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Speaker 1: First date to follow up powered by the Advocates Injury

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Speaker 2: Diego is on the phone today for a first date

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Speaker 2: follow up and he's getting ghosted by a woman named Samantha.

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Speaker 2: So in a few minutes, we'll call her and see

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Speaker 2: if she sellue why she's ghosting him, and maybe get

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Speaker 2: him a second date. But first, Diego, how long has

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Speaker 2: it been since you heard from Samantha.

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Speaker 3: It's been a minute, you know, it's been like like

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Speaker 3: over a week right now, and uh, yeah, it's just weird.

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Speaker 4: So have you been trying to get a hold of

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Speaker 4: her or how did you guys leave it after the date?

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Speaker 3: You know, let me just give you a full story.

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Speaker 3: So basically, like I met her online and we were

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Speaker 3: texting each other. It's we had like a really good,

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Speaker 3: like sort of vibes going, and actually we figured our

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Speaker 3: first date would be at like like a pottery class,

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Speaker 3: and it was great. Even when I picked her up

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Speaker 3: to go to a pottery class, she was like roasting

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Speaker 3: me about my playlist in my car, and it was

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Speaker 3: just it was a squirty in a way too. It

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Speaker 3: was really it was really cool, and you know, it

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Speaker 3: was it was fun. You know, it was a good

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Speaker 3: feeling and uh yeah, so we we did our poverty

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Speaker 3: class thing. It was messy, creative, kind of romantic in

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Speaker 3: like a ghost way. You've ever seen that movie Ghost

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Speaker 3: with Patrick Swathe and Woobie Goldberg and anymore. So, All right,

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Speaker 3: long story short, I kept overspinning my wheel and splattering

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Speaker 3: clay everywhere, and I think that's why she uh ghosted me,

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Speaker 3: because it even even spilt on another couple next to us,

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Speaker 2: You know, so fall you know, you think maybe she's

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Speaker 2: ghosting you because you were like messy with your pottery.

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Speaker 3: Yeah. Yeah, I was splashing everywhere.

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Speaker 2: Yeah. Did she seem bothered by it?

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Speaker 3: I mean I just felt like she was, and I

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Speaker 3: think we still had sparks. She was like laughing and

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Speaker 3: like she was even snorting. It was like, you know,

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Speaker 3: I you know, we were it was. It was it

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Speaker 3: was pretty I thought it was pretty funny, but then

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Speaker 3: I don't know, you know what I'm saying, Like she

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Speaker 3: was even joking about me and about like our Frankenstein bowls.

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Speaker 3: And at the end she hugged me, said goodbye, and

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Speaker 3: like he would, clay still on my face. She's still

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Speaker 3: you know, give me a kissing the cheek, you know, Okay,

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Speaker 3: I'll tell you this. I left thinking like this is

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Speaker 3: definitely someone I could actually vibe with long term. So

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Speaker 3: it's kind of brutal with the radio silence, you.

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Speaker 4: Know, totally did the people that you were getting clay

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Speaker 4: all over gap set? Was there like an altercation or

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Speaker 4: it was just random Clay flying. I'm just trying to understand,

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Speaker 4: like at what point maybe she was like rubbed wrong.

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Speaker 3: I don't know. I mean, like everyone was like kind

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Speaker 3: of cool about it though, but you never know, you

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Speaker 3: know what I mean. I mean, she definitely was like

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Speaker 1: So I don't know.

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Speaker 3: I mean, I was really into her humor. I liked

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Speaker 3: how she was like making fun of me, and like

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Speaker 3: she's also felt deprecating too, Like we definitely vibe the

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Speaker 3: staying type of like humor. So you know, I still

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Speaker 2: You know, did she say anything like she wanted to

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Speaker 3: Yeah, we were like, yeah, let's keep in touch, you know,

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Speaker 3: like but it seemed genuine, not like yeah, we'll keep

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Speaker 2: I feel like being bad at pottery is kind of

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Speaker 2: pottery snole. I don't know.

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Speaker 4: Maybe it's an excuse, which is also not helpful to you.

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Speaker 2: I'm really sorry. We'll see if we can figure it

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Speaker 2: out for you. Right, we'll play a song come back,

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Speaker 2: and then call her and see if she'll tell us

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Speaker 2: why she's ghosting you and maybe get you a second date. Okay,

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Speaker 2: all right, sounds good.

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Speaker 3: Thank you.

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Speaker 2: We'll get your first day follow up next if you're

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Speaker 2: just joining us for today's first date follow up. Diego

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Speaker 2: So we're about to call her and see if she'll

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Speaker 2: tell us why she's ghosting him and maybe get him

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Speaker 2: another date. But first, Diego, why don't you break down

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Speaker 2: your date for us again?

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Speaker 1: Real quick?

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Speaker 3: Yeah? So, basically met her online. We had great vibes,

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Speaker 3: and we went to a pottery class. Things got a

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Speaker 3: Hopefully I didn't make a total myself.

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Speaker 2: I hope you didn't say that. Yeah, all right, are

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Speaker 2: you ready for us to call her? Yeah, okay, here

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Speaker 1: Hello.

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Speaker 2: Hi, I'm asking Disamantha. Please speaking. Hey Samantha, how are you?

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Speaker 2: This is a radio show, it's called The Jubil Show. Hi, Samantha.

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Speaker 2: I'm Nina. Hi, I'm Victoria and my name is Jebel.

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Speaker 2: What's up?

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Speaker 1: Hi?

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Speaker 2: Not much? Have you ever listened to the show before.

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Speaker 1: I've heard of you, guys, but I don't really listen

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Speaker 1: to radio that much.

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Speaker 2: That's okay, Okay, Well, thank you for hearing of us. Yeah,

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Speaker 2: that's good. We're calling you today because we got an

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Speaker 2: email about you.

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Speaker 1: Oh you did.

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Speaker 2: Yeah. We do a segment on the show and it's

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Speaker 2: called the First Day follow Up. That's where if you

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Speaker 2: go out on a date with somebody and then you

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Speaker 2: end up ghosting them, that person can email us to

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Speaker 2: ask why you're ghosting? So do you have any idea?

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Speaker 2: Who would email?

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Speaker 1: Yeah? I might have a slight idea.

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Speaker 2: Okay, who is that? Who do you think it is?

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Speaker 1: Are you calling about Diego?

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Speaker 2: Yes? It is and we talked to Diego. He told

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Speaker 2: us a little bit about your date and he really

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Speaker 2: liked you and he's wondering why you're ghosting him. Would

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Speaker 2: you mind telling us.

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Speaker 1: Oh gosh, this is it on the radio? Okay. I

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Speaker 1: mean I really didn't expect to like talk about this

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Speaker 1: of crazy. Okay. So honestly, guys, gosh, this is so weird. No,

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Speaker 1: he's great, he's we had a great time. We went

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Speaker 1: to a pottery class. It was really really fun. But

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Speaker 1: he just he's just not like the guy for me.

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Speaker 1: Let me just say that.

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Speaker 2: But did something happen or is it just a vibe

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Speaker 1: He has some mannerisms that are just not like I

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Speaker 1: don't know if I can really deal with that. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: Like I don't want to be rude.

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Speaker 3: I'm so sorry.

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Speaker 1: I don't want to be rude.

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Speaker 2: Well, you know, like we told him that we would

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Speaker 2: tell him whatever you told us, and he's prepared to

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Speaker 1: Okay, okay in the nicest way possible. We like went

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Speaker 1: to dinner, and the way he was drinking his soda,

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Speaker 1: auditioning for a kazoo band. I don't know how I

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Speaker 1: secondhand embarrassment. It was so loud, like everyone in the

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Speaker 2: They just gave you, like the ick. It us a

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Speaker 2: turn off.

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Speaker 1: It gave me, yes completely, it gave me the ick,

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Speaker 1: and I just, yeah, I don't think I could do that.

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Speaker 4: Do you think he does that all the time? I

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Speaker 4: guess I could find out. But if he does that

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Speaker 1: Oh, I don't know. I assume anytime he drinks through

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Speaker 1: out of a straw? Like growing up? Like what is

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Speaker 2: Well, Samantha, just to let you know, Diego is on

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Speaker 2: the phone and wants to talk to you.

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Speaker 1: Uh oh, what do you like listening to that?

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Speaker 3: Yeah?

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Speaker 1: You do you afterwards? Look, So, I'm so sorry I

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Speaker 2: It happened.

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Speaker 3: I'm just sorry. Let me wait, you ghosted me because

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Speaker 3: I shipped too hard on the straw?

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Speaker 1: That's like, yeah, that's ridiculous. Yeah right, the sound is

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Speaker 3: Oh my god, I was. I was thirsty, Okay, Like

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Speaker 3: you handed me spicy noodles. What did you expect?

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Speaker 1: That was a drink water like a normal person, not

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Speaker 3: Oh wow, wow, I guess I'll start hydrating in silence

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Speaker 3: from now on.

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Speaker 1: You ast me to be honest, so you'd.

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Speaker 3: Seriously not date me because of the way I drink

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Speaker 1: Yeah, like I just can't unhear and unsee and like

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Speaker 3: How many times would I be drinking from a straw

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Speaker 3: that's like a rare curtains. It's not like I drink

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Speaker 1: Yeah, that's true. I don't know.

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Speaker 3: Fine, I'll never touch a straw again. I swear I'll

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Speaker 2: Oh, you don't know if you're.

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Speaker 1: Okay, But it's not just that, like any time you

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Speaker 3: A straw incident. Oh my god, you named something. You

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Speaker 3: named it the straw incident.

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Speaker 1: It was that bad. It was that bad burned into

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Speaker 1: my brain. And then afterwards I changed your name in

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Speaker 1: my phone to strawboy.

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Speaker 2: Oh no, Samantha, would you like another day with strawboy?

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Speaker 2: We'll pay for it.

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Speaker 1: You know, diego. I'm sure there's someone out there who

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Speaker 1: is a good match for your straw drinking habit. It's

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Speaker 1: not me, unfortunately. I'm so sorry. I did have a

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Speaker 1: good time with you, but there's someone better for you

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Speaker 1: out there. I mean, can I mean, are you just

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Speaker 1: like I mean, we had a good time. Could you

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Speaker 1: just give me another thought? Like, I mean, I didn't know.

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Speaker 3: That I sip that straw that back. I'll try to

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Speaker 3: I'll make sure I don't drink straws that crazy again,

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Speaker 3: I'm like seeing you. How about that?

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Speaker 1: Like?

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Speaker 3: And I know it's you know, it's ingraining your head

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Speaker 3: like the car Playlist's incident. Like I'm hoping you think

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Speaker 3: about like the positive vibes we had in each.

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Speaker 3: You know what I'm saying.

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Speaker 1: Well, I mean that was well, well okay, okay, okay, fine,

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Speaker 1: I will go out with you one more time just

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Speaker 1: to see only because you sound desperate enough to be entertaining. Wow,

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Speaker 1: no straws, but it's going to take a lot of convincing.

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Speaker 1: I'll do it.

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Speaker 3: Oh my god, thank you, Sam, Sam. I really appreciate it.

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Speaker 3: Like I'll even go on YouTube and like watch tutorials

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Speaker 3: on how to drink a straw properly.

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Speaker 2: Wow, that exists. It must get good. This tongue whoa

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Speaker 2: jubile first daup