1 00:00:24,440 --> 00:00:27,560 Speaker 1: What is going on? Emily Abadi here, coming to you 2 00:00:27,640 --> 00:00:32,120 Speaker 1: live from the Age Studio, fresh back from the best 3 00:00:32,479 --> 00:00:36,040 Speaker 1: twenty four hours I could have asked for in Washington, DC. 4 00:00:36,360 --> 00:00:40,160 Speaker 1: A huge, huge thank you to absolutely everybody who came 5 00:00:40,200 --> 00:00:43,440 Speaker 1: out every single time that I have the opportunity to 6 00:00:43,479 --> 00:00:47,680 Speaker 1: meet women. There are some men out there, but mostly 7 00:00:47,720 --> 00:00:52,600 Speaker 1: women from this community. It just blows my mind because 8 00:00:52,640 --> 00:00:57,440 Speaker 1: I'm reminded of really just the reach of this thing 9 00:00:57,640 --> 00:01:00,480 Speaker 1: that I am doing, and I know that I need 10 00:01:00,480 --> 00:01:02,800 Speaker 1: to up my word for twenty twenty two is bigger. 11 00:01:02,920 --> 00:01:05,720 Speaker 1: And I promised myself that I would just own this 12 00:01:05,840 --> 00:01:09,880 Speaker 1: and step into it and stop like having these moments 13 00:01:09,880 --> 00:01:11,720 Speaker 1: where I'm like, I can't believe that people want to 14 00:01:11,720 --> 00:01:14,559 Speaker 1: give me their time and be more like without being 15 00:01:14,560 --> 00:01:17,479 Speaker 1: cocky and staying humble. Of course people want to give 16 00:01:17,480 --> 00:01:20,920 Speaker 1: me their time, but I digress. I'm grateful for you 17 00:01:21,160 --> 00:01:24,160 Speaker 1: is really the sum of what I'm getting at here. 18 00:01:24,200 --> 00:01:27,320 Speaker 1: So again, thanks everyone who came out last night. That 19 00:01:27,400 --> 00:01:29,240 Speaker 1: is not what five Minute Friday is about. Five Minute 20 00:01:29,280 --> 00:01:35,039 Speaker 1: Friday this week is actually about choosing to be an optimist. 21 00:01:36,640 --> 00:01:38,640 Speaker 1: It's fine. I can't believe this actually happened to me, 22 00:01:38,760 --> 00:01:42,600 Speaker 1: so I was sitting inside of a bluestone lane on 23 00:01:43,440 --> 00:01:46,400 Speaker 1: I want to say it was Connecticut Avenue, Massachusetts Avenue. 24 00:01:46,520 --> 00:01:49,240 Speaker 1: My DC geography is like a little bit all over 25 00:01:49,280 --> 00:01:51,600 Speaker 1: the place. But I was sitting inside of a bluestone 26 00:01:51,640 --> 00:01:56,480 Speaker 1: lane in Washington, DC. Is an Australian cafe. I had 27 00:01:56,520 --> 00:01:59,080 Speaker 1: the founder, Nick Stone on the podcast once. I'll link 28 00:01:59,120 --> 00:02:01,320 Speaker 1: to his episode in the show notes here. But I 29 00:02:01,360 --> 00:02:06,000 Speaker 1: was sitting inside bluestone Lane and I looked outside and 30 00:02:06,040 --> 00:02:08,679 Speaker 1: it was such a crummy day in Washington, d C. 31 00:02:08,880 --> 00:02:13,320 Speaker 1: On Thursday. It was like raining, pouring even I went 32 00:02:13,360 --> 00:02:15,679 Speaker 1: to the Natural History Museum, and I wanted to do 33 00:02:15,760 --> 00:02:17,840 Speaker 1: all this walking around. I had all this time, and 34 00:02:17,919 --> 00:02:22,400 Speaker 1: I could not because I just could not navigate the weather. 35 00:02:22,560 --> 00:02:24,919 Speaker 1: I did not have the heart to put up with it. 36 00:02:24,960 --> 00:02:28,840 Speaker 1: But as I'm sitting in the cafe, I'm looking at 37 00:02:28,840 --> 00:02:32,080 Speaker 1: all this weather, and it would have been really, really 38 00:02:32,240 --> 00:02:34,880 Speaker 1: easy for me just to be like, Wow, what a 39 00:02:34,919 --> 00:02:40,440 Speaker 1: crappy day it is outside. And I'm eating avocado toast 40 00:02:40,520 --> 00:02:43,520 Speaker 1: and drinking a smoothie fresh off of like a five 41 00:02:43,639 --> 00:02:46,480 Speaker 1: k run around the National Mall, as one does when 42 00:02:46,480 --> 00:02:52,760 Speaker 1: they're visiting the nation's capital. And I notice that out 43 00:02:52,760 --> 00:02:56,560 Speaker 1: of the corner of my eye, there is a man 44 00:02:56,680 --> 00:03:02,519 Speaker 1: in a business suit who was helping an older woman 45 00:03:03,520 --> 00:03:06,000 Speaker 1: across the street. Like she was crossing the street, and 46 00:03:06,000 --> 00:03:09,600 Speaker 1: it looked as though the timer on the crosswalk was 47 00:03:09,600 --> 00:03:11,079 Speaker 1: like coming to an end, and she was still in 48 00:03:11,120 --> 00:03:13,960 Speaker 1: the middle of the crosswalk. So this man wasn't like 49 00:03:14,120 --> 00:03:18,079 Speaker 1: physically assisting her, but he was kind of keeping an 50 00:03:18,120 --> 00:03:24,160 Speaker 1: eye out for her, and it was the most beautiful 51 00:03:24,240 --> 00:03:28,120 Speaker 1: thing to witness like this. They clearly were not together, 52 00:03:28,840 --> 00:03:31,640 Speaker 1: and he was just going out of his way to 53 00:03:32,080 --> 00:03:36,600 Speaker 1: do a nice thing. Meanwhile, again, like I said, crummy day, 54 00:03:37,680 --> 00:03:41,200 Speaker 1: didn't want to be outside, easy to like find the 55 00:03:41,280 --> 00:03:46,640 Speaker 1: grayness and notice the negatives like all the traffic and 56 00:03:46,760 --> 00:03:49,880 Speaker 1: what have you. But as I was sitting there, I 57 00:03:50,080 --> 00:03:53,840 Speaker 1: chose to focus on this really beautiful moment, and it 58 00:03:53,920 --> 00:03:57,680 Speaker 1: was a reminder that we have that choice every single day. 59 00:03:58,200 --> 00:04:01,680 Speaker 1: Maybe not in that specific instance, right, we have the 60 00:04:01,760 --> 00:04:05,040 Speaker 1: choice every single day to seek out the good in 61 00:04:05,120 --> 00:04:10,000 Speaker 1: what's going on around us rather than focus on the 62 00:04:10,040 --> 00:04:13,320 Speaker 1: gloom and the gloom. Some days it may be easier 63 00:04:14,000 --> 00:04:16,400 Speaker 1: to choose to focus on the good stuff instead of 64 00:04:16,400 --> 00:04:19,159 Speaker 1: the bad stuff, but that doesn't mean that there isn't 65 00:04:19,240 --> 00:04:23,359 Speaker 1: always good stuff happening around us, which I hear myself 66 00:04:23,400 --> 00:04:25,640 Speaker 1: saying this, and I know that the world as a whole, 67 00:04:25,800 --> 00:04:28,120 Speaker 1: I'm like kind of gesturing with my hand right now 68 00:04:28,200 --> 00:04:30,960 Speaker 1: is going through a lot. But I would encourage you, 69 00:04:31,080 --> 00:04:34,920 Speaker 1: even when life feels heavy and again the day is overcast, 70 00:04:35,120 --> 00:04:38,839 Speaker 1: to make a conscious effort to seek out the good, 71 00:04:38,920 --> 00:04:42,960 Speaker 1: because I promise you it's there. So my prompt for 72 00:04:43,000 --> 00:04:46,080 Speaker 1: you this week is how can you be a little 73 00:04:46,120 --> 00:04:49,400 Speaker 1: bit more attentive to the good in your life? Maybe 74 00:04:49,440 --> 00:04:55,760 Speaker 1: it is consciously journaling more often, Maybe it is pausing 75 00:04:55,960 --> 00:04:59,200 Speaker 1: more regularly. Maybe it is checking in with a friend 76 00:04:59,320 --> 00:05:02,760 Speaker 1: once a day to make note of something good that's 77 00:05:02,800 --> 00:05:06,120 Speaker 1: happened within the last twenty four hours. Think about it. 78 00:05:06,480 --> 00:05:10,040 Speaker 1: How can you consciously make more note of the good 79 00:05:10,560 --> 00:05:14,159 Speaker 1: within your life? And now a listener question. 80 00:05:15,440 --> 00:05:18,600 Speaker 2: Hi, Emily, this is Lynette from Ohio. I am calling 81 00:05:18,720 --> 00:05:22,960 Speaker 2: because I am anticipating a big career shift coming up 82 00:05:23,839 --> 00:05:26,599 Speaker 2: and moving into an entirely different field. And I know 83 00:05:26,680 --> 00:05:30,320 Speaker 2: you've had a couple of career reinventions in your life, 84 00:05:30,400 --> 00:05:33,839 Speaker 2: so I wonder if you have any tips for starting 85 00:05:33,920 --> 00:05:36,760 Speaker 2: over and especially for starting over in a journey of 86 00:05:36,800 --> 00:05:40,480 Speaker 2: self employment. Thank you so much and I love your podcast. 87 00:05:40,880 --> 00:05:43,880 Speaker 1: Lynette from Ohio, I feel like you should do voiceover work. 88 00:05:43,960 --> 00:05:48,080 Speaker 1: You have like a very endearing voice. Is that the 89 00:05:48,080 --> 00:05:52,880 Speaker 1: field you're pivoting into? Okay, okay, I've got jokes. I know. Yeah, 90 00:05:53,000 --> 00:05:55,000 Speaker 1: I have had a couple of different lives when it 91 00:05:55,000 --> 00:05:58,240 Speaker 1: comes to my career. So the question I'm answering here 92 00:05:58,520 --> 00:06:01,320 Speaker 1: is if I have any advice for someone that is 93 00:06:01,360 --> 00:06:05,159 Speaker 1: in the middle of a big career pivot. And my 94 00:06:05,320 --> 00:06:10,480 Speaker 1: answer to that is twofold. The first part is ask questions. 95 00:06:11,160 --> 00:06:13,600 Speaker 1: And this can be used to your advantage. Right. Of course, 96 00:06:13,600 --> 00:06:16,159 Speaker 1: you're asking questions because you need to figure out how 97 00:06:16,200 --> 00:06:20,279 Speaker 1: you're doing your new job, especially if you are working 98 00:06:20,320 --> 00:06:23,760 Speaker 1: within a company. A moment to ask questions can be 99 00:06:23,800 --> 00:06:26,440 Speaker 1: a really good opportunity to meet people. But it can 100 00:06:26,480 --> 00:06:29,320 Speaker 1: also be used as like a flattery tool if you 101 00:06:29,360 --> 00:06:32,480 Speaker 1: are working in house somewhere. And what I mean by 102 00:06:32,480 --> 00:06:35,880 Speaker 1: that is people love to talk about what they know. 103 00:06:36,480 --> 00:06:38,440 Speaker 1: And I don't mean that in a way that's supposed 104 00:06:38,440 --> 00:06:41,280 Speaker 1: to be condescending. It's just fact. Right. So, if you're 105 00:06:41,320 --> 00:06:43,520 Speaker 1: in an office environment where someone knows how to do 106 00:06:43,560 --> 00:06:46,880 Speaker 1: something that you don't, use that as an opportunity, yes, 107 00:06:46,960 --> 00:06:49,640 Speaker 1: to learn, but then to also break the ice and 108 00:06:50,000 --> 00:06:53,920 Speaker 1: allow them to open up to you about their expertise. Now, 109 00:06:54,000 --> 00:06:57,599 Speaker 1: when it comes to working for yourself, asking questions is 110 00:06:57,640 --> 00:07:00,680 Speaker 1: also a super relevant piece of advice here as well. 111 00:07:01,160 --> 00:07:03,280 Speaker 1: You are taking the first step if you happen to 112 00:07:03,320 --> 00:07:05,360 Speaker 1: be pivoting and working for yourself, and that's why you 113 00:07:05,400 --> 00:07:08,680 Speaker 1: are recording this listener question and asking it of me. 114 00:07:10,000 --> 00:07:13,440 Speaker 1: It's a really great way to meet other fellow entrepreneurs, 115 00:07:13,560 --> 00:07:16,240 Speaker 1: to meet other people who are kind of going about 116 00:07:16,240 --> 00:07:20,720 Speaker 1: the grind in their own way. And no question, I 117 00:07:20,760 --> 00:07:23,760 Speaker 1: can't reiterate this enough. No question is a dumb question. 118 00:07:23,960 --> 00:07:27,000 Speaker 1: You are the only person that is going to feel 119 00:07:27,080 --> 00:07:29,920 Speaker 1: some kind of way when you don't get the answers 120 00:07:29,960 --> 00:07:33,440 Speaker 1: that you are seeking. So get over that hurdle, put 121 00:07:33,480 --> 00:07:37,640 Speaker 1: yourself out there and ask the questions. I'll say two 122 00:07:37,680 --> 00:07:39,560 Speaker 1: more things here. The first thing that I will say 123 00:07:39,600 --> 00:07:42,760 Speaker 1: here is if you are on the self employment tip, 124 00:07:43,320 --> 00:07:46,680 Speaker 1: make sure that you are creating some sort of a 125 00:07:46,720 --> 00:07:50,520 Speaker 1: schedule for yourself. Figure out when you are quote unquote 126 00:07:50,600 --> 00:07:54,680 Speaker 1: best at doing certain things. So, for example, I know 127 00:07:54,800 --> 00:07:57,600 Speaker 1: that I am really good with my focus time as 128 00:07:57,640 --> 00:08:00,360 Speaker 1: I'll call it in the earlier hours of the day. 129 00:08:00,520 --> 00:08:03,520 Speaker 1: So if I am writing an article, or I really 130 00:08:03,600 --> 00:08:07,040 Speaker 1: want to dial in on guest research, or god knows 131 00:08:07,040 --> 00:08:11,280 Speaker 1: what I'm trying to get done, I am dedicating those 132 00:08:11,320 --> 00:08:14,360 Speaker 1: early morning hours between let's say when I get to 133 00:08:14,400 --> 00:08:18,680 Speaker 1: my desk at nine and when lunchtime hits to that 134 00:08:18,760 --> 00:08:22,120 Speaker 1: focus work. I will book more of my meetings in 135 00:08:22,160 --> 00:08:25,280 Speaker 1: turn in the afternoon where I can be creative, but 136 00:08:25,280 --> 00:08:28,320 Speaker 1: I don't need that same level of focus. So get 137 00:08:28,320 --> 00:08:31,720 Speaker 1: to know yourself and how you operate, and then make 138 00:08:31,800 --> 00:08:35,880 Speaker 1: your goldilocks schedule around that. Having some sort of a 139 00:08:35,960 --> 00:08:39,040 Speaker 1: routine is really going to benefit you. Just because you're 140 00:08:39,040 --> 00:08:42,840 Speaker 1: not going into somebody else's office, per se, doesn't mean 141 00:08:43,000 --> 00:08:46,280 Speaker 1: that you can't find routine on your own. And the 142 00:08:46,360 --> 00:08:49,720 Speaker 1: last thing I will say here again on this entrepreneurial tip, 143 00:08:50,280 --> 00:08:52,240 Speaker 1: find something that brings you joy that has nothing to 144 00:08:52,280 --> 00:08:55,040 Speaker 1: do with work. I love my work, you guys know this. 145 00:08:55,320 --> 00:08:59,400 Speaker 1: I'm here talking to you all the damn time. But 146 00:08:59,800 --> 00:09:02,080 Speaker 1: that said, I do have other things in my life 147 00:09:02,120 --> 00:09:04,160 Speaker 1: that bring me joy. Because I know that I cannot 148 00:09:04,280 --> 00:09:07,480 Speaker 1: base how I feel about myself only on my work, 149 00:09:07,640 --> 00:09:12,480 Speaker 1: and at times feedback from others. I also say this 150 00:09:12,559 --> 00:09:16,080 Speaker 1: because it can be really really easy to just work work, work, work, work, 151 00:09:16,200 --> 00:09:20,840 Speaker 1: especially when you are your own livelihood. So find other 152 00:09:20,960 --> 00:09:23,480 Speaker 1: things that bring you joy, Other ways that you can 153 00:09:23,520 --> 00:09:28,320 Speaker 1: relax that have nothing to do with making money. Your friends, 154 00:09:28,800 --> 00:09:32,880 Speaker 1: a hobby, whatever it may be. Trust me, you and 155 00:09:32,960 --> 00:09:36,960 Speaker 1: your work will be better for it. That's it for 156 00:09:37,040 --> 00:09:39,240 Speaker 1: this week. Make sure you're following me along with Hurdle 157 00:09:39,480 --> 00:09:41,880 Speaker 1: Over at Hurdle podcast. I'm over at Emily a Body 158 00:09:42,400 --> 00:09:45,880 Speaker 1: Another hurdle conquered. Catch you guys next time.