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Speaker 1: of Reasonably Shady. I am Gazelle Bryant. What's up? What's up? Y'all?
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Speaker 1: Yank you. Okay, So, reasonably shady moment of the week. Okay,
Speaker 1: and I'll go first because you know Robin always has
Speaker 1: things with this, so I will go first. So, okay, guys,
Speaker 1: Mother's Day just passed and I can't figure out if
Speaker 1: the reasonably shady person was me or the person I'm
Speaker 1: getting ready tell you all about. Okay. So you know,
Speaker 1: my my baby daddy, Jamal Bryant, flew in it down
Speaker 1: to take me and my three to dinner. Okay, So
Speaker 1: it gets off the plane, he meets us at the
Speaker 1: restaurant I made a reservation. Me and my kids go
Speaker 1: down to the to the restaurant. We're sitting in the
Speaker 1: booth to booths like a semi circle. So I'm in.
Speaker 1: I'm like two people deep in the booth. Okay, on
Speaker 1: both sides, so we really I'm all excited because you know,
Speaker 1: I'm greedy and hungry and I'm ready to eat. I
Speaker 1: don't really don't want to say that name. I went
Speaker 1: to RPM. Okay, Okay, so out of nowhere, this woman
Speaker 1: walks up and she's like, Hi, Oh my gosh, so
Speaker 1: nice to see you. Can I take a picture? And
Speaker 1: I immediately and guys, I've never done this. I have
Speaker 1: never done this. Immediately, I was like, I looked up
Speaker 1: and I said, nope, Oh you said it like that.
Speaker 1: I said it just like dad. I was like, nope.
Speaker 1: She looks at me kind of like sho. I know.
Speaker 1: It was horrible. I mean it was so but I
Speaker 1: was like, first of all, some mother's day. Second of all,
Speaker 1: I'm here with my kids. I'm two people deep on
Speaker 1: both sides in this booth. Everybody would have to move
Speaker 1: in order for me to get out and take a
Speaker 1: picture of this woman. Okay, So all of that was
Speaker 1: going on in my mind. Did you tell her, well,
Speaker 1: if you buy a ticket to the show. And I've
Speaker 1: never said no like that, Like I've always been like,
Speaker 1: not right now, but I'll come up to your table
Speaker 1: when I'm done. I just was like nope, and then
Speaker 1: she like your kids mortified. They were like they kind
Speaker 1: of were like, holy crap, but they just say anything
Speaker 1: because it's my day, right and I want all the
Speaker 1: attention on me. So she turns around, she leaves, and
Speaker 1: I looked at Jamal and I'm like, Jamal, was that horrible?
Speaker 1: He was like yeah, and he said, but you know what,
Speaker 1: you weren't wrong, like you know, at some point you
Speaker 1: you're human, And so the shady person really was me?
Speaker 1: Or was it that lady? Okay, it was both. It
Speaker 1: was both. If you didn't respond the way you responded,
Speaker 1: then it would just be her, right, because yes, like
Speaker 1: most a lot of people will try to wait until
Speaker 1: like if they see us in a restaurant, they'll try
Speaker 1: to wait until we're done eating and they see us
Speaker 1: like get up and we're on our way out or
Speaker 1: something like that. Um. I have had people come up
Speaker 1: and say, I'm so sorry to bother you while you're eating. Yeah,
Speaker 1: but then it's like, but you're bothering But if I
Speaker 1: was at the end of the booth. Yeah, but I'm like, no,
Speaker 1: I'm not doing this. I'm not doing this to my family.
Speaker 1: I'm not making them get up. But but you could
Speaker 1: have just been like, I'm so sorry, Like right, it's
Speaker 1: not a good time right now. You know, I had
Speaker 1: a moment. So I want to apologize to the lady
Speaker 1: first and foremost, because I know she went back to
Speaker 1: her table and said I was the worst person on earth.
Speaker 1: So I'm apologizing to her right now, lady, and rpm
Speaker 1: on Mother's Day. Um, she's probably told everyone on Facebook
Speaker 1: that that I'm horrible, right, and I'm not that person.
Speaker 1: But I just was like it just she just caught
Speaker 1: me on that day, so I was shady, I'm sorry,
Speaker 1: but please just like if somebody's in the booth, just
Speaker 1: leave him alone so they get out the damn booth. Yeah,
Speaker 1: or just wait. I mean maybe she was like almost
Speaker 1: finished her meal and she was like about to go,
Speaker 1: so she couldn't like sit around and wait for you
Speaker 1: to write. And then it's just right she left before
Speaker 1: I did because your mom was like We're gonna fix it.
Speaker 1: We gotta fix this, we gotta fix it. He was
Speaker 1: like we're gonna go over there before she leaves. Yeah, okay,
Speaker 1: let's go back. So you said nope, and she just
Speaker 1: like turned around and walked away. She was like okay
Speaker 1: and turned around and walked away. And I everything in
Speaker 1: me was I was angry because she I felt like annoyed.
Speaker 1: I was annoyed. I felt like, for the rest of
Speaker 1: the time I'm sitting there like trying to enjoy my family,
Speaker 1: I'm mad at myself that I did that to her.
Speaker 1: So I like Mother's Day was ruined. Oh, because I'm
Speaker 1: like in my head like she's trashing me. I didn't
Speaker 1: really mean to say nope like that, but I just
Speaker 1: didn't want to, Like it was just too much. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I mean, you know what, You're human, though, and I
Speaker 1: think at some point it is I think you're like, Okay,
Speaker 1: it's Mother's Day. I'm in the middle of the booth,
Speaker 1: I'm at a restaurant, like, you know, just like cut
Speaker 1: me some slash. You're human. But I can see where
Speaker 1: it's like you're kind of like, oh, ship, that was
Speaker 1: that was a little that was horrible. I'm sorry, lady.
Speaker 1: That was shady. I'm sorry. I honestly never turned down
Speaker 1: anyone with right, I never do either, And I know
Speaker 1: you don't like so I know that was like that
Speaker 1: was a human moment for you, yes, yes, yes, yeah,
Speaker 1: um okay, So since we're on Mother's Day, my reasonably
Speaker 1: shady moment goes to myself. I'm always giving them to myself.
Speaker 1: I'm like such a airhead, right, So so okay, yes,
Speaker 1: it's Mother's Day, and and I should be treated nicely
Speaker 1: on Mother's Day. But I also have a mother who
Speaker 1: needs to be treated nicely on Mother's Day. And so
Speaker 1: you know, we had a busy week. I was, you know,
Speaker 1: very busy, very tired, but you know I mustered up
Speaker 1: the energy to make a reservation for me and my
Speaker 1: mom and my kids and Wane and my dad for
Speaker 1: Mother's Day. Right. This is like a big table, yeah,
Speaker 1: like six of us, right, and you know, a last
Speaker 1: minute six person reservation on Mother's Day. You gotta call
Speaker 1: in and say, I'm Robin Dixon, and I don't do that, Okay,
Speaker 1: I don't do that. I don't do that. So I
Speaker 1: literally was on open table, like, who I sit a
Speaker 1: room for six people on Mother's Day? Rob Sometimes you
Speaker 1: got understand. Um. So anyway, so so I'm like yeah, alright,
Speaker 1: I got I crossed that off my list. I got
Speaker 1: that out the way. You know, we're gonna have good
Speaker 1: Mother's Day, blah blah blah whatever. Um, yes, Saturday. My
Speaker 1: calendar alert went off and it was like, your reservation
Speaker 1: sh is in one hour. And I was like, and
Speaker 1: Mother's Day every year is on Sundays. I just want
Speaker 1: you all to know it's on Sunday, so yes, robbing you. After,
Speaker 1: I was like, oh my god, like, you've got to
Speaker 1: be kidding me. You have got to be kidding me.
Speaker 1: I called my mom. Yes, we're gonna be at the
Speaker 1: restaurant at three o'clock. We're good, but yeah, I have
Speaker 1: too pretty much car back and be like, um, sorry,
Speaker 1: I got no plans for your Mother's because literally there
Speaker 1: was like nothing, nothing available on Sunday that like I
Speaker 1: wanted to do, right, And I was just like she
Speaker 1: was kind of like, well, I'm going to call. She
Speaker 1: called a few restaurants. I'm gone gone call. It's Mother's
Speaker 1: Day's crucial out here. You can't be getting a restonation.
Speaker 1: So then my father was like, Okay, well we just
Speaker 1: have to do it another day, and I'm like, yes,
Speaker 1: we'll do it. Another day, and he's like, but your
Speaker 1: mother said that never happens. That's true. Anytime you say, oh,
Speaker 1: we'll just do it another day, it never had never happened.
Speaker 1: I'm with your mom on this. So but but I'm
Speaker 1: gonna it's not gonna happen this week. I'm telling you now,
Speaker 1: um to figure out another day maybe next week, because
Speaker 1: now it's like hard. It's like this is the season
Speaker 1: of graduations and like all this yeah probably just like
Speaker 1: all this other stuff going weddings or whatever, and I'm like,
Speaker 1: oh my god, when are we gonna have time to
Speaker 1: do this? Right? Okay? So I'm itching right now because
Speaker 1: I've got to make an announcement and it is a
Speaker 1: public service announcement. And it is azel public service announcement. Okay,
Speaker 1: can't Gesell Bryant is not dating Peter Thomas. Okay, And
Speaker 1: I want to say it one more time, Gesell Bryant
Speaker 1: is not dating somebody call a Peter and Thomas. Okay.
Speaker 1: So you know, rumors are rumors, and you know, at
Speaker 1: this point I believe nothing that's on the Internet because
Speaker 1: I am now a victim of um a straight up
Speaker 1: like give me, give me a me and Peter were
Speaker 1: at a pool holding hands. Right there was like not
Speaker 1: one pick. If there's a picture, a recent picture of
Speaker 1: you and Peter, I'm in it. You're in it, and
Speaker 1: it cut you out. Rom they cut you out to
Speaker 1: make the story so and and and I can't stand
Speaker 1: blog sites that are like Jazelle and Peter are dating,
Speaker 1: and then it's like this whole story at the end,
Speaker 1: it's like, Gazelle denies that she's dating Peter. Well, then
Speaker 1: why did you write this whole story like it's bad?
Speaker 1: Well they added that after you denied it, they wrote
Speaker 1: the story and then they added, you know, it's like
Speaker 1: they edited. Okay, So I'm about to talk about the
Speaker 1: Jasmine brand right now because they if y'all don't know
Speaker 1: the Jasmine brand, they're a blog site out there is
Speaker 1: are they called blogs? It's a blog site. Okay. So
Speaker 1: the Jasmine brand asked me if I wanted to give
Speaker 1: a comment on me and Peter, and I said I
Speaker 1: absolutely do. We are not dating. So they're like, okay, great,
Speaker 1: we will say from an anonymous source that you're not Peter.
Speaker 1: And I said no, said no, say my name, say
Speaker 1: my name anonymous sore So I said no, please say
Speaker 1: I said, I'm not dating Peter Thomas. What's hilarious? So
Speaker 1: a funny story. What's the prop Like, what's the point
Speaker 1: of that? I don't know, but I just was like,
Speaker 1: Jasmine brand y'all be in real shady right now. But whatever,
Speaker 1: So a funny story. Everybody knows Cal right, Cow's my guy,
Speaker 1: and um he last weekend was leaving Atlanta and he's
Speaker 1: walking into Clear. Do I tell you this? He's walking
Speaker 1: into Clear and he runs into Peter Thomas. Of all people,
Speaker 1: Cow and Peter Thomas. What a coincidence. So Cow's introduces himself.
Speaker 1: He's like, Hi, you know, my name is Cal. I'm
Speaker 1: really good friends, which is now he was like. Peter
Speaker 1: was like, yeah, I know who you are. So um,
Speaker 1: Cal says okay. So then Peter's like yeah, so they're
Speaker 1: they're leaving because they've done their clear stuff and they're
Speaker 1: leaving in Peter looks at Cal and he's like, yeah,
Speaker 1: tell my girlfriend, Giselle. I said, Hi, Okay, too soon, Peter,
Speaker 1: Too soon for Peter. Girlfriend. Giselle jokes, Okay the end,
Speaker 1: I've cleared it up. Oh my gosh, Okay, thank you.
Speaker 1: And you know what, it's always like Um, when when
Speaker 1: TMZ reports it, that's like kind of and you know
Speaker 1: it's true. But and I and I know that like
Speaker 1: TMZ attempted to reach out. Yes, they reached out to Peter.
Speaker 1: I'm sure he told them. No, it's not true. So
Speaker 1: I feel like, like, when you're reading gossip and stuff,
Speaker 1: just check and see if TMZ has reported it yet.
Speaker 1: I know because TMZ typically I mean not typically, but
Speaker 1: don't they don't report things that aren't true. They reached
Speaker 1: out to Peter, they reached out to Bravo. They don't
Speaker 1: have my number, thank god. So you know, anyway, we
Speaker 1: we didn't shut down the room as I think. Okay,
Speaker 1: so something else happened that that zoomed by the world.
Speaker 1: I feel like because I think no one cared the
Speaker 1: met gala, I know, well, was that because we were busy?
Speaker 1: I think we were born was underwhelming? I think it
Speaker 1: was underwhelming. Who was there? Um not Marilyn Monroe. Then listen,
Speaker 1: let me tell y'allself that Kim Kardashia. What did you
Speaker 1: two know she had on her? Let me tell you something. Okay,
Speaker 1: First of all, do you know the story like with
Speaker 1: her hair? No? Okay, So when you think of Marilyn
Speaker 1: Morowe in that dress, right you you think of also
Speaker 1: like the blonde, which I love, by the way, like classic.
Speaker 1: So because Kim was wearing that dress, she was attempting
Speaker 1: to do that blonde bouffont. But if you look at
Speaker 1: her hair, she's wearing a slick, slick back blonde hair
Speaker 1: with all this like discoloration in it because her hair
Speaker 1: started falling out when they started bleaching. A minute, how
Speaker 1: do you know this, Robin, my hair inside her sources?
Speaker 1: But look at her hair? Think about it? No, no no,
Speaker 1: think about it. Look did you say, my hair inside
Speaker 1: her sources? Okay, for the for the record, I never
Speaker 1: heard of that before. But that was good. That was good, Robert.
Speaker 1: But think about it. Look at like there's no way
Speaker 1: that that look that she was supposed to wear a
Speaker 1: straight bag. No, you know, it was supposed to be
Speaker 1: that blonde bouffon. I don't know why she didn't just
Speaker 1: put a wig on, but she literally colored her hair here.
Speaker 1: Why would she do that? I don't know. I don't
Speaker 1: because she doesn't like wigs or something. She just wears
Speaker 1: like extensions and stuff. I don't know why for that
Speaker 1: she would not just just put on a blonde wig
Speaker 1: because her hair color it's jacked up forever. Yes, I
Speaker 1: mean I think they fixed it, but I think it
Speaker 1: was just like, uh, they were trying to do too much.
Speaker 1: They're trying to take her hair from black to blonde
Speaker 1: and too short of a time and squeeze it in.
Speaker 1: And then she's on the maccalan and I'm sorry, you
Speaker 1: were just wearing a beaded dress at this point. You
Speaker 1: were not Marilyn Monroe, right, you were not. You missed them,
Speaker 1: You missed the ball, you missed the mark. And did
Speaker 1: you see how they had to open the back of
Speaker 1: the dress for her butt to squeeze it? Yes, and
Speaker 1: well she said, okay, so when they when she first
Speaker 1: shot on the dress, she couldn't fit it at all.
Speaker 1: And then she was like it, just give me time.
Speaker 1: I'm gonna lose weight. I'm gonna just have lemonade in
Speaker 1: cayenne pepper. And so she lost the weight, but yeah,
Speaker 1: she still couldn't get her butt in it. And so
Speaker 1: I'm just shocked at these people who have been preserving
Speaker 1: this dress allowed her to open the dress up. At
Speaker 1: this point, I'm thinking she has to buy it. I
Speaker 1: don't know, does she does she give it back? I
Speaker 1: don't know. And then and then apparently she she changed
Speaker 1: into a replica after she got up the steps, after
Speaker 1: she took all the pictures, then she changed into a replica.
Speaker 1: I don't know. That was like the biggest fail It
Speaker 1: was such a failure, butt. And let me tell you
Speaker 1: what was even a bigger failure her date. Okay, I
Speaker 1: know that's your boo, But like Pete what's his name,
Speaker 1: Pete Davidson in a tux looks terrible. And that's like
Speaker 1: any man in the tux looks good, right, any man
Speaker 1: in the tux looks good. I'm like, wait, does he
Speaker 1: look good at anything? Though? But he damn sure don't
Speaker 1: look good in the tux. I'm thinking, you're dressed up,
Speaker 1: you're you're to the nines, and you still look goofy.
Speaker 1: I mean, hey, something else going on is making her
Speaker 1: very happy that you have already concluded that. As soon
Speaker 1: as I saw him and how horrible he looked in
Speaker 1: that tux, I was like, that penis is at his knee.
Speaker 1: It is so at his knees. It's not even like
Speaker 1: halfway his thought. His penis is at his knees. Good God,
Speaker 1: because you look crazy. For the record, I don't want
Speaker 1: a penis that's at someone's knees. I want the let's
Speaker 1: talk about another penis. Can we talk about another? Oh? Yes,
Speaker 1: because because wait a minute, wait a minute, because like
Speaker 1: he's holding a green out mand penis talking about that. Okay,
Speaker 1: So Jesse Williams, how dare you whip your penis out
Speaker 1: and just stop the world? He stopped the world. I
Speaker 1: literally was like, Okay, I was on Instagram and I
Speaker 1: saw all these people talking about what was happening on Twitter,
Speaker 1: and I was like, I don't go on Twitter. I
Speaker 1: was like, I can't go on Twitter. I don't Twitter
Speaker 1: the devil. So I texted my girlfriends and I was like,
Speaker 1: anybody want to do me a favor it send me
Speaker 1: to Jesse Williams. No, I had three girlfriends sent it
Speaker 1: to me. Blurred out. I said, what the hell was?
Speaker 1: Get this off my phone? Blurred out. I got to
Speaker 1: my own Twitter Twitter search. It took me. It took me. Yeah.
Speaker 1: I was so excited. I was like, this is a
Speaker 1: great night banded and he is he's representing Okay, yeah,
Speaker 1: he's representing. Look. And then another couple of girlfriends was
Speaker 1: like he's single. Now, Giselle, she just shot. I'm like
Speaker 1: everybody in their grandmother's shooting their show right. But now
Speaker 1: but it's like, okay, now we know why the wife
Speaker 1: is a little cool, cool and just going and just divorce.
Speaker 1: She is. She is stringing this thing out. Yes, she
Speaker 1: don't want this divorce, but let me tell you, we're
Speaker 1: gonna get her another big penis I think. So if
Speaker 1: you don't know what we're talking about, just google Jesse
Speaker 1: william Jesse will we'll tell you really quickly. So Jesse
Speaker 1: Williams is right now doing a Broadway play. They were
Speaker 1: in practice, like rehearsals, not practice rehearsals, and I thought
Speaker 1: there was an actual show. No, it was in rehearsals
Speaker 1: and somebody um captured his naked body because the show
Speaker 1: in the in this Broadway show, they are nude. That's
Speaker 1: the whole not the whole show, right, but everybody's nude
Speaker 1: and something like the guys are nude. Yes, so um,
Speaker 1: there was a lot to look at that there. Yeah,
Speaker 1: oh yeah, we're buying a ticket. Ticket sales went up,
Speaker 1: so I think they kind of did this on purpose. Yeah,
Speaker 1: this is all about this is marketing. One on one
Speaker 1: show what you're gonna see when you get there, and
Speaker 1: I would need like a front row seat, Like I
Speaker 1: don't want anyone's head in front of me blocking the penis. Okay,
Speaker 1: we gotta move on. We can't because we can talk
Speaker 1: about we have we have gentlemen listeners. They don't want
Speaker 1: to hear that, do do they not? I mean whatever, Okay,
Speaker 1: I do want to get into because this is like timely,
Speaker 1: this whole overturning of Roe v. Wade, because it's this
Speaker 1: is like what the we can we take two steps
Speaker 1: forward and like twelve steps back, so you know, the
Speaker 1: Supreme Court, I don't think at this point, but by
Speaker 1: time y'all listen to this, we'll have made the vote
Speaker 1: and it will be a state by state um mandate
Speaker 1: as to whether or not abortions are legal in your
Speaker 1: particular state. So I'm just zel, I have a uterus
Speaker 1: if I want to have a baby, and it's my business.
Speaker 1: It's not your right to decide what to do with
Speaker 1: that maybe in my uterus, And so I just feel like,
Speaker 1: tip for tap, let's take some balls. Yeah, why would
Speaker 1: we take the balls? Don't write there's gotta be a
Speaker 1: reason why we take the right. Yeah, what are we
Speaker 1: doing with Yeah, they have to have balls. Yes, let's
Speaker 1: take what I'm saying. I'm just saying. They didn't say
Speaker 1: they what your uterus. They just want to control your uterus.
Speaker 1: So we need to control the ball. We need to
Speaker 1: control the sperm in the ball. Yes, yes, So how
Speaker 1: do we do that? How do we do that? I
Speaker 1: don't know. I don't If they get somebody pregnant that
Speaker 1: the then I can go, I can go extract, extraculate, extrapulate,
Speaker 1: take out, take out some sperm from the balls, and
Speaker 1: then do what with it? Throw it in the trash.
Speaker 1: I don't know. I don't know, I don't know. You know, Yeah,
Speaker 1: but it's I mean, it's ridiculous. It is ridiculous that
Speaker 1: this is a topic. It really is, Like there are
Speaker 1: so many other things that we can focus on and
Speaker 1: pretty much taken away. People's rights to do what they
Speaker 1: want with their body is not one that we should
Speaker 1: focus on. You know, we're joking, but in all seriousness,
Speaker 1: it's like really because I feel like, if you have means,
Speaker 1: you're going to find a way to get your abortion.
Speaker 1: But if you don't have means, so this like definitely
Speaker 1: singles out the poor because they're going to be either
Speaker 1: stuck with the baby they don't want, or they're just
Speaker 1: you're just gonna get your rights taken away. And that's
Speaker 1: just not fair. Yeah, it's not fair because who are
Speaker 1: we to judge, like what people's scenarios are, like what's
Speaker 1: going on in their life and whether or not they
Speaker 1: can have a baby or raise a child or you know,
Speaker 1: I don't know. It's just it's ridiculous. This is insane.
Speaker 1: Are we are living in a crazy ass world? Even
Speaker 1: if you're raped and incests, you know, any any scenario
Speaker 1: across the board. It is going to be a state
Speaker 1: by state thing and most states are like we're not
Speaker 1: including those We're not including rape. No, so no, and
Speaker 1: I mean, okay, so this is something that we have
Speaker 1: to vote on or that were no lawmakers are deciding on.
Speaker 1: It's been decided No, no, no, so you said, but
Speaker 1: it's a state by state things. So then so it's
Speaker 1: been decided that the states have the power. Yes, the
Speaker 1: states have the power. So do we need to vote,
Speaker 1: like we have an election coming up? Okay, yes, we
Speaker 1: need to make sure. So midterm elections are coming up,
Speaker 1: and we need to make sure that our rights are.
Speaker 1: These politicians have our rights in the front of their minds,
Speaker 1: like women's rights are first. But we're voting not for
Speaker 1: the actual like um, for the right to have an abortion.
Speaker 1: We're voting for to put the lawmakers in place who
Speaker 1: are going to create the laws. Yes, got it, Yes, yes, yes,
Speaker 1: So we gotta do that, all right. So Robert and
Speaker 1: I took a trip recently and we were out here
Speaker 1: in these rates. Okay, we got on the airplane. By
Speaker 1: the way, I don't know about y'all, but I got
Speaker 1: on a plane and I'm gonna continue to put my
Speaker 1: mask on. Everybody else's mask free. Y'all can get code
Speaker 1: if you want to, but I'm gonna put my mask.
Speaker 1: YEAHL had her mask on. I was like, I'm so
Speaker 1: dumb with these masks. I couldn't do it. I put
Speaker 1: it on, and I was like, I can't do it,
Speaker 1: and I just I just kept it off, and I'm
Speaker 1: COVID free. Yeah, okay, I think I am too, but
Speaker 1: my kids keep sneezing on me. But that's a whole
Speaker 1: another story. Okay, So I have come up with um
Speaker 1: random thoughts, random after trip after during our trip, after
Speaker 1: the whole thing. Okay. So random thought number one because
Speaker 1: I thought about my birthday because remember we all went
Speaker 1: to Miami for my birthday and it was a big
Speaker 1: girl's trip. Okay. So let's say you're the host of
Speaker 1: the trip or it's your birthday, that would make you
Speaker 1: the host. Okay, and somebody in the group makes the
Speaker 1: host or the birthday girl very angry. Okay, the host
Speaker 1: can decide to put that bitch on a curb, right.
Speaker 1: I feel like the host has the ability to do
Speaker 1: what they want to do. If it's the birthday girl,
Speaker 1: if it's the host, do what you want. Okay. I
Speaker 1: think within reason in limits, I mean, like would it
Speaker 1: would like? Okay. So if you're on a trip, someone
Speaker 1: is hosting the meaning that they have paid for everything. Yes, right,
Speaker 1: are they're paying for some things? They paid for some things,
Speaker 1: they pay for all your accommodations. Um, they organize the trip. Yes,
Speaker 1: Like we're looking to them to give us guidance on
Speaker 1: what we're doing our activities and stuff. Yes, we have
Speaker 1: a we have a full itinerary. Okay. So you're saying
Speaker 1: if the host doesn't like the way someone talks or
Speaker 1: looks back or something they do, they can be like
Speaker 1: beat you out of here. Really Well, No, I don't
Speaker 1: feel that way. It's you're right, it's within limits. It's
Speaker 1: within limits. Okay. See, I think when you're when you're
Speaker 1: talking about see, most people when they travel, like everybody
Speaker 1: pitches in, you know. So it's kind of like when
Speaker 1: you're like Oprah and you pay for everything. I'm not
Speaker 1: on Opra status. I don't know when that's gonna happen.
Speaker 1: So most people when you travel, everyone pitches in. And
Speaker 1: I feel like if there's some sort of like conflict,
Speaker 1: that maybe if that's a scenario where like the group
Speaker 1: talks about, you know, the best way to resolve the conflict,
Speaker 1: because you don't want that conflict to ruin your trip.
Speaker 1: You don't want whatever is happening between two people or
Speaker 1: three people or four people to just keep happening and
Speaker 1: and carry over. And if you ruin the trip, you
Speaker 1: want to have a good trip. Kay. But in a
Speaker 1: situation where you know there is one host who is
Speaker 1: responsible for the whole trip, I mean it's a little
Speaker 1: it's a little sticky. It is sticky. It's very sticky,
Speaker 1: and I think it depends on the scenario. Okay, I
Speaker 1: have a question for you. So hotels are are houses?
Speaker 1: Hotel room or houses? I prefer hotels for sure, right
Speaker 1: because you want your individual space? Yes, yes, yeah, I
Speaker 1: prefer hotels. I just feel like I don't like sharing bathrooms.
Speaker 1: I don't like I mean, okay, a house if there
Speaker 1: are enough bathroom, bathrooms and bedroom. But then this gets tricky. Okay,
Speaker 1: let's say you're on South Beach and you meet someone
Speaker 1: and you want to bring him back to your room.
Speaker 1: You're not gonna do that if you're in a house.
Speaker 1: If you're in a house, you know, so I think
Speaker 1: just we just need to get some hotel rooms today. Okay,
Speaker 1: so girls trips in houses? Band no more? Yeah, I
Speaker 1: would choose not to. I mean unless the accommodations were
Speaker 1: just like superspacious, you know what I mean, Like you're
Speaker 1: not on top of each other, you're not having to
Speaker 1: like share space like yeah, but no, no, my first
Speaker 1: choice is a house or like a villa or something
Speaker 1: where you have like your own private quarters, private entryway. Yeah. Yeah, okay,
Speaker 1: I like that now because then if you're on a
Speaker 1: trip and something goes wrong, like you don't really have
Speaker 1: to worry about like if you're in a hotel and
Speaker 1: you're on a trip and the host the hostess has
Speaker 1: an issue with one of the guests, like you don't
Speaker 1: really have to worry about what's going to happen to
Speaker 1: that guest, just go back today, yeah exactly. Yeah, and
Speaker 1: we ain't invite right, and then you just don't get
Speaker 1: the memo of where dinner is, yes, because you need
Speaker 1: a time out. Yeah, you know. I I totally agree
Speaker 1: with doing group trips and giving people time out in space.
Speaker 1: I do too. I hate it when people are like,
Speaker 1: we have to do everything together and oh my gosh,
Speaker 1: you wouldn't did that and that was not on the schedule.
Speaker 1: Like I hate that, unless it's something that's like variant,
Speaker 1: it's liken less are like, Okay, this is the one
Speaker 1: thing that I want everybody to do, right, But then
Speaker 1: after that it's like do you and I'm gonna do me.
Speaker 1: But it's it's like the scenario again. It's like, if
Speaker 1: I'm spending my money right to go on the trip,
Speaker 1: then yeah, I'm kind of do what I want, But
Speaker 1: if the hostess is spending her money, then I think
Speaker 1: we're kind of obligated to do whatever the hostess tells
Speaker 1: us to do. Okay, so like, how do you feel
Speaker 1: about um? I'm very direct, like when something goes down
Speaker 1: and it's my fault, I apologize, right, And I know
Speaker 1: that there's different ways to apologize, but I normally just say, hey,
Speaker 1: I did boom boom boom boom. That was wrong for that,
Speaker 1: and I hurt your feelings because I did that. I'm
Speaker 1: really sorry, But don't even say if I hurt your feelings,
Speaker 1: just say I'm sorry, right, I'm sorry because I shouldn't
Speaker 1: have done that, right, I just was you say, I
Speaker 1: understand how that hurt your feelings, right, I just was
Speaker 1: like really hungry that day or something like there's a reason,
Speaker 1: like I don't know why I did it, but I
Speaker 1: just did it. I don't understand how people don't know
Speaker 1: how to apologize. I know, I know. And it's so
Speaker 1: funny because I feel like we come across this a
Speaker 1: lot in our daily lives, and they were talking about
Speaker 1: it on the reel recently and it was like every
Speaker 1: all the stuff that I'm like, yeah, no, when you
Speaker 1: say if you feel that I hurt you know that
Speaker 1: I'm sorry. That's why that's not an apology. So um okay, wait,
Speaker 1: So I mean I have you know, you know, I
Speaker 1: like my little Instagram post. So I did come across
Speaker 1: the post where it was like all these different like
Speaker 1: instead of saying this, say that. Um, but I think
Speaker 1: apologizing is an art because it's not even an art.
Speaker 1: It's like it shouldn't be an art. Actually now it
Speaker 1: should just be communication. And so the question is like
Speaker 1: why don't people apologize, Like, is do they think that
Speaker 1: by apologizing and owning what they did, that that makes
Speaker 1: them weak or that means they lost the fight, or
Speaker 1: that means you know what, I mean, that they're not perfect,
Speaker 1: but they were wrong. I mean, there's nothing wrong with
Speaker 1: being wrong or acknowledging that you were wrong, so all
Speaker 1: the above. So why is it that people have a
Speaker 1: hard time apologize because they're whack? Okay, they don't want
Speaker 1: to apologize because they feel like that's gonna make them
Speaker 1: look weak, that's gonna make them look like they're wrong
Speaker 1: and they're not perfect. And everybody wants to walk around
Speaker 1: acting like they're perfect. That's not perfect. Okay, I do
Speaker 1: stuff wrong daily. I mean, yeah, we know, and you
Speaker 1: literally like for the most part, but for the record,
Speaker 1: is being shaped. Okay, that was shaw, but you know, like,
Speaker 1: for the most part, when someone does say like just out,
Speaker 1: I don't appreciate that you did this, or why did
Speaker 1: you do this? Or I can't believe you do this,
Speaker 1: you actually like in that moment, or like you know what,
Speaker 1: I'm sorry right, you don't like pushback, you don't fight,
Speaker 1: you don't like I don't care for three weeks. I'm
Speaker 1: just like, yo, I'm sorry. I know we're not all
Speaker 1: the same. Okay, So tell me this. If you are
Speaker 1: so quick to apologize, then do you really mean it? Yes?
Speaker 1: And does that mean Okay, I apologize and I'm going
Speaker 1: to do something up again, and I'm just gonna apologize.
Speaker 1: I'm just gonna keep doing something up and I'm going
Speaker 1: to keep apologizing because I can apologize. Okay. So, Robin,
Speaker 1: I don't have a crystal ball. I don't know what
Speaker 1: the future holds, okay, okay as to what I'm gonna
Speaker 1: do in the future, but I do know that everyone
Speaker 1: makes mistakes, okay, And yes, I mean my apologies when
Speaker 1: I say it, okay, and I say I really mean
Speaker 1: for I mean it. I wasn't giving example. I can't
Speaker 1: give you an example. But if I say I'm sorry,
Speaker 1: I'm sorry. Damn it. I mean, I'm just I just
Speaker 1: wonder how many I'm sorries people need to hear. I mean,
Speaker 1: I'm just you know, I just I'm just wondering. Okay,
Speaker 1: do you have a list? Okay, so I want to
Speaker 1: go through, Like so so you know how to apologize
Speaker 1: the dudes and don't of how to apologize okay, because
Speaker 1: wait a minute, it's just for the record. An apologize
Speaker 1: when you when you apologize to somebody, I want it
Speaker 1: helps you. It helps them, but it helps you, that's true. Yeah,
Speaker 1: because you're released from the situation. Well you're released, but
Speaker 1: hopefully when you apologize, you're actually understanding why that person
Speaker 1: was hurt so that you don't do it again, you
Speaker 1: know what I mean. Like it's it's one that's nothing.
Speaker 1: Don't just apologize me, like all right, I'm sorry and
Speaker 1: then like you really don't. You don't mean it either.
Speaker 1: You're just apologizing to shut the person up, Like that's
Speaker 1: I like to explain why I did my shady thing
Speaker 1: that I did, and I do that well yeah, okay, record, yes, yes, yes,
Speaker 1: that's hey, that's good. All right, So I'm gonna tell
Speaker 1: you all what is not considered a good apology or
Speaker 1: not really an apology, and we have some friends that
Speaker 1: need to hear this. Hit his friends. I know a
Speaker 1: lot of people need to hear this. Okay, So I'm
Speaker 1: sorry you feel that way. I feel like that's like
Speaker 1: the number one Like I feel like when people say
Speaker 1: that I'm sorry you feel that way, that's like you
Speaker 1: really are having a hard time of taking ownership of
Speaker 1: what you did and acknowledging that you were wrong, flat
Speaker 1: out wrong right right? Yes? No, aunt, this one even worse.
Speaker 1: I'm sorry, but you're just being sensitive? What Okay, that's
Speaker 1: just like people that say that. Guys used to be like,
Speaker 1: are you on your period? Is that why you're acting crazy? No,
Speaker 1: I'm acting crazy because you made me. That is actually
Speaker 1: a valid point for me, that's annalid point for robbing.
Speaker 1: But for gisl who doesn't have those issues, I'm like, no,
Speaker 1: I'm mad because I'm mad because you're an idiot. Kay.
Speaker 1: Another one, I'm sorry if you think I did something wrong?
Speaker 1: What right? Yeah, that's a waste of um what do
Speaker 1: you call it? Words? Words, oxygen, all of that. I'm sorry,
Speaker 1: but it obviously was a joke. Okay, So I'm good
Speaker 1: at that. Okay, So Okay, just for the record, Okay,
Speaker 1: and I can actually I can bring this up because
Speaker 1: you know, I have a friend named Karen Huger, and
Speaker 1: there's a lot of times what I've been joking with
Speaker 1: her in the past and she didn't understand my humor. True,
Speaker 1: I get that. So but I feel like, okay, you
Speaker 1: gotta it's how you structure the apology, right. So if
Speaker 1: it's like, so, if you were joking and someone was offended,
Speaker 1: the way you say it is, I was joking and
Speaker 1: I am so sorry that it offended you. Okay, I like,
Speaker 1: is that better? That's so batter, I gotta write that,
Speaker 1: you know, so, so I promise you it was a joke,
Speaker 1: but I understand that it hurt your feelings and I'm sorry. Okay,
Speaker 1: I like, right, I think anytime you say like, I'm sorry,
Speaker 1: but it's the buttons. But for me, so you just
Speaker 1: have to like figure out how to like say things
Speaker 1: or even when it's like, you know, I'm probably guilty
Speaker 1: of thinking people are sensitive, right or too sensitive because
Speaker 1: I'm not very sensitive, So like that makes it actually
Speaker 1: makes you mad that people are too sensitive that people
Speaker 1: are it doesn't. I mean, it's just it's it is hard,
Speaker 1: I think for someone to navigate of like like, okay,
Speaker 1: well what can I what can I say? What can
Speaker 1: I not say? What's want to offend this person? Because
Speaker 1: I'm not a sensitive person and they are. And if
Speaker 1: you don't tell me you're a sensitive person, like how
Speaker 1: am I supposed to know? Because they cry every five
Speaker 1: minutes and fold up napkins. So those people, those people,
Speaker 1: I really I'm sick of it. I'm sick of you
Speaker 1: crying every eighteen seconds. I don't want to see you crying.
Speaker 1: Like like now we're getting into like a whole another topic.
Speaker 1: So it's like, okay, so if your friends are sensitive,
Speaker 1: do you just not be keep it real and be
Speaker 1: honest with them and like call them out on stuff.
Speaker 1: I'm I don't care to crabing five seconds. I'm going
Speaker 1: to tell you. Do you say to your friends listen,
Speaker 1: if we're gonna be friends, you're gonna have to understand
Speaker 1: that I am going to speak up when I feel
Speaker 1: you're being wrong, yes, or you know what I'm saying? Like,
Speaker 1: so what is it? So it's like, do you keep
Speaker 1: the friendship or do you just say you know what,
Speaker 1: We're just not meant to be friends because you're sensitive.
Speaker 1: I'm blunt. Yes, it's not gonna work out. What do
Speaker 1: you do? So you just in the friendships because like
Speaker 1: for me, I think I'm gonna start counting if I
Speaker 1: see you cry too many times. We can't be friends
Speaker 1: because I don't. I don't. I don't shed tears like that.
Speaker 1: I think it's five five times and you're done and
Speaker 1: you're just like like a mom or or you know what. Though,
Speaker 1: like we've talked about this before. Friends, you can have
Speaker 1: different types of friends. You can have surface friends, okay, right,
Speaker 1: criers are surface surface friends, yes, okay, okay. So it's like,
Speaker 1: so I think you have to talk to your friends
Speaker 1: about okay, like what level of friendship do you want?
Speaker 1: Do you want? You know what I'm saying, like we're
Speaker 1: the worst? Do you no? But it's like it's it's
Speaker 1: it's real because I feel like I don't want to
Speaker 1: have to censor myself for certain friends because they're gonna
Speaker 1: be sensitive. And it's like but then on the flip side,
Speaker 1: like I want to be compassionate towards people's sensitivities, So like,
Speaker 1: how do we do this? Compassion is overrated? I'm just
Speaker 1: sitting all right, okay, let me go, let me continue
Speaker 1: on this list, Like all right, um, sorry, are you
Speaker 1: happy now? Oh? Hell no, hell no, I don't even
Speaker 1: speak to me if you're gonna say that. But because
Speaker 1: I'm not happy, I feel like and I feel like
Speaker 1: I've kind of received an apology like that recently. It's like, yeah,
Speaker 1: I'm just gonna say sorry, so I can just in
Speaker 1: this conversation and move on, right, do you know what
Speaker 1: I mean? Instead of people like really flushing out what
Speaker 1: you did and why it was wrong, you know what
Speaker 1: I'm saying? Yeah, it's just like what and then another
Speaker 1: one just sorry, followed by no reparations. So it's like
Speaker 1: you say sorry, but then what's the consequences of what
Speaker 1: of your actions? Is saying sorry? Just enough? No, you
Speaker 1: have to talk it through, Like what exactly are you
Speaker 1: apologizing for? You can't just give a blanket I'm sorry, y'all,
Speaker 1: Like that's no what you're sorry for? Right? But once
Speaker 1: you do that, so you say sorry, and then like,
Speaker 1: what happens to that friendship or what happens to that
Speaker 1: that relationship? You know what I mean? Like, I guess
Speaker 1: it just really depends on on how that conversation goes
Speaker 1: because you can do something to hurt someone and they
Speaker 1: can say sorry, and you as an individual can decide
Speaker 1: that you're gonna let it go and you're gonna move forward,
Speaker 1: or you're going to say, you know what, I appreciate
Speaker 1: the apology, but we s there's that, and then there's
Speaker 1: if it's a bullshit apology, then no, we're not moving forward.
Speaker 1: So so let me tell you what an apology is
Speaker 1: or what it exists. So an apology takes ownership of
Speaker 1: actions leading to hurt. I like that. I like that
Speaker 1: takes ownership an apology and of reparations or behavior change.
Speaker 1: What are we doing? So it's like something that is
Speaker 1: like okay. So like maybe it's like okay, say you
Speaker 1: did something to publicly hurt someone, so you're you say
Speaker 1: sorry to that person, but then you also publicly, if
Speaker 1: you publicly trash me on Instagram, you need to publicly
Speaker 1: go back, and I mean to do that, I mean,
Speaker 1: I mean yeah, if that's if if that is what
Speaker 1: you require of an apology, then yeah, or behavior change.
Speaker 1: So it's like you know, if if I'm sorry that
Speaker 1: I'm late, um, then I'm not going to be late anymore.
Speaker 1: You're never sorry. You're late, Robbie, you don't care that
Speaker 1: you're late. I think you get joy out of it. Yes,
Speaker 1: it's like a late game. I'm gonna be twenty minutes later,
Speaker 1: at thirty minutes. That's not a good one. That's ridiculous.
Speaker 1: That's not a good one. Okay, we're almost done. Um.
Speaker 1: An apology, and this is very valid, is not used
Speaker 1: as a way to end a conversation, which I think
Speaker 1: a lot of times and in some of our friendships,
Speaker 1: apologies are used to end a conversation. So the president
Speaker 1: just says I'm sorry, and they want the conversation to
Speaker 1: be over. Yeah. Yeah, No, it doesn't work that way. Yeah.
Speaker 1: Men do that a lot because they just want to
Speaker 1: move on. They just want to fix it. Yeah, and
Speaker 1: go have sex. Yes, I'm sorry. Can we okay? On
Speaker 1: that note, we're here, guys, girl, I got I got
Speaker 1: three more? Yeah, I got four more. An apology is
Speaker 1: not excessive. An apology does not expect anything in return,
Speaker 1: and apology does not include ifs or butts. An apology
Speaker 1: is genuine. Yes, and we out here? Okay? Can I
Speaker 1: an apology for cutting me off? Yes, I'm sorry, robbing
Speaker 1: for cutting you off. I thought you were done, but
Speaker 1: that's the last apology you get me, And is this
Speaker 1: the last time you're going to do that? I mean
Speaker 1: cut me off. No, Okay, we're out of here. Guy,
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