1 00:00:00,720 --> 00:00:04,360 Speaker 1: Welcome to Reasonably Shady, a production of the Black Effect 2 00:00:04,400 --> 00:00:17,240 Speaker 1: Podcast Network and I Heart Radio. Welcome to another episode 3 00:00:17,239 --> 00:00:21,480 Speaker 1: of Reasonably Shady. I am Gazelle Bryant. What's up? What's up? Y'all? 4 00:00:21,480 --> 00:00:23,479 Speaker 1: This is Robin Dixon. Thank you so much for being 5 00:00:23,480 --> 00:00:28,160 Speaker 1: here with it. We appreciate you. And you're listening ears 6 00:00:28,200 --> 00:00:32,520 Speaker 1: every Monday or Tuesday or Wednesday whenever. I'm to listen 7 00:00:32,560 --> 00:00:34,879 Speaker 1: on Monday, but they might listen on Tuesdays. What does 8 00:00:34,920 --> 00:00:37,640 Speaker 1: that affect our downloads? No? No, this is not like 9 00:00:37,720 --> 00:00:44,840 Speaker 1: ratings on TV. Okay, y'all listen whenever. Okay, love it? Yes, 10 00:00:44,960 --> 00:00:47,199 Speaker 1: thank you for being here. And we actually y'all can't 11 00:00:47,240 --> 00:00:49,239 Speaker 1: see us right now, but we're like in a news studio. 12 00:00:49,880 --> 00:00:51,880 Speaker 1: And when I say new studio in a different room 13 00:00:51,880 --> 00:00:54,560 Speaker 1: in Robin's house, we're actually wait, we're back to the 14 00:00:54,600 --> 00:00:57,720 Speaker 1: original room. Yes, in my house. Yes, but it looks amazing. 15 00:00:57,760 --> 00:01:00,360 Speaker 1: It's different, totally different. So now we're like sitting on 16 00:01:00,400 --> 00:01:04,120 Speaker 1: a sofa. We really feel like we're like girlfriends chit 17 00:01:04,200 --> 00:01:07,360 Speaker 1: chatting in our living room. All we needed some wine 18 00:01:07,400 --> 00:01:10,000 Speaker 1: or something I can make that happen. No, no, no, 19 00:01:10,440 --> 00:01:13,679 Speaker 1: I want to be sober as all my shade comes 20 00:01:13,720 --> 00:01:19,360 Speaker 1: like totally through me when I'm sober. That's wow, that's 21 00:01:19,400 --> 00:01:24,840 Speaker 1: impressive because most people their shade comes out when they're drunk. 22 00:01:24,880 --> 00:01:27,479 Speaker 1: I know. But but and that's impressive. I know. When 23 00:01:27,480 --> 00:01:30,800 Speaker 1: you're drunk, what what comes out of you? Nonsense, just 24 00:01:30,920 --> 00:01:34,880 Speaker 1: nonsense at making no sense to nobody. But anyway, we digress. 25 00:01:34,959 --> 00:01:36,440 Speaker 1: We have two couple of things, A couple of things. 26 00:01:36,520 --> 00:01:40,360 Speaker 1: First and foremost people on Wednesday today it's Monday, if 27 00:01:40,360 --> 00:01:42,960 Speaker 1: you're listening on Monday. But on Wednesday, May eighteenth, we 28 00:01:43,040 --> 00:01:47,200 Speaker 1: have a live show. And this is like, this is 29 00:01:47,200 --> 00:01:50,080 Speaker 1: actually very exciting because we've never done a live show. 30 00:01:50,640 --> 00:01:53,040 Speaker 1: We're gonna be up close and personal with whoever's in 31 00:01:53,040 --> 00:01:57,240 Speaker 1: the room. We might kiss you maybe okay, no kissing 32 00:01:57,280 --> 00:02:00,160 Speaker 1: COVID okay, but we're gonna give you some hugs, we're 33 00:02:00,160 --> 00:02:02,920 Speaker 1: gonna take pictures, we're gonna do our podcast, and we 34 00:02:02,960 --> 00:02:07,720 Speaker 1: want you guys to be involved in the podcast. Yes, exactly. 35 00:02:07,840 --> 00:02:11,840 Speaker 1: So the podcast is in if you're downloading this on Monday, 36 00:02:12,080 --> 00:02:14,639 Speaker 1: May sixteenth, the podcast is in two days. 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So everyone, 66 00:03:52,320 --> 00:03:56,920 Speaker 1: please continue to rate, review, subscribe to our podcast. It 67 00:03:57,040 --> 00:04:00,200 Speaker 1: definitely helps us um and it helps us continue to 68 00:04:00,240 --> 00:04:02,560 Speaker 1: do what we do. So we appreciate you for appreciating us. 69 00:04:02,920 --> 00:04:13,360 Speaker 1: Yank you. Okay, So, reasonably shady moment of the week. Okay, 70 00:04:13,400 --> 00:04:15,400 Speaker 1: and I'll go first because you know Robin always has 71 00:04:15,400 --> 00:04:20,080 Speaker 1: things with this, so I will go first. So, okay, guys, 72 00:04:20,760 --> 00:04:24,360 Speaker 1: Mother's Day just passed and I can't figure out if 73 00:04:24,440 --> 00:04:27,960 Speaker 1: the reasonably shady person was me or the person I'm 74 00:04:27,960 --> 00:04:31,840 Speaker 1: getting ready tell you all about. Okay. So you know, 75 00:04:32,160 --> 00:04:34,800 Speaker 1: my my baby daddy, Jamal Bryant, flew in it down 76 00:04:35,279 --> 00:04:38,000 Speaker 1: to take me and my three to dinner. Okay, So 77 00:04:38,080 --> 00:04:39,599 Speaker 1: it gets off the plane, he meets us at the 78 00:04:39,600 --> 00:04:42,520 Speaker 1: restaurant I made a reservation. Me and my kids go 79 00:04:42,560 --> 00:04:45,039 Speaker 1: down to the to the restaurant. We're sitting in the 80 00:04:45,080 --> 00:04:48,120 Speaker 1: booth to booths like a semi circle. So I'm in. 81 00:04:48,400 --> 00:04:51,080 Speaker 1: I'm like two people deep in the booth. Okay, on 82 00:04:51,160 --> 00:04:55,080 Speaker 1: both sides, so we really I'm all excited because you know, 83 00:04:55,200 --> 00:04:58,720 Speaker 1: I'm greedy and hungry and I'm ready to eat. I 84 00:04:58,760 --> 00:05:00,280 Speaker 1: don't really don't want to say that name. I went 85 00:05:00,320 --> 00:05:04,880 Speaker 1: to RPM. Okay, Okay, so out of nowhere, this woman 86 00:05:04,920 --> 00:05:07,680 Speaker 1: walks up and she's like, Hi, Oh my gosh, so 87 00:05:07,800 --> 00:05:11,000 Speaker 1: nice to see you. Can I take a picture? And 88 00:05:11,040 --> 00:05:14,000 Speaker 1: I immediately and guys, I've never done this. I have 89 00:05:14,240 --> 00:05:16,480 Speaker 1: never done this. Immediately, I was like, I looked up 90 00:05:16,480 --> 00:05:19,680 Speaker 1: and I said, nope, Oh you said it like that. 91 00:05:19,800 --> 00:05:24,400 Speaker 1: I said it just like dad. I was like, nope. 92 00:05:24,960 --> 00:05:27,560 Speaker 1: She looks at me kind of like sho. I know. 93 00:05:27,640 --> 00:05:29,960 Speaker 1: It was horrible. I mean it was so but I 94 00:05:30,000 --> 00:05:32,479 Speaker 1: was like, first of all, some mother's day. Second of all, 95 00:05:32,520 --> 00:05:34,880 Speaker 1: I'm here with my kids. I'm two people deep on 96 00:05:34,920 --> 00:05:37,320 Speaker 1: both sides in this booth. Everybody would have to move 97 00:05:37,320 --> 00:05:38,440 Speaker 1: in order for me to get out and take a 98 00:05:38,440 --> 00:05:40,560 Speaker 1: picture of this woman. Okay, So all of that was 99 00:05:40,560 --> 00:05:42,480 Speaker 1: going on in my mind. Did you tell her, well, 100 00:05:42,520 --> 00:05:46,440 Speaker 1: if you buy a ticket to the show. And I've 101 00:05:46,480 --> 00:05:49,159 Speaker 1: never said no like that, Like I've always been like, 102 00:05:49,560 --> 00:05:51,200 Speaker 1: not right now, but I'll come up to your table 103 00:05:51,240 --> 00:05:54,800 Speaker 1: when I'm done. I just was like nope, and then 104 00:05:54,880 --> 00:05:58,400 Speaker 1: she like your kids mortified. They were like they kind 105 00:05:58,400 --> 00:06:00,360 Speaker 1: of were like, holy crap, but they just say anything 106 00:06:00,640 --> 00:06:02,800 Speaker 1: because it's my day, right and I want all the 107 00:06:02,839 --> 00:06:05,320 Speaker 1: attention on me. So she turns around, she leaves, and 108 00:06:05,320 --> 00:06:07,480 Speaker 1: I looked at Jamal and I'm like, Jamal, was that horrible? 109 00:06:07,680 --> 00:06:12,600 Speaker 1: He was like yeah, and he said, but you know what, 110 00:06:12,680 --> 00:06:15,760 Speaker 1: you weren't wrong, like you know, at some point you 111 00:06:15,760 --> 00:06:19,800 Speaker 1: you're human, And so the shady person really was me? 112 00:06:20,560 --> 00:06:22,560 Speaker 1: Or was it that lady? Okay, it was both. It 113 00:06:22,680 --> 00:06:24,919 Speaker 1: was both. If you didn't respond the way you responded, 114 00:06:24,960 --> 00:06:27,159 Speaker 1: then it would just be her, right, because yes, like 115 00:06:27,320 --> 00:06:29,800 Speaker 1: most a lot of people will try to wait until 116 00:06:29,880 --> 00:06:32,120 Speaker 1: like if they see us in a restaurant, they'll try 117 00:06:32,160 --> 00:06:34,360 Speaker 1: to wait until we're done eating and they see us 118 00:06:34,400 --> 00:06:36,120 Speaker 1: like get up and we're on our way out or 119 00:06:36,160 --> 00:06:38,800 Speaker 1: something like that. Um. I have had people come up 120 00:06:38,839 --> 00:06:41,800 Speaker 1: and say, I'm so sorry to bother you while you're eating. Yeah, 121 00:06:42,320 --> 00:06:45,320 Speaker 1: but then it's like, but you're bothering But if I 122 00:06:45,360 --> 00:06:49,440 Speaker 1: was at the end of the booth. Yeah, but I'm like, no, 123 00:06:49,560 --> 00:06:51,640 Speaker 1: I'm not doing this. I'm not doing this to my family. 124 00:06:51,680 --> 00:06:53,680 Speaker 1: I'm not making them get up. But but you could 125 00:06:53,720 --> 00:06:56,360 Speaker 1: have just been like, I'm so sorry, Like right, it's 126 00:06:56,400 --> 00:06:59,280 Speaker 1: not a good time right now. You know, I had 127 00:06:59,279 --> 00:07:01,520 Speaker 1: a moment. So I want to apologize to the lady 128 00:07:01,560 --> 00:07:03,080 Speaker 1: first and foremost, because I know she went back to 129 00:07:03,120 --> 00:07:05,520 Speaker 1: her table and said I was the worst person on earth. 130 00:07:06,160 --> 00:07:08,640 Speaker 1: So I'm apologizing to her right now, lady, and rpm 131 00:07:08,720 --> 00:07:12,360 Speaker 1: on Mother's Day. Um, she's probably told everyone on Facebook 132 00:07:12,400 --> 00:07:15,280 Speaker 1: that that I'm horrible, right, and I'm not that person. 133 00:07:15,320 --> 00:07:16,840 Speaker 1: But I just was like it just she just caught 134 00:07:16,880 --> 00:07:20,040 Speaker 1: me on that day, so I was shady, I'm sorry, 135 00:07:20,080 --> 00:07:24,000 Speaker 1: but please just like if somebody's in the booth, just 136 00:07:24,080 --> 00:07:26,680 Speaker 1: leave him alone so they get out the damn booth. Yeah, 137 00:07:26,800 --> 00:07:28,720 Speaker 1: or just wait. I mean maybe she was like almost 138 00:07:28,760 --> 00:07:30,360 Speaker 1: finished her meal and she was like about to go, 139 00:07:30,440 --> 00:07:31,960 Speaker 1: so she couldn't like sit around and wait for you 140 00:07:32,000 --> 00:07:34,640 Speaker 1: to write. And then it's just right she left before 141 00:07:34,680 --> 00:07:36,960 Speaker 1: I did because your mom was like We're gonna fix it. 142 00:07:37,040 --> 00:07:40,120 Speaker 1: We gotta fix this, we gotta fix it. He was 143 00:07:40,120 --> 00:07:44,120 Speaker 1: like we're gonna go over there before she leaves. Yeah, okay, 144 00:07:44,360 --> 00:07:46,440 Speaker 1: let's go back. So you said nope, and she just 145 00:07:46,480 --> 00:07:49,400 Speaker 1: like turned around and walked away. She was like okay 146 00:07:49,600 --> 00:07:53,640 Speaker 1: and turned around and walked away. And I everything in 147 00:07:53,760 --> 00:07:57,200 Speaker 1: me was I was angry because she I felt like annoyed. 148 00:07:57,360 --> 00:07:59,320 Speaker 1: I was annoyed. I felt like, for the rest of 149 00:07:59,360 --> 00:08:01,560 Speaker 1: the time I'm sitting there like trying to enjoy my family, 150 00:08:01,720 --> 00:08:04,480 Speaker 1: I'm mad at myself that I did that to her. 151 00:08:04,840 --> 00:08:08,840 Speaker 1: So I like Mother's Day was ruined. Oh, because I'm 152 00:08:08,880 --> 00:08:11,960 Speaker 1: like in my head like she's trashing me. I didn't 153 00:08:11,960 --> 00:08:13,920 Speaker 1: really mean to say nope like that, but I just 154 00:08:13,960 --> 00:08:15,960 Speaker 1: didn't want to, Like it was just too much. Yeah, 155 00:08:16,000 --> 00:08:18,000 Speaker 1: I mean, you know what, You're human, though, and I 156 00:08:18,040 --> 00:08:20,360 Speaker 1: think at some point it is I think you're like, Okay, 157 00:08:20,440 --> 00:08:21,960 Speaker 1: it's Mother's Day. I'm in the middle of the booth, 158 00:08:21,960 --> 00:08:24,680 Speaker 1: I'm at a restaurant, like, you know, just like cut 159 00:08:24,720 --> 00:08:27,560 Speaker 1: me some slash. You're human. But I can see where 160 00:08:27,600 --> 00:08:29,920 Speaker 1: it's like you're kind of like, oh, ship, that was 161 00:08:30,000 --> 00:08:32,400 Speaker 1: that was a little that was horrible. I'm sorry, lady. 162 00:08:32,440 --> 00:08:36,120 Speaker 1: That was shady. I'm sorry. I honestly never turned down 163 00:08:36,559 --> 00:08:38,720 Speaker 1: anyone with right, I never do either, And I know 164 00:08:38,800 --> 00:08:40,800 Speaker 1: you don't like so I know that was like that 165 00:08:40,880 --> 00:08:44,280 Speaker 1: was a human moment for you, yes, yes, yes, yeah, 166 00:08:44,480 --> 00:08:49,080 Speaker 1: um okay, So since we're on Mother's Day, my reasonably 167 00:08:49,080 --> 00:08:52,079 Speaker 1: shady moment goes to myself. I'm always giving them to myself. 168 00:08:52,120 --> 00:08:58,040 Speaker 1: I'm like such a airhead, right, So so okay, yes, 169 00:08:58,080 --> 00:09:00,800 Speaker 1: it's Mother's Day, and and I should be treated nicely 170 00:09:00,800 --> 00:09:02,880 Speaker 1: on Mother's Day. But I also have a mother who 171 00:09:02,960 --> 00:09:05,320 Speaker 1: needs to be treated nicely on Mother's Day. And so 172 00:09:05,960 --> 00:09:09,160 Speaker 1: you know, we had a busy week. I was, you know, 173 00:09:09,360 --> 00:09:12,400 Speaker 1: very busy, very tired, but you know I mustered up 174 00:09:12,440 --> 00:09:15,760 Speaker 1: the energy to make a reservation for me and my 175 00:09:15,800 --> 00:09:17,839 Speaker 1: mom and my kids and Wane and my dad for 176 00:09:17,960 --> 00:09:21,080 Speaker 1: Mother's Day. Right. This is like a big table, yeah, 177 00:09:21,200 --> 00:09:23,880 Speaker 1: like six of us, right, and you know, a last 178 00:09:23,920 --> 00:09:28,120 Speaker 1: minute six person reservation on Mother's Day. You gotta call 179 00:09:28,200 --> 00:09:31,720 Speaker 1: in and say, I'm Robin Dixon, and I don't do that, Okay, 180 00:09:31,760 --> 00:09:33,760 Speaker 1: I don't do that. I don't do that. So I 181 00:09:34,040 --> 00:09:36,600 Speaker 1: literally was on open table, like, who I sit a 182 00:09:36,720 --> 00:09:39,800 Speaker 1: room for six people on Mother's Day? Rob Sometimes you 183 00:09:39,800 --> 00:09:47,560 Speaker 1: got understand. Um. So anyway, so so I'm like yeah, alright, 184 00:09:47,600 --> 00:09:49,200 Speaker 1: I got I crossed that off my list. I got 185 00:09:49,200 --> 00:09:50,880 Speaker 1: that out the way. You know, we're gonna have good 186 00:09:50,920 --> 00:09:56,320 Speaker 1: Mother's Day, blah blah blah whatever. Um, yes, Saturday. My 187 00:09:56,480 --> 00:09:59,960 Speaker 1: calendar alert went off and it was like, your reservation 188 00:10:00,000 --> 00:10:05,800 Speaker 1: sh is in one hour. And I was like, and 189 00:10:05,880 --> 00:10:08,200 Speaker 1: Mother's Day every year is on Sundays. I just want 190 00:10:08,200 --> 00:10:12,480 Speaker 1: you all to know it's on Sunday, so yes, robbing you. After, 191 00:10:12,760 --> 00:10:16,520 Speaker 1: I was like, oh my god, like, you've got to 192 00:10:16,600 --> 00:10:19,240 Speaker 1: be kidding me. You have got to be kidding me. 193 00:10:19,400 --> 00:10:21,480 Speaker 1: I called my mom. Yes, we're gonna be at the 194 00:10:21,480 --> 00:10:24,400 Speaker 1: restaurant at three o'clock. We're good, but yeah, I have 195 00:10:24,480 --> 00:10:28,360 Speaker 1: too pretty much car back and be like, um, sorry, 196 00:10:28,400 --> 00:10:31,400 Speaker 1: I got no plans for your Mother's because literally there 197 00:10:31,440 --> 00:10:34,720 Speaker 1: was like nothing, nothing available on Sunday that like I 198 00:10:34,760 --> 00:10:39,200 Speaker 1: wanted to do, right, And I was just like she 199 00:10:39,440 --> 00:10:41,920 Speaker 1: was kind of like, well, I'm going to call. She 200 00:10:42,040 --> 00:10:46,760 Speaker 1: called a few restaurants. I'm gone gone call. It's Mother's 201 00:10:46,800 --> 00:10:49,320 Speaker 1: Day's crucial out here. You can't be getting a restonation. 202 00:10:49,520 --> 00:10:51,400 Speaker 1: So then my father was like, Okay, well we just 203 00:10:51,440 --> 00:10:53,160 Speaker 1: have to do it another day, and I'm like, yes, 204 00:10:53,240 --> 00:10:54,719 Speaker 1: we'll do it. Another day, and he's like, but your 205 00:10:54,760 --> 00:10:58,200 Speaker 1: mother said that never happens. That's true. Anytime you say, oh, 206 00:10:58,400 --> 00:11:00,559 Speaker 1: we'll just do it another day, it never had never happened. 207 00:11:00,960 --> 00:11:03,360 Speaker 1: I'm with your mom on this. So but but I'm 208 00:11:03,360 --> 00:11:05,600 Speaker 1: gonna it's not gonna happen this week. I'm telling you now, 209 00:11:05,920 --> 00:11:09,720 Speaker 1: um to figure out another day maybe next week, because 210 00:11:09,760 --> 00:11:12,079 Speaker 1: now it's like hard. It's like this is the season 211 00:11:12,240 --> 00:11:16,600 Speaker 1: of graduations and like all this yeah probably just like 212 00:11:16,640 --> 00:11:19,360 Speaker 1: all this other stuff going weddings or whatever, and I'm like, 213 00:11:19,559 --> 00:11:20,920 Speaker 1: oh my god, when are we gonna have time to 214 00:11:20,960 --> 00:11:23,920 Speaker 1: do this? Right? Okay? So I'm itching right now because 215 00:11:24,040 --> 00:11:26,400 Speaker 1: I've got to make an announcement and it is a 216 00:11:26,440 --> 00:11:29,960 Speaker 1: public service announcement. And it is azel public service announcement. Okay, 217 00:11:30,360 --> 00:11:35,160 Speaker 1: can't Gesell Bryant is not dating Peter Thomas. Okay, And 218 00:11:35,200 --> 00:11:37,160 Speaker 1: I want to say it one more time, Gesell Bryant 219 00:11:37,440 --> 00:11:41,599 Speaker 1: is not dating somebody call a Peter and Thomas. Okay. 220 00:11:41,880 --> 00:11:46,079 Speaker 1: So you know, rumors are rumors, and you know, at 221 00:11:46,120 --> 00:11:48,800 Speaker 1: this point I believe nothing that's on the Internet because 222 00:11:48,880 --> 00:11:53,199 Speaker 1: I am now a victim of um a straight up 223 00:11:53,880 --> 00:11:56,600 Speaker 1: like give me, give me a me and Peter were 224 00:11:56,640 --> 00:11:59,240 Speaker 1: at a pool holding hands. Right there was like not 225 00:11:59,440 --> 00:12:02,080 Speaker 1: one pick. If there's a picture, a recent picture of 226 00:12:02,160 --> 00:12:04,200 Speaker 1: you and Peter, I'm in it. You're in it, and 227 00:12:04,200 --> 00:12:05,960 Speaker 1: it cut you out. Rom they cut you out to 228 00:12:06,000 --> 00:12:09,160 Speaker 1: make the story so and and and I can't stand 229 00:12:09,200 --> 00:12:11,720 Speaker 1: blog sites that are like Jazelle and Peter are dating, 230 00:12:12,000 --> 00:12:13,880 Speaker 1: and then it's like this whole story at the end, 231 00:12:13,920 --> 00:12:17,320 Speaker 1: it's like, Gazelle denies that she's dating Peter. Well, then 232 00:12:17,320 --> 00:12:19,840 Speaker 1: why did you write this whole story like it's bad? 233 00:12:19,880 --> 00:12:22,400 Speaker 1: Well they added that after you denied it, they wrote 234 00:12:22,400 --> 00:12:24,960 Speaker 1: the story and then they added, you know, it's like 235 00:12:25,000 --> 00:12:27,079 Speaker 1: they edited. Okay, So I'm about to talk about the 236 00:12:27,120 --> 00:12:30,600 Speaker 1: Jasmine brand right now because they if y'all don't know 237 00:12:30,600 --> 00:12:33,120 Speaker 1: the Jasmine brand, they're a blog site out there is 238 00:12:33,160 --> 00:12:35,720 Speaker 1: are they called blogs? It's a blog site. Okay. So 239 00:12:35,840 --> 00:12:38,839 Speaker 1: the Jasmine brand asked me if I wanted to give 240 00:12:38,880 --> 00:12:40,960 Speaker 1: a comment on me and Peter, and I said I 241 00:12:41,000 --> 00:12:44,200 Speaker 1: absolutely do. We are not dating. So they're like, okay, great, 242 00:12:44,280 --> 00:12:46,880 Speaker 1: we will say from an anonymous source that you're not Peter. 243 00:12:47,040 --> 00:12:52,080 Speaker 1: And I said no, said no, say my name, say 244 00:12:52,160 --> 00:12:56,160 Speaker 1: my name anonymous sore So I said no, please say 245 00:12:56,520 --> 00:13:01,200 Speaker 1: I said, I'm not dating Peter Thomas. What's hilarious? So 246 00:13:01,240 --> 00:13:03,200 Speaker 1: a funny story. What's the prop Like, what's the point 247 00:13:03,200 --> 00:13:04,760 Speaker 1: of that? I don't know, but I just was like, 248 00:13:04,840 --> 00:13:07,200 Speaker 1: Jasmine brand y'all be in real shady right now. But whatever, 249 00:13:07,559 --> 00:13:11,920 Speaker 1: So a funny story. Everybody knows Cal right, Cow's my guy, 250 00:13:12,080 --> 00:13:15,960 Speaker 1: and um he last weekend was leaving Atlanta and he's 251 00:13:16,000 --> 00:13:18,480 Speaker 1: walking into Clear. Do I tell you this? He's walking 252 00:13:18,480 --> 00:13:21,600 Speaker 1: into Clear and he runs into Peter Thomas. Of all people, 253 00:13:22,040 --> 00:13:27,280 Speaker 1: Cow and Peter Thomas. What a coincidence. So Cow's introduces himself. 254 00:13:27,280 --> 00:13:28,760 Speaker 1: He's like, Hi, you know, my name is Cal. I'm 255 00:13:28,760 --> 00:13:30,200 Speaker 1: really good friends, which is now he was like. Peter 256 00:13:30,280 --> 00:13:34,320 Speaker 1: was like, yeah, I know who you are. So um, 257 00:13:34,440 --> 00:13:38,760 Speaker 1: Cal says okay. So then Peter's like yeah, so they're 258 00:13:38,760 --> 00:13:41,400 Speaker 1: they're leaving because they've done their clear stuff and they're 259 00:13:41,480 --> 00:13:43,360 Speaker 1: leaving in Peter looks at Cal and he's like, yeah, 260 00:13:43,400 --> 00:13:47,240 Speaker 1: tell my girlfriend, Giselle. I said, Hi, Okay, too soon, Peter, 261 00:13:47,600 --> 00:13:52,719 Speaker 1: Too soon for Peter. Girlfriend. Giselle jokes, Okay the end, 262 00:13:52,800 --> 00:13:55,079 Speaker 1: I've cleared it up. Oh my gosh, Okay, thank you. 263 00:13:55,120 --> 00:13:58,439 Speaker 1: And you know what, it's always like Um, when when 264 00:13:58,480 --> 00:14:00,240 Speaker 1: TMZ reports it, that's like kind of and you know 265 00:14:00,280 --> 00:14:03,280 Speaker 1: it's true. But and I and I know that like 266 00:14:03,520 --> 00:14:07,200 Speaker 1: TMZ attempted to reach out. Yes, they reached out to Peter. 267 00:14:07,600 --> 00:14:09,160 Speaker 1: I'm sure he told them. No, it's not true. So 268 00:14:09,200 --> 00:14:12,480 Speaker 1: I feel like, like, when you're reading gossip and stuff, 269 00:14:12,760 --> 00:14:14,880 Speaker 1: just check and see if TMZ has reported it yet. 270 00:14:14,920 --> 00:14:17,280 Speaker 1: I know because TMZ typically I mean not typically, but 271 00:14:17,679 --> 00:14:20,080 Speaker 1: don't they don't report things that aren't true. They reached 272 00:14:20,080 --> 00:14:22,360 Speaker 1: out to Peter, they reached out to Bravo. They don't 273 00:14:22,360 --> 00:14:25,320 Speaker 1: have my number, thank god. So you know, anyway, we 274 00:14:25,320 --> 00:14:33,960 Speaker 1: we didn't shut down the room as I think. Okay, 275 00:14:34,040 --> 00:14:38,600 Speaker 1: so something else happened that that zoomed by the world. 276 00:14:38,960 --> 00:14:41,640 Speaker 1: I feel like because I think no one cared the 277 00:14:41,720 --> 00:14:46,120 Speaker 1: met gala, I know, well, was that because we were busy? 278 00:14:47,080 --> 00:14:49,840 Speaker 1: I think we were born was underwhelming? I think it 279 00:14:49,880 --> 00:14:56,960 Speaker 1: was underwhelming. Who was there? Um not Marilyn Monroe. Then listen, 280 00:14:57,000 --> 00:14:58,920 Speaker 1: let me tell y'allself that Kim Kardashia. What did you 281 00:14:58,960 --> 00:15:01,840 Speaker 1: two know she had on her? Let me tell you something. Okay, 282 00:15:01,840 --> 00:15:04,640 Speaker 1: First of all, do you know the story like with 283 00:15:04,680 --> 00:15:08,080 Speaker 1: her hair? No? Okay, So when you think of Marilyn 284 00:15:08,080 --> 00:15:11,000 Speaker 1: Morowe in that dress, right you you think of also 285 00:15:11,120 --> 00:15:16,120 Speaker 1: like the blonde, which I love, by the way, like classic. 286 00:15:16,560 --> 00:15:19,840 Speaker 1: So because Kim was wearing that dress, she was attempting 287 00:15:20,320 --> 00:15:23,280 Speaker 1: to do that blonde bouffont. But if you look at 288 00:15:23,280 --> 00:15:26,280 Speaker 1: her hair, she's wearing a slick, slick back blonde hair 289 00:15:26,840 --> 00:15:29,960 Speaker 1: with all this like discoloration in it because her hair 290 00:15:30,040 --> 00:15:32,560 Speaker 1: started falling out when they started bleaching. A minute, how 291 00:15:32,560 --> 00:15:35,800 Speaker 1: do you know this, Robin, my hair inside her sources? 292 00:15:35,880 --> 00:15:38,360 Speaker 1: But look at her hair? Think about it? No, no no, 293 00:15:38,560 --> 00:15:40,960 Speaker 1: think about it. Look did you say, my hair inside 294 00:15:40,960 --> 00:15:44,040 Speaker 1: her sources? Okay, for the for the record, I never 295 00:15:44,080 --> 00:15:46,400 Speaker 1: heard of that before. But that was good. That was good, Robert. 296 00:15:47,360 --> 00:15:49,560 Speaker 1: But think about it. Look at like there's no way 297 00:15:49,600 --> 00:15:53,560 Speaker 1: that that look that she was supposed to wear a 298 00:15:53,720 --> 00:15:55,920 Speaker 1: straight bag. No, you know, it was supposed to be 299 00:15:55,960 --> 00:15:57,760 Speaker 1: that blonde bouffon. I don't know why she didn't just 300 00:15:57,760 --> 00:16:00,160 Speaker 1: put a wig on, but she literally colored her hair here. 301 00:16:00,560 --> 00:16:02,880 Speaker 1: Why would she do that? I don't know. I don't 302 00:16:02,920 --> 00:16:05,480 Speaker 1: because she doesn't like wigs or something. She just wears 303 00:16:05,520 --> 00:16:08,400 Speaker 1: like extensions and stuff. I don't know why for that 304 00:16:08,520 --> 00:16:11,280 Speaker 1: she would not just just put on a blonde wig 305 00:16:11,480 --> 00:16:17,400 Speaker 1: because her hair color it's jacked up forever. Yes, I 306 00:16:17,400 --> 00:16:19,440 Speaker 1: mean I think they fixed it, but I think it 307 00:16:19,600 --> 00:16:22,920 Speaker 1: was just like, uh, they were trying to do too much. 308 00:16:23,000 --> 00:16:25,680 Speaker 1: They're trying to take her hair from black to blonde 309 00:16:25,680 --> 00:16:28,080 Speaker 1: and too short of a time and squeeze it in. 310 00:16:28,160 --> 00:16:30,560 Speaker 1: And then she's on the maccalan and I'm sorry, you 311 00:16:30,560 --> 00:16:32,480 Speaker 1: were just wearing a beaded dress at this point. You 312 00:16:32,520 --> 00:16:35,080 Speaker 1: were not Marilyn Monroe, right, you were not. You missed them, 313 00:16:35,160 --> 00:16:38,680 Speaker 1: You missed the ball, you missed the mark. And did 314 00:16:38,680 --> 00:16:41,120 Speaker 1: you see how they had to open the back of 315 00:16:41,160 --> 00:16:44,280 Speaker 1: the dress for her butt to squeeze it? Yes, and 316 00:16:44,320 --> 00:16:46,200 Speaker 1: well she said, okay, so when they when she first 317 00:16:46,200 --> 00:16:47,920 Speaker 1: shot on the dress, she couldn't fit it at all. 318 00:16:48,240 --> 00:16:49,760 Speaker 1: And then she was like it, just give me time. 319 00:16:49,800 --> 00:16:52,720 Speaker 1: I'm gonna lose weight. I'm gonna just have lemonade in 320 00:16:53,040 --> 00:16:56,080 Speaker 1: cayenne pepper. And so she lost the weight, but yeah, 321 00:16:56,080 --> 00:16:58,320 Speaker 1: she still couldn't get her butt in it. And so 322 00:16:58,440 --> 00:17:00,920 Speaker 1: I'm just shocked at these people who have been preserving 323 00:17:00,960 --> 00:17:03,880 Speaker 1: this dress allowed her to open the dress up. At 324 00:17:03,920 --> 00:17:06,240 Speaker 1: this point, I'm thinking she has to buy it. I 325 00:17:06,280 --> 00:17:08,600 Speaker 1: don't know, does she does she give it back? I 326 00:17:08,600 --> 00:17:11,240 Speaker 1: don't know. And then and then apparently she she changed 327 00:17:11,280 --> 00:17:14,080 Speaker 1: into a replica after she got up the steps, after 328 00:17:14,119 --> 00:17:16,160 Speaker 1: she took all the pictures, then she changed into a replica. 329 00:17:17,200 --> 00:17:19,159 Speaker 1: I don't know. That was like the biggest fail It 330 00:17:19,280 --> 00:17:21,480 Speaker 1: was such a failure, butt. And let me tell you 331 00:17:21,480 --> 00:17:24,280 Speaker 1: what was even a bigger failure her date. Okay, I 332 00:17:24,280 --> 00:17:28,360 Speaker 1: know that's your boo, But like Pete what's his name, 333 00:17:28,400 --> 00:17:32,040 Speaker 1: Pete Davidson in a tux looks terrible. And that's like 334 00:17:32,200 --> 00:17:34,680 Speaker 1: any man in the tux looks good, right, any man 335 00:17:34,840 --> 00:17:37,000 Speaker 1: in the tux looks good. I'm like, wait, does he 336 00:17:37,040 --> 00:17:39,960 Speaker 1: look good at anything? Though? But he damn sure don't 337 00:17:39,960 --> 00:17:41,600 Speaker 1: look good in the tux. I'm thinking, you're dressed up, 338 00:17:41,600 --> 00:17:43,959 Speaker 1: you're you're to the nines, and you still look goofy. 339 00:17:44,760 --> 00:17:48,000 Speaker 1: I mean, hey, something else going on is making her 340 00:17:48,080 --> 00:17:51,320 Speaker 1: very happy that you have already concluded that. As soon 341 00:17:51,359 --> 00:17:52,960 Speaker 1: as I saw him and how horrible he looked in 342 00:17:53,000 --> 00:17:55,680 Speaker 1: that tux, I was like, that penis is at his knee. 343 00:17:56,560 --> 00:17:59,879 Speaker 1: It is so at his knees. It's not even like 344 00:18:00,080 --> 00:18:05,320 Speaker 1: halfway his thought. His penis is at his knees. Good God, 345 00:18:05,400 --> 00:18:08,160 Speaker 1: because you look crazy. For the record, I don't want 346 00:18:08,160 --> 00:18:16,360 Speaker 1: a penis that's at someone's knees. I want the let's 347 00:18:16,359 --> 00:18:19,080 Speaker 1: talk about another penis. Can we talk about another? Oh? Yes, 348 00:18:19,480 --> 00:18:21,679 Speaker 1: because because wait a minute, wait a minute, because like 349 00:18:21,720 --> 00:18:27,040 Speaker 1: he's holding a green out mand penis talking about that. Okay, 350 00:18:27,280 --> 00:18:31,600 Speaker 1: So Jesse Williams, how dare you whip your penis out 351 00:18:32,080 --> 00:18:35,800 Speaker 1: and just stop the world? He stopped the world. I 352 00:18:35,880 --> 00:18:38,000 Speaker 1: literally was like, Okay, I was on Instagram and I 353 00:18:38,040 --> 00:18:40,639 Speaker 1: saw all these people talking about what was happening on Twitter, 354 00:18:40,680 --> 00:18:42,600 Speaker 1: and I was like, I don't go on Twitter. I 355 00:18:42,640 --> 00:18:44,919 Speaker 1: was like, I can't go on Twitter. I don't Twitter 356 00:18:45,000 --> 00:18:48,520 Speaker 1: the devil. So I texted my girlfriends and I was like, 357 00:18:48,680 --> 00:18:51,119 Speaker 1: anybody want to do me a favor it send me 358 00:18:51,200 --> 00:18:53,760 Speaker 1: to Jesse Williams. No, I had three girlfriends sent it 359 00:18:53,800 --> 00:18:55,840 Speaker 1: to me. Blurred out. I said, what the hell was? 360 00:18:56,240 --> 00:19:00,919 Speaker 1: Get this off my phone? Blurred out. I got to 361 00:19:00,960 --> 00:19:06,600 Speaker 1: my own Twitter Twitter search. It took me. It took me. Yeah. 362 00:19:06,840 --> 00:19:09,639 Speaker 1: I was so excited. I was like, this is a 363 00:19:09,640 --> 00:19:13,320 Speaker 1: great night banded and he is he's representing Okay, yeah, 364 00:19:13,320 --> 00:19:16,440 Speaker 1: he's representing. Look. And then another couple of girlfriends was 365 00:19:16,480 --> 00:19:19,240 Speaker 1: like he's single. Now, Giselle, she just shot. I'm like 366 00:19:19,680 --> 00:19:21,760 Speaker 1: everybody in their grandmother's shooting their show right. But now 367 00:19:21,840 --> 00:19:23,600 Speaker 1: but it's like, okay, now we know why the wife 368 00:19:23,640 --> 00:19:25,840 Speaker 1: is a little cool, cool and just going and just divorce. 369 00:19:25,920 --> 00:19:28,840 Speaker 1: She is. She is stringing this thing out. Yes, she 370 00:19:28,920 --> 00:19:30,840 Speaker 1: don't want this divorce, but let me tell you, we're 371 00:19:30,840 --> 00:19:33,600 Speaker 1: gonna get her another big penis I think. So if 372 00:19:33,600 --> 00:19:35,080 Speaker 1: you don't know what we're talking about, just google Jesse 373 00:19:35,160 --> 00:19:37,880 Speaker 1: william Jesse will we'll tell you really quickly. So Jesse 374 00:19:37,960 --> 00:19:40,960 Speaker 1: Williams is right now doing a Broadway play. They were 375 00:19:41,080 --> 00:19:45,280 Speaker 1: in practice, like rehearsals, not practice rehearsals, and I thought 376 00:19:45,320 --> 00:19:47,360 Speaker 1: there was an actual show. No, it was in rehearsals 377 00:19:47,560 --> 00:19:52,119 Speaker 1: and somebody um captured his naked body because the show 378 00:19:52,240 --> 00:19:54,479 Speaker 1: in the in this Broadway show, they are nude. That's 379 00:19:54,480 --> 00:19:56,960 Speaker 1: the whole not the whole show, right, but everybody's nude 380 00:19:57,000 --> 00:20:00,919 Speaker 1: and something like the guys are nude. Yes, so um, 381 00:20:01,080 --> 00:20:03,800 Speaker 1: there was a lot to look at that there. Yeah, 382 00:20:03,800 --> 00:20:06,199 Speaker 1: oh yeah, we're buying a ticket. Ticket sales went up, 383 00:20:06,240 --> 00:20:08,240 Speaker 1: so I think they kind of did this on purpose. Yeah, 384 00:20:08,240 --> 00:20:10,040 Speaker 1: this is all about this is marketing. One on one 385 00:20:10,640 --> 00:20:13,399 Speaker 1: show what you're gonna see when you get there, and 386 00:20:13,440 --> 00:20:14,879 Speaker 1: I would need like a front row seat, Like I 387 00:20:14,920 --> 00:20:19,359 Speaker 1: don't want anyone's head in front of me blocking the penis. Okay, 388 00:20:19,400 --> 00:20:20,959 Speaker 1: we gotta move on. We can't because we can talk 389 00:20:21,000 --> 00:20:24,719 Speaker 1: about we have we have gentlemen listeners. They don't want 390 00:20:24,720 --> 00:20:27,440 Speaker 1: to hear that, do do they not? I mean whatever, Okay, 391 00:20:27,480 --> 00:20:29,800 Speaker 1: I do want to get into because this is like timely, 392 00:20:30,440 --> 00:20:37,119 Speaker 1: this whole overturning of Roe v. Wade, because it's this 393 00:20:37,240 --> 00:20:39,560 Speaker 1: is like what the we can we take two steps 394 00:20:39,560 --> 00:20:43,040 Speaker 1: forward and like twelve steps back, so you know, the 395 00:20:43,680 --> 00:20:45,520 Speaker 1: Supreme Court, I don't think at this point, but by 396 00:20:45,560 --> 00:20:47,480 Speaker 1: time y'all listen to this, we'll have made the vote 397 00:20:47,480 --> 00:20:50,359 Speaker 1: and it will be a state by state um mandate 398 00:20:50,359 --> 00:20:52,320 Speaker 1: as to whether or not abortions are legal in your 399 00:20:52,320 --> 00:20:58,000 Speaker 1: particular state. So I'm just zel, I have a uterus 400 00:20:58,920 --> 00:21:00,880 Speaker 1: if I want to have a baby, and it's my business. 401 00:21:01,760 --> 00:21:03,840 Speaker 1: It's not your right to decide what to do with 402 00:21:03,880 --> 00:21:07,439 Speaker 1: that maybe in my uterus, And so I just feel like, 403 00:21:07,640 --> 00:21:12,640 Speaker 1: tip for tap, let's take some balls. Yeah, why would 404 00:21:12,640 --> 00:21:15,840 Speaker 1: we take the balls? Don't write there's gotta be a 405 00:21:15,880 --> 00:21:18,280 Speaker 1: reason why we take the right. Yeah, what are we 406 00:21:18,320 --> 00:21:21,280 Speaker 1: doing with Yeah, they have to have balls. Yes, let's 407 00:21:21,320 --> 00:21:26,840 Speaker 1: take what I'm saying. I'm just saying. They didn't say 408 00:21:26,880 --> 00:21:29,679 Speaker 1: they what your uterus. They just want to control your uterus. 409 00:21:29,680 --> 00:21:31,320 Speaker 1: So we need to control the ball. We need to 410 00:21:31,320 --> 00:21:33,320 Speaker 1: control the sperm in the ball. Yes, yes, So how 411 00:21:33,359 --> 00:21:35,119 Speaker 1: do we do that? How do we do that? I 412 00:21:35,160 --> 00:21:38,399 Speaker 1: don't know. I don't If they get somebody pregnant that 413 00:21:38,520 --> 00:21:42,480 Speaker 1: the then I can go, I can go extract, extraculate, extrapulate, 414 00:21:43,040 --> 00:21:46,399 Speaker 1: take out, take out some sperm from the balls, and 415 00:21:46,400 --> 00:21:48,480 Speaker 1: then do what with it? Throw it in the trash. 416 00:21:48,520 --> 00:21:50,680 Speaker 1: I don't know. I don't know, I don't know. You know, Yeah, 417 00:21:50,720 --> 00:21:53,879 Speaker 1: but it's I mean, it's ridiculous. It is ridiculous that 418 00:21:55,000 --> 00:21:57,879 Speaker 1: this is a topic. It really is, Like there are 419 00:21:57,920 --> 00:22:00,480 Speaker 1: so many other things that we can focus on and 420 00:22:00,840 --> 00:22:02,800 Speaker 1: pretty much taken away. People's rights to do what they 421 00:22:02,840 --> 00:22:05,440 Speaker 1: want with their body is not one that we should 422 00:22:05,440 --> 00:22:07,760 Speaker 1: focus on. You know, we're joking, but in all seriousness, 423 00:22:07,840 --> 00:22:10,680 Speaker 1: it's like really because I feel like, if you have means, 424 00:22:11,520 --> 00:22:13,320 Speaker 1: you're going to find a way to get your abortion. 425 00:22:13,680 --> 00:22:16,520 Speaker 1: But if you don't have means, so this like definitely 426 00:22:17,160 --> 00:22:20,440 Speaker 1: singles out the poor because they're going to be either 427 00:22:20,480 --> 00:22:23,119 Speaker 1: stuck with the baby they don't want, or they're just 428 00:22:23,160 --> 00:22:24,880 Speaker 1: you're just gonna get your rights taken away. And that's 429 00:22:24,920 --> 00:22:27,240 Speaker 1: just not fair. Yeah, it's not fair because who are 430 00:22:27,240 --> 00:22:30,680 Speaker 1: we to judge, like what people's scenarios are, like what's 431 00:22:30,680 --> 00:22:32,440 Speaker 1: going on in their life and whether or not they 432 00:22:32,440 --> 00:22:35,800 Speaker 1: can have a baby or raise a child or you know, 433 00:22:36,280 --> 00:22:38,920 Speaker 1: I don't know. It's just it's ridiculous. This is insane. 434 00:22:38,960 --> 00:22:41,760 Speaker 1: Are we are living in a crazy ass world? Even 435 00:22:41,800 --> 00:22:45,240 Speaker 1: if you're raped and incests, you know, any any scenario 436 00:22:45,280 --> 00:22:48,200 Speaker 1: across the board. It is going to be a state 437 00:22:48,240 --> 00:22:50,760 Speaker 1: by state thing and most states are like we're not 438 00:22:50,800 --> 00:22:55,560 Speaker 1: including those We're not including rape. No, so no, and 439 00:22:55,680 --> 00:22:58,439 Speaker 1: I mean, okay, so this is something that we have 440 00:22:58,520 --> 00:23:02,960 Speaker 1: to vote on or that were no lawmakers are deciding on. 441 00:23:03,320 --> 00:23:06,119 Speaker 1: It's been decided No, no, no, so you said, but 442 00:23:06,200 --> 00:23:08,320 Speaker 1: it's a state by state things. So then so it's 443 00:23:08,359 --> 00:23:11,520 Speaker 1: been decided that the states have the power. Yes, the 444 00:23:11,600 --> 00:23:15,399 Speaker 1: states have the power. So do we need to vote, 445 00:23:15,400 --> 00:23:17,480 Speaker 1: like we have an election coming up? Okay, yes, we 446 00:23:17,520 --> 00:23:19,480 Speaker 1: need to make sure. So midterm elections are coming up, 447 00:23:19,960 --> 00:23:22,520 Speaker 1: and we need to make sure that our rights are. 448 00:23:22,720 --> 00:23:26,960 Speaker 1: These politicians have our rights in the front of their minds, 449 00:23:27,000 --> 00:23:30,560 Speaker 1: like women's rights are first. But we're voting not for 450 00:23:30,640 --> 00:23:34,199 Speaker 1: the actual like um, for the right to have an abortion. 451 00:23:34,240 --> 00:23:36,880 Speaker 1: We're voting for to put the lawmakers in place who 452 00:23:36,920 --> 00:23:40,119 Speaker 1: are going to create the laws. Yes, got it, Yes, yes, yes, 453 00:23:40,160 --> 00:23:42,080 Speaker 1: So we gotta do that, all right. So Robert and 454 00:23:42,080 --> 00:23:44,800 Speaker 1: I took a trip recently and we were out here 455 00:23:44,840 --> 00:23:47,600 Speaker 1: in these rates. Okay, we got on the airplane. By 456 00:23:47,640 --> 00:23:50,239 Speaker 1: the way, I don't know about y'all, but I got 457 00:23:50,280 --> 00:23:52,159 Speaker 1: on a plane and I'm gonna continue to put my 458 00:23:52,200 --> 00:23:55,520 Speaker 1: mask on. Everybody else's mask free. Y'all can get code 459 00:23:55,560 --> 00:23:57,440 Speaker 1: if you want to, but I'm gonna put my mask. 460 00:23:57,680 --> 00:23:59,720 Speaker 1: YEAHL had her mask on. I was like, I'm so 461 00:23:59,800 --> 00:24:01,880 Speaker 1: dumb with these masks. I couldn't do it. I put 462 00:24:01,920 --> 00:24:03,640 Speaker 1: it on, and I was like, I can't do it, 463 00:24:03,720 --> 00:24:05,560 Speaker 1: and I just I just kept it off, and I'm 464 00:24:05,920 --> 00:24:08,520 Speaker 1: COVID free. Yeah, okay, I think I am too, but 465 00:24:08,600 --> 00:24:10,240 Speaker 1: my kids keep sneezing on me. But that's a whole 466 00:24:10,240 --> 00:24:14,359 Speaker 1: another story. Okay, So I have come up with um 467 00:24:15,320 --> 00:24:20,440 Speaker 1: random thoughts, random after trip after during our trip, after 468 00:24:21,040 --> 00:24:25,520 Speaker 1: the whole thing. Okay. So random thought number one because 469 00:24:25,560 --> 00:24:27,520 Speaker 1: I thought about my birthday because remember we all went 470 00:24:27,520 --> 00:24:29,280 Speaker 1: to Miami for my birthday and it was a big 471 00:24:29,280 --> 00:24:33,040 Speaker 1: girl's trip. Okay. So let's say you're the host of 472 00:24:33,080 --> 00:24:35,679 Speaker 1: the trip or it's your birthday, that would make you 473 00:24:36,040 --> 00:24:42,920 Speaker 1: the host. Okay, and somebody in the group makes the 474 00:24:43,000 --> 00:24:48,440 Speaker 1: host or the birthday girl very angry. Okay, the host 475 00:24:48,560 --> 00:24:51,880 Speaker 1: can decide to put that bitch on a curb, right. 476 00:24:53,920 --> 00:24:55,679 Speaker 1: I feel like the host has the ability to do 477 00:24:55,720 --> 00:24:57,880 Speaker 1: what they want to do. If it's the birthday girl, 478 00:24:58,119 --> 00:25:01,000 Speaker 1: if it's the host, do what you want. Okay. I 479 00:25:01,040 --> 00:25:04,439 Speaker 1: think within reason in limits, I mean, like would it 480 00:25:04,480 --> 00:25:07,520 Speaker 1: would like? Okay. So if you're on a trip, someone 481 00:25:07,720 --> 00:25:12,400 Speaker 1: is hosting the meaning that they have paid for everything. Yes, right, 482 00:25:13,200 --> 00:25:16,200 Speaker 1: are they're paying for some things? They paid for some things, 483 00:25:16,200 --> 00:25:20,160 Speaker 1: they pay for all your accommodations. Um, they organize the trip. Yes, 484 00:25:20,840 --> 00:25:23,439 Speaker 1: Like we're looking to them to give us guidance on 485 00:25:23,520 --> 00:25:25,439 Speaker 1: what we're doing our activities and stuff. Yes, we have 486 00:25:25,480 --> 00:25:27,840 Speaker 1: a we have a full itinerary. Okay. So you're saying 487 00:25:27,840 --> 00:25:31,480 Speaker 1: if the host doesn't like the way someone talks or 488 00:25:31,560 --> 00:25:34,480 Speaker 1: looks back or something they do, they can be like 489 00:25:35,240 --> 00:25:38,480 Speaker 1: beat you out of here. Really Well, No, I don't 490 00:25:38,520 --> 00:25:42,360 Speaker 1: feel that way. It's you're right, it's within limits. It's 491 00:25:42,359 --> 00:25:46,200 Speaker 1: within limits. Okay. See, I think when you're when you're 492 00:25:46,200 --> 00:25:49,840 Speaker 1: talking about see, most people when they travel, like everybody 493 00:25:49,880 --> 00:25:53,760 Speaker 1: pitches in, you know. So it's kind of like when 494 00:25:53,920 --> 00:25:57,560 Speaker 1: you're like Oprah and you pay for everything. I'm not 495 00:25:57,600 --> 00:25:59,480 Speaker 1: on Opra status. I don't know when that's gonna happen. 496 00:26:00,320 --> 00:26:02,919 Speaker 1: So most people when you travel, everyone pitches in. And 497 00:26:02,960 --> 00:26:05,360 Speaker 1: I feel like if there's some sort of like conflict, 498 00:26:06,000 --> 00:26:10,080 Speaker 1: that maybe if that's a scenario where like the group 499 00:26:10,160 --> 00:26:13,880 Speaker 1: talks about, you know, the best way to resolve the conflict, 500 00:26:14,320 --> 00:26:17,120 Speaker 1: because you don't want that conflict to ruin your trip. 501 00:26:17,560 --> 00:26:19,840 Speaker 1: You don't want whatever is happening between two people or 502 00:26:19,840 --> 00:26:22,760 Speaker 1: three people or four people to just keep happening and 503 00:26:22,760 --> 00:26:24,919 Speaker 1: and carry over. And if you ruin the trip, you 504 00:26:24,960 --> 00:26:27,720 Speaker 1: want to have a good trip. Kay. But in a 505 00:26:27,760 --> 00:26:30,960 Speaker 1: situation where you know there is one host who is 506 00:26:31,000 --> 00:26:35,800 Speaker 1: responsible for the whole trip, I mean it's a little 507 00:26:35,800 --> 00:26:38,879 Speaker 1: it's a little sticky. It is sticky. It's very sticky, 508 00:26:38,880 --> 00:26:41,560 Speaker 1: and I think it depends on the scenario. Okay, I 509 00:26:41,560 --> 00:26:44,720 Speaker 1: have a question for you. So hotels are are houses? 510 00:26:45,600 --> 00:26:49,040 Speaker 1: Hotel room or houses? I prefer hotels for sure, right 511 00:26:49,080 --> 00:26:52,399 Speaker 1: because you want your individual space? Yes, yes, yeah, I 512 00:26:52,480 --> 00:26:56,919 Speaker 1: prefer hotels. I just feel like I don't like sharing bathrooms. 513 00:26:57,720 --> 00:27:01,400 Speaker 1: I don't like I mean, okay, a house if there 514 00:27:01,440 --> 00:27:06,480 Speaker 1: are enough bathroom, bathrooms and bedroom. But then this gets tricky. Okay, 515 00:27:06,600 --> 00:27:08,639 Speaker 1: let's say you're on South Beach and you meet someone 516 00:27:08,840 --> 00:27:11,200 Speaker 1: and you want to bring him back to your room. 517 00:27:11,440 --> 00:27:12,960 Speaker 1: You're not gonna do that if you're in a house. 518 00:27:13,000 --> 00:27:15,760 Speaker 1: If you're in a house, you know, so I think 519 00:27:15,840 --> 00:27:18,480 Speaker 1: just we just need to get some hotel rooms today. Okay, 520 00:27:18,520 --> 00:27:23,159 Speaker 1: so girls trips in houses? Band no more? Yeah, I 521 00:27:23,160 --> 00:27:26,640 Speaker 1: would choose not to. I mean unless the accommodations were 522 00:27:26,680 --> 00:27:30,120 Speaker 1: just like superspacious, you know what I mean, Like you're 523 00:27:30,119 --> 00:27:32,399 Speaker 1: not on top of each other, you're not having to 524 00:27:32,480 --> 00:27:35,480 Speaker 1: like share space like yeah, but no, no, my first 525 00:27:35,560 --> 00:27:37,800 Speaker 1: choice is a house or like a villa or something 526 00:27:37,840 --> 00:27:43,000 Speaker 1: where you have like your own private quarters, private entryway. Yeah. Yeah, okay, 527 00:27:43,080 --> 00:27:46,520 Speaker 1: I like that now because then if you're on a 528 00:27:46,520 --> 00:27:50,080 Speaker 1: trip and something goes wrong, like you don't really have 529 00:27:50,160 --> 00:27:53,480 Speaker 1: to worry about like if you're in a hotel and 530 00:27:53,480 --> 00:27:55,600 Speaker 1: you're on a trip and the host the hostess has 531 00:27:55,600 --> 00:27:57,920 Speaker 1: an issue with one of the guests, like you don't 532 00:27:57,920 --> 00:27:59,440 Speaker 1: really have to worry about what's going to happen to 533 00:27:59,520 --> 00:28:02,840 Speaker 1: that guest, just go back today, yeah exactly. Yeah, and 534 00:28:02,880 --> 00:28:05,040 Speaker 1: we ain't invite right, and then you just don't get 535 00:28:05,040 --> 00:28:07,680 Speaker 1: the memo of where dinner is, yes, because you need 536 00:28:07,680 --> 00:28:11,119 Speaker 1: a time out. Yeah, you know. I I totally agree 537 00:28:11,119 --> 00:28:14,959 Speaker 1: with doing group trips and giving people time out in space. 538 00:28:15,240 --> 00:28:16,879 Speaker 1: I do too. I hate it when people are like, 539 00:28:16,880 --> 00:28:20,520 Speaker 1: we have to do everything together and oh my gosh, 540 00:28:20,600 --> 00:28:23,120 Speaker 1: you wouldn't did that and that was not on the schedule. 541 00:28:23,280 --> 00:28:25,760 Speaker 1: Like I hate that, unless it's something that's like variant, 542 00:28:25,800 --> 00:28:27,800 Speaker 1: it's liken less are like, Okay, this is the one 543 00:28:27,960 --> 00:28:31,080 Speaker 1: thing that I want everybody to do, right, But then 544 00:28:31,119 --> 00:28:34,240 Speaker 1: after that it's like do you and I'm gonna do me. 545 00:28:34,840 --> 00:28:38,239 Speaker 1: But it's it's like the scenario again. It's like, if 546 00:28:38,280 --> 00:28:40,600 Speaker 1: I'm spending my money right to go on the trip, 547 00:28:40,640 --> 00:28:42,400 Speaker 1: then yeah, I'm kind of do what I want, But 548 00:28:42,560 --> 00:28:45,280 Speaker 1: if the hostess is spending her money, then I think 549 00:28:45,280 --> 00:28:47,400 Speaker 1: we're kind of obligated to do whatever the hostess tells 550 00:28:47,480 --> 00:28:56,240 Speaker 1: us to do. Okay, so like, how do you feel 551 00:28:56,240 --> 00:29:00,440 Speaker 1: about um? I'm very direct, like when something goes down 552 00:29:00,440 --> 00:29:04,080 Speaker 1: and it's my fault, I apologize, right, And I know 553 00:29:04,120 --> 00:29:08,640 Speaker 1: that there's different ways to apologize, but I normally just say, hey, 554 00:29:08,800 --> 00:29:11,280 Speaker 1: I did boom boom boom boom. That was wrong for that, 555 00:29:12,000 --> 00:29:14,280 Speaker 1: and I hurt your feelings because I did that. I'm 556 00:29:14,320 --> 00:29:16,880 Speaker 1: really sorry, But don't even say if I hurt your feelings, 557 00:29:16,880 --> 00:29:19,480 Speaker 1: just say I'm sorry, right, I'm sorry because I shouldn't 558 00:29:19,480 --> 00:29:21,960 Speaker 1: have done that, right, I just was you say, I 559 00:29:22,040 --> 00:29:24,120 Speaker 1: understand how that hurt your feelings, right, I just was 560 00:29:24,160 --> 00:29:26,720 Speaker 1: like really hungry that day or something like there's a reason, 561 00:29:26,800 --> 00:29:28,160 Speaker 1: like I don't know why I did it, but I 562 00:29:28,200 --> 00:29:31,400 Speaker 1: just did it. I don't understand how people don't know 563 00:29:31,440 --> 00:29:33,160 Speaker 1: how to apologize. I know, I know. And it's so 564 00:29:33,160 --> 00:29:36,160 Speaker 1: funny because I feel like we come across this a 565 00:29:36,200 --> 00:29:38,920 Speaker 1: lot in our daily lives, and they were talking about 566 00:29:38,960 --> 00:29:41,520 Speaker 1: it on the reel recently and it was like every 567 00:29:41,520 --> 00:29:43,760 Speaker 1: all the stuff that I'm like, yeah, no, when you 568 00:29:43,920 --> 00:29:48,320 Speaker 1: say if you feel that I hurt you know that 569 00:29:48,480 --> 00:29:53,000 Speaker 1: I'm sorry. That's why that's not an apology. So um okay, wait, 570 00:29:53,440 --> 00:29:55,040 Speaker 1: So I mean I have you know, you know, I 571 00:29:55,080 --> 00:29:57,080 Speaker 1: like my little Instagram post. So I did come across 572 00:29:57,080 --> 00:29:59,239 Speaker 1: the post where it was like all these different like 573 00:29:59,280 --> 00:30:02,080 Speaker 1: instead of saying this, say that. Um, but I think 574 00:30:02,120 --> 00:30:05,480 Speaker 1: apologizing is an art because it's not even an art. 575 00:30:05,560 --> 00:30:08,080 Speaker 1: It's like it shouldn't be an art. Actually now it 576 00:30:08,080 --> 00:30:10,360 Speaker 1: should just be communication. And so the question is like 577 00:30:10,400 --> 00:30:14,120 Speaker 1: why don't people apologize, Like, is do they think that 578 00:30:14,360 --> 00:30:19,280 Speaker 1: by apologizing and owning what they did, that that makes 579 00:30:19,280 --> 00:30:22,240 Speaker 1: them weak or that means they lost the fight, or 580 00:30:22,280 --> 00:30:25,040 Speaker 1: that means you know what, I mean, that they're not perfect, 581 00:30:25,320 --> 00:30:27,680 Speaker 1: but they were wrong. I mean, there's nothing wrong with 582 00:30:27,760 --> 00:30:30,719 Speaker 1: being wrong or acknowledging that you were wrong, so all 583 00:30:30,720 --> 00:30:32,480 Speaker 1: the above. So why is it that people have a 584 00:30:32,520 --> 00:30:36,840 Speaker 1: hard time apologize because they're whack? Okay, they don't want 585 00:30:36,840 --> 00:30:39,200 Speaker 1: to apologize because they feel like that's gonna make them 586 00:30:39,280 --> 00:30:42,440 Speaker 1: look weak, that's gonna make them look like they're wrong 587 00:30:42,440 --> 00:30:44,360 Speaker 1: and they're not perfect. And everybody wants to walk around 588 00:30:44,520 --> 00:30:47,720 Speaker 1: acting like they're perfect. That's not perfect. Okay, I do 589 00:30:47,760 --> 00:30:54,640 Speaker 1: stuff wrong daily. I mean, yeah, we know, and you 590 00:30:54,800 --> 00:30:59,760 Speaker 1: literally like for the most part, but for the record, 591 00:31:00,240 --> 00:31:03,880 Speaker 1: is being shaped. Okay, that was shaw, but you know, like, 592 00:31:03,920 --> 00:31:06,440 Speaker 1: for the most part, when someone does say like just out, 593 00:31:06,440 --> 00:31:08,400 Speaker 1: I don't appreciate that you did this, or why did 594 00:31:08,440 --> 00:31:10,040 Speaker 1: you do this? Or I can't believe you do this, 595 00:31:10,160 --> 00:31:13,080 Speaker 1: you actually like in that moment, or like you know what, 596 00:31:13,320 --> 00:31:16,120 Speaker 1: I'm sorry right, you don't like pushback, you don't fight, 597 00:31:16,280 --> 00:31:19,160 Speaker 1: you don't like I don't care for three weeks. I'm 598 00:31:19,200 --> 00:31:22,680 Speaker 1: just like, yo, I'm sorry. I know we're not all 599 00:31:22,680 --> 00:31:25,240 Speaker 1: the same. Okay, So tell me this. If you are 600 00:31:25,320 --> 00:31:29,280 Speaker 1: so quick to apologize, then do you really mean it? Yes? 601 00:31:29,920 --> 00:31:32,360 Speaker 1: And does that mean Okay, I apologize and I'm going 602 00:31:32,400 --> 00:31:35,120 Speaker 1: to do something up again, and I'm just gonna apologize. 603 00:31:35,120 --> 00:31:37,520 Speaker 1: I'm just gonna keep doing something up and I'm going 604 00:31:37,600 --> 00:31:41,400 Speaker 1: to keep apologizing because I can apologize. Okay. So, Robin, 605 00:31:41,880 --> 00:31:43,240 Speaker 1: I don't have a crystal ball. I don't know what 606 00:31:43,280 --> 00:31:45,480 Speaker 1: the future holds, okay, okay as to what I'm gonna 607 00:31:45,520 --> 00:31:49,000 Speaker 1: do in the future, but I do know that everyone 608 00:31:49,040 --> 00:31:52,720 Speaker 1: makes mistakes, okay, And yes, I mean my apologies when 609 00:31:52,760 --> 00:31:55,480 Speaker 1: I say it, okay, and I say I really mean 610 00:31:55,720 --> 00:31:58,480 Speaker 1: for I mean it. I wasn't giving example. I can't 611 00:31:58,480 --> 00:32:01,480 Speaker 1: give you an example. But if I say I'm sorry, 612 00:32:01,520 --> 00:32:04,400 Speaker 1: I'm sorry. Damn it. I mean, I'm just I just 613 00:32:04,440 --> 00:32:07,120 Speaker 1: wonder how many I'm sorries people need to hear. I mean, 614 00:32:07,400 --> 00:32:11,880 Speaker 1: I'm just you know, I just I'm just wondering. Okay, 615 00:32:11,920 --> 00:32:14,320 Speaker 1: do you have a list? Okay, so I want to 616 00:32:14,360 --> 00:32:17,280 Speaker 1: go through, Like so so you know how to apologize 617 00:32:17,320 --> 00:32:19,720 Speaker 1: the dudes and don't of how to apologize okay, because 618 00:32:19,760 --> 00:32:22,000 Speaker 1: wait a minute, it's just for the record. An apologize 619 00:32:22,040 --> 00:32:25,360 Speaker 1: when you when you apologize to somebody, I want it 620 00:32:25,360 --> 00:32:28,720 Speaker 1: helps you. It helps them, but it helps you, that's true. Yeah, 621 00:32:28,760 --> 00:32:31,560 Speaker 1: because you're released from the situation. Well you're released, but 622 00:32:31,640 --> 00:32:36,480 Speaker 1: hopefully when you apologize, you're actually understanding why that person 623 00:32:36,560 --> 00:32:38,680 Speaker 1: was hurt so that you don't do it again, you 624 00:32:38,680 --> 00:32:40,920 Speaker 1: know what I mean. Like it's it's one that's nothing. 625 00:32:40,920 --> 00:32:42,720 Speaker 1: Don't just apologize me, like all right, I'm sorry and 626 00:32:42,720 --> 00:32:45,240 Speaker 1: then like you really don't. You don't mean it either. 627 00:32:45,320 --> 00:32:47,760 Speaker 1: You're just apologizing to shut the person up, Like that's 628 00:32:48,320 --> 00:32:50,760 Speaker 1: I like to explain why I did my shady thing 629 00:32:50,840 --> 00:32:55,920 Speaker 1: that I did, and I do that well yeah, okay, record, yes, yes, yes, 630 00:32:56,040 --> 00:32:57,640 Speaker 1: that's hey, that's good. All right, So I'm gonna tell 631 00:32:57,640 --> 00:33:01,200 Speaker 1: you all what is not considered a good apology or 632 00:33:01,240 --> 00:33:03,200 Speaker 1: not really an apology, and we have some friends that 633 00:33:03,240 --> 00:33:04,840 Speaker 1: need to hear this. Hit his friends. I know a 634 00:33:04,840 --> 00:33:07,880 Speaker 1: lot of people need to hear this. Okay, So I'm 635 00:33:07,960 --> 00:33:10,440 Speaker 1: sorry you feel that way. I feel like that's like 636 00:33:10,480 --> 00:33:14,840 Speaker 1: the number one Like I feel like when people say 637 00:33:14,880 --> 00:33:18,000 Speaker 1: that I'm sorry you feel that way, that's like you 638 00:33:18,080 --> 00:33:20,920 Speaker 1: really are having a hard time of taking ownership of 639 00:33:20,960 --> 00:33:25,120 Speaker 1: what you did and acknowledging that you were wrong, flat 640 00:33:25,160 --> 00:33:31,720 Speaker 1: out wrong right right? Yes? No, aunt, this one even worse. 641 00:33:31,920 --> 00:33:36,880 Speaker 1: I'm sorry, but you're just being sensitive? What Okay, that's 642 00:33:36,880 --> 00:33:39,080 Speaker 1: just like people that say that. Guys used to be like, 643 00:33:39,120 --> 00:33:43,800 Speaker 1: are you on your period? Is that why you're acting crazy? No, 644 00:33:43,840 --> 00:33:45,959 Speaker 1: I'm acting crazy because you made me. That is actually 645 00:33:45,960 --> 00:33:49,680 Speaker 1: a valid point for me, that's annalid point for robbing. 646 00:33:49,720 --> 00:33:53,360 Speaker 1: But for gisl who doesn't have those issues, I'm like, no, 647 00:33:53,720 --> 00:33:57,160 Speaker 1: I'm mad because I'm mad because you're an idiot. Kay. 648 00:33:58,560 --> 00:34:01,840 Speaker 1: Another one, I'm sorry if you think I did something wrong? 649 00:34:01,960 --> 00:34:08,600 Speaker 1: What right? Yeah, that's a waste of um what do 650 00:34:08,600 --> 00:34:13,200 Speaker 1: you call it? Words? Words, oxygen, all of that. I'm sorry, 651 00:34:13,200 --> 00:34:16,799 Speaker 1: but it obviously was a joke. Okay, So I'm good 652 00:34:16,800 --> 00:34:20,840 Speaker 1: at that. Okay, So Okay, just for the record, Okay, 653 00:34:21,040 --> 00:34:24,120 Speaker 1: and I can actually I can bring this up because 654 00:34:24,239 --> 00:34:26,400 Speaker 1: you know, I have a friend named Karen Huger, and 655 00:34:26,400 --> 00:34:28,360 Speaker 1: there's a lot of times what I've been joking with 656 00:34:28,400 --> 00:34:32,480 Speaker 1: her in the past and she didn't understand my humor. True, 657 00:34:32,520 --> 00:34:35,360 Speaker 1: I get that. So but I feel like, okay, you 658 00:34:35,400 --> 00:34:38,400 Speaker 1: gotta it's how you structure the apology, right. So if 659 00:34:38,440 --> 00:34:40,840 Speaker 1: it's like, so, if you were joking and someone was offended, 660 00:34:41,360 --> 00:34:45,000 Speaker 1: the way you say it is, I was joking and 661 00:34:45,120 --> 00:34:48,560 Speaker 1: I am so sorry that it offended you. Okay, I like, 662 00:34:49,040 --> 00:34:50,800 Speaker 1: is that better? That's so batter, I gotta write that, 663 00:34:51,239 --> 00:34:54,200 Speaker 1: you know, so, so I promise you it was a joke, 664 00:34:54,640 --> 00:34:58,080 Speaker 1: but I understand that it hurt your feelings and I'm sorry. Okay, 665 00:34:58,080 --> 00:35:00,560 Speaker 1: I like, right, I think anytime you say like, I'm sorry, 666 00:35:00,800 --> 00:35:04,480 Speaker 1: but it's the buttons. But for me, so you just 667 00:35:04,520 --> 00:35:06,360 Speaker 1: have to like figure out how to like say things 668 00:35:06,480 --> 00:35:10,360 Speaker 1: or even when it's like, you know, I'm probably guilty 669 00:35:10,400 --> 00:35:13,839 Speaker 1: of thinking people are sensitive, right or too sensitive because 670 00:35:13,840 --> 00:35:16,800 Speaker 1: I'm not very sensitive, So like that makes it actually 671 00:35:16,800 --> 00:35:20,120 Speaker 1: makes you mad that people are too sensitive that people 672 00:35:20,120 --> 00:35:23,439 Speaker 1: are it doesn't. I mean, it's just it's it is hard, 673 00:35:23,440 --> 00:35:26,400 Speaker 1: I think for someone to navigate of like like, okay, 674 00:35:26,400 --> 00:35:29,000 Speaker 1: well what can I what can I say? What can 675 00:35:29,040 --> 00:35:31,360 Speaker 1: I not say? What's want to offend this person? Because 676 00:35:31,480 --> 00:35:35,040 Speaker 1: I'm not a sensitive person and they are. And if 677 00:35:35,080 --> 00:35:36,560 Speaker 1: you don't tell me you're a sensitive person, like how 678 00:35:36,600 --> 00:35:38,480 Speaker 1: am I supposed to know? Because they cry every five 679 00:35:38,480 --> 00:35:42,440 Speaker 1: minutes and fold up napkins. So those people, those people, 680 00:35:42,640 --> 00:35:45,080 Speaker 1: I really I'm sick of it. I'm sick of you 681 00:35:45,200 --> 00:35:48,040 Speaker 1: crying every eighteen seconds. I don't want to see you crying. 682 00:35:48,840 --> 00:35:54,200 Speaker 1: Like like now we're getting into like a whole another topic. 683 00:35:54,280 --> 00:35:56,280 Speaker 1: So it's like, okay, so if your friends are sensitive, 684 00:35:56,320 --> 00:35:58,160 Speaker 1: do you just not be keep it real and be 685 00:35:58,200 --> 00:36:00,880 Speaker 1: honest with them and like call them out on stuff. 686 00:36:01,680 --> 00:36:03,680 Speaker 1: I'm I don't care to crabing five seconds. I'm going 687 00:36:03,719 --> 00:36:06,360 Speaker 1: to tell you. Do you say to your friends listen, 688 00:36:07,000 --> 00:36:10,400 Speaker 1: if we're gonna be friends, you're gonna have to understand 689 00:36:10,440 --> 00:36:13,839 Speaker 1: that I am going to speak up when I feel 690 00:36:13,840 --> 00:36:16,520 Speaker 1: you're being wrong, yes, or you know what I'm saying? Like, 691 00:36:16,560 --> 00:36:17,839 Speaker 1: so what is it? So it's like, do you keep 692 00:36:17,880 --> 00:36:20,560 Speaker 1: the friendship or do you just say you know what, 693 00:36:20,840 --> 00:36:24,080 Speaker 1: We're just not meant to be friends because you're sensitive. 694 00:36:24,800 --> 00:36:27,799 Speaker 1: I'm blunt. Yes, it's not gonna work out. What do 695 00:36:27,840 --> 00:36:30,000 Speaker 1: you do? So you just in the friendships because like 696 00:36:30,160 --> 00:36:31,960 Speaker 1: for me, I think I'm gonna start counting if I 697 00:36:32,000 --> 00:36:34,800 Speaker 1: see you cry too many times. We can't be friends 698 00:36:35,440 --> 00:36:37,440 Speaker 1: because I don't. I don't. I don't shed tears like that. 699 00:36:37,640 --> 00:36:39,960 Speaker 1: I think it's five five times and you're done and 700 00:36:40,280 --> 00:36:43,399 Speaker 1: you're just like like a mom or or you know what. Though, 701 00:36:43,560 --> 00:36:46,080 Speaker 1: like we've talked about this before. Friends, you can have 702 00:36:46,120 --> 00:36:49,560 Speaker 1: different types of friends. You can have surface friends, okay, right, 703 00:36:49,719 --> 00:36:53,200 Speaker 1: criers are surface surface friends, yes, okay, okay. So it's like, 704 00:36:53,320 --> 00:36:54,839 Speaker 1: so I think you have to talk to your friends 705 00:36:54,880 --> 00:36:56,759 Speaker 1: about okay, like what level of friendship do you want? 706 00:36:57,120 --> 00:36:59,319 Speaker 1: Do you want? You know what I'm saying, like we're 707 00:36:59,320 --> 00:37:02,040 Speaker 1: the worst? Do you no? But it's like it's it's 708 00:37:02,080 --> 00:37:05,239 Speaker 1: it's real because I feel like I don't want to 709 00:37:05,280 --> 00:37:08,680 Speaker 1: have to censor myself for certain friends because they're gonna 710 00:37:08,719 --> 00:37:13,040 Speaker 1: be sensitive. And it's like but then on the flip side, 711 00:37:13,080 --> 00:37:18,120 Speaker 1: like I want to be compassionate towards people's sensitivities, So like, 712 00:37:18,239 --> 00:37:21,880 Speaker 1: how do we do this? Compassion is overrated? I'm just 713 00:37:21,960 --> 00:37:24,520 Speaker 1: sitting all right, okay, let me go, let me continue 714 00:37:24,520 --> 00:37:28,640 Speaker 1: on this list, Like all right, um, sorry, are you 715 00:37:28,680 --> 00:37:33,440 Speaker 1: happy now? Oh? Hell no, hell no, I don't even 716 00:37:33,440 --> 00:37:35,480 Speaker 1: speak to me if you're gonna say that. But because 717 00:37:35,480 --> 00:37:38,239 Speaker 1: I'm not happy, I feel like and I feel like 718 00:37:38,280 --> 00:37:42,040 Speaker 1: I've kind of received an apology like that recently. It's like, yeah, 719 00:37:42,040 --> 00:37:43,840 Speaker 1: I'm just gonna say sorry, so I can just in 720 00:37:43,920 --> 00:37:45,840 Speaker 1: this conversation and move on, right, do you know what 721 00:37:45,880 --> 00:37:50,000 Speaker 1: I mean? Instead of people like really flushing out what 722 00:37:50,080 --> 00:37:52,239 Speaker 1: you did and why it was wrong, you know what 723 00:37:52,280 --> 00:37:55,400 Speaker 1: I'm saying? Yeah, it's just like what and then another 724 00:37:55,400 --> 00:37:58,799 Speaker 1: one just sorry, followed by no reparations. So it's like 725 00:37:59,320 --> 00:38:02,080 Speaker 1: you say sorry, but then what's the consequences of what 726 00:38:02,320 --> 00:38:05,719 Speaker 1: of your actions? Is saying sorry? Just enough? No, you 727 00:38:05,719 --> 00:38:08,000 Speaker 1: have to talk it through, Like what exactly are you 728 00:38:08,040 --> 00:38:11,600 Speaker 1: apologizing for? You can't just give a blanket I'm sorry, y'all, 729 00:38:11,880 --> 00:38:14,440 Speaker 1: Like that's no what you're sorry for? Right? But once 730 00:38:14,480 --> 00:38:18,440 Speaker 1: you do that, so you say sorry, and then like, 731 00:38:18,560 --> 00:38:21,280 Speaker 1: what happens to that friendship or what happens to that 732 00:38:21,280 --> 00:38:24,479 Speaker 1: that relationship? You know what I mean? Like, I guess 733 00:38:24,480 --> 00:38:27,279 Speaker 1: it just really depends on on how that conversation goes 734 00:38:27,360 --> 00:38:30,120 Speaker 1: because you can do something to hurt someone and they 735 00:38:30,120 --> 00:38:32,680 Speaker 1: can say sorry, and you as an individual can decide 736 00:38:33,360 --> 00:38:35,280 Speaker 1: that you're gonna let it go and you're gonna move forward, 737 00:38:35,560 --> 00:38:38,040 Speaker 1: or you're going to say, you know what, I appreciate 738 00:38:38,040 --> 00:38:42,280 Speaker 1: the apology, but we s there's that, and then there's 739 00:38:42,360 --> 00:38:45,840 Speaker 1: if it's a bullshit apology, then no, we're not moving forward. 740 00:38:46,320 --> 00:38:48,640 Speaker 1: So so let me tell you what an apology is 741 00:38:50,200 --> 00:38:53,520 Speaker 1: or what it exists. So an apology takes ownership of 742 00:38:53,640 --> 00:38:57,279 Speaker 1: actions leading to hurt. I like that. I like that 743 00:38:57,400 --> 00:39:03,919 Speaker 1: takes ownership an apology and of reparations or behavior change. 744 00:39:02,600 --> 00:39:08,319 Speaker 1: What are we doing? So it's like something that is 745 00:39:08,360 --> 00:39:10,840 Speaker 1: like okay. So like maybe it's like okay, say you 746 00:39:10,840 --> 00:39:13,399 Speaker 1: did something to publicly hurt someone, so you're you say 747 00:39:13,400 --> 00:39:16,839 Speaker 1: sorry to that person, but then you also publicly, if 748 00:39:16,880 --> 00:39:19,560 Speaker 1: you publicly trash me on Instagram, you need to publicly 749 00:39:19,600 --> 00:39:22,560 Speaker 1: go back, and I mean to do that, I mean, 750 00:39:22,840 --> 00:39:24,919 Speaker 1: I mean yeah, if that's if if that is what 751 00:39:25,080 --> 00:39:29,160 Speaker 1: you require of an apology, then yeah, or behavior change. 752 00:39:29,200 --> 00:39:31,640 Speaker 1: So it's like you know, if if I'm sorry that 753 00:39:31,760 --> 00:39:36,279 Speaker 1: I'm late, um, then I'm not going to be late anymore. 754 00:39:36,520 --> 00:39:39,160 Speaker 1: You're never sorry. You're late, Robbie, you don't care that 755 00:39:39,280 --> 00:39:45,359 Speaker 1: you're late. I think you get joy out of it. Yes, 756 00:39:46,040 --> 00:39:49,000 Speaker 1: it's like a late game. I'm gonna be twenty minutes later, 757 00:39:49,000 --> 00:39:55,160 Speaker 1: at thirty minutes. That's not a good one. That's ridiculous. 758 00:39:56,520 --> 00:40:00,120 Speaker 1: That's not a good one. Okay, we're almost done. Um. 759 00:40:00,160 --> 00:40:03,160 Speaker 1: An apology, and this is very valid, is not used 760 00:40:03,200 --> 00:40:06,640 Speaker 1: as a way to end a conversation, which I think 761 00:40:06,680 --> 00:40:09,000 Speaker 1: a lot of times and in some of our friendships, 762 00:40:09,719 --> 00:40:13,080 Speaker 1: apologies are used to end a conversation. So the president 763 00:40:13,080 --> 00:40:14,920 Speaker 1: just says I'm sorry, and they want the conversation to 764 00:40:14,920 --> 00:40:17,439 Speaker 1: be over. Yeah. Yeah, No, it doesn't work that way. Yeah. 765 00:40:17,480 --> 00:40:20,160 Speaker 1: Men do that a lot because they just want to 766 00:40:20,160 --> 00:40:22,400 Speaker 1: move on. They just want to fix it. Yeah, and 767 00:40:23,120 --> 00:40:30,239 Speaker 1: go have sex. Yes, I'm sorry. Can we okay? On 768 00:40:30,320 --> 00:40:32,919 Speaker 1: that note, we're here, guys, girl, I got I got 769 00:40:32,920 --> 00:40:35,719 Speaker 1: three more? Yeah, I got four more. An apology is 770 00:40:35,760 --> 00:40:38,520 Speaker 1: not excessive. An apology does not expect anything in return, 771 00:40:38,680 --> 00:40:41,640 Speaker 1: and apology does not include ifs or butts. An apology 772 00:40:41,800 --> 00:40:45,640 Speaker 1: is genuine. Yes, and we out here? Okay? Can I 773 00:40:45,680 --> 00:40:48,160 Speaker 1: an apology for cutting me off? Yes, I'm sorry, robbing 774 00:40:48,200 --> 00:40:50,200 Speaker 1: for cutting you off. I thought you were done, but 775 00:40:50,280 --> 00:40:52,279 Speaker 1: that's the last apology you get me, And is this 776 00:40:52,400 --> 00:40:54,440 Speaker 1: the last time you're going to do that? I mean 777 00:40:54,480 --> 00:40:59,960 Speaker 1: cut me off. No, Okay, we're out of here. Guy, 778 00:41:00,000 --> 00:41:02,239 Speaker 1: as we love y'all so much, don't ever forget to 779 00:41:02,280 --> 00:41:05,160 Speaker 1: live live your life either reasonable or shady or both. 780 00:41:05,480 --> 00:41:20,120 Speaker 1: Bide Reasonably Shady is a production of the Black Affect 781 00:41:20,239 --> 00:41:24,120 Speaker 1: podcast Network. 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