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Speaker 1: Second dat up day. Dating can be very expensive. That's
Speaker 1: why you shouldn't do it. No, but if you have
Speaker 1: to date, you should find a way to do it
Speaker 1: spending as little money as possible. And that's what Joseph did.
Speaker 1: Who's on the phone for a second date up date today?
Speaker 1: His email said that he found some awesome cheap date
Speaker 1: ideas because he didn't want to spend a bunch of
Speaker 1: cash on a first date. That's great, and it sounds
Speaker 1: like it worked okay, except he's not getting a call back.
Speaker 1: What's up, Joseph, how are you? I'm good? How are
Speaker 1: you all right? Pretty good? So you came up with
Speaker 1: a bunch of cheap date ideas. Yeah, I'm kind in
Speaker 1: between jobs right now. So I'm just trying to say
Speaker 1: about money, you know, because bill still happen. I think
Speaker 1: that's fantastic. You don't need a lot of money to
Speaker 1: woo a woman at all. Well, I mean, I think
Speaker 1: it helps, but I got to it's never a bad
Speaker 1: thing necessarily. What's the name of the girl that you
Speaker 1: want to call today, Stephanie, Stephanie? And where'd you meet her? Well,
Speaker 1: I didn't delete my dating app just because I was
Speaker 1: I'm not working, and so she sent me a message
Speaker 1: and she was really pretty and like the way her
Speaker 1: hair framed her face. So I took a chance. And
Speaker 1: you like the way that hair framed her face? Yeah? Yeah,
Speaker 1: it really makes her eyes pop. She's got these pretty
Speaker 1: blue eyes. You are so cute or a hair stylist,
Speaker 1: I'm not sure. Yeah, not against hair stylist, but I'm
Speaker 1: not that. But you've noticed that her hair framed her
Speaker 1: face nightless? Is that was that your opening line? I'd
Speaker 1: go for it, man, I'm sure I brought that up. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I think it's fantastic. So I mean, what was your
Speaker 1: cheap date idea? Well, I googled like free and cheap dates,
Speaker 1: and as I read the things that came up, I
Speaker 1: decided to come by in a few of them to
Speaker 1: make it like one cool date. Okay, So I invited
Speaker 1: her to like walk around this neighborhood, right, but not
Speaker 1: like someplace that has a bunch of shops in places
Speaker 1: she might want to go and spend money, but like houses,
Speaker 1: like pretty houses and stuff. Wait, you like a residential
Speaker 1: neighborhood totally like people, I mean rich people's yards, and
Speaker 1: they're in their houses. Okay, So he walked around basically
Speaker 1: casing rich people's homes in case you ever wanted to
Speaker 1: rob them later. Yeah, you know, we would try car
Speaker 1: door handles to see if they were open and see
Speaker 1: what he said. No, I'm kidding, I'm kidding. We didn't
Speaker 1: do that. She seemed to enjoy that. I thought she
Speaker 1: was having a great time. She was smiling a lot
Speaker 1: and laughing at I could feel like she was like
Speaker 1: holding back her laughter because she didn't want to be
Speaker 1: too excited. I don't know, but we had a really
Speaker 1: good time. Wait wait, wait, so wait the date was
Speaker 1: walking around rich people's houses. No, that was just the
Speaker 1: first part, okay, because it just so happened that at
Speaker 1: the end of the neighborhood walk, we came upon this
Speaker 1: park where there were a free concert. Nice, and so
Speaker 1: we listened to these old ladies were saying. I mean,
Speaker 1: they were probably professionals at some point, but they weren't
Speaker 1: like famous or anything. They watched old people singing a park. Yeah,
Speaker 1: and it was mostly old people around or like families
Speaker 1: with some kids, and it was pretty cool and like
Speaker 1: nothing was by accident. You know, I planned all of this.
Speaker 1: I knew exactly you went to start walking through the
Speaker 1: neighborhood and when we would finish so that the concert
Speaker 1: would be starting up. And I obviously acted like I
Speaker 1: didn't know. The free dates a lot more effort and
Speaker 1: planning than when there you've just spend money and go
Speaker 1: out to eat. Yeah, I mean, I mean it was
Speaker 1: like a work of art, just as a free work
Speaker 1: of art. It sounds like a lovely date. I thought,
Speaker 1: So you guys do anything else? Or was that the
Speaker 1: whole date? No? No, Well then there was a farmer's
Speaker 1: market at the park. It's famous for having free sample Okay,
Speaker 1: so we's made the tour of the farmer's market and
Speaker 1: got like a couple of plates for appetizers, an free everything. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I mean, it couldn't have been a better free date.
Speaker 1: She couldn't ask for more. All right, Well, why do
Speaker 1: you think she's not calling you back? Then? I don't know.
Speaker 1: This is what I think it is, she said. I
Speaker 1: don't remember what she said because that wasn't but it
Speaker 1: was something that made me laugh, and I said, I
Speaker 1: love you. What wait, I thought this whole time we
Speaker 1: were harper on the free date, because that's why you
Speaker 1: thought she wasn't calling you back nothing. You dropped the elbow,
Speaker 1: But I didn't mean it like that. I was just
Speaker 1: like it just like came out of me because I
Speaker 1: was enjoying her personality and her sense of humor. O
Speaker 1: my god, what did you do? Were you backpedally like crazy? No,
Speaker 1: because it's sort of like ended the conversation. Usually it
Speaker 1: does if you're on a first date and you tell
Speaker 1: somebody you love them anything about it or she didn't
Speaker 1: like show any facial reaction, but we just kind of
Speaker 1: moved on. Oh my god. I wanted to say some thing,
Speaker 1: but I didn't want to. Also didn't like I want
Speaker 1: to offend her, like make her feel bad, like, oh,
Speaker 1: just kidding, I actually don't have affection for you, because
Speaker 1: I did, but it was what I wouldn't said, I
Speaker 1: love you? Like what else could it be? That has
Speaker 1: to be it? Right? I would hope not. But that's
Speaker 1: all I can make of. Did you ever recover from it?
Speaker 1: Or was how the how did everything end? The rest
Speaker 1: of the day was Okay, it was great up until
Speaker 1: that point. There was effort made after that, clearly, but
Speaker 1: it wasn't the same, right, okay, And you haven't heard
Speaker 1: from her since your date. We've texted a little bit,
Speaker 1: but it looks like it's not going at all, and
Speaker 1: you haven't brought up the I love you a moment
Speaker 1: at all. No, I haven't. Okay, Okay, tell her again
Speaker 1: and just tell her that you meant it, ye, double down?
Speaker 1: All right, Well we'll play a song come back and
Speaker 1: then call her and see if the fact that you
Speaker 1: said I love you on your first date is the
Speaker 1: reason you're not getting a call back. All right, thank you?
Speaker 1: All right, get your second day update right after this,
Speaker 1: looking jubil in the morning. Second if you're just joining
Speaker 1: us for today's second date update. Joseph is on the phone,
Speaker 1: and Joseph opened up his heart on his first date,
Speaker 1: told his date that he loves her, and it was
Speaker 1: just followed by silence. So the most hurt Joseph has
Speaker 1: ever felt in his life. Can he recover and get
Speaker 1: a second date? We're about to find out, Joe, you're
Speaker 1: doing all right? Can I just first just clarify maybe
Speaker 1: I wasn't clear before that, I did not mean to
Speaker 1: say I love her. Yeah, we got it. We got it.
Speaker 1: That's how love works sometimes, and loves a cold thing,
Speaker 1: you know. I meant to say, like you have a
Speaker 1: great sinse of humor, and what came out was I
Speaker 1: love you. Joseph accidentally did say I love you, maybe
Speaker 1: not like I painted the picture earlier, but he did
Speaker 1: let that out, and he thinks that's why he's not
Speaker 1: getting a callback. So we're about to call Stephanie, the
Speaker 1: girl who went on a date with, and find out
Speaker 1: if that was what did him in. I do think
Speaker 1: where you went isn't the accidental I love you, it's
Speaker 1: the never backtracking from it, because you tried to just
Speaker 1: skip over it and move on and you've never broughten
Speaker 1: it up. I was worried of putting my foot in
Speaker 1: my mouth further and digging a deeper hole. Yeah, okay,
Speaker 1: but I think now we have to tell her like,
Speaker 1: that's not what you meant, right I think? So? Yes?
Speaker 1: All right, Well I'm gonna dollar phone of it right
Speaker 1: now and see if we can figure it out. Here
Speaker 1: we go, Hello, he all right, May I speak to Stephanie? Please?
Speaker 1: This is Stephanie. Hey, Stephanie. How are you? This is
Speaker 1: Jewbil from Brook and Jewel in the Morning. Hello, Hello,
Speaker 1: Hi Stephanie, how are you? Um? What is Brooke and
Speaker 1: jew BWL. It's a radio show. It's called Brook and
Speaker 1: Jewel in the Morning. Okay, okay, And I'm calling you
Speaker 1: today because we have a listener who sent us an
Speaker 1: email asking if we could get you on the phone. What. Ye,
Speaker 1: his name is Joseph and no no, no, no no, no
Speaker 1: no no, yeah yeah yeah, yeah yeah Joseph and you
Speaker 1: guys went on a date a little while ago. Yes, yeah,
Speaker 1: so Joseph email. That's because he says that it's obvious
Speaker 1: after your date that you don't want to see him again. Yeah. Uh,
Speaker 1: it's all true. God, did you I mean, did you
Speaker 1: like Joseph? I mean maybe feel really pretty? Uh went
Speaker 1: to a little farmer's market, which was cute. Um, but
Speaker 1: that um, like pretty much out of nowhere. He was like,
Speaker 1: I love you. Yeah. He told us that that sounds
Speaker 1: like it was a super awkward moment. Yeah. I don't know,
Speaker 1: just the rest of the day it was really tense awkward.
Speaker 1: Is it because you love him too? Oh my god? No,
Speaker 1: he said he meant it like I mean, you know,
Speaker 1: you've been in that moment where you like laughing, You're like,
Speaker 1: oh my god, I love you, like you're so funny.
Speaker 1: Like that's how he meant it. At the time. I
Speaker 1: didn't really he was so upset, Like he honestly started
Speaker 1: like muttering to himself. Um, and he just it was
Speaker 1: so sad. I don't know. Wait, and like after he
Speaker 1: said I love you, he started talking to himself. He
Speaker 1: would just like, come on, Joseph, I don't know, I
Speaker 1: don't it was it was fun. But then the next
Speaker 1: day he texted me and he said that the day
Speaker 1: was really nice, which was great. Um. And then you know,
Speaker 1: he told me that he brought up that he was
Speaker 1: between jobs. Yeah, he said, he told you that actually
Speaker 1: where you guys were out. Yeah, and I didn't, you know,
Speaker 1: I didn't really mind because I know this stuff happened.
Speaker 1: But he told me that things got really tough. And
Speaker 1: then he texted me asking if he could move in
Speaker 1: what who He said, I love you on accident, but
Speaker 1: he asked you to move in on and he was
Speaker 1: serious about that. Uh. I think he thought we had
Speaker 1: some a special connection. Oh my god. I think he
Speaker 1: was like tired of couch surfing, and um, this was it.
Speaker 1: He did not tell us any of this. Great, but
Speaker 1: you can understand why I wouldn't want to go out
Speaker 1: with him, right. Did you even respond to him after
Speaker 1: he asked to move in? No, wouldn't either. That's crazy.
Speaker 1: We are so yeah, I was guessing you said no,
Speaker 1: since we're calling you for a second date. Update. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I don't think I'm a bad person. I just don't
Speaker 1: need like another roommate. Oh my god. And I now
Speaker 1: I don't even believe him when he said that he
Speaker 1: was joking when I said I love you, Now I
Speaker 1: think that he was like really serious. Oh no, he
Speaker 1: like loved my hair and he it was just a
Speaker 1: little creepy now that I think about it. Um, it
Speaker 1: was just like so into me. Did he give you
Speaker 1: a reason why he wanted to move in? Well, yeah,
Speaker 1: he was telling me about how he's like in between
Speaker 1: jobs and he's having a really hard time finding another one.
Speaker 1: But it's like if it's already, if he's already but
Speaker 1: play for so many months, like how long will he
Speaker 1: need to live with me? We can find it out
Speaker 1: right now because he's actually on the other line listening
Speaker 1: and wants to talk to you. What do you mean?
Speaker 1: I mean he's listening to this conversation and wants to
Speaker 1: talk to you, maybe about moving in again. I don't know. Well,
Speaker 1: I'm not gonna say anything different. Okay, but he is here.
Speaker 1: I think he's still listening. Joseph. Are you there? Yeah,
Speaker 1: I'm here, Joseph. You didn't tell us that you asked
Speaker 1: her to move in? Yeah? Why would not? I TechEd
Speaker 1: her like how is she doing? And she was like,
Speaker 1: oh fine, how are you? And I say, oh, looking,
Speaker 1: kind of need a place to stay for a few days.
Speaker 1: So you asked her I'm moving in And she wasn't
Speaker 1: the only person who got that text. What I mean
Speaker 1: you asked me to move in? It kind of sounds
Speaker 1: like you want to move in with me. I mean,
Speaker 1: I guess I could. I see how you could jump
Speaker 1: to that conclusion, but maybe you should have sought clarification
Speaker 1: before you did. Dude, our date even wasn't that good.
Speaker 1: I don't know. It's like I could have don't ask
Speaker 1: a girl to move in after one date. Stop saying
Speaker 1: I asked to move in? I didn't, Yeah, and you
Speaker 1: just blamed her like, well, you should have asked for clarification.
Speaker 1: I think you're the one in the wrong here, Joseph. Whatever, Look,
Speaker 1: the point is I didn't want to move in with her,
Speaker 1: and I found a place to stay with somebody else
Speaker 1: that I used to date, and I stopped on the
Speaker 1: couch and we didn't have sex. And why are you
Speaker 1: explaining all that one bad date? Yeah? Why are you
Speaker 1: talking about other girlfriends right now? I mean, I just
Speaker 1: don't know understand why you're making such a big deal
Speaker 1: about just putting feelers out to see if maybe I
Speaker 1: could crash there for a few days. Maybe because you'd
Speaker 1: gone on one date with her and it didn't even
Speaker 1: go that well. I don't really know her. We didn't
Speaker 1: go well, it went great. She said she had a
Speaker 1: good time. I had a really good time. Everybody had
Speaker 1: a good time. So I understand. Yeah, So why wouldn't
Speaker 1: you be living in together? Yeah? Yeah, because if you
Speaker 1: already told me that you loved me, and then the
Speaker 1: next day you asked to move in, it's just too
Speaker 1: weird for me. But it's just two times when I
Speaker 1: meant one thing and you took it as meaning something else.
Speaker 1: What did you mean if you didn't mean I love you?
Speaker 1: I mean, like I love you like I love the
Speaker 1: way you just told that joke that was funny and
Speaker 1: match my sense of humor. And then you were quiet
Speaker 1: for like half an hour after that. I got I
Speaker 1: got nervous. I knew I had said somebody well, I
Speaker 1: knew that. I confused, and and then I got I
Speaker 1: was okay. I don't know. Wait, Joseph, are you even
Speaker 1: going out with people to like date them or are
Speaker 1: you just looking for random places to stay? This this
Speaker 1: was not that it didn't date her, just because I
Speaker 1: wanted someplace to stay. And yes, like I've been in
Speaker 1: the situation before, so I have places that I can stay,
Speaker 1: Like it's not a big deal. I'm just waiting for
Speaker 1: the right job so that has the flexibility so I
Speaker 1: can do the music and whatever. I don't know, Just
Speaker 1: the more I think about it, like you put so
Speaker 1: much effort into that date and then you said I
Speaker 1: love you and then you asked me to move in,
Speaker 1: it just doesn't seem like you care about me so
Speaker 1: much as you care about my couch. I crash, all right,
Speaker 1: So I understand how you could from all that make
Speaker 1: that make that conclusion. And I just think that if
Speaker 1: you still want to consider that we could go out
Speaker 1: again and it might not be a bad thing for
Speaker 1: you if I stayed with you. I cook a clean
Speaker 1: I'm a person to have a round and h you know,
Speaker 1: I'm not like I'm not dead weight. Well, you just
Speaker 1: told me you're staying with an ex girlfriend. Are you
Speaker 1: seriously asking me to move in again? First, she's not
Speaker 1: my eth girlfriend. We just dated once and then that's it.
Speaker 1: Oh my god, you called her your girlfriend. I don't,
Speaker 1: and I'm not asking to move in with you. I'm
Speaker 1: saying that it might be beneficial to you if Oh
Speaker 1: my god, what do you think, Stephanie, would you like
Speaker 1: to go on a second date with Joseph? We will
Speaker 1: pay for it. New roommate. He does the dishes. I
Speaker 1: do you do laundry? Joseph? Yeah, and I know how
Speaker 1: to separate everything. I will say a roommate is hard
Speaker 1: to come by, one that pulls their own weight. What
Speaker 1: do you think, Stephanie, Will you go off on a
Speaker 1: second date with Joseph? Will pay for it? No, I've
Speaker 1: got roommates. No, thank you. Yeah, that is not shocking.
Speaker 1: Your roommates want to go on a date. I hope
Speaker 1: you're joking right now. I don't think he is. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I don't feel so forget about it. It It wasn't gonna
Speaker 1: work anyway, Sorry, Bark, wasn't there got a couch to
Speaker 1: sleep on anyway. I'm sorry, Joseph. No second date for you,
Speaker 1: no place to crash. That's okay, I'll be fine. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I'm sure. God loves me and God loves you too.
Speaker 1: The person listening that's the most sad to this is
Speaker 1: the person he's living with currently. She thought, he's fine,
Speaker 1: we're gonna leave broken jewel in the morning, talking