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Speaker 1: Right now, though, it is time to ask the clo

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Speaker 1: or Chief Love Officer Steve Harvey. This is from Juwan

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Speaker 1: and Freeport. Juwan writes, I work two jobs so my

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Speaker 1: wife can stay home with our three year old twins.

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Speaker 1: I get home around eight pm, and my wife expects

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Speaker 1: me to bathe the boys and read them a bed

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Speaker 1: time story. I'm tired and grumpy by then, and she

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Speaker 1: is too. Am I a bad dad for not wanting to?

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Speaker 2: No, man, you just got to find a way to

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Speaker 2: do it them bass, you can shorten.

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Speaker 3: Them, bass, shorten them? What do you mean?

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Speaker 4: Just don't do the full bath? Doog? That's all right?

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Speaker 3: Do they even get to sit in the tub though?

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Speaker 4: How does she say? Hell?

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Speaker 2: Three year olds? So they not party trained completely yet?

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Speaker 1: Right on the way, yeah, wrapping it up?

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Speaker 2: Yeah, well, all you got to do just make sure

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Speaker 2: you clean they little bottoms, get their little bottoms clean,

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Speaker 2: because that's chapping and all that right there. It's another problem.

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Speaker 2: And then the bedtime stories. You know, you just you know, brother, Look,

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Speaker 2: you gotta participate in your kids' life. I'm sorry, you

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Speaker 2: just have to participate in the child's life. I got

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Speaker 2: your working and your provider and we as me, and

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Speaker 2: we hang our hat on that all the time. I

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Speaker 2: do it all the time. But it's more to it.

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Speaker 2: They still see. Being a father's a really thankless job.

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Speaker 4: Bro.

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Speaker 2: I don't know if you're gonna understand this or not

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Speaker 2: because you only got three years in, but it's an

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Speaker 2: endless fountain of giving. Now you cannot outgive that mother

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Speaker 2: and that woman, So you can stop trying that. Now

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Speaker 2: you've been at work all day. But what she been

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Speaker 2: doing at the house with them two three year old boys,

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Speaker 2: it's unthinkable, It really is unthinkable.

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Speaker 3: Man, full time job.

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Speaker 2: And she looking for some type of break when you

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Speaker 2: get in. So you gotta participate in the boy's life,

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Speaker 2: shortening up their baths, sprinkle offs, and them bedtime stories.

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Speaker 4: You know, can we hear?

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Speaker 3: Can we hear?

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Speaker 4: Hey?

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Speaker 2: Listen, kids, Jack being number Jack, be quick. We got

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Speaker 2: to go and go to sleep so we can get

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Speaker 2: beyond this. A lot of times in life things will

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Speaker 2: go swell, but then next thing you know, look a here,

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Speaker 2: I ain't doing nothing but catching hell. Now, I want

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Speaker 2: you to understand that all this is coming your way.

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Speaker 2: So gone and go to sleep. So I gotta go

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Speaker 2: to work on another day. I'm your father, and I'm

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Speaker 2: doing the best I can, but you need to carry

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Speaker 2: your little to sleep so I can the end.

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Speaker 3: I was gonna say, it sounded like a junior follum.

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Speaker 4: That's all it is.

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Speaker 3: But the tone is so harsh.

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Speaker 2: Well you know that'll make them not want one tomorrow. Yeah, well,

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Speaker 2: scam go to sleep then.

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Speaker 1: All right.

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Speaker 3: Moving on to Blow in Syracuse.

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Speaker 1: Uh Blow says I was having sex with a neighbor

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Speaker 1: after flirting with her for weeks. She was very aggressive

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Speaker 1: and expected me to be rough with her. I couldn't

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Speaker 1: do it, so she left. She told one of our

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Speaker 1: female neighbors that I'm a lame lover. How do I

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Speaker 1: clear my name?

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Speaker 4: No, you don't, man, you don't just go on and

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Speaker 4: be lame.

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Speaker 2: Don't go back trying to prove nothing, because you're gonna

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Speaker 2: get gangster.

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Speaker 4: This is what she do. Dog, take your ale. It

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Speaker 4: ain't no problem with lame.

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Speaker 3: The al is your lamee, not loser.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, you couldn't do all that rough stuff. That ain't

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Speaker 2: what you do. Here's what you need to first thing. First,

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Speaker 2: go to apartment Locato and start looking for some new neighborhoods. Yeah,

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Speaker 2: because she got to get out of there.

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Speaker 5: All right, all right, Moving on to Demetria and Lake,

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Speaker 5: Charles Dimitria writes, my husband loves to have sex in

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Speaker 5: the tub, but we're out growing our tub.

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Speaker 1: I asked if we can finally get our bath room

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Speaker 1: upgraded with a bigger tub. He said, we can lose

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Speaker 1: weight instead. That was that was so unnecessary?

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Speaker 3: Why did he have to go there?

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Speaker 2: Well, you said the key words in this letter. Y'all

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Speaker 2: have outgrown your bath tub. Now how you get bigger

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Speaker 2: than the bath tub? I don't know two people, but

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Speaker 2: y'all have got bigger than the bath tub. I think

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Speaker 2: your husband is on to something. Somebody got to lose weight,

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Speaker 2: because I'm gonna tell you right now, I'll grow in

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Speaker 2: that bath tub is one thing. But if you outgrow

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Speaker 2: that toilet, I'm gonna tell you right now, the whole

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Speaker 2: another problem. Whole, another problem, y'all up in the outgrowing

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Speaker 2: items in the bathroom, you got to be killed. Can't

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Speaker 2: outgrow that toilet. I'm just telling you some things you

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Speaker 2: can't out grow. You can't can't out grow that toilet.

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Speaker 2: Tissue rolle can't out grow that. I don't know, but

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Speaker 2: it's hard to have more than one roll in the

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Speaker 2: most most most houses. Just got one roll. Now you're

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Speaker 2: gonna have to buy that stand where you stack them

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Speaker 2: on top of each other.

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Speaker 4: You know way too much, you know, like a ring toss.

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Speaker 2: You're gonna have to have the one with the four

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Speaker 2: five stacked on top of each other because I don't

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Speaker 2: know what y'all doing. All you're gonna have to run

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Speaker 2: a garden holes up through that window in the bathroom.

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Speaker 2: But you're gonna have to do something. All this growing

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Speaker 2: y'all doing in here, so somebody need to get to

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Speaker 2: the gym.

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Speaker 1: Okay, just to suggest, that's the message, all right, last one, Steve,

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Speaker 1: this is from Mecca and Decatur.

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Speaker 2: Right now, if you keep graining and weight on that toilet,

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Speaker 2: you're gonna need help getting up.

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Speaker 4: You reach for that.

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Speaker 2: Guest tile wreck in front of you're gonna tear that

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Speaker 2: whole wreck after walk.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, get it.

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Speaker 2: Now, you're reaching all over there trying to help grab

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Speaker 2: onto the shower curtain, not the flow.

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Speaker 4: You got gotta lose some weight, go ahead, shut all right.

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Speaker 3: This is from Mika and Decatur.

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Speaker 1: Mika writes, my husband has an outside son that was

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Speaker 1: born the day after our wedding. I treat the boy

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Speaker 1: like he's my son, but he's twelve now and rebellious.

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Speaker 3: He told me I'm not his mama. My husband said,

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Speaker 3: it's a faith.

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Speaker 1: Why isn't my husband willing to reprimand him?

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Speaker 2: Well, you know, since we passed out information, m you

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Speaker 2: know I have helped several children. Yeah, I'm gonna give you.

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Speaker 2: I'm gonna give you the perfect comeback. You ain't my daddy. Okay,

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Speaker 2: where is he?

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Speaker 5: It?

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Speaker 3: I like it? I do like it right now.

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Speaker 4: And what you're not gonna do to me?

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Speaker 2: So you're not finnah shade meat because I'm in here

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Speaker 2: doing the best I can for somebody in here.

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Speaker 4: You ain't my daddy. Where is he.

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Speaker 3: Now?

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Speaker 4: Shoe on that piece of fat little boy?

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Speaker 1: So one more time, you ain't mama. You ain't my daddy.

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Speaker 4: Where he's at?

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Speaker 2: Yeah, now you ought to appreciate the one that's standing

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Speaker 2: in as your daddy because if I leave, you ain't

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Speaker 2: gonna have none.

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Speaker 3: I really like that response.

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Speaker 4: I really like it.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, you know, you know you know you need to

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Speaker 2: help them with information.

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Speaker 3: The MoMA, but you know that's gonna crush him.

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Speaker 4: Though, you do know that what you think you tried

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Speaker 4: to do to me, Oh, were in here crushing each other.

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