WEBVTT - Jana's Engaged Part 1

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<v Speaker 1>Wind Down with Janet Kramer and I'm Heart Radio Podcast.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, so this this therapy Thursday is looking a little different.

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<v Speaker 2>We're going to do things a little different today because

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<v Speaker 2>we have I GE's so like, you know, how like

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<v Speaker 2>you have a secret.

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<v Speaker 1>Well, I can't taybe earlier.

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<v Speaker 2>I can keep a secret if it's a pinky swear,

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<v Speaker 2>But if you don't pinky swear me, you know, I'm

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<v Speaker 2>going to probably tell it's contractually binding with her, and

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<v Speaker 2>if you don't, then all it's all bets off.

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<v Speaker 3>It also took me eleven years to figure that out.

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<v Speaker 4>Well, I grew up in Michigan, so I just knew

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<v Speaker 4>it would work just what we do.

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<v Speaker 3>I'll just figure that out today.

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<v Speaker 1>So I've had, you know, a few things that I

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<v Speaker 1>have been.

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<v Speaker 2>Not talking about because you know, I just want to

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<v Speaker 2>do it when I'm ready. And so I've got an

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<v Speaker 2>announcement today, an announcement next week, and who knows from

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<v Speaker 2>there what's gonna happen.

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<v Speaker 5>By the way, I'm here as well, by the way,

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<v Speaker 5>speculating as to what this would be, would you say,

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<v Speaker 5>East and I have been speculating as to what this

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<v Speaker 5>might be because we're completely we've been told only that

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<v Speaker 5>there's an announcement happening. You got to be there. It's going

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<v Speaker 5>to rock the podcast.

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<v Speaker 1>Mark, we miss you.

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<v Speaker 2>It's always I love that there is something juicy.

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<v Speaker 5>Well that's what I was told. So here I am,

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<v Speaker 5>and I'm I'm I'm very excited to hear this.

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<v Speaker 4>We are your funky bunch. I hope you're ready, buckle up.

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<v Speaker 5>I'm ready.

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<v Speaker 2>So well, I guess before, I mean, Mark, how are

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<v Speaker 2>you catch us up on your life?

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<v Speaker 5>Oh? I'm fine, Thank you. Nothing exciting happening with me.

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<v Speaker 5>Thing's fine, kids are good, wife's good, everything's fine.

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<v Speaker 1>He's like, and back to you, Jana.

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<v Speaker 5>Yes, back to you. Nobody's nobody's tuning in for me.

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<v Speaker 1>When's the last time we talked?

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<v Speaker 5>Mark?

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<v Speaker 4>Oh?

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<v Speaker 5>Boy, I don't. I don't know. It's been many months.

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<v Speaker 6>I mean, wasn't he speculating about your boyfriend at the time?

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<v Speaker 1>No, I don't think.

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<v Speaker 2>Even think because that was in November. I was like, oh,

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<v Speaker 2>because you had once said there was a little nugget

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<v Speaker 2>that you had said that I made people. And I

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<v Speaker 2>was like, hey, Mark said this a long time ago,

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<v Speaker 2>that this is the person that he thinks I should date,

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<v Speaker 2>and I said no, never, And so when people were like, oh,

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<v Speaker 2>do you have a boyfriend, and I like, you know,

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<v Speaker 2>what does he do? And I said it's interesting. Mark

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<v Speaker 2>was right, And so then people went back to listen

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<v Speaker 2>and they're like, oh, he must be in soccer.

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<v Speaker 5>Oh okay, yeah, yeah, yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>So we haven't even spoken since then.

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<v Speaker 3>I don't think so.

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<v Speaker 4>I mean, I told Mark when he tuned in, I

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<v Speaker 4>was like, I've grown an entire human since the last

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<v Speaker 4>time I saw it.

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<v Speaker 1>I've multiplied.

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<v Speaker 4>Sure, have we've missed you? You missed the baby shower.

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<v Speaker 5>It's great to be back. Yeah, I'm sorry, It's okay,

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<v Speaker 5>it's condolence. So yeah, I'm nervous.

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<v Speaker 1>You should, so am I And I don't know why

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<v Speaker 1>you knew.

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<v Speaker 3>I know, but I'm so nervous.

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<v Speaker 1>I didn't know. I did you did?

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<v Speaker 4>I did what you did?

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<v Speaker 5>I go?

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<v Speaker 1>I did?

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<v Speaker 4>I bet?

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<v Speaker 1>I bet everybody listening would like to know what we're

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<v Speaker 1>in on?

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<v Speaker 7>All right?

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<v Speaker 1>What do you think Mark and Easton?

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<v Speaker 5>Yeah? No, nothing, we thought about Easton and I speculated

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<v Speaker 5>on that you're ending the podcast. We speculated on the podcast. Yeah, yeah,

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<v Speaker 5>I think that would certainly rocket.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, no, that would just roll it out.

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<v Speaker 5>No, we were concerned that there's something involving your ex husband,

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<v Speaker 5>but that doesn't seem to be the case, just judging

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<v Speaker 5>by the basic demeanor of the room. So I don't know.

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<v Speaker 5>I'm lost.

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<v Speaker 4>For once it doesn't revolve around the ex husband. That

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<v Speaker 4>feels good. Doesn't it all feel good to say?

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah? Yeah, it does.

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<v Speaker 4>I would say we're into a new chapter. Go ahead, Creamer.

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<v Speaker 2>So Alan and I have been dating for November December

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<v Speaker 2>januor very March April May, six and a half months.

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<v Speaker 1>When you point five it.

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<v Speaker 4>You know you're going for cholf life. When you point

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<v Speaker 4>five it okay?

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<v Speaker 2>And he uh, he asked me to marry him.

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<v Speaker 5>Oh my god, you need.

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<v Speaker 1>Wow. Look at Easton's face.

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<v Speaker 3>Mark, Oh my god, Mark, Dad's here.

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<v Speaker 5>Wow.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh I just can't.

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<v Speaker 4>I've froze that in my memory forever, the looks on

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<v Speaker 4>your faces.

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<v Speaker 5>Mark, Mark. Some said he didn't ask for permission first

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<v Speaker 5>from him? Where was that called?

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<v Speaker 2>Oh he did, he did ask for permission, but yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>not to you.

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<v Speaker 5>No, it's a podcast, daddy podcast.

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<v Speaker 1>Daddy abandoned me and I have issues about.

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<v Speaker 5>So. I mean, wow, six and a half months in a.

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<v Speaker 7>Wow.

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<v Speaker 5>I mean, I think if the average listener right now

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<v Speaker 5>is thinking to themselves, this seems a little fast considering

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<v Speaker 5>what we've been through previously. Very it seems like she

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<v Speaker 5>might be in a place where she would want to

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<v Speaker 5>take some time I am on something like this and

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<v Speaker 5>not rush into anything right for fear of it, for

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<v Speaker 5>fear of it ending painfully.

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<v Speaker 4>Would we also agree, though, that in our growth, I

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<v Speaker 4>like that we are all marry Allen at this point?

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<v Speaker 4>Would we also agree that Janna's discernment is a little

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<v Speaker 4>tighter now because we know what we like and what

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<v Speaker 4>we don't like, and we know what we will settle

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<v Speaker 4>for and what we won't settle for. So perhaps we

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<v Speaker 4>don't need to wait ten years because we're pushing forty,

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<v Speaker 4>and we can just marry who we love when we're

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<v Speaker 4>ready to marry them.

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<v Speaker 5>I think there's a happy medium between six months and

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<v Speaker 5>ten years. Have you hit six months with anybody since

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<v Speaker 5>you're divorce?

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah?

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<v Speaker 4>And certainly not six point five, not even three?

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<v Speaker 5>Okay, And so no qualms whatsoever? So I guess, Okay,

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<v Speaker 5>let let's let's let's focus on the positive. Let's focus

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<v Speaker 5>on the event at self. Where was it, how did

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<v Speaker 5>it go down? And did you see it?

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<v Speaker 1>Coming me or Jan.

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<v Speaker 5>I was shocked.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, continue, where are you though? Yeah?

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<v Speaker 3>Really, yes, okay, okay.

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<v Speaker 2>I really was truly, I feel like you guys were

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<v Speaker 2>expecting it, like back in December, like a month and no.

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<v Speaker 1>And I'm not a good liar. I really didn't know.

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<v Speaker 3>I definitely was expecting it in December. It without a doubt.

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<v Speaker 1>Am I the only one? You're a changed woman? I

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<v Speaker 1>had nothing to do with that. I know that I

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<v Speaker 1>didn't expect it in December.

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<v Speaker 6>I didn't mean it in that way yea, yeah, yeah,

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<v Speaker 6>and like that, I feel like y'all are perfect for

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<v Speaker 6>each other way.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah. Oh, let's get to my favorite part the romance.

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<v Speaker 7>Hold on.

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<v Speaker 3>He hasked some questions and Jane has answer them.

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<v Speaker 2>Sorry. He took me and a romance the kids. So

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<v Speaker 2>we had some people over during the day, like a

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<v Speaker 2>little pool party thing, summer hang, summer hang, and he

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<v Speaker 2>took me and the kids. He's like, hey, let's it's

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<v Speaker 2>a beautiful night. Let's go for a walk and let's

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<v Speaker 2>go walk up to the new house. So I was

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<v Speaker 2>just like okay, And so we walked up and the

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<v Speaker 2>kids are, you know, running around the house and looking

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<v Speaker 2>at the rooms. And because I don't know if I

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<v Speaker 2>but like my house is going to be done in August,

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<v Speaker 2>so you know, the house is really coming along, and

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<v Speaker 2>so like to go there to check up things or whatever.

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<v Speaker 2>So it was a really beautiful night, and me and

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<v Speaker 2>the kids were all sitting like after they ran around,

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<v Speaker 2>we were all sitting on the front porch of the

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<v Speaker 2>steps from porch steps, yeah, and just looking out at

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<v Speaker 2>the view because the view was just, I mean stunning.

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<v Speaker 2>And he he was like.

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<v Speaker 1>He said my name, and.

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<v Speaker 2>You know, I got up or whatever, and then he

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<v Speaker 2>got down on one knee and then Julie just started

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<v Speaker 2>jumping up and down. It was the cutest thing ever.

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<v Speaker 1>It's like she knew what was happening.

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<v Speaker 3>Oh before he even really said anything.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, because it's like I think, like maybe she's seen

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<v Speaker 2>getting down on knees or yeah that's sweet. So yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>she started jumping up and down and then she's like,

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<v Speaker 2>you're getting married. And then he said, you know, I

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<v Speaker 2>kind of left out at that point. He said some

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<v Speaker 2>things and like a good paragraph. I love a paragraph.

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<v Speaker 2>It was like a few sentences. Yeah that feels said,

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<v Speaker 2>you know, you're the love of my life, and I

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<v Speaker 2>just I you know, will you marry me something? Something something, yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>things address, yes, a dress, and then I and we

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<v Speaker 2>just both started crying.

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<v Speaker 1>And it was yeah.

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<v Speaker 2>And it felt very sentimental given the front porch of

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<v Speaker 2>like the new house and new beginnings, and it just

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<v Speaker 2>felt right, and so yeah, I said yes. Kids were

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<v Speaker 2>all super excited, and then we walked back down the

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<v Speaker 2>hill and sat outside on the porch and the back porch,

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<v Speaker 2>watched the sunset and just it was It was perfect.

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<v Speaker 2>I could not have We were actually supposed to be

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<v Speaker 2>in Jamaica, but the something happened with the resort or whatever,

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<v Speaker 2>and so we ended up staying here. But I honestly

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<v Speaker 2>like that is exactly what I would have wanted, was

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<v Speaker 2>that the house. And didn't he ask you, like what

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<v Speaker 2>he should do or not what he should do kind

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<v Speaker 2>of conversation. All of a sudden, Alan's like, hey, Catherine,

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<v Speaker 2>come here. I'm like, what is going on?

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, we had a couple of couple conversations.

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<v Speaker 4>I am just still a little in awe that you knew.

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<v Speaker 1>I didn't know that day, So he didn't even know

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<v Speaker 1>he was doing it that.

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<v Speaker 3>Day, Yeah, which could not have been more perfect.

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<v Speaker 1>But yeah, otherwise I knew well, Alan doesn't trust me,

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<v Speaker 1>so I talk to him about that. He gets you know,

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<v Speaker 1>so what did what did he say to you? Well,

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<v Speaker 1>the first.

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<v Speaker 6>Conversation, y'all were going to Jamaica, so we were kind

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<v Speaker 6>of talking about around that, like, you know, he's like, well,

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<v Speaker 6>you know, did do I get to do I tell

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<v Speaker 6>all of our conversation?

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<v Speaker 1>We hold nothing back here?

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<v Speaker 3>Okay? Yeah, I mean it's not that big of a deal.

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<v Speaker 6>But like he was like, you know, so I was

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<v Speaker 6>thinking in Jamaica, but like I feel like that's kind

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<v Speaker 6>of expected and not that you know whatever.

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<v Speaker 3>So maybe I did before we go and blah blah

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<v Speaker 3>blah blah blah. And I was like, oh, yeah, that's

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<v Speaker 3>a good question. We didn't, you know.

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<v Speaker 6>And then I knew he had the ring at that point.

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<v Speaker 6>And then when he called me into the room the

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<v Speaker 6>other day, he was asking me my opinion on the boxes.

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<v Speaker 4>And he didn't even ask me.

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<v Speaker 3>So I helped him with that, which he knew.

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<v Speaker 6>I mean, he was like, I feel like this one's cheesy,

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<v Speaker 6>this one's perfect, you know whatever. And then I was like, okay,

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<v Speaker 6>so when and where and he's like, well, you know,

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<v Speaker 6>I'm trying to figure that out. Already talked to her

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<v Speaker 6>mom and blah blah blah, and but I was thinking

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<v Speaker 6>like the new house would be and I was like, yes,

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<v Speaker 6>He's like is that romantic enough? I'm like that is

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<v Speaker 6>like perfect, Jana, Like it's sentimental.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, it means thing like real life.

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<v Speaker 3>Screw the other like big whatever, like.

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<v Speaker 2>The roses and this, Like I mean the whole lamb

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<v Speaker 2>set up, like the sentimental little things is like, I mean,

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<v Speaker 2>it could not have been more perfect.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah. So, I mean that was basically.

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<v Speaker 1>Thank god he had a freshman here, I know.

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<v Speaker 2>I mean I broke Well, what's funny about that is

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<v Speaker 2>I broke my nail. I was making Jason's bed because

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<v Speaker 2>you know, we're obviously leaving the house and so I'm

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<v Speaker 2>cleaning up making the bad had inspection guy come in

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<v Speaker 2>that day, and you know, god, it is so bad.

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<v Speaker 2>But I was like tucking the sheet in and then

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<v Speaker 2>my finger got caught to the wall and it completely snapped,

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<v Speaker 2>like you can see the bloodline right there in my Like, so,

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<v Speaker 2>I mean it was hurting so bad. So I went

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<v Speaker 2>that day to so like two days before.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, I was like, didn't even plant it.

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<v Speaker 6>I actually thought that when you sent us the picture,

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<v Speaker 6>I was like, oh, her nails a great well done.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 2>So yeah, I didn't know either. I mean we had

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<v Speaker 2>we had discussed. I know that he is my person

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<v Speaker 2>and to me, like I was even talking to my

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<v Speaker 2>ex about this because he was asking He's like, all right,

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<v Speaker 2>do you think this is And I'm like yeah, I

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<v Speaker 2>was like, but I don't even. I was like, I

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<v Speaker 2>think we'll get married one day, but I don't think,

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<v Speaker 2>like I really don't, like I don't need.

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<v Speaker 4>To have That's why I think I'm I was so

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<v Speaker 4>surprised because I felt I feel like that has just

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<v Speaker 4>been the feeling around it, like we know, yeah, that

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<v Speaker 4>he's the guy.

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<v Speaker 5>Yeah, but that's an interesting conversation with your ex. Did

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<v Speaker 5>you call him to give him a heads up?

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<v Speaker 1>Uh, well, there's some.

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<v Speaker 5>I mean the kids know, so he was going to

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<v Speaker 5>find out.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, yeah, and so what did you.

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<v Speaker 5>Want him to hear it from you and not from

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<v Speaker 5>the kids.

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<v Speaker 2>Well, so Jolie had asked him, Well, so, like Mike

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<v Speaker 2>and I have had conversations about like, because he likes Alan,

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<v Speaker 2>they've hung out, you know, they're at games and stuff

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<v Speaker 2>like together, like it's everything's great. And you know he

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<v Speaker 2>had asked me. He's like, so, what do you do

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<v Speaker 2>you see this as you know, do you think you

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<v Speaker 2>and Alan will get married? And I'm like, we've definitely

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<v Speaker 2>talked about it, and I you know, but I'm also

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<v Speaker 2>not like we have to get married at this point

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<v Speaker 2>and we have to be engaged by this point, because

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<v Speaker 2>I true that that piece of like the anxiety of it.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm like, I know he's my person. I trust him,

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<v Speaker 2>like there's no anxiousness attached to that. So he already

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<v Speaker 2>knew that, like he's my partner whether we get married

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<v Speaker 2>or engaged or whatever.

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<v Speaker 1>So uh, it's nice.

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<v Speaker 5>So not that it matters, but he was happy for

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<v Speaker 5>you and supportive.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh yeah, he was. We had a little.

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<v Speaker 2>Thing and so Jolie was facetiming them and she's like,

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<v Speaker 2>guess what, daddy, Mommy's engaged and he's like, oh, it's

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<v Speaker 2>nice and and so you know, I would have liked

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<v Speaker 2>to have told him, but I also like, I don't

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<v Speaker 2>want Jolie to have to keep secrets from her dad.

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<v Speaker 2>So yeah, so then he was like, hey, can I

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<v Speaker 2>talk to mommy? And so I got the phone and

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<v Speaker 2>I was like, hello, good day, and he was like

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<v Speaker 2>congratulations and then he's like, you know, can we can

0:15:03.480 --> 0:15:05.040
<v Speaker 2>we talk for a minute. I'm like of course, And

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<v Speaker 2>so went in the room and you know, we we

0:15:07.400 --> 0:15:09.120
<v Speaker 2>had to. We were just dealing with, you know, a

0:15:09.200 --> 0:15:11.360
<v Speaker 2>clod parenting situation we had to kind of figure out.

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<v Speaker 2>And and then once we resolved that conversation, then he

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<v Speaker 2>was like, hey, I'm really happy for you. And you know,

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<v Speaker 2>he's like, Alan's a great guy. And I'm just like,

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<v Speaker 2>thank you, and he's just like and actually it really

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<v Speaker 2>I started to cry and he goes because he goes,

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<v Speaker 2>of all people, you deserve to have someone that loves

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<v Speaker 2>you and respects you and like, you deserve this. So

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<v Speaker 2>I was just like, he's like, after everything I put

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<v Speaker 2>you through, and he's like, you deserve this more than anyone.

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<v Speaker 1>And it meant so much to me that he said that.

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<v Speaker 5>That is fantastic. It seems it seems very self aware

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<v Speaker 5>on his part.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, So I'm just like, thank you so much, because

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<v Speaker 2>I mean, it's not he didn't want it to end

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<v Speaker 2>up looking at this either, you know. So but you know,

0:15:53.000 --> 0:15:55.280
<v Speaker 2>we're both so happy, and I think like I'm I

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<v Speaker 2>root for his happiness and the fact that like he

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<v Speaker 2>also is like rooting as well, Like it's genuinely, genuinely yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>And I mean in his part too, he's probably happy.

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<v Speaker 2>The narratives changing a little bit, sure, you know so,

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<v Speaker 2>But I think he's genuinely really, I do do. Yeah,

0:16:10.920 --> 0:16:13.040
<v Speaker 2>he always wanted you to be happy. And I know

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<v Speaker 2>that that's hard to probably see, but I truly do

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<v Speaker 2>think that he always wanted.

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<v Speaker 3>You to be happy.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, I believe that, Yeah, because I don't think he

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<v Speaker 2>was of Like, I don't think his intentions were ever malicious.

0:16:22.880 --> 0:16:24.560
<v Speaker 2>It was his own stuff, you know, Like I can

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<v Speaker 2>look at it now and go okay, Like, I don't

0:16:27.000 --> 0:16:29.040
<v Speaker 2>think he meant to hurt me. I just don't think

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<v Speaker 2>he knew what you know at the time, you know,

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<v Speaker 2>we just yeah, So, I mean.

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<v Speaker 5>It seems great, seems very healthy, seems very happy. Have

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<v Speaker 5>you discussed the actual plans for the actual wedding?

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<v Speaker 1>Not in a rush?

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<v Speaker 2>So maybe next year or the next year after that, Yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>no rush.

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<v Speaker 5>Really it could be twenty four to twenty five.

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<v Speaker 1>It could be twenty four to twenty five.

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<v Speaker 5>Yeah, well then I and then that's great. And you're

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<v Speaker 5>not really rushing into much at all.

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<v Speaker 1>Are you.

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<v Speaker 2>No, that's the thing, like we're just like I think too.

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<v Speaker 2>You know, people are like, oh, we probably need you know,

0:17:04.240 --> 0:17:07.679
<v Speaker 2>like a visa or something, and I'm like, no, he doesn't.

0:17:07.720 --> 0:17:09.639
<v Speaker 2>This isn't like that. I could just see, like, like,

0:17:09.960 --> 0:17:11.520
<v Speaker 2>what are people going to say? I already know people

0:17:11.520 --> 0:17:13.760
<v Speaker 2>are going to come after me because of my past.

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<v Speaker 2>I get it, you know, and it's like I've made

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<v Speaker 2>dumb decisions when I was nineteen whatever again continue on.

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<v Speaker 2>But like you know, at the same time, I was

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<v Speaker 2>also in situation where like, yeah, I didn't want my

0:17:22.920 --> 0:17:24.520
<v Speaker 2>last marriage to go the way that it did. Like

0:17:24.560 --> 0:17:26.480
<v Speaker 2>that wasn't like, you know, I would have stayed in

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<v Speaker 2>that forever. So I know the people will come after

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<v Speaker 2>and say comments and will be like, oh I give

0:17:33.720 --> 0:17:36.760
<v Speaker 2>this however many months and it's like cool, like you

0:17:36.800 --> 0:17:38.920
<v Speaker 2>can say whatever you want. Like at this point, it's

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<v Speaker 2>like I just am at a place where like I

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<v Speaker 2>now know and I now feel and I now know

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<v Speaker 2>that like I am allowed to be happy and like

0:17:50.640 --> 0:17:54.040
<v Speaker 2>I deserve the happiness. So I'm not gonna let those

0:17:54.080 --> 0:17:58.199
<v Speaker 2>comments affect me or discourage me. And also yeah, like

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<v Speaker 2>we're not rushing into things. We're not going we're not

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<v Speaker 2>getting married next month, like it'll be sometime next year

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<v Speaker 2>or the next year after that.

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<v Speaker 5>And are are you done having children or are more possibility?

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<v Speaker 4>Well, we've always kept it tied, so I personally think

0:18:18.840 --> 0:18:19.639
<v Speaker 4>she should have another.

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<v Speaker 1>But that's just me.

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<v Speaker 4>This just feels like I've been on a big fat.

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<v Speaker 1>Island for the last three trimesters. Yeah, I don't know.

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<v Speaker 4>I guess we'll see.

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<v Speaker 1>We'll see. Stay tuned. Should we get Alan on, Yes,

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<v Speaker 1>we'll he come on? I think so.

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<v Speaker 4>Close captioning brought to you by I know this is

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<v Speaker 4>going to get tricky at that Scottish act.

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<v Speaker 1>Let me text them right now, call them. Is he

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<v Speaker 1>saved under Alan?

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<v Speaker 7>Or?

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<v Speaker 4>And that feels very unbranded? I kind of knew.

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<v Speaker 1>Come on.

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<v Speaker 7>I hope he answers and says something nice. Hey baby,

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<v Speaker 7>you want to come on the podcast?

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah?

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, okay, alright, bye, I gotta plug in the another mic.

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<v Speaker 1>I just plug it in. Yeah, okay, welcome to wind down, Allan.

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<v Speaker 1>Thank you for having me. Is this Alan's first time?

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<v Speaker 1>This is Alan's first time.

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<v Speaker 3>I'm actually shocked you're here.

0:19:37.440 --> 0:19:41.200
<v Speaker 1>I am too good of I am to That's great though.

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<v Speaker 1>Should we get started, Yeah,