1 00:00:27,800 --> 00:00:37,280 Speaker 1: Take a deep breath in through your nose. Holds it now, 2 00:00:37,360 --> 00:01:02,880 Speaker 1: release slowly again, deep in, helle hold release, repeating internally 3 00:01:03,040 --> 00:01:09,360 Speaker 1: to yourself as you connect to my voice. I am 4 00:01:09,480 --> 00:01:30,640 Speaker 1: deeply well. I am deeply well. I am deeply I'm 5 00:01:30,720 --> 00:01:40,560 Speaker 1: Debbie Brown. And this is the Deeply Well Podcast. Welcome 6 00:01:40,600 --> 00:01:44,480 Speaker 1: to Deeply Well, a soft place to land on your journey, 7 00:01:44,760 --> 00:01:47,920 Speaker 1: a podcast for those that are curious, creative, and ready 8 00:01:47,960 --> 00:01:53,600 Speaker 1: to expand in higher consciousness and self care. This is 9 00:01:53,640 --> 00:01:59,120 Speaker 1: where we heal, this is where we transcend. Welcome back 10 00:01:59,120 --> 00:02:01,880 Speaker 1: to the show and Debbie Brown. Of course, this is 11 00:02:01,920 --> 00:02:06,880 Speaker 1: deeply well. So blessed and happy and grateful to have 12 00:02:07,080 --> 00:02:11,440 Speaker 1: you here, to have you in this sacred space. However 13 00:02:11,480 --> 00:02:14,160 Speaker 1: you're connecting right now, whether it's on our YouTube, which 14 00:02:14,240 --> 00:02:18,560 Speaker 1: if you haven't yet subscribe, or it's on Spotify or 15 00:02:18,600 --> 00:02:23,440 Speaker 1: Apple or iHeart or all the places we plug into. Wow. 16 00:02:23,840 --> 00:02:27,360 Speaker 1: First of all, I cannot believe I'm recording this episode 17 00:02:27,480 --> 00:02:31,240 Speaker 1: in September twenty twenty five. I cannot believe I've been 18 00:02:31,240 --> 00:02:33,640 Speaker 1: telling everybody, have been like, oh, it's the new year, 19 00:02:33,680 --> 00:02:36,520 Speaker 1: It's twenty twenty six, Like I keep accidentally writing that 20 00:02:36,760 --> 00:02:40,440 Speaker 1: on paper, and I'm like Oh, she's ready. She is 21 00:02:40,600 --> 00:02:43,760 Speaker 1: ready to get into the new year. Baby twenty twenty 22 00:02:43,800 --> 00:02:48,160 Speaker 1: five has been something I know, something that we talked 23 00:02:48,160 --> 00:02:52,240 Speaker 1: about on a recent solo episode I did, and I'm 24 00:02:52,280 --> 00:02:56,840 Speaker 1: so curious how it's been landing, but really starting to 25 00:02:57,000 --> 00:03:02,840 Speaker 1: do some of the slow testing work necessary to walk 26 00:03:03,160 --> 00:03:10,800 Speaker 1: into next year feeling confident, feeling stable, feeling curious, feeling open. 27 00:03:11,520 --> 00:03:14,720 Speaker 1: I think this is the perfect season and we're starting 28 00:03:14,760 --> 00:03:18,480 Speaker 1: to come out of a clip season to really clean house. 29 00:03:18,800 --> 00:03:20,359 Speaker 1: You know, I know a lot of times we talk 30 00:03:20,400 --> 00:03:26,280 Speaker 1: about spring cleaning, but I myself am finding that I 31 00:03:26,320 --> 00:03:29,000 Speaker 1: am deeply embedded in some fall cleaning. Like I have 32 00:03:29,040 --> 00:03:33,000 Speaker 1: all these projects happening at the house. I'm cleaning out 33 00:03:33,040 --> 00:03:37,240 Speaker 1: my garage, I'm giving out a ton of stuff. I'm 34 00:03:37,280 --> 00:03:40,200 Speaker 1: doing all of these things that I used to kind 35 00:03:40,200 --> 00:03:42,560 Speaker 1: of feel really connected to in this spring. But there's 36 00:03:42,600 --> 00:03:46,920 Speaker 1: something I have, like this internal ticker that's happening, and 37 00:03:47,000 --> 00:03:51,360 Speaker 1: for me, there's something about getting this done before we 38 00:03:51,520 --> 00:03:56,240 Speaker 1: have Fall equinox, yeah, which is coming at the end 39 00:03:56,280 --> 00:03:58,400 Speaker 1: of the month, And I've been thinking about it a 40 00:03:58,400 --> 00:04:02,160 Speaker 1: lot because for these that follow astrology or interested in 41 00:04:02,160 --> 00:04:06,240 Speaker 1: the stars, it's just we are in a very potent 42 00:04:06,240 --> 00:04:11,520 Speaker 1: eclipse portal. Almost everyone I meet right now, I feel 43 00:04:11,520 --> 00:04:14,680 Speaker 1: like I've been kind of just really tending to home 44 00:04:14,760 --> 00:04:19,760 Speaker 1: and kind of on a fake sabbatical. If you ask 45 00:04:19,800 --> 00:04:22,200 Speaker 1: Samantha that works with me, if I've been on sabbatical, 46 00:04:22,240 --> 00:04:24,320 Speaker 1: She's like, stop saying that you've been working every day. 47 00:04:25,000 --> 00:04:27,760 Speaker 1: But there's some parts of my life that I feel 48 00:04:27,800 --> 00:04:31,680 Speaker 1: like I've been giving myself more freedom. So I've been 49 00:04:31,680 --> 00:04:35,800 Speaker 1: in this kind of many refresh after doing the book 50 00:04:35,839 --> 00:04:40,560 Speaker 1: tour and getting ready for what is typically my busiest season, 51 00:04:40,640 --> 00:04:45,960 Speaker 1: which is fall. And I've been noticing that the things 52 00:04:46,040 --> 00:04:49,000 Speaker 1: the experience is that I'm having in my personal life, 53 00:04:49,120 --> 00:04:51,560 Speaker 1: or the things that I find myself thinking about are 54 00:04:51,720 --> 00:04:57,240 Speaker 1: just so aligned with almost every person I meet, and 55 00:04:57,320 --> 00:05:01,080 Speaker 1: almost every podcast guest I've had recently, we've talked about 56 00:05:01,120 --> 00:05:04,880 Speaker 1: it off camera or you know, as I run into people, 57 00:05:05,480 --> 00:05:08,000 Speaker 1: it's almost like the first thing that's coming up. And 58 00:05:08,720 --> 00:05:11,840 Speaker 1: this is typically when I'm in spiritual community, So when 59 00:05:11,839 --> 00:05:14,920 Speaker 1: I'm with other people where we just have similar hearts 60 00:05:15,000 --> 00:05:19,760 Speaker 1: or similar viewpoints in the world, or are doing, you know, 61 00:05:19,800 --> 00:05:24,839 Speaker 1: the work of the people, the work of humanity. Almost 62 00:05:24,880 --> 00:05:30,440 Speaker 1: everyone has said that they are going through a surprise shedding. 63 00:05:31,480 --> 00:05:35,520 Speaker 1: What's the surprise shedding. Well, we talk about shedding a lot, right, 64 00:05:35,600 --> 00:05:37,440 Speaker 1: Like it's a core part of what it is to 65 00:05:37,480 --> 00:05:40,159 Speaker 1: be on the spiritual journey, and I know we've talked 66 00:05:40,160 --> 00:05:42,760 Speaker 1: about it here. And something that I've noticed in my 67 00:05:42,880 --> 00:05:48,880 Speaker 1: life is that anytime I am ready for new experiences, 68 00:05:49,720 --> 00:05:52,160 Speaker 1: I don't want to always classify this as like when 69 00:05:52,200 --> 00:05:54,839 Speaker 1: you're going to the next step or the next level, 70 00:05:56,040 --> 00:05:58,440 Speaker 1: because it doesn't have to be tied in with success, 71 00:05:58,560 --> 00:06:01,479 Speaker 1: but like if you're getting to the next level of 72 00:06:01,880 --> 00:06:06,359 Speaker 1: your personal journey and all that that entails. You know, 73 00:06:06,440 --> 00:06:09,480 Speaker 1: I think a lot of us are used to kind 74 00:06:09,520 --> 00:06:12,520 Speaker 1: of having historic evidence and proof that you got to 75 00:06:13,120 --> 00:06:16,279 Speaker 1: sunset some people at every next step. Everyone can't come 76 00:06:16,320 --> 00:06:22,520 Speaker 1: with you, right, That's what is said very often whenever 77 00:06:22,600 --> 00:06:29,839 Speaker 1: I've encountered that in the past. It's felt different. This season. 78 00:06:30,960 --> 00:06:33,840 Speaker 1: It's hit me in surprise ways where I feel that 79 00:06:33,920 --> 00:06:39,000 Speaker 1: God has been like them too, sis them too, and 80 00:06:39,040 --> 00:06:42,520 Speaker 1: I've been like, but why, and then something will happen. 81 00:06:42,560 --> 00:06:46,440 Speaker 1: I'll be like, oh my God, that's why. But I 82 00:06:46,440 --> 00:06:52,960 Speaker 1: think it's really it's just really interesting to have grace 83 00:06:53,040 --> 00:06:55,560 Speaker 1: for the fact that this is the intended path too, 84 00:06:56,480 --> 00:06:59,839 Speaker 1: that we don't always have to know that it's coming. 85 00:07:00,040 --> 00:07:04,120 Speaker 1: And sometimes it's not done with big groups. Sometimes it's 86 00:07:04,120 --> 00:07:07,680 Speaker 1: one or two people, sometimes it's fifty, or an entire 87 00:07:08,240 --> 00:07:13,360 Speaker 1: community or an entire place. But shedding people, places, and 88 00:07:13,480 --> 00:07:20,840 Speaker 1: things is just natural evolution. It's natural evolution in the 89 00:07:20,920 --> 00:07:24,760 Speaker 1: human experience, whether you're aware of it or not, whether 90 00:07:24,920 --> 00:07:30,520 Speaker 1: it also encompasses your spiritual journey or not, it's how 91 00:07:30,560 --> 00:07:35,000 Speaker 1: the human being moves through life. And it's funny. I 92 00:07:35,040 --> 00:07:37,640 Speaker 1: was thinking about the fibers of that. I'm definitely in 93 00:07:37,680 --> 00:07:42,160 Speaker 1: a season where recently there have been some people that 94 00:07:42,360 --> 00:07:45,120 Speaker 1: caught me by surprise that we're just not meant to 95 00:07:45,160 --> 00:07:48,560 Speaker 1: be in each other's lives anymore for various reasons, all 96 00:07:48,600 --> 00:07:53,400 Speaker 1: different reasons and not connected. But it's been fascinating to 97 00:07:53,480 --> 00:08:02,960 Speaker 1: see because these particular situations, I realized that these people 98 00:08:03,160 --> 00:08:07,920 Speaker 1: really existed deep inside of a blind spot. And what's 99 00:08:07,960 --> 00:08:11,000 Speaker 1: so interesting about blind spots, especially if you do this 100 00:08:11,160 --> 00:08:15,560 Speaker 1: work and you're striving to some level of mastery in 101 00:08:15,560 --> 00:08:20,080 Speaker 1: your life. You're striving for healing, you're striving to be more, 102 00:08:20,160 --> 00:08:23,480 Speaker 1: you're striving for your own level of excellence. You know, 103 00:08:23,520 --> 00:08:25,320 Speaker 1: I think a lot of us. When you do this 104 00:08:25,440 --> 00:08:32,240 Speaker 1: work for a while, you get how do I want 105 00:08:32,280 --> 00:08:35,080 Speaker 1: to say this, because I'm learning about it in real time. 106 00:08:37,400 --> 00:08:40,360 Speaker 1: I've always thought, especially in the last handful of years, 107 00:08:40,360 --> 00:08:45,400 Speaker 1: that I've been really good at gently and easily and 108 00:08:45,480 --> 00:08:48,360 Speaker 1: immediately shedding when I know God wants me to, like 109 00:08:48,480 --> 00:08:53,040 Speaker 1: really listening to that voice, getting quiet, getting in prayer, journaling, 110 00:08:53,840 --> 00:08:57,920 Speaker 1: giving any parting the respect and the dignity that I 111 00:08:57,960 --> 00:09:03,640 Speaker 1: feel they deserve, the repair that's necessary. So I thought 112 00:09:03,640 --> 00:09:10,560 Speaker 1: I had gotten really good at predicting when that time 113 00:09:10,720 --> 00:09:13,719 Speaker 1: was coming and being able to surrender and open to it. 114 00:09:14,320 --> 00:09:17,640 Speaker 1: And then in this season, as I was birthing something 115 00:09:18,360 --> 00:09:21,040 Speaker 1: new and amazing in my life, which was my book, 116 00:09:21,679 --> 00:09:23,800 Speaker 1: that was a big baby for me to birth. That 117 00:09:23,920 --> 00:09:28,560 Speaker 1: was hard, that took years, and I'm so grateful for 118 00:09:28,600 --> 00:09:32,200 Speaker 1: the opportunity to put that book out and for all 119 00:09:32,320 --> 00:09:35,120 Speaker 1: the hands that's gotten into I've been having just some 120 00:09:35,200 --> 00:09:42,720 Speaker 1: incredible experiences running into readers, but really in parallel with 121 00:09:42,920 --> 00:09:46,240 Speaker 1: me coming into that moment, which I don't think I 122 00:09:46,360 --> 00:09:51,319 Speaker 1: recognized walking in that it would be me moving into 123 00:09:51,360 --> 00:09:54,679 Speaker 1: a new level of who I am. I thought it 124 00:09:54,760 --> 00:09:58,600 Speaker 1: was just me being who I am, doing my work, 125 00:09:59,000 --> 00:10:03,160 Speaker 1: if that makes sense. But right as that was happening, 126 00:10:03,320 --> 00:10:09,440 Speaker 1: like timed exactly immediately to releasing my book, I had 127 00:10:09,480 --> 00:10:13,200 Speaker 1: a few situations come up in my life that really 128 00:10:13,640 --> 00:10:19,040 Speaker 1: needed my attention, and that required me to say goodbye 129 00:10:19,080 --> 00:10:22,439 Speaker 1: to people I didn't think I was ever going to 130 00:10:22,520 --> 00:10:28,760 Speaker 1: say goodbye to, and people that quite honestly, I didn't 131 00:10:28,800 --> 00:10:32,240 Speaker 1: take seriously enough that I actually needed to say goodbye 132 00:10:32,280 --> 00:10:38,880 Speaker 1: to them, and probably really should have a long time ago, 133 00:10:39,000 --> 00:10:44,000 Speaker 1: the first moment, years ago, the first time I clocked something, 134 00:10:44,040 --> 00:10:47,520 Speaker 1: the first time I felt something not being safe or right, 135 00:10:47,679 --> 00:10:53,439 Speaker 1: or there being ulterior motive or something underlying or just 136 00:10:53,960 --> 00:10:59,240 Speaker 1: delusion or strangeness. And so it's taught me something new 137 00:10:59,440 --> 00:11:02,280 Speaker 1: that I think is special for my life, and I 138 00:11:02,320 --> 00:11:04,640 Speaker 1: think for those that are at this juncture of their 139 00:11:04,720 --> 00:11:09,040 Speaker 1: journey where you really have been in deep refinement, it's 140 00:11:09,080 --> 00:11:14,679 Speaker 1: an opportunity to really get into the fibers and the 141 00:11:14,720 --> 00:11:19,760 Speaker 1: weeds of all connections. I realize that I have a 142 00:11:19,840 --> 00:11:27,000 Speaker 1: blind spot around making the necessary adjustments to who's in 143 00:11:27,040 --> 00:11:31,160 Speaker 1: my life with people that I don't see often. Those 144 00:11:31,160 --> 00:11:37,640 Speaker 1: are areas that I can kind of let just get 145 00:11:37,679 --> 00:11:45,040 Speaker 1: a little disorganized. I'm very pristine with the active connections 146 00:11:45,080 --> 00:11:48,920 Speaker 1: in my life. I'm very pristine with my closest friends, 147 00:11:49,000 --> 00:11:51,800 Speaker 1: my daily friends, the people that I do life with 148 00:11:52,040 --> 00:11:55,280 Speaker 1: here in Los Angeles, and most of them gratefully I've 149 00:11:55,320 --> 00:12:01,040 Speaker 1: known fifteen twenty years or grew up to get other somehow, 150 00:12:01,360 --> 00:12:05,079 Speaker 1: or have you know some people that I've met here 151 00:12:05,240 --> 00:12:09,480 Speaker 1: in the last five years since the pandemic where we're 152 00:12:09,679 --> 00:12:15,000 Speaker 1: just perfect fits and deeply connected, And so that part 153 00:12:15,000 --> 00:12:19,000 Speaker 1: of my life feels so robust that whenever I have 154 00:12:19,200 --> 00:12:24,760 Speaker 1: maybe not full alignment with people, but I like them, 155 00:12:25,040 --> 00:12:27,880 Speaker 1: or there are some ways that we do connect deeply. 156 00:12:28,000 --> 00:12:31,160 Speaker 1: Maybe we just have like really amazing combos when we're together, 157 00:12:31,440 --> 00:12:37,120 Speaker 1: or have similar interests, or even have similar like breakthroughs 158 00:12:37,200 --> 00:12:43,440 Speaker 1: or traumas that we've had. If they're not close, I 159 00:12:43,559 --> 00:12:46,880 Speaker 1: let certain things that I clock and that I feel 160 00:12:46,960 --> 00:12:50,480 Speaker 1: slide because I feel like, well, I only see them 161 00:12:50,600 --> 00:12:52,600 Speaker 1: a couple times a year, I only talk to them 162 00:12:52,600 --> 00:12:55,680 Speaker 1: a few times a year. Like so, I didn't think 163 00:12:55,720 --> 00:12:59,720 Speaker 1: that it was necessarily that serious or that important. I 164 00:12:59,760 --> 00:13:04,040 Speaker 1: thought that those relationships could exist in a little bit 165 00:13:04,040 --> 00:13:09,240 Speaker 1: of dysfunction. And what God showed me in this new 166 00:13:09,440 --> 00:13:12,679 Speaker 1: kind of refinement of my life and this moment is 167 00:13:12,720 --> 00:13:17,720 Speaker 1: that now that you've cleared the path and the rest 168 00:13:17,760 --> 00:13:21,600 Speaker 1: of your life is feeling healthy and supportive and just 169 00:13:21,640 --> 00:13:24,480 Speaker 1: really aligned, you know, like when you're with people that 170 00:13:24,600 --> 00:13:26,680 Speaker 1: get you, that you know you can be safe with, 171 00:13:27,240 --> 00:13:29,680 Speaker 1: you're safe to be the flawed person you are, which 172 00:13:29,760 --> 00:13:33,559 Speaker 1: is myself included, y'all, Like, yes, I'm a healer, Yes 173 00:13:33,679 --> 00:13:37,520 Speaker 1: I am in pursuit of mastery in my life, and 174 00:13:37,760 --> 00:13:40,320 Speaker 1: she just a person juggling a lot of things. So 175 00:13:42,600 --> 00:13:44,559 Speaker 1: it's just interesting. And I don't know who else this 176 00:13:44,640 --> 00:13:47,480 Speaker 1: is for. But as I've been talking about this with 177 00:13:47,559 --> 00:13:51,840 Speaker 1: a few people that I know we have like deep 178 00:13:51,880 --> 00:13:55,840 Speaker 1: alignment in our missions and assignments, to find out they've 179 00:13:55,880 --> 00:13:58,000 Speaker 1: been going through it too, or they've been having these 180 00:13:58,040 --> 00:14:03,160 Speaker 1: surprises of like needing to urgently release or let go 181 00:14:03,880 --> 00:14:09,720 Speaker 1: or just go along with the other person's release with 182 00:14:09,920 --> 00:14:14,520 Speaker 1: ease and grace. Everyone is kind of in the same 183 00:14:14,640 --> 00:14:18,400 Speaker 1: space where it's just God's saying, once you've committed to 184 00:14:18,440 --> 00:14:23,720 Speaker 1: a path of mastery and precision, even if you think 185 00:14:23,760 --> 00:14:26,880 Speaker 1: it doesn't matter, but you notice it, it matters because 186 00:14:26,880 --> 00:14:30,560 Speaker 1: everything you notice does matter, especially when you get to 187 00:14:30,640 --> 00:14:34,480 Speaker 1: a certain point and those noticings aren't triggers. So I'm 188 00:14:34,480 --> 00:14:37,560 Speaker 1: not saying that everything that triggers you you have to 189 00:14:37,640 --> 00:14:41,400 Speaker 1: respond to. It's when you've kind of moved past the 190 00:14:41,640 --> 00:14:45,160 Speaker 1: state of feeling triggered and charged in your body, and 191 00:14:45,200 --> 00:14:50,520 Speaker 1: now you're just making these gentle observations of oh, yeah, 192 00:14:50,520 --> 00:14:56,080 Speaker 1: I see that manipulation or oh oh, I see that 193 00:14:56,240 --> 00:14:59,880 Speaker 1: unrest inside of them, and I know eventually that might 194 00:15:00,120 --> 00:15:06,560 Speaker 1: not be safe for me. It's important to just deal 195 00:15:06,600 --> 00:15:12,360 Speaker 1: with it, be with it, see it, act on it 196 00:15:12,760 --> 00:15:19,080 Speaker 1: when it happens. Very long ago, probably when this podcast 197 00:15:19,080 --> 00:15:22,800 Speaker 1: first started, but definitely in my first book, Crystal Bliss, 198 00:15:23,320 --> 00:15:28,240 Speaker 1: I tell a story about how I have learned to 199 00:15:28,560 --> 00:15:33,440 Speaker 1: truly listen to God's whispers and symbols before they become 200 00:15:33,640 --> 00:15:35,840 Speaker 1: a punch in the face. And the way I used 201 00:15:35,840 --> 00:15:38,800 Speaker 1: to phrase it is like I will not be catching 202 00:15:38,840 --> 00:15:44,000 Speaker 1: God's fade anymore. I will not wait for God in 203 00:15:44,160 --> 00:15:47,680 Speaker 1: life to have to knock me to my knees to 204 00:15:47,800 --> 00:15:51,320 Speaker 1: get something. When you can listen the first time when 205 00:15:51,320 --> 00:15:53,800 Speaker 1: it comes in the form of a gentle whisper, the 206 00:15:53,800 --> 00:15:58,680 Speaker 1: breeze across your face, the synchronicity, the catching something, the 207 00:15:58,760 --> 00:16:02,640 Speaker 1: seeing something, the hearing something, and so in this season. 208 00:16:02,760 --> 00:16:06,560 Speaker 1: What that really allows me to deepen and understand is 209 00:16:08,760 --> 00:16:13,560 Speaker 1: even in those situations that we are thinking can't really 210 00:16:13,760 --> 00:16:23,440 Speaker 1: cause harm or aren't really viable enough in our day 211 00:16:23,480 --> 00:16:26,640 Speaker 1: to day life to have to confront it right away 212 00:16:26,720 --> 00:16:29,360 Speaker 1: or to have to deal with it, the thing is, 213 00:16:29,760 --> 00:16:33,800 Speaker 1: once you clock it, it's festering in that person. Once 214 00:16:33,840 --> 00:16:36,000 Speaker 1: you clock it, you may forget about it and it 215 00:16:36,040 --> 00:16:40,000 Speaker 1: doesn't really affect you, but it is growing and churning 216 00:16:40,120 --> 00:16:45,640 Speaker 1: and festering and turning into resentment or turning into false 217 00:16:45,760 --> 00:16:50,000 Speaker 1: narratives or way bigger scenarios in that person in all 218 00:16:50,080 --> 00:16:53,720 Speaker 1: of that time that you don't spend together. And so 219 00:16:54,600 --> 00:17:00,880 Speaker 1: no matter how small it seems, no matter how yeah, 220 00:17:01,160 --> 00:17:08,880 Speaker 1: just minuscule it seems. Whatever it is, whatever that thorn is, 221 00:17:09,760 --> 00:17:13,200 Speaker 1: just deal with it in real time, have the conversation 222 00:17:13,400 --> 00:17:17,399 Speaker 1: in real time, or get out. Well, you can still 223 00:17:17,560 --> 00:17:22,919 Speaker 1: distance yourself with love and still send kind of support 224 00:17:23,040 --> 00:17:26,880 Speaker 1: and love and good energy to the person, but stop 225 00:17:27,080 --> 00:17:30,639 Speaker 1: interacting the moment you feel it, whether it has to 226 00:17:30,640 --> 00:17:33,840 Speaker 1: become a big conversation or again it's just a gentle 227 00:17:34,840 --> 00:17:38,840 Speaker 1: release and now you're not actively pursuing being in connection. 228 00:17:39,880 --> 00:17:46,800 Speaker 1: Do it in real time do it in real, real time, 229 00:17:48,000 --> 00:17:49,920 Speaker 1: And I think that is the next level of what 230 00:17:49,960 --> 00:17:53,119 Speaker 1: it means to shed. When we're at different points of 231 00:17:53,160 --> 00:17:55,200 Speaker 1: the journey, the sheds are really big, and a lot 232 00:17:55,240 --> 00:17:59,680 Speaker 1: of them require hard, hard work to pull ourselves out 233 00:17:59,680 --> 00:18:02,879 Speaker 1: from a lot of it requires time to heal and 234 00:18:02,920 --> 00:18:05,960 Speaker 1: get away. But when you get into certain levels of 235 00:18:06,000 --> 00:18:10,240 Speaker 1: your path, you can refine by the gentle clocking and 236 00:18:10,320 --> 00:18:13,240 Speaker 1: the gentle whisper, and you can get out of it 237 00:18:13,320 --> 00:18:16,320 Speaker 1: before you get into it. That is a phrase that 238 00:18:16,359 --> 00:18:18,440 Speaker 1: came to me actually when I was in high school, 239 00:18:18,560 --> 00:18:21,840 Speaker 1: maybe high school or the beginning of college. I remember 240 00:18:21,880 --> 00:18:25,920 Speaker 1: I was dating some child and it was not a fit, 241 00:18:26,200 --> 00:18:31,359 Speaker 1: and God gave me this clear whisper that said, know 242 00:18:31,560 --> 00:18:36,199 Speaker 1: when to walk away before you walk in. Whereas I 243 00:18:36,240 --> 00:18:38,879 Speaker 1: think previous to that, I would just hear it in 244 00:18:38,880 --> 00:18:40,680 Speaker 1: the way that would be said, like you got to 245 00:18:40,760 --> 00:18:43,960 Speaker 1: know when to walk away, But it's like, no, we 246 00:18:44,000 --> 00:18:46,880 Speaker 1: should be getting to the point on our journeys where 247 00:18:46,880 --> 00:18:50,199 Speaker 1: we don't just have that perfect timing of when to 248 00:18:50,280 --> 00:18:53,119 Speaker 1: leave a room. We also know when we should not 249 00:18:53,320 --> 00:18:57,639 Speaker 1: be walking into the room, when we should not open 250 00:18:57,800 --> 00:19:02,159 Speaker 1: the door at all. And I think that's the place 251 00:19:02,160 --> 00:19:06,119 Speaker 1: that I'm in and I'm grateful for the lessons that 252 00:19:06,200 --> 00:19:08,280 Speaker 1: I have learned in the last few months and the 253 00:19:08,359 --> 00:19:13,280 Speaker 1: people that God bless them. I get to release and 254 00:19:13,920 --> 00:19:23,719 Speaker 1: have distance from and have freedom from the dynamic, and so, yeah, 255 00:19:23,840 --> 00:19:27,120 Speaker 1: it's just interesting. That's what that is. The lesson I'm 256 00:19:27,119 --> 00:19:31,560 Speaker 1: embodying right now. It's something I knew, It's something that 257 00:19:31,640 --> 00:19:35,040 Speaker 1: has been repeatedly presented to me in different forms, and 258 00:19:35,200 --> 00:19:38,760 Speaker 1: this is the season I get to know it an 259 00:19:38,800 --> 00:19:45,000 Speaker 1: even more micro, kind of highly specific, detailed kind of way. 260 00:19:45,480 --> 00:19:48,840 Speaker 1: And I feel really grateful for that process, and I've 261 00:19:48,840 --> 00:19:50,920 Speaker 1: been letting myself kind of sit in it because I 262 00:19:50,960 --> 00:19:54,040 Speaker 1: think there are some things that we can definitely heal 263 00:19:54,480 --> 00:19:57,840 Speaker 1: in the blink of an eye, in the twinkle of 264 00:19:57,880 --> 00:20:01,920 Speaker 1: an eye, and then there's something things that we should study, 265 00:20:02,400 --> 00:20:07,359 Speaker 1: some patterns, some dynamics, some ways of operating, and then 266 00:20:07,400 --> 00:20:11,480 Speaker 1: there's also time to heal and degree even to let 267 00:20:11,520 --> 00:20:17,240 Speaker 1: yourself move through the full wheel of emotion for every situation. 268 00:20:18,920 --> 00:20:21,240 Speaker 1: So it's been so interesting to be in that space 269 00:20:21,320 --> 00:20:24,879 Speaker 1: lately and so freeing. And I think another way that 270 00:20:24,960 --> 00:20:30,439 Speaker 1: God so beautifully teaches us is through contrast. Not everything 271 00:20:30,640 --> 00:20:36,000 Speaker 1: has to be through experiencing complete kind of opposite ends 272 00:20:36,160 --> 00:20:41,040 Speaker 1: of the spectrum of the polarity. Sometimes it's just kind 273 00:20:41,080 --> 00:20:47,800 Speaker 1: of the light contrast of seeing, oh, this is black, 274 00:20:47,880 --> 00:20:52,080 Speaker 1: this is white, or you know, this is the opposite 275 00:20:52,160 --> 00:20:54,800 Speaker 1: of that, or this is another facet of what that 276 00:20:54,880 --> 00:20:59,520 Speaker 1: can look like. And yeah, that's been so beautiful to 277 00:20:59,560 --> 00:21:05,240 Speaker 1: be kind of so surrounded by love and so much 278 00:21:05,280 --> 00:21:09,720 Speaker 1: support in an important moment and meaningful moment of my 279 00:21:09,840 --> 00:21:14,320 Speaker 1: life to where it really gives you a glaring kind 280 00:21:14,320 --> 00:21:24,680 Speaker 1: of polarizing understanding actually of when that true authentic support 281 00:21:24,720 --> 00:21:28,640 Speaker 1: and love is actually not present in another person that 282 00:21:28,680 --> 00:21:33,119 Speaker 1: you love and that you respect. And so yeah, so 283 00:21:33,200 --> 00:21:37,840 Speaker 1: many things to learn. And it's also so cool because 284 00:21:37,840 --> 00:21:39,960 Speaker 1: it's like, if we look at the history of our 285 00:21:40,000 --> 00:21:42,840 Speaker 1: lives and you know, I'll speak from my personal experience 286 00:21:43,800 --> 00:21:47,240 Speaker 1: every time I do that, like and just let it happen. 287 00:21:48,080 --> 00:21:54,439 Speaker 1: So much space opens up in my life, and so 288 00:21:54,560 --> 00:22:00,960 Speaker 1: much opportunity to be creative and to make new things 289 00:22:01,240 --> 00:22:07,000 Speaker 1: and create new things and meet even more people that 290 00:22:07,160 --> 00:22:12,679 Speaker 1: are ready for the depth of your life and ready 291 00:22:12,720 --> 00:22:24,360 Speaker 1: to hold their own stuff deeply. Well, I think that's 292 00:22:24,400 --> 00:22:27,359 Speaker 1: what I'm so excited about in this season of my life. 293 00:22:27,520 --> 00:22:32,600 Speaker 1: It's like understanding that in doing the work of humanity 294 00:22:32,640 --> 00:22:36,320 Speaker 1: and doing the work of servant leadership of well being, 295 00:22:37,840 --> 00:22:40,520 Speaker 1: I'm deeply in the trenches in my work with the 296 00:22:40,520 --> 00:22:44,560 Speaker 1: people that I work with, and I get to poor 297 00:22:44,680 --> 00:22:48,400 Speaker 1: and poor and poor, and I have no expectation at 298 00:22:48,400 --> 00:22:51,680 Speaker 1: all of being poured back into when I'm in my work. 299 00:22:52,080 --> 00:22:55,040 Speaker 1: My work is to be a faucet baby, and I 300 00:22:55,160 --> 00:22:57,840 Speaker 1: show up in that way. But when it comes to 301 00:22:57,920 --> 00:23:02,080 Speaker 1: the more refined parts of my private self and my 302 00:23:02,160 --> 00:23:10,040 Speaker 1: private world, I really require that everyone in that space 303 00:23:10,840 --> 00:23:14,399 Speaker 1: that I'm working with on the back end level, that 304 00:23:14,760 --> 00:23:18,159 Speaker 1: I'm in friendship with, that I'm in family with, that 305 00:23:18,200 --> 00:23:24,440 Speaker 1: i'm doing life with, it all has to be evolutionary, 306 00:23:24,680 --> 00:23:30,360 Speaker 1: be nourishing, but also be independent. I need people in 307 00:23:30,400 --> 00:23:33,359 Speaker 1: my life at this point that know how to be 308 00:23:33,520 --> 00:23:38,439 Speaker 1: with themselves, that love themselves deeply, that know how to 309 00:23:38,560 --> 00:23:46,720 Speaker 1: process themselves, that aren't looking to siphon my personal confidence 310 00:23:46,880 --> 00:23:52,200 Speaker 1: or siphon my peace and wear it. They have it inside, 311 00:23:52,560 --> 00:23:56,040 Speaker 1: they are it inside. Because that's the mirror that I 312 00:23:56,119 --> 00:23:59,080 Speaker 1: require now, and I think for so many listening that 313 00:23:59,160 --> 00:24:02,119 Speaker 1: may be the mirror that you require, you know, and 314 00:24:03,400 --> 00:24:06,840 Speaker 1: if that is the case, Let's send people off with grace, 315 00:24:07,359 --> 00:24:10,800 Speaker 1: with love, with dignity, with respect, even if they're not 316 00:24:10,920 --> 00:24:14,400 Speaker 1: extending that to us. Let's let go with ease, in 317 00:24:14,480 --> 00:24:18,040 Speaker 1: full trust and faith in our path and in the 318 00:24:18,080 --> 00:24:20,760 Speaker 1: divine and really in the truth and the history of 319 00:24:20,800 --> 00:24:23,320 Speaker 1: our life. Like you know how life plays out for you, 320 00:24:24,359 --> 00:24:26,440 Speaker 1: But really think about and I think that's some of 321 00:24:26,480 --> 00:24:30,200 Speaker 1: the soul work for today when you are in friendship 322 00:24:30,200 --> 00:24:33,320 Speaker 1: and community now, and not everybody is going to be 323 00:24:33,840 --> 00:24:37,440 Speaker 1: in the place that I am right now. Some may 324 00:24:37,480 --> 00:24:41,920 Speaker 1: be in an even more elevated in consciousness space, and 325 00:24:41,920 --> 00:24:45,240 Speaker 1: some may be a few rungs on the ladder headed 326 00:24:45,280 --> 00:24:49,840 Speaker 1: in that direction. But it's important to be truthful with 327 00:24:49,920 --> 00:24:54,000 Speaker 1: ourselves about what do I actually require and need in 328 00:24:54,040 --> 00:24:57,159 Speaker 1: the people that I'm choosing to say I'm close to, 329 00:24:57,640 --> 00:25:00,320 Speaker 1: that I'm choosing to have in my personal life or 330 00:25:00,320 --> 00:25:05,080 Speaker 1: in my home or in the inner chambers of my heart. 331 00:25:05,520 --> 00:25:10,080 Speaker 1: What I require are people that love themselves and really 332 00:25:10,119 --> 00:25:14,679 Speaker 1: love their lives, don't feel that things are lacking in 333 00:25:14,760 --> 00:25:20,080 Speaker 1: their life, don't feel deficient in who they are as 334 00:25:20,119 --> 00:25:22,840 Speaker 1: a person. I am not saying that any of those 335 00:25:22,840 --> 00:25:26,080 Speaker 1: things are wrong or bad, because we all, all of 336 00:25:26,160 --> 00:25:32,800 Speaker 1: us including myself, have our seasons of feeling that way. 337 00:25:32,840 --> 00:25:35,560 Speaker 1: But if you are in a place where you're in 338 00:25:35,840 --> 00:25:40,119 Speaker 1: deep surrender to your life, you are in deep communion 339 00:25:40,119 --> 00:25:44,040 Speaker 1: with God with your faith, you are in practice with yourself, 340 00:25:44,080 --> 00:25:48,360 Speaker 1: you are emotionally regulated, you are in service to others, 341 00:25:48,760 --> 00:25:54,720 Speaker 1: and even on your hardest day, you really do love yourself. 342 00:25:55,400 --> 00:25:58,600 Speaker 1: You really do love your life and see the beauty 343 00:25:58,760 --> 00:26:01,800 Speaker 1: in everything that led you to this moment. If that's 344 00:26:01,840 --> 00:26:06,640 Speaker 1: the place that you're in, it would not be wise 345 00:26:06,880 --> 00:26:12,200 Speaker 1: and could potentially be dangerous to have people in your 346 00:26:12,359 --> 00:26:16,080 Speaker 1: close proximity that don't feel that way about themselves in 347 00:26:16,119 --> 00:26:21,159 Speaker 1: their lives, because even if they have the best and 348 00:26:21,280 --> 00:26:27,439 Speaker 1: highest attempts not to either subconsciously or consciously, they will 349 00:26:27,480 --> 00:26:31,160 Speaker 1: be measuring themselves next to you. They will be measuring 350 00:26:31,200 --> 00:26:35,879 Speaker 1: and comparing their season to your season, and they won't 351 00:26:35,920 --> 00:26:40,640 Speaker 1: be able to have real rational clarity to hold the 352 00:26:40,680 --> 00:26:44,320 Speaker 1: fact that you've had hard things too, that's just not 353 00:26:44,480 --> 00:26:48,879 Speaker 1: the season you're in now. So they'll be judging themselves 354 00:26:48,920 --> 00:26:52,119 Speaker 1: based on where you've arrived, but they won't really bring 355 00:26:52,280 --> 00:26:57,440 Speaker 1: into that awareness all the things it took to get 356 00:26:57,480 --> 00:26:59,680 Speaker 1: you there, or all the things that you've already been, 357 00:27:00,080 --> 00:27:05,280 Speaker 1: and it's just kind of human behavior. It's just human behavior, 358 00:27:05,480 --> 00:27:07,560 Speaker 1: and it's not even a knock on the person that 359 00:27:07,600 --> 00:27:11,040 Speaker 1: can't hold that space for you. It's just human behavior. 360 00:27:11,600 --> 00:27:14,280 Speaker 1: And until they get out of that space, they're not 361 00:27:14,480 --> 00:27:18,080 Speaker 1: really going to be a safe space for anyone, especially 362 00:27:18,119 --> 00:27:21,720 Speaker 1: not their equals, and especially not anyone they're viewing as 363 00:27:21,840 --> 00:27:25,639 Speaker 1: having what they want in any capacity, whether that is 364 00:27:27,040 --> 00:27:31,600 Speaker 1: tangible physical reality or just an inner sense of peace 365 00:27:31,640 --> 00:27:36,040 Speaker 1: and purpose, or if they're judging you based on the 366 00:27:36,080 --> 00:27:40,000 Speaker 1: way other people treat you, there may be a jealousy 367 00:27:40,040 --> 00:27:42,600 Speaker 1: that emerges for the fact that people in your life 368 00:27:42,640 --> 00:27:47,440 Speaker 1: love you, or that you feel content, or that you're 369 00:27:47,520 --> 00:27:52,600 Speaker 1: not collapsing when life presents challenges to you. Sometimes that's 370 00:27:52,600 --> 00:27:56,320 Speaker 1: hard for people to see and they're just hoping, like 371 00:27:56,400 --> 00:28:01,200 Speaker 1: why can't she just stay down, you know, And again 372 00:28:01,280 --> 00:28:05,640 Speaker 1: it's like, I have grace for that, because when you're 373 00:28:05,680 --> 00:28:08,360 Speaker 1: in a hard place, it's hard, and if you don't 374 00:28:08,400 --> 00:28:11,399 Speaker 1: see a way out for yourself, you may not trust 375 00:28:11,480 --> 00:28:14,800 Speaker 1: or believe that another person is authentic in who they are, 376 00:28:15,400 --> 00:28:18,000 Speaker 1: or you may really want that and feel frustrated that 377 00:28:18,040 --> 00:28:20,399 Speaker 1: they have it. And so I think we're looking at 378 00:28:20,440 --> 00:28:22,720 Speaker 1: two things right now. If you're someone that's reached a 379 00:28:22,760 --> 00:28:27,439 Speaker 1: certain level in your life and require a new reflection 380 00:28:28,480 --> 00:28:32,119 Speaker 1: to be present in your relationships, you're looking for someone 381 00:28:32,160 --> 00:28:36,600 Speaker 1: that can really mirror what you are right now, because 382 00:28:36,600 --> 00:28:39,200 Speaker 1: that's how you continue on to grow, and that's where 383 00:28:39,240 --> 00:28:42,280 Speaker 1: you're safe because you can reflect that for each other. 384 00:28:42,720 --> 00:28:46,840 Speaker 1: It's important in your inner chamber world that you find 385 00:28:46,960 --> 00:28:50,480 Speaker 1: more people like that that are actually more of a 386 00:28:50,600 --> 00:28:55,360 Speaker 1: clear reflection to who and what you are in this moment. 387 00:28:56,280 --> 00:28:58,800 Speaker 1: On the flip side of that, if there's anybody listening 388 00:28:58,880 --> 00:29:02,000 Speaker 1: right now and something that's coming up for you is 389 00:29:02,040 --> 00:29:05,240 Speaker 1: that you may be a friend in this season that 390 00:29:05,400 --> 00:29:13,240 Speaker 1: is having maybe irrational reactions or hard reactions or extreme 391 00:29:13,320 --> 00:29:17,920 Speaker 1: reactions to someone in your life or people in your 392 00:29:17,960 --> 00:29:22,560 Speaker 1: life because you're viewing them through the lens of where 393 00:29:22,600 --> 00:29:25,960 Speaker 1: they're at and where you're at. It's important to notice 394 00:29:26,000 --> 00:29:28,840 Speaker 1: that because I'm sure you don't want to cause harm. 395 00:29:28,960 --> 00:29:32,120 Speaker 1: Who does you know? Who really does at the core 396 00:29:32,280 --> 00:29:35,280 Speaker 1: soul level unless you know you have a certain kind 397 00:29:35,320 --> 00:29:39,560 Speaker 1: of disorder. But if you're that person right now, I 398 00:29:39,640 --> 00:29:42,640 Speaker 1: just want you to know, like that is okay that 399 00:29:42,760 --> 00:29:49,880 Speaker 1: you're feeling envious, jealous, or angry or frustrated or judgy 400 00:29:50,040 --> 00:29:56,680 Speaker 1: or comparative or exhausted that things are working differently for 401 00:29:56,800 --> 00:30:01,120 Speaker 1: other people. That's fair and that's valid. If you've gotten 402 00:30:01,120 --> 00:30:05,760 Speaker 1: to that point, I can bet you've had some unfair experiences, 403 00:30:06,040 --> 00:30:08,520 Speaker 1: or I can bet that things just may be feeling 404 00:30:08,600 --> 00:30:11,680 Speaker 1: extremely hard, and maybe you're not always that person or 405 00:30:11,760 --> 00:30:15,000 Speaker 1: haven't always been that person, or maybe you have because 406 00:30:15,000 --> 00:30:18,040 Speaker 1: that's been the way you've learned to react and respond. 407 00:30:18,680 --> 00:30:22,080 Speaker 1: Either way, it's something that can change. That doesn't have 408 00:30:22,160 --> 00:30:25,600 Speaker 1: to be your full time reality forever. It can just 409 00:30:25,640 --> 00:30:28,560 Speaker 1: be a season, or that can be where the work lies. 410 00:30:29,280 --> 00:30:31,920 Speaker 1: I know in other seasons of my life when I 411 00:30:32,120 --> 00:30:36,680 Speaker 1: have felt that things were really unfair for me, and 412 00:30:37,960 --> 00:30:41,720 Speaker 1: the way I was perceiving it didn't understand why it 413 00:30:41,840 --> 00:30:46,880 Speaker 1: was so easy for others. They were false equivalencies, like 414 00:30:47,160 --> 00:30:52,280 Speaker 1: no one is your exact copy, right, So you're comparing 415 00:30:52,920 --> 00:30:57,080 Speaker 1: yourself to someone based on a couple of things you 416 00:30:57,240 --> 00:31:00,280 Speaker 1: think are relatable to who and what you are. That's 417 00:31:00,320 --> 00:31:03,920 Speaker 1: not the totality of what that person is. So I 418 00:31:03,920 --> 00:31:07,280 Speaker 1: think often when that happens, it's like this false equivalence, 419 00:31:07,360 --> 00:31:09,840 Speaker 1: and so there is no way to climb out of 420 00:31:09,840 --> 00:31:13,640 Speaker 1: that labyrinth, that circle that creates inside of you, you 421 00:31:13,800 --> 00:31:16,880 Speaker 1: have to zoom out. So if that's the place in 422 00:31:16,920 --> 00:31:22,320 Speaker 1: your life, like there is a path, there is a 423 00:31:22,360 --> 00:31:25,640 Speaker 1: path to you releasing those things that are in your 424 00:31:25,680 --> 00:31:29,480 Speaker 1: way and releasing the frustrations and also finding a friend 425 00:31:29,520 --> 00:31:32,440 Speaker 1: group that could feel more supportive for where you're at 426 00:31:32,640 --> 00:31:35,280 Speaker 1: that maybe doesn't feel so out of reach or so 427 00:31:35,520 --> 00:31:42,760 Speaker 1: triggering or so hmm, maybe just so disjointing. You know, 428 00:31:42,840 --> 00:31:47,240 Speaker 1: if you find yourself feeling charged around the people or 429 00:31:47,240 --> 00:31:51,480 Speaker 1: the rooms that you're walking into, sometimes it is them, 430 00:31:51,920 --> 00:31:55,080 Speaker 1: but it isn't always. Sometimes it is you. And so 431 00:31:55,200 --> 00:31:57,200 Speaker 1: we have to look at those things on the journey. 432 00:31:57,400 --> 00:32:00,000 Speaker 1: And I just encourage you to take space from those 433 00:32:00,200 --> 00:32:03,240 Speaker 1: people that are bringing out that feeling in you, and 434 00:32:03,280 --> 00:32:06,440 Speaker 1: not because they're doing it on purpose and not because 435 00:32:06,480 --> 00:32:10,120 Speaker 1: you're right about them, but because if something is charged, 436 00:32:11,080 --> 00:32:14,959 Speaker 1: it could be important to take a step back and 437 00:32:15,040 --> 00:32:17,560 Speaker 1: look at it and see what the true root of 438 00:32:17,600 --> 00:32:22,240 Speaker 1: it is, What is the real issue, what's the real problem, 439 00:32:22,360 --> 00:32:24,600 Speaker 1: Because there really is no way that it's just that 440 00:32:24,720 --> 00:32:29,360 Speaker 1: person or that group of people. That's impossible, it's everything 441 00:32:29,720 --> 00:32:33,880 Speaker 1: about your life up into this moment and or a 442 00:32:34,040 --> 00:32:37,280 Speaker 1: current challenge. You know, did something in your life kind 443 00:32:37,280 --> 00:32:40,960 Speaker 1: of go away you didn't expect recently, you know, did 444 00:32:40,960 --> 00:32:45,040 Speaker 1: something in business not work out, did something in a 445 00:32:45,080 --> 00:32:49,320 Speaker 1: relationship not work out? Did whatever? Whatever the things are. 446 00:32:49,360 --> 00:32:53,960 Speaker 1: We all have so many things, so many frictions. But 447 00:32:54,000 --> 00:32:56,000 Speaker 1: I think that's the next level of the work that 448 00:32:56,040 --> 00:32:59,440 Speaker 1: we need to do is recognizing if there are people 449 00:32:59,520 --> 00:33:02,640 Speaker 1: causing heart in our lives, even at the smallest scale, 450 00:33:03,200 --> 00:33:08,360 Speaker 1: and is there opportunity to remove that, And are we 451 00:33:08,600 --> 00:33:18,920 Speaker 1: causing unnecessary strife, judgment problems, projections and another person's life, 452 00:33:18,920 --> 00:33:21,720 Speaker 1: And is there opportunity to look at the root of 453 00:33:21,760 --> 00:33:25,160 Speaker 1: why we're doing that, and is that the most sustainable 454 00:33:25,440 --> 00:33:29,040 Speaker 1: and worthy thing for us to be doing with our 455 00:33:29,080 --> 00:33:32,600 Speaker 1: life and our thoughts and our conversations and our time. 456 00:33:33,480 --> 00:33:36,000 Speaker 1: So it's just interesting, you know, when we get to 457 00:33:36,120 --> 00:33:39,040 Speaker 1: different layers of the work, we are invited into new 458 00:33:39,160 --> 00:33:43,240 Speaker 1: and deeper crevices. And I think that that as we 459 00:33:43,320 --> 00:33:48,560 Speaker 1: are now in this space of I think collectively really 460 00:33:48,760 --> 00:33:55,200 Speaker 1: moving to learn how to have more community in our lives, 461 00:33:55,960 --> 00:33:57,800 Speaker 1: this is one of the tiers of the things that 462 00:33:57,840 --> 00:34:00,680 Speaker 1: we should be looking at so that we're safe place 463 00:34:00,760 --> 00:34:03,880 Speaker 1: to be in community with others and so that we're 464 00:34:04,000 --> 00:34:08,160 Speaker 1: choosing the right community for who we are in this 465 00:34:08,480 --> 00:34:12,480 Speaker 1: exact moment. And again I shared from my personal experience 466 00:34:12,520 --> 00:34:15,040 Speaker 1: based on what my life looks like in this moment, 467 00:34:15,080 --> 00:34:17,200 Speaker 1: but for each of us it could be different. The 468 00:34:17,280 --> 00:34:20,120 Speaker 1: kind of friendship that I require for who I am 469 00:34:20,680 --> 00:34:24,120 Speaker 1: is someone that honors the fact that I'm a deeply 470 00:34:24,160 --> 00:34:31,080 Speaker 1: independent person. I will respond to texts very late unless 471 00:34:31,120 --> 00:34:33,440 Speaker 1: you let me know that it's urgent and you need me, 472 00:34:33,719 --> 00:34:37,080 Speaker 1: then I'll drop everything. But if you don't let me 473 00:34:37,120 --> 00:34:39,800 Speaker 1: know that I'm doing one hundred and fifty five things 474 00:34:40,320 --> 00:34:43,239 Speaker 1: and she's the only child, I like being alone and 475 00:34:43,320 --> 00:34:46,960 Speaker 1: creating and doing things. So I need people that understand 476 00:34:47,000 --> 00:34:51,480 Speaker 1: that and have other people that can fill that need 477 00:34:51,560 --> 00:34:55,319 Speaker 1: for maybe daily communication and know that I show up 478 00:34:55,640 --> 00:34:59,200 Speaker 1: the way that I show up in my strengths, and 479 00:35:00,120 --> 00:35:03,000 Speaker 1: give me the grace and the space for what is 480 00:35:03,920 --> 00:35:06,319 Speaker 1: my flow as a woman, for my life and my 481 00:35:06,440 --> 00:35:09,880 Speaker 1: family and for what I do. And I think for 482 00:35:09,960 --> 00:35:12,480 Speaker 1: other people, you may be in a space where you're like, 483 00:35:12,520 --> 00:35:16,239 Speaker 1: you know what I need really emotionally intelligent friends who 484 00:35:16,320 --> 00:35:21,520 Speaker 1: want to hold space. I'm looking for an everyday friend. 485 00:35:21,600 --> 00:35:24,919 Speaker 1: I'm looking for friends that can travel when I want 486 00:35:24,960 --> 00:35:28,480 Speaker 1: to travel, or go create when I want to create, 487 00:35:28,880 --> 00:35:33,680 Speaker 1: or you know, have the same strengths that I have, 488 00:35:33,880 --> 00:35:36,520 Speaker 1: or have different strengths than I have. It's so different 489 00:35:36,560 --> 00:35:39,680 Speaker 1: for each of us. It's so nuanced, and it's all 490 00:35:39,719 --> 00:35:42,520 Speaker 1: based on who we are in this moment, what our 491 00:35:42,560 --> 00:35:46,520 Speaker 1: needs are, and what we have to realistically offer another 492 00:35:46,560 --> 00:35:49,799 Speaker 1: person that's in front of us. So I'm thinking about 493 00:35:49,840 --> 00:35:54,360 Speaker 1: friendship and even deeper ways right now. And that's been fun, 494 00:35:54,400 --> 00:35:58,680 Speaker 1: and that's been unexpected, and I'm looking at this moment 495 00:35:58,800 --> 00:36:06,080 Speaker 1: of like, Wow, what is the bigger community I'm looking 496 00:36:06,120 --> 00:36:10,680 Speaker 1: to build over the next decade, you know, Like what 497 00:36:10,680 --> 00:36:13,960 Speaker 1: do I want to add into my world? Where do 498 00:36:14,040 --> 00:36:21,840 Speaker 1: I want to go? What do I have to offer community? Yeah, 499 00:36:21,920 --> 00:36:25,280 Speaker 1: it's fun, it's creative, and all of it is always 500 00:36:25,280 --> 00:36:28,560 Speaker 1: an opportunity. So I don't know if anybody else is 501 00:36:28,600 --> 00:36:31,520 Speaker 1: relating to that, but the fact that literally in the 502 00:36:31,640 --> 00:36:34,719 Speaker 1: last week and this is the first time I've even 503 00:36:34,800 --> 00:36:39,440 Speaker 1: really been sharing with people some of what my inner 504 00:36:39,520 --> 00:36:43,560 Speaker 1: landscape has been thinking about and processing in the last 505 00:36:43,560 --> 00:36:48,040 Speaker 1: couple of months. I mean I just started sharing about 506 00:36:48,040 --> 00:36:51,640 Speaker 1: this with a few people, like literally the last week 507 00:36:51,680 --> 00:36:56,760 Speaker 1: to two weeks and when I tell you, every single 508 00:36:57,000 --> 00:37:03,120 Speaker 1: person has said damn, the exact same thing to me, 509 00:37:03,280 --> 00:37:08,440 Speaker 1: like down to the specificity of like the kind of person, 510 00:37:08,680 --> 00:37:13,760 Speaker 1: the conversation, the ways you spent time, the thing you clocked, 511 00:37:13,800 --> 00:37:17,520 Speaker 1: the way it made you feel like everyone with their 512 00:37:17,600 --> 00:37:24,520 Speaker 1: own cast of characters and their ecosystem is having identical situations. 513 00:37:24,600 --> 00:37:27,719 Speaker 1: So because of that, I was like, let me do 514 00:37:27,800 --> 00:37:32,000 Speaker 1: a show about it. So if you have noticed that 515 00:37:32,200 --> 00:37:35,920 Speaker 1: this last season, this last quarter has been kind of 516 00:37:35,920 --> 00:37:42,960 Speaker 1: an impromptu, unexpected maybe season of not necessarily even big shedding, 517 00:37:43,040 --> 00:37:47,799 Speaker 1: but maybe but small refinements and new protections and new 518 00:37:48,480 --> 00:37:53,560 Speaker 1: value systems, you know, did you feel cold to raise 519 00:37:53,680 --> 00:37:57,360 Speaker 1: the bar on who has access to you in your life? 520 00:37:58,360 --> 00:38:02,080 Speaker 1: Maybe the way that I did then? And I really yeah. 521 00:38:02,080 --> 00:38:04,520 Speaker 1: I encourage you to think about this episode more deeply 522 00:38:04,560 --> 00:38:07,640 Speaker 1: in journal about it today, and the soul work that 523 00:38:07,680 --> 00:38:10,800 Speaker 1: you have on the table today is to really write 524 00:38:10,840 --> 00:38:16,840 Speaker 1: down what pattern emerged as this season came into your life. 525 00:38:17,080 --> 00:38:21,520 Speaker 1: What did you notice about an original wound? Something I 526 00:38:21,560 --> 00:38:24,720 Speaker 1: didn't get a chance to say, but what I noticed 527 00:38:24,840 --> 00:38:28,640 Speaker 1: about this season of shed is that it specifically tied 528 00:38:28,760 --> 00:38:34,400 Speaker 1: back to a wound in childhood, a fundamentally feeling misunderstood 529 00:38:34,880 --> 00:38:40,200 Speaker 1: for who I am and feeling judged for the way 530 00:38:40,239 --> 00:38:44,799 Speaker 1: that my brain works and the way that I can 531 00:38:44,840 --> 00:38:51,080 Speaker 1: be more reserved or show up differently in friendship. I realized, like, 532 00:38:51,120 --> 00:38:53,520 Speaker 1: oh my god, the first time I felt misunderstood my 533 00:38:53,640 --> 00:38:57,040 Speaker 1: friends was like in this grade. And then it happened 534 00:38:57,040 --> 00:39:00,439 Speaker 1: again like at that age, and like oh oh, and 535 00:39:00,840 --> 00:39:02,680 Speaker 1: so it was really beautiful because then I had this 536 00:39:02,800 --> 00:39:05,319 Speaker 1: opportunity to kind of heal that younger version of me 537 00:39:05,440 --> 00:39:08,719 Speaker 1: that didn't know what was going on and took it 538 00:39:08,760 --> 00:39:12,120 Speaker 1: on as something that needed to be done or fixed 539 00:39:12,239 --> 00:39:17,040 Speaker 1: or challenged. So, yeah, your soul work today, if that 540 00:39:17,160 --> 00:39:20,240 Speaker 1: has been a season for you in this moment, whatever 541 00:39:20,320 --> 00:39:24,200 Speaker 1: your season may be, track it back. What did it 542 00:39:24,280 --> 00:39:27,319 Speaker 1: actually bring charge to, What did it highlight? Where were 543 00:39:27,400 --> 00:39:31,040 Speaker 1: you hurting? Where did you find freedom? And where did 544 00:39:31,080 --> 00:39:34,319 Speaker 1: you gain strength? Because by the end of this process, 545 00:39:34,360 --> 00:39:40,359 Speaker 1: for me, I was like, oh hell no, uh huh. Done, 546 00:39:40,760 --> 00:39:43,840 Speaker 1: We're done with that. We're done with that, God bless you, 547 00:39:44,000 --> 00:39:48,320 Speaker 1: We're finished with it. So yeah, where are you now 548 00:39:48,600 --> 00:39:54,280 Speaker 1: on that path? What route did you identify? What freedom 549 00:39:54,360 --> 00:39:58,839 Speaker 1: did you find? And what pain did you get an 550 00:39:58,920 --> 00:40:03,680 Speaker 1: opportunity to spend time within process, so dive into that 551 00:40:03,840 --> 00:40:06,920 Speaker 1: soul work. I'll meet you back here next week. 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