1 00:00:01,040 --> 00:00:03,760 Speaker 1: Time now for today's Strawberry Letter. And if you need 2 00:00:03,800 --> 00:00:07,960 Speaker 1: advice and relationships, dating, work, sex, parenting, and more. Please 3 00:00:07,960 --> 00:00:11,879 Speaker 1: submit your Strawberry Letter to Steve HARVEYFM dot com and 4 00:00:12,039 --> 00:00:15,280 Speaker 1: click submit Strawberry Letter. We could be reading your letter 5 00:00:15,840 --> 00:00:17,919 Speaker 1: live on the air, just like we're going to read 6 00:00:17,960 --> 00:00:21,239 Speaker 1: this one right here, right now. Buckle up and hold 7 00:00:21,239 --> 00:00:23,119 Speaker 1: on tight. We got it for you here. It is 8 00:00:23,120 --> 00:00:26,759 Speaker 1: a Strawberry Letter. Thank you, nephew. Subject My best friend 9 00:00:27,040 --> 00:00:31,560 Speaker 1: is a proud homewrecker. Dear Stephen Shirley, My very best 10 00:00:31,600 --> 00:00:34,879 Speaker 1: friend is a garden tool and a proud home wrecker. 11 00:00:35,440 --> 00:00:39,120 Speaker 1: She intentionally ruined a marriage because she got jealous when 12 00:00:39,120 --> 00:00:42,159 Speaker 1: her son's father moved on and fell in love with 13 00:00:42,200 --> 00:00:46,080 Speaker 1: another woman. I'm disgusted because she is so proud that 14 00:00:46,159 --> 00:00:50,000 Speaker 1: she's meddling in their marriage. This man had been married 15 00:00:50,040 --> 00:00:53,400 Speaker 1: for over fourteen years, and in that fourteen years, she 16 00:00:53,720 --> 00:00:57,680 Speaker 1: has had sex with him on numerous occasions, and she 17 00:00:57,960 --> 00:01:00,840 Speaker 1: even moved to Dallas from Atlanta to be with him 18 00:01:01,080 --> 00:01:04,800 Speaker 1: in twenty seventeen. She thought all along that he was 19 00:01:04,840 --> 00:01:07,520 Speaker 1: going to leave his wife for her. She has gotten 20 00:01:07,560 --> 00:01:12,120 Speaker 1: pregnant twice and lost babies to miscarriages. The guy knows 21 00:01:12,160 --> 00:01:15,280 Speaker 1: what he's doing is wrong, and he tells my homewrecking 22 00:01:15,360 --> 00:01:18,600 Speaker 1: friend that he can't leave his wife because of their children, 23 00:01:18,840 --> 00:01:22,279 Speaker 1: but he's neglecting his own son. He has with my friend. 24 00:01:22,640 --> 00:01:25,520 Speaker 1: They meet up for sex capades, and his son is 25 00:01:25,640 --> 00:01:29,000 Speaker 1: rarely around when he comes over. I was in Dallas 26 00:01:29,080 --> 00:01:31,959 Speaker 1: visiting my friend for her birthday and I ran into 27 00:01:32,040 --> 00:01:35,160 Speaker 1: her guy and his wife at a restaurant. He seemed 28 00:01:35,200 --> 00:01:37,520 Speaker 1: to be very much in love with his wife. He 29 00:01:37,640 --> 00:01:40,200 Speaker 1: was surprised to see me, but introduced me to his 30 00:01:40,280 --> 00:01:42,720 Speaker 1: wife and send a drink to me. I am mad 31 00:01:42,760 --> 00:01:45,920 Speaker 1: at my friend for being so low down, and I'm 32 00:01:45,959 --> 00:01:48,800 Speaker 1: also disgusted at him for his part in all of this. 33 00:01:49,160 --> 00:01:52,280 Speaker 1: My husband says I'm too concerned and I should let 34 00:01:52,320 --> 00:01:55,360 Speaker 1: it go. But as a wife and mother, I don't 35 00:01:55,400 --> 00:01:58,160 Speaker 1: like to see an innocent woman being betrayed like this. 36 00:01:58,320 --> 00:02:01,200 Speaker 1: Because my friend is not only having sex with this man, 37 00:02:01,600 --> 00:02:04,320 Speaker 1: she has other men that she is involved with, and 38 00:02:04,400 --> 00:02:08,680 Speaker 1: she's admitted to having unprotected sex with a few of them. 39 00:02:09,040 --> 00:02:11,200 Speaker 1: I feel like the wife should know what's going on, 40 00:02:11,360 --> 00:02:14,440 Speaker 1: and I want to tell her anonymously. What do you 41 00:02:14,520 --> 00:02:18,880 Speaker 1: think about all of this? First of all, you gotta 42 00:02:18,919 --> 00:02:21,760 Speaker 1: listen to your husband. You gotta stay out of this. 43 00:02:21,760 --> 00:02:23,800 Speaker 1: This is their mess. You gotta stay out of it. 44 00:02:23,840 --> 00:02:28,200 Speaker 1: You're way too into their business. His wife obviously doesn't 45 00:02:28,240 --> 00:02:31,040 Speaker 1: know about their affair or that there's a son involved, 46 00:02:31,560 --> 00:02:36,160 Speaker 1: and it is just not your job to tell her that, Yes, 47 00:02:36,240 --> 00:02:39,519 Speaker 1: your friend is wrong, Yes her married baby daddy is 48 00:02:39,560 --> 00:02:44,839 Speaker 1: a cheating, deadbeat dad. But these are grown people who 49 00:02:44,919 --> 00:02:49,000 Speaker 1: know full well what they're doing. The question is, I 50 00:02:49,040 --> 00:02:51,880 Speaker 1: can't figure out why you're still friends with her. I mean, 51 00:02:52,360 --> 00:02:55,840 Speaker 1: you said in the letter, major character flaws going on here. 52 00:02:55,919 --> 00:02:59,160 Speaker 1: She's morally bankrupt doing it with him. A lot of 53 00:02:59,200 --> 00:03:05,560 Speaker 1: other guys protection trying to ruin this marriage, proud of it. You, 54 00:03:05,639 --> 00:03:08,200 Speaker 1: on the other hand, seem to have a conscience and 55 00:03:08,320 --> 00:03:11,280 Speaker 1: you don't approve of any of this, and you and 56 00:03:11,400 --> 00:03:14,280 Speaker 1: this woman have nothing in common, but yet she's your 57 00:03:14,320 --> 00:03:17,560 Speaker 1: best friend. I mean, she clearly doesn't listen to you 58 00:03:17,760 --> 00:03:21,519 Speaker 1: or follow your example. I just think the real loser here, 59 00:03:21,639 --> 00:03:25,440 Speaker 1: honestly is the son. Because the son doesn't have the 60 00:03:25,480 --> 00:03:29,240 Speaker 1: benefit of having a father, his mom is so selfish 61 00:03:29,280 --> 00:03:31,720 Speaker 1: that she'd rather have this married man who is the 62 00:03:31,760 --> 00:03:36,120 Speaker 1: baby's father in her bed instead of, you know, moving 63 00:03:36,200 --> 00:03:38,840 Speaker 1: on with her life and making her son a priority. 64 00:03:39,440 --> 00:03:42,400 Speaker 1: I just think she's too busy sleeping around and what 65 00:03:42,520 --> 00:03:45,520 Speaker 1: about child support? What about taking care of your baby? 66 00:03:47,600 --> 00:03:51,880 Speaker 1: That's what she should be focused on, Steve, I don't 67 00:03:52,040 --> 00:03:54,480 Speaker 1: there's so much wrong with this dog gold letter. I 68 00:03:54,520 --> 00:03:58,360 Speaker 1: don't even know where to start it, slut ms. It's 69 00:03:58,600 --> 00:04:02,080 Speaker 1: there's no good in this let out, and even for 70 00:04:02,200 --> 00:04:05,160 Speaker 1: the sister that's really concerned. And I appreciate your heart, 71 00:04:05,200 --> 00:04:08,160 Speaker 1: you got a good heart. But I agree with Shirley, 72 00:04:09,200 --> 00:04:12,720 Speaker 1: this ain't your business. And I don't know why I 73 00:04:12,760 --> 00:04:14,560 Speaker 1: didn't troubled you so much where you don't roll the 74 00:04:14,600 --> 00:04:19,160 Speaker 1: dog on't let about it? Your girlfriend the garden who 75 00:04:20,440 --> 00:04:24,720 Speaker 1: is jealous because her son's father moved on and fell 76 00:04:24,720 --> 00:04:28,360 Speaker 1: in love with another woman. But now she's proud that 77 00:04:28,440 --> 00:04:35,760 Speaker 1: she's meddling. Oh, I see what's happening. So okay, So 78 00:04:35,880 --> 00:04:39,000 Speaker 1: let me get this right. The guy that is the 79 00:04:39,080 --> 00:04:44,680 Speaker 1: father of her son has moved on and remarried, and 80 00:04:44,960 --> 00:04:50,039 Speaker 1: this is the man she messing with, right right, Oh, 81 00:04:50,120 --> 00:04:55,039 Speaker 1: she's messing with this dude. Oh, I got it now. 82 00:04:56,160 --> 00:05:00,120 Speaker 1: This man has been married for fourteen years and in 83 00:05:00,200 --> 00:05:03,680 Speaker 1: that fourteen years. She's had sex with him on New 84 00:05:03,720 --> 00:05:06,760 Speaker 1: Mister Caven occasion and moved to Dallas from Atlanta b 85 00:05:06,880 --> 00:05:10,279 Speaker 1: with him. So the dude that left her fell in 86 00:05:10,320 --> 00:05:15,800 Speaker 1: love with another woman that they have a son by together. 87 00:05:17,400 --> 00:05:21,479 Speaker 1: She don't went to Dallas to sleep with him right right, 88 00:05:22,360 --> 00:05:27,400 Speaker 1: thinking he was gonna leave his wife for her. She's 89 00:05:27,440 --> 00:05:32,960 Speaker 1: gotten pregnant twice and lost the babies to miscadges. Wow. 90 00:05:34,360 --> 00:05:38,000 Speaker 1: Then the guy knows that what he's doing is wrong, 91 00:05:38,040 --> 00:05:41,080 Speaker 1: and he's telling your friend he can't leave his wife 92 00:05:41,120 --> 00:05:45,000 Speaker 1: because of their children. But at the same time, he's 93 00:05:45,080 --> 00:05:48,679 Speaker 1: neglecting his own son that he got with the girl 94 00:05:49,040 --> 00:05:58,159 Speaker 1: the garden two. Now they meet up half sex. His 95 00:05:58,320 --> 00:06:02,080 Speaker 1: son is very rarely around when he come over. Now, 96 00:06:02,080 --> 00:06:05,200 Speaker 1: you was in Dallas visiting your friend for her birthday, 97 00:06:05,400 --> 00:06:08,000 Speaker 1: ran into the guy and his wife. He seemed very 98 00:06:08,080 --> 00:06:10,000 Speaker 1: much lower with the wife. He was surprised to see 99 00:06:10,040 --> 00:06:12,760 Speaker 1: me introduce you to the wife and sent you a drink. 100 00:06:12,760 --> 00:06:16,760 Speaker 1: That drink was to keep you down exactly. You know 101 00:06:16,839 --> 00:06:20,360 Speaker 1: that that drake was Hey, we cool, That's what he 102 00:06:20,480 --> 00:06:23,479 Speaker 1: sent the drink. Fall you know, I'm cool? You cool? 103 00:06:23,600 --> 00:06:26,880 Speaker 1: Now if you sent to drink back, he'd got up 104 00:06:26,920 --> 00:06:31,159 Speaker 1: and left the restaurant immediately with it emerges. See that 105 00:06:31,279 --> 00:06:33,919 Speaker 1: was that was a litmus test he sent over you. 106 00:06:33,960 --> 00:06:37,400 Speaker 1: That wasn't a drink. That was a test. You failed 107 00:06:37,400 --> 00:06:39,920 Speaker 1: a test. I'll tell you the rest of it when 108 00:06:39,920 --> 00:06:42,920 Speaker 1: we came back. Yeah. Part two of Steve's response coming 109 00:06:43,040 --> 00:06:46,279 Speaker 1: up at twenty three minutes after the hour. Subject of 110 00:06:46,360 --> 00:06:49,920 Speaker 1: today's Strawberry letter, my best friend is a proud homewrecker. 111 00:06:50,360 --> 00:06:56,480 Speaker 1: We'll be back right after this. You're listening show, all right, Steve, 112 00:06:56,600 --> 00:06:59,839 Speaker 1: come on, Let's recap today's Strawberry Letters. Subject my best 113 00:07:00,200 --> 00:07:05,599 Speaker 1: friend is a proud homewrecker. Well, you described your friend 114 00:07:05,640 --> 00:07:09,840 Speaker 1: in the letter as a garden tool, and we all 115 00:07:09,880 --> 00:07:13,880 Speaker 1: know what that means. She was had a relationship with 116 00:07:14,000 --> 00:07:18,000 Speaker 1: a man. He moved on, fell in love with another woman. 117 00:07:18,080 --> 00:07:20,320 Speaker 1: They had a baby. The first is the garden tool, 118 00:07:20,320 --> 00:07:22,480 Speaker 1: and the man had a baby together. He fell in 119 00:07:22,520 --> 00:07:25,640 Speaker 1: love with another woman, moved on, got married. They've been 120 00:07:25,680 --> 00:07:29,600 Speaker 1: married for fourteen years. This woman, who is your friend, 121 00:07:30,040 --> 00:07:33,680 Speaker 1: has been messing with this same guy that she had 122 00:07:33,720 --> 00:07:36,480 Speaker 1: the baby with, who has now married, been messed with 123 00:07:36,600 --> 00:07:40,000 Speaker 1: him for fourteen years. She didn't have sex with him 124 00:07:40,040 --> 00:07:42,160 Speaker 1: on a bunch of occasions. She had moved to Dallas 125 00:07:42,240 --> 00:07:45,280 Speaker 1: from Atlanta to be with him. She thought all along 126 00:07:45,400 --> 00:07:48,040 Speaker 1: he was gonna leave his wife and come back to her. 127 00:07:48,480 --> 00:07:51,680 Speaker 1: She didn't, got pregnant twice and lost their babies to miscarriages. 128 00:07:52,200 --> 00:07:54,640 Speaker 1: The guy know what he's doing is wrong, and he 129 00:07:54,160 --> 00:07:57,320 Speaker 1: tell your home wrecker friend he can't leave his wife 130 00:07:57,320 --> 00:08:01,160 Speaker 1: because of their children. But he's the selecting his own son. 131 00:08:01,240 --> 00:08:05,320 Speaker 1: He got with your friend, all right. So now then 132 00:08:05,520 --> 00:08:07,800 Speaker 1: you messed around and went to Dallas, ran up into 133 00:08:07,880 --> 00:08:11,440 Speaker 1: him and his wife at a restaurant. He asked you 134 00:08:11,480 --> 00:08:13,480 Speaker 1: to introduced you to his wife and sit a drink 135 00:08:13,480 --> 00:08:15,400 Speaker 1: over to the table. That's just to make sure you 136 00:08:15,480 --> 00:08:17,240 Speaker 1: was cool, and you was gonna stay at the table. 137 00:08:17,680 --> 00:08:19,840 Speaker 1: Hard to walk away from drink. These days, they tell 138 00:08:19,880 --> 00:08:22,600 Speaker 1: you don't leave your drink because people be slipping stuff 139 00:08:22,600 --> 00:08:24,920 Speaker 1: in your drink. So she just said it the table 140 00:08:24,960 --> 00:08:28,400 Speaker 1: the whole time, all right. Now here's the part. You 141 00:08:28,520 --> 00:08:33,040 Speaker 1: are so disgusted at him for his part in all 142 00:08:33,040 --> 00:08:36,800 Speaker 1: of this. You're disgusted with the guy that was with 143 00:08:37,080 --> 00:08:40,040 Speaker 1: your garden two friend, that had a baby with her, 144 00:08:40,440 --> 00:08:43,440 Speaker 1: that the moved on, got remarried, got a baby by 145 00:08:43,559 --> 00:08:47,000 Speaker 1: his new wife, but it's back sleeping with his ex, 146 00:08:47,320 --> 00:08:51,400 Speaker 1: who is the garden too, had two miscarriages, met you 147 00:08:51,480 --> 00:08:54,040 Speaker 1: at a restaurant, sent a drink over to you. Now 148 00:08:54,080 --> 00:08:59,480 Speaker 1: you can't stay at him. Now you're mad at him 149 00:08:59,720 --> 00:09:03,839 Speaker 1: for being low down, and you disgusted at him for 150 00:09:03,920 --> 00:09:06,880 Speaker 1: his part in all this. Now your husband had told 151 00:09:06,880 --> 00:09:09,640 Speaker 1: you that you too concerned, and I should let it go. 152 00:09:11,160 --> 00:09:13,800 Speaker 1: But now here you go with this illogic that even 153 00:09:13,840 --> 00:09:17,280 Speaker 1: Shirley knows ain't no good. But as a wife and 154 00:09:17,360 --> 00:09:20,280 Speaker 1: a mother, I don't like to see an innocent woman 155 00:09:20,720 --> 00:09:24,720 Speaker 1: being betrayed like this. Because my friend is not only 156 00:09:24,760 --> 00:09:27,920 Speaker 1: having sex with this man, she has other men that 157 00:09:28,000 --> 00:09:30,560 Speaker 1: she's involved. Okay, see right there, See what do that 158 00:09:30,679 --> 00:09:35,199 Speaker 1: have to do with anything? If you're really mad at 159 00:09:35,240 --> 00:09:38,640 Speaker 1: the guy for having an affair on his wife and 160 00:09:38,760 --> 00:09:42,320 Speaker 1: kids with your garden to friend. If your friend wasn't 161 00:09:42,320 --> 00:09:45,400 Speaker 1: a garden too, he couldn't have sex with her. But 162 00:09:45,559 --> 00:09:48,960 Speaker 1: you're mad at him. You ain't mad at her no more. 163 00:09:50,200 --> 00:09:53,080 Speaker 1: But she's still your friend. Like Shirley said, you know, 164 00:09:53,120 --> 00:09:56,439 Speaker 1: I was reading somewhere somebody said one time, they said, 165 00:09:56,480 --> 00:10:01,959 Speaker 1: describe your five closest associates and friends described it. If 166 00:10:01,960 --> 00:10:05,160 Speaker 1: you describe your five closest friends when you get through, 167 00:10:05,240 --> 00:10:09,120 Speaker 1: they say, you have just described yourself yourself because when 168 00:10:09,120 --> 00:10:11,640 Speaker 1: you go up, you pick people to be your friends 169 00:10:11,640 --> 00:10:14,760 Speaker 1: who you are similar with, you have stuff in common with. Friends. 170 00:10:14,800 --> 00:10:17,720 Speaker 1: Ain't light family, you just get your family. You actually 171 00:10:17,720 --> 00:10:20,400 Speaker 1: get to pick your friends. So now you've picked this 172 00:10:20,440 --> 00:10:24,360 Speaker 1: woman with these crazy ways, and now you really just tripping. 173 00:10:24,840 --> 00:10:26,760 Speaker 1: Now you're mad out of because she having sex with 174 00:10:26,840 --> 00:10:29,880 Speaker 1: this man and other men she's involved with as she 175 00:10:30,040 --> 00:10:33,240 Speaker 1: don't have and she has unprotected sex with a few 176 00:10:33,280 --> 00:10:36,000 Speaker 1: of them. Well, then we don't know who Babydase is. 177 00:10:37,840 --> 00:10:41,040 Speaker 1: You know these miscarriages and the ones, we don't know 178 00:10:41,080 --> 00:10:44,600 Speaker 1: whose baby's ease is. That's the other problem we got. 179 00:10:45,280 --> 00:10:47,840 Speaker 1: And I feel like you feel like the wife should 180 00:10:47,880 --> 00:10:51,200 Speaker 1: know what's going on, and I want to tell her anonymously. 181 00:10:51,320 --> 00:10:54,320 Speaker 1: What do you think about all this? Shirley told you 182 00:10:54,360 --> 00:10:56,400 Speaker 1: exactly right. You need to stay out this first of all? 183 00:10:56,440 --> 00:11:00,960 Speaker 1: Can I say something here? You don't know? I said, 184 00:11:01,000 --> 00:11:03,240 Speaker 1: all you got to do is stay out the way 185 00:11:03,520 --> 00:11:05,840 Speaker 1: because I want her to know what's going on. She 186 00:11:06,000 --> 00:11:12,080 Speaker 1: will and she might already have her suspicions. Don't you 187 00:11:12,240 --> 00:11:15,440 Speaker 1: think for one minute when he introduced this woman to 188 00:11:15,559 --> 00:11:20,120 Speaker 1: her to you at the restaurant, and then he sent 189 00:11:20,240 --> 00:11:22,520 Speaker 1: a drink over to you. You don't think he didn't 190 00:11:22,520 --> 00:11:25,920 Speaker 1: had to answer this question a bunch of times on 191 00:11:26,040 --> 00:11:31,359 Speaker 1: the way home. Who is she? Where you know her from? 192 00:11:31,400 --> 00:11:36,600 Speaker 1: What you're sending her drink for? It's not your job 193 00:11:36,840 --> 00:11:41,800 Speaker 1: to come flying into the rescue. It's not your job. 194 00:11:43,679 --> 00:11:47,000 Speaker 1: All this stuff happened for a reason, and stuff that 195 00:11:47,240 --> 00:11:50,600 Speaker 1: has to come out go everything, don't come out. Some 196 00:11:50,679 --> 00:11:54,480 Speaker 1: things go to rage because it had a reason and 197 00:11:54,600 --> 00:11:57,920 Speaker 1: a purpose for it, but it's not your job to 198 00:11:58,040 --> 00:12:04,960 Speaker 1: bring it to life. She grown? She grown? Why is 199 00:12:05,000 --> 00:12:09,160 Speaker 1: she still your friend? Though? Right? And if you think 200 00:12:09,240 --> 00:12:12,720 Speaker 1: this woman, this man is having that much on protected 201 00:12:12,800 --> 00:12:17,760 Speaker 1: sex with your friend, she got two miscardges. I can 202 00:12:17,800 --> 00:12:21,680 Speaker 1: assure you this woman suspects something. She's just telling all 203 00:12:21,720 --> 00:12:25,360 Speaker 1: her business. Yeah, this this whole lot. I ain't got 204 00:12:25,360 --> 00:12:27,800 Speaker 1: no advice for her. She moved from Atlanta to Dall. 205 00:12:27,920 --> 00:12:32,960 Speaker 1: I mean everything is out there. Yeah, stay listen to 206 00:12:33,000 --> 00:12:35,880 Speaker 1: your husband, stay out. Pretty much everybody listening to this 207 00:12:35,960 --> 00:12:40,160 Speaker 1: show know who this is. Yes, she's narrowed it down. 208 00:12:40,440 --> 00:12:44,200 Speaker 1: Yeah girl, ain't Tanya got a son? And didn't she move? 209 00:12:51,040 --> 00:12:54,160 Speaker 1: Did you hit this letter? This about Tanya? All Right? 210 00:12:54,200 --> 00:12:56,880 Speaker 1: Post your comments on Today's Strawberry Letter at Steve Harvey 211 00:12:56,960 --> 00:12:59,760 Speaker 1: FM on Instagram and Facebook. Check out the Strawberry Letter 212 00:12:59,760 --> 00:13:03,040 Speaker 1: Podcast two on demand coming up at forty six after 213 00:13:03,120 --> 00:13:05,080 Speaker 1: the hour, we're going to talk to our girls Cheryl 214 00:13:05,200 --> 00:13:08,800 Speaker 1: Underwood right after this. 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