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Speaker 2: My mother demanded that I invite my ex to my wedding.

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Speaker 2: It made my fiance furious.

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Speaker 3: They're an expert, reason right.

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Speaker 2: I, twenty eight male, was a terrible person in the

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Speaker 2: past great start, which I have moved on from. Used

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Speaker 2: to drink a lot, and had cheated on my ex

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Speaker 2: twenty seven female countless times in our three year relationship. Yikes.

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Speaker 2: I don't know how she's stuck with me for so long.

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Speaker 2: So one day she found out I was cheating again

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Speaker 2: and broke things off, which I don't blame her for.

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Speaker 3: I Yeah, are already see where this story's going.

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Speaker 2: I was cut off by my family, which was heartbreaking.

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Speaker 2: By the way, this comes from Maintenance Alone twenty five

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Speaker 2: I eventually improved myself gotten therapy and eventually apologized and

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Speaker 2: reconciled with my family. I found out my mother and

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Speaker 2: my ex were still in contact, which I didn't mind.

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Speaker 2: They were close even when I was with her. My

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Speaker 2: family invites my ex to family gatherings as her family

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Speaker 2: is let's say, not that good, which I again don't care.

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Speaker 2: We both are civil and don't interact. Eventually, I met

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Speaker 2: a new girl, twenty eight female, and one year later

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Speaker 2: I'm engaged to her.

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Speaker 3: All right, yeah, she.

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Speaker 2: Knows how I was in the past, as I told.

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Speaker 3: Her that was gonna be my I was going.

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Speaker 2: Does she know about all that stuff or planning a

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Speaker 2: wedding to host only close friends and family. Then rob

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Speaker 2: le marive that my mother, who's close with my ex,

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Speaker 2: wants to invite her to the wedding, and my fiancee

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Speaker 2: is absolutely furious. And the reason my mother is giving

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Speaker 2: is that if the family event.

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Speaker 3: Okay, I understand when mothers and girlfriends or ex girlfriends

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Speaker 3: are really tight and they're cool, like I'm pretty cool

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Speaker 3: with some of the dads of the girlfriends I used

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Speaker 3: to date. I understand you always have that idea of family,

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Speaker 3: But the family event, yeah.

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Speaker 2: Wedding, their wedding, it's not a family event.

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Speaker 3: No, you can invite them over for a Wednesday dinner, yeah,

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Speaker 3: or like you know, Sunday lunch whatever. Cool family.

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Speaker 2: Also, why would his ex, who we cheated on multiple times,

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Speaker 2: even want to go to the wedding?

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Speaker 3: I know why?

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Speaker 2: Is she like jealous? Is she trying to get back

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Speaker 2: at him for all the stuff that he did?

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Speaker 3: Still got a lot of love for him. If you're

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Speaker 3: willing to stay with someone after they cheated with you

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Speaker 3: multiple times, I understand once trying to get through it.

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Speaker 2: I don't think she knew. I think she found out

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Speaker 2: and then broke up with it.

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Speaker 3: No, she knew, said yeah she knew, and then the

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Speaker 3: last time she found out and broke up with them.

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Speaker 3: So I think there's still a lot of love left

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Speaker 3: even if you're still even if you're hanging out the

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Speaker 3: mom after they're done, have you done with them? Come on?

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Speaker 2: Come on, you.

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Speaker 3: Love with the family, you want that you want to

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Speaker 3: be in that wedding dress. Maybe she's going to thinking, oh,

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Speaker 3: maybe she'd forget to put.

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Speaker 2: It on and all and all, and I'll honestly, I

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Speaker 2: don't want her to be in my wedding too. I

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Speaker 2: called her to talk about it and she told me

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Speaker 2: the same dang thing. He doesn't want to be in

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Speaker 2: my wedding, but my mother's insisting, which is infuriating.

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Speaker 3: Okay, I found the problem stupid.

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Speaker 2: That's a stupid excuse. Oh, I get it. I don't

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Speaker 2: want to be there either, But your mom said I

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Speaker 2: gotta do it.

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Speaker 3: You just say no, and she's got to do it

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Speaker 3: for the mom. You know how many white chicken chili

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Speaker 3: she'd made for her, the mom white chicken chili chi. Yeah,

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Speaker 3: white chicken chili, the white chicken chili. But to think, right,

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Speaker 3: gian you know about white chicken chili.

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Speaker 2: Are you saying like the color white or like a

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Speaker 2: white person chicken chilli?

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Speaker 3: No, just like a white chicken chili.

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Speaker 4: What you said. I did not explain any of that.

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Speaker 2: It's a chili, white chicken chili.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, it's like a type of chili people do. Okay, guys,

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Speaker 3: do you know how my dog's out? Do I need

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Speaker 3: to go put them on?

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Speaker 2: Go put your feet your feet away? Gro But what socks?

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Speaker 2: I don't want to see your gout socks.

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Speaker 3: Fine, I'll leave you with this. The girlfriend feels entitled

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Speaker 3: or not entitled, feels like she owes the mom, so

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Speaker 3: she's gonna do whatever the mom wants. White chicken chili

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Speaker 3: is awesome. Thank you the rest, Thank you.

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Speaker 4: I don't understand. Also, have you have you seen me?

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Speaker 2: What?

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Speaker 3: Oh?

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Speaker 2: Can't that white chicks chili? Oh?

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Speaker 4: Yeah, I just don't comments.

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Speaker 2: Why I don't understand?

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Speaker 5: I need Yeah, he just said he didn't really explain it.

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Speaker 5: He just said white chicken chili color.

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Speaker 4: Can someone explain it?

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Speaker 2: Yeah? Better than beans and chicken. It's real now, that

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Speaker 2: makes sense. It's white.

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Speaker 5: But what's the purpose of a chicken chill? Is it

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Speaker 5: like an olive branch.

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Speaker 3: It's just a type of just the type of spice

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Speaker 3: as you do it. Riley, your feet look like my brother's.

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Speaker 3: You know what your brother's feet. They're going to comment,

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Speaker 3: how would you not?

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Speaker 2: Tom? I don't want to see them? All right, guys,

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Speaker 2: this all right? My mother is still saying she won't

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Speaker 2: come if my ex isn't coming, and my fiance had

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Speaker 2: arguments with her. I am seriously thinking of not inviting

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Speaker 2: her at the moment. But if she doesn't come, I'm

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Speaker 2: afraid that I might be cut off from my family again.

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Speaker 2: This is so infuriating, and comments Aqua Tumbo says, it's

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Speaker 2: your wedding, not your mom's wedding. Tell your mom outright,

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Speaker 2: she doesn't want to come. I don't want her to come.

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Speaker 2: Fiance doesn't want her to come. Stop being weird about

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Speaker 2: it and let it go. Do not invite her. It

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Speaker 2: is a weird entitlement when parents dictate guess lists anyway,

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Speaker 2: unless they're paying, they get no say. If they are paying,

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Speaker 2: you have the right to draw boundaries. Good luck. If

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Speaker 2: your mom is that hung up on it, maybe you

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Speaker 2: have to let her go to next Effect says you

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Speaker 2: realize your mother hasn't forgiven you right, and there is

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Speaker 2: an update a day later. But oh, dude, awesome, Ashley says,

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Speaker 2: time to Elope. Maybe I mean you really, you know,

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Speaker 2: want to keep this relationship with your family. If that

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Speaker 2: is kind of priority, you might. I feel like the

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Speaker 2: options are you either don't have the wedding and a lope,

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Speaker 2: or you have the wedding and tell your mom to

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Speaker 3: I think this is way out of proportion here. I

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Speaker 3: don't think we needed a lope or cancel the wedding.

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Speaker 3: I believe every person that has a wedding something there's

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Speaker 3: a problem. There's some sort of problem some way, somehow,

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Speaker 3: someone's not happy with something. If you think about a

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Speaker 3: high level. The wife's family. All good, nothing's going on there, mom, dad, brother, cousin, sister, whatever,

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Speaker 3: everything's good there Opie's family. The only person that's upset

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Speaker 2: Second option of telling her to stick it.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, so you can stick it. And I think just

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Speaker 3: go on about things she doesn't like it, okay, whatever

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Speaker 3: you can't, don't, don't ruin your whole day wedding and

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Speaker 3: all that stuff. Secret wedding. I don't even think so.

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Speaker 3: I think you just go on as usual, business usual.

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Speaker 2: There is an update though, My brother thirty four mail

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Speaker 2: called me to say that I did the right thing,

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Speaker 2: which was a relief. Let's go going further. I would

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Speaker 2: probably go low contact with my mother. My ex called me,

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Speaker 2: Me and my fiance talked to her on speaker and

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Speaker 2: she apologized and said she said no to my mother

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Speaker 2: and won't drop it. I said, okay, And of course

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Speaker 2: she's not inviting. My father said he's not coming if

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Speaker 2: his wife is not coming, which is valid. So the

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Speaker 2: wedding is actually small with fifty people, but the planned

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Speaker 2: reception is huge with one hundred and fifty people, which

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Speaker 2: my father is throwing on my behalf. My mother will

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Speaker 2: be there so there might be drama and Edits should

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Speaker 2: have added that my father and father in law both

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Speaker 2: are throwing receptions together. I will have security just in case.

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Speaker 2: In the wedding comments, G Drama says, I'm glad you

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Speaker 2: put your foot down. Since your father is hosting for

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Speaker 2: the reception, are you sure he won't cancel it from

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Speaker 2: being pressured by your mother? That's my worry. Do you

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Speaker 2: have a backup plan just in case? Hope? He says,

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Speaker 2: father said, mother won't do anything stupid out the reception,

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Speaker 2: and X is not invited in.

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Speaker 3: The reception, the mom has a backup plan.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, She's like, don't worry, everything's going according to plan.

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Speaker 3: Oh shoot, the bride didn't show up. Ah, who can

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Speaker 3: we have the repeat.

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Speaker 2: Rids in like a closet.

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Speaker 3: He's going, oh, let me out, yes, Scoobye dude tied up. Yeah,

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Speaker 3: that happened in the Bible once.

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Speaker 2: What this guy?

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Speaker 3: This guy sorry, little okay, Bible time. Sorry this one

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Speaker 3: dude works seven years to marry a woman.

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Speaker 2: Huh.

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Speaker 3: And the dad so in the Jewish culture, your old

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Speaker 3: her and said, I do lifted up. It was the sister. Yeah,

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Speaker 3: we had to work another seven years. I do another wife. Sorry,

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Speaker 3: imagine that. Imagine that's what the mom's trying to do here.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, she's like, Yeah, you've married your ex who broke

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Speaker 2: up with you because you'd sucked. Dare you remarkable pair?

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Speaker 2: So your dad's not going to go to his own

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Speaker 2: son's wedding because his wife is a data shot. But

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Speaker 2: we'll go to the reception looking like a loser who

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Speaker 2: didn't go to his own son's wedding.

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Speaker 3: Got it?

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Speaker 2: Opie says, I don't know. My brothers don't have close

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Speaker 2: relationships with my dad. To be honest, I am the

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Speaker 2: favorite child who was spoiled rotten by him. That was

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Speaker 2: the reason I was terrible in the past. That's crazy.

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Speaker 2: I'm sorry, you're the favorite child and your dad's not

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Speaker 2: even coming to your wedding. Update two, mother and father

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Speaker 2: aren't coming to the reception either. Who could have seen

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Speaker 2: that coming? Three days later, so I had a talk

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Speaker 2: with father in law and fiance about the situation, and

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Speaker 2: my father in law will alone cover the reception cost.

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Speaker 2: I offered some money to him, but he refused, saying

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Speaker 2: I'm like his son, which made me your Oh okay,

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Speaker 2: so ope, he's Beyonce's dad is paying for everything now,

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Speaker 2: and my father and father in law had a doubting

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Speaker 2: match on the phone about it, so father and mother

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Speaker 2: aren't coming to the reception anymore. Beyonce is happy, and

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Speaker 2: I'm happy that our wedding and reception area are going

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Speaker 2: to be drama free. We will definitely have security there,

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Speaker 2: but it's gonna be hard explaining to everyone what happened,

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Speaker 2: and many people are going to bail out of the wedding.

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Speaker 2: I haven't talked to them since, and we'll probably contact

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Speaker 2: if anyone says, why aren't your parents here, you say,

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Speaker 3: Real quick. I feel like they are allowed to give

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Speaker 2: What have you learned?

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Speaker 3: What have you learned? And how much money is going

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Speaker 2: But there is a third update. I am married now

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Speaker 2: Yes, so yesterday I got married.

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Speaker 2: It was the happiest day of my life. But yeah,

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Speaker 3: I hope her kind of the reason. You know your

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Speaker 2: After the wedding, I still haven't contacted my parents, but

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Speaker 3: So gotta use it, dude, I I can't wait.

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Speaker 2: Well, aren't you gonna? Isn't isn't the one we have?

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Speaker 3: Who's this?

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Speaker 3: It was here? Whatever I got here?

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Speaker 2: Maybe you can get rid of it.

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Speaker 3: You don't like it?

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Speaker 3: Why not?

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Speaker 3: I like it. I'll take it.

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Speaker 2: I'll just with me. Yeah, take a with you. I mean,

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Speaker 3: I'm the only one that really uses it exactly right.

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Speaker 2: It's all yours. Thanks, Thanks, Happy birthday. Thanks, But there

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Speaker 3: Do you have any final thoughts perfectly executed. This makes

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Speaker 3: me want to write a book called the Sop Book.

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Speaker 3: Uh huh, and it and it talks about all the

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Speaker 4: I like it.

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Speaker 4: Yes, I would say monkey branching. Was you were too Yeah, wait,

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Speaker 3: Did you guys, Like, do you guys just separately think

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Speaker 4: We honestly do that more than you think.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, we're constantly on the same top like, yeah.

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Speaker 3: That's wild, very weird. I don't anyways. Anyways, that's all

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Speaker 3: I have to say. It's just Op, you have executed

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Speaker 2: Yeah. I think it's just like, you know, if you're

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Speaker 3: They don't respect ya, and they're not going to respect

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Speaker 3: great point. They're gonna come crawling back with their attitudes

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Speaker 3: are still gonna be the same. You should add kids

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Speaker 2: Indeed, but let's finish this off. Their reception was awesome too.

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Speaker 2: Thanks to y'all for those wonderful comments. I honestly thought,

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Speaker 2: I don't deserve all this due to how terrible I

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Speaker 3: And what I like about this is he he came

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Speaker 3: So at first I was like, yeah, I don't blame

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I agree, Yeah, I am playful.

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Speaker 2: Rainbow good for you. Growth is uncomfortable and messy, but

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Speaker 2: In appliance form, Willing Lemon says, well done on your

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Speaker 2: Ignore them and just keep making positive changes. I am

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Speaker 2: sorry about your family. I think even your ex saw

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Speaker 2: it was inappropriate for her to attend. Your mom has

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Speaker 2: you truly being happy. It's like she can't forgive you

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Speaker 3: Good luck, And.

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Speaker 2: And Folks, that's the end of that story. And there

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Speaker 2: you go. Opie's figuring it out. And now you've got

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Speaker 3: Oh and that's lovely, and you can make new family.

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Speaker 2: Keep it going, keep the cycle going. Anyway, what's the

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Speaker 3: I expose my cheating father to my stepmother expose So

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Speaker 3: But okay, I'll buy it the pain to do fun things.

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Speaker 2: No that he he'd hurt himself.

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Speaker 3: Oh yeah that but like he but like you see

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Speaker 2: Wink wink.

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Speaker 3: By the way, this comes from past entrepreneur of seventy

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Speaker 3: That's not m m m. My dad said he's a

439
00:20:27,760 --> 00:20:31,040
Speaker 3: very old friend from work that they've known each other forever,

440
00:20:31,240 --> 00:20:34,960
Speaker 3: but we've literally never seen him with a platonic female

441
00:20:35,040 --> 00:20:36,040
Speaker 3: friend in our lives.

442
00:20:36,119 --> 00:20:38,600
Speaker 2: Dude, I don't buy it one bit, not once.

443
00:20:39,000 --> 00:20:42,080
Speaker 3: Whenever he's around women, it's either his partner or his

444
00:20:42,160 --> 00:20:46,120
Speaker 3: friend's wives, partner's friends, et cetera, and he rarely talks

445
00:20:46,160 --> 00:20:46,440
Speaker 3: to them.

446
00:20:46,920 --> 00:20:50,720
Speaker 2: Dude, I mean, but so he had planned, it seems like,

447
00:20:51,200 --> 00:20:53,679
Speaker 2: to have no one over for Father's Day because everyone

448
00:20:53,800 --> 00:20:57,200
Speaker 2: like couldn't make it. Whatever. He seemingly has this whole

449
00:20:57,400 --> 00:21:00,240
Speaker 2: pasta romantic dinner, things set up, and I know one

450
00:21:00,280 --> 00:21:03,240
Speaker 2: of his sons comes over and is like, hey, here

451
00:21:03,280 --> 00:21:04,920
Speaker 2: to wish you a happy Father's Day.

452
00:21:05,240 --> 00:21:08,720
Speaker 3: Oh my gosh, imagine oh I made a supasta and

453
00:21:08,760 --> 00:21:11,760
Speaker 3: then he sees the other woman. Wait now I see

454
00:21:11,800 --> 00:21:17,119
Speaker 3: it now, oh man. Fast forward. I texted him on

455
00:21:17,200 --> 00:21:19,680
Speaker 3: the fourth of July saying happy fourth, and he says

456
00:21:19,720 --> 00:21:22,320
Speaker 3: he's out of state at a family friend's house, sort

457
00:21:22,359 --> 00:21:25,520
Speaker 3: of a house of someone I'm much closer with than

458
00:21:25,600 --> 00:21:28,840
Speaker 3: he is. He doesn't even like them, But I wonder myself,

459
00:21:29,200 --> 00:21:31,480
Speaker 3: what's up? But don't think too deep about it. I

460
00:21:31,600 --> 00:21:34,560
Speaker 3: just brush it off. But it gets weirder. My sister

461
00:21:34,640 --> 00:21:36,760
Speaker 3: calls me. A couple of weeks later. My dad had

462
00:21:36,840 --> 00:21:39,440
Speaker 3: called her and told her he was going to a

463
00:21:39,520 --> 00:21:42,680
Speaker 3: cant site three hours away just to take pictures and

464
00:21:42,760 --> 00:21:46,840
Speaker 3: set of nature. Cannot emphasize enough how much this is

465
00:21:46,960 --> 00:21:50,080
Speaker 3: not his vibe at all. He said he was going alone,

466
00:21:50,400 --> 00:21:53,400
Speaker 3: then complained about his wife being bored and never going

467
00:21:53,560 --> 00:21:56,840
Speaker 3: anywhere with him. I think he literally looked up what's

468
00:21:56,920 --> 00:21:59,520
Speaker 3: the best lie to tell my wife that I'm doing

469
00:21:59,600 --> 00:22:01,360
Speaker 3: so I can go see my other girlfriend.

470
00:22:01,760 --> 00:22:04,119
Speaker 2: I'm sorry, Wait, so he said that his wife is boring.

471
00:22:04,760 --> 00:22:06,840
Speaker 3: He said, I'm gonna go out in nature and have fun,

472
00:22:07,280 --> 00:22:09,600
Speaker 3: sit out in nature for three hours. Gosh, my wife

473
00:22:09,640 --> 00:22:11,400
Speaker 3: doesn't want to do anything with me because she's bored

474
00:22:11,400 --> 00:22:11,560
Speaker 3: to me.

475
00:22:11,840 --> 00:22:16,080
Speaker 2: So boring, weird. That's that's obviously a lie.

476
00:22:16,359 --> 00:22:18,080
Speaker 3: Yeah, we know where he's going, we know, we know

477
00:22:18,160 --> 00:22:18,640
Speaker 3: what you're doing.

478
00:22:19,560 --> 00:22:20,160
Speaker 2: The dinner man.

479
00:22:21,080 --> 00:22:23,200
Speaker 3: Remember that one girl that just went on long drives

480
00:22:23,200 --> 00:22:25,960
Speaker 3: all the time. Oh, there's some girl that at night

481
00:22:26,040 --> 00:22:27,960
Speaker 3: who just go on long drives until three o'clock in

482
00:22:28,000 --> 00:22:30,760
Speaker 3: the morning. It was like a in a story. In

483
00:22:30,800 --> 00:22:33,359
Speaker 3: a story. Yeh, it's like, dude, we know where you're going.

484
00:22:34,400 --> 00:22:36,680
Speaker 4: She ended up, well, yeah, but I used to go

485
00:22:36,760 --> 00:22:38,080
Speaker 4: on late night drives.

486
00:22:38,560 --> 00:22:39,720
Speaker 3: But we knew where you were going.

487
00:22:39,920 --> 00:22:41,480
Speaker 4: No, you didn't. He was in high school.

488
00:22:41,840 --> 00:22:46,520
Speaker 5: We knew I was going down pch listening to music

489
00:22:47,960 --> 00:22:50,440
Speaker 5: with my windows rolled down in the heat on.

490
00:22:51,240 --> 00:22:52,440
Speaker 3: Oh, he was definitely on.

491
00:22:53,600 --> 00:22:57,760
Speaker 5: I didn't talk to women in high school. Liar, scared

492
00:22:57,760 --> 00:23:00,600
Speaker 5: of women about it. I'm doing all boyschool.

493
00:23:00,600 --> 00:23:01,520
Speaker 2: That's true, all right.

494
00:23:01,520 --> 00:23:05,159
Speaker 3: Anyways, my sister kept repeating, well, be safe out there alone.

495
00:23:05,520 --> 00:23:09,320
Speaker 3: Tilly finally omitted he wasn't going alone. He's going with

496
00:23:09,760 --> 00:23:12,920
Speaker 3: an old friend, a very old friend. But we learned

497
00:23:12,960 --> 00:23:16,560
Speaker 3: earlier not really that that old. But didn't want to

498
00:23:16,600 --> 00:23:18,760
Speaker 3: tell his wife because it's a woman.

499
00:23:19,040 --> 00:23:24,359
Speaker 2: Mmm, if we don't want to tell our partner about something,

500
00:23:24,520 --> 00:23:26,920
Speaker 2: maybe just because we know we're doing something wrong.

501
00:23:27,480 --> 00:23:30,600
Speaker 3: Then right before strip, he calls and asks me to

502
00:23:30,640 --> 00:23:33,200
Speaker 3: watch a labordoodle that belongs to a friend.

503
00:23:33,400 --> 00:23:36,760
Speaker 2: Dude, is he going? He who belongs to a friend.

504
00:23:36,920 --> 00:23:38,760
Speaker 2: Every time he says it, he's like, I got a

505
00:23:38,880 --> 00:23:43,199
Speaker 2: very old friend, I'm going camping with a front Why

506
00:23:43,240 --> 00:23:44,720
Speaker 2: are you? What's this?

507
00:23:45,040 --> 00:23:47,480
Speaker 3: Yeah? Why can I hear the air quotes on that

508
00:23:48,119 --> 00:23:50,840
Speaker 3: it's weird. You can tell when someone says air quotes

509
00:23:50,880 --> 00:23:55,320
Speaker 3: around like certain words. I just know it's the same

510
00:23:55,520 --> 00:23:58,200
Speaker 3: woman's dog too. I asked that the dog is good

511
00:23:58,240 --> 00:24:01,680
Speaker 3: with other dogs and birds, and he casually drops that

512
00:24:01,840 --> 00:24:04,280
Speaker 3: they brought the dog with them to that friend's house

513
00:24:04,320 --> 00:24:06,680
Speaker 3: for the fourth of July, which his wife does not

514
00:24:06,920 --> 00:24:10,920
Speaker 3: know about. He explicively told my sister that he went

515
00:24:11,000 --> 00:24:13,879
Speaker 3: alone as well. I agree to watch the dog because

516
00:24:14,040 --> 00:24:16,639
Speaker 3: I wanted to meet her, see if I just forgot

517
00:24:16,840 --> 00:24:19,560
Speaker 3: someone from the past or something, and get a sense

518
00:24:20,000 --> 00:24:22,480
Speaker 3: if this is really a big deal. They show up today.

519
00:24:22,840 --> 00:24:26,239
Speaker 3: I've never met this woman, probably fifteen years younger than

520
00:24:26,280 --> 00:24:29,200
Speaker 3: my dad. And when I ask, so, where are you headed,

521
00:24:29,720 --> 00:24:33,200
Speaker 3: he just freezes and says, oh, uh, just have some

522
00:24:33,320 --> 00:24:37,680
Speaker 3: things to do. L I A R. I'm pissed. Some

523
00:24:38,000 --> 00:24:39,359
Speaker 3: things things to.

524
00:24:39,400 --> 00:24:42,840
Speaker 2: Do, maybe some people, maybe some people's father's.

525
00:24:42,760 --> 00:24:49,760
Speaker 3: Oh father, Oh dang editors, you know what to do there? Dang?

526
00:24:51,080 --> 00:24:51,480
Speaker 2: All right?

527
00:24:51,560 --> 00:24:55,720
Speaker 3: Then our children does it as he sees it? Yeah, dude,

528
00:24:55,960 --> 00:24:59,960
Speaker 3: what the world? These guys gonna get better?

529
00:25:00,520 --> 00:25:02,399
Speaker 2: So his father's wife is not his mom. It's a

530
00:25:02,440 --> 00:25:05,760
Speaker 2: little bit an unclear if Opee's dad. I don't think

531
00:25:05,960 --> 00:25:11,120
Speaker 2: Opie's dad's current partner is his mom is Opie's mom.

532
00:25:11,480 --> 00:25:13,840
Speaker 2: I'm pretty sure Opie's this is Opie's stepmom.

533
00:25:13,920 --> 00:25:17,320
Speaker 3: But yeah, it's okay, stepmom. I think so mentioned in

534
00:25:17,359 --> 00:25:20,840
Speaker 3: the time that's I assumed. I also texted a mutual

535
00:25:20,920 --> 00:25:23,720
Speaker 3: friend who was at the property on the fourth. They

536
00:25:23,840 --> 00:25:27,920
Speaker 3: confirmed my dad brought this woman and said he was awkward,

537
00:25:28,560 --> 00:25:31,600
Speaker 3: plain they were just friends even though no one asked,

538
00:25:32,119 --> 00:25:34,719
Speaker 3: and that my dad told them not to tell anyone

539
00:25:34,880 --> 00:25:41,200
Speaker 3: she was there. So I now know that my dad

540
00:25:41,280 --> 00:25:44,640
Speaker 3: brought this woman on two solo trips, had her over

541
00:25:44,760 --> 00:25:47,239
Speaker 3: for dinner on Father's Day while his wife was out

542
00:25:47,280 --> 00:25:51,480
Speaker 3: of town, introduced her to people while saying, don't tell me.

543
00:25:51,640 --> 00:25:55,160
Speaker 3: She's actively lying about where she's going. Now I'm ninety

544
00:25:55,240 --> 00:25:57,800
Speaker 3: nine percent sure mom's step mom does not know about

545
00:25:57,840 --> 00:26:00,800
Speaker 3: any of this. She's so sweet. She and my dad

546
00:26:00,880 --> 00:26:04,280
Speaker 3: are supposed to move out in a home less than

547
00:26:04,320 --> 00:26:07,199
Speaker 3: a month from now. I have had conversations with her,

548
00:26:07,359 --> 00:26:11,040
Speaker 3: and she always says never worries about my dad cheating,

549
00:26:11,440 --> 00:26:15,439
Speaker 3: He's not that guy. That they are just so good together,

550
00:26:16,240 --> 00:26:18,760
Speaker 3: and that's the last thing she worries.

551
00:26:18,400 --> 00:26:21,040
Speaker 2: About baby girl. She's gotta be the first thing you

552
00:26:21,119 --> 00:26:21,679
Speaker 2: worry about.

553
00:26:22,080 --> 00:26:24,720
Speaker 3: She says she likes not worrying because she doesn't like

554
00:26:24,840 --> 00:26:27,080
Speaker 3: the person she becomes when she has to worry.

555
00:26:27,320 --> 00:26:29,760
Speaker 2: You don't have to worry about it. It's happening. You

556
00:26:29,800 --> 00:26:31,879
Speaker 2: don't have to like think about it. It just is,

557
00:26:32,280 --> 00:26:32,879
Speaker 2: it exists.

558
00:26:33,040 --> 00:26:35,320
Speaker 3: There's a sprinkle of gas lighting right here.

559
00:26:35,480 --> 00:26:37,440
Speaker 2: Yeah, it's like it's like, oh, you don't have to

560
00:26:37,480 --> 00:26:38,520
Speaker 2: worry that the oven is on.

561
00:26:38,680 --> 00:26:38,920
Speaker 3: It's on.

562
00:26:39,640 --> 00:26:40,720
Speaker 2: You got to go turn it off.

563
00:26:41,160 --> 00:26:42,080
Speaker 3: Gotta go turn it off.

564
00:26:42,480 --> 00:26:43,359
Speaker 2: You know for a fact.

565
00:26:43,440 --> 00:26:45,640
Speaker 3: It's on the way that she said that she doesn't

566
00:26:45,720 --> 00:26:48,560
Speaker 3: like the person she becomes when she worries, shows that

567
00:26:48,680 --> 00:26:51,879
Speaker 3: they that her and her husband have had conversations. I

568
00:26:51,880 --> 00:26:53,560
Speaker 3: don't like how you're so jealous all that. I don't

569
00:26:53,560 --> 00:26:55,360
Speaker 3: like her always asking for my location when I ask

570
00:26:55,400 --> 00:26:56,440
Speaker 3: to be alone for three hours.

571
00:26:56,840 --> 00:26:58,760
Speaker 2: He's gasled her, and she's like, oh, I don't have

572
00:26:58,840 --> 00:27:00,840
Speaker 2: to worry about it. He would never do that. Yeah,

573
00:27:01,680 --> 00:27:02,879
Speaker 2: oh yeah, A.

574
00:27:02,880 --> 00:27:05,919
Speaker 3: Little teddy bear camera will tell you everything. This has

575
00:27:05,960 --> 00:27:08,400
Speaker 3: been keeping me up at night because in my heart

576
00:27:08,880 --> 00:27:11,920
Speaker 3: I would have already told if it were anyone else,

577
00:27:12,160 --> 00:27:14,760
Speaker 3: but I have this tugging feeling that since it's my parents,

578
00:27:15,200 --> 00:27:19,159
Speaker 3: it's not my place, but Sophia, it's your place. There

579
00:27:19,200 --> 00:27:20,960
Speaker 3: we go, it's your place. There we go.

580
00:27:21,280 --> 00:27:23,119
Speaker 2: You're seeing something happening it's not okay.

581
00:27:23,480 --> 00:27:25,320
Speaker 3: Would I be the a hole if I told her

582
00:27:25,520 --> 00:27:27,880
Speaker 3: I'm scared he's going to blow up on me. He's

583
00:27:27,960 --> 00:27:30,879
Speaker 3: sort of the agro self desorb type, and I'm just

584
00:27:31,080 --> 00:27:34,359
Speaker 3: really nervous. If you told, would you go straight to

585
00:27:34,480 --> 00:27:36,879
Speaker 3: her and lay it all out? Would you try to

586
00:27:36,920 --> 00:27:40,359
Speaker 3: be more discreet in helping her discover the truth? Thanks

587
00:27:40,440 --> 00:27:43,080
Speaker 3: in advance. This is all really stressing me out. We

588
00:27:43,160 --> 00:27:46,159
Speaker 3: have an update. I kind of like the idea of

589
00:27:46,320 --> 00:27:48,000
Speaker 3: letting her figure it out on herself.

590
00:27:48,520 --> 00:27:51,159
Speaker 2: I think I think he just goes. I think he

591
00:27:51,280 --> 00:27:53,200
Speaker 2: goes to the step mom and says, hey, I just

592
00:27:53,240 --> 00:27:56,000
Speaker 2: wanted to let you know he's been hanging out with

593
00:27:56,200 --> 00:27:57,480
Speaker 2: this woman.

594
00:27:58,080 --> 00:27:58,240
Speaker 5: Uh.

595
00:27:59,000 --> 00:28:00,960
Speaker 2: You don't even have to nest necessarily be like he's

596
00:28:01,040 --> 00:28:03,320
Speaker 2: cheating on you. I think you just say, like, hey,

597
00:28:03,480 --> 00:28:05,159
Speaker 2: like you did you know he was hanging out with

598
00:28:05,280 --> 00:28:07,520
Speaker 2: this woman or like went on this trip with her.

599
00:28:08,080 --> 00:28:09,720
Speaker 2: Just wanted to like make sure you knew that.

600
00:28:10,080 --> 00:28:14,359
Speaker 6: Wrestling Mama says I'm snitching. I like the idea of

601
00:28:14,520 --> 00:28:18,200
Speaker 6: laying it out, trying to let her discover what's going on. Yeah,

602
00:28:18,800 --> 00:28:21,040
Speaker 6: that seems cool. My friend did that one time to me.

603
00:28:21,720 --> 00:28:24,520
Speaker 6: Something really crazy happened, and I kind of just I'm like,

604
00:28:24,560 --> 00:28:25,320
Speaker 6: do what's wrong with you?

605
00:28:25,440 --> 00:28:27,320
Speaker 3: You like, think about it? And I always said those

606
00:28:27,400 --> 00:28:29,040
Speaker 3: think about it, and he said think about it fifteen

607
00:28:29,080 --> 00:28:31,399
Speaker 3: times and then I came to the conclusion said it

608
00:28:31,480 --> 00:28:32,240
Speaker 3: out loud and he just.

609
00:28:32,240 --> 00:28:35,520
Speaker 2: Went, Okay, so you didn't basically just tell you.

610
00:28:35,880 --> 00:28:35,920
Speaker 5: No.

611
00:28:36,040 --> 00:28:38,080
Speaker 3: I was like, wait, so this happened. He's like, think

612
00:28:38,120 --> 00:28:40,560
Speaker 3: about it. This happened, dude.

613
00:28:40,600 --> 00:28:42,640
Speaker 2: He's just telling you that. He always said a stake

614
00:28:42,640 --> 00:28:46,160
Speaker 2: about it, but it takes longer. It's like think about it. No,

615
00:28:47,120 --> 00:28:49,680
Speaker 2: don't think about it, think about it.

616
00:28:50,440 --> 00:28:50,640
Speaker 5: Yeah.

617
00:28:51,160 --> 00:28:53,200
Speaker 3: I don't know. It's just if she hasn't said her mind,

618
00:28:53,240 --> 00:28:55,280
Speaker 3: you probably did just tell her. Yeah yeah, I think

619
00:28:55,320 --> 00:28:59,800
Speaker 3: you just tell her. Oh ah, i'llp date I did it.

620
00:29:00,120 --> 00:29:02,120
Speaker 3: I went over to my step mom's house while my

621
00:29:02,200 --> 00:29:04,640
Speaker 3: dad was out of town and told her everything.

622
00:29:04,840 --> 00:29:05,120
Speaker 2: I know.

623
00:29:05,680 --> 00:29:09,640
Speaker 3: She was totally blindsided. She was angry, she was absolutely

624
00:29:09,760 --> 00:29:13,840
Speaker 3: shattered what she was shaking and said she never saw

625
00:29:13,920 --> 00:29:17,120
Speaker 3: this coming. You told me things had actually been going

626
00:29:17,240 --> 00:29:20,680
Speaker 3: better lately, No, cause dad's in a better mood.

627
00:29:20,760 --> 00:29:20,920
Speaker 5: Now.

628
00:29:21,080 --> 00:29:24,240
Speaker 2: Yeah, that happens a lot though, when someone's like going

629
00:29:24,360 --> 00:29:28,000
Speaker 2: to the gym, there'd be nicer and it's all out

630
00:29:28,040 --> 00:29:30,360
Speaker 2: of the blues. Sometimes. I mean, sometimes it's just because

631
00:29:30,640 --> 00:29:31,680
Speaker 2: things are looking up.

632
00:29:31,880 --> 00:29:34,800
Speaker 3: But sometimes my friends would go on a trip come

633
00:29:34,880 --> 00:29:36,880
Speaker 3: back and just be like real giddy and like be

634
00:29:37,040 --> 00:29:39,320
Speaker 3: happy about life, and I'm like, what happened, Like, oh,

635
00:29:39,560 --> 00:29:41,720
Speaker 3: just get back from a trip. But then you find

636
00:29:41,760 --> 00:29:44,400
Speaker 3: out what happened and you're like, oh, yeah, you came.

637
00:29:44,280 --> 00:29:45,080
Speaker 2: Back from my trip.

638
00:29:45,480 --> 00:29:48,040
Speaker 4: Friends have done this with ten told you these things

639
00:29:48,400 --> 00:29:49,240
Speaker 4: just go off one in mind.

640
00:29:49,680 --> 00:29:55,440
Speaker 2: Okay, Okay, wow, all right, are you not happier from

641
00:29:55,480 --> 00:29:57,000
Speaker 2: a back for your trip? Yeah? But now that it

642
00:29:57,080 --> 00:30:00,200
Speaker 2: makes me, you're making it sound like it's more than

643
00:30:00,240 --> 00:30:00,800
Speaker 2: what happened.

644
00:30:01,520 --> 00:30:03,760
Speaker 3: I didn't say anything. I didn't say anything more happened.

645
00:30:03,760 --> 00:30:06,040
Speaker 3: I'm just saying some people come back happier from drim. Yeah.

646
00:30:06,160 --> 00:30:11,560
Speaker 2: Sometimes you Okay, complimented to feel good, Okay, And that's

647
00:30:11,640 --> 00:30:12,200
Speaker 2: not a crime.

648
00:30:13,520 --> 00:30:16,040
Speaker 3: My dad had taken her out on a date just

649
00:30:16,200 --> 00:30:20,760
Speaker 3: the day before and was being unusually affectionate and sweet

650
00:30:21,200 --> 00:30:23,320
Speaker 3: he really thought they were in a good place, or

651
00:30:23,360 --> 00:30:27,000
Speaker 3: I told her anything. He was cheerfully patting and brought

652
00:30:27,080 --> 00:30:30,480
Speaker 3: up that shrimp pasta your dad makes. Oh no, my

653
00:30:30,600 --> 00:30:33,080
Speaker 3: sister and I just froze. That's what he made for

654
00:30:33,200 --> 00:30:35,840
Speaker 3: the other woman. We both felt sick. He was so

655
00:30:36,080 --> 00:30:39,000
Speaker 3: happy and welcoming and excited to have us there. It

656
00:30:39,160 --> 00:30:44,080
Speaker 3: was heartbreaking. She mentioned that usually he invites her and

657
00:30:44,200 --> 00:30:48,240
Speaker 3: her sister to church every weekend, and he had randomly

658
00:30:48,320 --> 00:30:51,440
Speaker 3: stopped doing that over the past month. He also stopped

659
00:30:51,480 --> 00:30:55,440
Speaker 3: inviting another family member who usually goes too. Apparently. She

660
00:30:55,600 --> 00:30:58,520
Speaker 3: had actually wanted to go on this recent trip with him,

661
00:30:58,840 --> 00:31:01,160
Speaker 3: but he told her he had to take a certain

662
00:31:01,280 --> 00:31:04,280
Speaker 3: road that she hates because of how he drives on it,

663
00:31:04,720 --> 00:31:07,680
Speaker 3: said it would be dangerous, so she stayed behind. They

664
00:31:07,760 --> 00:31:10,960
Speaker 3: had a location sharing app for years, mostly in case

665
00:31:10,960 --> 00:31:14,200
Speaker 3: of emergencies. She rarely checks it unless she needs to

666
00:31:14,720 --> 00:31:17,600
Speaker 3: if he's near a store or something. But after I

667
00:31:17,760 --> 00:31:20,840
Speaker 3: talked to her, she decided to look. That was when

668
00:31:21,040 --> 00:31:23,600
Speaker 3: everything started to click for her. He hadn't gone to

669
00:31:23,680 --> 00:31:26,080
Speaker 3: work at all that day. He drove to a nearby

670
00:31:26,160 --> 00:31:32,680
Speaker 3: town eight at a Prankberia, Oh takarayah Tacorea. Yeah like

671
00:31:32,760 --> 00:31:37,440
Speaker 3: taco eded Tagaria for hours, then checked into an inn.

672
00:31:37,760 --> 00:31:40,720
Speaker 3: We later found out that her sister overheard him booking

673
00:31:40,800 --> 00:31:43,880
Speaker 3: that room, and he specifically asked for a king side

674
00:31:43,920 --> 00:31:47,080
Speaker 3: bed instead of two queens, since she didn't think anything

675
00:31:47,120 --> 00:31:50,280
Speaker 3: about it at the time. He normally booked kings for

676
00:31:50,800 --> 00:31:54,600
Speaker 3: work travel. My stepmom texted him while he was still

677
00:31:54,640 --> 00:31:57,440
Speaker 3: at the restaurant, pretending like she had figured out a

678
00:31:57,520 --> 00:31:59,960
Speaker 3: way to make the drive after all. He then said

679
00:32:00,080 --> 00:32:02,640
Speaker 3: something like you're not answering because your girlfriend is with you.

680
00:32:02,760 --> 00:32:05,800
Speaker 3: Huh ooh, and finally told him to pack a bag

681
00:32:06,040 --> 00:32:06,560
Speaker 3: and get out.

682
00:32:06,800 --> 00:32:10,480
Speaker 2: Pack Yeah, girl, yes, live your life, Live your life,

683
00:32:10,600 --> 00:32:13,200
Speaker 2: picky man, Yes, do you wrong?

684
00:32:14,000 --> 00:32:17,560
Speaker 3: No way. He never replied he did a call. He

685
00:32:17,760 --> 00:32:20,280
Speaker 3: just went on with his night and stayed at the

686
00:32:20,320 --> 00:32:21,520
Speaker 3: hotel with the other woman.

687
00:32:21,920 --> 00:32:21,960
Speaker 5: Ugh.

688
00:32:22,240 --> 00:32:25,160
Speaker 3: The next morning, he finally called. At first he denied

689
00:32:25,320 --> 00:32:29,040
Speaker 3: anyone was with him, Then he admitted someone was, but

690
00:32:29,200 --> 00:32:32,440
Speaker 3: claimed it was just a friend. He told my stepmom

691
00:32:32,600 --> 00:32:35,200
Speaker 3: this was her fault for never going anywhere with Oh.

692
00:32:35,320 --> 00:32:38,720
Speaker 2: My gosh, you suck, dude. You never want any fun

693
00:32:38,840 --> 00:32:42,160
Speaker 2: things with me. Sue me for trying to find somebody

694
00:32:42,160 --> 00:32:44,520
Speaker 2: who wants to go on adventures.

695
00:32:44,840 --> 00:32:48,440
Speaker 3: Do you like to forge, Sophia forge Porgee, like go

696
00:32:48,560 --> 00:32:52,160
Speaker 3: out and like gather things foradge. Yeah, like go out

697
00:32:52,200 --> 00:32:54,280
Speaker 3: and shop and gather things, or like go to thrift

698
00:32:54,320 --> 00:32:55,280
Speaker 3: store and like gather things.

699
00:32:55,520 --> 00:32:55,720
Speaker 2: Yeah.

700
00:32:55,920 --> 00:32:57,800
Speaker 3: I feel like that's what she needs in her life. Yeah,

701
00:32:58,040 --> 00:33:01,320
Speaker 3: go forage, go gather things. When she pointed out that

702
00:33:01,480 --> 00:33:03,840
Speaker 3: she knew it wasn't a work trip, he first denied

703
00:33:03,920 --> 00:33:07,120
Speaker 3: that too, then backtracked and said, yeah, you're right, it's

704
00:33:07,200 --> 00:33:09,720
Speaker 3: not work, but it's not what you think. She's just

705
00:33:09,840 --> 00:33:13,640
Speaker 3: a friend that we have benefits with and we f

706
00:33:13,960 --> 00:33:16,680
Speaker 3: all the time. That's just a friend. That is a

707
00:33:16,960 --> 00:33:18,640
Speaker 3: wild take give Oh my.

708
00:33:18,880 --> 00:33:22,360
Speaker 2: God, I get that his benefits I get dental you

709
00:33:22,480 --> 00:33:23,440
Speaker 2: know what that applies?

710
00:33:23,560 --> 00:33:24,080
Speaker 5: Right? Yes?

711
00:33:24,480 --> 00:33:29,200
Speaker 3: Oh my, that is wild the joke wild, that's the joke.

712
00:33:30,360 --> 00:33:33,800
Speaker 3: I was not expecting. Yes, it does.

713
00:33:34,000 --> 00:33:34,840
Speaker 2: He gets healthcare.

714
00:33:36,000 --> 00:33:39,480
Speaker 3: Anyways, away from that, told him to come pack a

715
00:33:39,520 --> 00:33:42,600
Speaker 3: bag and leave, insisted on coming home to talk it out.

716
00:33:42,920 --> 00:33:45,400
Speaker 3: I really hope she sticks to her pupews and doesn't

717
00:33:45,480 --> 00:33:48,640
Speaker 3: let him spin this into anything. But then what it

718
00:33:48,760 --> 00:33:51,720
Speaker 3: is As for me, I still have the labor dude.

719
00:33:52,520 --> 00:33:55,160
Speaker 3: After telling her I texted my dad said, I just

720
00:33:55,360 --> 00:33:59,240
Speaker 3: outed you to your wife. I hope this was a misunderstanding.

721
00:33:59,520 --> 00:34:02,120
Speaker 3: What the is actually going on? Call me back. It's

722
00:34:02,120 --> 00:34:06,000
Speaker 3: been over fifteen hours, no call, no text, nothing.

723
00:34:06,480 --> 00:34:08,279
Speaker 2: I think you did the right thing, OPI I think

724
00:34:08,320 --> 00:34:10,560
Speaker 2: he's probably. I think he's definitely cheating on his wife.

725
00:34:10,760 --> 00:34:13,440
Speaker 3: Why do you think he's not replying back to me because.

726
00:34:13,200 --> 00:34:15,640
Speaker 2: He knows he's been caught. He's like, ah, shoot, I've

727
00:34:15,680 --> 00:34:17,600
Speaker 2: been caught. Might as well enjoy my time with this

728
00:34:17,719 --> 00:34:20,960
Speaker 2: girl before I have to go deal with that. Yeah yeah,

729
00:34:21,000 --> 00:34:22,160
Speaker 2: I mean, like, how do you get out of that?

730
00:34:22,640 --> 00:34:24,640
Speaker 2: He admitted to it. He admitted to being with her,

731
00:34:24,680 --> 00:34:27,480
Speaker 2: He just didn't admit to, you know, cheating with her.

732
00:34:27,600 --> 00:34:28,800
Speaker 2: But that's not obvious.

733
00:34:29,080 --> 00:34:31,239
Speaker 3: I agreed, Kean, he got caught.

734
00:34:31,680 --> 00:34:33,880
Speaker 5: You know, it's one of those things where it's like,

735
00:34:34,200 --> 00:34:37,879
Speaker 5: what's the right thing to do, And it's like, even

736
00:34:37,880 --> 00:34:39,920
Speaker 5: if that's the cost of your father's relationship with you,

737
00:34:40,080 --> 00:34:40,839
Speaker 5: you did the right thing.

738
00:34:41,840 --> 00:34:42,360
Speaker 2: Absolutely.

739
00:34:42,719 --> 00:34:45,200
Speaker 3: I sent that message because I didn't want my siblings

740
00:34:45,280 --> 00:34:47,440
Speaker 3: to take the blame or be put in a position

741
00:34:47,880 --> 00:34:50,600
Speaker 3: where he tries to guilt them. My stepmom had already

742
00:34:50,880 --> 00:34:53,120
Speaker 3: let him know she knew, but I wanted him to

743
00:34:53,239 --> 00:34:55,560
Speaker 3: hear it from me that I was the one who

744
00:34:55,719 --> 00:34:58,960
Speaker 3: said something. Every time my phone rings, I get nervous

745
00:34:59,040 --> 00:35:01,680
Speaker 3: it's gonna be him. But I feel better having gotten

746
00:35:01,760 --> 00:35:04,239
Speaker 3: it off my chest. I do think I did the

747
00:35:04,320 --> 00:35:07,880
Speaker 3: right thing. One thing I'm especially glad about. I stopped

748
00:35:07,920 --> 00:35:10,120
Speaker 3: my stepmom from moving into a new house with him.

749
00:35:10,600 --> 00:35:12,800
Speaker 3: When I got her a place to talk, he was

750
00:35:13,040 --> 00:35:17,440
Speaker 3: literally hacking. That part crushed me. Thankfully, she'll be staying

751
00:35:17,480 --> 00:35:20,000
Speaker 3: in the home she already shares with her sister instead.

752
00:35:20,320 --> 00:35:23,279
Speaker 3: Oh wow, that said. My partner thinks I should have

753
00:35:23,400 --> 00:35:24,920
Speaker 3: given my dad a warning.

754
00:35:24,680 --> 00:35:27,640
Speaker 2: First so he could lie more. Though this is But

755
00:35:27,719 --> 00:35:29,160
Speaker 2: the thing is, it doesn't even seem like, oh, he

756
00:35:29,320 --> 00:35:31,480
Speaker 2: has that good of a relationship with his dad or

757
00:35:31,560 --> 00:35:33,280
Speaker 2: with their dad anyway.

758
00:35:33,440 --> 00:35:37,480
Speaker 3: So it's like, maybe why maybe the partner wanted to

759
00:35:37,719 --> 00:35:39,440
Speaker 3: give him an ultimatum, being like, hey, you have to

760
00:35:39,480 --> 00:35:40,359
Speaker 3: tell her what I'm gonna talk.

761
00:35:40,640 --> 00:35:43,719
Speaker 2: That's what we're saying. But my point is like, oh,

762
00:35:43,800 --> 00:35:47,680
Speaker 2: he doesn't really have a good relationship with their dad anyway.

763
00:35:48,719 --> 00:35:51,959
Speaker 2: If they gave the data heads up, he probably would

764
00:35:52,000 --> 00:35:53,680
Speaker 2: have figured it out a way to lie more.

765
00:35:54,120 --> 00:35:56,560
Speaker 3: I doubt that I think you come off with the

766
00:35:56,680 --> 00:35:59,160
Speaker 3: ultimatum you tell her everything or I will, And I'm

767
00:35:59,200 --> 00:36:01,520
Speaker 3: going to talk to her on Saturday to make sure

768
00:36:01,560 --> 00:36:03,800
Speaker 3: she has everything stract. That's what I would do, but

769
00:36:04,080 --> 00:36:07,000
Speaker 3: you who knows, it could be a way too, something

770
00:36:07,239 --> 00:36:09,759
Speaker 3: like tell her or I will. He believes it would

771
00:36:09,800 --> 00:36:12,600
Speaker 3: have hurt less coming from him, and maybe it would have.

772
00:36:13,000 --> 00:36:15,480
Speaker 3: I doubt that it probably did hit harder coming from

773
00:36:15,560 --> 00:36:18,800
Speaker 3: me with all the details. I know some family members

774
00:36:18,840 --> 00:36:21,360
Speaker 3: are going to have mixed feelings about how I handle this,

775
00:36:21,800 --> 00:36:22,640
Speaker 3: But I stand by it.

776
00:36:23,160 --> 00:36:26,560
Speaker 2: Yeah, I stand by it to Opie. And that's the

777
00:36:26,840 --> 00:36:28,960
Speaker 2: end of that story, folks. In that story, we got

778
00:36:29,040 --> 00:36:29,839
Speaker 2: to another one.

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786
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Speaker 2: and disown me from birth. My mother took care of

787
00:36:52,480 --> 00:36:54,160
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788
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Speaker 2: mother accused me many times of being the reason her

793
00:37:08,440 --> 00:37:11,680
Speaker 2: boyfriend's never worked out. Fast forward a few years she

794
00:37:11,800 --> 00:37:14,400
Speaker 2: met my now father, fifty one Mail, who has been

795
00:37:14,440 --> 00:37:17,040
Speaker 2: there for me through thick and thin and protected me

796
00:37:17,239 --> 00:37:20,120
Speaker 2: from my mother before I was sixteen. He was the

797
00:37:20,160 --> 00:37:22,640
Speaker 2: one to keep the peace when my mother had her episodes.

798
00:37:23,239 --> 00:37:27,279
Speaker 2: I swear she's bipolar and ADHD, but refuses to talk

799
00:37:27,360 --> 00:37:29,920
Speaker 2: to someone about this, And when my younger brother and

800
00:37:30,040 --> 00:37:32,239
Speaker 2: sister were born, he was the one to make sure

801
00:37:32,360 --> 00:37:36,200
Speaker 2: I never felt unwanted. Fast forward to when I turned sixteen.

802
00:37:36,440 --> 00:37:39,120
Speaker 2: A week later, my mother punted me out and cut

803
00:37:39,239 --> 00:37:42,360
Speaker 2: contact with me to limit it, stating it was because

804
00:37:42,440 --> 00:37:44,600
Speaker 2: he didn't want me part of the family anymore. But

805
00:37:44,760 --> 00:37:47,360
Speaker 2: this was her version, as he continued to support me

806
00:37:47,600 --> 00:37:50,320
Speaker 2: and offered financial aid when I needed it for school.

807
00:37:50,800 --> 00:37:57,239
Speaker 2: I'm sorry, I don't really care that he offered financial

808
00:37:57,400 --> 00:38:01,319
Speaker 2: aid and support. He didn't Your mother kicked you out,

809
00:38:01,360 --> 00:38:04,400
Speaker 2: and he didn't leave her. Your mother kicked a sixteen

810
00:38:04,520 --> 00:38:07,279
Speaker 2: year old out and he wasn't like, whoa, that's a

811
00:38:07,360 --> 00:38:11,640
Speaker 2: red flag. I gotta go, and I'm still gonna help out.

812
00:38:11,800 --> 00:38:11,960
Speaker 3: You know.

813
00:38:12,080 --> 00:38:14,720
Speaker 2: Ope, But that's crazy that he stayed.

814
00:38:15,480 --> 00:38:19,239
Speaker 3: Yeah, that's very multi layered right there.

815
00:38:19,640 --> 00:38:22,800
Speaker 2: After several years, they broke up and filed for separation.

816
00:38:22,960 --> 00:38:25,000
Speaker 3: There we go, he should That was probably one of

817
00:38:25,040 --> 00:38:26,760
Speaker 3: the big killers in the house.

818
00:38:27,040 --> 00:38:29,319
Speaker 2: You left your child. That's a little weird.

819
00:38:29,480 --> 00:38:31,840
Speaker 3: It probably took him a while like that happened, and

820
00:38:32,120 --> 00:38:33,839
Speaker 3: it took him a little bit more time to really

821
00:38:34,280 --> 00:38:35,359
Speaker 3: get that figured out.

822
00:38:35,440 --> 00:38:37,640
Speaker 2: But I told them both I wouldn't take sides, and

823
00:38:37,719 --> 00:38:39,479
Speaker 2: that I would be there for my brother and sister,

824
00:38:40,000 --> 00:38:43,440
Speaker 2: who weren't even teenagers yet. This upset my mother and

825
00:38:43,600 --> 00:38:46,560
Speaker 2: her side of the family, and they completely cut me

826
00:38:46,640 --> 00:38:49,040
Speaker 2: out of the family for twelve years.

827
00:38:49,239 --> 00:38:52,720
Speaker 3: Oh my out for no reason.

828
00:38:53,280 --> 00:38:54,960
Speaker 2: You're cutting out people, Willy Nilly.

829
00:38:55,239 --> 00:38:56,560
Speaker 3: I'm so sorry. That's it.

830
00:38:56,680 --> 00:39:00,680
Speaker 2: That's you can't just cut out people. That is, and

831
00:39:00,840 --> 00:39:01,680
Speaker 2: also your children.

832
00:39:01,880 --> 00:39:04,959
Speaker 3: You deserve to be loved unconditionally. Yeah, I'm so sorry.

833
00:39:05,280 --> 00:39:07,960
Speaker 2: Fast forward again to now this past year of twenty

834
00:39:08,120 --> 00:39:10,160
Speaker 2: twenty three, eight to twenty twenty four, I have been

835
00:39:10,200 --> 00:39:13,680
Speaker 2: diagnosed with a rare blood clotting disorder that causes me

836
00:39:13,760 --> 00:39:16,840
Speaker 2: to clot easily in my body with minimal injuries. It

837
00:39:16,920 --> 00:39:19,680
Speaker 2: got worse as twenty twenty four came around and I

838
00:39:19,840 --> 00:39:23,000
Speaker 2: was hospitalized for many months because I was diagnosed with

839
00:39:23,200 --> 00:39:26,080
Speaker 2: eight clots on my lungs. My other half and his

840
00:39:26,200 --> 00:39:29,800
Speaker 2: family were amazing and supportive throughout the scary time of

841
00:39:29,920 --> 00:39:32,160
Speaker 2: my life. I decided to try and reach out to

842
00:39:32,200 --> 00:39:35,080
Speaker 2: my grandmother and my mother again. At first, they seemed

843
00:39:35,440 --> 00:39:38,080
Speaker 2: hesitant because they knew I was still in contact with

844
00:39:38,200 --> 00:39:40,840
Speaker 2: my father, but they got over it and came to

845
00:39:40,920 --> 00:39:43,040
Speaker 2: see me and spend time with me in the hospital.

846
00:39:43,440 --> 00:39:46,440
Speaker 2: That is till one day my mother said that if

847
00:39:46,520 --> 00:39:48,920
Speaker 2: I was still in contact with my father that she

848
00:39:49,000 --> 00:39:51,560
Speaker 2: would cut me off for good and never speak with

849
00:39:51,680 --> 00:39:54,560
Speaker 2: me again. Dude, the amount of times that she's cut

850
00:39:54,680 --> 00:39:58,960
Speaker 2: you off, I'd be like, fine, you throw my relationship

851
00:39:59,040 --> 00:40:02,640
Speaker 2: with you around so oh carelessly. I don't want to

852
00:40:02,760 --> 00:40:05,880
Speaker 2: continue to be around you. At the time, it was

853
00:40:05,920 --> 00:40:09,640
Speaker 2: stressful and I needed my family's support and wanted them there,

854
00:40:09,840 --> 00:40:11,800
Speaker 2: so I cut contact with him for a few months,

855
00:40:12,160 --> 00:40:14,520
Speaker 2: which I know now wasn't right of me. I had

856
00:40:14,560 --> 00:40:17,160
Speaker 2: to be transferred to another hospital and had to have

857
00:40:17,280 --> 00:40:19,480
Speaker 2: a ten hour surgery to remove the cloths from my

858
00:40:19,600 --> 00:40:22,200
Speaker 2: lungs as I was now in heart failure.

859
00:40:22,320 --> 00:40:23,000
Speaker 3: Oh my god.

860
00:40:23,560 --> 00:40:26,080
Speaker 2: After the surgery, I stayed in the hospital for about

861
00:40:26,120 --> 00:40:27,920
Speaker 2: two weeks until I was discharged.

862
00:40:27,960 --> 00:40:28,640
Speaker 3: Oh my gosh.

863
00:40:29,400 --> 00:40:34,239
Speaker 2: I just to threaten your child with disownment when they're

864
00:40:34,280 --> 00:40:37,640
Speaker 2: in the hospital getting eight hour surgery.

865
00:40:38,040 --> 00:40:38,560
Speaker 3: They don't love you.

866
00:40:38,719 --> 00:40:41,839
Speaker 2: There's ten hour surgery. When I was discharged, I called

867
00:40:41,880 --> 00:40:44,040
Speaker 2: my mother to let her know and let her know

868
00:40:44,120 --> 00:40:46,600
Speaker 2: I was arranging for a way home when she piped

869
00:40:46,680 --> 00:40:48,840
Speaker 2: up and said she would come get me, which was

870
00:40:48,920 --> 00:40:51,840
Speaker 2: no small feet as she lived three to four hours

871
00:40:51,880 --> 00:40:54,719
Speaker 2: away from the major hospital I was staying in. At

872
00:40:54,760 --> 00:40:57,120
Speaker 2: the time, she seemed okay with coming and getting me,

873
00:40:57,719 --> 00:41:00,120
Speaker 2: but after she arrived, I told her the plans. My

874
00:41:00,200 --> 00:41:02,120
Speaker 2: other half and his parents had offered to let me

875
00:41:02,200 --> 00:41:04,759
Speaker 2: stay with them as they have an elevator and I

876
00:41:04,920 --> 00:41:07,560
Speaker 2: live in a three story apartment building with no elevator.

877
00:41:07,840 --> 00:41:09,840
Speaker 2: At the time, I was very weak on my legs.

878
00:41:10,320 --> 00:41:12,799
Speaker 2: She became very upset and said I was copping out

879
00:41:13,320 --> 00:41:16,200
Speaker 2: and being weak because I wouldn't attempt the three flights

880
00:41:16,239 --> 00:41:20,720
Speaker 2: of stairs. After major open chest surgery. Yeah, you're being

881
00:41:20,800 --> 00:41:25,440
Speaker 2: a weak Wow. Yeah, why would you? Why would you

882
00:41:25,520 --> 00:41:28,080
Speaker 2: want to tough anything out? When you just had open

883
00:41:28,160 --> 00:41:31,719
Speaker 2: heart surgery or open chest surgery. I'd be like, Uh, yeah,

884
00:41:31,760 --> 00:41:34,120
Speaker 2: I'm gonna take it easy. I'm not walking up three

885
00:41:34,160 --> 00:41:36,480
Speaker 2: flights of stairs. Do you want to get your chest

886
00:41:36,560 --> 00:41:38,520
Speaker 2: open up? I see how it feels for you.

887
00:41:39,000 --> 00:41:41,440
Speaker 3: This infuriates me.

888
00:41:41,920 --> 00:41:44,880
Speaker 2: I explained that even the physiotherapist in the hospital and

889
00:41:45,040 --> 00:41:47,120
Speaker 2: doctors said it was a good idea. Till I was

890
00:41:47,160 --> 00:41:50,520
Speaker 2: feeling strong enough to attempt the steps, she became physically

891
00:41:50,680 --> 00:41:53,279
Speaker 2: upset and demanded I get dressed and ready to go.

892
00:41:53,760 --> 00:41:56,839
Speaker 2: The whole car ride home was uncomfortable, and I could

893
00:41:56,880 --> 00:42:00,279
Speaker 2: see She texted my grandmother demanding she to take me

894
00:42:00,360 --> 00:42:02,640
Speaker 2: the rest of the way home after they met so

895
00:42:02,800 --> 00:42:04,759
Speaker 2: she didn't have to see my other half and his

896
00:42:05,040 --> 00:42:07,640
Speaker 2: parents for context. I did tell her my other half

897
00:42:07,680 --> 00:42:09,680
Speaker 2: and his dad offered to meet half way for her

898
00:42:10,200 --> 00:42:11,960
Speaker 2: and take me the rest of the way home, but

899
00:42:12,120 --> 00:42:16,000
Speaker 2: she refused and said she didn't mind. Clearly minds. Once

900
00:42:16,120 --> 00:42:18,719
Speaker 2: I finally was home, I hoped that my mother and

901
00:42:18,800 --> 00:42:22,160
Speaker 2: I could rebuild our relationship, but she started a pity

902
00:42:22,280 --> 00:42:25,879
Speaker 2: party over text with me one night, and since she's

903
00:42:25,920 --> 00:42:28,839
Speaker 2: been strained with her texting. I have since reached back

904
00:42:28,880 --> 00:42:30,640
Speaker 2: out to my father and we are now back to

905
00:42:30,719 --> 00:42:34,280
Speaker 2: speaking after I explained the situation and made my point

906
00:42:34,480 --> 00:42:36,560
Speaker 2: that I wanted them both in my life, but I

907
00:42:36,719 --> 00:42:39,319
Speaker 2: refused to be a spy for either of them, which

908
00:42:39,400 --> 00:42:41,680
Speaker 2: he fully respects and just wants to make sure I'm

909
00:42:41,680 --> 00:42:44,120
Speaker 2: okay and I'm doing what's best for my health. My

910
00:42:44,239 --> 00:42:46,600
Speaker 2: sister is the only one besides myself who was in

911
00:42:46,719 --> 00:42:49,640
Speaker 2: contact with my father and mother. Since I got into

912
00:42:49,680 --> 00:42:52,120
Speaker 2: contact with my father again, my mother has gone back

913
00:42:52,200 --> 00:42:54,840
Speaker 2: to her strained little to no text contact with me.

914
00:42:55,400 --> 00:42:58,680
Speaker 2: We're generally not caring at all. I recently went back

915
00:42:58,719 --> 00:43:02,360
Speaker 2: to the hospital again a complication with my medications, and

916
00:43:02,520 --> 00:43:04,560
Speaker 2: her side of the family didn't reach out to me

917
00:43:04,800 --> 00:43:06,480
Speaker 2: or seem like they cared.

918
00:43:06,800 --> 00:43:07,320
Speaker 3: My gosh.

919
00:43:07,760 --> 00:43:10,799
Speaker 2: My father's side, though even if I'm not blood, has

920
00:43:10,960 --> 00:43:13,640
Speaker 2: continue to love and cherish me like one of their own.

921
00:43:13,960 --> 00:43:15,800
Speaker 2: I would love some advice on what I should do

922
00:43:16,000 --> 00:43:19,000
Speaker 2: regarding all of this, as my mother seems to control

923
00:43:19,120 --> 00:43:21,680
Speaker 2: the narrative around her side of the family. Should I

924
00:43:21,800 --> 00:43:24,520
Speaker 2: cut off my father and his side and risk losing

925
00:43:24,560 --> 00:43:27,600
Speaker 2: his love and my brother or should I just let

926
00:43:27,680 --> 00:43:29,960
Speaker 2: it go and not worry about all of this? Thank

927
00:43:30,040 --> 00:43:32,520
Speaker 2: you for the advice ahead of time, and there is

928
00:43:33,400 --> 00:43:34,040
Speaker 2: an update.

929
00:43:34,360 --> 00:43:35,439
Speaker 3: Hey is John og host.

930
00:43:35,480 --> 00:43:37,000
Speaker 1: We're gonna get back to the stories, but a quick

931
00:43:37,040 --> 00:43:38,560
Speaker 1: free minute break of ads from our sponsors.

932
00:43:39,239 --> 00:43:40,960
Speaker 2: But what do you think, Riley?

933
00:43:41,120 --> 00:43:44,600
Speaker 3: I think wanting a relationship with your mother is really

934
00:43:44,680 --> 00:43:49,160
Speaker 3: sweet and in a perfect world that is a possibility. Sadly,

935
00:43:49,280 --> 00:43:51,839
Speaker 3: we know the type of person your mother is. Yeah,

936
00:43:52,000 --> 00:43:54,960
Speaker 3: we know what will happen you choose. It's sort of

937
00:43:55,120 --> 00:43:58,280
Speaker 3: like you have two arms, warn arms not really working,

938
00:43:58,719 --> 00:44:00,479
Speaker 3: but you think if you give one arm more blood,

939
00:44:00,520 --> 00:44:02,239
Speaker 3: you're going to cut off your other arm, Like I'm

940
00:44:02,280 --> 00:44:03,719
Speaker 3: gonna cut off my right arm, so I get my

941
00:44:04,120 --> 00:44:07,600
Speaker 3: left arm more more blood, hoping that it'll work more.

942
00:44:08,080 --> 00:44:09,640
Speaker 3: That's probably not gonna happens.

943
00:44:09,840 --> 00:44:10,279
Speaker 2: Keep gone.

944
00:44:10,560 --> 00:44:13,239
Speaker 3: Yeah, you should work with the hand that works, in

945
00:44:13,280 --> 00:44:15,360
Speaker 3: the arm that works the most, and just kind of

946
00:44:15,640 --> 00:44:18,279
Speaker 3: let the other one, you know, Yeah, dissolve, that's really

947
00:44:18,280 --> 00:44:18,879
Speaker 3: what's gonna happen.

948
00:44:18,880 --> 00:44:20,919
Speaker 2: I think the thing is that you're going to keep

949
00:44:21,440 --> 00:44:26,839
Speaker 2: trying to just fulfill all of these demands from your mom,

950
00:44:27,400 --> 00:44:30,239
Speaker 2: and she's going to keep moving the goalpost and saying, oh, well,

951
00:44:30,280 --> 00:44:32,120
Speaker 2: you can't do this. If you want a relationship with me,

952
00:44:32,160 --> 00:44:34,560
Speaker 2: you can't do this. Oh, I'm going to cut you

953
00:44:34,640 --> 00:44:36,520
Speaker 2: off if you do this, and she's going to keep

954
00:44:36,600 --> 00:44:39,000
Speaker 2: doing that because she has already done that. Yeah, and

955
00:44:39,120 --> 00:44:42,279
Speaker 2: she's already cut you off before. And so why would

956
00:44:42,320 --> 00:44:44,280
Speaker 2: we want to try and have a relationship with someone

957
00:44:44,600 --> 00:44:48,600
Speaker 2: based off of, you know, those demands that are just completely,

958
00:44:49,360 --> 00:44:52,239
Speaker 2: you know, unfair. Whereas your dad, on the other hand,

959
00:44:52,280 --> 00:44:55,560
Speaker 2: has shown time and time again that he loves and

960
00:44:55,640 --> 00:45:00,600
Speaker 2: cares for you and you know, doesn't care about your

961
00:45:00,719 --> 00:45:03,920
Speaker 2: mom's demands. So I feel like you just go go

962
00:45:04,080 --> 00:45:05,839
Speaker 2: with the person who has shown time and time again

963
00:45:05,880 --> 00:45:08,560
Speaker 2: that they love you and care for you and support you. Yeah,

964
00:45:08,800 --> 00:45:10,520
Speaker 2: and don't demand anything in return.

965
00:45:10,960 --> 00:45:13,359
Speaker 3: You can tell a lot about a person that gives,

966
00:45:13,800 --> 00:45:17,279
Speaker 3: like kicks out their kid at sixteen. Yeah, that's where

967
00:45:17,320 --> 00:45:20,080
Speaker 3: I get it from right there, and you'll understand it

968
00:45:20,120 --> 00:45:20,480
Speaker 3: one day.

969
00:45:20,960 --> 00:45:24,080
Speaker 2: But there's an update. I took the time and read

970
00:45:24,120 --> 00:45:26,880
Speaker 2: through each and every comment and sat down and talked

971
00:45:26,920 --> 00:45:29,239
Speaker 2: it over with my other half and his family. I

972
00:45:29,280 --> 00:45:31,520
Speaker 2: have decided to go low contact with my mother and

973
00:45:31,640 --> 00:45:33,880
Speaker 2: grandmother based on what she has done to me and

974
00:45:33,960 --> 00:45:36,640
Speaker 2: my past and how she is now still trying to

975
00:45:36,719 --> 00:45:39,319
Speaker 2: control me. Recently, with the New Year, I was again

976
00:45:39,520 --> 00:45:42,720
Speaker 2: hospitalized due to anemia and now having a rare blood

977
00:45:42,800 --> 00:45:46,320
Speaker 2: type due to my antigens around my blood cells, so

978
00:45:46,480 --> 00:45:48,279
Speaker 2: I had to remain in the hospital for a few

979
00:45:48,320 --> 00:45:51,040
Speaker 2: weeks over New Years. During this time, I did reach

980
00:45:51,080 --> 00:45:54,600
Speaker 2: out to my family. This included my mother, grandmother, siblings,

981
00:45:54,719 --> 00:45:57,800
Speaker 2: and my father. My mother just seemed happy to have updates,

982
00:45:57,840 --> 00:46:01,560
Speaker 2: but never gave me any advice or guy or bothered

983
00:46:01,600 --> 00:46:03,400
Speaker 2: to come and see me. For the few weeks I

984
00:46:03,520 --> 00:46:06,520
Speaker 2: was in the hospital again, my grandmother kept promising to

985
00:46:06,560 --> 00:46:09,360
Speaker 2: come see me, but that kept changing based on her mood.

986
00:46:09,760 --> 00:46:12,680
Speaker 2: Be honest, the only ones who did seem concerned were

987
00:46:12,719 --> 00:46:16,200
Speaker 2: my other half's family and my father and siblings. So

988
00:46:16,600 --> 00:46:19,440
Speaker 2: let's have a relationship with people that actually care about you.

989
00:46:19,760 --> 00:46:20,120
Speaker 3: Here we go.

990
00:46:20,760 --> 00:46:24,160
Speaker 2: The moment I texted him, he instantly texted me and

991
00:46:24,360 --> 00:46:27,799
Speaker 2: asked me why and where I was. Unfortunately, with how

992
00:46:27,840 --> 00:46:30,400
Speaker 2: the weather is and where I live versus where he lives,

993
00:46:30,920 --> 00:46:33,120
Speaker 2: it's harder for him to come down and see me

994
00:46:33,239 --> 00:46:35,600
Speaker 2: at this time of year. So we have made plans

995
00:46:35,680 --> 00:46:37,520
Speaker 2: to see each other in the summer. I know a

996
00:46:37,560 --> 00:46:40,399
Speaker 2: few people did ask a few questions regarding a few things,

997
00:46:40,920 --> 00:46:43,799
Speaker 2: and I'll try my best to answer those questions. Andy,

998
00:46:43,880 --> 00:46:47,040
Speaker 2: and all information I have on my biological father was

999
00:46:47,160 --> 00:46:49,719
Speaker 2: told to me by my grandmother and mother from when

1000
00:46:49,760 --> 00:46:53,160
Speaker 2: I was a child till now as an adult. It's unfortunate,

1001
00:46:53,239 --> 00:46:56,200
Speaker 2: but it's all I know, and they never kept contact

1002
00:46:56,239 --> 00:46:58,879
Speaker 2: with anyone from his side. My other half did buy

1003
00:46:58,960 --> 00:47:01,040
Speaker 2: me a DNA test kit, so I am looking for

1004
00:47:01,640 --> 00:47:04,320
Speaker 2: the test results soon. If I have an update on this,

1005
00:47:04,440 --> 00:47:05,319
Speaker 2: I will post again.

1006
00:47:05,640 --> 00:47:07,839
Speaker 3: No freaking way is what turned to a DNA test?

1007
00:47:08,280 --> 00:47:08,600
Speaker 5: Dang.

1008
00:47:10,040 --> 00:47:10,239
Speaker 3: Yeah.

1009
00:47:12,480 --> 00:47:14,920
Speaker 2: Some things I didn't mention before was that my mother

1010
00:47:15,080 --> 00:47:17,480
Speaker 2: did try and convince me that my other half was

1011
00:47:17,560 --> 00:47:21,680
Speaker 2: trying to poison me and make me sick for insurance claim.

1012
00:47:21,760 --> 00:47:24,879
Speaker 2: Why did we we need to get so far away

1013
00:47:24,960 --> 00:47:26,439
Speaker 2: from your mom? Huh?

1014
00:47:26,840 --> 00:47:29,800
Speaker 3: She probably try to pull that on your dad.

1015
00:47:30,200 --> 00:47:33,080
Speaker 2: Yikes. She was convinced that the food he was making

1016
00:47:33,160 --> 00:47:36,640
Speaker 2: me was poisoned, and she had somehow convinced twelve other

1017
00:47:36,760 --> 00:47:39,239
Speaker 2: people of this fact as well, people that don't know

1018
00:47:39,320 --> 00:47:42,200
Speaker 2: anything about me or my life except through her. What

1019
00:47:42,920 --> 00:47:44,000
Speaker 2: your mom is crazy?

1020
00:47:44,360 --> 00:47:44,879
Speaker 3: This is wild.

1021
00:47:45,000 --> 00:47:46,600
Speaker 2: Your mom's crazy. Get out of there.

1022
00:47:46,920 --> 00:47:47,840
Speaker 3: This is so crazy.

1023
00:47:48,040 --> 00:47:49,120
Speaker 2: Literally, get out of there.

1024
00:47:49,680 --> 00:47:50,400
Speaker 3: Yeah, cut off.

1025
00:47:50,800 --> 00:47:54,000
Speaker 2: Not care about you. Your dad does though he loves

1026
00:47:54,040 --> 00:47:57,040
Speaker 2: show with him. Yeah, and you got your your partner

1027
00:47:57,200 --> 00:47:58,240
Speaker 2: and your partner's family.

1028
00:47:58,480 --> 00:48:02,600
Speaker 3: It's just so hard to wish and want a relationship

1029
00:48:02,680 --> 00:48:04,800
Speaker 3: with your mom and understanding these are the colmfounds that

1030
00:48:04,880 --> 00:48:07,440
Speaker 3: it's in and hoping you can't. I'm not blaming you

1031
00:48:07,520 --> 00:48:09,400
Speaker 3: ope at all for a hoping that you had a

1032
00:48:09,440 --> 00:48:12,000
Speaker 3: good relationship with your mom. Yeah, just hard to realize.

1033
00:48:12,080 --> 00:48:13,400
Speaker 3: It's just hard to open up too.

1034
00:48:13,800 --> 00:48:16,600
Speaker 2: There is there is, but uh, there's a little bit

1035
00:48:16,680 --> 00:48:19,239
Speaker 2: left to the story. I think, opee, you're on the

1036
00:48:19,280 --> 00:48:22,560
Speaker 2: right track. Cut your mom off. Just have a relationship

1037
00:48:22,600 --> 00:48:23,000
Speaker 2: with your dad.

1038
00:48:23,400 --> 00:48:23,759
Speaker 3: There you go.

1039
00:48:24,000 --> 00:48:26,759
Speaker 2: I told her that it's not possible, as he loves me.

1040
00:48:27,239 --> 00:48:29,400
Speaker 2: She has had no respect for him or his family

1041
00:48:29,560 --> 00:48:32,800
Speaker 2: since the day twelve years ago. He stood up against

1042
00:48:32,800 --> 00:48:35,160
Speaker 2: her for my sake because I was in the midst

1043
00:48:35,239 --> 00:48:37,719
Speaker 2: of a panic attack because of my decision to see

1044
00:48:37,800 --> 00:48:40,960
Speaker 2: my father and siblings when she had separated from it.

1045
00:48:41,200 --> 00:48:43,640
Speaker 2: But she didn't know that I actually have life insurance

1046
00:48:43,680 --> 00:48:46,480
Speaker 2: on him and on myself. But she has no right too,

1047
00:48:47,000 --> 00:48:49,359
Speaker 2: So if something were to happen to me, she has

1048
00:48:49,440 --> 00:48:52,280
Speaker 2: no right to it. Since these facts and all the comments,

1049
00:48:52,800 --> 00:48:55,840
Speaker 2: I have decided to stay low contact with her and

1050
00:48:56,160 --> 00:48:59,160
Speaker 2: my grandmother. It does hurt because it just feels like

1051
00:48:59,239 --> 00:49:01,800
Speaker 2: they couldn't convince me to do what they wanted. But

1052
00:49:01,960 --> 00:49:05,520
Speaker 2: to be honest, I don't care because I'm happy and

1053
00:49:05,680 --> 00:49:08,960
Speaker 2: healthy and living my life with my spouse who I love.

1054
00:49:09,480 --> 00:49:11,640
Speaker 2: It's their choice if they want to continue the low

1055
00:49:11,719 --> 00:49:13,680
Speaker 2: contact or if they want to be in my life.

1056
00:49:13,800 --> 00:49:16,200
Speaker 2: As many of you have comment, thank you again everyone,

1057
00:49:16,880 --> 00:49:19,480
Speaker 2: and edit. I forgot to mention that I had decided

1058
00:49:19,680 --> 00:49:22,319
Speaker 2: not to cut off my father. It will take time,

1059
00:49:22,440 --> 00:49:24,760
Speaker 2: but we are going to try and rebuild our bond.

1060
00:49:25,200 --> 00:49:28,080
Speaker 2: I apologized and made sure to text him after reading

1061
00:49:28,120 --> 00:49:31,000
Speaker 2: everyone's comments and telling him how much I love and

1062
00:49:31,080 --> 00:49:34,080
Speaker 2: appreciate him in my life. Let me go at the

1063
00:49:34,200 --> 00:49:34,880
Speaker 2: end of that story.

1064
00:49:35,200 --> 00:49:38,760
Speaker 3: Guys, if you've got a story, you need some advice whatever, Literally,

1065
00:49:38,880 --> 00:49:41,640
Speaker 3: this is the best example of we're in Probably not

1066
00:49:41,719 --> 00:49:44,600
Speaker 3: gonna read that story yet, but our community is always

1067
00:49:44,680 --> 00:49:47,759
Speaker 3: their helping people and guys, everyone in the live stream,

1068
00:49:47,760 --> 00:49:49,560
Speaker 3: if you're ever like I want to, you know, give

1069
00:49:49,640 --> 00:49:51,600
Speaker 3: people advice and I want to help people out, go

1070
00:49:51,719 --> 00:49:53,759
Speaker 3: to our reddit. There's so many of us, so many

1071
00:49:53,800 --> 00:49:56,279
Speaker 3: they are wanting some help, needing some advice, and you

1072
00:49:56,360 --> 00:49:58,839
Speaker 3: can directly comment and help some people out. You maybe

1073
00:49:58,920 --> 00:50:01,880
Speaker 3: change someone's perspective this because op seemed to kind of

1074
00:50:02,440 --> 00:50:03,279
Speaker 3: see clear.

1075
00:50:03,600 --> 00:50:06,279
Speaker 2: Yeah, that like this relationship with their mom is not healthy.

1076
00:50:06,200 --> 00:50:09,400
Speaker 3: Exactly exactly, and it's so hard and as family, you

1077
00:50:09,480 --> 00:50:11,440
Speaker 3: got to keep each other accountable. And that's what we do.

1078
00:50:11,840 --> 00:50:14,239
Speaker 3: And that's why I freaking love Okay story Time and

1079
00:50:14,360 --> 00:50:17,240
Speaker 3: everyone that goes there and freaking comments on the subreddit.

1080
00:50:17,239 --> 00:50:19,000
Speaker 2: It's a brand community, beautiful thing.

1081
00:50:19,760 --> 00:50:23,319
Speaker 3: Sometimes I have put things on Okay story Subreddit under

1082
00:50:23,360 --> 00:50:26,880
Speaker 3: an alias just to see what people say. Yeah, I

1083
00:50:27,000 --> 00:50:31,000
Speaker 3: have a time or two oh right crazy and we

1084
00:50:31,080 --> 00:50:32,640
Speaker 3: may have read one or two for.

1085
00:50:32,719 --> 00:50:35,440
Speaker 4: Real, probably Wiley Wilson.

1086
00:50:36,360 --> 00:50:37,680
Speaker 3: Who is I am not Riley?

1087
00:50:38,520 --> 00:50:40,160
Speaker 2: That's pretty on the news.

1088
00:50:40,680 --> 00:50:41,000
Speaker 5: I am not.

1089
00:50:42,680 --> 00:50:45,120
Speaker 2: Miss Kitty Kat says. I've said it once, I've said

1090
00:50:45,160 --> 00:50:49,719
Speaker 2: it a thousand times. Blood is not family love ye,

1091
00:50:49,960 --> 00:50:55,239
Speaker 2: But folks, I love this episode and unfortunately it's come

1092
00:50:55,320 --> 00:50:55,680
Speaker 2: to an end.

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Speaker 3: So if you love us, what the heck WHOA, make

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Speaker 3: sure to subscribe.

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Speaker 2: I'll do them. We love you, and see it omorrow.