Speaker 1: Welcome to Go Ask Ali, a production of Shonda Land
Speaker 1: Audio and partnership with I Heart Radio. Hey everyone, it's
Speaker 1: Ali Wentworth here. You know, my dear friend Brooke Shields
Speaker 1: a few weeks ago fell and fractured her femur, and
Speaker 1: she's been showing her journey on Instagram and Twitter, and
Speaker 1: so I thought, as an ode to Brook, I would
Speaker 1: air my very first episode of Go Ask Alli, which
Speaker 1: was a conversation with her about teens and trying to
Speaker 1: chart the waters of sexualization and girls on social media.
Speaker 1: So here's Brooke prefractured femur, please enjoy. One day in March,
Speaker 1: I got COVID nineteen and my whole life came screeching
Speaker 1: to a halt. And as I lay in bed, taking
Speaker 1: Thailand all and finishing Netflix, I thought to myself, how
Speaker 1: am I going to raise a teenager in a pandemic?
Speaker 1: How is any of us going to do that? My
Speaker 1: two daughters, their whole life was upside down. They weren't
Speaker 1: seeing their friends, they weren't going to school. And so on,
Speaker 1: Go ask Alli, I'm going to go ask some other
Speaker 1: people how to grow a teenager in a pandemic. So
Speaker 1: on today's episode, I'm talking about the sexualization of girls
Speaker 1: in social media. Social media has amplified age old pressures
Speaker 1: for teenage girls to conform to certain sexualized narratives, and
Speaker 1: those hyper sexualized models of what it means to be
Speaker 1: feminine can affect the mental, emotional, and physical health of
Speaker 1: our girls. I'm asking how do we help them, how
Speaker 1: do we monitor them, how do we keep them from
Speaker 1: ending up on the dark web? And who better to
Speaker 1: talk to than one of my friends, Brookshield. She is
Speaker 1: an American model and actress. She has so many credits
Speaker 1: that we don't have enough time to listen all. But
Speaker 1: what I will say is that at age twelve, she
Speaker 1: was starring in a movie by Louis Mall called Pretty Baby,
Speaker 1: where she played a child prostitute. She is somebody who
Speaker 1: was sexualized as a young girl and who now has
Speaker 1: two teenage daughters who are just TikTok being their way
Speaker 1: through the pandemic. Hello Brookshields, Hello Ali went Worth. So I'm,
Speaker 1: as you know, fascinated by what is happening to our
Speaker 1: teenage girls on social media, and we share a lot
Speaker 1: of things. You and I not only are exterior beauty,
Speaker 1: but also the fact that we have teenage girls, and
Speaker 1: we are constantly scratching our heads about how to deal
Speaker 1: with this issue. The reason that you are so I
Speaker 1: find particularly fascinating to talk to you about this was
Speaker 1: as a young girl, you lived in a very public
Speaker 1: sexualized way, particularly you know, because of the modeling, but
Speaker 1: also because of the Louie Mall movie. And my first
Speaker 1: question is to you is can you imagine if you
Speaker 1: were on social media when you were one through fifteen?
Speaker 1: I could not imagine it, and my wildest dreams, even
Speaker 1: my mom kept all of the press away from me,
Speaker 1: so anything that was written, I never saw anything. So
Speaker 1: I didn't even see the negativity. And I think she
Speaker 1: did that on purpose, because they tried to eviscerate all
Speaker 1: of us after that movie. Well, you know, it's interesting
Speaker 1: because in our world, the sexualization of females is rewarded,
Speaker 1: whether it's magazines, television, the media, and so here, our
Speaker 1: teenage girls have a platform and a place where they
Speaker 1: can self sexualize themselves as much as they can. You know, you,
Speaker 1: when you were young, your mother controlled sort of your brand,
Speaker 1: but now they kind of they get to create it themselves.
Speaker 1: I'm just curious, what are your kind of parental guidelines
Speaker 1: when it comes to that, Do you have set rules
Speaker 1: like you're not allowed to do bikini shots or nudies?
Speaker 1: Are only their mother is allowed to do? Yes? No,
Speaker 1: I mean we do. We have access to all of
Speaker 1: their social media. We have the power to turn it
Speaker 1: off for any reason. I can't follow her. I have
Speaker 1: to follow her through another account just for security reasons. Um.
Speaker 1: Them one of them is public and one isn't. Why
Speaker 1: why is one of them allowed to be public? I'm
Speaker 1: just curious. Well, because one of them is sixteen and
Speaker 1: the others fourteen, and at sixteen, we said, all right,
Speaker 1: as long as we can still have control of it,
Speaker 1: and as long as you don't post anything inappropriate, we
Speaker 1: will let you. Because and the public aspect of hers
Speaker 1: is now that she's in high school, her friend group
Speaker 1: has really opened up, so they're from all these different
Speaker 1: schools and and everything like that. But we haven't monitored
Speaker 1: all the time. I trust her view, I trust her fear. Um,
Speaker 1: we have put the fear of got into them. With
Speaker 1: regards to whatever you post doesn't go away. The words
Speaker 1: you choose have to be chosen very carefully. Colleges, look
Speaker 1: at your Instagram. Colleges review all of that, and so
Speaker 1: they I think they're starting to get it a little bit.
Speaker 1: So most parents should be monitoring their children social media.
Speaker 1: They don't, but you know, we all try to as
Speaker 1: best we can. We all hope that they don't go
Speaker 1: behind our backs and create other accounts. There are two
Speaker 1: things that I've noticed, particularly with my children, which is
Speaker 1: likes have become so so important. To get a like
Speaker 1: is complete validation of who you are as a person.
Speaker 1: And there's been so much research globally that show that,
Speaker 1: of course, young girls need physical validation because they all
Speaker 1: they see themselves is ugly or fat, and there's a
Speaker 1: very specific narrative about what we're all supposed to look
Speaker 1: like that they abide by. But the like seem to
Speaker 1: initiate the desire to be accepted. And what happens is
Speaker 1: they start almost like an addiction to the machines at Vegas.
Speaker 1: They need the likes to kind of fill that hole.
Speaker 1: And I found that when they are private, they know
Speaker 1: that the likes can only go so far because it
Speaker 1: is within their friend group or people. They know when
Speaker 1: you open up to the public, it becomes kind of
Speaker 1: a mad rush to get as many legs as you lot,
Speaker 1: because that sort of informs how exciting, sexy important you are.
Speaker 1: The likes and the validation. It is such an addiction.
Speaker 1: And what's weird about the contradiction or the being a
Speaker 1: hypocrite in my world is that I have to have
Speaker 1: the most followers that I can. Now followers and likes.
Speaker 1: I don't look at the likes as much as I
Speaker 1: do the followers. But now this whole world has turned
Speaker 1: into if they want you to advertise X product, they
Speaker 1: look at how many followers you have. So if I
Speaker 1: happen to be a person that just wants to not
Speaker 1: really live, you know, that way, and take pictures of
Speaker 1: what I eat and and everything, well then they're not
Speaker 1: gonna want me because I don't have a million or
Speaker 1: more followers. And try telling that to your kids. And
Speaker 1: I have to say, this is for my business. This
Speaker 1: is I'm having somebody else help me monitor it so
Speaker 1: I'm not subjected to the comments. I don't read the comments.
Speaker 1: And Rowan actually said to me she posted something with me,
Speaker 1: and I asked her how it was being received, and
Speaker 1: she said, don't read the comments, mom, And I thought
Speaker 1: that was really interesting because they were clearly not nice.
Speaker 1: And she was kind of trying to protect me. So
Speaker 1: it does tell me that somewhere in there there's a barometer.
Speaker 1: What's weird for me is I know that I'm beautiful
Speaker 1: and sexy, that I'm perfect, so come on, you know,
Speaker 1: um no, but there are there are always going to
Speaker 1: be people that just want to rip me apart. And
Speaker 1: then I started seeing some of the comments and they were,
Speaker 1: you know, not nice, and and I thought, my god,
Speaker 1: this is just a slight taste of what these kids
Speaker 1: are are doing and what they're feeling. But it's two seven,
Speaker 1: and it's not only girls criticizing each other, but it's boys.
Speaker 1: And so they're giving these boys all the power to
Speaker 1: kind of tell them if they have any work wrong
Speaker 1: with them. Yeah, and they do. They pointed out girls
Speaker 1: being in this platform and in this position, we're pushing
Speaker 1: misogyny and sexism at a much earlier age. You know.
Speaker 1: I feel like, are we doing the right things as
Speaker 1: mothers to shield them from this till they're older, till
Speaker 1: they're you know, frontal lobe has developed and they can
Speaker 1: understand this the way we do. I mean, I had
Speaker 1: a very strange, strange relationship with sexuality as a child
Speaker 1: because this is only a half hour podcast, Brook, but
Speaker 1: it's hard for me to tell my kids talk to
Speaker 1: my kids about this. Well, this is why you're an
Speaker 1: interesting guest because you were so sexualized as a young girl,
Speaker 1: and now you have teenage girls. How do you set
Speaker 1: the rules without them saying you were you played a
Speaker 1: child prostituted? I mean, how do they not push it
Speaker 1: back in your face? I mean it's like Toddlins and
Speaker 1: Tierra's saying, I don't want to see you in a pageant.
Speaker 1: I mean no, I'm dealing with this right now. With
Speaker 1: one of my daughters. There is an agency that wants
Speaker 1: her to start modeling, and I kept saying, I need
Speaker 1: to understand the why you know you need It's a
Speaker 1: very different industry than it is now. And this man
Speaker 1: said to me, said, look, she's too young. She's fourteen,
Speaker 1: and we wait till sixteen signing them and taking care
Speaker 1: of them. And the odd thing for me was I
Speaker 1: was doing I was nine, I was eight seven, you know,
Speaker 1: I was doing these pictures since forever, and yet I
Speaker 1: do pretty baby. Then all of a sudden I become
Speaker 1: the most famous virgin in the world. So I grew
Speaker 1: up with absolutely the most conflicting, paradoxical way of living,
Speaker 1: and I just shut down. But wasn't wasn't the fact
Speaker 1: that your virginity was publicized as a way to counteract
Speaker 1: the part that made you so sexualized. And probably your
Speaker 1: mother probably gotten a lot of trouble for when you
Speaker 1: were young because of pretty Baby. I mean, she got
Speaker 1: in trouble for everything, and rightfully so. She was sort
Speaker 1: of a train wreck that I was always more interested
Speaker 1: in keeping her happy and keeping her alive. I don't
Speaker 1: know if she did that intentionally. The truth was I
Speaker 1: was very sequestered. I was very much in a bubble.
Speaker 1: I didn't leave my mother's site for forever, you know.
Speaker 1: And but most of these girls, most of these girls,
Speaker 1: you know, they don't leave their room. To my other point,
Speaker 1: this being a pandemic, I think teenagers are so bored
Speaker 1: they want to be provocative, and that to me, takes
Speaker 1: you to a very dark and scary place, which is
Speaker 1: what I always live in terror of. And I make
Speaker 1: sure that I talked to them about that dark and
Speaker 1: scary place, because even if they look like they're not
Speaker 1: listening or they roll their eyes, they hear me. And
Speaker 1: as long as I can keep a little fear in them.
Speaker 1: And I mean that like I I want them to
Speaker 1: be afraid. I read them the news. I make them
Speaker 1: watch certain documentary is about you know, abductions and about
Speaker 1: relationships that seemed like they were really with a nice
Speaker 1: guy and their tragic and their response because they feel
Speaker 1: like they're invincible, especially at this age, is it's not
Speaker 1: going to happen to me, mom. And that's such an
Speaker 1: ignorant way of looking at things. And I just keep
Speaker 1: reiterating it. I said it could. This does not discriminate.
Speaker 1: It doesn't matter where you live, what you look like,
Speaker 1: what you are. There's nothing that makes you more prey
Speaker 1: than anybody else, and so you are not exempt from it.
Speaker 1: And and the predators can find you. It's very easy
Speaker 1: to find you on social media, find them on but
Speaker 1: you can also there's so many ways that you can
Speaker 1: find people. You just track them. I mean, you know,
Speaker 1: that's why I can't personally follow my kids, because you
Speaker 1: can then track them to me easily. I think that
Speaker 1: we're talking about a lot of things. I think I've
Speaker 1: seen many kids post pictures that are inappropriate. And they're
Speaker 1: fourteen there, fourteen years old, thirteen years old, and my
Speaker 1: kind of question note that is, it's not my kid.
Speaker 1: What is our obligation to each other to sort of say, hey,
Speaker 1: this came to my attention. Well, I can tell you.
Speaker 1: I can tell you right now. I had an experience
Speaker 1: with this. I have a friend and her daughter, starting
Speaker 1: at age twelve, was posting, in my opinion, inappropriate pictures.
Speaker 1: They were incredibly sexual. You know, there were tiny bikini
Speaker 1: shots and pouty face and finger in the mouth and
Speaker 1: you know, the come hither look and the whole thing.
Speaker 1: And I got sort of nervous because my girls followed
Speaker 1: her and my girls looked up to her, and I thought,
Speaker 1: this is a potential role model for my children. And
Speaker 1: I got to stop this. And I talked to the
Speaker 1: parents a few times, and I said, you cannot have
Speaker 1: your child using this as her only currency. And she
Speaker 1: has a public account, which is very dangerous. I mean,
Speaker 1: it's like a predators smartest board. You gotta shut it down.
Speaker 1: And they weren't interested. They didn't agree with me because
Speaker 1: they were and are very proud of what their daughter
Speaker 1: looks like. And they liked that she was out there,
Speaker 1: and they liked that she got a lot of likes
Speaker 1: because the connection led directly to them, and I finally
Speaker 1: had to kind of pull back from the friendship and
Speaker 1: have my kids on follow that girl because I was
Speaker 1: so terrified of the ramifications. And I started educating my
Speaker 1: children in a way where I would sit them in
Speaker 1: front of Instagram and say, look at this picture. This
Speaker 1: is a girl to me that has a hole to
Speaker 1: fill and she's choosing to fill it by sexualizing herself
Speaker 1: and having unknown boys and men out in the world
Speaker 1: tell her she's okay, you are okay. You don't need
Speaker 1: to do that, you know. So we had a million
Speaker 1: conversations about that, to the point where I mean, my
Speaker 1: daughters won't even put like a funny bathing suit shot
Speaker 1: going down a water slide because I've because I've terrified them,
Speaker 1: and they'll be spinsters living in a castle when they're eighty.
Speaker 1: I agree with you. But another thing which is really
Speaker 1: interesting to me is I was so ashamed of everything
Speaker 1: growing up. I was ashamed of the way I looked.
Speaker 1: I didn't have big boobs. I I always felt my
Speaker 1: butt was big, and so there was all these different
Speaker 1: little weird messages that I was getting that were so
Speaker 1: contradictory that I just I wanted to hide, you know,
Speaker 1: and even if I were to play a role, it
Speaker 1: wasn't liberating to me. So there's a part of me
Speaker 1: that looks at the girls. They're proud of their bodies,
Speaker 1: and I don't want them to lose that. Like, I
Speaker 1: don't want them to get shame, have shame on their bodies.
Speaker 1: And I don't want them to be so puritanical. But
Speaker 1: I want there to be enough fear and and I
Speaker 1: I was trying to say to them, if they're so
Speaker 1: worried about likes and they're so worried out being regarded
Speaker 1: and how they come across to people, then wouldn't they
Speaker 1: want to know that they miss the image that they're
Speaker 1: putting out there is not respectful. Yeah, we're going to
Speaker 1: take a short break and we'll be right back. Welcome
Speaker 1: back with more. Go ask Gali. The problem is with
Speaker 1: this social media what's happening is mental health is becoming
Speaker 1: a huge problem. You know, there's body image stuff, there's
Speaker 1: eating disorders, depression, anxiety, suicide. You know, there is a
Speaker 1: story I heard recently which was about a young girl
Speaker 1: and she was, you know, not very popular, and she
Speaker 1: wanted to get popular, and the popular girls were sexy
Speaker 1: and sexual, and her social media had only been like,
Speaker 1: you know, puppies and cupcakes. And so she went to
Speaker 1: a party and decided to perform oral sex on a
Speaker 1: low crosse player because he was popular, and she thought,
Speaker 1: this is my way in and one of the teammates
Speaker 1: filmed it, put it on social media, and she was
Speaker 1: slat shamed and she killed herself. Now this is a
Speaker 1: particularly vulnerable girl. But you know, we're all dancing in
Speaker 1: this kind of mine field of mental health and of
Speaker 1: how our daughters are conducting themselves and viewing themselves. So
Speaker 1: for me, I think it's a great thing to educate
Speaker 1: your girls. And also it's not just them, Like you
Speaker 1: brought up a really good point, someone else filmed it.
Speaker 1: You could put something on and it can be screenshotted
Speaker 1: and it can be disseminated. So it's not like, oh,
Speaker 1: you're in control of it. You're not really in control
Speaker 1: of anything. And you know, you go to the beach
Speaker 1: and they're not having fun at the beach, they're just
Speaker 1: taking pictures, selfies or pictures of each other or and
Speaker 1: I'm thinking, when where's your childhood? You know, when when
Speaker 1: do you swim on and play in the sand if
Speaker 1: I don't even make sand castles like you did when
Speaker 1: you were three, but just the joy of being outside
Speaker 1: or that's the addiction in general. And so when you
Speaker 1: look at social media when they're young, and now they're
Speaker 1: getting younger and younger and younger, you know, they're given
Speaker 1: these platforms. You know, it is sort of an out
Speaker 1: of focus duckling. And then as soon as they're sort
Speaker 1: of preteens, it's suddenly the camera's turn and it's on them.
Speaker 1: You know, it's funny faces and stuff. And then they
Speaker 1: get more kind of aware and the faces pull back
Speaker 1: and suddenly it's their bodies and they become more sexual
Speaker 1: and it's less about goofy faces, and now it's about
Speaker 1: presenting yourself to the male population. It's like you could
Speaker 1: do like one of those flip books of seeing you know,
Speaker 1: the ages and how they deal with social media. It's
Speaker 1: also a very curated platform. So even if you're a
Speaker 1: girl and you maybe had issues with your body or
Speaker 1: your face, you can now face tune them. You can
Speaker 1: make your breath spigger, you can make your acne go away.
Speaker 1: You can sort of morph into your idealistic version of yourself.
Speaker 1: So that's another thing that's being presented out there, which
Speaker 1: to me feeds the anxiety, depression, and eating disorders, because
Speaker 1: you know that you're putting something out there that's false,
Speaker 1: and every time you look in the mirror you are
Speaker 1: reminded that you don't look like that image. You are
Speaker 1: perpetuating the lowest self esteem that you could possibly have.
Speaker 1: I mean, it's just it's so devastating. And then you
Speaker 1: have teenage girls who want to look like the image
Speaker 1: that face tune has created, so they go get preemptive
Speaker 1: botox and fillers at fourteen fifteen years old, again, before
Speaker 1: the frontal lobe has developed, before you're capable of making
Speaker 1: good decisions, you already cutting and pasting an image of
Speaker 1: yourself that hasn't even formed yet, before I even really
Speaker 1: know who they are. They're painting a picture that's not
Speaker 1: based on them, their own self, and they're all it's homogenizing.
Speaker 1: It's like everybody is starting to look alike. It's sort
Speaker 1: of creating this avatar, this world, and you're putting yourself
Speaker 1: in a position to inevitably have to fail because you
Speaker 1: can't look like this Barbie doll or this this image.
Speaker 1: But it's younger and younger. You know, my seventeen year
Speaker 1: old daughter shouldn't be worried about how thin her waist is,
Speaker 1: but they see this kind of sexy hourglass figure, you know,
Speaker 1: And of course the physicality is always changing. Now big
Speaker 1: butts are really in, you know, so I need now,
Speaker 1: I need a big butt constant. And the reason I
Speaker 1: keep hammering social media is when we grow up. You know,
Speaker 1: we saw them in monthly magazines, but our kids are
Speaker 1: barraged by them all day long. These images, hundreds of them,
Speaker 1: be this B this, B this, B this B two
Speaker 1: B this. They're the guinea pi eggs. You know. They're
Speaker 1: the first generation to grow up with social media. And
Speaker 1: I just worry. I worry about the long term effects.
Speaker 1: You know. I've I've sat with my daughter and she'll
Speaker 1: take a picture and she'll show me what can be
Speaker 1: done to it. And well, I'd lie if I told
Speaker 1: you that the one that they docked or up doesn't
Speaker 1: look better than the real one. But what's the point
Speaker 1: of that, especially if everybody knows their doctor. It's like
Speaker 1: when a woman walks into and she's had a horrible facelift.
Speaker 1: You think, you know, you're not fooling us. We know
Speaker 1: that you've had a facelift. What are we proving? What
Speaker 1: are we saying exactly? What's the message? I mean, it's
Speaker 1: an unhealthy one, you know. It's let's create this fake
Speaker 1: version of ourselves because in that one instance, we get
Speaker 1: to live the fantasy of looking like that. But then
Speaker 1: what does that do when the phone goes off and
Speaker 1: when you wake up and you are just in your
Speaker 1: own beautiful, different, unique, fabulous body. But the way we
Speaker 1: describe each other versus the way we describe ourselves is amazing.
Speaker 1: And the trainer that I work with said, he sees hundreds,
Speaker 1: well he used to see hundreds of people, and a
Speaker 1: guy can be overweight and whatever, but he'll go to
Speaker 1: the mirror and he'll just yeah, just he'll find that'll
Speaker 1: be like yeah, And the girls could be fit and
Speaker 1: gorgeous and rocking and like just amazing, and they'll find
Speaker 1: one thing and now show it and look at it
Speaker 1: and punish themselves for it. And he said, it's so
Speaker 1: sad what he sees, because you know, women don't even
Speaker 1: give themselves a break. I've never used face tune or
Speaker 1: any of those filters, but my daughters haven't either. But
Speaker 1: I know that my eldest daughter will take a picture
Speaker 1: of me and do stuff to it before she says, oh,
Speaker 1: you can post it, or she does. She does, she's like, Mom,
Speaker 1: don't you can't put that? No, Mom, you gotta, and
Speaker 1: she'll do something. It's usually a wrinkling thing. I don't
Speaker 1: suddenly have enormous breast or anything. Yeah. No, Robin will say,
Speaker 1: let me take another angle, let me take a different picture. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I think that. I I think I rebel against that
Speaker 1: a little bit because I'm so conscious of it. You know,
Speaker 1: I rebel against my daughters wanted to do that by saying,
Speaker 1: oh this, I don't care. So I am. I know mom,
Speaker 1: but you have you know, your roots are showing. I
Speaker 1: don't care to pandemic. I don't care. This is who
Speaker 1: I am, and this is what I I sort of
Speaker 1: dig my heels in about it, which you know, probably's
Speaker 1: probably a terrible idea. And I don't think they started
Speaker 1: retouching stuff until I mean, who knows, weren't you weren't
Speaker 1: you an ivory snow baby? Yeah I think they retouched that. Yeah, yeah,
Speaker 1: they made me your little chunky well, yeah, they made
Speaker 1: me a little more rippled, and you know, they got
Speaker 1: rid of the crow's feet. Now, a quick word from
Speaker 1: our sponsors, welcome back to go ask Ali. Let's get
Speaker 1: back to the discussion. But I wanted to go back
Speaker 1: a little bit about as a parent. You know, with teenagers,
Speaker 1: you're doing a lot of like don't drink, don't do drugs,
Speaker 1: don't drive under the influence, don't let this person do that.
Speaker 1: But to me, the social media component has become a
Speaker 1: whole education in itself that I didn't have and you
Speaker 1: didn't have as a kid. So it's not like our
Speaker 1: parents gave us any kind of handbook to be able
Speaker 1: to deal with this. And I feel like social media
Speaker 1: takes up much more of my time in terms of
Speaker 1: educating my children than any other aspect of teenagehood. And
Speaker 1: you know, the reason that I'm talking to you and
Speaker 1: I'm going to talk to some other doctors about the
Speaker 1: sexualization of girls and social media in the pandemic is
Speaker 1: because my concern is right now with with kids not
Speaker 1: going to school, not going to camp, and not sort
Speaker 1: of venturing out and having normal experiences, having you know,
Speaker 1: first kiss with the boy or whatever that is, because
Speaker 1: they're insulated and because they're alone in their rooms or
Speaker 1: their homes. I don't want them to experiment in a
Speaker 1: way that will cause severe damage. Like you said down
Speaker 1: the line, with college admissions, with with being slug shamed,
Speaker 1: with predators, with eating disorders, all that kind of stuff.
Speaker 1: I worry that during a pandemic, these things all get amplified.
Speaker 1: But so the only thing that I can keep doing
Speaker 1: is instead of just being that broken record and shaking
Speaker 1: my head when bad lyrics come on, or or telling
Speaker 1: them don't use your butt like that, I just then
Speaker 1: wait two moments that have nothing to do with this,
Speaker 1: and just say, you have to listen to this conversation.
Speaker 1: This is not the image of you that should be
Speaker 1: out there. It's dangerous, it's not fair to you, and
Speaker 1: I would say you are. You have to present yourself
Speaker 1: as the best possible version of yourself, and that means
Speaker 1: being respectful, because everything that's being done now is setting
Speaker 1: the precedent for the rest of their lives. I do
Speaker 1: a similar thing with my daughters. I say, when it
Speaker 1: comes to social media, what is the story that you're telling?
Speaker 1: What is your story? Is your story that you're playing
Speaker 1: lacrosse and that you care about social justice? And you
Speaker 1: know you care about this, you care about that? Or
Speaker 1: is your story that you're sexy and you can bend
Speaker 1: your legs like that? I mean, so that helps them
Speaker 1: with the big picture. You know, what's the story that
Speaker 1: you're going to tell? What, as you said, sort of
Speaker 1: what what's gonna propel you into the life you want? Um?
Speaker 1: Which I think are probably better ways than I'm following you.
Speaker 1: I know what you're putting on your social because they're
Speaker 1: teenagers and they'll find ways around it, you know. That's
Speaker 1: to me, that's the only thing I can do. I
Speaker 1: can sort of show them the much bigger picture than
Speaker 1: if Scooter likes or not likes her bikini picture, but
Speaker 1: sort of what it means for women in a much
Speaker 1: bigger and global sense, and that there is a world
Speaker 1: outside of them, you know that. I think what's happened
Speaker 1: to is it's so insular, you know that, even though
Speaker 1: it's in one little screen, but it's everywhere. One of
Speaker 1: them is just leaving right now, um with a case
Speaker 1: of beer. No, but her skirts doesn't even look like skirt.
Speaker 1: There you go, there's a God forbid. Somebody drops something
Speaker 1: and she has to pick it up. That's not a
Speaker 1: skirt that's a belt anyway. I just don't want her
Speaker 1: to believe that her whole currency is her beauty. Hey, listen,
Speaker 1: Brookshields played a child prostitute at twelve, then was famous
Speaker 1: for being a virgin way after most people had lost
Speaker 1: their virginity. Modeled actress went to Princeton. I mean you
Speaker 1: are You are a hard lady to pinpoint when it
Speaker 1: comes to this, but a great role model for girls.
Speaker 1: So thank you for talking to me. Thank you for
Speaker 1: talking about the hyper sexualization of girls in social media.
Speaker 1: This is one of my best these Brookshields. Thank you, Brooke,
Speaker 1: Thank you Alie. Hey, really quickly, speaking of I'm sending
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