1 00:00:00,080 --> 00:00:02,080 Speaker 1: Am I the ahole for getting annoyed at my sister 2 00:00:02,160 --> 00:00:05,480 Speaker 1: in law dying of cancer? For ruining my wedding? 3 00:00:05,680 --> 00:00:06,800 Speaker 2: Gosh, get it together? 4 00:00:07,160 --> 00:00:08,240 Speaker 3: What the phrase? 5 00:00:08,600 --> 00:00:10,680 Speaker 4: You kind of sound like a mad dre hole. 6 00:00:10,560 --> 00:00:12,840 Speaker 3: Power, you sound like a buzzkill? 7 00:00:13,000 --> 00:00:14,200 Speaker 4: You sound like a buzzkill. 8 00:00:14,360 --> 00:00:16,240 Speaker 1: And this is the answer the question should sick family 9 00:00:16,239 --> 00:00:18,800 Speaker 1: members be prioritized at a wedding? And it comes from 10 00:00:18,840 --> 00:00:22,079 Speaker 1: Snow sixty one two who says, I don't intend for 11 00:00:22,120 --> 00:00:24,280 Speaker 1: the title to be so harsh sounding. Well it is, 12 00:00:24,320 --> 00:00:25,560 Speaker 1: but I don't know how else to put it. 13 00:00:26,000 --> 00:00:27,960 Speaker 3: There must have been another way, also. 14 00:00:27,800 --> 00:00:31,200 Speaker 1: Sound blunt, but I'm just posting the facts as presented. 15 00:00:31,360 --> 00:00:34,360 Speaker 1: So I'm marrying my partner Andrea, who is from another country. 16 00:00:34,400 --> 00:00:37,680 Speaker 1: Her sister b is dying of cancer. It is heartbreaking. 17 00:00:37,800 --> 00:00:41,120 Speaker 1: She is a young mother and wife. Her diagnosis was 18 00:00:41,159 --> 00:00:43,920 Speaker 1: about four years ago. When she was first diagnosed, she 19 00:00:44,000 --> 00:00:46,159 Speaker 1: was given one to two years since we are in 20 00:00:46,200 --> 00:00:48,960 Speaker 1: a different country, as she be remained in her home 21 00:00:49,000 --> 00:00:52,760 Speaker 1: country with her family after her sister Andrea immigrated. We 22 00:00:52,800 --> 00:00:56,080 Speaker 1: saved up some money and traveled to say goodbye to her. 23 00:00:56,160 --> 00:00:58,200 Speaker 1: It was about at the one and a half year 24 00:00:58,240 --> 00:01:00,560 Speaker 1: mark when we went to say goodbye, and we had 25 00:01:00,600 --> 00:01:04,160 Speaker 1: gotten engaged soon beforehand, so we also went to visit 26 00:01:04,240 --> 00:01:06,760 Speaker 1: some of the family and ask them how long they 27 00:01:06,800 --> 00:01:09,800 Speaker 1: needed to save to come across the country for our wedding, 28 00:01:09,920 --> 00:01:13,080 Speaker 1: as our dollar is much stronger than theirs. They said 29 00:01:13,280 --> 00:01:15,840 Speaker 1: two years, so that is what we agree to. So 30 00:01:15,959 --> 00:01:17,240 Speaker 1: basically it seems. 31 00:01:17,000 --> 00:01:19,160 Speaker 3: They're like, we're gonna have an a broad wedding. 32 00:01:19,120 --> 00:01:22,600 Speaker 4: To two years from now. Checked in with the family 33 00:01:22,720 --> 00:01:23,840 Speaker 4: to see if that was a good time. 34 00:01:23,959 --> 00:01:27,759 Speaker 1: We spent a month with her, laughing, lamenting, spending as 35 00:01:27,880 --> 00:01:30,679 Speaker 1: much quality time as we could with her. By the 36 00:01:30,800 --> 00:01:33,200 Speaker 1: end of the trip, though, and with the chemo, she 37 00:01:33,400 --> 00:01:34,199 Speaker 1: was exhausted. 38 00:01:34,440 --> 00:01:34,759 Speaker 4: Wow. 39 00:01:34,840 --> 00:01:38,839 Speaker 1: We set our heartbreaking goodbyes, assuming to never see her again, 40 00:01:38,959 --> 00:01:43,840 Speaker 1: and then she made a miraculous recovery okay with a 41 00:01:44,040 --> 00:01:48,920 Speaker 1: less than one percent chance of happening, which was awesome. We, 42 00:01:49,000 --> 00:01:52,160 Speaker 1: along with her other family members who also immigrated, such 43 00:01:52,160 --> 00:01:55,000 Speaker 1: as her father and brother, decided to put money together 44 00:01:55,120 --> 00:01:57,880 Speaker 1: and support her to move over here to spend the 45 00:01:57,920 --> 00:02:00,120 Speaker 1: rest of her life with us. That was about do 46 00:02:00,160 --> 00:02:05,360 Speaker 1: your go what I mean? Okay, amazing, positive, so far positive, 47 00:02:05,440 --> 00:02:09,640 Speaker 1: so far slightly toad says low, there's gonna be a 48 00:02:09,720 --> 00:02:10,560 Speaker 1: huge twist. 49 00:02:10,960 --> 00:02:12,880 Speaker 3: I think I think there is a huge twist on 50 00:02:12,919 --> 00:02:13,440 Speaker 3: the horizon. 51 00:02:13,440 --> 00:02:16,560 Speaker 1: And oh, now my partner and I are getting married 52 00:02:16,600 --> 00:02:19,200 Speaker 1: in two weeks, so we're like way fast forwarded about 53 00:02:19,240 --> 00:02:21,280 Speaker 1: two years from that time point. All of her family 54 00:02:21,320 --> 00:02:23,800 Speaker 1: are coming to visit. It's a big, joyous occasion with 55 00:02:23,919 --> 00:02:26,720 Speaker 1: lots of travel. We forked out thousands to help her 56 00:02:26,720 --> 00:02:29,720 Speaker 1: family get here, and they're all staying for a month 57 00:02:29,840 --> 00:02:32,520 Speaker 1: or so to celebrate our wedding and spend time with us. 58 00:02:32,720 --> 00:02:35,239 Speaker 4: What a month? Wait, this is zero? 59 00:02:35,480 --> 00:02:38,400 Speaker 3: Yeah? No, because they're saying that, wait what this is Europe. 60 00:02:38,480 --> 00:02:41,000 Speaker 1: Yeah, because only Europeans would be like, oh, we'll just 61 00:02:41,040 --> 00:02:41,919 Speaker 1: take the whole month off. 62 00:02:42,040 --> 00:02:42,600 Speaker 2: Take a month. 63 00:02:43,240 --> 00:02:46,880 Speaker 3: I mean I understand from like a we saved up 64 00:02:46,919 --> 00:02:50,400 Speaker 3: for two years, let's just make this a whole vacation. 65 00:02:50,360 --> 00:02:53,840 Speaker 1: True, which I mean, I'm just I'm the only shot 66 00:02:53,960 --> 00:02:57,239 Speaker 1: logistically they were able to coordinate everyone. 67 00:02:57,480 --> 00:02:59,960 Speaker 3: Yeah, well, how many people are do we know how 68 00:03:00,040 --> 00:03:00,919 Speaker 3: many people are coming? 69 00:03:02,400 --> 00:03:05,000 Speaker 1: I am reading in between the lines that it is 70 00:03:05,280 --> 00:03:06,480 Speaker 1: small with family. 71 00:03:07,400 --> 00:03:09,280 Speaker 3: If it was just you know, like let's say it 72 00:03:09,320 --> 00:03:12,160 Speaker 3: was ten to twenty family members. 73 00:03:12,440 --> 00:03:15,400 Speaker 1: So we went to visit some of the family. Yeah, 74 00:03:15,440 --> 00:03:17,880 Speaker 1: and ask how long they needed to save to come 75 00:03:17,919 --> 00:03:20,519 Speaker 1: across the wedding. So it's it's not even the whole family, 76 00:03:20,560 --> 00:03:23,160 Speaker 1: it's just part of the family. So far as we know, 77 00:03:23,400 --> 00:03:26,600 Speaker 1: I'm guessing it's yeah, maybe, but still ten or twenty 78 00:03:26,639 --> 00:03:30,680 Speaker 1: people able to spend a month somewhere is very impressive. 79 00:03:30,840 --> 00:03:34,200 Speaker 4: Crazy. Yeah, I digress you Europeans in your months. 80 00:03:34,040 --> 00:03:36,600 Speaker 3: To Europeans and your month long weddings. 81 00:03:36,840 --> 00:03:39,880 Speaker 1: Two weeks ago, B got a bad diagnosis. Oh no, 82 00:03:40,160 --> 00:03:41,840 Speaker 1: they found lumps and they said. 83 00:03:41,640 --> 00:03:43,320 Speaker 4: She had about a year to live. 84 00:03:43,480 --> 00:03:46,560 Speaker 1: She for obvious reasons, did not handle this swell and 85 00:03:46,680 --> 00:03:49,600 Speaker 1: lashed out at us and our wedding, telling us not 86 00:03:49,800 --> 00:03:52,920 Speaker 1: to talk about it around her because now I think 87 00:03:53,000 --> 00:03:55,440 Speaker 1: because it's like she was like, oh hey, now I 88 00:03:55,480 --> 00:03:57,160 Speaker 1: will get to go to the wedding. 89 00:03:56,920 --> 00:03:59,880 Speaker 3: And now I'm finding out that I and I can't be. 90 00:03:59,840 --> 00:04:02,280 Speaker 1: Out there for a month away from probably my chemo, 91 00:04:02,400 --> 00:04:03,760 Speaker 1: my hospital, et cetera. 92 00:04:03,920 --> 00:04:07,720 Speaker 3: That's really really I don't think anyone is the a hole. 93 00:04:07,760 --> 00:04:09,600 Speaker 3: I don't think she is the a hole right now for. 94 00:04:09,600 --> 00:04:12,560 Speaker 2: Her reaction victim of circumstances, Yeah, that is. 95 00:04:12,480 --> 00:04:16,800 Speaker 3: Really devastating to learn that, you know, after finding out 96 00:04:16,800 --> 00:04:19,440 Speaker 3: that you made a miraculous recovery. 97 00:04:19,000 --> 00:04:22,719 Speaker 1: And because probably it went from like couldn't go to 98 00:04:23,080 --> 00:04:25,080 Speaker 1: oh my gosh, it's I can go. 99 00:04:25,200 --> 00:04:26,240 Speaker 4: I have my whole life ahead of me. 100 00:04:26,560 --> 00:04:29,560 Speaker 1: Now I cannot go again, even just for I'm guessing 101 00:04:29,600 --> 00:04:31,480 Speaker 1: probably just like the chymo on being close to her 102 00:04:31,480 --> 00:04:35,320 Speaker 1: treatment center. Yeah, or maybe she can, we'll see. Maybe 103 00:04:35,320 --> 00:04:36,960 Speaker 1: she can make it to the wedding, but not stay 104 00:04:36,960 --> 00:04:37,360 Speaker 1: the whole month. 105 00:04:37,880 --> 00:04:40,599 Speaker 4: We'll see. My partner has always kind of lived in her. 106 00:04:40,440 --> 00:04:43,080 Speaker 1: Older sister's shadow, so she was really excited to be 107 00:04:43,200 --> 00:04:46,200 Speaker 1: celebrated and made a fuss over for once. But be 108 00:04:46,400 --> 00:04:49,760 Speaker 1: has told everyone about her diagnosis and has started saying, 109 00:04:50,080 --> 00:04:52,680 Speaker 1: this is the last time I will see most of 110 00:04:52,720 --> 00:04:55,560 Speaker 1: you now. The focus is completely off of my partner 111 00:04:55,560 --> 00:04:58,760 Speaker 1: in our wedding and is completely about b I feel 112 00:04:58,800 --> 00:05:02,320 Speaker 1: heartless and heartbroken, but I'm frustrated by this. She has 113 00:05:02,360 --> 00:05:04,479 Speaker 1: been going out of her way to make sure the 114 00:05:04,520 --> 00:05:07,960 Speaker 1: people who are coming across, who have paid thousands for flights, 115 00:05:08,120 --> 00:05:10,640 Speaker 1: not that it matters that much, are spending as much 116 00:05:10,680 --> 00:05:13,400 Speaker 1: time with her as possible as this is quote unquote 117 00:05:13,440 --> 00:05:16,719 Speaker 1: the last time she will see them now. This period 118 00:05:16,720 --> 00:05:19,800 Speaker 1: of joy and celebration has an undeniable black cloud hung 119 00:05:19,839 --> 00:05:22,839 Speaker 1: over it, and people very obviously have stopped making my 120 00:05:22,920 --> 00:05:25,920 Speaker 1: partner feel special. On top of this, Bee has maintained 121 00:05:25,920 --> 00:05:29,360 Speaker 1: her stance that we not talk about the wedding around her. 122 00:05:29,520 --> 00:05:32,479 Speaker 1: But the big issue is that Be got married during 123 00:05:32,560 --> 00:05:36,400 Speaker 1: COVID so never got a father daughter dance. She wants 124 00:05:36,440 --> 00:05:39,560 Speaker 1: to have one at our wedding after my partner has 125 00:05:39,600 --> 00:05:43,200 Speaker 1: a father daughter dance after her own song, which, to 126 00:05:43,279 --> 00:05:48,120 Speaker 1: be honest, is sad as ef I have said no 127 00:05:48,560 --> 00:05:50,400 Speaker 1: yeah to the dance yea. 128 00:05:50,720 --> 00:05:53,160 Speaker 4: Honestly, I think we'll keep reading about it. 129 00:05:53,240 --> 00:05:55,880 Speaker 1: Yeah, I think given her situation with the health and 130 00:05:55,960 --> 00:05:58,320 Speaker 1: the fact that she, like I'm thinking from the pov 131 00:05:58,400 --> 00:06:00,800 Speaker 1: of this is my sister in the same scenario, I 132 00:06:00,839 --> 00:06:03,120 Speaker 1: would want her to have that dance because it's like 133 00:06:03,520 --> 00:06:04,279 Speaker 1: a special moment. 134 00:06:04,320 --> 00:06:05,240 Speaker 4: She's been through so much. 135 00:06:05,680 --> 00:06:08,080 Speaker 3: I think I think I would give a dance, but 136 00:06:08,320 --> 00:06:11,040 Speaker 3: I don't think I would do it right after a mine, 137 00:06:11,400 --> 00:06:14,120 Speaker 3: like the main person's dance. You know. I think I 138 00:06:14,360 --> 00:06:16,279 Speaker 3: think you could do it at a different time, because 139 00:06:16,320 --> 00:06:17,400 Speaker 3: I think that or like. 140 00:06:17,320 --> 00:06:19,719 Speaker 1: A different what's a different way of like honoring? Yeah, 141 00:06:19,760 --> 00:06:22,400 Speaker 1: like maybe there's a way that's like more like siloed 142 00:06:22,440 --> 00:06:25,600 Speaker 1: away from celebrating the main person and more focused on 143 00:06:26,279 --> 00:06:27,080 Speaker 1: that person's thing. 144 00:06:27,320 --> 00:06:29,080 Speaker 3: Yeah, I think there's a way where you can. You 145 00:06:29,120 --> 00:06:31,520 Speaker 3: can because yeah, someone said, I see both sides of this, 146 00:06:31,680 --> 00:06:34,240 Speaker 3: and I think I do, but it yeah, I think 147 00:06:34,279 --> 00:06:35,839 Speaker 3: I do see both sides of it. And it's just 148 00:06:35,839 --> 00:06:38,880 Speaker 3: also you remember, like it's yeah, Amaber says Bee, this 149 00:06:38,960 --> 00:06:39,680 Speaker 3: isn't your wedding. 150 00:06:39,960 --> 00:06:42,880 Speaker 2: Yeah, and Sanna says, this is such a complicated situation. 151 00:06:42,920 --> 00:06:43,800 Speaker 4: I don't know if I have an opinion. 152 00:06:43,880 --> 00:06:45,280 Speaker 3: Yeah, I don't know if I have an opinion either. 153 00:06:45,400 --> 00:06:47,160 Speaker 4: It's tough, you know, it's like I don't know. 154 00:06:47,160 --> 00:06:49,880 Speaker 3: It's like, yeah, this is the she is right, this 155 00:06:49,960 --> 00:06:51,840 Speaker 3: is this maybe is the last time she's going to 156 00:06:51,880 --> 00:06:53,599 Speaker 3: see a lot of her family members and they're going 157 00:06:53,640 --> 00:06:54,120 Speaker 3: to see her. 158 00:06:54,360 --> 00:06:56,159 Speaker 1: And then but and then the flip side of the coin, 159 00:06:56,400 --> 00:06:59,960 Speaker 1: does that should that necessarily stop them from being able to. 160 00:07:00,080 --> 00:07:02,320 Speaker 3: Bach away their wedding, separate, separately. 161 00:07:01,880 --> 00:07:04,000 Speaker 1: From from caring for you and being with you and 162 00:07:04,040 --> 00:07:07,880 Speaker 1: doing all the things, be able to enjoy and celebrate 163 00:07:08,279 --> 00:07:10,760 Speaker 1: their life. And they, you know, they it's crazy as 164 00:07:10,840 --> 00:07:12,400 Speaker 1: to say, they don't know when she's going to go. 165 00:07:12,600 --> 00:07:14,960 Speaker 1: So it's like Okay, maybe we just do it as 166 00:07:14,960 --> 00:07:15,880 Speaker 1: we planned. 167 00:07:15,560 --> 00:07:19,600 Speaker 3: And yeah, and maybe it's having conversations saying, would you, like, 168 00:07:19,680 --> 00:07:22,200 Speaker 3: do you want this to be a sad day or 169 00:07:22,200 --> 00:07:25,200 Speaker 3: would you rather have like another happy day with us 170 00:07:25,200 --> 00:07:26,480 Speaker 3: and celebrating with your family? 171 00:07:26,560 --> 00:07:28,400 Speaker 4: Yes, you know, yeah, yeah, one hundred percent. 172 00:07:28,560 --> 00:07:31,000 Speaker 1: I have said no because my partner wanted to say 173 00:07:31,040 --> 00:07:33,360 Speaker 1: no but felt too guilty, so I had to be 174 00:07:33,400 --> 00:07:35,680 Speaker 1: the bad guy. I also told my partner that if 175 00:07:35,720 --> 00:07:38,160 Speaker 1: we're not going to talk about our wedding around her sister, 176 00:07:38,280 --> 00:07:41,680 Speaker 1: then I don't want her sister talking about dying around us. 177 00:07:42,680 --> 00:07:44,280 Speaker 4: Now I'm being called an a whole. 178 00:07:44,440 --> 00:07:47,520 Speaker 1: I do absolutely feel like one, but I also feel 179 00:07:47,600 --> 00:07:50,120 Speaker 1: this is grossly unfair to ask us to brush our 180 00:07:50,160 --> 00:07:51,880 Speaker 1: wedding under the carpet. 181 00:07:51,520 --> 00:07:54,080 Speaker 4: Because of this. Am I the a hole? 182 00:07:55,240 --> 00:07:56,960 Speaker 1: Just off the bat, and you know, we'll read that, 183 00:07:57,120 --> 00:07:58,760 Speaker 1: we'll get all the story of the context. 184 00:07:58,920 --> 00:08:01,040 Speaker 4: I'm kind of my initial. 185 00:08:00,800 --> 00:08:03,560 Speaker 1: Gut take is that maybe there's a little a holary 186 00:08:03,600 --> 00:08:06,080 Speaker 1: on both sides. I think so where it's like, hey, 187 00:08:06,280 --> 00:08:09,000 Speaker 1: just you know, obviously a horrendous thing to go through, 188 00:08:09,000 --> 00:08:10,560 Speaker 1: but kind of like what you said, hey, don't we 189 00:08:10,720 --> 00:08:12,320 Speaker 1: don't we want to kind of like all celebrate a 190 00:08:12,320 --> 00:08:15,040 Speaker 1: happy moment together, and you know, we're kind of assuming 191 00:08:15,160 --> 00:08:18,240 Speaker 1: that Opie and their partner are supportive of be and 192 00:08:18,400 --> 00:08:21,600 Speaker 1: are with her and our being being good siblings and 193 00:08:21,680 --> 00:08:24,280 Speaker 1: friends to her as she's going through this process. Well 194 00:08:24,320 --> 00:08:26,560 Speaker 1: you know they I think two things can exist at 195 00:08:26,560 --> 00:08:27,920 Speaker 1: once where it's like, hey, you can help someone do 196 00:08:28,000 --> 00:08:30,800 Speaker 1: this hard time and also do something you know, beautiful 197 00:08:30,840 --> 00:08:33,680 Speaker 1: to celebrate your luck us. Yeah, I think that those 198 00:08:33,720 --> 00:08:36,000 Speaker 1: two can co exist at the same time. 199 00:08:36,200 --> 00:08:36,640 Speaker 3: Yeah. 200 00:08:36,679 --> 00:08:40,280 Speaker 1: And and then on op side, I think that saying like, oh, 201 00:08:40,360 --> 00:08:42,120 Speaker 1: don't talk about your six that's. 202 00:08:41,880 --> 00:08:43,640 Speaker 3: The only thing because I didn't really think he was 203 00:08:43,640 --> 00:08:46,280 Speaker 3: the a whole until I think that's the only kind 204 00:08:46,280 --> 00:08:48,760 Speaker 3: of a holish comment that he made. Yeah, of saying, 205 00:08:48,840 --> 00:08:51,440 Speaker 3: especially because it's to to his wife, who is that's 206 00:08:51,480 --> 00:08:54,280 Speaker 3: her sister, she's losing, And I think it's just given 207 00:08:54,280 --> 00:08:58,120 Speaker 3: the fact that she was offended by it. Yeah, Like 208 00:08:58,200 --> 00:09:00,760 Speaker 3: the Opie's wife was offended by the comment, I think 209 00:09:00,920 --> 00:09:02,560 Speaker 3: is an indicator that, Yeah. 210 00:09:02,520 --> 00:09:04,800 Speaker 1: Op is feeling a way right because he's like, I 211 00:09:04,880 --> 00:09:07,360 Speaker 1: just want to like probably like we've done so this 212 00:09:07,400 --> 00:09:08,439 Speaker 1: has been such a long journey. 213 00:09:08,480 --> 00:09:10,680 Speaker 4: We had like the goodbyes to this, but then you 214 00:09:10,760 --> 00:09:11,439 Speaker 4: came back and now. 215 00:09:11,400 --> 00:09:14,600 Speaker 1: It's back, So he's probably like, hey, we have contributed 216 00:09:14,679 --> 00:09:17,040 Speaker 1: and are like doing good. Don't like punish us for 217 00:09:17,120 --> 00:09:20,080 Speaker 1: doing good. But that doesn't excuse that doesn't give him 218 00:09:20,120 --> 00:09:21,160 Speaker 1: the right to be able to. 219 00:09:21,440 --> 00:09:24,640 Speaker 3: Yeah, do that as some complicated situation. But if you 220 00:09:24,720 --> 00:09:27,480 Speaker 3: can find a way to give Be what she wants 221 00:09:27,520 --> 00:09:31,120 Speaker 3: to an extent, yes, but I think I do understand 222 00:09:31,160 --> 00:09:33,720 Speaker 3: wanting this to be you know, their day, because it is. 223 00:09:35,120 --> 00:09:37,720 Speaker 1: That's that's perfectly fine. But we have some of my 224 00:09:37,760 --> 00:09:42,040 Speaker 1: own comments. MESSI Thoughts forty seven says I recommend assigning 225 00:09:42,080 --> 00:09:45,200 Speaker 1: a trusted family member or friend to be on your 226 00:09:45,240 --> 00:09:45,719 Speaker 1: wedding day. 227 00:09:45,800 --> 00:09:47,719 Speaker 4: Let this person handle Be I E. 228 00:09:48,000 --> 00:09:50,440 Speaker 1: Do their best to prevent Bee from making any scenes, 229 00:09:50,559 --> 00:09:53,440 Speaker 1: escorting her out from the venue immediately if necessary. Be 230 00:09:53,880 --> 00:09:57,800 Speaker 1: very solicious to her to the point of aggravation. You 231 00:09:57,800 --> 00:10:01,640 Speaker 1: shouldn't mingle, you'll wear yourself out. You shouldn't drink doctor's orders. 232 00:10:01,960 --> 00:10:04,120 Speaker 1: Let Be have her dance at the end of the event. 233 00:10:04,360 --> 00:10:06,559 Speaker 1: Let the band slash DJ slash person in charge of 234 00:10:06,600 --> 00:10:08,920 Speaker 1: the music note that Bee's dance is not to happen 235 00:10:09,000 --> 00:10:11,880 Speaker 1: until X time, and what songs should be played. Let 236 00:10:11,880 --> 00:10:13,760 Speaker 1: them know Bee is not to be given the mic 237 00:10:13,880 --> 00:10:17,120 Speaker 1: under any circumstances. I wouldn't be surprised if she says, 238 00:10:17,200 --> 00:10:20,000 Speaker 1: but I'm dying, and your response should be, but you're 239 00:10:20,000 --> 00:10:23,120 Speaker 1: not dead yet. And today is about Andrea, and do 240 00:10:23,240 --> 00:10:25,360 Speaker 1: not allow her to wear white, Do not allow her 241 00:10:25,400 --> 00:10:28,000 Speaker 1: to dim your joy, Do not allow her to dictate 242 00:10:28,200 --> 00:10:31,200 Speaker 1: to you or Andrea. And finally, you may need to 243 00:10:31,240 --> 00:10:33,920 Speaker 1: issue an ultimatum to Be. If she pulls any stunts, 244 00:10:33,960 --> 00:10:37,000 Speaker 1: misbehaves in any ways, tries to see Andrea's moment, you 245 00:10:37,120 --> 00:10:40,400 Speaker 1: will have her escorted off the property immediately and barred 246 00:10:40,440 --> 00:10:44,360 Speaker 1: from reentry, including if she faints during the ceremony or 247 00:10:44,480 --> 00:10:47,840 Speaker 1: any other important moment. What if she faints or logitical 248 00:10:47,880 --> 00:10:50,600 Speaker 1: mitter anyways, if she fains, call an ambulance, slash half 249 00:10:50,600 --> 00:10:52,840 Speaker 1: her handle, or take her to the er and refuse 250 00:10:52,880 --> 00:10:55,600 Speaker 1: to leave until she's seen a doctor. It's too bad, 251 00:10:55,679 --> 00:10:57,720 Speaker 1: but you and your friends and family will have to 252 00:10:57,720 --> 00:11:02,000 Speaker 1: be the bad guys. Move quickly if Be behaves, redirect conversations. 253 00:11:02,160 --> 00:11:04,280 Speaker 1: Be I have less than a year to live. You 254 00:11:04,280 --> 00:11:06,200 Speaker 1: your friends or family would say, you must be so 255 00:11:06,320 --> 00:11:08,320 Speaker 1: thankful to see Andy and I get married today. 256 00:11:08,400 --> 00:11:09,280 Speaker 4: Isn't she gorgeous? 257 00:11:09,400 --> 00:11:11,719 Speaker 1: You, your friends, and your family will have to make 258 00:11:11,800 --> 00:11:15,240 Speaker 1: up to Andrea for her family's disinterests us lack of attention. 259 00:11:15,480 --> 00:11:17,120 Speaker 4: Good luck, op update us. 260 00:11:17,240 --> 00:11:21,199 Speaker 3: They gave us a whole freaking like yeah game plan. 261 00:11:21,360 --> 00:11:24,600 Speaker 1: Yeah, I was a lot. I don't fully agree with 262 00:11:24,800 --> 00:11:25,400 Speaker 1: all of them. 263 00:11:26,640 --> 00:11:30,440 Speaker 3: Come to mean, Yeah, I don't know if I honestly 264 00:11:30,480 --> 00:11:34,400 Speaker 3: think it's like intensely mean. I think it's harsh, but 265 00:11:34,480 --> 00:11:36,439 Speaker 3: I think I was just trying to give ape this 266 00:11:36,800 --> 00:11:37,800 Speaker 3: full game plan, and. 267 00:11:37,920 --> 00:11:39,559 Speaker 4: I yeah, I see the sentiment. 268 00:11:39,600 --> 00:11:42,240 Speaker 1: I think it could be good to have someone be like, hey, 269 00:11:42,280 --> 00:11:43,800 Speaker 1: could you just like, you know, kind of keep an 270 00:11:43,840 --> 00:11:46,480 Speaker 1: eye and see if she does anything. I think it 271 00:11:46,480 --> 00:11:48,880 Speaker 1: would be more like if she starts doing something than 272 00:11:48,960 --> 00:11:51,240 Speaker 1: like taking her outside to being like, hey, like, you're 273 00:11:51,240 --> 00:11:52,480 Speaker 1: doing way too much right now. 274 00:11:52,559 --> 00:11:53,480 Speaker 4: This is yeah. 275 00:11:53,760 --> 00:11:56,120 Speaker 3: No, I think I think it's signing someone to her 276 00:11:56,240 --> 00:11:56,920 Speaker 3: to help. 277 00:11:56,840 --> 00:11:59,360 Speaker 1: Just to see, but a help her like medically, and 278 00:11:59,440 --> 00:12:01,640 Speaker 1: ye be like keep an eye just to make sure 279 00:12:01,679 --> 00:12:01,960 Speaker 1: she doesn't. 280 00:12:02,160 --> 00:12:03,679 Speaker 3: I think that is a good idea. Yeah, I think 281 00:12:03,679 --> 00:12:05,880 Speaker 3: this is a pretty intense comment, but I think there 282 00:12:05,880 --> 00:12:07,559 Speaker 3: are things to take away from it. 283 00:12:07,880 --> 00:12:10,640 Speaker 4: The direction of the structure, trying to be created here. 284 00:12:10,800 --> 00:12:12,720 Speaker 4: I think is good. Is good. 285 00:12:12,760 --> 00:12:15,240 Speaker 1: I think most of everything in here is I generally 286 00:12:15,360 --> 00:12:18,200 Speaker 1: agree with what's being said, or some of it is 287 00:12:18,240 --> 00:12:20,640 Speaker 1: like a little little too, Like the fainting bar. 288 00:12:20,800 --> 00:12:23,760 Speaker 4: I'm like, just if she faints, then speaker symdical attention. 289 00:12:24,000 --> 00:12:24,480 Speaker 4: If it, then you. 290 00:12:24,760 --> 00:12:27,920 Speaker 3: Were saying that to have someone there to like take 291 00:12:27,960 --> 00:12:28,920 Speaker 3: her to the r. 292 00:12:28,960 --> 00:12:29,720 Speaker 4: Yeah, to the er. 293 00:12:29,840 --> 00:12:32,920 Speaker 1: Like the first round was reading it, it sounded like 294 00:12:33,000 --> 00:12:36,480 Speaker 1: they were assuming, yeah, if she faints, yeah, Jane Digital. 295 00:12:36,880 --> 00:12:39,280 Speaker 1: If she faints, kick her out. It's like, okay, like 296 00:12:39,360 --> 00:12:41,720 Speaker 1: just treat her medically. And then if it becomes obvious 297 00:12:41,760 --> 00:12:43,920 Speaker 1: that she's like yeah, baking it and doing it for attention, 298 00:12:43,960 --> 00:12:45,959 Speaker 1: to take her outside and say, hey, you can't do that, 299 00:12:46,040 --> 00:12:49,080 Speaker 1: like I don't know anyway, Wife lost says, I will 300 00:12:49,120 --> 00:12:53,360 Speaker 1: totally come do this. I will be the dying sister distractor. Wow, 301 00:12:54,080 --> 00:12:56,880 Speaker 1: we have a random internet stranger just coming coming to 302 00:12:56,920 --> 00:12:59,160 Speaker 1: rescue here. You don't even have to pay me, And 303 00:12:59,280 --> 00:13:01,920 Speaker 1: I'm a nobu who you won't be sad is missing 304 00:13:01,920 --> 00:13:05,280 Speaker 1: your day. I am happy to be a bee, a bish, 305 00:13:05,320 --> 00:13:08,400 Speaker 1: but a nice one. It's basically my superpower. 306 00:13:08,480 --> 00:13:09,319 Speaker 4: Wow. Well there you go. 307 00:13:09,600 --> 00:13:11,080 Speaker 3: Okay, Well you know who to call. 308 00:13:11,360 --> 00:13:13,400 Speaker 2: There you go, Yeah, you have your person. 309 00:13:13,600 --> 00:13:16,680 Speaker 1: Missy von Muffling says, if true and she was given 310 00:13:16,679 --> 00:13:18,959 Speaker 1: a year to live, she could give her sister that 311 00:13:19,040 --> 00:13:21,560 Speaker 1: one effing day and stay quiet. Yeah, this is I 312 00:13:21,559 --> 00:13:23,679 Speaker 1: think like you can like, hey, this person can have 313 00:13:23,720 --> 00:13:27,040 Speaker 1: one day. I could empathize with her being like, oh man, like, 314 00:13:27,240 --> 00:13:28,920 Speaker 1: especially if she can't make it, like you're gonna be 315 00:13:28,920 --> 00:13:31,920 Speaker 1: all celebrating and like that's a tough thing to swallow. 316 00:13:32,080 --> 00:13:34,440 Speaker 1: But at the same time, you gotta give them one day, 317 00:13:34,679 --> 00:13:38,200 Speaker 1: one day, especially if they're like they've been playing, constantly 318 00:13:38,600 --> 00:13:42,080 Speaker 1: planning and constantly being Yeah, you know, she makes it 319 00:13:42,120 --> 00:13:45,200 Speaker 1: about herself, her miss dance, her missed whatever, and ruins 320 00:13:45,200 --> 00:13:47,800 Speaker 1: a day for you guys. That way, assuming she's telling 321 00:13:47,840 --> 00:13:50,199 Speaker 1: the truth, I get weird vibes. If I were you, 322 00:13:50,400 --> 00:13:52,920 Speaker 1: I'd go to the courthouse, slash e lope without telling 323 00:13:52,920 --> 00:13:56,760 Speaker 1: anyone and cancel the celebration and have one way later. 324 00:13:57,040 --> 00:13:59,000 Speaker 2: But they want to like I think they want been 325 00:13:59,080 --> 00:14:00,640 Speaker 2: saving up for the spree two years. 326 00:14:00,800 --> 00:14:04,040 Speaker 3: No, wait, that comment's bad. That comment is exactly the 327 00:14:04,040 --> 00:14:06,920 Speaker 3: opposite of what they want. Yeah, like literally, the point 328 00:14:07,000 --> 00:14:10,439 Speaker 3: is we want to have a celebration, and she's making that. 329 00:14:10,400 --> 00:14:12,240 Speaker 4: Harder and do one way later. 330 00:14:12,520 --> 00:14:14,840 Speaker 1: They've waited two years for the family, yeah, to be 331 00:14:14,840 --> 00:14:16,520 Speaker 1: able to afford it, So I don't think that they. 332 00:14:16,480 --> 00:14:18,800 Speaker 3: Necessarily want her to not be at the wedding. Yeah, 333 00:14:18,880 --> 00:14:19,720 Speaker 3: you want her there? 334 00:14:20,080 --> 00:14:21,440 Speaker 4: Yes, yes, I mean yeah. 335 00:14:21,440 --> 00:14:23,880 Speaker 3: If you know, if my sibling was, you know, gonna 336 00:14:23,920 --> 00:14:26,280 Speaker 3: pass away soon, I would want them at the wedding. 337 00:14:26,400 --> 00:14:29,360 Speaker 1: It was just a question of can they hold the wedding, yeah, 338 00:14:29,360 --> 00:14:30,960 Speaker 1: you know, or is that is it too much for them? 339 00:14:31,040 --> 00:14:33,840 Speaker 1: You can have the wedding, and it's unclear whether or 340 00:14:33,880 --> 00:14:36,080 Speaker 1: not she can make it or not. We don't know yet. 341 00:14:36,160 --> 00:14:39,480 Speaker 1: Opie said, we considered this. My partner had a breakdown 342 00:14:39,520 --> 00:14:41,360 Speaker 1: over it and said she wanted to do this. I 343 00:14:41,400 --> 00:14:43,320 Speaker 1: asked her if she was sure. We had a conversation, 344 00:14:43,480 --> 00:14:46,440 Speaker 1: she changed her mind. We've done too much, prepped too much, 345 00:14:46,600 --> 00:14:49,880 Speaker 1: gotten too excited for the whole time together to just 346 00:14:50,000 --> 00:14:52,720 Speaker 1: pull the plug. Mundane Bike says, get married at a 347 00:14:52,760 --> 00:14:55,600 Speaker 1: courthouse quietly, then do the wedding as planned. No one 348 00:14:55,680 --> 00:14:58,280 Speaker 1: needs to know except you and your wife. But the 349 00:14:59,240 --> 00:15:01,240 Speaker 1: thing is a wedding celebration. 350 00:15:01,560 --> 00:15:02,360 Speaker 4: Yeah, like that. 351 00:15:02,280 --> 00:15:04,040 Speaker 3: Doesn't I don't understand these comments. 352 00:15:04,080 --> 00:15:06,680 Speaker 1: That was just I feel like that's again just like 353 00:15:06,840 --> 00:15:10,320 Speaker 1: further away from what Opie wants. And the judgment on 354 00:15:10,440 --> 00:15:12,720 Speaker 1: the story was not the ad. 355 00:15:13,240 --> 00:15:14,400 Speaker 4: But we have an. 356 00:15:14,360 --> 00:15:16,440 Speaker 2: Update sixteen days later. 357 00:15:16,560 --> 00:15:19,560 Speaker 1: WHOA Okay, people have been asking for updates about my 358 00:15:19,600 --> 00:15:20,760 Speaker 1: post a couple of weeks ago. 359 00:15:20,840 --> 00:15:23,520 Speaker 4: The lead up to the wedding was a bit nightmarish. 360 00:15:27,800 --> 00:15:30,160 Speaker 1: Sister in law tried to tell someone they couldn't come 361 00:15:30,200 --> 00:15:32,720 Speaker 1: to the wedding because of something they said. They told 362 00:15:32,760 --> 00:15:35,560 Speaker 1: sister in law she could only afford a really nice 363 00:15:35,640 --> 00:15:38,480 Speaker 1: new car because she and her partner are staying with 364 00:15:38,600 --> 00:15:41,040 Speaker 1: her dad and he's paying all her medical ban. 365 00:15:41,000 --> 00:15:43,360 Speaker 3: That's got messed up, though, that is very messed up. 366 00:15:43,760 --> 00:15:45,240 Speaker 3: She said, why would that person say that. 367 00:15:45,320 --> 00:15:48,280 Speaker 1: We curbed that by changing our seating plan last minute 368 00:15:48,360 --> 00:15:51,000 Speaker 1: asking the person to come, and he still came, thankfully. 369 00:15:51,000 --> 00:15:52,520 Speaker 3: But that's but that was rude. 370 00:15:52,600 --> 00:15:56,240 Speaker 1: Yeah, that, honestly, that I think is worth a wedding invite, 371 00:15:56,240 --> 00:15:59,120 Speaker 1: because that is rude to your sister who is dealing 372 00:15:59,160 --> 00:16:01,280 Speaker 1: with cancer and faith death imminent. 373 00:16:01,520 --> 00:16:03,720 Speaker 3: Probably like hey, I got this new car and they're like, yeah, 374 00:16:03,720 --> 00:16:06,240 Speaker 3: well you only got that because your dad's paying for 375 00:16:06,320 --> 00:16:07,920 Speaker 3: all of your medical bills. 376 00:16:07,600 --> 00:16:10,480 Speaker 1: And it's like, well, gee, I'm dying, so my family 377 00:16:10,520 --> 00:16:11,840 Speaker 1: is trying to care for me and I'm trying to 378 00:16:11,840 --> 00:16:12,680 Speaker 1: have something nice. 379 00:16:12,720 --> 00:16:15,400 Speaker 3: Oh my bad, I should be under crippling medical debt. 380 00:16:15,440 --> 00:16:17,560 Speaker 1: You're right, yeah, yeah, hold on, let me hey, let 381 00:16:17,640 --> 00:16:20,160 Speaker 1: me actually not enjoy my life and get nice things me. 382 00:16:20,240 --> 00:16:22,640 Speaker 3: Let me just die sad for the rest of the year. 383 00:16:22,720 --> 00:16:23,600 Speaker 4: Wait for you. 384 00:16:23,680 --> 00:16:25,640 Speaker 2: So a family member said that to the cistern in 385 00:16:25,680 --> 00:16:26,960 Speaker 2: law somebody or. 386 00:16:26,920 --> 00:16:29,200 Speaker 4: A friend, yeah, a friend. Yeah. 387 00:16:29,360 --> 00:16:33,240 Speaker 5: I have a conspiracy theory that this person has had 388 00:16:33,280 --> 00:16:36,240 Speaker 5: something similar happen to them that's happening in OPI, and 389 00:16:36,280 --> 00:16:38,160 Speaker 5: that they got so fed up they just said it. 390 00:16:38,240 --> 00:16:40,600 Speaker 1: Oh you're saying that they've been in a similar situation 391 00:16:40,720 --> 00:16:42,600 Speaker 1: is op where it's like someone who was trying to 392 00:16:42,640 --> 00:16:43,480 Speaker 1: like pay cancel the. 393 00:16:43,400 --> 00:16:45,760 Speaker 4: Wedding for me, yeah, or with that person. 394 00:16:45,840 --> 00:16:48,480 Speaker 5: Yeah, Like this family member got like attention taken away 395 00:16:48,480 --> 00:16:51,680 Speaker 5: from them because of the cistern laws situation, and then 396 00:16:51,720 --> 00:16:52,480 Speaker 5: he got so fed up. 397 00:16:52,520 --> 00:16:55,040 Speaker 2: He's like, well, your dad's paying your medical beer bills. 398 00:16:55,320 --> 00:16:58,120 Speaker 3: Maybe, Devil's advocate says, but why did she say that 399 00:16:58,200 --> 00:17:00,600 Speaker 3: they were uninvited to begin with. That's not her decision. 400 00:17:00,680 --> 00:17:02,920 Speaker 3: Which is true. I think that's I think I was 401 00:17:02,960 --> 00:17:05,040 Speaker 3: just more focused on the comment, oh yeah, that's a 402 00:17:05,080 --> 00:17:05,760 Speaker 3: rude comment. 403 00:17:05,720 --> 00:17:08,160 Speaker 1: Like like the fact that like so far we haven't 404 00:17:08,160 --> 00:17:11,360 Speaker 1: gotten any defense of decisions. Like I do think two 405 00:17:11,359 --> 00:17:13,439 Speaker 1: things can be true at once. I don't think that 406 00:17:13,480 --> 00:17:15,600 Speaker 1: the you know, sister law is entitled to be able 407 00:17:15,640 --> 00:17:17,600 Speaker 1: to do whatever she wants with the wedding. But also 408 00:17:17,640 --> 00:17:22,480 Speaker 1: I think that like they should like yea, yeah, don't be. 409 00:17:22,480 --> 00:17:24,679 Speaker 3: Like still coming. 410 00:17:24,920 --> 00:17:25,360 Speaker 4: Yeah. 411 00:17:25,560 --> 00:17:28,399 Speaker 1: It felt like they were just Belle Conkling says, is 412 00:17:28,440 --> 00:17:32,000 Speaker 1: it really an expense if they're just gonna sell the cards? 413 00:17:32,080 --> 00:17:35,960 Speaker 2: Jesus Bell Bell, Jesus Christ. 414 00:17:35,920 --> 00:17:38,040 Speaker 3: Bell, Conkling, You're not allowed to talk to this sister. 415 00:17:38,480 --> 00:17:41,840 Speaker 2: You're a savage god, not in a good way. 416 00:17:42,000 --> 00:17:44,479 Speaker 1: So then the plan was to go up to the 417 00:17:44,520 --> 00:17:46,560 Speaker 1: town the wedding was in for a few days for 418 00:17:46,640 --> 00:17:49,000 Speaker 1: my wife to spend time with her family. We paid 419 00:17:49,040 --> 00:17:51,879 Speaker 1: for her little brother and little cousin's accommodation because they 420 00:17:51,880 --> 00:17:55,159 Speaker 1: couldn't afford it. Week of wedding, sister in law convinces 421 00:17:55,200 --> 00:17:57,840 Speaker 1: both little brother and cousin to only travel up for 422 00:17:58,000 --> 00:18:00,760 Speaker 1: the wedding, not to stay with family. Bistern Law wasn't 423 00:18:00,800 --> 00:18:04,199 Speaker 1: traveling up because of some vague and changing reason. Okay, 424 00:18:04,320 --> 00:18:07,359 Speaker 1: so now we finally got cleared. Yeah, they did want 425 00:18:07,359 --> 00:18:09,800 Speaker 1: the sister in law to come, but sister in law 426 00:18:09,880 --> 00:18:13,720 Speaker 1: was like, no, I'm not coming for a undisclosed a 427 00:18:13,800 --> 00:18:17,840 Speaker 1: mystery reason. A mystery so Opie says. There was a 428 00:18:17,840 --> 00:18:20,399 Speaker 1: fight on the family side. It supposedly got resolved, and 429 00:18:20,480 --> 00:18:22,600 Speaker 1: sister in law got given the hard word, like she 430 00:18:22,680 --> 00:18:25,840 Speaker 1: got like a like talking to, reprimanding. I'm guessing that's 431 00:18:25,840 --> 00:18:28,359 Speaker 1: like reprimanded, like kind of how do is stern talking to? 432 00:18:28,480 --> 00:18:31,400 Speaker 1: But then little cousin didn't come up with the family 433 00:18:31,480 --> 00:18:33,680 Speaker 1: and stayed home with sister in law. 434 00:18:33,760 --> 00:18:36,800 Speaker 3: Is his sister in law's child or a separate. 435 00:18:36,520 --> 00:18:37,959 Speaker 2: I'm gonna assume child. 436 00:18:38,040 --> 00:18:45,000 Speaker 3: Wait little cousin, Yeah, that would be then eastern nephew. 437 00:18:45,080 --> 00:18:48,080 Speaker 1: So that's not sistern law's kid. Yeah yeah, yeah, I 438 00:18:48,080 --> 00:18:48,520 Speaker 1: don't know. 439 00:18:48,680 --> 00:18:49,440 Speaker 4: Some little cousin. 440 00:18:49,600 --> 00:18:51,919 Speaker 1: So I told my partner to directly pass this on 441 00:18:51,960 --> 00:18:55,320 Speaker 1: to sistern law. I was in a different accommodation for 442 00:18:55,480 --> 00:18:58,040 Speaker 1: the lead up. If there was a medical event, I'll 443 00:18:58,080 --> 00:19:01,480 Speaker 1: call and cover the cost for an ambulance. Smallest take up. Okay, Okay, 444 00:19:01,520 --> 00:19:03,359 Speaker 1: so now they're trying to resolve, like, Hey, if you're 445 00:19:03,400 --> 00:19:05,600 Speaker 1: worried about health reasons, yeah, I want you to be here, 446 00:19:05,640 --> 00:19:08,360 Speaker 1: which is great, and I think shows again like, hey, 447 00:19:08,400 --> 00:19:10,040 Speaker 1: we're still in it, We're still here to help you. 448 00:19:10,080 --> 00:19:11,560 Speaker 4: We just wanted to that though. 449 00:19:11,720 --> 00:19:12,920 Speaker 3: No, I think that's this is good. 450 00:19:13,080 --> 00:19:16,000 Speaker 1: If she plays up, her husband will take her home 451 00:19:16,080 --> 00:19:19,359 Speaker 1: immediately and without argument, or myself and the other two 452 00:19:20,000 --> 00:19:22,480 Speaker 1: X bouncer Grumman will kick them out. 453 00:19:22,920 --> 00:19:25,439 Speaker 3: Okay, So if she acts so, if she's yeah, if 454 00:19:25,480 --> 00:19:27,320 Speaker 3: she's like, which I. 455 00:19:27,200 --> 00:19:30,560 Speaker 2: Think is like, it's it's both ends where it's like, hey, I. 456 00:19:30,280 --> 00:19:34,240 Speaker 1: Will literally make sure you are totally, like medically prepared 457 00:19:34,280 --> 00:19:37,439 Speaker 1: for anything that happens. But also if you act up 458 00:19:37,480 --> 00:19:39,600 Speaker 1: and start trying to ruin the wedding, I'm gonna. 459 00:19:39,320 --> 00:19:40,480 Speaker 4: Have you escort it out. 460 00:19:40,600 --> 00:19:41,359 Speaker 3: I think that's fair. 461 00:19:41,480 --> 00:19:42,400 Speaker 4: I think this is fair. 462 00:19:42,480 --> 00:19:44,760 Speaker 3: It's giving it's not doing it in the moment without 463 00:19:44,760 --> 00:19:46,640 Speaker 3: any warning. It's giving you ample. 464 00:19:46,359 --> 00:19:47,720 Speaker 4: Time totally communicating it. 465 00:19:47,840 --> 00:19:48,000 Speaker 3: Yeah. 466 00:19:48,080 --> 00:19:49,760 Speaker 4: Yeah, I like I like it. I like it. We 467 00:19:49,880 --> 00:19:50,639 Speaker 4: got a. 468 00:19:50,400 --> 00:19:53,240 Speaker 2: Slight conspiracy theory in the chat. 469 00:19:53,040 --> 00:19:54,359 Speaker 3: The Tuba's conspiracy. 470 00:19:54,520 --> 00:19:58,240 Speaker 5: Yeah, she says, I don't think she got a second diagnosis. 471 00:19:58,040 --> 00:19:58,919 Speaker 4: That would be crazy. 472 00:19:59,000 --> 00:20:00,240 Speaker 3: That would be crazy. That would be it'd be a 473 00:20:00,240 --> 00:20:01,320 Speaker 3: big old plot twist. 474 00:20:01,520 --> 00:20:03,760 Speaker 1: If her family doesn't want this to happen, then they 475 00:20:03,800 --> 00:20:07,000 Speaker 1: will get this sorted before I do. Because they've disappointed 476 00:20:07,080 --> 00:20:10,560 Speaker 1: me with their soft approach, and now they've all been warned. 477 00:20:10,600 --> 00:20:12,120 Speaker 1: So it seems like, oh, he's kind of like laying 478 00:20:12,119 --> 00:20:12,520 Speaker 1: down the law. 479 00:20:12,520 --> 00:20:13,280 Speaker 4: Here's what we're gonna do. 480 00:20:13,600 --> 00:20:17,320 Speaker 1: Edit the dance happened. Oh wait, so we're today. Wait wait, 481 00:20:17,359 --> 00:20:19,639 Speaker 1: hold on, okay, I think the wedding is now. We 482 00:20:19,680 --> 00:20:22,439 Speaker 1: went from lead up to the wedding has happened with 483 00:20:22,760 --> 00:20:26,760 Speaker 1: just edit here. We got it very, very unceremoniously for 484 00:20:26,800 --> 00:20:27,800 Speaker 1: a big ceremony. 485 00:20:28,000 --> 00:20:28,840 Speaker 3: Edit wedding heavened. 486 00:20:29,160 --> 00:20:32,080 Speaker 1: Edit the dance happened, but on our terms, it was 487 00:20:32,119 --> 00:20:34,679 Speaker 1: when the dance floor opened to everyone, and it was 488 00:20:34,680 --> 00:20:37,600 Speaker 1: a happy song and the day went off without a hitch. 489 00:20:37,680 --> 00:20:40,720 Speaker 1: It was beautiful, perfect, happy, funny and everything we wanted 490 00:20:40,760 --> 00:20:44,119 Speaker 1: it to be. No drama, no major issues, and my 491 00:20:44,280 --> 00:20:48,400 Speaker 1: new wife loved every moment. She was spoiled and made 492 00:20:48,440 --> 00:20:50,919 Speaker 1: to feel special. Thank you for all your suggestions and 493 00:20:51,080 --> 00:20:53,720 Speaker 1: kind words. We assigned mother in law to sister in. 494 00:20:53,760 --> 00:20:54,520 Speaker 4: Law for the day. 495 00:20:54,640 --> 00:20:57,560 Speaker 1: Good idea There was almost a hiccup when sister in 496 00:20:57,640 --> 00:21:01,480 Speaker 1: law's uncle reversed her brand new car into my ring 497 00:21:01,560 --> 00:21:04,760 Speaker 1: bearers car and sister in law started firing up, But 498 00:21:04,800 --> 00:21:07,880 Speaker 1: it was curved a beautiful day because of you guys support, 499 00:21:08,040 --> 00:21:10,280 Speaker 1: so truly thank you and. 500 00:21:10,400 --> 00:21:12,920 Speaker 3: Uh okay, that's kind of annoying though. 501 00:21:12,840 --> 00:21:15,320 Speaker 1: Yeah that does that does suck, But we will because 502 00:21:15,320 --> 00:21:17,000 Speaker 1: it's a nice new car and she got it. 503 00:21:17,160 --> 00:21:19,000 Speaker 4: She's sick, and I don't. 504 00:21:18,840 --> 00:21:21,800 Speaker 5: Think these they're just like congrats, I'm happy you had 505 00:21:21,800 --> 00:21:22,320 Speaker 5: a good day. 506 00:21:22,520 --> 00:21:25,119 Speaker 4: Not there to go, no juice, guys, that's that is 507 00:21:25,160 --> 00:21:27,160 Speaker 4: the end of the story. All in all. 508 00:21:27,920 --> 00:21:30,560 Speaker 1: We talked about op maybe saying some a holy stuff 509 00:21:30,560 --> 00:21:32,679 Speaker 1: at the very beginning of a story. Yeah, to close 510 00:21:32,720 --> 00:21:35,720 Speaker 1: it out. Do we think how Opie approached this wedding 511 00:21:36,080 --> 00:21:37,720 Speaker 1: was a whole move or good move. 512 00:21:37,920 --> 00:21:39,359 Speaker 3: I think I think in the end it was a 513 00:21:39,400 --> 00:21:41,679 Speaker 3: good move. I think op made I don't think there 514 00:21:41,720 --> 00:21:44,440 Speaker 3: was necessarily an a hole in this story. I think 515 00:21:44,640 --> 00:21:49,479 Speaker 3: b maybe was playing up a lot, but barely. I mean, 516 00:21:49,600 --> 00:21:53,720 Speaker 3: you know, really hard time. Yes, so I think we 517 00:21:53,800 --> 00:21:55,800 Speaker 3: have to give her a little bit of credit. 518 00:21:55,920 --> 00:21:57,840 Speaker 1: Yeah, this isn't like one of those stories where it's 519 00:21:57,840 --> 00:22:01,520 Speaker 1: just like the randomly entitled sister and parents or whatever, like, Yeah, 520 00:22:01,600 --> 00:22:03,560 Speaker 1: I think Be is really going through something in the 521 00:22:03,560 --> 00:22:06,239 Speaker 1: fact that nothing really happened on the day other than 522 00:22:06,280 --> 00:22:09,520 Speaker 1: her getting upset because her car got hit, which again fail. 523 00:22:09,359 --> 00:22:12,959 Speaker 3: Like the two things that happened to be We're fair, 524 00:22:13,119 --> 00:22:16,080 Speaker 3: They're like, there is a a very reasonable thing to 525 00:22:16,160 --> 00:22:18,800 Speaker 3: back up why one would be annoyed about that? 526 00:22:19,040 --> 00:22:21,320 Speaker 4: Yeah, so I don't you know? 527 00:22:21,720 --> 00:22:25,360 Speaker 1: Again, I think there's definitely some some some grace that 528 00:22:25,400 --> 00:22:27,920 Speaker 1: we should give Be considering all the stuff that. 529 00:22:27,880 --> 00:22:32,440 Speaker 5: She's time out, time out, time Oh all right, we 530 00:22:32,800 --> 00:22:36,159 Speaker 5: really have to read comment were we are getting the 531 00:22:36,240 --> 00:22:37,560 Speaker 5: juiciest comments today? 532 00:22:37,720 --> 00:22:40,800 Speaker 1: Commenter, I just wanted all sides of the situation. I 533 00:22:40,960 --> 00:22:43,119 Speaker 1: just wanted to add, she is dying. 534 00:22:43,320 --> 00:22:44,040 Speaker 4: She is dying. 535 00:22:44,240 --> 00:22:46,359 Speaker 1: How great would your own social skills be if you 536 00:22:46,400 --> 00:22:48,800 Speaker 1: were told you had twelve months left on the planet. 537 00:22:48,880 --> 00:22:51,240 Speaker 1: She is terrified. I would be terrified. She will not 538 00:22:51,359 --> 00:22:54,240 Speaker 1: handle things well, and she will probably ruin more family 539 00:22:54,280 --> 00:22:58,200 Speaker 1: events because she's literally facing our human collective's greatest fear. 540 00:22:58,359 --> 00:23:01,040 Speaker 1: But how you guys handle her in her last year 541 00:23:01,359 --> 00:23:04,080 Speaker 1: will stay with you until it's your own time. Be 542 00:23:04,160 --> 00:23:06,480 Speaker 1: mindful of that I guess is what I'm trying to convey. 543 00:23:06,640 --> 00:23:09,199 Speaker 1: She just wants to be seen, heard and loved and 544 00:23:09,280 --> 00:23:13,399 Speaker 1: told she will be remembered. Grace will help everyone involved here, 545 00:23:13,440 --> 00:23:16,960 Speaker 1: which literally we said we should give her some grace 546 00:23:17,119 --> 00:23:20,240 Speaker 1: in this, just before this, and then OPI responds, those 547 00:23:20,240 --> 00:23:23,200 Speaker 1: things have been constantly affirmed to her to be fair. 548 00:23:23,320 --> 00:23:25,840 Speaker 1: Now it's at the point where she's borderline abusive, and 549 00:23:25,920 --> 00:23:28,359 Speaker 1: I just swore to God in front of all our 550 00:23:28,400 --> 00:23:31,000 Speaker 1: beloved ones that I will protect my wife and that 551 00:23:31,040 --> 00:23:33,960 Speaker 1: includes from her sister. Yesterday, she asked us to pick 552 00:23:34,040 --> 00:23:36,360 Speaker 1: up her son from daycare for her today, but we 553 00:23:36,359 --> 00:23:38,680 Speaker 1: were busy, those plants were no more, so we offered 554 00:23:38,680 --> 00:23:40,800 Speaker 1: to pick him up, and she absolutely flew off the 555 00:23:40,880 --> 00:23:43,800 Speaker 1: rails at my wife, saying, it's a privilege to babysit him, 556 00:23:43,880 --> 00:23:45,240 Speaker 1: my nephew in the first place. 557 00:23:45,400 --> 00:23:46,199 Speaker 4: It's messed up. 558 00:23:46,400 --> 00:23:49,520 Speaker 1: Yeah, I mean she's going through it like she is. 559 00:23:49,800 --> 00:23:51,520 Speaker 4: I think she's going through it and. 560 00:23:51,800 --> 00:23:53,960 Speaker 3: Doesn't Yeah, it doesn't mean that she's not being like 561 00:23:54,000 --> 00:23:54,560 Speaker 3: an a hole. 562 00:23:54,920 --> 00:23:58,720 Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, But like there is some context and there 563 00:23:58,800 --> 00:23:59,320 Speaker 1: is content. 564 00:23:59,359 --> 00:24:00,679 Speaker 4: That is a big. 565 00:24:00,440 --> 00:24:05,440 Speaker 1: Thing to consider and understand when looking at and thinking 566 00:24:05,520 --> 00:24:07,200 Speaker 1: through these situations. 567 00:24:07,280 --> 00:24:09,479 Speaker 4: Yeah, I think another thing. 568 00:24:09,520 --> 00:24:12,320 Speaker 5: In the comments, we have confirmation of the diagnosis, but 569 00:24:12,359 --> 00:24:15,720 Speaker 5: not the severity. She did get diagnosed. Some people think 570 00:24:15,760 --> 00:24:18,520 Speaker 5: that she didn't she just did it all. Yes, there 571 00:24:18,520 --> 00:24:18,840 Speaker 5: you go. 572 00:24:19,680 --> 00:24:21,479 Speaker 4: That is the end of the story. 573 00:24:21,640 --> 00:24:23,679 Speaker 3: If you love us, make sure to subscribe. 574 00:24:23,760 --> 00:24:26,160 Speaker 2: We love you and see you tomorrow.