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Speaker 1: but it would only be temporary. She would only be

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Speaker 1: What would you do? Please advise? Wow, how this has

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Speaker 1: it's not a financial thing. You say her parents are

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Speaker 1: you need to get out of that house or her parents.

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Speaker 1: Definitely need to get out of that house. Talk to

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Speaker 1: Who wants to be a grown man and live with

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Speaker 1: be the king of your own castle? Steve Love, When

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Speaker 1: some of these letters I would never write. I'm nothing

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Speaker 1: Here we are nineteen years later, we're still living with

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Speaker 1: Her mama taught her well regent. Her parents went on vacation.

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Speaker 1: to rest my aching mind, Oh oh, where there's no time.

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Speaker 1: Your love is divine. Heaven must be like this. It

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Speaker 1: Watch tap all right. They didn't have assault rifles back then.

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Speaker 1: You had to watch them. Hang on. Part two is

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Speaker 1: her mama and daddy got to go. They got to

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Speaker 1: go because he's been living in nineteen years, and her

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Speaker 1: Now they haven't been on vacation. You in heaven, man,

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Speaker 1: You're Jackson, don't know we're in here. We don't clean

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Speaker 1: meet it. We got and we're gonna play golf. What

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Speaker 1: Damn Gray. They don't put a clothes line in a

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Speaker 1: having my freedom. I desperately want to move, but I

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Speaker 1: That's exactly what has to happen. You have to give

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Speaker 1: assuming you got married at what twenty five? Well, I'm

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Speaker 1: hold take that. Nineteen forty one. That's twenty one is

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Speaker 1: Since you've been twenty two, you have not been able

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Speaker 1: You ain't got a divorce, you ain't got a file

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Speaker 1: for separation and nothing. Y'all actually in love with you.

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Speaker 1: You just gotta go get your own place. Invite over.

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Speaker 1: We sleep it over here tonight. Baby. That's all. Don't

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Speaker 1: of that. Just what she said, Where are you going?

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Speaker 1: I'm going home. What you mean home? I got me

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Speaker 1: an apartment. You told me three years. It's been nineteen years.

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Speaker 1: I have asked you to move. You don't want to leave.

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Speaker 1: I love you, You're my wife, You'm a girl. You

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Speaker 1: I got a flash green and infrigerate. I'm good now,

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Speaker 1: I got some music. But Steve, what are her parents

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Speaker 1: a little fast, asked bachelor. Well, ms miss ug Miss Henderson,

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Speaker 1: with ut three years. Well, what's wrong with us living here?

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Speaker 1: We cleans people, But that's my husband. I want to

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Speaker 1: go live with him. Well, you're going over there and

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Speaker 1: I guess yes, yes, I'm pretty sure. The little crackhead

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Speaker 1: But he's my husband, mommy, but we use your mom

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Speaker 1: We know you get another husband. You can't get another mommy, dad.

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Speaker 1: I don't want another husband. I want him. We're going

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Speaker 1: Were like yell cooking and yell cleaning. Now we gave

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Speaker 1: And now be cause you haven't met this ball head

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Speaker 1: I don't know what he is, and he's a good

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Speaker 1: we we should have stayed if we to know John

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Speaker 1: We're talking about it. We'll be able to here and

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Speaker 1: hold off the crackhead until you get him. Can you

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