WEBVTT - BA Q&A: Pregnant and Unemployed

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<v Speaker 2>That was the other one, I think, So yeah, welcome

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<v Speaker 2>back to b a qa I'm so excited about this

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<v Speaker 2>week's questions. We are diving into y'all's career questions and

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<v Speaker 2>there's some juicy ones in here. And also one of them,

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<v Speaker 2>I'm pretty sure Tip's going to have some some juicy

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<v Speaker 2>advice for too, because it's about someone who's dipping their

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<v Speaker 2>toe into consulting and contracting and wants to know how

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<v Speaker 2>they make people pay him on time or her on time.

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<v Speaker 2>But let's get into it. Just remind her, like Tiff said,

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<v Speaker 2>we're not financial experts or you know, especially certainly not

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<v Speaker 2>your trusted advisor out side of the podcast, so please

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<v Speaker 2>don't sue us. You know, we're just here for a

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<v Speaker 2>fun time and a good time and to leave y'all

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<v Speaker 2>with hopefully a little bit of wisdom. But yeah, you

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<v Speaker 2>can miss us with your lawsuits. Let's jump into it.

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<v Speaker 2>This first question comes from concerned contractor. They say, longtime listener,

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<v Speaker 2>first time writer, Love you both, bunches. I recently began

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<v Speaker 2>grad school and have been dipping my toe into part

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<v Speaker 2>time consulting and contracting. So I have a two part question.

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<v Speaker 2>How do you on the front end prevent non payment

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<v Speaker 2>when you are consulting? And number two, what do you

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<v Speaker 2>do when you when you haven't been paved and you're

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<v Speaker 2>starting to receive the run around. I'm currently in situation

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<v Speaker 2>number two. I've been trying to be patient, as I

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<v Speaker 2>have a previous relationship with your organization. However, I'm beginning

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<v Speaker 2>to feel taken advantage of I'm non confrontational by nature,

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<v Speaker 2>but I can be sugnighted if it comes to that.

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<v Speaker 2>Help concerned contractor, all right, let's put the piece down.

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<v Speaker 2>We don't need any sugar night shenanigans here, okay, but

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<v Speaker 2>I not tiff like in your work and certainly in

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<v Speaker 2>my work. Now I have dealt with more contracts and

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<v Speaker 2>more you know, looking at the terms of the agreement

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<v Speaker 2>and like when will I get paid? And it's funny

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<v Speaker 2>because or not funny. It sucks when you are, you know,

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<v Speaker 2>expecting people to pay you during it, like you think

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<v Speaker 2>you should get paid right away, but sometimes these contracts

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<v Speaker 2>be like you know, what's the word what's that phrase

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<v Speaker 2>they use for when they're going to pay you? Yes,

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<v Speaker 2>thank you? Yeah, net thirty, next sixty, next ninety. So

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<v Speaker 2>my first piece of advice would be too, is to

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<v Speaker 2>have a contract, like actually have the terms so that

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<v Speaker 2>you know and they know what you're agreeing to. And

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<v Speaker 2>I'm wondering if in this case, did you have a

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<v Speaker 2>contract or was it a situation where it was like

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<v Speaker 2>because you had worked with them before, you know, you

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<v Speaker 2>did the work and you know that you were all

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<v Speaker 2>like Kiki, nice, nice, and and get it written down

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<v Speaker 2>you know when they were gonna owe you, because that's

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<v Speaker 2>really important.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>And also to consider having some money being paid up front,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, like like a deposit, so that way you know,

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<v Speaker 1>at least you get something, you know, upfront, Like typically

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<v Speaker 1>I get about half upfront.

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<v Speaker 3>Typically sometimes not, it.

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<v Speaker 1>Depends, like like for example, if I speak for a

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<v Speaker 1>college or whatever, sometimes I'll you know, they'll literally have

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<v Speaker 1>a check for me today I show up.

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<v Speaker 3>But typically I get that check before I hit that stage.

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<v Speaker 1>You know, really yeah, but consider you know, like in

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<v Speaker 1>your contract having people pay you upfront, not not they're

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<v Speaker 1>likely not to pay you all, but half upfront or

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<v Speaker 1>like in thirds front middle end, depending how long the

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<v Speaker 1>contract is for.

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<v Speaker 3>You know, they'll consider that too.

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<v Speaker 1>And I, I know this is really hard, Like you

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<v Speaker 1>might have to take people to small claim score. You

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<v Speaker 1>might have to you know, you should, like when you're

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<v Speaker 1>in business, you don't have to have return an attorney

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<v Speaker 1>on retainer, but you should have an attorney that you

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<v Speaker 1>can reach out to that's different. So my attorney, Tony Moore,

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<v Speaker 1>she's awesome, she's not on retainer, Like I don't just

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<v Speaker 1>pay her every month and be like I could just

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<v Speaker 1>ask endless questions. But when I need something, I know

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<v Speaker 1>I could say, hey, Tony, how much.

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<v Speaker 3>Does it go across?

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<v Speaker 1>Because this person is do that. I need your help

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<v Speaker 1>with this. So you might have to take them to

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<v Speaker 1>small claims court and you might need the help of

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<v Speaker 1>an attorney, you know, Like there are some people you know,

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<v Speaker 1>I work with enough that like, I know I'm gonna

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<v Speaker 1>get my money. And there's definitely been some times because

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<v Speaker 1>a lot of my contract works gets filtered through my spokesperson,

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<v Speaker 1>agent Ellie k. And I've seen her like write emails

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<v Speaker 1>like hey Tiffany, I haven't gotten that first deposit, please

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<v Speaker 1>stop work and take down that post.

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<v Speaker 3>So she'll do something like that like see seeing.

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<v Speaker 1>Me in the company and then like wait wait wait

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<v Speaker 1>wait waitit because we did have somebody that was dragging

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<v Speaker 1>their feet.

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<v Speaker 3>You know.

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<v Speaker 1>She made it very clear to them if we don't

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<v Speaker 1>have this money by this time, Tiffany will stop working.

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<v Speaker 3>She won't ever work with you again.

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<v Speaker 1>So also see if maybe there's a third person, bad

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<v Speaker 1>guy that can like reach out even if it's you. Girls,

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<v Speaker 1>sometimes you just need to get another email address and

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<v Speaker 1>be the.

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<v Speaker 2>Third person that I like real legal at contractor dot

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<v Speaker 2>com exactly.

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<v Speaker 3>Yemm hmm.

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<v Speaker 1>So consider that too, and like I said, you might

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<v Speaker 1>have to go to small claims court and know that

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<v Speaker 1>you don't work with that again, you know, or if

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<v Speaker 1>you do ever work with them again, because certainly not

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<v Speaker 1>to shade the city I live in, but the city

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<v Speaker 1>I live in is notorious for late or no payment.

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<v Speaker 1>I said it no work, and I had to get

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<v Speaker 1>real gully with them when they owed me like a

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<v Speaker 1>lot of money it was like eight thousand dollars. And

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<v Speaker 1>this is when I pretty early on in my career.

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<v Speaker 1>So eight thousand was a break because I had put

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<v Speaker 1>they ordered books for me. I had paid for the

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<v Speaker 1>books on my credit card, and when they received the

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<v Speaker 1>books and nobody wanted to pay me, it was a

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<v Speaker 1>run around. It was a nightmare. And I was like,

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<v Speaker 1>it'd be one thing to not pay me for speaking,

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<v Speaker 1>because I wouldn't necessarily come out of pocket. But I like,

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<v Speaker 1>the books cost me like three thousand dollars, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>And I was like, I don't have three thousand dollars.

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<v Speaker 1>And so what I did was I found out the

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<v Speaker 1>email address of every council person, the mayor's personal and professional,

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<v Speaker 1>every single person.

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<v Speaker 3>Of notes in Newark.

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<v Speaker 1>I put them on an email and I wrote a

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<v Speaker 1>letter saying I'm writing this letter out of active desperation

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<v Speaker 1>as a daughter of Newark, because they love that someone

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<v Speaker 1>was born here, taught here as a preschool teacher, started

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<v Speaker 1>my businesses here.

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<v Speaker 3>I spoke at this time.

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<v Speaker 1>I did this work and I have not been paid,

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<v Speaker 1>and I tried everything in my power to recoup this

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<v Speaker 1>income and I haven't been able to receive it. At

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<v Speaker 1>this point, I'm at my wits end. I'm not sure

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<v Speaker 1>what to do, so I'm reaching out to you for assistance.

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<v Speaker 1>Before I learned the media, girl, it was good, and

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<v Speaker 1>I took like I had screenshops of all the work,

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<v Speaker 1>screenshops of everyone who I spoke to. Every person that's folks,

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<v Speaker 1>so that gave me the run around. I highlighted their

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<v Speaker 1>name because I wanted them to know exactly who to

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<v Speaker 1>yell at. When I told you my phone right a

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<v Speaker 1>minute five May, my phone rang. So because the woman

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<v Speaker 1>who was supposed to pay me actually went to college

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<v Speaker 1>with she was a friend of mine, So I was like, girl,

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<v Speaker 1>why did not pick it out?

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<v Speaker 3>Is this someone that you know? Girl?

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<v Speaker 2>Always that personal connection that screws you, I mean, which

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<v Speaker 2>sucks because when you're early in your career, you rely

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<v Speaker 2>on those yes like relationships to get your first gig sometimes,

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<v Speaker 2>but they give me the run around.

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<v Speaker 1>But she had the right and the wrong one. So

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<v Speaker 1>she was like, I can't believe you write that and

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<v Speaker 1>that email. Nobody on there is related to this this whatever.

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<v Speaker 1>And I was like, girl, get off my phone. Let

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<v Speaker 1>you have my money, you know, I said, because she said,

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<v Speaker 1>you could have just rolled me directly. I said, check

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<v Speaker 1>your text messages. I've been texting you for months. I

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<v Speaker 1>have been calling you for months. I've been emailing you

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<v Speaker 1>for months. You've ignored me, and so now here we are.

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<v Speaker 1>And then then I was like, wait, hold on, boop.

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<v Speaker 1>It was the Mayor's office. Your check is ready. You

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<v Speaker 1>want to pick it up? I said, sure, dude, I

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<v Speaker 1>at the time was driving my nineteen ninety eight Toyota Camri.

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<v Speaker 1>That sounded like who shot John? And why I pulled

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<v Speaker 1>up they I was like, They're like, do you want

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<v Speaker 1>to come in to get your check? I said no,

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<v Speaker 1>bring it to the car, because by then I was pissed.

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<v Speaker 1>Garve rolled down the window just slightly so they could

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<v Speaker 1>slip the check to the car.

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<v Speaker 3>And yeah, read to the bank.

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<v Speaker 1>But I just see all that to say, it might

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<v Speaker 1>be that you have to email above and beyond whoever

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<v Speaker 1>this person is running you around, c see everybody and

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<v Speaker 1>write like a you know, an a not so overtly threatening,

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<v Speaker 1>like this is what I've been through. Email, email, email,

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<v Speaker 1>screenshop screenshot, screenshot, you know, and you know my next step. Unfortunately,

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<v Speaker 1>will we have to take take this the small claims core,

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<v Speaker 1>which is not ideal and so that's it.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, and also I love that as a first up.

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<v Speaker 2>And then also I mean you could skip also to

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<v Speaker 2>just having a letter from an attorney or drafting up something,

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<v Speaker 2>and I bet you could find a template or something.

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<v Speaker 2>But you know, hello, it has been and you have

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<v Speaker 2>your facts. You know, it's been so many days of

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<v Speaker 2>non payment, and if you haven't completed the project, I

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<v Speaker 2>would say stop, you know, until you get the payment,

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<v Speaker 2>and then learn from it and make sure that in

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<v Speaker 2>your future contracts that either you have the language you can.

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<v Speaker 2>It does not have to be fancy legalies either. I

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<v Speaker 2>remember I spoke for like a PR firm and in

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<v Speaker 2>a Google doc, we just outlined, you know, when I

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<v Speaker 2>was going to speak, the rate and when they would

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<v Speaker 2>pay me. They didn't have any kind of contract like

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<v Speaker 2>in their you know, in the can that they could

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<v Speaker 2>use for this kind of thing. They hadn't done it before,

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<v Speaker 2>and I just we've signed it, like I printed it out,

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<v Speaker 2>signed it and scanned it back, you know, and that

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<v Speaker 2>was all it took. It doesn't always have to be

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<v Speaker 2>super complicated, but you have to look out for yourself

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<v Speaker 2>and make sure that people can take advantage of you.

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<v Speaker 2>And then yeah, there's I feel like the bigger the company,

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<v Speaker 2>the longerson has it takes to get paid, you'd be surprised.

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<v Speaker 2>It's never the people who are small businesses or other

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<v Speaker 2>you know, other entrepreneurs who forgive me the run around.

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<v Speaker 2>It's it's the big companies. So but exciting for you

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<v Speaker 2>to have this additional source of income while you're in

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<v Speaker 2>grad school. I think that's really smart. But I mean,

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<v Speaker 2>if you want to work with people and you want

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<v Speaker 2>to attract the best talent, you can't be paying them.

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<v Speaker 2>You can't like not be paying them on time. It's trash.

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<v Speaker 2>It doesn't look good on you. I bet this person

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<v Speaker 2>like you probably will look think really long and hard before.

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<v Speaker 3>You have to work for them again. You know, so

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<v Speaker 3>money up for it?

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<v Speaker 1>If you ever worked for the city of Newark Hill

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<v Speaker 1>before I do anything now, I'm like.

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<v Speaker 3>I need my money up. Five. Thanks. I love You're

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<v Speaker 3>probably legendary.

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<v Speaker 2>They remember.

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<v Speaker 3>The daughter of Newark. Let's take it all. Second question.

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<v Speaker 3>Let's do it.

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<v Speaker 2>All right, y'all, we are back with our second question.

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<v Speaker 1>Hey, ladies, A few weeks before I thought out I

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<v Speaker 1>was pregnant, congratulations. Oh, I was fired from a new

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<v Speaker 1>job I started due to budget cuts. Although being fired sucked,

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<v Speaker 1>it was a blessing in disguise. I had a horrible

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<v Speaker 1>first trimester. If I were at the job, I would

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<v Speaker 1>have had to be put on FMLA for the entire trimester.

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<v Speaker 1>Now that I'm striving in my second trimester, I decided

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<v Speaker 1>to start looking for work. If I find a job

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<v Speaker 1>before giving birth in about twenty four weeks. When do

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<v Speaker 1>I tell them I'm pregnant or should I wait until

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<v Speaker 1>I give birth to start looking. I look forward to

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<v Speaker 1>your suggestions.

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<v Speaker 3>Thank you. Oh, this is out of my wheelhouse.

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<v Speaker 1>Well, I'll say this as an employer, I would prefer

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<v Speaker 1>her obviously that you let me know and let me decide,

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<v Speaker 1>and I might say start after you come back from

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<v Speaker 1>you know, the baby.

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<v Speaker 3>I don't mind because we've had people.

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, Tam, it's my CEO of the Literature Accounemy

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<v Speaker 1>has had two kids while here. So having children when

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<v Speaker 1>you're you know, when you are part of the staff,

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<v Speaker 1>we love it. It's a little baby unicorn. You take

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<v Speaker 1>your three four months whatever, no problem. But someone who's

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<v Speaker 1>literally starting and then like a month later leaving, I

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<v Speaker 1>feel like that might be a bit disruptive, and so

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<v Speaker 1>as an employer, that would not be my first choice.

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<v Speaker 1>I wouldn't want to know. So I can say you

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<v Speaker 1>seem awesome. How about you come back when you're back back.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, Well, the good news for you, Anne is that

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<v Speaker 2>you have no legal obligation to tell your employer that

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<v Speaker 2>you're pregnant before you take a job. Now that doesn't

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<v Speaker 2>mean that in some cases, like TIF said, it wouldn't

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<v Speaker 2>be nice to give them a heads up. But I

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<v Speaker 2>think the reality is, like I can see how if

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<v Speaker 2>you're coming into a role and you're in an executive

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<v Speaker 2>level position and you are going to have you know,

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<v Speaker 2>you have more skin in the game and you are,

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<v Speaker 2>you know, a key player in the business's success, that

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<v Speaker 2>you would want to bring that up, probably before you know,

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<v Speaker 2>if you were getting closer to your due date. I

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<v Speaker 2>remember when I was at Yahoo and Marissa Meyer, who

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<v Speaker 2>came from Google, she took the Yahoo CEO job in

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<v Speaker 2>twenty thirteen, fourteen or twelve, I don't forget, and she

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<v Speaker 2>was like nine months pregnant with twins. So, and that

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<v Speaker 2>was back when you had to interview in person. So

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<v Speaker 2>it's a lot. It's harder to hide that, and I

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<v Speaker 2>think in that case you have to be upfront. But

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<v Speaker 2>in your case, I mean, I'm not sure what position

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<v Speaker 2>you are, what position you're in, but I would say

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<v Speaker 2>I would keep that close to your chest, especially if you,

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<v Speaker 2>like you're in your second trimester, so am I going

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<v Speaker 2>to be doing around the same time. You're probably not

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<v Speaker 2>showing terribly or not showing that much right now. I

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<v Speaker 2>would keep it to yourself. And I would say, if

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<v Speaker 2>you get a job, which you likely are hopefully you do,

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<v Speaker 2>you know, get a job and you still have a

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<v Speaker 2>few weeks left before your due date, I would take it.

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<v Speaker 2>I would tell them. I would tell HR you know

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<v Speaker 2>when you join, like I. And also this is another thing,

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<v Speaker 2>find a way to strategically ask about parental leave benefits

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<v Speaker 2>before you join, because you're going to want to know

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<v Speaker 2>will you need to be here a certain number of

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<v Speaker 2>weeks or months. Sometimes I'll want you to be there

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<v Speaker 2>for a year before you qualify for additional paid leave,

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<v Speaker 2>and based on that you may decide, Okay, I feel

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<v Speaker 2>confident in taking this job, you know, because I will

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<v Speaker 2>be accepting some leave with that. I know that there

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<v Speaker 2>are companies who if they do find out that you're expecting,

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<v Speaker 2>they have no problem holding your spot for you. And

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<v Speaker 2>I'll mention Google my friends and it was not even

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<v Speaker 2>my friend who was pregnant, it was her husband. Got

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<v Speaker 2>a brand new job at Google and he interviewed in

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<v Speaker 2>August the baby was dueing Wait no, he interviewed in August.

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<v Speaker 2>Baby was due in August, and they were like, you

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<v Speaker 2>got the job, we'll see you in January. And they

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<v Speaker 2>gave him his parental leave upfront. So the benefit of

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<v Speaker 2>maybe telling them is that maybe there's a something that

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<v Speaker 2>can be worked out where they can maybe give you

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<v Speaker 2>your leave upfront and then hold that spot for you

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<v Speaker 2>to join down the line. It's dicey because, like you,

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<v Speaker 2>you really have to feel it out and feel if

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<v Speaker 2>you feel safe. Because I'm not gonna lie. Some jobs

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<v Speaker 2>may just need someone you know in the seat right away,

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<v Speaker 2>and they may come up with another reason for turning

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<v Speaker 2>you down, but really it could be that, oh, you know,

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<v Speaker 2>we want someone who can really hit the ground running,

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<v Speaker 2>and that's discriminatory and illegal for them to deny you

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<v Speaker 2>a job based on, you know, your pregnancy. But I

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<v Speaker 2>live in the real world and that shit still happens.

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<v Speaker 2>So this is probably like a real unsatisfactory answer, But

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<v Speaker 2>I at least want to make you feel like take

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<v Speaker 2>the pressure off yourself, because you actually do not have

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<v Speaker 2>a legal right, legal obligation to tell them unless you're

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<v Speaker 2>probably like in the C suite executive level and they

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<v Speaker 2>make you sign something in advance, being like, if you

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<v Speaker 2>have anything you need to tell us, you know who's

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<v Speaker 2>gonna it's gonna potentially interfere with your work. You know

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<v Speaker 2>you have to tell us, But that's very like rare

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<v Speaker 2>and unlikely to be happening in this case. Then I

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<v Speaker 2>get both sides, but we wish you a very healthy

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<v Speaker 2>and easy birth, happy, delightful baby.

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<v Speaker 3>They have breathe like a dope job sis.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, Yeah, well I hope you got some good, good severance.

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<v Speaker 2>At least you could have been off at that time

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<v Speaker 2>the first trimester, Yo, it can really kill. I don't

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<v Speaker 2>know what I would be doing if I had to

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<v Speaker 2>work nine to five right now? How did I do this?

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<v Speaker 3>Girl without my two to four naps?

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<v Speaker 1>You was like, no, I'm not sure about this, shifting

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<v Speaker 1>change and now look shifting and changing livid.

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<v Speaker 2>Where would I be without my two thirty four to

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<v Speaker 2>three thirty PM naps every day. I don't I can't

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<v Speaker 2>go back. I can't go back. But and thank you

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<v Speaker 2>for your question. Congratulations on your little one, our spring chickens.

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<v Speaker 3>You can't have them doing care Hoppy doing your cap

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<v Speaker 3>to you and your beautiful wife. I love under say,

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<v Speaker 3>I love the both of them. They're really awesome.

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