1 00:00:00,880 --> 00:00:03,760 Speaker 1: Time now for today's Strawberry Letter, and if you need 2 00:00:03,800 --> 00:00:08,640 Speaker 1: advice on relationships, dating, sex, work, parenting and more. Please 3 00:00:08,880 --> 00:00:12,400 Speaker 1: submit your Strawberry Letter to Steve HARVEYFM dot com and 4 00:00:12,480 --> 00:00:16,120 Speaker 1: click submit Strawberry Letter. We could be reading your letter here. 5 00:00:16,160 --> 00:00:19,200 Speaker 1: It is live on the air. You never know this 6 00:00:19,280 --> 00:00:23,439 Speaker 1: letter might be yours. Buckle up and hold on tight. 7 00:00:23,480 --> 00:00:25,119 Speaker 1: We got it for you here it is. It's a 8 00:00:25,200 --> 00:00:29,520 Speaker 1: Strawberry Letter. Subject. He thinks it's way better than it is. 9 00:00:29,720 --> 00:00:32,680 Speaker 1: Dear Stephen Shirley. I've been taking a great man for 10 00:00:32,720 --> 00:00:35,720 Speaker 1: almost two years, and before the pandemic I moved in 11 00:00:35,800 --> 00:00:39,760 Speaker 1: with him. He had high hopes of having sex more frequently, 12 00:00:39,880 --> 00:00:42,919 Speaker 1: but just the opposite of that happened. I'm twenty eight 13 00:00:43,000 --> 00:00:45,640 Speaker 1: years old and he's the only man that I've had 14 00:00:45,680 --> 00:00:48,320 Speaker 1: sex with in my life. I agree to move in 15 00:00:48,360 --> 00:00:51,280 Speaker 1: with him because we're at each other's house every night anyway. 16 00:00:51,720 --> 00:00:54,560 Speaker 1: But I do want to marry this man, so I 17 00:00:54,680 --> 00:00:58,000 Speaker 1: know that playing house with him could spoil everything. There 18 00:00:58,120 --> 00:01:01,200 Speaker 1: is also another reason I won't have sex with him 19 00:01:01,200 --> 00:01:04,119 Speaker 1: whenever he wants to. It's because he's not as good 20 00:01:04,440 --> 00:01:07,240 Speaker 1: as he thinks he is. In bed, I was a 21 00:01:07,319 --> 00:01:09,520 Speaker 1: virgin When we met and we had sex for the 22 00:01:09,560 --> 00:01:12,640 Speaker 1: first time after we'd been dating for four months, I 23 00:01:12,760 --> 00:01:18,120 Speaker 1: expected an extraordinary experience, but it was mediocre at best. 24 00:01:19,040 --> 00:01:21,520 Speaker 1: I had nothing to compare it to except the R 25 00:01:21,600 --> 00:01:24,880 Speaker 1: rated movies I'd seen and what my older sister told 26 00:01:24,880 --> 00:01:27,960 Speaker 1: me about sex since I was a novice. I continued 27 00:01:28,000 --> 00:01:30,800 Speaker 1: to date him, and then I fell in love with him. 28 00:01:31,160 --> 00:01:34,000 Speaker 1: He's the perfect man for me, and I want our 29 00:01:34,040 --> 00:01:37,520 Speaker 1: sex life to improve. I do it routinely because I 30 00:01:37,600 --> 00:01:40,600 Speaker 1: know he's got needs and I don't want him to 31 00:01:40,680 --> 00:01:44,600 Speaker 1: cheat on me. It's so mediocre that I've fallen asleep 32 00:01:44,640 --> 00:01:46,679 Speaker 1: on him a few times while we were doing it, 33 00:01:46,920 --> 00:01:51,600 Speaker 1: and he didn't even notice. Recently, I caught him watching porn, 34 00:01:52,040 --> 00:01:54,360 Speaker 1: and at first it made me uncomfortable, but then I 35 00:01:54,440 --> 00:01:57,040 Speaker 1: realized he might learn a thing or two from the video. 36 00:01:57,520 --> 00:02:00,480 Speaker 1: I sat and watched the video with him and asked 37 00:02:00,560 --> 00:02:03,480 Speaker 1: him if he could do the same on the if 38 00:02:03,520 --> 00:02:05,920 Speaker 1: he could do some of the stuff the guy was doing. 39 00:02:06,320 --> 00:02:10,160 Speaker 1: He very confidently told me that he's far more advanced 40 00:02:10,160 --> 00:02:13,480 Speaker 1: than that porn star, and that's why I'm so in 41 00:02:13,560 --> 00:02:17,120 Speaker 1: love with him. He's so clueless. Do I tell him 42 00:02:17,400 --> 00:02:20,440 Speaker 1: he needs some work? Or settle for bad sex forever. 43 00:02:22,080 --> 00:02:25,800 Speaker 1: Settle for bad sex forever. And you're only twenty eight 44 00:02:25,919 --> 00:02:27,880 Speaker 1: years old. If you marry this guy, that's not the 45 00:02:27,960 --> 00:02:30,280 Speaker 1: kind of life you want. I really don't think that. 46 00:02:30,720 --> 00:02:34,080 Speaker 1: I don't think you do. Otherwise you wouldn't have written 47 00:02:34,160 --> 00:02:38,200 Speaker 1: us this letter. Okay, you're only twenty eight years old. 48 00:02:38,280 --> 00:02:44,320 Speaker 1: He was your your first I do think you're way 49 00:02:44,360 --> 00:02:47,079 Speaker 1: too worried about him and his needs than your own. 50 00:02:47,120 --> 00:02:49,720 Speaker 1: You're saying, he's he needs, he has needs, so that's 51 00:02:49,720 --> 00:02:53,720 Speaker 1: why you do it when you do. You can't be 52 00:02:53,800 --> 00:02:56,400 Speaker 1: that in love with him to neglect what you want. 53 00:02:56,960 --> 00:02:59,880 Speaker 1: And you don't stay with someone just because that's what 54 00:03:00,160 --> 00:03:03,240 Speaker 1: they want. Okay, you got to figure your own needs. 55 00:03:03,240 --> 00:03:05,000 Speaker 1: I know you're young, but you got to start thinking 56 00:03:05,040 --> 00:03:09,040 Speaker 1: about yourself sometimes, and it can start right here. Since 57 00:03:09,080 --> 00:03:12,600 Speaker 1: you're already with him. Please do not settle. You mentioned 58 00:03:12,600 --> 00:03:15,920 Speaker 1: settle in your letter. Do I tell him he needs 59 00:03:15,919 --> 00:03:18,360 Speaker 1: some work? You ask? Well, of course you do, and 60 00:03:18,440 --> 00:03:21,320 Speaker 1: you've told him that to do it, that you wanted 61 00:03:21,360 --> 00:03:23,079 Speaker 1: the guy. You wanted him to do what the guy 62 00:03:23,160 --> 00:03:25,640 Speaker 1: was doing to you. He didn't hear you, Okay, His 63 00:03:25,880 --> 00:03:29,440 Speaker 1: arrogance told him that he was so much better. I 64 00:03:29,480 --> 00:03:33,120 Speaker 1: think you deserve a man that will listen to you 65 00:03:33,200 --> 00:03:35,440 Speaker 1: and not be so arrogant that he can't even hear 66 00:03:35,480 --> 00:03:37,320 Speaker 1: you when you ask him to do to you what 67 00:03:37,440 --> 00:03:40,120 Speaker 1: you want. You're right in saying you have nothing to 68 00:03:40,160 --> 00:03:42,840 Speaker 1: compare it to since you were a virgin before this guy. 69 00:03:43,320 --> 00:03:46,480 Speaker 1: But you know something isn't right. You do know that 70 00:03:47,640 --> 00:03:51,440 Speaker 1: you know, don't feel so badly about the extraordinary experience 71 00:03:51,440 --> 00:03:53,200 Speaker 1: the first time. A lot of people say it wasn't 72 00:03:53,240 --> 00:03:55,920 Speaker 1: all that the first time. It's not until they, you know, 73 00:03:56,080 --> 00:03:58,720 Speaker 1: do it more and get into it more. I think 74 00:03:58,760 --> 00:04:00,920 Speaker 1: the world is starting to open up now because of 75 00:04:00,920 --> 00:04:03,240 Speaker 1: the vaccines and all of that. You were with him 76 00:04:03,280 --> 00:04:05,800 Speaker 1: because of the pandemic. My advice to you would be 77 00:04:05,840 --> 00:04:08,000 Speaker 1: to let him know that you're going to move back 78 00:04:08,040 --> 00:04:11,600 Speaker 1: to your place, because although you do love him, he 79 00:04:11,640 --> 00:04:14,680 Speaker 1: doesn't listen, and this relationship is not gonna work without 80 00:04:14,720 --> 00:04:18,240 Speaker 1: good communication and great sex, and you're not getting either 81 00:04:18,279 --> 00:04:24,800 Speaker 1: one of those right now. Steve, little sister, you got problem. 82 00:04:24,920 --> 00:04:30,760 Speaker 1: Hill dating is man for two years before the pandemic. 83 00:04:31,880 --> 00:04:34,400 Speaker 1: I moved in with him because he had high hopes 84 00:04:34,440 --> 00:04:39,080 Speaker 1: of having sex more frequently, but the opposite didn't happen. 85 00:04:39,160 --> 00:04:41,880 Speaker 1: She twenty eight years old, and he is the only 86 00:04:41,960 --> 00:04:48,000 Speaker 1: man that she'd had sex with in her life. So 87 00:04:48,040 --> 00:04:49,880 Speaker 1: you agreed to move in with him because y'all was 88 00:04:49,880 --> 00:04:53,680 Speaker 1: at each other's house anyway. That's not a reason to 89 00:04:53,720 --> 00:04:56,599 Speaker 1: move in with nobody. Charley's right. You got to find 90 00:04:56,640 --> 00:04:58,880 Speaker 1: other reason to move in with somebody. Since y'all just 91 00:04:59,000 --> 00:05:03,440 Speaker 1: over that every night anyway, would just do that. She 92 00:05:03,720 --> 00:05:06,000 Speaker 1: is always good to be able to go home instead 93 00:05:06,000 --> 00:05:11,960 Speaker 1: of find out your ass is home. It is always 94 00:05:12,000 --> 00:05:14,919 Speaker 1: better to go home than to find out your ass 95 00:05:15,240 --> 00:05:22,039 Speaker 1: is home. You him, Damn you then took that out 96 00:05:22,120 --> 00:05:26,000 Speaker 1: your life. Yeah, you ain't gotta go over there every 97 00:05:26,120 --> 00:05:28,680 Speaker 1: night for that little side piece of sex he passing out. 98 00:05:29,279 --> 00:05:31,720 Speaker 1: I have sex with him whenever he wants to. It's 99 00:05:31,760 --> 00:05:34,800 Speaker 1: because he's not good as he thinks. And the reason 100 00:05:34,920 --> 00:05:36,760 Speaker 1: y'all have sex because he ain't as good as he 101 00:05:36,800 --> 00:05:39,360 Speaker 1: thinks it. It's because he's just not as good as 102 00:05:39,400 --> 00:05:42,400 Speaker 1: he thinks. He isn't bad to hit the part. I 103 00:05:42,480 --> 00:05:44,360 Speaker 1: was a virgin when we met and we had sex 104 00:05:44,400 --> 00:05:46,760 Speaker 1: for the first time after we've been dating for four months. 105 00:05:46,800 --> 00:05:50,239 Speaker 1: I expected an extraordinary experience, but it was medioc at best. 106 00:05:50,640 --> 00:05:53,080 Speaker 1: I had nothing to compare it to. Now, hold up, 107 00:05:53,880 --> 00:05:59,800 Speaker 1: I hadn't ever had buffalo burger before, but I know 108 00:06:00,120 --> 00:06:02,640 Speaker 1: bad ass buffalo burger. When I'm eating it, frank it 109 00:06:02,680 --> 00:06:05,960 Speaker 1: all the way down, Steve, it don't matter if you 110 00:06:06,000 --> 00:06:10,120 Speaker 1: ain't had experienced before, you know what bad he is. Yeah, 111 00:06:12,800 --> 00:06:17,400 Speaker 1: but when I got hold to some bad feater cheating, 112 00:06:17,440 --> 00:06:21,480 Speaker 1: I knew some bad ass feat of cheating. Right. I'm 113 00:06:21,480 --> 00:06:26,840 Speaker 1: not an expert on all Fredo sauce. Why are you 114 00:06:29,120 --> 00:06:32,160 Speaker 1: Assundfredo sauce. I don't need nobody to tell me it's 115 00:06:32,200 --> 00:06:35,000 Speaker 1: good ass Alfredo sauce. This is a bad ass sauce 116 00:06:35,080 --> 00:06:38,640 Speaker 1: right here. All right, listen, hang on, Steve, we'll have 117 00:06:39,480 --> 00:06:44,120 Speaker 1: barbecue sauce when I tasted. At twenty three minutes after 118 00:06:44,200 --> 00:06:46,320 Speaker 1: the hour, we'll be back with the strawberry letter. The 119 00:06:46,360 --> 00:06:49,560 Speaker 1: subject is he thinks it's way better than it is. 120 00:06:50,839 --> 00:06:56,320 Speaker 1: Right after this. You're listening, stew All right, come on, Steve, 121 00:06:56,440 --> 00:06:59,720 Speaker 1: let's recap today's strawberry letter. The subject is, he thinks 122 00:06:59,720 --> 00:07:02,680 Speaker 1: it's way better than it is. Between a year old 123 00:07:02,680 --> 00:07:04,600 Speaker 1: girl to mood in with this man because they over 124 00:07:04,640 --> 00:07:09,039 Speaker 1: each other's house every night. Anyway, she was a virgin 125 00:07:09,120 --> 00:07:11,440 Speaker 1: till she started dating this man. He's the only man 126 00:07:11,560 --> 00:07:14,480 Speaker 1: she'd had sexual and they've been having sex now for 127 00:07:14,560 --> 00:07:17,880 Speaker 1: a minute. She was a virgin when she had sex, 128 00:07:17,920 --> 00:07:22,000 Speaker 1: and she was expecting some spectacler. It was nothing but mediocre. 129 00:07:22,240 --> 00:07:27,720 Speaker 1: It has never improved beyond mediocre. It is considered steal mediocre. 130 00:07:31,520 --> 00:07:33,320 Speaker 1: He sitting up she should up here talking about I 131 00:07:33,320 --> 00:07:35,240 Speaker 1: guess because it was a virgin, I didn't have nothing 132 00:07:35,240 --> 00:07:37,840 Speaker 1: to compared to. Don't let yourself off the hook like that. 133 00:07:38,880 --> 00:07:41,160 Speaker 1: A lot of stuff I ain't had, but if I 134 00:07:41,280 --> 00:07:43,400 Speaker 1: have it, I bet I know if it's bad or not, 135 00:07:44,440 --> 00:07:46,680 Speaker 1: and then nothing. You ain't had nothing to compared to. 136 00:07:46,760 --> 00:07:49,680 Speaker 1: Accept some X rated movies I've seen with my oldest 137 00:07:49,680 --> 00:07:53,320 Speaker 1: sister told you about sex. Now, since you're a novice, 138 00:07:53,800 --> 00:07:55,840 Speaker 1: you continued to date him, and then you fell in 139 00:07:55,880 --> 00:07:58,800 Speaker 1: love with him. He's the perfect man for you, and 140 00:07:58,960 --> 00:08:03,160 Speaker 1: you won't have sex to improve. I do it routinely 141 00:08:03,200 --> 00:08:05,040 Speaker 1: because I know he got knees and I don't want 142 00:08:05,120 --> 00:08:09,600 Speaker 1: him cheat on me. But it's so damn mediocre now 143 00:08:09,680 --> 00:08:13,840 Speaker 1: hit apart. I have fallen asleep on him a few 144 00:08:13,880 --> 00:08:16,559 Speaker 1: times while he was doing it, and he didn't notice. 145 00:08:16,600 --> 00:08:19,720 Speaker 1: I ain't that that that is impossible to happen. It's 146 00:08:20,880 --> 00:08:25,040 Speaker 1: hell that has ever happened to me. I ain't bragging, 147 00:08:25,400 --> 00:08:32,400 Speaker 1: but I promise you that ain't happening. Hello, are you sleep? 148 00:08:33,760 --> 00:08:35,840 Speaker 1: How the hell you sleep? With what I'm finna do? 149 00:08:38,880 --> 00:08:43,960 Speaker 1: Be spot how to hell you sleep? And your ankle 150 00:08:44,040 --> 00:08:50,079 Speaker 1: in my hand? How you sleep? At y'all trying to 151 00:08:50,080 --> 00:08:53,400 Speaker 1: figure out how you sleep? Yeah, it's too many things 152 00:08:53,400 --> 00:08:56,839 Speaker 1: can happen to him now, he tried. He ain't doing 153 00:08:56,840 --> 00:08:59,559 Speaker 1: a damn thing. If you to fell asleep, he's not 154 00:08:59,720 --> 00:09:02,599 Speaker 1: doing a damn thing. And I'll tell you what a 155 00:09:02,679 --> 00:09:09,120 Speaker 1: big problem is. It's a little problem. That's what's wrong. 156 00:09:10,040 --> 00:09:12,600 Speaker 1: Because if you're going to sleep and he owned you, 157 00:09:13,640 --> 00:09:18,360 Speaker 1: and you sleep, because the big problem you got is 158 00:09:18,440 --> 00:09:21,599 Speaker 1: really a little problem. Now, I don't know if you 159 00:09:21,640 --> 00:09:27,120 Speaker 1: can fix that. Recently I called him watching pown and 160 00:09:27,200 --> 00:09:30,040 Speaker 1: at first it made me uncomfortable. Then I realized, wait 161 00:09:30,040 --> 00:09:32,600 Speaker 1: a minute, he might learn a thing or two from 162 00:09:32,640 --> 00:09:34,719 Speaker 1: the deal. So I sat out and I watched a 163 00:09:34,840 --> 00:09:38,880 Speaker 1: video with it. Then she asked him if he could 164 00:09:38,920 --> 00:09:41,280 Speaker 1: do some of the stuff the guy was doing. He 165 00:09:41,480 --> 00:09:46,600 Speaker 1: confidently told this girl he is far more advanced than 166 00:09:46,679 --> 00:09:49,960 Speaker 1: the pawn star, and that's why you in love with me. 167 00:09:54,520 --> 00:09:59,480 Speaker 1: You better than a pawn star. Did you watch the movie? 168 00:10:00,520 --> 00:10:03,240 Speaker 1: Is that what you thought you was doing? Because it 169 00:10:03,280 --> 00:10:17,880 Speaker 1: ain't porn star? From the boat Whipper Snapper, Whip a Snapper. 170 00:10:18,960 --> 00:10:23,959 Speaker 1: There's a porn star name, Whip a Snapper. Really yeah, 171 00:10:25,120 --> 00:10:29,080 Speaker 1: I didn't know that. See say they weren't say the names. 172 00:10:29,400 --> 00:10:37,280 Speaker 1: Whip a Snapper, that's his porn star name. So now 173 00:10:37,600 --> 00:10:49,200 Speaker 1: you think you whipper snap when you ain't whipping no snapp. 174 00:10:50,880 --> 00:11:02,280 Speaker 1: Your poorn namein't gonna be needle threaded, needle stitch. We're 175 00:11:02,280 --> 00:11:07,920 Speaker 1: gonna give you a different name. See listen, man, sister, 176 00:11:08,920 --> 00:11:12,160 Speaker 1: you're gonna have to have a conversation with him and say, look, 177 00:11:12,240 --> 00:11:16,320 Speaker 1: I'm just gonna have to tell you this. I've never 178 00:11:16,360 --> 00:11:19,959 Speaker 1: been so damned disappointed in my life. So I'm let's 179 00:11:20,000 --> 00:11:23,680 Speaker 1: do a small reenactment, Shirley. I want you to continually 180 00:11:23,800 --> 00:11:27,560 Speaker 1: try to bridge the conversation with me, and I'm gonna 181 00:11:27,559 --> 00:11:29,640 Speaker 1: show you why she ain't getting nowhere with him. Just 182 00:11:29,679 --> 00:11:36,760 Speaker 1: try to bridge a conversation. Well, um, well what baby? 183 00:11:38,320 --> 00:11:42,240 Speaker 1: Well yeah, that's how that's how I have it. I 184 00:11:42,240 --> 00:11:44,560 Speaker 1: haven't looked like a well a bit. Hell go ahead, 185 00:11:45,240 --> 00:11:50,280 Speaker 1: huh well yeah listen, I want yeah, yeah, you mean 186 00:11:50,440 --> 00:11:56,360 Speaker 1: hell yeah, go ahead. I'll be doing Yeah, I just 187 00:11:56,440 --> 00:12:02,200 Speaker 1: woke up. I'm not them out. You know, I put 188 00:12:02,600 --> 00:12:05,240 Speaker 1: who you know, that's what I do. You know, I 189 00:12:05,360 --> 00:12:08,200 Speaker 1: know you just came to call. I knocked him out 190 00:12:09,160 --> 00:12:12,880 Speaker 1: during It was during yeah, yeah, yeah. Sometimes you know 191 00:12:12,960 --> 00:12:15,160 Speaker 1: that what happened. You know, like some some people some 192 00:12:15,240 --> 00:12:19,160 Speaker 1: fighters getting knocked out during the round. You know, you know, 193 00:12:19,480 --> 00:12:21,280 Speaker 1: you know that first round T k oh, that's what 194 00:12:21,360 --> 00:12:23,400 Speaker 1: I call that. I call that first round t k 195 00:12:23,559 --> 00:12:35,439 Speaker 1: oh No, t whoa. There they go watching a movie. 196 00:12:35,520 --> 00:12:37,640 Speaker 1: Was boring the movie. I saw that movie. That dude 197 00:12:37,679 --> 00:12:40,200 Speaker 1: wasn't doing nothing. That what I told you, I told 198 00:12:40,200 --> 00:12:42,079 Speaker 1: you I do that alll that down. You know he's 199 00:12:42,080 --> 00:12:45,640 Speaker 1: something Whooper Snapper whoops never ain't got nothing on me, boy, 200 00:12:45,920 --> 00:12:52,319 Speaker 1: big Jack Johnson. That was up in the hill. Yeah, please, 201 00:12:52,400 --> 00:12:59,920 Speaker 1: I heard you bagging. I'll be back to night Instagram 202 00:13:00,679 --> 00:13:04,000 Speaker 1: A Junior sports talk is coming up next. Right after this. 203 00:13:04,760 --> 00:13:07,480 Speaker 1: You're listening to the Stave Harvey Morning Show.