WEBVTT - One for the Brooks 0:00:00.880 --> 0:00:04.360 This is How Men Think with brooks Like and Gavin 0:00:04.400 --> 0:00:08.760 de gra and I Hear Radio podcast. Welcome to another 0:00:08.760 --> 0:00:11.239 episode of How Men Think. My name is brooks Like, 0:00:11.560 --> 0:00:14.319 and we have no Gavin DeGraw today, we have no Rick, 0:00:14.680 --> 0:00:18.400 we have no Dmitri, but we have the one and 0:00:18.480 --> 0:00:23.479 only the legendary Mr Ryan O'Dell with that's Ryding's shotgun. 0:00:23.600 --> 0:00:28.200 What's up, Brian? Ah, it's it's so refreshing to trim 0:00:28.240 --> 0:00:32.160 the fat and just have the two of us right here, 0:00:32.320 --> 0:00:35.920 to eliminate the dead weight and allow the cream to 0:00:36.159 --> 0:00:39.640 rise to the top. And here we are. Brooks You're 0:00:39.640 --> 0:00:42.839 in Idaho, I believe. Is that correct? I don't know, 0:00:44.200 --> 0:00:51.760 I agreat cryptic. Yes, yeah, I'm I'm an Idaho. You 0:00:51.800 --> 0:00:54.920 are in l A. That is correct. You have quite 0:00:54.920 --> 0:00:56.960 the growth on your face right now, so have you? 0:00:58.080 --> 0:01:00.640 Judging by the looks of you, you've completely given up 0:01:00.680 --> 0:01:04.360 on life and they don't care how you look to 0:01:04.680 --> 0:01:08.440 the outside world. Is that accurate? I'm social distancing, my friend. 0:01:08.440 --> 0:01:10.000 It does not matter what I look like to the 0:01:10.000 --> 0:01:14.800 outside world right now. Um. But honestly, dude, up in Idaho, 0:01:14.920 --> 0:01:17.120 this would be like a junior beard. This would be 0:01:17.160 --> 0:01:19.680 like a starter kit beard up here. The boys up 0:01:19.680 --> 0:01:22.240 here runs some long beards, like they're like four or 0:01:22.240 --> 0:01:24.679 five years deep on these things, So I'm way behind. 0:01:25.000 --> 0:01:27.840 Have you grown that out longer than that during the 0:01:27.959 --> 0:01:31.039 NHL like playoff days? No, this is the longest. There 0:01:31.080 --> 0:01:33.160 is the longest I've ever had my beard. I'm keeping 0:01:33.200 --> 0:01:35.240 it just to see where it goes. Who knows. I've 0:01:35.240 --> 0:01:36.720 trimmed it a couple of times, like, trimmed it up 0:01:36.720 --> 0:01:39.720 because it was getting wiry and bushy, um and just 0:01:39.800 --> 0:01:43.000 like just ridiculous looking. But I trimmed it up a 0:01:43.040 --> 0:01:44.560 couple of times. But I don't know if I've ever 0:01:44.600 --> 0:01:47.160 seen you with the beard. You have to be clean 0:01:47.160 --> 0:01:50.760 shaven for work, No, I don't. I just don't want 0:01:50.800 --> 0:01:56.360 to ever look like you choose to um try to 0:01:56.400 --> 0:02:00.000 portray an image of about himself and not someone who's 0:02:00.000 --> 0:02:03.480 given up on life. And I mean it's quite the look. 0:02:04.080 --> 0:02:06.800 You look like the UNI bomber in many ways, which 0:02:06.880 --> 0:02:09.919 is interesting. I don't even know what he looks like. 0:02:10.840 --> 0:02:13.480 Your hair is very wafty right now, though, I hope, 0:02:13.520 --> 0:02:16.679 I hope Danielle took a picture for our Instagram. Oh 0:02:16.760 --> 0:02:20.560 I did. Don't you worry to put you could put 0:02:20.639 --> 0:02:22.640 him up and put a side by side with Jim 0:02:22.720 --> 0:02:26.200 Carey from ace Ventura because he's got that part with 0:02:26.240 --> 0:02:29.480 the big waft going to the other side. It's very um, 0:02:29.480 --> 0:02:35.160 it's uh, it's a problem. Look, look, this is I 0:02:35.200 --> 0:02:38.920 am a casualty of the quarantine and the COVID stay 0:02:38.960 --> 0:02:41.959 at home lockdown where you can't get haircuts. So we're 0:02:42.000 --> 0:02:44.200 just we're growing it out and this is what it is. 0:02:44.280 --> 0:02:47.119 You know. I like it. I dig it. D um. 0:02:47.160 --> 0:02:50.200 By the way, are you so right now Ryan and 0:02:50.200 --> 0:02:53.359 I are doing this phone call on zoom. Are you 0:02:53.639 --> 0:02:56.200 standing at a stand up desk? Because I see you wiggling. 0:02:56.280 --> 0:02:58.480 It doesn't look like you are in a chair. I 0:02:58.520 --> 0:03:01.400 am anna stand up desk. You are in a chair, 0:03:02.280 --> 0:03:05.840 as to be expected. That is a beta. Move on, 0:03:05.880 --> 0:03:08.840 your behalf. I'm an alpha, of course, who chooses to 0:03:09.639 --> 0:03:12.280 be in a dominant position as you and the beta's 0:03:12.320 --> 0:03:16.400 sit down behind the desk. I stand, uh and yes 0:03:16.440 --> 0:03:18.320 here I am at a stand up desk. I bought 0:03:18.320 --> 0:03:20.760 this when we were all sent home for the quarantine, 0:03:20.800 --> 0:03:25.320 and I yeah, that's fine. So I love you man, 0:03:25.400 --> 0:03:27.480 You're You're hilarious to me. And here's the thing. About 0:03:27.760 --> 0:03:31.320 alpha's is alpha's never have to tell people their alpha's. 0:03:31.360 --> 0:03:34.040 Everybody can sense that the alpha is the alpha. But 0:03:34.160 --> 0:03:37.240 when when somebody starts talking that they're the alpha, it 0:03:37.360 --> 0:03:41.560 means they are trying to prove something in Alpha's don't 0:03:41.560 --> 0:03:43.920 have to prove something, Brooks. Let me tell you something. 0:03:44.040 --> 0:03:48.520 A wolf does not concern himself with the opinion of sheep. Okay, 0:03:50.800 --> 0:03:52.400 I know you put that on my post the other 0:03:52.480 --> 0:03:55.200 day when I said some some wolves lead sheep and 0:03:55.400 --> 0:03:59.040 other wolves lead wolves. Um, but it's good to see 0:03:59.040 --> 0:04:01.720 your face, man, haven't seen for a long time. UM. 0:04:01.760 --> 0:04:07.040 And today's discussion we're gonna get into sex and quarantine, 0:04:07.200 --> 0:04:12.280 sex and whether or not people are feeling sexual during 0:04:12.320 --> 0:04:14.880 this time or feeling not sexual during this time. We 0:04:14.920 --> 0:04:18.240 have a special guest coming on with us as well. UM. 0:04:18.320 --> 0:04:19.760 But I want to leave it up to you, brother. 0:04:20.120 --> 0:04:22.120 The topic of this is kind of you wanted to 0:04:22.160 --> 0:04:24.320 share your story with what I'm in Idaho, so I 0:04:24.320 --> 0:04:26.080 don't have much to say about this. My wife's back 0:04:26.080 --> 0:04:28.080 in l A. I mean, not much of that going 0:04:28.080 --> 0:04:31.040 on right here, UM, but I want to leave it 0:04:31.120 --> 0:04:33.520 up to you and share your story with how it's 0:04:33.560 --> 0:04:36.080 going for you. You wanted to open up and um 0:04:36.400 --> 0:04:39.440 discuss what your personal relationship was like during this time, 0:04:39.440 --> 0:04:40.720 because I know for a lot of people it's been 0:04:40.800 --> 0:04:44.360 very difficult. Yeah, and by the way, I will share 0:04:44.360 --> 0:04:47.240 where I am. But just because you are in isolation 0:04:47.279 --> 0:04:50.840 in Idaho and Julianna's in isolation in l A doesn't 0:04:50.880 --> 0:04:52.680 mean you're off the hook. I have questions for you 0:04:52.720 --> 0:04:56.960 as well, so I will begin. Look, it's it's more 0:04:56.960 --> 0:04:59.000 of the same for me in the sense of, like 0:04:59.040 --> 0:05:04.719 what I've always said, the struggle is um is making 0:05:04.800 --> 0:05:09.080 time for one another. And there's no no greater challenge 0:05:09.120 --> 0:05:12.920 than now when you have no childcare so you don't 0:05:12.960 --> 0:05:18.400 have school. They're all closed, our child care, our nanny 0:05:18.440 --> 0:05:21.360 who was part time, uh she has three kids of 0:05:21.400 --> 0:05:23.200 her own, and we've all tried to do the socially 0:05:23.240 --> 0:05:26.080 responsible thing, which is to stay home and keep the 0:05:26.080 --> 0:05:29.640 circle closed. And and I'm also trying to work a 0:05:29.640 --> 0:05:36.039 full time, full time job remotely. Uh so really we're 0:05:36.080 --> 0:05:38.680 we're in survival mode. It's it's almost as if we're 0:05:38.680 --> 0:05:40.280 in the same position we were when we had our 0:05:40.279 --> 0:05:47.200 second child, which is like, unfortunately your sexual desires are 0:05:47.279 --> 0:05:49.200 kind of put on the back burner in many ways 0:05:49.320 --> 0:05:56.000 to just trying to navigate the rigors of a daily routine. 0:05:56.040 --> 0:05:58.520 And that that begins for us at four fifteen in 0:05:58.560 --> 0:06:01.200 the morning. One of us is getting up because our 0:06:01.680 --> 0:06:04.400 our six month old is has been waking up at 0:06:04.400 --> 0:06:06.600 like four thirty five, so we have to get up 0:06:06.600 --> 0:06:10.680 heat the bottle. Uh. And then it it continues on 0:06:11.160 --> 0:06:14.279 until we put them down around six five at night. 0:06:14.839 --> 0:06:19.200 So you're on for about fourteen hours and we're trying 0:06:19.200 --> 0:06:21.840 to trade off, and I'm trying to carve out time 0:06:21.920 --> 0:06:23.320 during the day to give my wife a little bit 0:06:23.320 --> 0:06:27.000 of a break. And um, all that is to say 0:06:27.440 --> 0:06:32.000 that unless the two kids miraculously are taking their naps 0:06:32.160 --> 0:06:35.719 in a similar time frame and there's some sort of overlap, 0:06:36.080 --> 0:06:40.920 there's really no option to two to have sex with 0:06:40.960 --> 0:06:43.680 one another. And and I know I'm gonna get crucified 0:06:43.720 --> 0:06:45.800 saying you have to make time. What about at the 0:06:45.880 --> 0:06:48.120 end of the day. Yes, I will tell you, Brooks, 0:06:48.120 --> 0:06:49.760 at the end of the day, You're absolutely right, when 0:06:49.760 --> 0:06:52.159 we finally put the kids down, that is the time 0:06:52.240 --> 0:06:56.200 that technically we could be intimate with one another. But 0:06:56.600 --> 0:07:00.640 reality is this, we are so fried by the end 0:07:00.680 --> 0:07:03.160 of the day. Once we finally put the kids down. 0:07:03.320 --> 0:07:06.920 We literally every day high five one another and hug 0:07:06.960 --> 0:07:09.600 each other and we're like, oh my god, we did it. 0:07:09.960 --> 0:07:13.520 And then we have a cocktail, we have our dinner, 0:07:13.920 --> 0:07:16.240 we watched Tiger King, and by the end of that 0:07:16.280 --> 0:07:18.840 we're ready to go to bed because we got to 0:07:18.840 --> 0:07:21.360 get up at four fifteen the next morning. So it's 0:07:21.400 --> 0:07:26.200 really like, um, it's it's easier said than done. It's 0:07:26.240 --> 0:07:29.200 not to say that we haven't had opportunities and capitalize 0:07:29.200 --> 0:07:33.920 on them, but it's it's not It's not easy. Yeah, dude, 0:07:33.920 --> 0:07:35.920 I wanna first off, I want to commend you for sharing, 0:07:35.920 --> 0:07:38.160 because that's real talk. Like that's what we want to 0:07:38.200 --> 0:07:41.200 do on this on this podcast, is have real discussions 0:07:41.240 --> 0:07:45.560 that that don't tiptoe around issues and we actually dive 0:07:45.640 --> 0:07:47.640 right into them. And so I want to command you 0:07:47.680 --> 0:07:50.480 for sharing that, and anybody who out there would be 0:07:51.200 --> 0:07:54.680 wanting to crucify you for saying that. I mean, it's 0:07:54.680 --> 0:07:58.000 it's real life, like it's And another thing that you 0:07:58.040 --> 0:08:00.480 said in there is like, if they do more accuracy, 0:08:00.560 --> 0:08:02.840 take a nap. At the same time, you're still working 0:08:02.880 --> 0:08:05.240 a full time job right now, so are you in 0:08:05.240 --> 0:08:06.840 the meeting can you get away? Are you on a 0:08:06.920 --> 0:08:09.280 zoom call? Are you doing this podcast? Are you busy? 0:08:09.600 --> 0:08:12.320 Are you distracted? Are you working on something for all 0:08:12.360 --> 0:08:14.600 of those stars to align to have a little brief 0:08:14.640 --> 0:08:16.560 period like that? I mean, you might as well buy 0:08:16.560 --> 0:08:22.000 a lottery ticket almost. Um, so I don't I I 0:08:22.040 --> 0:08:26.040 empathize with you, man, kids like I just have a dog, 0:08:26.080 --> 0:08:29.320 and a dog is a lot um. I can't imagine 0:08:29.320 --> 0:08:31.680 for people that don't haven't listened to the show or 0:08:31.800 --> 0:08:34.080 new to the show, you have a six month old 0:08:34.080 --> 0:08:37.000 and a two and a half year old, right, that's right? Yeah, 0:08:37.120 --> 0:08:39.160 And so being at home working a full time job, 0:08:39.600 --> 0:08:41.360 trying to help your wife out. Your wife is looking 0:08:41.400 --> 0:08:44.040 after the kids all day long. You're trying to help 0:08:44.040 --> 0:08:46.599 her out. I can imagine you guys are just exhausted 0:08:46.640 --> 0:08:49.400 by six o'clock and you you can't take the kids 0:08:49.440 --> 0:08:52.760 anywhere too. There there's nowhere you can go. So you're 0:08:52.840 --> 0:08:56.240 really confined to your home. And you know Amy has 0:08:56.240 --> 0:09:00.280 said to me, and Amy's perfect world, she said, well, 0:09:00.280 --> 0:09:02.040 why what about when you put the kids down? Like 0:09:02.080 --> 0:09:04.400 you can't have sex? Then it's like, yeah, okay, I 0:09:04.520 --> 0:09:07.480 mean I guess you're right, Like technically, because as I 0:09:07.520 --> 0:09:10.920 said to you, like go through in one of our 0:09:11.040 --> 0:09:14.520 days of fourteen hours being on on on, dealing with 0:09:14.559 --> 0:09:17.840 all that, and like you just get to the point 0:09:17.880 --> 0:09:21.560 where you're you're now you're hungry. You haven't had to 0:09:21.600 --> 0:09:23.800 have a meal, get a meal all day where you 0:09:24.320 --> 0:09:28.839 sat down without a kid hanging on you or responsibilities 0:09:28.840 --> 0:09:31.720 that you were trying to like adhere to in the 0:09:31.760 --> 0:09:34.960 middle of your meal. So there's something refreshing about just 0:09:35.000 --> 0:09:37.000 sitting next to each other on the couch and turning 0:09:37.000 --> 0:09:40.800 on an episode of something, uh, and and just relaxing. 0:09:41.000 --> 0:09:45.280 So okay, buddy, Well for you, my friend, to help 0:09:45.440 --> 0:09:48.280 with this issue and help everybody out there, everybody else 0:09:48.280 --> 0:09:51.120 out there with this issue. Um, we have a special 0:09:51.160 --> 0:09:56.080 guest for you, Oh excited, special guests gonna solve all 0:09:56.120 --> 0:10:07.680 of your problems. Brother. I would like to welcome to 0:10:08.640 --> 0:10:15.120 the show, miss Stephanie wolf Stephanie, are you there? Hi? Guys, 0:10:16.200 --> 0:10:21.360 I did your show a couple of months ago, remember 0:10:21.360 --> 0:10:24.000 in the overs Hotel. Yeah, but it's good to see 0:10:24.000 --> 0:10:26.280 your face. So we have Dusty and Stephanie Wolfe with 0:10:26.360 --> 0:10:32.080 us today. Um, and Dustin's step It got you step 0:10:34.320 --> 0:10:36.280 But Dustin was on talking about the rocket. If you 0:10:36.280 --> 0:10:39.040 guys listened about the Rocket a couple of months ago 0:10:39.080 --> 0:10:42.440 we aired that show, um, which Ryan, you weren't there 0:10:42.520 --> 0:10:44.920 for that one, So I'd love for you to like, uh, 0:10:45.280 --> 0:10:47.760 probably listened to it, but like stephaniely your Steph could 0:10:47.760 --> 0:10:49.520 talk about it more. But the rocket to give you 0:10:49.559 --> 0:10:53.720 more stronger libido. Um. But Steph, we would like to 0:10:53.760 --> 0:10:58.760 get your insight. You are well known in dealing with UM, 0:10:58.800 --> 0:11:03.320 correcting sexual hell issues and hormonal imbalances. Um, you're the 0:11:03.360 --> 0:11:07.560 CEO of Nova's Anti aging Center. But really we're having 0:11:07.559 --> 0:11:12.880 a discussion about why people in general and Ryan just 0:11:12.960 --> 0:11:15.920 opened up and shared his story. Why people in general 0:11:15.960 --> 0:11:20.240 and why Ryan, why we may be struggling with lack 0:11:20.280 --> 0:11:25.120 of sexuality sexual drive um, during this really wild and 0:11:25.200 --> 0:11:28.080 chaotic time. So I'd love to get your expertise on 0:11:28.559 --> 0:11:31.200 what's going on with us, what's going on in the world. 0:11:31.320 --> 0:11:35.479 Are we we now have more proximity to our partners 0:11:35.480 --> 0:11:38.520 than ever and why is that actually leading to a 0:11:38.600 --> 0:11:42.840 lack of sexual drive? Well, you know it's funny because 0:11:43.040 --> 0:11:46.360 I'm seeing both sides of the story right now in 0:11:46.360 --> 0:11:48.760 my clinic. I mean, we are still open a couple 0:11:48.760 --> 0:11:51.280 of days of a week, and you know, one of 0:11:51.320 --> 0:11:53.920 it is this is very stressful. This is the most 0:11:54.120 --> 0:11:58.320 stressful event that will probably ever go through in our lives, 0:11:58.320 --> 0:12:00.320 like in our lifetime if you actually think of at it. 0:12:00.920 --> 0:12:05.240 So you know, people are losing their jobs, right, and 0:12:05.400 --> 0:12:08.439 they're not making any money. They can't pay their rent 0:12:08.559 --> 0:12:10.559 or their mortgage. They don't know how they're going to 0:12:10.679 --> 0:12:13.720 make ends meet, and so a lot of that stress 0:12:14.080 --> 0:12:17.959 is going to be placed on a relationship, right. And 0:12:18.040 --> 0:12:20.560 so when you have that kind of stress on a relationship, 0:12:21.320 --> 0:12:25.000 sex is the last thing you're thinking about for some men, 0:12:25.840 --> 0:12:29.959 whereas in other men they actually they have a higher libido, 0:12:30.040 --> 0:12:33.720 higher sex strife there, you know, more horny is what 0:12:33.800 --> 0:12:36.920 I'm hearing when they are under a lot of stress. 0:12:36.960 --> 0:12:40.920 So it's interesting because you do see both sides. And 0:12:41.720 --> 0:12:44.640 that's really for anything, if you think about it. I mean, 0:12:44.920 --> 0:12:49.440 that's we're all human here. But um, you know, all 0:12:49.440 --> 0:12:52.160 the stress besides all the stress and trying to figure 0:12:52.160 --> 0:12:55.520 out what what's coming up next. As far as you know, 0:12:55.840 --> 0:12:57.880 nobody knows when we're going back to work. We can 0:12:57.920 --> 0:13:00.640 all speculate and you know, no but he knows what 0:13:00.840 --> 0:13:02.800 the economy is going to look like when we come 0:13:02.840 --> 0:13:06.680 back to work. Of course we speculate and just overall 0:13:06.720 --> 0:13:10.559 health and wellness. Right, so this is the time where 0:13:10.960 --> 0:13:14.440 you know, people can actually start cooking at home and 0:13:14.559 --> 0:13:19.880 enjoying each other and playing games, you know, actual board games, 0:13:19.960 --> 0:13:22.800 remember those like back in the day board games. I 0:13:22.920 --> 0:13:27.560 just get a new one the other night by yourself, Brooks. 0:13:29.000 --> 0:13:33.120 Thank god. Um question for you, So Ryan, let me 0:13:33.120 --> 0:13:36.560 ask you this. So I would say that I am 0:13:36.600 --> 0:13:39.640 looking at that question. I would say that I probably 0:13:39.679 --> 0:13:43.680 would lose my sex drive when stress ramps up, Yeah, 0:13:44.000 --> 0:13:46.240 goes up, I would say, I probably my sex drive 0:13:46.280 --> 0:13:49.840 would go down. Yeah. Um, that's just what I feel 0:13:49.960 --> 0:13:52.400 right now. In the instance of this conversation, Ryan, what 0:13:52.440 --> 0:13:55.000 do you think you would be and if stress goes up, 0:13:55.040 --> 0:13:58.120 would your sex drive go down or up? I'm surprised 0:13:58.160 --> 0:14:00.680 that you say that, Brooks, because you look very horny 0:14:00.760 --> 0:14:03.800 right now, so you could have us I don't have 0:14:03.800 --> 0:14:08.480 a lot of stress right now. It's hilarious. I would 0:14:08.520 --> 0:14:12.440 say when stress goes up, yeah, the labido like that 0:14:12.520 --> 0:14:14.760 all goes down because it's it's the last thing on 0:14:14.840 --> 0:14:17.719 your mind. You're in, as I said, you're in survival 0:14:17.720 --> 0:14:21.560 mode and when you're in survival mode. That's that has 0:14:21.640 --> 0:14:25.200 nothing to do with survival. It's about like keeping your 0:14:25.240 --> 0:14:28.440 family afloat, which is more important than your sex draw. 0:14:29.400 --> 0:14:31.920 But it's interesting that you say that, because if you 0:14:31.920 --> 0:14:35.600 think about survival mode, right, survival mode is about planting 0:14:35.600 --> 0:14:39.880 your seed. Yeah. Right, So that's why some guys actually 0:14:40.280 --> 0:14:43.360 have that higher sex strive. It's like their natural release 0:14:44.000 --> 0:14:46.400 of kind of getting out, you know, their engst nous 0:14:46.480 --> 0:14:51.800 from it. But what would you say the percentage of 0:14:51.800 --> 0:14:55.840 guys who's whose libido goes up during stressful times and 0:14:55.880 --> 0:14:59.000 what percentage goes down during stressful times. I have to 0:14:59.040 --> 0:15:02.800 imagine that more there's a higher percentage of men whose 0:15:02.880 --> 0:15:07.600 libido goes down when there's high stress in their life. 0:15:07.800 --> 0:15:11.520 I would probably say, quite honestly, probably of the men 0:15:12.160 --> 0:15:16.600 their libido goes down. Yeah. Yeah. And if you kind 0:15:16.640 --> 0:15:20.200 of if you think about it, right, you know everything 0:15:20.280 --> 0:15:23.040 is your testosterone. Let's let's kind of talk about sex 0:15:23.120 --> 0:15:25.920 drive for a second. So sex drive actually comes from 0:15:26.280 --> 0:15:31.880 testosterone production, right your brain. Your brain is actually responsible 0:15:31.960 --> 0:15:35.520 for triggering this cascade of events to tell your body 0:15:35.560 --> 0:15:39.400 to make testosterone. So you know, one thing I'll tell 0:15:39.480 --> 0:15:42.200 guys is if you start affecting the way that the 0:15:42.240 --> 0:15:48.680 brain works, like for instance, taking antidepressants, anti anxiety, antialeptics, 0:15:49.400 --> 0:15:52.520 all those things are disrupting that communication in the brain. 0:15:53.000 --> 0:15:55.720 So if you disrupt the communication, you're no longer triggering 0:15:55.760 --> 0:16:00.360 that cascade of events to make testosterone. And you know, 0:16:00.560 --> 0:16:04.360 there's two ways that we make testosterone. One is through 0:16:04.400 --> 0:16:09.000 the adrenal glands, which adrenal glands are responsible for secreting cortisol. 0:16:09.080 --> 0:16:14.000 Cortisols are stress hormone m The second way is through 0:16:14.080 --> 0:16:18.040 the testicles. You know, if you think about where testosterone 0:16:18.080 --> 0:16:21.200 is being made, right, it all comes from the brain, 0:16:21.800 --> 0:16:24.480 and from the brain it's going to go to the 0:16:24.520 --> 0:16:27.440 adrenal glands as one side, and then it's going to 0:16:27.520 --> 0:16:29.760 go to the testicles for the other side. That's how 0:16:29.760 --> 0:16:33.120 you guys make testosterone. So if you think about the 0:16:33.160 --> 0:16:36.320 brain first, right, you've got to have that cascade of 0:16:36.360 --> 0:16:39.360 events that actually trigger all of this. And so if 0:16:39.400 --> 0:16:42.760 you're stressed, what's going to happen to your serotonin levels, 0:16:42.800 --> 0:16:45.880 your dopamine or pephrin, right, all the feel good kind 0:16:45.880 --> 0:16:49.880 of hormones, and then the adrenal glands are responsible for 0:16:50.000 --> 0:16:55.360 making cortisol, and cortisol is your stress hormone. So you know, 0:16:55.560 --> 0:16:59.160 if you're stressed and your adrenals are, you know, working 0:16:59.200 --> 0:17:02.800 in overdress life, they're going to plummet. That court is 0:17:02.840 --> 0:17:05.400 all level and then you're no longer making that testosterone 0:17:05.440 --> 0:17:08.520 from that side too, So it's all kind of connected 0:17:08.560 --> 0:17:12.640 if you think about it. So here's a question for you. UM. 0:17:12.680 --> 0:17:16.560 I believe in men, our testosterone levels dropped during the 0:17:16.600 --> 0:17:20.280 course of the day, correct, And that's why as athletes 0:17:20.320 --> 0:17:23.600 we generally train earlier in the morning. Our testosterone levels 0:17:23.640 --> 0:17:26.240 are higher. You have more energy, more more power output, 0:17:26.480 --> 0:17:28.520 you get a better result from the energy you put 0:17:28.560 --> 0:17:32.440 into your training. Yes, and that wanes over the course 0:17:32.440 --> 0:17:36.000 of the day. That's why most almost all professional sports 0:17:36.040 --> 0:17:40.320 train early in the morning. UM, testosterone levels are highest. Now, 0:17:40.560 --> 0:17:43.840 is it would it be advisable with that to try 0:17:43.880 --> 0:17:48.240 and prioritize sexual connection to have sex romance earlier in 0:17:48.240 --> 0:17:51.240 the day rather than waiting till eight or nine o'clock 0:17:51.240 --> 0:17:54.480 when our teston just by nature, by science, our testosterone 0:17:54.560 --> 0:17:57.760 levels are lower. Yes. In fact, what I tell my 0:17:57.840 --> 0:18:00.640 guys is that you're making all your test stosterone while 0:18:00.640 --> 0:18:02.879 you're sleeping at night. So number one, if you're not 0:18:03.040 --> 0:18:06.159 sleeping correctly because of stress or you know, whatever the 0:18:06.200 --> 0:18:09.480 case may be, then you're not accumulating that testosterone. So yes, 0:18:09.480 --> 0:18:12.520 your testosterone peaks first thing in the morning. This is 0:18:12.520 --> 0:18:15.320 going to sound really crazy, but I live by it 0:18:15.359 --> 0:18:18.240 and I swear by it. We had little kids who 0:18:18.280 --> 0:18:21.360 are now grown, you know, they're adults, but when they 0:18:21.400 --> 0:18:24.520 were little, we would actually set an alarm and we 0:18:24.560 --> 0:18:28.040 would wake up an hour early in the morning so 0:18:28.080 --> 0:18:31.400 that we had time for us in the morning, because 0:18:31.640 --> 0:18:34.560 that's when we're well rested. Number One, you're not thinking 0:18:34.600 --> 0:18:39.480 about anything, and his testosterone is the highest. Don't forget 0:18:39.520 --> 0:18:42.480 about us too though. I mean we make testosterone as well. 0:18:42.800 --> 0:18:46.200 We're sleeping. So is that the same or females are 0:18:46.240 --> 0:18:49.080 they the same as men's or coincide that yours is 0:18:49.119 --> 0:18:54.159 as high in the Yes? Exactly, Yeah, so kind of 0:18:54.240 --> 0:18:59.679 same idea. I have a question for Brooks and Steph you. 0:19:00.119 --> 0:19:02.560 I'm curious if you can help him or help a 0:19:02.560 --> 0:19:05.879 weigh in on this, which is Brooks to recap is 0:19:05.920 --> 0:19:10.640 in isolation and quarantine himself in his property in Idaho. 0:19:10.800 --> 0:19:13.439 Julian and his wife is in l A. So Brooks. 0:19:13.480 --> 0:19:17.600 How have you been managing being a part? How are 0:19:17.640 --> 0:19:22.680 you remaining connected? Are you are you zooming? Are you 0:19:23.320 --> 0:19:26.720 having phone sex? Are you just helping yourself to yourself? 0:19:26.760 --> 0:19:28.720 And Rosie palms like, what are we? What are we? 0:19:32.160 --> 0:19:34.800 So to be honest, my day, I wake up at 0:19:34.840 --> 0:19:38.520 probably five thirty. Um, my dog is up. I'm up 0:19:38.560 --> 0:19:40.800 at five thirty, I'm and I have a quick bowl 0:19:40.840 --> 0:19:42.960 of cereal or eat breakfast something whatever. And then I've 0:19:42.960 --> 0:19:45.800 been out in the yard at like six thirty seven 0:19:45.800 --> 0:19:48.320 o'clock every morning. And I've been working on my property 0:19:48.720 --> 0:19:51.119 for the last three weeks. And I work from about 0:19:51.200 --> 0:19:56.080 seven am until about five thirty six pm. And just 0:19:56.280 --> 0:19:58.600 like I have ten and a half acres up here. 0:19:58.680 --> 0:20:01.920 It's Idaho bush, and I am just like cleaning this 0:20:02.000 --> 0:20:04.879 place and giving it love that it's never had in 0:20:04.880 --> 0:20:06.960 the six years that I've owned it, and just like 0:20:07.119 --> 0:20:11.240 making it, like building rock walls, cutting down trees, clearing brush, 0:20:11.760 --> 0:20:14.440 all kinds of stuff. And by the time I get 0:20:14.480 --> 0:20:17.679 in from that, I am and then I cook supper 0:20:17.680 --> 0:20:19.720 because I'm here by myself, so I'll cook supper. And 0:20:19.760 --> 0:20:22.000 then at like eight o'clock I put a fire on 0:20:22.119 --> 0:20:26.160 and I'm exhausted man, Like it's it's probably the same 0:20:26.200 --> 0:20:29.359 as what you're feeling Ryan, when the day is done, 0:20:29.600 --> 0:20:33.800 I am freaking exhausted, and at that point, like I 0:20:33.880 --> 0:20:36.840 do not have a lot of sexual charge. Like truthfully, 0:20:36.840 --> 0:20:40.120 I just like I'm exhausted, I'm toast. All I'm thinking about, 0:20:40.240 --> 0:20:43.000 Like let me just mindlessly watch something for thirty minutes 0:20:43.040 --> 0:20:44.959 and go to bed and wake up and do it again. 0:20:45.320 --> 0:20:47.800 So we wake up. Though, when your test saucer and 0:20:47.920 --> 0:20:52.520 is at the highest, you you immediately get outside into 0:20:52.560 --> 0:20:58.520 the idahoe bush and that's how you rocking and rolling. Yeah, 0:20:58.720 --> 0:21:01.199 to be honest, I would in this time, during this 0:21:01.320 --> 0:21:04.040 quarantine time. I mean it's different because I'm not I 0:21:04.359 --> 0:21:06.560 don't have proximity to my wife right now. I'm not 0:21:06.800 --> 0:21:08.720 right in the same room with her. But I would 0:21:08.800 --> 0:21:11.959 say that while it's also just a focus of like 0:21:12.040 --> 0:21:14.760 what I'm doing here, what I have going on in 0:21:14.760 --> 0:21:17.600 my life, that my sex drive right now wouldn't be 0:21:17.640 --> 0:21:21.159 at its peak. Yeah, you know, so it's it's but 0:21:21.280 --> 0:21:24.679 I'm thinking about this, like why do going back to 0:21:24.680 --> 0:21:28.920 what we spoke about earlier, Steph, Like when stress comes, 0:21:29.400 --> 0:21:31.960 why is like Ryan was talking about you try and 0:21:32.000 --> 0:21:34.320 make sure your family is a float, try and like, 0:21:34.640 --> 0:21:37.439 it's such a primal thing, sexual energy. Why is it 0:21:37.560 --> 0:21:41.840 something that we so easily cast aside? Because our states 0:21:41.880 --> 0:21:44.720 and our moods after having sex and having a connection 0:21:44.800 --> 0:21:47.600 like that are probably as pure and as beautiful and 0:21:47.760 --> 0:21:52.080 energetic as ever in our lives. So if we live 0:21:52.119 --> 0:21:55.000 in that state all the time, you think that life 0:21:55.000 --> 0:21:57.520 would be better. But why do we cast aside that? 0:21:58.560 --> 0:22:00.879 Like just kind of like this once stress or anxiety 0:22:01.000 --> 0:22:04.040 or or things come even like a yard work project 0:22:04.119 --> 0:22:07.879 where I'm like, why do I not prioritize that? And 0:22:07.920 --> 0:22:09.680 why is it so easy for men to just kind 0:22:09.720 --> 0:22:13.560 of push to the backward? Quite honestly, I believe that 0:22:13.600 --> 0:22:15.720 this is kind of like a society thing. I don't 0:22:15.720 --> 0:22:20.320 know why, because, like you said, when we do have 0:22:20.520 --> 0:22:24.159 intimate relations and you know, we're able to release, we 0:22:24.240 --> 0:22:27.200 get this like euphoria sense, right, We got all these 0:22:27.200 --> 0:22:31.560 hormones that are going this like antidepressant anti anxiety helps 0:22:31.600 --> 0:22:34.320 with our sleep, helps with our mood. So I feel 0:22:34.320 --> 0:22:37.399 like if we could just be reminded of that, and 0:22:37.640 --> 0:22:41.000 you know, I try to talk to my patients like that, 0:22:41.359 --> 0:22:44.359 I want you to remember how you feel when you 0:22:44.440 --> 0:22:48.200 have that connection with your significant other, your partner or whatever, 0:22:48.840 --> 0:22:51.600 and remember how good it actually feels. And so it's 0:22:51.600 --> 0:22:54.720