,560
Speaker 6: And then it's like do I why don't I be

654
00:30:51,640 --> 00:30:54,920
Speaker 6: like I'm traveling and I'm happy.

655
00:30:56,080 --> 00:30:58,320
Speaker 2: Hey, when I get back, I'm sure i'll have another

656
00:30:58,440 --> 00:31:01,280
Speaker 2: job or I'll create I don't know yet, Like it's

657
00:31:01,360 --> 00:31:03,400
Speaker 2: just like I got off, like this is what we

658
00:31:03,520 --> 00:31:04,200
Speaker 2: worked hard.

659
00:31:04,080 --> 00:31:06,600
Speaker 6: For and then we're not even gonna take advantage of it.

660
00:31:06,800 --> 00:31:09,600
Speaker 1: How that work that is beautiful, so inspiring?

661
00:31:10,000 --> 00:31:17,160
Speaker 3: Do let yes, yes, rest, yes, definitely get we talk

662
00:31:17,240 --> 00:31:19,720
Speaker 3: about like from.

663
00:31:19,640 --> 00:31:22,080
Speaker 6: The foundation in the world. And seven day he was like,

664
00:31:22,080 --> 00:31:25,560
Speaker 6: all right, I'm gonna sap out. Y'all got this cool?

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Speaker 2: But we're like, yeah, but he can do that cause

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Speaker 2: he Jesus, But like I can't because my dad doesn't understand.

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Speaker 6: It's like, no, you haven't.

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Speaker 2: My past used to say, everything in life is trained

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Speaker 2: to be trained as a relationship. That's in work. That's

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Speaker 2: like you we are triumphanty training people on how to

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Speaker 2: receive us, on what we're gonna do and what we're

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Speaker 2: not gonna do, a vice versa. And if you make

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Speaker 2: rest and priorities, then people already know what to respect

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Speaker 2: when they get you.

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Speaker 6: You know, it's like, hey, guys, I fully committed to this.

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Speaker 2: When I am here the five days you get me

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Speaker 2: for these eight hours, I will give you my absolute

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Speaker 2: loop back and you will think I worked fourteen hours.

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Speaker 6: However, I'm gonna give it to you grade.

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Speaker 7: So you know what I mean.

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Speaker 6: Just like now, I don't know if you can do that.

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Speaker 1: You have a job.

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Speaker 6: That's why I'm so god bless y'all. But I do

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Speaker 6: feel like you know, but I think it's the same

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Speaker 6: way like with me. I get asked all the time, like, Yo,

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Speaker 6: how are you able to you know, still love God

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Speaker 6: and be.

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Speaker 2: An actress in Hollywood? And I'm like, I didn't know

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Speaker 2: how to choose because I trained people to know that

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Speaker 2: you don't get both. You don't get you don't get

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Speaker 2: this loved Jesus and you don't get this bomb actress.

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Speaker 10: I don't.

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Speaker 6: I don't know how to separate it too, because like,

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Speaker 6: he the only reason.

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Speaker 2: Why you know me so, But at the same time,

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Speaker 2: I'm not like and then Jesus said, because that's crazy.

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Speaker 6: I don't. I'm not perfect God bless the people who are.

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Speaker 3: I don't.

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Speaker 6: That's not a relationship week that's not you. Yep. I

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Speaker 6: can't be me. I don't want it to DV. Honestly,

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Speaker 6: I'm like, if you know that I love him by now,

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Speaker 6: then I don't know what you've been doing. I don't

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Speaker 6: have to, like, I don't have to beat it over

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Speaker 6: the head. But like my book is so by Jesus.

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Speaker 1: So there we go.

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Speaker 3: So, Yvonne, we have one more question for you, potentially, Okay,

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Speaker 3: what's the one question or topic you wish people asked

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Speaker 3: you about more often.

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Speaker 6: I don't know that I have a thing. I don't

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Speaker 6: know that I have the things. I'm like, you know,

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Speaker 6: why didn't nobody ask me that? I don't know.

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Speaker 2: It's funny because I've been doing press for Vacation First

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Speaker 2: and there's a the where Oh no, it it was that,

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Speaker 2: but this impressed Vacation Pregnant the.

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Speaker 6: Book, and we were talking about like, you know, people

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Speaker 6: just know either what to expect or what not to do.

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Speaker 2: And I was like, yeah, I mean nobody has ever

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Speaker 2: offered me cocaine, Like I don't know why, Like nobody's

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Speaker 2: ever offered me just hard heroin nobody and not that

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Speaker 2: I wanted, but it's just that thing of I think

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Speaker 2: what I was talking about was, you know, Christians being

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Speaker 2: so afraid to go into places that.

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Speaker 6: Are not so homo geniusly Christian and ass like, well,

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Speaker 6: what's the fear? Like what's the beer?

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Speaker 10: Because I'm like, like it's easy to be Christian amongst

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Speaker 10: other Christians, like like if you're so full of what

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Speaker 10: you already know, like you can you can navigate spaces

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Speaker 10: that and then.

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Speaker 2: You bring you bring you into it, not to say

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Speaker 2: you got to come in and proposize, but like what's

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Speaker 2: the beer?

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Speaker 6: You know what I mean? Like when I go no

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Speaker 6: one's be like, hey, you want to do something? Like

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Speaker 6: no one's ever asking that, you know.

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Speaker 2: What I mean.

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Speaker 6: And it's like I don't have to go in there

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Speaker 6: and be like what I'm not gonna do. It's like

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Speaker 6: you don't have to do all that. It's like the

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Speaker 6: essence and the aura who you are shows up before.

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Speaker 1: You do that.

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Speaker 6: I think it's just interesting a.

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Speaker 2: Lot of times when you unique Christians and it's just like, man,

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Speaker 2: you know my pastors just said they're so heavenly focused

744
00:35:06,480 --> 00:35:09,520
Speaker 2: that they're no earthly goods, and it's just like that

745
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Speaker 2: sucks because it's like, man, you could you could actually

746
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Speaker 2: do so much more for the kingdom if you were

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Speaker 2: like acceptable, you know, if you were if you were

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Speaker 2: actually someone that people could come to and be.

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Speaker 6: Like, hey, I had it question by faith and I

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Speaker 6: don't know, maybe a stupid question, but what do you

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Speaker 6: think about good and giving a real, like human answer, right.

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Speaker 2: I think so many times in church we give like

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Speaker 2: the church answer, we get the thing that like you

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Speaker 2: want to make God.

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Speaker 6: Proud with the answer. It's like, look like yeah, human,

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Speaker 6: I think right for me.

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Speaker 2: I mean, so many church people, but not so many

758
00:35:49,480 --> 00:35:53,240
Speaker 2: people who are in relationship with God, and there's a difference.

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Speaker 1: There's a difference that is so amazing. We just want

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Speaker 1: to thank you so much for your wisdom and your

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Speaker 1: energy and just your spirit. Evon.

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Speaker 4: You are such a beautiful person and we know that

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Speaker 4: you are going to go far and reach all your

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Speaker 4: goals because of the energy that you have. So we'd

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Speaker 4: love for you to tell our listeners where they can

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Speaker 4: find you, what to look out for, and how they

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Speaker 4: can support you right now in your life.

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Speaker 2: Thank you, Simmy, Well, thank you for having me again.

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Speaker 2: I do want that bad drop and I do want

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Speaker 2: all your edges and the bunds like I want everything

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Speaker 2: that's going with what I'm talking about you too, So anyway,

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Speaker 2: you can.

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Speaker 6: Find me on all social media at von org.

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Speaker 2: You can find the book Bamboozoo by Jesus on Amazon, Barns, Noble,

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Speaker 2: your local small business, your local bookstore, Black owned. You

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Speaker 2: go to Bambooo by Jesus dot com. We actually have

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Speaker 2: a directory of like different places the book. Yeah, I

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Speaker 2: think that's about it. You can find my comedy special

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Speaker 2: My Mom made It on HBO Max. You can find

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Speaker 2: Vacation Friends on the movie on Hulu. You can find

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Speaker 2: season five and Secure on HBO coming out this October.

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Speaker 2: You don't know what date yet, but this October. And yeah,

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Speaker 2: look at how other stuff that I'm doing.

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