WEBVTT - The BA Q&A: My Husband Keeps Blowing Money!

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<v Speaker 1>Hey, hey, ba fam, It's Mandy here with another episode

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<v Speaker 1>of The Brown Ambition Q and A the b A

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<v Speaker 1>q A. Thank y'all so much for sending us your questions.

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<v Speaker 1>This is one of my favorite times of the week

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<v Speaker 1>when I get to sit down and see what's going

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<v Speaker 1>on in y'all's lives and what kinds of questions you've got. Today.

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<v Speaker 1>We have some interesting ones. A couple of you know,

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<v Speaker 1>career questions, which is which is my groove, it's my jam,

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<v Speaker 1>but a kind of spicy question about someone whose husband

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<v Speaker 1>may or may not have been using credit cards to invest. Oof.

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<v Speaker 1>This one's painful. I'm still trying to figure out how

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<v Speaker 1>I'm going to respond to it. But listen, this is

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<v Speaker 1>some really juicy tea, some hot pipe pipe and hot

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<v Speaker 1>tea for your Friday. So let's get it going, all right.

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<v Speaker 1>Question number one that I teased This comes from listener Robin,

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<v Speaker 1>who sent us an e mail saying Oof okay. Robin says,

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<v Speaker 1>my husband does not believe in savings accounts and often

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<v Speaker 1>blows through money. I just found out that he made

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<v Speaker 1>an over fifty thousand dollars investment without consulting me. He

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<v Speaker 1>often does this, and he lost it all this was

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<v Speaker 1>all done with credit cards. What or where should I

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<v Speaker 1>start to secure my financial future? Robin, every sentence it

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<v Speaker 1>got worse. Like, first of all, doesn't believe in savings accounts.

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<v Speaker 1>I didn't think that was a thing that we know.

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<v Speaker 1>I thought we could at least all agree that's one

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<v Speaker 1>of those things like in today's world, can't we at

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<v Speaker 1>least agree that saving is important, like we can we

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<v Speaker 1>can fight about politics and vaccinations and that, but came.

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<v Speaker 1>I thought we could at least agree that having more

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<v Speaker 1>money set aside is better than not having money set aside.

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<v Speaker 1>But Okay, your husband's a unique individual. So first of all,

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<v Speaker 1>doesn't believe in savings accounts. Strike one often blows through money.

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<v Speaker 1>Strike two lies to you, because I think not telling

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<v Speaker 1>you is also a lie. Lies to you when he

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<v Speaker 1>spent fifty thousand dollars on credit cards to invest like what,

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<v Speaker 1>I don't even so I'm going to make an assumption

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<v Speaker 1>here that either he did cash advances on multiple credit

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<v Speaker 1>cards to get that amount of money, or potentially he

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<v Speaker 1>invested in an individual's business by paying with a credit card.

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<v Speaker 1>I have no idea. I can't even begin to fathom

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<v Speaker 1>your question, though, is where do I even start to

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<v Speaker 1>secure my financial future? Robin, Listen, I am in obviously.

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<v Speaker 1>I've been married for several years now, I've been with

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<v Speaker 1>my partner for a decade, and it's not easy. It's

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<v Speaker 1>definitely not easy to align yourselves financially with an entire

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<v Speaker 1>with a different individual. You've got to diferent goals, different styles,

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<v Speaker 1>different values potentially. But this is like beyond, This is

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<v Speaker 1>beyond the normal kind of situation that partners face when

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<v Speaker 1>it comes to trying to work out their finances as

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<v Speaker 1>a team. This is next level. I mean, this is

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<v Speaker 1>like fraud. It's fraud on you. I'm concerned for you, genuinely,

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<v Speaker 1>genuinely concerned that your finances are in deep, deep jeopardy.

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<v Speaker 1>The longer this continues to go on. At this point,

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<v Speaker 1>given the level of financial infidelity happening, the level of

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<v Speaker 1>I'm gonna guess manipulation control, I don't know what's exactly

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<v Speaker 1>going on here, but it's so bad that I don't

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<v Speaker 1>even know if there's a way to necessarily rectify it.

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<v Speaker 1>As far as your personal financial future, I would make

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<v Speaker 1>sure that none of that debt is in your name,

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<v Speaker 1>like those credit cards. I'm hoping that they were just

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<v Speaker 1>in your husband's name and not your own, and start

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<v Speaker 1>keeping really tight control and protecting your finance. It's protecting

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<v Speaker 1>your bank accounts. I would start squirreling away money in

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<v Speaker 1>your own savings account that he does not have any

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<v Speaker 1>access to. Girl, get that password, get second factor authentication,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, get the FBI on it, lock it down,

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<v Speaker 1>because I don't think you want your husband anywhere near

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<v Speaker 1>your money, because he's proven to be really careless. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>this is shocking to me. So I would start on

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<v Speaker 1>your own. Like, let's even forget about the relationship factor.

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<v Speaker 1>Like you're you're an independent woman. You can decide whether

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<v Speaker 1>or not this is the kind of relationship you want

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<v Speaker 1>to continue having. But let's say you decide to stay

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<v Speaker 1>with this person. I think it's all about you creating

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<v Speaker 1>a huge like grand canyon, sides divide, and on one

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<v Speaker 1>end of that grand canyon is him, and on the

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<v Speaker 1>other end of it is you and your money. So

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<v Speaker 1>keep it safe, keep your own savings accounts, keep you

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<v Speaker 1>your own credit cards, make sure that they are hidden

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<v Speaker 1>that he can't take them. And then as far as

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<v Speaker 1>your assets and the debts that he's been taking out,

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<v Speaker 1>start to figure out, you know, what your if your

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<v Speaker 1>name is on any of those accounts. You may even

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<v Speaker 1>want to speak with a family law attorney to because

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<v Speaker 1>in your state, like there's sometimes not sometimes often in

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<v Speaker 1>different states they treat they treat spousal debt in different ways.

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<v Speaker 1>And I'm not sure where you're from, so I can't

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<v Speaker 1>really speak to the laws in your state, but reaching

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<v Speaker 1>out for informational conversation or consultation with a family law

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<v Speaker 1>attorney may help you figure out in your particular state,

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<v Speaker 1>what can be done to protect your assets from any

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<v Speaker 1>bad acts on his part, because that's that's the best

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<v Speaker 1>thing you can do. You don't mention children, so maybe

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<v Speaker 1>you know in this case things are a bit simpler.

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<v Speaker 1>It's just you. So I'm trying to think of other

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<v Speaker 1>ways you could potentially I mean, this guy unhinged. He

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<v Speaker 1>literally sounds unhinged. So I hope that you are. You

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<v Speaker 1>can reach out to someone who can give you some

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<v Speaker 1>legal advice about how to protect yourself in your state.

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<v Speaker 1>But this does not sound like a healthy relationship. It

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<v Speaker 1>sounds really freaking scary. I hope that you're taking care

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<v Speaker 1>of yourself and taking some steps toward protecting yourself and

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<v Speaker 1>don't necessarily blame yourself. I mean, listen, when people are

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<v Speaker 1>when people are this hell bent on taking risks with money,

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, there's something else going on there. It has

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<v Speaker 1>nothing to do with you, and it's not about how

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<v Speaker 1>you could have prevented it. Like if they're really determined,

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<v Speaker 1>bound and determined to make these kinds of careless mistakes

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<v Speaker 1>when it comes to their finances, there's probably nothing you

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<v Speaker 1>could have done. This is just about putting your own

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<v Speaker 1>oxygen mask on first and getting if you're not going

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<v Speaker 1>to get out of the relationship, at least protect yourself

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<v Speaker 1>financially so that you know you've got that safety and

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<v Speaker 1>security and you can take care of yourself at the

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<v Speaker 1>end of the day. I am wishing you really well.

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<v Speaker 1>Thank you so much for opening up and sharing your story,

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<v Speaker 1>and I hope you hear this and I hope that

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<v Speaker 1>you're doing well. Okay, all right, WHOA, that was a lot.

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<v Speaker 1>Why don't we take a quick breaking break and I

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<v Speaker 1>will be right back with more of your ba q

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<v Speaker 1>and as all right, ba fam, we are back. I

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<v Speaker 1>am well, I say we. I'm so used to being

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<v Speaker 1>a wee Tiffany. I miss you. I am back. It's

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<v Speaker 1>Mandy with more of your ba Q and a's y'all.

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<v Speaker 1>All right, We've got a couple of juicy career questions now,

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<v Speaker 1>so let me move on over to IG. Actually, I've

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<v Speaker 1>got a question from Kelly. Kelly says Mandy. I listened

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<v Speaker 1>to your webinar last week. There was a question about

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<v Speaker 1>staying at a job for flexibility but the pay is

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<v Speaker 1>not good. What do you think about that? All right,

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<v Speaker 1>So I hosted a webinar last week. It's called seventy

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<v Speaker 1>K to seven hundred K How I quit my way

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<v Speaker 1>rich and built wealth through my nine to five. And

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<v Speaker 1>this is a webinar I've done only two times. And

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<v Speaker 1>the reason I started doing this was because I wanted

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<v Speaker 1>to open up and share sort of my story on

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<v Speaker 1>literally how I quit and how quitting jobs played such

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<v Speaker 1>a fundamental role in helping me build wealth over the

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<v Speaker 1>course of my career, especially in the last five years,

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<v Speaker 1>which is when I was able to make that jump

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<v Speaker 1>from seventy K net worth to seven hundred K net

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<v Speaker 1>worth based on some strategic career moves that I made.

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<v Speaker 1>And what I love about this webinar is people like

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<v Speaker 1>it's I keep it. I keep it one hundred percent

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<v Speaker 1>in these webinars, and the questions are so good and

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<v Speaker 1>I didn't get to all of them during this past webinar,

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<v Speaker 1>So I love that Kelly wrote in to ask this question.

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<v Speaker 1>So she's saying, stay at a job because it's flexible,

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<v Speaker 1>but the pay isn't too good. I get it, y'all,

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<v Speaker 1>especially when you're a working parent. Sometimes knowing that, okay,

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<v Speaker 1>when I need to stay home for example, like if

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<v Speaker 1>the kid is sick, or you know, if you're sick

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<v Speaker 1>and you just want to have the flexibility of staying home,

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<v Speaker 1>or you want to take a mental health day or

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<v Speaker 1>things like that, Knowing that you've got a team and

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<v Speaker 1>a boss there who just trust you to get your

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<v Speaker 1>job done and isn't going to necessarily make you feel

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<v Speaker 1>bad for taking that time off, and especially now, like

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<v Speaker 1>if they also give you the ability to work remotely

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<v Speaker 1>on top of working in the office, that's a huge benefit.

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<v Speaker 1>That's like a It's a kind of job benefit or

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<v Speaker 1>job perk that you can't necessarily put a price tag

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<v Speaker 1>on the same way you can like base salary or

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<v Speaker 1>signing bonus or equity. But it's definitely one of the

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<v Speaker 1>more attractive benefits that jobs have today to offer, and

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<v Speaker 1>it's what people want. We desperately are wanting more of

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<v Speaker 1>this flexibility, So I can understand why. Like, for example,

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<v Speaker 1>if you've got job A and they're offering you seventy

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<v Speaker 1>five flexible schedule, you can make your own schedule, you

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<v Speaker 1>can work from home when you want to remote work

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<v Speaker 1>when you want to, et cetera. And you're choosing between

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<v Speaker 1>that job versus Job B, which is maybe ninety five K,

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<v Speaker 1>but they want your butt in the seat at eight am,

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<v Speaker 1>and they want you to track your lunch breaks and

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<v Speaker 1>they dock your pay if you're gonna be late or

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<v Speaker 1>things like that like that to me, is maybe not

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<v Speaker 1>worth at extra twenty K, And it's really a personal

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<v Speaker 1>choice at the end of the day. It's a personal choice.

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<v Speaker 1>If the job, if the job that you have now

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<v Speaker 1>is giving you flexibility, that makes you, It makes you happy,

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<v Speaker 1>It makes your day easier, it helps you do what

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<v Speaker 1>you can for yourself, for your family and have a

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<v Speaker 1>living wage and be able to pay your bills on time.

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<v Speaker 1>Like that is the dream, right However, I would never

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<v Speaker 1>want anyone to necessarily stay in a job just because

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<v Speaker 1>they're flexible, the same way I wouldn't want someone to

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<v Speaker 1>stay in a job because the pay is decent. You

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<v Speaker 1>never know what else is out there, and that the

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<v Speaker 1>reality is that a lot of like there's more than

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<v Speaker 1>one employer that is willing to be flexible today, especially

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<v Speaker 1>in today's job market, more and more employers are getting it.

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<v Speaker 1>They are actually getting it. They are increasing the number

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<v Speaker 1>of paid time off days, sick days, you know, being

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<v Speaker 1>more flexible when it comes to remote work. So the

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<v Speaker 1>odds are even greater of finding another employer that will

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<v Speaker 1>be equally as flexible, but then also may pay you more.

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<v Speaker 1>So what I'm not a fan of is ever just staying.

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<v Speaker 1>Like my least favorite word I think I mentioned it

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<v Speaker 1>before is stable. Just because something is stable and it's

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<v Speaker 1>a known entity doesn't necessarily mean it's the best place

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<v Speaker 1>for you in your career. So that's why I'm always

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<v Speaker 1>encouraging people to keep one eye open, stay open to opportunities,

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<v Speaker 1>stay you know, with one eye on LinkedIn or job

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<v Speaker 1>boards to see what's coming through. Keep an eye out

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<v Speaker 1>for employers that you hear have a great reputation for

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<v Speaker 1>their benefits, Employers that you hear friends talking about, or

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<v Speaker 1>that have been have won awards for the way they've

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<v Speaker 1>treated employees, or have been written in like publications like

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<v Speaker 1>fast Company or Insider or even Bloomberg. Sometimes they'll do

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<v Speaker 1>lists of the best companies to work for or spotlight

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<v Speaker 1>companies that have these amazing benefits. So keep an eye

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<v Speaker 1>on that, because just because of place like there's more

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<v Speaker 1>than one, there's more than one option out there. So

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<v Speaker 1>that's what I will say. Great, I understand why you'd

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<v Speaker 1>stay someplace, and even if you know it's paying a

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<v Speaker 1>little bit less than what you can get somewhere else.

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<v Speaker 1>But the huge benefit is that they're flexible. I understand

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<v Speaker 1>that one hundred percent. But I don't want people to

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<v Speaker 1>limit themselves or think that there's not other opportunities that

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<v Speaker 1>could do both. It is possible to have flexibility and

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<v Speaker 1>get good pay. You just have to be willing to

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<v Speaker 1>wait and look for those opportunities as they come by.

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<v Speaker 1>All right, thank you Keley. Let's move on to another question.

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<v Speaker 1>This one comes from Golda. I know Golda gold That's

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<v Speaker 1>one of my career coaching clients, so I love this question.

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<v Speaker 1>Golda says, Hey, Nandy, if I leave a job after

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<v Speaker 1>three months, what are the pros and cons of leaving

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<v Speaker 1>it on my resume? Ooh, this is a good one, Golda.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm not gonna even lie. I can think of two jobs,

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<v Speaker 1>at least I'm trying to remember now, two jobs that

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<v Speaker 1>I have full time. These are like full time professional roles.

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<v Speaker 1>Not when I'm talking about jobs, I'm not really talking

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<v Speaker 1>about like the part time work you did in college

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<v Speaker 1>or in between, or bartending or whatever, nannying. If you

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<v Speaker 1>do like those side jobs more like full time roles

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<v Speaker 1>that you would put on a resume or LinkedIn. I

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<v Speaker 1>can think of two jobs that I don't have on

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<v Speaker 1>my resume because they were just short. They were such

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<v Speaker 1>short stints. The reason is because collectively, like my resume

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<v Speaker 1>right now as it stands, is really strong with what

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<v Speaker 1>I have on there. The pros and cons of whether

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<v Speaker 1>or not to have that in your resume. So let's

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<v Speaker 1>work through them. Pros of including a job that's on

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<v Speaker 1>your resume when you've only been there for three months.

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<v Speaker 1>Pro is it explains a career gap. So this is

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<v Speaker 1>becoming less problematic or less frowned upon by recruiters and

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<v Speaker 1>hiring managers these days, to have like a gap on

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<v Speaker 1>your resume. They're not as they're not as much like

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<v Speaker 1>looking at that and questioning and being suspicious and actually

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<v Speaker 1>LinkedIn just released a new feature that lets you add

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<v Speaker 1>a career pause to your resume on LinkedIn or to

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<v Speaker 1>your list of employment on LinkedIn, a career pause, which

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<v Speaker 1>then you can explain if it was for caregiving or

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<v Speaker 1>whatever reason, which is like destigmatizing that whole thing in

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<v Speaker 1>this case though, So the pro there is that you

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<v Speaker 1>can explain rather than have a gap there. You could

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<v Speaker 1>have an explanation like, Okay, I was here for a

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<v Speaker 1>short stint. Now I would expect in an interview them

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<v Speaker 1>to ask you, okay, so you know, I see you

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<v Speaker 1>only spend three months at this job. You know, can

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<v Speaker 1>you tell me why? As long as you've got a

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<v Speaker 1>strong story and you have a reason behind why you left,

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<v Speaker 1>and it wasn't like, oh, I just like I just

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<v Speaker 1>didn't like it. You know, hours were crappy, so I

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<v Speaker 1>just left, Like you have to have a strong reason,

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<v Speaker 1>and it can be you know, I was hired to

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<v Speaker 1>do X y Z the company was acquired and everything changed.

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<v Speaker 1>Or I was hired thinking that I'd be working on

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<v Speaker 1>this team but things changed. You know. That's so often

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<v Speaker 1>the reason why we leave jobs after such such short

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<v Speaker 1>stints is because something was It was like a bait

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<v Speaker 1>and switch, like and this happens. I think a lot

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<v Speaker 1>when people are getting a job and you think it's

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<v Speaker 1>something and you get in and you're like, oh crap,

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<v Speaker 1>this is not it. And in that case, I think

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<v Speaker 1>it's to be respected that that you're able to recognize

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<v Speaker 1>this is not a good fit. I'm no longer the

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<v Speaker 1>right person, so let me move on. So a pro

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<v Speaker 1>is that you're able to explain that in an interview

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<v Speaker 1>if given the opportunity, and you can, if you tell

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<v Speaker 1>a reasonable story and tell it in the right way,

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<v Speaker 1>then I think the hiring maid or the recruiter will

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<v Speaker 1>understand and it won't necessarily be a mark against you. Now,

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<v Speaker 1>some cons if I can play devil's advocate here, so

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<v Speaker 1>obviously having so if you're looking at if you've got

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<v Speaker 1>a long resume and you know you've worked two years

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<v Speaker 1>and three years and four years, and then there's like

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<v Speaker 1>a three month stint somewhere at the bottom, like the sorry.

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<v Speaker 1>If it wasn't like a recent job and it's earlier

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<v Speaker 1>in your career, I would I would lean toward that

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<v Speaker 1>being more of a con It's just going to distract

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<v Speaker 1>them from all the great work that you've done more recently,

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<v Speaker 1>and it's going to like give them a reason to

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<v Speaker 1>ask it. Like I would remove it honestly if it

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<v Speaker 1>was let's say three years or more in the past

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<v Speaker 1>and you've had at least one or two solid jobs

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<v Speaker 1>since then, because like I said, it could just create

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<v Speaker 1>like an opportunity for some doubt to creep in, and

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<v Speaker 1>like I said, like you've got substantial career experience since then,

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<v Speaker 1>so kind of like why take that little bit of risk.

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<v Speaker 1>So I can go either way. If it's something if

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<v Speaker 1>it's like your most recent job and you're leaving after

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<v Speaker 1>three months, I would I would probably add it if

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<v Speaker 1>the story that you have you think will resonate with recruiters.

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<v Speaker 1>If not, then I would say you could use the

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<v Speaker 1>new career pause or career break feature on LinkedIn just

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<v Speaker 1>to characterize that as a career break, and you can

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<v Speaker 1>also use the same language you know on your resume

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<v Speaker 1>if you wanted to say career break, and then you

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<v Speaker 1>can kind of explain I was trying out different things

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<v Speaker 1>and ultimately decided that this is a path I want

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<v Speaker 1>to take, and this is why I want to work

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<v Speaker 1>for your company. So much of interviewing and explaining our

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<v Speaker 1>career history is about storytelling. And I talk about storytelling

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<v Speaker 1>all the time. I mean, it's how I make my

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<v Speaker 1>living telling stories as a has been as a writer

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<v Speaker 1>and a journalist. But it's so crucial, and that's what

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<v Speaker 1>I feel like. I spend a ton of time working

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<v Speaker 1>with my career coaching clients on is okay, so these

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<v Speaker 1>things happened. If we tell the story in an accurate

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<v Speaker 1>but strategic way, we can frame it in the best

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<v Speaker 1>possible light so that the people on the other end

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<v Speaker 1>understand where you're coming from, and they're understanding your thought

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<v Speaker 1>process and the considerations that you took before making these decisions.

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<v Speaker 1>So that's why I actually don't think that short stints

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<v Speaker 1>at jobs necessarily are what could hinder your potential of

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<v Speaker 1>getting your next great opportunity. I think it has a

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<v Speaker 1>lot more to do with how you characterize those short

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<v Speaker 1>stints and what you say to the recruiter or hiring

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<v Speaker 1>manager about that time. If you've got a good, practiced,

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<v Speaker 1>well framed story prepared for that, and you anticipate it'll

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<v Speaker 1>come off positively, then I would say leave it. If

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<v Speaker 1>your story is not there, or it was a really

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<v Speaker 1>terrible experience and the story does not paint you in

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<v Speaker 1>the best light, then I would say probably just leave

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<v Speaker 1>it off the resume and explain it as a career

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<v Speaker 1>pause of some kind. All right, I hope that is helpful.

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<v Speaker 1>Thank you so much for your question, Golda. Thank you

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