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Speaker 1: of The Brown Ambition Q and A the b A

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Speaker 1: q A. Thank y'all so much for sending us your questions.

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Speaker 1: This is one of my favorite times of the week

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Speaker 1: when I get to sit down and see what's going

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Speaker 1: on in y'all's lives and what kinds of questions you've got. Today.

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Speaker 1: We have some interesting ones. A couple of you know,

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Speaker 1: career questions, which is which is my groove, it's my jam,

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Speaker 1: but a kind of spicy question about someone whose husband

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Speaker 1: may or may not have been using credit cards to invest. Oof.

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Speaker 1: This one's painful. I'm still trying to figure out how

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Speaker 1: I'm going to respond to it. But listen, this is

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Speaker 1: some really juicy tea, some hot pipe pipe and hot

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Speaker 1: tea for your Friday. So let's get it going, all right.

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Speaker 1: Question number one that I teased This comes from listener Robin,

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Speaker 1: who sent us an e mail saying Oof okay. Robin says,

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Speaker 1: my husband does not believe in savings accounts and often

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Speaker 1: an over fifty thousand dollars investment without consulting me. He

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Speaker 1: often does this, and he lost it all this was

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Speaker 1: all done with credit cards. What or where should I

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Speaker 1: start to secure my financial future? Robin, every sentence it

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Speaker 1: got worse. Like, first of all, doesn't believe in savings accounts.

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Speaker 1: I didn't think that was a thing that we know.

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Speaker 1: I thought we could at least all agree that's one

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Speaker 1: of those things like in today's world, can't we at

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Speaker 1: least agree that saving is important, like we can we

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Speaker 1: can fight about politics and vaccinations and that, but came.

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Speaker 1: I thought we could at least agree that having more

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Speaker 1: money set aside is better than not having money set aside.

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Speaker 1: But Okay, your husband's a unique individual. So first of all,

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Speaker 1: doesn't believe in savings accounts. Strike one often blows through money.

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Speaker 1: Strike two lies to you, because I think not telling

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Speaker 1: you is also a lie. Lies to you when he

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Speaker 1: spent fifty thousand dollars on credit cards to invest like what,

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Speaker 1: I don't even so I'm going to make an assumption

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Speaker 1: invested in an individual's business by paying with a credit card.

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Speaker 1: I have no idea. I can't even begin to fathom

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Speaker 1: your question, though, is where do I even start to

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Speaker 1: secure my financial future? Robin, Listen, I am in obviously.

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Speaker 1: I've been married for several years now, I've been with

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Speaker 1: my partner for a decade, and it's not easy. It's

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Speaker 1: definitely not easy to align yourselves financially with an entire

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Speaker 1: with a different individual. You've got to diferent goals, different styles,

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Speaker 1: different values potentially. But this is like beyond, This is

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Speaker 1: beyond the normal kind of situation that partners face when

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Speaker 1: it comes to trying to work out their finances as

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Speaker 1: a team. This is next level. I mean, this is

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Speaker 1: like fraud. It's fraud on you. I'm concerned for you, genuinely,

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Speaker 1: genuinely concerned that your finances are in deep, deep jeopardy.

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Speaker 1: The longer this continues to go on. At this point,

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Speaker 1: given the level of financial infidelity happening, the level of

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Speaker 1: I'm gonna guess manipulation control, I don't know what's exactly

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Speaker 1: even know if there's a way to necessarily rectify it.

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Speaker 1: As far as your personal financial future, I would make

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Speaker 1: sure that none of that debt is in your name,

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Speaker 1: like those credit cards. I'm hoping that they were just

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Speaker 1: in your husband's name and not your own, and start

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Speaker 1: keeping really tight control and protecting your finance. It's protecting

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Speaker 1: your bank accounts. I would start squirreling away money in

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Speaker 1: access to. Girl, get that password, get second factor authentication,

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Speaker 1: because I don't think you want your husband anywhere near

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Speaker 1: this is shocking to me. So I would start on

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Speaker 1: your own. Like, let's even forget about the relationship factor.

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Speaker 1: Like you're you're an independent woman. You can decide whether

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Speaker 1: or not this is the kind of relationship you want

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Speaker 1: to continue having. But let's say you decide to stay

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Speaker 1: with this person. I think it's all about you creating

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Speaker 1: a huge like grand canyon, sides divide, and on one

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Speaker 1: you know in this case things are a bit simpler.

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Speaker 1: It's just you. So I'm trying to think of other

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Speaker 1: ways you could potentially I mean, this guy unhinged. He

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Speaker 1: But this does not sound like a healthy relationship. It

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Speaker 1: sounds really freaking scary. I hope that you're taking care

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Speaker 1: don't necessarily blame yourself. I mean, listen, when people are

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Speaker 1: end of the day. I am wishing you really well.

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Speaker 1: Thank you so much for opening up and sharing your story,

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Speaker 1: and I hope you hear this and I hope that

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Speaker 1: you're doing well. Okay, all right, WHOA, that was a lot.

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Speaker 1: Why don't we take a quick breaking break and I

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Speaker 1: will be right back with more of your ba q

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Speaker 1: and as all right, ba fam, we are back. I

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Speaker 1: am well, I say we. I'm so used to being

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Speaker 1: a wee Tiffany. I miss you. I am back. It's

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Speaker 1: Mandy with more of your ba Q and a's y'all.

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Speaker 1: love to get y'all's questions, everything from career to financial

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Speaker 1: All right, We've got a couple of juicy career questions now,

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Speaker 1: so let me move on over to IG. Actually, I've

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Speaker 1: got a question from Kelly. Kelly says Mandy. I listened

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Speaker 1: So I hosted a webinar last week. It's called seventy

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Speaker 1: And what I love about this webinar is people like

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Speaker 1: it's I keep it. I keep it one hundred percent

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Speaker 1: So I love that Kelly wrote in to ask this question.

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Speaker 1: So she's saying, stay at a job because it's flexible,

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Speaker 1: Like that is the dream, right However, I would never

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Speaker 1: Like my least favorite word I think I mentioned it

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