1 00:00:00,160 --> 00:00:03,279 Speaker 1: I'm rather Dablukiah, and on my podcast A Really Good Cry, 2 00:00:03,440 --> 00:00:07,160 Speaker 1: we embrace the messy and the beautiful, providing a space 3 00:00:07,240 --> 00:00:10,760 Speaker 1: for celebrate vulnerability and allow you to tune in to learn, 4 00:00:11,000 --> 00:00:15,040 Speaker 1: connect and find comfort together. Hey everyone, and welcome back 5 00:00:15,040 --> 00:00:18,160 Speaker 1: to this week's episode of A Really Good Cry. I 6 00:00:18,200 --> 00:00:20,960 Speaker 1: hope that you have had such a wonderful, wonderful week 7 00:00:21,079 --> 00:00:25,200 Speaker 1: so far. It has been absolutely glorious outside where I am. 8 00:00:25,280 --> 00:00:27,720 Speaker 1: The sun has been shining, and it makes such a 9 00:00:27,760 --> 00:00:30,360 Speaker 1: big difference to your me, doesn't it. This spring, summer 10 00:00:30,480 --> 00:00:33,440 Speaker 1: season or the in between that's happening right now has 11 00:00:33,479 --> 00:00:35,960 Speaker 1: been pretty magical. So I hope you guys are enjoying 12 00:00:36,000 --> 00:00:38,239 Speaker 1: it too, wherever you are in the world. But to 13 00:00:38,280 --> 00:00:40,680 Speaker 1: be honest, whatever weather it is, I generally tend to 14 00:00:40,720 --> 00:00:43,599 Speaker 1: love it. Rain, sunshine, bit of snow, you know, all 15 00:00:43,600 --> 00:00:45,880 Speaker 1: of it. I really appreciate it. Now. I don't know 16 00:00:45,920 --> 00:00:49,040 Speaker 1: whether you guys have seen this romanticizing your life TikTok trend. 17 00:00:49,600 --> 00:00:53,599 Speaker 1: It's basically people doing everyday little things but making them 18 00:00:53,680 --> 00:00:56,560 Speaker 1: esthetically pleasing or showing the moments of joy that they 19 00:00:56,600 --> 00:00:59,600 Speaker 1: feel in them. And every single time I see them 20 00:00:59,640 --> 00:01:02,200 Speaker 1: pop up, it's such a good reminder to me that 21 00:01:02,320 --> 00:01:05,160 Speaker 1: everyday life is actually so special, but sometimes just get 22 00:01:05,200 --> 00:01:07,360 Speaker 1: so used to them and they feel mundane, and they 23 00:01:07,360 --> 00:01:12,040 Speaker 1: feel boring, and they feel so monotonous. And so I 24 00:01:12,080 --> 00:01:15,600 Speaker 1: love the idea of romanticizing the everyday life that we live, 25 00:01:15,760 --> 00:01:19,160 Speaker 1: because why would we want to go through majority of 26 00:01:19,200 --> 00:01:23,240 Speaker 1: our life feeling bored or fed up or not excited 27 00:01:23,319 --> 00:01:25,720 Speaker 1: by the life that we're living. And so I thought 28 00:01:25,720 --> 00:01:28,600 Speaker 1: it's a really good reminder to us to do that, 29 00:01:28,840 --> 00:01:31,680 Speaker 1: to really take the moments in life that we take 30 00:01:31,720 --> 00:01:35,640 Speaker 1: for granted that we don't even notice, and start noticing them, 31 00:01:35,880 --> 00:01:40,320 Speaker 1: start appreciating them, start valuing them, start seeing them in 32 00:01:40,360 --> 00:01:42,880 Speaker 1: a completely different way, and changing our perspective of it, 33 00:01:42,920 --> 00:01:46,920 Speaker 1: because not for anybody else, but simply because that's what 34 00:01:46,959 --> 00:01:49,080 Speaker 1: you deserve. That's the life that you deserve to have, 35 00:01:49,120 --> 00:01:51,760 Speaker 1: a life that you are excited by, a life that 36 00:01:51,800 --> 00:01:55,279 Speaker 1: you enjoy. And sometimes people think that means changing your life, 37 00:01:55,280 --> 00:02:00,760 Speaker 1: but actually I think it's more about the noticing and 38 00:02:01,320 --> 00:02:05,080 Speaker 1: more about appreciating what already is. And I think there 39 00:02:05,120 --> 00:02:07,960 Speaker 1: is a way to do that with everything if you 40 00:02:08,080 --> 00:02:11,440 Speaker 1: change your mindset and allow for it. I actually got 41 00:02:11,480 --> 00:02:14,080 Speaker 1: a text from a friend this morning that inspired the 42 00:02:14,080 --> 00:02:17,000 Speaker 1: topic of this episode. She said, I don't know how 43 00:02:17,040 --> 00:02:19,160 Speaker 1: to be bored, Like, I really don't know what people 44 00:02:19,200 --> 00:02:22,320 Speaker 1: do on a Sunday. Life feels too still, especially when 45 00:02:22,360 --> 00:02:24,680 Speaker 1: I'm on my own. And you know what, I recently 46 00:02:24,720 --> 00:02:27,239 Speaker 1: read this in Ryan Holiday's book this week called The 47 00:02:27,320 --> 00:02:30,920 Speaker 1: Daily Stoic. And by the way, this book is so incredible. 48 00:02:31,000 --> 00:02:34,280 Speaker 1: It has inspired so many meaningful conversations with other people, 49 00:02:34,639 --> 00:02:39,440 Speaker 1: but also this journey of introspection in my own mind, 50 00:02:40,080 --> 00:02:43,200 Speaker 1: these different reflections I've been having and the thoughts that 51 00:02:43,240 --> 00:02:46,200 Speaker 1: I've been having, And honestly, it is such a great 52 00:02:46,240 --> 00:02:48,359 Speaker 1: thought provoker, and that's what I would define it as. 53 00:02:48,400 --> 00:02:52,120 Speaker 1: It's got all these little moments and little paragraphs. You 54 00:02:52,120 --> 00:02:53,840 Speaker 1: only have to read a page a day, but in 55 00:02:53,840 --> 00:02:57,440 Speaker 1: that one page I have gained so much every single day, 56 00:02:57,800 --> 00:03:00,520 Speaker 1: and so obviously definitely go and check it out and 57 00:03:00,560 --> 00:03:02,360 Speaker 1: give it a read. Is actually a book that I 58 00:03:02,440 --> 00:03:04,480 Speaker 1: have gifted out to a lot of people since I've 59 00:03:04,480 --> 00:03:06,920 Speaker 1: been reading it, and they really appreciated it. But this 60 00:03:07,080 --> 00:03:10,040 Speaker 1: week I read a page that said, see the world 61 00:03:10,360 --> 00:03:13,680 Speaker 1: like a poet and an artist. It takes an artist 62 00:03:13,800 --> 00:03:16,000 Speaker 1: I to see that the end of life is not 63 00:03:16,080 --> 00:03:19,480 Speaker 1: unlike a ripe fruit falling from its tree. It takes 64 00:03:19,520 --> 00:03:22,679 Speaker 1: a poet to notice the way baking bread splits in places, 65 00:03:23,160 --> 00:03:26,880 Speaker 1: and those cracks, while not intended, is the baker's art 66 00:03:26,919 --> 00:03:30,600 Speaker 1: that catches our eye and serves to stir our appetite 67 00:03:30,960 --> 00:03:34,360 Speaker 1: and find a metaphor in them. There is clarity and 68 00:03:34,520 --> 00:03:37,920 Speaker 1: joy in seeing what others can't see, in finding grace 69 00:03:38,000 --> 00:03:42,200 Speaker 1: and harmony in places others overlook. Isn't that far better 70 00:03:42,320 --> 00:03:46,480 Speaker 1: than seeing the world as some dark place. I loved 71 00:03:47,000 --> 00:03:50,720 Speaker 1: that paragraph so much. What it really reiterated to me 72 00:03:51,040 --> 00:03:53,920 Speaker 1: is that we get to choose how we see things. 73 00:03:54,560 --> 00:03:57,440 Speaker 1: And you know, I mentioned the seasons and the weather before. 74 00:03:58,280 --> 00:04:00,920 Speaker 1: I used to despise and I was like, oh, I 75 00:04:00,920 --> 00:04:03,920 Speaker 1: get all wet, and I don't like feeling damp. And 76 00:04:04,240 --> 00:04:07,800 Speaker 1: you know, I really used to demonize the different weathers. 77 00:04:07,800 --> 00:04:10,280 Speaker 1: When it wasn't sunny or it wasn't crisp outside, I 78 00:04:10,280 --> 00:04:14,600 Speaker 1: would feel so disappointed. But then when I chose to 79 00:04:14,720 --> 00:04:17,800 Speaker 1: notice those rain drops, and when I felt rain on 80 00:04:17,839 --> 00:04:20,480 Speaker 1: a really hot day and it was cooling on my skin, 81 00:04:20,640 --> 00:04:23,840 Speaker 1: and when I felt the snow under my feet after 82 00:04:23,920 --> 00:04:26,560 Speaker 1: not experiencing it for a really long time, or when 83 00:04:26,600 --> 00:04:28,920 Speaker 1: you see the mist in the air on a foggy day, 84 00:04:29,600 --> 00:04:31,839 Speaker 1: you know, when you start seeing these things differently, I 85 00:04:31,920 --> 00:04:36,080 Speaker 1: was like, wow, this is so beautiful actually, and how 86 00:04:36,120 --> 00:04:38,920 Speaker 1: magical that we get to experience all these different seasons, 87 00:04:38,960 --> 00:04:41,520 Speaker 1: not just one, because I've been to places where they 88 00:04:41,520 --> 00:04:44,880 Speaker 1: really don't experience seasons and it's quite sad actually, And 89 00:04:44,960 --> 00:04:47,720 Speaker 1: so it was such a great reminder to me that 90 00:04:48,120 --> 00:04:51,360 Speaker 1: we had the opportunity to see the world as a poet, 91 00:04:51,440 --> 00:04:55,359 Speaker 1: to see the world like an artist, and experience it 92 00:04:55,400 --> 00:04:58,919 Speaker 1: in that way every single day, no matter what it 93 00:04:59,080 --> 00:05:02,120 Speaker 1: is in our life, and that feels really empowering. And 94 00:05:02,200 --> 00:05:05,440 Speaker 1: it makes me think that we can experience our normal, 95 00:05:05,520 --> 00:05:07,960 Speaker 1: day to day lives in different ways every single day, 96 00:05:08,000 --> 00:05:09,919 Speaker 1: and how fun would that be to be able to 97 00:05:09,920 --> 00:05:13,240 Speaker 1: experience the same day but differently constantly. And I think 98 00:05:13,320 --> 00:05:16,520 Speaker 1: romanticizing your life is a conscious choice to see beauty 99 00:05:16,680 --> 00:05:19,599 Speaker 1: and meaning in the every day, not just waiting for 100 00:05:19,640 --> 00:05:22,719 Speaker 1: those big moments, but really finding the joy and magic 101 00:05:22,760 --> 00:05:25,520 Speaker 1: in the mundane daily things that you do. And you know, 102 00:05:25,520 --> 00:05:28,960 Speaker 1: if you only wait for the bigger things, the huge gestures, 103 00:05:29,080 --> 00:05:32,679 Speaker 1: or the big moments to feel those sparks, they seriously 104 00:05:32,720 --> 00:05:35,160 Speaker 1: will be few and far between, and they're only then 105 00:05:35,240 --> 00:05:38,600 Speaker 1: save for special occasions. But why should we only feel 106 00:05:38,600 --> 00:05:41,560 Speaker 1: sparks in those moments? If we could feel that every 107 00:05:41,600 --> 00:05:44,320 Speaker 1: single day, why would we choose to only feel it 108 00:05:44,360 --> 00:05:46,479 Speaker 1: in those moments when we could feel it every single day. 109 00:05:46,960 --> 00:05:49,480 Speaker 1: What if you could just reframe your vision and shift 110 00:05:49,520 --> 00:05:53,040 Speaker 1: from being on autopilot daily to being in awe and 111 00:05:53,160 --> 00:05:56,960 Speaker 1: appreciation every single day for the things that we actually 112 00:05:57,040 --> 00:06:00,640 Speaker 1: experience all the time. That means we get to feel 113 00:06:00,640 --> 00:06:04,039 Speaker 1: those sparks more often. There is this beautiful Sanscrit word 114 00:06:04,120 --> 00:06:08,920 Speaker 1: called rittha. It's the idea of natural order, or daily rhythm. 115 00:06:09,200 --> 00:06:13,279 Speaker 1: The sun rises, the sunsets, the leaves fall, the leaves grow. 116 00:06:13,960 --> 00:06:17,280 Speaker 1: You breathe in, you breathe out. And just as nature 117 00:06:17,400 --> 00:06:20,680 Speaker 1: requires a daily rhythm to keep order, we do too, 118 00:06:21,560 --> 00:06:25,120 Speaker 1: the daily grind of waking up, brushing our teeth, cooking, 119 00:06:25,279 --> 00:06:29,000 Speaker 1: folding clothes, getting your kids ready for school, whatever it is, 120 00:06:29,120 --> 00:06:32,480 Speaker 1: it is your individual rhythm, It is your ritual. And 121 00:06:32,520 --> 00:06:35,920 Speaker 1: so the this word ritual comes from this Sanskrit word rittha. 122 00:06:36,960 --> 00:06:42,039 Speaker 1: And so is it really boring or is it just familiar, predictable, safe, peaceful? 123 00:06:42,839 --> 00:06:46,160 Speaker 1: So sometimes I think we really mistake what boring actually means, 124 00:06:46,279 --> 00:06:48,680 Speaker 1: because sometimes I think what we mean by boring are 125 00:06:48,680 --> 00:06:52,240 Speaker 1: those other words like familiar, like predictable, like safe, like peaceful, 126 00:06:52,839 --> 00:06:55,840 Speaker 1: and what even is the word boring? Boring isn't a 127 00:06:55,839 --> 00:06:59,520 Speaker 1: fact or a defined action. It is purely a perception. 128 00:07:00,080 --> 00:07:02,400 Speaker 1: It is what we decide to label a moment when 129 00:07:02,440 --> 00:07:06,160 Speaker 1: it doesn't give us stimulation or novelty or immediate reward. 130 00:07:06,640 --> 00:07:08,920 Speaker 1: And the thing is, if you end up building your 131 00:07:08,960 --> 00:07:12,880 Speaker 1: tolerance of stimulation, when you end up stimulating yourself constantly, 132 00:07:12,960 --> 00:07:16,720 Speaker 1: you constantly are scrolling, You're constantly seeking excitement, You're constantly 133 00:07:17,040 --> 00:07:20,480 Speaker 1: on these roller coasters of unpredictability in your life, and 134 00:07:20,480 --> 00:07:23,680 Speaker 1: you're just always on this high and you're seeking the 135 00:07:23,680 --> 00:07:25,560 Speaker 1: next thing and the next thing and the next thing. 136 00:07:26,120 --> 00:07:28,800 Speaker 1: The problem is, the more you do that, the more 137 00:07:28,920 --> 00:07:31,720 Speaker 1: likely you are to receive or perceive the moments in 138 00:07:31,800 --> 00:07:36,840 Speaker 1: between of repetition or stillness as boredom, because you're creating 139 00:07:36,960 --> 00:07:41,880 Speaker 1: this unrealistic bar for stimulation that is actually not meant 140 00:07:41,920 --> 00:07:44,920 Speaker 1: to be how our life is lived. Those moments in 141 00:07:44,960 --> 00:07:47,920 Speaker 1: between the excitement, the silence in between the songs and 142 00:07:48,040 --> 00:07:51,240 Speaker 1: you're playing them in the car the repetitive days between 143 00:07:51,280 --> 00:07:55,120 Speaker 1: the weekends essentially feel like a drag. And if you 144 00:07:55,120 --> 00:07:58,360 Speaker 1: think about it, most people survive their week to live 145 00:07:58,440 --> 00:08:01,760 Speaker 1: for the weekend. And I get that, you know, you 146 00:08:01,800 --> 00:08:04,000 Speaker 1: get your time off, you get a moment to yourself. 147 00:08:04,760 --> 00:08:07,720 Speaker 1: But that means you are literally enjoying two out of 148 00:08:07,800 --> 00:08:09,960 Speaker 1: seven of your days, two out of seven days of 149 00:08:09,960 --> 00:08:13,080 Speaker 1: the week. That's all you are enjoying, which is twenty 150 00:08:13,160 --> 00:08:16,680 Speaker 1: seven percent of your whole entire life. And that seems 151 00:08:17,000 --> 00:08:20,000 Speaker 1: really really sad to only enjoy twenty seven percent of 152 00:08:20,040 --> 00:08:23,520 Speaker 1: our life. No, that cannot be. That is not what 153 00:08:23,560 --> 00:08:25,880 Speaker 1: life is supposed to be like. And so when you 154 00:08:25,880 --> 00:08:27,840 Speaker 1: think about it, what is the opposite of a life 155 00:08:27,840 --> 00:08:32,040 Speaker 1: without patterns, without these rhythms, it would be chaos, the 156 00:08:32,080 --> 00:08:36,240 Speaker 1: opposite of stability, the opposite of patterns, the opposite of rhythms, 157 00:08:36,640 --> 00:08:40,760 Speaker 1: the opposite of ritual is actually chaos. The thing is, 158 00:08:40,800 --> 00:08:43,040 Speaker 1: when you get used to this feeling of chaos, you 159 00:08:43,080 --> 00:08:45,960 Speaker 1: also get used to this feeling which a company is chaos, 160 00:08:46,080 --> 00:08:49,200 Speaker 1: which is uncertainty or a state of anxiety. So we 161 00:08:49,240 --> 00:08:52,360 Speaker 1: don't really want the opposite of boredom. We're really just 162 00:08:52,440 --> 00:08:55,880 Speaker 1: seeking but unsure what it is. We are seeking. I 163 00:08:55,920 --> 00:08:58,600 Speaker 1: think sometimes we say bored as an easy word to 164 00:08:58,679 --> 00:09:00,880 Speaker 1: use to describe this feeling that we're not used to, 165 00:09:02,000 --> 00:09:05,000 Speaker 1: and that's where I think emotional vocabulary and emotional intelligence 166 00:09:05,120 --> 00:09:08,520 Speaker 1: really comes into play and is so important knowing how 167 00:09:08,559 --> 00:09:11,360 Speaker 1: to identify what we are feeling and the words to 168 00:09:11,400 --> 00:09:17,360 Speaker 1: match that. So bored could be uninspired, discontent, uninterested, sad 169 00:09:17,400 --> 00:09:21,440 Speaker 1: could be disappointed, disheartened, or lonely. You know, exploring your 170 00:09:21,480 --> 00:09:24,960 Speaker 1: feelings and naming them can help you really identify what 171 00:09:25,120 --> 00:09:27,920 Speaker 1: you actually want to do in that moment, or the 172 00:09:27,960 --> 00:09:31,280 Speaker 1: action that is required of you becomes much clearer. I 173 00:09:31,320 --> 00:09:34,920 Speaker 1: personally think that this feeling of boredom happens when our 174 00:09:34,960 --> 00:09:38,320 Speaker 1: brain starts to crave novelty or change or a challenge, 175 00:09:38,679 --> 00:09:41,600 Speaker 1: or our attention is not fully engaged. So really we 176 00:09:41,640 --> 00:09:44,120 Speaker 1: could also call that lack of presence, or that we 177 00:09:44,160 --> 00:09:47,840 Speaker 1: are disconnected from the meaning in the moment. And so 178 00:09:48,000 --> 00:09:51,840 Speaker 1: nothing is innately labeled boring. Nothing is born as boring 179 00:09:52,400 --> 00:09:55,160 Speaker 1: or created as boring. It is purely in our own 180 00:09:55,280 --> 00:09:58,040 Speaker 1: judgment of something that makes it that. So if it's 181 00:09:58,040 --> 00:10:01,440 Speaker 1: in our own judgment that makes something, how do we 182 00:10:01,760 --> 00:10:05,000 Speaker 1: reframe that? How do we rewrite that story. It is 183 00:10:05,080 --> 00:10:08,079 Speaker 1: what you think it is. So what if your moments 184 00:10:08,080 --> 00:10:10,840 Speaker 1: of boredom you can change into moments of peace or 185 00:10:10,840 --> 00:10:14,360 Speaker 1: moments of comfort, or moments of space or moments of time, 186 00:10:14,520 --> 00:10:19,319 Speaker 1: moments of creation or reflection or calm or just being. 187 00:10:20,000 --> 00:10:22,320 Speaker 1: What if you were able to change that narrative and 188 00:10:22,360 --> 00:10:26,360 Speaker 1: start speaking those words instead of bored. Let's just take 189 00:10:26,400 --> 00:10:29,640 Speaker 1: that word out of our vocabulary, Like, if you take 190 00:10:29,679 --> 00:10:32,120 Speaker 1: anything away from this, if you are someone who feels 191 00:10:32,120 --> 00:10:35,839 Speaker 1: bored regularly, let's just take that vocabulary, that word out 192 00:10:35,880 --> 00:10:39,440 Speaker 1: of our language, and try and use these other words 193 00:10:39,679 --> 00:10:42,320 Speaker 1: to help us differentiate between the two and what we 194 00:10:42,360 --> 00:10:45,280 Speaker 1: are really feeling. I read a quote that said, very 195 00:10:45,320 --> 00:10:47,720 Speaker 1: little is needed to make a happy life. It is 196 00:10:47,800 --> 00:10:51,400 Speaker 1: all in your way of thinking, And honestly, isn't that true. 197 00:10:51,960 --> 00:10:55,000 Speaker 1: I go into this really terrible habit of rushing through everything, 198 00:10:55,160 --> 00:10:59,000 Speaker 1: whether it was meals or mornings, even moments of stillness. 199 00:10:59,000 --> 00:11:00,880 Speaker 1: I was thinking about the next thing and the next 200 00:11:00,920 --> 00:11:03,440 Speaker 1: thing and the next thing I had to do. But 201 00:11:03,720 --> 00:11:07,559 Speaker 1: something really shifted when I started slowing down and trying 202 00:11:07,600 --> 00:11:10,559 Speaker 1: to treat the smallest parts of my day like they mattered, 203 00:11:11,400 --> 00:11:14,400 Speaker 1: Because I realized I was feeling really dissatisfied, and I 204 00:11:14,440 --> 00:11:17,160 Speaker 1: was thinking, I was doing all these things. I'm accomplishing 205 00:11:17,240 --> 00:11:20,079 Speaker 1: quite a lot during the day. I am so busy, busy, busy, 206 00:11:20,080 --> 00:11:23,680 Speaker 1: busy all the time. So why am I feeling so dissatisfied? 207 00:11:23,840 --> 00:11:27,359 Speaker 1: And I realized there was actually this lack of appreciation 208 00:11:27,679 --> 00:11:30,079 Speaker 1: for the day that I had had, and a lack 209 00:11:30,120 --> 00:11:33,480 Speaker 1: of presence and finding meaning in those moments, and so 210 00:11:33,520 --> 00:11:37,320 Speaker 1: it literally changed everything. And so from my experience after 211 00:11:37,360 --> 00:11:41,240 Speaker 1: making this mindset shift, I realized boredom does not exist 212 00:11:41,240 --> 00:11:43,760 Speaker 1: when you are forever looking at the world with the 213 00:11:43,840 --> 00:11:48,040 Speaker 1: desire and intention to appreciate and notice, and so much 214 00:11:48,040 --> 00:11:52,280 Speaker 1: of joy and lack of boredom is simply the practice 215 00:11:52,320 --> 00:11:56,440 Speaker 1: of noticing what you don't notice, you cannot appreciate. And so, 216 00:11:56,720 --> 00:12:00,120 Speaker 1: whether it's seeing the sun or feeling on my skin, 217 00:11:59,840 --> 00:12:03,840 Speaker 1: thank you so much, Sunshine for giving us and the 218 00:12:03,880 --> 00:12:09,199 Speaker 1: plants and the world around me life. You are so magnificent, Sunshine. 219 00:12:10,280 --> 00:12:12,320 Speaker 1: Or when I see someone on the street and give 220 00:12:12,320 --> 00:12:14,040 Speaker 1: them a big smile and they smile back at me, 221 00:12:14,120 --> 00:12:17,160 Speaker 1: I think, Wow, how lovely was that person? And it 222 00:12:17,200 --> 00:12:20,480 Speaker 1: completely changes my mood. Or when I see a flower 223 00:12:20,480 --> 00:12:24,040 Speaker 1: instead of thinking, Ah, that's nice. I think, Oh, my goodness, 224 00:12:24,080 --> 00:12:27,439 Speaker 1: how intricate and incredible Mother nature is to have all 225 00:12:27,480 --> 00:12:31,000 Speaker 1: these different species and all these different flowers, and all 226 00:12:31,040 --> 00:12:34,600 Speaker 1: the different varieties of this one thing, this one thing 227 00:12:34,640 --> 00:12:36,920 Speaker 1: we've called flowers. Look at all the differences there are 228 00:12:36,960 --> 00:12:39,559 Speaker 1: in each one of them. And actually, most of the 229 00:12:39,600 --> 00:12:41,560 Speaker 1: time I can't even contain it in my mind because 230 00:12:41,559 --> 00:12:44,120 Speaker 1: I'm genuinely in such awe, and I say out loud 231 00:12:44,480 --> 00:12:47,160 Speaker 1: with so much excitement. I mean, you might pass a 232 00:12:47,280 --> 00:12:50,120 Speaker 1: hundred flowers every single day, but do you really see them? 233 00:12:50,360 --> 00:12:52,720 Speaker 1: You might do three loads of washing a week, but 234 00:12:52,840 --> 00:12:56,520 Speaker 1: how does the fresh laundry smell? You can add essential oils, 235 00:12:56,559 --> 00:12:58,440 Speaker 1: and honestly, it'll be such a good treat. I do 236 00:12:58,559 --> 00:13:01,160 Speaker 1: that in every moment. I can get just spray on 237 00:13:01,200 --> 00:13:03,880 Speaker 1: all those essential oils, and it changes the way that 238 00:13:03,920 --> 00:13:06,640 Speaker 1: I even experienced. That you might see the same people 239 00:13:06,800 --> 00:13:09,800 Speaker 1: every day and have the same conversations over and over again, 240 00:13:10,280 --> 00:13:13,400 Speaker 1: but have you tried asking a new question? The fact 241 00:13:13,480 --> 00:13:18,480 Speaker 1: is the world is magnificent. The world is a place 242 00:13:18,520 --> 00:13:22,959 Speaker 1: where we can forever, explore, forever experience without this feeling 243 00:13:23,000 --> 00:13:27,720 Speaker 1: of boredom. But everything can feel small and insignificant until 244 00:13:27,800 --> 00:13:31,800 Speaker 1: you choose to expand them through your attention, your curiosity, 245 00:13:32,080 --> 00:13:36,600 Speaker 1: and finding meaning in those moments. If I think about it, 246 00:13:36,760 --> 00:13:39,120 Speaker 1: when I was writing this, I honestly couldn't remember the 247 00:13:39,200 --> 00:13:41,880 Speaker 1: last time I thought, oh, I am so bored. I 248 00:13:41,920 --> 00:13:44,079 Speaker 1: don't even think whether that thoughts come into my mind, 249 00:13:44,640 --> 00:13:47,320 Speaker 1: maybe when I was younger, or actually I do remember 250 00:13:47,320 --> 00:13:49,360 Speaker 1: thinking I was bored when I first moved to New 251 00:13:49,440 --> 00:13:52,680 Speaker 1: York City, because I was constantly thinking, now, what do 252 00:13:52,760 --> 00:13:57,440 Speaker 1: I do? Because I had no purpose, no motivation, and 253 00:13:57,520 --> 00:14:00,800 Speaker 1: no reason for even being there. For the fact that 254 00:14:00,960 --> 00:14:03,040 Speaker 1: obviously Jay was there for his work, but I didn't 255 00:14:03,080 --> 00:14:05,480 Speaker 1: feel like I had my purpose there. But really what 256 00:14:05,520 --> 00:14:07,480 Speaker 1: I was feeling was lost and in need of direction 257 00:14:08,280 --> 00:14:10,360 Speaker 1: and the feeling of being in use. And so I 258 00:14:10,440 --> 00:14:13,520 Speaker 1: just started to study and explore and try different things 259 00:14:13,520 --> 00:14:16,480 Speaker 1: out and find things that actually fueled me instead of 260 00:14:16,480 --> 00:14:19,600 Speaker 1: sitting at home and just watching movie after movie or 261 00:14:19,680 --> 00:14:21,840 Speaker 1: show after show, which by the way, in itself, is 262 00:14:21,920 --> 00:14:25,840 Speaker 1: so boring, even if it feels like momentary upliftment. And so, 263 00:14:25,880 --> 00:14:28,360 Speaker 1: if I really think about what has saved me from 264 00:14:28,400 --> 00:14:33,880 Speaker 1: this idea of boredom, it has to be curiosity and exploration. 265 00:14:34,760 --> 00:14:38,080 Speaker 1: If you're always asking, you're always learning, and if you're 266 00:14:38,120 --> 00:14:41,880 Speaker 1: always choosing to notice, then you are constantly in awe 267 00:14:42,160 --> 00:14:44,680 Speaker 1: of the world. And so if I really think about 268 00:14:44,720 --> 00:14:47,240 Speaker 1: what has saved me from this idea of boredom, it 269 00:14:47,280 --> 00:14:51,360 Speaker 1: has to be curiosity and exploration. If you're asking questions, 270 00:14:51,360 --> 00:14:54,200 Speaker 1: you're always learning, and if you're always choosing to notice, 271 00:14:54,360 --> 00:14:56,680 Speaker 1: then you're in constant awe of the world around you. 272 00:14:57,080 --> 00:14:58,960 Speaker 1: And then there's no space left for this dull feeling 273 00:14:58,960 --> 00:15:02,680 Speaker 1: of boredom because to some degree, even the mundane things 274 00:15:02,680 --> 00:15:06,000 Speaker 1: become exciting and stimulating to the mind. And you know, 275 00:15:06,120 --> 00:15:09,160 Speaker 1: those days, those days that feel the same day in 276 00:15:09,520 --> 00:15:13,200 Speaker 1: day out, actually give me a chance to feel stability. 277 00:15:13,680 --> 00:15:17,040 Speaker 1: Stability leads to the feeling of safety. In safety, I 278 00:15:17,040 --> 00:15:20,040 Speaker 1: have this ability to soften, and when I soften, I 279 00:15:20,080 --> 00:15:23,440 Speaker 1: have this ability to tap into my creativity, whether it's 280 00:15:23,520 --> 00:15:26,920 Speaker 1: daydreaming in the shower, because you definitely aren't daydreaming in 281 00:15:26,960 --> 00:15:29,720 Speaker 1: the shower when your mind is chaotic. And I get 282 00:15:29,760 --> 00:15:33,200 Speaker 1: so much clarity in those days because there's no loud distractions. 283 00:15:33,600 --> 00:15:36,320 Speaker 1: There's a regulation, which is what the nervous system needs 284 00:15:36,360 --> 00:15:39,400 Speaker 1: to thrive, and so boredom isn't actually the absence of 285 00:15:39,440 --> 00:15:43,160 Speaker 1: things to do. It's the absence of connection to what 286 00:15:43,280 --> 00:15:46,520 Speaker 1: you're doing, because you can be extremely busy and still 287 00:15:46,560 --> 00:15:50,240 Speaker 1: feel this dullness of boredom deep down. So it's really 288 00:15:50,280 --> 00:15:54,360 Speaker 1: not about many actions, it's about the connection to those actions. 289 00:15:55,040 --> 00:15:57,240 Speaker 1: My life has obviously changed a lot since I was 290 00:15:57,280 --> 00:15:59,280 Speaker 1: a child, since I was even a teenager, since I 291 00:15:59,320 --> 00:16:01,960 Speaker 1: was in my twenties. My love is changed drastically in 292 00:16:02,000 --> 00:16:05,080 Speaker 1: ways that I wasn't even expecting it to. But when 293 00:16:05,080 --> 00:16:08,280 Speaker 1: I think about my day to day life, I have 294 00:16:08,480 --> 00:16:12,320 Speaker 1: such a regular schedule. I do do same thing, if 295 00:16:12,360 --> 00:16:14,560 Speaker 1: not similar, every single day. I work out at the 296 00:16:14,560 --> 00:16:17,400 Speaker 1: same time, I eat at the same times, I sleep 297 00:16:17,440 --> 00:16:19,720 Speaker 1: at the same times, and most of the things in 298 00:16:19,760 --> 00:16:22,440 Speaker 1: between are quite monotonois. I write my podcast episodes, I'll 299 00:16:22,480 --> 00:16:25,920 Speaker 1: record them, I'll write my newsletter, I'll have meetings with 300 00:16:26,000 --> 00:16:28,320 Speaker 1: my team. And so I wrote this scorte by Leo 301 00:16:28,360 --> 00:16:30,200 Speaker 1: Tol's toy that said, I think that's how you say 302 00:16:30,240 --> 00:16:34,160 Speaker 1: his name. Boredom is simply the desire for desires, a 303 00:16:34,240 --> 00:16:37,440 Speaker 1: feeling of a liveness to remember we are actually alive, 304 00:16:38,000 --> 00:16:42,840 Speaker 1: and what makes us feel alive Inspiration, connection, excitement, and purpose. 305 00:16:43,560 --> 00:16:45,800 Speaker 1: But often when we feel bored, we end not filling 306 00:16:45,800 --> 00:16:48,760 Speaker 1: it with things that don't truly meet that feeling, but 307 00:16:48,880 --> 00:16:53,680 Speaker 1: cover it up, usually with overstimulation or destruction, which means 308 00:16:53,720 --> 00:16:57,600 Speaker 1: eventually that dull feeling of boredom will keep popping back 309 00:16:57,720 --> 00:17:00,480 Speaker 1: up in the moments of stillness. It's not that we 310 00:17:00,520 --> 00:17:03,840 Speaker 1: want a specific thing, we just want something to want. 311 00:17:04,080 --> 00:17:07,040 Speaker 1: And if you think about it, boredom is actually a signal. 312 00:17:07,680 --> 00:17:10,080 Speaker 1: It is a signal that we are disconnected from our 313 00:17:10,160 --> 00:17:13,719 Speaker 1: deeper purpose, that we're disconnected from our curiosity or our 314 00:17:13,760 --> 00:17:17,240 Speaker 1: inspiration in that moment, because you could choose to scroll 315 00:17:17,240 --> 00:17:19,120 Speaker 1: in that moment, but as soon as you stop, you'll 316 00:17:19,160 --> 00:17:22,240 Speaker 1: go back to that feeling, that same bored feeling, which 317 00:17:22,280 --> 00:17:24,119 Speaker 1: is a good way to know if you've actually found 318 00:17:24,119 --> 00:17:27,440 Speaker 1: the thing that solves boredom. It's like having a backache 319 00:17:27,480 --> 00:17:30,280 Speaker 1: and taking medications for indigestion. It's not going to help 320 00:17:30,320 --> 00:17:32,560 Speaker 1: the problem, is it. And so you can keep trying 321 00:17:32,560 --> 00:17:34,879 Speaker 1: to cover something up, you can keep trying to do 322 00:17:35,040 --> 00:17:38,720 Speaker 1: temporary fixes, but really, what are you needing in your 323 00:17:38,800 --> 00:17:41,399 Speaker 1: life that is causing you to feel bored? How are 324 00:17:41,440 --> 00:17:45,440 Speaker 1: we going to create this joy again? For the little moments, 325 00:17:45,520 --> 00:17:48,200 Speaker 1: this experience that you are trying to create in your 326 00:17:48,240 --> 00:17:50,919 Speaker 1: life of actually living life? How are we going to 327 00:17:50,960 --> 00:17:53,760 Speaker 1: do that? Again? So in the moments that boredom hit 328 00:17:53,840 --> 00:17:58,320 Speaker 1: next time, explorer and answer these questions. Are you avoiding discomfort? 329 00:17:58,760 --> 00:18:02,399 Speaker 1: Number one too? Have you overloaded your senses to the 330 00:18:02,440 --> 00:18:05,600 Speaker 1: point where ordinary moments feel dull? If so, do you 331 00:18:05,640 --> 00:18:07,800 Speaker 1: need a stimulation detox? And what does that look like 332 00:18:07,880 --> 00:18:11,080 Speaker 1: for you? See what things you are filling your moments with? 333 00:18:11,320 --> 00:18:14,119 Speaker 1: What stimulation you are giving yourself that you may not 334 00:18:14,160 --> 00:18:18,520 Speaker 1: actually need? And do you know how to activate your curiosity, 335 00:18:18,680 --> 00:18:20,880 Speaker 1: your joy, or your presence? Do you know what does 336 00:18:20,920 --> 00:18:23,080 Speaker 1: that for you? Is it reading a book? Is it 337 00:18:23,119 --> 00:18:27,399 Speaker 1: going out in nature? Is it having meaningful conversations? Is 338 00:18:27,440 --> 00:18:31,439 Speaker 1: it drawing an art piece? Is it going dancing? Find 339 00:18:31,440 --> 00:18:34,879 Speaker 1: the things? If you don't know, go explore find the things. 340 00:18:34,920 --> 00:18:36,520 Speaker 1: I can't tell you what to do. You need to 341 00:18:36,560 --> 00:18:38,960 Speaker 1: find them for yourself. And so this is a lot 342 00:18:39,000 --> 00:18:41,040 Speaker 1: of work that has to be done by you, not 343 00:18:41,119 --> 00:18:44,440 Speaker 1: by anybody else. I can tell you what sparks my curiosity, 344 00:18:44,560 --> 00:18:46,639 Speaker 1: my joy, in my presence, but that may not be 345 00:18:46,640 --> 00:18:48,679 Speaker 1: the same for you. And so this is really an 346 00:18:48,720 --> 00:18:51,320 Speaker 1: exploration phase that you have to go through, and so 347 00:18:52,040 --> 00:18:53,719 Speaker 1: just in case you do need a little bit of 348 00:18:53,720 --> 00:18:55,240 Speaker 1: help get in there, I'm going to share some of 349 00:18:55,280 --> 00:18:57,760 Speaker 1: the things that I did to start appreciating the daily 350 00:18:57,800 --> 00:18:59,960 Speaker 1: grind and the things that I use in the moments 351 00:19:00,040 --> 00:19:02,800 Speaker 1: where the feeling of boredom hits. So the first thing 352 00:19:03,040 --> 00:19:06,920 Speaker 1: is creating sensory moments of your everyday activities, whether that's 353 00:19:07,000 --> 00:19:10,320 Speaker 1: essential oils in your laundry or taking a walk to 354 00:19:10,400 --> 00:19:14,040 Speaker 1: work without headphones and listening to nature, or whether it's 355 00:19:14,040 --> 00:19:17,000 Speaker 1: eye contact and smiles on the train, or plaiting your 356 00:19:17,040 --> 00:19:19,840 Speaker 1: meal really aesthetically, because let's be honest, we eat three 357 00:19:19,880 --> 00:19:21,760 Speaker 1: meals a day. Might as well make them beautiful and 358 00:19:21,800 --> 00:19:24,159 Speaker 1: might as well connect to it. The second thing is 359 00:19:24,240 --> 00:19:28,199 Speaker 1: practicing presence and the art of noticing. I remember my 360 00:19:28,280 --> 00:19:32,320 Speaker 1: friend once told me he notices flamingos everywhere, and I 361 00:19:32,359 --> 00:19:34,399 Speaker 1: thought that was such a random thing, and that is 362 00:19:34,440 --> 00:19:36,439 Speaker 1: something that you don't actually ever see often. And I 363 00:19:36,480 --> 00:19:40,080 Speaker 1: was like, okay, flamingo's great. That sounds amazing, And I 364 00:19:40,160 --> 00:19:42,400 Speaker 1: kind of didn't pay much attention to it at all. 365 00:19:42,520 --> 00:19:45,040 Speaker 1: It was I thought it was something that came in 366 00:19:45,040 --> 00:19:48,360 Speaker 1: my ear and out my ear. But actually I started 367 00:19:48,520 --> 00:19:52,480 Speaker 1: seeing flamingos everywhere, and I thought that was such a run. 368 00:19:52,640 --> 00:19:56,040 Speaker 1: I literally was not expecting that at all. But whether 369 00:19:56,080 --> 00:19:59,080 Speaker 1: it was on objects or casstickers or clothes or graffiti 370 00:19:59,119 --> 00:20:04,120 Speaker 1: on walls in random places around the world, I would 371 00:20:04,240 --> 00:20:06,800 Speaker 1: start seeing it all the time. And we're so used 372 00:20:06,800 --> 00:20:08,399 Speaker 1: to being in our own heads and not in the 373 00:20:08,440 --> 00:20:12,640 Speaker 1: real world, and so to help exercise this, you could 374 00:20:12,640 --> 00:20:14,280 Speaker 1: even do something like thinking of a color at the 375 00:20:14,280 --> 00:20:17,480 Speaker 1: beginning of the day, or something random like a flamingo, 376 00:20:18,080 --> 00:20:20,760 Speaker 1: and your mind will consciously seek it and be looking 377 00:20:20,800 --> 00:20:23,280 Speaker 1: for it, which naturally makes you more present in your day, 378 00:20:23,560 --> 00:20:25,920 Speaker 1: Like when you've lost your keys, you're so much more 379 00:20:25,920 --> 00:20:28,240 Speaker 1: aware of Oh, I didn't even know this was in 380 00:20:28,280 --> 00:20:31,080 Speaker 1: this place. You're looking into different places with so much 381 00:20:31,080 --> 00:20:34,640 Speaker 1: more attention and so much more presence. And so when 382 00:20:34,680 --> 00:20:36,400 Speaker 1: you pick something at the beginning of the day, you're like, Okay, 383 00:20:36,400 --> 00:20:38,639 Speaker 1: I'm going to look for the color green, and you 384 00:20:38,680 --> 00:20:41,879 Speaker 1: tell yourself that you'll notice everything green. Oh, it's like 385 00:20:41,920 --> 00:20:44,320 Speaker 1: when you end up saying I never see a car 386 00:20:44,440 --> 00:20:48,120 Speaker 1: that's this color, and then suddenly you see it everywhere 387 00:20:48,800 --> 00:20:51,960 Speaker 1: on the road, and so it's a really great practice 388 00:20:51,960 --> 00:20:54,560 Speaker 1: to bring you back to the present moment. Boredom lives 389 00:20:54,600 --> 00:20:57,359 Speaker 1: in the head and presence lives in the body, so 390 00:20:57,440 --> 00:21:00,560 Speaker 1: reconnecting both is key. The third thing is shift from 391 00:21:00,600 --> 00:21:05,159 Speaker 1: consumption to creation. And so instead of scrolling or distracting yourself, 392 00:21:05,200 --> 00:21:08,920 Speaker 1: which is consumption, you're consuming what other people are doing, 393 00:21:09,040 --> 00:21:11,760 Speaker 1: You're filling yourself with what other people are telling you. 394 00:21:12,359 --> 00:21:14,320 Speaker 1: It actually won't fell the void of boredom, it would 395 00:21:14,320 --> 00:21:16,920 Speaker 1: just mask it for a fleeting moment. And so make 396 00:21:17,040 --> 00:21:21,560 Speaker 1: or create something so you are having output rather than input. 397 00:21:22,400 --> 00:21:25,600 Speaker 1: Creation can bring you back to life. It can help 398 00:21:25,640 --> 00:21:28,479 Speaker 1: you feel like you are living your life. It can 399 00:21:28,480 --> 00:21:31,080 Speaker 1: make you feel useful in some way and useful to yourself. 400 00:21:31,920 --> 00:21:34,040 Speaker 1: And so creation puts you back in the moment and 401 00:21:34,080 --> 00:21:36,639 Speaker 1: the present. And I love doing that whenever I feel like, 402 00:21:36,680 --> 00:21:38,960 Speaker 1: oh I'm a bit antsy, or you know, even sometimes 403 00:21:39,000 --> 00:21:41,440 Speaker 1: when I'm watching things for too long, I get so bored, 404 00:21:41,800 --> 00:21:43,240 Speaker 1: so I have to get up and I get in 405 00:21:43,240 --> 00:21:47,040 Speaker 1: the kitchen, or I'll go organize something something that makes 406 00:21:47,040 --> 00:21:49,680 Speaker 1: me feel like I'm accomplishing, you know, And I think 407 00:21:49,680 --> 00:21:52,720 Speaker 1: that's really important. We end up choosing things that numb 408 00:21:52,800 --> 00:21:55,879 Speaker 1: us rather than make us feel accomplished, and that numbing 409 00:21:55,920 --> 00:21:59,520 Speaker 1: doesn't actually make us feel better about ourself, but accomplishing 410 00:21:59,600 --> 00:22:03,000 Speaker 1: or create really does. And so find things that you 411 00:22:03,200 --> 00:22:06,720 Speaker 1: like accomplishing or that you like creating, and try to 412 00:22:06,760 --> 00:22:09,000 Speaker 1: turn to that instead of things that actually numb us. 413 00:22:09,560 --> 00:22:11,359 Speaker 1: And actually, what I'll do on Instagram is I'm going 414 00:22:11,400 --> 00:22:14,360 Speaker 1: to put a list of all the things that actually 415 00:22:14,440 --> 00:22:17,080 Speaker 1: numb us usually that we turn to during these moments, 416 00:22:17,119 --> 00:22:19,960 Speaker 1: and the things that can actually help to nourish us differently. 417 00:22:20,320 --> 00:22:22,600 Speaker 1: And what you can do is go through those lists 418 00:22:22,640 --> 00:22:24,879 Speaker 1: and see which ones do you normally turn to, and 419 00:22:24,920 --> 00:22:26,680 Speaker 1: try and go through the ones in the other column 420 00:22:27,000 --> 00:22:29,120 Speaker 1: for a week, for two weeks, and see how that feels. 421 00:22:29,440 --> 00:22:32,480 Speaker 1: The next thing is something really simple. Touch something real 422 00:22:32,560 --> 00:22:34,679 Speaker 1: the moment you feel like you're bored or you're like 423 00:22:34,800 --> 00:22:37,680 Speaker 1: in and out of presence, touch something that is real, 424 00:22:37,800 --> 00:22:40,840 Speaker 1: that is physical in real life. So whether it is 425 00:22:41,040 --> 00:22:46,000 Speaker 1: handwriting something, whether it's making tea from scratch. Digital overstimulation 426 00:22:46,600 --> 00:22:49,399 Speaker 1: really creates a false sense of busyness while leaving us 427 00:22:49,440 --> 00:22:52,640 Speaker 1: feeling so empty. So instead of going into a world 428 00:22:52,640 --> 00:22:55,600 Speaker 1: that doesn't really exist online, find something to do in 429 00:22:55,600 --> 00:22:59,040 Speaker 1: the world that does exist in real life. So you 430 00:22:59,080 --> 00:23:00,720 Speaker 1: can connect back to the world you want to be 431 00:23:00,760 --> 00:23:03,359 Speaker 1: living in rather than a world that kind of doesn't 432 00:23:03,400 --> 00:23:05,440 Speaker 1: exist or exist, but not in the world that we're 433 00:23:05,480 --> 00:23:08,119 Speaker 1: actually living in. And so find things to do in 434 00:23:08,160 --> 00:23:10,920 Speaker 1: the physical world that you are able to to help 435 00:23:11,000 --> 00:23:13,600 Speaker 1: me reconnect back here. And so the last thing is 436 00:23:13,640 --> 00:23:16,520 Speaker 1: moving your body, change your state. Let me tell you, 437 00:23:17,240 --> 00:23:20,679 Speaker 1: every time I feel any kind of boredom, stagnation, dullness, 438 00:23:20,920 --> 00:23:25,400 Speaker 1: movement has never and never with an underline, a circle 439 00:23:25,440 --> 00:23:29,200 Speaker 1: around it, bold it, put it in italics. Never ever 440 00:23:29,400 --> 00:23:33,440 Speaker 1: has movement failed me in making me change my state 441 00:23:33,560 --> 00:23:36,520 Speaker 1: or my mindset into a better one. So that could 442 00:23:36,560 --> 00:23:38,840 Speaker 1: be a workout, it could be a walk without a destination. 443 00:23:39,480 --> 00:23:42,760 Speaker 1: Movement wakes up parts of you that boredom puts to sleep. 444 00:23:43,200 --> 00:23:46,240 Speaker 1: And so whenever you are in doubt, take a walk, 445 00:23:47,080 --> 00:23:49,879 Speaker 1: take a walk, take some deep breaths, and I guarantee 446 00:23:49,880 --> 00:23:53,000 Speaker 1: you you will come out feeling far less bored than 447 00:23:53,080 --> 00:23:57,199 Speaker 1: you were before you started, and probably receiving more than 448 00:23:57,240 --> 00:24:00,080 Speaker 1: you expected to on that wonderful little walk that you 449 00:24:00,080 --> 00:24:03,000 Speaker 1: you take. And so I'm actually so glad that my 450 00:24:03,160 --> 00:24:07,440 Speaker 1: friend messaged me that this morning, because it really helped 451 00:24:07,480 --> 00:24:12,400 Speaker 1: me to reflect on this topic of boredom, and I 452 00:24:12,480 --> 00:24:15,439 Speaker 1: was surprised at how many people have that feeling, and 453 00:24:15,480 --> 00:24:18,520 Speaker 1: trust me, I have felt that feeling in a deeper sense. 454 00:24:18,560 --> 00:24:22,399 Speaker 1: I think constant boredom and this feeling of constant boredom 455 00:24:22,440 --> 00:24:26,159 Speaker 1: that's repetitive is actually what turns into depression. And I 456 00:24:26,440 --> 00:24:29,479 Speaker 1: think this lack of contentment, this lack of exploration, is 457 00:24:29,520 --> 00:24:35,080 Speaker 1: also partly what causes depression. And so I think the 458 00:24:35,160 --> 00:24:38,560 Speaker 1: key to all of this is explore, like explore the world. 459 00:24:38,640 --> 00:24:41,439 Speaker 1: Explore the life that you have around you right now, 460 00:24:41,760 --> 00:24:43,760 Speaker 1: and if you feel like you've over explored it, try 461 00:24:43,760 --> 00:24:46,040 Speaker 1: and see it with a different perspective, try and notice 462 00:24:46,080 --> 00:24:48,479 Speaker 1: things that you wouldn't normally and see how you can 463 00:24:48,480 --> 00:24:50,240 Speaker 1: bring a little bit more joy back into your day. 464 00:24:50,280 --> 00:24:54,080 Speaker 1: And I guarantee you, no matter what you think, there 465 00:24:54,160 --> 00:24:56,680 Speaker 1: is a way to bring joy back into whatever day 466 00:24:56,800 --> 00:24:59,120 Speaker 1: is that you are living. You just have to try, 467 00:24:59,200 --> 00:25:01,359 Speaker 1: and you just have to believe that it's possible, and 468 00:25:01,400 --> 00:25:02,880 Speaker 1: you have to put in some effort. You know, it's 469 00:25:02,920 --> 00:25:06,840 Speaker 1: not all just wanting and wishing. It's practical. You have 470 00:25:06,920 --> 00:25:09,440 Speaker 1: to give it a go. Of the exploration phase of 471 00:25:09,600 --> 00:25:12,000 Speaker 1: finding the things that stimulate you and that make you 472 00:25:12,080 --> 00:25:16,000 Speaker 1: really that fulfill you takes a lot of work because 473 00:25:16,400 --> 00:25:17,920 Speaker 1: you have to put in the effort to figure those 474 00:25:17,960 --> 00:25:19,640 Speaker 1: things out, especially if you've got to a place where 475 00:25:19,640 --> 00:25:22,040 Speaker 1: you haven't done it in a long time. So I 476 00:25:22,080 --> 00:25:25,600 Speaker 1: hope this was useful. And let me know if you 477 00:25:25,600 --> 00:25:28,520 Speaker 1: guys start to explore, let me know where how you 478 00:25:28,520 --> 00:25:31,200 Speaker 1: have ever taken yourself out of a funk or the 479 00:25:31,560 --> 00:25:34,600 Speaker 1: boredom that hits you, because I'll share that with other people. 480 00:25:34,760 --> 00:25:38,960 Speaker 1: And yeah, sending us so much love for this upcoming 481 00:25:39,000 --> 00:25:41,359 Speaker 1: week and this beautiful day that can be. And if 482 00:25:41,359 --> 00:25:43,800 Speaker 1: you're listen to this anytime of the day, you can 483 00:25:43,920 --> 00:25:48,400 Speaker 1: start this from this moment forward. Sending your so much 484 00:25:48,440 --> 00:26:00,520 Speaker 1: love and hope you have a wonderful, wonderful day.