Speaker 1: Contrary to popular demand, life does not revolve around content.
Speaker 2: It's the other way around.
Speaker 3: That is a fact, and the lack of engagement on
Speaker 3: social media lately, it kind of feels right in a
Speaker 3: world that feels like it's.
Speaker 2: Yeah ye, dead Ass.
Speaker 1: It all started with real talk, unfiltered, honest and straight
Speaker 1: from the heart. Since then, we've gone on to become
Speaker 1: Webby award winning podcasters in New York Times bestselling authors.
Speaker 3: Dead Ass was more than a podcast for us. It
Speaker 3: was about our growth, a place where we could be vulnerable.
Speaker 4: Be wrong, or but most apportantly be us.
Speaker 3: But as we know, life keeps evolving and so do
Speaker 3: we and through it all, one thing has never changed.
Speaker 3: This because we got a lot to talk about story time.
Speaker 1: So this episode's gonna be extremely different, namely because we
Speaker 1: just don't want to do everything the same way we
Speaker 1: did before. We've been going for about what five weeks now,
Speaker 1: and we just think it's important to, you know, talk
Speaker 1: to everybody and let you know what we've been going
Speaker 1: through as a as a.
Speaker 2: Team of people. I don't like saying his staff because
Speaker 2: we're family.
Speaker 1: So baby, I'm gonna start with you, man, give me
Speaker 1: a storytime what's been going on for the past five weeks?
Speaker 3: All right, I'll keep it short, but five weeks for me,
Speaker 3: it's more like seven months since September Dad having his stroke,
Speaker 3: and it just kind of feeling like blow after blow
Speaker 3: after blow after blow, not just within our household, but
Speaker 3: just you know, with people around me, losing about four
Speaker 3: maybe five loved ones over the past seven months, the
Speaker 3: hurricane in Jamaica taking a toll on people who I
Speaker 3: love and care about down there, trying to send aid,
Speaker 3: dealing with grief, you know, seeing my dad through his
Speaker 3: treatment with oral cancer.
Speaker 5: It's been a lot.
Speaker 3: Filming a season of television in the middle of all
Speaker 3: of this and trying to pick up the pieces and
Speaker 3: pretend to feel a sense of normalcy that I know
Speaker 3: was not in me. I guess that's a good thing.
Speaker 3: I'm an actress, right, But I had a lot to
Speaker 3: pull from this season, so Geneva was on its season two.
Speaker 3: But it's just been a lot to juggle, Yeah, with
Speaker 3: the kids, family, people around me.
Speaker 5: Yeah, it's been a lot.
Speaker 3: If I'm keeping it short, but we can go into
Speaker 3: more once the the Meatia the show starts. Cool.
Speaker 1: Last five six weeks, Yeah, my dad died.
Speaker 6: Yeah, that's pretty much how I've been talking about it
Speaker 6: because it's crazy, it's insane.
Speaker 4: It was totally unexpected. That's pretty much. That's it.
Speaker 2: Like he was here too.
Speaker 4: Yeah, he was here.
Speaker 6: He was visiting me and at for my stepmom's birthday.
Speaker 6: He came down with my step mom and my brother
Speaker 6: and my dad. He doesn't like to go anywhere, so
Speaker 6: it was kind of.
Speaker 4: Like pulling teeth to get him to come.
Speaker 6: But he was like, oh, yeah, I'll go, and we
Speaker 6: were all like, oh, wow, he's coming, so like, you know.
Speaker 4: Let's tread lightly.
Speaker 6: And then they were supposed to drive, but at the
Speaker 6: last minute, my dad bought everybody flights to come down,
Speaker 6: so I was like, wow, this is dope, you know.
Speaker 6: But when he got when they got to the airport,
Speaker 6: they ended up having to give him a wheelchair. He
Speaker 6: was like having trouble breathing and we just thought he
Speaker 6: had COPD but it was mild COPD.
Speaker 4: It's never bothered him.
Speaker 2: He was a smoker. Yeah, okay, his.
Speaker 6: COPD hadn't bothered him before, so, you know, and he
Speaker 6: had just gone to the doctor to check on his
Speaker 6: COPD and they were like, you know, fine, they gave
Speaker 6: him an inhaler, which was supposed to be enough for him.
Speaker 6: But so they got down here Thursday. It was really nice.
Speaker 6: It felt really good to me because I realized, like
Speaker 6: me and my dad are a lot alike. And I
Speaker 6: was like making this video where I said, like, I
Speaker 6: feel like myself the most when I'm around my dad,
Speaker 6: and I was like, I had been really sad and
Speaker 6: just depressed, you know, just like not feeling like myself.
Speaker 4: And I was so happy that my dad was here.
Speaker 6: But Friday, we were getting ready to go out and
Speaker 6: do something and he got dressed and walked from the
Speaker 6: bathroom to my couch and he was winded. And I'm like,
Speaker 6: what's going on with you? Why are you winded? He like, yeah,
Speaker 6: like I think the COPD done kicked in in the
Speaker 6: last week.
Speaker 4: So I'm like, wow, this is kind of crazy.
Speaker 6: And my you know, my dad or my stepmom and
Speaker 6: my brother wanted to go to the mall. I'm like this,
Speaker 6: think can't walk around the mall. But you know, he
Speaker 6: like made his way. He sat down. We spent Saturday together.
Speaker 6: We had a really fun time. On Saturday, we went
Speaker 6: and made perfume. He didn't make any because he was like,
Speaker 6: I can't smell anything, but he like treated us all
Speaker 6: to this you know excursion.
Speaker 4: He we went out.
Speaker 6: For lunch that day and he wasn't really eating either,
Speaker 6: which was weird. And I was just I was like
Speaker 6: very worried about him because I've never seen him, like
Speaker 6: I've always said, like, my dad is invincible.
Speaker 1: Like was it did you have a concern or was
Speaker 1: it like but you had a concern, but you still felt.
Speaker 2: Like that's my dad. I'm just fine.
Speaker 6: I had a concern, Like I had a really big concern.
Speaker 6: I wanted him to go to the doctor. But my
Speaker 6: Stepmi was like, we're going to take him to the
Speaker 6: doctor when we get back to check on his COPD.
Speaker 6: And I was like, you know, because when we walked
Speaker 6: to my car, he was like, oh, I'm sweating already.
Speaker 6: And I started like looking at his fingers because I
Speaker 6: have you know, I have panic attacks, and when I
Speaker 6: have panic attacks, what I think is happening is that
Speaker 6: I'm having a heart attack.
Speaker 4: So I know the symptoms of a heart attack, right, And.
Speaker 6: So I'm looking at his fingers to see if his
Speaker 6: nail beds are purple, you know, and he just you know,
Speaker 6: I was like, it's just the COPD.
Speaker 2: You think you told yourself that or I told.
Speaker 6: Myself that, and everybody else was kind of like, yeah,
Speaker 6: it's probably COPD. Because my dad is you know, he
Speaker 6: goes to the doctor regularly, and so he was like rallying,
Speaker 6: you know. He didn't really want to do anything when
Speaker 6: we were in the house. He would just lay down
Speaker 6: and watch TV. And I was like entertaining him. I
Speaker 6: showed him my hot sauce collection and he thought it
Speaker 6: was I see. And then Sunday morning, my stepmom is
Speaker 6: a member of a church down here, so she wanted
Speaker 6: to go to church and we're supposed to cook out.
Speaker 6: I had gotten some steak and lobster tails to grill
Speaker 6: out for us for her birthday and for Super Bowl,
Speaker 6: and my dad in the morning, he said he didn't
Speaker 6: want to go. He didn't feel like getting up. He's
Speaker 6: not a morning person. So that wasn't odd at all.
Speaker 6: And so we came back from church and we're like
Speaker 6: laughing and giggling, you know, it's a regular day, and
Speaker 6: my brother was like, where's Dad, And we look and
Speaker 6: he's on the couch, and my stepmom is like tony, and.
Speaker 4: She like goes to he was like slumped over, and
Speaker 4: so she goes to.
Speaker 6: Like, like, you know, move him, and he just kind
Speaker 6: of falls over, and so it became a parent that
Speaker 6: he was unconscious, and so we started trying to give
Speaker 6: him CPR and like doing chest compressions.
Speaker 4: I had to call nine one one.
Speaker 6: My building is really secure, so I had to keep
Speaker 6: going back and forth to try to let people in.
Speaker 4: And yeah, he died on my floor in my apartment.
Speaker 6: And.
Speaker 4: It was it's I don't know, my heart is just broken.
Speaker 1: As you see, life is not dictating this content. You
Speaker 1: know what I'm saying, Well, the content is not dictating life.
Speaker 2: Things really be.
Speaker 1: Happening to people, and it happened to us. It's been
Speaker 1: happening in the case, it's been happening in Trouble. So
Speaker 1: we're gonna take this time, take a quick break. When
Speaker 1: we come back. Thank you Trouble for being willing to
Speaker 1: talk about this. Thank you, k I know you're willing
Speaker 1: to talk about everything going with that, But when we
Speaker 1: get back, we'll just talk about everything that's been happening
Speaker 1: for the past.
Speaker 2: Couple of weeks.
Speaker 5: Cool, stick around, y'all.
Speaker 4: We'll be back.
Speaker 1: So we're back. The first thing that I thought about
Speaker 1: was let's get into karaoke real quick, and then after karaoke.
Speaker 1: There's a reason why YouTube stories kind of hit me,
Speaker 1: and I want to get into why both of the
Speaker 1: stories kind of hit me. There's something that Tripple said
Speaker 1: that reminded me of something that Josh said when we
Speaker 1: were here with Dad, which if you think about the differences,
Speaker 1: you can you know, it's important for people to understand
Speaker 1: when to look for those those signs that Triple talked about,
Speaker 1: like the.
Speaker 2: Fingernails and all those things. I just want to get
Speaker 2: back to so we can get to all right.
Speaker 4: Karaoke.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I mean I thought about the hiatus that we
Speaker 3: kind of were kind of forced to be on, you know,
Speaker 3: just because of everything. So mad me think of a
Speaker 3: little snow Alegra. Well it wasn't snow Legra first, who's
Speaker 3: saying this? Originally I should have looked it up, I
Speaker 3: guess you wondered. Whereas, Yeah, I surged to find the
Speaker 3: love with it. You know, I do know that one
Speaker 3: I came back to let you know.
Speaker 2: Or let you know, I got a thing.
Speaker 5: For you, and she did a great version of it.
Speaker 2: She did it got famous on TikTok.
Speaker 3: Yeah, she did a cover got Famous Originator, Yes, the Originator.
Speaker 3: I think it's on my oldiest playlist. Yeah, I just
Speaker 3: couldn't place the name. But so that's where we've been, y'all.
Speaker 5: We've been. We've been present.
Speaker 2: Yeah, we're super present for each other.
Speaker 3: Yeah for sure, Triple.
Speaker 1: I'm gonna let you get back to finishing your story
Speaker 1: and then we can jump back in there. So when
Speaker 1: we were coming out of were going in to break you,
Speaker 1: I said that your heart is broken, and I know you.
Speaker 1: I've known you now for I think seven going on
Speaker 1: eight years, and you always deal with everything with humor.
Speaker 1: And I've watched you online actually the day it happened,
Speaker 1: and we were all watching online because we know we
Speaker 1: like your family, so we're like, yo, let's check in
Speaker 1: on Trible, see how she's doing. And you're just making jokes,
Speaker 1: posting pictures. And the first thing I thought was like,
Speaker 1: this is how Triple grieves. I wouldn't expect it to
Speaker 1: be any other way. So can you talk a little
Speaker 1: bit about you know, what it's been like.
Speaker 2: And even from that day.
Speaker 5: Sorry, real quick, are we supposed to break after karaoke?
Speaker 6: To do?
Speaker 3: We need a break.
Speaker 5: No, we're good.
Speaker 4: Okay, yeah, we're good. We could just use that break.
Speaker 6: Yeah, the humor almost came like from the shock of it.
Speaker 6: It was shocking and it was so crazy, like it
Speaker 6: was low key rude of him to die.
Speaker 1: In my part, it's not the most triple thing.
Speaker 3: Yeah.
Speaker 4: Yeah.
Speaker 6: Something that I've been thinking about too, is that, Like
Speaker 6: something that happened immediately when my dad died was people
Speaker 6: started showing up for me at times when it was inconvenient.
Speaker 6: Came over and Sakari came over immediately when I told
Speaker 6: y'all what was going on. I had a friend who
Speaker 6: has a newborn who flew down from Boston like the
Speaker 6: next day just to make sure that we were eating
Speaker 6: and taking care of that's right.
Speaker 2: She came by.
Speaker 4: Yeah, I had friends.
Speaker 6: When I went to Cincinnati, my friends came and took
Speaker 6: me bowling, just you know, and they got me drunk
Speaker 6: as hell and they let me They let me give
Speaker 6: like a thirty minute speech. I don't know what I
Speaker 6: was talking about.
Speaker 3: It's the best kind of company.
Speaker 2: Did you lose something to you lost something?
Speaker 4: Did I lose something?
Speaker 7: Did you post it online after you went bowling?
Speaker 2: I remember that.
Speaker 6: Yeah, I've forgotten when I lost it wasn't that important
Speaker 6: because I've also just gotten myself a bunch of treats
Speaker 6: since then. But so I've been saying, like, you know,
Speaker 6: there's a Japanese art called Katsugi where they men broken
Speaker 6: potter with gold, and so I've been saying, my heart
Speaker 6: is like I'm letting gratitude fill the spaces where my
Speaker 6: heart has been broken, like the Japanese art of Katsugi,
Speaker 6: because I'm like extremely grateful for how people have shown up.
Speaker 6: And another thing that happened almost immediately was that, like
Speaker 6: people always say, losing a parent is wild and you
Speaker 6: really don't know until you know. And something that happened
Speaker 6: was that I was able to see my dad for
Speaker 6: who he was and not just who he was to me.
Speaker 4: And my dad was a.
Speaker 6: Super super loving person and he was the best dad,
Speaker 6: and he loved being a dad, and he wasn't just
Speaker 6: a dad to me and my brothers anybody who needed
Speaker 6: a dad. Like his oldest brother passed away in ninety six.
Speaker 6: He had three sons. My dad has been their dad
Speaker 6: since since he passed. His best friend wasn't really around
Speaker 6: a lot. He's a truck driver, so his son sent
Speaker 6: me a picture. He must have been like five years old.
Speaker 6: Him and my dad were in tuxedos. My dad had
Speaker 6: taken him to like a father son dance or something
Speaker 6: like that, and he was saying, like, you know, your
Speaker 6: dad made me feel like the fly.
Speaker 4: Is kid alive.
Speaker 6: He took me in a Cadillac Limo and you know, like,
Speaker 6: and my dad's funeral was packed full of people that
Speaker 6: he's known since he was a kid. People were coming
Speaker 6: up to me like, oh, me and your dad went
Speaker 6: to elementary school together, you know, And it made me
Speaker 6: realize just how much legacy my dad did leave with me.
Speaker 6: You know, he didn't leave money. My dad barely graduated
Speaker 6: from high school. He would always be like, I have
Speaker 6: an eighth grade education. He would always be like, I
Speaker 6: can't read for real, Like yeah, yeah. He was extremely
Speaker 6: silly and it's very funny and I do get that
Speaker 6: from him. But he also taught me how to build
Speaker 6: community and how to be somebody that your people can
Speaker 6: rely on. And just seeing how people showed up for
Speaker 6: me was a reflection of, you know, the kind of
Speaker 6: person that I am to them. And I am that
Speaker 6: type of person because that's who my dad was, and
Speaker 6: that's who he taught me to be. So you know,
Speaker 6: amongst the grief and the guilt, because there is guilt
Speaker 6: for you know, just guilt. He died because he had
Speaker 6: blood clots DVT deep vein thrumbo and then in hindsight,
Speaker 6: he was saying things where I was like, oh my god,
Speaker 6: like it was obvious.
Speaker 5: Based on the symptoms that he was complaining of.
Speaker 1: Yeah, this is what I wanted to talk about because
Speaker 1: of what you said, you started going through and you
Speaker 1: felt like something.
Speaker 2: Remember when your dad was tripping up the stairs.
Speaker 1: And Josh was like, y'all need to go check on that,
Speaker 1: and all of us immediately stopped doing the podcast and
Speaker 1: we all went up to check. It was funny that
Speaker 1: that's what parents need in nowadays, like all parents.
Speaker 2: Not just sick parents.
Speaker 1: If you notice something that's going on with your mom
Speaker 1: or your dad and their elderly and you look in.
Speaker 2: And you can't fight quite put a finger on it,
Speaker 2: go to the doctor. Like, that's what I've learned. Because
Speaker 2: when we went upstairs and we took.
Speaker 3: Dad's, first thing we did was take his blood pressure,
Speaker 3: was blood pressure and.
Speaker 2: It was super high.
Speaker 1: And the funny thing is We did the same thing
Speaker 1: with Kay when she was dealing with postpartum pret clamsha
Speaker 1: and her dad said, go to sleep.
Speaker 2: And I was like, nah, that's what we always do.
Speaker 1: We always say, you know what, drink some ginger ale
Speaker 1: and go to sleep. But nah, it's like when you
Speaker 1: have parents, they almost become.
Speaker 2: Like our children. Yeah, and you got to protect them
Speaker 2: from themselves, not.
Speaker 5: Even just parents though.
Speaker 3: In the midst of everything that was happening, you know,
Speaker 3: with us, I feel like I was dealing with the
Speaker 3: level of stress that I've never felt before in my life.
Speaker 3: And it was just everything. It was the compilation of everything.
Speaker 3: I couldn't pinpoint one thing. But I had gone to
Speaker 3: a football game, no. One of Jackson's basketball games, and
Speaker 3: I'm in the car and my left arm just felt numb,
Speaker 3: like it just had this weird sensation. So I kept
Speaker 3: trying to do this and I'm like, oh, maybe's because
Speaker 3: I've been working out more lately. Whatever it is, I
Speaker 3: don't talk about this, and I just felt something just
Speaker 3: fell off. And I said to my mom, I was like.
Speaker 5: My left arm just feels weird.
Speaker 3: And she literally looked at me and she was like,
Speaker 3: go check your blood pressure. My blood pressure was one
Speaker 3: fifty seven over one hundred, and to me, I'm like,
Speaker 3: why is my blood pressure so high? Out of nowhere?
Speaker 3: Like I just went to a basketball game. I sat down,
Speaker 3: and then she said take one of my blood pressure bills.
Speaker 3: And my sister was like, tak an aspirint and you
Speaker 3: got to watch it, and you need a baseline and
Speaker 3: you need to track your blood pressure over the next
Speaker 3: couple of days to see what's going on. But I
Speaker 3: think that was just my body's response to everything going
Speaker 3: on around me, Like not even just looking at it
Speaker 3: from the parents, at your parents' perspective, but it's also
Speaker 3: how am I feeling, like being so in tune with
Speaker 3: your body that you know when something is not right.
Speaker 3: And my mom was like, that's the first thing I
Speaker 3: felt when I had a heart attack. And my mother
Speaker 3: had a stress induced heart attack at fifty four.
Speaker 5: So when she heard me talk.
Speaker 3: About this arm feeling weird, she was like, oh, no,
Speaker 3: we gotta treat this now, and then you have to
Speaker 3: follow up with your doctor. Thankfully, I went for my
Speaker 3: physical blood work and everything. The most I have is
Speaker 3: low iron shell but you know, my blood pressure was
Speaker 3: back to normal one fourteen over eighty cool. But we
Speaker 3: have to be mindful of these things as we get older,
Speaker 3: because we've been hearing more about people our age who
Speaker 3: are having heart attacks and suffering from all these random
Speaker 3: things that you think you don't experience till you're in
Speaker 3: your fifties and sixties and seventies, But in the forties
Speaker 3: is really that turning point for a lot of people.
Speaker 1: That's a good point. That's a really good point. I
Speaker 1: want to get back to you said guilt. You don't
Speaker 1: blame yourself, do you trible?
Speaker 4: No? No, But.
Speaker 6: And you know, I know that there may have been
Speaker 6: nothing that could have been done by the time we
Speaker 6: realized it, But there is just like what if you know,
Speaker 6: and I know I'm not a doctor, I wasn't supposed
Speaker 6: to know, Like, and I'm just like, what is all
Speaker 6: this anxiety for? Like what have all these panic attacks
Speaker 6: been for? If I can't you know, be aware when
Speaker 6: something like this is happening. But yeah, I don't. I
Speaker 6: I was trying not to be anxious because I feel
Speaker 6: like I was the only one that was like, this
Speaker 6: is crazy. And I had talked to my step mom
Speaker 6: like Saturday night, and she was like, I've never seen
Speaker 6: him this out of breath either, So to the clot was.
Speaker 4: He had clots and his lungs and his legs, and
Speaker 4: you had no clue to his heart.
Speaker 1: Got it, we had a travel heart. Why when I
Speaker 1: think about it, she was close eye in his late forties.
Speaker 1: I don't want to say her name.
Speaker 3: She had aminary embolism.
Speaker 2: Same thing.
Speaker 1: She felt like she was out of breath, and her
Speaker 1: and her husband was sitting in the room.
Speaker 2: It was instant.
Speaker 1: And that's why I said, you can't blame yourself, because
Speaker 1: I remember that story where there were no signs. She
Speaker 1: was sitting there and then she said started coughing, and
Speaker 1: then her husband was just like, well you okay?
Speaker 2: Are you okay?
Speaker 1: And then she went to the bathroom and started coughing
Speaker 1: and coughing and she's I can't catch my breath.
Speaker 2: And he was like, okay, what do you want me
Speaker 2: to do? And she's like, I'm gonna go take a shower.
Speaker 2: I believe went to get in a shower.
Speaker 1: With the steam, and I think it was within like
Speaker 1: fifteen minutes she had passed passed out.
Speaker 2: He had called the cops. She was gone.
Speaker 1: The reason why I'm telling you is that is because
Speaker 1: sometimes we have guilt. We try to find ways to
Speaker 1: blame ourselves, and realistically, when it's your time, God is
Speaker 1: going to decide that it's your time, and there's nothing
Speaker 1: we all as humans can do to stop that, you know,
Speaker 1: because that happened.
Speaker 2: To her in less than fifteen minutes.
Speaker 1: When we heard the story, perfectly find sitting there, had
Speaker 1: just left Thanksgiving.
Speaker 3: Or giving dinner.
Speaker 1: Everybody was cool, and it was just like fifteen minutes
Speaker 1: that she's gone.
Speaker 3: Yeah.
Speaker 1: Yeah, And I remember the husband saying to his son,
Speaker 1: he felt guilty, like he's like he didn't move fast enough,
Speaker 1: he didn't know.
Speaker 2: He's like, in the minute she said she didn't feel good,
Speaker 2: I should have just took her.
Speaker 1: And I was like, we always say that after the fact, Yeah,
Speaker 1: you know, we always say that, but realistically, how do
Speaker 1: you know?
Speaker 8: You know?
Speaker 6: But yeah, and it's something that happens really fast. And yeah,
Speaker 6: I'm trying to just have gratitude for what, you know,
Speaker 6: even though he did die here, like it was great
Speaker 6: that he was here, Like I was glad that he
Speaker 6: was here.
Speaker 3: I would rather last moments with him.
Speaker 6: Yeah, and it was it was beautiful last moments. They
Speaker 6: were fun, like and I would rather him have been
Speaker 6: here than for you know, my stepmom to go home
Speaker 6: and find him because he had blood cloths.
Speaker 4: Either way it was gonna happen.
Speaker 1: Doesn't it seem kind of crazy that your father doesn't
Speaker 1: like going places decides to just fly down here with
Speaker 1: everybody spending this money. Don't it seem like like the
Speaker 1: god in him was saying, like, Hey, something may be
Speaker 1: going on, let me go see my daughter.
Speaker 5: That to me is what I probably need.
Speaker 1: Yeah, that's what it seems like to me a little bit,
Speaker 1: you know, And I'm not I don't speak to spirits
Speaker 1: and I don't claim to be none of that, but
Speaker 1: it just seems like, wow, for him to say, you
Speaker 1: know what, I'm gonna go do this now, when he
Speaker 1: doesn't do that almost seem like, you know, the god
Speaker 1: in him was reaching out to the god and you
Speaker 1: were saying, I know you need this and this might
Speaker 1: be my last.
Speaker 4: And I had a moment when he was here.
Speaker 6: We were talking to my brother about something and then
Speaker 6: me and my dad had like the same exact response,
Speaker 6: and I was like thinking about how me and my
Speaker 6: dad pretty much can communicate without communicating. There's been so
Speaker 6: many times where like he called me and said something
Speaker 6: that I had already thought about, Like, you know, we
Speaker 6: just have always been on the same page.
Speaker 4: We just are really close. We just know each other
Speaker 4: very well.
Speaker 6: And so I do think I do think that it
Speaker 6: was you know, divine that he he came.
Speaker 3: I also hope that you continue to receive little, little messages,
Speaker 3: little things from him, because I hear a lot of
Speaker 3: people say that when someone passes, you know, they get
Speaker 3: little reminders. It could be something so random, like when
Speaker 3: my friend Alcion died CG. So a thing that I
Speaker 3: have now between my friend Helena and I Helena is
Speaker 3: that nurse can cook on Instagram.
Speaker 5: So it was like the strangest thing.
Speaker 3: We were like talking about her one day on the
Speaker 3: phone and a ladybug landed on me and I was like,
Speaker 3: oh my goodness, this little ladybug like just landed on me.
Speaker 5: I wonder if that's CG.
Speaker 3: Because we were on the phone for like over thirty
Speaker 3: minutes off the phone like talking.
Speaker 5: Yeah, so like this ladybug just.
Speaker 3: Landed on me. And she was at one of her sons,
Speaker 3: at her son's I think a soccer game or something.
Speaker 3: And then we got off the phone and she sent
Speaker 3: me a picture of a ladybug landed on her.
Speaker 5: After we got off the phone.
Speaker 4: Wow.
Speaker 3: So now we're both like anytime we see a ladybug
Speaker 3: and we call each other, what's up, ladybug, because.
Speaker 5: That's like our thing.
Speaker 1: The time the ladybug flew on her from and she
Speaker 1: was inside like this wasn't a just a one time?
Speaker 3: Oh yeah.
Speaker 1: They had been on the phone and been like, yoda's
Speaker 1: a ladybug on me, and she's like, I'm inside.
Speaker 2: How was there a ladybug that was.
Speaker 5: In Kadz's room.
Speaker 3: I opened the window and there was like a ladybug
Speaker 3: trapped in between the window and the screen and then
Speaker 3: the screen. I didn't know how it got in, but
Speaker 3: it was just sitting right there on the windowsill and
Speaker 3: it was literally in the thick of me going through
Speaker 3: the grief of her. And I took the picture and
Speaker 3: sent it to her, And I feel like since then,
Speaker 3: at least two or three times after that, I just like,
Speaker 3: there was one in my car the other day. It's
Speaker 3: like the smallest things, and I like to at least
Speaker 3: think that maybe that's her sending a little sign. So
Speaker 3: I hope that she can continue to feel the presence
Speaker 3: of your dad in like your day to day because
Speaker 3: I know he he knows that you need that, you know,
Speaker 3: which is crazy because just to speak real quick on
Speaker 3: being there for you, I'm driving with my sister to
Speaker 3: the mall.
Speaker 5: She had a job interview.
Speaker 2: This is also that day. You don't know about this day,
Speaker 2: but go ahead.
Speaker 3: But yeah, I was driving with her to the mall
Speaker 3: because she got an interview that she was excited about.
Speaker 3: So I'm like, okay, she needs a blazer and an
Speaker 3: outfit to wear. So We're on our way to the
Speaker 3: mall and literally I see the text message pop up
Speaker 3: in our you know, l s ever after group chat,
Speaker 3: and I kind of glanced at it because I was driving,
Speaker 3: So I asked my sister to read it for me,
Speaker 3: and she was like, oh my god, and she read
Speaker 3: it aloud and Triple pretty much said, Hey, guys, my
Speaker 3: dad just died in my apartment. I'm gonna need help.
Speaker 3: I'm not sure what I'll need, but I'm just letting
Speaker 3: my ATL people know. And because I was already heading
Speaker 3: in that direction, I was like, no brainer. So I
Speaker 3: happened to get to you, I think just at the
Speaker 3: same time as the medics. Yeah, I was like I
Speaker 3: was literally when I put your address and I was
Speaker 3: like five minutes out, and when I got there, I
Speaker 3: think the medical examiner had just gotten there, and I
Speaker 3: too was in shock because I'm like, oh my god, Trible,
Speaker 3: I know what your father means to you, and to
Speaker 3: be able to show up for you in that space
Speaker 3: that was most important to me in that moment, at
Speaker 3: least in Takari. And then in true Trible form, we
Speaker 3: walked through the door and your father is, you know,
Speaker 3: on the floor, and You're like, damn, ca, I didn't
Speaker 3: I want you to meet my dad, but not like
Speaker 3: this only and then it was almost like you said that.
Speaker 3: You laughed and then you started crying, and then you
Speaker 3: laughed again because you cracked another joke, and Askari was
Speaker 3: just like, we didn't even know if to laugh or
Speaker 3: to cry, because Trible, I know you were in shock
Speaker 3: in that moment you could tell you could tell you
Speaker 3: were in shock.
Speaker 5: So I was just happy to be able to be.
Speaker 3: There for you in that moment like that. Quickly, because
Speaker 3: we were all ready to be like what do you need?
Speaker 3: You know, called Kwame was like, hey find triple go
Speaker 3: do something to help.
Speaker 2: I called Trible the first thing she do is joke
Speaker 2: the whole time. Since then, we've been joking by only
Speaker 2: fans the whole time. Since that day, we've been joking
Speaker 2: about about because I'm a person that I don't I'm
Speaker 2: not good with other people's grief.
Speaker 1: I either stay away or I'm asking dumb questions like
Speaker 1: how you feel? Like you know what I'm saying. So
Speaker 1: I will say to you, thank you for taking that
Speaker 1: pressure off me, because I could just text Trible.
Speaker 2: And then it'd be a joke in response, and I'm like, Okay,
Speaker 2: where we at. So let's just keep going.
Speaker 1: And then the jokes flow until they stopped, and then
Speaker 1: I hit it up again, like yo, you you know
Speaker 1: what was going on? Like I will say to you Trible,
Speaker 1: like I know you're going through a lot, but also
Speaker 1: thank you for making it easy for us.
Speaker 2: Because for people who don't know.
Speaker 1: This podcast, our podcast producer is Trible. Everything that happens
Speaker 1: through this podcast runs through her.
Speaker 2: First.
Speaker 1: She has to get everything to us. We were supposed
Speaker 1: to film in a minute. This happened.
Speaker 2: We were like, we're not doing the podcast, like and
Speaker 2: here's the funny.
Speaker 1: Tripple goes, Yeah, I'm going to go to the funeral
Speaker 1: and I'm gonna come right back so we can film.
Speaker 6: And I was like, I had no idea like what
Speaker 6: I was gonna.
Speaker 5: Feel, and I we anticipated that.
Speaker 4: Yeah, and I had like a March first.
Speaker 6: Recording that I was supposed to come back for, and
Speaker 6: I was like, oh, March first, I'll probably.
Speaker 4: Be okay, but no, no, not at all.
Speaker 6: Like I really needed that time at home, yeah, just
Speaker 6: to you know, be with my family and be and
Speaker 6: my dad's like energy, and to like feel what I
Speaker 6: felt and to not have to worry about anything else. Yeah, yeah,
Speaker 6: I definitely needed that. So thank y'all. And my step
Speaker 6: mom was very grateful for y'all for coming through and
Speaker 6: like having us over. She's really grateful, and she's like,
Speaker 6: you know, really suffering at this.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I could imagine, Oh my god. And I wanted
Speaker 2: to ask you to because that day I didn't even know.
Speaker 1: Once again, in my awkwardness, I asked you to come
Speaker 1: over because I know y'all wanted to be out of
Speaker 1: that space, but I also didn't want to invade y'all
Speaker 1: space while y'all were here. So I was like, it's
Speaker 1: okay if y'all just sit in a room and have
Speaker 1: some drinks and chill.
Speaker 2: You know.
Speaker 1: I hope that was okay, But at the time I
Speaker 1: didn't know what to do because I didn't want to
Speaker 1: sit there and grill.
Speaker 2: You will tell me what happened? How long did it?
Speaker 2: You know what I'm saying. People do that. Sometimes they
Speaker 2: get and I'm like, no, y'all just need a different place.
Speaker 3: Yeah, And also sometimes yeah, you just want to you
Speaker 3: want to show up and you want to be of support,
Speaker 3: but literally words fail, Like in moments like this, there's
Speaker 3: absolutely nothing that can be said to make anything any better.
Speaker 3: So it's just almost like, Okay, there's presence, you know,
Speaker 3: just like I'm here, I'm here.
Speaker 2: I ain't gonna lie.
Speaker 1: I felt like that with you and Pops, I expressed
Speaker 1: to Matt. I never said this to anybody, but there
Speaker 1: was times that I thought that. I was like, there's
Speaker 1: no way a seventy three year old man who is
Speaker 1: fighting cancer, fighting like heart disease, everything.
Speaker 2: It's going to be. It's going to be chemo and radiation.
Speaker 1: So my thing was, I'm like, at what point when
Speaker 1: it gets really bad, do I have to start grieving
Speaker 1: my father in Lord?
Speaker 2: You know what I'm saying?
Speaker 1: And I was watching you go through it, and there
Speaker 1: was a lot of times I don't even know what
Speaker 1: to say, and I'm here living and I'm grieving too,
Speaker 1: because I'm like, what if it comes today? And there
Speaker 1: was a moment where the radiation started to like take over.
Speaker 5: His neck and his whole body.
Speaker 1: His old body lost a lot of weight, and then
Speaker 1: he started bleeding at one point, and I was just
Speaker 1: kind of like, dang, this is that that moment, you.
Speaker 2: Know, whereas like it start to get bad.
Speaker 1: So then I remember walking by, and you know how
Speaker 1: the house is when you walk by, Dad is always
Speaker 1: there to the left watching TV. Yeah, and this is
Speaker 1: the first day I walked by and he had the
Speaker 1: bandages on his neck and I was like, yo, that's
Speaker 1: my guy.
Speaker 8: Yo.
Speaker 1: Like and then rather than say something, all I do
Speaker 1: when I walk by Dad is go, hey, how you feeling,
Speaker 1: young man, And he goes, I'm all right, And I
Speaker 1: know he's not all right, but I don't know what
Speaker 1: else to say.
Speaker 2: And I didn't know what to say to you neither.
Speaker 2: So I just coming back to myself.
Speaker 3: So I went to film mid January. I think I
Speaker 3: started on the nineteenth. Prior to that was one week
Speaker 3: of prep, and I was in and out of the
Speaker 3: house a lot, and I kind of I was feeling
Speaker 3: a lot of things at that point. I think I
Speaker 3: was embracing the break that I had from what I
Speaker 3: felt like was a daunting six months, and then also
Speaker 3: knowing like I had to show up in my workspace
Speaker 3: regardless of what I had going on.
Speaker 5: So it's like kind of tucking all of that away.
Speaker 3: And because I was so intransit, I stayed on campus
Speaker 3: to film and whatnot. When you see someone every day,
Speaker 3: you don't necessarily see the progression good or bad. It's
Speaker 3: almost like you see somebody every day and I lose
Speaker 3: a weight, I don't know, but then you are wait
Speaker 3: for a week or two and you come back and
Speaker 3: you're like, WHOA, you lost a lot of weight or
Speaker 3: so it was the progression that I saw is in
Speaker 3: his decline. It was like I was kind of in
Speaker 3: and out for a week, then I went to film
Speaker 3: for a week. I was gone the entire week, came
Speaker 3: home on the weekend. So by the time I rapped,
Speaker 3: I think that's when he was in the thick of
Speaker 3: yea of his radiation and treatment, and that's when everything
Speaker 3: was pretty much compounded. At this point, he was going
Speaker 3: through the worst of it, and I was like, oh
Speaker 3: my god, it was hard to watch. It was hard
Speaker 3: to watch to your point too. We always walked through
Speaker 3: the hallway and we see him sitting to the left,
Speaker 3: and there were some mornings I came and he wasn't
Speaker 3: sitting in that space, and I thought, for a second,
Speaker 3: I'm like, oh my god, there's going to come a
Speaker 3: day where my dad is just not going to be
Speaker 3: sitting there anymore, you know. So then I would find
Speaker 3: myself like, Okay, do I want to go downstairs and
Speaker 3: just check on him and make sure he's okay, Like,
Speaker 3: or is this the day I want to walk downstairs
Speaker 3: to check on him? And he didn't come up because
Speaker 3: he's gone. Like so many things go through your mind
Speaker 3: when you're going through all of this, and I also
Speaker 3: didn't realize how much of it I was suppressing just
Speaker 3: to even get through work. People were very kind on
Speaker 3: set because they would be like, hey, you know, we've
Speaker 3: been praying for your dad and everything, and I'm like, yeah, yeah.
Speaker 3: I just kind of like took it and kept moving
Speaker 3: because I was in the frame of mind to work
Speaker 3: and we wrapped I think It was on the thirtieth
Speaker 3: or twenty ninth or thirtieth, and Tyler Perry's assistant Jody,
Speaker 3: had come to set to just you know, come and
Speaker 3: check on everyone, and she gave me a hug and
Speaker 3: she's like, I heard about your dad.
Speaker 5: I'm so sorry.
Speaker 3: She gave me a hug, and I'm like, yeah, you know,
Speaker 3: he's on the mend or whatever. Got to my car
Speaker 3: to drive home because I was completely wrapped and sobbed
Speaker 3: the entire way home, like at one point had to
Speaker 3: pull over because I couldn't even see to drive, and
Speaker 3: it was so many things happening at one time.
Speaker 5: It wasn't just thinking about Dad.
Speaker 3: It was like gratitude for being able to work again,
Speaker 3: to be able to do what I thought I wasn't
Speaker 3: going to be able to do because I had such
Speaker 3: a heavy weight on my shoulders that I was dealing
Speaker 3: with for the past couple months thinking about Dad, of course,
Speaker 3: thinking about not being home in that space, feeling guilty,
Speaker 3: feeling like I was leaving a bunch of wait on you, yeah, yeah,
Speaker 3: wait on you, not being there for the kids. And
Speaker 3: then I'm like, the kids are experiencing watching their grandfather
Speaker 3: go through this at the same time, So what is
Speaker 3: that looking like for them? My mom, you know, a
Speaker 3: lot of times you look at the person who was sick,
Speaker 3: person taking care of me. That person in my mom
Speaker 3: was really locked in making sure that Dad was okay.
Speaker 3: My sister pretty much flying down here for weeks at
Speaker 3: a time to assist my brother coming down, my aunt
Speaker 3: coming down. So I just I just felt I think
Speaker 3: it was just suppressing everything to get through work. And
Speaker 3: then it was like I can let it go. Aside
Speaker 3: from the emotions that I had to pull from just
Speaker 3: to work with my character, it was just a lot
Speaker 3: at one time, you know. So I was grateful once
Speaker 3: Dad rung that bell, man, it just felt like a
Speaker 3: sigh of Okay, he's done with this phase. But now
Speaker 3: there's the rebuild, you know. So, yeah, it's been a time.
Speaker 1: How about this we this has been a heavy episode.
Speaker 1: Let's take a break. Let's go pay some bills. You
Speaker 1: think trouble, take a break, pay some bills.
Speaker 2: Come back. I don't want to do listen to letters.
Speaker 3: We have Matt and Josh chiming to if there's anything,
Speaker 3: because we didn't even get to touch on anything. Y'all
Speaker 3: have been Yeah, Matt lost the parents, So this is yeah,
Speaker 3: how how many.
Speaker 5: Years has been met? Okay, gotcha? Yeah, fifteen years.
Speaker 2: I know he lost his dad to cancer, so we
Speaker 2: we talked about that during this whole thing. It's just
Speaker 2: been a lot for everybody.
Speaker 1: I know Josh has his own things he's going through
Speaker 1: at home. I'm not sure he wants to discuss or now.
Speaker 1: But this is also just the truth.
Speaker 6: Man.
Speaker 1: We don't let art dictate our life. Like at the
Speaker 1: end of the day, we do a podcast, we want
Speaker 1: to bring people together. We want to love each other
Speaker 1: and laugh and make sure people have good things to
Speaker 1: watch and listen to. But we are people and we
Speaker 1: are all really like seriously going through things. So first
Speaker 1: thing I want to do is thank y'all before we
Speaker 1: take this break for even rocking with us.
Speaker 2: Still. We've been going for about five six weeks. We've
Speaker 2: never been.
Speaker 1: Going this long and the whole life time of Dead
Speaker 1: Ass Podcast and Eli sevn Raft, but we felt like
Speaker 1: this break was was needed for not just you guys,
Speaker 1: but for all of us.
Speaker 2: Collected all five of us as a group. So we're
Speaker 2: gonna take this break.
Speaker 1: When we come back, we'll come back to the moment
Speaker 1: of truth, and then next week we'll start back with
Speaker 1: some regular podcasts, but we're gonna finish you the Moment
Speaker 1: of Truth and then see y'all next week.
Speaker 5: Perfect, all right, all right, yes we are back.
Speaker 3: I'm feeling good, like I think. Talking about everything, of course,
Speaker 3: jogs up the memories and you know what I was
Speaker 3: feeling over the past couple months.
Speaker 5: But it's healthy to talk about it.
Speaker 3: You know. I realized that I'm not the only one
Speaker 3: going through things. I'm sure so many of our listeners.
Speaker 3: You know, life, life happens. We're all living in this
Speaker 3: shared human experience. But what I realized has been valuable,
Speaker 3: and I guess this can be my moment of truth
Speaker 3: is being honest about how you feel. You know, stop
Speaker 3: saying I'm okay when someone asks you, hey, what's up,
Speaker 3: how are you?
Speaker 5: I'm good, I'm good, I'm good.
Speaker 3: It's okay sometimes to be like, you know what, I'm
Speaker 3: not okay, I'm not okay, especially in spaces where you
Speaker 3: feel like you can rely on someone for a little
Speaker 3: bit of help support, yeah, a shoulder, you know, or
Speaker 3: sometimes it's just eventing. You know.
Speaker 5: I've realized that with us, you know, sometimes we just.
Speaker 3: Want to be heard.
Speaker 5: You know, things haven't been perfect.
Speaker 3: It's taking a toll even on Deval and I just
Speaker 3: us feeling like we miss each other because we both
Speaker 3: have been scatterbrained trying to make sure that everything stays
Speaker 3: afloat because why the bills still come. Yeah, the bills
Speaker 3: still come. The responsibilities are still there. Sometimes, you know,
Speaker 3: it's safe to say nobody really cares what you got
Speaker 3: going on as long as it, you know, doesn't affect
Speaker 3: their bottom line. Thankfully, we're in a space though, where
Speaker 3: we've curated a workspace for us where we just really
Speaker 3: genuinely lead first with being human and how we feel.
Speaker 3: So so yeah, sometimes it's okay to say you're not
Speaker 3: okay and talk about it.
Speaker 2: I love that trouble, Yeah, feeling.
Speaker 6: I will say, nobody does care what you're going through,
Speaker 6: including the people who stand to make money off of
Speaker 6: the death of your loved one. Having a plan a
Speaker 6: funeral right after somebody dies, especially unexpectedly, is like the most.
Speaker 4: Yeah, it's really traumatic.
Speaker 6: And I couldn't imagine having to answer questions for work
Speaker 6: at the same time as having to like try to
Speaker 6: you know, get my dad flown back to Ohio and
Speaker 6: like picking out his burial plot and figuring out how
Speaker 6: that's going to be paid for.
Speaker 1: So I'm about to say that real world stuff that
Speaker 1: no one thinks about it, and then you got work stuff.
Speaker 2: Nobody want to answer to that.
Speaker 6: And do that.
Speaker 4: I feel you, Yeah, it was.
Speaker 6: It was really helpful for me not to have to
Speaker 6: like worry about anything else because even then, like I
Speaker 6: had to walk out of the room when we were
Speaker 6: at the cemetery picking out his block because I was
Speaker 6: just like, this is crazy. But anyway, it has been
Speaker 6: helpful for me to talk about grief. I've been making
Speaker 6: these little videos and just like saying how I feel,
Speaker 6: and it has highlighted that we are just all having
Speaker 6: a human experience and we have this common thing that
Speaker 6: we'll all go through at some point and a lot
Speaker 6: of people have been through it already, and so that's
Speaker 6: been really helpful. And I will say, yes, it's helpful
Speaker 6: to talk about how you feel, and also it's so.
Speaker 4: When you die.
Speaker 6: You know, my dad, he wasn't an inventor, he wasn't
Speaker 6: a millionaire. You know, he wasn't like an important CEO
Speaker 6: or anything. But he was a phenomenal human being. He
Speaker 6: was a great friend, he was a one person to
Speaker 6: be around. Everybody said, you know, he just loved to
Speaker 6: make people laugh, and everybody have really great memories of him,
Speaker 6: and that's what matters. Yes, So yeah, every day when
Speaker 6: you put one foot in front of the other, just
Speaker 6: be a good person and know that that is enough.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I feel that. I love it.
Speaker 8: Mattuh loss of words really, but based off with Triple
Speaker 8: is saying the only thing that comes to mind is
Speaker 8: just lived one day at a time.
Speaker 2: Be grateful.
Speaker 8: I know we're here to say have attitude of gratitude,
Speaker 8: but it's like a real thing, especially in times like this.
Speaker 8: But I think my real moment of truth is Triple
Speaker 8: needs to get back on the stage because you have
Speaker 8: been hilarious.
Speaker 2: I'm not gonna lie, Bro. I didn't want to. I
Speaker 2: didn't want to say that, but yeah, yeah, I've threads
Speaker 2: that you were writing that first week.
Speaker 8: I was like, nah, it was.
Speaker 1: Good because some people ask me if your dad had
Speaker 1: really died or if it was like a skit.
Speaker 2: It was like is this real?
Speaker 1: Because she mad funny and I was like, nah, bro,
Speaker 1: her dad really passed away.
Speaker 2: She was funny.
Speaker 4: I wrote a whole set during that first week.
Speaker 2: I love to hear that might.
Speaker 5: Be a great way for you to live so strange.
Speaker 7: I was going to write you and be like, yo,
Speaker 7: this is the coming of age of Triple right now
Speaker 7: while it was happening, because you said.
Speaker 2: It to Josh, you you said it to me.
Speaker 1: You said that we've just watched Triples Coming of Age.
Speaker 1: You the one who was sending me to stuff about
Speaker 1: he threats. Remember I don't have threats.
Speaker 2: He was sending it to me. It was funny.
Speaker 3: What was Anthony? Anthony? Anthony lives on?
Speaker 4: I did speak at his funeral too, got a couple
Speaker 4: of laughs.
Speaker 7: So that was that was actually really drink minimalm you
Speaker 7: go through his closet?
Speaker 3: Did you go through his closet and like pull a
Speaker 3: bunch of pieces to take?
Speaker 6: I did?
Speaker 4: I sure did. I got like eight Coogie sweaters. Now
Speaker 4: I love that to the.
Speaker 1: Play for real because remember I said, if I had
Speaker 1: a daughter, my daughter's name would be Junior. I was
Speaker 1: gonna name my daughter Deval and she was gonna be
Speaker 1: the only Junior I had. So to see how you
Speaker 1: like correlate with your dad and how much you appreciate
Speaker 1: everything he's giving you and you wearing his suits It's
Speaker 1: kind of like if I had a daughter and her
Speaker 1: name was Deval, we wanta call her dev I would
Speaker 1: want her to just do ship, just to be like
Speaker 1: her dad, Like what you're gonna wear a Debbie to.
Speaker 3: Look at over there?
Speaker 1: No, that's what's up that That was your moment the truth, Josh,
Speaker 1: you got a full moment of truth.
Speaker 2: My moment of.
Speaker 7: Truth is really just thank you for making it like,
Speaker 7: making it easy for us to help you during that time.
Speaker 7: Like you, Devo, I am awkward around any moments of
Speaker 7: of grief and I really don't I really I really
Speaker 7: want to say how you doing? But I know better,
Speaker 7: so I don't say it. But in the meantime, I'm like,
Speaker 7: I know how you doing, but you know what I mean?
Speaker 2: Well, so'thing.
Speaker 7: It'd be a few a few times I hit trouble
Speaker 7: up and I'm just like, I don't really know what
Speaker 7: to say. So hey, when we go get the next podcast.
Speaker 2: That's all Josh said. No, but seriously, you.
Speaker 7: Know, thank you for making it easy because it's difficult
Speaker 7: it is for you. You never really want to make
Speaker 7: it difficult for the people around you when it interacts
Speaker 7: with you. So you didn't do that so I appreciate you,
Speaker 7: and you know, listen to you and your your family
Speaker 7: and your dad's passing.
Speaker 3: Anything you had going on, Josh real quick that we
Speaker 3: didn't get to touch on. I know he had.
Speaker 7: Majority It was tough, man, I mean, I mean we
Speaker 7: talked about you guys going through I really want to
Speaker 7: bring my stuff into it.
Speaker 2: But I tried to update my computer and it died.
Speaker 2: I swear I thought it was over. I thought it
Speaker 2: was over, guys. I thought it was over.
Speaker 7: Seriously, seriously, I was there for like an hour trying
Speaker 7: to figure out what was going on.
Speaker 8: But thankfully amount of cold on his I took a
Speaker 8: picture of your screen already computer.
Speaker 2: Looks crazy, right, thankfully? Oh god, it was rough, rough hour.
Speaker 1: The funny thing is I know what you're talking about
Speaker 1: because I updated my phone. I haven't updated my iOS
Speaker 1: on my phone, and man long and I don't know
Speaker 1: what my phone is no more. I went to go
Speaker 1: find my pictures, they all scrambled my contact. I don't
Speaker 1: even care forget this phone. I really don't care no more.
Speaker 1: So if it was my computer, i'd.
Speaker 2: Have been done.
Speaker 3: I promise you.
Speaker 5: My phone gave me so much anxiety. Now I'd be like,
Speaker 5: I don't want to talk to nobody.
Speaker 1: My moment of truth first, My first moment of truth
Speaker 1: is I love y'all.
Speaker 2: Like these four people.
Speaker 1: In this room, we do this because we love to
Speaker 1: do it.
Speaker 2: You know what I'm saying.
Speaker 1: That's really truly the facts, Like, we don't have to
Speaker 1: do this, We want to do this. We love to
Speaker 1: share our stories with people. We love to get together
Speaker 1: once a month and film these episodes. I'm going to
Speaker 1: say my moment of truth is not having an episode shot.
Speaker 1: I missed what we do to make the episodes. When
Speaker 1: you wake up in the morning and you get here
Speaker 1: and you got to be here at a certain time,
Speaker 1: and then everyone comes in and Kwame comes with lunch,
Speaker 1: and then we go get our workouts after and we
Speaker 1: laugh and joke. Those are the things I love the
Speaker 1: most about doing the podcast. It's like we don't do
Speaker 1: the live shows anymore, so when we get together once
Speaker 1: a month for three days, it feels like that same camaraderie.
Speaker 1: So I just want to say, I love y'all. I
Speaker 1: hate the fact that everybody is going through shit right now.
Speaker 1: It seems like the whole world is on fire. I
Speaker 1: love the fact that we have each other. I love
Speaker 1: the fact that we have an understanding that we're like, yo,
Speaker 1: life is happening. We really don't got to do no
Speaker 1: content right now. I love the fact that we all
Speaker 1: want that. You know what I'm saying, And we took
Speaker 1: a break to get back to our families and stuff.
Speaker 1: And I want to say to the Ellis ever After
Speaker 1: crew that's been rocking with us, we will be back.
Speaker 2: We will be consistent. But thank y'all for having empathy.
Speaker 1: I know how much y'all love Trible, I know how
Speaker 1: much y'all love k We've been through a lot.
Speaker 2: I know how much y'all love the three of us.
Speaker 1: But I appreciate the well wishes that I was seeing
Speaker 1: on the page and all my personal dms making sure
Speaker 1: that everybody was okay.
Speaker 2: So I just want to say thank y'all. That's my
Speaker 2: moment of truth. I love y'all.
Speaker 1: We will be back, but most importantly, remember that we're
Speaker 1: all humans.
Speaker 3: And thank you to you because you're thinking like Triple
Speaker 3: and I and but you were going through a lot too.
Speaker 5: I was, And I don't want to glanze over that, you.
Speaker 3: Know, just real quick, because you were a stronghold, solid
Speaker 3: rock through all of this for all of us appreciate.
Speaker 3: Like we joke about the fact that he's become like
Speaker 3: my mother's therapist. You should build her, you should.
Speaker 5: Totally build her.
Speaker 3: She literally comes in here, She's like, where's my coach.
Speaker 2: Therapist?
Speaker 5: And I'm like, if I had to.
Speaker 3: Have one more person offload their problems onto him, So
Speaker 3: because I'm already defensive of like nobody talked to him.
Speaker 5: Everybody leave him alone.
Speaker 3: And the fact that you're still able to show up
Speaker 3: every day as an amazing husband and an amazing father,
Speaker 3: an amazing son in law, and amazing Like I don't
Speaker 3: know how you do it, because I'd be ready to
Speaker 3: shut down and move OUTPI, like y'all can have everything.
Speaker 3: I'm gone. That's the Sagittarius, Like book me a flight
Speaker 3: out of here. But the way that you've been able
Speaker 3: to show up for everyone all the time, Like I
Speaker 3: would go to text Trible and Deval was already texting
Speaker 3: Trible Like I got her.
Speaker 6: He text me like every day for the first couple
Speaker 6: of weeks, and I thought it was so special, thank you,
Speaker 6: It really really really was helpful.
Speaker 4: And he would be like, did you shower today?
Speaker 5: I'd be like nah lately.
Speaker 2: One day she was like, she.
Speaker 1: Was like, I ain't even eat yet, and I was like,
Speaker 1: come on, Triple, you gotta eat. And I said, when
Speaker 1: you go in the shower and take the camera for
Speaker 1: our only fans.
Speaker 2: That's that's how we jokes the whole time.
Speaker 6: And it was it was even better because all my
Speaker 6: aunts and stuff, they'd be like, oh, you work with Zach.
Speaker 4: The whole time, like I'm like, my dad just died, y'all.
Speaker 6: Yeah, dam But then he would text me and I
Speaker 6: feel like famous, like.
Speaker 4: Yeah, I do work with that.
Speaker 2: You know that.
Speaker 1: As much as we argue and debate on this this podcast, bro,
Speaker 1: I do love you as a person, you know, I
Speaker 1: love you you my dog yos.
Speaker 3: All right, y'all, we didn't do listener letters today, but
Speaker 3: if you want to be featured for a future episode,
Speaker 3: because the ball is rolling now, we're back, y'all, be
Speaker 3: sure to email us at Ellisadvice at gmail dot com.
Speaker 2: Yes, that's E. L L I S A D V
Speaker 2: I C E at gmail dot com.
Speaker 3: All right, and if you're listening on Apple podcasts, be
Speaker 3: sure to rate, review, subscribe, download, tell a friend.
Speaker 5: Because we're back. Happy to be here.
Speaker 3: You can follow me on Instagram at Kadeen I Am.
Speaker 3: And I'm also back on TikTok.
Speaker 4: Y'all.
Speaker 3: You know, one one day at a time, one step,
Speaker 3: one step at a time, all right, don't start harassing
Speaker 3: me for the getting ready with me. I just cleaned
Speaker 3: my closet at the seven months, so we're making baby steps.
Speaker 5: But you can follow me at Kadeen I Am, and.
Speaker 2: You can follow me at Imdeval all platforms.
Speaker 8: You can find me att ellisphoto dot.
Speaker 7: Com and you can follow me at Joshua Underscore, Duwayne and.
Speaker 4: I'm at Trips The Cool, t R I B b
Speaker 4: Z the Cool on Everything.
Speaker 2: And we're back, y'all.
Speaker 1: Make sure you rate, review and subscribe and downloadad to baby.
Speaker 3: I've said the script.
Speaker 5: It's all right, whatever, We're back.
Speaker 3: That's on an ass, dead ass.
Speaker 7: God.
Speaker 6: Ellis ever After is an iHeartMedia podcast. It's hosted by
Speaker 6: Kadeen and Deval Ellis. It's produced by Triple Video, Production
Speaker 6: by Joshua, Duane and Matthew Ellis, Video editing by Lashawan Rowe.
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