WEBVTT - | Ep 45 | Sorry, Not Sorry!

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<v Speaker 1>Welcome to Reasonably Shady, a production of the Black Effect

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<v Speaker 1>Podcast Network and I Heart Radio. Welcome to another episode

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<v Speaker 1>of Reasonably Shady. I am Gazelle Bryant. What's up? What's up? Y'all?

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<v Speaker 1>This is Robin Dixon. Thank you so much for being

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<v Speaker 1>here with it. We appreciate you. And you're listening ears

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<v Speaker 1>every Monday or Tuesday or Wednesday whenever. I'm to listen

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<v Speaker 1>on Monday, but they might listen on Tuesdays. What does

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<v Speaker 1>that affect our downloads? No? No, this is not like

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<v Speaker 1>ratings on TV. Okay, y'all listen whenever. Okay, love it? Yes,

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<v Speaker 1>thank you for being here. And we actually y'all can't

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<v Speaker 1>see us right now, but we're like in a news studio.

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<v Speaker 1>And when I say new studio in a different room

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<v Speaker 1>in Robin's house, we're actually wait, we're back to the

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<v Speaker 1>original room. Yes, in my house. Yes, but it looks amazing.

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<v Speaker 1>It's different, totally different. So now we're like sitting on

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<v Speaker 1>a sofa. We really feel like we're like girlfriends chit

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<v Speaker 1>chatting in our living room. All we needed some wine

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<v Speaker 1>or something I can make that happen. No, no, no,

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<v Speaker 1>I want to be sober as all my shade comes

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<v Speaker 1>like totally through me when I'm sober. That's wow, that's

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<v Speaker 1>impressive because most people their shade comes out when they're drunk.

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<v Speaker 1>I know. But but and that's impressive. I know. When

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<v Speaker 1>you're drunk, what what comes out of you? Nonsense, just

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<v Speaker 1>nonsense at making no sense to nobody. But anyway, we digress.

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<v Speaker 1>We have two couple of things, A couple of things.

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<v Speaker 1>First and foremost people on Wednesday today it's Monday, if

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<v Speaker 1>Yank you. Okay, So, reasonably shady moment of the week. Okay,

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<v Speaker 1>and I'll go first because you know Robin always has

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<v Speaker 1>things with this, so I will go first. So, okay, guys,

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<v Speaker 1>Mother's Day just passed and I can't figure out if

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<v Speaker 1>the reasonably shady person was me or the person I'm

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<v Speaker 1>getting ready tell you all about. Okay. So you know,

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<v Speaker 1>my my baby daddy, Jamal Bryant, flew in it down

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<v Speaker 1>to take me and my three to dinner. Okay, So

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<v Speaker 1>it gets off the plane, he meets us at the

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<v Speaker 1>restaurant I made a reservation. Me and my kids go

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<v Speaker 1>down to the to the restaurant. We're sitting in the

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<v Speaker 1>booth to booths like a semi circle. So I'm in.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm like two people deep in the booth. Okay, on

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<v Speaker 1>both sides, so we really I'm all excited because you know,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm greedy and hungry and I'm ready to eat. I

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<v Speaker 1>don't really don't want to say that name. I went

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<v Speaker 1>to RPM. Okay, Okay, so out of nowhere, this woman

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<v Speaker 1>walks up and she's like, Hi, Oh my gosh, so

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<v Speaker 1>nice to see you. Can I take a picture? And

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<v Speaker 1>I immediately and guys, I've never done this. I have

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<v Speaker 1>never done this. Immediately, I was like, I looked up

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<v Speaker 1>and I said, nope, Oh you said it like that.

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<v Speaker 1>I said it just like dad. I was like, nope.

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<v Speaker 1>She looks at me kind of like sho. I know.

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<v Speaker 1>It was horrible. I mean it was so but I

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<v Speaker 1>was like, first of all, some mother's day. Second of all,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm here with my kids. I'm two people deep on

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<v Speaker 1>both sides in this booth. Everybody would have to move

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<v Speaker 1>in order for me to get out and take a

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<v Speaker 1>picture of this woman. Okay, So all of that was

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<v Speaker 1>going on in my mind. Did you tell her, well,

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<v Speaker 1>if you buy a ticket to the show. And I've

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<v Speaker 1>never said no like that, Like I've always been like,

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<v Speaker 1>not right now, but I'll come up to your table

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<v Speaker 1>when I'm done. I just was like nope, and then

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<v Speaker 1>she like your kids mortified. They were like they kind

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<v Speaker 1>of were like, holy crap, but they just say anything

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<v Speaker 1>because it's my day, right and I want all the

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<v Speaker 1>attention on me. So she turns around, she leaves, and

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<v Speaker 1>I looked at Jamal and I'm like, Jamal, was that horrible?

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<v Speaker 1>He was like yeah, and he said, but you know what,

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<v Speaker 1>you weren't wrong, like you know, at some point you

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<v Speaker 1>you're human, And so the shady person really was me?

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<v Speaker 1>Or was it that lady? Okay, it was both. It

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<v Speaker 1>was both. If you didn't respond the way you responded,

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<v Speaker 1>then it would just be her, right, because yes, like

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<v Speaker 1>most a lot of people will try to wait until

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<v Speaker 1>like if they see us in a restaurant, they'll try

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<v Speaker 1>to wait until we're done eating and they see us

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<v Speaker 1>like get up and we're on our way out or

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<v Speaker 1>something like that. Um. I have had people come up

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<v Speaker 1>and say, I'm so sorry to bother you while you're eating. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>but then it's like, but you're bothering But if I

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<v Speaker 1>was at the end of the booth. Yeah, but I'm like, no,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm not doing this. I'm not doing this to my family.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm not making them get up. But but you could

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<v Speaker 1>have just been like, I'm so sorry, Like right, it's

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<v Speaker 1>not a good time right now. You know, I had

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<v Speaker 1>a moment. So I want to apologize to the lady

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<v Speaker 1>first and foremost, because I know she went back to

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<v Speaker 1>her table and said I was the worst person on earth.

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<v Speaker 1>So I'm apologizing to her right now, lady, and rpm

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<v Speaker 1>on Mother's Day. Um, she's probably told everyone on Facebook

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<v Speaker 1>that that I'm horrible, right, and I'm not that person.

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<v Speaker 1>But I just was like it just she just caught

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<v Speaker 1>me on that day, so I was shady, I'm sorry,

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<v Speaker 1>but please just like if somebody's in the booth, just

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<v Speaker 1>leave him alone so they get out the damn booth. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>or just wait. I mean maybe she was like almost

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<v Speaker 1>finished her meal and she was like about to go,

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<v Speaker 1>so she couldn't like sit around and wait for you

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<v Speaker 1>to write. And then it's just right she left before

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<v Speaker 1>I did because your mom was like We're gonna fix it.

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<v Speaker 1>We gotta fix this, we gotta fix it. He was

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<v Speaker 1>like we're gonna go over there before she leaves. Yeah, okay,

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<v Speaker 1>let's go back. So you said nope, and she just

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<v Speaker 1>like turned around and walked away. She was like okay

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<v Speaker 1>and turned around and walked away. And I everything in

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<v Speaker 1>me was I was angry because she I felt like annoyed.

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<v Speaker 1>I was annoyed. I felt like, for the rest of

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<v Speaker 1>the time I'm sitting there like trying to enjoy my family,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm mad at myself that I did that to her.

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<v Speaker 1>So I like Mother's Day was ruined. Oh, because I'm

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<v Speaker 1>like in my head like she's trashing me. I didn't

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<v Speaker 1>really mean to say nope like that, but I just

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<v Speaker 1>didn't want to, Like it was just too much. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, you know what, You're human, though, and I

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<v Speaker 1>think at some point it is I think you're like, Okay,

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<v Speaker 1>it's Mother's Day. I'm in the middle of the booth,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm at a restaurant, like, you know, just like cut

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<v Speaker 1>me some slash. You're human. But I can see where

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<v Speaker 1>it's like you're kind of like, oh, ship, that was

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<v Speaker 1>that was a little that was horrible. I'm sorry, lady.

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<v Speaker 1>That was shady. I'm sorry. I honestly never turned down

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<v Speaker 1>anyone with right, I never do either, And I know

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<v Speaker 1>you don't like so I know that was like that

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<v Speaker 1>was a human moment for you, yes, yes, yes, yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>um okay, So since we're on Mother's Day, my reasonably

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<v Speaker 1>shady moment goes to myself. I'm always giving them to myself.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm like such a airhead, right, So so okay, yes,

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<v Speaker 1>it's Mother's Day, and and I should be treated nicely

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<v Speaker 1>on Mother's Day. But I also have a mother who

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<v Speaker 1>needs to be treated nicely on Mother's Day. And so

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<v Speaker 1>you know, we had a busy week. I was, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>very busy, very tired, but you know I mustered up

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<v Speaker 1>the energy to make a reservation for me and my

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<v Speaker 1>mom and my kids and Wane and my dad for

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<v Speaker 1>Mother's Day. Right. This is like a big table, yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>like six of us, right, and you know, a last

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<v Speaker 1>minute six person reservation on Mother's Day. You gotta call

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<v Speaker 1>in and say, I'm Robin Dixon, and I don't do that, Okay,

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<v Speaker 1>I don't do that. I don't do that. So I

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<v Speaker 1>literally was on open table, like, who I sit a

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<v Speaker 1>room for six people on Mother's Day? Rob Sometimes you

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<v Speaker 1>got understand. Um. So anyway, so so I'm like yeah, alright,

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<v Speaker 1>I got I crossed that off my list. I got

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<v Speaker 1>that out the way. You know, we're gonna have good

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<v Speaker 1>Mother's Day, blah blah blah whatever. Um, yes, Saturday. My

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<v Speaker 1>calendar alert went off and it was like, your reservation

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<v Speaker 1>sh is in one hour. And I was like, and

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<v Speaker 1>Mother's Day every year is on Sundays. I just want

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<v Speaker 1>you all to know it's on Sunday, so yes, robbing you. After,

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<v Speaker 1>I was like, oh my god, like, you've got to

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<v Speaker 1>be kidding me. You have got to be kidding me.

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<v Speaker 1>I called my mom. Yes, we're gonna be at the

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<v Speaker 1>restaurant at three o'clock. We're good, but yeah, I have

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<v Speaker 1>too pretty much car back and be like, um, sorry,

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<v Speaker 1>I got no plans for your Mother's because literally there

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<v Speaker 1>was like nothing, nothing available on Sunday that like I

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<v Speaker 1>wanted to do, right, And I was just like she

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<v Speaker 1>was kind of like, well, I'm going to call. She

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<v Speaker 1>called a few restaurants. I'm gone gone call. It's Mother's

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<v Speaker 1>Day's crucial out here. You can't be getting a restonation.

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<v Speaker 1>So then my father was like, Okay, well we just

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<v Speaker 1>have to do it another day, and I'm like, yes,

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<v Speaker 1>we'll do it. Another day, and he's like, but your

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<v Speaker 1>mother said that never happens. That's true. Anytime you say, oh,

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<v Speaker 1>we'll just do it another day, it never had never happened.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm with your mom on this. So but but I'm

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<v Speaker 1>gonna it's not gonna happen this week. I'm telling you now,

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<v Speaker 1>um to figure out another day maybe next week, because

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<v Speaker 1>now it's like hard. It's like this is the season

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<v Speaker 1>of graduations and like all this yeah probably just like

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<v Speaker 1>all this other stuff going weddings or whatever, and I'm like,

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<v Speaker 1>oh my god, when are we gonna have time to

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<v Speaker 1>do this? Right? Okay? So I'm itching right now because

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<v Speaker 1>I've got to make an announcement and it is a

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<v Speaker 1>public service announcement. And it is azel public service announcement. Okay,

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<v Speaker 1>can't Gesell Bryant is not dating Peter Thomas. Okay, And

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<v Speaker 1>I want to say it one more time, Gesell Bryant

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<v Speaker 1>is not dating somebody call a Peter and Thomas. Okay.

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<v Speaker 1>So you know, rumors are rumors, and you know, at

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<v Speaker 1>this point I believe nothing that's on the Internet because

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<v Speaker 1>I am now a victim of um a straight up

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<v Speaker 1>like give me, give me a me and Peter were

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<v Speaker 1>at a pool holding hands. Right there was like not

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<v Speaker 1>one pick. If there's a picture, a recent picture of

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<v Speaker 1>you and Peter, I'm in it. You're in it, and

0:12:04.200 --> 0:12:05.960
<v Speaker 1>it cut you out. Rom they cut you out to

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<v Speaker 1>make the story so and and and I can't stand

0:12:09.200 --> 0:12:11.720
<v Speaker 1>blog sites that are like Jazelle and Peter are dating,

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<v Speaker 1>and then it's like this whole story at the end,

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<v Speaker 1>it's like, Gazelle denies that she's dating Peter. Well, then

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<v Speaker 1>why did you write this whole story like it's bad?

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<v Speaker 1>Well they added that after you denied it, they wrote

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<v Speaker 1>the story and then they added, you know, it's like

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<v Speaker 1>they edited. Okay, So I'm about to talk about the

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<v Speaker 1>Jasmine brand right now because they if y'all don't know

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<v Speaker 1>the Jasmine brand, they're a blog site out there is

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<v Speaker 1>are they called blogs? It's a blog site. Okay. So

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<v Speaker 1>the Jasmine brand asked me if I wanted to give

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<v Speaker 1>a comment on me and Peter, and I said I

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<v Speaker 1>absolutely do. We are not dating. So they're like, okay, great,

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<v Speaker 1>we will say from an anonymous source that you're not Peter.

0:12:47.040 --> 0:12:52.080
<v Speaker 1>And I said no, said no, say my name, say

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<v Speaker 1>my name anonymous sore So I said no, please say

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<v Speaker 1>I said, I'm not dating Peter Thomas. What's hilarious? So

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<v Speaker 1>a funny story. What's the prop Like, what's the point

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<v Speaker 1>of that? I don't know, but I just was like,

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<v Speaker 1>Jasmine brand y'all be in real shady right now. But whatever,

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<v Speaker 1>So a funny story. Everybody knows Cal right, Cow's my guy,

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<v Speaker 1>and um he last weekend was leaving Atlanta and he's

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<v Speaker 1>walking into Clear. Do I tell you this? He's walking

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<v Speaker 1>into Clear and he runs into Peter Thomas. Of all people,

0:13:22.040 --> 0:13:27.280
<v Speaker 1>Cow and Peter Thomas. What a coincidence. So Cow's introduces himself.

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<v Speaker 1>He's like, Hi, you know, my name is Cal. I'm

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<v Speaker 1>really good friends, which is now he was like. Peter

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<v Speaker 1>was like, yeah, I know who you are. So um,

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<v Speaker 1>Cal says okay. So then Peter's like yeah, so they're

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<v Speaker 1>they're leaving because they've done their clear stuff and they're

0:13:41.480 --> 0:13:43.360
<v Speaker 1>leaving in Peter looks at Cal and he's like, yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>tell my girlfriend, Giselle. I said, Hi, Okay, too soon, Peter,

0:13:47.600 --> 0:13:52.719
<v Speaker 1>Too soon for Peter. Girlfriend. Giselle jokes, Okay the end,

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<v Speaker 1>I've cleared it up. Oh my gosh, Okay, thank you.

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<v Speaker 1>And you know what, it's always like Um, when when

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<v Speaker 1>TMZ reports it, that's like kind of and you know

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<v Speaker 1>it's true. But and I and I know that like

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<v Speaker 1>TMZ attempted to reach out. Yes, they reached out to Peter.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm sure he told them. No, it's not true. So

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<v Speaker 1>I feel like, like, when you're reading gossip and stuff,

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<v Speaker 1>just check and see if TMZ has reported it yet.

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<v Speaker 1>I know because TMZ typically I mean not typically, but

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<v Speaker 1>don't they don't report things that aren't true. They reached

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<v Speaker 1>out to Peter, they reached out to Bravo. They don't

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<v Speaker 1>have my number, thank god. So you know, anyway, we

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<v Speaker 1>we didn't shut down the room as I think. Okay,

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<v Speaker 1>so something else happened that that zoomed by the world.

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<v Speaker 1>I feel like because I think no one cared the

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<v Speaker 1>met gala, I know, well, was that because we were busy?

0:14:47.080 --> 0:14:49.840
<v Speaker 1>I think we were born was underwhelming? I think it

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<v Speaker 1>was underwhelming. Who was there? Um not Marilyn Monroe. Then listen,

0:14:57.000 --> 0:14:58.920
<v Speaker 1>let me tell y'allself that Kim Kardashia. What did you

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<v Speaker 1>two know she had on her? Let me tell you something. Okay,

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<v Speaker 1>First of all, do you know the story like with

0:15:04.680 --> 0:15:08.080
<v Speaker 1>her hair? No? Okay, So when you think of Marilyn

0:15:08.080 --> 0:15:11.000
<v Speaker 1>Morowe in that dress, right you you think of also

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<v Speaker 1>like the blonde, which I love, by the way, like classic.

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<v Speaker 1>So because Kim was wearing that dress, she was attempting

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<v Speaker 1>to do that blonde bouffont. But if you look at

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<v Speaker 1>her hair, she's wearing a slick, slick back blonde hair

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<v Speaker 1>with all this like discoloration in it because her hair

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<v Speaker 1>started falling out when they started bleaching. A minute, how

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<v Speaker 1>do you know this, Robin, my hair inside her sources?

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<v Speaker 1>But look at her hair? Think about it? No, no no,

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<v Speaker 1>think about it. Look did you say, my hair inside

0:15:40.960 --> 0:15:44.040
<v Speaker 1>her sources? Okay, for the for the record, I never

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<v Speaker 1>heard of that before. But that was good. That was good, Robert.

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<v Speaker 1>But think about it. Look at like there's no way

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<v Speaker 1>that that look that she was supposed to wear a

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<v Speaker 1>straight bag. No, you know, it was supposed to be

0:15:55.960 --> 0:15:57.760
<v Speaker 1>that blonde bouffon. I don't know why she didn't just

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<v Speaker 1>put a wig on, but she literally colored her hair here.

0:16:00.560 --> 0:16:02.880
<v Speaker 1>Why would she do that? I don't know. I don't

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<v Speaker 1>because she doesn't like wigs or something. She just wears

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<v Speaker 1>like extensions and stuff. I don't know why for that

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<v Speaker 1>she would not just just put on a blonde wig

0:16:11.480 --> 0:16:17.400
<v Speaker 1>because her hair color it's jacked up forever. Yes, I

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<v Speaker 1>mean I think they fixed it, but I think it

0:16:19.600 --> 0:16:22.920
<v Speaker 1>was just like, uh, they were trying to do too much.

0:16:23.000 --> 0:16:25.680
<v Speaker 1>They're trying to take her hair from black to blonde

0:16:25.680 --> 0:16:28.080
<v Speaker 1>and too short of a time and squeeze it in.

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<v Speaker 1>And then she's on the maccalan and I'm sorry, you

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<v Speaker 1>were just wearing a beaded dress at this point. You

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<v Speaker 1>were not Marilyn Monroe, right, you were not. You missed them,

0:16:35.160 --> 0:16:38.680
<v Speaker 1>You missed the ball, you missed the mark. And did

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<v Speaker 1>you see how they had to open the back of

0:16:41.160 --> 0:16:44.280
<v Speaker 1>the dress for her butt to squeeze it? Yes, and

0:16:44.320 --> 0:16:46.200
<v Speaker 1>well she said, okay, so when they when she first

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<v Speaker 1>shot on the dress, she couldn't fit it at all.

0:16:48.240 --> 0:16:49.760
<v Speaker 1>And then she was like it, just give me time.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm gonna lose weight. I'm gonna just have lemonade in

0:16:53.040 --> 0:16:56.080
<v Speaker 1>cayenne pepper. And so she lost the weight, but yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>she still couldn't get her butt in it. And so

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<v Speaker 1>I'm just shocked at these people who have been preserving

0:17:00.960 --> 0:17:03.880
<v Speaker 1>this dress allowed her to open the dress up. At

0:17:03.920 --> 0:17:06.240
<v Speaker 1>this point, I'm thinking she has to buy it. I

0:17:06.280 --> 0:17:08.600
<v Speaker 1>don't know, does she does she give it back? I

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<v Speaker 1>don't know. And then and then apparently she she changed

0:17:11.280 --> 0:17:14.080
<v Speaker 1>into a replica after she got up the steps, after

0:17:14.119 --> 0:17:16.160
<v Speaker 1>she took all the pictures, then she changed into a replica.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know. That was like the biggest fail It

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<v Speaker 1>was such a failure, butt. And let me tell you

0:17:21.480 --> 0:17:24.280
<v Speaker 1>what was even a bigger failure her date. Okay, I

0:17:24.280 --> 0:17:28.360
<v Speaker 1>know that's your boo, But like Pete what's his name,

0:17:28.400 --> 0:17:32.040
<v Speaker 1>Pete Davidson in a tux looks terrible. And that's like

0:17:32.200 --> 0:17:34.680
<v Speaker 1>any man in the tux looks good, right, any man

0:17:34.840 --> 0:17:37.000
<v Speaker 1>in the tux looks good. I'm like, wait, does he

0:17:37.040 --> 0:17:39.960
<v Speaker 1>look good at anything? Though? But he damn sure don't

0:17:39.960 --> 0:17:41.600
<v Speaker 1>look good in the tux. I'm thinking, you're dressed up,

0:17:41.600 --> 0:17:43.959
<v Speaker 1>you're you're to the nines, and you still look goofy.

0:17:44.760 --> 0:17:48.000
<v Speaker 1>I mean, hey, something else going on is making her

0:17:48.080 --> 0:17:51.320
<v Speaker 1>very happy that you have already concluded that. As soon

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<v Speaker 1>as I saw him and how horrible he looked in

0:17:53.000 --> 0:17:55.680
<v Speaker 1>that tux, I was like, that penis is at his knee.

0:17:56.560 --> 0:17:59.879
<v Speaker 1>It is so at his knees. It's not even like

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<v Speaker 1>halfway his thought. His penis is at his knees. Good God,

0:18:05.400 --> 0:18:08.160
<v Speaker 1>because you look crazy. For the record, I don't want

0:18:08.160 --> 0:18:16.360
<v Speaker 1>a penis that's at someone's knees. I want the let's

0:18:16.359 --> 0:18:19.080
<v Speaker 1>talk about another penis. Can we talk about another? Oh? Yes,

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<v Speaker 1>because because wait a minute, wait a minute, because like

0:18:21.720 --> 0:18:27.040
<v Speaker 1>he's holding a green out mand penis talking about that. Okay,

0:18:27.280 --> 0:18:31.600
<v Speaker 1>So Jesse Williams, how dare you whip your penis out

0:18:32.080 --> 0:18:35.800
<v Speaker 1>and just stop the world? He stopped the world. I

0:18:35.880 --> 0:18:38.000
<v Speaker 1>literally was like, Okay, I was on Instagram and I

0:18:38.040 --> 0:18:40.639
<v Speaker 1>saw all these people talking about what was happening on Twitter,

0:18:40.680 --> 0:18:42.600
<v Speaker 1>and I was like, I don't go on Twitter. I

0:18:42.640 --> 0:18:44.919
<v Speaker 1>was like, I can't go on Twitter. I don't Twitter

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<v Speaker 1>the devil. So I texted my girlfriends and I was like,

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<v Speaker 1>anybody want to do me a favor it send me

0:18:51.200 --> 0:18:53.760
<v Speaker 1>to Jesse Williams. No, I had three girlfriends sent it

0:18:53.800 --> 0:18:55.840
<v Speaker 1>to me. Blurred out. I said, what the hell was?

0:18:56.240 --> 0:19:00.919
<v Speaker 1>Get this off my phone? Blurred out. I got to

0:19:00.960 --> 0:19:06.600
<v Speaker 1>my own Twitter Twitter search. It took me. It took me. Yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>I was so excited. I was like, this is a

0:19:09.640 --> 0:19:13.320
<v Speaker 1>great night banded and he is he's representing Okay, yeah,

0:19:13.320 --> 0:19:16.440
<v Speaker 1>he's representing. Look. And then another couple of girlfriends was

0:19:16.480 --> 0:19:19.240
<v Speaker 1>like he's single. Now, Giselle, she just shot. I'm like

0:19:19.680 --> 0:19:21.760
<v Speaker 1>everybody in their grandmother's shooting their show right. But now

0:19:21.840 --> 0:19:23.600
<v Speaker 1>but it's like, okay, now we know why the wife

0:19:23.640 --> 0:19:25.840
<v Speaker 1>is a little cool, cool and just going and just divorce.

0:19:25.920 --> 0:19:28.840
<v Speaker 1>She is. She is stringing this thing out. Yes, she

0:19:28.920 --> 0:19:30.840
<v Speaker 1>don't want this divorce, but let me tell you, we're

0:19:30.840 --> 0:19:33.600
<v Speaker 1>gonna get her another big penis I think. So if

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<v Speaker 1>you don't know what we're talking about, just google Jesse

0:19:35.160 --> 0:19:37.880
<v Speaker 1>william Jesse will we'll tell you really quickly. So Jesse

0:19:37.960 --> 0:19:40.960
<v Speaker 1>Williams is right now doing a Broadway play. They were

0:19:41.080 --> 0:19:45.280
<v Speaker 1>in practice, like rehearsals, not practice rehearsals, and I thought

0:19:45.320 --> 0:19:47.360
<v Speaker 1>there was an actual show. No, it was in rehearsals

0:19:47.560 --> 0:19:52.119
<v Speaker 1>and somebody um captured his naked body because the show

0:19:52.240 --> 0:19:54.479
<v Speaker 1>in the in this Broadway show, they are nude. That's

0:19:54.480 --> 0:19:56.960
<v Speaker 1>the whole not the whole show, right, but everybody's nude

0:19:57.000 --> 0:20:00.919
<v Speaker 1>and something like the guys are nude. Yes, so um,

0:20:01.080 --> 0:20:03.800
<v Speaker 1>there was a lot to look at that there. Yeah,

0:20:03.800 --> 0:20:06.199
<v Speaker 1>oh yeah, we're buying a ticket. Ticket sales went up,

0:20:06.240 --> 0:20:08.240
<v Speaker 1>so I think they kind of did this on purpose. Yeah,

0:20:08.240 --> 0:20:10.040
<v Speaker 1>this is all about this is marketing. One on one

0:20:10.640 --> 0:20:13.399
<v Speaker 1>show what you're gonna see when you get there, and

0:20:13.440 --> 0:20:14.879
<v Speaker 1>I would need like a front row seat, Like I

0:20:14.920 --> 0:20:19.359
<v Speaker 1>don't want anyone's head in front of me blocking the penis. Okay,

0:20:19.400 --> 0:20:20.959
<v Speaker 1>we gotta move on. We can't because we can talk

0:20:21.000 --> 0:20:24.719
<v Speaker 1>about we have we have gentlemen listeners. They don't want

0:20:24.720 --> 0:20:27.440
<v Speaker 1>to hear that, do do they not? I mean whatever, Okay,

0:20:27.480 --> 0:20:29.800
<v Speaker 1>I do want to get into because this is like timely,

0:20:30.440 --> 0:20:37.119
<v Speaker 1>this whole overturning of Roe v. Wade, because it's this

0:20:37.240 --> 0:20:39.560
<v Speaker 1>is like what the we can we take two steps

0:20:39.560 --> 0:20:43.040
<v Speaker 1>forward and like twelve steps back, so you know, the

0:20:43.680 --> 0:20:45.520
<v Speaker 1>Supreme Court, I don't think at this point, but by

0:20:45.560 --> 0:20:47.480
<v Speaker 1>time y'all listen to this, we'll have made the vote

0:20:47.480 --> 0:20:50.359
<v Speaker 1>and it will be a state by state um mandate

0:20:50.359 --> 0:20:52.320
<v Speaker 1>as to whether or not abortions are legal in your

0:20:52.320 --> 0:20:58.000
<v Speaker 1>particular state. So I'm just zel, I have a uterus

0:20:58.920 --> 0:21:00.880
<v Speaker 1>if I want to have a baby, and it's my business.

0:21:01.760 --> 0:21:03.840
<v Speaker 1>It's not your right to decide what to do with

0:21:03.880 --> 0:21:07.439
<v Speaker 1>that maybe in my uterus, And so I just feel like,

0:21:07.640 --> 0:21:12.640
<v Speaker 1>tip for tap, let's take some balls. Yeah, why would

0:21:12.640 --> 0:21:15.840
<v Speaker 1>we take the balls? Don't write there's gotta be a

0:21:15.880 --> 0:21:18.280
<v Speaker 1>reason why we take the right. Yeah, what are we

0:21:18.320 --> 0:21:21.280
<v Speaker 1>doing with Yeah, they have to have balls. Yes, let's

0:21:21.320 --> 0:21:26.840
<v Speaker 1>take what I'm saying. I'm just saying. They didn't say

0:21:26.880 --> 0:21:29.679
<v Speaker 1>they what your uterus. They just want to control your uterus.

0:21:29.680 --> 0:21:31.320
<v Speaker 1>So we need to control the ball. We need to

0:21:31.320 --> 0:21:33.320
<v Speaker 1>control the sperm in the ball. Yes, yes, So how

0:21:33.359 --> 0:21:35.119
<v Speaker 1>do we do that? How do we do that? I

0:21:35.160 --> 0:21:38.399
<v Speaker 1>don't know. I don't If they get somebody pregnant that

0:21:38.520 --> 0:21:42.480
<v Speaker 1>the then I can go, I can go extract, extraculate, extrapulate,

0:21:43.040 --> 0:21:46.399
<v Speaker 1>take out, take out some sperm from the balls, and

0:21:46.400 --> 0:21:48.480
<v Speaker 1>then do what with it? Throw it in the trash.

0:21:48.520 --> 0:21:50.680
<v Speaker 1>I don't know. I don't know, I don't know. You know, Yeah,

0:21:50.720 --> 0:21:53.879
<v Speaker 1>but it's I mean, it's ridiculous. It is ridiculous that

0:21:55.000 --> 0:21:57.879
<v Speaker 1>this is a topic. It really is, Like there are

0:21:57.920 --> 0:22:00.480
<v Speaker 1>so many other things that we can focus on and

0:22:00.840 --> 0:22:02.800
<v Speaker 1>pretty much taken away. People's rights to do what they

0:22:02.840 --> 0:22:05.440
<v Speaker 1>want with their body is not one that we should

0:22:05.440 --> 0:22:07.760
<v Speaker 1>focus on. You know, we're joking, but in all seriousness,

0:22:07.840 --> 0:22:10.680
<v Speaker 1>it's like really because I feel like, if you have means,

0:22:11.520 --> 0:22:13.320
<v Speaker 1>you're going to find a way to get your abortion.

0:22:13.680 --> 0:22:16.520
<v Speaker 1>But if you don't have means, so this like definitely

0:22:17.160 --> 0:22:20.440
<v Speaker 1>singles out the poor because they're going to be either

0:22:20.480 --> 0:22:23.119
<v Speaker 1>stuck with the baby they don't want, or they're just

0:22:23.160 --> 0:22:24.880
<v Speaker 1>you're just gonna get your rights taken away. And that's

0:22:24.920 --> 0:22:27.240
<v Speaker 1>just not fair. Yeah, it's not fair because who are

0:22:27.240 --> 0:22:30.680
<v Speaker 1>we to judge, like what people's scenarios are, like what's

0:22:30.680 --> 0:22:32.440
<v Speaker 1>going on in their life and whether or not they

0:22:32.440 --> 0:22:35.800
<v Speaker 1>can have a baby or raise a child or you know,

0:22:36.280 --> 0:22:38.920
<v Speaker 1>I don't know. It's just it's ridiculous. This is insane.

0:22:38.960 --> 0:22:41.760
<v Speaker 1>Are we are living in a crazy ass world? Even

0:22:41.800 --> 0:22:45.240
<v Speaker 1>if you're raped and incests, you know, any any scenario

0:22:45.280 --> 0:22:48.200
<v Speaker 1>across the board. It is going to be a state

0:22:48.240 --> 0:22:50.760
<v Speaker 1>by state thing and most states are like we're not

0:22:50.800 --> 0:22:55.560
<v Speaker 1>including those We're not including rape. No, so no, and

0:22:55.680 --> 0:22:58.439
<v Speaker 1>I mean, okay, so this is something that we have

0:22:58.520 --> 0:23:02.960
<v Speaker 1>to vote on or that were no lawmakers are deciding on.

0:23:03.320 --> 0:23:06.119
<v Speaker 1>It's been decided No, no, no, so you said, but

0:23:06.200 --> 0:23:08.320
<v Speaker 1>it's a state by state things. So then so it's

0:23:08.359 --> 0:23:11.520
<v Speaker 1>been decided that the states have the power. Yes, the

0:23:11.600 --> 0:23:15.399
<v Speaker 1>states have the power. So do we need to vote,

0:23:15.400 --> 0:23:17.480
<v Speaker 1>like we have an election coming up? Okay, yes, we

0:23:17.520 --> 0:23:19.480
<v Speaker 1>need to make sure. So midterm elections are coming up,

0:23:19.960 --> 0:23:22.520
<v Speaker 1>and we need to make sure that our rights are.

0:23:22.720 --> 0:23:26.960
<v Speaker 1>These politicians have our rights in the front of their minds,

0:23:27.000 --> 0:23:30.560
<v Speaker 1>like women's rights are first. But we're voting not for

0:23:30.640 --> 0:23:34.199
<v Speaker 1>the actual like um, for the right to have an abortion.

0:23:34.240 --> 0:23:36.880
<v Speaker 1>We're voting for to put the lawmakers in place who

0:23:36.920 --> 0:23:40.119
<v Speaker 1>are going to create the laws. Yes, got it, Yes, yes, yes,

0:23:40.160 --> 0:23:42.080
<v Speaker 1>So we gotta do that, all right. So Robert and

0:23:42.080 --> 0:23:44.800
<v Speaker 1>I took a trip recently and we were out here

0:23:44.840 --> 0:23:47.600
<v Speaker 1>in these rates. Okay, we got on the airplane. By

0:23:47.640 --> 0:23:50.239
<v Speaker 1>the way, I don't know about y'all, but I got

0:23:50.280 --> 0:23:52.159
<v Speaker 1>on a plane and I'm gonna continue to put my

0:23:52.200 --> 0:23:55.520
<v Speaker 1>mask on. Everybody else's mask free. Y'all can get code

0:23:55.560 --> 0:23:57.440
<v Speaker 1>if you want to, but I'm gonna put my mask.

0:23:57.680 --> 0:23:59.720
<v Speaker 1>YEAHL had her mask on. I was like, I'm so

0:23:59.800 --> 0:24:01.880
<v Speaker 1>dumb with these masks. I couldn't do it. I put

0:24:01.920 --> 0:24:03.640
<v Speaker 1>it on, and I was like, I can't do it,

0:24:03.720 --> 0:24:05.560
<v Speaker 1>and I just I just kept it off, and I'm

0:24:05.920 --> 0:24:08.520
<v Speaker 1>COVID free. Yeah, okay, I think I am too, but

0:24:08.600 --> 0:24:10.240
<v Speaker 1>my kids keep sneezing on me. But that's a whole

0:24:10.240 --> 0:24:14.359
<v Speaker 1>another story. Okay, So I have come up with um

0:24:15.320 --> 0:24:20.440
<v Speaker 1>random thoughts, random after trip after during our trip, after

0:24:21.040 --> 0:24:25.520
<v Speaker 1>the whole thing. Okay. So random thought number one because

0:24:25.560 --> 0:24:27.520
<v Speaker 1>I thought about my birthday because remember we all went

0:24:27.520 --> 0:24:29.280
<v Speaker 1>to Miami for my birthday and it was a big

0:24:29.280 --> 0:24:33.040
<v Speaker 1>girl's trip. Okay. So let's say you're the host of

0:24:33.080 --> 0:24:35.679
<v Speaker 1>the trip or it's your birthday, that would make you

0:24:36.040 --> 0:24:42.920
<v Speaker 1>the host. Okay, and somebody in the group makes the

0:24:43.000 --> 0:24:48.440
<v Speaker 1>host or the birthday girl very angry. Okay, the host

0:24:48.560 --> 0:24:51.880
<v Speaker 1>can decide to put that bitch on a curb, right.

0:24:53.920 --> 0:24:55.679
<v Speaker 1>I feel like the host has the ability to do

0:24:55.720 --> 0:24:57.880
<v Speaker 1>what they want to do. If it's the birthday girl,

0:24:58.119 --> 0:25:01.000
<v Speaker 1>if it's the host, do what you want. Okay. I

0:25:01.040 --> 0:25:04.439
<v Speaker 1>think within reason in limits, I mean, like would it

0:25:04.480 --> 0:25:07.520
<v Speaker 1>would like? Okay. So if you're on a trip, someone

0:25:07.720 --> 0:25:12.400
<v Speaker 1>is hosting the meaning that they have paid for everything. Yes, right,

0:25:13.200 --> 0:25:16.200
<v Speaker 1>are they're paying for some things? They paid for some things,

0:25:16.200 --> 0:25:20.160
<v Speaker 1>they pay for all your accommodations. Um, they organize the trip. Yes,

0:25:20.840 --> 0:25:23.439
<v Speaker 1>Like we're looking to them to give us guidance on

0:25:23.520 --> 0:25:25.439
<v Speaker 1>what we're doing our activities and stuff. Yes, we have

0:25:25.480 --> 0:25:27.840
<v Speaker 1>a we have a full itinerary. Okay. So you're saying

0:25:27.840 --> 0:25:31.480
<v Speaker 1>if the host doesn't like the way someone talks or

0:25:31.560 --> 0:25:34.480
<v Speaker 1>looks back or something they do, they can be like

0:25:35.240 --> 0:25:38.480
<v Speaker 1>beat you out of here. Really Well, No, I don't

0:25:38.520 --> 0:25:42.360
<v Speaker 1>feel that way. It's you're right, it's within limits. It's

0:25:42.359 --> 0:25:46.200
<v Speaker 1>within limits. Okay. See, I think when you're when you're

0:25:46.200 --> 0:25:49.840
<v Speaker 1>talking about see, most people when they travel, like everybody

0:25:49.880 --> 0:25:53.760
<v Speaker 1>pitches in, you know. So it's kind of like when

0:25:53.920 --> 0:25:57.560
<v Speaker 1>you're like Oprah and you pay for everything. I'm not

0:25:57.600 --> 0:25:59.480
<v Speaker 1>on Opra status. I don't know when that's gonna happen.

0:26:00.320 --> 0:26:02.919
<v Speaker 1>So most people when you travel, everyone pitches in. And

0:26:02.960 --> 0:26:05.360
<v Speaker 1>I feel like if there's some sort of like conflict,

0:26:06.000 --> 0:26:10.080
<v Speaker 1>that maybe if that's a scenario where like the group

0:26:10.160 --> 0:26:13.880
<v Speaker 1>talks about, you know, the best way to resolve the conflict,

0:26:14.320 --> 0:26:17.120
<v Speaker 1>because you don't want that conflict to ruin your trip.

0:26:17.560 --> 0:26:19.840
<v Speaker 1>You don't want whatever is happening between two people or

0:26:19.840 --> 0:26:22.760
<v Speaker 1>three people or four people to just keep happening and

0:26:22.760 --> 0:26:24.919
<v Speaker 1>and carry over. And if you ruin the trip, you

0:26:24.960 --> 0:26:27.720
<v Speaker 1>want to have a good trip. Kay. But in a

0:26:27.760 --> 0:26:30.960
<v Speaker 1>situation where you know there is one host who is

0:26:31.000 --> 0:26:35.800
<v Speaker 1>responsible for the whole trip, I mean it's a little

0:26:35.800 --> 0:26:38.879
<v Speaker 1>it's a little sticky. It is sticky. It's very sticky,

0:26:38.880 --> 0:26:41.560
<v Speaker 1>and I think it depends on the scenario. Okay, I

0:26:41.560 --> 0:26:44.720
<v Speaker 1>have a question for you. So hotels are are houses?

0:26:45.600 --> 0:26:49.040
<v Speaker 1>Hotel room or houses? I prefer hotels for sure, right

0:26:49.080 --> 0:26:52.399
<v Speaker 1>because you want your individual space? Yes, yes, yeah, I

0:26:52.480 --> 0:26:56.919
<v Speaker 1>prefer hotels. I just feel like I don't like sharing bathrooms.

0:26:57.720 --> 0:27:01.400
<v Speaker 1>I don't like I mean, okay, a house if there

0:27:01.440 --> 0:27:06.480
<v Speaker 1>are enough bathroom, bathrooms and bedroom. But then this gets tricky. Okay,

0:27:06.600 --> 0:27:08.639
<v Speaker 1>let's say you're on South Beach and you meet someone

0:27:08.840 --> 0:27:11.200
<v Speaker 1>and you want to bring him back to your room.

0:27:11.440 --> 0:27:12.960
<v Speaker 1>You're not gonna do that if you're in a house.

0:27:13.000 --> 0:27:15.760
<v Speaker 1>If you're in a house, you know, so I think

0:27:15.840 --> 0:27:18.480
<v Speaker 1>just we just need to get some hotel rooms today. Okay,

0:27:18.520 --> 0:27:23.159
<v Speaker 1>so girls trips in houses? Band no more? Yeah, I

0:27:23.160 --> 0:27:26.640
<v Speaker 1>would choose not to. I mean unless the accommodations were

0:27:26.680 --> 0:27:30.120
<v Speaker 1>just like superspacious, you know what I mean, Like you're

0:27:30.119 --> 0:27:32.399
<v Speaker 1>not on top of each other, you're not having to

0:27:32.480 --> 0:27:35.480
<v Speaker 1>like share space like yeah, but no, no, my first

0:27:35.560 --> 0:27:37.800
<v Speaker 1>choice is a house or like a villa or something

0:27:37.840 --> 0:27:43.000
<v Speaker 1>where you have like your own private quarters, private entryway. Yeah. Yeah, okay,

0:27:43.080 --> 0:27:46.520
<v Speaker 1>I like that now because then if you're on a

0:27:46.520 --> 0:27:50.080
<v Speaker 1>trip and something goes wrong, like you don't really have

0:27:50.160 --> 0:27:53.480
<v Speaker 1>to worry about like if you're in a hotel and

0:27:53.480 --> 0:27:55.600
<v Speaker 1>you're on a trip and the host the hostess has

0:27:55.600 --> 0:27:57.920
<v Speaker 1>an issue with one of the guests, like you don't

0:27:57.920 --> 0:27:59.440
<v Speaker 1>really have to worry about what's going to happen to

0:27:59.520 --> 0:28:02.840
<v Speaker 1>that guest, just go back today, yeah exactly. Yeah, and

0:28:02.880 --> 0:28:05.040
<v Speaker 1>we ain't invite right, and then you just don't get

0:28:05.040 --> 0:28:07.680
<v Speaker 1>the memo of where dinner is, yes, because you need

0:28:07.680 --> 0:28:11.119
<v Speaker 1>a time out. Yeah, you know. I I totally agree

0:28:11.119 --> 0:28:14.959
<v Speaker 1>with doing group trips and giving people time out in space.

0:28:15.240 --> 0:28:16.879
<v Speaker 1>I do too. I hate it when people are like,

0:28:16.880 --> 0:28:20.520
<v Speaker 1>we have to do everything together and oh my gosh,

0:28:20.600 --> 0:28:23.120
<v Speaker 1>you wouldn't did that and that was not on the schedule.

0:28:23.280 --> 0:28:25.760
<v Speaker 1>Like I hate that, unless it's something that's like variant,

0:28:25.800 --> 0:28:27.800
<v Speaker 1>it's liken less are like, Okay, this is the one

0:28:27.960 --> 0:28:31.080
<v Speaker 1>thing that I want everybody to do, right, But then

0:28:31.119 --> 0:28:34.240
<v Speaker 1>after that it's like do you and I'm gonna do me.

0:28:34.840 --> 0:28:38.239
<v Speaker 1>But it's it's like the scenario again. It's like, if

0:28:38.280 --> 0:28:40.600
<v Speaker 1>I'm spending my money right to go on the trip,

0:28:40.640 --> 0:28:42.400
<v Speaker 1>then yeah, I'm kind of do what I want, But

0:28:42.560 --> 0:28:45.280
<v Speaker 1>if the hostess is spending her money, then I think

0:28:45.280 --> 0:28:47.400
<v Speaker 1>we're kind of obligated to do whatever the hostess tells

0:28:47.480 --> 0:28:56.240
<v Speaker 1>us to do. Okay, so like, how do you feel

0:28:56.240 --> 0:29:00.440
<v Speaker 1>about um? I'm very direct, like when something goes down

0:29:00.440 --> 0:29:04.080
<v Speaker 1>and it's my fault, I apologize, right, And I know

0:29:04.120 --> 0:29:08.640
<v Speaker 1>that there's different ways to apologize, but I normally just say, hey,

0:29:08.800 --> 0:29:11.280
<v Speaker 1>I did boom boom boom boom. That was wrong for that,

0:29:12.000 --> 0:29:14.280
<v Speaker 1>and I hurt your feelings because I did that. I'm

0:29:14.320 --> 0:29:16.880
<v Speaker 1>really sorry, But don't even say if I hurt your feelings,

0:29:16.880 --> 0:29:19.480
<v Speaker 1>just say I'm sorry, right, I'm sorry because I shouldn't

0:29:19.480 --> 0:29:21.960
<v Speaker 1>have done that, right, I just was you say, I

0:29:22.040 --> 0:29:24.120
<v Speaker 1>understand how that hurt your feelings, right, I just was

0:29:24.160 --> 0:29:26.720
<v Speaker 1>like really hungry that day or something like there's a reason,

0:29:26.800 --> 0:29:28.160
<v Speaker 1>like I don't know why I did it, but I

0:29:28.200 --> 0:29:31.400
<v Speaker 1>just did it. I don't understand how people don't know

0:29:31.440 --> 0:29:33.160
<v Speaker 1>how to apologize. I know, I know. And it's so

0:29:33.160 --> 0:29:36.160
<v Speaker 1>funny because I feel like we come across this a

0:29:36.200 --> 0:29:38.920
<v Speaker 1>lot in our daily lives, and they were talking about

0:29:38.960 --> 0:29:41.520
<v Speaker 1>it on the reel recently and it was like every

0:29:41.520 --> 0:29:43.760
<v Speaker 1>all the stuff that I'm like, yeah, no, when you

0:29:43.920 --> 0:29:48.320
<v Speaker 1>say if you feel that I hurt you know that

0:29:48.480 --> 0:29:53.000
<v Speaker 1>I'm sorry. That's why that's not an apology. So um okay, wait,

0:29:53.440 --> 0:29:55.040
<v Speaker 1>So I mean I have you know, you know, I

0:29:55.080 --> 0:29:57.080
<v Speaker 1>like my little Instagram post. So I did come across

0:29:57.080 --> 0:29:59.239
<v Speaker 1>the post where it was like all these different like

0:29:59.280 --> 0:30:02.080
<v Speaker 1>instead of saying this, say that. Um, but I think

0:30:02.120 --> 0:30:05.480
<v Speaker 1>apologizing is an art because it's not even an art.

0:30:05.560 --> 0:30:08.080
<v Speaker 1>It's like it shouldn't be an art. Actually now it

0:30:08.080 --> 0:30:10.360
<v Speaker 1>should just be communication. And so the question is like

0:30:10.400 --> 0:30:14.120
<v Speaker 1>why don't people apologize, Like, is do they think that

0:30:14.360 --> 0:30:19.280
<v Speaker 1>by apologizing and owning what they did, that that makes

0:30:19.280 --> 0:30:22.240
<v Speaker 1>them weak or that means they lost the fight, or

0:30:22.280 --> 0:30:25.040
<v Speaker 1>that means you know what, I mean, that they're not perfect,

0:30:25.320 --> 0:30:27.680
<v Speaker 1>but they were wrong. I mean, there's nothing wrong with

0:30:27.760 --> 0:30:30.719
<v Speaker 1>being wrong or acknowledging that you were wrong, so all

0:30:30.720 --> 0:30:32.480
<v Speaker 1>the above. So why is it that people have a

0:30:32.520 --> 0:30:36.840
<v Speaker 1>hard time apologize because they're whack? Okay, they don't want

0:30:36.840 --> 0:30:39.200
<v Speaker 1>to apologize because they feel like that's gonna make them

0:30:39.280 --> 0:30:42.440
<v Speaker 1>look weak, that's gonna make them look like they're wrong

0:30:42.440 --> 0:30:44.360
<v Speaker 1>and they're not perfect. And everybody wants to walk around

0:30:44.520 --> 0:30:47.720
<v Speaker 1>acting like they're perfect. That's not perfect. Okay, I do

0:30:47.760 --> 0:30:54.640
<v Speaker 1>stuff wrong daily. I mean, yeah, we know, and you

0:30:54.800 --> 0:30:59.760
<v Speaker 1>literally like for the most part, but for the record,

0:31:00.240 --> 0:31:03.880
<v Speaker 1>is being shaped. Okay, that was shaw, but you know, like,

0:31:03.920 --> 0:31:06.440
<v Speaker 1>for the most part, when someone does say like just out,

0:31:06.440 --> 0:31:08.400
<v Speaker 1>I don't appreciate that you did this, or why did

0:31:08.440 --> 0:31:10.040
<v Speaker 1>you do this? Or I can't believe you do this,

0:31:10.160 --> 0:31:13.080
<v Speaker 1>you actually like in that moment, or like you know what,

0:31:13.320 --> 0:31:16.120
<v Speaker 1>I'm sorry right, you don't like pushback, you don't fight,

0:31:16.280 --> 0:31:19.160
<v Speaker 1>you don't like I don't care for three weeks. I'm

0:31:19.200 --> 0:31:22.680
<v Speaker 1>just like, yo, I'm sorry. I know we're not all

0:31:22.680 --> 0:31:25.240
<v Speaker 1>the same. Okay, So tell me this. If you are

0:31:25.320 --> 0:31:29.280
<v Speaker 1>so quick to apologize, then do you really mean it? Yes?

0:31:29.920 --> 0:31:32.360
<v Speaker 1>And does that mean Okay, I apologize and I'm going

0:31:32.400 --> 0:31:35.120
<v Speaker 1>to do something up again, and I'm just gonna apologize.

0:31:35.120 --> 0:31:37.520
<v Speaker 1>I'm just gonna keep doing something up and I'm going

0:31:37.600 --> 0:31:41.400
<v Speaker 1>to keep apologizing because I can apologize. Okay. So, Robin,

0:31:41.880 --> 0:31:43.240
<v Speaker 1>I don't have a crystal ball. I don't know what

0:31:43.280 --> 0:31:45.480
<v Speaker 1>the future holds, okay, okay as to what I'm gonna

0:31:45.520 --> 0:31:49.000
<v Speaker 1>do in the future, but I do know that everyone

0:31:49.040 --> 0:31:52.720
<v Speaker 1>makes mistakes, okay, And yes, I mean my apologies when

0:31:52.760 --> 0:31:55.480
<v Speaker 1>I say it, okay, and I say I really mean

0:31:55.720 --> 0:31:58.480
<v Speaker 1>for I mean it. I wasn't giving example. I can't

0:31:58.480 --> 0:32:01.480
<v Speaker 1>give you an example. But if I say I'm sorry,

0:32:01.520 --> 0:32:04.400
<v Speaker 1>I'm sorry. Damn it. I mean, I'm just I just

0:32:04.440 --> 0:32:07.120
<v Speaker 1>wonder how many I'm sorries people need to hear. I mean,

0:32:07.400 --> 0:32:11.880
<v Speaker 1>I'm just you know, I just I'm just wondering. Okay,

0:32:11.920 --> 0:32:14.320
<v Speaker 1>do you have a list? Okay, so I want to

0:32:14.360 --> 0:32:17.280
<v Speaker 1>go through, Like so so you know how to apologize

0:32:17.320 --> 0:32:19.720
<v Speaker 1>the dudes and don't of how to apologize okay, because

0:32:19.760 --> 0:32:22.000
<v Speaker 1>wait a minute, it's just for the record. An apologize

0:32:22.040 --> 0:32:25.360
<v Speaker 1>when you when you apologize to somebody, I want it

0:32:25.360 --> 0:32:28.720
<v Speaker 1>helps you. It helps them, but it helps you, that's true. Yeah,

0:32:28.760 --> 0:32:31.560
<v Speaker 1>because you're released from the situation. Well you're released, but

0:32:31.640 --> 0:32:36.480
<v Speaker 1>hopefully when you apologize, you're actually understanding why that person

0:32:36.560 --> 0:32:38.680
<v Speaker 1>was hurt so that you don't do it again, you

0:32:38.680 --> 0:32:40.920
<v Speaker 1>know what I mean. Like it's it's one that's nothing.

0:32:40.920 --> 0:32:42.720
<v Speaker 1>Don't just apologize me, like all right, I'm sorry and

0:32:42.720 --> 0:32:45.240
<v Speaker 1>then like you really don't. You don't mean it either.

0:32:45.320 --> 0:32:47.760
<v Speaker 1>You're just apologizing to shut the person up, Like that's

0:32:48.320 --> 0:32:50.760
<v Speaker 1>I like to explain why I did my shady thing

0:32:50.840 --> 0:32:55.920
<v Speaker 1>that I did, and I do that well yeah, okay, record, yes, yes, yes,

0:32:56.040 --> 0:32:57.640
<v Speaker 1>that's hey, that's good. All right, So I'm gonna tell

0:32:57.640 --> 0:33:01.200
<v Speaker 1>you all what is not considered a good apology or

0:33:01.240 --> 0:33:03.200
<v Speaker 1>not really an apology, and we have some friends that

0:33:03.240 --> 0:33:04.840
<v Speaker 1>need to hear this. Hit his friends. I know a

0:33:04.840 --> 0:33:07.880
<v Speaker 1>lot of people need to hear this. Okay, So I'm

0:33:07.960 --> 0:33:10.440
<v Speaker 1>sorry you feel that way. I feel like that's like

0:33:10.480 --> 0:33:14.840
<v Speaker 1>the number one Like I feel like when people say

0:33:14.880 --> 0:33:18.000
<v Speaker 1>that I'm sorry you feel that way, that's like you

0:33:18.080 --> 0:33:20.920
<v Speaker 1>really are having a hard time of taking ownership of

0:33:20.960 --> 0:33:25.120
<v Speaker 1>what you did and acknowledging that you were wrong, flat

0:33:25.160 --> 0:33:31.720
<v Speaker 1>out wrong right right? Yes? No, aunt, this one even worse.

0:33:31.920 --> 0:33:36.880
<v Speaker 1>I'm sorry, but you're just being sensitive? What Okay, that's

0:33:36.880 --> 0:33:39.080
<v Speaker 1>just like people that say that. Guys used to be like,

0:33:39.120 --> 0:33:43.800
<v Speaker 1>are you on your period? Is that why you're acting crazy? No,

0:33:43.840 --> 0:33:45.959
<v Speaker 1>I'm acting crazy because you made me. That is actually

0:33:45.960 --> 0:33:49.680
<v Speaker 1>a valid point for me, that's annalid point for robbing.

0:33:49.720 --> 0:33:53.360
<v Speaker 1>But for gisl who doesn't have those issues, I'm like, no,

0:33:53.720 --> 0:33:57.160
<v Speaker 1>I'm mad because I'm mad because you're an idiot. Kay.

0:33:58.560 --> 0:34:01.840
<v Speaker 1>Another one, I'm sorry if you think I did something wrong?

0:34:01.960 --> 0:34:08.600
<v Speaker 1>What right? Yeah, that's a waste of um what do

0:34:08.600 --> 0:34:13.200
<v Speaker 1>you call it? Words? Words, oxygen, all of that. I'm sorry,

0:34:13.200 --> 0:34:16.799
<v Speaker 1>but it obviously was a joke. Okay, So I'm good

0:34:16.800 --> 0:34:20.840
<v Speaker 1>at that. Okay, So Okay, just for the record, Okay,

0:34:21.040 --> 0:34:24.120
<v Speaker 1>and I can actually I can bring this up because

0:34:24.239 --> 0:34:26.400
<v Speaker 1>you know, I have a friend named Karen Huger, and

0:34:26.400 --> 0:34:28.360
<v Speaker 1>there's a lot of times what I've been joking with

0:34:28.400 --> 0:34:32.480
<v Speaker 1>her in the past and she didn't understand my humor. True,

0:34:32.520 --> 0:34:35.360
<v Speaker 1>I get that. So but I feel like, okay, you

0:34:35.400 --> 0:34:38.400
<v Speaker 1>gotta it's how you structure the apology, right. So if

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<v Speaker 1>it's like, so, if you were joking and someone was offended,

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<v Speaker 1>the way you say it is, I was joking and

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<v Speaker 1>I am so sorry that it offended you. Okay, I like,

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<v Speaker 1>is that better? That's so batter, I gotta write that,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, so, so I promise you it was a joke,

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<v Speaker 1>but I understand that it hurt your feelings and I'm sorry. Okay,

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<v Speaker 1>I like, right, I think anytime you say like, I'm sorry,

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<v Speaker 1>but it's the buttons. But for me, so you just

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<v Speaker 1>have to like figure out how to like say things

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<v Speaker 1>or even when it's like, you know, I'm probably guilty

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<v Speaker 1>of thinking people are sensitive, right or too sensitive because

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<v Speaker 1>I'm not very sensitive, So like that makes it actually

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<v Speaker 1>makes you mad that people are too sensitive that people

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<v Speaker 1>are it doesn't. I mean, it's just it's it is hard,

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<v Speaker 1>I think for someone to navigate of like like, okay,

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<v Speaker 1>well what can I what can I say? What can

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<v Speaker 1>I not say? What's want to offend this person? Because

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<v Speaker 1>I'm not a sensitive person and they are. And if

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<v Speaker 1>you don't tell me you're a sensitive person, like how

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<v Speaker 1>am I supposed to know? Because they cry every five

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<v Speaker 1>minutes and fold up napkins. So those people, those people,

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<v Speaker 1>I really I'm sick of it. I'm sick of you

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<v Speaker 1>crying every eighteen seconds. I don't want to see you crying.

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<v Speaker 1>Like like now we're getting into like a whole another topic.

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<v Speaker 1>So it's like, okay, so if your friends are sensitive,

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<v Speaker 1>do you just not be keep it real and be

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<v Speaker 1>honest with them and like call them out on stuff.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm I don't care to crabing five seconds. I'm going

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<v Speaker 1>to tell you. Do you say to your friends listen,

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<v Speaker 1>if we're gonna be friends, you're gonna have to understand

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<v Speaker 1>that I am going to speak up when I feel

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<v Speaker 1>you're being wrong, yes, or you know what I'm saying? Like,

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<v Speaker 1>so what is it? So it's like, do you keep

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<v Speaker 1>the friendship or do you just say you know what,

0:36:20.840 --> 0:36:24.080
<v Speaker 1>We're just not meant to be friends because you're sensitive.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm blunt. Yes, it's not gonna work out. What do

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<v Speaker 1>you do? So you just in the friendships because like

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<v Speaker 1>for me, I think I'm gonna start counting if I

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<v Speaker 1>see you cry too many times. We can't be friends

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<v Speaker 1>because I don't. I don't. I don't shed tears like that.

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<v Speaker 1>I think it's five five times and you're done and

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<v Speaker 1>you're just like like a mom or or you know what. Though,

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<v Speaker 1>like we've talked about this before. Friends, you can have

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<v Speaker 1>different types of friends. You can have surface friends, okay, right,

0:36:49.719 --> 0:36:53.200
<v Speaker 1>criers are surface surface friends, yes, okay, okay. So it's like,

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<v Speaker 1>so I think you have to talk to your friends

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<v Speaker 1>about okay, like what level of friendship do you want?

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<v Speaker 1>Do you want? You know what I'm saying, like we're

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<v Speaker 1>the worst? Do you no? But it's like it's it's

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<v Speaker 1>it's real because I feel like I don't want to

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<v Speaker 1>have to censor myself for certain friends because they're gonna

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<v Speaker 1>be sensitive. And it's like but then on the flip side,

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<v Speaker 1>like I want to be compassionate towards people's sensitivities, So like,

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<v Speaker 1>how do we do this? Compassion is overrated? I'm just

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<v Speaker 1>sitting all right, okay, let me go, let me continue

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<v Speaker 1>on this list, Like all right, um, sorry, are you

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<v Speaker 1>happy now? Oh? Hell no, hell no, I don't even

0:37:33.440 --> 0:37:35.480
<v Speaker 1>speak to me if you're gonna say that. But because

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<v Speaker 1>I'm not happy, I feel like and I feel like

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<v Speaker 1>I've kind of received an apology like that recently. It's like, yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm just gonna say sorry, so I can just in

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<v Speaker 1>this conversation and move on, right, do you know what

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<v Speaker 1>I mean? Instead of people like really flushing out what

0:37:50.080 --> 0:37:52.239
<v Speaker 1>you did and why it was wrong, you know what

0:37:52.280 --> 0:37:55.400
<v Speaker 1>I'm saying? Yeah, it's just like what and then another

0:37:55.400 --> 0:37:58.799
<v Speaker 1>one just sorry, followed by no reparations. So it's like

0:37:59.320 --> 0:38:02.080
<v Speaker 1>you say sorry, but then what's the consequences of what

0:38:02.320 --> 0:38:05.719
<v Speaker 1>of your actions? Is saying sorry? Just enough? No, you

0:38:05.719 --> 0:38:08.000
<v Speaker 1>have to talk it through, Like what exactly are you

0:38:08.040 --> 0:38:11.600
<v Speaker 1>apologizing for? You can't just give a blanket I'm sorry, y'all,

0:38:11.880 --> 0:38:14.440
<v Speaker 1>Like that's no what you're sorry for? Right? But once

0:38:14.480 --> 0:38:18.440
<v Speaker 1>you do that, so you say sorry, and then like,

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<v Speaker 1>what happens to that friendship or what happens to that

0:38:21.280 --> 0:38:24.479
<v Speaker 1>that relationship? You know what I mean? Like, I guess

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<v Speaker 1>it just really depends on on how that conversation goes

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<v Speaker 1>because you can do something to hurt someone and they

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<v Speaker 1>can say sorry, and you as an individual can decide

0:38:33.360 --> 0:38:35.280
<v Speaker 1>that you're gonna let it go and you're gonna move forward,

0:38:35.560 --> 0:38:38.040
<v Speaker 1>or you're going to say, you know what, I appreciate

0:38:38.040 --> 0:38:42.280
<v Speaker 1>the apology, but we s there's that, and then there's

0:38:42.360 --> 0:38:45.840
<v Speaker 1>if it's a bullshit apology, then no, we're not moving forward.

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<v Speaker 1>So so let me tell you what an apology is

0:38:50.200 --> 0:38:53.520
<v Speaker 1>or what it exists. So an apology takes ownership of

0:38:53.640 --> 0:38:57.279
<v Speaker 1>actions leading to hurt. I like that. I like that

0:38:57.400 --> 0:39:03.919
<v Speaker 1>takes ownership an apology and of reparations or behavior change.

0:39:02.600 --> 0:39:08.319
<v Speaker 1>What are we doing? So it's like something that is

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<v Speaker 1>like okay. So like maybe it's like okay, say you

0:39:10.840 --> 0:39:13.399
<v Speaker 1>did something to publicly hurt someone, so you're you say

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<v Speaker 1>sorry to that person, but then you also publicly, if

0:39:16.880 --> 0:39:19.560
<v Speaker 1>you publicly trash me on Instagram, you need to publicly

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<v Speaker 1>go back, and I mean to do that, I mean,

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<v Speaker 1>I mean yeah, if that's if if that is what

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<v Speaker 1>you require of an apology, then yeah, or behavior change.

0:39:29.200 --> 0:39:31.640
<v Speaker 1>So it's like you know, if if I'm sorry that

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<v Speaker 1>I'm late, um, then I'm not going to be late anymore.

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<v Speaker 1>You're never sorry. You're late, Robbie, you don't care that

0:39:39.280 --> 0:39:45.359
<v Speaker 1>you're late. I think you get joy out of it. Yes,

0:39:46.040 --> 0:39:49.000
<v Speaker 1>it's like a late game. I'm gonna be twenty minutes later,

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<v Speaker 1>at thirty minutes. That's not a good one. That's ridiculous.

0:39:56.520 --> 0:40:00.120
<v Speaker 1>That's not a good one. Okay, we're almost done. Um.

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<v Speaker 1>An apology, and this is very valid, is not used

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<v Speaker 1>as a way to end a conversation, which I think

0:40:06.680 --> 0:40:09.000
<v Speaker 1>a lot of times and in some of our friendships,

0:40:09.719 --> 0:40:13.080
<v Speaker 1>apologies are used to end a conversation. So the president

0:40:13.080 --> 0:40:14.920
<v Speaker 1>just says I'm sorry, and they want the conversation to

0:40:14.920 --> 0:40:17.439
<v Speaker 1>be over. Yeah. Yeah, No, it doesn't work that way. Yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>Men do that a lot because they just want to

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<v Speaker 1>move on. They just want to fix it. Yeah, and

0:40:23.120 --> 0:40:30.239
<v Speaker 1>go have sex. Yes, I'm sorry. Can we okay? On

0:40:30.320 --> 0:40:32.919
<v Speaker 1>that note, we're here, guys, girl, I got I got

0:40:32.920 --> 0:40:35.719
<v Speaker 1>three more? Yeah, I got four more. An apology is

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<v Speaker 1>not excessive. An apology does not expect anything in return,

0:40:38.680 --> 0:40:41.640
<v Speaker 1>and apology does not include ifs or butts. An apology

0:40:41.800 --> 0:40:45.640
<v Speaker 1>is genuine. Yes, and we out here? Okay? Can I

0:40:45.680 --> 0:40:48.160
<v Speaker 1>an apology for cutting me off? Yes, I'm sorry, robbing

0:40:48.200 --> 0:40:50.200
<v Speaker 1>for cutting you off. I thought you were done, but

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<v Speaker 1>that's the last apology you get me, And is this

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<v Speaker 1>the last time you're going to do that? I mean

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