1 00:00:00,120 --> 00:00:02,000 Speaker 1: Let's do it. Buckle up, hold on tight. We got 2 00:00:02,000 --> 00:00:05,000 Speaker 1: it for you here. It is subject to I can't 3 00:00:05,040 --> 00:00:08,840 Speaker 1: help it. I'm a hater, Dear Stephen Shirley, every time 4 00:00:08,880 --> 00:00:13,280 Speaker 1: I say that she left Charlotte, Dear Stephen Shirley. I 5 00:00:13,360 --> 00:00:17,720 Speaker 1: love myself very much, and I love most of my family, 6 00:00:18,079 --> 00:00:21,520 Speaker 1: but I developed this deep, dark hatred for my sister. 7 00:00:22,320 --> 00:00:25,360 Speaker 1: You see, my sister has the life I prayed for. 8 00:00:25,880 --> 00:00:28,280 Speaker 1: I turned to God and asked God to bless me 9 00:00:28,520 --> 00:00:31,720 Speaker 1: with the husband with all the qualities her husband has. 10 00:00:32,240 --> 00:00:35,519 Speaker 1: God gave this wonderful man to my sister. And my 11 00:00:35,600 --> 00:00:39,440 Speaker 1: sister has never prayed for anything. She did not even 12 00:00:39,479 --> 00:00:42,159 Speaker 1: want to be in a relationship. When she met her husband. 13 00:00:42,360 --> 00:00:44,920 Speaker 1: He is a good man and they are talking about 14 00:00:45,000 --> 00:00:49,200 Speaker 1: starting a family soon. She prayed for it nothing. She's 15 00:00:49,240 --> 00:00:52,280 Speaker 1: not very religious and she sends all the time. But 16 00:00:52,440 --> 00:00:55,920 Speaker 1: God still gave her the life I prayed for. Because 17 00:00:55,960 --> 00:00:59,880 Speaker 1: of that, I developed this deep jealousy for her, and 18 00:01:00,080 --> 00:01:02,440 Speaker 1: it just turned to hate. It's hard for me to 19 00:01:02,480 --> 00:01:04,960 Speaker 1: be in the same room with my sister and her husband. 20 00:01:05,160 --> 00:01:07,600 Speaker 1: They made a joke recently about me being single and 21 00:01:07,680 --> 00:01:10,319 Speaker 1: in my mid thirties, so it caused me to hate 22 00:01:10,319 --> 00:01:13,120 Speaker 1: her even more. I have a lot of friends that 23 00:01:13,160 --> 00:01:16,000 Speaker 1: are in relationships and married, but I don't feel this 24 00:01:16,040 --> 00:01:19,440 Speaker 1: way about them. I have a little jealousy towards them, 25 00:01:19,600 --> 00:01:22,640 Speaker 1: but it's not as bad. I've dated a few guys 26 00:01:22,720 --> 00:01:25,360 Speaker 1: here and there, but they aren't looking for a serious relationship, 27 00:01:25,440 --> 00:01:27,880 Speaker 1: and after I sleep with them, there is usually no 28 00:01:27,920 --> 00:01:31,880 Speaker 1: more communication after that. I'm not picky at all, but 29 00:01:31,959 --> 00:01:34,600 Speaker 1: I haven't gotten anywhere in my prayers for a good man. 30 00:01:34,959 --> 00:01:38,240 Speaker 1: My sister has received all of my blessings with her 31 00:01:38,280 --> 00:01:42,080 Speaker 1: sinful self. I'm losing my faith now because God ignores me. 32 00:01:42,400 --> 00:01:46,240 Speaker 1: I am still single with no real possibilities of finding love. 33 00:01:46,600 --> 00:01:48,880 Speaker 1: Please tell me how I can get back on track 34 00:01:48,920 --> 00:01:51,800 Speaker 1: with my faith and stop hating my sister for having 35 00:01:51,800 --> 00:01:57,280 Speaker 1: the ideal life that's mine. Wow. All right, Well, first 36 00:01:57,320 --> 00:01:59,680 Speaker 1: of all, you lied to us, Okay, in the very 37 00:01:59,680 --> 00:02:02,640 Speaker 1: first line you lie to us in this letter, it says, 38 00:02:02,720 --> 00:02:07,120 Speaker 1: dear Stephen Shirley, I love myself very much. No you don't. No, 39 00:02:07,200 --> 00:02:10,240 Speaker 1: you don't. And this letter is full of receipts that 40 00:02:10,320 --> 00:02:14,840 Speaker 1: prove you don't love or respect yourself at all. For instance, 41 00:02:15,760 --> 00:02:19,400 Speaker 1: self respect. You say you're not picky, at all. You're 42 00:02:19,400 --> 00:02:22,560 Speaker 1: not looking guys aren't looking for a serious relationship, and 43 00:02:22,639 --> 00:02:25,720 Speaker 1: after you sleep with them, so sounds like you're just 44 00:02:25,760 --> 00:02:29,880 Speaker 1: sleeping with guys. They don't communicate after all, and that's 45 00:02:29,880 --> 00:02:33,960 Speaker 1: okay with you. You couldn't love yourself and let yourself 46 00:02:34,000 --> 00:02:37,880 Speaker 1: be treated this way. Okay, So contradictions all in this letter. 47 00:02:38,440 --> 00:02:41,200 Speaker 1: This letter is not about your sister. You gotta understand 48 00:02:41,240 --> 00:02:44,720 Speaker 1: that this letter is about you. You're a relationship with God, 49 00:02:44,760 --> 00:02:47,280 Speaker 1: You're a trust of God. You're judgmental. You're not supposed 50 00:02:47,320 --> 00:02:50,600 Speaker 1: to be judgmental. You know that you're hateful. You don't understand. 51 00:02:51,160 --> 00:02:54,600 Speaker 1: You don't understand what's for you is for you. Okay, 52 00:02:54,639 --> 00:02:56,800 Speaker 1: God loves us all the same. It's what's for you 53 00:02:56,919 --> 00:02:59,000 Speaker 1: is for you. Don't you know? You're supposed to be 54 00:02:59,040 --> 00:03:01,639 Speaker 1: happy for your sister, that she's happy with her husband, 55 00:03:01,680 --> 00:03:04,240 Speaker 1: she's happy in her marriage. And your friends that are 56 00:03:04,240 --> 00:03:06,120 Speaker 1: marriage you're hating on them too. You're supposed to be 57 00:03:06,200 --> 00:03:09,919 Speaker 1: happy for them, not saying they got all my blessings. 58 00:03:10,240 --> 00:03:14,280 Speaker 1: Those are their blessings. Okay, they're not your blessings. You 59 00:03:14,320 --> 00:03:19,520 Speaker 1: are a miserable person. You're a miserable person. You hate yourself, 60 00:03:19,560 --> 00:03:23,040 Speaker 1: and you hate everyone else around you. You're looking at 61 00:03:23,040 --> 00:03:26,200 Speaker 1: their lives and wondering why you don't have that. Maybe 62 00:03:26,400 --> 00:03:28,760 Speaker 1: that's why, because you're too busy paying attention to what 63 00:03:28,800 --> 00:03:30,880 Speaker 1: they got going on and not paying attention to what 64 00:03:31,000 --> 00:03:37,200 Speaker 1: you have going on. This girl, get it together. That's 65 00:03:37,240 --> 00:03:40,400 Speaker 1: your sister. You're not supposed to be hating on her 66 00:03:40,480 --> 00:03:42,720 Speaker 1: like that, or anyone else for that matter. Learn how 67 00:03:42,760 --> 00:03:46,320 Speaker 1: to love yourself first, and then you can love other people. 68 00:03:46,320 --> 00:03:51,640 Speaker 1: It won't be so hard. Steve, Wow, this letter right here, 69 00:03:51,680 --> 00:03:56,040 Speaker 1: this is crazy. It's got so much crazy stuff in it. 70 00:03:56,040 --> 00:04:01,240 Speaker 1: It just starts crazy. Oh surely said something about she 71 00:04:01,400 --> 00:04:04,280 Speaker 1: lied in the letter she doesn't love herself very much. 72 00:04:04,320 --> 00:04:06,840 Speaker 1: I agree with you, but let me let me, let 73 00:04:06,920 --> 00:04:10,720 Speaker 1: me take a different look at this. I love myself 74 00:04:10,880 --> 00:04:15,440 Speaker 1: very much right there, and then you said, and I 75 00:04:15,520 --> 00:04:20,520 Speaker 1: love most of my family, but right what Wait a minute, 76 00:04:20,560 --> 00:04:24,600 Speaker 1: hold up, when you remember how your mama told you once, 77 00:04:24,680 --> 00:04:28,000 Speaker 1: you say, but it negates everything you said prior to that. 78 00:04:29,279 --> 00:04:32,280 Speaker 1: I love myself very much, and I love most of 79 00:04:32,320 --> 00:04:36,360 Speaker 1: my family, but I've developed this deep dog hatred for 80 00:04:36,560 --> 00:04:42,400 Speaker 1: my sister. This whole block statement is filled with contradiction. 81 00:04:42,839 --> 00:04:47,600 Speaker 1: I love myself very much. I love most of my family. 82 00:04:48,880 --> 00:04:53,800 Speaker 1: I've developed a deep dog hatred for my sister. Wow, okay, 83 00:04:54,240 --> 00:04:58,360 Speaker 1: you see you're tripping. You see, my sister has the 84 00:04:58,440 --> 00:05:04,159 Speaker 1: life I prayed for. No, she don't. No, Okay, if 85 00:05:04,240 --> 00:05:07,839 Speaker 1: your sister has the life you prayed for, do you 86 00:05:07,920 --> 00:05:13,680 Speaker 1: understand how this works? Right here? You hated your sister 87 00:05:13,880 --> 00:05:18,119 Speaker 1: so much that the life you prayed for, God gave 88 00:05:18,160 --> 00:05:23,800 Speaker 1: it to her. Because you're so dog gonna hateful, Why 89 00:05:23,839 --> 00:05:26,760 Speaker 1: would he give it to you? What your heart feel? 90 00:05:26,800 --> 00:05:29,440 Speaker 1: With all this hate? You, God, you ain't gonna be 91 00:05:29,480 --> 00:05:32,279 Speaker 1: able to treat it right. I turned to God and 92 00:05:32,360 --> 00:05:34,520 Speaker 1: ask God to bless me with her husband, with all 93 00:05:34,520 --> 00:05:38,520 Speaker 1: the qualities her husband had. God gave this wonderful man 94 00:05:38,640 --> 00:05:46,159 Speaker 1: to my sister. This man didn't want you. The man 95 00:05:46,320 --> 00:05:51,000 Speaker 1: didn't want you. You just said in your letter, when 96 00:05:51,040 --> 00:05:54,200 Speaker 1: you sleep with men, after you sleep with him, it 97 00:05:54,279 --> 00:05:59,440 Speaker 1: is no communication. Not only don't this man want you, 98 00:06:00,200 --> 00:06:06,679 Speaker 1: but none of the men you slept with, won't you? Girl? Girl? 99 00:06:06,839 --> 00:06:09,799 Speaker 1: I got so much to pick out of this letter. 100 00:06:10,360 --> 00:06:12,679 Speaker 1: I know, all right, Well, hold it right there, Steve, 101 00:06:12,720 --> 00:06:15,520 Speaker 1: holding right there. I know this letter is upsetting. It 102 00:06:15,560 --> 00:06:18,640 Speaker 1: is because she's crazy subject. I can't help it. I'm 103 00:06:18,640 --> 00:06:21,479 Speaker 1: a hater. It's hard to recap. Here's a woman whose 104 00:06:21,520 --> 00:06:24,240 Speaker 1: sister has the life she won't, and now she hate 105 00:06:24,279 --> 00:06:28,400 Speaker 1: her sister, and she mad at God. She said, your 106 00:06:28,480 --> 00:06:30,960 Speaker 1: sister has the life I prayed for. I turned to God, 107 00:06:31,040 --> 00:06:33,480 Speaker 1: ask God to bless me with her husband, with all 108 00:06:33,520 --> 00:06:36,800 Speaker 1: the qualities her husband has. God gave this wonderful man 109 00:06:36,880 --> 00:06:39,440 Speaker 1: to my sister. My sister has never prayed for anything. 110 00:06:39,720 --> 00:06:43,440 Speaker 1: How you know? How do you know your sister ain't 111 00:06:43,440 --> 00:06:45,680 Speaker 1: praying for nothing? She did not even want to be 112 00:06:45,720 --> 00:06:48,719 Speaker 1: in a relationship when she met her husband. That's usually 113 00:06:48,760 --> 00:06:52,600 Speaker 1: how it happens. Love just walks up to you. She 114 00:06:52,839 --> 00:06:56,320 Speaker 1: wasn't out there looking for nothing. She wasn't hunting. She 115 00:06:56,520 --> 00:06:59,960 Speaker 1: got found. He's a good man, and they talking about 116 00:07:00,160 --> 00:07:02,880 Speaker 1: starting the family. That's what people do when they get 117 00:07:02,920 --> 00:07:05,640 Speaker 1: married and they in love with each other. She prayed 118 00:07:05,720 --> 00:07:11,320 Speaker 1: for nothing. How do you know that? She's not very religious? 119 00:07:11,640 --> 00:07:15,320 Speaker 1: How do you know that? And she sins all the time, 120 00:07:16,080 --> 00:07:24,880 Speaker 1: and everybody, do, ok, everybody do what you you you're tripping? 121 00:07:25,160 --> 00:07:28,960 Speaker 1: She prayed for nothing. She's not very religious, and she 122 00:07:29,120 --> 00:07:35,000 Speaker 1: sins all the time. You just described everybody else, including 123 00:07:35,040 --> 00:07:39,080 Speaker 1: your damn self. But God still gave her the life. 124 00:07:39,160 --> 00:07:42,520 Speaker 1: I prayed fault. God, ain't finn to give you nothing 125 00:07:42,560 --> 00:07:46,880 Speaker 1: because you're too hateful. Because of that, I developed this 126 00:07:47,120 --> 00:07:51,680 Speaker 1: deep jealousy for her. Oh, you hateful, and you're jealous 127 00:07:51,800 --> 00:07:55,120 Speaker 1: for her, and it just turned to hate. Let me 128 00:07:55,160 --> 00:07:57,240 Speaker 1: ask you something. When you type this letter, did you 129 00:07:57,280 --> 00:08:04,440 Speaker 1: read it? Did you read this? Twit to God? This 130 00:08:04,760 --> 00:08:09,840 Speaker 1: letter so damn crazy. There's not a breath in this letter. 131 00:08:09,920 --> 00:08:13,600 Speaker 1: There's not a line where you breathe. Because of that, 132 00:08:13,800 --> 00:08:16,160 Speaker 1: I developed this deep jealousy for her and to turn 133 00:08:16,240 --> 00:08:19,440 Speaker 1: into hate. It's hard for me. Listen, every letter is 134 00:08:19,560 --> 00:08:22,480 Speaker 1: filled with hate. It's hard for being the same room 135 00:08:22,520 --> 00:08:27,600 Speaker 1: with my sister and her husband. Anybody. They made a 136 00:08:27,720 --> 00:08:31,040 Speaker 1: joke recently, Oh some levity. Here comes some levity, y'all. 137 00:08:31,400 --> 00:08:34,160 Speaker 1: They made a joke recently about me being single and 138 00:08:34,200 --> 00:08:36,760 Speaker 1: then my mid thirty So it caused me to hate 139 00:08:36,760 --> 00:08:43,760 Speaker 1: her even more. Hate for help, Yeah, you is a 140 00:08:43,880 --> 00:08:49,800 Speaker 1: hate for help. Then here we go. Oh, here's a 141 00:08:49,840 --> 00:08:52,280 Speaker 1: bright spot. I have a lot of friends that are 142 00:08:52,280 --> 00:08:56,120 Speaker 1: in relationships and married. That's a bright spot ready, But 143 00:08:56,240 --> 00:08:59,240 Speaker 1: I don't feel the same way about them. Oh, I 144 00:08:59,360 --> 00:09:02,600 Speaker 1: have a little jealousy towards him, but it ain't as bad. 145 00:09:03,440 --> 00:09:08,920 Speaker 1: I only have hate their ass. She got here, we go? 146 00:09:09,040 --> 00:09:11,480 Speaker 1: You're ready for some more? I've dated a few guys 147 00:09:11,600 --> 00:09:14,960 Speaker 1: here and now, but they are looking for a serious relationship, 148 00:09:15,200 --> 00:09:17,960 Speaker 1: and after I sleep with them, there's usually no more 149 00:09:18,000 --> 00:09:23,640 Speaker 1: communication after that. Damn. So now you so you so 150 00:09:23,920 --> 00:09:29,160 Speaker 1: hate for you? Your your sex ain't even good? You 151 00:09:29,280 --> 00:09:38,720 Speaker 1: have hateful sex. Have hey, take it? Whop me take it? 152 00:09:38,800 --> 00:09:43,640 Speaker 1: Get it to love me? You're loving me? Yet you 153 00:09:43,679 --> 00:09:45,160 Speaker 1: want to stay with me the rest of your life. 154 00:09:47,600 --> 00:09:50,240 Speaker 1: Take this thing I'm giving you. Y'all. Y'all, y'all want 155 00:09:50,240 --> 00:09:54,719 Speaker 1: to go buy me a ring? Now? Hate sew. I've 156 00:09:54,840 --> 00:09:57,280 Speaker 1: dated a few guys serious relationship. I sleep with them. 157 00:09:57,360 --> 00:10:00,920 Speaker 1: There's usually no more communication after I'm I picky at all? 158 00:10:01,400 --> 00:10:06,480 Speaker 1: What so now you're sleeping with anybody? Anything? But I 159 00:10:06,600 --> 00:10:10,040 Speaker 1: haven't gotten anywhere in my prayers for a good man. Okay, 160 00:10:10,080 --> 00:10:14,280 Speaker 1: excuse me, where in your prayers for this good man 161 00:10:15,240 --> 00:10:17,599 Speaker 1: does God tell you to go out and sleep with 162 00:10:18,200 --> 00:10:21,920 Speaker 1: men that you ain't even picky or particular about and 163 00:10:22,120 --> 00:10:24,800 Speaker 1: have sex with them which ain't gonna be good sex 164 00:10:25,320 --> 00:10:31,880 Speaker 1: because you you have angry sex, You're evil, you have 165 00:10:32,120 --> 00:10:37,040 Speaker 1: hateful I don't want no more from my sister. Has 166 00:10:37,080 --> 00:10:40,600 Speaker 1: received all my blessings. No, she didn't. Your sister got 167 00:10:40,640 --> 00:10:43,320 Speaker 1: the blessings that God was gonna give her. What God 168 00:10:43,440 --> 00:10:47,160 Speaker 1: has for her is not for you. God ain't gave 169 00:10:47,320 --> 00:10:49,679 Speaker 1: nothing to her that He intended to give to you. 170 00:10:50,040 --> 00:10:53,600 Speaker 1: He not giving you nothing because you hateful. My sister 171 00:10:53,800 --> 00:10:58,480 Speaker 1: received all my blessings with her sinful self. Wow, I 172 00:10:58,640 --> 00:11:01,880 Speaker 1: am losing my faith now because God ignores me. You 173 00:11:01,960 --> 00:11:04,960 Speaker 1: don't have no faith. You ain't losing it. It's gone. 174 00:11:06,200 --> 00:11:08,840 Speaker 1: God ain't in you at all. You've taken. You remove 175 00:11:09,000 --> 00:11:12,440 Speaker 1: the space for God to exist in you with hatred. 176 00:11:13,280 --> 00:11:16,840 Speaker 1: I'm still single with no real possibilities of finding love. 177 00:11:17,280 --> 00:11:20,440 Speaker 1: And because of that statement right there, you never will. 178 00:11:21,000 --> 00:11:23,599 Speaker 1: You keep putting negativity out in the universe and you 179 00:11:23,760 --> 00:11:29,000 Speaker 1: expect positivity to return. Are you crazy? Please tell me 180 00:11:29,080 --> 00:11:30,840 Speaker 1: how I can get back on track with my faith. 181 00:11:31,080 --> 00:11:32,960 Speaker 1: You need to go to a good faith based church, 182 00:11:33,040 --> 00:11:35,480 Speaker 1: just like Joel Osteen say. You need to pick up 183 00:11:35,520 --> 00:11:38,480 Speaker 1: your Bible. You need to stop hating your sister. You 184 00:11:38,679 --> 00:11:41,400 Speaker 1: have the life that you've thought and prayed yourself to. 185 00:11:42,160 --> 00:11:44,760 Speaker 1: Let me give you a scripture right quick. James four 186 00:11:44,840 --> 00:11:49,719 Speaker 1: and three says you ask and receive, not because you 187 00:11:50,000 --> 00:11:53,439 Speaker 1: ask a miss. You know what that means. When you 188 00:11:53,600 --> 00:11:56,079 Speaker 1: keep asking God for something and God don't give it 189 00:11:56,200 --> 00:12:01,360 Speaker 1: to you, it's because you keep asking with the wrong intentions. 190 00:12:01,520 --> 00:12:06,719 Speaker 1: That's right, wrong, the wrong motivation. Your whole motivation in 191 00:12:06,840 --> 00:12:09,319 Speaker 1: life is wrong. That's why God ain't gonna bless you 192 00:12:09,720 --> 00:12:13,600 Speaker 1: because you're so hateful. I love it and don't Nobody 193 00:12:13,720 --> 00:12:18,160 Speaker 1: won't know hateful sick. All right, guys, email us your Instagram. 194 00:12:18,240 --> 00:12:21,240 Speaker 1: That's your thoughts on today's Strawberry Letter at Steve Harvey 195 00:12:21,400 --> 00:12:25,720 Speaker 1: Fix and check out the Strawberry Letter podcast on demand. 196 00:12:26,000 --> 00:12:28,680 Speaker 1: You're listening to the Steve Harvey Morning Show.