1 00:00:00,200 --> 00:00:04,400 Speaker 1: We all tackle hurdles on a day today basis, and 2 00:00:04,519 --> 00:00:08,400 Speaker 1: getting over them starts with being honest with yourself. If 3 00:00:08,440 --> 00:00:12,440 Speaker 1: you feel overwhelmed, and hey, we all do at times. 4 00:00:13,000 --> 00:00:16,880 Speaker 1: Step one to getting through the fog is to admit 5 00:00:17,000 --> 00:00:20,599 Speaker 1: to yourself what's going on, have some grace, and then 6 00:00:21,000 --> 00:00:23,240 Speaker 1: push forward with an action plan. 7 00:00:38,120 --> 00:00:42,440 Speaker 2: Hey, Hurdler's Emily A. Badi here bringing you another installment. 8 00:00:41,880 --> 00:00:46,880 Speaker 1: Of Hurdle Moment from Hurdle this week, I am chatting 9 00:00:46,920 --> 00:00:52,239 Speaker 1: about how to handle the feeling of overwhelm. Listen, I 10 00:00:52,360 --> 00:00:54,680 Speaker 1: have been there. In fact, I kind of feel as 11 00:00:54,680 --> 00:00:58,160 Speaker 1: though I am there right now. It always happens this 12 00:00:58,240 --> 00:01:01,480 Speaker 1: time of year. People are really excited to get back 13 00:01:01,520 --> 00:01:05,360 Speaker 1: into the swing of things after perhaps checking out a little. 14 00:01:05,160 --> 00:01:06,000 Speaker 2: Bit for the summer. 15 00:01:06,040 --> 00:01:11,039 Speaker 1: And I feel like it may be extra big this 16 00:01:11,160 --> 00:01:13,960 Speaker 1: feeling this year because some people are getting back into 17 00:01:14,000 --> 00:01:17,039 Speaker 1: the swing of things for the first time all year. 18 00:01:17,200 --> 00:01:21,479 Speaker 2: Because twenty twenty and so here we are. 19 00:01:21,959 --> 00:01:26,679 Speaker 1: Our inboxes are boppin', people are enthusiastic, People want to 20 00:01:26,680 --> 00:01:30,560 Speaker 1: make deals, get answers, be a little bit aggressive, and 21 00:01:30,720 --> 00:01:36,080 Speaker 1: it can feel like a lot. Yeah, sounds familiar, right. 22 00:01:36,200 --> 00:01:38,920 Speaker 1: Here's the deal. First and foremost you are not alone, 23 00:01:39,120 --> 00:01:41,760 Speaker 1: and that's why I am chatting about it on this 24 00:01:41,800 --> 00:01:45,119 Speaker 1: week's installment of Hurdle Moment. And second of all, before 25 00:01:45,120 --> 00:01:47,720 Speaker 1: I get into this, I just want to put out 26 00:01:47,760 --> 00:01:51,640 Speaker 1: an essential reminder into the universe that you can be 27 00:01:51,800 --> 00:01:55,520 Speaker 1: the bigger person in this situation. So although it may 28 00:01:55,800 --> 00:02:00,280 Speaker 1: be instinctive to feel a little bit reactive or get 29 00:02:00,280 --> 00:02:03,800 Speaker 1: a little defensive when people demand things of you during 30 00:02:03,880 --> 00:02:08,080 Speaker 1: this time, have some grace ease into it. 31 00:02:08,400 --> 00:02:10,080 Speaker 2: Understand it's all going to be okay. 32 00:02:10,560 --> 00:02:13,919 Speaker 1: We can handle hard things, and it's onward and upward 33 00:02:13,960 --> 00:02:14,400 Speaker 1: from here. 34 00:02:15,160 --> 00:02:17,280 Speaker 2: Anyway. Of course, now is not the. 35 00:02:17,160 --> 00:02:19,560 Speaker 1: Only time of year where you may be feeling a 36 00:02:19,600 --> 00:02:23,240 Speaker 1: little bit overwhelmed. In fact, overwhelmed can come at any 37 00:02:23,320 --> 00:02:27,760 Speaker 1: time in many forms. But what's important, regardless of when 38 00:02:28,080 --> 00:02:31,800 Speaker 1: these feelings of uneasiness pop up, is that you have 39 00:02:31,960 --> 00:02:35,840 Speaker 1: the tools that you need to get through it. And 40 00:02:35,919 --> 00:02:39,600 Speaker 1: so that's what I'm offering up for this week's Hurdle Moment. 41 00:02:39,680 --> 00:02:42,160 Speaker 1: If you are joining in for the Hurdle book Club tonight, 42 00:02:42,200 --> 00:02:45,240 Speaker 1: I'm so excited to see you. The link for registrations 43 00:02:45,280 --> 00:02:48,000 Speaker 1: in these show notes here. If you happen to be 44 00:02:48,200 --> 00:02:51,600 Speaker 1: listening to this episode on release day. 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As always 78 00:04:49,080 --> 00:04:51,440 Speaker 1: connect with the show on social It's at Emily Abadi 79 00:04:51,839 --> 00:04:57,520 Speaker 1: at Hurdle podcast and with that, let's get to hurdling. 80 00:05:02,440 --> 00:05:05,080 Speaker 2: So yesterday I am sitting at my desk. 81 00:05:05,240 --> 00:05:08,479 Speaker 1: I realized that it had been about twelve minutes give 82 00:05:08,560 --> 00:05:11,680 Speaker 1: or take since I had done anything, and I was 83 00:05:11,760 --> 00:05:17,640 Speaker 1: just blankly staring at my screen feeling completely stuck. Sounds familiar, 84 00:05:17,800 --> 00:05:20,760 Speaker 1: I'm sure it does, because we've all been there this 85 00:05:20,920 --> 00:05:24,520 Speaker 1: time of year, super overwhelming, and I knew in that 86 00:05:24,640 --> 00:05:27,279 Speaker 1: moment that I needed to get up and change something 87 00:05:27,279 --> 00:05:30,279 Speaker 1: about the circumstance. So I took a walk around the block. 88 00:05:30,400 --> 00:05:32,440 Speaker 1: The walk may or may not have ended in my 89 00:05:32,480 --> 00:05:36,200 Speaker 1: local grocery store. I grabbed two different types of ice 90 00:05:36,279 --> 00:05:40,040 Speaker 1: cream and a bag of Peda chips, came home, had 91 00:05:40,080 --> 00:05:41,960 Speaker 1: some of said ice cream and a couple of said 92 00:05:42,000 --> 00:05:46,840 Speaker 1: Peda chips, poured myself a tall glass of water, and 93 00:05:46,920 --> 00:05:50,360 Speaker 1: got back into the swing of things. And listen, everyone 94 00:05:50,440 --> 00:05:53,400 Speaker 1: is going to have different strategies that work for them. 95 00:05:53,440 --> 00:05:56,000 Speaker 1: But here I am today to share some of my 96 00:05:56,240 --> 00:06:00,719 Speaker 1: full proof strategies that helped me navigate that ever popular, 97 00:06:01,040 --> 00:06:07,400 Speaker 1: often loathed feeling of feeling overwhelmed. My first strategy get 98 00:06:07,480 --> 00:06:11,800 Speaker 1: up and move without fail. Even in the height of COVID. 99 00:06:11,880 --> 00:06:15,040 Speaker 1: If I needed to get out of my own way, 100 00:06:15,120 --> 00:06:17,480 Speaker 1: the first thing I would do would be put on 101 00:06:17,480 --> 00:06:20,520 Speaker 1: some shoes, walk down the stairs, and take a walk 102 00:06:20,560 --> 00:06:24,599 Speaker 1: around the block. Now, granted, not every walk ends at 103 00:06:24,600 --> 00:06:27,040 Speaker 1: the grocery store with ice cream in hand, and that's okay. 104 00:06:27,120 --> 00:06:31,400 Speaker 1: Sometimes just changing your venue, changing your circumstance, shifting a 105 00:06:31,480 --> 00:06:34,840 Speaker 1: little bit, can help you get your brain going in 106 00:06:34,880 --> 00:06:38,120 Speaker 1: a different direction and can help you think more clearly. 107 00:06:38,520 --> 00:06:41,400 Speaker 1: For me, this break, it might only be ten minutes, 108 00:06:41,680 --> 00:06:45,839 Speaker 1: But those ten minutes are my opportunity to give back 109 00:06:46,040 --> 00:06:50,000 Speaker 1: to myself. My next strategy for handling that feeling of 110 00:06:50,080 --> 00:06:53,960 Speaker 1: overwhelmed talk to someone about it. I think oftentimes when 111 00:06:53,960 --> 00:06:55,960 Speaker 1: we feel this way, we feel as though we are 112 00:06:56,000 --> 00:06:58,440 Speaker 1: the only person that is feeling this way, and that 113 00:06:58,560 --> 00:07:01,480 Speaker 1: is so not true. So nine times out of ten, 114 00:07:01,600 --> 00:07:03,120 Speaker 1: I bet if you were to reach out to a 115 00:07:03,160 --> 00:07:06,800 Speaker 1: friend and say, oh, today is just not my day, they. 116 00:07:06,720 --> 00:07:09,320 Speaker 2: Might be like, actually, today's not my day either. 117 00:07:09,800 --> 00:07:13,640 Speaker 1: You are not alone, So open up to a friend, 118 00:07:14,080 --> 00:07:17,000 Speaker 1: talk to them about what is going on, and perhaps 119 00:07:17,160 --> 00:07:20,160 Speaker 1: that friend can be the person you can bounce an 120 00:07:20,160 --> 00:07:22,720 Speaker 1: idea off of maybe there is something in particular with 121 00:07:22,800 --> 00:07:25,320 Speaker 1: work that is making you feel stuck, or even help 122 00:07:25,400 --> 00:07:30,120 Speaker 1: you just vent on some anxieties. For me, oftentimes that 123 00:07:30,160 --> 00:07:33,960 Speaker 1: feeling of overwhelm it's not attributed to one specific incidence 124 00:07:34,040 --> 00:07:36,760 Speaker 1: or an event, but rather to a multitude of events 125 00:07:36,800 --> 00:07:39,400 Speaker 1: that just feel as though they are boiling over. So 126 00:07:39,480 --> 00:07:42,320 Speaker 1: when you vocalize what's going on, when you get something 127 00:07:42,400 --> 00:07:44,680 Speaker 1: off of your chest, it can definitely help you a 128 00:07:45,080 --> 00:07:49,280 Speaker 1: gain new perspective and be just alleviate some of that 129 00:07:50,400 --> 00:07:53,000 Speaker 1: tension that's just built up in there, you know, I 130 00:07:53,040 --> 00:07:56,320 Speaker 1: think so often also, we just want to be strong, right, 131 00:07:56,560 --> 00:08:01,600 Speaker 1: We don't want to give off the vibe that something 132 00:08:01,920 --> 00:08:05,680 Speaker 1: is up. But in this effort of wanting to be strong, 133 00:08:05,720 --> 00:08:08,880 Speaker 1: in this effort of trying to quote unquote save face, 134 00:08:08,920 --> 00:08:12,880 Speaker 1: you're not necessarily always taking care of your best interests 135 00:08:12,880 --> 00:08:17,320 Speaker 1: and perhaps not really valuing your mental health. It's okay 136 00:08:17,720 --> 00:08:21,280 Speaker 1: to not be okay. It's okay to feel this way, 137 00:08:21,520 --> 00:08:24,440 Speaker 1: and the best thing that you can do to get 138 00:08:24,520 --> 00:08:28,320 Speaker 1: out of your own way is sometimes to let somebody else. 139 00:08:28,520 --> 00:08:33,640 Speaker 1: In my next strategy for dealing with overwhelm, write things down. 140 00:08:33,840 --> 00:08:37,960 Speaker 1: Oftentimes we can't articulate necessarily where this feeling is coming 141 00:08:37,960 --> 00:08:41,120 Speaker 1: from or why it is that we are in this 142 00:08:41,360 --> 00:08:42,560 Speaker 1: quote unquote rut. 143 00:08:42,760 --> 00:08:43,320 Speaker 2: But when you. 144 00:08:43,240 --> 00:08:46,720 Speaker 1: Start to write things down, you may be able to identify, Hey, 145 00:08:47,120 --> 00:08:49,400 Speaker 1: there's something that's really weighing on me that maybe I 146 00:08:49,600 --> 00:08:53,960 Speaker 1: didn't exactly realize. This is a big reason why journaling 147 00:08:54,080 --> 00:08:56,400 Speaker 1: is in my regular routine. It's how I start each 148 00:08:56,440 --> 00:08:59,599 Speaker 1: and every day, finishing off the journal entry with a 149 00:08:59,679 --> 00:09:03,600 Speaker 1: highlight something that was positive for my past twenty four hours. 150 00:09:03,600 --> 00:09:06,360 Speaker 1: It helps me start things on an optimistic foot. It 151 00:09:06,480 --> 00:09:09,520 Speaker 1: lets me vent, even if it's just to myself on 152 00:09:09,559 --> 00:09:13,640 Speaker 1: some white lined pages and a small gray notebook, and 153 00:09:13,720 --> 00:09:17,520 Speaker 1: gives me the chance just to be me as I 154 00:09:17,600 --> 00:09:23,440 Speaker 1: am unfiltered on the writing things down tip. My next 155 00:09:23,880 --> 00:09:28,440 Speaker 1: suggestion for navigating overwhelm is to make some sort of 156 00:09:28,720 --> 00:09:35,119 Speaker 1: doable to do list. You know, I love the smart goals, specific, measurable, attainable, realistic, 157 00:09:35,160 --> 00:09:37,560 Speaker 1: and time bound. And although your to do list might 158 00:09:37,640 --> 00:09:40,640 Speaker 1: have a few of these, what's important is that your 159 00:09:40,679 --> 00:09:44,000 Speaker 1: to do list is just that. I can't reiterate this 160 00:09:44,160 --> 00:09:48,640 Speaker 1: enough doable. If you feel overwhelmed, I suggest that you 161 00:09:48,679 --> 00:09:52,520 Speaker 1: write down three or four action items that you know 162 00:09:52,800 --> 00:09:57,400 Speaker 1: you can complete that day, Even the smallest thing like 163 00:09:57,840 --> 00:10:00,960 Speaker 1: do the dishes in the sink, or make the bed, 164 00:10:01,559 --> 00:10:06,839 Speaker 1: or send XYZ this important email. Those things they might 165 00:10:06,880 --> 00:10:09,560 Speaker 1: not take a lot of time, but seeing the check mark, 166 00:10:09,920 --> 00:10:14,040 Speaker 1: seeing that action item completed, it's something that makes you 167 00:10:14,080 --> 00:10:16,640 Speaker 1: feel productive. It helps you get out of your own 168 00:10:16,720 --> 00:10:20,160 Speaker 1: way and enables you to then perhaps check off the 169 00:10:20,280 --> 00:10:25,360 Speaker 1: bigger items on that to do list. Once you feel 170 00:10:25,480 --> 00:10:29,600 Speaker 1: productive despite your overwhelm, it opens up the doors for 171 00:10:29,800 --> 00:10:33,160 Speaker 1: you to take back the control that you feel as. 172 00:10:33,120 --> 00:10:34,440 Speaker 2: Though you have lost. 173 00:10:34,920 --> 00:10:39,319 Speaker 1: My last tip today for navigating the feeling of overwhelm 174 00:10:39,679 --> 00:10:41,679 Speaker 1: is perhaps the most critical. 175 00:10:42,280 --> 00:10:43,640 Speaker 2: Admit it to yourself. 176 00:10:44,200 --> 00:10:49,440 Speaker 1: If you don't recognize the issue, you cannot take action 177 00:10:49,800 --> 00:10:54,520 Speaker 1: against it. Again, if you do not recognize the issue, 178 00:10:54,800 --> 00:10:57,920 Speaker 1: you cannot take action against it. 179 00:10:58,200 --> 00:11:00,280 Speaker 2: We all tackle hurdle. 180 00:11:00,240 --> 00:11:03,559 Speaker 1: On a day to day basis, and getting over them 181 00:11:03,679 --> 00:11:07,960 Speaker 1: starts with being honest with yourself. If you feel overwhelmed, 182 00:11:08,280 --> 00:11:12,400 Speaker 1: and hey, we all do it times. Step one to 183 00:11:12,559 --> 00:11:15,680 Speaker 1: getting through the fog is to admit to yourself what's 184 00:11:15,720 --> 00:11:20,320 Speaker 1: going on, have some grace, and then push forward with 185 00:11:20,400 --> 00:11:25,719 Speaker 1: an action plan. Approaching this period this anxiety with an 186 00:11:25,880 --> 00:11:29,400 Speaker 1: I can attitude instead of feeling as though you are 187 00:11:29,480 --> 00:11:32,360 Speaker 1: drowning and you can't. That is what's going to help 188 00:11:32,400 --> 00:11:35,000 Speaker 1: you make it through to the other side. I've been there, 189 00:11:35,520 --> 00:11:38,280 Speaker 1: You've been there. We're all going through it at one 190 00:11:38,280 --> 00:11:44,760 Speaker 1: time or another. Show up, admit, make smart goals, actionable 191 00:11:44,800 --> 00:11:47,880 Speaker 1: to do lists, talk to a friend, take. 192 00:11:47,679 --> 00:11:49,720 Speaker 2: A break and be kind. 193 00:11:50,080 --> 00:11:52,920 Speaker 1: Now, go ahead, kick some butt and let me know 194 00:11:52,960 --> 00:11:55,800 Speaker 1: how it goes again. Tag me on Instagram at Emily 195 00:11:55,840 --> 00:11:58,960 Speaker 1: a Body at Hurdle podcasts and conquer what the day 196 00:11:59,000 --> 00:11:59,600 Speaker 1: has to offer. 197 00:12:00,280 --> 00:12:03,840 Speaker 2: Another hurdle conquered. Catch you guys next time.