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Speaker 1: I put with Alexi Napola and Marisa Patton an iHeartRadio podcast.

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Speaker 2: Hi, Amiga, I haven't seen you in days. I know

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Speaker 2: I miss you too. Baby.

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Speaker 1: I'm gonna snuggle with you for the next two days.

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Speaker 2: I know what a treat. How is your weekend?

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Speaker 1: My weekend was good. You know, Mother's Day is always hard,

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Speaker 1: as it is for you too. You know, yes, it's

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Speaker 1: a hard day. We don't have our moms, but you

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Speaker 1: also have a good day because you have children.

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Speaker 2: So I have you mons.

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Speaker 3: Yes, so I get to be celebrated, even though I

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Speaker 3: says is every day of the year, but I do

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Speaker 3: understand it's the day that they recognize us and they

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Speaker 3: pat for us, and we get all this extra attention

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Speaker 3: that we deserve.

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Speaker 2: I got a little love from my step sons. It

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Speaker 2: was very sweet. Oh that's very sweet. You have really loved.

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Speaker 1: They're getting they're getting a little attached to me.

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Speaker 2: Huh, I like it, mousdam.

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Speaker 3: That's always a really nice feeling to be loved by

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Speaker 3: your two step children.

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Speaker 2: So, yes, amazing, it's really good. We speaking of sons exactly.

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Speaker 2: Speaking of sons, It's no secret that I'm this protective

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Speaker 2: mama bear and I like you. I'm so proud of

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Speaker 2: being that kind of a mom.

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Speaker 3: You know, I have a really good relationship with both

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Speaker 3: of my sons and it's something that I will always have.

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Speaker 3: And as a mom, you know, I am concerned about,

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Speaker 3: you know, the kind of women that my children date,

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Speaker 3: even though they.

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Speaker 2: Are of course, and you know what, Mama is always

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Speaker 2: no best.

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Speaker 1: We see things coming miles before they even see it, right.

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Speaker 2: Unfortunately, our moms did, right, we just never them.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, my mom, I know, she's like, you know, in

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Speaker 3: heaven and she's thinking, you know, you know.

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Speaker 2: So now I'm doing.

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Speaker 3: The same thing with my sons, and I want them

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Speaker 3: to listen to me because you know, I know what

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Speaker 3: I'm talking about. And yes, So the question is how

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Speaker 3: do I remain calm? Right, how do I remain calm

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Speaker 3: when I see Peter dating people that maybe I don't

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Speaker 3: like or they're not exactly marriage material.

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Speaker 2: So the answer is I don't remain calm. I mean,

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Speaker 2: who's got home? Right, my friend? You're seeing me in action? Yeah, yeah, yeah,

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Speaker 2: that's what I've been doing.

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Speaker 3: I'm working on that because you know, I mean, he

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Speaker 3: is like in his thirties already, and you know, I

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Speaker 3: just want them to.

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Speaker 2: It's kind of like as a.

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Speaker 3: Mom, you want to protect them. You don't want them

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Speaker 3: to make the same mistakes you made.

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Speaker 2: You don't want them to hurt, right.

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Speaker 3: And you know in Ma Canala, like you said, you know,

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Speaker 3: it's kind of like been there, done that, and you

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Speaker 3: already like see it coming. And I mean, all you

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Speaker 3: can really do is pray for the best and give

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Speaker 3: them the best advice that you can. Always know that

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Speaker 3: you're here for them, that you're the friend, and you know,

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Speaker 3: no matter what challenges they face and the relationship, that

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Speaker 3: you're going to be here and listen to them and

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Speaker 3: help them. And that's kind of like what I'm doing,

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Speaker 3: you know, and kind of like just letting him being

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Speaker 3: those lessons himself.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, that's the best way because then he won't repeat,

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Speaker 1: you know, you know, we have to learn from every mistake.

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Speaker 2: I know I'm going to repeat.

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Speaker 3: He's so good and I'm like one, like any woman,

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Speaker 3: like taking advantage of him. And like I said, you know,

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Speaker 3: I'm at a point in my life that since because

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Speaker 3: I've gone through all my life experiences, it's like like

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Speaker 3: my mom used to say, you have like that clinical

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Speaker 3: lie that I can spot them am all away and

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Speaker 3: I want to be like.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, get out of the way up.

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Speaker 2: No, I mean, you know I think that that's I

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Speaker 2: think that's normal.

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Speaker 3: And I think like as a Latina mom, you know,

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Speaker 3: I think we're maybe a little bit more overbearing or

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Speaker 3: you know, I think that that's how my parents were

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Speaker 3: with me. But again it's all like with good intentions,

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Speaker 3: you know, because you you don't want them to hurt,

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Speaker 3: You don't want them to suffer, you don't want them

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Speaker 3: like all you know.

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Speaker 2: Away from them.

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Speaker 1: Claudaga. Think you know what my mother used to do

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Speaker 1: with all my boyfriends and husbands. She'd get really close

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Speaker 1: to them and go to lunch with them and talk

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Speaker 1: to them on the phone all the time. She spent

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Speaker 1: more time with them than I did.

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Speaker 2: Well, I was smart and I was screaming them for you.

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Speaker 2: She was.

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Speaker 1: She loved all of them, and but she she thought

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Speaker 2: Boyfriends, right, but did you love them? I'm like oilcle forward,

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Speaker 2: slow the role. She'd be like telling me what they're thinking,

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Speaker 2: what they did to them, Like I haven't even heard

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Speaker 2: from them. Tell you had lunch with them today, Well,

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Speaker 2: you had a better experience.

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Speaker 3: And I did that because my mother never liked my boyfriends,

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Speaker 3: never liked my husband's until like Todd well herman.

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Speaker 2: It took her a while as well. By the way,

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Speaker 2: Oh she didn't like them, no, because my mom never

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Speaker 2: thought that any man wasn't good enough for me.

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Speaker 1: My mom didn't like mine either, but she wanted to

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Speaker 1: hang out with them. And I've monat or Da.

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Speaker 2: I was like, I can't tell you, Michael, love is

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Speaker 2: not that I can do better, and you know, and

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Speaker 2: I don't know. I feel like I'm doing the same

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Speaker 2: thing with Peter. I always thinking he can do better.

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Speaker 3: He's had some nice girlfriends that that I that I

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Speaker 3: have liked and I have approved of, and you know,

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Speaker 3: I feel we're talking about him right now because you know,

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Speaker 3: I want to.

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Speaker 2: Replace to see Peter.

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Speaker 3: I'm sorry, but yeah, no, you know, I think that

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Speaker 3: if he marries somebody like me, he'll be perfect. So

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Speaker 3: I'm hoping that you know how they say that you

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Speaker 3: marry somebody like your mom or dad. I hope that

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Speaker 3: he finds, you know, all the good qualities and good

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Speaker 3: traits that I have. You know, I'm not perfect, and

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Speaker 3: neither is he. But you know, I really hope that

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Speaker 3: he he learns to, you know, to recognize, you know,

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Speaker 3: the good traits and you know, the good things that

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Speaker 3: you look for in a partner so that he can have,

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Speaker 3: you know, a happy and healthy life and relationship.

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Speaker 2: You know, I'm still learning myself.

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Speaker 3: You know, we never you know, we never stop growing,

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Speaker 3: and you know, we just want to make our relationships better.

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Speaker 3: And you know, I really feel that he's you know, matured,

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Speaker 3: and he's going to you know, to the point that

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Speaker 3: that he he knows, you know that he knows. And

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Speaker 3: I'm confident that he's going to marry you know, a

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Speaker 3: good woman and he's going to be in a good relationship.

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Speaker 3: But meanwhile, he's having fun and and yeah, you know,

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Speaker 3: I think as a mom, you just want your kids

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Speaker 3: to be happy. But at the same time, it's kind

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Speaker 3: of like, Okay, I want you to be happy, bitter

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Speaker 3: or you know, you you know, because it's kind of

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Speaker 3: like I never had daughters, so I want, you know,

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Speaker 3: when that moment comes, you know, I want to you know,

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Speaker 3: halfier in my life.

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Speaker 2: I want to be part of my life. And that's

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Speaker 2: why you can't be I think like sometimes when you

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Speaker 2: tell your kids like no, no, no, that's when they

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Speaker 2: really want it, right, because that's what they're doing to me,

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Speaker 2: Like they were approve of any of my guys. So

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Speaker 2: it's like and you know me, prove wrong and then

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Speaker 2: I really wanted to date them. So I'm learning from that.

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Speaker 3: Actually, I'm learning a lot from Todd, because Todd is like,

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Speaker 3: you know what, you have to like start saying yes,

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Speaker 3: because when you stay there you say yes, you know

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Speaker 3: then he he won't want it. It's kind of like

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Speaker 3: when you go against Delgray with time. Right, that's a

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Speaker 3: really good point. So I'm working on that, and I

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Speaker 3: think we're we've gone to that point that I'm like, oh, okay, okay,

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Speaker 3: well when you're really serious and then you know, we'll

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Speaker 3: talk about it and I'll screen them.

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Speaker 1: It's that that train of thought, Like I mean, for me,

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Speaker 1: any time anyone has told me no, that's when I

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Speaker 1: excel the most because I have to prove to you

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Speaker 1: that you are wrong and that no is not in

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Speaker 1: my language for me.

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Speaker 2: I mean, I want to think that out our age.

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Speaker 2: You know what. I don't want to learn anymore. I've

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Speaker 2: learned everything about to learn I've had like really tough

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Speaker 2: life lessons.

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Speaker 1: I mean in every in every scenario that if someone

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Speaker 1: says to me, now, that's not going to happen and

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Speaker 1: you can't do I'm like, you know, doahawd, right, I

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Speaker 1: guess I gave them poo handle, you know.

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Speaker 2: Yes, anybody, it's going to be that mama bear and

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Speaker 2: and I like it.

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Speaker 1: And you're that sister bear too.

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Speaker 3: Yes, I'm trying not to be a helicopter mom because

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Speaker 3: that's a little different, and I think it is already

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Speaker 3: obviously my kids already at an age that you know,

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Speaker 3: you can only like be their friend and be there

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Speaker 3: for them, and you're not going to dictate I bone,

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Speaker 3: you know, kind of like you know, impose on them

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Speaker 3: what you want, like they have to figure it out

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Speaker 3: on their own. But I would want, you know, to

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Speaker 3: obviously approve of that person when the day comes. You know,

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Speaker 3: it's both ways, because I feel like our children too

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Speaker 3: want to like the man that work with or you know,

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Speaker 3: whatever partner is that we select. You know, they want

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Speaker 3: to also have a relationship and want to have a

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Speaker 3: say in that. So I think we all need to

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Speaker 3: be respectful, you know, of each other, and you know

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Speaker 3: and hopefully, you know, find that person where both sides

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Speaker 1: It's not easy, but yeah, especially in a blended family. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: I got lucky that I didn't bring anything but dogs

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Speaker 1: to my relationship. That's so much easier, my friend, and

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Speaker 1: it's a lot easier, and you.

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Speaker 3: Know, yeah, see, yeah, I see you brought like two dogs.

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Speaker 3: They count for like ten kids because you're your dogs

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Speaker 3: are sweet and.

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Speaker 2: Loving, but there are a lot of work. You didn't

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Speaker 2: train them either, so no, they're.

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Speaker 1: A little naughty and they seem to feel like, you know,

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Speaker 1: the whole house is their toilet, the entire house is

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Speaker 1: their big one.

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Speaker 2: By pad, Sorry, I mean to use that word. It

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Speaker 2: sounds better when you use that effort though.

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Speaker 1: I know, I guess a little more good.

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Speaker 3: I always say that that's like the best word in

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Speaker 3: the English language. That word in Spanish, we don't have

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Speaker 3: that equivalent. It's really good to say that effort doesn't

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Speaker 3: match all. No talking about relationships toxics.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, you've been open.

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Speaker 3: You've been pretty open about past relationships that you've had

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Speaker 3: in the past that have given to be toxic.

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Speaker 2: And yeah, I had a feel. I had a feel.

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Speaker 3: No, I mean, so we can all kind of say that,

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Speaker 3: had been a lot of maturing and girls and they

438
00:20:00,320 --> 00:20:02,640
Speaker 3: were at a good place in their lives, both of them.

439
00:20:02,720 --> 00:20:04,680
Speaker 3: They knew what they didn't want, what hadn't work before,

440
00:20:04,800 --> 00:20:08,200
Speaker 3: would work now. And that's what that's what I'm really

441
00:20:08,280 --> 00:20:10,720
Speaker 3: hoping for, because you know, I don't I don't like

442
00:20:10,800 --> 00:20:13,520
Speaker 3: to judge people's relationship by a picture of like a

443
00:20:13,600 --> 00:20:17,080
Speaker 3: moment that they saw so basically myself that you know,

444
00:20:17,119 --> 00:20:20,159
Speaker 3: they see Ben always grumpy, but you know, maybe he

445
00:20:20,240 --> 00:20:23,000
Speaker 3: doesn't like the cameras, he doesn't like the proparazzi following him.

446
00:20:23,000 --> 00:20:24,920
Speaker 3: I mean, they're obviously in the wrong city. You know,

447
00:20:24,960 --> 00:20:26,720
Speaker 3: they're in Los Angeles, so of course they're going to

448
00:20:26,760 --> 00:20:26,960
Speaker 3: get that.

449
00:20:27,720 --> 00:20:30,640
Speaker 2: But you know, I mean, think about it, they're followed

450
00:20:31,160 --> 00:20:32,840
Speaker 2: up by the proparazzi all the time.

451
00:20:33,000 --> 00:20:36,000
Speaker 1: I mean, that's really knowing my friend, it is, but

452
00:20:36,280 --> 00:20:39,439
Speaker 1: also knowing that and he knows that he looks grumpy.

453
00:20:39,520 --> 00:20:41,800
Speaker 2: You'd think that, but it's good, you know what.

454
00:20:41,920 --> 00:20:44,600
Speaker 3: I respect, but it's not going to put on a

455
00:20:44,720 --> 00:20:47,639
Speaker 3: smile and a happy face just so they don't talk, you.

456
00:20:47,640 --> 00:20:48,600
Speaker 2: Know, about.

457
00:20:50,080 --> 00:20:50,119
Speaker 3: Me.

458
00:20:51,840 --> 00:20:54,000
Speaker 2: It's a terrible way to live, but you know, I

459
00:20:54,200 --> 00:20:54,840
Speaker 2: respect them.

460
00:20:54,880 --> 00:20:57,920
Speaker 3: He doesn't care, you know, And unfortunately all they do

461
00:20:58,400 --> 00:21:00,280
Speaker 3: is I continue to follow him, and you know what,

462
00:21:00,359 --> 00:21:01,679
Speaker 3: They're not going to get a smile out of him

463
00:21:01,680 --> 00:21:03,119
Speaker 3: because he's not.

464
00:21:03,160 --> 00:21:03,560
Speaker 2: Going to do it.

465
00:21:03,680 --> 00:21:05,600
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, do you think at this point he's just

466
00:21:05,680 --> 00:21:07,600
Speaker 1: not smiling because he wants to just keep it going

467
00:21:07,960 --> 00:21:08,760
Speaker 1: like he doesn't care.

468
00:21:08,880 --> 00:21:13,840
Speaker 2: And that's it, Like I'm not going to smile because

469
00:21:13,840 --> 00:21:16,480
Speaker 2: then you're going to say fake smiling. Right, Well, I

470
00:21:16,520 --> 00:21:19,040
Speaker 2: mean a Rod was laughing all the time and from

471
00:21:19,080 --> 00:21:21,280
Speaker 2: a smile from here to here, and you know, I'm

472
00:21:21,440 --> 00:21:23,400
Speaker 2: very you know, he wasn't very happy either, and neither

473
00:21:23,520 --> 00:21:24,879
Speaker 2: was she. So it's.

474
00:21:26,920 --> 00:21:29,080
Speaker 3: No, that's that's what I'm saying that just like a

475
00:21:29,240 --> 00:21:32,679
Speaker 3: picture like doesn't anything right because.

476
00:21:32,440 --> 00:21:34,960
Speaker 2: It's like, I mean, who loved more bread carper moment

477
00:21:35,040 --> 00:21:36,280
Speaker 2: than a Rod? Right?

478
00:21:36,400 --> 00:21:39,080
Speaker 3: And and Jlo and for that matter, you know, they

479
00:21:39,160 --> 00:21:41,320
Speaker 3: had all these problems you know, behind the scene.

480
00:21:41,119 --> 00:21:43,320
Speaker 2: That nobody was looking, that nobody knew or was talking

481
00:21:43,359 --> 00:21:44,360
Speaker 2: about until it did.

482
00:21:44,480 --> 00:21:46,720
Speaker 1: So you you think it's because he's sober and it

483
00:21:46,800 --> 00:21:47,679
Speaker 1: doesn't agree with him.

484
00:21:48,520 --> 00:21:50,880
Speaker 3: No, I think it's a combination of things. I think

485
00:21:50,960 --> 00:21:53,280
Speaker 3: that you know, he's he's not that guy, and he

486
00:21:53,400 --> 00:21:56,480
Speaker 3: never really has been. You know, he doesn't like the spotlight,

487
00:21:56,600 --> 00:21:59,160
Speaker 3: you know, only when he's directing the movie or starring

488
00:21:59,200 --> 00:22:01,840
Speaker 3: in the movie or one of his award shows. And

489
00:22:02,520 --> 00:22:05,320
Speaker 3: and Jail obviously has lived her life differently in the

490
00:22:05,400 --> 00:22:08,399
Speaker 3: spot life and enjoying it. But you know, at the

491
00:22:08,520 --> 00:22:10,240
Speaker 3: end of the day, they just have to learn how

492
00:22:10,320 --> 00:22:14,360
Speaker 3: to separate, you know, their that life and their their

493
00:22:14,440 --> 00:22:17,000
Speaker 3: life at home, you know, with one another as a couple.

494
00:22:17,600 --> 00:22:20,520
Speaker 2: But I'm just like, I don't know. I really want

495
00:22:20,600 --> 00:22:22,440
Speaker 2: them to work out. I really want I mean, this

496
00:22:22,640 --> 00:22:26,480
Speaker 2: is like her what fourth of marriage? Ready? I think fourth?

497
00:22:26,640 --> 00:22:28,560
Speaker 2: What do you think? Do you think it's gonna work out?

498
00:22:28,920 --> 00:22:30,639
Speaker 2: I don't. I mean, I don't know.

499
00:22:31,760 --> 00:22:33,119
Speaker 4: I'm not I don't go to bed with them, and

500
00:22:33,160 --> 00:22:36,320
Speaker 4: I don't I mean, I know, I'm there, you know,

501
00:22:36,359 --> 00:22:38,520
Speaker 4: I'm sitting here, and you know, they're making a narrative

502
00:22:38,560 --> 00:22:42,240
Speaker 4: about me and my relationship behind my back, right, But

503
00:22:42,440 --> 00:22:45,240
Speaker 4: think about it, every couple, every married couple, goes.

504
00:22:45,160 --> 00:22:48,200
Speaker 2: Through this Marasol. I mean, I don't know. He looks

505
00:22:48,320 --> 00:22:51,920
Speaker 2: consistently miserable, he really does. And let me ask you something.

506
00:22:52,000 --> 00:22:55,200
Speaker 1: Have you noticed that every time they catch him being miserable,

507
00:22:55,320 --> 00:22:58,000
Speaker 1: like she does like a pr move and has straight

508
00:22:58,200 --> 00:22:58,800
Speaker 1: up and smile.

509
00:22:58,960 --> 00:23:01,840
Speaker 2: She's at them and that you love me.

510
00:23:02,240 --> 00:23:05,879
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, that's a vessel, pretend you love me?

511
00:23:06,119 --> 00:23:06,800
Speaker 2: Does something?

512
00:23:08,000 --> 00:23:11,520
Speaker 3: Well, there's there's definitely something there obviously, and they love

513
00:23:11,600 --> 00:23:14,320
Speaker 3: each other. But I feel that they're having a hard

514
00:23:14,440 --> 00:23:17,800
Speaker 3: time when they go out in public, perhaps and Miami, I.

515
00:23:17,840 --> 00:23:21,680
Speaker 1: Will ask her, why don't you go home with them

516
00:23:21,880 --> 00:23:24,040
Speaker 1: and get in bed with them like Freud and see

517
00:23:24,040 --> 00:23:25,080
Speaker 1: if you can figure this out?

518
00:23:25,560 --> 00:23:27,960
Speaker 2: Oh god, no, I don't know how that would. So

519
00:23:28,040 --> 00:23:29,919
Speaker 2: I don't know about that. It's a little more complicated.

520
00:23:30,280 --> 00:23:32,320
Speaker 2: But I mean, even in the red carpet, think about it,

521
00:23:32,440 --> 00:23:34,440
Speaker 2: the red carpets that we've done, even with talk, Todd

522
00:23:34,520 --> 00:23:36,760
Speaker 2: doesn't like to take pictures on the red carpet. That

523
00:23:36,840 --> 00:23:39,400
Speaker 2: makes them feel uncomfortable. But he's a professional. You think

524
00:23:39,440 --> 00:23:41,879
Speaker 2: you can pull a smile on a red carpet, so

525
00:23:42,000 --> 00:23:44,480
Speaker 2: you're in the red carpet. Listen. I guess he's an actor,

526
00:23:45,040 --> 00:23:47,280
Speaker 2: it doesn't matter, but he's not acting. This is real.

527
00:23:47,480 --> 00:23:49,320
Speaker 2: This is a real moment.

528
00:23:49,560 --> 00:23:51,959
Speaker 3: And by the way, by the way, because I've been

529
00:23:52,000 --> 00:23:54,800
Speaker 3: under that stress, right, because I'm a real person and

530
00:23:54,880 --> 00:23:57,480
Speaker 3: I'm in the red carpet moment. You know, sometimes my

531
00:23:57,600 --> 00:23:59,240
Speaker 3: kids go with us to the events. So I'm worried

532
00:23:59,240 --> 00:24:02,000
Speaker 3: about Frankie, worried about Peter. I'm worried, Oh my god,

533
00:24:02,000 --> 00:24:04,240
Speaker 3: they're there, Like did they come in? Did they know

534
00:24:04,280 --> 00:24:06,320
Speaker 3: where we're acting? So your head's all over the place.

535
00:24:06,359 --> 00:24:08,560
Speaker 3: And these are these are real human beings as well.

536
00:24:08,880 --> 00:24:10,560
Speaker 1: You have tea people.

537
00:24:10,680 --> 00:24:13,440
Speaker 3: They're not only an actress and an actor, you know,

538
00:24:13,600 --> 00:24:16,560
Speaker 3: they they come from from They have problems at home,

539
00:24:16,680 --> 00:24:17,520
Speaker 3: they leave the house.

540
00:24:17,600 --> 00:24:19,400
Speaker 2: You know, the stress of getting ready for a red

541
00:24:19,480 --> 00:24:20,399
Speaker 2: carpet moment.

542
00:24:20,520 --> 00:24:20,880
Speaker 3: Is a lot.

543
00:24:21,080 --> 00:24:23,480
Speaker 1: I don't think Ben's that stress when he's getting ready

544
00:24:23,480 --> 00:24:24,240
Speaker 1: for a red carpet.

545
00:24:26,760 --> 00:24:28,639
Speaker 2: Jennifer probably stresses.

546
00:24:28,280 --> 00:24:29,400
Speaker 1: Him out, stresses him out.

547
00:24:29,520 --> 00:24:32,359
Speaker 3: She wants it to be perfect. She wanted her to

548
00:24:32,400 --> 00:24:34,479
Speaker 3: be perfect, and is you know, outfu to be perfect.

549
00:24:34,920 --> 00:24:37,920
Speaker 3: So she said, wait, Yeayesa, and he's not because he

550
00:24:38,000 --> 00:24:40,720
Speaker 3: really doesn't care about that. He really doesn't care for

551
00:24:40,720 --> 00:24:41,000
Speaker 3: a lot.

552
00:24:41,160 --> 00:24:41,919
Speaker 2: So I get.

553
00:24:41,840 --> 00:24:45,119
Speaker 1: That's an he's an actor and he could act at

554
00:24:45,200 --> 00:24:47,239
Speaker 1: least on a red carpet and smile a little bit.

555
00:24:47,440 --> 00:24:50,280
Speaker 1: He's he's he's he's the one driving this this narrative.

556
00:24:51,400 --> 00:24:52,280
Speaker 2: So you're blaming him.

557
00:24:52,320 --> 00:24:55,040
Speaker 3: Then you think that he should just say, I'm saying,

558
00:24:56,080 --> 00:24:59,040
Speaker 3: reality TV star, I don't think you should smile, that

559
00:24:59,119 --> 00:24:59,920
Speaker 3: he should be faking it.

560
00:25:00,640 --> 00:25:03,040
Speaker 1: He could muster a smile. He's an actor.

561
00:25:04,080 --> 00:25:08,240
Speaker 3: Well, I appreciate his authenticity on him being so real

562
00:25:08,320 --> 00:25:11,240
Speaker 3: and him not giving a shit and giving us something

563
00:25:11,280 --> 00:25:13,359
Speaker 3: to talk about, because that's why we're here talking about it.

564
00:25:14,440 --> 00:25:16,800
Speaker 3: But anyways, I could really relate to them because I

565
00:25:16,920 --> 00:25:19,920
Speaker 3: know those red carpet moments are stressful and it takes

566
00:25:20,040 --> 00:25:22,600
Speaker 3: a lot to get ready for, you know, to get

567
00:25:22,640 --> 00:25:24,359
Speaker 3: the whole family together, the.

568
00:25:24,440 --> 00:25:26,840
Speaker 2: Family be there, you're worried about them, what's going to

569
00:25:26,880 --> 00:25:29,240
Speaker 2: happen later? And you know, And that's what it is.

570
00:25:29,359 --> 00:25:31,520
Speaker 3: I mean, in my eyes and my perspective, that's what

571
00:25:31,680 --> 00:25:35,240
Speaker 3: it is. I think people are just fascinated with talking.

572
00:25:34,960 --> 00:25:37,000
Speaker 2: About other people. Just if we are right now talking

573
00:25:37,040 --> 00:25:38,879
Speaker 2: about them and some people are going to defend them

574
00:25:39,000 --> 00:25:42,760
Speaker 2: and the haters are safe. This is a fascinating topic

575
00:25:42,880 --> 00:25:43,200
Speaker 2: for sure.

576
00:25:43,400 --> 00:25:46,080
Speaker 3: I mean, she obviously loves something about him because she's

577
00:25:46,080 --> 00:25:49,080
Speaker 3: still there, and you know, she's very quick about pulling

578
00:25:49,119 --> 00:25:49,520
Speaker 3: the trigger.

579
00:25:49,680 --> 00:25:50,199
Speaker 2: So if she.

580
00:25:50,200 --> 00:25:52,600
Speaker 3: Wouldn't be happy, and just like if he wouldn't be happy,

581
00:25:53,080 --> 00:25:55,080
Speaker 3: they're both you know, growing ass adults, and they can

582
00:25:55,160 --> 00:25:57,640
Speaker 3: go their own very way and they'll be just fine.

583
00:25:57,720 --> 00:26:00,920
Speaker 2: I think they must have like a major printup she

584
00:26:01,240 --> 00:26:03,840
Speaker 2: I mean, she's tell them money than him, Yeah, so

585
00:26:03,960 --> 00:26:06,840
Speaker 2: she should have a greenup. He's produced a lot of

586
00:26:06,840 --> 00:26:07,439
Speaker 2: big movies.

587
00:26:07,640 --> 00:26:10,320
Speaker 3: Doesn't matter if she has a whole empire, So I

588
00:26:10,440 --> 00:26:12,680
Speaker 3: hope she really hasn't. I mean, I think for both

589
00:26:12,720 --> 00:26:15,119
Speaker 3: of them, the smart move obviously is to have a

590
00:26:15,160 --> 00:26:17,120
Speaker 3: greenup because they're both very wealthy people.

591
00:26:17,560 --> 00:26:19,600
Speaker 2: But at this point, I think she has more money

592
00:26:19,640 --> 00:26:21,280
Speaker 2: than him. Could be who knows.

593
00:26:21,400 --> 00:26:23,719
Speaker 3: In addition to all the pressures that they have as

594
00:26:23,760 --> 00:26:27,240
Speaker 3: a couple, they also have their blended family. You know,

595
00:26:27,359 --> 00:26:30,440
Speaker 3: he has three children from his previous marriage. She has

596
00:26:30,520 --> 00:26:33,880
Speaker 3: her twins which are full time with her. I mean,

597
00:26:34,000 --> 00:26:37,840
Speaker 3: it's it's it's a lot of pressure. Honestly, I'm going

598
00:26:37,920 --> 00:26:40,120
Speaker 3: to give them a break because it's a lot.

599
00:26:40,560 --> 00:26:42,720
Speaker 2: Yeah. And besides, I mean you know that she's like

600
00:26:42,800 --> 00:26:46,480
Speaker 2: my girl crushed, So I know you love her everything. Fact,

601
00:26:46,520 --> 00:26:49,359
Speaker 2: but I will I will rest here because I know

602
00:26:49,480 --> 00:26:51,720
Speaker 2: that you love her so much. Yeah, you know, I

603
00:26:51,760 --> 00:26:52,400
Speaker 2: think it's women.

604
00:26:52,480 --> 00:26:54,200
Speaker 3: I mean women always like like try to like to

605
00:26:54,280 --> 00:26:58,359
Speaker 3: criticize her and put her down and whatever, and I don't.

606
00:26:58,480 --> 00:27:00,359
Speaker 3: I think that I have a lot of set for

607
00:27:00,400 --> 00:27:04,359
Speaker 3: her because she's you know, she's done so much, you know,

608
00:27:04,520 --> 00:27:06,520
Speaker 3: with her life, and she had like all the odds

609
00:27:06,560 --> 00:27:09,400
Speaker 3: against her, and I think as a Latina she kind

610
00:27:09,400 --> 00:27:12,119
Speaker 3: of like opens up the market for the latina's with

611
00:27:12,240 --> 00:27:13,360
Speaker 3: her movie Selena.

612
00:27:13,520 --> 00:27:16,680
Speaker 2: With Selena, and you know, she's done so much. So

613
00:27:17,040 --> 00:27:19,240
Speaker 2: I really have a lot of respect for her. Yeah,

614
00:27:19,320 --> 00:27:23,560
Speaker 2: she's listened. She's a hard worker. She's super dedicated and focused. Definitely. Well,

615
00:27:23,600 --> 00:27:27,040
Speaker 2: speaking of hard workers, how do you feel about Taylor Swift?

616
00:27:27,119 --> 00:27:29,640
Speaker 3: Because Taylor is another one that works her a little

617
00:27:29,680 --> 00:27:34,119
Speaker 3: bit off, and she also stays very busy with all

618
00:27:34,200 --> 00:27:36,159
Speaker 3: her relationships, right.

619
00:27:36,280 --> 00:27:39,600
Speaker 1: So she just that she's like jail. She goes from

620
00:27:39,640 --> 00:27:43,400
Speaker 1: one to another. She never has a break, that's right, Yeah,

621
00:27:43,800 --> 00:27:45,040
Speaker 1: And how do you feel about that?

622
00:27:46,080 --> 00:27:48,040
Speaker 2: No? I mean I feel like she gets really good

623
00:27:48,119 --> 00:27:48,680
Speaker 2: music from it.

624
00:27:48,880 --> 00:27:50,879
Speaker 3: So you know, we're happy every time she moves on

625
00:27:50,960 --> 00:27:53,200
Speaker 3: to another relationship because she's going to sing about it.

626
00:27:53,280 --> 00:27:55,240
Speaker 2: And I love her music. And are you're a tailor?

627
00:27:55,320 --> 00:27:56,560
Speaker 1: Oh you're a Taylor Swift fan.

628
00:27:57,280 --> 00:28:01,480
Speaker 3: Yeah, I'm a Taylor Swift fan too. I think she's

629
00:28:01,600 --> 00:28:03,680
Speaker 3: she's really great. And Todd went to her concert and

630
00:28:03,800 --> 00:28:07,600
Speaker 3: she said she was amazing in Dallas. She's a great

631
00:28:07,760 --> 00:28:09,640
Speaker 3: entertainer and performer and everything.

632
00:28:10,800 --> 00:28:13,040
Speaker 2: I'm not gonna lie. I'm like Queen of Rebounds.

633
00:28:13,560 --> 00:28:15,280
Speaker 1: You've known me long enough to know that I don't

634
00:28:15,320 --> 00:28:17,520
Speaker 1: like to be two minutes by myself, and I always

635
00:28:17,600 --> 00:28:21,480
Speaker 1: jump into something without thinking about it, like right, I get.

636
00:28:21,359 --> 00:28:22,080
Speaker 2: Married and even.

637
00:28:23,560 --> 00:28:27,879
Speaker 1: Yeah, just like Taylor, just like JA, just like Elizabeth Taylor.

638
00:28:28,000 --> 00:28:31,960
Speaker 1: Speaking of Taylor, right, I you know that's my thing.

639
00:28:32,080 --> 00:28:34,720
Speaker 1: And life is short and I'm all about you know,

640
00:28:34,840 --> 00:28:37,360
Speaker 1: living in the moment. And you know there's no guarantee

641
00:28:37,400 --> 00:28:40,080
Speaker 1: that if she sits home and waits a year or

642
00:28:40,120 --> 00:28:43,520
Speaker 1: two years, that that's going to be the rest relationship.

643
00:28:43,800 --> 00:28:47,040
Speaker 2: Of course, people like to put like an expert, you know,

644
00:28:47,160 --> 00:28:49,800
Speaker 2: like a date, like when is it okay for you

645
00:28:49,960 --> 00:28:53,200
Speaker 2: to you should write on your next relationship?

646
00:28:53,360 --> 00:28:55,960
Speaker 3: Is there like like a period of time that you

647
00:28:56,080 --> 00:28:58,920
Speaker 3: need to take between one breakup and your next relationship.

648
00:29:00,040 --> 00:29:02,720
Speaker 1: I mean people say it's healthy to do that. I

649
00:29:02,920 --> 00:29:05,640
Speaker 1: don't do that, but you know, because I know how

650
00:29:05,720 --> 00:29:07,840
Speaker 1: short life is, and I want to live. I want

651
00:29:07,840 --> 00:29:09,720
Speaker 1: to live every moment. And if I make a mistake,

652
00:29:09,760 --> 00:29:11,120
Speaker 1: I'll make a mistake and I'll learn from it.

653
00:29:12,520 --> 00:29:14,400
Speaker 2: But I want to live, you know.

654
00:29:14,680 --> 00:29:16,400
Speaker 1: And like I said, there's no guarantee that if you

655
00:29:16,480 --> 00:29:19,320
Speaker 1: sit at home and wait six months or a year

656
00:29:19,480 --> 00:29:21,680
Speaker 1: to move on to your next relationship, that that's a

657
00:29:21,760 --> 00:29:25,160
Speaker 1: full proof you know, that's the full proof way to go,

658
00:29:25,280 --> 00:29:27,480
Speaker 1: and that guarantees that your next relationship is going to

659
00:29:27,520 --> 00:29:31,080
Speaker 1: be amazing, you know, like you have to work on yourself,

660
00:29:31,160 --> 00:29:32,200
Speaker 1: like we said before.

661
00:29:32,320 --> 00:29:34,240
Speaker 3: Right, And I mean I think it also must be

662
00:29:34,400 --> 00:29:37,880
Speaker 3: so difficult for her. I mean, she's a mega superstar.

663
00:29:38,200 --> 00:29:41,920
Speaker 3: She's thirty two years old, and she's at the peak

664
00:29:42,000 --> 00:29:45,920
Speaker 3: of her career. So can you imagine how heart it

665
00:29:46,000 --> 00:29:50,640
Speaker 3: must be for her to find someone that is not

666
00:29:50,840 --> 00:29:53,720
Speaker 3: really you know, just being with her because she's Taylor

667
00:29:53,800 --> 00:29:56,360
Speaker 3: Swift and may have you know, other motives and just

668
00:29:56,480 --> 00:29:58,320
Speaker 3: like liking her and being with her.

669
00:29:59,080 --> 00:30:05,280
Speaker 1: So you know, she keeps dating other celebrities and I know,

670
00:30:05,600 --> 00:30:08,440
Speaker 1: you know, but I don't know any of the guys

671
00:30:08,480 --> 00:30:11,719
Speaker 1: that she's doing well. That's that's going to be difficult, right,

672
00:30:12,080 --> 00:30:13,440
Speaker 1: So do you think that she's.

673
00:30:13,280 --> 00:30:15,720
Speaker 3: Better off with just like a normal guy that is

674
00:30:15,840 --> 00:30:17,800
Speaker 3: not in the same world as her, or do you

675
00:30:17,960 --> 00:30:21,000
Speaker 3: think that that it would work better with somebody you

676
00:30:21,040 --> 00:30:23,200
Speaker 3: see she's like the opposite, Like so for example, Ben

677
00:30:23,280 --> 00:30:25,480
Speaker 3: and j Lo, you said that you don't think you.

678
00:30:25,520 --> 00:30:28,600
Speaker 2: Know that that would work out. Here's the thing.

679
00:30:29,120 --> 00:30:30,960
Speaker 1: I don't know if it's better to be with someone

680
00:30:31,040 --> 00:30:34,520
Speaker 1: that's also in your career and then maybe feels bad

681
00:30:34,560 --> 00:30:36,880
Speaker 1: about himself because you're doing better and he's not, or

682
00:30:36,880 --> 00:30:38,560
Speaker 1: if you're better off being with someone like I am

683
00:30:38,640 --> 00:30:43,120
Speaker 1: with Steve who does nothing to do with television, super supportive,

684
00:30:43,800 --> 00:30:45,840
Speaker 1: has nothing to do and it doesn't care, just wants

685
00:30:45,920 --> 00:30:49,080
Speaker 1: me to win. So you know, I don't know. You know,

686
00:30:49,240 --> 00:30:53,240
Speaker 1: look at Tom Hanks and Rita Wilson. They've been together forever,

687
00:30:54,360 --> 00:30:56,880
Speaker 1: they're both in the same career. They support each other.

688
00:30:57,000 --> 00:31:00,520
Speaker 1: Sometimes it works. Sometimes it doesn't. I don't believe Goldie

689
00:31:00,920 --> 00:31:02,360
Speaker 1: and yeah, yeah, yeah.

690
00:31:02,760 --> 00:31:05,600
Speaker 2: Whats his name? Boldihan's husband. Uh well, I mean there's

691
00:31:05,600 --> 00:31:07,320
Speaker 2: a few of them in Hollywood. There's been a few,

692
00:31:07,520 --> 00:31:09,000
Speaker 2: you know, success stories.

693
00:31:09,120 --> 00:31:11,160
Speaker 3: You know, we're both the man and the woman have

694
00:31:11,280 --> 00:31:13,960
Speaker 3: both been big you know, actors and actresses, and the

695
00:31:14,080 --> 00:31:15,880
Speaker 3: had a beautiful life together.

696
00:31:16,600 --> 00:31:21,080
Speaker 1: And but there's also been occasions where people on movie

697
00:31:21,160 --> 00:31:23,800
Speaker 1: sets cheat and then look what happened with Angeline and

698
00:31:23,920 --> 00:31:27,920
Speaker 1: Brad or Joanne Woodward and Paul Newman. They split up

699
00:31:28,000 --> 00:31:31,600
Speaker 1: marriages right meeting on seck with other rights.

700
00:31:31,640 --> 00:31:33,880
Speaker 4: So let's thank god, thank god we don't have that

701
00:31:34,080 --> 00:31:37,920
Speaker 4: risk because we're so I know, I thought we don't

702
00:31:37,920 --> 00:31:39,200
Speaker 4: have that exactly.

703
00:31:39,360 --> 00:31:39,840
Speaker 2: Thank god that.

704
00:31:39,880 --> 00:31:42,200
Speaker 3: Doesn't happen in our show, but it apparently happens on

705
00:31:42,280 --> 00:31:45,080
Speaker 3: other really reality TV shows like Random Hunt Poules.

706
00:31:45,760 --> 00:31:48,680
Speaker 2: So, but yeah, Todd and Steven have enough to worry,

707
00:31:48,760 --> 00:31:51,400
Speaker 2: nothing to worry about. I don't know what the answer is,

708
00:31:51,520 --> 00:31:53,840
Speaker 2: my friend, you know, I don't know. I don't know.

709
00:31:54,080 --> 00:31:57,600
Speaker 3: I think that because they're like pool of dating their

710
00:31:57,680 --> 00:32:00,880
Speaker 3: dating pool is so small, you know, and they're like

711
00:32:01,160 --> 00:32:03,960
Speaker 3: in Los Angeles and they're all over the world, and

712
00:32:04,080 --> 00:32:05,920
Speaker 3: like they're like around other celebrities.

713
00:32:06,560 --> 00:32:07,960
Speaker 2: It's kind of like normal for them.

714
00:32:08,440 --> 00:32:10,760
Speaker 3: So you can't even really blame them because these are

715
00:32:10,800 --> 00:32:12,640
Speaker 3: the people that they hang out with, like this is

716
00:32:12,720 --> 00:32:13,680
Speaker 3: who they're exposed to.

717
00:32:14,440 --> 00:32:16,480
Speaker 1: So and then they get it where they have to

718
00:32:16,520 --> 00:32:18,800
Speaker 1: take off at a minute's notice or they can afford

719
00:32:18,880 --> 00:32:21,200
Speaker 1: to meet them, because you know, it's also you know,

720
00:32:21,640 --> 00:32:22,000
Speaker 1: I like.

721
00:32:22,040 --> 00:32:24,480
Speaker 3: To think that it would work because you know, I

722
00:32:24,640 --> 00:32:28,200
Speaker 3: think that a celebrity gets another celebrity, or at least

723
00:32:28,240 --> 00:32:31,320
Speaker 3: they get their lifestyle, and they respect each other as

724
00:32:31,400 --> 00:32:34,800
Speaker 3: like talent and their work ethics. So you know, I

725
00:32:34,920 --> 00:32:36,960
Speaker 3: want to think in my head that that would work

726
00:32:37,040 --> 00:32:40,840
Speaker 3: better than someone that comes from a completely different world.

727
00:32:41,120 --> 00:32:43,520
Speaker 3: But then again, somebody that does come from a completely

728
00:32:43,560 --> 00:32:46,200
Speaker 3: different world, like you said, would support it. Maybe it

729
00:32:46,240 --> 00:32:48,320
Speaker 3: doesn't know too much about it, so therefore there's no.

730
00:32:48,400 --> 00:32:52,440
Speaker 1: Conflict back like shine maybe help you, but then they're

731
00:32:52,520 --> 00:32:54,720
Speaker 1: more into yeah, but.

732
00:32:54,760 --> 00:32:59,760
Speaker 2: That gets more into sometimes it depends, you know, Well,

733
00:33:00,000 --> 00:33:00,920
Speaker 2: so she's very young.

734
00:33:01,080 --> 00:33:03,840
Speaker 3: She's very young, and she's beautiful and talented, and you

735
00:33:03,960 --> 00:33:06,040
Speaker 3: know she's I don't think she's going to have ever

736
00:33:06,320 --> 00:33:10,080
Speaker 3: a problem with finding a guy, whether he's a celebrity

737
00:33:10,360 --> 00:33:11,320
Speaker 3: or a normal guy.

738
00:33:12,000 --> 00:33:16,200
Speaker 2: And she's also no I also around. The hardest time

739
00:33:16,360 --> 00:33:19,000
Speaker 2: is keeping them because she goes from one to the other.

740
00:33:19,760 --> 00:33:22,480
Speaker 1: But she's grown up in the limelight kind of like

741
00:33:22,760 --> 00:33:27,040
Speaker 1: Britney and Christina. Even even Madonna started when she was

742
00:33:27,120 --> 00:33:29,360
Speaker 1: really young. I think it's very hard for them when

743
00:33:29,360 --> 00:33:32,239
Speaker 1: they grow up around that to keep somebody because they

744
00:33:32,520 --> 00:33:36,520
Speaker 1: just live such a different life and they're so regimented

745
00:33:36,600 --> 00:33:40,240
Speaker 1: and they're in you know, they're they're all their things.

746
00:33:40,280 --> 00:33:42,960
Speaker 1: They're very super focused and hyper focused and don't have

747
00:33:43,040 --> 00:33:45,760
Speaker 1: a lot to give to a relationship sometimes or maybe

748
00:33:45,760 --> 00:33:47,959
Speaker 1: they have too much to get right or they expect

749
00:33:48,000 --> 00:33:49,920
Speaker 1: too much from the people around them because they expect

750
00:33:50,000 --> 00:33:51,080
Speaker 1: so much from themselves.

751
00:33:51,720 --> 00:33:53,600
Speaker 3: Yeah, well she has time to figure it out because

752
00:33:53,600 --> 00:33:56,360
Speaker 3: she's still very young. Yeah, but do you think that

753
00:33:56,480 --> 00:33:58,600
Speaker 3: she should be criticized like that she's moving on, like

754
00:33:58,680 --> 00:34:00,680
Speaker 3: from a new man, you know, after six years.

755
00:34:01,360 --> 00:34:02,800
Speaker 2: I mean you want to think that if you've been

756
00:34:02,840 --> 00:34:04,040
Speaker 2: with somebody for six years.

757
00:34:04,160 --> 00:34:06,800
Speaker 3: I think that when something like that happens, my friend,

758
00:34:06,960 --> 00:34:08,960
Speaker 3: is because you moved on a long time ago, Like

759
00:34:09,040 --> 00:34:10,920
Speaker 3: even though you just broke up or one of them,

760
00:34:10,960 --> 00:34:14,120
Speaker 3: you break it, your breakup. It means kind of like

761
00:34:14,239 --> 00:34:16,200
Speaker 3: you haven't been present, you know what I mean? Because

762
00:34:16,200 --> 00:34:18,160
Speaker 3: how can you be so in love with somebody and

763
00:34:18,280 --> 00:34:20,480
Speaker 3: just break up and like a week later, like be

764
00:34:20,640 --> 00:34:21,480
Speaker 3: dating somebody else.

765
00:34:22,680 --> 00:34:25,160
Speaker 1: So does that lead you to believe that she was

766
00:34:25,200 --> 00:34:27,839
Speaker 1: the one that instigated the breakup because she's already moved

767
00:34:27,920 --> 00:34:29,840
Speaker 1: on somebody.

768
00:34:30,280 --> 00:34:35,080
Speaker 3: Oh so I didn't hear anything about that. I think

769
00:34:35,120 --> 00:34:38,239
Speaker 3: it was something mutual. I feel like sometimes the celebrities

770
00:34:38,320 --> 00:34:40,560
Speaker 3: don't announce, you.

771
00:34:40,600 --> 00:34:43,880
Speaker 2: Know, exactly what to happen, right, So I'm sure this

772
00:34:44,040 --> 00:34:46,719
Speaker 2: is the thing for months. Yeah, we don't even know

773
00:34:47,239 --> 00:34:49,040
Speaker 2: what the right time is. You know, for all week.

774
00:34:49,200 --> 00:34:52,040
Speaker 3: There could have been broken up, you know, personally between

775
00:34:52,120 --> 00:34:55,320
Speaker 3: them six months ago and now publicly they just announced it.

776
00:34:56,000 --> 00:34:56,560
Speaker 2: Exactly.

777
00:34:57,280 --> 00:34:59,719
Speaker 1: I was going to say that why always in my head? Yes,

778
00:35:02,960 --> 00:35:07,000
Speaker 1: you know, like I said before, just do your rebounds

779
00:35:07,080 --> 00:35:09,120
Speaker 1: and have fun and live your life, you know along

780
00:35:09,200 --> 00:35:15,360
Speaker 1: the way, you know, exactly right. Yeah, we said this

781
00:35:15,560 --> 00:35:17,719
Speaker 1: last week, we did, the best way to get over

782
00:35:17,880 --> 00:35:18,440
Speaker 1: someone is to.

783
00:35:18,480 --> 00:35:22,200
Speaker 2: Get under someone new. Of course, that's like I will.

784
00:35:23,640 --> 00:35:27,879
Speaker 1: The English version. Yes, yeah, yeah, all right, Taylor, good

785
00:35:27,920 --> 00:35:29,800
Speaker 1: luck to you with your new guy. We want to

786
00:35:29,840 --> 00:35:31,360
Speaker 1: see a wedding girl and.

787
00:35:31,400 --> 00:35:33,319
Speaker 3: We want to we want to listen to a new song.

788
00:35:33,760 --> 00:35:35,560
Speaker 3: I'm sure it will be like another number one hit.

789
00:35:44,840 --> 00:35:45,799
Speaker 2: Well, speaking of.

790
00:35:47,360 --> 00:35:52,320
Speaker 1: Speaking of breakups, Oh my god, I saw this coming.

791
00:35:52,400 --> 00:35:55,680
Speaker 1: Did you see this coming? Kim Zola Verly?

792
00:35:56,200 --> 00:35:59,160
Speaker 2: Anti Cohen didn't see it coming. Anti, there was such

793
00:35:59,200 --> 00:35:59,920
Speaker 2: a loving couple.

794
00:36:00,000 --> 00:36:04,000
Speaker 3: Well, Auntie was really in shock that that Kim and

795
00:36:04,200 --> 00:36:06,920
Speaker 3: her husband were going to a divorce. He said he

796
00:36:06,960 --> 00:36:10,560
Speaker 3: would have never ever seen something like that coming because

797
00:36:10,600 --> 00:36:12,759
Speaker 3: they were so loving to each other. There were so

798
00:36:12,880 --> 00:36:16,680
Speaker 3: many to each other. He had adopted her kids, her daughters.

799
00:36:17,360 --> 00:36:19,600
Speaker 3: So the truth is that you never really.

800
00:36:19,440 --> 00:36:20,000
Speaker 2: Know my friend.

801
00:36:20,400 --> 00:36:24,080
Speaker 1: Actually, when they first got together and she kept having

802
00:36:24,200 --> 00:36:27,800
Speaker 1: all the babies and they were living like hi, I

803
00:36:27,920 --> 00:36:30,120
Speaker 1: thought that money's going to run out one day because

804
00:36:30,200 --> 00:36:33,560
Speaker 1: he's not going to play football forever and they're spending

805
00:36:33,640 --> 00:36:36,320
Speaker 1: a lot and she's having a lot of kids, and

806
00:36:36,440 --> 00:36:38,319
Speaker 1: I kept thinking, there's going to be a problem down

807
00:36:38,360 --> 00:36:40,360
Speaker 1: the road, there's going to be Well, you know me,

808
00:36:40,440 --> 00:36:43,520
Speaker 1: I'm very prudent with my cash. So I started spending

809
00:36:43,600 --> 00:36:45,440
Speaker 1: and I saw all the babies.

810
00:36:45,080 --> 00:36:47,360
Speaker 3: And I thought, oh boy, this is not going to

811
00:36:47,480 --> 00:36:48,839
Speaker 3: end with But I mean, they only had a home

812
00:36:48,880 --> 00:36:50,600
Speaker 3: that was one point six million dollars.

813
00:36:50,640 --> 00:36:53,520
Speaker 2: It's not like about a ten million dollar mansion. She

814
00:36:53,640 --> 00:36:56,840
Speaker 2: was working too, But she was working too. What about

815
00:36:56,880 --> 00:36:58,600
Speaker 2: her money? She was making good money too.

816
00:37:00,120 --> 00:37:02,279
Speaker 1: She stopped working and he stopped working, and I guess

817
00:37:02,480 --> 00:37:04,839
Speaker 1: I couldn't keep I mean, but they both right, So say,

818
00:37:05,560 --> 00:37:08,640
Speaker 1: I mean, somebody has to work. Well, we all knew

819
00:37:08,640 --> 00:37:10,399
Speaker 1: the show wasn't gonna last prover and he couldn't play

820
00:37:10,440 --> 00:37:11,120
Speaker 1: football forever.

821
00:37:11,320 --> 00:37:13,080
Speaker 2: And those are a lot of kids that aren't gonna.

822
00:37:13,320 --> 00:37:17,480
Speaker 1: Actually there were going careers that were very short term, temporary.

823
00:37:17,760 --> 00:37:19,839
Speaker 2: Yeah, and they didn't plant it that way.

824
00:37:20,560 --> 00:37:23,480
Speaker 3: But do you think it's like, okay, we don't know

825
00:37:23,600 --> 00:37:27,520
Speaker 3: at this point that why they're getting divorced. But I

826
00:37:28,000 --> 00:37:30,759
Speaker 3: do want to add that the financial problems in a

827
00:37:30,840 --> 00:37:35,560
Speaker 3: relationship are general one caused, you know, besides g I

828
00:37:35,640 --> 00:37:39,200
Speaker 3: think the financials, you know, financial problems are way up there.

829
00:37:40,120 --> 00:37:43,360
Speaker 1: And so those are the two reasons that usually happens

830
00:37:43,440 --> 00:37:44,839
Speaker 1: financially also too.

831
00:37:44,920 --> 00:37:47,200
Speaker 3: Like in slows and other factors, but usually the two

832
00:37:47,239 --> 00:37:52,080
Speaker 3: strongest is is that you know, the infidelity and financial problems.

833
00:37:52,600 --> 00:37:54,240
Speaker 2: But do you think that's okay?

834
00:37:54,560 --> 00:37:56,719
Speaker 3: I mean, would you ever be if if your man

835
00:37:56,960 --> 00:38:00,359
Speaker 3: was going through financial troubles, would you abandon in him?

836
00:38:01,400 --> 00:38:02,279
Speaker 2: No, no, no, no, no.

837
00:38:02,480 --> 00:38:05,600
Speaker 1: I think you're stronger together. I would work work with

838
00:38:05,800 --> 00:38:08,359
Speaker 1: him because I'm a hustler and I always know how

839
00:38:08,400 --> 00:38:10,200
Speaker 1: to figure out how to make money and do things,

840
00:38:10,760 --> 00:38:13,320
Speaker 1: and I would, you know, it's I would stay with

841
00:38:13,440 --> 00:38:15,160
Speaker 1: my partner and work it out with him. You know,

842
00:38:15,280 --> 00:38:17,319
Speaker 1: together we could do more than separate.

843
00:38:17,239 --> 00:38:19,520
Speaker 3: Saying that's why you're my mega, that's why you're my

844
00:38:19,600 --> 00:38:22,279
Speaker 3: friend role because I think exactly like you. Actually, I

845
00:38:22,360 --> 00:38:24,960
Speaker 3: had this conversation with Todd last night and I said,

846
00:38:25,000 --> 00:38:28,000
Speaker 3: I want to hope that there's something more than financial problems,

847
00:38:28,520 --> 00:38:30,840
Speaker 3: because like that's pretty shitty, you know, just because like

848
00:38:30,880 --> 00:38:32,840
Speaker 3: you're losing everything now and your own money to the

849
00:38:32,880 --> 00:38:36,000
Speaker 3: irs and blah blah blah, that you just like, you know,

850
00:38:36,160 --> 00:38:38,879
Speaker 3: abandon each other, because like you said, it's a time

851
00:38:38,920 --> 00:38:41,920
Speaker 3: where you need to really, you know, get together to

852
00:38:42,320 --> 00:38:45,080
Speaker 3: be a team and work it out and work it

853
00:38:45,120 --> 00:38:47,200
Speaker 3: out at least to just come up from that, right

854
00:38:47,280 --> 00:38:49,200
Speaker 3: And I felt like it's so sad that they loved

855
00:38:49,200 --> 00:38:52,480
Speaker 3: each other so much and there were such a beautiful family.

856
00:38:52,680 --> 00:38:55,800
Speaker 2: And really were a beautiful fan. Yes, you know and

857
00:38:55,960 --> 00:38:57,160
Speaker 2: they I.

858
00:38:57,239 --> 00:39:01,680
Speaker 3: Remember seeing her at portious wedding port Yeah. Yeah, She's

859
00:39:01,719 --> 00:39:04,960
Speaker 3: always so sweet and beautiful. And it was really at

860
00:39:05,000 --> 00:39:07,080
Speaker 3: that point I didn't know anything. And then you know,

861
00:39:07,200 --> 00:39:09,640
Speaker 3: this is not even a year later, six eight months later,

862
00:39:10,320 --> 00:39:12,640
Speaker 3: and we find out about this. And I'm always really

863
00:39:12,719 --> 00:39:15,600
Speaker 3: excited to hear about these kind of breakups, especially but

864
00:39:15,719 --> 00:39:16,840
Speaker 3: there's children involved.

865
00:39:16,880 --> 00:39:20,759
Speaker 2: It just breaks my heart and I just I just

866
00:39:20,880 --> 00:39:23,720
Speaker 2: want to like preempt what I was saying before.

867
00:39:24,560 --> 00:39:27,600
Speaker 1: I was I never thought that they would split, but

868
00:39:27,800 --> 00:39:29,640
Speaker 1: I knew they were going to end up in some

869
00:39:29,760 --> 00:39:33,440
Speaker 1: big financial trouble. That's what I saw early on. I

870
00:39:33,560 --> 00:39:37,120
Speaker 1: was like, that is a lot of overspending, a lot

871
00:39:37,200 --> 00:39:41,680
Speaker 1: of children, and both careers are very temporary. I saw

872
00:39:41,840 --> 00:39:44,520
Speaker 1: a financial problem. I really didn't think they'd split up

873
00:39:44,960 --> 00:39:45,439
Speaker 1: because they.

874
00:39:45,360 --> 00:39:49,120
Speaker 3: Look I mean financial, financial problems to split up people,

875
00:39:49,400 --> 00:39:51,400
Speaker 3: of course, but you know, you never really.

876
00:39:51,360 --> 00:39:53,360
Speaker 2: Know, like what happens behind the scenes.

877
00:39:53,400 --> 00:39:56,600
Speaker 3: But I guess after they announced they're split, you know,

878
00:39:56,680 --> 00:39:59,640
Speaker 3: I think he's asking for full custody, soul, custody of

879
00:40:00,080 --> 00:40:03,200
Speaker 3: the children, and I think she is as well.

880
00:40:03,360 --> 00:40:06,240
Speaker 2: So they're like in a really bad place. And again.

881
00:40:07,680 --> 00:40:10,600
Speaker 1: Left the little they have left they're going not spending

882
00:40:10,640 --> 00:40:11,960
Speaker 1: in courtrooms and they shouldn't.

883
00:40:12,760 --> 00:40:14,800
Speaker 2: They need to figure that out. No, I mean hopefully

884
00:40:14,920 --> 00:40:15,359
Speaker 2: they don't.

885
00:40:15,480 --> 00:40:18,160
Speaker 3: Hopefully they can get past this and you know, look

886
00:40:18,239 --> 00:40:21,120
Speaker 3: at the the bigger picture and say, okay, like there's

887
00:40:21,320 --> 00:40:25,319
Speaker 3: there's no money here, and usually divorces get messy when

888
00:40:25,360 --> 00:40:28,160
Speaker 3: there's money. But there's no money here. They actually have

889
00:40:28,280 --> 00:40:32,320
Speaker 3: a lot of debt. So at this point, I don't know,

890
00:40:32,640 --> 00:40:34,719
Speaker 3: you know, what the outcome is going to be. But

891
00:40:35,400 --> 00:40:37,600
Speaker 3: it really upset me to read.

892
00:40:37,440 --> 00:40:39,560
Speaker 1: This, you know, and to find out how this very sad.

893
00:40:40,080 --> 00:40:43,680
Speaker 2: Yeah, there's just there's so little those kids.

894
00:40:43,760 --> 00:40:46,279
Speaker 3: Yeah, because there's at this point, since there's no money

895
00:40:46,719 --> 00:40:49,560
Speaker 3: as far as the divorce goes, now it's becoming a

896
00:40:50,040 --> 00:40:53,440
Speaker 3: custody battle, and that's even more sad because you know,

897
00:40:53,880 --> 00:40:55,560
Speaker 3: you don't you want to protect your children.

898
00:40:55,840 --> 00:40:58,200
Speaker 1: Yeah, it's going to play out in the press, it's

899
00:40:58,239 --> 00:40:59,959
Speaker 1: going to cost a lot of money. It's only gonna

900
00:41:00,000 --> 00:41:01,160
Speaker 1: make things more toxic.

901
00:41:01,320 --> 00:41:03,840
Speaker 3: But do you think so we I mean, we've already

902
00:41:03,960 --> 00:41:07,839
Speaker 3: established that they lived above their means. But I feel

903
00:41:07,920 --> 00:41:09,719
Speaker 3: like there's a lot of people, you know, in the

904
00:41:09,960 --> 00:41:13,480
Speaker 3: celebrity world, I mean even in the regular.

905
00:41:13,160 --> 00:41:17,120
Speaker 2: World that you know about their means, right, But in

906
00:41:17,200 --> 00:41:17,880
Speaker 2: this case.

907
00:41:17,680 --> 00:41:20,200
Speaker 3: We're talking about like hot topics what everybody else is

908
00:41:20,280 --> 00:41:22,719
Speaker 3: talking about right now. And you know, these are two

909
00:41:22,960 --> 00:41:26,560
Speaker 3: people that are public figures as well and are going

910
00:41:26,640 --> 00:41:30,719
Speaker 3: through this, you know, divorce publicly, and all these allegations

911
00:41:30,760 --> 00:41:34,200
Speaker 3: are remade about their finances and about you know, their

912
00:41:34,280 --> 00:41:36,400
Speaker 3: custody battle. So I.

913
00:41:37,920 --> 00:41:41,359
Speaker 2: I don't know what the outcome will be, and I'm

914
00:41:41,400 --> 00:41:42,439
Speaker 2: sure they don't know either.

915
00:41:42,520 --> 00:41:44,200
Speaker 3: I mean, there's like all this money that's old to

916
00:41:44,280 --> 00:41:48,279
Speaker 3: the irs and their house was in foreclosure. They have

917
00:41:48,400 --> 00:41:51,200
Speaker 3: a one point six million dollar mansion in Atlanta and

918
00:41:51,239 --> 00:41:52,240
Speaker 3: the loan was in default.

919
00:41:53,239 --> 00:41:55,960
Speaker 2: And yeah, after that.

920
00:41:56,080 --> 00:41:58,600
Speaker 1: Great house, we should go scoop it up. That was

921
00:41:58,640 --> 00:41:59,120
Speaker 1: a good one.

922
00:42:00,040 --> 00:42:02,200
Speaker 2: You move to Atlanta? No, we can.

923
00:42:02,200 --> 00:42:04,720
Speaker 1: I have like a winter home. You want to split

924
00:42:05,840 --> 00:42:06,359
Speaker 1: winter home?

925
00:42:06,400 --> 00:42:09,279
Speaker 2: Looking for a winter home, I prefer my friend.

926
00:42:10,400 --> 00:42:12,440
Speaker 1: I do want to see a change of weather. But

927
00:42:12,520 --> 00:42:14,160
Speaker 1: it gets a little cool there, it's nice.

928
00:42:14,320 --> 00:42:16,600
Speaker 2: Do you know anybody that's losing their home and aspen

929
00:42:16,640 --> 00:42:17,680
Speaker 2: because I rather have a place.

930
00:42:19,880 --> 00:42:21,640
Speaker 1: I'm sure there's people all over it.

931
00:42:21,960 --> 00:42:26,920
Speaker 2: I don't. I don't. God, it's terrible, okay, know it is,

932
00:42:27,000 --> 00:42:30,520
Speaker 2: But truthfully, I'm not looking at my home in Atlanta.

933
00:42:31,440 --> 00:42:33,719
Speaker 1: I have to say, my heart hurts. I feel bad

934
00:42:33,760 --> 00:42:36,160
Speaker 1: for her and her sweet family. It was such a cute.

935
00:42:36,640 --> 00:42:39,320
Speaker 1: It is a cute, beautiful little family. You know.

936
00:42:40,000 --> 00:42:42,240
Speaker 2: I'll send them some good energy and hope they figure

937
00:42:42,280 --> 00:42:45,759
Speaker 2: it out and get back on their feet. Mm hmm.

938
00:42:47,160 --> 00:42:49,879
Speaker 3: Okay, So speaking of that, like if I can't help

939
00:42:50,000 --> 00:42:52,360
Speaker 3: to think about Kim and feel like, you know, she

940
00:42:52,520 --> 00:42:56,320
Speaker 3: was part of the show of the Housewives and also

941
00:42:56,400 --> 00:42:58,920
Speaker 3: with her own show, you know, Don't be Chardy for

942
00:42:59,000 --> 00:43:02,640
Speaker 3: the Party. Do you think that maybe the show made her,

943
00:43:03,160 --> 00:43:05,600
Speaker 3: like gave her this pressure where she needed to keep

944
00:43:05,719 --> 00:43:09,320
Speaker 3: spending money and you know, living large, because you know,

945
00:43:09,400 --> 00:43:11,600
Speaker 3: that's what we're like showing on TV. You know, we're

946
00:43:11,640 --> 00:43:15,600
Speaker 3: showing like this fabulous, glamorous life, you know, filled with money,

947
00:43:15,719 --> 00:43:19,040
Speaker 3: filled with material things, and and I don't know, do

948
00:43:19,120 --> 00:43:20,680
Speaker 3: you think that that got to her head and she

949
00:43:20,760 --> 00:43:23,000
Speaker 3: felt like that pressure like this is who I am,

950
00:43:23,160 --> 00:43:24,920
Speaker 3: and like I need to continue doing this, and she

951
00:43:25,040 --> 00:43:26,160
Speaker 3: just kept on getting.

952
00:43:26,600 --> 00:43:29,399
Speaker 1: And I don't you don't know her, and I can't

953
00:43:29,480 --> 00:43:32,440
Speaker 1: speak for her, but I've been watching her from the beginning,

954
00:43:32,520 --> 00:43:36,000
Speaker 1: and she always had a taste for expensive and luxury

955
00:43:36,200 --> 00:43:37,839
Speaker 1: and always figured it out.

956
00:43:38,160 --> 00:43:41,080
Speaker 2: So, uh, you know, I don't know, for example, for

957
00:43:41,160 --> 00:43:43,319
Speaker 2: you do you think the show makes you feel that way?

958
00:43:43,880 --> 00:43:45,440
Speaker 1: So I was going to say, I have to keep

959
00:43:45,480 --> 00:43:50,160
Speaker 1: spending I personally that you know, I do my own thing.

960
00:43:50,560 --> 00:43:54,160
Speaker 1: I don't do anything special or extra for the show.

961
00:43:54,440 --> 00:43:56,800
Speaker 1: My house is my home, My things are my things,

962
00:43:56,920 --> 00:44:00,879
Speaker 1: and you know I have nice things. What I live

963
00:44:01,040 --> 00:44:04,800
Speaker 1: way below my means. I'm very cautious. But you know

964
00:44:04,960 --> 00:44:08,880
Speaker 1: that's not everybody. So some people probably do show up

965
00:44:08,920 --> 00:44:12,680
Speaker 1: for the show. I don't, you know, it's different. I

966
00:44:12,760 --> 00:44:15,200
Speaker 1: don't know if she did. Maybe she did.

967
00:44:15,440 --> 00:44:17,480
Speaker 2: I think they thought the money was never going to end,

968
00:44:17,800 --> 00:44:19,239
Speaker 2: and so they spent like it wasn't going.

969
00:44:19,320 --> 00:44:22,000
Speaker 3: Yeah, I think so general is I feel like celebrities

970
00:44:22,120 --> 00:44:24,160
Speaker 3: and her case, you know, being on a show and

971
00:44:24,280 --> 00:44:26,000
Speaker 3: him being an athlete, which is kind of like a

972
00:44:26,080 --> 00:44:27,960
Speaker 3: celebrity too because we glorify them.

973
00:44:28,680 --> 00:44:31,439
Speaker 2: And with that being said, it's like they think it's

974
00:44:31,520 --> 00:44:32,360
Speaker 2: never going to stop.

975
00:44:32,920 --> 00:44:35,000
Speaker 3: But it's kind of like they're they're stuck in that

976
00:44:35,120 --> 00:44:36,520
Speaker 3: and so okay, well next year I'm going to get

977
00:44:36,520 --> 00:44:38,120
Speaker 3: a bigger deal, or you know, my show is going to.

978
00:44:38,080 --> 00:44:41,000
Speaker 2: Be picked up. For next season, counting on money that

979
00:44:41,120 --> 00:44:43,400
Speaker 2: still hasn't been the bank, and you're already spending it

980
00:44:43,520 --> 00:44:46,160
Speaker 2: hasn't been to come in exactly. Well, I mean, I'm

981
00:44:46,200 --> 00:44:48,560
Speaker 2: sorry that we've talked about all these couples that, you know,

982
00:44:49,680 --> 00:44:53,600
Speaker 2: yeah today, I know, because I don't like to you know,

983
00:44:53,680 --> 00:44:56,680
Speaker 2: I'm very positive and honestly, I really want, you know,

984
00:44:56,840 --> 00:45:00,080
Speaker 2: everybody to be happy and you know, and to be

985
00:45:00,320 --> 00:45:03,360
Speaker 2: successful and to be making money. But you know, this

986
00:45:03,520 --> 00:45:04,080
Speaker 2: is reality.

987
00:45:04,239 --> 00:45:06,759
Speaker 3: I mean it's really you know, when you're in a relationship,

988
00:45:07,120 --> 00:45:09,279
Speaker 3: you know, there's ups and downs, and you know, it's

989
00:45:09,320 --> 00:45:12,360
Speaker 3: kind of just like figuring it out, and you know

990
00:45:12,520 --> 00:45:13,480
Speaker 3: how much is too much?

991
00:45:13,880 --> 00:45:19,239
Speaker 2: You know, And hopefully I don't think that there's any

992
00:45:19,840 --> 00:45:23,160
Speaker 2: kind of reconciliation between these two. I mean, for now,

993
00:45:23,200 --> 00:45:24,640
Speaker 2: it doesn't sound like it's very good.

994
00:45:24,960 --> 00:45:27,279
Speaker 1: Down the line, when they move on and have new

995
00:45:27,360 --> 00:45:31,080
Speaker 1: relationships and the kids are a little older, they'll do parties.

996
00:45:30,760 --> 00:45:32,400
Speaker 2: And things together and everything will be fine. You know

997
00:45:32,480 --> 00:45:35,560
Speaker 2: how that happens. It just takes a little time for

998
00:45:35,640 --> 00:45:41,200
Speaker 2: everybody to get it settled, move on and life resumes. Yeah,

999
00:45:41,560 --> 00:45:43,160
Speaker 2: they'll be okay, I hope.

1000
00:45:42,960 --> 00:45:45,920
Speaker 3: So, because you know, especially like I said, there's kids involved,

1001
00:45:46,000 --> 00:45:47,040
Speaker 3: and you know, they're kind.

1002
00:45:46,920 --> 00:45:50,240
Speaker 2: Of like, gosh, they've gone their children used to this lifestyle,

1003
00:45:50,760 --> 00:45:52,719
Speaker 2: you know, and that's the only lifestyle they know.

1004
00:45:52,840 --> 00:45:56,480
Speaker 5: I know that the daughters are older now, but you know,

1005
00:45:56,960 --> 00:46:00,560
Speaker 5: I don't know. It's it's not menadonic, so little. Some

1006
00:46:00,680 --> 00:46:02,759
Speaker 5: of them are so tiny that they they're not even

1007
00:46:02,760 --> 00:46:05,240
Speaker 5: going to remember that. And she's a hustler, she's always

1008
00:46:05,280 --> 00:46:06,440
Speaker 5: got hustling and working.

1009
00:46:07,280 --> 00:46:10,640
Speaker 2: Hopefully she can come back to the Atlanta Housewives, that

1010
00:46:10,680 --> 00:46:16,319
Speaker 2: would be ideal. Right, get her back, get paycheck, Yeah, yeah,

1011
00:46:17,000 --> 00:46:19,200
Speaker 2: get your paycheck. Don't go to the casino.

1012
00:46:19,640 --> 00:46:22,360
Speaker 1: We're gonna have to go interrupt, go sit down with

1013
00:46:22,440 --> 00:46:24,760
Speaker 1: her and be like, listen, girl, give me a paycheck.

1014
00:46:25,080 --> 00:46:29,120
Speaker 2: We're administering your money for you. Well, hopefully she'll get

1015
00:46:29,200 --> 00:46:31,840
Speaker 2: you know, she'll get out of this hole and and

1016
00:46:32,120 --> 00:46:35,800
Speaker 2: work it out and you know, find out a solution

1017
00:46:36,080 --> 00:46:39,799
Speaker 2: because it's not a good place to be in. One

1018
00:46:39,840 --> 00:46:40,440
Speaker 2: of my friend.

1019
00:46:41,040 --> 00:46:43,200
Speaker 1: I love you, it was so good to see you.

1020
00:46:44,080 --> 00:46:48,960
Speaker 2: I love but it's kind of like a sad champing.

1021
00:46:49,040 --> 00:46:50,000
Speaker 2: I don't I don't like that, I.

1022
00:46:50,120 --> 00:46:53,520
Speaker 1: Know, to end up like this, I'm feeling very heavy myself.

1023
00:46:53,600 --> 00:46:56,480
Speaker 1: This was hard, it was sad, it was very dark.

1024
00:46:56,560 --> 00:46:58,400
Speaker 1: Today's I'm sorry for today's.

1025
00:47:00,440 --> 00:47:02,920
Speaker 2: It's like I feel like it's Isn't it weird that

1026
00:47:03,040 --> 00:47:05,520
Speaker 2: even though we like kind of like even on our show,

1027
00:47:05,600 --> 00:47:07,120
Speaker 2: do this kind of stuff. It's like, I don't I

1028
00:47:07,160 --> 00:47:09,719
Speaker 2: don't like talking about other people's I like everybody to

1029
00:47:09,760 --> 00:47:11,200
Speaker 2: be in a good place. So when I'll just talk

1030
00:47:11,239 --> 00:47:15,040
Speaker 2: shit about the couples, I'm like, I don't like it. No,

1031
00:47:15,400 --> 00:47:18,719
Speaker 2: it's hard. Listen, It's the world we're living in. You know.

1032
00:47:18,800 --> 00:47:21,600
Speaker 3: Everybody always has an opinion. And you know, I think

1033
00:47:21,719 --> 00:47:24,600
Speaker 3: now with social media and with the phone, there's like

1034
00:47:24,719 --> 00:47:28,440
Speaker 3: no secrets, Like there's like people taking pictures of other people.

1035
00:47:29,239 --> 00:47:36,120
Speaker 1: Yeah, I don't leave my house. Everyone's like, how are

1036
00:47:36,120 --> 00:47:37,839
Speaker 1: you handling fame. I'm like, well, I don't what. It's

1037
00:47:37,880 --> 00:47:39,480
Speaker 1: been going on for like a decade, but I never

1038
00:47:39,600 --> 00:47:40,840
Speaker 1: leave my house, so I don't know.

1039
00:47:42,239 --> 00:47:44,080
Speaker 2: Yeah, I mean it's really like so scary.

1040
00:47:44,320 --> 00:47:44,440
Speaker 3: You know.

1041
00:47:44,560 --> 00:47:47,279
Speaker 2: That's why I like Bennett Boden last and that's why

1042
00:47:47,320 --> 00:47:48,880
Speaker 2: he's always like in a bad mood every time he

1043
00:47:48,920 --> 00:47:51,640
Speaker 2: gets out of the house, because it's like the camera's

1044
00:47:51,640 --> 00:47:53,360
Speaker 2: there in front of his face. Like he likes to

1045
00:47:53,480 --> 00:47:55,239
Speaker 2: do that, but like for a real movie, not like

1046
00:47:55,320 --> 00:47:59,439
Speaker 2: his personal life. So I totally get it. Guys, stay

1047
00:47:59,560 --> 00:48:03,600
Speaker 2: home your celebrity, don't you sound like.

1048
00:48:03,960 --> 00:48:09,680
Speaker 1: You sound like the message for COVID? Remember stay home? Yeah,

1049
00:48:11,040 --> 00:48:14,719
Speaker 1: when Amiga, I love you, call me in a little bit.

1050
00:48:14,960 --> 00:48:16,280
Speaker 1: Talk to you ten more times today.

1051
00:48:16,800 --> 00:48:18,840
Speaker 2: Yeah, we'll talk a little bit more. Everything we forgot

1052
00:48:18,920 --> 00:48:20,400
Speaker 2: to say, I will say it.

1053
00:48:21,560 --> 00:48:21,719
Speaker 5: Well.

1054
00:48:21,960 --> 00:48:26,439
Speaker 3: Guys, thank you, thank you for tuning in. We hope

1055
00:48:26,480 --> 00:48:28,439
Speaker 3: you like this segment is always fun.

1056
00:48:30,000 --> 00:48:38,239
Speaker 2: Mari sool love it, bro. Thanks for listening. Follow us

1057
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