1
00:00:00,600 --> 00:00:04,280
Speaker 1: Scrubbing In with Becca Tilly and Tanya rad and iHeartRadio

2
00:00:04,400 --> 00:00:07,640
Speaker 1: and two time People's Choice Award winning podcast.

3
00:00:11,080 --> 00:00:16,760
Speaker 2: Hello everybody, We're scrubbing in and today I have a

4
00:00:16,800 --> 00:00:20,919
Speaker 2: co host because Tanya has flown to the Islands with

5
00:00:21,079 --> 00:00:27,080
Speaker 2: Red Star. But I have another blonde, blue eyed bombshell joining.

6
00:00:26,720 --> 00:00:29,160
Speaker 3: Me today, my friend a Whitney Carson.

7
00:00:32,479 --> 00:00:34,640
Speaker 1: Oh my god, I'm so happy to be on here

8
00:00:34,680 --> 00:00:35,120
Speaker 1: with you.

9
00:00:36,040 --> 00:00:36,239
Speaker 4: I know.

10
00:00:36,400 --> 00:00:38,400
Speaker 2: I was just talking to Easton and Mark and saying,

11
00:00:38,520 --> 00:00:40,400
Speaker 2: I feel like you were on here. You were on

12
00:00:40,479 --> 00:00:43,279
Speaker 2: scrubbing In, like the first kind of one of our

13
00:00:43,320 --> 00:00:47,240
Speaker 2: first guests at the beginning. Yeah, have you been back.

14
00:00:48,360 --> 00:00:50,960
Speaker 1: No, I don't think so. I think life is a

15
00:00:51,000 --> 00:00:53,280
Speaker 1: little crazy, but I'm like, I'll take it. This was

16
00:00:53,520 --> 00:00:55,360
Speaker 1: If this is what it takes to talk to you,

17
00:00:55,640 --> 00:00:56,319
Speaker 1: I will do it.

18
00:00:57,360 --> 00:00:59,160
Speaker 2: Well. You know, I like, keep up with your whole

19
00:00:59,200 --> 00:01:01,520
Speaker 2: life on instag so I feel like I know everything

20
00:01:01,520 --> 00:01:02,000
Speaker 2: about you.

21
00:01:02,000 --> 00:01:04,280
Speaker 1: You know, same here, same here. It's so funny how

22
00:01:04,360 --> 00:01:07,880
Speaker 1: we communicate now through Instagram. It's like if my family

23
00:01:07,880 --> 00:01:10,040
Speaker 1: doesn't post on Instagram, I'm like, I don't know what

24
00:01:10,040 --> 00:01:11,800
Speaker 1: you guys are doing. What do you you need to

25
00:01:11,840 --> 00:01:12,560
Speaker 1: be posting on.

26
00:01:12,520 --> 00:01:16,160
Speaker 2: Instagram, same with my friends. But I feel like you've

27
00:01:16,200 --> 00:01:18,920
Speaker 2: had I mean, there's a lot been You've had a

28
00:01:18,920 --> 00:01:21,920
Speaker 2: lot going on in your life. And I have a question,

29
00:01:22,040 --> 00:01:24,400
Speaker 2: when did you start dancing with the stars?

30
00:01:24,880 --> 00:01:27,320
Speaker 3: What year was that?

31
00:01:27,319 --> 00:01:30,759
Speaker 1: That was when I was eighteen, so almost ten years ago.

32
00:01:30,920 --> 00:01:32,720
Speaker 1: So what are we in twenty twenty one?

33
00:01:33,040 --> 00:01:36,760
Speaker 2: So yeah, so twenty eleven, Oh, hold.

34
00:01:36,600 --> 00:01:39,120
Speaker 1: On twenty twelve.

35
00:01:39,160 --> 00:01:45,520
Speaker 2: Okay, yeah, because I remember when I remember watching you

36
00:01:45,600 --> 00:01:48,680
Speaker 2: and you were just my favorite dancer. Like my mom

37
00:01:48,760 --> 00:01:51,600
Speaker 2: would always be like, oh, she's so cute, like she's

38
00:01:51,680 --> 00:01:53,760
Speaker 2: just so easy to watch, and we just loved you.

39
00:01:54,440 --> 00:01:57,279
Speaker 3: And then you know, like even it's.

40
00:01:57,160 --> 00:02:00,000
Speaker 2: Weird because you know, like when when you watch someone

41
00:02:00,040 --> 00:02:02,960
Speaker 2: and you love someone and they're younger, then you you're like, okay,

42
00:02:02,960 --> 00:02:04,840
Speaker 2: it's like you don't want to be weird about it.

43
00:02:04,880 --> 00:02:07,160
Speaker 2: But then when I met you, I just I just

44
00:02:07,200 --> 00:02:09,200
Speaker 2: thought you were the greatest. I think you're the greatest ever.

45
00:02:09,360 --> 00:02:11,560
Speaker 2: So it's funny, like I was such a fan of

46
00:02:11,600 --> 00:02:13,000
Speaker 2: you before I got to meet you and.

47
00:02:12,960 --> 00:02:13,560
Speaker 3: Call you a friend.

48
00:02:13,600 --> 00:02:16,760
Speaker 2: I didn't know I've never told you that.

49
00:02:20,080 --> 00:02:24,120
Speaker 1: I love that. That is so sweet. Oh my gosh, Well,

50
00:02:24,160 --> 00:02:26,959
Speaker 1: I was obsessed with you too on The Bachelor, because

51
00:02:27,120 --> 00:02:29,760
Speaker 1: of course I'm a Bachelor fan. So I was trying

52
00:02:29,800 --> 00:02:32,160
Speaker 1: to when how did we meet Becca? I'm trying to remember.

53
00:02:32,320 --> 00:02:38,800
Speaker 1: Was it through Chris souls so or was it through

54
00:02:39,840 --> 00:02:42,519
Speaker 1: I think it was through Chris because remember you were

55
00:02:42,560 --> 00:02:48,040
Speaker 1: on that season obviously, but you had a taping or something.

56
00:02:48,840 --> 00:02:51,119
Speaker 2: But I wouldn't have come to a taping it because

57
00:02:52,400 --> 00:02:56,200
Speaker 2: he was engaged to Whitney at the time, And.

58
00:02:56,120 --> 00:02:59,679
Speaker 1: So I think you and weren't you and Whitney friends

59
00:03:00,240 --> 00:03:01,320
Speaker 1: and you? Yeah?

60
00:03:01,600 --> 00:03:05,360
Speaker 2: Yeah? But but who was who was the guy that

61
00:03:05,440 --> 00:03:09,720
Speaker 2: who won that season? Oh gosh, I mean, I know

62
00:03:09,800 --> 00:03:11,120
Speaker 2: that's probably just a blur for.

63
00:03:11,120 --> 00:03:15,440
Speaker 1: You, but I don't even remember. I don't remember at.

64
00:03:15,400 --> 00:03:18,040
Speaker 2: All because I'm trying to think I came to a

65
00:03:18,120 --> 00:03:21,560
Speaker 2: taping because I had a crush on I'm like totally

66
00:03:21,560 --> 00:03:25,239
Speaker 2: blinking on his name, and I shouldn't it because yeah,

67
00:03:25,280 --> 00:03:26,840
Speaker 2: one of the celebrities, Oh my.

68
00:03:26,720 --> 00:03:29,160
Speaker 1: Gosh, Oh was it James Maslow?

69
00:03:31,360 --> 00:03:32,200
Speaker 2: No?

70
00:03:32,200 --> 00:03:34,160
Speaker 3: No, but I know James about okay, isn't.

71
00:03:36,120 --> 00:03:40,160
Speaker 2: He is the amazing He's like a model, he's deaf.

72
00:03:40,320 --> 00:03:45,160
Speaker 2: He won the Nile yes, And I had met him

73
00:03:45,200 --> 00:03:47,720
Speaker 2: at a Dodger game and he invited me to be

74
00:03:47,760 --> 00:03:49,120
Speaker 2: one of his guests, but I don't know if that

75
00:03:49,160 --> 00:03:49,960
Speaker 2: was Chris's season.

76
00:03:50,080 --> 00:03:55,480
Speaker 1: Okay, I was, so.

77
00:03:57,720 --> 00:04:00,920
Speaker 2: I remember going and I was sitting like in his

78
00:04:01,000 --> 00:04:04,640
Speaker 2: section with like his friends and family, and yeah, I was.

79
00:04:04,760 --> 00:04:06,480
Speaker 2: I just had the biggest crush on him, and so

80
00:04:06,520 --> 00:04:08,600
Speaker 2: he invited me. But and then after that, I only

81
00:04:08,640 --> 00:04:10,680
Speaker 2: came because you invited me. And I have a video

82
00:04:10,720 --> 00:04:12,360
Speaker 2: of you trying to teach me how to do like

83
00:04:12,400 --> 00:04:13,560
Speaker 2: a chain or something.

84
00:04:13,880 --> 00:04:16,800
Speaker 1: I know, Oh, I was so bad that I need

85
00:04:16,839 --> 00:04:18,880
Speaker 1: you to get on the show, Like I need to

86
00:04:18,960 --> 00:04:23,080
Speaker 1: figure out a way to get you on because it's

87
00:04:23,120 --> 00:04:25,720
Speaker 1: like we've been trying to do that since like I've

88
00:04:25,760 --> 00:04:28,800
Speaker 1: met you, because I'm like, you're so freaking cute and

89
00:04:28,880 --> 00:04:30,960
Speaker 1: you totally can dance, by the way.

90
00:04:31,960 --> 00:04:34,320
Speaker 3: Okay, well, let's let's not take it that far.

91
00:04:35,760 --> 00:04:41,360
Speaker 2: I'm a generous, generous statement, and I really appreciate that,

92
00:04:41,440 --> 00:04:43,280
Speaker 2: but we all know the truth.

93
00:04:44,360 --> 00:04:45,880
Speaker 1: True.

94
00:04:45,640 --> 00:04:48,280
Speaker 2: I every friend that I've had that's gone on the

95
00:04:48,360 --> 00:04:54,040
Speaker 2: show has said it was the hardest experience they've ever had,

96
00:04:54,120 --> 00:04:57,520
Speaker 2: Like very rewarding, but probably the most challenging, the most

97
00:04:57,720 --> 00:04:59,679
Speaker 2: physically taxing.

98
00:04:59,760 --> 00:05:04,040
Speaker 1: So hard, and imagine doing that every year for ten years.

99
00:05:04,360 --> 00:05:06,960
Speaker 3: No, I can't, like I literally cannot grasp that.

100
00:05:07,720 --> 00:05:09,960
Speaker 1: And what was crazy is they actually had it two

101
00:05:10,000 --> 00:05:12,080
Speaker 1: times a year, so I was doing it in the spring,

102
00:05:12,160 --> 00:05:16,440
Speaker 1: in the fall, and then tour summer and winter, so

103
00:05:16,600 --> 00:05:19,360
Speaker 1: it was literally like around the clock. But I think

104
00:05:19,400 --> 00:05:22,240
Speaker 1: for these slub obviously, if you're not a dancer, it's

105
00:05:22,320 --> 00:05:24,880
Speaker 1: way harder because you're learning something you've never learned. A

106
00:05:25,520 --> 00:05:29,640
Speaker 1: you're pushing a body to like like over your limit

107
00:05:30,360 --> 00:05:33,040
Speaker 1: twenty four to seven, not to mention like the mental

108
00:05:33,080 --> 00:05:36,360
Speaker 1: stress that it puts on you as well, and it's

109
00:05:36,480 --> 00:05:40,200
Speaker 1: just it's a crazy, like thirteen weeks, it's insane. That's

110
00:05:40,200 --> 00:05:43,080
Speaker 1: why I've just I've just kind of learned to like

111
00:05:43,800 --> 00:05:46,960
Speaker 1: this s gonna sound bad, not care as much about

112
00:05:47,040 --> 00:05:48,160
Speaker 1: what the judges say.

113
00:05:49,000 --> 00:05:52,120
Speaker 2: Oh yeah, yeah yeah. I feel like I was such

114
00:05:52,640 --> 00:05:53,360
Speaker 2: a wreck.

115
00:05:53,640 --> 00:05:55,839
Speaker 1: Like when I first started, I was like, oh my gosh,

116
00:05:55,920 --> 00:05:58,920
Speaker 1: I've got to be like the best, and like that

117
00:05:59,120 --> 00:06:02,839
Speaker 1: was literally my life. It is my life obviously, but

118
00:06:03,040 --> 00:06:05,479
Speaker 1: I think like as like I started to get married

119
00:06:05,640 --> 00:06:08,520
Speaker 1: and like, you know, especially after having a baby, I've

120
00:06:08,560 --> 00:06:11,479
Speaker 1: just kind of been like, Okay, it's okay. If the

121
00:06:11,560 --> 00:06:14,880
Speaker 1: judges don't like a certain dance Like that's fine, Like

122
00:06:14,960 --> 00:06:17,640
Speaker 1: I'm you know, I'm still confident in myself. I think

123
00:06:17,680 --> 00:06:20,320
Speaker 1: I wrote a lot on my confidence on what they said.

124
00:06:21,640 --> 00:06:23,720
Speaker 1: So I've kind of learned to like not take it

125
00:06:23,839 --> 00:06:26,839
Speaker 1: as seriously but a lot of the I mean, that's

126
00:06:27,040 --> 00:06:29,920
Speaker 1: your life. So the celebrities are like, Okay, I'm doing

127
00:06:29,960 --> 00:06:33,120
Speaker 1: this full on, which is great, but it definitely can

128
00:06:33,160 --> 00:06:35,440
Speaker 1: be taxing mentally physically for sure.

129
00:06:36,080 --> 00:06:38,480
Speaker 2: Well, and I feel like, I mean, I feel like

130
00:06:38,560 --> 00:06:40,960
Speaker 2: everything is in I've watched with you, You've been with someone

131
00:06:41,000 --> 00:06:46,000
Speaker 2: who at least had potential to that you could make

132
00:06:46,040 --> 00:06:49,120
Speaker 2: them look good, you know, like you've always been able to.

133
00:06:49,600 --> 00:06:50,200
Speaker 3: Is that not true?

134
00:06:50,720 --> 00:06:52,279
Speaker 2: What I'm thinking of when I think of like the

135
00:06:52,360 --> 00:06:54,680
Speaker 2: rolodex of people you've been with, I feel like, I

136
00:06:54,720 --> 00:06:57,520
Speaker 2: feel like the producers want you on the show because

137
00:06:57,560 --> 00:07:00,200
Speaker 2: people watch. There's a few of you who like will

138
00:07:00,200 --> 00:07:02,560
Speaker 2: specifically watch no matter who your partner is, and so

139
00:07:03,160 --> 00:07:05,440
Speaker 2: they're not dumb. They're gonna put you with someone who

140
00:07:05,520 --> 00:07:08,280
Speaker 2: has the potential to get decently far.

141
00:07:08,520 --> 00:07:11,560
Speaker 1: Yeah, No, it's true, like I've I've been blessed with

142
00:07:11,760 --> 00:07:15,800
Speaker 1: amazing partners, like genuinely, like if they if say they

143
00:07:15,800 --> 00:07:19,320
Speaker 1: don't have any dance experience at all, Like say Frankie

144
00:07:19,440 --> 00:07:26,480
Speaker 1: Munis he you know, he had nothing and it was disastrous.

145
00:07:26,520 --> 00:07:29,679
Speaker 1: When I told him to freestyle, I was like stop stop,

146
00:07:30,080 --> 00:07:33,480
Speaker 1: oh my gosh, this is so bad. But and he

147
00:07:33,560 --> 00:07:36,280
Speaker 1: knows that, I'll tell him that like every day, I'm

148
00:07:36,280 --> 00:07:39,880
Speaker 1: like you, he needed like just structure. But what was

149
00:07:40,040 --> 00:07:44,040
Speaker 1: nice if like if like they didn't really have natural talent,

150
00:07:44,440 --> 00:07:46,960
Speaker 1: they made up for it in personality and we just

151
00:07:47,200 --> 00:07:49,720
Speaker 1: had a blast. I mean, so it was like, but

152
00:07:49,840 --> 00:07:53,000
Speaker 1: didn't have somebody who was amazing at least like their

153
00:07:53,040 --> 00:07:55,800
Speaker 1: personality was great, So like I felt like really blessed

154
00:07:55,800 --> 00:07:59,560
Speaker 1: in that way. And then Alfonso, It's just like he

155
00:07:59,760 --> 00:08:03,480
Speaker 1: was an amazing dancer and he was so funny and

156
00:08:03,800 --> 00:08:07,520
Speaker 1: so personable. So that one I hit the jackpop the

157
00:08:07,600 --> 00:08:11,080
Speaker 1: jackpot with So I've gotten one one really lucky one.

158
00:08:12,160 --> 00:08:14,320
Speaker 2: Like have you ever had someone because you spend so

159
00:08:14,480 --> 00:08:17,000
Speaker 2: much time together, Like, have you ever had someone where

160
00:08:18,000 --> 00:08:20,720
Speaker 2: you met him and within like a week you're.

161
00:08:20,520 --> 00:08:24,480
Speaker 3: Like, oh no, this is gonna be a long few weeks.

162
00:08:24,640 --> 00:08:30,000
Speaker 2: Or have you been pretty much like okay, they're oh yeah.

163
00:08:30,040 --> 00:08:34,199
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, I mean okay, I've had I've had over

164
00:08:34,400 --> 00:08:40,360
Speaker 1: Let's see, I've had maybe fifteen partners, maybe a little

165
00:08:40,400 --> 00:08:43,840
Speaker 1: less fifteen partners, and I've had a few rogue few

166
00:08:43,920 --> 00:08:47,760
Speaker 1: rogue ones where I'm like, dude, we need to be eliminated.

167
00:08:48,440 --> 00:08:56,840
Speaker 2: Now I'm sabotaging this. Got a sabotage, the only sabotage.

168
00:08:58,120 --> 00:09:01,640
Speaker 1: No, I mean, I bad saying that, but you do.

169
00:09:01,760 --> 00:09:05,680
Speaker 1: I mean it's like they're just some celebrities, like they

170
00:09:05,800 --> 00:09:08,680
Speaker 1: just are like they either started when they were really young,

171
00:09:08,720 --> 00:09:10,880
Speaker 1: and they just don't have a grip on reality like

172
00:09:13,200 --> 00:09:16,960
Speaker 1: which which is I know, like generally speaking, but I

173
00:09:17,040 --> 00:09:19,800
Speaker 1: just felt like for me, like a few of them,

174
00:09:19,880 --> 00:09:23,559
Speaker 1: I was like, Okay, we need to get you grounded

175
00:09:23,559 --> 00:09:28,600
Speaker 1: a little bit, back to back to reality here. But yeah, nice,

176
00:09:28,679 --> 00:09:32,760
Speaker 1: also nice and so grateful for obviously every partner. But yes,

177
00:09:33,000 --> 00:09:39,520
Speaker 1: definitely there's been some rogue ones, some divas, some divas yep.

178
00:09:41,600 --> 00:09:45,000
Speaker 2: Names, but no, no, no, we're not here to start drama.

179
00:09:45,080 --> 00:09:49,400
Speaker 2: But I think if I would be in the same

180
00:09:49,400 --> 00:09:51,800
Speaker 2: position as you, like if I were taking on the

181
00:09:51,840 --> 00:09:55,880
Speaker 2: task of putting in my time and my energy and

182
00:09:55,880 --> 00:09:59,400
Speaker 2: and I was with someone who was yeah.

183
00:09:59,800 --> 00:10:03,560
Speaker 1: No, oh yeah, I feel like sure, but I definitely

184
00:10:03,559 --> 00:10:06,240
Speaker 1: feel like you can find you just when you have

185
00:10:06,320 --> 00:10:10,400
Speaker 1: a partner like that, and every pro knows this. You

186
00:10:10,440 --> 00:10:13,240
Speaker 1: just have to celebrate in the small successes. It's like

187
00:10:13,400 --> 00:10:16,920
Speaker 1: you just have to try and find like good things

188
00:10:17,360 --> 00:10:19,840
Speaker 1: about what you're doing, right, So, like whether it's like

189
00:10:19,920 --> 00:10:22,920
Speaker 1: he's got great humor or you're just trying to find

190
00:10:23,360 --> 00:10:26,480
Speaker 1: some good stuff that people can see and people can

191
00:10:26,559 --> 00:10:28,679
Speaker 1: vote for, because at the end of the day, everyone

192
00:10:28,760 --> 00:10:33,680
Speaker 1: wants to do a good job and we all need to. Yeah,

193
00:10:33,720 --> 00:10:35,560
Speaker 1: so we all need to, you know, just kind of

194
00:10:35,559 --> 00:10:38,960
Speaker 1: figure out what positive things we can just accentuate. And

195
00:10:39,000 --> 00:10:41,800
Speaker 1: I think that's like the biggest part of our jobs, right,

196
00:10:41,920 --> 00:10:44,600
Speaker 1: is like hiding kind of like what they're bad at,

197
00:10:44,600 --> 00:10:48,840
Speaker 1: and like accentuate what they're good at, you know, so

198
00:10:49,040 --> 00:10:52,920
Speaker 1: if they're like good at I don't know, hilarious, like

199
00:10:53,000 --> 00:10:55,280
Speaker 1: being so funny, Like do you remember Chris Catan at all?

200
00:10:55,960 --> 00:10:56,200
Speaker 2: Yeah?

201
00:10:57,000 --> 00:11:00,880
Speaker 1: Okay, So he was my partner and we actually were

202
00:11:00,920 --> 00:11:05,199
Speaker 1: eliminated the first week. That is the obviously the earliest

203
00:11:05,240 --> 00:11:06,880
Speaker 1: I've ever been eliminated.

204
00:11:06,920 --> 00:11:07,280
Speaker 2: I yea.

205
00:11:08,240 --> 00:11:13,000
Speaker 1: I So, so it was like he was he had

206
00:11:13,000 --> 00:11:16,240
Speaker 1: a really bad back, so he actually broke his back

207
00:11:16,400 --> 00:11:21,480
Speaker 1: on Saturday Night Live, which was really kind of a

208
00:11:21,520 --> 00:11:24,559
Speaker 1: weird story. He was about to like bring out a book.

209
00:11:24,600 --> 00:11:26,439
Speaker 1: So I'm not going to tell a story in case

210
00:11:26,480 --> 00:11:30,040
Speaker 1: he's actually writing a book about it, because then I

211
00:11:30,080 --> 00:11:34,840
Speaker 1: would just be like just everywhere, I'm still his whole life.

212
00:11:34,880 --> 00:11:38,800
Speaker 1: So I don't really want to do that. But so

213
00:11:38,880 --> 00:11:40,520
Speaker 1: he just was like he was telling you that he

214
00:11:40,559 --> 00:11:44,080
Speaker 1: broke his back on SNL and he has like so

215
00:11:44,240 --> 00:11:48,640
Speaker 1: many not like like bolts, and he's got like two

216
00:11:48,760 --> 00:11:53,040
Speaker 1: metal rods down his spine, like, I mean, he was

217
00:11:53,320 --> 00:11:57,320
Speaker 1: really injured. So we but the thing about him was

218
00:11:57,320 --> 00:12:00,280
Speaker 1: he was funny, so I did just like way it

219
00:12:00,440 --> 00:12:04,320
Speaker 1: just like his humor. You have got to look it up, Becca,

220
00:12:04,559 --> 00:12:07,240
Speaker 1: Like you've got to look it up on YouTube, like it.

221
00:12:07,240 --> 00:12:07,719
Speaker 2: Will just.

222
00:12:09,240 --> 00:12:11,960
Speaker 1: Literally we watched it on tour on my tour bus

223
00:12:12,120 --> 00:12:15,960
Speaker 1: every single night just to just to like laugh because

224
00:12:16,000 --> 00:12:20,120
Speaker 1: it was just he was so good at the humor stuff.

225
00:12:20,160 --> 00:12:23,000
Speaker 1: But he couldn't I mean, he couldn't dance. Bless his soul,

226
00:12:23,120 --> 00:12:24,040
Speaker 1: he could not dance.

227
00:12:24,679 --> 00:12:28,000
Speaker 2: So he got one dance and like one and done.

228
00:12:29,040 --> 00:12:31,920
Speaker 1: No, actually we did two, because what happens is the

229
00:12:31,960 --> 00:12:34,960
Speaker 1: first week, no one's eliminated, right, and then oh yeah,

230
00:12:35,000 --> 00:12:37,720
Speaker 1: and then they vote, and then the second one you dance,

231
00:12:37,760 --> 00:12:39,600
Speaker 1: and then at the end of the night, you're gone.

232
00:12:40,720 --> 00:12:41,320
Speaker 3: They got two.

233
00:12:41,400 --> 00:12:45,120
Speaker 1: He got super and we did the The first one

234
00:12:45,240 --> 00:12:47,400
Speaker 1: was this guy, you know, a night at the Rocksberry

235
00:12:47,440 --> 00:12:48,079
Speaker 1: with Bill Barrel.

236
00:12:48,200 --> 00:12:48,360
Speaker 2: Yeah.

237
00:12:49,120 --> 00:12:52,480
Speaker 1: Yeah, So I did this for about four counts of eight,

238
00:12:52,720 --> 00:12:56,920
Speaker 1: just because I'm like, this is what we're gonna do. Guys,

239
00:12:58,000 --> 00:12:59,119
Speaker 1: you can't really.

240
00:12:58,880 --> 00:13:07,760
Speaker 3: Move, like, excuse me, parent me was someone who.

241
00:13:10,400 --> 00:13:13,120
Speaker 1: I just think that they they thought that he was

242
00:13:13,160 --> 00:13:19,480
Speaker 1: going to be better than what he was, which he knows.

243
00:13:19,760 --> 00:13:26,079
Speaker 1: I'm like, Chris, you know, honey, like you your back was bad.

244
00:13:26,760 --> 00:13:27,839
Speaker 2: It was bad.

245
00:13:28,280 --> 00:13:46,800
Speaker 1: He did the yeah, and.

246
00:13:38,720 --> 00:13:44,160
Speaker 2: I just laughed. My god, I'm imagining injuring myself like

247
00:13:44,200 --> 00:13:48,680
Speaker 2: that and then being put into this situation where I

248
00:13:48,760 --> 00:13:51,440
Speaker 2: was literally pushing my body to its lembits.

249
00:13:53,679 --> 00:13:56,400
Speaker 1: That's why he did. And I'm like, you can't take

250
00:13:56,559 --> 00:14:02,000
Speaker 1: much more. Oh. I think I think he knew it too.

251
00:14:02,200 --> 00:14:05,160
Speaker 1: He knew it. He was like I just I can't

252
00:14:05,200 --> 00:14:08,200
Speaker 1: keep up, and it was it was hard because he

253
00:14:08,679 --> 00:14:11,760
Speaker 1: was in pain too, and I'm like, you're in pain,

254
00:14:12,640 --> 00:14:15,079
Speaker 1: and this is just your limit of what you can do,

255
00:14:15,200 --> 00:14:16,280
Speaker 1: you know, So you just have to.

256
00:14:16,240 --> 00:14:21,200
Speaker 2: Work with it, and we were because like, honestly, you

257
00:14:21,360 --> 00:14:25,040
Speaker 2: probably were able to do the best that he could

258
00:14:25,080 --> 00:14:25,960
Speaker 2: push his body to.

259
00:14:26,200 --> 00:14:29,000
Speaker 3: And I'm sure he had a wonderful experience.

260
00:14:29,440 --> 00:14:33,960
Speaker 1: I'm telling you that was the best we could possibly do.

261
00:14:34,440 --> 00:14:36,680
Speaker 1: The best.

262
00:14:36,080 --> 00:14:36,120
Speaker 2: You.

263
00:14:37,840 --> 00:14:41,960
Speaker 1: Oh, you'll love it. It's it's hey yeah by Outcast

264
00:14:42,480 --> 00:14:45,400
Speaker 1: and it's the best. And I had him at this

265
00:14:45,400 --> 00:14:49,160
Speaker 1: one part there was some lyrics and so I had

266
00:14:49,240 --> 00:14:53,080
Speaker 1: him like like do this like single lyrics and it's

267
00:14:53,240 --> 00:14:56,040
Speaker 1: it's the best. Like we just we had such a

268
00:14:56,080 --> 00:14:57,960
Speaker 1: fun time just laughing our heads off.

269
00:14:59,200 --> 00:15:20,240
Speaker 2: Wow, I am like dying over here just imagining it. Okay,

270
00:15:20,440 --> 00:15:24,520
Speaker 2: switching gears. First of all, lies, I mean, congratulations you.

271
00:15:24,840 --> 00:15:27,320
Speaker 2: It's like you got through COVID and you had a

272
00:15:27,320 --> 00:15:35,240
Speaker 2: baby during COVID. And he's literally the cutest little.

273
00:15:35,520 --> 00:15:38,040
Speaker 3: I just want to reach through the screen and squeeze him.

274
00:15:38,600 --> 00:15:42,440
Speaker 1: Oh he is a freaking chunk dude. Like his roles.

275
00:15:42,600 --> 00:15:46,120
Speaker 1: I'm like, I swear I'm not overfeeding you, like I'm

276
00:15:46,120 --> 00:15:50,000
Speaker 1: feeding the right amount, dude, and you are just like chunkin.

277
00:15:50,640 --> 00:15:54,040
Speaker 1: He is so freaking fun though, Like his personality is

278
00:15:54,080 --> 00:15:57,600
Speaker 1: starting to come out and he's like I think he

279
00:15:57,680 --> 00:16:01,760
Speaker 1: had a little bit of collic at the beginning. Oh yeah, yeah,

280
00:16:01,800 --> 00:16:03,920
Speaker 1: I'm like, you have do you have nieces and nephews?

281
00:16:04,680 --> 00:16:05,800
Speaker 3: I have four nephews.

282
00:16:06,200 --> 00:16:09,000
Speaker 1: Yeah, so you you probably not just from them talking

283
00:16:09,040 --> 00:16:11,880
Speaker 1: about it, But it's just I don't know if it

284
00:16:11,920 --> 00:16:14,680
Speaker 1: was his stomach or like one of them was, but

285
00:16:14,800 --> 00:16:18,120
Speaker 1: he just like wasn't like sleeping gray. He kind of

286
00:16:18,200 --> 00:16:21,400
Speaker 1: was a little bit crankier. So now I feel like

287
00:16:21,480 --> 00:16:24,440
Speaker 1: he's like really his personality is coming out and he's

288
00:16:24,480 --> 00:16:27,720
Speaker 1: like now like he's eating like solid foods. So it's

289
00:16:27,760 --> 00:16:31,360
Speaker 1: been like he's been way better. But yeah, that was

290
00:16:31,600 --> 00:16:34,520
Speaker 1: that was a crazy time. I can't believe it's already

291
00:16:34,560 --> 00:16:36,680
Speaker 1: been almost six months since I had him. Like I

292
00:16:36,680 --> 00:16:39,360
Speaker 1: feel like I just was in the hospital. Isn't that

293
00:16:39,480 --> 00:16:40,920
Speaker 1: so crazy?

294
00:16:41,040 --> 00:16:42,000
Speaker 2: It's crazy?

295
00:16:42,040 --> 00:16:44,040
Speaker 3: And so wait, so what when's his birthday?

296
00:16:44,480 --> 00:16:46,440
Speaker 1: Uh? January third?

297
00:16:46,800 --> 00:16:49,560
Speaker 2: Okay, So that was kind of I mean, COVID was

298
00:16:49,600 --> 00:16:52,120
Speaker 2: still pretty I mean it was pretty everything was pretty

299
00:16:52,120 --> 00:16:53,520
Speaker 2: strict right when I had him.

300
00:16:53,720 --> 00:16:56,920
Speaker 1: When I well, actually so i'll backcheck lo it when

301
00:16:56,920 --> 00:17:01,280
Speaker 1: I got pregnant. It was that's when everything started like

302
00:17:02,160 --> 00:17:07,480
Speaker 1: so bad, Like everyone was like quarantined and like it

303
00:17:07,520 --> 00:17:10,440
Speaker 1: was like a full on emergency, So like right when

304
00:17:10,440 --> 00:17:12,280
Speaker 1: I found out I was pregnant, So it was also

305
00:17:12,400 --> 00:17:16,800
Speaker 1: like I was really really excited obviously, but I also

306
00:17:16,960 --> 00:17:20,159
Speaker 1: was so scared, like I did not know what for

307
00:17:20,440 --> 00:17:24,320
Speaker 1: like a pregnant woman to get COVID, Like I was like,

308
00:17:24,840 --> 00:17:27,679
Speaker 1: so I was pregnant, I was permonal. I was like

309
00:17:27,880 --> 00:17:30,120
Speaker 1: my body was changing so much and at the same time,

310
00:17:30,240 --> 00:17:32,520
Speaker 1: like we were going to this global pandemic, and so

311
00:17:33,280 --> 00:17:36,280
Speaker 1: I just feel like my whole pregnancy, I was just

312
00:17:36,359 --> 00:17:40,199
Speaker 1: so stressed, like every little thing, like any sort of

313
00:17:40,320 --> 00:17:43,680
Speaker 1: cramp or like weird thing, like I would just freak

314
00:17:43,720 --> 00:17:46,320
Speaker 1: out and I would like text the doctor. I have

315
00:17:46,440 --> 00:17:50,280
Speaker 1: the doctor, Like I'm texting him totally a VIP card,

316
00:17:50,359 --> 00:17:54,760
Speaker 1: like I want to Dancing the Stars. You need to

317
00:17:54,760 --> 00:17:57,919
Speaker 1: totally is that which I don't ever use that, but

318
00:17:58,000 --> 00:18:00,320
Speaker 1: I'm like, okay, I'm sorry, I need your number her

319
00:18:01,400 --> 00:18:02,359
Speaker 1: and you need to be uncle.

320
00:18:03,080 --> 00:18:03,640
Speaker 2: It was so.

321
00:18:05,160 --> 00:18:07,760
Speaker 1: But he was great. He was great. He assured me

322
00:18:07,840 --> 00:18:10,679
Speaker 1: that was all normal stuff, but yeah, it was. Yeah,

323
00:18:10,800 --> 00:18:13,320
Speaker 1: it was so stressful. And then when I had him

324
00:18:13,359 --> 00:18:18,680
Speaker 1: in January, I actually had COVID, which.

325
00:18:19,560 --> 00:18:22,600
Speaker 2: You had coked, like you went into labor with COVID yep.

326
00:18:23,560 --> 00:18:26,840
Speaker 1: What Oh, it wasn't that a great time? I'm like,

327
00:18:27,040 --> 00:18:30,040
Speaker 1: so I'm so lucky. I don't know how that happened

328
00:18:30,080 --> 00:18:30,240
Speaker 1: to me.

329
00:18:31,240 --> 00:18:33,000
Speaker 2: I'm like, of course, were you sick, Like were you

330
00:18:33,040 --> 00:18:34,880
Speaker 2: feeling sick or was it like one of those things

331
00:18:34,920 --> 00:18:36,240
Speaker 2: where you didn't really have symptoms.

332
00:18:36,480 --> 00:18:40,199
Speaker 1: I didn't really have symptoms. So before you go to

333
00:18:40,240 --> 00:18:44,760
Speaker 1: the hospital, like on your like last check up at

334
00:18:44,800 --> 00:18:48,560
Speaker 1: like thirty seven weeks, they'd actually test you for COVID.

335
00:18:48,640 --> 00:18:51,000
Speaker 1: I don't know how the other hospitals were, but like

336
00:18:51,080 --> 00:18:55,720
Speaker 1: this hospital in Utah did that just routine. And so

337
00:18:55,840 --> 00:18:59,159
Speaker 1: when they checked me I had COVID, and I was

338
00:18:59,200 --> 00:19:03,680
Speaker 1: like like I literally just have a sniffle and like

339
00:19:04,640 --> 00:19:07,320
Speaker 1: kind of achy. But I just like I was like

340
00:19:07,480 --> 00:19:09,000
Speaker 1: thirty seven.

341
00:19:08,760 --> 00:19:12,520
Speaker 2: Weeks about the bom everywhere.

342
00:19:13,119 --> 00:19:15,720
Speaker 1: Yeah, so I'm just miserable everywhere. So I just thought

343
00:19:15,760 --> 00:19:17,359
Speaker 1: it was that. And then when they told me I

344
00:19:17,400 --> 00:19:21,600
Speaker 1: had COVID, I was like what So anyway, so we

345
00:19:21,840 --> 00:19:24,720
Speaker 1: ended up giving it to my entire family and it

346
00:19:24,880 --> 00:19:27,120
Speaker 1: just went through like each one because you know how

347
00:19:27,119 --> 00:19:30,359
Speaker 1: the incubation period I think is like two weeks, so

348
00:19:30,440 --> 00:19:32,520
Speaker 1: like people can get it all the way up to

349
00:19:32,560 --> 00:19:35,080
Speaker 1: two weeks, so it was like my mom got it,

350
00:19:35,160 --> 00:19:37,000
Speaker 1: and then my dad got it, and then my sister

351
00:19:37,040 --> 00:19:39,320
Speaker 1: and my brother, like everyone got it at different times,

352
00:19:39,480 --> 00:19:42,880
Speaker 1: so nobody could see the baby for like like four

353
00:19:42,920 --> 00:19:47,159
Speaker 1: weeks after he was born. It was so hard. It

354
00:19:47,200 --> 00:19:51,520
Speaker 1: was so hard. The labor was really hard because I

355
00:19:51,600 --> 00:19:55,320
Speaker 1: had did I don't know if you ever had COVID.

356
00:19:55,160 --> 00:19:56,560
Speaker 3: But I didn't know.

357
00:19:57,240 --> 00:20:00,840
Speaker 1: I just feel like your your lungs are never the same.

358
00:20:00,920 --> 00:20:03,440
Speaker 1: Like I felt like I couldn't breathe, so I had

359
00:20:03,480 --> 00:20:06,240
Speaker 1: like an oxygen thing on the whole time in labor,

360
00:20:06,359 --> 00:20:08,640
Speaker 1: Like while I was pushing, I was like throwing up.

361
00:20:09,359 --> 00:20:11,399
Speaker 2: It was just like, oh my god.

362
00:20:13,000 --> 00:20:17,320
Speaker 1: It was kind of kind of crazy and traumatic and

363
00:20:17,960 --> 00:20:22,160
Speaker 1: amazing at the same time, but also just like I

364
00:20:22,200 --> 00:20:24,760
Speaker 1: just don't know, I mean. And we were scared too

365
00:20:24,800 --> 00:20:26,680
Speaker 1: that the baby would get COVID as well, because we

366
00:20:26,720 --> 00:20:29,720
Speaker 1: didn't know how contagious like it would be to babies.

367
00:20:30,920 --> 00:20:32,760
Speaker 1: But I was like, they were like, you can leave

368
00:20:32,840 --> 00:20:35,639
Speaker 1: him here for two weeks, and I was like, heck, no,

369
00:20:35,840 --> 00:20:41,639
Speaker 1: I'm not gonna You're like absolutely, so I guess I

370
00:20:41,680 --> 00:20:44,080
Speaker 1: will just deal with it if he gets COVID. He

371
00:20:44,080 --> 00:20:46,840
Speaker 1: gets COVID, but he didn't end up getting sick, so

372
00:20:47,000 --> 00:20:50,639
Speaker 1: that was a big blessing too. But we were just

373
00:20:50,720 --> 00:20:52,679
Speaker 1: it was just me and Carson, and Carson ended up

374
00:20:53,320 --> 00:20:56,199
Speaker 1: getting COVID too, so we both had COVID and we

375
00:20:56,280 --> 00:20:56,680
Speaker 1: both had.

376
00:20:58,640 --> 00:21:01,680
Speaker 3: With no help because likeness, but no help.

377
00:21:02,160 --> 00:21:05,840
Speaker 1: My aunt, who had already had COVID, luckily was able

378
00:21:05,880 --> 00:21:08,400
Speaker 1: to come and like, like help us a little bit.

379
00:21:08,800 --> 00:21:11,880
Speaker 1: So we had my aunt. That was it, but it

380
00:21:11,920 --> 00:21:14,000
Speaker 1: was we were strateful that we had any help at all,

381
00:21:14,520 --> 00:21:17,479
Speaker 1: but it just was. It was crazy, but it was

382
00:21:17,640 --> 00:21:20,480
Speaker 1: my The hormones are nuts, like I can't explain the

383
00:21:20,520 --> 00:21:23,560
Speaker 1: hormones like pregnant women who are listening to this, you

384
00:21:23,600 --> 00:21:26,679
Speaker 1: guys will know, like people who have had babies, Like

385
00:21:26,800 --> 00:21:30,760
Speaker 1: the hormones are crazy. Like after that, like traumatic experience,

386
00:21:31,040 --> 00:21:34,119
Speaker 1: I was like jealous of my friends having labor, like

387
00:21:34,320 --> 00:21:36,720
Speaker 1: having a baby, like I was jealous of that, like

388
00:21:36,760 --> 00:21:43,440
Speaker 1: I wanted to like, no, yeah, it's bizarre. Something happens

389
00:21:43,520 --> 00:21:46,160
Speaker 1: to you mentally and you just forget all the bad

390
00:21:46,160 --> 00:21:49,880
Speaker 1: stuff and you only remember the good stuff. Like it's

391
00:21:50,280 --> 00:21:53,680
Speaker 1: it was crazy, poor, poor.

392
00:21:53,760 --> 00:21:57,880
Speaker 3: Poor, Like we're not doing that again anytime soon.

393
00:21:58,760 --> 00:22:01,520
Speaker 1: No, So what happened is I actually ended up having

394
00:22:01,520 --> 00:22:07,439
Speaker 1: an emergency sea section, and yeah, so I pushed for

395
00:22:07,480 --> 00:22:11,600
Speaker 1: two and a half hours. Then his heart rate started

396
00:22:11,640 --> 00:22:14,200
Speaker 1: going super high, so that I did an emergency sea section,

397
00:22:15,119 --> 00:22:19,440
Speaker 1: which I was just like devastated obviously, but also so relieved.

398
00:22:19,480 --> 00:22:22,440
Speaker 1: Like Carson Space is just like, please do it. Oh

399
00:22:22,440 --> 00:22:25,520
Speaker 1: my gosh, please do the season. You were just exhausted.

400
00:22:26,200 --> 00:22:29,119
Speaker 1: So anyway, we did the sea section. The doctor is

401
00:22:29,160 --> 00:22:33,760
Speaker 1: like Carson, like, come come look at the baby coming out.

402
00:22:34,280 --> 00:22:37,960
Speaker 1: You're gonna want to see this. So Carson's like he's

403
00:22:38,040 --> 00:22:41,919
Speaker 1: an anxious mess already, like without the medical stuff. So

404
00:22:43,680 --> 00:22:48,000
Speaker 1: poor guy, Like we just we just started talking about

405
00:22:48,000 --> 00:22:50,840
Speaker 1: the sea section, like it's taken him this long to

406
00:22:51,320 --> 00:22:58,240
Speaker 1: talk about it, I know, and you know him, he's

407
00:22:58,280 --> 00:22:59,920
Speaker 1: like the sweetest, like.

408
00:22:59,760 --> 00:23:02,120
Speaker 3: This sweetest ever.

409
00:23:02,320 --> 00:23:06,199
Speaker 1: So I felt so bad. He's like, please don't make

410
00:23:06,240 --> 00:23:09,600
Speaker 1: me do that again. Like you're gonna have to. So

411
00:23:10,040 --> 00:23:15,640
Speaker 1: we're gonna need to do something for you, bud, because

412
00:23:16,040 --> 00:23:23,880
Speaker 1: we're gonna have more children. Yeah, so funny.

413
00:23:24,400 --> 00:23:28,360
Speaker 2: Oh, I mean, well I can't imagine. I've always thought

414
00:23:28,440 --> 00:23:31,960
Speaker 2: that for you know, Mark uh, our producer, he has

415
00:23:32,040 --> 00:23:35,600
Speaker 2: two kids, and I've always thought for the husband, you're

416
00:23:35,680 --> 00:23:37,840
Speaker 2: first of all watching the love of your life and

417
00:23:37,880 --> 00:23:41,080
Speaker 2: this kind of you know, scary position, like you know

418
00:23:41,920 --> 00:23:45,320
Speaker 2: what can happen, and and then you're watching this baby

419
00:23:45,320 --> 00:23:47,960
Speaker 2: that you've created and you're like fearing, you know, have all.

420
00:23:47,840 --> 00:23:48,760
Speaker 3: Those thoughts too.

421
00:23:48,840 --> 00:23:52,119
Speaker 2: So I've always felt for the husbands because I know, like,

422
00:23:52,320 --> 00:23:55,320
Speaker 2: as women, our bodies are just going through it and

423
00:23:55,359 --> 00:23:57,080
Speaker 2: we're like, you're just doing it.

424
00:23:57,160 --> 00:24:00,280
Speaker 1: Yeah exactly. Yeah I did feel so I did feel

425
00:24:00,359 --> 00:24:01,760
Speaker 1: so bad for him. I was like, yeah, I'd rather

426
00:24:01,840 --> 00:24:06,560
Speaker 1: be in this position than in your position. Like that sucks,

427
00:24:06,680 --> 00:24:10,359
Speaker 1: especially just watching your whole world just like is everything okay,

428
00:24:10,560 --> 00:24:13,480
Speaker 1: like and just not really knowing, you know, and you

429
00:24:13,560 --> 00:24:15,840
Speaker 1: just kind of have to I just hope that it's fine.

430
00:24:16,040 --> 00:24:19,400
Speaker 1: But does this make you want to have a baby now?

431
00:24:19,480 --> 00:24:24,040
Speaker 2: Back? I already like I think just like the things

432
00:24:24,080 --> 00:24:28,080
Speaker 2: I hear and I don't know, maybe your pregnancy from

433
00:24:28,080 --> 00:24:32,120
Speaker 2: Instagram seemed like it was, you know, normally pretty pleasant

434
00:24:32,160 --> 00:24:34,040
Speaker 2: for the most part. But some people I know have

435
00:24:34,560 --> 00:24:37,920
Speaker 2: they're like nauseous the whole nine months. They're like, have

436
00:24:38,040 --> 00:24:42,360
Speaker 2: no energy, And I just sit there and think, can

437
00:24:42,400 --> 00:24:43,040
Speaker 2: I do that?

438
00:24:43,400 --> 00:24:46,400
Speaker 3: I don't know, you can?

439
00:24:46,600 --> 00:24:50,479
Speaker 1: You totally can. That's the thing is like when you're ready,

440
00:24:50,640 --> 00:24:53,119
Speaker 1: Like when it happens, you're you'll be ready, you know.

441
00:24:53,760 --> 00:24:57,960
Speaker 1: Like yeah, I just like before I got pregnant, all

442
00:24:58,000 --> 00:24:59,800
Speaker 1: my sister laws because all my sister in laws have

443
00:25:01,080 --> 00:25:03,560
Speaker 1: and they just were going through their birth experiences and

444
00:25:03,600 --> 00:25:05,880
Speaker 1: I was like, I don't want that. I don't want

445
00:25:05,880 --> 00:25:08,280
Speaker 1: that to happen, none of it. I don't want any

446
00:25:08,280 --> 00:25:10,879
Speaker 1: of it. And then when it happens, you just do

447
00:25:10,960 --> 00:25:14,720
Speaker 1: it and you're fine. Innately, women are amazing and right

448
00:25:14,840 --> 00:25:17,800
Speaker 1: like we are because we have to do that crazy

449
00:25:17,800 --> 00:25:21,320
Speaker 1: stuff and it's just what happens.

450
00:25:22,520 --> 00:25:23,120
Speaker 3: It's amazing.

451
00:25:23,480 --> 00:25:25,959
Speaker 2: Was there anything like during your pregnancy or after you

452
00:25:25,960 --> 00:25:29,360
Speaker 2: had him where you were like I had no idea

453
00:25:29,440 --> 00:25:31,520
Speaker 2: to prepare for this and no one told me? Or

454
00:25:31,560 --> 00:25:34,640
Speaker 2: did you feel pretty like prepared even though it still

455
00:25:34,680 --> 00:25:38,119
Speaker 2: felt new? Yeah?

456
00:25:38,200 --> 00:25:40,919
Speaker 1: Oh no, no, no, you never are prepared for a

457
00:25:40,960 --> 00:25:45,520
Speaker 1: baby ever, Like even all the reading and all the

458
00:25:45,640 --> 00:25:48,399
Speaker 1: studying and like, cause you got nine months, right, so

459
00:25:48,440 --> 00:25:50,960
Speaker 1: you're like nine months I'm going to prep myself for

460
00:25:51,040 --> 00:25:55,000
Speaker 1: this new life like you are. Just you're feeling like

461
00:25:55,080 --> 00:25:57,919
Speaker 1: you're so prepared, right, So you've got like you're breast

462
00:25:57,920 --> 00:26:01,280
Speaker 1: feeding stuff, you got shreet on it and you know,

463
00:26:01,560 --> 00:26:03,840
Speaker 1: you like kind of know what to do, like you know,

464
00:26:04,119 --> 00:26:06,359
Speaker 1: changing a diaper or whatever, or you know what to

465
00:26:06,359 --> 00:26:10,040
Speaker 1: do when he's crying, and then when they're here, it

466
00:26:10,240 --> 00:26:14,080
Speaker 1: all just goes to crap, like you don't know anything.

467
00:26:14,119 --> 00:26:18,040
Speaker 1: You're like I thought I was gonna be good, and

468
00:26:18,080 --> 00:26:22,919
Speaker 1: I'm actually the worst. Like that's how I totally felt.

469
00:26:23,440 --> 00:26:28,240
Speaker 1: That's how I felt, because you're constantly like trying to

470
00:26:28,280 --> 00:26:30,959
Speaker 1: figure it out, like it's so weird, like no amount

471
00:26:31,040 --> 00:26:35,280
Speaker 1: of preparation can help you. I mean obviously the basic stuff,

472
00:26:35,280 --> 00:26:37,159
Speaker 1: but I just feel like you just kind of have

473
00:26:37,200 --> 00:26:39,560
Speaker 1: to go with it, Like with anything in life, really,

474
00:26:40,119 --> 00:26:43,840
Speaker 1: you just you can never feel prepared, and especially with

475
00:26:43,880 --> 00:26:45,800
Speaker 1: the baby. And then you're like on top of that,

476
00:26:45,880 --> 00:26:50,400
Speaker 1: you're so tired, like no sleep, so you're just delirious

477
00:26:50,640 --> 00:26:54,680
Speaker 1: and there's a baby screaming and it's just a lot.

478
00:26:54,760 --> 00:26:58,360
Speaker 1: It's also it's it's harder than I thought, but it's

479
00:26:58,400 --> 00:26:59,960
Speaker 1: all more amazing than I thought.

480
00:27:00,520 --> 00:27:03,560
Speaker 2: Oh that's that's cool, so like balance like it's harder

481
00:27:03,840 --> 00:27:06,960
Speaker 2: yet it's even like you couldn't you couldn't grasp how

482
00:27:06,960 --> 00:27:10,000
Speaker 2: hard it is, but you also couldn't grasp how amazing

483
00:27:10,000 --> 00:27:10,719
Speaker 2: and overwhelming.

484
00:27:10,720 --> 00:27:14,040
Speaker 1: It is exactly. You really can't. It's the weirdest thing,

485
00:27:14,200 --> 00:27:17,080
Speaker 1: Like like with Phoebe, I'm sure you get a little

486
00:27:17,080 --> 00:27:18,840
Speaker 1: bit of that, a little bit of the love that

487
00:27:18,880 --> 00:27:21,280
Speaker 1: I'm talking about. And then as soon as you.

488
00:27:21,359 --> 00:27:26,280
Speaker 2: Thin, thank you for acknowledging my dog, my motherhood I lived.

489
00:27:26,440 --> 00:27:31,480
Speaker 1: I live for Phoebe. Dude, I'm so ino that I love. Like,

490
00:27:31,640 --> 00:27:33,959
Speaker 1: is she okay on the bed now? Because what happened

491
00:27:33,960 --> 00:27:37,640
Speaker 1: with her? What like she was falling off the bed

492
00:27:37,960 --> 00:27:42,160
Speaker 1: or no.

493
00:27:40,320 --> 00:27:43,159
Speaker 3: No, what did I post?

494
00:27:43,480 --> 00:27:48,080
Speaker 2: So the stairs because my bed's high and she I

495
00:27:48,119 --> 00:27:50,600
Speaker 2: don't have In my old place, I had carpet, but

496
00:27:50,640 --> 00:27:53,000
Speaker 2: I just moved in so my I have hardwood floors,

497
00:27:53,000 --> 00:27:55,919
Speaker 2: and so she she doesn't feel comfortable jumping off, so

498
00:27:56,080 --> 00:27:58,720
Speaker 2: like if she needs to get down, and like I

499
00:27:58,760 --> 00:28:00,840
Speaker 2: don't know. Sometimes she just like wonder around in the

500
00:28:00,840 --> 00:28:02,560
Speaker 2: middle of the night, but she'll just sit there on

501
00:28:02,600 --> 00:28:04,840
Speaker 2: the edge or she'll cry for me to lift her up,

502
00:28:04,840 --> 00:28:06,760
Speaker 2: and I'm like, I'm not doing it. So I bought

503
00:28:06,760 --> 00:28:09,960
Speaker 2: these ugly stares, but they've really saved me.

504
00:28:10,280 --> 00:28:13,800
Speaker 1: You literally do it like Roxy and my dog. Before

505
00:28:13,840 --> 00:28:16,359
Speaker 1: we had Leo, I was like, you are literally my

506
00:28:16,480 --> 00:28:20,680
Speaker 1: child like I am obsessed with you, and then as

507
00:28:20,680 --> 00:28:23,479
Speaker 1: soon as I've got Leo and brought them home, I

508
00:28:23,520 --> 00:28:25,160
Speaker 1: was like, I don't.

509
00:28:25,119 --> 00:28:26,000
Speaker 2: Like you anymore.

510
00:28:27,640 --> 00:28:28,800
Speaker 3: Whitney.

511
00:28:28,920 --> 00:28:32,840
Speaker 2: No, that's like my biggest fear because I know I

512
00:28:32,880 --> 00:28:33,679
Speaker 2: can't do that.

513
00:28:38,040 --> 00:28:41,400
Speaker 1: Phebe is sweet. She is a sweetie. She's gonna be fine.

514
00:28:41,440 --> 00:28:44,440
Speaker 1: But that it really does happen. Like your dogs, you

515
00:28:44,480 --> 00:28:47,480
Speaker 1: still love obviously, but like nothing compression to the love

516
00:28:47,520 --> 00:28:51,440
Speaker 1: of a child. It's like it's just so different that

517
00:28:51,600 --> 00:28:53,640
Speaker 1: like when you get home and you look at your dog,

518
00:28:53,680 --> 00:28:57,480
Speaker 1: You're like, you're annoying me and need you.

519
00:28:56,560 --> 00:29:01,040
Speaker 3: To Whitney, this is illegal. Thing is illegal.

520
00:29:01,880 --> 00:29:05,520
Speaker 1: But it's so much better now obviously because I'm like,

521
00:29:05,600 --> 00:29:07,960
Speaker 1: oh she oh, she was my buddy, like when I

522
00:29:08,000 --> 00:29:11,240
Speaker 1: was pregnant. It they know, like it's so weird.

523
00:29:11,240 --> 00:29:13,720
Speaker 2: Oh yeah, they like I've heard that when.

524
00:29:13,560 --> 00:29:15,680
Speaker 1: You're on your like the time of the month, Like

525
00:29:15,920 --> 00:29:19,160
Speaker 1: they just like, this is a weird story that happened

526
00:29:19,160 --> 00:29:25,080
Speaker 1: actually with Roxy. So she she's pretty smart. What what breed.

527
00:29:24,920 --> 00:29:25,640
Speaker 2: Is, phoebie.

528
00:29:26,240 --> 00:29:27,200
Speaker 3: She's a Pomeranian.

529
00:29:28,200 --> 00:29:34,160
Speaker 1: Okay, so Roxy is like a poodle bush on mix.

530
00:29:35,160 --> 00:29:38,760
Speaker 1: And so anyway, so she was so I didn't even

531
00:29:38,840 --> 00:29:41,120
Speaker 1: know I was pregnant. Okay, it was the day before

532
00:29:41,120 --> 00:29:45,440
Speaker 1: I took the test, and she was like sniffing my boob,

533
00:29:45,600 --> 00:29:49,960
Speaker 1: like out of control, like sniffing, like sniffing everywhere. It

534
00:29:50,120 --> 00:29:53,080
Speaker 1: was bizarre, and I'm like, what are you doing? This

535
00:29:53,160 --> 00:29:55,080
Speaker 1: is so weird. I don't know why she's doing this.

536
00:29:56,120 --> 00:29:57,960
Speaker 1: And then I took the test the next day and

537
00:29:58,000 --> 00:30:01,560
Speaker 1: I was pregnant. I'm like, she could totally smell, like

538
00:30:01,680 --> 00:30:03,600
Speaker 1: smell something. I don't know if it's like it was

539
00:30:03,640 --> 00:30:06,880
Speaker 1: the hormones or just like so anyway, she was like

540
00:30:07,000 --> 00:30:09,720
Speaker 1: she was my buddy, like all pregnancy. She would just

541
00:30:09,760 --> 00:30:12,360
Speaker 1: curl up on my belly and she was like she

542
00:30:12,600 --> 00:30:13,840
Speaker 1: was my little buddy.

543
00:30:13,960 --> 00:30:16,040
Speaker 3: And then you just threw her to the side when

544
00:30:16,080 --> 00:30:16,640
Speaker 3: you got home.

545
00:30:17,880 --> 00:30:20,280
Speaker 1: Then I was like, you're sleeping outside.

546
00:30:20,960 --> 00:30:26,719
Speaker 2: No, I did not do that. I did not do that.

547
00:30:26,800 --> 00:30:28,600
Speaker 1: I did not do that. I loved her to death

548
00:30:28,720 --> 00:30:30,840
Speaker 1: and she was I'm just trying to explain you the

549
00:30:30,840 --> 00:30:33,360
Speaker 1: difference of like, yeah, like.

550
00:30:33,320 --> 00:30:35,920
Speaker 3: All of a sudden, all your world shifts.

551
00:30:36,120 --> 00:30:40,400
Speaker 1: Yeah, exactly, But obviously I'm like she's our baby, number one,

552
00:30:40,720 --> 00:30:44,160
Speaker 1: like number one, she's our baby. But it just was funny,

553
00:30:44,320 --> 00:30:47,680
Speaker 1: like how our kind of perspectives like changed after he

554
00:30:47,720 --> 00:30:48,040
Speaker 1: was here.

555
00:30:48,440 --> 00:30:50,960
Speaker 2: Oh yeah, I mean I can't. I don't really even

556
00:30:51,000 --> 00:30:54,400
Speaker 2: think you can grasp it. The closest thing I've really experienced,

557
00:30:54,640 --> 00:30:57,000
Speaker 2: you know, aside from Phoebe is I lived with my

558
00:30:57,120 --> 00:31:00,400
Speaker 2: sister when my first two nephews were born, So my

559
00:31:00,440 --> 00:31:03,280
Speaker 2: oldest nephew, I was with him till he was three,

560
00:31:03,320 --> 00:31:06,560
Speaker 2: and I was basically like a third parent because my

561
00:31:06,680 --> 00:31:08,920
Speaker 2: brother in law played football and so he would travel,

562
00:31:08,920 --> 00:31:10,360
Speaker 2: so it was just you know, me and my sister,

563
00:31:10,480 --> 00:31:17,160
Speaker 2: and so I did experience that like anything, guys, I mean,

564
00:31:17,320 --> 00:31:20,840
Speaker 2: but yeah, to an extent, I think I don't know

565
00:31:20,880 --> 00:31:24,520
Speaker 2: that you can compare it to being a mom, you know,

566
00:31:24,600 --> 00:31:27,040
Speaker 2: being a parent, But as an aunt, I do. I

567
00:31:27,080 --> 00:31:28,240
Speaker 2: got a glimpse of it.

568
00:31:28,240 --> 00:31:30,520
Speaker 1: It totally got a glimpse of it for sure. So

569
00:31:30,600 --> 00:31:32,560
Speaker 1: were you there when he was born too.

570
00:31:32,440 --> 00:31:33,920
Speaker 3: Like I was in the room.

571
00:31:34,720 --> 00:31:35,040
Speaker 2: Yeah.

572
00:31:35,080 --> 00:31:38,080
Speaker 3: So I was in the room, and I like it

573
00:31:38,160 --> 00:31:39,080
Speaker 3: was amazing, you know.

574
00:31:39,160 --> 00:31:41,720
Speaker 2: If anything, I was just like, this is this is

575
00:31:41,760 --> 00:31:44,000
Speaker 2: what they reference when they're talking about miracle of life,

576
00:31:44,040 --> 00:31:45,320
Speaker 2: because it's just incredible.

577
00:31:45,840 --> 00:31:48,160
Speaker 3: But then they went to you.

578
00:31:48,040 --> 00:31:50,680
Speaker 2: Know, like stitch Stitcher back up and they went to

579
00:31:50,680 --> 00:31:53,760
Speaker 2: give her like a shot, I guess, and I literally

580
00:31:53,800 --> 00:31:54,360
Speaker 2: had to sit down.

581
00:31:54,360 --> 00:31:56,160
Speaker 3: I thought I was gonna faint, but.

582
00:31:56,120 --> 00:31:59,440
Speaker 2: For some reason that the child coming out didn't make

583
00:31:59,440 --> 00:32:01,680
Speaker 2: me feel that. But seeing a needle go down there,

584
00:32:01,720 --> 00:32:05,320
Speaker 2: I was like, uh uh.

585
00:32:04,120 --> 00:32:07,360
Speaker 1: Me, oh wow, Like, well, I mean after you have

586
00:32:07,400 --> 00:32:11,760
Speaker 1: a baby, literally like nothing hurts. Honestly, she probably didn't

587
00:32:11,800 --> 00:32:15,520
Speaker 1: even know what was happening. She's probably like, oh, well, yep,

588
00:32:16,400 --> 00:32:17,320
Speaker 1: that's funny.

589
00:32:17,040 --> 00:32:20,360
Speaker 2: You said that about like she loved being in the

590
00:32:20,360 --> 00:32:23,160
Speaker 2: hospital and giving the labor part of it. She loved it.

591
00:32:23,240 --> 00:32:25,560
Speaker 2: She was like she got an epidural. She was just

592
00:32:25,680 --> 00:32:26,720
Speaker 2: posted up like.

593
00:32:28,480 --> 00:32:31,080
Speaker 1: The epidural is the best. But I was so scared

594
00:32:31,120 --> 00:32:33,360
Speaker 1: of that needle. I was so scared. Have you seen

595
00:32:33,400 --> 00:32:34,760
Speaker 1: an epidural at all?

596
00:32:35,200 --> 00:32:38,720
Speaker 2: I that would I if I ever am in the

597
00:32:38,760 --> 00:32:41,840
Speaker 2: position where I'm gonna need or choose to have an epidural,

598
00:32:41,880 --> 00:32:44,360
Speaker 2: I will not be able to see one beforehand because

599
00:32:44,600 --> 00:32:46,280
Speaker 2: the thought of a needle going back there.

600
00:32:47,160 --> 00:32:52,080
Speaker 1: Do not look it up because that I won't tell

601
00:32:52,120 --> 00:32:54,920
Speaker 1: you because I need you to get one, because you

602
00:32:55,040 --> 00:32:58,720
Speaker 1: need you have to call me because you're pregnant. I

603
00:32:58,720 --> 00:33:01,440
Speaker 1: don't know how far away you are, but I feel.

604
00:33:01,400 --> 00:33:02,440
Speaker 3: Far, but I will.

605
00:33:04,120 --> 00:33:10,320
Speaker 2: I mean, it's just like you know that that uh okay,

606
00:33:10,400 --> 00:33:15,320
Speaker 2: when you got your dog. When I got Phoebe, I

607
00:33:15,360 --> 00:33:18,160
Speaker 2: brought her home and there was a moment like a

608
00:33:18,200 --> 00:33:21,680
Speaker 2: weekend where I was like, I'm gonna have her for

609
00:33:21,720 --> 00:33:23,800
Speaker 2: a long time, like this is going to be my life,

610
00:33:23,840 --> 00:33:26,400
Speaker 2: Like I'm responsible for taking care of her for the

611
00:33:26,440 --> 00:33:29,400
Speaker 2: rest of her life, however long that may be. Yeah,

612
00:33:29,440 --> 00:33:32,040
Speaker 2: And I got a little overwhelmed by that feeling of

613
00:33:32,120 --> 00:33:35,880
Speaker 2: like this is I'm hers and she's mine.

614
00:33:36,800 --> 00:33:37,440
Speaker 1: Yeah.

615
00:33:38,640 --> 00:33:42,959
Speaker 2: Probably, And then I think about a child and like

616
00:33:43,160 --> 00:33:47,280
Speaker 2: they just even once they're eighteen and they're out of

617
00:33:47,280 --> 00:33:50,560
Speaker 2: the house whatever, and they're still on your mind forever.

618
00:33:50,720 --> 00:33:54,240
Speaker 1: I definitely, I definitely felt that, like you can never

619
00:33:54,320 --> 00:33:58,120
Speaker 1: go back. And it's the same you can never go

620
00:33:58,200 --> 00:34:00,600
Speaker 1: back from having a child. You can't rememberse it. I

621
00:34:00,680 --> 00:34:03,120
Speaker 1: felt that way when I got pregnant. I was like,

622
00:34:03,920 --> 00:34:07,120
Speaker 1: oh my gosh, it's in me, like it's not going anywhere,

623
00:34:07,240 --> 00:34:10,120
Speaker 1: Like I have to wait nine months for this thing

624
00:34:10,200 --> 00:34:15,359
Speaker 1: to grow, Like it's the it's the most crazy, most

625
00:34:15,360 --> 00:34:20,880
Speaker 1: beautiful experiences. But yeah, you definitely that hits you like

626
00:34:20,920 --> 00:34:23,520
Speaker 1: a ton of bricks and you're like I can't go back.

627
00:34:23,600 --> 00:34:25,200
Speaker 1: I will have kids forever now, forever.

628
00:34:25,960 --> 00:34:27,080
Speaker 2: So that's why it was good.

629
00:34:27,160 --> 00:34:33,279
Speaker 1: Like Carsian and I waited for five years after we

630
00:34:33,400 --> 00:34:35,960
Speaker 1: got married, and I feel like that was like that

631
00:34:36,120 --> 00:34:38,960
Speaker 1: was like a perfect amount of time. Like we started

632
00:34:39,000 --> 00:34:40,920
Speaker 1: that like the end of the five years, we were

633
00:34:40,920 --> 00:34:44,120
Speaker 1: like hmm, okay, what's next, Like we kind of like

634
00:34:44,160 --> 00:34:46,840
Speaker 1: sat there like, okay, what's next now? I think I

635
00:34:46,840 --> 00:34:48,680
Speaker 1: think kids are next, you know what I mean. So

636
00:34:48,760 --> 00:34:51,640
Speaker 1: like yeah, we felt like super ready. So that when

637
00:34:51,680 --> 00:34:55,040
Speaker 1: we did have Leo, it was like this is definitely

638
00:34:55,080 --> 00:34:56,520
Speaker 1: like we're good, you know what I mean. Like we

639
00:34:56,560 --> 00:35:01,160
Speaker 1: did our traveling, we did like lived in LA for

640
00:35:01,200 --> 00:35:04,560
Speaker 1: like three years. We like you know, went on my

641
00:35:04,640 --> 00:35:07,400
Speaker 1: career like full fource, like he's almost done to school.

642
00:35:07,440 --> 00:35:09,200
Speaker 1: So it was like a really it was a good

643
00:35:09,239 --> 00:35:13,480
Speaker 1: time for us. So for sure, take your time is

644
00:35:13,520 --> 00:35:15,000
Speaker 1: where I'm getting at.

645
00:35:15,320 --> 00:35:18,000
Speaker 2: I cannot believe it's been five years until I got married.

646
00:35:19,200 --> 00:35:22,480
Speaker 1: I know, it's really crazy because I met you before

647
00:35:22,480 --> 00:35:26,719
Speaker 1: we got married, yeah, or before we even got engaged.

648
00:35:26,800 --> 00:35:30,879
Speaker 2: Actually I met you. I met you when y'all were

649
00:35:31,560 --> 00:35:34,239
Speaker 2: I think he was on a mission or so he

650
00:35:34,440 --> 00:35:38,360
Speaker 2: was gone, like y'all weren't together technically, I guess.

651
00:35:38,040 --> 00:35:41,520
Speaker 1: No, yeah, no, he was in Romania yeah for two years,

652
00:35:41,640 --> 00:35:43,720
Speaker 1: but we still kind of wrote like here and there,

653
00:35:44,680 --> 00:35:47,800
Speaker 1: but we definitely weren't together. And then he came home

654
00:35:48,880 --> 00:35:52,720
Speaker 1: right after, right during Crystal season actually.

655
00:35:52,760 --> 00:35:54,720
Speaker 2: And y'all, we y'all were together since.

656
00:35:54,560 --> 00:36:00,239
Speaker 1: Then, and then after he came home from Crystals and

657
00:36:00,280 --> 00:36:03,799
Speaker 1: we were together. And then he proposed that year in October,

658
00:36:04,680 --> 00:36:05,600
Speaker 1: so we were He.

659
00:36:05,600 --> 00:36:09,799
Speaker 2: Was ready, he was ready to put a ring on it,

660
00:36:11,680 --> 00:36:12,240
Speaker 2: and I.

661
00:36:12,160 --> 00:36:15,279
Speaker 1: Was so ready too. I was like, oh, I like

662
00:36:15,680 --> 00:36:18,600
Speaker 1: compared to like the people that I dated in LA

663
00:36:18,920 --> 00:36:24,239
Speaker 1: I was like, never leave me, Like I'm like, seriously,

664
00:36:24,520 --> 00:36:26,439
Speaker 1: I need you to marry me right now.

665
00:36:27,600 --> 00:36:33,759
Speaker 2: So it was just but he's one of the greatest guys,

666
00:36:33,840 --> 00:36:36,720
Speaker 2: Like I will never forget. When we came to watch

667
00:36:36,800 --> 00:36:38,480
Speaker 2: you on Day Take the Stars, like you invited, it

668
00:36:38,520 --> 00:36:41,160
Speaker 2: was like me, Ali and a few other girls, and

669
00:36:41,200 --> 00:36:43,520
Speaker 2: he came and got us in his truck to make

670
00:36:43,560 --> 00:36:45,600
Speaker 2: sure like we weren't like came to get us so

671
00:36:45,640 --> 00:36:48,239
Speaker 2: that we weren't just like wandering around. And he is

672
00:36:48,320 --> 00:36:53,960
Speaker 2: just the sweetest and he's like so personable and funny

673
00:36:54,000 --> 00:36:54,960
Speaker 2: and he can dance.

674
00:36:55,160 --> 00:36:57,560
Speaker 3: That video you posted the other day of him dancing.

675
00:36:58,680 --> 00:37:03,040
Speaker 1: I chocked he did that. I am shocked. Anytime anytime

676
00:37:03,080 --> 00:37:05,920
Speaker 1: I film him on Instagram, he's like, please don't film me.

677
00:37:06,120 --> 00:37:10,160
Speaker 1: I don't want to be film I'm like, wow, okay,

678
00:37:10,320 --> 00:37:11,560
Speaker 1: I guess I won't film you.

679
00:37:12,320 --> 00:37:13,600
Speaker 2: But I got him.

680
00:37:13,880 --> 00:37:16,320
Speaker 1: I got him. I was like, if I'm going to

681
00:37:16,400 --> 00:37:19,840
Speaker 1: get you a dirt bike for your birthday, only if

682
00:37:19,960 --> 00:37:22,600
Speaker 1: you do this with me, Like you need to do this.

683
00:37:23,480 --> 00:37:25,640
Speaker 1: And it took him a few minutes. He's the type

684
00:37:25,640 --> 00:37:28,160
Speaker 1: of personality though, like if he's given a challenge and

685
00:37:28,200 --> 00:37:30,839
Speaker 1: he starts it, he has to finish it, like it

686
00:37:30,880 --> 00:37:33,200
Speaker 1: has to be the best. So I knew if I

687
00:37:33,320 --> 00:37:36,000
Speaker 1: just like got him in just a little bit, if

688
00:37:36,000 --> 00:37:39,840
Speaker 1: I just like started teaching him, he would he wouldn't

689
00:37:39,880 --> 00:37:41,680
Speaker 1: like be able to stop until he got.

690
00:37:41,520 --> 00:37:45,520
Speaker 2: It well, I mean beyond him. Just like learning the dance.

691
00:37:45,600 --> 00:37:48,279
Speaker 2: I was shocked at the rhythm because he's tall, He's

692
00:37:48,320 --> 00:37:51,719
Speaker 2: like really tall, and yeah, I just was not prepared.

693
00:37:51,760 --> 00:37:54,120
Speaker 2: And Ally I sent it to Ali and I was like,

694
00:37:54,719 --> 00:37:57,480
Speaker 2: what can they not do? Like this couple is just

695
00:37:58,200 --> 00:37:59,799
Speaker 2: like what are they not good at?

696
00:38:00,160 --> 00:38:03,640
Speaker 1: So funny? Oh my gosh, he was a good sport

697
00:38:03,680 --> 00:38:06,839
Speaker 1: about it for sure, but I think he secretly likes it.

698
00:38:06,960 --> 00:38:09,480
Speaker 1: Like I think he secretly like gets a rush and

699
00:38:09,520 --> 00:38:12,120
Speaker 1: he's like, oh, yeah, that was that was pretty fun.

700
00:38:12,280 --> 00:38:16,000
Speaker 1: Yeah it was fun. Like you loved it, you loved it,

701
00:38:16,080 --> 00:38:17,920
Speaker 1: just to admit it. Oh my gosh.

702
00:38:19,080 --> 00:38:21,040
Speaker 2: I would love to watch, like all the Dancing with

703
00:38:21,080 --> 00:38:24,120
Speaker 2: the Star pros, if they have girlfriends or spouses or whatever,

704
00:38:24,320 --> 00:38:26,240
Speaker 2: dance a season with their.

705
00:38:26,600 --> 00:38:29,200
Speaker 1: People discuss that. They're always like why don't you go

706
00:38:29,400 --> 00:38:31,759
Speaker 1: dancing with the spouse, Like, why don't you do that?

707
00:38:32,440 --> 00:38:35,880
Speaker 1: And I think just I think, you know, our fans,

708
00:38:35,920 --> 00:38:38,440
Speaker 1: fans are like other people who know us would be interested.

709
00:38:38,480 --> 00:38:41,200
Speaker 1: I just don't know if like everybody would, I would

710
00:38:41,360 --> 00:38:45,719
Speaker 1: watch that. I think I love that. Yeah yeah, I

711
00:38:45,719 --> 00:38:48,400
Speaker 1: think it would be really fun and cute and different

712
00:38:49,640 --> 00:38:52,440
Speaker 1: and just to like see the relationship too, of like

713
00:38:52,600 --> 00:38:55,960
Speaker 1: if they like fight more, if they like grow closer together,

714
00:38:56,520 --> 00:39:00,839
Speaker 1: or like, it would be interesting that dynamic make for sure?

715
00:39:02,600 --> 00:39:03,480
Speaker 3: Are you going back?

716
00:39:03,560 --> 00:39:03,759
Speaker 1: When?

717
00:39:03,880 --> 00:39:06,320
Speaker 2: What's your plan with Dancing of the Stars.

718
00:39:07,680 --> 00:39:10,440
Speaker 1: As of right now, I'm planning on it, so I

719
00:39:10,480 --> 00:39:15,240
Speaker 1: don't know. I mean, we'll know more probably next month,

720
00:39:15,320 --> 00:39:19,080
Speaker 1: probably the end next month, But as of right now,

721
00:39:19,120 --> 00:39:21,520
Speaker 1: I haven't really heard anything. They're kind of like in hiatus,

722
00:39:21,560 --> 00:39:24,200
Speaker 1: like trying to gather all the celebrities and stuff. So

723
00:39:25,400 --> 00:39:27,920
Speaker 1: we'll see. But that's the plan for me. If they don't,

724
00:39:28,000 --> 00:39:32,080
Speaker 1: then I'll just figure something else out, because I don't

725
00:39:32,080 --> 00:39:34,239
Speaker 1: know if you knew that I did the Game Show

726
00:39:34,320 --> 00:39:36,000
Speaker 1: with Alfonso did you know that?

727
00:39:36,400 --> 00:39:38,399
Speaker 2: Oh yeah, yeah, so I did that.

728
00:39:38,320 --> 00:39:42,680
Speaker 1: In Vegas, not last year, but the year before, and

729
00:39:42,719 --> 00:39:46,560
Speaker 1: then with COVID we couldn't film and so it was

730
00:39:46,600 --> 00:39:50,640
Speaker 1: on you know, Game Show Network, so like nobody watched it,

731
00:39:51,640 --> 00:39:53,120
Speaker 1: so I totally got canceled.

732
00:39:54,360 --> 00:39:57,600
Speaker 2: Oh so, well, you know, it's hard with like now

733
00:39:57,719 --> 00:40:00,399
Speaker 2: how they do TV and how they're doing show which

734
00:40:00,480 --> 00:40:04,000
Speaker 2: is all like streaming on Netflix and Hulu and Amazon.

735
00:40:04,040 --> 00:40:06,480
Speaker 2: It's like hard to I mean, you have like the

736
00:40:06,600 --> 00:40:09,520
Speaker 2: consistent shows that are on like Primetime, like Dancing with

737
00:40:09,520 --> 00:40:11,680
Speaker 2: the Star as a Bachelor and all those, but like

738
00:40:12,400 --> 00:40:16,080
Speaker 2: I think it's really I would find it very intimidating

739
00:40:16,120 --> 00:40:19,799
Speaker 2: and challenging to start a pilot show right now that's

740
00:40:19,840 --> 00:40:22,120
Speaker 2: a weekly sure's on release.

741
00:40:22,320 --> 00:40:25,120
Speaker 1: Yeah, that's only on cable too. It's like you can't

742
00:40:25,160 --> 00:40:29,160
Speaker 1: really find the Game Show Network on Hulu or Netflix

743
00:40:29,280 --> 00:40:31,279
Speaker 1: or any of those, Like, it's really just like for

744
00:40:31,360 --> 00:40:34,359
Speaker 1: the people who sit down and watch TV like at night.

745
00:40:34,960 --> 00:40:38,120
Speaker 1: So especially because we didn't have new episodes coming out,

746
00:40:38,360 --> 00:40:41,239
Speaker 1: you know, it just we didn't get enough used. But

747
00:40:41,760 --> 00:40:43,799
Speaker 1: that was really fun. So I'm like, I'll just have

748
00:40:43,840 --> 00:40:46,960
Speaker 1: to figure something else out. Maybe I'll have to come

749
00:40:47,000 --> 00:40:49,800
Speaker 1: over there and describing in.

750
00:40:50,040 --> 00:40:56,600
Speaker 2: Everyone are just like our celebrity consistent co hosts.

751
00:40:56,640 --> 00:41:00,319
Speaker 1: Yeah, I'll be your celebrity co host every week. I'll

752
00:41:00,320 --> 00:41:01,200
Speaker 1: just move out for that.

753
00:41:02,320 --> 00:41:04,719
Speaker 3: Yeah, we'll do dance classes.

754
00:41:04,800 --> 00:41:10,120
Speaker 2: It'll be great. So you and how old is Lindsay's

755
00:41:10,160 --> 00:41:12,520
Speaker 2: little girl? You and Lindsay Lindsay from Dancing a Star.

756
00:41:12,640 --> 00:41:14,759
Speaker 2: She had her baby.

757
00:41:15,040 --> 00:41:18,040
Speaker 1: Yeah, she had her baby in November and Leo was

758
00:41:18,080 --> 00:41:22,720
Speaker 1: born in January, so they're about a few months apart.

759
00:41:23,000 --> 00:41:29,640
Speaker 2: There. Are you gonna have an arranged marriage? I hope.

760
00:41:29,800 --> 00:41:33,200
Speaker 1: So, I mean I think that would be really fun.

761
00:41:33,440 --> 00:41:36,480
Speaker 1: But who knows. Everyone's like, are they going to be

762
00:41:36,560 --> 00:41:40,120
Speaker 1: dance partners? Are they gonna be a friend and boyfriend?

763
00:41:40,840 --> 00:41:43,759
Speaker 1: I'm like, I don't know, you guys, They're.

764
00:41:43,520 --> 00:41:44,439
Speaker 2: Like, it's hard to say.

765
00:41:44,480 --> 00:41:45,239
Speaker 3: It's hard to say.

766
00:41:45,320 --> 00:41:46,919
Speaker 2: Right now, it's hard to say.

767
00:41:47,320 --> 00:41:49,480
Speaker 1: It's hard to really say. I'm like, I guess they

768
00:41:49,480 --> 00:41:53,640
Speaker 1: should just choose for themselves, is what telling me to do?

769
00:41:54,440 --> 00:41:55,720
Speaker 3: That's that's a good answer.

770
00:41:55,760 --> 00:42:10,160
Speaker 5: Honestly, do you love witty sarcasm and talking fast?

771
00:42:10,200 --> 00:42:12,080
Speaker 6: And are you longing to return to stars Hollow for

772
00:42:12,160 --> 00:42:13,960
Speaker 6: one more trip to Kim's Antique? So just to pick

773
00:42:14,040 --> 00:42:16,520
Speaker 6: up a few things at Dosie's Market is an overnight's day.

774
00:42:16,520 --> 00:42:18,239
Speaker 6: It's a dragonfly in on your list of plans for

775
00:42:18,239 --> 00:42:19,920
Speaker 6: a getaway is a burger from Luke Steiner.

776
00:42:19,960 --> 00:42:21,880
Speaker 5: On the menu for tonight, this is Scott Patterson.

777
00:42:22,080 --> 00:42:23,960
Speaker 6: I was Luke Danes for one hundred and fifty three

778
00:42:24,000 --> 00:42:26,520
Speaker 6: episodes and in four Netflix movies.

779
00:42:26,760 --> 00:42:28,920
Speaker 5: I Am all In an iHeartRadio podcast.

780
00:42:28,960 --> 00:42:29,879
Speaker 4: Come hang with us.

781
00:42:29,920 --> 00:42:33,680
Speaker 6: We're read watching together, We're visiting with all our favorite

782
00:42:33,680 --> 00:42:34,680
Speaker 6: cast and crew members.

783
00:42:34,719 --> 00:42:35,920
Speaker 4: We talk fast, We've.

784
00:42:35,760 --> 00:42:36,680
Speaker 6: Got a lot to say.

785
00:42:37,000 --> 00:42:52,680
Speaker 4: Listen to I them all in wherever you listen to podcasts.

786
00:42:55,280 --> 00:42:58,720
Speaker 2: So in our show, we normally do emails where people

787
00:42:59,040 --> 00:43:01,680
Speaker 2: will write it and ask for advice. So I feel

788
00:43:01,760 --> 00:43:05,000
Speaker 2: I felt like it'd be fun for you to join me.

789
00:43:05,080 --> 00:43:09,680
Speaker 2: I mean, Tanya and I we always kind of differ

790
00:43:09,760 --> 00:43:12,000
Speaker 2: in the advice that we give because we have very

791
00:43:12,040 --> 00:43:16,200
Speaker 2: different personalities, so I'm curious to see. But Mark's going

792
00:43:16,280 --> 00:43:16,640
Speaker 2: to read.

793
00:43:16,800 --> 00:43:17,960
Speaker 1: Are you guys that different?

794
00:43:19,760 --> 00:43:21,439
Speaker 3: Mark say we are.

795
00:43:21,520 --> 00:43:21,800
Speaker 2: Yes.

796
00:43:22,080 --> 00:43:26,120
Speaker 7: Most of our listeners divide themselves into groups. I'm a Tanya,

797
00:43:26,200 --> 00:43:28,719
Speaker 7: I'm a Becca because they're pretty different personalities.

798
00:43:30,239 --> 00:43:35,520
Speaker 2: Yeah, we're pretty different. So yeah, that like our advice,

799
00:43:36,160 --> 00:43:39,719
Speaker 2: though I don't know that either of us give great advice.

800
00:43:40,000 --> 00:43:41,160
Speaker 2: It's always very different.

801
00:43:42,800 --> 00:43:45,080
Speaker 1: I know that you're healthy and you're not the healthy one,

802
00:43:45,120 --> 00:43:46,280
Speaker 1: and she's the healthy one.

803
00:43:46,800 --> 00:43:48,960
Speaker 3: Well, yeah, that's definitely the case.

804
00:43:49,840 --> 00:43:51,840
Speaker 7: And by the way, when my first daughter was born,

805
00:43:52,000 --> 00:43:53,880
Speaker 7: that was the day they decided to have the doctor

806
00:43:53,960 --> 00:43:56,759
Speaker 7: training the younger doctor on how to administer an epidural.

807
00:43:57,680 --> 00:43:59,920
Speaker 2: Oh, that's my first night.

808
00:44:01,040 --> 00:44:04,400
Speaker 7: She missed because she felt all of it and they

809
00:44:04,400 --> 00:44:06,120
Speaker 7: had to come back and do it again because they

810
00:44:06,160 --> 00:44:07,359
Speaker 7: did it wrong in the first time.

811
00:44:07,440 --> 00:44:11,520
Speaker 2: It was bad. That literally makes me feel like I

812
00:44:11,560 --> 00:44:12,880
Speaker 2: want to Yeah.

813
00:44:13,480 --> 00:44:15,000
Speaker 7: I don't want to say where I was, but rhaps

814
00:44:15,000 --> 00:44:19,120
Speaker 7: a Schmeiser schmermanente. All right, here we go. This is

815
00:44:19,160 --> 00:44:22,840
Speaker 7: an anonymous email. I need some advice about a tricky situation.

816
00:44:23,320 --> 00:44:26,719
Speaker 7: My childhood best friend is absolutely beautiful but very self

817
00:44:26,800 --> 00:44:30,080
Speaker 7: conscious about her body. When she posts pictures on social media.

818
00:44:30,280 --> 00:44:33,440
Speaker 7: She heavily face tunes and photoshops her face and body

819
00:44:33,880 --> 00:44:37,240
Speaker 7: is bad enough that she's completely unrecognizable and barely looks human.

820
00:44:37,680 --> 00:44:40,279
Speaker 7: Mutual friends talk about it behind her back and poke

821
00:44:40,360 --> 00:44:42,800
Speaker 7: fun at the photos. We are close enough where I

822
00:44:42,840 --> 00:44:44,640
Speaker 7: feel like I can talk to her about anything. But

823
00:44:44,719 --> 00:44:46,600
Speaker 7: is there a way I can gently say something about

824
00:44:46,640 --> 00:44:49,080
Speaker 7: the over editing to her? Or should I just leave

825
00:44:49,080 --> 00:44:50,839
Speaker 7: it alone allow her to do something that makes her

826
00:44:50,840 --> 00:44:53,440
Speaker 7: feel more confident. I hate that people are seeing the

827
00:44:53,440 --> 00:44:56,439
Speaker 7: photos and making fun of them, especially since she could

828
00:44:56,440 --> 00:44:59,160
Speaker 7: post a beautiful, natural photo of herself and people would

829
00:44:59,239 --> 00:45:00,840
Speaker 7: only have positive of things to say.

830
00:45:01,080 --> 00:45:06,960
Speaker 2: Help. This is tricky because I think we all deal

831
00:45:07,080 --> 00:45:13,680
Speaker 2: with body and just like physical insecurities of how we look,

832
00:45:13,719 --> 00:45:20,000
Speaker 2: and I think we're just totally innundated with unrealistic expectations

833
00:45:20,000 --> 00:45:23,360
Speaker 2: of how we're supposed to look and how our bodies

834
00:45:23,360 --> 00:45:25,640
Speaker 2: are supposed to look, and we're not supposed to have

835
00:45:25,719 --> 00:45:28,880
Speaker 2: any texture on our body or our face or you know,

836
00:45:28,960 --> 00:45:32,200
Speaker 2: it's like it's just not realistic. And I don't know

837
00:45:32,239 --> 00:45:35,520
Speaker 2: if you I mean, I've definitely had times in my

838
00:45:35,600 --> 00:45:38,919
Speaker 2: life where I've I was looking at photos from like

839
00:45:39,200 --> 00:45:42,279
Speaker 2: twenty seventeen ish and I had really I'd gone through

840
00:45:42,280 --> 00:45:46,760
Speaker 2: like a really bad acne situation. I blurred my face

841
00:45:46,920 --> 00:45:50,000
Speaker 2: so much, I looked like a mannequin. I'm like, why

842
00:45:50,000 --> 00:45:53,799
Speaker 2: did I even think that that was better than just

843
00:45:53,960 --> 00:45:57,800
Speaker 2: me looking like myself? You know, like we do things

844
00:45:58,160 --> 00:46:02,240
Speaker 2: that make us feel good even though it's not real.

845
00:46:02,400 --> 00:46:04,080
Speaker 3: So Whitney, what are you thinking?

846
00:46:05,120 --> 00:46:11,040
Speaker 1: You definitely start to conform to society, like especially Instagram.

847
00:46:11,120 --> 00:46:14,600
Speaker 1: It's like everybody feels like they have to put on

848
00:46:14,719 --> 00:46:18,480
Speaker 1: this perfect display of their life or their body, and

849
00:46:18,560 --> 00:46:22,080
Speaker 1: it's so unhealthy. And I feel like I just started

850
00:46:22,120 --> 00:46:26,239
Speaker 1: to realize that honestly, like this year, like after like

851
00:46:26,320 --> 00:46:28,840
Speaker 1: having a baby and my body going through all these changes.

852
00:46:29,600 --> 00:46:32,880
Speaker 1: So I that's a hard situation because you don't want

853
00:46:32,920 --> 00:46:38,120
Speaker 1: to like downplay like her confidence. But you also, I

854
00:46:38,120 --> 00:46:40,439
Speaker 1: think you can say it in a way of like, hey,

855
00:46:40,560 --> 00:46:44,360
Speaker 1: you are so beautiful without any of those filters. You

856
00:46:44,400 --> 00:46:48,960
Speaker 1: don't need any of that, And I feel like it

857
00:46:49,040 --> 00:46:52,000
Speaker 1: makes you more relatable, Like people can actually look at

858
00:46:52,000 --> 00:46:54,080
Speaker 1: you and be like, oh, you know what, she does

859
00:46:54,200 --> 00:46:57,080
Speaker 1: have acne on her face, or she does have a

860
00:46:57,080 --> 00:46:58,360
Speaker 1: little bit of.

861
00:46:58,480 --> 00:47:00,640
Speaker 2: Curves, and that's totally fine.

862
00:47:00,680 --> 00:47:02,640
Speaker 1: It's totally normal, and you don't need to feel like,

863
00:47:03,080 --> 00:47:04,560
Speaker 1: you know, you have to put on a show. I

864
00:47:04,640 --> 00:47:06,759
Speaker 1: feel like I would just go about it in if

865
00:47:06,800 --> 00:47:09,200
Speaker 1: you're as close to her as she's saying she is,

866
00:47:09,239 --> 00:47:10,480
Speaker 1: I feel like I would go about it in a

867
00:47:10,480 --> 00:47:13,040
Speaker 1: way of like you don't need that stuff, like just

868
00:47:13,080 --> 00:47:15,399
Speaker 1: get rid of that stuff and show everybody like who

869
00:47:15,440 --> 00:47:17,440
Speaker 1: you are and you're beautiful. Like I would just do

870
00:47:17,480 --> 00:47:21,279
Speaker 1: it maybe that way of like encouraging instead of like,

871
00:47:21,480 --> 00:47:24,439
Speaker 1: you know, I don't know, that's how probably I would

872
00:47:24,480 --> 00:47:24,799
Speaker 1: say it.

873
00:47:25,600 --> 00:47:26,720
Speaker 3: I know it's so tricky.

874
00:47:26,840 --> 00:47:28,640
Speaker 2: I think the best thing that you can do as

875
00:47:28,640 --> 00:47:33,600
Speaker 2: her friend is to really be someone who reminds her

876
00:47:33,600 --> 00:47:36,560
Speaker 2: of how beautiful she is and like the features that

877
00:47:36,680 --> 00:47:39,840
Speaker 2: make her beautiful, and like the things that she doesn't

878
00:47:39,880 --> 00:47:43,560
Speaker 2: need to change to post. And I think it's easier

879
00:47:43,600 --> 00:47:46,600
Speaker 2: said than done because those conversations, no matter how close

880
00:47:46,680 --> 00:47:51,799
Speaker 2: you are to someone there, you never want to make

881
00:47:51,920 --> 00:47:56,200
Speaker 2: someone like you never want to add to the insecurity

882
00:47:56,400 --> 00:48:00,000
Speaker 2: or like yeah, exactly the insecurity.

883
00:48:00,440 --> 00:48:04,040
Speaker 1: She really needs that for her confidence, Like maybe she

884
00:48:04,120 --> 00:48:07,759
Speaker 1: really needs that attention for her confidence. So you don't

885
00:48:07,800 --> 00:48:10,040
Speaker 1: really want to like go too deep. But you also

886
00:48:10,080 --> 00:48:13,360
Speaker 1: want to. Yeah, and that one's tricky. That one's really tricky.

887
00:48:13,440 --> 00:48:15,360
Speaker 1: Even like my mom, I feel like I feel like

888
00:48:15,400 --> 00:48:19,760
Speaker 1: she puts so many filters on, and I'll just feel like, Mom,

889
00:48:19,800 --> 00:48:23,279
Speaker 1: you do not need to filter, Like your face is

890
00:48:23,400 --> 00:48:25,759
Speaker 1: so pretty, do not need that kind of like I

891
00:48:25,760 --> 00:48:28,440
Speaker 1: would approach it like that way. Well.

892
00:48:28,520 --> 00:48:31,080
Speaker 2: I even saw you were posting something the other day

893
00:48:31,080 --> 00:48:34,440
Speaker 2: about like the Instagram story filters and how you were like,

894
00:48:34,680 --> 00:48:38,279
Speaker 2: I feel like I have gotten used to just like

895
00:48:38,360 --> 00:48:41,839
Speaker 2: depending on these, which you do too, Like I have

896
00:48:42,080 --> 00:48:46,160
Speaker 2: discolouration like milasma and hyperplementation, and so I normally I

897
00:48:46,239 --> 00:48:50,160
Speaker 2: try to avoid any filters that change my like facial

898
00:48:50,200 --> 00:48:52,640
Speaker 2: feature shapes. Yeah yeah, but like if it like smoothed

899
00:48:52,640 --> 00:48:55,239
Speaker 2: my scanner makes me like tanner or whatever. But then

900
00:48:55,280 --> 00:48:57,560
Speaker 2: I see my face without it, and I'm like oh,

901
00:48:57,600 --> 00:49:00,200
Speaker 2: and I'm like why am I? Like why do you

902
00:49:00,280 --> 00:49:02,759
Speaker 2: do this? Why are we in this weird place with

903
00:49:03,280 --> 00:49:07,000
Speaker 2: social media where we're dictating how we look based off

904
00:49:07,080 --> 00:49:11,960
Speaker 2: this fake what do you call it? Filter art?

905
00:49:12,800 --> 00:49:15,880
Speaker 1: Yeah? Exactly. I don't know. It's just it's just a

906
00:49:15,920 --> 00:49:18,440
Speaker 1: way that like we've all kind of conformed to, and

907
00:49:18,480 --> 00:49:20,920
Speaker 1: it's like it's actually like really sad, Like it was

908
00:49:21,000 --> 00:49:23,759
Speaker 1: bugging me that I felt like I couldn't just look

909
00:49:23,800 --> 00:49:26,759
Speaker 1: at my face like regularly on a camera, Like I'm

910
00:49:26,760 --> 00:49:29,440
Speaker 1: like that actually, like doesn't make me feel good that

911
00:49:29,520 --> 00:49:32,600
Speaker 1: I can't like just look at myself without a filter.

912
00:49:32,920 --> 00:49:35,839
Speaker 1: Like that is just so bizarrely when you think about it.

913
00:49:35,920 --> 00:49:40,000
Speaker 2: But well, it's weird for me because we always like

914
00:49:40,040 --> 00:49:42,759
Speaker 2: I always talk about my uh like jaw line right

915
00:49:42,760 --> 00:49:46,040
Speaker 2: here because I don't like my profile, and Sally is

916
00:49:46,080 --> 00:49:49,040
Speaker 2: the same, and we'll be like, we need Whitney's jawline.

917
00:49:49,160 --> 00:49:53,120
Speaker 2: That's oh my gosh, you know that.

918
00:49:53,239 --> 00:49:58,360
Speaker 1: But actually called me Crimson Chin in high school? Do

919
00:49:58,400 --> 00:49:59,200
Speaker 1: you know that character?

920
00:50:00,280 --> 00:50:01,400
Speaker 3: No, I don't know what that is.

921
00:50:01,840 --> 00:50:04,520
Speaker 1: It's just a it's a cartoon character where his chin

922
00:50:04,640 --> 00:50:08,080
Speaker 1: is just like huge, it's massive, and like people would

923
00:50:08,080 --> 00:50:09,880
Speaker 1: call me that in high school. So like at one

924
00:50:09,960 --> 00:50:12,719
Speaker 1: point I was totally insecure about my chin.

925
00:50:13,480 --> 00:50:16,400
Speaker 2: Okay, see this, this is what I'm saying. This is

926
00:50:16,440 --> 00:50:22,279
Speaker 2: the craziest thing because literally it's sad how often we

927
00:50:22,360 --> 00:50:24,239
Speaker 2: reference your jaw but we do.

928
00:50:25,239 --> 00:50:26,439
Speaker 3: We need the Whitney jaw.

929
00:50:27,160 --> 00:50:31,759
Speaker 2: But it's just it it's weird because there is this

930
00:50:31,920 --> 00:50:34,319
Speaker 2: certain I actually did a podcast the other day where

931
00:50:34,320 --> 00:50:36,120
Speaker 2: I was talking to these girls and we were talking

932
00:50:36,120 --> 00:50:41,040
Speaker 2: about how there's some comfort in knowing that every single person,

933
00:50:41,160 --> 00:50:44,680
Speaker 2: like even the people that you think are perfect, yeah,

934
00:50:45,040 --> 00:50:48,720
Speaker 2: still struggle with how they look or body image or whatever.

935
00:50:48,840 --> 00:50:52,200
Speaker 2: So yeah, I'm curious Mark, if if your daughter was

936
00:50:52,239 --> 00:50:54,600
Speaker 2: in a position where she was posting photos and they

937
00:50:54,600 --> 00:50:57,359
Speaker 2: didn't even look like herself, would you address it? Yeah,

938
00:50:57,440 --> 00:50:58,799
Speaker 2: or how would you address I would?

939
00:50:58,880 --> 00:51:01,240
Speaker 7: But also I don't I don't know that that dad

940
00:51:01,360 --> 00:51:03,840
Speaker 7: is going to have much of an impact there. I

941
00:51:03,880 --> 00:51:06,120
Speaker 7: think coming from her friend, like in this email, I

942
00:51:06,160 --> 00:51:07,640
Speaker 7: think that would help a little bit more, But I

943
00:51:07,640 --> 00:51:09,959
Speaker 7: think those issues run deep. I don't think a little

944
00:51:10,000 --> 00:51:12,120
Speaker 7: positive reinforcement is going to help. But maybe a little

945
00:51:12,120 --> 00:51:15,839
Speaker 7: bit over time gradually will help if you just keep

946
00:51:15,840 --> 00:51:17,680
Speaker 7: building her up over time. And I'm wondering if there's

947
00:51:17,719 --> 00:51:20,400
Speaker 7: like an occasion, is there, like a no filter day

948
00:51:20,520 --> 00:51:22,640
Speaker 7: or something, and like you can kind of build towards

949
00:51:22,640 --> 00:51:24,240
Speaker 7: that and on that day or maybe on her birthday

950
00:51:24,320 --> 00:51:25,600
Speaker 7: or something like, oh, you should totally do a no

951
00:51:25,680 --> 00:51:27,799
Speaker 7: filter post today because it would be still great, and

952
00:51:27,840 --> 00:51:30,799
Speaker 7: then when all the positive feedback comes in, it might

953
00:51:30,880 --> 00:51:33,359
Speaker 7: help in the long term that having said all that,

954
00:51:33,680 --> 00:51:35,759
Speaker 7: I have touched up my appearance on the Zoom hit

955
00:51:35,920 --> 00:51:37,759
Speaker 7: all the way up right now, So maybe I'm not

956
00:51:37,760 --> 00:51:39,440
Speaker 7: the best one to ask how do.

957
00:51:39,400 --> 00:51:41,359
Speaker 2: You do that?

958
00:51:42,400 --> 00:51:53,200
Speaker 8: Okay conversation as we're talking about no filter, no and.

959
00:51:53,120 --> 00:51:55,400
Speaker 1: I feel like that's what's so important for like you

960
00:51:55,440 --> 00:51:58,799
Speaker 1: and I Beck and like people like who have a

961
00:51:58,840 --> 00:52:03,920
Speaker 1: platform like to like influence younger people, because I just

962
00:52:03,960 --> 00:52:04,880
Speaker 1: feel like they.

963
00:52:04,760 --> 00:52:05,840
Speaker 2: Are just so warped.

964
00:52:05,880 --> 00:52:10,680
Speaker 1: Like my sister's seventeen, and it's just like she literally

965
00:52:10,719 --> 00:52:14,760
Speaker 1: had to delete Instagram because she felt so bad about herself.

966
00:52:15,360 --> 00:52:17,759
Speaker 1: And I was like, that should not be happening, Like

967
00:52:17,840 --> 00:52:20,360
Speaker 1: that should like Instagram should be a place where we

968
00:52:20,480 --> 00:52:26,360
Speaker 1: can look at beautiful photos, connect with people, inspire people,

969
00:52:26,840 --> 00:52:31,000
Speaker 1: you know, give them amazing stuff to be inspired by

970
00:52:31,080 --> 00:52:33,439
Speaker 1: every day. Like it shouldn't hit place where we feel

971
00:52:33,480 --> 00:52:34,640
Speaker 1: like we have to delete it.

972
00:52:35,239 --> 00:52:38,400
Speaker 2: And so I just was, I mean, I've it's crazy

973
00:52:38,480 --> 00:52:42,200
Speaker 2: to think that as someone who's seventeen feels that way,

974
00:52:42,200 --> 00:52:45,680
Speaker 2: because I've dealt with that of being like noticing that

975
00:52:45,719 --> 00:52:47,560
Speaker 2: every time I got on Instagram, I was just it

976
00:52:47,600 --> 00:52:50,319
Speaker 2: made me feel worse, you know, And I went through

977
00:52:50,360 --> 00:52:53,040
Speaker 2: a phase in that, like especially kind of earlier on

978
00:52:53,120 --> 00:52:56,719
Speaker 2: like Fresh off the Bachelor and where I had to

979
00:52:56,760 --> 00:52:58,359
Speaker 2: delete it, but you know, I was in my mid

980
00:52:58,480 --> 00:53:01,719
Speaker 2: late twenties and I can't. I'm so I'm honestly so

981
00:53:01,920 --> 00:53:05,560
Speaker 2: grateful that in my high school time and like those

982
00:53:05,960 --> 00:53:09,640
Speaker 2: years that I never even thought twy, I posted every

983
00:53:09,680 --> 00:53:11,960
Speaker 2: single photo I took on my digital camera and went

984
00:53:12,040 --> 00:53:13,000
Speaker 2: up on Facebook.

985
00:53:13,400 --> 00:53:16,000
Speaker 3: No edits no touchdown.

986
00:53:15,560 --> 00:53:15,960
Speaker 2: Tells me.

987
00:53:17,000 --> 00:53:19,440
Speaker 1: I totally remember that too, And they just have it

988
00:53:19,560 --> 00:53:22,480
Speaker 1: so much harder. I feel like it's like this younger

989
00:53:22,520 --> 00:53:24,719
Speaker 1: generation have its so much harder, because I felt that

990
00:53:24,800 --> 00:53:27,000
Speaker 1: same way too. I felt like I had just okay,

991
00:53:27,080 --> 00:53:29,520
Speaker 1: I need to get off Instagram, like I'm just comparing

992
00:53:29,560 --> 00:53:33,040
Speaker 1: myself to all these girls and just going down like

993
00:53:33,120 --> 00:53:36,440
Speaker 1: a dark sat and I'm just like, we need to

994
00:53:36,440 --> 00:53:39,880
Speaker 1: figure out a way where we can not make people

995
00:53:39,880 --> 00:53:42,120
Speaker 1: feel that way. It's just kind of it's just hard

996
00:53:42,160 --> 00:53:44,040
Speaker 1: to do, so we'll just have to maybe over time

997
00:53:44,200 --> 00:53:45,000
Speaker 1: figure it out.

998
00:53:45,560 --> 00:53:45,799
Speaker 7: I know.

999
00:53:45,880 --> 00:53:48,160
Speaker 2: And I do think it starts with like people having

1000
00:53:48,200 --> 00:53:52,600
Speaker 2: the platform and posting photos where they're not contorting their

1001
00:53:52,640 --> 00:53:56,239
Speaker 2: bodies or their you know, faces, whatever it is. But

1002
00:53:56,880 --> 00:53:59,000
Speaker 2: I think a lot of it is this younger generation

1003
00:53:59,280 --> 00:54:02,200
Speaker 2: and then I will say, I do notice, like a

1004
00:54:02,239 --> 00:54:04,879
Speaker 2: lot of the girls that are popular on TikTok there,

1005
00:54:05,040 --> 00:54:06,960
Speaker 2: they don't really do a lot of edits or anything

1006
00:54:06,960 --> 00:54:10,080
Speaker 2: to their photos, and like won't use a ton of filters, some.

1007
00:54:10,000 --> 00:54:11,040
Speaker 3: Of the ones that I follow.

1008
00:54:11,320 --> 00:54:14,840
Speaker 2: Yeah, so I'm hoping that they kind of bring back

1009
00:54:15,000 --> 00:54:18,840
Speaker 2: the beauty of being natural and being like confident in

1010
00:54:18,880 --> 00:54:22,360
Speaker 2: yourself and your body. And because our generation kind of

1011
00:54:22,640 --> 00:54:25,840
Speaker 2: was like you need to be a stick thin and

1012
00:54:25,920 --> 00:54:29,920
Speaker 2: be able to wear low rise jeans and you know,

1013
00:54:31,239 --> 00:54:36,680
Speaker 2: this unattainable standard. Yeah so, I don't know, I like

1014
00:54:36,760 --> 00:54:39,600
Speaker 2: literally don't know what advice I would say except to

1015
00:54:39,680 --> 00:54:42,520
Speaker 2: build them up and constantly remind her of how beautiful

1016
00:54:42,600 --> 00:54:45,960
Speaker 2: she is and how the things that you love about her,

1017
00:54:46,000 --> 00:54:49,359
Speaker 2: and and maybe even talk about this type of conversation

1018
00:54:49,840 --> 00:54:51,879
Speaker 2: to her and not even make it directly at her,

1019
00:54:51,920 --> 00:54:55,360
Speaker 2: and just talk about like how there's so much pressure

1020
00:54:55,400 --> 00:54:57,880
Speaker 2: to look a certain way and how you even feel that,

1021
00:54:57,960 --> 00:55:00,439
Speaker 2: and then you know, maybe it'll resonate with her.

1022
00:55:01,239 --> 00:55:01,680
Speaker 3: I don't know.

1023
00:55:01,800 --> 00:55:05,680
Speaker 2: It's a tough one. I don't really sorry we brought

1024
00:55:06,040 --> 00:55:07,520
Speaker 2: on a tough question.

1025
00:55:08,360 --> 00:55:11,120
Speaker 1: Yeah, no, that is tough, and it's also a really

1026
00:55:11,239 --> 00:55:15,919
Speaker 1: sensitive subject. Too, like you don't want to. I think

1027
00:55:16,160 --> 00:55:20,440
Speaker 1: maybe my personality because I'm pretty blunt. If if I

1028
00:55:20,560 --> 00:55:24,200
Speaker 1: were close enough, like if it were my sister, I'd

1029
00:55:24,200 --> 00:55:27,719
Speaker 1: be like, get rid of those filters. That that is

1030
00:55:27,760 --> 00:55:30,560
Speaker 1: not good. Like I would almost just be like, no,

1031
00:55:30,760 --> 00:55:33,719
Speaker 1: that's not cool. You're showing people that this is an

1032
00:55:33,880 --> 00:55:38,080
Speaker 1: unrealistic standard. And you you know what I mean. Like

1033
00:55:38,440 --> 00:55:41,120
Speaker 1: I maybe would be a little bit more blunt, just

1034
00:55:41,120 --> 00:55:43,160
Speaker 1: because I know her personality and I know that she

1035
00:55:43,360 --> 00:55:46,319
Speaker 1: wouldn't really be offended by that. She would be like, Okay, yeah,

1036
00:55:46,520 --> 00:55:47,080
Speaker 1: I probably should.

1037
00:55:47,080 --> 00:55:49,680
Speaker 2: Think you're saying thanks for telling me, Thanks for telling me.

1038
00:55:49,920 --> 00:55:53,120
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, it is a horrible one though, just overtime

1039
00:55:53,360 --> 00:55:54,360
Speaker 1: build their confidence.

1040
00:55:55,880 --> 00:55:57,560
Speaker 3: It's funny because you are so sweet.

1041
00:55:57,600 --> 00:55:59,480
Speaker 2: But I do think of you as someone who just

1042
00:55:59,520 --> 00:56:02,320
Speaker 2: like says like it is too. Like I was thinking

1043
00:56:02,920 --> 00:56:06,040
Speaker 2: today I was getting my nails done, and I was like,

1044
00:56:06,360 --> 00:56:08,600
Speaker 2: she could literally chop off my finger and I'd be like,

1045
00:56:08,640 --> 00:56:11,560
Speaker 2: thank you, it looks great, you know, like I am

1046
00:56:11,680 --> 00:56:15,000
Speaker 2: like the worst with that stuff to talk.

1047
00:56:15,120 --> 00:56:18,480
Speaker 1: I was so fine. I do feel like I'm pretty blunt,

1048
00:56:18,600 --> 00:56:21,319
Speaker 1: Like I pretty I say it like it is, but

1049
00:56:21,400 --> 00:56:24,000
Speaker 1: I'm learning to kind of filter it a bit because

1050
00:56:24,520 --> 00:56:28,279
Speaker 1: Carson is so filtered, like he's so he's like he

1051
00:56:28,480 --> 00:56:32,920
Speaker 1: like literally cares about everybody and everybody's feelings, and so

1052
00:56:33,000 --> 00:56:36,520
Speaker 1: he'll be like, babe, like that was kind of rude,

1053
00:56:36,920 --> 00:56:41,719
Speaker 1: Like she's fine, like she knows what I mean. He's like, no,

1054
00:56:41,800 --> 00:56:44,880
Speaker 1: I think you should maybe text her just so, so

1055
00:56:45,080 --> 00:56:49,160
Speaker 1: over time, I think I've I've learned, and also him

1056
00:56:49,160 --> 00:56:51,400
Speaker 1: because he's sensitive too, so it's like I've had to

1057
00:56:51,480 --> 00:56:53,319
Speaker 1: learn be like why are you so offriended by that

1058
00:56:53,560 --> 00:56:56,000
Speaker 1: just doesn't mean anything, just telling you like you stink,

1059
00:56:56,160 --> 00:56:57,240
Speaker 1: like go take a shirt.

1060
00:56:59,360 --> 00:57:02,759
Speaker 2: Oh yeah, I'm I'm the same though. I mean I

1061
00:57:02,800 --> 00:57:06,279
Speaker 2: think I guess you would describe that as like an

1062
00:57:06,280 --> 00:57:09,840
Speaker 2: impath or whatever. But I take on everyone's feelings. Like

1063
00:57:10,920 --> 00:57:13,920
Speaker 2: I like I said, I could go to a restaurant

1064
00:57:14,080 --> 00:57:16,680
Speaker 2: order food. They bring me out something that's not even

1065
00:57:16,720 --> 00:57:18,800
Speaker 2: close to what I ordered, and I'm like, thank you

1066
00:57:18,880 --> 00:57:22,840
Speaker 2: so much. That is so for the food, even though

1067
00:57:22,840 --> 00:57:25,160
Speaker 2: it's not serious like I did.

1068
00:57:25,160 --> 00:57:27,840
Speaker 1: That was like at the beginning of our marriage, I

1069
00:57:27,880 --> 00:57:30,160
Speaker 1: was like, this is actually cold. Can you take it

1070
00:57:30,240 --> 00:57:33,880
Speaker 1: back and warm up? He's like, oh my gosh, you're

1071
00:57:33,920 --> 00:57:38,800
Speaker 1: so embarrassing. You're so embarrassing. Okay, buttony, I am not

1072
00:57:38,840 --> 00:57:40,240
Speaker 1: going to eat this if it's cold.

1073
00:57:41,160 --> 00:57:45,480
Speaker 2: I do have a theory that I think every relationship

1074
00:57:45,600 --> 00:57:47,440
Speaker 2: needs one of each, oh.

1075
00:57:47,240 --> 00:57:50,479
Speaker 1: For sure, and that I'm so grateful for that for sure,

1076
00:57:50,520 --> 00:57:52,600
Speaker 1: because I mean, he bounces me out and I bounce

1077
00:57:52,680 --> 00:57:55,040
Speaker 1: him out, like I'm like, you can't you have to

1078
00:57:55,040 --> 00:57:57,240
Speaker 1: say no to this person. He doesn't know how. I

1079
00:57:57,240 --> 00:58:00,240
Speaker 1: don't know if that is you, but that's me. He's

1080
00:58:00,280 --> 00:58:03,320
Speaker 1: a really hard time with conflict. That's maybe why we

1081
00:58:03,400 --> 00:58:06,840
Speaker 1: get so long be go. You and I maybe all

1082
00:58:06,880 --> 00:58:08,160
Speaker 1: our opposite.

1083
00:58:08,400 --> 00:58:12,720
Speaker 2: But see I'm not so I'm really a push over

1084
00:58:13,000 --> 00:58:15,600
Speaker 2: in a lot of situations. But then I'm also the

1085
00:58:15,600 --> 00:58:18,720
Speaker 2: one who's like wait with Phoebe, I'm like, did you

1086
00:58:18,760 --> 00:58:20,200
Speaker 2: take her out? Did you take her out before you pay?

1087
00:58:20,240 --> 00:58:21,600
Speaker 2: Did you give her her did you do her free

1088
00:58:21,640 --> 00:58:22,080
Speaker 2: the right way?

1089
00:58:22,200 --> 00:58:25,920
Speaker 1: Like so you have that innately in you too, Like

1090
00:58:26,040 --> 00:58:28,960
Speaker 1: I feel like guy, I mean not every guy generally,

1091
00:58:29,040 --> 00:58:30,800
Speaker 1: but I just feel like guys in general kind of

1092
00:58:30,840 --> 00:58:34,240
Speaker 1: like they're okay, Like I feel, yeah, women innately kind

1093
00:58:34,280 --> 00:58:38,160
Speaker 1: of have this like nurture. Obviously boys are too, but

1094
00:58:38,160 --> 00:58:41,040
Speaker 1: I'm just saying like extra, like we're just like extra nurturing.

1095
00:58:41,080 --> 00:58:44,760
Speaker 7: I don't know, because that's how us. Shake it off.

1096
00:58:44,920 --> 00:58:46,960
Speaker 7: You'll be fine, shake it off, Rub some dirt on it.

1097
00:58:46,960 --> 00:58:51,360
Speaker 1: You're fine, exactly exactly. But Carson's also like really analytical

1098
00:58:51,560 --> 00:58:56,160
Speaker 1: and logistics, like he knows every date. Like he'll be like, oh,

1099
00:58:56,280 --> 00:58:58,720
Speaker 1: I remember when we did this, this and this in June,

1100
00:58:58,760 --> 00:59:00,080
Speaker 1: and I'm like, I have no idea what.

1101
00:59:01,920 --> 00:59:04,320
Speaker 3: I'm like, you've done everything.

1102
00:59:04,760 --> 00:59:07,480
Speaker 1: Yeah, see, I don't even know at all. And so

1103
00:59:07,720 --> 00:59:10,440
Speaker 1: he's good with that stuff. He's the type that's like

1104
00:59:11,160 --> 00:59:14,439
Speaker 1: if he's in pain, he needs to know exactly where.

1105
00:59:14,520 --> 00:59:17,000
Speaker 1: Like we were just joking the other day, I'm like, now,

1106
00:59:17,040 --> 00:59:19,480
Speaker 1: where are you hurting in your heart? The left chamber?

1107
00:59:20,480 --> 00:59:25,040
Speaker 1: Like like he needs to know specifically, like detail on detail.

1108
00:59:25,040 --> 00:59:27,520
Speaker 1: And we'll be telling we're that couple that like will

1109
00:59:27,520 --> 00:59:30,480
Speaker 1: tell stories, right, and I'll just like give you the gist,

1110
00:59:30,640 --> 00:59:32,360
Speaker 1: like I'll just be like, oh, it's like a hundred

1111
00:59:32,640 --> 00:59:35,240
Speaker 1: it's like a hundred bugs or something, and he'll just

1112
00:59:35,280 --> 00:59:37,960
Speaker 1: be like, no, it's like more like like a thousand.

1113
00:59:38,080 --> 00:59:41,480
Speaker 1: Like he'll be like there's like fifty like whatever, there's

1114
00:59:41,520 --> 00:59:45,040
Speaker 1: a ton of bugs, like I don't know, And he's

1115
00:59:45,080 --> 00:59:47,600
Speaker 1: just like that type that needs to be so specific.

1116
00:59:47,720 --> 00:59:50,840
Speaker 1: It's just hilarious. So everyone's looking at us like, oh

1117
00:59:50,920 --> 00:59:54,520
Speaker 1: my god.

1118
00:59:53,080 --> 00:59:55,360
Speaker 3: How many bugs are Like, what's the rest of the story.

1119
00:59:55,520 --> 00:59:57,520
Speaker 1: Yeah, I'm gonna get to the point. I'm always like,

1120
00:59:57,560 --> 01:00:00,480
Speaker 1: get to the point. And he's like so specific. It

1121
01:00:00,520 --> 01:00:04,600
Speaker 1: was a hot summer. Stay I'm Dune nineteen. I'm like,

1122
01:00:05,520 --> 01:00:13,960
Speaker 1: oh my gosh.

1123
01:00:10,080 --> 01:00:12,440
Speaker 2: I'm that way too. When people are telling a story

1124
01:00:12,480 --> 01:00:15,560
Speaker 2: and they're giving so many details, I'm like, I've checked

1125
01:00:15,560 --> 01:00:16,240
Speaker 2: out already.

1126
01:00:16,480 --> 01:00:16,840
Speaker 4: I don't.

1127
01:00:17,640 --> 01:00:18,240
Speaker 2: I'm done.

1128
01:00:18,480 --> 01:00:20,880
Speaker 3: I don't have any more like attention span for this.

1129
01:00:21,720 --> 01:00:26,520
Speaker 1: It's hilarious. We are very opposite in every way. It's

1130
01:00:26,560 --> 01:00:27,800
Speaker 1: just it's so funny.

1131
01:00:28,360 --> 01:00:30,200
Speaker 3: I do I think it works.

1132
01:00:30,240 --> 01:00:33,440
Speaker 2: I really do believe in the age old opposites attract

1133
01:00:33,640 --> 01:00:38,400
Speaker 2: because I was, you know, my ex Robert. I feel

1134
01:00:38,440 --> 01:00:41,960
Speaker 2: like I we were very similar in our personality types

1135
01:00:42,040 --> 01:00:45,080
Speaker 2: and there was never it was just it was fine.

1136
01:00:45,280 --> 01:00:47,680
Speaker 2: You know, it's easy, but it just I think I

1137
01:00:47,760 --> 01:00:51,360
Speaker 2: needed that like push against me with someone who's different

1138
01:00:51,840 --> 01:00:55,320
Speaker 2: and like challenges who I am because they're the different

1139
01:00:55,400 --> 01:00:56,160
Speaker 2: the opposite of me.

1140
01:00:56,800 --> 01:01:00,560
Speaker 1: Yeah, you need that challenge like for yourself. Oh too,

1141
01:01:00,720 --> 01:01:01,320
Speaker 1: you know what I mean?

1142
01:01:01,600 --> 01:01:02,840
Speaker 3: For like yourself.

1143
01:01:02,960 --> 01:01:06,840
Speaker 2: You need that challenge because those relationships, even if they're

1144
01:01:06,840 --> 01:01:10,840
Speaker 2: not a romantic I think even friendships, they help you

1145
01:01:10,880 --> 01:01:13,400
Speaker 2: to grow. Like Tanya and I could not be more different,

1146
01:01:13,560 --> 01:01:19,880
Speaker 2: but she helps me. She has trained me to understand

1147
01:01:19,960 --> 01:01:23,080
Speaker 2: people like her more than I ever would have if

1148
01:01:23,120 --> 01:01:25,480
Speaker 2: I didn't have a close, you know, friend who was

1149
01:01:25,560 --> 01:01:25,960
Speaker 2: like her.

1150
01:01:26,200 --> 01:01:28,640
Speaker 1: That is so true, and I feel like that's exactly

1151
01:01:28,680 --> 01:01:32,240
Speaker 1: what happened with me with Carson. I felt like, I like,

1152
01:01:32,280 --> 01:01:34,400
Speaker 1: I was just thinking about yesterday because my sister in

1153
01:01:34,520 --> 01:01:36,400
Speaker 1: law she went to high school with me, and so

1154
01:01:36,520 --> 01:01:39,360
Speaker 1: all my high school friends. I'm like, I feel like

1155
01:01:40,000 --> 01:01:43,520
Speaker 1: I wasn't like compassionate and like thinking of their feelings

1156
01:01:43,560 --> 01:01:45,160
Speaker 1: more Like I wish I could go back with the

1157
01:01:45,160 --> 01:01:47,800
Speaker 1: stuff that I know now. I mean, obviously everyone wants

1158
01:01:47,840 --> 01:01:50,680
Speaker 1: to do that, yeah, but since I've had Carson, I'm like,

1159
01:01:50,760 --> 01:01:54,360
Speaker 1: oh my gosh, people actually think and feel the way

1160
01:01:54,400 --> 01:01:57,920
Speaker 1: that you do, and they actually are like hurt by

1161
01:01:57,960 --> 01:01:59,640
Speaker 1: the things that I say, you know what I mean,

1162
01:01:59,720 --> 01:02:02,760
Speaker 1: Like and in my mind it's like totally fine, like

1163
01:02:02,840 --> 01:02:05,640
Speaker 1: it's just you know, it is what it is, Like,

1164
01:02:05,680 --> 01:02:08,520
Speaker 1: why are you offended? You know what I mean? But

1165
01:02:08,760 --> 01:02:11,760
Speaker 1: now that I understand it, and I'm actually like okay

1166
01:02:11,760 --> 01:02:14,800
Speaker 1: that actually, you know, people can feel differently than I

1167
01:02:14,840 --> 01:02:18,200
Speaker 1: do and that is just totally okay. But I have

1168
01:02:18,280 --> 01:02:20,400
Speaker 1: to learn how to do that. So it is really

1169
01:02:20,440 --> 01:02:23,240
Speaker 1: good when you have somebody that close that can challenge

1170
01:02:23,240 --> 01:02:26,040
Speaker 1: you like that, because it just helps you, helped you

1171
01:02:26,120 --> 01:02:28,840
Speaker 1: grow and you know, I wish I could go back

1172
01:02:28,840 --> 01:02:30,400
Speaker 1: to high school. And I mean I.

1173
01:02:30,360 --> 01:02:32,000
Speaker 2: Don't but were you a bully?

1174
01:02:32,280 --> 01:02:33,000
Speaker 3: Were you a bully?

1175
01:02:33,000 --> 01:02:35,280
Speaker 2: And does it sound like a boy?

1176
01:02:36,640 --> 01:02:40,240
Speaker 1: I'm not. I was not a bully. I have a

1177
01:02:40,440 --> 01:02:47,680
Speaker 1: nice person. Everybody. I'm really nice. There were just I

1178
01:02:47,760 --> 01:02:50,320
Speaker 1: feel like I could you know right, I mean you

1179
01:02:50,400 --> 01:02:53,640
Speaker 1: know or no? I feel like maybe you don't.

1180
01:02:53,520 --> 01:02:54,960
Speaker 3: Know what that you're a nice person.

1181
01:02:55,120 --> 01:02:58,360
Speaker 2: Yeah yeah, I mean yeah, but I know you.

1182
01:02:58,560 --> 01:02:59,960
Speaker 3: I see I think of you.

1183
01:03:00,120 --> 01:03:03,400
Speaker 2: Are you Are you the oldest child in your family? Yes?

1184
01:03:03,640 --> 01:03:05,640
Speaker 1: And that's the other thing too. It's like I felt

1185
01:03:05,680 --> 01:03:08,840
Speaker 1: like I've had to take on responsibility as well and

1186
01:03:09,040 --> 01:03:12,120
Speaker 1: just kind of had to act like you know, it's fine.

1187
01:03:12,160 --> 01:03:15,400
Speaker 1: And also like I feel like with my career I've

1188
01:03:15,440 --> 01:03:18,400
Speaker 1: been driven. I'm a teacher, right, so it's like I've

1189
01:03:18,440 --> 01:03:22,160
Speaker 1: had to you know, be strict and get people to

1190
01:03:22,160 --> 01:03:26,400
Speaker 1: be motivated, and you know, like had to be really

1191
01:03:26,440 --> 01:03:28,920
Speaker 1: harsh sometimes. So I feel like I've had to be

1192
01:03:29,280 --> 01:03:33,640
Speaker 1: blunt like my whole life and just blunt but motivational,

1193
01:03:33,840 --> 01:03:37,160
Speaker 1: you know, try.

1194
01:03:35,880 --> 01:03:37,400
Speaker 2: Well, I was gonna say, I mean, And you had

1195
01:03:37,400 --> 01:03:40,120
Speaker 2: to start doing that at eighteen, which that's a big

1196
01:03:40,240 --> 01:03:42,800
Speaker 2: role for someone to take on of like teaching someone

1197
01:03:43,200 --> 01:03:45,040
Speaker 2: and being strict and being like you're not doing it

1198
01:03:45,160 --> 01:03:47,919
Speaker 2: right and taking on that role to where they respect you, yeah,

1199
01:03:47,920 --> 01:03:51,640
Speaker 2: but still want to but still like you you know

1200
01:03:51,680 --> 01:03:52,200
Speaker 2: what I'm saying.

1201
01:03:52,320 --> 01:03:54,400
Speaker 1: And that's the tricky line that you have to kind

1202
01:03:54,440 --> 01:03:57,320
Speaker 1: of find. It's like, you know, you want to be

1203
01:03:57,360 --> 01:04:00,600
Speaker 1: a leader, but you want to be a good later

1204
01:04:01,840 --> 01:04:05,040
Speaker 1: have to be inspirational, you have to make you have

1205
01:04:05,120 --> 01:04:08,240
Speaker 1: to make them feel like they're confident enough to try

1206
01:04:08,280 --> 01:04:12,520
Speaker 1: new things right. You don't want them to be frightened

1207
01:04:12,640 --> 01:04:15,240
Speaker 1: or scared to try new things and to get out

1208
01:04:15,240 --> 01:04:17,840
Speaker 1: of their comfort zones. You have to make them feel safe.

1209
01:04:18,320 --> 01:04:22,280
Speaker 1: You have to you know, encourage them, but make sure

1210
01:04:22,320 --> 01:04:24,840
Speaker 1: that they're doing it right. So it's like when I

1211
01:04:24,880 --> 01:04:29,480
Speaker 1: was eighteen, it was like, oh, like you suck, you

1212
01:04:29,520 --> 01:04:32,600
Speaker 1: need to be better kind of a thing. I didn't know.

1213
01:04:32,840 --> 01:04:38,360
Speaker 1: I didn't know how to motivate somebody.

1214
01:04:36,840 --> 01:04:39,040
Speaker 2: Like with correcting them exactly.

1215
01:04:39,600 --> 01:04:43,120
Speaker 1: So it was a big learning process and I feel

1216
01:04:43,160 --> 01:04:45,400
Speaker 1: like I genuinely grew up on the show, Like it

1217
01:04:46,080 --> 01:04:48,680
Speaker 1: taught me that how to be a good teacher. And

1218
01:04:49,160 --> 01:04:51,800
Speaker 1: you know, obviously I'm not the best, but I feel

1219
01:04:51,840 --> 01:04:55,720
Speaker 1: like I have learned a lot in the process of,

1220
01:04:55,960 --> 01:05:01,520
Speaker 1: you know, motivating somebody and keeping them close, right, because

1221
01:05:01,520 --> 01:05:03,560
Speaker 1: you have to also build that bond on the show

1222
01:05:03,600 --> 01:05:07,200
Speaker 1: as well, right, yeah, connection. You have to you know,

1223
01:05:07,360 --> 01:05:09,640
Speaker 1: be their friend, but you have to be their coach

1224
01:05:09,760 --> 01:05:13,200
Speaker 1: as well. So it's kind of a fine line. But yeah,

1225
01:05:13,760 --> 01:05:14,960
Speaker 1: it's hard. It's hard.

1226
01:05:15,160 --> 01:05:17,600
Speaker 2: Well, we were having a I was having a conversation

1227
01:05:17,680 --> 01:05:21,440
Speaker 2: the other day and uh, we were talking about how

1228
01:05:22,160 --> 01:05:24,280
Speaker 2: so this was kind of an example of something that

1229
01:05:24,480 --> 01:05:28,400
Speaker 2: she was getting like a something a wax or something

1230
01:05:28,440 --> 01:05:31,320
Speaker 2: like intimate you know, where it's just kind of already uncomfortable.

1231
01:05:31,840 --> 01:05:34,800
Speaker 2: And the person started asking her questions about her personal

1232
01:05:34,840 --> 01:05:38,200
Speaker 2: life and she was just like or like her work

1233
01:05:38,280 --> 01:05:40,160
Speaker 2: or something, and she's like, you know, I just I

1234
01:05:40,160 --> 01:05:42,160
Speaker 2: don't really want to talk about this right now. And

1235
01:05:42,200 --> 01:05:46,560
Speaker 2: I was like, you said that, and she was like, yeah,

1236
01:05:46,600 --> 01:05:49,439
Speaker 2: because like I just I didn't I've been talking about

1237
01:05:49,440 --> 01:05:51,200
Speaker 2: my work. I didn't want to talk about my work anymore.

1238
01:05:51,240 --> 01:05:55,080
Speaker 2: And I was, and she goes, but isn't it And

1239
01:05:55,160 --> 01:05:57,320
Speaker 2: it's so scary because you don't want someone to get

1240
01:05:57,320 --> 01:06:01,400
Speaker 2: the impression that you're a B word? But like, why

1241
01:06:01,520 --> 01:06:05,400
Speaker 2: is it that having boundaries equals being a B word?

1242
01:06:05,640 --> 01:06:07,800
Speaker 2: You know, like kind of having boundaries for yourself and

1243
01:06:07,840 --> 01:06:09,320
Speaker 2: being able to say, like, hey, I don't really want

1244
01:06:09,320 --> 01:06:11,920
Speaker 2: to talk about that while you're down there. You know,

1245
01:06:12,000 --> 01:06:13,480
Speaker 2: it's like that's interesting.

1246
01:06:13,600 --> 01:06:15,840
Speaker 1: See I'm blunt, But I don't think I could ever

1247
01:06:15,920 --> 01:06:16,200
Speaker 1: do that.

1248
01:06:17,120 --> 01:06:19,440
Speaker 2: Isn't that weird? Weird?

1249
01:06:19,800 --> 01:06:22,120
Speaker 1: I feel like I would just be like yeah, Like

1250
01:06:22,160 --> 01:06:24,160
Speaker 1: I feel like I would just give like one word answers,

1251
01:06:24,200 --> 01:06:27,440
Speaker 1: like it's more work, Like it's more work slash like

1252
01:06:28,400 --> 01:06:31,160
Speaker 1: this is the thing is I don't actually like connotation

1253
01:06:31,320 --> 01:06:34,360
Speaker 1: and tell unless I feel super passionate about it, And like,

1254
01:06:34,400 --> 01:06:37,480
Speaker 1: I don't know if I would care that much to

1255
01:06:37,520 --> 01:06:41,800
Speaker 1: say something in that scenario if I definitely feel it,

1256
01:06:41,960 --> 01:06:46,720
Speaker 1: like I will definitely express myself bluntly, but I'll also try,

1257
01:06:46,880 --> 01:06:48,800
Speaker 1: like I don't know, like in that situation, I don't

1258
01:06:48,840 --> 01:06:50,240
Speaker 1: think i'd be able to do it. I think I

1259
01:06:50,240 --> 01:06:55,880
Speaker 1: would just give like one word answers and be like, yep,

1260
01:06:56,240 --> 01:07:02,120
Speaker 1: just get going on that and be finished. Yeah, And

1261
01:07:02,400 --> 01:07:04,200
Speaker 1: it depends on the situation, you know.

1262
01:07:04,600 --> 01:07:07,560
Speaker 2: Yeah, Well I'm not like that in any situation. So

1263
01:07:07,640 --> 01:07:11,920
Speaker 2: I really admire being able to like have boundaries. And

1264
01:07:11,960 --> 01:07:14,440
Speaker 2: I'm learning. I'm trying, you know, I'm going to therapy.

1265
01:07:14,520 --> 01:07:17,640
Speaker 2: I'm trying to learn boundaries for myself. But it's when

1266
01:07:17,680 --> 01:07:20,000
Speaker 2: your whole life. I mean, I'm thirty two, and my

1267
01:07:20,040 --> 01:07:23,560
Speaker 2: whole life has been making sure people are pleased with

1268
01:07:23,600 --> 01:07:25,520
Speaker 2: me and like happy with me, and then I'm not

1269
01:07:25,600 --> 01:07:29,120
Speaker 2: hurting anyone's feelings, and all of a sudden, I'm trying

1270
01:07:29,160 --> 01:07:35,280
Speaker 2: to still do that while also protecting myself, which it's hard.

1271
01:07:35,520 --> 01:07:38,520
Speaker 1: It's so hard. Oh my gosh, I don't even I mean,

1272
01:07:38,720 --> 01:07:41,640
Speaker 1: maybe I need to go to therapy.

1273
01:07:41,760 --> 01:07:43,560
Speaker 3: Therapy is great for everybody, honest.

1274
01:07:43,440 --> 01:07:46,080
Speaker 1: Was great for everyone. I mean, I just don't. I

1275
01:07:46,160 --> 01:07:48,200
Speaker 1: just don't have the time. But I need to find

1276
01:07:48,280 --> 01:07:51,280
Speaker 1: because it's good for me to learn these things. I

1277
01:07:51,280 --> 01:07:53,400
Speaker 1: wish i'd done it earlier, honestly.

1278
01:07:53,720 --> 01:07:58,120
Speaker 2: Yeah, same, honestly, Yeah, but better late than ever, better.

1279
01:07:58,000 --> 01:08:01,360
Speaker 1: Late than never, exactly I know contrees are hard, Like

1280
01:08:01,680 --> 01:08:04,800
Speaker 1: I'm curious if you Okay, so this happened to me,

1281
01:08:06,240 --> 01:08:08,760
Speaker 1: So I got this is a dumb thing, but okay,

1282
01:08:09,080 --> 01:08:13,200
Speaker 1: my ring, right, my wedding ring. A diamond fell out

1283
01:08:13,600 --> 01:08:17,520
Speaker 1: of the ring, and it's like it's like super sentimental

1284
01:08:17,560 --> 01:08:20,519
Speaker 1: to me, Like I like, I like cherished this ring, right,

1285
01:08:21,320 --> 01:08:24,479
Speaker 1: and so I like kind of like storm in there

1286
01:08:24,479 --> 01:08:28,479
Speaker 1: and I'm like, hey, like my husband got me this ring.

1287
01:08:28,680 --> 01:08:31,400
Speaker 1: It's brand, it's this year. We just got it this year,

1288
01:08:32,160 --> 01:08:35,040
Speaker 1: and this ring just fell out, like this diamond just

1289
01:08:35,080 --> 01:08:37,800
Speaker 1: fell out, Like this should not be happening. Basically, I

1290
01:08:37,840 --> 01:08:40,519
Speaker 1: was like, you need to replace it, Like then, why

1291
01:08:40,560 --> 01:08:45,320
Speaker 1: is this happening? And my husband was so mortified. He

1292
01:08:45,439 --> 01:08:47,479
Speaker 1: was like, why did you have to go in there

1293
01:08:47,479 --> 01:08:51,040
Speaker 1: like that gun's a blazing Like that was so embarrassing

1294
01:08:51,040 --> 01:08:54,080
Speaker 1: for me, and it was his cousin, so he was

1295
01:08:54,160 --> 01:08:56,120
Speaker 1: on top of it. He's like, oh my gosh. And

1296
01:08:56,160 --> 01:08:58,960
Speaker 1: then and then we walk out and we drop off

1297
01:08:59,000 --> 01:09:01,960
Speaker 1: the ring and his cousin was like, oh, I can

1298
01:09:02,000 --> 01:09:05,120
Speaker 1: see who wears the pants in the relationship. So he

1299
01:09:05,360 --> 01:09:10,519
Speaker 1: was so embarrassed. Like would you ever like if something

1300
01:09:10,560 --> 01:09:13,200
Speaker 1: like sentimental to you, like that, like would you go

1301
01:09:13,280 --> 01:09:15,439
Speaker 1: in there and be super annoyed or would you just

1302
01:09:15,479 --> 01:09:19,599
Speaker 1: be like like like it's expensive. It's super expensive. Oh yeah,

1303
01:09:19,800 --> 01:09:23,360
Speaker 1: just and you just thought it and it's like the

1304
01:09:23,400 --> 01:09:24,000
Speaker 1: diamonds out.

1305
01:09:24,920 --> 01:09:27,800
Speaker 2: I well, so I wish I could go in just

1306
01:09:27,840 --> 01:09:29,920
Speaker 2: being like, this is what happened, and this is what

1307
01:09:30,040 --> 01:09:31,880
Speaker 2: I need done, like y'all need to replace it because

1308
01:09:31,960 --> 01:09:33,800
Speaker 2: this should not be happening. But instead I would be

1309
01:09:33,840 --> 01:09:38,160
Speaker 2: doing that internally and then on the outside be like, so, yeah,

1310
01:09:38,240 --> 01:09:41,639
Speaker 2: I got this ring. I don't really know how it happened.

1311
01:09:41,720 --> 01:09:44,320
Speaker 2: I don't know if I, you know, bumped it or what,

1312
01:09:44,479 --> 01:09:47,080
Speaker 2: but I noticed that a diamond was it would just

1313
01:09:47,080 --> 01:09:52,519
Speaker 2: be the most like I would never get anything productive out.

1314
01:09:52,520 --> 01:09:55,840
Speaker 2: It would be so passive. But that's what I'm saying

1315
01:09:55,840 --> 01:10:00,360
Speaker 2: I'm working on because that shouldn't be I mean, sure,

1316
01:10:00,439 --> 01:10:03,680
Speaker 2: like everyone has like different delivery, you know, Like, but

1317
01:10:03,840 --> 01:10:08,360
Speaker 2: what you said was not wrong, Like it shouldn't be happening.

1318
01:10:08,360 --> 01:10:11,280
Speaker 2: This is a very expensive ring and it's a diamond

1319
01:10:11,280 --> 01:10:13,519
Speaker 2: and it should not just I should not be losing

1320
01:10:13,560 --> 01:10:18,000
Speaker 2: one this soon into having it. Yeah, but yeah, I mean,

1321
01:10:18,040 --> 01:10:20,160
Speaker 2: like I said, I'm those are the things I'm working on.

1322
01:10:20,280 --> 01:10:22,200
Speaker 2: Being able to just like stand up for myself. And

1323
01:10:22,240 --> 01:10:24,960
Speaker 2: of course I'll always have the personality where I go

1324
01:10:25,040 --> 01:10:29,720
Speaker 2: in and I'm initially overly nice about it and take

1325
01:10:29,800 --> 01:10:33,400
Speaker 2: it on as if it's my fault. But you know,

1326
01:10:33,479 --> 01:10:38,560
Speaker 2: being able to say what you want is a gift.

1327
01:10:39,479 --> 01:10:42,200
Speaker 1: It is. But then it's also not like you like,

1328
01:10:42,479 --> 01:10:45,080
Speaker 1: there's both sides of the spectrum, right, Like it's like

1329
01:10:45,200 --> 01:10:47,120
Speaker 1: you want to stick up for yourself, but you don't

1330
01:10:47,120 --> 01:10:48,840
Speaker 1: want to do it in a way that comes off

1331
01:10:49,479 --> 01:10:54,240
Speaker 1: like Brady or it's hurt somebody's feelings. And then you

1332
01:10:54,280 --> 01:10:57,200
Speaker 1: also don't want to be like too shy to say

1333
01:10:57,240 --> 01:10:59,400
Speaker 1: anything that you just get walked all over. So it's

1334
01:10:59,439 --> 01:11:02,080
Speaker 1: like there's the spectrum, right that. I feel like everyone

1335
01:11:02,160 --> 01:11:05,680
Speaker 1: is kind of like in between or extremity. So you

1336
01:11:05,720 --> 01:11:07,759
Speaker 1: just have to kind of find like the right balance.

1337
01:11:08,680 --> 01:11:11,120
Speaker 1: I mean, I don't know, I'm not going to the therapy,

1338
01:11:11,240 --> 01:11:11,680
Speaker 1: is that right?

1339
01:11:13,720 --> 01:11:14,000
Speaker 4: I know?

1340
01:11:14,120 --> 01:11:15,880
Speaker 2: I think so, And I think I think being with

1341
01:11:15,920 --> 01:11:19,920
Speaker 2: a partner who also is like the opposite can it

1342
01:11:20,000 --> 01:11:23,240
Speaker 2: helps to learn from each other because he could learn

1343
01:11:23,280 --> 01:11:24,960
Speaker 2: to be like, oh, I can be assertive in it,

1344
01:11:25,120 --> 01:11:27,400
Speaker 2: not be rude, and you can be like I can

1345
01:11:27,439 --> 01:11:29,799
Speaker 2: be assertive and also gentle.

1346
01:11:30,479 --> 01:11:33,879
Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying, Yeah, which is so awesome.

1347
01:11:34,280 --> 01:11:37,720
Speaker 1: So I'm so grateful. He's just he's so funny.

1348
01:11:38,080 --> 01:11:39,080
Speaker 2: Okay, well, I.

1349
01:11:39,000 --> 01:11:39,639
Speaker 3: Love you both.

1350
01:11:39,760 --> 01:11:42,000
Speaker 2: I'm so happy for you, and I'm so happy you

1351
01:11:42,080 --> 01:11:44,200
Speaker 2: came on and hosted the podcast with me.

1352
01:11:44,280 --> 01:11:45,000
Speaker 3: It was so fun.

1353
01:11:45,040 --> 01:11:46,599
Speaker 2: I can't I was like, Okay, I can't believe it's

1354
01:11:46,600 --> 01:11:47,439
Speaker 2: already been an hour.

1355
01:11:49,280 --> 01:11:51,240
Speaker 1: Oh my gosh, has it.

1356
01:11:51,360 --> 01:11:51,960
Speaker 2: That's crazy.

1357
01:11:52,080 --> 01:11:54,679
Speaker 1: Well, I said that, I got to talk to you

1358
01:11:54,760 --> 01:11:56,639
Speaker 1: and hang out with you for a minute.

1359
01:11:56,840 --> 01:12:00,360
Speaker 2: I love you so much. Thank you for being on today.

1360
01:12:00,920 --> 01:12:07,840
Speaker 4: Sezo