1 00:00:00,240 --> 00:00:02,800 Speaker 1: I sixteen male, had a daughter with my girlfriend. But 2 00:00:02,920 --> 00:00:06,600 Speaker 1: now she's leaving to college. So I'm gonna do something drastic. 3 00:00:07,000 --> 00:00:07,600 Speaker 2: Sixteen. 4 00:00:08,039 --> 00:00:09,040 Speaker 3: Shooter's gonna shoot. 5 00:00:10,480 --> 00:00:18,240 Speaker 4: Shooter's gonna shoot grow fast, you know. 6 00:00:18,520 --> 00:00:19,520 Speaker 2: And what is he gonna do? 7 00:00:19,600 --> 00:00:24,560 Speaker 4: It's like, uh, you're going to college, not ma, He's 8 00:00:24,600 --> 00:00:27,000 Speaker 4: gonna he had this whole holes in all of our 9 00:00:28,000 --> 00:00:29,000 Speaker 4: He's gonna go to college. 10 00:00:29,000 --> 00:00:30,520 Speaker 3: When this baby goes to college. 11 00:00:30,600 --> 00:00:34,239 Speaker 1: Yeah're gonna be It's gonna be like the cheesy two 12 00:00:34,320 --> 00:00:39,760 Speaker 1: thousand's like one dad, you know, Jackson, Dad? 13 00:00:39,760 --> 00:00:42,520 Speaker 3: What are you doing here? We're dorm made. 14 00:00:43,760 --> 00:00:48,120 Speaker 4: And this is daddy dorm Maide starring Hugh gs There. 15 00:00:50,880 --> 00:00:54,520 Speaker 4: Oh no, one day, I'm gonna grow up and make 16 00:00:54,600 --> 00:00:57,720 Speaker 4: something of myself. Shut up you You'll never be anything. 17 00:00:58,680 --> 00:01:01,960 Speaker 4: I'll show him right what's coming to theaters near you? 18 00:01:02,080 --> 00:01:05,920 Speaker 4: Jeddy door mate, before you say anything. Yes, I knew 19 00:01:05,920 --> 00:01:09,720 Speaker 4: about protection. I was just dumb, big eggs. You could 20 00:01:09,720 --> 00:01:12,400 Speaker 4: have wrapped up your wiener, could have done it, but 21 00:01:12,560 --> 00:01:14,280 Speaker 4: you didn't. Why didn't you? 22 00:01:14,760 --> 00:01:18,319 Speaker 1: And here we are, so some story time. My parents 23 00:01:18,319 --> 00:01:21,080 Speaker 1: divorced when I was ten, but I lived primarily with 24 00:01:21,160 --> 00:01:25,880 Speaker 1: my mom. Tiffany's sixteen parents are together. When our parents 25 00:01:25,880 --> 00:01:29,000 Speaker 1: found out that she was pregnant, her parents kicked her 26 00:01:29,000 --> 00:01:31,160 Speaker 1: out and my mom kicked me out. 27 00:01:31,360 --> 00:01:31,440 Speaker 3: What. 28 00:01:31,959 --> 00:01:36,039 Speaker 1: I don't know if that's the right response. 29 00:01:36,560 --> 00:01:39,160 Speaker 4: They got double kicked out, so they having to like 30 00:01:39,240 --> 00:01:42,720 Speaker 4: fend for themselves at sixteen with a bait Like yikes, 31 00:01:42,880 --> 00:01:44,280 Speaker 4: it's just like at the end of the day, like 32 00:01:44,400 --> 00:01:46,480 Speaker 4: do you want the best for your child and grandchild 33 00:01:46,560 --> 00:01:46,720 Speaker 4: or not? 34 00:01:47,160 --> 00:01:50,880 Speaker 1: Like that's really what it boils down to. God, So 35 00:01:51,000 --> 00:01:53,520 Speaker 1: now we live with my dad. Okay, so at least 36 00:01:53,520 --> 00:01:55,840 Speaker 1: at least someone took at least some parent. 37 00:01:55,640 --> 00:01:57,720 Speaker 3: Took him in during the pregnancy. 38 00:01:57,840 --> 00:02:00,440 Speaker 1: My dad took my mom to court and got primary 39 00:02:00,520 --> 00:02:03,480 Speaker 1: soul custody. I know what this means because I had 40 00:02:03,520 --> 00:02:06,760 Speaker 1: to go to court for my daughter. He sued Tiffany's 41 00:02:06,800 --> 00:02:10,000 Speaker 1: parents for legal guardianship, and now they pay child support 42 00:02:10,000 --> 00:02:12,919 Speaker 1: for her and they are pissed and refuse to talk 43 00:02:12,960 --> 00:02:15,720 Speaker 1: to us. Doesn't sound like a great situation. 44 00:02:15,840 --> 00:02:17,880 Speaker 4: Yeah, but at least, like the dad is kind of 45 00:02:17,960 --> 00:02:21,200 Speaker 4: like dad stuff, like taking things like over and be 46 00:02:21,320 --> 00:02:23,320 Speaker 4: like all right, let's like get everything in order, make 47 00:02:23,360 --> 00:02:25,320 Speaker 4: sure the best is had for these kids. 48 00:02:25,600 --> 00:02:28,480 Speaker 3: Thank God. I mean, the one thing was the last chance. 49 00:02:28,720 --> 00:02:31,680 Speaker 1: Yeah, I'm in my bedroom and my daughter is in 50 00:02:31,720 --> 00:02:34,800 Speaker 1: her bedroom, and my ex is in the guest room 51 00:02:34,960 --> 00:02:36,119 Speaker 1: that is now hers. 52 00:02:36,600 --> 00:02:38,600 Speaker 3: My dad struck a deal with us. 53 00:02:39,200 --> 00:02:42,360 Speaker 1: We live with him until eighteen with no rent payments, 54 00:02:42,480 --> 00:02:45,280 Speaker 1: and at eighteen we need to decide what it is. 55 00:02:45,320 --> 00:02:48,360 Speaker 1: We do still too much, but at least he's doing 56 00:02:48,400 --> 00:02:49,040 Speaker 1: something for him. 57 00:02:49,080 --> 00:02:52,080 Speaker 4: I feel like he's just like making sure their life 58 00:02:52,160 --> 00:02:54,040 Speaker 4: is set up, and you know, like they need to 59 00:02:54,080 --> 00:02:56,880 Speaker 4: start thinking about what their life because they've made a mistake. Yeah, 60 00:02:56,919 --> 00:03:01,080 Speaker 4: they do need to or you know, like they have 61 00:03:01,120 --> 00:03:01,919 Speaker 4: to figure out their shit. 62 00:03:02,040 --> 00:03:02,520 Speaker 3: That's true. 63 00:03:02,520 --> 00:03:04,680 Speaker 4: You know that's true, and I think I think that's 64 00:03:04,720 --> 00:03:07,919 Speaker 4: probably a good idea. It's yeah, yeah, hey, you probably 65 00:03:08,000 --> 00:03:11,280 Speaker 4: two years to figure everything out. I'm here to help 66 00:03:11,320 --> 00:03:13,760 Speaker 4: you for it and through it. But you got to start. 67 00:03:13,840 --> 00:03:14,640 Speaker 4: You gotta start thinking. 68 00:03:14,760 --> 00:03:17,919 Speaker 1: And plus he got in the child support for the child, 69 00:03:18,000 --> 00:03:20,119 Speaker 1: so that's at least big. I wasn't really that good 70 00:03:20,120 --> 00:03:23,240 Speaker 1: in school and Tiffany is an a student, so I 71 00:03:23,320 --> 00:03:27,440 Speaker 1: took my ged and my dad got me into welding school. 72 00:03:27,600 --> 00:03:30,239 Speaker 1: I finished in two months. I also work full time, 73 00:03:30,320 --> 00:03:32,600 Speaker 1: so I do welding school at night. Tiffany goes to 74 00:03:32,600 --> 00:03:37,800 Speaker 1: school sixteen, he's sixteen. Damn, that's crazy. Tiffany goes to 75 00:03:37,800 --> 00:03:40,920 Speaker 1: school and works on the weekends at Wendy's. The whole 76 00:03:40,960 --> 00:03:44,960 Speaker 1: thing is a huge or deal. We literally have no life. 77 00:03:45,320 --> 00:03:47,800 Speaker 1: My dad helps, but not that much because he feels 78 00:03:47,800 --> 00:03:51,920 Speaker 1: it's our responsibility, which I agree, but it still sucks. 79 00:03:52,200 --> 00:03:53,600 Speaker 3: Yeah, I think that's accurate. 80 00:03:54,440 --> 00:03:56,880 Speaker 1: I work six am to three pm at a warehouse 81 00:03:57,160 --> 00:03:59,480 Speaker 1: and go to school from six pm to ten pm. 82 00:04:00,000 --> 00:04:01,880 Speaker 1: He is home by two thirty and picks up our 83 00:04:01,920 --> 00:04:05,600 Speaker 1: daughter from daycare. We help each other a lot, and 84 00:04:05,720 --> 00:04:07,880 Speaker 1: then I head off to school and she stays with 85 00:04:07,920 --> 00:04:10,200 Speaker 1: her at home until I get home and do it 86 00:04:10,240 --> 00:04:11,120 Speaker 1: all over again. 87 00:04:11,080 --> 00:04:14,960 Speaker 4: Day after day after day. Dang, bro, I'm just getting 88 00:04:15,000 --> 00:04:19,640 Speaker 4: tired reading this. Yeoh, I can't imagine. I mean, a 89 00:04:19,760 --> 00:04:22,240 Speaker 4: singing kid at six what is they even fucking? I 90 00:04:22,360 --> 00:04:24,040 Speaker 4: barely kissed a girl at sixteen? 91 00:04:24,240 --> 00:04:28,560 Speaker 3: Same, I mean insane. This is why you stay in virgins. 92 00:04:28,640 --> 00:04:31,960 Speaker 2: Yeah, day a virgin. You know, until you're thirty. 93 00:04:32,200 --> 00:04:33,200 Speaker 3: Be a loser? 94 00:04:33,480 --> 00:04:34,480 Speaker 2: Yeah? 95 00:04:34,760 --> 00:04:39,320 Speaker 4: Like, hey, the best safe sex is being a fucking nerd. 96 00:04:39,600 --> 00:04:42,880 Speaker 1: Hey, come on, now, that's the greatest condom of all time. 97 00:04:43,279 --> 00:04:48,440 Speaker 4: B wear are some crocs and uh, and I don't 98 00:04:48,440 --> 00:04:52,280 Speaker 4: know what was I doing, like crying piano and minecraft 99 00:04:52,320 --> 00:04:56,520 Speaker 4: T shirt on the internet Fedoras, Yeah, fi dooras, that's 100 00:04:56,640 --> 00:04:58,400 Speaker 4: bro one hundred percent accuracy. 101 00:04:58,560 --> 00:05:03,680 Speaker 3: It's not going to happen. Whispy mustache, all of it. 102 00:05:03,720 --> 00:05:05,320 Speaker 2: I didn't have a whispy mustache. 103 00:05:05,760 --> 00:05:08,520 Speaker 3: I did At one point, I was going in quick 104 00:05:08,560 --> 00:05:09,520 Speaker 3: side story. Uh. 105 00:05:09,920 --> 00:05:12,479 Speaker 1: So I was going into in drumline. You had to 106 00:05:12,520 --> 00:05:14,159 Speaker 1: try out like in eighth grade to get in in 107 00:05:14,279 --> 00:05:16,359 Speaker 1: like ninth grade. So I was trying out in like 108 00:05:16,440 --> 00:05:19,680 Speaker 1: the upperclassmen kind of like coachy or whatever. And then 109 00:05:19,720 --> 00:05:21,479 Speaker 1: I remember I was like went over to his house. 110 00:05:21,480 --> 00:05:23,080 Speaker 1: I'm like, oh, this is the coolest thing ever. I'm 111 00:05:23,080 --> 00:05:25,599 Speaker 1: going into like a to be junior's house as an 112 00:05:25,600 --> 00:05:27,559 Speaker 1: eighth grader. I'm like, oh, this is great. 113 00:05:28,240 --> 00:05:32,120 Speaker 3: And then the guy was like, are you like growing 114 00:05:32,440 --> 00:05:33,320 Speaker 3: do you have some hair grain? 115 00:05:33,360 --> 00:05:34,919 Speaker 1: As I just had never shaved it before, so it 116 00:05:34,960 --> 00:05:37,280 Speaker 1: was just like all my hair up to my life. 117 00:05:37,320 --> 00:05:38,840 Speaker 1: At that point, He's like, are you growing out a 118 00:05:38,839 --> 00:05:40,760 Speaker 1: little mustache? I'm like, you're feeling myself. 119 00:05:40,800 --> 00:05:42,839 Speaker 3: Oh, I guess it's a little so and so he's like, 120 00:05:43,040 --> 00:05:43,799 Speaker 3: looks terrible. 121 00:05:45,240 --> 00:05:48,159 Speaker 1: Guess what I did when I got a shave that 122 00:05:48,320 --> 00:05:53,039 Speaker 1: bitch off brutal Bro. They were bad, They were really bad. 123 00:05:53,480 --> 00:05:55,760 Speaker 1: They I could I could have a whole side. If 124 00:05:55,760 --> 00:05:58,839 Speaker 1: we have Sam's Love Chronicles, I could have a whole 125 00:05:58,920 --> 00:06:01,440 Speaker 1: chronicles on crazy that that drum Line is. 126 00:06:02,000 --> 00:06:02,200 Speaker 3: Bro. 127 00:06:02,640 --> 00:06:06,960 Speaker 1: I'm talking shitting in other people's lockers, driving one hundred 128 00:06:07,000 --> 00:06:10,080 Speaker 1: and twenty five miles per hour while intoxicated with their feet. 129 00:06:10,480 --> 00:06:13,159 Speaker 3: I mean, bro. The list goes on, The list goes 130 00:06:13,200 --> 00:06:15,320 Speaker 3: on and on and on and on, and kids are crazy. 131 00:06:15,480 --> 00:06:17,919 Speaker 1: It was Drumline. Everyone else in band was fine. And 132 00:06:17,960 --> 00:06:20,920 Speaker 1: when when I was like an upperclassman, I like calmed 133 00:06:20,960 --> 00:06:25,040 Speaker 1: it down. But they were some wild wild boys. 134 00:06:25,400 --> 00:06:25,719 Speaker 2: Wow. 135 00:06:26,000 --> 00:06:27,440 Speaker 3: Yeah it was bad. It was bad. 136 00:06:28,160 --> 00:06:31,680 Speaker 2: But for more Drumline chronicle. 137 00:06:31,480 --> 00:06:33,880 Speaker 3: Yeah yeah, well we'll have that as a new installment. Yeah. 138 00:06:34,040 --> 00:06:34,960 Speaker 3: People that stick to the. 139 00:06:34,960 --> 00:06:36,880 Speaker 2: End, Yeah, you have to do it. Yeah, I want 140 00:06:36,920 --> 00:06:38,080 Speaker 2: one more, one more. 141 00:06:38,200 --> 00:06:38,880 Speaker 3: All right? Cool? Cool. 142 00:06:38,880 --> 00:06:40,800 Speaker 1: When my daughter was born, my dad made us go 143 00:06:40,880 --> 00:06:43,640 Speaker 1: to court. We split fifty to fifty and I don't 144 00:06:43,640 --> 00:06:46,359 Speaker 1: pay child support because she lives with us. Because I 145 00:06:46,400 --> 00:06:49,119 Speaker 1: work full time, I can get healthcare for my daughter. 146 00:06:49,360 --> 00:06:52,880 Speaker 1: That's good and myself. Uh, the only thing that sucks 147 00:06:52,960 --> 00:06:54,839 Speaker 1: is it cost me three hundred dollars a month and 148 00:06:54,960 --> 00:06:56,680 Speaker 1: daycare is four hundred dollars a week. 149 00:06:56,880 --> 00:07:00,200 Speaker 2: Fuck are you kidding me? 150 00:07:01,360 --> 00:07:04,520 Speaker 4: I'm bitching about paying like two hundred and fifty bucks 151 00:07:04,520 --> 00:07:06,440 Speaker 4: for fucking car insurance. 152 00:07:06,640 --> 00:07:09,200 Speaker 3: Yeah, mean meanwhile. 153 00:07:09,400 --> 00:07:15,360 Speaker 2: Sixteen four hundred dollars a week? Are you kidding on 154 00:07:15,400 --> 00:07:20,560 Speaker 2: a Wendy's job? Holy shit? 155 00:07:21,000 --> 00:07:25,440 Speaker 4: Oh baby, dude, there's baby. 156 00:07:25,920 --> 00:07:27,560 Speaker 2: You can't have a kid in this country. 157 00:07:27,800 --> 00:07:28,520 Speaker 3: You really can't. 158 00:07:28,720 --> 00:07:29,320 Speaker 2: You really can't. 159 00:07:29,360 --> 00:07:31,200 Speaker 3: Wove Ecuador, bro, I don't know why. 160 00:07:33,000 --> 00:07:35,800 Speaker 1: Any any cheap place, you know what I mean, top 161 00:07:35,880 --> 00:07:39,320 Speaker 1: top digital nomad like like but I'm talking like coaster 162 00:07:39,840 --> 00:07:44,360 Speaker 1: or you know what I mean. Jesus sorry Ecuador anywhere 163 00:07:44,360 --> 00:07:47,000 Speaker 1: that's dirt port like Ecuador. 164 00:07:46,760 --> 00:07:51,320 Speaker 4: Shouting outdoor thanks you pretty sick. I have ones I 165 00:07:51,360 --> 00:07:55,040 Speaker 4: apologize to you. Actually, are like. 166 00:07:55,000 --> 00:07:55,920 Speaker 2: Coming from Ecuador? 167 00:07:56,000 --> 00:07:56,120 Speaker 4: Yo? 168 00:07:56,280 --> 00:07:57,120 Speaker 2: Where my Ecuador? 169 00:07:57,160 --> 00:08:00,320 Speaker 3: Holey's at I'm pretty sure are like goat and editor, 170 00:08:00,440 --> 00:08:00,720 Speaker 3: go tod. 171 00:08:00,840 --> 00:08:04,080 Speaker 1: Editor Jose is from Ecuador. So Jose, if you're editing this, 172 00:08:04,240 --> 00:08:06,800 Speaker 1: you get one slap in the face. Yeah, he's a legend. 173 00:08:07,960 --> 00:08:11,320 Speaker 1: So literally, Tiffany works just so we can pay for 174 00:08:11,360 --> 00:08:14,200 Speaker 1: our daycare and I pay for everything else. So literally, 175 00:08:14,320 --> 00:08:16,960 Speaker 1: all of her money goes to daycare, which at that 176 00:08:17,000 --> 00:08:17,560 Speaker 1: point it's. 177 00:08:17,440 --> 00:08:19,600 Speaker 3: Like doesn't that cancel it out? Like, why doesn't you 178 00:08:19,640 --> 00:08:20,200 Speaker 3: just stay home? 179 00:08:20,480 --> 00:08:21,240 Speaker 2: She go to school? 180 00:08:21,600 --> 00:08:25,480 Speaker 3: No, no, stay home from Wendy's working at Wendy's. 181 00:08:25,120 --> 00:08:27,240 Speaker 2: But she still has to pay for daycare. 182 00:08:27,800 --> 00:08:29,040 Speaker 3: Oh, while she's at school. 183 00:08:29,120 --> 00:08:29,680 Speaker 2: She's at school. 184 00:08:29,800 --> 00:08:30,040 Speaker 3: Got you? 185 00:08:30,400 --> 00:08:32,880 Speaker 1: It sucks when we are short for cash. My dad 186 00:08:32,920 --> 00:08:35,880 Speaker 1: will help because he sees everything we're trying. 187 00:08:36,120 --> 00:08:38,760 Speaker 4: Dude, what are they fuck? They can't even go to 188 00:08:38,840 --> 00:08:42,640 Speaker 4: like a movie right? That is crazy and like can't 189 00:08:42,720 --> 00:08:44,280 Speaker 4: order pizza hut one thing? 190 00:08:44,320 --> 00:08:44,600 Speaker 3: Okay? 191 00:08:44,679 --> 00:08:47,839 Speaker 1: If if op sees it or sees this, or if 192 00:08:47,840 --> 00:08:51,160 Speaker 1: anyone is in their situation that's watching this, I feel 193 00:08:51,160 --> 00:08:54,240 Speaker 1: like it would be very interesting to do like a 194 00:08:54,240 --> 00:08:57,720 Speaker 1: TikTok series where you're like my life as a sixteen 195 00:08:57,800 --> 00:09:00,960 Speaker 1: year old father and walking through it. I don't know 196 00:09:00,960 --> 00:09:03,720 Speaker 1: if this will reach anyone, but if anyone's in that situation, 197 00:09:04,559 --> 00:09:05,200 Speaker 1: give it a shot. 198 00:09:05,240 --> 00:09:06,440 Speaker 3: I feel like I up. 199 00:09:06,720 --> 00:09:09,440 Speaker 1: I mean sixteen, there was a show, right, sixteen and 200 00:09:10,440 --> 00:09:11,880 Speaker 1: teen mom or something. 201 00:09:11,880 --> 00:09:13,080 Speaker 2: Day in the life teen mom. 202 00:09:13,240 --> 00:09:15,280 Speaker 3: What's the engagement? What do we got? One hundred and 203 00:09:15,280 --> 00:09:17,280 Speaker 3: fifty four K That's what I'm. 204 00:09:17,160 --> 00:09:19,560 Speaker 1: Saying, I feel like you just take just take quick 205 00:09:19,559 --> 00:09:21,320 Speaker 1: shots of your day, and I don't know. 206 00:09:21,920 --> 00:09:23,920 Speaker 2: What's two thousand and three, two thousand and four. 207 00:09:24,200 --> 00:09:26,400 Speaker 3: That's probably like close to eighteen. 208 00:09:27,240 --> 00:09:29,319 Speaker 2: That's twenty twenty, twenty. 209 00:09:29,120 --> 00:09:32,719 Speaker 1: Nineteen, two thousand and three, and then eighteen for two 210 00:09:32,760 --> 00:09:33,320 Speaker 1: thousand and four. 211 00:09:34,160 --> 00:09:34,720 Speaker 2: Not too bad. 212 00:09:35,320 --> 00:09:37,200 Speaker 3: That could be worried. No, no, no, sixteen. 213 00:09:39,360 --> 00:09:42,360 Speaker 2: That is a good idea, though, I'll try it out. 214 00:09:42,400 --> 00:09:44,520 Speaker 1: Please someone the situation, try it out and then hit 215 00:09:44,600 --> 00:09:46,720 Speaker 1: us up and let us know how it works. My oh, 216 00:09:46,760 --> 00:09:49,160 Speaker 1: my dad has been our rock when you're when we 217 00:09:49,200 --> 00:09:51,280 Speaker 1: are tired and exhausted, he will step in and give 218 00:09:51,360 --> 00:09:53,400 Speaker 1: us a break here or there, but he makes sure 219 00:09:53,440 --> 00:09:56,360 Speaker 1: we have everything we need and keeps us motivated. Tiffany 220 00:09:56,400 --> 00:09:58,520 Speaker 1: wants to apply to a college soon, and I'm worried 221 00:09:58,679 --> 00:10:01,240 Speaker 1: because I don't want to keep living with her and 222 00:10:01,320 --> 00:10:03,880 Speaker 1: I don't think I can keep our daughter full time 223 00:10:04,280 --> 00:10:08,280 Speaker 1: as a welder working twelve hour shifts. But she says 224 00:10:08,320 --> 00:10:11,360 Speaker 1: she will start at a community college and work, but 225 00:10:11,440 --> 00:10:13,600 Speaker 1: she wants to stay with us living together since it's 226 00:10:13,600 --> 00:10:15,520 Speaker 1: easier since I will be working, and it will be 227 00:10:15,520 --> 00:10:18,000 Speaker 1: best to stay with my dad. But my dad said 228 00:10:18,000 --> 00:10:21,280 Speaker 1: at eighteen, we have to pay rent. She doesn't mind, 229 00:10:21,600 --> 00:10:24,480 Speaker 1: but I don't want to keep living with her because 230 00:10:24,480 --> 00:10:27,319 Speaker 1: we aren't together. I'm unsure how to tell her this. 231 00:10:28,000 --> 00:10:30,199 Speaker 1: My dad thinks that she should stay with us as 232 00:10:30,320 --> 00:10:32,760 Speaker 1: long as she is a full time student to finish 233 00:10:32,760 --> 00:10:36,160 Speaker 1: her degree, because I already am getting into my career. 234 00:10:36,800 --> 00:10:39,160 Speaker 1: I just feel that all of this is unfair because 235 00:10:39,200 --> 00:10:40,600 Speaker 1: the burden is on me. 236 00:10:41,440 --> 00:10:41,600 Speaker 2: Wait. 237 00:10:41,679 --> 00:10:43,920 Speaker 4: Wait, so just a way just to clarify something. So 238 00:10:43,960 --> 00:10:47,480 Speaker 4: she's going to college. Right when she goes to college, 239 00:10:47,480 --> 00:10:50,360 Speaker 4: she'll be staying living there. Yeah, when she hits eighteen, 240 00:10:50,440 --> 00:10:52,920 Speaker 4: she's going to have to pay rent. Yes, when he 241 00:10:53,040 --> 00:10:54,600 Speaker 4: hits eighteen, he's going to have to pay rent. 242 00:10:54,679 --> 00:10:54,880 Speaker 3: Yep. 243 00:10:55,520 --> 00:10:59,120 Speaker 4: He wants to live somewhere else, He's going to have 244 00:10:59,120 --> 00:11:02,800 Speaker 4: to pay rent somewhere. So why couldn't he just it's 245 00:11:02,800 --> 00:11:04,520 Speaker 4: a great question. But maybe it has to do with 246 00:11:04,600 --> 00:11:05,960 Speaker 4: like custody, if a kid or something. 247 00:11:06,160 --> 00:11:09,080 Speaker 1: Yeah, maybe maybe the custody is through the dad or something. 248 00:11:09,440 --> 00:11:12,680 Speaker 1: So I mean, yeah, I don't know, there's probably something 249 00:11:12,760 --> 00:11:14,000 Speaker 1: like that, but it is a good question. 250 00:11:14,040 --> 00:11:16,160 Speaker 3: It's like why not, like why not get. 251 00:11:15,880 --> 00:11:19,959 Speaker 1: Like I imagine there's probably an apartment five to fifteen 252 00:11:19,960 --> 00:11:22,000 Speaker 1: minute drive away. Yeah, but then you might to get 253 00:11:22,000 --> 00:11:23,880 Speaker 1: a car within your probably has a car though, Yeah, 254 00:11:23,880 --> 00:11:27,040 Speaker 1: he might have a car, let's imagine. I guess I'm 255 00:11:27,080 --> 00:11:29,480 Speaker 1: just ranting because I'm scared and unsure of what this 256 00:11:29,559 --> 00:11:30,080 Speaker 1: all means. 257 00:11:30,200 --> 00:11:30,880 Speaker 3: But there's an edit. 258 00:11:31,040 --> 00:11:33,040 Speaker 1: I guess My thing about her living with us is 259 00:11:33,040 --> 00:11:35,520 Speaker 1: that we are a lot more like siblings now. We 260 00:11:35,559 --> 00:11:37,920 Speaker 1: get along and joke and stuff. But since she is 261 00:11:37,960 --> 00:11:40,400 Speaker 1: my ex, I feel weirded out by it. Maybe I 262 00:11:40,480 --> 00:11:43,440 Speaker 1: need to take a breather sense everyone is saying it's 263 00:11:43,520 --> 00:11:45,920 Speaker 1: a good thing. Also, I needed to hear it from 264 00:11:45,920 --> 00:11:48,480 Speaker 1: other people and not just my dad, And he's pretty 265 00:11:48,480 --> 00:11:50,079 Speaker 1: solid and I should thank him. 266 00:11:49,960 --> 00:11:51,840 Speaker 3: And maybe take him to dinner or something. 267 00:11:52,200 --> 00:11:55,040 Speaker 1: Second edit, my dad isn't kicking us out at eighteen, 268 00:11:55,400 --> 00:11:58,120 Speaker 1: but he wants us to be realistic to the world 269 00:11:58,360 --> 00:12:01,640 Speaker 1: and pay bills. The money he gets from Tiffany's parents 270 00:12:02,000 --> 00:12:04,559 Speaker 1: he just gives to her. She is saving up money 271 00:12:04,559 --> 00:12:07,360 Speaker 1: for a car and uses other money for her specific 272 00:12:07,400 --> 00:12:10,680 Speaker 1: foods and clothes. Before I became a dad, my dad 273 00:12:10,760 --> 00:12:13,680 Speaker 1: always wanted me to live with him at eighteen and 274 00:12:13,800 --> 00:12:16,240 Speaker 1: figure it out and stay with him and save money 275 00:12:16,360 --> 00:12:19,400 Speaker 1: till I can buy a house. When he found out 276 00:12:19,440 --> 00:12:22,439 Speaker 1: that I was going to be a dad, he wasn't mad, 277 00:12:22,960 --> 00:12:26,559 Speaker 1: but disappointed and said everything has to change. 278 00:12:27,040 --> 00:12:30,120 Speaker 2: That everything has to change. Yeah, that's that's a rough 279 00:12:30,160 --> 00:12:30,600 Speaker 2: thing to hear. 280 00:12:31,000 --> 00:12:35,000 Speaker 1: I mean again, like the parent yelling versus like the 281 00:12:35,440 --> 00:12:39,400 Speaker 1: parent like like truly disappointment where you can feel it. 282 00:12:39,520 --> 00:12:42,920 Speaker 4: And everything get have to change. Wait, so they get 283 00:12:42,960 --> 00:12:44,280 Speaker 4: to stay with the family. 284 00:12:44,480 --> 00:12:45,560 Speaker 3: He is, Yeah, he's dad. 285 00:12:45,679 --> 00:12:48,800 Speaker 1: He's saying that that they can stay, but they're basically 286 00:12:49,720 --> 00:12:53,320 Speaker 1: maybe it's the rent and the bills and pay bills, okay, 287 00:12:53,480 --> 00:12:55,199 Speaker 1: like basically what he was saying before, like they are 288 00:12:55,200 --> 00:12:57,559 Speaker 1: going to have to contribute to the rent if they 289 00:12:57,679 --> 00:13:01,160 Speaker 1: want him. Sounds fine, which also probably like I'm guessing 290 00:13:01,160 --> 00:13:03,840 Speaker 1: this is a house that the dad owns. Mortgages are 291 00:13:03,840 --> 00:13:07,280 Speaker 1: already cheaper than rent, and they're splitting it three ways, 292 00:13:07,320 --> 00:13:10,280 Speaker 1: so I imagine their rent is like this is probably 293 00:13:10,280 --> 00:13:13,880 Speaker 1: gonna be the best sucks. Yeah, a couple hundred bucks. Probably. 294 00:13:14,640 --> 00:13:16,920 Speaker 1: Imagine the dad just like lives in a mansion. I 295 00:13:16,920 --> 00:13:20,360 Speaker 1: need three thousand a month, like absolutely not. I work, 296 00:13:20,559 --> 00:13:21,240 Speaker 1: fucking Wendy. 297 00:13:21,240 --> 00:13:24,320 Speaker 4: He's probably a mansion in the middle of the country 298 00:13:24,559 --> 00:13:28,679 Speaker 4: or an apartment in Santa Monica exactly. 299 00:13:28,880 --> 00:13:31,960 Speaker 1: Also, my dad is paying for my welding school, which 300 00:13:32,000 --> 00:13:34,959 Speaker 1: is twenty thousand dollars, and he bought me a car. 301 00:13:36,000 --> 00:13:39,280 Speaker 1: All right, Daddy, Daddy big bucks over here. But I 302 00:13:39,400 --> 00:13:42,920 Speaker 1: do have to pay my own insurance. Charance fucking sucks. 303 00:13:43,360 --> 00:13:43,760 Speaker 2: I hate it. 304 00:13:44,080 --> 00:13:44,320 Speaker 3: Sam. 305 00:13:44,480 --> 00:13:48,720 Speaker 1: Sam is in the throes of an insurance quarrel. By 306 00:13:48,760 --> 00:13:51,439 Speaker 1: the way, any any car insurance company is listening right now, YO, 307 00:13:51,520 --> 00:13:56,800 Speaker 1: give us free insurance. Listen hit us. You know Geico, Geico. 308 00:13:58,000 --> 00:13:59,960 Speaker 1: He does help as long as he sees that we 309 00:14:00,120 --> 00:14:03,520 Speaker 1: are trying and not being lazy. When school recently started, 310 00:14:03,559 --> 00:14:05,600 Speaker 1: he took my daughter to day care every morning and 311 00:14:05,640 --> 00:14:08,640 Speaker 1: helped Tiffany with a routine to get her school work done. 312 00:14:08,720 --> 00:14:10,800 Speaker 1: I forget the class now. Tiffany wants to be a 313 00:14:10,920 --> 00:14:14,840 Speaker 1: nurse or a PA, but the college told her nursing 314 00:14:14,840 --> 00:14:17,280 Speaker 1: school is hard to get into and it's best to 315 00:14:17,280 --> 00:14:19,520 Speaker 1: have a high school diploma, which is why she's still 316 00:14:19,520 --> 00:14:22,080 Speaker 1: in high school and working on the weekends. But someone 317 00:14:22,200 --> 00:14:25,480 Speaker 1: mentioned a dual thing for community college we'll look into. 318 00:14:25,760 --> 00:14:28,600 Speaker 1: So we couldn't get datacare assistants because we're minors, and 319 00:14:28,640 --> 00:14:31,720 Speaker 1: they used my dad's salary for it. The funny thing 320 00:14:31,840 --> 00:14:34,720 Speaker 1: is I literally can't open a checking account for myself 321 00:14:34,760 --> 00:14:37,840 Speaker 1: because I am a miner, but the bank allowed me 322 00:14:37,880 --> 00:14:40,920 Speaker 1: to open a children's account for my daughter because I 323 00:14:40,960 --> 00:14:44,480 Speaker 1: am her parent. All the irony that is, you can't 324 00:14:44,520 --> 00:14:46,480 Speaker 1: even open your own damn bank account. 325 00:14:46,560 --> 00:14:46,720 Speaker 3: Bro. 326 00:14:47,560 --> 00:14:51,000 Speaker 1: God, I read every single comment and it's given me 327 00:14:51,040 --> 00:14:54,560 Speaker 1: a different POV. And I guess college seems so far 328 00:14:54,760 --> 00:14:57,800 Speaker 1: and I was counting years, but it's really not that bad, 329 00:14:57,840 --> 00:15:00,600 Speaker 1: as she's like a little sister now and those who asked, 330 00:15:00,680 --> 00:15:04,200 Speaker 1: I doubt we will get back together. Honestly, I am 331 00:15:04,240 --> 00:15:06,520 Speaker 1: not thinking about anything like that right now. I am 332 00:15:06,560 --> 00:15:08,400 Speaker 1: just too tired to be in a relationship or think 333 00:15:08,440 --> 00:15:09,200 Speaker 1: of anything like that. 334 00:15:09,160 --> 00:15:09,760 Speaker 3: For the future. 335 00:15:10,000 --> 00:15:11,560 Speaker 1: I don't know why I feel they need to update this, 336 00:15:12,000 --> 00:15:15,600 Speaker 1: but here it goes, Tiffany and my dad are together. 337 00:15:15,760 --> 00:15:16,480 Speaker 2: No, I'm just kidding. 338 00:15:17,600 --> 00:15:19,040 Speaker 3: Plus alarm. 339 00:15:19,120 --> 00:15:21,400 Speaker 1: Tiffany and my dad went to the school and were 340 00:15:21,440 --> 00:15:24,040 Speaker 1: able to get her enrolled in college classes because of 341 00:15:24,120 --> 00:15:25,920 Speaker 1: her grades, So now she can do high school and 342 00:15:25,960 --> 00:15:26,880 Speaker 1: community college at the. 343 00:15:26,880 --> 00:15:28,560 Speaker 3: Same time, which ye boy did. 344 00:15:28,960 --> 00:15:31,440 Speaker 1: She won't graduate high school super fast, but she will 345 00:15:31,480 --> 00:15:33,920 Speaker 1: have enough to finish high school hours by next December, 346 00:15:34,080 --> 00:15:37,000 Speaker 1: so six months early. She reapplied for assistance and we 347 00:15:37,040 --> 00:15:39,840 Speaker 1: got a voucher for daycare, which is now fifty dollars 348 00:15:39,920 --> 00:15:43,080 Speaker 1: a week at something. She quit her job so she 349 00:15:43,120 --> 00:15:45,960 Speaker 1: can focus on school, but she but she doesn't start 350 00:15:45,960 --> 00:15:48,800 Speaker 1: college until spring, so that's cool and it gives her 351 00:15:48,840 --> 00:15:50,440 Speaker 1: some time and she wants to still be a nurse, 352 00:15:50,480 --> 00:15:52,400 Speaker 1: so that's great. Just want to say thanks for thinking 353 00:15:52,440 --> 00:15:54,960 Speaker 1: I'm a great dad, but I don't believe it just yet. 354 00:15:55,080 --> 00:15:56,880 Speaker 1: I depend on my dad a lot to help me. 355 00:15:57,040 --> 00:16:00,080 Speaker 1: Tiff and I are trying to take parenting classes and 356 00:16:00,120 --> 00:16:02,280 Speaker 1: they offer a lot of advice and we've made friends there, 357 00:16:02,280 --> 00:16:04,840 Speaker 1: which is nice, but I don't think we would be 358 00:16:04,880 --> 00:16:08,240 Speaker 1: this prepared without my dad. Also, Tiff is on wic 359 00:16:08,480 --> 00:16:13,000 Speaker 1: which helps women get money for food, and we take 360 00:16:13,040 --> 00:16:18,120 Speaker 1: parenting classes and co parenting classes because it's my dad's rules. 361 00:16:18,400 --> 00:16:20,800 Speaker 4: The dad seems like it, like he's like he's he 362 00:16:21,000 --> 00:16:23,440 Speaker 4: got it, got it shit together. All of the other parents, 363 00:16:23,760 --> 00:16:27,520 Speaker 4: screw you, dad, Are you doing really like stepping it 364 00:16:27,600 --> 00:16:28,040 Speaker 4: up a notch? 365 00:16:28,160 --> 00:16:30,080 Speaker 1: Cause like, like, if you think about it, imagine if 366 00:16:30,080 --> 00:16:31,840 Speaker 1: all the parents chipped in and we're like, hey, look, 367 00:16:31,880 --> 00:16:35,040 Speaker 1: we're not going to provide financial support for like you 368 00:16:35,080 --> 00:16:37,520 Speaker 1: guys for like living or whatever. But we'll give some 369 00:16:37,600 --> 00:16:41,280 Speaker 1: child support to the baby like that, like just setting 370 00:16:41,320 --> 00:16:43,320 Speaker 1: up the daycare, like so when you could get to school, 371 00:16:43,360 --> 00:16:44,880 Speaker 1: like so many things. 372 00:16:44,920 --> 00:16:49,200 Speaker 4: But uh, make sure to not get pregnant when you're young. 373 00:16:49,440 --> 00:16:53,920 Speaker 4: Wrap your waner yep, okayop. 374 00:16:54,240 --> 00:16:57,200 Speaker 1: Am I the a hole for not accepting my sister's 375 00:16:57,240 --> 00:17:01,440 Speaker 1: relationship with my ex just fite her having cancer as 376 00:17:01,440 --> 00:17:04,360 Speaker 1: a teenager. There's so much going on. There's a lot 377 00:17:04,400 --> 00:17:07,040 Speaker 1: to unpack here. One sentence contained so much. 378 00:17:07,200 --> 00:17:08,080 Speaker 2: Oh my god. 379 00:17:08,440 --> 00:17:13,080 Speaker 1: So my twenty five female father married my stepsisters twenty 380 00:17:13,080 --> 00:17:15,480 Speaker 1: four female mother when I was four years old, and 381 00:17:15,520 --> 00:17:17,280 Speaker 1: when she was three. We lived together most of our 382 00:17:17,280 --> 00:17:20,200 Speaker 1: lives as a family, and she and I were extremely close. 383 00:17:20,280 --> 00:17:22,960 Speaker 1: She developed cancer when she was about fourteen and was 384 00:17:23,000 --> 00:17:23,800 Speaker 1: sick for two years. 385 00:17:23,840 --> 00:17:24,640 Speaker 3: She since made a. 386 00:17:24,600 --> 00:17:28,879 Speaker 1: Full recovery, but during that time my parents became understandably 387 00:17:29,200 --> 00:17:31,920 Speaker 1: overprotect They also asked a lot of me. I quit 388 00:17:32,000 --> 00:17:34,480 Speaker 1: all of my extracurriculars so I could get a job. 389 00:17:34,760 --> 00:17:37,439 Speaker 1: The money went towards her medical bills, and so I 390 00:17:37,440 --> 00:17:39,280 Speaker 1: could drive her to her appointment. I didn't go to 391 00:17:39,359 --> 00:17:42,000 Speaker 1: dances or any of the fun activities. Anything I did 392 00:17:42,119 --> 00:17:44,880 Speaker 1: needed to include her. I did almost all of us willingly, 393 00:17:45,040 --> 00:17:47,840 Speaker 1: so you know, Opie wasn't complaining about this, but the 394 00:17:47,920 --> 00:17:50,960 Speaker 1: exception being having to quit my high school volleyballs. I 395 00:17:51,040 --> 00:17:53,119 Speaker 1: did throw quite a bit of a tantrum about that, 396 00:17:53,480 --> 00:17:56,240 Speaker 1: but that was swiftly punished, And I think having one 397 00:17:56,320 --> 00:17:59,440 Speaker 1: emotional breakdown was pretty chill given the circumstances. 398 00:17:59,520 --> 00:18:02,960 Speaker 4: Honestly, Air Like, that's a really tough situation. You're trying 399 00:18:02,960 --> 00:18:05,240 Speaker 4: to support your family, but literally your life is on 400 00:18:05,320 --> 00:18:08,359 Speaker 4: hold because your sister's going through a tough time. Like 401 00:18:08,640 --> 00:18:12,800 Speaker 4: it's the right thing to do, but still hard, incredibly hard. 402 00:18:12,400 --> 00:18:15,000 Speaker 4: She's a teenager, Like, you know, you only get to 403 00:18:15,520 --> 00:18:17,840 Speaker 4: play in your high school volleyball team once, you know, so, 404 00:18:17,960 --> 00:18:21,080 Speaker 4: I yeah, I know it sounds weird, It sounds. 405 00:18:21,480 --> 00:18:23,640 Speaker 2: No, but honestly, you're right, true, you know what I mean. 406 00:18:23,800 --> 00:18:27,600 Speaker 4: It sounds trite, but like those experiences in high school 407 00:18:27,640 --> 00:18:30,200 Speaker 4: are formative, Yeah, for sure, the social circles you have, 408 00:18:30,320 --> 00:18:33,440 Speaker 4: and you learn so much about yourself in the period too. 409 00:18:34,480 --> 00:18:35,720 Speaker 4: It's tough, I feel for op. 410 00:18:35,760 --> 00:18:38,840 Speaker 1: Anyhow, I go to college and I meet my ex 411 00:18:39,040 --> 00:18:40,119 Speaker 1: we'll call him Ben. 412 00:18:40,200 --> 00:18:41,000 Speaker 3: When I'm a junior. 413 00:18:41,240 --> 00:18:43,840 Speaker 1: We fall in love blah blah blah, and I move 414 00:18:43,840 --> 00:18:46,280 Speaker 1: in together when we graduate. So we have been living 415 00:18:46,320 --> 00:18:49,560 Speaker 1: together for three years. Yeah, it's it was a whole thing, right. Yeah, 416 00:18:49,600 --> 00:18:52,320 Speaker 1: we were serious until July when I walked into my 417 00:18:52,359 --> 00:18:57,120 Speaker 1: bedroom and saw him doing the nasty with my sister. 418 00:18:57,680 --> 00:18:58,240 Speaker 3: The same. 419 00:19:01,160 --> 00:19:05,119 Speaker 1: Yeah, the same sister she cared for while she had cancer. 420 00:19:05,480 --> 00:19:07,000 Speaker 2: Ungrateful bitch. 421 00:19:07,280 --> 00:19:11,919 Speaker 1: She was cheating on her with her boyfriend of many years. 422 00:19:12,200 --> 00:19:17,000 Speaker 4: Dude, I can't imagine, like you sacrificed those volleyball games. 423 00:19:17,480 --> 00:19:20,200 Speaker 4: You only could do those volleyball games once, and here 424 00:19:20,359 --> 00:19:26,280 Speaker 4: your ungrateful beyond sister goes and dicks down your boyfriend. 425 00:19:26,400 --> 00:19:30,639 Speaker 1: I know it's really bad, so Op says, I broke 426 00:19:30,680 --> 00:19:33,720 Speaker 1: it off. Tears were shed, he moved out, et cetera, 427 00:19:33,800 --> 00:19:37,240 Speaker 1: et cetera. My sister apologized at first, but then backed off. 428 00:19:38,040 --> 00:19:40,040 Speaker 2: What yes, are you kidding me? 429 00:19:40,359 --> 00:19:41,639 Speaker 3: At first? At first? 430 00:19:41,720 --> 00:19:44,760 Speaker 2: At first, how would you even talk to Oh? I 431 00:19:44,800 --> 00:19:49,080 Speaker 2: hate this, I hate I'm tilted, severely tilted. 432 00:19:49,119 --> 00:19:51,400 Speaker 3: You're gonna get even angry to keep going. 433 00:19:51,960 --> 00:19:54,240 Speaker 1: I thought she was gonna give me space, but last 434 00:19:54,320 --> 00:19:56,520 Speaker 1: week she called and asked me if we could meet up. 435 00:19:56,640 --> 00:19:58,760 Speaker 1: She told me that she and Ben were in love 436 00:19:59,280 --> 00:20:02,440 Speaker 1: and were just telling me as a courtesy before they 437 00:20:02,440 --> 00:20:04,200 Speaker 1: started posting videos online. 438 00:20:04,720 --> 00:20:07,400 Speaker 4: I actually hit myself with the b oh, god, hurt. 439 00:20:08,040 --> 00:20:11,800 Speaker 4: That's how mad I like. I hurt myself because this 440 00:20:11,880 --> 00:20:15,760 Speaker 4: is how appalling, this is furiating. I am so pissed 441 00:20:15,840 --> 00:20:19,000 Speaker 4: right now. I'm so pissed. I am unreasonably I'm actually 442 00:20:19,040 --> 00:20:22,719 Speaker 4: I'm actually pissed. I'm not I'm not joking. 443 00:20:23,080 --> 00:20:25,320 Speaker 2: This is I'm actually true. 444 00:20:25,600 --> 00:20:26,240 Speaker 3: This is emotion. 445 00:20:26,600 --> 00:20:29,200 Speaker 2: Yeah, I'm fucking pissed. Bro, What the fuck? 446 00:20:29,480 --> 00:20:35,560 Speaker 3: It's insane and it does get worse, it does get it. 447 00:20:35,920 --> 00:20:38,639 Speaker 3: Is it bad that I'm getting enjoyment out of your Yes. 448 00:20:38,560 --> 00:20:41,280 Speaker 4: Dude, you're just watching a freaking squirm. This is the worst. 449 00:20:41,440 --> 00:20:42,879 Speaker 4: This is the this is the worst. 450 00:20:42,880 --> 00:20:45,359 Speaker 2: Just keep going. Yeah, I still want to hear it. 451 00:20:45,400 --> 00:20:46,160 Speaker 2: I just hate it. 452 00:20:46,080 --> 00:20:49,560 Speaker 1: So distraught, I left her in the restaurant by herself 453 00:20:49,640 --> 00:20:51,560 Speaker 1: and did not pay for my portion of the bill. 454 00:20:51,920 --> 00:20:57,000 Speaker 3: You're gonna she later venmoed me, requesting for the money 455 00:20:57,000 --> 00:20:57,360 Speaker 3: for my. 456 00:20:59,040 --> 00:20:59,720 Speaker 2: For my meal. 457 00:21:00,960 --> 00:21:05,800 Speaker 4: They you take the volleyball games away, you take the boyfriend, 458 00:21:06,480 --> 00:21:09,200 Speaker 4: and now you don't even pay for dinner. 459 00:21:09,280 --> 00:21:11,480 Speaker 2: Who are you? Who do you think you are? 460 00:21:11,720 --> 00:21:13,280 Speaker 3: Guys, this is not good. 461 00:21:13,640 --> 00:21:16,320 Speaker 4: So pissed, I'm gonna have to freaking heart attack to 462 00:21:16,520 --> 00:21:18,800 Speaker 4: get cancer from just having to hear this shit. 463 00:21:19,440 --> 00:21:23,280 Speaker 1: She who then called me to their house, telling me 464 00:21:23,520 --> 00:21:25,679 Speaker 1: how disappointed they were in me. 465 00:21:31,640 --> 00:21:39,440 Speaker 4: You get, Oh, I'm fine, I'm fine. 466 00:21:39,440 --> 00:21:43,960 Speaker 2: I'm fine. I'm fine. I'm fine, I'm fine. 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They 518 00:24:00,600 --> 00:24:03,760 Speaker 1: were in me for not supporting my sister's relationship with Ben. 519 00:24:03,840 --> 00:24:06,040 Speaker 1: They brought up the fact that because she had cancer 520 00:24:06,080 --> 00:24:09,840 Speaker 1: as a teenager, she never learned proper social etiquette and 521 00:24:10,000 --> 00:24:11,399 Speaker 1: has a hard time meeting people. 522 00:24:13,160 --> 00:24:16,400 Speaker 2: Yeah, it's not, it's cancer. 523 00:24:16,560 --> 00:24:19,800 Speaker 4: It's not freakin' uh oh wait, I was gonna say 524 00:24:19,800 --> 00:24:20,320 Speaker 4: something bad. 525 00:24:20,640 --> 00:24:25,240 Speaker 2: Not they don't make you stupid. We don't know it's 526 00:24:25,240 --> 00:24:27,800 Speaker 2: brain cancer, right, we have We have no idea what 527 00:24:27,840 --> 00:24:29,240 Speaker 2: the cancer is. Well, maybe you know. 528 00:24:29,280 --> 00:24:33,600 Speaker 4: If it's brain cancer, yeah, specifically affected the part of 529 00:24:33,640 --> 00:24:35,919 Speaker 4: your brain that made you a good person and just 530 00:24:36,160 --> 00:24:38,800 Speaker 4: ate that part away. So you're just the shell of 531 00:24:38,840 --> 00:24:43,359 Speaker 4: a human and you're basically a devil child, and you 532 00:24:43,560 --> 00:24:46,960 Speaker 4: just like tap into your primal animal instincts and you're 533 00:24:46,960 --> 00:24:50,920 Speaker 4: not even you're barely human. You're just you're just a freaking, wild, 534 00:24:51,080 --> 00:24:55,040 Speaker 4: feral animal, freakin' fracking everything that you see, no matter 535 00:24:55,480 --> 00:24:56,240 Speaker 4: who it hurts. 536 00:24:56,920 --> 00:25:00,439 Speaker 2: That's just okay. I guess that it's okay, Then it's okay. 537 00:25:01,560 --> 00:25:05,000 Speaker 1: My cheeks hirt from last week, sorry, Ophie for for 538 00:25:05,080 --> 00:25:06,840 Speaker 1: laughing at your immense, immense bain. 539 00:25:06,960 --> 00:25:07,920 Speaker 3: Honestly, one of the worst. 540 00:25:07,960 --> 00:25:08,800 Speaker 2: This is the worst things. 541 00:25:08,920 --> 00:25:10,880 Speaker 3: So this is the worst that we've read so far. 542 00:25:11,000 --> 00:25:13,520 Speaker 2: This is the worst. It's hilarious, the worst. 543 00:25:13,880 --> 00:25:16,040 Speaker 1: So so my parents. They brought up the fact that 544 00:25:16,119 --> 00:25:18,520 Speaker 1: because she had cancer as a teenager, she never learned 545 00:25:18,560 --> 00:25:20,879 Speaker 1: proper social etiquette and has a hard time meeting people. 546 00:25:21,040 --> 00:25:23,879 Speaker 2: But I don't buy them, yeah, now do I brow do? 547 00:25:24,400 --> 00:25:24,600 Speaker 3: Yeah? 548 00:25:24,680 --> 00:25:28,160 Speaker 1: Exactly like I don't either, So in part because I've 549 00:25:28,160 --> 00:25:31,880 Speaker 1: seen her socialize just fine, and since we spent a 550 00:25:31,960 --> 00:25:34,280 Speaker 1: good chunk of the time when she was sick together, 551 00:25:34,720 --> 00:25:38,040 Speaker 1: that would also mean that I have pretty bad social 552 00:25:38,080 --> 00:25:40,280 Speaker 1: skills as well by that logic, So yeah. 553 00:25:40,160 --> 00:25:44,439 Speaker 4: And also she's social enough to steal her boyfriend. Oh 554 00:25:47,320 --> 00:25:49,040 Speaker 4: there's some good social skills right there. 555 00:25:49,040 --> 00:25:52,440 Speaker 1: Man, usually one other person other than OPI who understands 556 00:25:52,440 --> 00:25:55,240 Speaker 1: how fed up the situation is. But literally there's just 557 00:25:55,280 --> 00:25:58,040 Speaker 1: a gaggle of people that don't get it. 558 00:25:58,240 --> 00:26:02,640 Speaker 4: Yeah, it doesn't make any sense. Obviously obvious favor obvious 559 00:26:02,680 --> 00:26:06,160 Speaker 4: favoritism here, and just like also because just because one 560 00:26:06,240 --> 00:26:08,600 Speaker 4: bad thing happened in your life, or even if multiple 561 00:26:08,640 --> 00:26:12,080 Speaker 4: bad things happen in your life, it doesn't justify you 562 00:26:12,160 --> 00:26:14,919 Speaker 4: to be a complete ahole exactly the rest of your life, 563 00:26:14,960 --> 00:26:24,040 Speaker 4: like your good kids are one time, then oh, everyone 564 00:26:24,080 --> 00:26:27,280 Speaker 4: get over it. You rang that bell. Ring the bell 565 00:26:27,400 --> 00:26:30,439 Speaker 4: means get the frick over it. Bro, kids are free. 566 00:26:30,960 --> 00:26:35,440 Speaker 4: Well that also care free, not not asshole free, not 567 00:26:35,920 --> 00:26:38,960 Speaker 4: asshole free. You do not get the ass passed asshole. 568 00:26:39,080 --> 00:26:40,600 Speaker 1: So then my parents told me that if I don't 569 00:26:40,640 --> 00:26:43,760 Speaker 1: accept my sister and Ben's relationship, they might have to 570 00:26:43,760 --> 00:26:46,879 Speaker 1: go no contact. I reminded them that I am also 571 00:26:46,920 --> 00:26:50,040 Speaker 1: their daughter and they should understand my point of view 572 00:26:50,040 --> 00:26:53,199 Speaker 1: as well, but they are adamant that this is just 573 00:26:53,320 --> 00:26:56,560 Speaker 1: because of me being jealous of her, and this I 574 00:26:56,600 --> 00:26:59,919 Speaker 1: think is really interesting. And if this is true, like 575 00:27:00,800 --> 00:27:04,159 Speaker 1: honestly commendable to Opie for the record, I'm not jealous 576 00:27:04,200 --> 00:27:07,639 Speaker 1: of her, so like she doesn't actually she isn't actually 577 00:27:07,680 --> 00:27:10,560 Speaker 1: jealous that her boyfriend of three years, who they moved 578 00:27:10,560 --> 00:27:13,200 Speaker 1: in together, had all these serious things. She's not jealous 579 00:27:13,280 --> 00:27:16,399 Speaker 1: of that, so Opie says, for the record, I'm not 580 00:27:16,480 --> 00:27:18,960 Speaker 1: jealous of her. I'm not upset that she picked Ben 581 00:27:19,000 --> 00:27:21,240 Speaker 1: over me. I'm sad about the end of the relationship 582 00:27:21,320 --> 00:27:24,280 Speaker 1: and do feel betrayed, but Lord knows, I do not 583 00:27:24,320 --> 00:27:25,160 Speaker 1: want to be with a cheater. 584 00:27:25,359 --> 00:27:27,720 Speaker 2: True true. And also I mean, she's just being such 585 00:27:27,720 --> 00:27:31,280 Speaker 2: a good person right now. Yeah, so good. My heart 586 00:27:31,400 --> 00:27:33,159 Speaker 2: breaks for how nice she is. 587 00:27:33,359 --> 00:27:34,879 Speaker 3: That's true. That's so true. 588 00:27:34,920 --> 00:27:37,720 Speaker 1: Like she's being such a good person here and having 589 00:27:37,760 --> 00:27:40,640 Speaker 1: like the worst possible scenario happened to her and just 590 00:27:40,800 --> 00:27:43,440 Speaker 1: enduring it. What I'm upset about is the fact that 591 00:27:43,480 --> 00:27:46,320 Speaker 1: my sister chose Ben over me, That she slept with 592 00:27:46,359 --> 00:27:49,359 Speaker 1: Ben knowing he and I were in a long term, 593 00:27:49,400 --> 00:27:53,120 Speaker 1: committed relationship, and continues to be with him, knowing how 594 00:27:53,280 --> 00:27:56,360 Speaker 1: much it hurts me. Now, no one in my immediate 595 00:27:56,400 --> 00:27:59,280 Speaker 1: family is talking to me, and I'm getting messages from 596 00:27:59,320 --> 00:28:02,479 Speaker 1: aunts and uncle and cousins all telling me I am 597 00:28:02,480 --> 00:28:04,560 Speaker 1: an a hole and a selfish bish. 598 00:28:04,680 --> 00:28:05,879 Speaker 2: That's so rough, dude. 599 00:28:06,240 --> 00:28:08,439 Speaker 4: She does not deserve that at all, right, like i'd like, 600 00:28:08,480 --> 00:28:12,560 Speaker 4: she does not deserve that at all. And I think 601 00:28:13,359 --> 00:28:15,439 Speaker 4: hopefully I can speak on behalf of both of us 602 00:28:15,440 --> 00:28:17,760 Speaker 4: at this point. But not the a hole. 603 00:28:18,000 --> 00:28:19,840 Speaker 2: Oh oh good lord. 604 00:28:19,960 --> 00:28:24,119 Speaker 3: No, not the a hole at all, the antithesis. 605 00:28:24,720 --> 00:28:31,200 Speaker 2: Of ale, which I think is like a nipple. I 606 00:28:31,240 --> 00:28:31,680 Speaker 2: don't know. 607 00:28:32,000 --> 00:28:33,840 Speaker 3: That was genuinely hilarious. 608 00:28:33,880 --> 00:28:37,280 Speaker 4: Don't let yourself fall into that situation. Op has done 609 00:28:37,320 --> 00:28:42,240 Speaker 4: everything right truly, but wow, what a crap crap situation. 610 00:28:42,520 --> 00:28:43,560 Speaker 3: Best of luck to Opie. 611 00:28:43,680 --> 00:28:45,880 Speaker 2: Yeah, but you know we'll make everything better. 612 00:28:46,560 --> 00:28:49,960 Speaker 4: Subscribe, scribe, subscribe right now. 613 00:28:49,800 --> 00:28:51,920 Speaker 3: Baby, smash that button and we'll see you next time. 614 00:28:52,000 --> 00:28:52,760 Speaker 2: See you next time.