WEBVTT - Second Cup: Put a toe in the water

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<v Speaker 1>Welcome to Before Breakfast, a production of iHeartRadio. Good Morning,

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<v Speaker 1>This is Laura. Welcome to the Before Breakfast podcast.

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<v Speaker 2>Today's tip is for the folks who are big organizing things.

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<v Speaker 2>When you are considering starting something new, put a toe

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<v Speaker 2>in the water and see how it feels. Trying out

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<v Speaker 2>something in a small way can provide insight into whether

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<v Speaker 2>you'd like to pursue it in a bigger way. I

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<v Speaker 2>know a lot of people are building back their routines

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<v Speaker 2>these days after a long time of having our old

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<v Speaker 2>ways of life suspended. In this makeup for lost time

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<v Speaker 2>frame of mind, we often get really ambitious. It can

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<v Speaker 2>be fun to imagine, let's say, forming a supper club

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<v Speaker 2>with three other couples, with a different couple hosting everyone

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<v Speaker 2>for dinner in their home each month, getting to see

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<v Speaker 2>friends every month, and hosting a lot of dinner parties

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<v Speaker 2>sounds great, so why not get it on the books?

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<v Speaker 2>And certainly it could be amazing. But if you have

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<v Speaker 2>never done a supper club before, and particularly not with

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<v Speaker 2>these folks, it might also prove to be cumbersome to

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<v Speaker 2>coordinate everyone's schedules. Do you need to cancel your November

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<v Speaker 2>and December gatherings for the holidays, and what about the summer,

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<v Speaker 2>when people's schedules tend to be different, what about dietary considerations.

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<v Speaker 2>You may have just signed yourself up for dealing with

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<v Speaker 2>a lot of logistics, and when things peter out because

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<v Speaker 2>you didn't do it in the summer, and then one

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<v Speaker 2>of those couples seems to travel a lot in September

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<v Speaker 2>and can't be nailed down, you might feel like you

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<v Speaker 2>failed so in instead, why not just put a toe

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<v Speaker 2>in the water.

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<v Speaker 1>Invite those three couples to dinner at your home this

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<v Speaker 1>month and enjoy it. If someone suggests that it would

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<v Speaker 1>be fun to do it again, encourage that idea. You

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<v Speaker 1>could certainly float the supper club concept or suggest putting

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<v Speaker 1>two months on the calendar to see how it goes,

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<v Speaker 1>but you don't necessarily need to formalize it forever at

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<v Speaker 1>this point. Just see how it feels and go from there.

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<v Speaker 1>Or maybe you've been thinking about how nice it would

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<v Speaker 1>be to have a running buddy before you invite a

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<v Speaker 1>friend to run with you every Tuesday at five point

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<v Speaker 1>fifteen am from now until the end of time, why

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<v Speaker 1>not invite her to run with you this Tuesday and

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<v Speaker 1>try it out. Do you enjoy the time together, do

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<v Speaker 1>you run at about the same pace? Does the time

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<v Speaker 1>work for you both and you have similar attitudes about punctuality.

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<v Speaker 1>Plan the run as a one off event, enjoy it

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<v Speaker 1>as such, and if you want to do it again,

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<v Speaker 1>do it the next week. After a few Tuesday at

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<v Speaker 1>five point fifteen runs, you can decide to always run together. Well,

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<v Speaker 1>probably not always if Tuesday is Christmas or one of

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<v Speaker 1>you is in Australia, but a lot of Tuesdays. However,

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<v Speaker 1>if you realize that five point fifteen feels too early

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<v Speaker 1>to run, or your friend is a lot faster than you,

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<v Speaker 1>you can just do the runs occasionally. No need to

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<v Speaker 1>commit to multi year plans in advance. Whatever the group

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<v Speaker 1>a bridge club, a book club, a playgroup, try planning

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<v Speaker 1>a single gathering and seeing how it goes now to

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<v Speaker 1>be sure. I am a huge fan of recurring gatherings.

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<v Speaker 1>People who do see their friends regularly are absolutely the

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<v Speaker 1>ones who have a standing date for an early Tuesday run,

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<v Speaker 1>or who always get together for supper on the first

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<v Speaker 1>Friday of the month. Recurring gatherings ensure that we get

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<v Speaker 1>together with people we care about more frequently and with

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<v Speaker 1>a lot less tedious planning, but you can't always predict

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<v Speaker 1>the chemistry ahead of time, So before you invest in

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<v Speaker 1>creating a long term commitment, give it a try a

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<v Speaker 1>time or two first to see whether it's actually something

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<v Speaker 1>you want to do every week or every month. By

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<v Speaker 1>putting a toe in the water, you can get a

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<v Speaker 1>feel for whether the recurring activity would live up to

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<v Speaker 1>your hopes. If it will wonderful, plan away, and if

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<v Speaker 1>it may not, well, just enjoy it occasionally and seek

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<v Speaker 1>out other waters where you may want to dip your

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<v Speaker 1>toes in the meantime.

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<v Speaker 2>This is Laura.

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