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Speaker 1: This is the Benn and Ashley I Almost Famous podcast

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Speaker 1: with our radio back. Hey, it's Ashley. We're back for

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Speaker 1: our undisclosed assignment location. That's so much work done together. Ben,

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Speaker 1: I got to know you so well. Hey, we want

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Speaker 1: to say a Vanessa Field in forth last week and

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Speaker 1: she did an incredible job, such a good job that

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Speaker 1: we want her back. Uh for the two eighteen I mean, geez,

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Speaker 1: I almost forgot what years coming up? That's wild. It's

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Speaker 1: almost two eighteen. It was the fastest year of my life.

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Speaker 1: And we are very excited to start season four of

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Speaker 1: the Ben and Ashley Almost as podcast on January second,

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Speaker 1: to the day after our season premieres. Yeah. Actually, I

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Speaker 1: gotta tell you congratulations on three. I mean, this is

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Speaker 1: our last episode of our third season. This is pretty big.

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Speaker 1: This is a pretty big deal. We got of the

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Speaker 1: off season being able to fill up time like we

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Speaker 1: were able to talk about The Bachelor every single week

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Speaker 1: without the show being on. This shows how exciting our

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Speaker 1: lives are. Speaking of exciting lives, we have an exciting

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Speaker 1: guest with us who has a lot going on in

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Speaker 1: life right now. One of Bachelor Nation's favorite Bachelor at

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Speaker 1: Ali FORI is with us in studio right now. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: thanks for having me, Hi ban Hi. Actually hey, and

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Speaker 1: that's not just something that we say to everyone. You

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Speaker 1: were the first season I ever watched, Yes, and I

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Speaker 1: loved your season still like it hooked me forever. I'm

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Speaker 1: a life for now because of you. If it wasn't

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Speaker 1: because of you my life, who had known where I

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Speaker 1: would be right now? Who would know? Who knows that

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Speaker 1: I was gonna say? I was like, Allie, I don't

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Speaker 1: know if I don't know if I should thank you

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Speaker 1: for that or not. But if if Ashley I Connettie

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Speaker 1: started her bachelor journey via years show, you have a

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Speaker 1: lot of response and how the world is operating in

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Speaker 1: Baination right now, I actually feel that's a really good

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Speaker 1: compliment because I feel like, actually you were one of

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Speaker 1: my favorite reasons for watching and everything, so it all

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Speaker 1: came full circle. Thanks. Yeah. And when I think it's

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Speaker 1: cool is like you were also my kind of career

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Speaker 1: role model. I love the way that you first off,

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Speaker 1: you kicked ask you were like you were working for

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Speaker 1: Facebook when you're on the show. Yeah, I was at Facebook.

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Speaker 1: I honestly I missed that job. I loved that job.

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Speaker 1: It was so cool, and that's why I had to

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Speaker 1: do my little you know, leaving the Bachelor to go

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Speaker 1: back to my job, and you did go back for

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Speaker 1: a bit. I did. I left him, but then I

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Speaker 1: asked to come back and he said no, really, I

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Speaker 1: don't ask me that. Yeah, I know I had no

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Speaker 1: offense to Jake, But you know, sometimes you look back

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Speaker 1: and you're like, what, like what did I see? Like?

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Speaker 1: How did I feel like I was interested in that

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Speaker 1: person because he's just not my type. But the best

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Speaker 1: Bachelor moment of all time moment yes, a Pavelka breakup

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Speaker 1: episode with Vienna. It was at the start of brad

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Speaker 1: second season. You have not seen this, I highly recommend

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Speaker 1: the YouTube, Like I don't want to laugh at other

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Speaker 1: people's sadness and misfortune, but it is one of the

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Speaker 1: best things I have ever watched. I think I've watched

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Speaker 1: it times. That's well, I knew going into like that season.

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Speaker 1: I was like, Okay, well, I liked Ali's season. But now,

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Speaker 1: after watching this fight between two people who I have

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Speaker 1: invested in this show for life, because like, I am

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Speaker 1: so entrenched with this drama and I have no idea.

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Speaker 1: What it's about Harrison's best work ever? Because they have

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Speaker 1: this big argument over the dog poop, and like it

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Speaker 1: goes on and on. We've all been there, right point,

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Speaker 1: Chris literally says, no one cares about the dog. Stop

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Speaker 1: interrupting me. But do you think they can look back

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Speaker 1: I hope. So it was so brutal that I don't know.

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Speaker 1: I'm sure they watch it with like just their head

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Speaker 1: in their hands. Probably probably for me though, Oh you're joy.

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Speaker 1: It was good. It was and then she stormed off.

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Speaker 1: It was like one of the craziest Bachelor things and

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Speaker 1: it's not even talked about that much anymore. It was

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Speaker 1: so crazy because it was almost ten years ago, isn't

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Speaker 1: that That's how ancient I am? Yeah, I mean, yeah,

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Speaker 1: mean it's two thousand eighteen, eight years ago. But my

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Speaker 1: lone time, I'm old guy. You are not old? How

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Speaker 1: old are you? Thirty? I think I'm thirty three, You're

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Speaker 1: you're very young. Bachelorette though you were twenty six when

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Speaker 1: you're the bachelorette, right, I think it was even twenty five?

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Speaker 1: No way, So did you think that they were really

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Speaker 1: and here I am not. Now I am married. We

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Speaker 1: hill life changes. Yeah, tell us about the Alley catch

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Speaker 1: ut up a little bit. I mean, you have a

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Speaker 1: Do win and and kind of walk us through how

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Speaker 1: is this, kim about? Are you planning on more? Are

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Speaker 1: you excited about this? What's going on? Well, Ben, let

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Speaker 1: me tell you about the birds and the beat. This happened,

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Speaker 1: This happens, kidding, Do walk me through that we have

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Speaker 1: our adorable daughter, Molly, who was just the best thing ever.

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Speaker 1: And yes, I'm one of those super lame parents that

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Speaker 1: gives their child an Instagram handle, but I'm like, oh,

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Speaker 1: going to be the Kim Kardashian of the Bachelor franchise

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Speaker 1: I think Carly felt the same way. Like Carly gets

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Speaker 1: It's like no, it's like these opportunities arise after and

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Speaker 1: I love that Ari is the Bachelor. I mean Ari,

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Speaker 1: you know, we were lucky enough to go on his

425
00:21:20,600 --> 00:21:24,280
Speaker 1: show after the seasons and he said to me, make

426
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Speaker 1: all the money you can right now. That advice. Yeah,

427
00:21:29,720 --> 00:21:31,840
Speaker 1: because he said he gave that advice to me to

428
00:21:32,080 --> 00:21:34,200
Speaker 1: and Chris sold. He said, do as much as you can,

429
00:21:34,560 --> 00:21:36,560
Speaker 1: make as much money you can as you can with

430
00:21:36,600 --> 00:21:38,600
Speaker 1: the burden that is fame. And I think that is

431
00:21:38,960 --> 00:21:42,480
Speaker 1: I mean, it is such a brilliant piece of advice

432
00:21:42,560 --> 00:21:45,320
Speaker 1: because you know, we're all hesitant to do anything with

433
00:21:45,359 --> 00:21:48,160
Speaker 1: it post Bachelor, bachelorrette. But what he's saying is, hey,

434
00:21:48,440 --> 00:21:50,400
Speaker 1: you're already gonna your your name is already out there,

435
00:21:50,560 --> 00:21:52,800
Speaker 1: your face is going to be everywhere, Like, do something

436
00:21:52,800 --> 00:21:55,360
Speaker 1: with that because you're not gonna get away away with it,

437
00:21:55,760 --> 00:21:57,560
Speaker 1: right right. No, that's so funny. He must like give

438
00:21:57,600 --> 00:21:59,640
Speaker 1: us all that advice, which is great advice. I'm glad

439
00:21:59,800 --> 00:22:03,440
Speaker 1: I is on Jimmy. He didn't say this just kidding.

440
00:22:03,440 --> 00:22:05,560
Speaker 1: It was it was be a FaceTime so it's a

441
00:22:05,600 --> 00:22:08,639
Speaker 1: little different. But for me he said this, you know,

442
00:22:08,680 --> 00:22:12,359
Speaker 1: I think it was off camera. That's actually make as

443
00:22:12,440 --> 00:22:16,919
Speaker 1: much money as possible. But no, for you know, he

444
00:22:16,960 --> 00:22:19,080
Speaker 1: said to me too, is it's fleeting. And that's one

445
00:22:19,080 --> 00:22:21,320
Speaker 1: thing with the show. You are a hot commodity right

446
00:22:21,359 --> 00:22:23,399
Speaker 1: after the show is over. It's funny. I feel like

447
00:22:23,440 --> 00:22:26,639
Speaker 1: every Bachelor contestant kind of goes through this. Honestly, maybe

448
00:22:26,640 --> 00:22:28,880
Speaker 1: except for you, Ben, because you're just the nicest person

449
00:22:28,920 --> 00:22:31,520
Speaker 1: in the face of the planet. But I feel like

450
00:22:31,960 --> 00:22:35,560
Speaker 1: every Bachelor or bachelorette when the show is over, they

451
00:22:35,640 --> 00:22:39,080
Speaker 1: kind of feel like they're super important, right Everybody wants

452
00:22:39,119 --> 00:22:42,919
Speaker 1: to talk to them, everybody wants their interview, you know.

453
00:22:42,960 --> 00:22:45,160
Speaker 1: So it's kind of and I've heard this from other

454
00:22:45,200 --> 00:22:47,680
Speaker 1: people in the industry that like some of the Bachelor mets,

455
00:22:47,680 --> 00:22:49,160
Speaker 1: they get a little bit too much on their high

456
00:22:49,160 --> 00:22:52,680
Speaker 1: horse after the show. But then a year passes, Let's

457
00:22:52,720 --> 00:22:55,240
Speaker 1: say they break up from their relationship, then really they're

458
00:22:55,240 --> 00:22:58,080
Speaker 1: not people don't care as much anymore, and then the

459
00:22:58,080 --> 00:23:00,639
Speaker 1: theme starts going away and they start becoming nice and

460
00:23:00,640 --> 00:23:03,119
Speaker 1: being the real the real selves again. I feel like

461
00:23:03,119 --> 00:23:07,200
Speaker 1: that that's happened with so many people. Um me too, honestly,

462
00:23:07,280 --> 00:23:08,840
Speaker 1: Like I feel like after the show, I all of

463
00:23:08,880 --> 00:23:10,760
Speaker 1: a sudden thought I was very important and like kind

464
00:23:10,760 --> 00:23:12,720
Speaker 1: of put because you gotta put up these walls of

465
00:23:12,840 --> 00:23:14,720
Speaker 1: like everyone's trying to get a piece of you that

466
00:23:14,760 --> 00:23:16,320
Speaker 1: you feel like you kind of have to like shut

467
00:23:16,359 --> 00:23:18,399
Speaker 1: everybody out, and then it comes across wrong and you

468
00:23:18,440 --> 00:23:21,879
Speaker 1: know it's a cycle, but um but anyway, I feel

469
00:23:21,920 --> 00:23:24,920
Speaker 1: like the same goes away. So you gotta like take

470
00:23:25,160 --> 00:23:27,080
Speaker 1: hold of those opportunities right at the beginning. And that's

471
00:23:27,119 --> 00:23:28,560
Speaker 1: what I did, you know. I feel like I really

472
00:23:28,640 --> 00:23:31,040
Speaker 1: kind of just like grasp onto every opportunity I could get.

473
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Speaker 1: And I knew one thing that I was good at

474
00:23:32,920 --> 00:23:34,840
Speaker 1: was public speaking. I think that you and I you

475
00:23:34,920 --> 00:23:37,760
Speaker 1: really were my role model. Well that is like seriously

476
00:23:37,800 --> 00:23:40,120
Speaker 1: the nicest thing. Thank you for saying that. And then

477
00:23:45,119 --> 00:23:47,800
Speaker 1: but yeah, so and then here I am. I mean,

478
00:23:47,840 --> 00:23:49,439
Speaker 1: I'm lucky that I've been able to stay in the

479
00:23:49,480 --> 00:23:51,359
Speaker 1: industry someone and make a living out of it, and

480
00:23:51,359 --> 00:23:53,439
Speaker 1: I feel super grateful for that. But I think the

481
00:23:53,480 --> 00:23:56,040
Speaker 1: problem is the people that like go in thinking that's

482
00:23:56,080 --> 00:23:58,320
Speaker 1: going to be their path and never is. I didn't

483
00:23:58,359 --> 00:24:01,040
Speaker 1: like go in thinking that I'd be here eight years later,

484
00:24:01,440 --> 00:24:03,840
Speaker 1: you know, working on a TV show and you know,

485
00:24:04,119 --> 00:24:07,600
Speaker 1: on Universal Plaza. Um. I thought, you know, I'd be

486
00:24:07,800 --> 00:24:09,439
Speaker 1: way done with it by now. So I think if

487
00:24:09,480 --> 00:24:11,359
Speaker 1: you go in not really expecting it, it kind of

488
00:24:11,400 --> 00:24:13,159
Speaker 1: happens for you. And it's a lot of hard work too.

489
00:24:13,240 --> 00:24:15,840
Speaker 1: I have to work hard. Yeah, So this industry isn't

490
00:24:15,840 --> 00:24:18,879
Speaker 1: all like glam that you see on TV. It's also

491
00:24:19,240 --> 00:24:21,159
Speaker 1: you know, you still work for it, even though we

492
00:24:21,200 --> 00:24:23,200
Speaker 1: obviously got the big bump of being on the show

493
00:24:23,240 --> 00:24:26,280
Speaker 1: and becoming recognizable. Yeah. No, I mean that's what I'm saying.

494
00:24:26,800 --> 00:24:29,119
Speaker 1: You give some good advice. And I think one of

495
00:24:29,119 --> 00:24:31,840
Speaker 1: the things about you, and even talking to you at

496
00:24:31,920 --> 00:24:34,040
Speaker 1: at the wedding a few years ago, that I appreciate

497
00:24:34,119 --> 00:24:36,600
Speaker 1: is you are honest with your successes and failures and

498
00:24:36,640 --> 00:24:39,680
Speaker 1: have you you've kind of handled yourself post Bachelor and

499
00:24:39,760 --> 00:24:42,000
Speaker 1: kind of this platform that I actually I always say

500
00:24:42,000 --> 00:24:45,440
Speaker 1: it's just been given to us, um, And what would

501
00:24:45,480 --> 00:24:48,240
Speaker 1: be your advice to anybody out there that is either

502
00:24:48,280 --> 00:24:50,359
Speaker 1: going to go in the Bachelor or The Bachelor or

503
00:24:51,119 --> 00:24:54,359
Speaker 1: just trying to pursue a career that they feel is

504
00:24:54,359 --> 00:24:56,479
Speaker 1: almost unpossible right now, what would be your advice to them,

505
00:24:56,520 --> 00:24:58,920
Speaker 1: and how do you handle yourself as a person with

506
00:24:59,040 --> 00:25:02,200
Speaker 1: character in that process. Well, I think you can't. That's

507
00:25:02,240 --> 00:25:04,280
Speaker 1: the big problem is I think you can't go on

508
00:25:04,320 --> 00:25:06,840
Speaker 1: the show kind of expecting there to be a career afterwards,

509
00:25:07,200 --> 00:25:08,879
Speaker 1: you know, if it's in the vice, like I guess

510
00:25:08,920 --> 00:25:10,600
Speaker 1: for me with it in the back of my mind

511
00:25:10,720 --> 00:25:12,960
Speaker 1: that I needed to see his opportunities afterwards because I

512
00:25:13,000 --> 00:25:14,760
Speaker 1: just gave up one of the best jobs of my

513
00:25:14,840 --> 00:25:17,119
Speaker 1: life and all you know, yes it was. But I

514
00:25:17,119 --> 00:25:19,639
Speaker 1: think you need to make your main focus like not

515
00:25:19,800 --> 00:25:21,760
Speaker 1: about that, because I think when you start making it

516
00:25:21,800 --> 00:25:24,240
Speaker 1: about that, that's a problem. I think after the show

517
00:25:24,280 --> 00:25:26,440
Speaker 1: the biggest thing to get on the show. I don't

518
00:25:26,440 --> 00:25:28,080
Speaker 1: know if you guys agree with this. I think to

519
00:25:28,119 --> 00:25:32,520
Speaker 1: get on the show, you have to be open and

520
00:25:32,600 --> 00:25:36,360
Speaker 1: willing to talk about anything in your feelings. Right. People

521
00:25:36,359 --> 00:25:38,920
Speaker 1: always like, what I'm doing casting for a bachelor tomorrow,

522
00:25:38,960 --> 00:25:41,080
Speaker 1: what is your advice for me? I'm like, be willing

523
00:25:41,119 --> 00:25:43,359
Speaker 1: to talk about everything going on in your life, be

524
00:25:43,440 --> 00:25:46,080
Speaker 1: super vulnerable, super open, and just like if they ask

525
00:25:46,160 --> 00:25:49,159
Speaker 1: you like the most personal question ever you answer it like,

526
00:25:49,200 --> 00:25:54,960
Speaker 1: don't say like I've never thought of I've never thought

527
00:25:54,960 --> 00:25:56,880
Speaker 1: of that, even though I've done this so many times.

528
00:25:57,240 --> 00:25:59,199
Speaker 1: Is because people ask all the time. The advice that

529
00:25:59,280 --> 00:26:01,919
Speaker 1: is great advice, because you better be ready to have

530
00:26:02,080 --> 00:26:06,040
Speaker 1: your life completely displayed on television maybe for years to

531
00:26:06,080 --> 00:26:09,000
Speaker 1: come right right, And you know what, if you're a crier,

532
00:26:09,160 --> 00:26:13,760
Speaker 1: let yourself cry during Did you cry during guest? I didn't,

533
00:26:13,760 --> 00:26:16,600
Speaker 1: but I think I probably did, like show emotion, like

534
00:26:16,640 --> 00:26:19,240
Speaker 1: when I was talking about like having never had a boyfriend,

535
00:26:19,680 --> 00:26:21,639
Speaker 1: I was probably like, I know, this is awkward. This

536
00:26:21,720 --> 00:26:24,400
Speaker 1: is so awkward to like vocalize to a stranger, but

537
00:26:24,520 --> 00:26:27,720
Speaker 1: you feel you sound a little bit emotional. And I

538
00:26:28,000 --> 00:26:29,680
Speaker 1: of course had to talk about I talked about the

539
00:26:29,760 --> 00:26:33,440
Speaker 1: virginity thing in my casting and I knew that it

540
00:26:33,480 --> 00:26:35,760
Speaker 1: would help me get on the show, which is why

541
00:26:35,800 --> 00:26:37,800
Speaker 1: I was open about talking about it, but it was

542
00:26:37,840 --> 00:26:40,000
Speaker 1: also true. It wasn't something that I came up with

543
00:26:40,080 --> 00:26:42,320
Speaker 1: and get on the show. People, of course, during my

544
00:26:42,320 --> 00:26:45,600
Speaker 1: first season, they're like, how this girl, It's just she

545
00:26:45,680 --> 00:26:48,199
Speaker 1: came up with something to get attention, and I'm like no,

546
00:26:48,440 --> 00:26:50,080
Speaker 1: And I think after a season or two they were like,

547
00:26:50,160 --> 00:26:57,359
Speaker 1: oh no, she's will a hundred percent legit awkward, but

548
00:26:57,400 --> 00:27:00,159
Speaker 1: you were open about that during would you have to

549
00:27:00,200 --> 00:27:02,080
Speaker 1: be That's how you get cast in the show. After

550
00:27:02,119 --> 00:27:05,400
Speaker 1: you get on the show, this is my thing. You

551
00:27:07,160 --> 00:27:09,959
Speaker 1: if you make it to the end, towards the end,

552
00:27:10,000 --> 00:27:11,720
Speaker 1: I guess, and becomes sort of a face of the show.

553
00:27:11,720 --> 00:27:13,320
Speaker 1: That's how you're going to get the opportunities. It just

554
00:27:13,480 --> 00:27:15,280
Speaker 1: it's such a bummer because like people who kind of

555
00:27:15,280 --> 00:27:17,119
Speaker 1: get eliminated the first couple episodes will be like what

556
00:27:17,119 --> 00:27:18,720
Speaker 1: should I do? How do I get And I'm just

557
00:27:18,760 --> 00:27:20,639
Speaker 1: like You're like you're sorry. I'm like, I'm sorry, but

558
00:27:20,680 --> 00:27:23,240
Speaker 1: people don't know your face enough, like you know, you're

559
00:27:23,240 --> 00:27:25,080
Speaker 1: gonna have to go about it the hard way. Well

560
00:27:25,160 --> 00:27:27,560
Speaker 1: you know, really the traditional way, which is like working

561
00:27:27,560 --> 00:27:28,840
Speaker 1: your way up from the bottom as like a p

562
00:27:29,000 --> 00:27:31,399
Speaker 1: A assistant and then going up. You know, I'll respect

563
00:27:31,400 --> 00:27:34,160
Speaker 1: to p A p A um or they are that's

564
00:27:34,160 --> 00:27:37,560
Speaker 1: what the isstant is production assistant, but um But anyway,

565
00:27:38,160 --> 00:27:41,000
Speaker 1: I mostly say if you do have a little bit

566
00:27:41,040 --> 00:27:43,000
Speaker 1: from it, like take advantage of it at the beginning.

567
00:27:43,040 --> 00:27:46,720
Speaker 1: But like b and I apologize if Ashley Ben You've

568
00:27:46,720 --> 00:27:48,520
Speaker 1: done any of this, but be careful not to jump

569
00:27:48,520 --> 00:27:51,119
Speaker 1: on the bachelor bandwagons. I think that's one of the

570
00:27:51,160 --> 00:27:53,600
Speaker 1: things that I've really tried not to do in terms

571
00:27:53,640 --> 00:27:57,639
Speaker 1: in terms of making um, it's not just about like

572
00:27:57,680 --> 00:28:01,119
Speaker 1: posting an Instagram to make money, right, turning into something

573
00:28:01,160 --> 00:28:04,119
Speaker 1: else making it more authentic. I don't know if that

574
00:28:04,119 --> 00:28:06,119
Speaker 1: really makes sense. I don't want to like insult anybody

575
00:28:06,200 --> 00:28:08,679
Speaker 1: or putting anybody down. But for instance, I'll say this,

576
00:28:08,960 --> 00:28:11,760
Speaker 1: after the show, I was given the opportunity to rep

577
00:28:11,800 --> 00:28:14,840
Speaker 1: a brand that I was not comfortable with. It was

578
00:28:14,880 --> 00:28:16,720
Speaker 1: a brand that I thought sent a wrong message to

579
00:28:17,160 --> 00:28:23,680
Speaker 1: young girls about body image and something. Yeah, it wasn't

580
00:28:23,680 --> 00:28:25,760
Speaker 1: a healthy like there are some healthy ones out there,

581
00:28:25,880 --> 00:28:28,199
Speaker 1: not even a healthy diet pelle, but like all natural

582
00:28:28,280 --> 00:28:30,639
Speaker 1: ones that actually think maybe I did do a campaign one,

583
00:28:30,800 --> 00:28:32,119
Speaker 1: but it was like one of those ones that's like

584
00:28:32,400 --> 00:28:34,280
Speaker 1: like the federmin in it or something. I don't know

585
00:28:34,359 --> 00:28:36,840
Speaker 1: what that ingredient is that's not good for you. So

586
00:28:37,440 --> 00:28:41,640
Speaker 1: I was offered I think I can't remember exactly, but like, honestly,

587
00:28:41,680 --> 00:28:45,320
Speaker 1: it was like half a million dollars, Like it was great.

588
00:28:45,520 --> 00:28:48,480
Speaker 1: I've never been offered anything like that that amount, not

589
00:28:48,560 --> 00:28:51,680
Speaker 1: even close. I was just beside myself. It was for

590
00:28:51,720 --> 00:28:54,280
Speaker 1: like a long term campaign. This was right after The Bachelor,

591
00:28:54,760 --> 00:28:57,120
Speaker 1: and it was so hard for me to turn that

592
00:28:57,200 --> 00:28:59,640
Speaker 1: down because that would have changed my life. That would

593
00:28:59,640 --> 00:29:01,600
Speaker 1: have a house, that would I mean, it would have

594
00:29:01,640 --> 00:29:04,840
Speaker 1: changed my life. And I chose. I remember having long

595
00:29:04,880 --> 00:29:07,120
Speaker 1: talks with like my friend who was like a kind

596
00:29:07,120 --> 00:29:10,280
Speaker 1: of manager to me at the time, um and my lawyer,

597
00:29:10,800 --> 00:29:13,320
Speaker 1: and we just decided, like collectively, as like a team,

598
00:29:13,320 --> 00:29:15,240
Speaker 1: that like, that's not the message I want to send

599
00:29:15,200 --> 00:29:17,520
Speaker 1: to young girls out there, and that's not the kind

600
00:29:17,520 --> 00:29:19,600
Speaker 1: of brand that I want to put out there for myself.

601
00:29:19,800 --> 00:29:22,280
Speaker 1: So I could have taken it, but I didn't. And

602
00:29:22,400 --> 00:29:24,040
Speaker 1: you know, sometimes even I'm like, should I just have

603
00:29:24,120 --> 00:29:26,920
Speaker 1: taken it? Would it really have effected thing? But at

604
00:29:26,920 --> 00:29:28,960
Speaker 1: the time I didn't want to because that was my thing.

605
00:29:29,040 --> 00:29:30,800
Speaker 1: But damn, well, now we really have to give you

606
00:29:33,080 --> 00:29:35,840
Speaker 1: the same thing here. I mean, we're very very picky

607
00:29:35,840 --> 00:29:38,560
Speaker 1: about people that we let sponsor this show and have

608
00:29:38,640 --> 00:29:41,120
Speaker 1: to believe in them, and they have to be a

609
00:29:41,160 --> 00:29:43,320
Speaker 1: fit for Benn and Nashley. And it's like I respect

610
00:29:43,360 --> 00:29:45,680
Speaker 1: that and I believe in that for them too. I

611
00:29:45,720 --> 00:29:48,080
Speaker 1: think that is the key to longevity and you know,

612
00:29:48,120 --> 00:29:50,720
Speaker 1: congratulations to you guys and your fourth season coming up

613
00:29:50,720 --> 00:29:54,000
Speaker 1: the end of season three. Um, but I think that's

614
00:29:54,000 --> 00:29:55,360
Speaker 1: a key and it's great that you guys are doing

615
00:29:55,360 --> 00:29:57,520
Speaker 1: that because I think like keeping true to yourselves and

616
00:29:57,560 --> 00:29:59,840
Speaker 1: your brand and not you know, people say like all

617
00:29:59,880 --> 00:30:02,640
Speaker 1: the things when Bachelor people post Instagram for money, it's

618
00:30:02,680 --> 00:30:04,520
Speaker 1: selling out. It's not selling out if it's a product

619
00:30:04,520 --> 00:30:06,640
Speaker 1: they really like, it's selling out when it's something that

620
00:30:07,920 --> 00:30:10,560
Speaker 1: they wouldn't use are uncomfortable way. So I think that's

621
00:30:10,600 --> 00:30:13,920
Speaker 1: the key to like having a career after the Bachelor.

622
00:30:14,240 --> 00:30:17,080
Speaker 1: I use Loreale because of Blake Lively, so my thing

623
00:30:19,480 --> 00:30:22,800
Speaker 1: because her hair is Look, if you would take a

624
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Speaker 1: you know, a diet pill to in your regular life

625
00:30:27,480 --> 00:30:29,160
Speaker 1: and you want to enduse it, then do it, you know.

626
00:30:29,240 --> 00:30:31,360
Speaker 1: So I'm not saying that product is bad. That's just

627
00:30:31,360 --> 00:30:33,520
Speaker 1: not something I do. So that's why it's something that

628
00:30:33,560 --> 00:30:36,920
Speaker 1: I couldn't get on board with. Speaking of product, I

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657
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Speaker 1: Wait what parabin freak, Alex Mommy, Ali? Can you please

658
00:32:16,720 --> 00:32:19,400
Speaker 1: explain me? What is I mean from I think I

659
00:32:19,400 --> 00:32:21,680
Speaker 1: don't want to misspeak, but like there's not like a

660
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Speaker 1: bunch of chemicals in it. Parabins are like bad for

661
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Speaker 1: you your skin and stuff, so something something I mean,

662
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663
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664
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Speaker 1: it was psyched to hear you say that. Yeah, before

665
00:32:33,840 --> 00:32:36,760
Speaker 1: you leave us, Ali, I love to like tie in

666
00:32:37,000 --> 00:32:40,520
Speaker 1: the way people whose Bachelor or Bachelor experiences didn't actually

667
00:32:40,560 --> 00:32:42,560
Speaker 1: work in the traditional way, but they did end up

668
00:32:42,920 --> 00:32:46,760
Speaker 1: meeting their husband or wife somehow through the opportunities that

669
00:32:46,800 --> 00:32:48,800
Speaker 1: they got through the show. We had Andrew Firestone on

670
00:32:48,920 --> 00:32:51,000
Speaker 1: like a month ago, and he was telling us about

671
00:32:51,000 --> 00:32:55,120
Speaker 1: how he was here to record an after show or something,

672
00:32:55,480 --> 00:32:58,040
Speaker 1: and he ended up meeting his wife while like at

673
00:32:58,040 --> 00:32:59,920
Speaker 1: a bar in l A. And he wouldn't have been there,

674
00:33:00,040 --> 00:33:01,920
Speaker 1: it weren't for the show, and I feel like you

675
00:33:02,000 --> 00:33:03,760
Speaker 1: kind of met your husband in a similar way. You

676
00:33:04,080 --> 00:33:07,720
Speaker 1: were the host of First Look, which is so interesting

677
00:33:07,760 --> 00:33:10,720
Speaker 1: because Ben and I actually have a Golden Globes episode

678
00:33:10,760 --> 00:33:14,640
Speaker 1: of First Look coming out like a week. Yeah, I know,

679
00:33:14,800 --> 00:33:17,360
Speaker 1: look at this, so full circle. But anyway, tell us

680
00:33:17,360 --> 00:33:20,160
Speaker 1: about how you met your husband through that. Yeah, so

681
00:33:20,320 --> 00:33:23,000
Speaker 1: I um. After actually right after Roberto and I entered

682
00:33:23,000 --> 00:33:25,120
Speaker 1: our engagement and broke up, I randomly got a call

683
00:33:25,680 --> 00:33:27,880
Speaker 1: um from somebody saying the show First Look wants you

684
00:33:27,920 --> 00:33:30,000
Speaker 1: to host it because they thought I was perfect, because

685
00:33:30,000 --> 00:33:31,720
Speaker 1: they're like, oh, she just entered her engagement, so we

686
00:33:31,720 --> 00:33:34,080
Speaker 1: can send her all over the country, you know, and

687
00:33:34,360 --> 00:33:36,240
Speaker 1: she'll be fine with it because she has no attachment

688
00:33:36,360 --> 00:33:45,440
Speaker 1: that you guys are doing the specials. The specials are

689
00:33:45,480 --> 00:33:48,560
Speaker 1: like reserved for like very important people, so I should

690
00:33:48,560 --> 00:33:50,640
Speaker 1: feel I don't even think I did any of the specials.

691
00:33:50,760 --> 00:33:56,240
Speaker 1: Ben sent some non specials as well. But this this

692
00:33:56,320 --> 00:33:58,440
Speaker 1: is a little different in the sense that it was NonStop.

693
00:33:58,440 --> 00:34:00,440
Speaker 1: I mean that show, I loved it, but man, it

694
00:34:00,520 --> 00:34:03,560
Speaker 1: was hard. I traveled. I was on a plane every

695
00:34:03,600 --> 00:34:06,800
Speaker 1: like three days for a year and a half. Like that,

696
00:34:07,080 --> 00:34:10,800
Speaker 1: where's so you can't have any attachments. So anyway, they

697
00:34:10,800 --> 00:34:12,160
Speaker 1: had me do this show. So I went and did

698
00:34:12,160 --> 00:34:16,880
Speaker 1: First Look and my now husband, um uh he was

699
00:34:17,680 --> 00:34:19,319
Speaker 1: his best friend was one of the producers for the

700
00:34:19,320 --> 00:34:22,080
Speaker 1: show in Chicago, and I was in Chicago doing a

701
00:34:22,560 --> 00:34:26,200
Speaker 1: um round of episodes and his best friend, who my producer,

702
00:34:26,239 --> 00:34:27,759
Speaker 1: asked Kevin to come on and co host one of

703
00:34:27,760 --> 00:34:29,439
Speaker 1: the episodes of me. So he came on and coast

704
00:34:29,440 --> 00:34:31,160
Speaker 1: one of the episodes. He was in a very serious

705
00:34:31,200 --> 00:34:34,640
Speaker 1: relationship at the time, so um, we didn't. We didn't uh,

706
00:34:34,760 --> 00:34:36,879
Speaker 1: you know, instantly fall in love or anything. But man,

707
00:34:36,960 --> 00:34:39,680
Speaker 1: then then and I met him, I was like, oh,

708
00:34:39,880 --> 00:34:42,880
Speaker 1: dang it, like I this guy would be perfect for me.

709
00:34:42,920 --> 00:34:45,600
Speaker 1: And of course he's taken, so um. I mean he

710
00:34:45,640 --> 00:34:48,160
Speaker 1: was married at the time, so he was very taken. Um.

711
00:34:48,200 --> 00:34:50,120
Speaker 1: So I just kind of like forgot about it. And then,

712
00:34:50,680 --> 00:34:53,120
Speaker 1: you know, six months later, my producer, when I was

713
00:34:53,160 --> 00:34:55,520
Speaker 1: back in Chicago, he was like, yeah, you know, you

714
00:34:55,560 --> 00:34:57,520
Speaker 1: know said how is Kevin doing and everything? He said, oh,

715
00:34:57,560 --> 00:34:58,800
Speaker 1: you know, he's okay. He's kind of going through a

716
00:34:58,880 --> 00:35:00,200
Speaker 1: rough times, going through a divorce. And I was like,

717
00:35:00,200 --> 00:35:02,080
Speaker 1: oh my gosh, I'm so sorry, and then keep down inside.

718
00:35:02,080 --> 00:35:05,640
Speaker 1: I was like, yes, I feel so bad, like even

719
00:35:05,680 --> 00:35:08,160
Speaker 1: just say that out loud, But like I just knew

720
00:35:08,320 --> 00:35:11,000
Speaker 1: this guy was like meant for me. I don't know it,

721
00:35:11,120 --> 00:35:12,680
Speaker 1: just like the secondment, I knew he would have been

722
00:35:12,680 --> 00:35:15,000
Speaker 1: perfect for me. The universe knew too, and you didn't

723
00:35:15,000 --> 00:35:18,239
Speaker 1: cause the problems. So hallelujah, you know exactly know it

724
00:35:18,280 --> 00:35:21,200
Speaker 1: all worked out the way it should obviously, um and

725
00:35:21,360 --> 00:35:23,279
Speaker 1: uh yeah, So if it wasn't, I always say, like

726
00:35:23,280 --> 00:35:25,120
Speaker 1: people will say, would you let your daughter Molly be

727
00:35:25,200 --> 00:35:27,520
Speaker 1: the bachelotte one day or going the Bachelor? And I'm like, yes,

728
00:35:27,640 --> 00:35:30,319
Speaker 1: if it wasn't for the Bachelor Bachelorette, she would not

729
00:35:30,440 --> 00:35:32,719
Speaker 1: exist because I never would have had that TV show.

730
00:35:32,719 --> 00:35:34,799
Speaker 1: I never would have met Kevin, or maybe I would

731
00:35:34,840 --> 00:35:37,000
Speaker 1: have just a different way, who knows. But so how

732
00:35:37,000 --> 00:35:38,719
Speaker 1: could I say to her, No, you can't go on

733
00:35:38,760 --> 00:35:40,840
Speaker 1: that show, and one you can't go into your eighteen anyway,

734
00:35:40,880 --> 00:35:45,760
Speaker 1: and at that point I can't control Well, at that point,

735
00:35:46,080 --> 00:35:47,560
Speaker 1: I guess that's a good thing. Imagine if they had

736
00:35:47,560 --> 00:35:55,120
Speaker 1: a bunch of eighteen, oh right, unless they took the

737
00:35:55,120 --> 00:35:58,600
Speaker 1: show maybe to like Copenhagen or something for they would

738
00:35:58,600 --> 00:36:01,440
Speaker 1: be allowed, but we don't need anybody. Actually, I think

739
00:36:01,640 --> 00:36:04,000
Speaker 1: I know that in other countries they can be below

740
00:36:04,040 --> 00:36:07,000
Speaker 1: twenty one for that reason. On the show is like

741
00:36:07,160 --> 00:36:09,240
Speaker 1: that's funny. Yeah, but you know what, people are already

742
00:36:09,239 --> 00:36:11,840
Speaker 1: saying there's too many young girls and already season this season,

743
00:36:11,960 --> 00:36:14,280
Speaker 1: I feel like a lot of times like, really, anyone

744
00:36:14,400 --> 00:36:16,920
Speaker 1: under twenty one for sure has some growing to do

745
00:36:17,000 --> 00:36:19,560
Speaker 1: before they need to get married, So let's keep it on.

746
00:36:19,680 --> 00:36:22,799
Speaker 1: At least we should raise it to five. Really, I

747
00:36:22,840 --> 00:36:26,160
Speaker 1: think so too. I totally think so. Guys. The more

748
00:36:26,320 --> 00:36:29,120
Speaker 1: the more age we raise it to, the less drama

749
00:36:29,160 --> 00:36:31,040
Speaker 1: we get. And we just talked culiar we need more drama,

750
00:36:31,080 --> 00:36:35,880
Speaker 1: we know what more do I don't know? Then I

751
00:36:35,920 --> 00:36:39,280
Speaker 1: feel like there's more people they're craving romance than drama

752
00:36:39,320 --> 00:36:43,560
Speaker 1: these days. Hey, hey, I actually I'm all about that.

753
00:36:43,640 --> 00:36:46,000
Speaker 1: But the first couple of weeks are still fun to

754
00:36:46,000 --> 00:36:48,480
Speaker 1: watch the train wreck here, So I'm just I'm just

755
00:36:48,480 --> 00:36:51,839
Speaker 1: saying I like that. I'm really interested in in one

756
00:36:51,880 --> 00:36:54,680
Speaker 1: thing here if we if you don't mind, I would

757
00:36:54,680 --> 00:36:57,840
Speaker 1: like to take it back a few years, um, because

758
00:36:58,640 --> 00:37:01,319
Speaker 1: you know, the Bachelor has had uh, just a lot

759
00:37:01,320 --> 00:37:03,799
Speaker 1: of press recently, there's been a lot of negatives to it. Uh,

760
00:37:04,440 --> 00:37:07,080
Speaker 1: you know, but the Bachelor is still something that you

761
00:37:07,120 --> 00:37:10,440
Speaker 1: and I uh participated and and found somebody that really

762
00:37:10,520 --> 00:37:13,160
Speaker 1: cared about. If you don't mind you, I mean, did

763
00:37:13,200 --> 00:37:15,600
Speaker 1: you really find love on the Bachelorette or it was

764
00:37:15,640 --> 00:37:17,799
Speaker 1: that relationship real to you or was it just more

765
00:37:18,320 --> 00:37:20,040
Speaker 1: of being caught up in the moment by being on

766
00:37:20,080 --> 00:37:25,800
Speaker 1: the show. The relationship to me when we got engaged

767
00:37:25,880 --> 00:37:29,120
Speaker 1: was absolutely real in my mind. I mean, there are

768
00:37:29,200 --> 00:37:31,880
Speaker 1: parts of me looking back I think like, was I

769
00:37:31,920 --> 00:37:33,640
Speaker 1: really ready? Was I just caught up in the moment?

770
00:37:33,680 --> 00:37:35,120
Speaker 1: I do think I was caught up in the moment.

771
00:37:35,160 --> 00:37:36,720
Speaker 1: I do think I was caught up in the idea

772
00:37:36,840 --> 00:37:39,839
Speaker 1: of wanting to get engaged and wanting it to work out,

773
00:37:40,000 --> 00:37:42,040
Speaker 1: knowing how much pressure would be on me to have

774
00:37:42,160 --> 00:37:46,200
Speaker 1: something work out. Um, and I do think I do

775
00:37:46,280 --> 00:37:49,160
Speaker 1: think it was real in the sense of any relationship

776
00:37:49,239 --> 00:37:51,360
Speaker 1: that's not meant to be how it starts out. You know,

777
00:37:51,400 --> 00:37:53,640
Speaker 1: it started out great, like, oh my gosh, I thought

778
00:37:53,640 --> 00:37:55,480
Speaker 1: it was the hottest thing in the world when we

779
00:37:55,480 --> 00:37:57,440
Speaker 1: were together, Like I just couldn't every time I saw him.

780
00:37:57,440 --> 00:37:58,920
Speaker 1: I think on camera even I just made out with

781
00:37:58,960 --> 00:38:03,600
Speaker 1: him because I just couldn't this myself, um so, but

782
00:38:03,920 --> 00:38:07,840
Speaker 1: reversist myself. I couldn't resist him, um so. I you know,

783
00:38:07,960 --> 00:38:09,560
Speaker 1: I do think it was real, But I think I

784
00:38:09,640 --> 00:38:12,959
Speaker 1: knew pretty early on in my case that it wasn't

785
00:38:12,960 --> 00:38:17,840
Speaker 1: gonna work, um just because I realized how fundamentally different

786
00:38:17,880 --> 00:38:20,440
Speaker 1: we were right from the get go in terms of

787
00:38:20,520 --> 00:38:25,080
Speaker 1: our beliefs on um just like how things work in

788
00:38:25,120 --> 00:38:28,359
Speaker 1: a household, you know, like like small things that we

789
00:38:28,360 --> 00:38:31,680
Speaker 1: were just so fundamentally mentally different on that I knew

790
00:38:31,760 --> 00:38:35,160
Speaker 1: right away. But like any any relationship I've ever been in,

791
00:38:35,200 --> 00:38:38,160
Speaker 1: I don't know about you guys, but regardless of the show,

792
00:38:38,280 --> 00:38:41,399
Speaker 1: before the show, I've always stayed in too long, like

793
00:38:41,719 --> 00:38:45,120
Speaker 1: it should have ended a year before, months before, and

794
00:38:45,160 --> 00:38:46,640
Speaker 1: you stay in it, You stay in it, you fight

795
00:38:46,640 --> 00:38:48,759
Speaker 1: for I'm sure people listening can totally relate to this.

796
00:38:48,880 --> 00:38:50,600
Speaker 1: You know, you should break up with this guy, but

797
00:38:50,880 --> 00:38:52,680
Speaker 1: he just you love him so much. You try and

798
00:38:52,719 --> 00:38:54,480
Speaker 1: you try and you try to make it work. So

799
00:38:54,520 --> 00:38:56,000
Speaker 1: I think that's kind of what I went through. I

800
00:38:56,080 --> 00:39:00,600
Speaker 1: knew very early on, probably within honestly the first few weeks,

801
00:39:01,000 --> 00:39:04,360
Speaker 1: to be honest, that like this wasn't something was off,

802
00:39:04,760 --> 00:39:07,600
Speaker 1: but I believed deep down in my heart that like,

803
00:39:08,120 --> 00:39:10,240
Speaker 1: we loved each other and we couldn't make it work.

804
00:39:10,560 --> 00:39:12,920
Speaker 1: So how did it feel to accept a proposal from

805
00:39:12,960 --> 00:39:15,200
Speaker 1: somebody who you had that gut feeling it was. I

806
00:39:15,200 --> 00:39:17,400
Speaker 1: didn't like, sorry, I didn't have that at the proposal.

807
00:39:17,480 --> 00:39:19,720
Speaker 1: I had that once we were in like the happy

808
00:39:19,840 --> 00:39:23,400
Speaker 1: couple getaways. Um, those were actually fine. I think we

809
00:39:23,440 --> 00:39:25,520
Speaker 1: had one little argument during that time that I was

810
00:39:25,560 --> 00:39:27,840
Speaker 1: kind of like, this is not good. Um. But I

811
00:39:27,880 --> 00:39:30,239
Speaker 1: think it was after after we came up publicly, I

812
00:39:30,239 --> 00:39:32,400
Speaker 1: should say within a few weeks after that, I was

813
00:39:32,520 --> 00:39:34,719
Speaker 1: kind of like, okay something. And we were to get

814
00:39:34,719 --> 00:39:37,080
Speaker 1: there a year and a half after the show, after

815
00:39:37,120 --> 00:39:41,359
Speaker 1: we got engaged. Yeah, I mean that is I mean

816
00:39:41,400 --> 00:39:43,000
Speaker 1: a decent amount of time. At the time. It was

817
00:39:43,520 --> 00:39:45,239
Speaker 1: at the time when we broke up, we had been

818
00:39:45,280 --> 00:39:47,919
Speaker 1: the longest engaged couple that didn't get married from the show.

819
00:39:47,920 --> 00:39:49,760
Speaker 1: And now these people have been together a lot longer,

820
00:39:49,800 --> 00:39:52,319
Speaker 1: but at the time it was very long. Um, and

821
00:39:52,360 --> 00:39:54,160
Speaker 1: I just but I think that's the thing. It wasn't

822
00:39:54,200 --> 00:39:56,279
Speaker 1: just Yes, there was the pressure of the public to

823
00:39:56,320 --> 00:39:59,200
Speaker 1: stay together. Yes, there was the pressure. Um, you know

824
00:39:59,680 --> 00:40:02,799
Speaker 1: of you know, even the show wanting us to stay together. Um,

825
00:40:02,960 --> 00:40:05,160
Speaker 1: but the biggest pressure was the pressure I put on

826
00:40:05,239 --> 00:40:07,680
Speaker 1: myself to want to stay together because I just I

827
00:40:07,760 --> 00:40:10,239
Speaker 1: knew this guy was great. He was good looking, he

828
00:40:10,760 --> 00:40:15,080
Speaker 1: was responsible, he was very kind people, a good person.

829
00:40:15,600 --> 00:40:18,080
Speaker 1: Why wasn't I Why wasn't this working? Like I was

830
00:40:18,120 --> 00:40:20,560
Speaker 1: like upset with myself. So, you know, I think I

831
00:40:20,560 --> 00:40:23,680
Speaker 1: put the most pressure on myself for sure, But you know,

832
00:40:23,719 --> 00:40:25,399
Speaker 1: I think we all do that. I think we all

833
00:40:25,400 --> 00:40:27,399
Speaker 1: do that relationships. We stay in a relationship too long

834
00:40:27,440 --> 00:40:28,919
Speaker 1: and you knew you should get out. All your friends

835
00:40:28,920 --> 00:40:31,200
Speaker 1: are telling you this guy or this girl is bad

836
00:40:31,280 --> 00:40:33,320
Speaker 1: for you, get out of this relationship, and you're like, oh,

837
00:40:33,360 --> 00:40:35,120
Speaker 1: but I don't know. I love him and you know

838
00:40:35,400 --> 00:40:36,759
Speaker 1: we're meant to be. And that's kind of what I

839
00:40:36,800 --> 00:40:38,239
Speaker 1: was going through in my head. And then one day

840
00:40:38,280 --> 00:40:41,080
Speaker 1: I just said, this is not right and just it

841
00:40:41,160 --> 00:40:46,400
Speaker 1: was very ended, very abruptly. But well, Ali, thank you

842
00:40:46,440 --> 00:40:48,920
Speaker 1: for telling us all about your bachelor journey. We need

843
00:40:48,960 --> 00:40:51,359
Speaker 1: to talk about what you're doing currently with your new

844
00:40:51,440 --> 00:40:53,680
Speaker 1: It's it's a new show, right, it's starting to it

845
00:40:53,800 --> 00:40:57,759
Speaker 1: just started air, but it's crazy home and family. I

846
00:40:57,800 --> 00:40:59,920
Speaker 1: feel like it's for like twenty years or something. It's

847
00:40:59,920 --> 00:41:01,879
Speaker 1: like a super long running show. It used to be

848
00:41:02,239 --> 00:41:04,520
Speaker 1: on another network, but it's on Hallmark Channel now and

849
00:41:04,520 --> 00:41:07,480
Speaker 1: it's in its sixth season on Hallmark Channel. Um, it's

850
00:41:07,600 --> 00:41:09,399
Speaker 1: such a great show. I mean, I know we talked

851
00:41:09,400 --> 00:41:13,040
Speaker 1: about how like this business. No no, no, no, no, no,

852
00:41:13,080 --> 00:41:15,479
Speaker 1: I'm not Mark. Um and Debbie are the co host

853
00:41:15,520 --> 00:41:18,000
Speaker 1: of the segments on it. Yeah, yeah, yeah, I feel

854
00:41:18,000 --> 00:41:22,239
Speaker 1: in sometimes I fill in for them sometimes. Um, when

855
00:41:22,239 --> 00:41:25,640
Speaker 1: they're out doing stuff. They're the craziest. Um. They have

856
00:41:25,719 --> 00:41:28,319
Speaker 1: the craziest schedule and they work harder than anybody in

857
00:41:28,320 --> 00:41:31,360
Speaker 1: the business. Um. But the great thing about this show,

858
00:41:31,520 --> 00:41:33,440
Speaker 1: so I'm we call what I'm called is a family

859
00:41:33,480 --> 00:41:35,880
Speaker 1: member on the show. And the thing is it might

860
00:41:35,920 --> 00:41:37,879
Speaker 1: sound cheesy, like honestly, when I first got on the show,

861
00:41:37,920 --> 00:41:39,840
Speaker 1: I'm like, I'm a family member. Like, well, I'm like

862
00:41:39,880 --> 00:41:42,640
Speaker 1: a corresponder, I'm a I get it now because we

863
00:41:42,680 --> 00:41:45,319
Speaker 1: are a family on that show. It is truly the

864
00:41:45,360 --> 00:41:47,160
Speaker 1: best show to be a part of. I'm not just

865
00:41:47,200 --> 00:41:48,880
Speaker 1: saying that because i know they're going to listen to this.

866
00:41:50,520 --> 00:41:53,760
Speaker 1: I'm truly not just It is the truth, Like people

867
00:41:53,840 --> 00:41:56,240
Speaker 1: care about each other. They are If someone has a hardship,

868
00:41:56,280 --> 00:41:59,000
Speaker 1: whether it's someone on the camera crew or a producer,

869
00:41:59,200 --> 00:42:01,279
Speaker 1: anybody has a chip in, they're like, we pulled together

870
00:42:01,440 --> 00:42:03,880
Speaker 1: money to help them out. Like it is one of

871
00:42:03,920 --> 00:42:06,200
Speaker 1: the best working environments that I've ever been in, and

872
00:42:06,239 --> 00:42:08,160
Speaker 1: I feel so fortunate and like you to be part

873
00:42:08,160 --> 00:42:10,239
Speaker 1: of the show. Like if nobody with the show is

874
00:42:10,280 --> 00:42:12,239
Speaker 1: doing great, thankfully, but if nobody watched the show, I

875
00:42:12,280 --> 00:42:13,680
Speaker 1: still would want to be on it every day just

876
00:42:13,680 --> 00:42:15,600
Speaker 1: because it's such a great environment to be a part of.

877
00:42:16,120 --> 00:42:17,880
Speaker 1: Um And they give us food every day, which is

878
00:42:17,920 --> 00:42:21,319
Speaker 1: really nice. That's always a part. It always makes me

879
00:42:21,360 --> 00:42:23,720
Speaker 1: feel like I'm going to gain a solid ten pounds

880
00:42:23,760 --> 00:42:26,799
Speaker 1: just from working there every day. I actually, on the

881
00:42:26,800 --> 00:42:28,640
Speaker 1: way here, I think I filled up a to go

882
00:42:28,760 --> 00:42:32,640
Speaker 1: container and was like eating fried cauliflower and like all

883
00:42:32,640 --> 00:42:34,319
Speaker 1: this stuff. But yeah, I eat a lot there, don't

884
00:42:34,360 --> 00:42:36,600
Speaker 1: It's in the morning. What can you do? What exactly

885
00:42:36,640 --> 00:42:38,720
Speaker 1: is the show about? Though? Just real quick for anybody

886
00:42:38,719 --> 00:42:41,360
Speaker 1: listening if they want to tune in, what should they expect? Yeah,

887
00:42:41,400 --> 00:42:43,520
Speaker 1: so actually kind of like you were saying, actually, how

888
00:42:43,520 --> 00:42:46,200
Speaker 1: like people really want like some good feelings right now?

889
00:42:46,239 --> 00:42:48,040
Speaker 1: Like they said they want the romance. I think right now,

890
00:42:48,040 --> 00:42:50,279
Speaker 1: with like the state of our world and everything going on,

891
00:42:50,320 --> 00:42:51,640
Speaker 1: and every time we turn on the news, it's like

892
00:42:51,640 --> 00:42:54,560
Speaker 1: another sad story, um that people just kind of wanted,

893
00:42:54,560 --> 00:42:57,279
Speaker 1: like to feel good. And so the show is a

894
00:42:57,320 --> 00:42:59,760
Speaker 1: lifestyle show where we do a lot of cooking segments.

895
00:43:00,320 --> 00:43:03,120
Speaker 1: You'll learn how to bake like a champ after watching

896
00:43:03,120 --> 00:43:04,960
Speaker 1: our show. Um. We do a lot of d i

897
00:43:05,120 --> 00:43:07,920
Speaker 1: y segments. Um, I do fashion, I do a lot

898
00:43:07,960 --> 00:43:10,440
Speaker 1: of kiddos stuff, so like fun activities to do with

899
00:43:10,440 --> 00:43:12,839
Speaker 1: your kids, a perfect mix of stuff for you. Yeah,

900
00:43:12,880 --> 00:43:15,160
Speaker 1: it's so much fun. It's a great show. Um. And

901
00:43:15,280 --> 00:43:17,600
Speaker 1: so we do that, and I feel like people just

902
00:43:17,680 --> 00:43:19,520
Speaker 1: kind of go to Hallmark right now, not just for

903
00:43:19,560 --> 00:43:22,760
Speaker 1: the like awesome, binge worthy homework movies. Come on, everybody

904
00:43:22,800 --> 00:43:25,520
Speaker 1: you met, you're watching those homework Christmas movies right now,

905
00:43:26,440 --> 00:43:28,040
Speaker 1: but you also go to Homework for like the warm

906
00:43:28,080 --> 00:43:30,839
Speaker 1: and fuzzies totally. So that's what our show is all about.

907
00:43:30,880 --> 00:43:32,440
Speaker 1: It's just about feeling good. And this is a thing.

908
00:43:32,440 --> 00:43:34,160
Speaker 1: The warm and fuzzies that you see on the show

909
00:43:34,200 --> 00:43:36,840
Speaker 1: are legit. What's happening on the show, even behind the scenes,

910
00:43:36,880 --> 00:43:39,280
Speaker 1: which is why it works so perfect. Yeah, you should

911
00:43:39,280 --> 00:43:42,719
Speaker 1: come on you guys sometimes do something with you. Yeah,

912
00:43:42,800 --> 00:43:45,120
Speaker 1: let's do something. We'll have to plan something and do it. Yeah.

913
00:43:45,160 --> 00:43:47,080
Speaker 1: We had Eric Bigger on the show recently. It was

914
00:43:47,120 --> 00:43:50,840
Speaker 1: on Rachel's season. Um, yeah, so we will have to.

915
00:43:50,840 --> 00:43:52,399
Speaker 1: It's just up the road. It's a Rocks throw away

916
00:43:52,440 --> 00:43:54,319
Speaker 1: from here. So you guys love to come up amazing. Well,

917
00:43:54,400 --> 00:43:57,319
Speaker 1: you're just a great guest. You're everything that we've ever

918
00:43:57,360 --> 00:44:00,640
Speaker 1: thought you'd be. Smart and articulate and warm and beautiful.

919
00:44:01,320 --> 00:44:03,440
Speaker 1: So thank you so much for being here. Ashley and

920
00:44:03,440 --> 00:44:05,440
Speaker 1: I are officially I'm gonna make her hang out with

921
00:44:05,440 --> 00:44:07,399
Speaker 1: me every day just so I can feel as good

922
00:44:07,400 --> 00:44:12,200
Speaker 1: as I feel right now my original Bachelor at No,

923
00:44:12,440 --> 00:44:15,680
Speaker 1: I'm not I'm not kidding Ali. I literally tell everybody

924
00:44:15,680 --> 00:44:17,480
Speaker 1: I like to hang out with Ashley, not because she's

925
00:44:17,520 --> 00:44:21,520
Speaker 1: just awesome, but because she makes me feel awesome all

926
00:44:21,520 --> 00:44:24,440
Speaker 1: the time, and that's what she's a good co host here.

927
00:44:24,520 --> 00:44:26,960
Speaker 1: So hey, before you leave, all I want to I

928
00:44:26,960 --> 00:44:29,000
Speaker 1: want to say it one more time. If you want

929
00:44:29,040 --> 00:44:31,680
Speaker 1: some more warm and fuzzies in your life, make sure

930
00:44:31,719 --> 00:44:33,359
Speaker 1: to check out Ali and the rest of the Great

931
00:44:33,400 --> 00:44:36,520
Speaker 1: Team on the Home and Family uh television show on

932
00:44:36,560 --> 00:44:39,799
Speaker 1: the Hallmark Channel, and then also uh for every day

933
00:44:39,880 --> 00:44:42,719
Speaker 1: reading visit Ali loves dot com. That's a l I

934
00:44:43,080 --> 00:44:45,880
Speaker 1: l u v s dot com. Hey Ali, I, I

935
00:44:45,960 --> 00:44:48,120
Speaker 1: really I want to personally thank you for coming on

936
00:44:48,120 --> 00:44:51,080
Speaker 1: Almost Famous podcast. I have to go and so I'm

937
00:44:51,080 --> 00:44:54,080
Speaker 1: gonna hand this over to Ali and Ashley to take

938
00:44:54,080 --> 00:44:56,319
Speaker 1: it from here. Hey, I appreciate you both, and we

939
00:44:56,320 --> 00:45:00,200
Speaker 1: will talk very soon on episode one of the even

940
00:45:00,320 --> 00:45:08,840
Speaker 1: for January second, I'll talkulate guys. Thank you, Bye ch a. Alright, Ali,

941
00:45:08,880 --> 00:45:12,799
Speaker 1: we have some insane callers. Um, I'm looking at their

942
00:45:12,840 --> 00:45:16,160
Speaker 1: stories right now. There was a girl, her name is Emily.

943
00:45:16,239 --> 00:45:19,359
Speaker 1: I'm hoping we can get her on the phone. Her

944
00:45:19,400 --> 00:45:23,040
Speaker 1: boyfriend broke up with her this a month by dumping

945
00:45:23,040 --> 00:45:25,960
Speaker 1: her in the best man's speech, like as she sat

946
00:45:26,040 --> 00:45:29,319
Speaker 1: in the audience of a wedding reception. He said in

947
00:45:29,400 --> 00:45:31,880
Speaker 1: his speech like he broke up with her. So Emily

948
00:45:32,040 --> 00:45:35,480
Speaker 1: will be on to tell this dumping story that's insane.

949
00:45:35,600 --> 00:45:38,359
Speaker 1: Just a few minutes. But first we have to talk

950
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952
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954
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Speaker 1: get so stoked whenever we do a Meandi's ad because

955
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Speaker 1: we love them so much. Um. We both got pairs

956
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957
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959
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960
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Speaker 1: I got them from my husband, um, and he's obsessed

961
00:46:13,960 --> 00:46:16,239
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962
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964
00:46:25,000 --> 00:46:27,239
Speaker 1: But we still give them to our loved ones, just

965
00:46:27,280 --> 00:46:30,680
Speaker 1: like Ali. We just don't want it. Um. But maybe

966
00:46:30,719 --> 00:46:33,240
Speaker 1: it's not the underwear that's the problem. It's the kind

967
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981
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Speaker 1: this crew of people who are just obsessed with me.

982
00:47:33,800 --> 00:47:36,040
Speaker 1: And it's actually funny that you said it made a

983
00:47:36,040 --> 00:47:38,839
Speaker 1: great Christmas gift because actually last year I was thinking

984
00:47:38,840 --> 00:47:40,879
Speaker 1: in my head, when did I serve that subscription for him?

985
00:47:41,040 --> 00:47:43,359
Speaker 1: I started it for him last year at Christmas because

986
00:47:43,440 --> 00:47:45,879
Speaker 1: he told me that's what he wanted. So he told

987
00:47:45,880 --> 00:47:48,400
Speaker 1: me I want me and I want you for Christmas.

988
00:47:48,400 --> 00:47:49,839
Speaker 1: So that's how I found out about it. That's how

989
00:47:49,880 --> 00:47:51,879
Speaker 1: he headed. He still gets them now a year later,

990
00:47:51,880 --> 00:47:53,600
Speaker 1: so it really does make a great gift. You're gonna

991
00:47:53,600 --> 00:47:57,520
Speaker 1: have to reap that subscription, all right. Emily is on

992
00:47:57,560 --> 00:48:02,799
Speaker 1: the phone, Emily, are you there? Hi? Ashley. Yes, Hey,

993
00:48:02,920 --> 00:48:06,719
Speaker 1: it's Ali Fantowski. Manoh and Ashley. Ben had to leave,

994
00:48:07,600 --> 00:48:09,919
Speaker 1: so that's fine. So sorry you had I know, I'm

995
00:48:09,920 --> 00:48:12,840
Speaker 1: so sorry. I'm sure you called for Ben, but I

996
00:48:12,880 --> 00:48:15,120
Speaker 1: was probably calling for Ben because of what happened to her.

997
00:48:15,160 --> 00:48:16,400
Speaker 1: At least she thought, Oh, I'm going to talk to

998
00:48:16,440 --> 00:48:19,480
Speaker 1: a cute, nice single guy exactly with us, and we

999
00:48:19,600 --> 00:48:21,919
Speaker 1: have this segment that we'd like to call Dr Ben

1000
00:48:21,920 --> 00:48:24,480
Speaker 1: where he gives the best relationship advice. And Emily, I

1001
00:48:24,480 --> 00:48:26,800
Speaker 1: don't know if I can give you advice on this topic,

1002
00:48:26,960 --> 00:48:30,400
Speaker 1: but I'm here to listen for a most most support

1003
00:48:30,520 --> 00:48:34,360
Speaker 1: emotional support. Yes, so please tell us the story. So

1004
00:48:34,840 --> 00:48:37,759
Speaker 1: me and my boyfriend has been dating about nine months

1005
00:48:38,000 --> 00:48:42,000
Speaker 1: and he is uh, he was a brother and he

1006
00:48:42,120 --> 00:48:44,759
Speaker 1: was the best man in his brother's wedding, so I

1007
00:48:44,840 --> 00:48:47,000
Speaker 1: was his date. He's the best man's state. I don't

1008
00:48:47,040 --> 00:48:50,719
Speaker 1: know me only been eating nine months, so I mean

1009
00:48:50,719 --> 00:48:53,200
Speaker 1: we know, I know his family very well. Um, and

1010
00:48:53,239 --> 00:48:55,920
Speaker 1: I'm going I'm, you know, the best man's date. So

1011
00:48:55,960 --> 00:48:58,360
Speaker 1: I'm like been doing all the wedding party stuff the

1012
00:48:58,360 --> 00:49:02,200
Speaker 1: whole entire weekend, um, which is like totally fine with me.

1013
00:49:02,239 --> 00:49:05,000
Speaker 1: You know, I get along with strangers. Um, I I

1014
00:49:05,040 --> 00:49:06,840
Speaker 1: didn't know everyone in the wedding party, but obviously I

1015
00:49:06,920 --> 00:49:10,120
Speaker 1: knew his brother. But anyway, so he gets up to

1016
00:49:10,120 --> 00:49:14,080
Speaker 1: do the best man speech. Um uh, the weddings on

1017
00:49:14,080 --> 00:49:16,160
Speaker 1: a Saturday night, and there's about three hundred people at

1018
00:49:16,160 --> 00:49:19,520
Speaker 1: the wedding, so it's, you know, pretty big wedding. And

1019
00:49:19,560 --> 00:49:21,960
Speaker 1: he's seen him friend of everyone. He says, you know,

1020
00:49:22,400 --> 00:49:25,319
Speaker 1: whenever I look at Calling Callings his brother, Whenever I

1021
00:49:25,320 --> 00:49:28,000
Speaker 1: look at Colin and Sara, you know the way I

1022
00:49:28,040 --> 00:49:30,719
Speaker 1: see Colin looking Snora, I just know that they're meant

1023
00:49:30,760 --> 00:49:33,480
Speaker 1: to be forever. And um, I just you can just

1024
00:49:33,520 --> 00:49:37,560
Speaker 1: tell that he feels like she's his wife's partner. And

1025
00:49:37,560 --> 00:49:39,760
Speaker 1: and then he goes and I don't know if everyone

1026
00:49:39,800 --> 00:49:42,040
Speaker 1: here has not my girlfriend Emily, and he points me out,

1027
00:49:42,080 --> 00:49:44,760
Speaker 1: and I'm obviously like, oh my god, where is this going?

1028
00:49:45,360 --> 00:49:48,160
Speaker 1: And I'm you probably thought it was going to propose. Well,

1029
00:49:48,360 --> 00:49:51,520
Speaker 1: well that's all I gets about part of later. So um,

1030
00:49:51,560 --> 00:49:53,200
Speaker 1: I'm like, oh my gosh, you know, where is this going?

1031
00:49:53,200 --> 00:49:55,560
Speaker 1: And I mean I proposed proposing, like I knew that

1032
00:49:55,640 --> 00:49:57,120
Speaker 1: was gonna happen. I mean I kind of figured that

1033
00:49:57,160 --> 00:49:59,600
Speaker 1: would happen, probably after you know, a few more years,

1034
00:49:59,600 --> 00:50:01,360
Speaker 1: just because both of us are on our mid twenties

1035
00:50:01,440 --> 00:50:06,399
Speaker 1: right now. Um. Anyways, so I'm you know, I'm kind

1036
00:50:06,400 --> 00:50:08,440
Speaker 1: of scared. I'm like, I don't know all these people here,

1037
00:50:08,440 --> 00:50:09,839
Speaker 1: but I figured it wasn't gonna be a big deal.

1038
00:50:09,840 --> 00:50:12,960
Speaker 1: And he says, and whenever I look at Emily, UM,

1039
00:50:13,040 --> 00:50:18,719
Speaker 1: you know, I just kind of think yeah, and I know,

1040
00:50:18,880 --> 00:50:23,839
Speaker 1: and goodness no, And here's the thing, like, you know, right,

1041
00:50:24,040 --> 00:50:26,680
Speaker 1: so the thing is half of the room like gas

1042
00:50:27,040 --> 00:50:29,400
Speaker 1: because they're just like shocked and horrified this happened. And

1043
00:50:29,400 --> 00:50:32,680
Speaker 1: then the other house, you know, last there was a joke.

1044
00:50:33,320 --> 00:50:36,040
Speaker 1: I think that's a joke, but it was. It would

1045
00:50:36,080 --> 00:50:39,160
Speaker 1: have been the last funny joke ever exactly. It was

1046
00:50:39,239 --> 00:50:40,680
Speaker 1: kind of like when the kind of aspect was back.

1047
00:50:40,719 --> 00:50:42,640
Speaker 1: I know, he was so nervous for at the speech

1048
00:50:42,680 --> 00:50:44,799
Speaker 1: and at the beginning of the speech because all week

1049
00:50:44,840 --> 00:50:47,000
Speaker 1: I's been like, oh, please practice for me, practice for me,

1050
00:50:47,040 --> 00:50:48,680
Speaker 1: and he was like, no, I'm just knowing it. It's

1051
00:50:48,680 --> 00:50:51,480
Speaker 1: gonna be fine because he's pretty charismatic and it's good

1052
00:50:51,480 --> 00:50:54,719
Speaker 1: at speaking in front of people. And I was like, Okay,

1053
00:50:55,040 --> 00:50:56,800
Speaker 1: that's gonna be fine. And so then I've noticed in

1054
00:50:56,840 --> 00:50:58,480
Speaker 1: meeting ever from the speech, and I kind of am like,

1055
00:50:59,280 --> 00:51:00,960
Speaker 1: you know, getting nervous for him kind of, and then

1056
00:51:01,120 --> 00:51:03,160
Speaker 1: he kind of just throws me into the bus with

1057
00:51:03,280 --> 00:51:06,319
Speaker 1: this stupid joke and I'm anyways, and so I'm very

1058
00:51:06,320 --> 00:51:08,279
Speaker 1: thankful that at least some people were laughing, because I

1059
00:51:08,280 --> 00:51:10,560
Speaker 1: don't want everyone like three people in this room that

1060
00:51:10,680 --> 00:51:14,440
Speaker 1: like I finally know like probably like fifty of them.

1061
00:51:14,480 --> 00:51:16,040
Speaker 1: I don't want them to think that I'm you know,

1062
00:51:16,560 --> 00:51:18,680
Speaker 1: like hurt or embarrass what I mean, I don't know

1063
00:51:18,680 --> 00:51:20,440
Speaker 1: I should be able to feel hurt and embarrassed, but

1064
00:51:21,280 --> 00:51:23,319
Speaker 1: so I kind of pretend like it's no big deal

1065
00:51:23,360 --> 00:51:25,160
Speaker 1: for the rest of the wedding, and people are, you know,

1066
00:51:25,200 --> 00:51:26,960
Speaker 1: coming up to me and they're like kind of just

1067
00:51:27,040 --> 00:51:31,560
Speaker 1: hit him. And it's so frustrating because and I don't

1068
00:51:31,600 --> 00:51:34,200
Speaker 1: want to sound conceited, but you know, our relationship, you know,

1069
00:51:34,239 --> 00:51:38,160
Speaker 1: I mean, it's obviously I don't really you know, if

1070
00:51:38,200 --> 00:51:43,600
Speaker 1: someone's a reacher and someone's like the um, you're the I.

1071
00:51:43,840 --> 00:51:46,800
Speaker 1: He's very attractive, he's very attractive, You're the full package

1072
00:51:46,840 --> 00:51:49,319
Speaker 1: in the relationship. Well, I don't want to stay bad

1073
00:51:49,320 --> 00:51:52,480
Speaker 1: because I'm sure his friends do that view that that way,

1074
00:51:52,480 --> 00:51:53,839
Speaker 1: but I think my friends kind of view him as

1075
00:51:53,840 --> 00:51:56,120
Speaker 1: like the full package, like we complement each other. Well,

1076
00:51:56,120 --> 00:51:58,719
Speaker 1: why like why did he feel the need to do that. Well,

1077
00:51:58,760 --> 00:52:01,200
Speaker 1: I'm sure you're saying you must have forced to break

1078
00:52:01,280 --> 00:52:03,680
Speaker 1: up now once you addressed this in an actual conversation

1079
00:52:03,760 --> 00:52:06,200
Speaker 1: with him, why so like I get back, we get

1080
00:52:06,200 --> 00:52:07,879
Speaker 1: so basically right when you get back to the hotel room,

1081
00:52:07,920 --> 00:52:10,600
Speaker 1: I just like started crying and I'm like so mad

1082
00:52:10,640 --> 00:52:12,959
Speaker 1: at him, and he's like kind of like, oh my gosh,

1083
00:52:12,960 --> 00:52:14,440
Speaker 1: I didn't realize if I would be back because you know,

1084
00:52:14,520 --> 00:52:16,800
Speaker 1: and he just liked said so little lack of empathy,

1085
00:52:17,200 --> 00:52:19,440
Speaker 1: and I mean he, I mean was apologetic and sorry

1086
00:52:19,520 --> 00:52:22,959
Speaker 1: that you just you know, I'm just like, like, what's

1087
00:52:22,960 --> 00:52:24,839
Speaker 1: wrong with you? Basically, like why would you ever think

1088
00:52:24,880 --> 00:52:26,520
Speaker 1: that's the way, And like, I know you don't feel

1089
00:52:26,520 --> 00:52:28,480
Speaker 1: that way, but he just humiliated me in front of

1090
00:52:28,480 --> 00:52:31,279
Speaker 1: three hundred people. And also, I've only knew your brother

1091
00:52:31,360 --> 00:52:33,640
Speaker 1: for nine months, Like in what world is it okay

1092
00:52:33,640 --> 00:52:37,600
Speaker 1: to include someone that's in a speech given at his

1093
00:52:37,640 --> 00:52:39,920
Speaker 1: wedding Like I was the only name, you know, it

1094
00:52:40,000 --> 00:52:42,440
Speaker 1: so like he like mentioned his parents or anything. It's

1095
00:52:42,480 --> 00:52:46,600
Speaker 1: like he's only known me for nine months. Earsing. Basically,

1096
00:52:46,640 --> 00:52:49,920
Speaker 1: he was just like, I'm sorry, I was so nervous. Um,

1097
00:52:49,920 --> 00:52:52,440
Speaker 1: you know, he said something like, you know he wasted

1098
00:52:52,760 --> 00:52:54,920
Speaker 1: man ever, I mean, yeah, yeah, he I mean, he

1099
00:52:54,960 --> 00:52:57,360
Speaker 1: definitely took a blench of tequila shops right before you

1100
00:52:57,400 --> 00:52:59,439
Speaker 1: were up there. But I don't even want to blame

1101
00:52:59,440 --> 00:53:00,839
Speaker 1: it on the Alcoho hall because I feel like he's

1102
00:53:00,840 --> 00:53:03,399
Speaker 1: always able to control himself when you drink alcohol. It's

1103
00:53:03,440 --> 00:53:05,200
Speaker 1: like it doesn't really matter how much he had to

1104
00:53:05,320 --> 00:53:07,880
Speaker 1: during So did you guys break up on the spot

1105
00:53:07,880 --> 00:53:10,360
Speaker 1: when you had this conversation in the hotel room. No.

1106
00:53:10,560 --> 00:53:13,560
Speaker 1: I waited until, like after all the wedding festivities were

1107
00:53:13,560 --> 00:53:15,319
Speaker 1: taken over, because I I just didn't want to take

1108
00:53:15,320 --> 00:53:17,920
Speaker 1: any attention away from the people getting married. I was

1109
00:53:17,960 --> 00:53:22,919
Speaker 1: sous to be more embarrassing. Um, you're nice. I would

1110
00:53:22,920 --> 00:53:24,760
Speaker 1: have been like I would have made the biggest scene.

1111
00:53:24,840 --> 00:53:28,719
Speaker 1: Probably I would have. And what this sounds bad? Like?

1112
00:53:28,920 --> 00:53:30,919
Speaker 1: There was? I mean why when that happened, I thought,

1113
00:53:30,920 --> 00:53:32,600
Speaker 1: you know, there's actually no way that I'm going to

1114
00:53:32,760 --> 00:53:35,200
Speaker 1: come out of this looking like sad, you know, So,

1115
00:53:35,280 --> 00:53:37,040
Speaker 1: I mean I remember, well the worst part was but

1116
00:53:37,080 --> 00:53:39,040
Speaker 1: I had an ex boyfriend in college by dated for

1117
00:53:39,200 --> 00:53:43,000
Speaker 1: about three years or four years, and one of his

1118
00:53:43,200 --> 00:53:46,040
Speaker 1: friends that they were returning brothers, but he his friend

1119
00:53:46,160 --> 00:53:48,040
Speaker 1: actually happened to be at the wedding and his friend

1120
00:53:48,920 --> 00:53:51,279
Speaker 1: um came up to me after this teacher and was like,

1121
00:53:51,719 --> 00:53:55,000
Speaker 1: oh my gosh, Emily, like I'm still sorry, like obviously

1122
00:53:55,080 --> 00:53:58,080
Speaker 1: your boyfriend has no idea like what he's doing, you know,

1123
00:53:58,120 --> 00:54:00,799
Speaker 1: And I'm like, um, just so awkward, you know, because

1124
00:54:00,840 --> 00:54:03,760
Speaker 1: I'm like, okay, like have you talked to him since

1125
00:54:04,760 --> 00:54:07,360
Speaker 1: that I've talked? I mean we, I mean we It

1126
00:54:07,440 --> 00:54:09,600
Speaker 1: was now that kind of wedding, so we drove back together.

1127
00:54:10,840 --> 00:54:12,440
Speaker 1: But is it done done or is this like the

1128
00:54:12,440 --> 00:54:14,120
Speaker 1: type of thing where you're still kind of talking on

1129
00:54:14,160 --> 00:54:16,759
Speaker 1: the side or are you done with this guy? Well

1130
00:54:16,760 --> 00:54:20,040
Speaker 1: when my first contacting device on the podcast, in my mind,

1131
00:54:20,080 --> 00:54:27,719
Speaker 1: I was done together. Yeah, And so right now it's

1132
00:54:27,800 --> 00:54:31,000
Speaker 1: like kind of we're in this um like in between

1133
00:54:31,040 --> 00:54:34,719
Speaker 1: swoit where it's like, you know, Emily, what I was

1134
00:54:34,719 --> 00:54:37,359
Speaker 1: going to tell you is like the bright side of

1135
00:54:37,680 --> 00:54:40,840
Speaker 1: basically the most embarrassing moment I've ever heard is that like,

1136
00:54:40,920 --> 00:54:42,520
Speaker 1: at least you know that the guy that you're dating

1137
00:54:42,600 --> 00:54:44,360
Speaker 1: is so much of a dick that, like you should

1138
00:54:44,400 --> 00:54:48,080
Speaker 1: have no problem just dropping his ass. No, I'm gonna

1139
00:54:48,120 --> 00:54:52,240
Speaker 1: give this guy. I'm gonna give this one one Hall pass.

1140
00:54:52,239 --> 00:54:55,840
Speaker 1: This guy gets one wedding jitters. I'm wasted. I screwed

1141
00:54:55,920 --> 00:54:59,279
Speaker 1: up Hall pass. Mark doesn't think so Mark, we need

1142
00:54:59,320 --> 00:55:01,759
Speaker 1: the guy's opinion, do you think so unless he goes

1143
00:55:01,880 --> 00:55:04,480
Speaker 1: overboard to really make it up to you, And it

1144
00:55:04,520 --> 00:55:06,359
Speaker 1: doesn't sound like he's doing that. I mean, if they

1145
00:55:06,360 --> 00:55:09,320
Speaker 1: get married one day, it would make a pretty great story,

1146
00:55:10,200 --> 00:55:12,000
Speaker 1: you know. And I thought another thing I said, I

1147
00:55:12,040 --> 00:55:14,120
Speaker 1: told him we talked about and I got but I go,

1148
00:55:14,280 --> 00:55:16,640
Speaker 1: this thing is Jack, I'm gonna have to monitor. So

1149
00:55:16,719 --> 00:55:19,800
Speaker 1: I had a Christmas party the next weekend after the wedding,

1150
00:55:20,360 --> 00:55:24,040
Speaker 1: and I told him. I was like, listen, John, um,

1151
00:55:24,239 --> 00:55:26,919
Speaker 1: you're uninvited to my work Christmas party because I don't

1152
00:55:26,920 --> 00:55:28,239
Speaker 1: know what you're gonna say in front of people, and

1153
00:55:28,239 --> 00:55:30,879
Speaker 1: you're gonna embarrass me. And I think that that kind

1154
00:55:30,880 --> 00:55:34,239
Speaker 1: of like that crushed him a little bit, hurt a lot,

1155
00:55:34,520 --> 00:55:36,480
Speaker 1: you know, and he was like, okay, like I can't

1156
00:55:36,560 --> 00:55:39,360
Speaker 1: act like that. Um. So he's been very apologetic and

1157
00:55:39,400 --> 00:55:41,880
Speaker 1: he's I mean, he's always been so amazing and so

1158
00:55:41,920 --> 00:55:46,960
Speaker 1: great is get out of Jail three? But did you

1159
00:55:47,040 --> 00:55:51,839
Speaker 1: feel did you feel about him before? No? It was

1160
00:55:51,960 --> 00:55:53,799
Speaker 1: The thing is, it's like that comment. I know, like

1161
00:55:53,840 --> 00:55:55,799
Speaker 1: I know for a fact he doesn't feel that way,

1162
00:55:56,120 --> 00:55:58,319
Speaker 1: and I think it kind of for me, it's more reprising.

1163
00:55:58,400 --> 00:56:00,880
Speaker 1: I'm just like, how could you humiliate me? Like? You know,

1164
00:56:01,200 --> 00:56:03,840
Speaker 1: my only thing is sometimes people try to be funny

1165
00:56:03,920 --> 00:56:08,839
Speaker 1: and if they're not, they're not funny in their mind. Oh,

1166
00:56:08,920 --> 00:56:10,680
Speaker 1: I'm going to get a big laugh out of this, Like,

1167
00:56:10,760 --> 00:56:13,000
Speaker 1: and I look at my girlfriend, like, right, if it

1168
00:56:13,120 --> 00:56:16,040
Speaker 1: was totally sarcastic and then he just didn't say it,

1169
00:56:16,280 --> 00:56:19,760
Speaker 1: and then very sarcastic, you couldn't deliver it still, heaven,

1170
00:56:19,880 --> 00:56:22,839
Speaker 1: I don't know I have the emotional intelligence to throw

1171
00:56:22,880 --> 00:56:27,360
Speaker 1: out a bachelor word for a second. You've got to

1172
00:56:27,400 --> 00:56:29,320
Speaker 1: have that emotional to know that that is going to

1173
00:56:29,520 --> 00:56:33,839
Speaker 1: hurt somebody, especially when you're dating such a fragile thing.

1174
00:56:34,080 --> 00:56:36,320
Speaker 1: I was like, you know, why don't you Yeah, I

1175
00:56:36,719 --> 00:56:41,560
Speaker 1: use the word emotional intelligence. You know why why didn't

1176
00:56:41,600 --> 00:56:43,560
Speaker 1: go register with you? You know you're so smart, you're

1177
00:56:43,560 --> 00:56:47,600
Speaker 1: an engineer, and maybe that's it. You know, he's he's

1178
00:56:47,640 --> 00:56:51,719
Speaker 1: lacking emotional tools. Maybe he's us past. I wish he

1179
00:56:51,800 --> 00:56:53,600
Speaker 1: was on the phone right now. You need to call

1180
00:56:53,680 --> 00:56:56,960
Speaker 1: back for their next show. That's so funny that you

1181
00:56:57,000 --> 00:56:58,600
Speaker 1: said that, because I was gonna say, hey, can you

1182
00:56:58,680 --> 00:57:00,400
Speaker 1: check back with us in a month. I love to

1183
00:57:00,400 --> 00:57:02,919
Speaker 1: see where you're at with the people, email us what

1184
00:57:03,000 --> 00:57:07,960
Speaker 1: they think because split that because I'm my friends have there.

1185
00:57:08,560 --> 00:57:11,359
Speaker 1: Even my friends are very like giving me advice. Both

1186
00:57:11,560 --> 00:57:13,440
Speaker 1: all of them are divided. I have one friend that

1187
00:57:13,719 --> 00:57:16,240
Speaker 1: I feel very strongly, and I have another friend that's

1188
00:57:16,320 --> 00:57:18,640
Speaker 1: very different. I have a lot of other people that

1189
00:57:18,680 --> 00:57:24,080
Speaker 1: are like you, guys are great together. This is a

1190
00:57:24,200 --> 00:57:26,480
Speaker 1: question that giving him a break? What do you think all?

1191
00:57:26,720 --> 00:57:28,960
Speaker 1: I can't make that decision because, like Emily, what is

1192
00:57:28,960 --> 00:57:30,760
Speaker 1: he like now? You know, like this might have been

1193
00:57:31,040 --> 00:57:32,640
Speaker 1: if it was a one time slip up and he's

1194
00:57:32,680 --> 00:57:35,320
Speaker 1: normally the best boyfriend ever and constantly makes you feel

1195
00:57:35,360 --> 00:57:38,720
Speaker 1: super loved and appreciated, then I say, yeah, I give

1196
00:57:38,800 --> 00:57:40,920
Speaker 1: him a hall pass because he probably was trying to

1197
00:57:40,960 --> 00:57:43,360
Speaker 1: be funny and he's just not that funny. Sorry dude.

1198
00:57:43,760 --> 00:57:46,960
Speaker 1: But if on a daily basis or even you know,

1199
00:57:47,080 --> 00:57:49,200
Speaker 1: every once in a while he's making you feel not

1200
00:57:49,240 --> 00:57:52,840
Speaker 1: appreciated and not loved, and that he's not serious about you,

1201
00:57:52,960 --> 00:57:54,680
Speaker 1: then you need to leave him. So only you know

1202
00:57:54,760 --> 00:57:57,160
Speaker 1: that what is your what is your me? Asking you

1203
00:57:57,200 --> 00:57:59,600
Speaker 1: that question directly right now, how do you feel about that?

1204
00:57:59,680 --> 00:58:02,240
Speaker 1: Do you feel like he's serious about you? Do you

1205
00:58:02,240 --> 00:58:04,160
Speaker 1: feel like he shows you that love on a daily basis?

1206
00:58:04,440 --> 00:58:06,600
Speaker 1: He's very serious about me, and he's always makes me

1207
00:58:06,600 --> 00:58:09,080
Speaker 1: feel appreciative, and I know he loves me, and I

1208
00:58:09,120 --> 00:58:12,720
Speaker 1: know that this was just a one off mistake, but like,

1209
00:58:12,800 --> 00:58:14,400
Speaker 1: and this just sounds terrible, but I'm just not a

1210
00:58:14,480 --> 00:58:17,240
Speaker 1: very forgiving person. So it's taking so much for me

1211
00:58:17,280 --> 00:58:19,600
Speaker 1: to like work on forgiving him. And you want to

1212
00:58:19,640 --> 00:58:21,200
Speaker 1: be with him. You have to forgive him, and you

1213
00:58:21,240 --> 00:58:23,919
Speaker 1: have to move on because if you hold this against him,

1214
00:58:23,960 --> 00:58:26,000
Speaker 1: he will just you guys are going to start resenting

1215
00:58:26,040 --> 00:58:28,000
Speaker 1: each other. You have to go. You have to let

1216
00:58:28,080 --> 00:58:29,800
Speaker 1: him come to things like I get the holiday party.

1217
00:58:29,840 --> 00:58:31,840
Speaker 1: You cut him out for one thing, but you can't

1218
00:58:31,840 --> 00:58:33,680
Speaker 1: come out of other things you have. If you want

1219
00:58:33,720 --> 00:58:35,840
Speaker 1: to move forward, you have to let go of really

1220
00:58:35,840 --> 00:58:38,680
Speaker 1: good advice, good advice. I just think you chuck it

1221
00:58:38,760 --> 00:58:41,840
Speaker 1: up to this dude is not a good best man.

1222
00:58:42,360 --> 00:58:44,440
Speaker 1: Stop trying to be funny. You're not funny, and you

1223
00:58:44,560 --> 00:58:47,080
Speaker 1: sarcasm to cope. That is how I get through life,

1224
00:58:47,440 --> 00:58:49,479
Speaker 1: all right. And he promised me that he would never

1225
00:58:49,640 --> 00:58:51,760
Speaker 1: that he probably won't be the best to the best

1226
00:58:51,840 --> 00:58:53,800
Speaker 1: Nancy again. And if he did promise me, he would

1227
00:58:53,840 --> 00:58:59,040
Speaker 1: run it by me. That's a good compromise, right, It

1228
00:58:59,080 --> 00:59:01,080
Speaker 1: was a good compromise, not even a compromise. I feel

1229
00:59:01,080 --> 00:59:02,520
Speaker 1: like that to have just been given. But yeah, I

1230
00:59:02,560 --> 00:59:06,120
Speaker 1: mean I feel like he is making efforts to change things,

1231
00:59:06,200 --> 00:59:09,360
Speaker 1: but it was a very awkward car ride home from

1232
00:59:09,360 --> 00:59:14,200
Speaker 1: the wedding. Um, well, Emily, thank you for sharing your story. Um,

1233
00:59:14,240 --> 00:59:15,919
Speaker 1: we do want to hear from you in a couple

1234
00:59:15,920 --> 00:59:17,959
Speaker 1: of weeks. I want to know about how you're doing

1235
00:59:18,000 --> 00:59:20,600
Speaker 1: for giving him and like what kind of strides he's

1236
00:59:20,640 --> 00:59:23,000
Speaker 1: making to make it up to you. And we do

1237
00:59:23,080 --> 00:59:25,200
Speaker 1: want to hear from all our fans out there about

1238
00:59:25,280 --> 00:59:27,920
Speaker 1: their opinions on this topic. Our email is Ben and

1239
00:59:28,000 --> 00:59:33,000
Speaker 1: Ashley at I heart media dot com. Um, don't forget

1240
00:59:33,040 --> 00:59:35,640
Speaker 1: that we get tweets all week long. What's the email?

1241
00:59:35,640 --> 00:59:37,920
Speaker 1: What's the email? It is Ben and Ashley at I

1242
00:59:38,160 --> 00:59:41,640
Speaker 1: heart media dot com. Thank you so much, Emily for

1243
00:59:41,720 --> 00:59:45,360
Speaker 1: being so honest and sharing this horribly embarrassing moment with

1244
00:59:45,440 --> 00:59:47,880
Speaker 1: us and not being afraid to do so. Yes, Thanks Emily,

1245
00:59:48,280 --> 00:59:53,440
Speaker 1: good luck, bye and Ali, this was fun. Thanks for

1246
00:59:53,440 --> 00:59:55,640
Speaker 1: having Thank you for being such a terrific co host

1247
00:59:55,640 --> 00:59:58,360
Speaker 1: for the past twenty minutes. Well, my my, my life.

1248
00:59:58,360 --> 00:59:59,880
Speaker 1: You know, it's kind of a little bit boring some

1249
01:00:00,080 --> 01:00:02,480
Speaker 1: days with my husband and my kid, so when I

1250
01:00:02,480 --> 01:00:04,520
Speaker 1: get to hear other people's things going on, I get

1251
01:00:04,520 --> 01:00:07,560
Speaker 1: really excited. So that was fun. Welcome to mom life.

1252
01:00:07,600 --> 01:00:10,080
Speaker 1: You know, white, So your daughter starts like getting into

1253
01:00:10,080 --> 01:00:13,400
Speaker 1: boys because my mom lives off of my sister and

1254
01:00:13,480 --> 01:00:17,400
Speaker 1: my you know, drama dating life. You got to actually too,

1255
01:00:17,680 --> 01:00:19,720
Speaker 1: text me when you hear back from Emily and let

1256
01:00:19,760 --> 01:00:21,280
Speaker 1: me know when this episode is coming in so I

1257
01:00:21,280 --> 01:00:24,840
Speaker 1: can hear what's going on because I'm invested. Now, Okay, Well, Ali,

1258
01:00:24,960 --> 01:00:28,840
Speaker 1: you've been terrific. You're smart, you're wonderful, you're beautiful, you're

1259
01:00:28,880 --> 01:00:31,880
Speaker 1: great mom. It's so cool to see how you've come.

1260
01:00:32,240 --> 01:00:35,320
Speaker 1: Thank you, congratulations and all your success and thanks I

1261
01:00:35,360 --> 01:00:37,360
Speaker 1: know you know you were. I don't even know if

1262
01:00:37,360 --> 01:00:40,560
Speaker 1: I'm allowed to say this, but I disclosed location recently,

1263
01:00:40,600 --> 01:00:42,040
Speaker 1: but I hope to be seeing you on my TV

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Speaker 1: soon knows um. Yeah, anyway, don't distract me now, all right.

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Speaker 1: We usually end by saying I've been Ashley, I've been Ali.

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Speaker 1: There you go, thanks, posing almost saying as podcast see

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