Speaker 1: First Date follow Up powered by the Advocates Injury Attorneys
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Speaker 2: Zach is on the phone today for a first day
Speaker 2: follow up and he's getting ghosted by a woman named Kylie.
Speaker 2: So in a few minutes we'll call her and see
Speaker 2: if she'll tell us why she's ghosting and maybe get
Speaker 2: him a second date. But first, Zach, how long has
Speaker 2: it been since you heard from Kylie?
Speaker 3: Oh, it's been eleven days.
Speaker 2: All right, we'll tell us a little bit about it.
Speaker 2: How many times you try to reach out to her?
Speaker 3: Probably I think four?
Speaker 4: Now, Oh, okay, when was the last time you hit
Speaker 4: her up?
Speaker 3: It was, uh this morning?
Speaker 5: Actually, okay, we're trying to understand.
Speaker 4: Okay, it was like four text messages or phone calls.
Speaker 6: I started off with just like a you know, like
Speaker 6: a funne up text message the next day, you.
Speaker 3: Know, thanking her for a fun night, and then you reply,
Speaker 3: I spend.
Speaker 6: I waited a few days, yeah, and then this morning
Speaker 6: I did a little See now that I'm thinking about it,
Speaker 6: it sounds like totally a fault and it sounded.
Speaker 3: Weird, But I played a little.
Speaker 6: Jazz riff on my harmonica as a voice note and
Speaker 6: sent it to her this morning.
Speaker 4: It sounds like you like her and that you're making
Speaker 4: effort to get a hold of her. So now we
Speaker 4: just got to figure out why she's not into it.
Speaker 5: Tell us about the day.
Speaker 6: Sure, So we went to this rooftop jazz night, hence
Speaker 6: my harmonica thing this sent this morning. You know, jazz
Speaker 6: is kind of a gambled probably, but she told me
Speaker 6: she likes vibes, so I felt like that seemed fitting,
Speaker 6: you know, Okay, yeah, and we had a we had
Speaker 6: a great time. She she completely dug it. Uh, I'm
Speaker 6: really into jazz, so I enjoyed it in her company,
Speaker 6: and then we grabbed some some tacos after. It just
Speaker 6: was it sounds like a movie because we like, saund
Speaker 6: on this curb and we're talking to each other with
Speaker 6: these tacos in her hands and the moon was out.
Speaker 6: There's like hot sauce on our fingers. Woman, and then
Speaker 6: she had, you know, she had this this wild laugh.
Speaker 6: It was just made me laugh. Every time she laughed,
Speaker 6: it would make me laugh because the way she laughed,
Speaker 6: and uh, I don't know, she didn't the weird stuff
Speaker 6: like I am, like I collect old cereal boxes, vintage boxes.
Speaker 3: I just think it's cool.
Speaker 6: You know, some people collect like old matel toys, and
Speaker 6: we're like lunch boxes.
Speaker 3: I just don't happened to as a kid. For some reason,
Speaker 3: I had I started.
Speaker 6: A little collection, and then years later, like I had
Speaker 6: these really cool old cereal boxes, you know.
Speaker 3: Because which could be weird.
Speaker 6: I'm obviously in the grown adult male and collect cereal boxes.
Speaker 3: But she thought that was really cool.
Speaker 6: She was like respect, you know, and she would ask
Speaker 6: me about it, and I showed her pixres and I
Speaker 6: was like, well, you know, she just made me feel
Speaker 6: good when we kissed also, and it was this for
Speaker 6: me at least, this adorable moment because we were both
Speaker 6: kind of awkward, but not not in a bad way,
Speaker 6: like it was a kiss, but just like we were
Speaker 6: nervous and both kind of like trying not to mess
Speaker 6: it up, you know, Like it wasn't lustful, it was
Speaker 6: it was just like everything.
Speaker 3: Was like sweet and I felt like romantic.
Speaker 7: I like her, And you sound like a hopeless romantic.
Speaker 5: Why do you think you're getting ghosted one?
Speaker 6: I'm thinking maybe sometimes obviously women will love romance in
Speaker 6: the long run, but sometimes at first it can be
Speaker 6: a little bit of a turn off. I'm not exactly
Speaker 6: a metrosexual guy either. I kind of do like the
Speaker 6: three in one shampoo.
Speaker 5: Okay does she know this?
Speaker 6: Yes, I mean we talked about it because she actually
Speaker 6: mentioned her ex just briefly, about how he would like
Speaker 6: moisture his elbows, and she she like likes it when
Speaker 6: a man takes care of herself. And I was like,
Speaker 6: I was like, oh, you know is She pointed out,
Speaker 6: you know, I don't usually I don't use hair gel
Speaker 6: or anything. I just kind of keep it all natural.
Speaker 6: I don't work alone either, And I made some little
Speaker 6: common life, some earth.
Speaker 4: Cented Okay, I'm not sure. I'm not sure what that
Speaker 4: smells like, but maybe that could be it.
Speaker 5: We'll find out for you though.
Speaker 2: We'll play a song come back, and then call her
Speaker 2: and see if she'll tell us why she's ghosting you.
Speaker 5: And maybe get you a second date.
Speaker 3: Okay, all right, sounds good.
Speaker 5: All right, we'll get your first day follow up, next first.
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Speaker 2: Right in the middle Today's first day follow up, and
Speaker 2: if you're just joining us, Zach Is on the phone,
Speaker 2: and he's getting ghosted by Kylie. So we're about to
Speaker 2: call her and see if she'll tell us why she's
Speaker 2: ghosting him and maybe get him a second date. But
Speaker 2: before we do that, Zach, why don't you break down
Speaker 2: your date for us one more time?
Speaker 3: Sure went to a cool jazz place.
Speaker 6: It was the vibe that what I thought was very
Speaker 6: romantic moments had tacos on a curb, talked about each other, laughed,
Speaker 6: felt comfortable, kissed awkwardly but in a sweet way. And
Speaker 6: I've been trying to reach out a few times. It's
Speaker 6: kind of romantic, sweet intentions and maybe maybe a little
Speaker 6: too much.
Speaker 3: I guess. Okay, I'm the wife.
Speaker 5: Ready for us to call her.
Speaker 3: Jeez, Okay, here we go.
Speaker 2: Hello, Hi, man, I speak to Kylie please.
Speaker 5: Yeah, this is kind of Kylie. How are you? This
Speaker 5: is the Jubil Show. It's a radio show.
Speaker 7: What's up, Kylie? My name is Nina.
Speaker 5: Hi, I'm Victoria and my name's Jubel. How are you?
Speaker 8: I actually like listen to you guys sometimes.
Speaker 5: Oh cool, I'm sweet. Well, guess what, Kylie? We got
Speaker 5: to email about you from somebody an email. Yeah.
Speaker 2: We do a segment on the show called the First
Speaker 2: Day follow Up. That's where if you go on a
Speaker 2: date with somebody and you end up ghosting them, they
Speaker 2: can email us to get you on the phone and
Speaker 2: ask why you're ghosting. And we got to email about
Speaker 2: you from somebody.
Speaker 7: Oh god, do you know who that could be?
Speaker 9: I think I know it's Zach, isn't it?
Speaker 3: Oh?
Speaker 5: Yes, it is Zach. He said he actually reached out
Speaker 5: to you today.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I know.
Speaker 9: I know. I've been getting the messages.
Speaker 7: Okay, and you're not responding to them.
Speaker 9: Yeah, I mean I don't.
Speaker 8: I don't.
Speaker 9: I don't want to be an app but yeah, like
Speaker 9: I ghosted him. I'm not like trying to hide that
Speaker 9: at all.
Speaker 5: Can you tell us why you're ghosting him?
Speaker 6: Yeah?
Speaker 8: So we went out and we went to like this
Speaker 8: roof top jazz with sing and it was nice and sweet,
Speaker 8: and then we like grabbed some tacos afterwards, and everything
Speaker 8: was going great. He was like charming and you know,
Speaker 8: funny and very sweet too, and then like when we
Speaker 8: were like eating the tacos, we're talking and then he
Speaker 8: grabs like a napkin.
Speaker 9: And starts like drawing, and I'm like, yeah, out of nowhere,
Speaker 9: you know, I think, oh, this is kind of cute,
Speaker 9: kind of like the you know, in Titanic, when like
Speaker 9: Mionardo is like drawing case and I'm thinking maybe like
Speaker 9: maybe you watch that and you know, I don't know,
Speaker 9: but you know, that wasn't really the problem. The thing
Speaker 9: is when I looked at the drawing, oh my god,
Speaker 9: and he keepts saying that he's kind of like a
Speaker 9: little bit of artist. He has like all these different hobbies.
Speaker 9: But like the way that he drew me, I kind
Speaker 9: of like looked like a melt of candle, like I
Speaker 9: had one eyeball like this huge chin, and I, you know,
Speaker 9: I don't want to I thought at first it was
Speaker 9: like kind of like a funny thing that he was doing.
Speaker 9: So I kind of like made fun of this, said,
Speaker 9: oh my god, like this kind of like a Pecasso
Speaker 9: the Bastard type of thing. And then he said like no, no, no, no, no, no,
Speaker 9: you know this is me. Looks don't matter at all,
Speaker 9: Like you're just a good person and that's what matters.
Speaker 9: I'm like, who you are you trying to say that
Speaker 9: I'm ugly, you know what I mean? And so he
Speaker 9: became like really.
Speaker 4: Awkward because he drew a melted picture of you.
Speaker 7: You think he called you ugly?
Speaker 10: No, no, because when I made fun of the drawing,
Speaker 10: he took it like in the way, like he didn't
Speaker 10: laugh at all, And he just kept trying to say like,
Speaker 10: oh no, you're like a good person inside and that's
Speaker 10: what matters.
Speaker 9: And he just kept going and going saying things like that,
Speaker 9: you know.
Speaker 2: Because he's not good at drawing, or you're just saying.
Speaker 11: If I think, like attraction is a big thing, you know,
Speaker 11: in the relationship, and if he's not attracted to me, like.
Speaker 3: Can I go with you?
Speaker 9: I don't want to relationship.
Speaker 6: I know you guys said to be quiet, but I
Speaker 6: just I'm I was like smiling so big from this
Speaker 6: story and then all of a sudden, I'm like what no, no, no, no, that.
Speaker 3: Picture that I that I drew.
Speaker 6: I was just trying to be I guess in my
Speaker 6: own odd way, deep in a way like it's it
Speaker 6: was an abstract little thing.
Speaker 3: It's like I draw abstract art all the time.
Speaker 6: I was trying to say that that I like you
Speaker 6: for who you are.
Speaker 7: Are you attracted to Kylie Zach thousand percent? Okay? That
Speaker 7: was her problem.
Speaker 6: Oh my gosh, that is crazy. I had no idea
Speaker 6: that that was something.
Speaker 3: In the moment. It was like some emotional realism sketch
Speaker 3: I was.
Speaker 9: I was trying, well, do you think I'm like emotional person,
Speaker 9: like a tortured person like that, I don't need a
Speaker 9: man to save me.
Speaker 6: Like, look, if you saw some of the things that
Speaker 6: I drew, you would get a better idea. This was
Speaker 6: on a napkin. It was terrible, bad choice. I think
Speaker 6: you're beautiful despite all the emotional baggage.
Speaker 9: What like that is not helping things at all. Like
Speaker 9: now you're saying that I'm attracted but like a crazy person.
Speaker 3: Like no, I'm not saying that we're all hurt little
Speaker 3: duck wings. I just want to fit your wings and
Speaker 3: mend them.
Speaker 6: Oh k, I'm I'm trying to say, as I see
Speaker 6: all of your beauty, and I'm not saying that I
Speaker 6: think you're emotionally damaged. I'm just saying we all have
Speaker 6: our own things, and whatever it is that you might have,
Speaker 6: you are so much. I just see all your beauty,
Speaker 6: is what I'm trying to say. So no matter what
Speaker 6: else comes with it, your beauty out sh hid everything.
Speaker 7: Do you feel beautiful now?
Speaker 6: Kylie, just because I think you're a beautiful person on
Speaker 6: the inside doesn't mean I don't think you're beautiful on
Speaker 6: the outside.
Speaker 3: I think you're gorgeous.
Speaker 6: I want you inside and out.
Speaker 2: Hey, in that case, Kylie, would you like another date
Speaker 2: with Zach? Will pay for it?
Speaker 9: Cool? I mean, I think like understanding and how it's
Speaker 9: just kind of cute. But he talks a little two months,
Speaker 9: you know, and the way he explains saves is a
Speaker 9: little unique. But like now, I think I understand that,
Speaker 9: you know, if he's nervous, and it's kind of cute, right.
Speaker 4: Yeah, it sounds like he really likes you, So I mean,
Speaker 4: I think that's cute.
Speaker 3: Yes, I say, I think, all right, fantastic.
Speaker 6: I actually already have a spot that I'm saying about.
Speaker 3: So thank you, Thank you, Kylie. And I promise if
Speaker 3: I draw you again, I'm gonna go for realism.
Speaker 6: I think this is the beginning of your healing journey, Kylie,
Speaker 6: and I'm I'm glad to walk the path with you.
Speaker 5: Yeah, all right, congratulations.
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